You need to dramatically lower your expectations. If you are dealing with a true, diagnosable narcissist you are alone. There is a human body present, but you are still by yourself.
I have. But honestly the hurt and disappointment is just as much, if not more than before, I lowered my expectations, to what i thought zero, but apparently not. I don't think that the hope will ever go away, that there is some respect, decency, humanity... there??? And since learning about narcissism, the fear and anxiety of his possible and most likely future (more) disrespect, manipulation, revenge, smear campaign is almost too much to bear. The not being able to know what you can trust that he says is so anxiety filled and exhausting. I still feel in danger response, even though we dont live together 😮💨We have 2 young adult children together. I think that it is more about getting healthier yourself... loving and trusting yourself than lowering your expectations.
@@Lisa19000 "playball" I'm looking at your name and I immediately thought that narcissist's are not team player's. I think full acceptance of the not nice fact that the narcissist can only change for the worse never for the better can help in our healing. Narcissist's are compulsive liars and cheats whether they are low or high level and they all take their partner's for granted in a shocking way, it's the nature of the beast. We all got ourselves into this mess and it's our responsibility to get ourselves out.🕊💪
I give myself and find anyone who is narcissistic becomes irrelevant to me,they are not worth an extra thought, am learning boundaries with my husbands behaviour, he had the most awful early life, it impacts in later years,thankyou ❤
Yes not reacting to the ignorant, arrogant narcissist is very hard we just have to keep practising, we are learning a new way of behaving around them by trying to break the reactive pattern that our original narcissist basically brainwashed us into.
I deal with a father that is a really stubborn narcissist. He gaslights, puts me down , adds side comments all the time, controlling, he threatens and smiles while doing it. Even if I walk away he'll follow me into my room to corner me and finish what he wanted to say with insults putting me down more making me feel like Absolute crap. Even at some point was smiling and laughing when I'm upset and in tears ask why would he laugh when im teying to talk to him and he says " because I enjoy it" . After that incident I've been looking to videos trying my best to help myself and found you. It's helped me a lot, i still struggle with him though since I'm stuck living in the same home as him... I'm hoping one day I'll save enough and move to be free of him. For now these lessons have helped me love myself and get a little more confident on how to respond. And for that I thank you and keep doing what you are doing to help people.
Is not easy at all, ive tried my possible best but always falls cos i have to deal with it. Co parenting. Manipulate, no how to get me angry then later say im gaslighting her. Sometimes I feel like im at fault when i know i haven't done anything wrong. Thanks. Your videos are very good.
My mil had zero empathy for me when I was ill & even less empathy for her sick adoptive mum decades ago. She was toxic bk then & is still toxic now. She was unfeeling bk then & somehow expects me to feel for her when she is more elderly now. Toxicity nvr changes even when one grows older. She is looking to dump stuff on me when I am already permanently ill & struggling to raise my special needs kid & be there for my dementia mum. Now tt she is v old, she wants my help but I don’t have any to give to her. It’s too little too late bcos I am already ill & cannot ever recover. She gloated when I first got sick & now she wants my help. My answer is a resounding NO. Not on my life… or whatever is left of it.
1 Peter 4:14 If ye be reproached for the name of Christ, happy are ye; for the spirit of glory and of God resteth upon you: on their part he is evil spoken of, but on your part he is glorified.
Hi Stephanie can i think that it is convenient to call others narccissitic when others are passionate in what they think is right not to have recovery language, just becos they do not believe it the way i believed , and then i am the sturbborn narcissist, basically that if a leader who do not believe in the value of good practice of recovery language, does this leader considered a narc as well?
Sorry typo, ( hi stephenie can i think that if it is convienient to call others narccissitic, when others are passionate with what they think is right to have recovery language in the mental health environment. Just becos someone do not believed the way that i believed, and then i am he stubborn narcissist )..... Pls continue from here from the below comments, sorry that my finger runs too fast.
He has empathy for others to a point, its all show boating, to make himself look good, its not real. He has no empathy for his kids or me and only shows false empathy when he wants something.
You need to dramatically lower your expectations. If you are dealing with a true, diagnosable narcissist you are alone. There is a human body present, but you are still by yourself.
Beautifully stated.
Yes good comment we are alone in a relationship with a narcissist, they have a dark void within them, there is nobody home. 😢
I have. But honestly the hurt and disappointment is just as much, if not more than before, I lowered my expectations, to what i thought zero, but apparently not. I don't think that the hope will ever go away, that there is some respect, decency, humanity... there??? And since learning about narcissism, the fear and anxiety of his possible and most likely future (more) disrespect, manipulation, revenge, smear campaign is almost too much to bear. The not being able to know what you can trust that he says is so anxiety filled and exhausting. I still feel in danger response, even though we dont live together 😮💨We have 2 young adult children together. I think that it is more about getting healthier yourself... loving and trusting yourself than lowering your expectations.
@@Lisa19000 "playball" I'm looking at your name and I immediately thought that narcissist's are not team player's. I think full acceptance of the not nice fact that the narcissist can only change for the worse never for the better can help in our healing. Narcissist's are compulsive liars and cheats whether they are low or high level and they all take their partner's for granted in a shocking way, it's the nature of the beast. We all got ourselves into this mess and it's our responsibility to get ourselves out.🕊💪
Agree but with a little twist expect nothing absolutely nothing from a narc im living with one it’s hell on earth its painful please god save me
I give myself and find anyone who is narcissistic becomes irrelevant to me,they are not worth an extra thought, am learning boundaries with my husbands behaviour, he had the most awful early life, it impacts in later years,thankyou ❤
Thank you for this valuable information. The importance of not REACTING is majorly important. I’m struggling with that.
Yes not reacting to the ignorant, arrogant narcissist is very hard we just have to keep practising, we are learning a new way of behaving around them by trying to break the reactive pattern that our original narcissist basically brainwashed us into.
so am i! everyday i try and it's so difficult
I deal with a father that is a really stubborn narcissist. He gaslights, puts me down , adds side comments all the time, controlling, he threatens and smiles while doing it. Even if I walk away he'll follow me into my room to corner me and finish what he wanted to say with insults putting me down more making me feel like Absolute crap. Even at some point was smiling and laughing when I'm upset and in tears ask why would he laugh when im teying to talk to him and he says " because I enjoy it" . After that incident I've been looking to videos trying my best to help myself and found you. It's helped me a lot, i still struggle with him though since I'm stuck living in the same home as him... I'm hoping one day I'll save enough and move to be free of him. For now these lessons have helped me love myself and get a little more confident on how to respond. And for that I thank you and keep doing what you are doing to help people.
Thank you for reminding who I am 💪🏾💪🏾💪🏾💪🏾
You ROCK I appreciate all your videos 💓
Shes never at fault and always blaming me
Really great information. Thank you! ❤
You made a good dissection of behaviours here, Stephanie. Thank you for the video! Cheers, Liz
If you hang up on me in mid-sentance, your not going to talk to me again.
That was a great video Stephanie! Really helped me understand ex-fiance's wish to tell me he cheated. I broke it off. Your videos really help!
Very relevant topic for me today,thankyou.
Wow! You touched on a great subject
♥️Stephanie♥️Thank you♥️you are like the ♥️LIGHT♥️in the dark♥️it help us to see♥️clearly♥️
Nothing like a pretty young lady with a intelligent mind I'm glad I found this information
I’m here and before watching you can’t change any thing not a tiny bit of narc i have a narc spouse
Is not easy at all, ive tried my possible best but always falls cos i have to deal with it. Co parenting. Manipulate, no how to get me angry then later say im gaslighting her. Sometimes I feel like im at fault when i know i haven't done anything wrong. Thanks. Your videos are very good.
The lights are on but there's no one in.➡️ 🌑 A black hole.
Very helpful. Thank you.
Thank you Stephanie ❤
My mil had zero empathy for me when I was ill & even less empathy for her sick adoptive mum decades ago. She was toxic bk then & is still toxic now. She was unfeeling bk then & somehow expects me to feel for her when she is more elderly now. Toxicity nvr changes even when one grows older. She is looking to dump stuff on me when I am already permanently ill & struggling to raise my special needs kid & be there for my dementia mum. Now tt she is v old, she wants my help but I don’t have any to give to her. It’s too little too late bcos I am already ill & cannot ever recover. She gloated when I first got sick & now she wants my help. My answer is a resounding NO. Not on my life… or whatever is left of it.
Can you do more videos on how to speak to judges lawyers & advocates???
I like your hair 🙂
1 Peter 4:14
If ye be reproached for the name of Christ, happy are ye; for the spirit of glory and of God resteth upon you: on their part he is evil spoken of, but on your part he is glorified.
Hi Stephanie can i think that it is convenient to call others narccissitic when others are passionate in what they think is right not to have recovery language, just becos they do not believe it the way i believed , and then i am the sturbborn narcissist, basically that if a leader who do not believe in the value of good practice of recovery language, does this leader considered a narc as well?
Sorry typo, ( hi stephenie can i think that if it is convienient to call others narccissitic, when others are passionate with what they think is right to have recovery language in the mental health environment. Just becos someone do not believed the way that i believed, and then i am he stubborn narcissist )..... Pls continue from here from the below comments, sorry that my finger runs too fast.
What's your take on self aware narcissists Stephanie?
Trumpey.
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He has empathy for others to a point, its all show boating, to make himself look good, its not real. He has no empathy for his kids or me and only shows false empathy when he wants something.