This happened to my sister. Her partner decided he wanted to dress as a woman for the rest of his life and one day transition. Well, my sister being straight told him they couldn’t keep dating. He went ballistic and told all their friends she was a bigot. She received insults from people that used to be her friends to the point she changed her cell number. She doesn’t regret her decision because why would she force herself to be attracted to this man that wants to be a girl. It was crazy
Women are forced to be validation stations to the trans-identified, autogynophilic man. When we refuse, it's transphobia. That's why many trans don't want a single or 3rd bathroom spacee when offered, they need to be in women's spaces, all we are to them is validation. Cause who can validate you the most than real women? When we say no, the Narc, AGP rage comes out.
Your sister leaving him is trans acceptance because she isn’t into women so he should have been thrilled she was “recognizing” him as his preferred gender.
As a trans-widow, I can confirm: Yes, it’s a problem. No, you don’t have to stay. It’s insane how ridiculously common this is becoming. We are not wrong for drawing the line and saying “I married a MAN and require a HUSBAND.”
I am so sorry, what i feel like is the worst part in all of this is how when people who marry/have kids and then do this or come out as gay are viewed as some hero. Its b.s. you completely destroyed multiple lives around you being selfish, you wanna be trans/gay whatever but dont hurt people, do that before you are in a relationship. Its like how men would claim women getting pregnant was "trapping" them, no THIS is trapping them. People who want divorce after being bamboozled are the victims, not the villains!
Those people are sick, they manipulate their partners just because they are confused about themselves and when they realize how they feel, they just throw away their partners without a second thought
What’s even worse is in that video they made, she says there’s a photo of them together with her GRANDMOTHER WHO PASSED AWAY that she can’t put up because he’s in “boy mode” and Jesus Christ 😵💫
To be fair, it probably feels uncomfortable for Kristen to put up wedding photos because her wife does not look like her wife. They both probably wish they had a do-over button with their marriage, and while vows could be renewed people cannot be brought back from the dead
It doesn’t - want to know why? Because her opinion doesn’t matter, especially in this situation (I don’t think this, but I’m saying this using their mindset(s)).
I had a male friend who transitioned while married to his wife. He eventually tried to transition back but it was too late for their relationship. It was an awful situation and so traumatic for everyone involved, including me. I was his only female friend and I met him when he was presenting fully as a "woman". I trusted him and was very close with him because he said having a "girlfriend" helped with his dysphoria, although I never really vocallized "support" for what he was doing to his body/mind. Eventually when he started to realize his mistake (his words), I suddenly had to come to terms with "her" being "him". His marriage fell apart and he confessed his love for me because I was "the female presence in his life that challenged him and made him realize that he was still a man". I had to completely cut myself off from that relationship because it became a matter of "if I keep seeing you and not having you, I'd rather be dead". He wasn't mentally okay to begin with, and the trans movement jumped on his insecurities and made evrything so, so much worse. Anyone who says this isn't a mental illness, a horrible, debilitating mental illness, is a rotten liar. It ruins societies, families, friendships, and individuals. I hope my friend is okay and I still feel guilty that I couldn't do more for him.
@@ewokkris that’s awful… so sorry that you went through that. It’s taken a long time (and a few other relationships like the one I mentioned) for me to finally learn that at some point, I wasn’t the person that could “fix” it all. I believe everyone can change, but the weight of dealing with someone else’s illness should never cause your own. I hope you’re able to heal from that experience
@@ewokkris God, that's horrific. I also lived through a "friend" who became mentally, physically, and sexually abusive and basically kept me in his house by claiming he'd hurt me and kill himself if i didn't date him. During the trauma, I knew it was bad, but never realized exactly how bad. How little sleep I got, how every breath was walking on eggshells. I still struggle with friendships and relationships because of it. I grew up with a codependent family, too, so i really struggle to let anyone close to me. I'm still trying, though. I am so sorry you went through that. It's so hard to get out of a situation like that. I'm glad you did.
@@ewokkris The shaking from a package definitely is trauma. And HE DID THAT TO ME TOO. I suspect it's a way to not let you go and a fear tactic. He sent me a mug that I used to use when I stayed there. I almost dropped the box. I started to shake. I went out and grabbed my dad's sledge, chucked the mug into the box and brought the hammer down on it until it was dust. Then lit the whole thing on fire in the driveway. Dramatic? Yes. But I wasn't going to allow any of his belongings in my parents' house. Which he'd somehow figured out their address and thought it was mine. I'm glad you got your ornament back. Definitely look into counseling if you can. I found one doc years ago, who was the only good therapist I ever had. I came into her office with a two inch thick file of all of what I assumed where trauma responses I'd experienced afterward which was stopping me from living my life and told her to give it to me straight. Give me tools to fix myself. The stuff she taught me let me live again. And weather a few bad docs and another abusive situation. Unfortunately, there's not a cure I've found to help just trusting people again, but maybe there is something that can help. I wish you much luck and happiness. We did the hardest part. The rest can be on our own terms. 💙
Please don't feel guilty. There was nothing you could have done for him, unless you are a psychiatrist. You did the right thing by letting him go. He was emotionally blackmailing you.
It reminds me of how Kris Jenner had to see Caitlyn after a while had passed, and Caitlyn said her birth certificate had been changed, and Kris was like, was I ever married if Bruce was never born?? And then at another point in the conversation Kris started to tear up, and Caitlyn said something like "why would you be upset?" The audacity of acting like this person's feelings are so easily dismissed was disgusting. How horribly self-involved.
but that is how it goes, most people who transition only care about their own needs and feelings, and never consider the impact of their choices on people around them, specially immediate family and close friends.
It's not audacity it's a mental illness including narc to some extent. Even Caitlyn says it. And it's TRUE. Why the fuck does it matter about the stupid birth certificate. Women are SOOOOOOOOOOO emotional FFS.
I watched that on Tiktok and shockingly the comments all thought the same thing. Everyone understood that even if Caitlyn was changing to make herself happy and being her true self or whatever- Kris Jenner still lost her husband, people completely overlook that struggle. :(
This is one of the rare instances where I actually feel bad for Kris Jenner, they were married for SO long, and her previous husband had passed away too :(
His feelings are the only thing that matters. His validation is the only thing that matters. His life never happened before his boob job? Expunge his sporting triumphs return his medals if he never existed before the boob job.
My boyfriend’s “sister” transitioned after he-(biologically) was married to his ex of seven years who moved from Mexico to USA, and had kids together, decided to tell her after they had the second child that he didn’t feel like a man all of his life. A decade has passed and I met the ex/mother of the kids. She is up to this day, shocked and heartbroken that he could do this to her and the kids without caring. He left her after giving birth, started to transition and met someone else very quickly. Now she’s a single mom who is raising the kids, without knowing a lot of English, and is staying at home with the kids since the father is paying alimony. The mom wants to have a paternal figure for their kids but unfortunately he won’t present as that. It’s just so messed up that after knowing that he had a mental problem for almost 3 decades, had the audacity to marry a woman who didn’t understand transgenderism, who was raised catholic and took an oath in marriage “till death to us part”, would have done such a cruel thing.
That’s rough. I wonder how the state sees his transition in a divorce. Do they treat him like a man who was providing for his family? Or like a wife who needs to be supported? Very odd.
You’ll notice this about just about every trans person. It’s all about THEM, they don’t care whose heart they break, they are going to do it because they want the attention and trend.
He won't accept her if she loses weight, but she has to accept that he changes completely on her. Divorce him, he does not care about her or her feelings.
Exactly, i always thought it was weird he only like fat girls, is the same as if men say i only date big boobs girls ... Like is way too specific , he didnt feel honest for his feelings for her ...now youtube remind me of them by suggesting me this ..... The dude ks now trans .... Okey
he did accept her. They are together and have gone through a lot together. You have no idea about how they are together. STOP commenting on people's life like this, what's wrong with you people :D
Would she be into him if he said I only like skeletal girls that are 5 stone in American that’s 70 lbs and at deaths door and you have to accept me as a woman ,because I think not but it’s exactly the same just tables turned
Kristen is trapped. Her woke philosophy is trapping her in this abusive relationship. He changes the entire terms of the relationship. It's unfair and manipulative
She seems to love him a lot but it’s hurting her. I think she’s scared of detaching because she’s so attached. I think Kristen thinks she’s going to be missing out on what could be and is still in love with her husband not her new “wife”.
She’s made her life centered around being “queer” (even though she’s in a heterosexual relationship and being indigenous (even though she is almost entirely white and wasn’t raised on the Rez) and being Uber woke and liberal. Now, she’s trapped in a prison of her own making. If she leaves him, her friends are going to side with him to save their woke points. You can tell it’s getting to her. She bans anybody that even remotely doesn’t agree with her on everything. Her Twitter is full of obsessing over queer TV shows (Our Flag means Death and Hannibal) and she’s trying to escape reality by obsessing over fictional gay men in tortured relationships. She’s having big health problems (migraines and hormonal issues) that could be exacerbated if not explained entirely by stress. Now her husband has decided that he needs to physically become her because he has always seen her as merely an object. I can’t imagine having to grapple with all of that.
@@fraulein9256 her love for him is one sided. He loves himself and not her which is obvious from how he has treated her. If it’s not all about him then nothing else matters.
If my girlfriend transitioned into a man I wouldn’t stay with “him”. That’s a big no, trans folks shouldn’t surprised their partner is shocked or disgusted by it leading to a breakup. It’s disrespectful and selfish plan and simple. The fetishization of being trans is so damn weird and then these people say “just go for it”. Like what the hell?
The trans person should inform a partner immediately when they've decided this, prior to any physical alternation, so that the individual retains their own autonomy in the situation, stay or go.
Yep. Thats not the same person u fell for at the start, so it's understandable u wouldn't stay. I would do the same thing if my husband randomly decides he's chopping off his organs and playing dressup for the rest of his life.
Demons cause transgenderism, bisexuality, non-binary, etc., 100%. I was transgender and bisexual for 24 years before finding out the truth, and now I share my testimony daily, even though many people love to doubt me. My testimony: After being an atheist for 8+ years, and "married" to another female, I got the urge one day to say out loud "IF there is an Almighty God that does NOT wish us pain or sorrow, please bring me truth, I wish to know you exist". Then God immediately started bringing me the answers I had been searching 8-11 YEARS for! I witnessed Him take control of my internet and the rest of my reality; He first proved to me that demons exist (I called them "inter-dimensional beings"), then He proved His own existence, which I later found to be Jesus Christ. As soon as I found Jesus at the end of 2020, He IMMEDIATELY took away my transgenderism, bisexuality, depression, daily suicide attempts, self harm, bulimia and anorexia; and He did this all without me asking Him to, because THAT'S how merciful and loving He is! Praise God! Repent of all your sins, love Jesus Christ with all your heart, love your neighbors as yourself, and forgive everyone you haven't already. There's not much time, the Euphrates river is drying quickly, which is Biblical prophecy. I'm praying for you and your ex girlfriend. She will always be a "she". God bless you in Jesus' name❤
I feel really bad for Kristen because she has had to accommodate so many drastic changes in this relationship in order to please her partner. Unreasonably so. This is the new, woke version of pressure to perform the “Cool Girl” fantasy. She changed her own body to suit his tastes, she has been a witness to his total transformation after they got married, now she cannot even express the complexity of her feelings for fear of hurting her loved one. Altogether it seems that she will now be forever having to contort herself around an individual that comes across as rather self-centered. I understand that people change over the course of relationships, but we should acknowledge how that affects the people around us, and so far her boyfriend/spouse is barely doing that.
She's terrified of losing her career if she protests at all. Doing anything that's in any way critical of her former husband will get her utterly canceled. She needs a divorce, but that would cost her everything.
I met Kristen on her honeymoon in Hawaii. She’s so sweet & loving, and can’t help to show her best side to the world. This man that paraded his own issues into her life, he should be committed to a psych ward. There’s nothing loving about this situation, it’s volatile & showing what weak men are willing to do to a loving woman. Manipulative.
The fact that she openly states he has a fat fetish and that he told her she wasn't fat *enough* theeen she goes on to gain a bunch of weight & so does he, and he literally morphs into her. God this is tragic 😢
@@jenniej0anNot only that, but she felt insecure about gaining tons of weight. She wasn’t happy (or at least necessarily) but she did it for his “love.” If he truly loved her, they would leave each other. What this thing is, is *not* love; at all.
@@canyouseethroughmytearsunfortunately, from personal experience he will never leave. These types of "men" cling on to whoever they can drain until that person has no other option but to stay with them. He's a leach. The other unfortunate thing is she's terrified of being canceled. If she leaves him, I doubt he'd let it go amicably. He'd get online within hours and start making posts and videos calling her transphobic.
This happened to me in a previous relationship of 6.5 years. I was engaged to a woman that decided to "transition" into a man literally over the span of a weekend. She already had pre-existing personality disorders and was very active on sites like Tumblr and feminist blogs, so I have no doubt they influenced her. We had gone out Friday night and the next time I saw her that Sunday, she had chopped her hair off, Elmer's glued her dad's beard trimmings to her face, and was wearing my clothes. No prior discussion, no warning; just boom, this is how it is now. I tried to deal with it for almost a month, even after she admitted to having slept with her best friend in that time ("discovering her identity" she called it) but simply couldn't be with someone this mentally unhinged who clearly looked like a fake man. What I was unprepared for was the immediate and intensely vitriolic backlash I received for breaking off the relationship. I was called every name in the book by her family and friends (people I had known for the better part of a decade) and treated as though I were Satan himself. It was absolutely unreal and mind you, this was way back in 2007. There needs to be a support group for former partners who have experienced second-hand victimization of the trans mind-fuck.
@@rebeccacampbell585 The thing that was hardest was how suddenly everything went downhill. Like many young men, I unwisely sacrificed so much of myself to the relationship. I had isolated myself from a lot of family, friends, activities, and a good part of my young adulthood to this person and I was just left adrift in a matter of weeks. It left me very jaded towards relationships and untrustworthy of others for a very long time. I'm doing well now with a family of my own, but I don't think something as fundamentally catastrophic as that can ever be fully erased. It made it very clear how twisted this ideology is though and how rabid its adherents are. I don't necessarily think trans individuals themselves are intentionally malicious per se, but just because you don't know something is evil doesn't make it not evil. Gender dysmorphia is an illness and ought to be addressed and treated as any other dysmorphia. It is only celebrated because institutions can make money off it. There's a reason we don't have things like "anorexia-affirming" care.
You had to of felt like that was a prank at first. I would be so confused if my partner suddenly decided within a weekend to be the opposite sex... then acted like a cartoon character. I'm so sorry you went through this, and that her family and friends were apparently just as unhinged.
@@Pinksalmun aggree 100%. All these "activists" are so deluded that they dont see that these big pharmaceuticals are laughing all the way to the bank, and they dont even need to market anything, the activists do it for them, for free and on a scale that would cost them millions in marketing costs.
This is such an abusive relationship. First he encourages her to gain way too much weight and now she’s stuck with him and his issues, cause he “can’t do it without her”. She’s stuck in a very bad situation. Run woman run, preferably to a gym.
@@91bpatrick Yeah my ex has said that exact thing to me, well when we parted ways he had apparently alrdy been talkin to someone like 2 months prior and instantly started dating her (it went horrible haha) said the same thing about her, both times never even did anything xd
There's an entire buzzfeed video about how he's a chubby chaser and views her as a sex object. They joke about him leaving if she loses weight. He's abusing this poor woman.
What's also quite odd about his transition is that he seems to be modelling his femininity EXACTLY on Kristen, same hair, same glasses, same clothes style. Something about that just screams fetish to me. Edit. What's also weird is I wrote this comment about 3 seconds before Brett said they looked like sisters.
When I was 19 years old, I had a roommate thats was ftm. He was a fun person who was dealing with a lot of mental issues. But fun nonetheless. But all of his friends were trans. All. Of. Them. Except me. I am a lady who people would call a tomboy. But every time I met a new one of his friends, they'd ask me if I was trans. It hurt my feelings. Like just because I don't wear dresses (most women don't) and don't wear make up (many women don't, that must mean I'm trans. I actually got insulted, that they thought I looked like them. I got told by them again and again that I had "manly energy" and I insisted over and over that I am a women. I didn't want to be a man. This constant pressuring ended that relationship with my roommate. He didn't defend me, he just looked at me like he was sorry. When he and I were by ourselves, he would act rationally and think rationally and would agree that there is some mental illness that is affecting his transition. But anytime he was with his friends he was terrified to speak. I just stopped with them all. I accepted them but if they cannot accept me then I am done.
It wasn’t right they were being pushy with you about your identity but also being insulted about being called trans just sounds like you think less of trans people. That it IS an insult or like it’s a bad thing 😭 and I’m only saying that because you made this comment under a video made by a bigot . Fuel to the fire
It is sad how trans people just agree with each other with fear that they will be hated or "cancelled" for thinking otherwise. Also i am very sorry that they asked you if you were trans multiple times!! I am a woman and if i got called a man i'd probably cry. I'm also 180cm tall which might make me more "manly" although height or what I wear isn't what determines that i am a woman. It's much more than just stereotypes, but the trans people refuse to understand that.
It’s great you’ve moved on and left that toxic environment, but it’s fucked up how they thought you were trans just because you didn’t wear pink and dresses. Just like you, I’ve been called a tomboy all my life because I didn’t always wear dresses and etc., but just because I’m not an extremely girly girl doesn’t mean I’m trans, or planning to. I also think it’s messed up how they just automatically assumed you were trans just because you didn’t dress the way that some people think woman should (stereotypically). It shows how fucked up their thinking is.
Imagine someone said “my husband loves skinny women” and the husband was fetishizing the girl, forcing her to become anorexic, starving herself and being unhealthy. This is the same thing but if this was put on the internet the husband would get destroyed. Crazy world we live in eh :/
I knew a woman who ended up in a really bad way because of a situation like this. They had just had a new child, I think he was only a month old when they moved into their first home. They hadn’t even finished unpacking when he came out as gay to her. She told him to leave, he did and everyone slammed her for not supporting him. About a year later the house was sold, they divorced and they sorted out custody. Everything had kind of boiled down now. They started to get friendly again and so would start confiding in each other. Turned out he wasn’t gay, he was a trans woman and he wanted her support transitioning. Again, she refused and was slammed for it. He is now a trans woman in a relationship with a gay guy. She is with a guy now who treats her well but she still gets crap from people about it from time to time. She wasn’t allowed have her own feelings about the whole thing, only he was ever considered and supported.
You know what? Somebody has every right in the world to identify as whatever the f-ck they want. Nobody else is under any obligation to be "accepting and supporting," and frankly, if anybody were to slam me for not supporting some mental case like that would be told to go f-ck themselves post haste.
It's just another way of cancelling women and their feelings. Women are "supposed" to be compliant to men's needs. By refusing to support him she becomes a "bad woman".
Nothing will make me sadder, in regards to this topic, than seeing Kris and Bruce Jenner having a conversation about him changing his birth certificate to show “female,” and Kris asking, “If he doesn’t exist, does that mean we were never married?” She looked so incredibly heartbroken. I can’t even imagine.
Yes, Bruce did his whole family completely dirty during his transition. He did not consider them or involve them in any way. Not like it effected them at all🙄 Edited: removed a word that shouldn’t have been in there.
@@ShanaLawson From everything I keep seeing, the stuff about him not considering them at all seems so true. They all appear to be very self-centered, often narcissistic and act very entitled (it could of course be that most videos focus on the bad ones only though) but making a change as big as this definitely has huge consequences for their partner
True. Also, if he didn't exist, then how will his kids exist? They came from Bruce, hence if Bruce has always been non-existent, where did those kids come from? 🤔
I always considered myself a liberal human but the more I watch her the more I see that her opinions are not nearly as outrageous as the internet makes them out to be… super logical and well spoken gal
This is literally me lol. I don’t consider myself conservative as i have plenty of liberal views but i agree with a lot of her videos, more than i thought i would
Same here. I consider myself very liberal, and I do not agree with everything she says. However, it is also refreshing somehow because it makes me really question things more "open minded"😂 (no idea if that makes sense)
Same. I consider myself a liberal, but I am way more center than I originally thought. I don’t agree with EVERYTHING she says but I respect the way she says it usually.
Trans widows are forgotten.. seems like the husbands leave their wives for the sin of growing older, they have an affair with the woman within (autogynephilia). Many are super smart because of the autism brainiac connection. Manlier than the average man. Not like the girly guys looking for a husband
I saw a different video of Kristen and her husband where they were decluttering their apartment. She was feeling extreme guilt about wanting to keep some souvenirs from their wedding because, "OMG BABE, IT HAS YOUR DEAD-NAME!!". The poor woman was weeping and groveling and apologizing to her husband for wanting to keep momentos from her wedding because she was scared those momentos would trigger him. She seems like she lives in fear of him leaving (or lashing out) if she upsets him. Its a terribly sad way to live. 😥
@@HumanLandslide You cannot freak out as much over a "birth name" but "dead name" has drama and fear. You can say someone wants you dead if they use it.
That's not the full picture. Kristen was prepared to throw the wedding suit away, but her partner wasn't prepared to do that. Becuse it reminded her of their wedding, and it was a precious memory.
She's grieving. Like loosing a husband it's hard and yes he's physically there but hes not the same person and, I'm sad she doesn't have space to grieve. :'(
My sister in law transitioned about 3 years ago. My brother was devastated, as his then wife changed sexual preferences to female. Even worse was no one wanted to listen to his side of the story. He was expected to just continue their relationship like nothing happened. My father and I were the only ones who were reasonable and did what we could to comfort him. My brother signed divorce papers and is doing so much better today thankfully. The other side of the family was absolutely hateful and intolerable to us because of this. It still doesn't sit well with me to this day.
@@stanedgie5910 if this was the situation can they even call it misogyny if they're both "men"? UNO reverse lol. But I guess they did, and that they called him transphobic too. The world is messed up.
Kristin also came out with a video a few months back where she said she was now using they/them pronouns and that it was common for spouses of trans people to “explore their own gender.” It is just so sad and wild that this is the only personality trait people are allowed to have these days and it defines everything about them and is literally contagious.
The grief part really hit me hard. My best friend came out as a boy right before being the maid of honor in my wedding. I didn't see it coming and I was in shock and then in grief for months afterwards. It was as if the person I knew had died and was replaced with a stranger. Thank you for addressing this issue.
He really benefitted from this relationship: she did everything to please his fetish and he was accepted at every level. He wanted to be a big girl and she gave in to his every whim.
Its sad to hear her describe him as the type of guy she always wanted (thin, dark hair etc)but "could never get". Her low self esteem is why she has allowed this person to manipulate her into being whatever he needs/wants. It's all about his needs.
So. Here's my story. My brother and I grew up extremely close. I named my firstborn son after him. My kids adored my brother and his brand new wife. My brother had a complete mental breakdown. He quit his career, came out as trans, left his wife of ten months, and moved 1000 miles away to live with a person he only knew online (a fellow trans and furry) all within a six month period. You CANNOT convince me this has always been his "truth." Anyway, so, when I ask, "What am I supposed to tell my (VERY young) children?" He said, "Oh. Well. Kids are more resilient and accepting than any adults. Just tell them the truth. But also- never mention my birth name again in my presence. That's my dead name." THAT IS MY SON'S NAME. My kids wept over the news of my brother's divorce. They were heartbroken. They kept asking why they wouldn't ever get to see their new aunt again. They were so excited to have a new aunt and to get to know this new family member, and they were confused and grieved to learn that she wouldn't ever be speaking to our family ever again. But I was the ignorant one for feeling hurt and angry.
so sorry to hear this. One day, when all his trans friends dump him and he's alone, he will know the meaning of family. God is All-Seeing, All-Hearing.
It is absolutely toxic. My ex coming out as trans freed me from a toxic relationship. He was emotionally abusive and manipulative. When he came out it woke me up to what he was. He turned me into what he wanted me to be. I realized I'm a straight woman and couldn't be a lesbian. You are always told not to judge someone by their outside, but your outside is actually a reflection of your inside.
I remember a few years ago, the girl I was dating at the time wanted to transition to a male. We talked about it, and I decided to break off the relationship after stating that I wouldn't date her following the transition. She then proceeded to flip her shit and rant and rave at me for my decision, saying that I didn't truly love her if I refused to go from straight to gay/bisexual for her. Six years on, I'm glad I've made my decision
They only seem to look at the relationship based on what they can take. When it comes to relationships, we think about our rights more than our obligations. They want transitioning to be seen on the same level as cancer or postpartum weight gain.
@@anna.luv3 Because that was six years ago. Since then I've found someone else, settled down, gotten engaged and we're now expecting our first child sometime in the upcoming months
I was such an androgynous child growing up all the way through high school. After I had my daughter my motherly instincts kicked in and I had this urge to dress super feminine and loved it. I would be devastated now if someone swayed me into thinking I was a boy and put me on T destroying my chance to have my babies. I was a Tom boy, occasionally wondered if the grass was greener on the other side (which I feel is normal) but NEVER wanted to be a male. I'm so glad the internet was not as developed back than.
@Gengar I don't eat grains, wheat minimal carbs actually, under 10. Less then 1500 calories a day and daily exercise. In fact I have lost 20 lbs in the last month. I'm not really sure what your point is on my comment. Hopefully you can find some therapy to help, I'm sure Brett has a code for ya.
I am confused why people think tom boys and trans people are one in the same. or why it has to be one or the other ? im sure you never wanted a beard or a penis, yet maybe you liked sports and playing in the dirt. I feel this is a very very different discussion. I say this as a girl who grew up as a tomboy myself
@@cucumber790 absolutely they are not one in the same. But I did think "man I wish I was a boy" "man I hate my breasts" (as I began to tape them down) "I don't get being a girl" " I feel like i was born in the wrong body" I was insecure, hated and felt awkward in my female form through most of puberty years. I absolutely would had been the type of person pushed into transitioning and I would had offed myself as an adult once I was removed from the cruel world of high school girls.
My ex boyfriend came out as trans years before the pandemic. He is goth he had long black hair and wore eyeliner as a man, even painted his nails black. I was ok with that but gradually he started to buy his clothes a bit more feminine, even buying high heeled boots and wearing more makeup. Until he told me he felt he was a woman. We tried to deal with this for a long time, but eventually we split up because even though I don't believe he was ever a woman, I couldn't deal with the fact that he was dressing like one. I was devastated, he didn't take any hormones or have any gender changing surgeries, but he has pretty features so he actually does pass as a woman. We remained in contact for a few years, always trying to get back with me. Recently I cut off all contact because now he's saying he is a witch 🤦🏽♀ a Wicca or whatever they call themselves. These people just need attention. I was not stupid enough to stay in his delusional world.
@StrawberryStar7 I kind of agree myself being a practitioner of ‘witchcraft’ I don’t see why you would have to bring that up to someone who you have repeatedly been trying to get with even after they have expressed that they don’t want to get back with you, unless it was to gain attention be it of any sort if not to fetishize an entire eclectic religion. Though I suppose I personally don’t have and experience with being in a relationship with someone, let alone someone who transitioned or claimed to transition it seems kind of insensitive to not respect someone’s wishes to not get back together, and to add more thing that most like would further make the person uncomfortable and to still pursue them. I know a lot of people view witchcraft as bad or satanic but it’s more of the people who are bad apple that are louder then the few good ones who quietly try to go about their lives which can be said for many groups more so recently trans people that you see on tv and social media. Though I’d take everything with a grain of salt being a high schooler myself I am still yet to really experience the world so fully as actual matured (hopefully) adults, none of this is to be disrespectful, just my own thoughts and opinions to how some people can be. (Sorry for the long paragraph)😅
I am watching this happen to my daughter's marriage; although she claims to be ok with her husband's transition to become her wife. I am grieving the loss of my son in law who I adored, and the grandchildren that they will not be adding to our family as they had told me they had planned . He came out to me by showing up to a dinner in a restaurant in a dress, without any prior conversation or indication that he was planning on transitioning. When I didn't immediately affirm him and excused myself from the dinner, I became his enemy. I needed time to process what is happening to my family. This has been a horrible experience that I don't wish upon anyone. The divide between my daughter and I is growing wider by the day, it's so sad.
There is a term for what your daughter is: trans widow We need to start acknowledging that partners of biological men who transition to women go through a period of mourning. Stay strong for your daughter. She will need it eventually.
It sounds like you have a part in that gap. You assume your daughter must be unhappy (and pretending not to be) in that situation, and maybe she is, but what if you're wrong? Just because you don't understand it and wouldn't wish it for yourself doesn't mean the same is true for your daughter. Your daughter's spouse's identity is what it is, so either they stay together or eventually divorce. You can't control that. But you can bridge the gap right now by accepting them so that you can be closer to your daughter. Right now you are just creating hardship for your daughter by adding friction to the relationship.
My ex-husband came out as a trans woman right before I filed for divorce due to his abuse and severe mental health problems, and suspicion of him wanting to be trans. We had a baby together right before that happened. Hes been trying to teach my son that he is his mother and insists that he’s called that. It’s painful every time I have to interact with him. I could deal with it if we didn’t have a child together and just parted ways. But my son and myself are forever roped into a lifestyle we never asked to be a part of, due to visitation and parenting time required through the courts. I am getting married again soon and my son is with me full time so he has an actual father in his life, but we still have to interact with my ex husband.
That’s so vile and disgusting I’m so sorry for you just keep telling your child the truth have your child call him what he truly is… a father a man. Don’t give into the bs that person is mentally deranged I wish you and your new marriage lots of love and happiness as well as mental clarity in the future for your child
Here's what people don't talk about. Fetish is one thing. "I prefer morbidly obese women" = I have low self esteem/image, and need someone who is worse than me so I can feel good, and control them... since I can't control myself.
If these people feel so offended or bad when they see themselves as a their original sex, no offense they haven’t fixed their problem. If you are proud of where you are then being true to yourself is admitting where you came from. She should be able to put that picture up and he should not be bothered at all.
Yes! This bothered me, too - especially when she said she couldn't put the photo up out of respect for him, and he said, "Sure." He should have said, "Of course you can put it up," and shown respect to *her* The thing is, like you said, they aren't healed. People don't have meltdowns to see themselves as children, or a teenagers, just because they have transitioned into adulthood. Ugghhh... I agree with Brett, thinking I would just cringe but now I'm sad and upset.
@@j15n5ll5 What hit me a little was when he said "I can't do this without her", seems like he's taking her hostage, and the worst thing is that he is not forcing her with a gun to her head, is forcing her through her affection for him. Wonder if he ever at least asked her forgiveness for the betrail he comited leting her believe she was marrying a normal man. Though I understand too, she is just folowing along, she's responsible for that. Codependency
@@imagginary_8 I hadn't thought of it that way, and I see your point. I commented elsewhere that I would support my husband if he needed to transition, but my love would also transition into the love of a friend. I would get a divorce because I need a man as my life partner. My "husband" would have "died," and marriage is "until death do we part."
Any reminder that these men aren't women breaks the autogynophilia s3xual fantasy, that's why they say they were "always a girl" (never woman) and calling the birth name "deadname". Men with autogynophilia need to live in this 24/7 validation of being affirmed as a woman all the time, thus why they get so many like the "it's MA'AM" dude, you broke the fantasy, you killed their hard-on, you ruined their jerkoff session at home in front of the mirror. That's why they need to be in every female space, why Kristen can't put up that photo she likes, it reminds her husband he is a dude, thus stopping his c00m.
Toward the end of this video, I was thinking to myself, "this is an abusive relationship". Right from the start he has been so successful at preying upon her insecurities that she has molded herself around everything he wanted. He seems like a control freak to me. This trans guy seems meek and mild on the surface, but deep down he exerts some sort of control over her. There are lots of ways to have relationships, but controlling abusive behavior doesn't belong in them.
I’m currently transitioning myself…from a dude who prefers blondes to a dude who prefers brunettes. The transition has been really hard, but I know I will get through it with the support of the straight-male community and its allies.
So much here to unpack: -He could be guaranteeing nobody else lays eyes on her by making her get morbidly obese. -He feels so little besides a woman like her that he’s trying to become her to compete against her inner beauty. -She looks so unhealthy by now that he may even be getting pleasure from seeing her get sick. This man is an awful gaslighting machine. He screams “abuser” so loud it’s deafening. He’s obnoxiously selfish. He capitalizes on her insecurities. He’s got mommy issues and is passing the receipts onto her, slowly and heartlessly.
I do think there is more to it than one person in a vacuum suddenly wants to change genders. So these things are all possibilities. The one constant among all these cases is unbelievable selfishness so that also seems to support some of these other things you bring up.
I was in high school when the trans stuff started gaining a bit more traction and becoming more common (around the time Bruce went Kaitlyn). I was dating a girl and one day she hits me with a "I think I might be a demi-boy. Like im not full trans but I have some boyish tendencies." I told her straight up that if she started dressing and acting like a dude i was out cuz im not gay. She was pissed but accepted it. When i did break up with her cuz she nearly cheated on me and it was the dude who told me about it all not her, she didnt deny what happened. Like a month later she was "non-binary". All my buddies told me i dodged a bullet, i disagree, i dodged a cannonball
People are what they are, but high school kids are still growing and can be immature and behave badly. I wonder if this person will look back with any ounce of embarrassment for cheating, because… yeah… but you totally dogged a cannonball in many ways!
@@m3w367lol you don't get it and sounds like you don't want to do it's fine put your head in the sand in your ass high in the air the safest place for you
My husband is the love of my life. Started dating as 17/18 year olds and we are now 39/40. 2 wonderful children, house, vacations, etc. I love the life we built together. He is my best friend and we have been by eachothers sides for more than half our lives. He is a wonderful father. I can't say enough great things about him. HOWEVER, if he were to transition and say he was a woman, I would be filing for divorce. I married a man. I made a commitment to the man that I love. I would also have grave concerns about his mental health and question if he would be able to be a safe father to our kids. Thankfully, that isnt happening so I will just continue to be happily married to my highschool sweetheart ❤
I once dated a girl who thought she was a man and it was so interesting to me how she referred to herself as a gay trans man and was attracted to me. The whole time I was thinking to myself...”soooo you’re straight? You’re interested in what you’re wired to be interested in?”
Saw a girl on twitter that chopped her breast off and did the whole guy thing and said she was a gay dude that only liked dudes in her bio,it will never make sense as much as they try to make it make sense
I'm a man who gay and your ex girlfriend is a female. I wouldn't date a trans man and I've had them hit on me before. They're just not men to me but rather butch straight women who hit on me 🤷🏽
@@MetalHeadManic612 oh she dumped me saying she couldn’t be with someone who won’t support her on her journey because it’s who she is and it’s her truth and all that shit
She's literally scared to state how sad she is. She can't look at her wedding photo because he said no. This is insane. This isn't normal except for the fact he will push a line again. Sooner or later what hoop will he push her through when he's done with this? Will he decide he's a puppy and she needs to care for his puppy self? Or will he flip and be a guy again? He's coming off very narcissistic to me .. what hoops are next for Kristen? How sad.
i have a feeling he will flip at some point and want to milk it for publicity as this whole thing seems to be anyway. At the end of the day, while i feel for her (the biological her) she also allowed this to happen.
As a detransitioner, I was told transitioning would fix all of my confidence problems, would make me happy etc... And it's just not like that. Edit: Thank you so much for your support :)
For me I'm still young but I don't want to date anyone trans or someone who isn't straight/bio male. I'm a biological female and I'm straight, and my personal preference is biological straight men. But I've had so many people telling me that not wanting a trans partner is "selfish" and "being too picky" but it's not that hard to ask for? This video helped relieve some of those nerves. Brett is amazing and a huge role model to me
That life is being forced to lie to someone who is having an identity crisis as if playing along with their self-hate delusion fantasies of them being born in a body that needs to be "fixed" is best for them when really that's the worse thing you could do to a person, lie to encourage their self-destruction or self-harm. Many people who transition do physical damage to their bodies, that's mutilation, some mutilation even given to children can cause permeant damage, that's evil. There is help out there for people with gender dysmorphia, but if it's not lying to them then the internet take the real help down. I pray those in need find what they need and it's not being lied to, that's not loving.
I was on a dating site and was talking with a guy who liked bigger girls than me. He was asking me if it would be ok for me to get fatter for him. I was like no, absolutely not. And he was like well if you want to be with me, that is what I like. I just blocked him. I remember thinking that was messed up. Literally, his turn on is to watch a woman get fatter to her death. There's something ill about that whole thing.
Exactly if a man tells you, “I like bigger women”. Run. That’s behaviour of a feeder, who tries to get the person their dating to eat more so they can become fatter and unhealthier because their freaks who get turned on watching people eat themselves to death and enjoy dating a person so fat and undesirable that their victim becomes reliant on them to do basic things like walk and move around while feeling like they can’t leave because the feeder is the only one who finds them “attractive” now that their the size of a whale. It’s messed up and down right disgusting that their are people like this in our world and are current society is still encouraging obesity.
I think this is harder than someone passing, because it actually ruins memories. The fact that they can’t have pictures, or think back to those times, that person isn’t there anymore. That person doesn’t exist anymore. It’s between someone who is gone physically, another is a person who doesn’t exist at all.
When my sister transitioned into a male with hormones and top surgery, he went around the house taking all childhood photos down (even ones that included me), and would actually get mad at our mom for taking about when he was a baby because “she’s dead now”. I remember my mom bawling in her room for days, not allowed to talk about Disneyland trips or basically the past 18 years of her life. :/ sad and rude of my sibling
One of the guys i used to work with went from married Christian man with two small kids to divorced polyamorous transwoman declaring that his 6 year old is also trans. Guess what? He's still depressed. He's still struggling with self-hatred. Surgeries and hormones don't help a mental health issue
you were so right in saying transition has become easy and glorified. i started taking hormones in 2013 and got my breasts removed it 2016. i 100% regret it now. i was offered no therapy before or during my transition and was told it would fix all my problems. i still have the same problems i did before, but now with the extra weight of what transition has done to me piled on top.
May I ask did you have anyone in your life who was trying to stop you? If so was that person or people attacked/silenced by others in your life who blindly supported it?
God, I'm sorry. I have two detrans friends who still live with surgery and T regret. Looking back I feel so fucking stupid for blindly supporting them when it was obvious that it wasn't actually helping. We all bought into the culty side of the trans movement and there were real consequences, for some of us more than others.
It's always the freaking Brian's! My ex husband also named Brian came out as trans! Horrible for mine and my kids life and it's not any better 4 1/2 years later. It is so detrimental to everyone!!
@@benjaminreyes3624 Yes he does. He even has someone in his life that puts up with it, they're engaged. They met at the church him and I attended together before all of this.
When you said they look like sisters it sent me. I know a girl who is a well known alt/bimbo type model & had a boyfriend who ended up transitioning as soon as they broke up to look like her CLONE. Like clearly there is something bigger here
Brett has had this channel for about 10 months and she's almost at 2 million subscribers. That is a RUclips milestone that I don't think has ever happened before. She deserves a medal.
@@adinamanolache51 Go watch Steven Crowder's video. I'm not saying there's anything sinister going on. I think Brett deserves the success. But it's obviously not organic.
@@DC-nw3uc Go watch Jeremy Boreings video. It's longer and actually explains the contract from a business stand point. It was the initial offer meant to be negotiated. Crowder didn't do that.
there's a weird Asian channel that went from like 10,000 subs to 20 million subs in 2 months. I have no idea how they did it and I kind of think the Chinese governments somehow manipulated the subs but yeah 20 million subs. There's actually a bunch of channels, there's 2 k-pop channels that have over 70 millions subs and they've only been around since last year.
OMFG EXACTLY men can be sensitive that doesn’t mean they are a woman men can cry that doesn’t mean they are a woman my question is is why womanhood defined by emotions or how they act instead of actually having a uterus or XX chromosomes bc if you don’t have either of those then you are not a woman even when a woman has a hysterectomy she still has XX chromosomes she is still a woman
I strongly dislike Kristen. One time she posted on instagram some medical lies (basically saying that obese people don’t have more surgery complications just for being obese, which is completely untrue). So i send her a dm, being super polite, but telling her she was spreading misinformation, and she has a big platform, she should be aware of the information she posts. She didn’t answered me, but she did a print screen of my interaction and put me on blast on her instagram story calling me fatphobic and leading her followers to come at me. Since that day, I don’t like her a bit. Don’t wish her bad fortune, but don’t wish her a good fortune either. Just don’t care.
When I saw the new video thumbnail, it was so genuinely weird. It’s like he wants to be Kristin. He now has her body shape, he wears makeup and hair the same way. I agree with feeling empathy for her. She has shoved herself into a small corner of her own life to make this person happy above and beyond her own happiness.
sooooo.. they claim to have always been a woman but married someone under the pretence of being a man? imagine finding out your whole relationship has been a lie
They are told getting married will “cure them.” That’s the lie. So other people get hurt once you realize the lie isn’t working and you need to be yourself. Lots of gay people marry thinking it will cure them. It doesn’t.
My ex roommate is mtf trans and he's dating a ftm trans. They have 3 children who are 10, 13,16 and they are non binary. When he told me all this my brain exploded
I’ve loved Kristen and Jen sense buzzfeed, even before the transition it felt like she was walking on eggshells. Now it’s like you can watch her calculate each comment before she makes it so she doesn’t hurt feelings or get “cancelled”.
My husband of 20 years came out. I was blindsided. 2 kids. It was devastating. Because we had kids I can’t just block their number and move on. I have to be supportive for my kids sake. Meanwhile we’re all still in therapy, 2 years later. She regrets it. Regrets throwing napalm on the family. I’m not sure this is something you ever truly ‘get over’. But I’m happier than I’ve ever been. I’ve started dating again and met a great man and am excited about the future. My only worry now is the long term affect on my kids…
many of these people who transition, 8/10 never consider what their "transitioning" does to their spouses, kids and family. They think it is so simple for others to just accept that "daddy is a mommy now" or "Mommy is a daddy now" and if you dont, your transphobic/not supportive/against them, etc etc.
I'm actually going through something similar with my wife. She came out as non-binary I few months ago and it has been really hard for me. The light at the end of the tunnel is that based on research that I've done, a condition she has called Polycystic Ovarian Syndrome can cause an imbalance of hormones which can lead to gender dysphoria. I'm hopeful when she gets the treatment for her condition, her hormones will balance out and she'll feel herself again.
I have pcos. My friend does too. No gender dysphoria. I think social brainwashing has more to do with it than anything. This non binary stuff is unfortunately trendy right now. She needs help. I hope she gets it. Sorry you are going through this.
What does being “non-binary” even mean? Is she capable of communicating what she is trying to express when she says she’s “non-binary”? Bc it’s actually a pretty incoherent concept… not relating to certain social norms associated with your sex applies to 100% of ppl. It’s actually incredibly regressive to say bc you want to do something, or like something, therefore you can’t be a woman…
Get out now. Trans ppl are completely encouraged by society, it's only gonna get worse, I hope you don't have kids, get out and save your sanity and life. I've read too much trans widows stories. They never end well. Good luck.
I thought that was very sweet. I actually used to watch some buzzfeed videos because Kristen is a very funny and kind person. Her and her group are the only people I would watch on there.
My cousin sadly did this to his newly wed wife. She stood by his side through the transition and the controversy and everything then he had the nerve to serve her divorce papers before her board exams.
One of my sister's guy friends who's also married told her he came out as a trans women. She told me they cried, said they loved and supported him. Great. All I could think of was "what about is wife? His wife of ten years. How is SHE doing? I she ok?". People who do this are so damn selfish. It's no different than men who'd marry women, start a family then come out as gay.
She can't display a picture of her dead grandmother bcz he's in "boy mode"?? This guy is extremely selfish. She's done and still doing so much for him but I heard absolutely nothing he's doing for her. It's like take it or leave it with him. How's that love??
I had a bad feeling about her husband when he told her he didn't want her to lose weight even though she was trying to be healthier. This was several years ago when she was still on BuzzFeed. If he really loved her, he should have put aside his fetish for fat women in favor of a healthier and happier wife.
@@rationalcynic8416 absolutely. he's only with her bcz he knows her self esteem is in the trash and she'll do anything to keep what she's perceiving as love. bruh is a tool.
I always felt bad for Kristen in this. Yeah I only saw parts of the story but she lost her husband the man she fell in love with. She once said “unfortunately I am still attracted to men” I felt like she was being shamed for who she liked. Which I weird since that is what is not supposed to happen and you can “like whoever you want” Kristen definitely put others needs before her own.
Brett is such an unbelievably articulate and insightful young woman. I resonated so much with her take on this and the relational aspect of this couple. She hit the nail straight on!
It's so cruel to all the partners and spouses. Someone I know very well, got married to a man she'd known all her childhood, they were married for several years, and recently he said he wanted a divorce because he was non binary and had a boyfriend. So cruel to her, lying to her all these years. He should never have gotten married and deceived someone for so long.
I have a friend that's a lesbian and she married another lesbian. Her wife decided to transition into a man. Now she's asked me (another fellow lesbian) what should she do. I told her if you're not attracted to your spouse anymore due to your preference, then let go and leave.
Yea, my sister asks us to use they/them pronouns. She is fully pregnant right now. She is pregnant and asking me to not call her a mother and requesting that my children don't call her Aunty......!!!!! I want to have a relationship with her, but I can't play along with her magical thinking. I think she will refuse to talk to me if I stand my ground. I am also very concerned she will use they/them pronouns for her child. blah. It's not a good feeling and I think I need to have a very uncomfortable conversation with her.
Cut her out and keep your kids away from her before she transes them too. Save yourself the toxicity. Trans ruins everything and everyone. Do it for you kids dude, and your sanity. It ain't worth it.
Yes! I also grieved when my brother became schizophrenic. He was such a different person and we really felt his loss and that we now had a stranger in our lives. It's a very real thing to grieve people that are still alive.
I have disabilities and even in commenting section I have been called a lier about it. But I know that I have personality difficulties due to brain damage.
@Kamal AL-Hinai Schizophrenic people hear and see things that aren't there. They're usually overly paranoid. They often lose touch with reality. There are studies that are beginning to show that episodes like that can change a person's brain (destroy gray matter). While on medication, antipsychotics can make you a zombie and also emphasize those brain changes.
People genuinely need to understand themselves before getting married. If you are experiencing gender dysphoria, don’t marry someone without them knowing about it. If you have an addiction, don’t marry someone without them knowing about it. If you have a diagnosed illness/mental illness, don’t marry someone without them knowing about it. If you have a certain kink/fetish, don’t marry someone without them knowing about it.
100% this. My spouse has a particular kink that he disclosed very, very early in our relationship (like, we'd probably been dating for a couple months). If he'd waited to tell me for the almost 3 years between them and when we got married, I think I would have been within my rights to leave him and be very mad at him for keeping that a secret until he had me trapped in a marriage. To use another example, I went out on a couple dates with a guy I met online who has schizophrenia. He disclosed that before we had even met in person, like, "Hey, so I need to tell you that I have schizophrenia. I've been medicated since I was a teenager and it's never been a problem, but if that's an issue for you, I totally understand." Considering it's probably the single most stigmatized mental illness that there is, I think that took brass balls to tell that to a girl you hardly know and accept there's a good chance it's going to lead to rejection. He was a super nice dude, so I hope life worked out well for him.
Im trans and it took me a while to be accepting of people who transition and continue to date the same sex as before. It was mind boggling. People should be able to openly grieve trans people, especially if they didn't come out until later in life. I don't expect my parents or anyone to call me my preferred name when for majority of my life i was known as someone. Its extremely selfish to expect people to change almost immediately
@@auouraschannel5230 I feel that, I probably was similar to her which is where I can say I f'd up. Before I transitioned I was being who other people wanted me to be or expected me to be. When I transitioned I started being myself which everyone else took as me changing who I was. I never felt comfortable to be who I was with them because I was insecure about myself so for your cousin it might be something like that
I had a partner who did this to me. About a month into our relationship, he told me that he was gender fluid, and then he changed his mind and said he was a transvestite, and finally he told me that he wanted to be a trans woman. He did this incrementally, trying to get me comfortable with the idea and I just couldn’t. So he left me. And now, he identifies as male, he has decided that he is comfortable in his own skin. I’m happy for him, and I’m finally starting to get over the pain that I couldn’t be part of his future. I’ve moved on, I met a wonderful new partner. I guess everything ended up being good for everyone in the end, and that’s good, but it doesn’t happen that way for everyone, and my heart goes out to them
@@noonesishome or maybe he was genuinely trying to ease her into it and not lock her into something she could not get out of. Not everyone is an asshole or narcissist.
I used to wear boy looking clothes and had short hair, but I only had short hair because over summers, I went to lake Eerie with lots of seaweed, so to keep the seaweed out, I cut my hair short. Anyway, when I was in middle school, everyone thought I was trans and nobody confronted me, it was all behind my back. I didn't find out that people were talking about me until High School. I'm a girl by the way, and I am not trans.
@@Paula-um3js dude!!! Facts When I was younger I was getting shamed for liking tomboys.. I was told "maybe you're trying to hide that you're gay or something" I'm like bruh, these are women, cute ones at that
@@Gintoki_Madao same tbh. Someone asked me if I like tomboys then why don't I just date men instead. Like seriously 🙄 there's no difference at all. Btw, I really don't like saying it's "masculine", I may wear cargo pants and an oversized t-shirt one day, and still feel so feminine underneath. I actually feel more feminine in those than all the tight uncomfortable clothes pushed for women. But people outside won't tell and think I'm masculine because of that. Not angry, just disappointed in gendering fashion
My husband told me he was trans two years into our marriage. I tried to make things work with my wife, but she changed mentally with estrogen and testosterone blockers. She was not the same person anymore and started abusing me. Long story short, we divorced a few months later and I found out later she was cheating on me. She is married and moved on now. I had to take years of therapy to get my life back to somewhat normal.
"She" was never a she. Stop conceding to that demand. A man cannot become a woman and a woman cannot become a man. Your husband, he, gave into his dysphoric view of himself and put you through living hell and destroyed your marriage for hormone blockers and mutilating surgeries if HE even went that far with it. I can't even imagine how traumatic that was for you and I'm so terribly sorry. Realize you owe him absolutely nothing and that includes calling him a "she". Never call him a "she" again.
@@rj-wz7dothis is just plain transphobia. Yes they are cheating scum and a horrible human being but the way you worded your entire comment is extremely gross.
Why refer to Him as Her. ? He is a selfish shite, whose fantasy you sound like you got sucked into...hence calling him a her. He doesnt deserve a female pronoun. We women are not an identity or bloody pronoun. I hope you can find peace and love.
This video gave me closure as a girl who got out of a disgusting relationship with an abusive male who was trans-fettished. He called me a goddess and then years later admitted how he wished he were me. I was 14 when it started and 18 when it ended. Absolutely disgusting. I was so scared and I also lost a sibling to mental tragedy where they were turned entirely different. I also suffered thinking I was trans for a long time but realized I define the stereotype- the stereotype doesn’t define me. This video gave me so much closure I am brought to tears yet don’t know what to say to express just how much I’ve been through to resonate with this. I’m so glad I was self aware and was raised in a conservative home- whether it was abusive or not- it truly benefitted me in the long run.
So… she’s attracted to thin hipster men, he’s attracted to obese women. She changes for the worse to suit his fetishes, and he changes out of EVERYTHING she likes to suit HIS PREFERENCES. Anne Perkins from Parks and Rec. The depiction of the woman who can’t maintain her own identity, independence or boundaries in a relationship was too real.
Thank you for talking about this Brett. I knew about this situation bc I also followed them from Buzzfeed to their new channel and watched it on and off- and was disturbed by how toxic it seemed and no one is covering it for fear of being cancelled, harassed, or doxxed. I also think it’s important to mention that they now capitalize off of his transition and instead of the duo of Kristen and Jen it has become a trio. I wonder if he complained about being left out with the girls and now they felt pressured to include him.
Literally happened to my sister with her fiancé. And he decided that he wanted to date men. My sister was devastated. She is the kind of person that just loves people. But I am glad they weren’t married.
I was in a relationship with a man that wanted me to gain weight and it was SO damaging to my self esteem. When we first got together he would always say how he’s normally into bigger girls and I was the smallest girl he’d ever been with. I was struggling with restrictive eating behaviors at the time so I saw it as a positive to be able to let go of that and eat anything I wanted and try to be happy being “thick”. I put on like 50 lbs and that man was a horrible partner, so when the relationship inevitably ended, I was left with a body I hated and I’m still struggling to lose the weight today. Don’t ever change yourself for someone else. Your body is the only one you have and if someone doesn’t love you for you, then they are not the one for you.
@gengar2816so they should go back to having a restrictive eating disorder?. At a helthy 1600 a day calories with exercise you would lose about 1-3 lbs a week meaning it would take a year or less to lose 50 lbs. 800 a day with fasting would reduce you to a walking skeleton in 3 months. 800 calories is less than the nessesary intake of a 2 year old child.
I think that him living as a woman absolutely breaks her heart. Like you said, she’s just so afraid of expressing that because she’s terrified of being canceled by the people that make up most of the majority of their platform.
hearing stories like these i sometimes try put myself in the other person‘s shoes. i tried to imagine what it would be like for me if my boyfriend was trans and it made me rather distraught and it honestly made me cry. i couldn’t imagine remembering all these great memories but i know they’re just not the same anymore. i cant even imagine how kristen feels, bless her heart
I recently got out of a relationship, because she wanted to, not transition, but become more “balanced”, they wanted to do testosterone. It was a very uncomfortable situation and it took me maybe 3 months to be up front with them and say I’m not ok with this. It sucks, I loved her but I my heart was broken in a way I wish would happen to no one I’m only 17…
Ugh, that's super uncomfortable. She definitely needs to get some stability in her life. My guess is she either has no father or a bad relationship with the one she does have?
This reminds me the grief Kris Jenner went through when her ex husband started transitioning. You lose that person. They won't come back, it's a non way back and it's heartbreaking for the people around the trans person, I see how difficult it must be to love someone, try to support them, try to tell yourself it's the same person in a different way, but it's not, it's a big difference
My Girlfriend genuinely came out to me as Trans a year into our relationship. She didn’t actually start transitioning until a few years later. And although it was a lot to process, I never thought about leaving her, I knew that this person was the person I wanted to love for the rest of my life. But of course I am bisexual so being a boy or a girl never really mattered to me. But Kristen does not look like she has been able to process this very well. She seems like she’s trying to convince herself that she is totally fine now, but she sounds so broken. And it’s hard to watch because no one should feel pressured to stay with someone in this situation just because they have history. Everyone should put their own happiness as a priority
My wife started her transition a few years ago. It got delayed in 2020 due to organ failure from Covid and I had to do CPR, then deal with her recovery. We married as man and wife. She’s now 48 this month. I’m 55, and her transitioning became cathartic for us both. We’ve known each other for 29 years. We are both happy despite her disabilities now. But we have each other. We love each other. Both of us have a hard time being apart. I’m a nurse and work full time. I cared for her at her worst with help from her family. My only regret is that she isn’t in a healthier body. She’s recovered a lot in almost 3 years, but she has lots of issues. As to her becoming a woman, my adult kids are supportive. It was cathartic for me to donate her former men’s clothes. We still both admire our Renaissance wedding photos because they represent our love through thick and thin. I don’t regret her transition. She’s the woman I love, and I am the woman she loves.
This happened to me. My partner went from being loving and emotional to having one emotion: rage. Punched a hole in the wall once out of anger but never cried anymore. Everything was just “fine” or “rage”. You basically wake up not knowing the person you were married to. And yes the endocrinologist monitors the levels of hormones. That was the “healthy” dose of testosterone given.
I love my partner to bits. He's the best man I know, and we have the best relationship I've ever experienced... but if he one day decides that he's a woman, and always has been...I'm out. I'll still love him as a person and we can be good friends ... but that's the end of our romantic/sexual dynamic. I am a straight, biological woman and I am in no mind to apologise for my sexual preferences and I won't be guilt tripped for them.
I told my husband the exact same thing a week ago, after seeing my best friend from high school post on fb about her husband of 18 years becoming a transwoman. They were wearing the same dress in the photo 😵💫 why do these dudes always try to single white female their wives?!
People who get into relationships and GET MARRIED to someone and later come out as trans/transition are so fucking selfish… they always say “I’ve always known I was trans” but they just never said anything and now are turning an innocent person who they claim to love life upside down It’s not okay to get married to someone or have a serious longterm relationship and the whole time you lie/hide this only to come out as trans when it’s too late (too late as in the fact you have now deeply hurt and fucked someone up) It’s not okay that just because someone is trans they are always viewed as a strong hero and also the victim and if anyone doesn’t support this or is super happy and in love with then being trans they are hated and viewed as a horrible person… it’s so backwards.
I started talking to this guy a few years ago and we got comfortable enough to exchange social media accounts - I looked through his IG and Facebook to find out he dresses up as a woman from time to time and calls himself “hailey” when he does, immediately I was turned off and super pissed this was not brought up. I contacted him right away and cut it off. I was called transphobic & a bigot 🤷♀️This is narcissism & manipulation at its finest.
I am 15 years old, and I really look up to you Brett, I want to be just like you when I grow up. Thank you so much for inspiring me to change the world in my own way.
I’m only 2 years older than you but you seems like an intelligent girl, remember just because society normalises something doesn’t mean it’s correct, doesn’t stand for any bs and keep on advocating you’re views, that’s really important
My partner actually went through a brief phase where she wanted to be trans. At first I thought it was a joke, but when it came up again I almost broke down. I had to sit in the bathroom and console myself and try to calm down. Eventually she thought about it, after I offered support and decided that she loved being a woman. She was kind of brought up in an environment where she was treated like she was less than her brothers and believed only men get respect. I am glad she didn’t go through with it, because honestly, even as a trans friendly person, it was hard.
It doesn't look or sound like she's very happy with that transition, and having to hide how she really feels and hide away significant things like wedding photos. There's a lot of grief there, and there does seem to be anger smothered underneath all of it. She talked about how she had been after this dream guy for so long, then found him, only for him to transition into a trans woman.. She wants her damn man back!
My ex boyfriend told me that he's really into heroin addicts so in order to keep him and make him like me more, I became a really bad heroin addict. Not really a true story. I just wanted people (especially her) to hear just how ridiculous that sounds.
When he said he wasn't comfortable in acting in the masculine way everyone expected him to, I was like: 'See! There's the problem!' and I honestly think this is one of the major reasons people become trans. Because they don't feel they fit in with society's idea of what masculinity and feminity is, which leads to the questions what IS masculinity and feminity?! These two are VERY culture based. We have one understanding here in the west, which say being masculine is being macho strong, cold, alfa male. Men do not wear make up, men cannot like cute things, men give each other awkward half hugs and rarely compliment each others look. If we look to the east, they have very different understanding of masculinity. The thing is, both genders, both male and females, have feminine and masculine features and traits. When these traits are being suppressed and ignored, it becomes a problem and people, MAY think they are a different gender, because they don't know that it is NATURAL to have traits of the oppesite gender... This is where western culture could learn something from the Asian 'soft masculinity'. Somehow, these men have managed to embrace their soft, feminine side and STILL come out very masculine. The fact that men can be vulnerable, cute, beautiful, handsome, sexy and masculine all in one, may sound impossible, but somehow, that's Asian men 🤷♀️😉
As a wife, if my husband came to me saying he was trans I would be absolutely devastated. Our lives would completely change. I would completely lose him because I married him, not a fake woman. On top of it, any dream we had together to start a family would be crushed because I would never bring a child into that environment. He would likely lose his job because the very reason why he loves his job is because of the people there but then I know the people wouldn’t be comfortable around him so he’d lose said people, he’d hate his job and probably leave. Admittedly im a stay at home wife, so if my husband left (well paying job) I would have to get a job to help support us, which sounds selfish but that was part of the conversation when he was courting me (he wanted a stay at home wife). I wouldn’t divorce him because marriage should be treated as a commitment not a choice, so our relationship would be strained. I’d have to learn to love him as a completely different stranger, and grieve my best friend that I met in our church parking lot. I would be in mourning for years until the numbness finally came. Y’all would probably call me a coward but I think I’d run away. I think my strength to remain in my morals would falter and I’d run, try and find the cheapest apartment and try and get on with my life.
This happened to my sister. Her partner decided he wanted to dress as a woman for the rest of his life and one day transition. Well, my sister being straight told him they couldn’t keep dating. He went ballistic and told all their friends she was a bigot. She received insults from people that used to be her friends to the point she changed her cell number. She doesn’t regret her decision because why would she force herself to be attracted to this man that wants to be a girl. It was crazy
That’s absolutely insane. I’m so sorry for your sister. How long were they together? How did that even come about - I don’t get it?
What a bunch of rapey creeps. I wouldn't have changed my number, I would have told them to go date him themselves.
that’s absolutely ridiculous what has this world come to
Women are forced to be validation stations to the trans-identified, autogynophilic man. When we refuse, it's transphobia. That's why many trans don't want a single or 3rd bathroom spacee when offered, they need to be in women's spaces, all we are to them is validation. Cause who can validate you the most than real women? When we say no, the Narc, AGP rage comes out.
Your sister leaving him is trans acceptance because she isn’t into women so he should have been thrilled she was “recognizing” him as his preferred gender.
As a trans-widow, I can confirm: Yes, it’s a problem. No, you don’t have to stay.
It’s insane how ridiculously common this is becoming.
We are not wrong for drawing the line and saying “I married a MAN and require a HUSBAND.”
I am so sorry
Just simply say I don't swing that way.
I am so sorry, what i feel like is the worst part in all of this is how when people who marry/have kids and then do this or come out as gay are viewed as some hero. Its b.s. you completely destroyed multiple lives around you being selfish, you wanna be trans/gay whatever but dont hurt people, do that before you are in a relationship. Its like how men would claim women getting pregnant was "trapping" them, no THIS is trapping them. People who want divorce after being bamboozled are the victims, not the villains!
Exactly. And y'all are valid in feeling that way. Wish they could see that.
Those people are sick, they manipulate their partners just because they are confused about themselves and when they realize how they feel, they just throw away their partners without a second thought
I just love how "being a woman" is simply growing out your hair, slapping on a dress and makeup, surgery, and acting different.
Every women should be VERY insulted by that.
Weirdly I don't think they help with the dishes any more than before transition. funny how that works huh ?
That's just "crossdressing, isn't it?"
@@phipschi4255 And yet so many applaud it and support them even at their own setbacks.
It's all a sexual kink.
She says she can’t put up the wedding photos bc he’s in “boy mode” and that would be disrespectful to him… When does it become disrespectful to her?
What’s even worse is in that video they made, she says there’s a photo of them together with her GRANDMOTHER WHO PASSED AWAY that she can’t put up because he’s in “boy mode” and Jesus Christ 😵💫
I could not have said it better myself!
To be fair, it probably feels uncomfortable for Kristen to put up wedding photos because her wife does not look like her wife. They both probably wish they had a do-over button with their marriage, and while vows could be renewed people cannot be brought back from the dead
It doesn’t - want to know why? Because her opinion doesn’t matter, especially in this situation (I don’t think this, but I’m saying this using their mindset(s)).
it obviously isn't, as she's supporting him through it and her womanhood isn't defined by her partners behaviour....grow up
I had a male friend who transitioned while married to his wife. He eventually tried to transition back but it was too late for their relationship. It was an awful situation and so traumatic for everyone involved, including me. I was his only female friend and I met him when he was presenting fully as a "woman". I trusted him and was very close with him because he said having a "girlfriend" helped with his dysphoria, although I never really vocallized "support" for what he was doing to his body/mind. Eventually when he started to realize his mistake (his words), I suddenly had to come to terms with "her" being "him". His marriage fell apart and he confessed his love for me because I was "the female presence in his life that challenged him and made him realize that he was still a man". I had to completely cut myself off from that relationship because it became a matter of "if I keep seeing you and not having you, I'd rather be dead". He wasn't mentally okay to begin with, and the trans movement jumped on his insecurities and made evrything so, so much worse.
Anyone who says this isn't a mental illness, a horrible, debilitating mental illness, is a rotten liar. It ruins societies, families, friendships, and individuals. I hope my friend is okay and I still feel guilty that I couldn't do more for him.
@@ewokkris that’s awful… so sorry that you went through that. It’s taken a long time (and a few other relationships like the one I mentioned) for me to finally learn that at some point, I wasn’t the person that could “fix” it all. I believe everyone can change, but the weight of dealing with someone else’s illness should never cause your own. I hope you’re able to heal from that experience
@@ewokkris God, that's horrific. I also lived through a "friend" who became mentally, physically, and sexually abusive and basically kept me in his house by claiming he'd hurt me and kill himself if i didn't date him. During the trauma, I knew it was bad, but never realized exactly how bad. How little sleep I got, how every breath was walking on eggshells. I still struggle with friendships and relationships because of it. I grew up with a codependent family, too, so i really struggle to let anyone close to me. I'm still trying, though.
I am so sorry you went through that. It's so hard to get out of a situation like that. I'm glad you did.
@@ewokkris The shaking from a package definitely is trauma. And HE DID THAT TO ME TOO. I suspect it's a way to not let you go and a fear tactic. He sent me a mug that I used to use when I stayed there. I almost dropped the box. I started to shake. I went out and grabbed my dad's sledge, chucked the mug into the box and brought the hammer down on it until it was dust. Then lit the whole thing on fire in the driveway. Dramatic? Yes. But I wasn't going to allow any of his belongings in my parents' house. Which he'd somehow figured out their address and thought it was mine.
I'm glad you got your ornament back. Definitely look into counseling if you can. I found one doc years ago, who was the only good therapist I ever had. I came into her office with a two inch thick file of all of what I assumed where trauma responses I'd experienced afterward which was stopping me from living my life and told her to give it to me straight. Give me tools to fix myself. The stuff she taught me let me live again. And weather a few bad docs and another abusive situation. Unfortunately, there's not a cure I've found to help just trusting people again, but maybe there is something that can help.
I wish you much luck and happiness. We did the hardest part. The rest can be on our own terms. 💙
Yeah you don't want to be there and be his rebound or runaway. Where with you he feels okay
Please don't feel guilty. There was nothing you could have done for him, unless you are a psychiatrist. You did the right thing by letting him go. He was emotionally blackmailing you.
It reminds me of how Kris Jenner had to see Caitlyn after a while had passed, and Caitlyn said her birth certificate had been changed, and Kris was like, was I ever married if Bruce was never born?? And then at another point in the conversation Kris started to tear up, and Caitlyn said something like "why would you be upset?" The audacity of acting like this person's feelings are so easily dismissed was disgusting. How horribly self-involved.
but that is how it goes, most people who transition only care about their own needs and feelings, and never consider the impact of their choices on people around them, specially immediate family and close friends.
It's not audacity it's a mental illness including narc to some extent. Even Caitlyn says it. And it's TRUE. Why the fuck does it matter about the stupid birth certificate. Women are SOOOOOOOOOOO emotional FFS.
I watched that on Tiktok and shockingly the comments all thought the same thing. Everyone understood that even if Caitlyn was changing to make herself happy and being her true self or whatever- Kris Jenner still lost her husband, people completely overlook that struggle. :(
This is one of the rare instances where I actually feel bad for Kris Jenner, they were married for SO long, and her previous husband had passed away too :(
His feelings are the only thing that matters. His validation is the only thing that matters. His life never happened before his boob job? Expunge his sporting triumphs return his medals if he never existed before the boob job.
My boyfriend’s “sister” transitioned after he-(biologically) was married to his ex of seven years who moved from Mexico to USA, and had kids together, decided to tell her after they had the second child that he didn’t feel like a man all of his life. A decade has passed and I met the ex/mother of the kids. She is up to this day, shocked and heartbroken that he could do this to her and the kids without caring. He left her after giving birth, started to transition and met someone else very quickly. Now she’s a single mom who is raising the kids, without knowing a lot of English, and is staying at home with the kids since the father is paying alimony. The mom wants to have a paternal figure for their kids but unfortunately he won’t present as that.
It’s just so messed up that after knowing that he had a mental problem for almost 3 decades, had the audacity to marry a woman who didn’t understand transgenderism, who was raised catholic and took an oath in marriage “till death to us part”, would have done such a cruel thing.
That’s rough. I wonder how the state sees his transition in a divorce. Do they treat him like a man who was providing for his family? Or like a wife who needs to be supported?
Very odd.
That’s devastating. But… at least the dad is paying alimony.
What a bum
You’ll notice this about just about every trans person. It’s all about THEM, they don’t care whose heart they break, they are going to do it because they want the attention and trend.
and put 3 children through this. what a p.o.s
He won't accept her if she loses weight, but she has to accept that he changes completely on her. Divorce him, he does not care about her or her feelings.
Yeah, it’s just so messed up.
Welcome to 2024
Exactly, i always thought it was weird he only like fat girls, is the same as if men say i only date big boobs girls ... Like is way too specific , he didnt feel honest for his feelings for her ...now youtube remind me of them by suggesting me this ..... The dude ks now trans .... Okey
he did accept her. They are together and have gone through a lot together. You have no idea about how they are together. STOP commenting on people's life like this, what's wrong with you people :D
Would she be into him if he said I only like skeletal girls that are 5 stone in American that’s 70 lbs and at deaths door and you have to accept me as a woman ,because I think not but it’s exactly the same just tables turned
Kristen is trapped. Her woke philosophy is trapping her in this abusive relationship. He changes the entire terms of the relationship. It's unfair and manipulative
She seems to love him a lot but it’s hurting her. I think she’s scared of detaching because she’s so attached. I think Kristen thinks she’s going to be missing out on what could be and is still in love with her husband not her new “wife”.
She’s made her life centered around being “queer” (even though she’s in a heterosexual relationship and being indigenous (even though she is almost entirely white and wasn’t raised on the Rez) and being Uber woke and liberal. Now, she’s trapped in a prison of her own making. If she leaves him, her friends are going to side with him to save their woke points. You can tell it’s getting to her. She bans anybody that even remotely doesn’t agree with her on everything. Her Twitter is full of obsessing over queer TV shows (Our Flag means Death and Hannibal) and she’s trying to escape reality by obsessing over fictional gay men in tortured relationships. She’s having big health problems (migraines and hormonal issues) that could be exacerbated if not explained entirely by stress. Now her husband has decided that he needs to physically become her because he has always seen her as merely an object. I can’t imagine having to grapple with all of that.
@@justme1892 it's really sad
@@fraulein9256 her love for him is one sided. He loves himself and not her which is obvious from how he has treated her. If it’s not all about him then nothing else matters.
well said.... this is abuse.
If my girlfriend transitioned into a man I wouldn’t stay with “him”. That’s a big no, trans folks shouldn’t surprised their partner is shocked or disgusted by it leading to a breakup. It’s disrespectful and selfish plan and simple. The fetishization of being trans is so damn weird and then these people say “just go for it”. Like what the hell?
The trans person should inform a partner immediately when they've decided this, prior to any physical alternation, so that the individual retains their own autonomy in the situation, stay or go.
Yep. Thats not the same person u fell for at the start, so it's understandable u wouldn't stay. I would do the same thing if my husband randomly decides he's chopping off his organs and playing dressup for the rest of his life.
Dude, it goes without saying.
I would have never had a partner that would even consider such a thing. It takes a special breed of “stupid”.
Demons cause transgenderism, bisexuality, non-binary, etc., 100%. I was transgender and bisexual for 24 years before finding out the truth, and now I share my testimony daily, even though many people love to doubt me. My testimony: After being an atheist for 8+ years, and "married" to another female, I got the urge one day to say out loud "IF there is an Almighty God that does NOT wish us pain or sorrow, please bring me truth, I wish to know you exist". Then God immediately started bringing me the answers I had been searching 8-11 YEARS for! I witnessed Him take control of my internet and the rest of my reality; He first proved to me that demons exist (I called them "inter-dimensional beings"), then He proved His own existence, which I later found to be Jesus Christ. As soon as I found Jesus at the end of 2020, He IMMEDIATELY took away my transgenderism, bisexuality, depression, daily suicide attempts, self harm, bulimia and anorexia; and He did this all without me asking Him to, because THAT'S how merciful and loving He is! Praise God! Repent of all your sins, love Jesus Christ with all your heart, love your neighbors as yourself, and forgive everyone you haven't already. There's not much time, the Euphrates river is drying quickly, which is Biblical prophecy. I'm praying for you and your ex girlfriend. She will always be a "she". God bless you in Jesus' name❤
I feel really bad for Kristen because she has had to accommodate so many drastic changes in this relationship in order to please her partner. Unreasonably so. This is the new, woke version of pressure to perform the “Cool Girl” fantasy. She changed her own body to suit his tastes, she has been a witness to his total transformation after they got married, now she cannot even express the complexity of her feelings for fear of hurting her loved one. Altogether it seems that she will now be forever having to contort herself around an individual that comes across as rather self-centered. I understand that people change over the course of relationships, but we should acknowledge how that affects the people around us, and so far her boyfriend/spouse is barely doing that.
It is abusive with his testing of her love for him.
The husband is starting to look just like Kristen. It’s really weird how he is mirroring her.
@@kasualbeauty309 It's not weird, she talked him into it. He looks and speaks like a hostage and she is elated.
She is enabling him. I don’t feel bad for her. She got herself into this mess instead of standing up for herself.
She's terrified of losing her career if she protests at all. Doing anything that's in any way critical of her former husband will get her utterly canceled. She needs a divorce, but that would cost her everything.
I met Kristen on her honeymoon in Hawaii. She’s so sweet & loving, and can’t help to show her best side to the world. This man that paraded his own issues into her life, he should be committed to a psych ward. There’s nothing loving about this situation, it’s volatile & showing what weak men are willing to do to a loving woman. Manipulative.
The fact that she openly states he has a fat fetish and that he told her she wasn't fat *enough* theeen she goes on to gain a bunch of weight & so does he, and he literally morphs into her. God this is tragic 😢
It clearly states it in the word MANipulation
the man had mental illness and kristen herself is a people pleaser.
people pleaser tend to look kind to people, but we never know.
@@jenniej0anNot only that, but she felt insecure about gaining tons of weight. She wasn’t happy (or at least necessarily) but she did it for his “love.” If he truly loved her, they would leave each other. What this thing is, is *not* love; at all.
@@canyouseethroughmytearsunfortunately, from personal experience he will never leave. These types of "men" cling on to whoever they can drain until that person has no other option but to stay with them. He's a leach.
The other unfortunate thing is she's terrified of being canceled. If she leaves him, I doubt he'd let it go amicably. He'd get online within hours and start making posts and videos calling her transphobic.
This happened to me in a previous relationship of 6.5 years. I was engaged to a woman that decided to "transition" into a man literally over the span of a weekend. She already had pre-existing personality disorders and was very active on sites like Tumblr and feminist blogs, so I have no doubt they influenced her. We had gone out Friday night and the next time I saw her that Sunday, she had chopped her hair off, Elmer's glued her dad's beard trimmings to her face, and was wearing my clothes. No prior discussion, no warning; just boom, this is how it is now. I tried to deal with it for almost a month, even after she admitted to having slept with her best friend in that time ("discovering her identity" she called it) but simply couldn't be with someone this mentally unhinged who clearly looked like a fake man. What I was unprepared for was the immediate and intensely vitriolic backlash I received for breaking off the relationship. I was called every name in the book by her family and friends (people I had known for the better part of a decade) and treated as though I were Satan himself. It was absolutely unreal and mind you, this was way back in 2007. There needs to be a support group for former partners who have experienced second-hand victimization of the trans mind-fuck.
Wtf did you feel like you were in an insane asylum? Just crazy
@@rebeccacampbell585 The thing that was hardest was how suddenly everything went downhill. Like many young men, I unwisely sacrificed so much of myself to the relationship. I had isolated myself from a lot of family, friends, activities, and a good part of my young adulthood to this person and I was just left adrift in a matter of weeks. It left me very jaded towards relationships and untrustworthy of others for a very long time. I'm doing well now with a family of my own, but I don't think something as fundamentally catastrophic as that can ever be fully erased. It made it very clear how twisted this ideology is though and how rabid its adherents are. I don't necessarily think trans individuals themselves are intentionally malicious per se, but just because you don't know something is evil doesn't make it not evil. Gender dysmorphia is an illness and ought to be addressed and treated as any other dysmorphia. It is only celebrated because institutions can make money off it. There's a reason we don't have things like "anorexia-affirming" care.
@@supertrouperJC02 Thanks for the reply. And I've learned it wasn't my loss at all. 😂
You had to of felt like that was a prank at first. I would be so confused if my partner suddenly decided within a weekend to be the opposite sex... then acted like a cartoon character. I'm so sorry you went through this, and that her family and friends were apparently just as unhinged.
@@Pinksalmun aggree 100%. All these "activists" are so deluded that they dont see that these big pharmaceuticals are laughing all the way to the bank, and they dont even need to market anything, the activists do it for them, for free and on a scale that would cost them millions in marketing costs.
This is such an abusive relationship. First he encourages her to gain way too much weight and now she’s stuck with him and his issues, cause he “can’t do it without her”. She’s stuck in a very bad situation. Run woman run, preferably to a gym.
Textbook narcissist behaviour = if you leave me, I'll kill myself.
Seriously when things escalate this bad just let them do it and run.
@@91bpatrick Yeah my ex has said that exact thing to me, well when we parted ways he had apparently alrdy been talkin to someone like 2 months prior and instantly started dating her (it went horrible haha) said the same thing about her, both times never even did anything xd
More like "away from creep. We'll get you to the gym after you're safe."
gym over men always
There's an entire buzzfeed video about how he's a chubby chaser and views her as a sex object. They joke about him leaving if she loses weight. He's abusing this poor woman.
What's also quite odd about his transition is that he seems to be modelling his femininity EXACTLY on Kristen, same hair, same glasses, same clothes style. Something about that just screams fetish to me.
Edit. What's also weird is I wrote this comment about 3 seconds before Brett said they looked like sisters.
This happens frequently. It is creepy.
I mean you can see that creepy shizz in the thumbnail…. I would absolutely be out. “Sorry I transitioned into a man and I’m actually gay” lolz
Narcissistic fetidh maybe. Gets to bang his mirror image. Omg now u'm having Joedan Peele's Us flashbacks.
I always thought that, ironically enough it screams single white female 😂
they always try to single white female their wives!
When I was 19 years old, I had a roommate thats was ftm. He was a fun person who was dealing with a lot of mental issues. But fun nonetheless. But all of his friends were trans. All. Of. Them. Except me. I am a lady who people would call a tomboy. But every time I met a new one of his friends, they'd ask me if I was trans. It hurt my feelings. Like just because I don't wear dresses (most women don't) and don't wear make up (many women don't, that must mean I'm trans. I actually got insulted, that they thought I looked like them. I got told by them again and again that I had "manly energy" and I insisted over and over that I am a women. I didn't want to be a man. This constant pressuring ended that relationship with my roommate. He didn't defend me, he just looked at me like he was sorry. When he and I were by ourselves, he would act rationally and think rationally and would agree that there is some mental illness that is affecting his transition. But anytime he was with his friends he was terrified to speak. I just stopped with them all. I accepted them but if they cannot accept me then I am done.
It wasn’t right they were being pushy with you about your identity but also being insulted about being called trans just sounds like you think less of trans people. That it IS an insult or like it’s a bad thing 😭 and I’m only saying that because you made this comment under a video made by a bigot . Fuel to the fire
It is sad how trans people just agree with each other with fear that they will be hated or "cancelled" for thinking otherwise. Also i am very sorry that they asked you if you were trans multiple times!! I am a woman and if i got called a man i'd probably cry. I'm also 180cm tall which might make me more "manly" although height or what I wear isn't what determines that i am a woman. It's much more than just stereotypes, but the trans people refuse to understand that.
It’s great you’ve moved on and left that toxic environment, but it’s fucked up how they thought you were trans just because you didn’t wear pink and dresses. Just like you, I’ve been called a tomboy all my life because I didn’t always wear dresses and etc., but just because I’m not an extremely girly girl doesn’t mean I’m trans, or planning to. I also think it’s messed up how they just automatically assumed you were trans just because you didn’t dress the way that some people think woman should (stereotypically). It shows how fucked up their thinking is.
Imagine someone said “my husband loves skinny women” and the husband was fetishizing the girl, forcing her to become anorexic, starving herself and being unhealthy. This is the same thing but if this was put on the internet the husband would get destroyed. Crazy world we live in eh :/
my thoughts exactly!!
That exact thing happened to my youngest daughter!
I knew a woman who ended up in a really bad way because of a situation like this. They had just had a new child, I think he was only a month old when they moved into their first home. They hadn’t even finished unpacking when he came out as gay to her. She told him to leave, he did and everyone slammed her for not supporting him. About a year later the house was sold, they divorced and they sorted out custody. Everything had kind of boiled down now. They started to get friendly again and so would start confiding in each other. Turned out he wasn’t gay, he was a trans woman and he wanted her support transitioning. Again, she refused and was slammed for it. He is now a trans woman in a relationship with a gay guy. She is with a guy now who treats her well but she still gets crap from people about it from time to time. She wasn’t allowed have her own feelings about the whole thing, only he was ever considered and supported.
You know what? Somebody has every right in the world to identify as whatever the f-ck they want. Nobody else is under any obligation to be "accepting and supporting," and frankly, if anybody were to slam me for not supporting some mental case like that would be told to go f-ck themselves post haste.
That's just awful. The deception and victim blaming. I'm glad she's with someone better now.
Lets try this again "trans-woman" is a closeted gay person. Embrace it sport don't hide in the trans space
she is based.
It's just another way of cancelling women and their feelings. Women are "supposed" to be compliant to men's needs. By refusing to support him she becomes a "bad woman".
Nothing will make me sadder, in regards to this topic, than seeing Kris and Bruce Jenner having a conversation about him changing his birth certificate to show “female,” and Kris asking, “If he doesn’t exist, does that mean we were never married?” She looked so incredibly heartbroken. I can’t even imagine.
Yeah, what happened to Bruce Jenner? Did he just wink out of existence as if he had never existed at all? Who won all those medals?
Yes, Bruce did his whole family completely dirty during his transition. He did not consider them or involve them in any way. Not like it effected them at all🙄
Edited: removed a word that shouldn’t have been in there.
@@ShanaLawson From everything I keep seeing, the stuff about him not considering them at all seems so true. They all appear to be very self-centered, often narcissistic and act very entitled (it could of course be that most videos focus on the bad ones only though) but making a change as big as this definitely has huge consequences for their partner
True. Also, if he didn't exist, then how will his kids exist? They came from Bruce, hence if Bruce has always been non-existent, where did those kids come from? 🤔
@@tinewordsmith126 I think he says his kids still call him dad
I always considered myself a liberal human but the more I watch her the more I see that her opinions are not nearly as outrageous as the internet makes them out to be… super logical and well spoken gal
This is literally me lol. I don’t consider myself conservative as i have plenty of liberal views but i agree with a lot of her videos, more than i thought i would
Same here. I consider myself very liberal, and I do not agree with everything she says. However, it is also refreshing somehow because it makes me really question things more "open minded"😂 (no idea if that makes sense)
@@tabi8488
Try officer Tatum too❤
Same. I consider myself a liberal, but I am way more center than I originally thought. I don’t agree with EVERYTHING she says but I respect the way she says it usually.
Trans widows are forgotten.. seems like the husbands leave their wives for the sin of growing older, they have an affair with the woman within (autogynephilia). Many are super smart because of the autism brainiac connection. Manlier than the average man. Not like the girly guys looking for a husband
I saw a different video of Kristen and her husband where they were decluttering their apartment. She was feeling extreme guilt about wanting to keep some souvenirs from their wedding because, "OMG BABE, IT HAS YOUR DEAD-NAME!!".
The poor woman was weeping and groveling and apologizing to her husband for wanting to keep momentos from her wedding because she was scared those momentos would trigger him. She seems like she lives in fear of him leaving (or lashing out) if she upsets him. Its a terribly sad way to live. 😥
I hate the term "deadname". It sounds disrespectful to your parents who chose it. Why not simply say "birth name" or "original name"?
@@HumanLandslide You cannot freak out as much over a "birth name" but "dead name" has drama and fear. You can say someone wants you dead if they use it.
That's not the full picture. Kristen was prepared to throw the wedding suit away, but her partner wasn't prepared to do that. Becuse it reminded her of their wedding, and it was a precious memory.
@@Sharon-dv4so I think switching "maiden name" with "dead surname" would be intreresting.
She's grieving. Like loosing a husband it's hard and yes he's physically there but hes not the same person and, I'm sad she doesn't have space to grieve. :'(
My sister in law transitioned about 3 years ago. My brother was devastated, as his then wife changed sexual preferences to female. Even worse was no one wanted to listen to his side of the story. He was expected to just continue their relationship like nothing happened. My father and I were the only ones who were reasonable and did what we could to comfort him. My brother signed divorce papers and is doing so much better today thankfully. The other side of the family was absolutely hateful and intolerable to us because of this. It still doesn't sit well with me to this day.
Yeah. Like the stopped wanting him, so what's the point of staying. So horrible the treatment they gave him :(
Poor guy, he basically had to greive
and i am sure the other side of the family called him misogynist as he didn't care about her needs and feelings either ?
Is your brother alright?
@@stanedgie5910 if this was the situation can they even call it misogyny if they're both "men"? UNO reverse lol.
But I guess they did, and that they called him transphobic too. The world is messed up.
Kristin also came out with a video a few months back where she said she was now using they/them pronouns and that it was common for spouses of trans people to “explore their own gender.” It is just so sad and wild that this is the only personality trait people are allowed to have these days and it defines everything about them and is literally contagious.
“Literally contagious”
This is a terrifying point.
The woke mind virus! Yep. Contagious!
She married a real Chris Chan, now, didn't she?
@@americancapitalist9094 Agreed
It's called social engineering, it's a form of rewiring and brainwashing.
The grief part really hit me hard. My best friend came out as a boy right before being the maid of honor in my wedding. I didn't see it coming and I was in shock and then in grief for months afterwards. It was as if the person I knew had died and was replaced with a stranger. Thank you for addressing this issue.
Omg. Was your friend still in your wedding?
@@Pinkles666Right, that's what I wanna know
sounds like your "friend" wanted all the attention you had been getting - why else wait till right before the wedding?
@@Pinkles666 Yes, but we don't really talk much now, and the whole thing was really awkward. Not sure what the better solution would have been though.
They were…… always the same person .
“He says that he likes overweight women…. He certainly has became one….”
Savage! 🤣
OOH do we need to call an ambulance to report a burn injury?
Yes, but not really...at all.
A man can't become a woman no matter what. What they call sex change and transgender surgery is just a lie.
He's still obviously a fat guy in a dress, with earrings and lipstick.
Now they are twinning.
He really benefitted from this relationship: she did everything to please his fetish and he was accepted at every level. He wanted to be a big girl and she gave in to his every whim.
This what Narcs do, after all.
Its sad to hear her describe him as the type of guy she always wanted (thin, dark hair etc)but "could never get". Her low self esteem is why she has allowed this person to manipulate her into being whatever he needs/wants. It's all about his needs.
So. Here's my story. My brother and I grew up extremely close. I named my firstborn son after him. My kids adored my brother and his brand new wife. My brother had a complete mental breakdown. He quit his career, came out as trans, left his wife of ten months, and moved 1000 miles away to live with a person he only knew online (a fellow trans and furry) all within a six month period. You CANNOT convince me this has always been his "truth."
Anyway, so, when I ask, "What am I supposed to tell my (VERY young) children?" He said, "Oh. Well. Kids are more resilient and accepting than any adults. Just tell them the truth. But also- never mention my birth name again in my presence. That's my dead name." THAT IS MY SON'S NAME.
My kids wept over the news of my brother's divorce. They were heartbroken. They kept asking why they wouldn't ever get to see their new aunt again. They were so excited to have a new aunt and to get to know this new family member, and they were confused and grieved to learn that she wouldn't ever be speaking to our family ever again.
But I was the ignorant one for feeling hurt and angry.
so sorry to hear this. One day, when all his trans friends dump him and he's alone, he will know the meaning of family. God is All-Seeing, All-Hearing.
These people never talk about the heart ache they cause theor partners when they come out
That’s a crazy story, sorry your family had to go trough that
What a JERK. (and lol furry WTF) Good riddance and hopefully he'll never come back.
Transgenders, narcissistic and selfish as always
It is absolutely toxic. My ex coming out as trans freed me from a toxic relationship. He was emotionally abusive and manipulative. When he came out it woke me up to what he was. He turned me into what he wanted me to be. I realized I'm a straight woman and couldn't be a lesbian. You are always told not to judge someone by their outside, but your outside is actually a reflection of your inside.
Literally I just went through everything you just said! Omg I thought I was alone! 😔had he not came out I would’ve stuck around.
@@mysterio1374I’m so sorry you went through that. I hope things are better now.
I remember a few years ago, the girl I was dating at the time wanted to transition to a male. We talked about it, and I decided to break off the relationship after stating that I wouldn't date her following the transition. She then proceeded to flip her shit and rant and rave at me for my decision, saying that I didn't truly love her if I refused to go from straight to gay/bisexual for her. Six years on, I'm glad I've made my decision
They only seem to look at the relationship based on what they can take. When it comes to relationships, we think about our rights more than our obligations.
They want transitioning to be seen on the same level as cancer or postpartum weight gain.
Speaking from a gay man. Nobody chooses who they are attracted to. It is completely okay for you to end the relationship if they decide to transition.
And this is why you should always still single.
Well why not still date her? She’s still female.
@@anna.luv3 Because that was six years ago. Since then I've found someone else, settled down, gotten engaged and we're now expecting our first child sometime in the upcoming months
I was such an androgynous child growing up all the way through high school. After I had my daughter my motherly instincts kicked in and I had this urge to dress super feminine and loved it. I would be devastated now if someone swayed me into thinking I was a boy and put me on T destroying my chance to have my babies. I was a Tom boy, occasionally wondered if the grass was greener on the other side (which I feel is normal) but NEVER wanted to be a male. I'm so glad the internet was not as developed back than.
@Gengar I don't eat grains, wheat minimal carbs actually, under 10. Less then 1500 calories a day and daily exercise. In fact I have lost 20 lbs in the last month. I'm not really sure what your point is on my comment. Hopefully you can find some therapy to help, I'm sure Brett has a code for ya.
@Gengar tf are you talking about? She didn't mentioned weight in her original comment so your reply is unnecessary and off topic.
@Gengar she also didn't say she was fat so why would you assume she is? Just because she gave birth? Grow tf up.🙄
I am confused why people think tom boys and trans people are one in the same. or why it has to be one or the other ? im sure you never wanted a beard or a penis, yet maybe you liked sports and playing in the dirt. I feel this is a very very different discussion. I say this as a girl who grew up as a tomboy myself
@@cucumber790 absolutely they are not one in the same. But I did think "man I wish I was a boy" "man I hate my breasts" (as I began to tape them down) "I don't get being a girl" " I feel like i was born in the wrong body" I was insecure, hated and felt awkward in my female form through most of puberty years. I absolutely would had been the type of person pushed into transitioning and I would had offed myself as an adult once I was removed from the cruel world of high school girls.
My ex boyfriend came out as trans years before the pandemic. He is goth he had long black hair and wore eyeliner as a man, even painted his nails black. I was ok with that but gradually he started to buy his clothes a bit more feminine, even buying high heeled boots and wearing more makeup. Until he told me he felt he was a woman. We tried to deal with this for a long time, but eventually we split up because even though I don't believe he was ever a woman, I couldn't deal with the fact that he was dressing like one. I was devastated, he didn't take any hormones or have any gender changing surgeries, but he has pretty features so he actually does pass as a woman. We remained in contact for a few years, always trying to get back with me. Recently I cut off all contact because now he's saying he is a witch 🤦🏽♀ a Wicca or whatever they call themselves. These people just need attention. I was not stupid enough to stay in his delusional world.
Sounds kinda like a friend I knew who turned into a goth trans woman
Its also demonic so the witch jump isnt surprising
You have saved yourself. Be happy.
@StrawberryStar7 I kind of agree myself being a practitioner of ‘witchcraft’ I don’t see why you would have to bring that up to someone who you have repeatedly been trying to get with even after they have expressed that they don’t want to get back with you, unless it was to gain attention be it of any sort if not to fetishize an entire eclectic religion. Though I suppose I personally don’t have and experience with being in a relationship with someone, let alone someone who transitioned or claimed to transition it seems kind of insensitive to not respect someone’s wishes to not get back together, and to add more thing that most like would further make the person uncomfortable and to still pursue them. I know a lot of people view witchcraft as bad or satanic but it’s more of the people who are bad apple that are louder then the few good ones who quietly try to go about their lives which can be said for many groups more so recently trans people that you see on tv and social media. Though I’d take everything with a grain of salt being a high schooler myself I am still yet to really experience the world so fully as actual matured (hopefully) adults, none of this is to be disrespectful, just my own thoughts and opinions to how some people can be. (Sorry for the long paragraph)😅
I’m so sorry you went through that.
I am watching this happen to my daughter's marriage; although she claims to be ok with her husband's transition to become her wife. I am grieving the loss of my son in law who I adored, and the grandchildren that they will not be adding to our family as they had told me they had planned . He came out to me by showing up to a dinner in a restaurant in a dress, without any prior conversation or indication that he was planning on transitioning. When I didn't immediately affirm him and excused myself from the dinner, I became his enemy. I needed time to process what is happening to my family. This has been a horrible experience that I don't wish upon anyone. The divide between my daughter and I is growing wider by the day, it's so sad.
sounds like a nightmare… wishing you strength !
There is a term for what your daughter is: trans widow
We need to start acknowledging that partners of biological men who transition to women go through a period of mourning. Stay strong for your daughter. She will need it eventually.
I'm so sorry. I hope you and your family find peace soon.
It is sad, scary, and frustrating to have to watch someone you love go through this and become isolated from them because of it.
It sounds like you have a part in that gap. You assume your daughter must be unhappy (and pretending not to be) in that situation, and maybe she is, but what if you're wrong? Just because you don't understand it and wouldn't wish it for yourself doesn't mean the same is true for your daughter. Your daughter's spouse's identity is what it is, so either they stay together or eventually divorce. You can't control that. But you can bridge the gap right now by accepting them so that you can be closer to your daughter. Right now you are just creating hardship for your daughter by adding friction to the relationship.
My ex-husband came out as a trans woman right before I filed for divorce due to his abuse and severe mental health problems, and suspicion of him wanting to be trans. We had a baby together right before that happened. Hes been trying to teach my son that he is his mother and insists that he’s called that. It’s painful every time I have to interact with him. I could deal with it if we didn’t have a child together and just parted ways. But my son and myself are forever roped into a lifestyle we never asked to be a part of, due to visitation and parenting time required through the courts. I am getting married again soon and my son is with me full time so he has an actual father in his life, but we still have to interact with my ex husband.
So sorry. Can’t imagine what that must be like from a kid’s perspective.
Omg I'm going thru the same just not married. Our poor boys
That’s so vile and disgusting I’m so sorry for you just keep telling your child the truth have your child call him what he truly is… a father a man. Don’t give into the bs that person is mentally deranged I wish you and your new marriage lots of love and happiness as well as mental clarity in the future for your child
@Elena Barron he has custody rn and won't let me say or do anything unless it's about him NEVER MY SON.
I’m so sorry to hear that
Here's what people don't talk about. Fetish is one thing. "I prefer morbidly obese women" = I have low self esteem/image, and need someone who is worse than me so I can feel good, and control them... since I can't control myself.
That was my thinking as well. Your doing gods work
Read like a book.
Exactly.
It made sense when it said that he preferred bigger women. it turns out that's what he was secretly wanting to become one in his future...
damn, now that you say it like that...
If these people feel so offended or bad when they see themselves as a their original sex, no offense they haven’t fixed their problem. If you are proud of where you are then being true to yourself is admitting where you came from. She should be able to put that picture up and he should not be bothered at all.
Yes! This bothered me, too - especially when she said she couldn't put the photo up out of respect for him, and he said, "Sure." He should have said, "Of course you can put it up," and shown respect to *her* The thing is, like you said, they aren't healed. People don't have meltdowns to see themselves as children, or a teenagers, just because they have transitioned into adulthood. Ugghhh... I agree with Brett, thinking I would just cringe but now I'm sad and upset.
@@j15n5ll5 What hit me a little was when he said "I can't do this without her", seems like he's taking her hostage, and the worst thing is that he is not forcing her with a gun to her head, is forcing her through her affection for him. Wonder if he ever at least asked her forgiveness for the betrail he comited leting her believe she was marrying a normal man. Though I understand too, she is just folowing along, she's responsible for that. Codependency
@@imagginary_8 I hadn't thought of it that way, and I see your point. I commented elsewhere that I would support my husband if he needed to transition, but my love would also transition into the love of a friend. I would get a divorce because I need a man as my life partner. My "husband" would have "died," and marriage is "until death do we part."
Any reminder that these men aren't women breaks the autogynophilia s3xual fantasy, that's why they say they were "always a girl" (never woman) and calling the birth name "deadname". Men with autogynophilia need to live in this 24/7 validation of being affirmed as a woman all the time, thus why they get so many like the "it's MA'AM" dude, you broke the fantasy, you killed their hard-on, you ruined their jerkoff session at home in front of the mirror. That's why they need to be in every female space, why Kristen can't put up that photo she likes, it reminds her husband he is a dude, thus stopping his c00m.
Amen. The whole dead naming thing is pure narcissism and control over others, even down to trying to control their speech and memories and feelings.
Toward the end of this video, I was thinking to myself, "this is an abusive relationship". Right from the start he has been so successful at preying upon her insecurities that she has molded herself around everything he wanted. He seems like a control freak to me. This trans guy seems meek and mild on the surface, but deep down he exerts some sort of control over her.
There are lots of ways to have relationships, but controlling abusive behavior doesn't belong in them.
I’m currently transitioning myself…from a dude who prefers blondes to a dude who prefers brunettes. The transition has been really hard, but I know I will get through it with the support of the straight-male community and its allies.
😂🤣
Good one😂
Ngl had us in the first half.
I'm pan in that regard
there is a good chance you will likely de-transition back to liking blondes at some point
You have my support, brother. We're here for you.
So much here to unpack:
-He could be guaranteeing nobody else lays eyes on her by making her get morbidly obese.
-He feels so little besides a woman like her that he’s trying to become her to compete against her inner beauty.
-She looks so unhealthy by now that he may even be getting pleasure from seeing her get sick.
This man is an awful gaslighting machine. He screams “abuser” so loud it’s deafening. He’s obnoxiously selfish. He capitalizes on her insecurities.
He’s got mommy issues and is passing the receipts onto her, slowly and heartlessly.
And at the same time, trying to become her and getting off to it. Autogynophilia right there. Definitely abusive, most trans couples are toxic.
🎯🎯🎯
I do think there is more to it than one person in a vacuum suddenly wants to change genders. So these things are all possibilities. The one constant among all these cases is unbelievable selfishness so that also seems to support some of these other things you bring up.
Yes! He's got lots of red flags here. Seems rather controlling.
He fetishized obese women, transitioned out of nowhere. I can almost bet he is addicted to pron and is just escalading things
I was in high school when the trans stuff started gaining a bit more traction and becoming more common (around the time Bruce went Kaitlyn). I was dating a girl and one day she hits me with a "I think I might be a demi-boy. Like im not full trans but I have some boyish tendencies." I told her straight up that if she started dressing and acting like a dude i was out cuz im not gay. She was pissed but accepted it. When i did break up with her cuz she nearly cheated on me and it was the dude who told me about it all not her, she didnt deny what happened. Like a month later she was "non-binary". All my buddies told me i dodged a bullet, i disagree, i dodged a cannonball
non-biary scares you ? it's what you are saying ?
@@m3w367 no it's cause they're not gay and didn't want to be with a girl who acts and dresses like a dude. Don't be an idiot
People are what they are, but high school kids are still growing and can be immature and behave badly. I wonder if this person will look back with any ounce of embarrassment for cheating, because… yeah… but you totally dogged a cannonball in many ways!
@@m3w367 “non binary” doesn’t exist
@@m3w367lol you don't get it and sounds like you don't want to do it's fine put your head in the sand in your ass high in the air the safest place for you
My husband is the love of my life. Started dating as 17/18 year olds and we are now 39/40. 2 wonderful children, house, vacations, etc. I love the life we built together. He is my best friend and we have been by eachothers sides for more than half our lives. He is a wonderful father. I can't say enough great things about him. HOWEVER, if he were to transition and say he was a woman, I would be filing for divorce. I married a man. I made a commitment to the man that I love. I would also have grave concerns about his mental health and question if he would be able to be a safe father to our kids.
Thankfully, that isnt happening so I will just continue to be happily married to my highschool sweetheart ❤
I once dated a girl who thought she was a man and it was so interesting to me how she referred to herself as a gay trans man and was attracted to me. The whole time I was thinking to myself...”soooo you’re straight? You’re interested in what you’re wired to be interested in?”
Saw a girl on twitter that chopped her breast off and did the whole guy thing and said she was a gay dude that only liked dudes in her bio,it will never make sense as much as they try to make it make sense
What did she say/do after that?
I'm a man who gay and your ex girlfriend is a female. I wouldn't date a trans man and I've had them hit on me before. They're just not men to me but rather butch straight women who hit on me 🤷🏽
@@MetalHeadManic612 oh she dumped me saying she couldn’t be with someone who won’t support her on her journey because it’s who she is and it’s her truth and all that shit
@@trevster75 Mental health issue if u ask me
She's literally scared to state how sad she is. She can't look at her wedding photo because he said no. This is insane. This isn't normal except for the fact he will push a line again.
Sooner or later what hoop will he push her through when he's done with this?
Will he decide he's a puppy and she needs to care for his puppy self?
Or will he flip and be a guy again?
He's coming off very narcissistic to me .. what hoops are next for Kristen? How sad.
i have a feeling he will flip at some point and want to milk it for publicity as this whole thing seems to be anyway. At the end of the day, while i feel for her (the biological her) she also allowed this to happen.
Get out now.
Be happy with you.
Blessings
As a detransitioner, I was told transitioning would fix all of my confidence problems, would make me happy etc... And it's just not like that.
Edit: Thank you so much for your support :)
Never give up the grind to putting the past behind you and re-transitioning into the best version of yourself possible, you got this.
You can do this honey! Thank you for speaking out ❤❤❤
I’m wishing you all the best!
God's peace be with you.
You are loved and you are enough.❤
For me I'm still young but I don't want to date anyone trans or someone who isn't straight/bio male. I'm a biological female and I'm straight, and my personal preference is biological straight men. But I've had so many people telling me that not wanting a trans partner is "selfish" and "being too picky" but it's not that hard to ask for? This video helped relieve some of those nerves. Brett is amazing and a huge role model to me
My granddaughter left her husband (already had problems) when he decided to trans. She just didn't want that life.
Relationships are difficult enough. That is just too much.
That life is being forced to lie to someone who is having an identity crisis as if playing along with their self-hate delusion fantasies of them being born in a body that needs to be "fixed" is best for them when really that's the worse thing you could do to a person, lie to encourage their self-destruction or self-harm. Many people who transition do physical damage to their bodies, that's mutilation, some mutilation even given to children can cause permeant damage, that's evil. There is help out there for people with gender dysmorphia, but if it's not lying to them then the internet take the real help down. I pray those in need find what they need and it's not being lied to, that's not loving.
I don't blame her, most of them look like clowns and it must be reasonably embarrassing to be in anyway associated with them
She married Steve, not Eve and had the wherewithal to leave.
She saved herself years of abuse. Good for her. Trans widows stories are very heartbreaking cause it's always abusive
I was on a dating site and was talking with a guy who liked bigger girls than me. He was asking me if it would be ok for me to get fatter for him. I was like no, absolutely not. And he was like well if you want to be with me, that is what I like. I just blocked him. I remember thinking that was messed up. Literally, his turn on is to watch a woman get fatter to her death. There's something ill about that whole thing.
Exactly if a man tells you, “I like bigger women”. Run. That’s behaviour of a feeder, who tries to get the person their dating to eat more so they can become fatter and unhealthier because their freaks who get turned on watching people eat themselves to death and enjoy dating a person so fat and undesirable that their victim becomes reliant on them to do basic things like walk and move around while feeling like they can’t leave because the feeder is the only one who finds them “attractive” now that their the size of a whale. It’s messed up and down right disgusting that their are people like this in our world and are current society is still encouraging obesity.
I think this is harder than someone passing, because it actually ruins memories. The fact that they can’t have pictures, or think back to those times, that person isn’t there anymore. That person doesn’t exist anymore. It’s between someone who is gone physically, another is a person who doesn’t exist at all.
This! Absolutely.
When my sister transitioned into a male with hormones and top surgery, he went around the house taking all childhood photos down (even ones that included me), and would actually get mad at our mom for taking about when he was a baby because “she’s dead now”. I remember my mom bawling in her room for days, not allowed to talk about Disneyland trips or basically the past 18 years of her life. :/ sad and rude of my sibling
@@lexihinds406 Yeah, and that’s called entitlement. I’m so sincerely sorry to your sweet mother and to you. I hope everything’s going better now.
One of the guys i used to work with went from married Christian man with two small kids to divorced polyamorous transwoman declaring that his 6 year old is also trans. Guess what? He's still depressed. He's still struggling with self-hatred. Surgeries and hormones don't help a mental health issue
people who swing from one extreme to the other are a trip.
you were so right in saying transition has become easy and glorified. i started taking hormones in 2013 and got my breasts removed it 2016. i 100% regret it now. i was offered no therapy before or during my transition and was told it would fix all my problems. i still have the same problems i did before, but now with the extra weight of what transition has done to me piled on top.
May I ask did you have anyone in your life who was trying to stop you? If so was that person or people attacked/silenced by others in your life who blindly supported it?
Stories like yours are the kinds people need to hear.
So sad
I really hope you didn't take hormone blockers too
God, I'm sorry. I have two detrans friends who still live with surgery and T regret. Looking back I feel so fucking stupid for blindly supporting them when it was obvious that it wasn't actually helping. We all bought into the culty side of the trans movement and there were real consequences, for some of us more than others.
It's always the freaking Brian's! My ex husband also named Brian came out as trans! Horrible for mine and my kids life and it's not any better 4 1/2 years later. It is so detrimental to everyone!!
Oh my, so I'm guessing he declares himself a lesbian
@@benjaminreyes3624 Yes he does. He even has someone in his life that puts up with it, they're engaged. They met at the church him and I attended together before all of this.
@@Katie-jr8bs that's a tough one because you have kids. Would probably be a lot easier if you didn't
My heart goes out to you. May God give you all the strength you need to make it through.
Oh god! My bf is Brian.
The comfort to my thoughts about this is he's strongly conservative. Thank God
When you said they look like sisters it sent me. I know a girl who is a well known alt/bimbo type model & had a boyfriend who ended up transitioning as soon as they broke up to look like her CLONE. Like clearly there is something bigger here
AGPs, when you become the girlfriend you’ve always wanted
It's crazy how an average heterosexual relationship is seen as odd and problematic.
Because it's not something you get special snowflake brownie points for.
I remember when you saw a man and another man walking or eating together, you assumed they were friends and not lovers.
Like when the left calls us “cis” for simply being normal
@@mikewilcox9348 #bringbackbromance
@@eeveeofalltrades4780 i am so sorry 😔
Brett has had this channel for about 10 months and she's almost at 2 million subscribers. That is a RUclips milestone that I don't think has ever happened before. She deserves a medal.
I think she's being propped up by DW.. probably signed one of those contracts Crowder was talking about.
@@DC-nw3uc what kind of contracts?
@@adinamanolache51 Go watch Steven Crowder's video. I'm not saying there's anything sinister going on. I think Brett deserves the success. But it's obviously not organic.
@@DC-nw3uc Go watch Jeremy Boreings video. It's longer and actually explains the contract from a business stand point. It was the initial offer meant to be negotiated. Crowder didn't do that.
there's a weird Asian channel that went from like 10,000 subs to 20 million subs in 2 months. I have no idea how they did it and I kind of think the Chinese governments somehow manipulated the subs but yeah 20 million subs. There's actually a bunch of channels, there's 2 k-pop channels that have over 70 millions subs and they've only been around since last year.
The message for guys to "get in touch with their feelings" took a negligently toxic situation into an endulgently toxic one. Everything in moderation!
Does moderation also apply to the toxicity of a poison?
Tbh some things shouldn't be moderated they should be totally abstained from.
OMFG EXACTLY men can be sensitive that doesn’t mean they are a woman men can cry that doesn’t mean they are a woman my question is is why womanhood defined by emotions or how they act instead of actually having a uterus or XX chromosomes bc if you don’t have either of those then you are not a woman even when a woman has a hysterectomy she still has XX chromosomes she is still a woman
I strongly dislike Kristen. One time she posted on instagram some medical lies (basically saying that obese people don’t have more surgery complications just for being obese, which is completely untrue). So i send her a dm, being super polite, but telling her she was spreading misinformation, and she has a big platform, she should be aware of the information she posts. She didn’t answered me, but she did a print screen of my interaction and put me on blast on her instagram story calling me fatphobic and leading her followers to come at me.
Since that day, I don’t like her a bit. Don’t wish her bad fortune, but don’t wish her a good fortune either. Just don’t care.
I'm with you. She seems desperate and disingenuous.
Doesn't she have diabetes now?
@@completelycrazy1 no idea ! I haven’t follow her since she put me on blast
When I saw the new video thumbnail, it was so genuinely weird. It’s like he wants to be Kristin. He now has her body shape, he wears makeup and hair the same way. I agree with feeling empathy for her. She has shoved herself into a small corner of her own life to make this person happy above and beyond her own happiness.
He's giving real serial killer vibes. Dude wants to wear her skin or something. This is not normal behavior...
Giving me buffalo bill vibes
he is single white female-ing his own wife.
sooooo.. they claim to have always been a woman but married someone under the pretence of being a man? imagine finding out your whole relationship has been a lie
That’s what happened to kris Jenner lol
Yea. Because your partner has to lie about who they are because of a culture of hate. Happens all the time.
The idea that they HAVE to is a lie.
They are told getting married will “cure them.” That’s the lie. So other people get hurt once you realize the lie isn’t working and you need to be yourself. Lots of gay people marry thinking it will cure them. It doesn’t.
It should be a crime. Your basically sleeping with/marrying someone know that you are lying about your sexual orientation. It's basically gRape
My ex roommate is mtf trans and he's dating a ftm trans. They have 3 children who are 10, 13,16 and they are non binary. When he told me all this my brain exploded
Mental illness being passed on for generations
... what the heck 😂
You could never convince me that all of this isn't a social contagion
What?! These creatures can have babies now??
So straight with extra steps…
I’ve loved Kristen and Jen sense buzzfeed, even before the transition it felt like she was walking on eggshells. Now it’s like you can watch her calculate each comment before she makes it so she doesn’t hurt feelings or get “cancelled”.
a person can only live like that for so long before they break down - I hope she gets out before then 🙏
My husband of 20 years came out. I was blindsided. 2 kids. It was devastating. Because we had kids I can’t just block their number and move on. I have to be supportive for my kids sake. Meanwhile we’re all still in therapy, 2 years later. She regrets it. Regrets throwing napalm on the family. I’m not sure this is something you ever truly ‘get over’. But I’m happier than I’ve ever been. I’ve started dating again and met a great man and am excited about the future. My only worry now is the long term affect on my kids…
many of these people who transition, 8/10 never consider what their "transitioning" does to their spouses, kids and family. They think it is so simple for others to just accept that "daddy is a mommy now" or "Mommy is a daddy now" and if you dont, your transphobic/not supportive/against them, etc etc.
I'm actually going through something similar with my wife. She came out as non-binary I few months ago and it has been really hard for me. The light at the end of the tunnel is that based on research that I've done, a condition she has called Polycystic Ovarian Syndrome can cause an imbalance of hormones which can lead to gender dysphoria. I'm hopeful when she gets the treatment for her condition, her hormones will balance out and she'll feel herself again.
If you don't have kids, get out of there now. If you do have kids, arrange an accident so she doesn't get the opportunity to mess them up.
I have pcos. My friend does too. No gender dysphoria. I think social brainwashing has more to do with it than anything. This non binary stuff is unfortunately trendy right now. She needs help. I hope she gets it. Sorry you are going through this.
@@thebestcat9601 I have PCOS and know many people who have it and none of use have gender dysphoria....
What does being “non-binary” even mean? Is she capable of communicating what she is trying to express when she says she’s “non-binary”? Bc it’s actually a pretty incoherent concept… not relating to certain social norms associated with your sex applies to 100% of ppl. It’s actually incredibly regressive to say bc you want to do something, or like something, therefore you can’t be a woman…
Get out now. Trans ppl are completely encouraged by society, it's only gonna get worse, I hope you don't have kids, get out and save your sanity and life. I've read too much trans widows stories. They never end well. Good luck.
I love the compassion you have for this woman dealing with her narcissistic husband.
I thought that was very sweet. I actually used to watch some buzzfeed videos because Kristen is a very funny and kind person. Her and her group are the only people I would watch on there.
Yes!!@
My cousin sadly did this to his newly wed wife. She stood by his side through the transition and the controversy and everything then he had the nerve to serve her divorce papers before her board exams.
One of my sister's guy friends who's also married told her he came out as a trans women. She told me they cried, said they loved and supported him. Great. All I could think of was "what about is wife? His wife of ten years. How is SHE doing? I she ok?". People who do this are so damn selfish. It's no different than men who'd marry women, start a family then come out as gay.
She can't display a picture of her dead grandmother bcz he's in "boy mode"?? This guy is extremely selfish. She's done and still doing so much for him but I heard absolutely nothing he's doing for her. It's like take it or leave it with him. How's that love??
I had a bad feeling about her husband when he told her he didn't want her to lose weight even though she was trying to be healthier. This was several years ago when she was still on BuzzFeed. If he really loved her, he should have put aside his fetish for fat women in favor of a healthier and happier wife.
@@rationalcynic8416 absolutely. he's only with her bcz he knows her self esteem is in the trash and she'll do anything to keep what she's perceiving as love. bruh is a tool.
I always felt bad for Kristen in this. Yeah I only saw parts of the story but she lost her husband the man she fell in love with. She once said “unfortunately I am still attracted to men”
I felt like she was being shamed for who she liked. Which I weird since that is what is not supposed to happen and you can “like whoever you want”
Kristen definitely put others needs before her own.
Kristen should come out to him as a thin woman and inform him that she will start her transition. He should be anything but supportive.
@Benjamin Roman yes, she should! 🤣
Brett is such an unbelievably articulate and insightful young woman. I resonated so much with her take on this and the relational aspect of this couple. She hit the nail straight on!
It's so cruel to all the partners and spouses. Someone I know very well, got married to a man she'd known all her childhood, they were married for several years, and recently he said he wanted a divorce because he was non binary and had a boyfriend. So cruel to her, lying to her all these years. He should never have gotten married and deceived someone for so long.
Least he told her and she didn’t find out by walking in on him.
I believe I'd sue him into oblivion.
So he's gay 🤷♀️
I have a friend that's a lesbian and she married another lesbian. Her wife decided to transition into a man. Now she's asked me (another fellow lesbian) what should she do. I told her if you're not attracted to your spouse anymore due to your preference, then let go and leave.
Interesting little philosophical corner to be painted into, isn't it?
@@robertlombardo8437 what do you mean?
You all are sick.
Yea, my sister asks us to use they/them pronouns. She is fully pregnant right now. She is pregnant and asking me to not call her a mother and requesting that my children don't call her Aunty......!!!!! I want to have a relationship with her, but I can't play along with her magical thinking. I think she will refuse to talk to me if I stand my ground. I am also very concerned she will use they/them pronouns for her child. blah. It's not a good feeling and I think I need to have a very uncomfortable conversation with her.
Cut her out and keep your kids away from her before she transes them too. Save yourself the toxicity. Trans ruins everything and everyone. Do it for you kids dude, and your sanity. It ain't worth it.
@@noonesishome took the words right out of my mouth.
She is in an abusive relationship. The fact that what she probably truly feels cannot be true to herself. She has to settle to what He wants
Yes! I also grieved when my brother became schizophrenic. He was such a different person and we really felt his loss and that we now had a stranger in our lives. It's a very real thing to grieve people that are still alive.
I have disabilities and even in commenting section I have been called a lier about it. But I know that I have personality difficulties due to brain damage.
Please can you explain how he suddenly became a stranger? I can't imagine.
@Kamal AL-Hinai Schizophrenic people hear and see things that aren't there. They're usually overly paranoid. They often lose touch with reality. There are studies that are beginning to show that episodes like that can change a person's brain (destroy gray matter). While on medication, antipsychotics can make you a zombie and also emphasize those brain changes.
@@Kamal_AL-Hinaisevere schizophrenia causes significant behavioral, emotional, speech, etc changes.
It makes me made because it boils down to “ my feelings matter more then yours, because I’m trans!”
I think that is a pretty good simplification of who these people are. SJW seems to take groups of people and remake into narcissistic cry-bullies.
That's literally all it is
People genuinely need to understand themselves before getting married. If you are experiencing gender dysphoria, don’t marry someone without them knowing about it. If you have an addiction, don’t marry someone without them knowing about it. If you have a diagnosed illness/mental illness, don’t marry someone without them knowing about it. If you have a certain kink/fetish, don’t marry someone without them knowing about it.
100% this. My spouse has a particular kink that he disclosed very, very early in our relationship (like, we'd probably been dating for a couple months). If he'd waited to tell me for the almost 3 years between them and when we got married, I think I would have been within my rights to leave him and be very mad at him for keeping that a secret until he had me trapped in a marriage.
To use another example, I went out on a couple dates with a guy I met online who has schizophrenia. He disclosed that before we had even met in person, like, "Hey, so I need to tell you that I have schizophrenia. I've been medicated since I was a teenager and it's never been a problem, but if that's an issue for you, I totally understand." Considering it's probably the single most stigmatized mental illness that there is, I think that took brass balls to tell that to a girl you hardly know and accept there's a good chance it's going to lead to rejection. He was a super nice dude, so I hope life worked out well for him.
@@Ad1nfernum I completely agree!
When I marry someone if they come out at trans we are getting a divorce
Im trans and it took me a while to be accepting of people who transition and continue to date the same sex as before. It was mind boggling. People should be able to openly grieve trans people, especially if they didn't come out until later in life. I don't expect my parents or anyone to call me my preferred name when for majority of my life i was known as someone. Its extremely selfish to expect people to change almost immediately
My cuz came out as trans. I miss who she was.
@@auouraschannel5230 I feel that, I probably was similar to her which is where I can say I f'd up. Before I transitioned I was being who other people wanted me to be or expected me to be. When I transitioned I started being myself which everyone else took as me changing who I was. I never felt comfortable to be who I was with them because I was insecure about myself so for your cousin it might be something like that
@@IsaacDaniels777 maybe... you still loose the one you love
@@auouraschannel5230 that is true, I hope y'all can gain a new relationship
I had a partner who did this to me. About a month into our relationship, he told me that he was gender fluid, and then he changed his mind and said he was a transvestite, and finally he told me that he wanted to be a trans woman. He did this incrementally, trying to get me comfortable with the idea and I just couldn’t. So he left me. And now, he identifies as male, he has decided that he is comfortable in his own skin. I’m happy for him, and I’m finally starting to get over the pain that I couldn’t be part of his future. I’ve moved on, I met a wonderful new partner. I guess everything ended up being good for everyone in the end, and that’s good, but it doesn’t happen that way for everyone, and my heart goes out to them
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You are lucky you didn't get married. They usually wait until you can't leave easily.
@@noonesishome or maybe he was genuinely trying to ease her into it and not lock her into something she could not get out of. Not everyone is an asshole or narcissist.
I used to wear boy looking clothes and had short hair, but I only had short hair because over summers, I went to lake Eerie with lots of seaweed, so to keep the seaweed out, I cut my hair short. Anyway, when I was in middle school, everyone thought I was trans and nobody confronted me, it was all behind my back. I didn't find out that people were talking about me until High School. I'm a girl by the way, and I am not trans.
Tomboys are usually cute when they start dressing like women
It's like y'all disguise yourself just to pop out of nowhere like "ta-daa, I'm hot" 😭
@@Gintoki_Madao Tomboy erasure should be a drawing and quartering offense.
@@Gintoki_Madao Women in masculine clothes are actually super cute
@@Paula-um3js dude!!!
Facts
When I was younger I was getting shamed for liking tomboys.. I was told "maybe you're trying to hide that you're gay or something"
I'm like bruh, these are women, cute ones at that
@@Gintoki_Madao same tbh. Someone asked me if I like tomboys then why don't I just date men instead. Like seriously 🙄 there's no difference at all.
Btw, I really don't like saying it's "masculine", I may wear cargo pants and an oversized t-shirt one day, and still feel so feminine underneath. I actually feel more feminine in those than all the tight uncomfortable clothes pushed for women. But people outside won't tell and think I'm masculine because of that. Not angry, just disappointed in gendering fashion
My husband told me he was trans two years into our marriage. I tried to make things work with my wife, but she changed mentally with estrogen and testosterone blockers. She was not the same person anymore and started abusing me. Long story short, we divorced a few months later and I found out later she was cheating on me. She is married and moved on now. I had to take years of therapy to get my life back to somewhat normal.
"She" was never a she. Stop conceding to that demand. A man cannot become a woman and a woman cannot become a man.
Your husband, he, gave into his dysphoric view of himself and put you through living hell and destroyed your marriage for hormone blockers and mutilating surgeries if HE even went that far with it.
I can't even imagine how traumatic that was for you and I'm so terribly sorry. Realize you owe him absolutely nothing and that includes calling him a "she". Never call him a "she" again.
@@rj-wz7dothis is just plain transphobia. Yes they are cheating scum and a horrible human being but the way you worded your entire comment is extremely gross.
Why refer to Him as Her. ? He is a selfish shite, whose fantasy you sound like you got sucked into...hence calling him a her. He doesnt deserve a female pronoun. We women are not an identity or bloody pronoun. I hope you can find peace and love.
This video gave me closure as a girl who got out of a disgusting relationship with an abusive male who was trans-fettished. He called me a goddess and then years later admitted how he wished he were me. I was 14 when it started and 18 when it ended. Absolutely disgusting. I was so scared and I also lost a sibling to mental tragedy where they were turned entirely different. I also suffered thinking I was trans for a long time but realized I define the stereotype- the stereotype doesn’t define me. This video gave me so much closure I am brought to tears yet don’t know what to say to express just how much I’ve been through to resonate with this. I’m so glad I was self aware and was raised in a conservative home- whether it was abusive or not- it truly benefitted me in the long run.
So… she’s attracted to thin hipster men, he’s attracted to obese women.
She changes for the worse to suit his fetishes, and he changes out of EVERYTHING she likes to suit HIS PREFERENCES.
Anne Perkins from Parks and Rec. The depiction of the woman who can’t maintain her own identity, independence or boundaries in a relationship was too real.
Thank you for talking about this Brett. I knew about this situation bc I also followed them from Buzzfeed to their new channel and watched it on and off- and was disturbed by how toxic it seemed and no one is covering it for fear of being cancelled, harassed, or doxxed. I also think it’s important to mention that they now capitalize off of his transition and instead of the duo of Kristen and Jen it has become a trio. I wonder if he complained about being left out with the girls and now they felt pressured to include him.
Literally happened to my sister with her fiancé. And he decided that he wanted to date men. My sister was devastated. She is the kind of person that just loves people. But I am glad they weren’t married.
you sister dodged a godamn mortar shell!
“Jeans ripped in all the right places.” Sounds like a Wattpad book.
HAH IM GLAD SOMEONE SAID IT
I was in a relationship with a man that wanted me to gain weight and it was SO damaging to my self esteem. When we first got together he would always say how he’s normally into bigger girls and I was the smallest girl he’d ever been with. I was struggling with restrictive eating behaviors at the time so I saw it as a positive to be able to let go of that and eat anything I wanted and try to be happy being “thick”. I put on like 50 lbs and that man was a horrible partner, so when the relationship inevitably ended, I was left with a body I hated and I’m still struggling to lose the weight today. Don’t ever change yourself for someone else. Your body is the only one you have and if someone doesn’t love you for you, then they are not the one for you.
@Gengar That's extremely unhealthy. They just need to do a calorie deficit & exercise.
@gengar2816800 calories a day? Who told you that? They're insane. I'm sorry they made you believe that's okay.
@gengar2816so they should go back to having a restrictive eating disorder?. At a helthy 1600 a day calories with exercise you would lose about 1-3 lbs a week meaning it would take a year or less to lose 50 lbs. 800 a day with fasting would reduce you to a walking skeleton in 3 months. 800 calories is less than the nessesary intake of a 2 year old child.
I just love how brett laughs when she disagrees 😂
Same! 😅🤦🏻♀️👏
Facts 😂
Bregg Cooper cracks up when she disagrees.
Same, cant hold straight face
Except for when it's something really messed up and hurtful. Then she gets.......spicy
I think that him living as a woman absolutely breaks her heart. Like you said, she’s just so afraid of expressing that because she’s terrified of being canceled by the people that make up most of the majority of their platform.
basically she is only with (s)him for the publicity, and not for her own happiness. Who is at fault then, if not BOTH of them?
hearing stories like these i sometimes try put myself in the other person‘s shoes. i tried to imagine what it would be like for me if my boyfriend was trans and it made me rather distraught and it honestly made me cry. i couldn’t imagine remembering all these great memories but i know they’re just not the same anymore. i cant even imagine how kristen feels, bless her heart
I recently got out of a relationship, because she wanted to, not transition, but become more “balanced”, they wanted to do testosterone. It was a very uncomfortable situation and it took me maybe 3 months to be up front with them and say I’m not ok with this. It sucks, I loved her but I my heart was broken in a way I wish would happen to no one
I’m only 17…
You escaped before it got too insane. Good for you!
17 y/o's don't know sh*t about relationships, and this will be but a ridiculous memory when you're grown up and with a normal woman.
holy shit, so she's prolly about your age right? damn, someone needs to save that girl, hormones aren't a game to play with.
Ugh, that's super uncomfortable. She definitely needs to get some stability in her life. My guess is she either has no father or a bad relationship with the one she does have?
You dodged a bullet there, man. Some in your generation are frankly insane, so don't feel bad for not participating in someone's delusion.
This reminds me the grief Kris Jenner went through when her ex husband started transitioning. You lose that person. They won't come back, it's a non way back and it's heartbreaking for the people around the trans person, I see how difficult it must be to love someone, try to support them, try to tell yourself it's the same person in a different way, but it's not, it's a big difference
And the family seems to have basically disassociated from him.
don't feel to bad for her, dealing with kris and her daughters is probably what drove him to it.
@@Mike-ul1xn damn so now guys express their sadness/anger by dressing up as girls? Speak for yourself, Mike
@@priscillaspets You don't think living with those people for years couldn't break your brain?
@@Mike-ul1xn strong minds can’t be broken, Mike
My Girlfriend genuinely came out to me as Trans a year into our relationship. She didn’t actually start transitioning until a few years later. And although it was a lot to process, I never thought about leaving her, I knew that this person was the person I wanted to love for the rest of my life. But of course I am bisexual so being a boy or a girl never really mattered to me. But Kristen does not look like she has been able to process this very well. She seems like she’s trying to convince herself that she is totally fine now, but she sounds so broken. And it’s hard to watch because no one should feel pressured to stay with someone in this situation just because they have history. Everyone should put their own happiness as a priority
My wife started her transition a few years ago. It got delayed in 2020 due to organ failure from Covid and I had to do CPR, then deal with her recovery.
We married as man and wife. She’s now 48 this month. I’m 55, and her transitioning became cathartic for us both. We’ve known each other for 29 years. We are both happy despite her disabilities now. But we have each other. We love each other. Both of us have a hard time being apart.
I’m a nurse and work full time. I cared for her at her worst with help from her family.
My only regret is that she isn’t in a healthier body. She’s recovered a lot in almost 3 years, but she has lots of issues.
As to her becoming a woman, my adult kids are supportive. It was cathartic for me to donate her former men’s clothes. We still both admire our Renaissance wedding photos because they represent our love through thick and thin. I don’t regret her transition. She’s the woman I love, and I am the woman she loves.
At least there is a voice of reason here. The problem is Kristen’s relationship. It isn’t every relationship with a trans partner!
@@blackfeathercrafts sounds like a strong marriage! I’m sorry your wife is going through all of that!
This happened to me. My partner went from being loving and emotional to having one emotion: rage. Punched a hole in the wall once out of anger but never cried anymore. Everything was just “fine” or “rage”. You basically wake up not knowing the person you were married to. And yes the endocrinologist monitors the levels of hormones. That was the “healthy” dose of testosterone given.
I love my partner to bits. He's the best man I know, and we have the best relationship I've ever experienced... but if he one day decides that he's a woman, and always has been...I'm out. I'll still love him as a person and we can be good friends ... but that's the end of our romantic/sexual dynamic. I am a straight, biological woman and I am in no mind to apologise for my sexual preferences and I won't be guilt tripped for them.
I feel the exact same way!
I told my husband the exact same thing a week ago, after seeing my best friend from high school post on fb about her husband of 18 years becoming a transwoman. They were wearing the same dress in the photo 😵💫 why do these dudes always try to single white female their wives?!
People who get into relationships and GET MARRIED to someone and later come out as trans/transition are so fucking selfish… they always say “I’ve always known I was trans” but they just never said anything and now are turning an innocent person who they claim to love life upside down
It’s not okay to get married to someone or have a serious longterm relationship and the whole time you lie/hide this only to come out as trans when it’s too late (too late as in the fact you have now deeply hurt and fucked someone up)
It’s not okay that just because someone is trans they are always viewed as a strong hero and also the victim and if anyone doesn’t support this or is super happy and in love with then being trans they are hated and viewed as a horrible person… it’s so backwards.
I started talking to this guy a few years ago and we got comfortable enough to exchange social media accounts - I looked through his IG and Facebook to find out he dresses up as a woman from time to time and calls himself “hailey” when he does, immediately I was turned off and super pissed this was not brought up. I contacted him right away and cut it off. I was called transphobic & a bigot 🤷♀️This is narcissism & manipulation at its finest.
I am 15 years old, and I really look up to you Brett, I want to be just like you when I grow up. Thank you so much for inspiring me to change the world in my own way.
You could do worse.. ;)
This is so cute!
You should aspire to be your own unique version and not to be just like someone else.
I’m only 2 years older than you but you seems like an intelligent girl, remember just because society normalises something doesn’t mean it’s correct, doesn’t stand for any bs and keep on advocating you’re views, that’s really important
This is cute but be your own person. Take inspiration, not imitation.
My partner actually went through a brief phase where she wanted to be trans. At first I thought it was a joke, but when it came up again I almost broke down. I had to sit in the bathroom and console myself and try to calm down. Eventually she thought about it, after I offered support and decided that she loved being a woman. She was kind of brought up in an environment where she was treated like she was less than her brothers and believed only men get respect. I am glad she didn’t go through with it, because honestly, even as a trans friendly person, it was hard.
Don't talk the talk if you won't walk the walk. If you call yourself trans friendly you should have have been the first lining up to affirm her.
affirmation without confirmation is the opposite of supportive
It doesn't look or sound like she's very happy with that transition, and having to hide how she really feels and hide away significant things like wedding photos. There's a lot of grief there, and there does seem to be anger smothered underneath all of it. She talked about how she had been after this dream guy for so long, then found him, only for him to transition into a trans woman.. She wants her damn man back!
This guy comes across as incredibly selfish. And three years later and he still has a man’s voice, shiiiit.
My ex boyfriend told me that he's really into heroin addicts so in order to keep him and make him like me more, I became a really bad heroin addict.
Not really a true story. I just wanted people (especially her) to hear just how ridiculous that sounds.
When he said he wasn't comfortable in acting in the masculine way everyone expected him to, I was like: 'See! There's the problem!' and I honestly think this is one of the major reasons people become trans. Because they don't feel they fit in with society's idea of what masculinity and feminity is, which leads to the questions what IS masculinity and feminity?! These two are VERY culture based. We have one understanding here in the west, which say being masculine is being macho strong, cold, alfa male. Men do not wear make up, men cannot like cute things, men give each other awkward half hugs and rarely compliment each others look.
If we look to the east, they have very different understanding of masculinity.
The thing is, both genders, both male and females, have feminine and masculine features and traits. When these traits are being suppressed and ignored, it becomes a problem and people, MAY think they are a different gender, because they don't know that it is NATURAL to have traits of the oppesite gender... This is where western culture could learn something from the Asian 'soft masculinity'. Somehow, these men have managed to embrace their soft, feminine side and STILL come out very masculine. The fact that men can be vulnerable, cute, beautiful, handsome, sexy and masculine all in one, may sound impossible, but somehow, that's Asian men 🤷♀️😉
THIS!
As a wife, if my husband came to me saying he was trans I would be absolutely devastated. Our lives would completely change. I would completely lose him because I married him, not a fake woman. On top of it, any dream we had together to start a family would be crushed because I would never bring a child into that environment. He would likely lose his job because the very reason why he loves his job is because of the people there but then I know the people wouldn’t be comfortable around him so he’d lose said people, he’d hate his job and probably leave.
Admittedly im a stay at home wife, so if my husband left (well paying job) I would have to get a job to help support us, which sounds selfish but that was part of the conversation when he was courting me (he wanted a stay at home wife). I wouldn’t divorce him because marriage should be treated as a commitment not a choice, so our relationship would be strained. I’d have to learn to love him as a completely different stranger, and grieve my best friend that I met in our church parking lot. I would be in mourning for years until the numbness finally came.
Y’all would probably call me a coward but I think I’d run away. I think my strength to remain in my morals would falter and I’d run, try and find the cheapest apartment and try and get on with my life.