Robin Williams said it best - the only thing worse than being alone is being with people who make you feel alone. This was my now ex-wife who I let use and emotionally abused me far too long till I got the strength to divorce her - and yet I still miss her 7 months later even after she ghosted me for the last 18 months of our marriage. I will be weak for women no more!
Right now I am talking to somebody I met online (on an app I met decent people on, Christian target group and so forth). I don't really feel head over heels about it, pretty laid back actually and I feel he has the same approach about it. Being interested in a person is just enough for now. I am pretty excited to see where this is going but I would say, I am so so very okay if it might not work out for whatever reason. Trying to be as decent and respectful about the heart and life of that person by praying for our meetings, relaxing and just being myself, honoring boundaries, and being open about the pace it might take... Because in fact, my foundation would be: I am okay to be on my own and I have a goal and stuff to do in the kingdom of God, so I am not bored if I have nobody to talk to. But if God decides that this is what he wants to gift me (and I had enough time to talk about what my wishes are and enough time to prep myself), I am going to believe that this would be his best and I would give myself fully to it, not wanting to keep a loophole to back out for FOMO. Your video just triggered those thoughts. Keep on doing what you do, brother!
I haven't been with anyone since around 23 years but I had my mom...well she left 2 years ago but before she left I started to feel like I wanted to run and have a life with someone....but after she got sick I went through surgery after surgery and seeing Drs ....I don't understand it but ?
I did everything myself for years. I’ve let so many people go that were not right and healthy for me. I meet a man of faith and fell in love with him . My brother passed away a couple of weeks ago and yesterday the man I love ended things with me. My heart is broken I don’t understand.
I am so sorry for your loss, I can't imagine losing my brother, and with a breakup following. Remember God is near to you, He heals the brokenhearted and bandages their wounds (Psalm 147:3). Praying for you
1. Losing the fear of being alone 2. Gaining the strength of rather being alone 3. Beginning to see that most of the joy comes from giving, not receiving. 4. Say enough to fears that are causing you to stay away from relationships.
@@Insane_ForJesus PAUL PREFERS SINGLENESS 7:6) and counsels widows to remain single if possible (1 Cor. 7:8). Singleness is preferred because of “the present distress” (1 Cor. 7:26, CSB), and those who aren't married are advised not to “seek a wife” (
@@scottmacdonald8942 You are misunderstanding Paul. If everyone followed his preference then you would get a society like Japan or Western Europe where the birth rate is so low that the care of the elderly and work force is at major risk. Big nuclear families are God's design based on Genesis. Singleness is only for a small minority of people wanting to focus on God's work. Paul recommends singleness for people that have the desire of focusing solely on God and not creating nuclear families as commanded in Genesis.
@@Insane_ForJesus well said , I'm tired of all this bullshit spouted about what Paul said . We are not made to be alone, that's why God gave Adam a mate. Because we live in a broken sinful world many of us have to suffer singleness. Another thing that really winds me up is the " it's just for a season bullshit" many many Christians have to suffer singleness all their lives and put up with the smug advice from married Christians in the Church who haven't a clue how painful it can be.
I am alone! Not even friends, because I attracted the same type of fake friends/ narcissists as my ex! Spend the last 6 years alone - I only have a friend now…and for the 1st time in my life, I don’t feel used! It is balanced! So, I am sure it will happen with a partner as well! Learned to do and enjoy things alone: bought a house and celebrated with a champagne ( yeah, just me), went to restaurant alone, to movie alone, a lot of diy alone- love it! There is absolutely no fear of being alone! The only thing I fear is being without God…I keep healing and working on myself!!!When I ll meet my partner…I’ll be ready!
The idea of a single "soul mate" isnt actually biblical. There isnt a single person God has called you to be with. There are many people who love God and would be someone you could have a God honoring relationship with. I that isnt something I would worry about. The concept of "oh but what if I chose the wrong one and God actually had someone else for me" is not a question I will ever ask. If I marry a woman, that's it, that's who im meant to be with. Because I make that commitment in marriage.
The ULTIMATE Sign of Love is what Jesus Christ did on that Cross 2000 years ago for ALL of us...we need to return to that FIRST Love God has shown us and stay in the love of Jesus because the Devil Satan and his Demons who are Ruling this world will Never be Able to touch us if we Remain in his Love and presence🙏💟If we are TRUE Desciples of Jesus and we OBEY His words written in Matthew Mark Luke and John🙏When we are LED by his Holy spirit that he Promised to ALL of us and we are washed from our sins and Baptized in the name of the Trinity😄
It's better to be a little bit uncomfortable and face loneliness occasionally then to suffer with the drama and disappointment of being in the wrong relationship
... so you are being CAREFUL to Not be in the Wrong situation ? You are Not going to be a Drama Queen , for sure... but you will be Not be the Dancing Queen , either !
A few days before 2023 started, I finally unlocked my heart to wholly lean on God for my problems, my joys, and loneliness. I can give and never feel empty forevermore. 🙌 God gives me love, attention, and strength to serve others without needing something in return.
Amennnnn I used to fear being alone but man God really is working on us and he has the right ppl in store for me, never in a million years would I thought I would enjoy being alone and being okay with it‼️‼️‼️ that’s what happens when u finally just trust in the Lord
So HELP me God...UPDATED 20-2-23 Good news :- Glory to God after 5 years of chronic loneliness NEW HOPE of Friendship & Love :- may the honeymoon phase LAST THIS LIFETIME PLZ GOD 🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗
@@S.M.Jean-Mahmoud_Ier John thanks n true, YET God has been PHENOMINAL Kind, Favoring me, Blessing me, providing SO MUCH for me, that I never lack, but a few things the enemy has STOLEN..... if the theif be caught........
Mark, Thank you so much this video was Holy Spirit inspired. I was battling loneliness some months ago and I asked God to give me a contented spirit until He blessings me with a Godly relationship that will lead to marriage. And I am content otherwise and I truly Thank God! I don't have that nagging feeling any longer about being lonely and "why has it not happened for me yet". it's truly freeing Blessings to you and your family. 🙏❤️
Oh my goodness, that loneliness in a relationship is terrible. He claimed to be a believer but was emotionally and psychologically abusive. I felt terrible. I made up my mind that I'd rather be single than unhappy and alone! Praise God that this lesson has spared me from some very potentially destructive relationships.
Being in your twenties is a bittersweet experience but critical to future fulfillment. You still have some stuff to go through in life but if you trust that God wants the best for you, he will bring someone along to walk with you. I didn’t know love in my twenties but i definitely know it now. Pain and struggle taught me about love. Ask God for his help. He wants to help you.
This is a timely video. I have been extremely isolated and alone for many years now, I have been asking God for a wife and a family for 4.5 years now. I hope my loneliness is coming to its final end.
Dear heavenly father we come together were two or three are gathered you will surely be and what we pray upon you will surely agree on. Lord, we present you your son. We also that you bless him with a wife and his family. It is time to break the loneliness in the mighty name of Christ Jesus. It is ok your word. No man should be left alone.
Remember to be careful people. When you walk in contentment and lose the fear of being alone, you will suddenly find yourself getting a lot more attention than usual. Now your fear ought to be fearing choosing the wrong one, this is where prayer for confirmation comes in and is helpful. Always compare a potential boyfriend or girlfriend to biblical descriptions of good character. Remember to be weary of those who flatter and those who say one thing and behave differently. Please be patient and make sure you know who you are choosing to get involved with
What's crazy is I've asked for confirmation before about guys and I think I've gotten it several times and then it ends badly. Sometimes it's so confusing
@Magni Thorsson like getting a message or call from them right after or soon after or me ending up at a place that they were involved in but I didn't know or having dreams about them
Sometimes it's no fun being lonely. It really isn't. I myself still feeling like this for the past few years now and I'm waiting for my misery to be put out for good. 😓
It's really strange because I was content in my loneliness for about a 1 year and a half and now there's this guy who i think likes me who I'm also interested in but now i feel not necessarily scared to be lonely but uncomfortable with it. It was literally just me, couple friends, and God for a while. I really hope I am ready for another relationship! :)
Same. Our job now is to understand and recognize the warning signs early. I see the ones i ignored now. I wish I saw them, but God has a purpose. I wouldn’t have my son otherwise.
I got badly burned and hoodwinked by a man who lovebombed me, married me then singlemindedly tried to get his paws on my money, as he had none,, I received a sudden diagnosis of a life altering disease, he couldnt leave fast enough. Good riddance !
I can relate to #s 1 2 and 4 Thanking the Lord for taking away all the loneliness in terms of broken relationships My loneliness now is caused from the loss of my 2 siblings in a year(2021) It's been hard to take all the pain and sadness. It's now the worries of my sister diagnosed with a stage 4 breast cancer last year Been praying harder and my ultimate wish this 2023 is for God to heal her. With God, nothing is impossible😊
WoW, Mark this message truly spoke life in my hear! I stayed in a toxic dysfunctional marriage for 13 years because of my strong fear of rejection and loneliness. Then he cheated and God gave me the strength to leave. I have been single for 4 years because I know the feeling of loneliness while being with the wrong person which did more harm to my self confidence. The deep dependence is better through God. I remember my counselor mentioned ‘why fear being alone, if I cannot stand being with myself how can I expect someone else to stand being with me. I have to learn to live with myself for the rest of my life! Please pray for me so that I can break the barriers of rejection that is holding me back from truly living my life according to God’s will. I hope this helps someone!!
I can really relate to your comment. Same here, 13-year toxic relationship. It is my relationship with Jesus that I am content with. If God has plans for me to remarry, I am sure He will make it clear and obvious to me. Be in peace!
You are not alone! We are all works in progress. For me I do fear some rejection and I grewip in a dysfunctional household. But I ask God to break those chains, those fears. Fear is not of the Lord and keeps us stuck. Give yourself permission to move forward. With God's help you will be free. Who the son sets free is free indeed!
I would love to but someone needs to show me..I'm 53..& as a child, I had limited sporadic church experiences...but I know HE was always watching me from a distance but never introduced himself..
To be honest I always felt lonely I always Tried my best to find friends and it always ended in a few days or perhaps hours, now I've recently started to love being alone since it helps me get closer to god✨
I have been so isolated! I have chosen it. As a single mom with 3 little boys, my focus was totally on raising them for the Lord and developing in my calling to full time ministry. Their dad left when my youngest two (twins) were babies. He was no longer apart of our lives and I chose never to date, have social life or anything. My sons are now 32 and 33. I haven't made friends or dated still at 62. I just retired but to pursue the calling I've known God gave me. I never felt lonely or any desire to remarry until recently. I'm afraid of it yes but the desire is beginning and crashes into my thoughts at random times. I have been clear that I never ever wanted to remarry but here I am kind of dancing around the thought.
I was extremely independent when I met my husband at 28 years old and at 31, we got married and we're with each other and married for 27 years when he got up and left me and he remarried within a year, and I've been single for 6 years, and I've had to go through the loneliness and acceptance of no longer having a marriage, and now I'm getting to the point where I'm okay being alone, but it's difficult, because I'm older but my great desire is to be married again!. There is no guarantee in a marriage. We both lived for God 100%, but you never know if your partner is going to change until they do.
These are the things that scare me but its a risk one has to take.What casues them to change?? Praying you also move on and find a good person to settle with
I am finally learning seek ye first the kingdom of god and his righteousness and all these things will be added to you . Trust god give him everthing and relax in what ever season you are in just focus on god and just seek him .
I’m there. I’m married to Jesus anybody else is extra. When I first started my walk with God fully I was eager to get a wife but not anymore. I am complete. if it happens it happens but it’s not a need. I love my time with God without the distraction. ❤️🔥🙏🏽
Been single since 2021 though I got out of fear of being heartbroken. But since I rededicated my life to God I don't feel as lonely anymore... if He brings me someone that's aligned with the kingdom business I'll give thanks
I feel the same way, I'm getting past that God blesses me with the woman that aligns with the kingdom of God that will be a blessing but I can't be putting no one before God before Jesus
I've also been single for a long time, and I àlso wànt someone who loves God more than me. I want to this person to love God and put God first. Thanks to God, I believe I sàid enough to the fear of rejection, abàndonment,the past, pain, hurt, anxietÿ of it all. I just have to be more patient in him, and in his timing.
Narcissism is not of God, but of the devil. If your husband is a narcissist, know he will not change unless he totally surrenders his life into the Lord.
This video spoke right to my heart but in a very painful way. God is showing me that I may still have a long way to go out of this dreadful season. It’s rough but I trust God and know He will guide me out of it, while molding me into who I need to be.
Fantastic video. I love the advice. Though I’m so tired of trying to make friends or find my future husband I’d rather just stop talking to people. It hurts to be rejected even when I take things slow. Hard to find genuine people in California.
What about serving someone out of love, only to realize that it wasn’t appropriate? Yes I totally agree that serving others brings love towards others, but I hesitate greatly to give due to loosing friendships. Happened to me twice and I still don’t understand why? It was extremely painful when you loved deeply, only to find it end rejection. Though both relationships have been restored, yet I will never give to them like I used to. If I give it’s healthy to give small. Br Mark, would you be interested in doing a teaching on this? You have tremendously helped me in relationships already. I came from a background of not having close relationships. In my late teens and twenties I’ve had so much trouble in relationships.
Revelation 21:4 He will wipe away every tear from their eyes, and death shall be no more, neither shall there be mourning, nor crying, nor pain anymore, for the former things have passed away.”
Thanks you for the beautiful wonderful powerful magnificent encourage word make my Faith strong and believen that with the lord is victory. thanks you so much God Bless you lovely brother watchman
First of all, Mark, your background/set is better than before. 🙂 It's good to switch locations sometimes. Second, thank you for this message. I am not afraid of being alone but sometimes I could feel in my spirit that I am longing to have someone to enjoy life. It's not loneliness but i just want to have someone to share moments with.
I agree with what you're say, it's sometimes I feel it's not loneliness is just wanted to share those moments with but at times it is loneliness that means I have to dive in the in the in the Bible and read the word of God 🙏🙏
It sucks since we're living in the end times and relationships are quite out of the realm. Suffering from this desire has made things worse than good. You better off just simply accepting loneliness till death. Heaven will be better anyways.
I am currently struggling with this. Loneliness is a painful thing. I've been trying to rewire my brain to be content with being single where I'd otherwise go back to a bad relationship that hurt me for 2 years. Prayer would be appreciated.
I am sorry you are going through this. My husband separated from me with my two children because I was becoming closer to the Father. It’s been very painful. No support from family but have that shalom in your heart. Biblical prophecies are happening more quickly and do believe the eminent return of Christ is very near. This is the blessed hope. Still praying for those who are falling away. God bless you all!
Taste & see 👀That The Lord is 👁️👁️GOOD....... toe dip in a Godly relationship :- BEWARE OF UNEQUALLY YOKED for it is NO JOKE he says after 2 train-wreck failure marriages - losing Everything BUT finding God finally - I can see He was ALWAYS around me....... so... it probably could have been worse........ am still here devil & now the table is gonna get turned on that nasty narcissist LOSER ‼️🙏🙏🙏
Lord, please let these years be over- I want to stand in joy and contentment in you- but its hard to believe for a healthy community when your hope over and over is deferred
Sorry, but none of the points you gave are biblical, you have given no verses or context. Sure, these points are good, but saying if you do these things God will bring you your partner soon, is misleading to me.
I'd rather prefer God to take away loneliness from me for good. So far people have never been for me nor chosen me for anything, ever. I hate the fact I DEPEND on the to feel better after they treated me as trash.
Hey Mark, this was another timely video. Thanks! You know I'm a supporter, but I think there are some topics which may need less of a list and more of personal account to get the point across. Many who follow you know that you were married while still very young and have children too. An older person who is still single in their 30's or 40's may think that you have no experience in what you're talking about and have no clue what real loneliness is like. As a pastor I'm sure you've ministered too and learned a lot from the people you've ministered too over the years, so maybe recounting some of that would be helpful. Also, perhaps you could ask for some interaction from your viewers as to what their experience of loneliness is as that would be edifying and informative for us all. As somebody who lived a long time abroad, I think the Christian community fails to be an available, perceptive and responsive source of encouragment for those who are struggling in this area, We must be a visible and tangible and use our knowledge (and that of others) alonside empathy and compassion. God bless! More ministers need to cover these topics for the benefit of the Body of Christ.
Thanks for these suggestions Matthew. I always try to find the balance of teaching verses sharing. I do lean more on teaching as RUclips tends to attract people looking for answers rather than a connection. But I see what you mean and do think there is a time for me to share more than teach :) God bless as you keep serving the Lord!
This was so timely. Definitely grateful. The key is His presence brothers and sisters. May our relationships with the Lord be stronger may we receive healing emotionally as well in Jesus name
I am not afraid of being alone at all, and I'm very much content in God and confident in god more than anything. I'm also serving the lord the best that I can. and God completes me, all of us, really, and not people. I have been single for 22 years, and I've been in situationships (crushing relationships) and I've feared abandonment because I was abandoned as a child, and I once feared rejection, but I don't fear those things anymore. I said enough to those fears long ago and I'm still saying enough to those fears to this day.
Amen. I was with my First Love for 18 years married 13. But now I have been on my own 4 years. I Thank God for my Alone time. I just know that I was never lonely because I had God on my side.❤
Mark, as usual, you are on point! Great video. I always enjoy listening to you and your advice. My thing though is that I’ve been alone so long, and I’m content with being alone, and if ever anyone tries to get close to me, it’s going to irritate me that there’s somebody there. 😂
I love myself i gave up on seeking for relationship with people so loneliness is not a barrier i love spending time with myself because when God is on my side nothing is impossible
Although I agree with everything said, as I typically do with AGW. The question I have in regard to the first point is: How? How can one be okay with being alone if the staying alone is causing them to fear it even more? It’s almost like a Catch-22. You cant have it until i’m okay without it, but I can’t be okay without until I have it. This creates a constant tension of wanting to pursue but feeling like you can’t. So how do you not want a relationship so badly that you can actually pursue one in a healthy way?
Be open to someone that enters your life, you never know who you could be turning away. I know the feeling of “wanting a relationship” so bad, but scared to be hurt or fall in love, now if we turn that around and be excited to fall in love and put all fears to God, more doors could open ❤
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Well how about that God says that its not good for men to be alone. And therefore he created a helper for him. (Genesis)? Than what you say about that you should be happy by yourself does not allign with Scripture.
I'm afraid of feeling the unfulfilled longing for a mate the rest of my life. It never goes away and often torments to the point of affecting negatively all areas of life. Spiritual, Mental/emotional, and physical. It seems to me life would be so very much better if I could experience it with a mate. A strong desire for the intimacy and companionship of a mate is not within my power to remove from myself so if God doesn't provide a mate or take away my longing for same then I'm - well you know.
I am very impressed with this video. Very very few pastors, priests, prophets, etc share this perspective. But it is true. God picks a partner in you that will push every single one of your buttons, and a few you didn't know about. You will be tested in the most wounded area of your heart. You will fail to be Christlike. You will be driven to prayer. There you will find the Cross. THAT and only that will bring the grace needed to overcome. I am in that time myself. God has revealed to me who my partner will be, and I am terrified. I hate it!!!
I really needed this video. Everything you said checks off the list of what I'm experiencing in this season of my life. For a while, I thought I was being disciplined for something, but no..God is just refining me and preparing me for the better. Thank you for sharing :)
I’ve been struggling with intense loneliness since I was a child😢 most of my years and still now I didn’t have enough good friends and now I mostly feel lonely for God as I feel I can’t ever get enough of him and I’m afraid of getting attached to people whether a relationship or friendship because so many people presumed to be friends have let me down and have all rejected me😞
I don’t know why but I don’t love my girlfriend anymore, I don’t know why. I use to love her so much but that love died I don’t understand it. She doesn’t know it yet, can someone explain why this could be? We’ve been together for 5 years already I’m 21
8:57- False! You need to change the wording! Not all parents love their children. I was just reading yesterday about a woman that finally got sentenced for killing her 8 year old child! And if that’s not enough. How about the amount of kids that get abandoned? How many kids are put up for adoption? How many kids are hurt or abused by their parents in many different ways? How many kids are just neglected? I probably could keep going it I really sat down and wrote all this out but I think I made my point! That being said I do love my God and I am grateful for the fact that he loves me also. But because I’m out of that trauma in my life doesn’t mean it didn’t happen. And it’s almost funny now. Because now my mom doesn’t understand why none of her kids ever call her or even want to be around her!!!
Not fear of being alone. I’m just so tired of being alone while everyone else Is getting married , having kids, even have multiple relationships. I don’t get even one relationship . I’m so tired of “trusting” and waiting
I guess 2023 will be a good year then 😄 whether or not I end up meeting someone, I threw unnecessary pessimism out of the window and put my trust in God 😇
I was just used by my ex again this came he came claiming he was reborn again and he has changed it was all a lie he used me again only this time in the name of my Lord I suffer from depression as it is anyway I had prayed to God for a God feeling man to enter this man heat popping into my mind especially in the morning I would wake with him on my ming I felt pushed to reach out I did he said it was from God he had been praying about a Godly woman he told me thing along the line of he feels I'm the love of his life and all these things convinced me that God doesn't care if we have unmarital sex and I listened and now I'm here in pieces because he dumped me after I feel like Satan has stole my prayer and instead of God answering it Satan used it to hurt me
Isaiah 49:14 Can a woman forget her sucking child, that she should not have compassion on the son of her womb? yea, they may forget, yet will I not forget thee. Romans 8:31 KJV What shall we then say to these things? If God be for us, who can be against us?
In the 70’s and previously, Christians were told to marry young to ensure that they would remain virgins up until marriage. Starting around Gen-X and since, the vast majority of modern people have generally waited longer and longer to marry. When those now-older, married Christians refer to a "season” of singleness, they are referring to a (short) temporary period of time of a few years at most, as what occurred back in their generation. But my life on earth could also be referred to as a “season”. These people who lightly call it a season don’t understand what being single is currently like, the modern dating scene, or how the vast majority of womens’ views on sex, careers and relationships have changed over the last 50 years. I’m 46, and my “season” has lasted 25 years, since I graduated from college. I dated extensively during college, and always assumed I’d meet someone at work or thru the church. Being the genius that I am, I chose a very male-dominated profession, so there were no females to “run my game on” at work. Ha, as if! This wait has made me miserable. Yes, I’m the type of person that enjoys being alone, but only to a degree. I’m also the type of guy that feels he’s a better man when he’s in a relationship. I finally changed my mind and tried Christian Mingle (and on-line dating) for the first time in February ’23 and thought I met a great girl (woman) right away. It took me 10 months and $12K to figure out the whole thing was a scam. That was a great introduction to “Christian Dating”, but given how damaged the majority of non-Christian women are and the degree of sexual promiscuity in the secular dating world, Christian dating is my only hope. I grew up in the church and sometimes feel like I was mislead when I was younger, like when I was told to be patient and God will deliver you your wife - like she would magically appear at my doorstep once I turned 22. But life doesn’t work like that. I have since learned you have to keep working on yourself and keep evolving, making yourself emotionally and physically "harder" and more interesting to be around. It doesn’t matter what women say, they are attracted to looks, money and intrigue (can he provide a fun and interesting lifestyle?) and research has proven that women looking for relationships are willing to sacrifice the male traits (that most Christian guys viewing this video likely have in abundance) such as being nice, loyal or kind. Those traits don’t make them wet. Older, married Christians have no idea what it is like trying to find, attract and retain a potential partner in today’s on-line dating culture. It’s Sodom and Gomorrah out there! And we’re trying to act in a way that is both pleasing to God and representative of Christ for others. Hopefully, Christian women are looking for different attributes when dating in that they are more relationship-minded; have higher, Godlier-standards for both themselves and for the men that they date; and are less likely to put up with typical male non-sense (abuse of any kind, cheating, threats of violence, etc.). I’m looking for a Godly woman who loves God first and foremost, who loves her family second, and has room in her heart for a devoted partner. I’m tired of waiting, so this year I’m putting myself out there, because I know I truly have something to offer the woman that God has set aside for me. I’m looking for a partner that has high expectations for her partner, because I want to meet and exceed them. After college, I recommitted myself to my celibacy. Not that I was a total man-whore in college, but I was seriously-in-love twice while in college and my female partners were less vigilant about their purity than I was, alcohol was involved, but it was still my choice to sin. One day, I will have to apologize to my future-wife and make amends to her. But I’ve gone from 21 years old to 46 without any, and it’s killing me, but I’ve made it this far. I’m not one of those, “I’ve never held a girl’s hand, I’m intimated by them’’ type of guys. I know what I’m missing and that only makes it worse. But I promised God I’d do my best and to this day I've truly done so. I’m looking for a woman that has held herself to a higher standard (that doesn’t mean she has to have been perfect), we are all sinners that come short of the glory of God. But I’m looking for a partner who loves Christ, isn’t afraid to let anyone know that, and is just hopeful that one day God will end her wait. Living in or around Florida or the SE of the U.S. would be a great bonus. I’m also not willing to play any games. I know what I want and I won't settle. I’m looking for a woman who can surprise me, challenge me, make me a better Christian, man, and husband. I also demand your unwavering loyalty for as long as we’re together. I promise I’ll only have eyes for you. Even when we’re old, 80-something, and a pretty twenty-year-old in a bikini walks past us on the beach, I’ll try my best not to look at her. But if I accidentally look, baby it’s because I’m just a weak old man; it doesn’t mean I don’t love you, your body or the years we’ve spent building a shared, life together. I’ll honor you by not ogling her or not turning my head to check out her ass (I’ll save that type of perversion when I’m with my buddies or you're not around). Ha, Ha. In return, I promise not to play any “dating” games myself, I will tell you how I feel, I promise to keep the relationship new and intriguing, will gladly listen to you vent about your day and in solidarity without telling you what to do about . I’ll just listen as a friend and supporter, only offering suggestions when you ask for them. I promise to stay in shape, to never settle in the relationship or let the spark die out. In short, I promise to not take you for granted, no matter how long we’re together. Today’s male-focused dating advice will say to never tell a woman that you truly love her or she’ll get bored and leave. It’ll say to keep her guessing and having her chase you is the only way to keep her focused and attentive to the relationship. I’m sorry, but I just can’t do that. If you can’t tell by this novel, I say what’s on my mind. I say what I do and do what I say. But if I’m madly in love with a woman, I need her to know that and I will tell her that often. I will say and service her (take that how you may) in many different ways to keep it novel. But she will always know where I am coming from and I want to listen to her needs, wants and dreams. To have a devoted partner to go through life together with is such a beautiful blessing. Currently, I am a lesser man because I can not express that side of me. I continue to pray and ask God to reveal his intentions for my life. I have already moved across the country to Florida to put myself in a more Christ-centered environment and away from some toxic people in my past. This year I am learning how to truly give God control over my life and to let him “drive the car” instead. I pray that all of us who remain single on this day find the contentment in their lives that only Christ Jesus can bring. Having a Christ-follower as a partner, by itself, won’t solve all of your current problems, and you’ll inherit all of your partner's problems (for better or worse); but it will give you someone to share life and the love of Jesus with. God Bless you all.
@@RaeAria It should be much easier (knowing the two set their differences aside and focus on pleasing God), but I guess that only sounds easy. Best of luck (sorry about the above novel).
Be aware of non-reciprocal relationships! Us people-pleasers and highly empathetic people can get sucked dry with emotional vampires. The honeymoon phase might be exciting as you give to the other person, however, that stage will end and if we cannot get our needs met in return then the relationship will be hellish.
I always think that if its part of God's will for me to be in a romantic relationship with someone and wants me to share with someone then He will make a way for that to happen, if not, then I trust Him and his plan for me. I love being alone as its where I thrive the most.... But I'd also love to spend the rest of my days with a man who loves me the way God created me and who wants to share in life, support in life, and serve God in life as well. Plus its a girl's dream to have her father walk her down the isle one day, my dad has a hard time walking these days so I'm praying for it to happen soon for that reason, but I do trust in the Lord's timing as it is perfect.
Well Mark, # four is definitely me. It's the only one that matches me. I have stayed away from relationships for years now and I'm 37 and I want to be married and I want kids but I just always have a fear that I'm going to meet the wrong person and that they may take advantage of me or be a bad person pretending to be a nice person. I've had it happen so many times. I always have to tell the guy goodbye and block them cuz they won't stop calling after I realize that they're not right for me. No sex is involved it's just a bunch of weirdos that are unequally yoked with me.
Narcissism is not of God, but of the devil. If your husband is a narcissist, know he will not change unless he totally surrenders his life into the Lord.
Hi all, strictly speaking is christian dating biblically accurate or is it just an export of the heathen culture into christianity ? OR let me rephrase my question: is it okay for christians to date one another ?
I'm single and never married. Been in relationship before ( with God fearing man) We planned our marriage etc,etc. But at the end he runs away because i hv problem in my right leg. Lil bit limping when i was walked. But now i don't feel fear to be alone anymore. I hv proper job. I hv Jesus And i choose twice a year to go solo travel and meet new peoples. Regards frm Indonesia
...i don't feel your leg was the Real Reason he left you ... sounds like an Excuse to me. However ... Divine Healing is available for us , Right? Sooo take advantage of it for your own sake !
Mark I was in a relationship with someone I thought was the one at first until I realized she wasn’t the best for my mindset because she had cheated on someone with me to begin that relationship. After that started tormenting my mind, we ended up breaking up because she left me for someone else. I was destroyed for years until I saw your video stating that God wouldn’t build a healthy relationship based on that, I honestly believe that your video describing my situation was a sign from God that it really wasn’t meant to be.
Points #2 & #4 seem to contradict each other. How can I say that I’m content to be alone (#2) while also saying I’ve had enough with being alone (#4)? Otherwise it’s a completely hopeless and circular scenario.
The worst part is being alone in a relationship. 😢
Yes. It’s the worst feeling in the world. 😢
Perfectly stated
That is called loneliness. Being alone is being by yourself.
Robin Williams said it best - the only thing worse than being alone is being with people who make you feel alone. This was my now ex-wife who I let use and emotionally abused me far too long till I got the strength to divorce her - and yet I still miss her 7 months later even after she ghosted me for the last 18 months of our marriage. I will be weak for women no more!
Well said 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼💯
Once again Mark you have help me see things differently in relationships. Thank you! And.....I love the background it's warm and inviting!😊
So glad this was useful! And thanks for the feedback :)
Right now I am talking to somebody I met online (on an app I met decent people on, Christian target group and so forth). I don't really feel head over heels about it, pretty laid back actually and I feel he has the same approach about it. Being interested in a person is just enough for now. I am pretty excited to see where this is going but I would say, I am so so very okay if it might not work out for whatever reason. Trying to be as decent and respectful about the heart and life of that person by praying for our meetings, relaxing and just being myself, honoring boundaries, and being open about the pace it might take... Because in fact, my foundation would be: I am okay to be on my own and I have a goal and stuff to do in the kingdom of God, so I am not bored if I have nobody to talk to. But if God decides that this is what he wants to gift me (and I had enough time to talk about what my wishes are and enough time to prep myself), I am going to believe that this would be his best and I would give myself fully to it, not wanting to keep a loophole to back out for FOMO. Your video just triggered those thoughts. Keep on doing what you do, brother!
i am confortable and happy alone.. i am the type that prefers and enjoys to go to the movies, eat at a restaurant, vacation alone, etc...
Thank you for this message
Please pray for me💛🙏💛
I haven't been with anyone since around 23 years but I had my mom...well she left 2 years ago but before she left I started to feel like I wanted to run and have a life with someone....but after she got sick I went through surgery after surgery and seeing Drs ....I don't understand it but ?
I did everything myself for years. I’ve let so many people go that were not right and healthy for me.
I meet a man of faith and fell in love with him .
My brother passed away a couple of weeks ago and yesterday the man I love ended things with me. My heart is broken I don’t understand.
I am so sorry for your loss, I can't imagine losing my brother, and with a breakup following. Remember God is near to you, He heals the brokenhearted and bandages their wounds (Psalm 147:3). Praying for you
@@emilytracy495 thank you so much 💜🙏
It is better to be single and lonely, than married and miserable.
Amen to that sistah.
Praying for all of us 😢💔❤️🩹❤️🙏
Proverbs 21:9: 'Better to live on a corner of the roof than share a house with a quarrelsome wife.' ;)
Correct😊
I agree! No truer words have been spoken. Amen!!!
1. Losing the fear of being alone
2. Gaining the strength of rather being alone
3. Beginning to see that most of the joy comes from giving, not receiving.
4. Say enough to fears that are causing you to stay away from relationships.
Number 1 is false based on Genesis 2 and human psychology
@@Insane_ForJesus PAUL PREFERS SINGLENESS
7:6) and counsels widows to remain single if possible (1 Cor. 7:8). Singleness is preferred because of “the present distress” (1 Cor. 7:26, CSB), and those who aren't married are advised not to “seek a wife” (
According this, I'm gonna keep suffering then
@@scottmacdonald8942 You are misunderstanding Paul. If everyone followed his preference then you would get a society like Japan or Western Europe where the birth rate is so low that the care of the elderly and work force is at major risk. Big nuclear families are God's design based on Genesis. Singleness is only for a small minority of people wanting to focus on God's work. Paul recommends singleness for people that have the desire of focusing solely on God and not creating nuclear families as commanded in Genesis.
@@Insane_ForJesus well said , I'm tired of all this bullshit spouted about what Paul said . We are not made to be alone, that's why God gave Adam a mate. Because we live in a broken sinful world many of us have to suffer singleness. Another thing that really winds me up is the " it's just for a season bullshit" many many Christians have to suffer singleness all their lives and put up with the smug advice from married Christians in the Church who haven't a clue how painful it can be.
I am alone! Not even friends, because I attracted the same type of fake friends/ narcissists as my ex! Spend the last 6 years alone - I only have a friend now…and for the 1st time in my life, I don’t feel used! It is balanced! So, I am sure it will happen with a partner as well! Learned to do and enjoy things alone: bought a house and celebrated with a champagne ( yeah, just me), went to restaurant alone, to movie alone, a lot of diy alone- love it! There is absolutely no fear of being alone! The only thing I fear is being without God…I keep healing and working on myself!!!When I ll meet my partner…I’ll be ready!
The only fear I have is being without God. I'm with you on that.
@Quantam Leap Your comment speaks to me. A lot. I’m the same. If you ever want be prayer or accountability partners, let me know. Somehow. Lol.
I wish we lived close ! Lol
Same!
Building confidence next level
Anyone experiencing loneliness, remember it's just for a season.. a season of preparation. God bless.
God bless!
Six years of loneliness is not a season. It’s a lifetime sentence. It’s a prison cell. It’s a marathon. Waiting for the seasons finale.
@@freepoetjsr1602 develop in obsercuity
Thank you, I just said this to myself 💕 you confirmed AMEN sister
@@mergned Amen. Fantastic! We are truly in one spirit. 😊🙏🏾
I really don't fear being alone , I just fear being with the person God didn't call me to be with
@nazareyes3773I hadn’t to thought about it that way! Thank you
The idea of a single "soul mate" isnt actually biblical. There isnt a single person God has called you to be with. There are many people who love God and would be someone you could have a God honoring relationship with. I that isnt something I would worry about. The concept of "oh but what if I chose the wrong one and God actually had someone else for me" is not a question I will ever ask. If I marry a woman, that's it, that's who im meant to be with. Because I make that commitment in marriage.
The ULTIMATE Sign of Love is what Jesus Christ did on that Cross 2000 years ago for ALL of us...we need to return to that FIRST Love God has shown us and stay in the love of Jesus because the Devil Satan and his Demons who are Ruling this world will Never be Able to touch us if we Remain in his Love and presence🙏💟If we are TRUE Desciples of Jesus and we OBEY His words written in Matthew Mark Luke and John🙏When we are LED by his Holy spirit that he Promised to ALL of us and we are washed from our sins and Baptized in the name of the Trinity😄
@nazareyes3773thats bullcrap healthy fear of foolishness is good
The Lord does not give you a spirit of fear
It's better to be a little bit uncomfortable and face loneliness occasionally then to suffer with the drama and disappointment of being in the wrong relationship
... so you are being CAREFUL to Not be in the Wrong situation ? You are Not going to be a Drama Queen , for sure... but you will be Not be the Dancing Queen , either !
A few days before 2023 started, I finally unlocked my heart to wholly lean on God for my problems, my joys, and loneliness. I can give and never feel empty forevermore. 🙌
God gives me love, attention, and strength to serve others without needing something in return.
Act Without Expectation
Amennnnn I used to fear being alone but man God really is working on us and he has the right ppl in store for me, never in a million years would I thought I would enjoy being alone and being okay with it‼️‼️‼️ that’s what happens when u finally just trust in the Lord
yes i learned from my last relationship your better off alone than in a toxic relationship anyday
so true
Exactly 😊
Having a healthy relationship with God leads to other healthy relationships in our lives. I love this!
So HELP me God...UPDATED 20-2-23 Good news :- Glory to God after 5 years of chronic loneliness NEW HOPE of Friendship & Love :- may the honeymoon phase LAST THIS LIFETIME PLZ GOD 🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗
John 15:5! He is worthy!
Same... When even God Himself seems to rejoice in your frustration, this is when help is the most needed and love and respect run away the fastest...
@@S.M.Jean-Mahmoud_Ier John thanks n true, YET God has been PHENOMINAL Kind, Favoring me, Blessing me, providing SO MUCH for me, that I never lack, but a few things the enemy has STOLEN..... if the theif be caught........
I AM truly, genuinely happy for you both...
Mark, Thank you so much this video was Holy Spirit inspired. I was battling loneliness some months ago and I asked God to give me a contented spirit until He blessings me with a Godly relationship that will lead to marriage. And I am content otherwise and I truly Thank God! I don't have that nagging feeling any longer about being lonely and "why has it not happened for me yet". it's truly freeing Blessings to you and your family. 🙏❤️
Amen! This is great report! God is good!
Oh my goodness, that loneliness in a relationship is terrible. He claimed to be a believer but was emotionally and psychologically abusive. I felt terrible. I made up my mind that I'd rather be single than unhappy and alone! Praise God that this lesson has spared me from some very potentially destructive relationships.
Hello 👋🏻 Beautiful Lady 🌹..How are you and the weather?
I havent not been in relationship for my entire life I’m 26 and I don’t know what feels like to be loved 😂. Only Gods love has been part of my life
Being in your twenties is a bittersweet experience but critical to future fulfillment. You still have some stuff to go through in life but if you trust that God wants the best for you, he will bring someone along to walk with you. I didn’t know love in my twenties but i definitely know it now. Pain and struggle taught me about love. Ask God for his help. He wants to help you.
God’s love is the best first love 🎉
God will give urs, keep praying 😊
Being alone can be good too. Peace, calm, time to care for yourself. Time for devotions.
Yeah 👍👍
Time to turn inwards ❤
This is a timely video. I have been extremely isolated and alone for many years now, I have been asking God for a wife and a family for 4.5 years now. I hope my loneliness is coming to its final end.
Dear heavenly father we come together were two or three are gathered you will surely be and what we pray upon you will surely agree on.
Lord, we present you your son. We also that you bless him with a wife and his family. It is time to break the loneliness in the mighty name of Christ Jesus. It is ok your word. No man should be left alone.
I totally understand I feel the same
I have waited for 7 years and sometimes feel like giving up on waiting. Hope God will make the delivery one day.
@@millykukkiriza5338 I pray on that
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Remember to be careful people. When you walk in contentment and lose the fear of being alone, you will suddenly find yourself getting a lot more attention than usual. Now your fear ought to be fearing choosing the wrong one, this is where prayer for confirmation comes in and is helpful. Always compare a potential boyfriend or girlfriend to biblical descriptions of good character. Remember to be weary of those who flatter and those who say one thing and behave differently. Please be patient and make sure you know who you are choosing to get involved with
What's crazy is I've asked for confirmation before about guys and I think I've gotten it several times and then it ends badly. Sometimes it's so confusing
@@Nita-GodisGreat Describe the confirmation
@Magni Thorsson like getting a message or call from them right after or soon after or me ending up at a place that they were involved in but I didn't know or having dreams about them
Sometimes it's no fun being lonely. It really isn't. I myself still feeling like this for the past few years now and I'm waiting for my misery to be put out for good. 😓
It's really strange because I was content in my loneliness for about a 1 year and a half and now there's this guy who i think likes me who I'm also interested in but now i feel not necessarily scared to be lonely but uncomfortable with it. It was literally just me, couple friends, and God for a while. I really hope I am ready for another relationship! :)
Just take it easy, if God wants you to together then he will reveal it to you, otherwise keep doing what you normally would be doing.
@@dinomra7771 Thank you so much for this advice!! God bless you! 💕
I fear meeting another narcissist, being with someone who wears a mask until you marry them and then they show their true colors
Just went through this for 3 years luckily we didn't get married
Same. Our job now is to understand and recognize the warning signs early. I see the ones i ignored now. I wish I saw them, but God has a purpose. I wouldn’t have my son otherwise.
Yup,, ditto on that. Just got out of that mess a few years ago
I got badly burned and hoodwinked by a man who lovebombed me, married me then singlemindedly tried to get his paws on my money, as he had none,, I received a sudden diagnosis of a life altering disease, he couldnt leave fast enough. Good riddance !
I can relate to #s 1 2 and 4
Thanking the Lord for taking away all the loneliness in terms of broken relationships
My loneliness now is caused from the loss of my 2 siblings in a year(2021) It's been hard to take all the pain and sadness. It's now the worries of my sister diagnosed with a stage 4 breast cancer last year
Been praying harder and my ultimate wish this 2023 is for God to heal her. With God, nothing is impossible😊
I'm so sorry to hear about these trials and losses. May the Lord bless you and secure you in faith as you keep walking forward with him
WoW, Mark this message truly spoke life in my hear! I stayed in a toxic dysfunctional marriage for 13 years because of my strong fear of rejection and loneliness. Then he cheated and God gave me the strength to leave. I have been single for 4 years because I know the feeling of loneliness while being with the wrong person which did more harm to my self confidence. The deep dependence is better through God. I remember my counselor mentioned ‘why fear being alone, if I cannot stand being with myself how can I expect someone else to stand being with me. I have to learn to live with myself for the rest of my life! Please pray for me so that I can break the barriers of rejection that is holding me back from truly living my life according to God’s will. I hope this helps someone!!
I can really relate to your comment. Same here, 13-year toxic relationship. It is my relationship with Jesus that I am content with. If God has plans for me to remarry, I am sure He will make it clear and obvious to me. Be in peace!
You are not alone! We are all works in progress. For me I do fear some rejection and I grewip in a dysfunctional household. But I ask God to break those chains, those fears. Fear is not of the Lord and keeps us stuck. Give yourself permission to move forward. With God's help you will be free. Who the son sets free is free indeed!
Sending you hugs and love
You’re not alone
I would love to but someone needs to show me..I'm 53..& as a child, I had limited sporadic church experiences...but I know HE was always watching me from a distance but never introduced himself..
To be honest I always felt lonely I always Tried my best to find friends and it always ended in a few days or perhaps hours, now I've recently started to love being alone since it helps me get closer to god✨
God is good!
I have been so isolated! I have chosen it. As a single mom with 3 little boys, my focus was totally on raising them for the Lord and developing in my calling to full time ministry. Their dad left when my youngest two (twins) were babies. He was no longer apart of our lives and I chose never to date, have social life or anything. My sons are now 32 and 33. I haven't made friends or dated still at 62. I just retired but to pursue the calling I've known God gave me. I never felt lonely or any desire to remarry until recently. I'm afraid of it yes but the desire is beginning and crashes into my thoughts at random times. I have been clear that I never ever wanted to remarry but here I am kind of dancing around the thought.
Cheering for you from Alabama
Yes, the thought of growing old alone is not a good one. Like you, never dated much but I have no kids either. It's lonely.
It’s YOUR time now
Lesson number one. Don't let non-lonely people speak about loneliness.
If you have experienced it it fine to
I was extremely independent when I met my husband at 28 years old and at 31, we got married and we're with each other and married for 27 years when he got up and left me and he remarried within a year, and I've been single for 6 years, and I've had to go through the loneliness and acceptance of no longer having a marriage, and now I'm getting to the point where I'm okay being alone, but it's difficult, because I'm older but my great desire is to be married again!. There is no guarantee in a marriage. We both lived for God 100%, but you never know if your partner is going to change until they do.
These are the things that scare me but its a risk one has to take.What casues them to change??
Praying you also move on and find a good person to settle with
@@lindagatwiri869 thank you..☺️
I am finally learning seek ye first the kingdom of god and his righteousness and all these things will be added to you . Trust god give him everthing and relax in what ever season you are in just focus on god and just seek him .
I’m there. I’m married to Jesus anybody else is extra. When I first started my walk with God fully I was eager to get a wife but not anymore. I am complete. if it happens it happens but it’s not a need. I love my time with God without the distraction. ❤️🔥🙏🏽
Been single since 2021 though I got out of fear of being heartbroken.
But since I rededicated my life to God I don't feel as lonely anymore... if He brings me someone that's aligned with the kingdom business I'll give thanks
I feel the same way, I'm getting past that God blesses me with the woman that aligns with the kingdom of God that will be a blessing but I can't be putting no one before God before Jesus
I've also been single for a long time, and I àlso wànt someone who loves God more than me. I want to this person to love God and put God first. Thanks to God, I believe I sàid enough to the fear of rejection, abàndonment,the past, pain, hurt, anxietÿ of it all. I just have to be more patient in him, and in his timing.
Narcissism is not of God, but of the devil. If your husband is a narcissist, know he will not change unless he totally surrenders his life into the Lord.
This video spoke right to my heart but in a very painful way. God is showing me that I may still have a long way to go out of this dreadful season. It’s rough but I trust God and know He will guide me out of it, while molding me into who I need to be.
Fantastic video. I love the advice. Though I’m so tired of trying to make friends or find my future husband I’d rather just stop talking to people. It hurts to be rejected even when I take things slow. Hard to find genuine people in California.
What about serving someone out of love, only to realize that it wasn’t appropriate? Yes I totally agree that serving others brings love towards others, but I hesitate greatly to give due to loosing friendships. Happened to me twice and I still don’t understand why? It was extremely painful when you loved deeply, only to find it end rejection. Though both relationships have been restored, yet I will never give to them like I used to. If I give it’s healthy to give small.
Br Mark, would you be interested in doing a teaching on this? You have tremendously helped me in relationships already. I came from a background of not having close relationships. In my late teens and twenties I’ve had so much trouble in relationships.
All my life is loneliness, pain. I give all to the lord but i fill tired ,i do,nt know. What must do.
Me too. My soul is tired. This can't be how life is supposed to be
Revelation 21:4
He will wipe away every tear from their eyes, and death shall be no more, neither shall there be mourning, nor crying, nor pain anymore, for the former things have passed away.”
Thanks you for the beautiful wonderful powerful magnificent encourage word make my Faith strong and believen that with the lord is victory. thanks you so much God Bless you lovely brother watchman
@@jeanehuber127 Amen, God Bless you too jeane
Loneliness in a marriage is a slow, painful death of hope.
First of all, Mark, your background/set is better than before. 🙂 It's good to switch locations sometimes. Second, thank you for this message. I am not afraid of being alone but sometimes I could feel in my spirit that I am longing to have someone to enjoy life. It's not loneliness but i just want to have someone to share moments with.
I agree with what you're say, it's sometimes I feel it's not loneliness is just wanted to share those moments with but at times it is loneliness that means I have to dive in the in the in the Bible and read the word of God 🙏🙏
It's ended I have a dog now
Everything always works in God's timing, just like when I received this message today. Thank you 🙏🏾♥️
It sucks since we're living in the end times and relationships are quite out of the realm. Suffering from this desire has made things worse than good. You better off just simply accepting loneliness till death. Heaven will be better anyways.
Was literally having a conversation with someone about these same things and this pops up on my phone, God was listening
Nice!
Same
I am currently struggling with this. Loneliness is a painful thing. I've been trying to rewire my brain to be content with being single where I'd otherwise go back to a bad relationship that hurt me for 2 years. Prayer would be appreciated.
I'm sending my prayers to you.
Just remember, we are worthy of a Godly marriage and we deserve it. Pray to God about this and let this singleness bring you closer to God
I am sorry you are going through this. My husband separated from me with my two children because I was becoming closer to the Father. It’s been very painful. No support from family but have that shalom in your heart. Biblical prophecies are happening more quickly and do believe the eminent return of Christ is very near. This is the blessed hope. Still praying for those who are falling away. God bless you all!
there are some days when i think i’m ready for a relationship and some days i think i’m not. it’s hard
Taste & see 👀That The Lord is 👁️👁️GOOD....... toe dip in a Godly relationship :- BEWARE OF UNEQUALLY YOKED for it is NO JOKE he says after 2 train-wreck failure marriages - losing Everything BUT finding God finally - I can see He was ALWAYS around me....... so... it probably could have been worse........ am still here devil & now the table is gonna get turned on that nasty narcissist LOSER ‼️🙏🙏🙏
Lord, please let these years be over- I want to stand in joy and contentment in you- but its hard to believe for a healthy community when your hope over and over is deferred
Just too many very severely mentally disturbed psycho women everywhere now, thanks to feminism and narcissism.
Sorry, but none of the points you gave are biblical, you have given no verses or context.
Sure, these points are good, but saying if you do these things God will bring you your partner soon, is misleading to me.
I so agree with you about the pushy sales people. I avoid pushy sales people like the plague.
Amen, me too :)
Anything pushy or forced is very repulsive.
I'd rather prefer God to take away loneliness from me for good. So far people have never been for me nor chosen me for anything, ever. I hate the fact I DEPEND on the to feel better after they treated me as trash.
Hey Mark, this was another timely video. Thanks!
You know I'm a supporter, but I think there are some topics which may need less of a list and more of personal account to get the point across. Many who follow you know that you were married while still very young and have children too. An older person who is still single in their 30's or 40's may think that you have no experience in what you're talking about and have no clue what real loneliness is like. As a pastor I'm sure you've ministered too and learned a lot from the people you've ministered too over the years, so maybe recounting some of that would be helpful. Also, perhaps you could ask for some interaction from your viewers as to what their experience of loneliness is as that would be edifying and informative for us all.
As somebody who lived a long time abroad, I think the Christian community fails to be an available, perceptive and responsive source of encouragment for those who are struggling in this area, We must be a visible and tangible and use our knowledge (and that of others) alonside empathy and compassion.
God bless! More ministers need to cover these topics for the benefit of the Body of Christ.
Thanks for these suggestions Matthew. I always try to find the balance of teaching verses sharing. I do lean more on teaching as RUclips tends to attract people looking for answers rather than a connection. But I see what you mean and do think there is a time for me to share more than teach :) God bless as you keep serving the Lord!
I think Allen Parr did a video where he shares his experience of many years of celibacy before finding his wife in his 40s I believe?
This was so timely. Definitely grateful. The key is His presence brothers and sisters. May our relationships with the Lord be stronger may we receive healing emotionally as well in Jesus name
I am not afraid of being alone at all, and I'm very much content in God and confident in god more than anything. I'm also serving the lord the best that I can. and God completes me, all of us, really, and not people. I have been single for 22 years, and I've been in situationships (crushing relationships) and I've feared abandonment because I was abandoned as a child, and I once feared rejection, but I don't fear those things anymore. I said enough to those fears long ago and I'm still saying enough to those fears to this day.
Amen. I was with my First Love for 18 years married 13. But now I have been on my own 4 years. I Thank God for my Alone time. I just know that I was never lonely because I had God on my side.❤
Very true...there's nothing lonelier than being with someone that does not love you.
Mark, as usual, you are on point! Great video. I always enjoy listening to you and your advice. My thing though is that I’ve been alone so long, and I’m content with being alone, and if ever anyone tries to get close to me, it’s going to irritate me that there’s somebody there. 😂
lol, you probably just need to find someone who likes alone time too! You two can be "alone" together :)
Pearls are FORMED as a SOLUTION TO an 'irritation'........... 💎.......
Fix yourself first
Amen, without Christ first in our life, we can do nothing (John 15:5)
I love myself i gave up on seeking for relationship with people so loneliness is not a barrier i love spending time with myself because when God is on my side nothing is impossible
... You must have heard that Justin Bieber song , " if you think I'm holding out 4 you...why don't you just Love Yourself ! "
Lord please restore everything 💕
Although I agree with everything said, as I typically do with AGW. The question I have in regard to the first point is: How? How can one be okay with being alone if the staying alone is causing them to fear it even more? It’s almost like a Catch-22. You cant have it until i’m okay without it, but I can’t be okay without until I have it. This creates a constant tension of wanting to pursue but feeling like you can’t. So how do you not want a relationship so badly that you can actually pursue one in a healthy way?
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Be open to someone that enters your life, you never know who you could be turning away. I know the feeling of “wanting a relationship” so bad, but scared to be hurt or fall in love, now if we turn that around and be excited to fall in love and put all fears to God, more doors could open ❤
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Well how about that God says that its not good for men to be alone. And therefore he created a helper for him. (Genesis)? Than what you say about that you should be happy by yourself does not allign with Scripture.
Please advise
I'm afraid of feeling the unfulfilled longing for a mate the rest of my life. It never goes away and often torments to the point of affecting negatively all areas of life. Spiritual, Mental/emotional, and physical. It seems to me life would be so very much better if I could experience it with a mate. A strong desire for the intimacy and companionship of a mate is not within my power to remove from myself so if God doesn't provide a mate or take away my longing for same then I'm - well you know.
I am very impressed with this video. Very very few pastors, priests, prophets, etc share this perspective. But it is true. God picks a partner in you that will push every single one of your buttons, and a few you didn't know about. You will be tested in the most wounded area of your heart. You will fail to be Christlike. You will be driven to prayer. There you will find the Cross. THAT and only that will bring the grace needed to overcome. I am in that time myself. God has revealed to me who my partner will be, and I am terrified. I hate it!!!
I really needed this video. Everything you said checks off the list of what I'm experiencing in this season of my life. For a while, I thought I was being disciplined for something, but no..God is just refining me and preparing me for the better. Thank you for sharing :)
I can relate I feel the same 🙌🏾🙏🏾
I’ve been struggling with intense loneliness since I was a child😢 most of my years and still now I didn’t have enough good friends and now I mostly feel lonely for God as I feel I can’t ever get enough of him and I’m afraid of getting attached to people whether a relationship or friendship because so many people presumed to be friends have let me down and have all rejected me😞
I don’t know why but I don’t love my girlfriend anymore, I don’t know why. I use to love her so much but that love died I don’t understand it. She doesn’t know it yet, can someone explain why this could be? We’ve been together for 5 years already I’m 21
8:57- False! You need to change the wording! Not all parents love their children. I was just reading yesterday about a woman that finally got sentenced for killing her 8 year old child! And if that’s not enough. How about the amount of kids that get abandoned? How many kids are put up for adoption? How many kids are hurt or abused by their parents in many different ways? How many kids are just neglected? I probably could keep going it I really sat down and wrote all this out but I think I made my point!
That being said I do love my God and I am grateful for the fact that he loves me also. But because I’m out of that trauma in my life doesn’t mean it didn’t happen. And it’s almost funny now. Because now my mom doesn’t understand why none of her kids ever call her or even want to be around her!!!
Not fear of being alone. I’m just so tired of being alone while everyone else Is getting married , having kids, even have multiple relationships. I don’t get even one relationship . I’m so tired of “trusting” and waiting
I guess 2023 will be a good year then 😄
whether or not I end up meeting someone, I threw unnecessary pessimism out of the window and put my trust in God 😇
I was just used by my ex again this came he came claiming he was reborn again and he has changed it was all a lie he used me again only this time in the name of my Lord I suffer from depression as it is anyway I had prayed to God for a God feeling man to enter this man heat popping into my mind especially in the morning I would wake with him on my ming I felt pushed to reach out I did he said it was from God he had been praying about a Godly woman he told me thing along the line of he feels I'm the love of his life and all these things convinced me that God doesn't care if we have unmarital sex and I listened and now I'm here in pieces because he dumped me after I feel like Satan has stole my prayer and instead of God answering it Satan used it to hurt me
Isaiah 49:14 Can a woman forget her sucking child, that she should not have compassion on the son of her womb? yea, they may forget, yet will I not forget thee. Romans 8:31 KJV What shall we then say to these things? If God be for us, who can be against us?
Why all the talk about romantic relationships? Not everyone who's in isolation or lonely is looking for love.
In the 70’s and previously, Christians were told to marry young to ensure that they would remain virgins up until marriage. Starting around Gen-X and since, the vast majority of modern people have generally waited longer and longer to marry. When those now-older, married Christians refer to a "season” of singleness, they are referring to a (short) temporary period of time of a few years at most, as what occurred back in their generation. But my life on earth could also be referred to as a “season”. These people who lightly call it a season don’t understand what being single is currently like, the modern dating scene, or how the vast majority of womens’ views on sex, careers and relationships have changed over the last 50 years. I’m 46, and my “season” has lasted 25 years, since I graduated from college. I dated extensively during college, and always assumed I’d meet someone at work or thru the church. Being the genius that I am, I chose a very male-dominated profession, so there were no females to “run my game on” at work. Ha, as if! This wait has made me miserable. Yes, I’m the type of person that enjoys being alone, but only to a degree. I’m also the type of guy that feels he’s a better man when he’s in a relationship. I finally changed my mind and tried Christian Mingle (and on-line dating) for the first time in February ’23 and thought I met a great girl (woman) right away. It took me 10 months and $12K to figure out the whole thing was a scam. That was a great introduction to “Christian Dating”, but given how damaged the majority of non-Christian women are and the degree of sexual promiscuity in the secular dating world, Christian dating is my only hope.
I grew up in the church and sometimes feel like I was mislead when I was younger, like when I was told to be patient and God will deliver you your wife - like she would magically appear at my doorstep once I turned 22. But life doesn’t work like that. I have since learned you have to keep working on yourself and keep evolving, making yourself emotionally and physically "harder" and more interesting to be around. It doesn’t matter what women say, they are attracted to looks, money and intrigue (can he provide a fun and interesting lifestyle?) and research has proven that women looking for relationships are willing to sacrifice the male traits (that most Christian guys viewing this video likely have in abundance) such as being nice, loyal or kind. Those traits don’t make them wet. Older, married Christians have no idea what it is like trying to find, attract and retain a potential partner in today’s on-line dating culture. It’s Sodom and Gomorrah out there! And we’re trying to act in a way that is both pleasing to God and representative of Christ for others.
Hopefully, Christian women are looking for different attributes when dating in that they are more relationship-minded; have higher, Godlier-standards for both themselves and for the men that they date; and are less likely to put up with typical male non-sense (abuse of any kind, cheating, threats of violence, etc.).
I’m looking for a Godly woman who loves God first and foremost, who loves her family second, and has room in her heart for a devoted partner. I’m tired of waiting, so this year I’m putting myself out there, because I know I truly have something to offer the woman that God has set aside for me. I’m looking for a partner that has high expectations for her partner, because I want to meet and exceed them. After college, I recommitted myself to my celibacy. Not that I was a total man-whore in college, but I was seriously-in-love twice while in college and my female partners were less vigilant about their purity than I was, alcohol was involved, but it was still my choice to sin. One day, I will have to apologize to my future-wife and make amends to her. But I’ve gone from 21 years old to 46 without any, and it’s killing me, but I’ve made it this far. I’m not one of those, “I’ve never held a girl’s hand, I’m intimated by them’’ type of guys. I know what I’m missing and that only makes it worse. But I promised God I’d do my best and to this day I've truly done so. I’m looking for a woman that has held herself to a higher standard (that doesn’t mean she has to have been perfect), we are all sinners that come short of the glory of God. But I’m looking for a partner who loves Christ, isn’t afraid to let anyone know that, and is just hopeful that one day God will end her wait. Living in or around Florida or the SE of the U.S. would be a great bonus. I’m also not willing to play any games. I know what I want and I won't settle. I’m looking for a woman who can surprise me, challenge me, make me a better Christian, man, and husband. I also demand your unwavering loyalty for as long as we’re together. I promise I’ll only have eyes for you. Even when we’re old, 80-something, and a pretty twenty-year-old in a bikini walks past us on the beach, I’ll try my best not to look at her. But if I accidentally look, baby it’s because I’m just a weak old man; it doesn’t mean I don’t love you, your body or the years we’ve spent building a shared, life together. I’ll honor you by not ogling her or not turning my head to check out her ass (I’ll save that type of perversion when I’m with my buddies or you're not around). Ha, Ha. In return, I promise not to play any “dating” games myself, I will tell you how I feel, I promise to keep the relationship new and intriguing, will gladly listen to you vent about your day and in solidarity without telling you what to do about . I’ll just listen as a friend and supporter, only offering suggestions when you ask for them. I promise to stay in shape, to never settle in the relationship or let the spark die out. In short, I promise to not take you for granted, no matter how long we’re together.
Today’s male-focused dating advice will say to never tell a woman that you truly love her or she’ll get bored and leave. It’ll say to keep her guessing and having her chase you is the only way to keep her focused and attentive to the relationship. I’m sorry, but I just can’t do that. If you can’t tell by this novel, I say what’s on my mind. I say what I do and do what I say. But if I’m madly in love with a woman, I need her to know that and I will tell her that often. I will say and service her (take that how you may) in many different ways to keep it novel. But she will always know where I am coming from and I want to listen to her needs, wants and dreams. To have a devoted partner to go through life together with is such a beautiful blessing. Currently, I am a lesser man because I can not express that side of me. I continue to pray and ask God to reveal his intentions for my life. I have already moved across the country to Florida to put myself in a more Christ-centered environment and away from some toxic people in my past. This year I am learning how to truly give God control over my life and to let him “drive the car” instead. I pray that all of us who remain single on this day find the contentment in their lives that only Christ Jesus can bring. Having a Christ-follower as a partner, by itself, won’t solve all of your current problems, and you’ll inherit all of your partner's problems (for better or worse); but it will give you someone to share life and the love of Jesus with. God Bless you all.
Christian online dating can work, I know several couples who met online, but it's still definitely not easy.
@@RaeAria It should be much easier (knowing the two set their differences aside and focus on pleasing God), but I guess that only sounds easy. Best of luck (sorry about the above novel).
Be aware of non-reciprocal relationships!
Us people-pleasers and highly empathetic people can get sucked dry with emotional vampires. The honeymoon phase might be exciting as you give to the other person, however, that stage will end and if we cannot get our needs met in return then the relationship will be hellish.
I always think that if its part of God's will for me to be in a romantic relationship with someone and wants me to share with someone then He will make a way for that to happen, if not, then I trust Him and his plan for me. I love being alone as its where I thrive the most.... But I'd also love to spend the rest of my days with a man who loves me the way God created me and who wants to share in life, support in life, and serve God in life as well. Plus its a girl's dream to have her father walk her down the isle one day, my dad has a hard time walking these days so I'm praying for it to happen soon for that reason, but I do trust in the Lord's timing as it is perfect.
Well Mark, # four is definitely me. It's the only one that matches me. I have stayed away from relationships for years now and I'm 37 and I want to be married and I want kids but I just always have a fear that I'm going to meet the wrong person and that they may take advantage of me or be a bad person pretending to be a nice person. I've had it happen so many times. I always have to tell the guy goodbye and block them cuz they won't stop calling after I realize that they're not right for me. No sex is involved it's just a bunch of weirdos that are unequally yoked with me.
I finally get the meaning behind the saying *I'd rather be alone, than be with people who make me feel lonely.*
I'm 37.My family are unbelievers for generations.I along with God have to overcome the impossible
For God nothing is impossible
EXCEPT WHEN YOUR HUSBAND IS A NARCISSIST AND THIS BEHAVIOR FEEDS HIS SUPPLY THAT FUELS YOUR ABUSE!!!
Narcissism is not of God, but of the devil. If your husband is a narcissist, know he will not change unless he totally surrenders his life into the Lord.
As far as the people in my life, I choose quality over quantity.
I guess I’m not going to find anyone if I stay in my room crying all day. Loneliness feels like a punishment.
Hi all, strictly speaking is christian dating biblically accurate or is it just an export of the heathen culture into christianity ?
OR let me rephrase my question: is it okay for christians to date one another ?
The timing of this video!❤️
This always happens with me and Mark's videos. That's how I know the Lord is who led me to subscribe to him and listen often.
Amen! So glad to hear this!
Christian you-tubers sure know how to push the envelope.
Loneliness can make a person desperate. Then one day one realizes how miserable life is with the other person, and it’s time to break up.
I'm not afraid of being alone, I'm afraid of getting to used being alone so much that I forget how to be with someone else.
I been listen to your awesome video so today I subscribed to your beautiful channel 💕 ❤️ 💜
No one has to be alone life is to short.
I'm single and never married. Been in relationship before ( with God fearing man) We planned our marriage etc,etc. But at the end he runs away because i hv problem in my right leg. Lil bit limping when i was walked. But now i don't feel fear to be alone anymore. I hv proper job. I hv Jesus And i choose twice a year to go solo travel and meet new peoples. Regards frm Indonesia
...i don't feel your leg was the Real Reason he left you ... sounds like an Excuse to me.
However ... Divine Healing is available for us , Right? Sooo take advantage of it for your own sake !
Heavenly father I would love to remarry again. It is dumb to think I can live alone.
Thanks for the video but man, trim down the amount of time you spend talking about each point
With that pointing little finger I couldn’t miss the video.
Hi Mark thanks for sharing with us this awesome video I agree with you 💯 percent God bless you and your beautiful family 🙏 🙏
Mark I was in a relationship with someone I thought was the one at first until I realized she wasn’t the best for my mindset because she had cheated on someone with me to begin that relationship. After that started tormenting my mind, we ended up breaking up because she left me for someone else. I was destroyed for years until I saw your video stating that God wouldn’t build a healthy relationship based on that, I honestly believe that your video describing my situation was a sign from God that it really wasn’t meant to be.
Im ready to walk down the road can you hold my hand please
Praise the Lord! ❤
Amen, God is good!
Points #2 & #4 seem to contradict each other. How can I say that I’m content to be alone (#2) while also saying I’ve had enough with being alone (#4)? Otherwise it’s a completely hopeless and circular scenario.