BOUNCING BACK AFTER PREGNANCY IS NOT 'GOALS'
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- Опубликовано: 22 авг 2021
- How many influencers and celebrities have you seen who 'bounced back'... like a day after giving birth? I know i've seen SO many influencers on Instagram who make sure that in every picture they post with their new baby, you can see just how tiny and flat their stomach is. But it's like... why tho? In my humble opinion, bouncing back or having a flat stomach soon after giving birth is not a goal. It's not an achievement and its not something to be admired.
Yes, it's totally normal for a lot of women to snap back into the shape they were pre-pregnancy, and there's absolutely nothing wrong with that! However for a lot women, that ISN'T their reality, and no matter how hard they try, their body never looks the same again. Treating bouncing back or having a flat stomach soon after giving birth as a goal or something to be admired, can lead the women who DIDN'T bounce back, to feel like there's something wrong with them, or that their body failed them. When in fact, there is no one way for a woman to look after pregnancy. Some regain their pre-pregnancy figure almost immediately, and others don't. The problem for the ones that don't, is that society and social media make out that there's something wrong with that - when there isn't.
There's nothing wrong with having children, and your body LOOKING like you've had children. No matter what you look like after having your kiddos, know that you are PERFECT.
I love you!
Remember, nourish yourself and love yourself. You deserve to feel amazing.
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Being mentally and emotionally healthy after pregnancy is goals!
This 🙌
YES!!!! I don't have kids but i have a cousin who just gave birth a month ago and she is pressuring herself to go back to her pre-partum body. I told her that should not be her focus, it should be recovering and being healthy.
Agreed! Often this " body positivity" focus neglects looking at the WHOLE person, its still focusing on the body.
Facts
Amen to this
My grandmother told me that I needed to focus on loosing baby weight when I was 5 days postpartum. I told her that I was going to focus on healing my vagina instead 😂
😂 great answer!
😂😂😂👏👏
you go girl
😅
Nice comeback 😜
When I had my child and was worried about still having my belly. My Health Visitor said "it takes you nine months to make a baby, give yourself 9 months or a little more to recover your body" it was one of the best bits of advice I got concerning my body.
All men need to see this as well. I snapped at my husband for bringing up how long it took me to "snap back"
He was very apologetic, but seeing these influencers losing the weight so quick can warp reality for even our DH
Yes!! 🙌🏻
I wouldn’t want to be married to a man that looked at female Instagram influencers. That’s a man child.
@@Discordia5 louder for those in the back
@@Discordia5 dude omg thank you for saying this! It’s difficult to try to live up to unrealistic expectations.
I am so glad you stood up for yourself. That's fucked.
This channel is everything women need.
Men should see this, too.
💯 ❤️
💯 agree & I show her vids to him.
I feel like more men should see this as well. They are the ones pushing theses unattainable body standards onto us.
hello
ehh how did I get here
The way that you talk about women gives me so much joy, just celebrating women for being women and loving all their ‘imperfections’ I love it
You talk like womens are perfect angels... this kinda thinling is littlebit toxic and makes women be anble to use men for child support and false rape accusations
@@justadudewholikestotalk your arms must really hurt from that exceptional reach
@@justadudewholikestotalk Troll much?
@@justadudewholikestotalk So you read a comment about celebrating women's physical imperfections and not forcing them to be skinny and look like supermodels and somehow thought that meant something about falsely accusing guys of rape and anything to do with child support. How did you reach that conclusion? Who's being toxic in this scenario? Spoiler.... it's not the people commenting about celebrating women no matter how they look.
Yes 💯💯💯💯
I'm literally not even a minute into this video and I honestly love how it's started - "society tells women have a baby but don't look like you had a baby". So much truth in that one sentence
The model who looks like she’s going to drop the baby makes me sad. She looks the opposite of being a proud new mother.
That's because she took the photo with the purpose of showing off her hot bod while the baby is merely a prop, as you can see by the way it is dangling off one arm. Truly shameful and sad
Yeah, did she really have a baby? I wonder...
I’m a physiotherapist specialist in pelvic floor issues, pre and post partum rehab.
And it’s absolutely insane the amount of girls that expect to go back to their “normal” body and they feel really ashamed because of their bodies.
We have to chage this! In social media and in real life!
But if we do snap back why can’t we be happy about it ? I did with both . I just carried baby I didn’t over indulge etc and within 3 weeks my tummy was flat and now I’m feeling like I can’t be happy about it . Influencers annoy me there one fitness girl who let her self go during pregnancy and promotes it ok it ok now she struggling from doing so and now saying that’s ok to , it’s like go away . If it weren’t for you people porting a roller coaster of things people my actually listen to them selves and know them selves for once instead of following other strangers
@@TheMonkiBrothers that’s the point!!!
Everyone is different and postpartum will be different in each of them. And that’s ok! It’s normal!!
We have to normalize it!!
It’s perfect to snap back too!! But it’s also normal to need so much more time to get there. And some times they will never get there again. The most important is to be HEALTHY AND TAKE CARE ABOUT THEIR SELF.
No-one's saying you can't feel good about it, she's saying that it shouldn't be treated as a Zero Sum situation where if you're a woman who doesn't snap back, the message is that you've failed.
Stephanie's point is that making anything about birth recovery into a competitive or prestige environment is deeply unwise, & something which can further damage women in an already incredibly vulnerable time.
She's just campaigning for a more realistic representation of the spread of experiences, that's all.
If you snapped back, you _know_ you did good. You don't need more affirmation, from this one video.
But women who couldn't or can't _do_ need
recognition & validation, for their more common but less represented experience.
On that note I hope more and more woman open up about prolapses, I had no idea what it was even after I had them! Normalize pelvic floor health 👏🏻
People should be left alone on their preferences!!
Just growing a human and delivering that human into the world IS goals.
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i love this comment
Very nicely put 👏💜💜💜
Except for those of us who don't want kids. 😉
yeah like the world isnt populated enough
I don't even have kids, and I love this content. Feeling like a failure after bringing life into this world is not what we need as women. ❤️
Can we also talk about how pregnancy is INCREDIBLY draining on the body, and people who have just had a baby need to nourish themselves with food and rest?? Underfeeding yourself and over-exercising after pregnancy is TERRIBLE treatment of your body. You are allowed to look like you had a baby, and to rest and eat as much as you need!
i think people forget that having a baby is traumatic so to return to the person you were before the pregnancy, both physically and/or mentally, is pretty unlikely.
Not to mention so many women having postpartum depression
@@zmunchkin it's not actually the process of having a baby in itself that is traumatic, it has more to do with the way we're treated during birth. look into obstetric violence, along with how midwives and doulas improve birth outcomes.
I’m not a mum (yet) but I’m so glad that people like you exist on RUclips Steph 💕 10 years ago magazines would have made me think I needed to “bounce back” in the future. I’m so grateful I can go into motherhood one day with excellent role models like you to make me feel normal about my body!
Being older this definitely was a thing in my 20's its so refreshing seeing this content now
My mom throughout my childhood was always so proud of her body. She gave birth naturally to my sister at 8lbs, me the runt at barely 5lbs, and my bowling ball of a brother at 10lbs. She is a TINY woman. She has her pooch, stretch marks, and loose skin to this day and has never once felt ashamed of it and she absolutely glows in my eyes. Mothers are beautiful and deserve to be celebrated! Having a baby is HARD, whether you had your baby by c section or naturally. Both are super hard on the body. Please be kind, patient, and loving to yourselves moms!
just because a person got knocked up and had a child that doesn’t equate to them being beautiful, neither internally nor externally.
Wow, great for your mom
This! My mom gave birth to all of us 7 siblings naturally and she's one of the toughest woman physically and mentally. I strive to be like her.
@@talienatte5557 ooo sourpuss
@@talienatte5557 No one said that. You just sound jealous.
"This is the only body I'm ever going to have and I refuse to let anybody shame me for it." I can live happy with the help of only this one line now 💕
I’m a postpartum personal trainer and I help my clients focus on getting their strength back because of the symptoms that can develop after pregnancy such as diastasis recti, organ prolapses, pelvic floor dysfunctions, back pain, shoulder pain, neck pain, incontinence etc. That is important and we should talk more about that, the reality of what happens, not to be ashamed and find resources. Pelvic floor therapist should be in every hospital just like lactation consultants. By the way getting back into shape doesn’t mean get back to the gym as soon as possible!!! Let your body heal, let the uterus and internal organs go back to normal which is about 6 weeks and enjoy bonding with your baby ❤️
The thumbnail alone says Emily what’s-her-face needs to focus less on her body and more on holding her baby properly.
Literally it looks like shes holding an accessory 😭 not a tiny delicate human
Lmao she got roasted for days when she shared that photo. She had to turn comments off.
Please don’t mum shame. It’s as bad as body shaming.
I understand that she has her own bikini line to run & promote but I really think that posting a picture while holding her own baby like a bag of groceries for the purpose of marketing her own clothing brand was just not it.
@@jadenpetersburg1431 I will absolutely mom shame that.
Its sad to see that women hate themselves after pregnancy. Even though I've never seen them, I know they're beautiful in the inside and outside.
"the belly can stay as long as it wants as far as I'm concerned"
Just love you for this sentence
This actually made me burst into tears hearing women speak about their bodies that way. I have an 8yr old. I had her in my first year of college. So young.
I thought i bounced back immediately after giving birth (like my stomach dropped and deflated immediately that it was COMMENTED ON BY THE STAFF AND MY EX) due to my age. But all this pressure to keep a “Normal” postpartum body has been stressing me out and im actually terrified to get pregnant again!!! Im terrified and its all thanks to society and the pressure BOTH MEN AND WOMEN PUT ON US! Men are the worst tho not gonna lie! All my life ive heard guys talk sh!t about how they women’s pu$$y is gross and never the same after giving birth, how nasty their bodies are and how after their girl gives them their kids they want to trade her for a better model. The make comments about leaving their partner if they dont look good post-baby and work on their appearance. Meanwhile, there is something that only ELECTIVE SURGERY can fix- i dont see him saying he’ll work 3 jobs to pay for those elective surgeries to help her out IF she choses to have things “put back like before”.
The comments made me cry 💔💔💔. I have body dysmorphia so im unaware of what i look like and can only go by comments from ppl. I cant figure out my own facial features if u paid me. I also know the comments i have said about my body- when i feel bloated or tired. Its hard disease to explain but my internal feelings make me see something else in the mirror (i think). So the whole “having another baby” scares me to death.
Those type of men are the literal scum of the Earth and aren't mature enough to deal with a *real* woman. Nor do they deserve one, especially if she goes through all that to give him children!!!
I had a girl I went to high school with be very successful in being a Beach Body Coach. She was a cheerleader all through school. Always very athletic. Her husband played pro baseball and they already had a nice little nest egg. She started coaching and made a lot of money from it. When she would have her babies (she has 3 kids), she would have her, "before" pictures in her sales pitches be literally a week after she gave birth and her, "after" would be 6 months later...abs and all. She did this with all three pregnancies. I would get FURIOUS every single time because she would insinuate she, "let herself go" and got her body through Beach Body.
@@anaj9346 She lied and insinuated she gained weight...not trying to lose baby weight. She didn't mention she was pregnant in most of the posts. That's the problem I have. I'm not hating on anyone.
@@shannahill7 sounds like she missed an opportunity. She probably would have made more money of she had mentioned she was pregnant & she used her program to loose the baby weight.
@@anaj9346 you clearly missed the point of Stephanie's video(s). It is about loving who you are and not comparing women which I never Did. I was calling out someone for being a liar.
I needed this. Currently a month postpartum and been feeling awful about myself. I set unrealistic expectations for myself to “bounce back” by now and it’s been getting to me that I haven’t. Literally in tears seeing all the beautiful ladies you showed postpartum. All these ladies are still so beautiful even with postpartum bellies/bodies and it’s completely normal, and is a reminder I needed to see. Thank you ❤️
You are beautiful 😍 do you have any idea how amazing you are to have brought a whole new being into this world with your body? You’re amazing 🔥🔥
I promise you that bouncing back isn't everything, read my comment and you'll understand that you are as beautiful as anybody else, also what you've done is the most beautiful thing in the world, you brought a new life into the world that will bring so much love with it and that's what we really need, more love 💜💜💜
Sending a virtual hug. Try looking in the mirror holding baby. You are beautiful and you created another beautiful, always see that. Never feel ashamed of any part of you, you are a beautiful Mom.
This first little bit of time (like 3 months) is all about survival and learning and loving your baby. Feed yourself and care for yourself in all ways because you need to stay your best so that you can give to your baby. You aren't even recovered from giving birth a month in! Give yourself rest and love.
It took me about a year to fit back in my clothes and that's okay. If that's what happens for you that's okay too. In the grand scheme of things babies are only babies for a short amount of time. Focus on your little because that's what's really important. Not what anyone else thinks of your body. 💜
Am also 10 months postpartum and felt just the way you did watching this. It's a comfort that babies are just so darn cute at this age.
I was pregnant at age 37 and gave birth at 38. I gained 24 kgs. I lost most of the weight but the last 9 kgs just by eating healthy. The last 9kgs I had to run. As I was running I decided I might as well train for a race. I picked the Sydney City-to-Surf (14kms). I ran the race a year to the month after te birth of my son and finally lost the 9kgs. But I had to train real hard for the race. I was proud of myself. I gave myself a full year and did it with healthy eating and running 5 times a week for 6 months.
It's so sad that we are conditioned to feel bad about looking like we've had a baby isn't it!? Society says we glow and look beautiful while we're pregnant, even admiring our lovely round bellies, but the minute that baby is out society says we look fat n tired! And that incredible belly that grew a human being now has to look like it never did! It's sad even balloons don't look the same after they've been blown up and deflated and nor do we expect them to but society still expects women to show no signs of being stretched out like that for months! We need to be much kinder to ourselves and others ❣️❣️
Who is this awful society who keeps saying these things?! Stay away from that person!
@@littleflor2975 almost all men 😂
Thank you
@@erin9110 💕
The rehab after pregnancy actually is pretty hard for all women . The pelvic floor goes through hell .. start with the pelvic floor because women still have pain years after childbirth that causes a lot of women to not be able to be very active on top of exhaustion .
That is not only childbirth- after having a child your body is creating hormones that makes your sleep lighter - that will affect your stamina as well
Also kegels is the only exercise i'll do earlier pp with this 2nd baby, because i peed myself when sneezing for almost 3 years pp with my first (where i neglected my pelvic floor), also i once had this amazing idea to get on a trampoline with my son.....and i pissed myself, yey. If kegels aren't enough, there are pelvic floor specialists out there to help. Peeing yourself isn't supposed to be normal!
@@gg_ingy if that continues to happen meet with a pelvic floor physical therapist. It sticks, but there's ways to fix it. Although its common, it's not how it's supposed to be.
@@mrspokitstheriot477 I fixed it with doing kegels, but half a year later and i'm pregnant again, so off we go again in a few months. The only time i peed myself now, was when violently puking in first trimester, but i think that's normal. Even after i just peed, somehow more got squeezed out when throwing up.
A friend of mine fractured her pelvis with her first and was still asked what she was doing to lose the baby weight. It's madness
I haven't even had a baby and I feel like this helped me get over postpartum body goals lol loved this video stephanie 🙂
Aw I love that ❤️
Thank you for the supportive tone and for the passion you put into making moms feel better about themselves. I just wanted to add that it is not just the social media world. I myself got body shamed by my husband's 93 year old grand aunt for not having a flat stomach after giving birth. I think this obsession has much deeper roots.
As a mother of 5 and naturally skinny my entire life, I feel the need to share. With 1 child I gained over 60 lbs and took about a year to go back to my normal size, with another I was in my low cut jeans the whole pregnancy and fit back into regular fit/sizes 4 days later... The rest of the kids were middle ground... But with all of them I didnt over or under eat. Just ate when I was hungry and more fruits veggies..etc. But still a normal daily food intake.. All my children were 8lbs+ so healthy and good sized.. But yes women need to realize that bodys change all ways.. Oh and for added information, I may be the same size in general but i will always have stretch marks, cellulite, looser skin, baby pooch..to some degree. I absolutely love these videos! Sooo refreshing to see this content type . keep up the great work!
I’ve not even had a child, but when I see celebs posting these type of pics with their baby my mind just 🤯!!
Same
Dear mamas,
YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL THE WAY YOU ARE! It makes me sad that we as a society have grown to hate ourselves for what is NATURAL! Keep loving on these women girl! I know you are healing someone every single day.
@FunFactFunFactFunFact no it’s men
You are a doll for what you do. honestly, I love this channel. Someone needs to speak the truth ! I am 53 and I lived this fear for so many years and not one woman spoke out. I am so happy that their are voices like yours out there for all of the younger generations. Thank you !
Growing a human is an amazing gift and I never ever want to make myself feel like I’m any less for not “snapping back”. Thank you Steph❤️❤️❤️ Spread the word!
I haven't given birth and my body looks exactly like yours after giving birth so as you were saying we are all different and should embrace our uniqueness
The realest comment in here 💕
I am not a mother, but this is my favourite video that you've made so far. Moms are absolute SUPER HEROS for having & raising us. They should never be made to feel ugly when recovering from one of the toughest physical and mental things a human body can go through (making another human). Any moms out there are powerhouses, thank you for all you do.
Love that you are promoting these very positive sentiments towards women’s bodies. Women’s bodies of all types are beautiful…. And let’s start glorifying the beautiful bodies of mothers! It’s an amazing miracle to carry and birth a child. ♥️
This “achievement” is Fuelling EDs
Thank you, thank you, thank you! I cried watching this. I’ve had 3 children and have hated my stomach for years….I am otherwise thin and fit but my stomach still carries evidence of pregnancy and childbirth. I went so far as to have a consult with a plastic surgeon but opted not to have surgery. Watching this video made me feel so good about myself. I had 3, 9 pound babies and did not have any form of pain relief ……completely natural. That is what I will take pride in.
I love that you bring awareness to this! It's not right. There's nothing wrong with weight, extra weight. I think age has a lot to do with it. I had my first at 17 and within a week never looked pregnant...I was still a kid. My next was at 30 I was putting on weight already and I really struggled with that. Woman need to embrace their bodies no matter what they are. I'm trying to do that.
Age has nothing to with it.
@@jennyh.2381 it does in that it is easier for a younger body to bounce back than an older one in general. But even within that, every person will vary and every pregnancy is different
Oh yes, it does. It is a factor. Not the only factor, but given same lifestyles, the younger one will fare better.
A young body, with more collagen, higher metabolism and better muscle tone (exclusive of exercise, just counting the natural advantages of youth), will "snap back" better than an older one.
Mine are 8 years apart, I gained no weight with the first (meaning PP weight... I always find it ridiculous that everybody uses pregnancy weight as an indicator, when the baby, the fluids, the enlarged uterus make up most of it!).
On the other hand, I had no access to a supportive bra the first time, so that pregnancy did more damage there.
Youth is not everything, but you can't deny its physical advantages.
There's nothing wrong with striving to be your best self and living a healthy lifestyle!
Love this. I am almost 40 and not a mom but I totally understand and appreciate you helping people see that our bodies are normal and beautiful. If I ever do have kids having watched this will help me before I go down the negative path. Please keep posting videos, you are breath of fresh honest air in this not so honest world.
Admiring your body that held a new human inside is *GOALS!* Love yourself as much as you love your child.
it's so sad to see queens hating themselves :(
like pls all of us deserve the best!! Love yourself angels 💜
It's this kind of mindset and positivity that we need to surround ourselves with rather than unrealistic expectations. I found this video (and this community) so uplifting!!😘😘🙌💕💕💕
Thank you stephanie for this kind of information, it helps a lot of people to see and realize that we are pushing ourselves so much for something like "beauty standards" when in fact we are all beautiful in our own unique ways..you go girl, also, this will help a lot of those teens who are still figuring themselves out
When you're feeding another human being and also being a woman with hormones, and the stress and pain that goes with that carrying a child, your body is absolutely going to change, you're 100% correct we should be proud of it, even without being pregnant, we shouldn't be a shamed of it at all.
Thank you very much for posting this, I’m 6 months pregnant with my second child. I have been feeling trapped in my body and just not liking how my body is looking. I do have to be grateful for the life Im able to give and know I can always do something about it. Just thank you! 🙏 from the bottom of my heart ❤️ 🥺 you posted it in a perfect time.
Thank you. After having two children, I thought I felt confident with my body. But I'm watching this video and I'm crying. I didn't realize that I was hiding my complexes so deeply. Thank you. Now it's easier for me to fully accept my body ❤️
I am so glad you say these kinds of things. It’s hard not to fall into your own mind body shaming yourself. You are such a blessing! Thank you!
Thank you for your channel, your attitude, your activism and content. Your passion for women and prioritizing health and thriving in reality (rather than being sucked into the silly and superficial mock-up that the internet and social media have brought us) is so needed.
Alot of celebs are underweight so thats how they " bounce" back as a mom of 2 it really sucks that society expects us to have no stretch marks or loose skin its totally normal and worth it
I’m so appreciative of all your positivity and realism 💗 As someone who struggles with body image / in recovery from an ED and who is in the process starting a family, your channel has been so incredibly encouraging in so many ways 🥰
Thanks so much for saying this! I’m 5 months postpartum and it has been a STRUGGLE to accept my new body. Can’t tell you how much it helped me to hear this :) you’re the best! ❤️💕😘
Thank you Stephanie!! I always know that I am going to walk away from your videos feeling ok about my body, my face, my life (whatever it is you happento be talking about).. And, in a world where people condemn/criticize everything, that is sorely needed!! Much love to you and your beautiful family ✌🏽❤
You're so amazing, stephanie! You make a lot of girls and women feel better about themselves!😊💓
I don't know why society expects women to look skinny and totally flawless after giving birth! C'mon! Giving birth is not easy, so what if she's fat or has stretch marks!
35 weeks pregnant, and I needed to hear all of this. Thanks for helping mommas love their momma bodies❤❤❤
Your videos have been SO helpful to me! I’ve struggled with self-image issues for years and until your videos, I realize how women are ACTUALLY supposed to look! We’re not supposed to be perfect and that’s beautiful! Thank you SO much for what you do and please continue doing it! :)
Idk but coming up in this channel is so much relaxing hearing or knowing that you're not only one for those STARS out there are also having them but have covered them up well than us.
Stephanie - I’m loving your content. I always have but I like that you’ve been mixing things up lately. Thank you for being the positive human you are!
Remember, beauties of ALL shapes, sizes, ages, colors, and life stages:
The Beauty Industry depends on your insecurities for survival-this is why they’re ever working to create, intensify, and sustain them!! Go ahead and buy the products you like, but PLEASE don’t buy their hurtful messages.
You happened to be in my suggestions and i watched.
Good for you, letting people know influencers shouldn't make you feel bad about yourself.
And to all mom's who didn't bounce back they way they would like.
If you are trying to be reasonably healthy please don't stress about this.
You brought life into the world.
Be proud of your body that brought a life into the world. Stretch marks, loose skin, etc.
Stop comparing yourself to anyone else.
Be your best you, not a clone of an anomoly.
Bless ladies who bounce back.
I've heard keto helps.
Be gentle and kind with yourself.
And thanks for making these videos to let women like me know celebs and influencers have tricks and help looking amazing.
YES to all of this. Just yes. I've never given birth and I am not sure I ever will, but I really appreciate you making this. It's so refreshing to hear a different, REALISTIC narrative about postpartum women's bodies, and women's bodies in general. Thank you!
Here I am , at 37 weeks pregnant and my body is cooking up a whole ass human. I will take my time to heal this body thank you very much.
Thissss 🙌👊❤️
@@stephanielange ❤
I had my son quite young and I was very slim to begin with. My body "bounced back" with a week or two. However, now I'm older and have gained some weight from not really taking care of myself. If I were to have a baby today my body would definitely react differently, I'm sure of it. Hopefully, I'd be wise enough to give myself grace. Thank you for these types of videos 💕
Girl, you have a MISSION! Your videos are like free therapy! Thank you!!!!!!!!!!!
Omg I needed to hear this today. Thank you so much for posting this. You are incredibly amazing. I've been struggling with my body shape/diastasis recti/and weight since my son was born via emergency C-section 8 years ago. I've always been a pretty slim person with a short torso and 5'3 and after having my son my body changed and watching these influencers and celebrities "lose the baby weight" and look perfect really plays with your mind in such a negative way. Your videos are a breath of fresh air and I go back and watch a lot of them when I'm feeling crappy about my body, just to remind myself that there's always "an app for that" to slim your body and legs and it's not real. And what these influencers post is not always what they really look like. Again thank you so much. I appreciate you! Everyone should remember to Be Beautiful, Be Confident, Be You. You are beyoutiful 💖💖
I swear you are the body positivity influencer we ALL need. Children or not! After watching your videos I am so pumped! I can take on the world
These videos have helped me so much mentally. I was struggling with my appearance the last couple years and was finding flaws about myself I didn’t see before social media. Thank you! For reminding us, social media isn’t real and that we’re all beautiful. ❤️
Thank you. Thank you so much for this. I am 36 weeks with my first, and have already been stressing with my postpartum body. I didn’t gain much weight during pregnancy, but have stressed about stretch marks, extra skin, all that stuff. The stress and pressure put o women and their perfect bodies is insane. This is exactly what I needed to hear.
honestly, props to steph. like i don't even want to be a mom, but this video is amazing. she's so honest, detailed, and touches on the issues that really get echoed all over social media about this. it's so important!
I love her content!! It literally makes me feels so confident even though this specific one doesn’t apply to me it still helps to see that celebs are people to and we all have flaws and insecurities. Just remember you are beautiful and if nobody had told you today you are perfect ☺️
Even tho I’m very young to have a baby, these kinds of videos has improved my self confidence and how I view how my body looks. Honestly without you i think I would be very very unhappy with my body, so thank you for everything you’ve done to me! I love you💋
Thank you for all the work you’re doing. It is so important for all mums to see that. Especially in these times when social media hit us with all the profiles and pictures like that. Sometimes one can bare with it but not always and mums after giving birth are quite vulnerable. Thanks!
Like, like, like! I don’t have children and don’t really want any but I’m still so here for the postpartum mums, rocking their incredible, life-giving bodies!
4 years after labor and I haven't "snapped back" its not in my genes. And not in my cards being a single mom. Hard process to accept that this is just what I look like now.
You're doing really good work here, it's so sad to see all these beautiful women hate themselves just because some other people choose to be fake and lie for money and attention
I'm having a baby next week and I really needed to hear this. Thanks for being a truly possitive influence. ❤️
Stephhhhh man you really are awesome. I've just recently started watching your vids and I'm bloody stoked I found ya. I'm not a mum but even still, you shed a perfect light on very important topics surrounding not only women but we as human beings. You are the type of person that deserves a platform to continue spreading positivity and THE FACTS. Thank you for what you're doing xxx
Your positivity is infectious, Steph!
Thank you for this video, it literally made me tear up, I'm struggling accepting my post baby body after 1 year of giving birth, and when you said that we were amazing no matter what, it just got me. THANK YOU!
Thankyouuu!!! 💖💖💖 looking like you had a baby should be celebrated and even women who snap back they show you what they look like on their best day!! That’s the problem with any photos on social media it’s only what people look like on their best day
Thank you for doing this video. I'm a mom of 2 and I have lost confidence in myself after giving birth to my kids because of what my body looks like now. Watching your video helped me regain confidence and I feel better about myself and feel inspired. I will continue watching your videos because I love them alot. You rock! Thank you for all you do!
Thank you so much for this. I had two kids in under two years and the pressure is impossible to be a 35 year old mum and lose all that weight and tone right back up as if nothing happened. I am a single mum of two beautiful Autistic children and I've learnt from them it's okay to be perfectly me instead of perfect.
I’m not a mom and I am incredibly young (also never plan on having kids), but I am so glad I am here. I have followed your channel for ages and I just want to say that you were and continue being an incredible support for me in my self love journey. I am so happy that I found you all those years ago and that I am still here to watch your channel grow into a safe space for all these women. I just want to say that you are an incredible person doing an incredible job and that we are lucky to have you on this earth.
lol incredibly young? if youre old enough to type youre not incredibly young
you will either change your mind when you see no point in living without children or be incredibly miserable. Said every very young person that later saying so they'd be happy never having children LOL
Thank you so much for recording those videos!!!
I gained 30kg(60lbs) after my pregnancy and I’m huge now. All my belly is covered in stretch marks. Sometimes I hate myself, I cry, I just want my pre pregnancy body back and I always forget that this body gave me my son. Thank you ; you’re amazing
Very late to the commenting game here, but I've watched this video a couple of times simply because I love your content. With this one specifically, I love how you explain the reasons why a woman's body might not "snatch back" into its original layout, how your body shape and torso size contribute to the changes in physique caused from your pregnancy, and of course the reiteration of loving yourself and your body as it is in all its stages of life. You're so well spoken and I honestly wish your videos were longer, but not because there is stuff missing. I just enjoy the content. You clearly do your research and work really hard towards proving your points in an unbiased and positive way. You're just a great content creator and a great person. Thank you for all of the work that you do!
Excellent one....
I had an emergency C section and oh didn't bounce back in a month. More like in 6 months.
As my grandma said...as many months you have been carrying him, that many months you will need to get back.
It is horrible what society, media, social platforms etc expect from woman
.even.worse that many will do it....
"This is my body. This is the only body I'll ever gonna have" 👏👏👏👏
That is the sentence that helped me also... with my self esteem issues.
I say it every time my brain wants to think negativ about myself.
This is so important! You are an absolute diva! Kudos for actually taking the pains to do real research and share legit knowledge on such issues!!
I am not even post-partum or pregnant or even planning to, but I just love all of those videos about this topic, it makes me feel good. Thanks Stephanie.
I’m glad RUclips recommended this. I “bounced back” after my first baby without doing anything, so I assumed that would happen with my second. It didn’t and it’s been pretty upsetting sometimes. Now I’m trying to get back in shape with exercise and diet changes and I know I’m never going to look the same, but it’s incredibly rewarding to feel stronger and healthier because of my efforts, instead of some magical “bouncing back.”
To be honest, when you mentioned the c-tuck, I immediately had the thought that I need to find out how I can do that. Even after watching an entire video about loving our bodies as they are and after spending the last 10 months growing to love my post partum body, I still had the snap reaction to "fix" my body. I've come a long way, but I need to work on loving myself under any circumstances.
I am sure you look lovely and you should be proud of it!
Thank you for spending your time to touch on this subject…it’s been 7 years and I will never have the body I did before. The first two years were hard but I learned that I’m still beautiful regardless of how I felt with my new body… watching this video has given me more validation to keep loving myself even when it’s hard. All you other moms out there, I’m happy you are alive and I’m happy to say that you too are beautiful with the badge of mommy hood. Because it is a badge of honor. We should feel honored to have our bodies. Society made us think otherwise from a very young age, fight the system!!!! Lol
You're doing great, important work with these videos! As women, we're burdened with so much shame about our natural, beautiful, amazing bodies. Love that you're fighting against these harmful expectations.
I needed this. 33 weeks with my third (3 kids in 5 years) and I was staring at myself in the mirror feeling depressed and puffy thinking about how I won't be able to "bounce back" as fast.
Aww this was great. I’m 9 weeks postpartum and I’m doing all that I can to tame my mind from destroying my self image.
With all that a body goes through to birth a child, I’m surprised people aren’t split into two.
The content you share is absolutely worth it!
I'm glad for your series for self confidence. It shows the unrealistic pressures that people place on women's bodies.
WE NEED MORE PEOPLE WHO MAKE SENSE LIKE THIS YOUNG LADY . GREAT JOB !
The comments in the beginning of the video are so heartbreaking (I think if you do this with your other videos is going to be great because it shows we are not alone in the pain most of us feel). Thank you for making this videos, I'm sure you are helping a lot of people by posting it !
I had a conversations with my best friend about that and she said she is afraid to have a baby because her body would change and she does not want that which is very sad considering the fact that women are literally bringing another human life into this planet. This on his own is beyond magic. Let's normalize the NORMAL !
I randomly saw one of these videos from this RUclipsr not expecting much but I love these videos because they are so good and they actually show the real truth.
This is honestly the most comforting video I have ever seen🥺🥺 thank you thank you thank you for this. I am 2 months pregnant and already have a baby pouch. I’ve lost a lot of weight just last year and never really got to enjoy being fit. I am now pregnant and honestly completely terrified of never being able to enjoy the body I’ve had in the last year. But this video has reminded me and probably a lot of girls out their that yes your body will look different but end of the day we’ve created life🥺 that’s beautiful and the scars and marks and the belly afterwards is a trophy of that🥰💕💕💕 so thank you❤️❤️❤️