First, sending you hugs from a fellow human who has lost both parents. And second, thank you for validating my aversion to "I'm sorry". Have you found something else that feels better?
@@maremchale What I try to do it make the person feel less alone by letting them know I can relate but in a way that doesn’t make it about me. When people do this for me it means so much more than just saying I’m sorry.
This is so true, plus they are afraid of saying the wrong thing. At any time of year I just love to hear my husbands name even though it has been quite a few years.
I never say I'm sorry to peoples losses. I always say please know I'm thinking of you it seems to work for me and hopefully them too. I also try to remember that even years later some aquaintances may not be aware that he has passed, if somebody asks me something and right away it feels inappropriate I pretty well know that they don't know and this has always turned out to be the case.
That looks like a great room! A fireplace?? 🤩 I can just imagine you hauling a Xmas tree into the hotel but I love it 😂
Right?! Chucked it under my arm and off I went 🤣🤣
The Christmas tree and lights made it soooo cozy 🥰
I’m no stranger to grief and people saying they are sorry always makes me feel pitied. I lost my mom when I was 23 and my dad almost 4 yrs ago.
First, sending you hugs from a fellow human who has lost both parents. And second, thank you for validating my aversion to "I'm sorry". Have you found something else that feels better?
@@maremchale What I try to do it make the person feel less alone by letting them know I can relate but in a way that doesn’t make it about me. When people do this for me it means so much more than just saying I’m sorry.
The few people I associate with seem terrified to talk about my husband. They are protecting themselves not me!
That’s so true. ❤️
This is so true, plus they are afraid of saying the wrong thing. At any time of year I just love to hear my husbands name even though it has been quite a few years.
I never say I'm sorry to peoples losses. I always say please know I'm thinking of you it seems to work for me and hopefully them too.
I also try to remember that even years later some aquaintances may not be aware that he has passed, if somebody asks me something and right away it feels inappropriate I pretty well know that they don't know and this has always turned out to be the case.
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