"I was put on this earth to be a mother. I have to try for a girl", says the women with three kids. The hot pursuit of children. Like I do hope she overcome that mentality.
I agree. Obsessing over having children at the cost of everything else seems really sad and unhealthy. It worries me when people can’t be happy with whom they are - she’s trying to fill a void that no number of kids can fill.
They definitely jumped into the challenges with both feet! People don't realize that budgeting can be addictive lol especially when you see the amounts saved start growing and growing. I'm having #3 in November and we'll have 3 under 5 - budgeting has definitely helped me get ready! I already have all the newborn diapers I need, I'm starting on size 1, I have all the clothes I need, and we have money set aside for things like bills and any extra things that might come our way while I'm on maternity.
Melody, congrats on your soon to be new addition. I'm a stranger on the internet, but I hope you have a swift and healthy birth. I agree that budgeting is a fun task I do monthly. I like to set mini challenges and see if I can beat myself from the previous month.
My niece wanted a daughter so bad she had one with a guy she kept breaking up with. A man that had a few kids in another country that he wasn't caring for. I'll never understand why she had that second child. Much less the first one. I know kids are a blessing but it's not fair that they're father isn't around much.
What a great couple! I was beyond impressed that Lisa was open-minded enough to overcome her initial impressions, and wow, did it ever pay off! She really embraced the challenges, and as a couple they far exceeded expectations placed upon them. I wish them every success, they deserve it!! This is such a terrific family ... ❤️
@@haute03 Lisa is a horrible mother and is destroying the kids when she spoils them like she does. He needs to put his foot down and become the leader of the household and the head of his wife like it is the order of god.
We have never had more than 1 TV in our house. Absolutely never had one in the bedroom. "What the hell am I gonna do with the kids without the TV?" Really....maybe play with and pay attention to your kids that you just had to have.
I don't understand how she has time for shopping. I have 2 little ones, and btw going to the park, making meals and trying to get a workout in. I don't have any time to shop! Not even online shopping!
I never comment on youtube videos... but I just have to! This couple is so inspiring! What lovely people, and just amazing to see them embrace these changes. Excellent example they are setting for their kids, and other people in the same situation, I wish them all the best!
You can have as many children as you want on a small budget IF you reign in the materialism. A six year old doesn't need their own TV for example. We raised 4, and our daughter, 2nd eldest, wore her brother's baby clothes. I think we bought 3 frilly dresses. Babies grow so quickly that it make no sense to load up on stuff like that. But retailers know how to getcha when you're hatched, matched, and dispatched.
@larah9870 LOL! More opportunity or teaching them to be consumers? Summer camp was through Scouts. None of them were interested in sports university, and their friends that were in it hated it. Music was through school except for paying for for the instrument. One got his education in the Air Force, the others started working in high school or college like I did. Again, you can have as many kids as you like AND your body can put up with, but you probably can't spend like crazy either. No shame in hand me downs either.
Also, private tuition? Meh, we already pay taxes for education, and the schools in our country are near the top in the US. I refuse to pay twice for primary or high school. Save that for college.
@larah9870 And women are doing it. I'm not talking about religious families either. All those 'opportunities ' you mentioned aren't essentials. A roof over the head, food, and money to pay THAT is the most important. Many larger families live near each other and share resources. That helps. If I were doing it over, I would have gotten an Allied Health certificate first and worked part-time, only to keep a foot in the grown-up world.
Those are the best memories I have of my grandmother, who was my mother figure. We’d bake cookies, make angel food cake with strawberries we picked from the garden, and my grandma would read us Harry Potter before bed. It really is the small things, I don’t remember any of the toys that I owned.
So many things to do without a TV! Go to a park! Play a game, make a blanket fort, do a puppet show with stuffed animals, color, paint, make cookies, READ, Have a tea party,play catch, learn your ABCs.
At the time of this episode, around 2006 or 07, it would have cost over $24,000 just to start the process. Not exactly realistic for a couple who has a huge debt to repay first. And there is no guarantee that they can adopt a girl. A former coworker wanted to adopt a boy, but ended up with a girl---right around the same time as this show, and her kid is now 20---and she was happy enough. But they were told that if they really wanted a child, they would have to take one that was available, but not necessarily of the gender they wanted. They love their daughter "to death," as the foolish saying goes, butd could never afford another one, despite their large combined income.
18:06 “I was kind of pissed because what the hell are we going to do with the kids?” Well maybe you could parent them, instead of letting the TV do it. Teach them to read. Play a board game. Go outside (it’s summer, ffs). I can’t believe they’re that clueless. 🤦♂️
Some of us aren't as perfect as drewconway is, and we have or had to work hard to figure out parenting on our own. Perhaps you could find it in your superior self to actually go out and help people understand what parenting entails, share your (dubious) "expertise" with young parents so they grasp what's ahead of them---instead of criticizing the ones who just don't know what to do.
@@jb6712Overcompensating, much? I’m guessing you neglect your kids, too. Plenty of people agreed with my original comment, but then you came along and, well… Karens gonna Karen 🤷🏻♂️
I can wrap my head around stopping for coffee every day, but I can’t envision actually eating a fast food meal365 days a year which is the impression I get from most peoples’ spending breakdown by date.
Not to mention having a year to be at home. Yes watching the kids are work but you should have time to cook a simple meal. Not to mention if you ate fast food everyday, year after year. That’s just lazy, and Gail is 100% right about them putting their needs before their kids!
Some people just do that---it's the only way they know how to affirm things, even in the positive. Everyone criticizing her was proven wrong by the couple's great success, and everyone who made that foolish criticism needs to back up and rethink their self-appointed "psych "expertise" before making any further evaluations of people who aren't anymore imperfect than they are.
Omg 😮pls hear me. His parents split when he was a baby. He doesnt remember. All of these kids are equal. Putting him on a pedstal will ruin him. My uncle was that way he was NOT a good person. 3 kids and shes tanning annd want more kids.😮😮😮omg
I don’t think Canadians realize how lucky they are not only to get maturity leave but to get any pay. I’ve had multiple coworkers use 2-3 weeks of vacation hours because if they used FMLA they wouldn’t get pay.
Boggles my mind that she would have a fourth child just to have a girl!! What if you have another boy? That being said they learned fast from the experience. Best of luck to them.
@@fortmacmom3122 Good for you, I still think it's a crazy reason to have more kids. That being said I hope everything is working out for you and your family.
A cousin of mine was married to a guy who was an only son and thus "needed" a son to carry the family name. She had nine girls. Nine. The husband went into a drunken rage and threw her down the stairs while she was pregnant with number ten, and the baby did not survive. It would have been their boy. Poetic justice.
@@christinebutler7630 yikes!! People who continue getting pregnant until they get the gender of preference have mental issues...man or woman. I hope your cousin's children are being loved.
My husband and I have an amazing 2 year old daughter and I’m really struggling with having another because we want to put her through private school and that would be double as hard with another. I have a sister and my mother was an only child for 10 years. I know she’ll be fine if we don’t have another and I know we’ll be able to give her the most we can if she’s our only. I can’t fathom wanting to keep having babies while ALREADY struggling.
Maybe wanting to pay for Private School instead of using Public School is the real issue. Most of us have done just fine with public school. Learn how to budget, and you can have as many kids as you want.
Having children is SO expensive. Even if you send them to a non-fee paying school, there’s still childcare (if you’re working), extracurricular activities and everything else. I have 2 kids in private school and the bills just keep coming! Best of luck whatever you decide. X
@@marynorton6068 Maybe, if you plan on having kids, you plan sooner, so a parent can stay home and raise them? Working, with multiple kids in daycare, is rarely worth it. The bills 'keep coming' because of your spending
@@kathryndockrey1477 I earn twice what my husband earns. The bills keep coming because as a “little woman” I stupidly spend like crazy on frivolous things like health insurance, extracurricular activities, school uniforms, the mortgage, food bills, pension, educational fund. WHY WONT I STOP MY IMPULSE BUYING???? I’m SO bad with money because of my stupid female brain. Everyone has essential bills, you numbskull, no matter how frugal you are. It makes no financial sense for some women to stay at home. It’s a case by case, couple by couple decision based on multiple factors. Unless you’re a misogynist
Psst...homeschool. Seriously after SO much research and figuring out how to make it work (I work part time still) it is possible to have thriving kids who actually love learning and get a better education. I recommend Homeschool Awakening mom, she's got some RUclips videos but can help you really learn what homeschooling is/can be. She used to train school teachers and then realized compulsory school isn't the best way. Don't learn this years from now and regret not having another child just because of the cost of private school 💜💜
Did you see The Prequel Flowers In The Attic (The Origin) based on The Novel Garden Of Shadows. Boy did Corrine get a "Reality" Check after Christopher her husband died. She had no idea how much debt they were in and she had to deal with issues that she never thought she would.
I also had two back to back maternity leaves but received NO maternity leave benefits. I received $0. My family did fine without my salary because: WE SAVED UP MONEY BEFORE I GOT PREGNANT. WOW. What a concept!
I feel for the mom. I spoiled my son from the very start because I grew up in a very bad home and I over compensated with him thinking he would grow up feeling the same about me that I felt about my parents. It's really hard to realize the uncomplicated things sometimes.
Gail quoted the $250k to raise a kid stat we often hear even to this day, and this video is likely from the mid-2000s... so raising a kid is much more expensive now.
Some things aren't taken into consideration with that figure when it comes to multiple kids. For instance, a LOT of items a person needs throughout their childhood only need to be bought once, lowering the cost for subsequent kids.
I don't understand why raising a child has to be so expensive. There's no need to buy all those toys. Here in the UK we have many charity shops where you can buy toys, libraries for books and shops that sell cheap clothing for children. I also don't understand why so many people don't seem to be able to cook. Cook proper meals from scratch and invest in a Blender for baby food. Give yourself a budget and any money left over goes into a piggy bank. See what is in there at Christmas. I remember, as a child, I loved cutting people out of catalogues as much as I enjoyed playing with toys.
What I seen in common in these videos, mothers on mat leave, take a cut in pay, stay home and shop. Maybe go back to work after 12 weeks instead of a year.
I have two children….I had my first after being married 15 years….I wish I could have had more…but…I m older and kids are expensive…I wanted to give them private school…but I can’t and I feel like I failed
those kids have more toys then I had in my entire childhood I would have felt overwhelmed with how many toys I had if I had that many and gets bonuses yet financed computers? they couldn't wait till the bonus came in? possibly got a better PC for the same money by waiting a little?
@@rawilliams5881Apparently? Tanning is a sure way to age your skin. Tanning beds are illegal in Australia....home of melanoma. Tanning is just foolish. 🤷♀️🦘
Gail walked away from tv entirely back in 2012 when the network tried to demand that she do something that wasn't part of her format--"Princess" was her own brainchild, something she waited until after TDDUP ended to do, working through the same network----and she said she'd never do tv again. She's 65, a very successful financial genius in real life, and the author of ten books on money management. She doesn't need tv to be successful, she already was so when she agreed to do TDDUP.
I'm glad they embraced the challenges so well. It's also nice to see a woman who is excited to have children. There aren't many like that anymore. Glad they can now grow their family in wisdom and order. Thanks, Gail!
Chances are if they have another child it will be another boy. I think you're having a hard time affording the children you have adding one more could put more strain on the marriage and finances.
I learned just recently that I can shop at Dollar Tree, Dollar General, Big Lots, and Family Dollar and get a LOT of good, decent food for around $50. And I do it without any stupid weeping emoji needed.
Hey I got a tip from you and I'm using it for the girls the girls get allowance once a month for me but that jar ideas a great idea one of my daughter said she wants to put it in Bank some of it and some and the other one isn't understanding that yet so we'll see what happens
I don't feel like I got the same vibe from this couple as most people in the comments lol. Gail should be telling her to get back to work for a while before even considering another baby. Crying about televisions?? what are they going to do with the kids?? terrible parenting.
She tans twice a week! But kids first? 92 transactions. This woman is the worst I've seen. Kids seam easy if you don't cook Dy home and put them in front of the tv
This video was a few years ago but I was shocked when she said she was 25. So I came to the comments! I would take her for 35 and him for about 37--he's 29. Did debt age them?
12:19 “MY kids could have a backyard”…. Aren’t they both parents? The delusion of this woman is astounding. I think she is selfish wanting to try for a girl. She will be on maternity leave for 10 years at this rate. 😅 She acts more like a kid when the tv got taken away than the actual KIDS.
"when you think about it, you're only guaranteed 2 additional overtime shifts a month, you could get seven".... I wanted to to tell her how about you get off your lazy arse and bring in some money
"I was put on this earth to..." Translation: some religion short-circuited ny brain. Now, I'm not a whole, fully rounded human. I'm juat this single function, like a machine in a factory. THEREFORE..... weep...sob.... i want to just spend like drunk sailor, never work, and everyone else should be so "enraptured" by my "motherhood" that they should just make all that possible for me.
That was not at all where she was coming from, that is solely and only your own bizarre, warped imagination at work. It's far more telling of your character than of hers.
When people say; "I'm not good with money, I'm no good at finances, I'm no good with figures...." that makes me laugh. Anyone who has finished elementary school, has learned Math. They s/b able to balance their income & expenses.
I knew a couple who kept having kids until they had a girl. The girl was the seventh child. I keep thinking how hilarious it would be if the daughter turned out to be transgender😂
That's exactly why I don't understand that approach to parenting. I am one of three girls and I know my parents were trying for a boy but then I came...and they threw in the towel. 😆
Yeah, it's honestly a bizarre concept to me to try for a particular sex essentially so you can impose specific gender norms onto them from birth. My mom genuinely wished for healthy babies and was blessed with two healthy baby girls. Both she and my father were just thankful for that!
Feeling like your life experience would be lacking w/out fulfilling the role of a mother is very easy to understand of you keep in mind that everyone has a different nature & personality. I’m not the same woman as her or you, but I can imagine other people feeling like caring for & nurturing another human life is a top goal.
@@lindsay3995 I can understand that. I just feel like a woman should also have some other goals. She just seem desperate to have another child versus building her current family and having a relationship with her husband.
This frustrated more than any other episode! I mean another tattoos before Gail takes over. That’s crazy. Definitely not a good idea for another child. You could keep having boys too highly likely since you have 3!
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"A budget that's tighter than a nun's knees" GAIL!?!? 😂
Nuns knees not tight these days! Watch RUclips.
Cute. Just keeping their legs together!
LOL!!!
😂
"I was put on this earth to be a mother. I have to try for a girl", says the women with three kids. The hot pursuit of children. Like I do hope she overcome that mentality.
It's a kind of an obsessive compulsive behavior, IMO.
Why do you hope that? What's wrong with women wanting children?
I agree. Obsessing over having children at the cost of everything else seems really sad and unhealthy. It worries me when people can’t be happy with whom they are - she’s trying to fill a void that no number of kids can fill.
I wonder what she'd do if child #4 turns out to be another boy. Try for a fifth?
RIIIIIIGHT omg she is crazy did you see that insane look in her eyes when she said that too
Very easy to use TV and shopping to try to cope with loneliness and kids at home. But its the worst thing for a person's mental health and the family.
They definitely jumped into the challenges with both feet! People don't realize that budgeting can be addictive lol especially when you see the amounts saved start growing and growing. I'm having #3 in November and we'll have 3 under 5 - budgeting has definitely helped me get ready! I already have all the newborn diapers I need, I'm starting on size 1, I have all the clothes I need, and we have money set aside for things like bills and any extra things that might come our way while I'm on maternity.
Melody, congrats on your soon to be new addition. I'm a stranger on the internet, but I hope you have a swift and healthy birth.
I agree that budgeting is a fun task I do monthly. I like to set mini challenges and see if I can beat myself from the previous month.
Congrats on your 3rd!!
@@1Letter23Numbers. thank you =)
@@chubbybunny6975 thank you =)
Congratulations @Melody the Brave! Also, I love what you said about budgeting being addictive!
Her shaking her head “no” while saying “absolutely” at 7:53 was very telling
I noticed that! Haha
I thought the same thing
Saw that too 😮
She's says "absolutely" as she shakes her head NO. 😅
I just saw that and scrolled the comments to see if someone else noticed it. I mean she was shaking her head NO big time.
I was hoping someone else saw that too! Lol
I think I’m in love with Gail and I’m not even gay. I’ve binge watched this show. She’s just brilliant.
I’ve been watching her and reading her books for over 30 years. She’s awesome!
She is a true friend and Financial Icon.
Same!
Gail is no nonsense, brilliant, and tough when need be.
Was that really necessary?
love the update on this couple. i wish they would do that for all the shows
“I have to try for a girl” said the crazy broke woman 🤯
and only 25 at that!! like you have lots of time for another kid. maybe work a bit??
She didn’t seem to see her own potential beyond child bearing
She didn’t seem to see her own potential beyond child bearing
She didn’t seem to see her own potential beyond child bearing
My niece wanted a daughter so bad she had one with a guy she kept breaking up with. A man that had a few kids in another country that he wasn't caring for. I'll never understand why she had that second child. Much less the first one. I know kids are a blessing but it's not fair that they're father isn't around much.
What a great couple! I was beyond impressed that Lisa was open-minded enough to overcome her initial impressions, and wow, did it ever pay off! She really embraced the challenges, and as a couple they far exceeded expectations placed upon them. I wish them every success, they deserve it!! This is such a terrific family ... ❤️
Agreed! They were really great.
@@haute03 Lisa is a horrible mother and is destroying the kids when she spoils them like she does. He needs to put his foot down and become the leader of the household and the head of his wife like it is the order of god.
@@davecopp9356 you should just continue to watch Andrew Tate videos & stay off this channel 😂
This was one of the Best Episodes by far!
We have never had more than 1 TV in our house. Absolutely never had one in the bedroom. "What the hell am I gonna do with the kids without the TV?" Really....maybe play with and pay attention to your kids that you just had to have.
I manage my money pretty well but i just want Gail to come around and give me life advice.
Why don't they SELL some of those toys and kids' clothes?
I don't understand how she has time for shopping. I have 2 little ones, and btw going to the park, making meals and trying to get a workout in. I don't have any time to shop! Not even online shopping!
“tighter than a nun’s knees”. Love it!, I’m definitely using that phrase in the future.
I never comment on youtube videos... but I just have to! This couple is so inspiring! What lovely people, and just amazing to see them embrace these changes. Excellent example they are setting for their kids, and other people in the same situation, I wish them all the best!
One of the few couples that I actually think will be successful. Nice that there was an update.
You can have as many children as you want on a small budget IF you reign in the materialism. A six year old doesn't need their own TV for example. We raised 4, and our daughter, 2nd eldest, wore her brother's baby clothes. I think we bought 3 frilly dresses. Babies grow so quickly that it make no sense to load up on stuff like that. But retailers know how to getcha when you're hatched, matched, and dispatched.
@larah9870 LOL! More opportunity or teaching them to be consumers? Summer camp was through Scouts. None of them were interested in sports university, and their friends that were in it hated it. Music was through school except for paying for for the instrument. One got his education in the Air Force, the others started working in high school or college like I did. Again, you can have as many kids as you like AND your body can put up with, but you probably can't spend like crazy either. No shame in hand me downs either.
Also, private tuition? Meh, we already pay taxes for education, and the schools in our country are near the top in the US. I refuse to pay twice for primary or high school. Save that for college.
@larah9870 And women are doing it. I'm not talking about religious families either. All those 'opportunities ' you mentioned aren't essentials. A roof over the head, food, and money to pay THAT is the most important. Many larger families live near each other and share resources. That helps. If I were doing it over, I would have gotten an Allied Health certificate first and worked part-time, only to keep a foot in the grown-up world.
I really hope this family had lasting success. Parenthood is worth all the hard work in the long run.
Wow, no one even floated the idea of reading books to spend time with no TV. She could also bake with the kids.
Those are the best memories I have of my grandmother, who was my mother figure. We’d bake cookies, make angel food cake with strawberries we picked from the garden, and my grandma would read us Harry Potter before bed. It really is the small things, I don’t remember any of the toys that I owned.
So many things to do without a TV! Go to a park! Play a game, make a blanket fort, do a puppet show with stuffed animals, color, paint, make cookies, READ, Have a tea party,play catch, learn your ABCs.
@@juliemoore6957yes and no to the library-- my city library has weekly activities for kids and adults-- crafts, movies and readings-- all free.
Enjoyed this episode. Loved the way they got stuck in and dealt with their debts and finances.
A sure fire way to have a girl is to adopt
Into this mess
At the time of this episode, around 2006 or 07, it would have cost over $24,000 just to start the process. Not exactly realistic for a couple who has a huge debt to repay first.
And there is no guarantee that they can adopt a girl.
A former coworker wanted to adopt a boy, but ended up with a girl---right around the same time as this show, and her kid is now 20---and she was happy enough. But they were told that if they really wanted a child, they would have to take one that was available, but not necessarily of the gender they wanted.
They love their daughter "to death," as the foolish saying goes, butd could never afford another one, despite their large combined income.
If they check debt:ratio, they may not quality IMO
Wow I love this couple! They were amazing. Great job you two!
18:06 “I was kind of pissed because what the hell are we going to do with the kids?” Well maybe you could parent them, instead of letting the TV do it. Teach them to read. Play a board game. Go outside (it’s summer, ffs). I can’t believe they’re that clueless. 🤦♂️
And they still want more!!!!
Some of us aren't as perfect as drewconway is, and we have or had to work hard to figure out parenting on our own.
Perhaps you could find it in your superior self to actually go out and help people understand what parenting entails, share your (dubious) "expertise" with young parents so they grasp what's ahead of them---instead of criticizing the ones who just don't know what to do.
@@jb6712Overcompensating, much? I’m guessing you neglect your kids, too. Plenty of people agreed with my original comment, but then you came along and, well… Karens gonna Karen 🤷🏻♂️
I can wrap my head around stopping for coffee every day, but I can’t envision actually eating a fast food meal365 days a year which is the impression I get from most peoples’ spending breakdown by date.
Not to mention having a year to be at home. Yes watching the kids are work but you should have time to cook a simple meal. Not to mention if you ate fast food everyday, year after year. That’s just lazy, and Gail is 100% right about them putting their needs before their kids!
Fast food is also very unhealthy!
gail- are you willing to do anything I ask?
Him -absolutely -shakes head yes
wife- yes-Shakes head no😂
Some people just do that---it's the only way they know how to affirm things, even in the positive.
Everyone criticizing her was proven wrong by the couple's great success, and everyone who made that foolish criticism needs to back up and rethink their self-appointed "psych "expertise" before making any further evaluations of people who aren't anymore imperfect than they are.
Omg 😮pls hear me. His parents split when he was a baby. He doesnt remember. All of these kids are equal. Putting him on a pedstal will ruin him. My uncle was that way he was NOT a good person. 3 kids and shes tanning annd want more kids.😮😮😮omg
Gail looks so beautiful!
I love her eye make up especially in the final scenes
Needs to put the fork down
Loving the new episodes!
This was my favorite episode. They surprised me with the way they figured it out with Gail's help.
I don’t think Canadians realize how lucky they are not only to get maturity leave but to get any pay. I’ve had multiple coworkers use 2-3 weeks of vacation hours because if they used FMLA they wouldn’t get pay.
Enjoyed this episode! Loved that they have a quick update on them as well
Omg that little guy brought me to tears 🥲
Boggles my mind that she would have a fourth child just to have a girl!! What if you have another boy? That being said they learned fast from the experience. Best of luck to them.
I did. Got my girl.
@@fortmacmom3122 Good for you, I still think it's a crazy reason to have more kids. That being said I hope everything is working out for you and your family.
A cousin of mine was married to a guy who was an only son and thus "needed" a son to carry the family name. She had nine girls. Nine.
The husband went into a drunken rage and threw her down the stairs while she was pregnant with number ten, and the baby did not survive. It would have been their boy. Poetic justice.
@@christinebutler7630 yikes!! People who continue getting pregnant until they get the gender of preference have mental issues...man or woman. I hope your cousin's children are being loved.
@@sossykevork5624 Agreed.
My husband and I have an amazing 2 year old daughter and I’m really struggling with having another because we want to put her through private school and that would be double as hard with another. I have a sister and my mother was an only child for 10 years. I know she’ll be fine if we don’t have another and I know we’ll be able to give her the most we can if she’s our only. I can’t fathom wanting to keep having babies while ALREADY struggling.
Maybe wanting to pay for Private School instead of using Public School is the real issue. Most of us have done just fine with public school. Learn how to budget, and you can have as many kids as you want.
Having children is SO expensive. Even if you send them to a non-fee paying school, there’s still childcare (if you’re working), extracurricular activities and everything else. I have 2 kids in private school and the bills just keep coming! Best of luck whatever you decide. X
@@marynorton6068 Maybe, if you plan on having kids, you plan sooner, so a parent can stay home and raise them? Working, with multiple kids in daycare, is rarely worth it. The bills 'keep coming' because of your spending
@@kathryndockrey1477 I earn twice what my husband earns. The bills keep coming because as a “little woman” I stupidly spend like crazy on frivolous things like health insurance, extracurricular activities, school uniforms, the mortgage, food bills, pension, educational fund. WHY WONT I STOP MY IMPULSE BUYING???? I’m SO bad with money because of my stupid female brain.
Everyone has essential bills, you numbskull, no matter how frugal you are.
It makes no financial sense for some women to stay at home. It’s a case by case, couple by couple decision based on multiple factors.
Unless you’re a misogynist
Psst...homeschool. Seriously after SO much research and figuring out how to make it work (I work part time still) it is possible to have thriving kids who actually love learning and get a better education. I recommend Homeschool Awakening mom, she's got some RUclips videos but can help you really learn what homeschooling is/can be. She used to train school teachers and then realized compulsory school isn't the best way. Don't learn this years from now and regret not having another child just because of the cost of private school 💜💜
Yippieh, another one I haven't seen yet 🥳
Glad to see the update and that that they are continuing with Gail's plan and even ahead of schedule!
Did you see The Prequel Flowers In The Attic (The Origin) based on The Novel Garden Of Shadows. Boy did Corrine get a "Reality" Check after Christopher her husband died. She had no idea how much debt they were in and she had to deal with issues that she never thought she would.
This is the best episode I’ve seen. Good for them!
Love it. A very positive outcome for all❤️💜🧡💚💙
You can clothe most kids from garage sales and thrift stores. All you need to buy new is underwear and maybe shoes.
I would think you would need new socks as well. Anything undergarment should be new
Glad to see this episode…I want to give my children experiences…..not more stuff and they definitely have tooooooo muuuuch stuuuuufff
Those groceries were $22, now that would be $60
But the budget could only afford $44 today.
I also had two back to back maternity leaves but received NO maternity leave benefits. I received $0. My family did fine without my salary because: WE SAVED UP MONEY BEFORE I GOT PREGNANT. WOW. What a concept!
That giant jvc TV in the kids room is very dangerous up on that stand. 3.42 Those things fall on children. Someone should tell them. Yikes
I think it's more dangerous for their eyesight, their brains and their sleep patterns!
Well, the little ones are all young adults now, so you can tell THEM to be mindful where they put their tvs in the future.
You’re not putting your kids first if you’re having more for your own obsessive need instead of focusing on the ones you have.
Thanks for posting!
Stellar! Keep it up!
It would be interesting to see where the people on these shows are now.
I feel for the mom. I spoiled my son from the very start because I grew up in a very bad home and I over compensated with him thinking he would grow up feeling the same about me that I felt about my parents. It's really hard to realize the uncomplicated things sometimes.
Great episode.
Gail quoted the $250k to raise a kid stat we often hear even to this day, and this video is likely from the mid-2000s... so raising a kid is much more expensive now.
I hope that figure includes college tuition. lol.
Some things aren't taken into consideration with that figure when it comes to multiple kids. For instance, a LOT of items a person needs throughout their childhood only need to be bought once, lowering the cost for subsequent kids.
@@jenem9618doesn’t seem this lady was doing that in the least.
@@jenniferbond7073 No, but the comment I was responding to wasn't about this lady.
I don't understand why raising a child has to be so expensive. There's no need to buy all those toys. Here in the UK we have many charity shops where you can buy toys, libraries for books and shops that sell cheap clothing for children.
I also don't understand why so many people don't seem to be able to cook. Cook proper meals from scratch and invest in a Blender for baby food.
Give yourself a budget and any money left over goes into a piggy bank. See what is in there at Christmas.
I remember, as a child, I loved cutting people out of catalogues as much as I enjoyed playing with toys.
The debt calendar was a great idea so they can actually see money coming and going
Keep the new episodes coming!!!
In this day and age , how can anyone have an unplanned pregnancy? How? I don’t buy it. She did it once, then again and again. Ridiculous.
Unplanned on purpose.
well 2 unplanned, one planned
Or maybe you don’t have to “plan” every birth? Maybe babies just come when you get married? People used to understand this.
What I seen in common in these videos, mothers on mat leave, take a cut in pay, stay home and shop. Maybe go back to work after 12 weeks instead of a year.
I have two children….I had my first after being married 15 years….I wish I could have had more…but…I m older and kids are expensive…I wanted to give them private school…but I can’t and I feel like I failed
those kids have more toys then I had in my entire childhood I would have felt overwhelmed with how many toys I had if I had that many and gets bonuses yet financed computers? they couldn't wait till the bonus came in? possibly got a better PC for the same money by waiting a little?
The most shocking thing about this episode is that she is 25!!! I’m 33 and look way younger then that.. genes and maybe she had some hard living
Apparently tanning a lot will age a person.
It's all that time she spends outdoors - shopping.
Same, I'm 32 and I definitely don't look older than her. I think a lot of it is the styling.
Tanning twice a week, big risk of slin cancer as well as aging
@@rawilliams5881Apparently? Tanning is a sure way to age your skin. Tanning beds are illegal in Australia....home of melanoma. Tanning is just foolish. 🤷♀️🦘
Love this couple!
I wish this show would come to the States..I need her to help me to get it together ❤️
Gail walked away from tv entirely back in 2012 when the network tried to demand that she do something that wasn't part of her format--"Princess" was her own brainchild, something she waited until after TDDUP ended to do, working through the same network----and she said she'd never do tv again.
She's 65, a very successful financial genius in real life, and the author of ten books on money management. She doesn't need tv to be successful, she already was so when she agreed to do TDDUP.
@jb6712 thank you 😊
I'm glad they embraced the challenges so well. It's also nice to see a woman who is excited to have children. There aren't many like that anymore. Glad they can now grow their family in wisdom and order. Thanks, Gail!
Chances are if they have another child it will be another boy. I think you're having a hard time affording the children you have adding one more could put more strain on the marriage and finances.
Yes!!!!
Chances are exactly 50/50…
@@erikab178 Not exactly
@@drewconway7135 yes, exactly. That’s just basic biology
@@erikab178 No, it isn’t. There are more girls born than boys. It’s not “exactly” 50/50.
Great couple! 🤩😍
3 kids! Stop! And spoiling boy#1. Stop your bad decision making your life hard
I know right
@@sarah3796 oh hi Sarah! See you Saturday dude!
She did Three Shopping Trips a Day. Dear God even I don't do that.
The amount of groceries they could buy for $22 😭😭😭😭😭
I learned just recently that I can shop at Dollar Tree, Dollar General, Big Lots, and Family Dollar and get a LOT of good, decent food for around $50. And I do it without any stupid weeping emoji needed.
very nice
“I was born to be on mat leave”
Hey I got a tip from you and I'm using it for the girls the girls get allowance once a month for me but that jar ideas a great idea one of my daughter said she wants to put it in Bank some of it and some and the other one isn't understanding that yet so we'll see what happens
Such a great episode
SMH the uproar over a television
Imagine crying because you can’t watch TV for a week lmao.
I couldn’t believe dad said what are we going to do with the kids🤦♀️
What year is this? $20 of groceries in a cart that’s awesome!
I'm pretty sure around 2011. Way different time
“You can’t spend the money you make on stupid things” *proceeds to go tanning twice a week*
I don't feel like I got the same vibe from this couple as most people in the comments lol. Gail should be telling her to get back to work for a while before even considering another baby. Crying about televisions?? what are they going to do with the kids?? terrible parenting.
Interesting when Gail said “Are you willing to do anything?” The woman said yes but shook her head no
She tans twice a week! But kids first?
92 transactions. This woman is the worst I've seen. Kids seam easy if you don't cook Dy home and put them in front of the tv
And wasteful toys! And gates at the kitchen.. get the kids cooking and cleaning. It fills them with pride and teachers them that they can do it
@@sarah3796 I try cooking with Ben but 2 seconds in and he's done
She’s using baby making as an excuse to stay home and avoid having to interact with people.
She does not look the least bit tan.
I hope they continued to do well, and that she got her baby girl :)
She does not look 25
she looks older
She acts younger.
The mom is only 25???
This video was a few years ago but I was shocked when she said she was 25. So I came to the comments! I would take her for 35 and him for about 37--he's 29. Did debt age them?
She is only 25 years old??? I would have guessed 33 at least.
I know!!!! I’m 33 and I don’t even look like that..
I think it’s the daily fast food and tanning
12:19 “MY kids could have a backyard”…. Aren’t they both parents? The delusion of this woman is astounding. I think she is selfish wanting to try for a girl. She will be on maternity leave for 10 years at this rate. 😅 She acts more like a kid when the tv got taken away than the actual KIDS.
"when you think about it, you're only guaranteed 2 additional overtime shifts a month, you could get seven".... I wanted to to tell her how about you get off your lazy arse and bring in some money
Gail ready to make a change!
Lisa: Absolutely (while shaking her head no)
Wow, these people were actually likeable. That's pretty rare for this show
Their baby is adorable.
Gail is gorgeous.
Let's not get crazy now
I make more then this doing delivery and couldn't image afford this amount items.
Was their rent included in the budget
"I was put on this earth to..."
Translation: some religion short-circuited ny brain. Now, I'm not a whole, fully rounded human. I'm juat this single function, like a machine in a factory. THEREFORE..... weep...sob.... i want to just spend like drunk sailor, never work, and everyone else should be so "enraptured" by my "motherhood" that they should just make all that possible for me.
That was not at all where she was coming from, that is solely and only your own bizarre, warped imagination at work. It's far more telling of your character than of hers.
I thought this was just an old show, is it still an active show?
When people say; "I'm not good with money, I'm no good at finances, I'm no good with figures...." that makes me laugh. Anyone who has finished elementary school, has learned Math. They s/b able to balance their income & expenses.
I knew a couple who kept having kids until they had a girl. The girl was the seventh child. I keep thinking how hilarious it would be if the daughter turned out to be transgender😂
That's exactly why I don't understand that approach to parenting. I am one of three girls and I know my parents were trying for a boy but then I came...and they threw in the towel. 😆
Yeah, it's honestly a bizarre concept to me to try for a particular sex essentially so you can impose specific gender norms onto them from birth. My mom genuinely wished for healthy babies and was blessed with two healthy baby girls. Both she and my father were just thankful for that!
My aunt had 7 daughters, never a boy
WTH does that even mean…?
So all boys @@bettygrable6440
I never buy anything that I do not have the money for. good they did well
She takes care of the family finances and can't count.
Woah tanning twice a week 🤨
I just can’t relate to women who make it their soul purpose in life to reproduce.
Feeling like your life experience would be lacking w/out fulfilling the role of a mother is very easy to understand of you keep in mind that everyone has a different nature & personality. I’m not the same woman as her or you, but I can imagine other people feeling like caring for & nurturing another human life is a top goal.
Soul purpose?
Will be loverly when they are grown
Same
@@lindsay3995 I can understand that. I just feel like a woman should also have some other goals. She just seem desperate to have another child versus building her current family and having a relationship with her husband.
Now a days if they took the tvs away it wouldn't matter as people tend to have smart phones and tablets.
This frustrated more than any other episode! I mean another tattoos before Gail takes over. That’s crazy. Definitely not a good idea for another child. You could keep having boys too highly likely since you have 3!
Scary if the guy or husband has debt . And you have to clear the debt together