"They present a facade. Sometimes they're cold or distant, but it's not because they lack warmth. It's because warmth once led to burns". That's so amazingly accurate!
In a lot of cases, I'd include myself as one of them too, it's not so much I'm averse to praise but I'm averse to the idea of people thinking that I'm looking for praise or do something for praise. I'll do things for me and I'll do things for others. All I really expect in return is to not be screwed over for saving someone.
I notice that praise is usually somebody seeking vulnerability. I have vulnerability but never show it. It's like a bullseye. I am aloof and emotionally self possessed . I don't seek people or events. I prefer my citadel
I have the majority of these traits because I’ve been betrayed, lied to, and taken advantage of way too many times. You just get to a point where you build a wall, enforce it with steel, and think to yourself, “Try to penetrate that!” I have trust issues because of it. I always gave more than I got. Now I’m at a point in my life, where I’m very much aware of people’s true feelings and I pick up on it very quickly. I listen to my intuition, because it doesn’t fail me. If something or someone doesn’t feel right, I pay attention and act accordingly. I am not who I used to be. And I refuse to be disrespected or taken for granted. It’s what happens to you when you’ve been through it over and over again. You just wake up one day and realize you’re not taking it anymore.
I can relate growing up in a toxic verbally abusive alcoholic house. Parents argued all the time. Loud noises trigger me. So I built a wall around me to protect me. Trust is a big one for me. I'm 68 and I'm tired of all the bull$hit in my life. Seems like I can't ever get ahead of the next $hit storm that comes my way.
I hear you and respect it. I was raised in the system from 8 years old. Been abused by foster parents, stabbed and of course been in jail. I didn’t know what it meant or felt like to be loved. Because I’m hard and tough right. And I never let anyone get close. But if I can give you an advice? Be brave! Be courageous! Not naive! God bless you! And my thoughts comes from love.
I find that the older I get, my tolerance for bu!!$hit is fading faster and faster. I find it much safer to be home, at least here my mouth and/or my attitude won't put me in jail or 5150'd for three days of enforced rest and relaxation with special visits from my psychiatrist. Yes, much safer alone.
I think I have experience all kind of sufferings, from deep loss, deep rejection, suicidal thoughts, hard disease and intense disappointment and betrayal, and big financial anxiety and poverty.This video is accurate
I can relate to what you have gone through because I’ve been there too. It’s suppose to make you stronger, but in my case it’s worst. Having lost my parents at 14, losing my eldest sister at 20 after her suicide ( she was schizophrenic. Seeing my cripple kid brother who was in the car accident with my mother really damaged my youth. All this to say we are empathetic, but we are careful who we let in our lives at least for my part . I don’t know about you but It seems we get more defensive with people because we fear getting hurt. At work, a lot of colleagues I dealt with were quite nasty and unsympathetic towards me. Compassion is something they all lack. Last year I lost 2 of my 3 brothers. My immediate collègues were indifferent to my pain and sorrow. Today, I’m retired and I don’t miss them. Glad to be home and not dealing with with people who only care about themselves. Our journey in life is really short so I try to make the most of it: taking walks, biking, war we coloring, shopping, reading, internet of course etc. How about you? Feel free to write if you want. Wish you the best healing from your past sufferings and happy days to come. God bless.❤❤❤😊
To accurate... I have even all of these. People always see how strong I am and are shocked what I can go through. Very few understand why. I have taken the last 5 years working on myself. I can honestly say, I'm proud of myself. For those that have suffered like I have, they are the only ones that will truly understand how hard that is to do.
Totally with you on that one. There was a guy at my job who was clearly experiencing hardship: greasy hair, pale skin and kinda stinky. I recognized he was in pain and made it a point to at least say hi to him everytime during passing. The other coworkers would mock and slander him and one day, he died, I don't know if it was his health or if he ended it. But it made me realize how people treat others who are "weaker" than them and it shut me off from pretty much everyone
I agree. That kind of treatment makes me get into that "I don't like people" place. A friend of mine said her husband has become almost reclusive and when she gets upset with him because he doesn't do as many social things with her and their friends, he tells her, "I don't like people!" I get in that place also when I see man's inhumanity to man.
I was bullied by my peers, my father and even teachers throughout my adolescence, and as that time of life is critical for brain development, I was damaged for life by it. I became a misanthrope at the age of 18.
@@FilipRanogajec I'm def part of that club (many lessons learned indeed, thru the many traumas I have endured). Much love, peace and blessings to all on this journey.💖🕊️🙏✨
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Being broken doesn't always lead to resilience. It leads to all the other traits, but a deep reluctance to open up again, to express oneself, to fight for justice. That's why the happy-happy tone of this video sickens me.
This also applies to the body. I’ve gone through a lot, and it has negatively affected my physical health. An ex nearly ended mg life, physically, and I was left with a disability that has affected my mobility, which has affected my overall health. People don’t talk about this enough.
In our American culture, from short videos to cheesy titles and phrases, background music and a happy yet robotic voice narrating, it was as if they were selling the idea that suffering too much is awesome. As if ‘look how amazing you can become if you just suffer too much’. Ridiculous
THIS. You can tell by his voice that he had 1 obstacle in his life and then mommy or daddy came and removed it from his way. It's also a pitiful & patronizing voice, it's like "oh, you little poor creatures, look how strong you can get" but you're right, all this things can really really break ppl.
@@DJ-nk4dq Thank you that's what I was thinking it's always a stock video showing something upbeat trying to make it seem like it's ok to suffer and stay in it.
I was thinking something similar, that it seemed very generalizing yes, it has not broken my empathy and kindness but I'm exceptionally wary, stripped away friends til I was down to (cautiously) 2...maybe. No one gets in. I may love the world from a distance but I'm deeply nihilistic and misanthropic. Without, at least, a trace of cynism
All of them here 🙋. I am all those things and I am more. I am blessed because I have the strength to protect myself. I am humbled by the intelligence that enables me to see the hypocrisy in people so that I can keep walking past them. I am fearless because that wall that surrounds me also gives me a place to retreat to when the world threatens me. I am wise because I took those experiences and built upon them to become stronger and endure the storms that surround me. I am more than my pain.
Life itself can be relentless for some as an overwhelming experience that marks each day. The next day comes and they have yet to recover from the day before.
That is how I feel ALL the time, and the most sympathy I've ever received was "it's not THAT bad, is it?" Obviously, I immediately shut down, and never spoke to that person again.
Wow! This is 💯 me! Through adversity comes resilience!! Those of us whose life was explained in this video, are true survivors. Because we didn't get the love and protection that we needed, please make plenty of space in your life to shower yourself with self love that will inevitably attract the same to you. Love and blessings to all.❤❤
@@winterwoman i hear what you're saying, and i'm sorry. 😞 but we can't let the world break us, so we learn and, by learning, we grow stronger. i pray you find the strength to turn tragedy to triumph, or, at the very least, learn to turn pain into peace. it can be done.
The dark night of the soul is real. It's heartbreaking and more often ignored becoming one's bitterness, depression, anger, and other repressed emotions. I am going through it now. I dk if I'll survive it.😢
AnaMaria...please reach deep inside and grab that courage that has helped you before, hold on tight, you have worth and something special to give to those you care about,find a safe space and stay there until it's safe to come out again.
get help from a trusted professional oh - Anna Marie was my grandmother's name so this is doubly important. Things don't stay the same for very long, which includes the bad. But when the bad comes, maybe lingers, that's when it is time to learn how to do life. A good professional can help with that if you're struggling.
Every one of these applies to me. But I’m changing my perspective to think of hardships and challenges as absolute blessings! Once you do, they become real blessings too.
I've suffered from Mental illness since I've been born. I barely survived a Childhood Molestation at the very young age of 10 years young, too trusting & innocent. As a result of this, I ended up with PTSD, EDNOS (Eating Disorder Not Otherwise Specified), BPD (Borderline Personality Disorder) & other mental health issues Bad things have happened to me throughout my life & it's still happening to me 😢. I recently lost my husband & best friend, soul-mate & confidante on April 22nd, 2024 due to a brain injury from a bad fall. I also recently lost my Best Buddy, my Dad on August 14, 2024. I have absolutely NO real trustworthy friends I can count on anymore 😢 & all I now have are my Babies (Stuffed animals to everyone else) I can count on for my emotional support on a daily & nightly basis! They have become my life.
@JanelleBlack-zz6mk yes, I could use a friend who I could trust not to hurt, use or talk negative behind my back. Someone who we could share deep secrets with, cry with or laugh with.
Every single one of them. It's like someone finally gets my mindset. Problem is, I don't know what to do about it. I just can't bring myself to trust anyone. And I've also grown to not forgive anymore. I forgive accidents, not intentional actions.
I agree with you. If you intentionally hurt me f**k you forever. People do make mistakes and I can easily forgive that. But when there's malice behind it no.
I have most of these traits within myself but I haven’t suffered too much in my life, I have certainly had a few strong/traumatic experiences in my life, but for the most part I’ve been pretty blessed, still I do have most of these traits.
‘I haven’t suffered too much in my life’ ? If you have these traits, and you said that…I think you’re in denial. You’re not taking this seriously. You’ve buried your trauma bc you’re not willing or ready to deal with it. One day your subconscious will surface and you will deal with your traumas then. You will need to ’grieve your losses’.
spot on! there is also the perception by others who have had less trauma that there is something different about us and this can create issues of connection even fear in them.
I don't think you people understand what "too much" means. "TOO MUCH" SUFFERING... As if there's a fucking limit, there is a limit and it's called suicide.
Apart from validation, perfection, and control! I control myself and "while perfection is unattainable, we can be better people for engaging in the pursuit of it!"
Self-reliance... because I've always had to rely on myself, I couldn't even begin to guess what I could rely on others for. Used to solving my own problems, or just dealing with problems that don't get solved.
Thank you for your interesting video! This was spot on- your scars become your stars! I feel no longer the victim asking “why me?”, but I’m so grateful now and I’m able to see to what I have got rather than what I don’t have. I’m a victim of psychopath and even I didn’t enjoy a minute of senseless abuse but it transformed me completely. I’m alive and I’m free! So I consider myself as wealthy person who can not be fooled easily if at all. Thank you 🙏 Please people be all gracious and humble. Even in your worst times, you will be able to find something positive, I can promise you that!
Yes, true. A great challenge is to keep love in the heart when I know that love leads to pain, but I would not become cold, not entirely. I do isolate myself, frequently, but I don't like people seeing my tears. Joy should be shared, not suffering. I fear bitterness... I have a sharp tongue. I restrain myself and many words are never said. Also, never become what you hate most, there is a danger of that.
Compassion and strong sense of justice are so accurate I've experienced so much unfairness and crappy behavior that I don't want anyone else to ever experience that It's hard to deserve this kind of treatment
Many of them do not survive but those that persevere are either too damaged emotionally or their resilence has transformed them into the gems among us.!
This really hits home for me. I have experienced so many of these traits. I used to tell people I don't feel anything about others or the world. It makes me sad that others never see who I truly am. Not sure what I can change
Absolutely on point! I'm also blessed because Jesus Christ came in my life and He is healing my soul. The algorithm did a great job with this video recommendation. God bless you all and keep moving forward 🔥
I have been through so much that i identify with all the above.The height of my suffering is the loss of my son Alex,the lovely lad in my picture.His loss has made everything else easier to deal with........i won't say my life has been terrible but certainly a rough ride,yet i try to smile now and again but sometimes in the wrong moments!!!
I can relate went through unimaginable pain and still I am here to share my testimonies with the world and things I went through and help guide through ppl pain
You have just described me to a T! Suffering through life with an undiagnosed personality disorder wreaked havoc. Now able to reflect, I feel I missed my whole life, certainly any good parts. But your description helps me feel proud I've made it to my 60s and that I am enough, and I certainly have resilience!
Those traits indeed resonate with someone I know well and love very much... ME. I'm few months to hit 60s, and I thanks for the gift of resilience to my heavenly father.
Greatly insightful and ultimately uplifting content. Here's to survivors and what can be achieved despite what can be almost insurmountable challenges life has held for some of us.
I have been used so many Times, that I am sick and tired of people. The only persons I trust is i my two sons. If you are kind, there is always someone who is trying to use you. Take care of yourself and think twice before you let someone in. 😊🎉❤
Be kind anyway. No matter what sort of abuse people throw back at you. People will disrespect you and crap on you. Be kind anyway. The world needs kind people more than ever.Never cease being kind.
The resilience part.. I often wonder how much resilience I have left in my spirit. Most days I exist in isolation, not certain if there's enough to reach for the light again.😔
I am BLESSED by the hurt...now it is mindblowing in public ...people notice when I am in room or outside...just WORK on yourself and WHEN ready GO for a mindful walk...love to alll...God help the energy vampires
That melancholy feeling that your entire life has been full of pain and you don’t want others to suffer so you isolate yourself as a sort of pain quarantine.
I would add the facade of humor. These traits are admirable but cover a lot of hurt inside. It's interesting that I described the burden as a backpack full of rocks, also. At my lowest point, I cried out to God for help. He lifted that burden, cleared my mind, and opened my eyes and ears. He changed my life. That day, I experienced being born again. He is the Way, the Truth, and the Life. And the Truth will set you free.
Having survived 35 very serious surgeries (including a malignant brain tumor and removal of my Hippocampus and Amygdala, 13 heart surgeries with more to come, pulmonary embolisms, brain bleeds and a stroke, seizures, chronic horrific migraines ALL my life, Factor V Leiden blood clotting disorder, hypothyroidism, high cholesterol, high blood pressure, etc etc etc!!), I have tremendous empathy for others!! I'm my Daddy's only child & was truly a Daddy's Girl. We even worked together! I lost him 19 1/2 years ago to a massive heart attack. 😢💔 I miss him every day!! I lost my beloved Grandma the next year. 😢💔 It's been almost constant, losing loved ones. 💔 And I lost so many from a young age; very scary as an only child. BUT, I have 3 sons. My 2 youngest still live with me to help me since my medical issues are so severe, even though they're in their 20s. I love them beyond what words can express! ❤❤❤ I volunteer to help those diagnosed with malignant tumors, and this warms my heart. Sometimes, people just need someone to listen or a hand to hold. I truly shouldn't be alive! And through all the trauma, if not for my beloved boys, I'm not sure I could have stayed so strong. Now, after MUCH reflection, I believe I'm a Lightworker, and I'm at peace with all I've been through. I want to help others and help our world!! I also sponsor a dear boy in Lebanon, Ali. I'm so concerned about him right now; he's in Beirut. 💗🙏💗🙏 I'm sending so much love and peace to all who are struggling! You ARE worth it and loved!! 🕊🕯💜💫🌌✨️✝️🌟🕉🌜💜
I relate 💯.I something hate being so over sensitive and being an empath.Because people like us...are easy targets for narcissist. I'm still struggling with the issues of falling victim to selfish,self centred sheeps in wolf clothing.
I was raised in a sadistically abusive family fueled by crime, addiction, neglect & trauma w Criminality for blood who pushed me into a relationship w a NPD abuser when I was 13 he 16 & the nxt 25+ yrs off & on has this video legit hitting different.
This is spot on - I realise it from my own life experiences. One question.... when do you move on and leave the trailer full of past experiences behind and start on the new chapter? You cannot move on if you have not dealt with the past. You will always look out for "the broken ones".
Definitely, I've suffered too much according what I remember and according to this video. Somehow, despite my empathy which is kinda fading away now, I always couldn't take an action to comfort others even if I wanted to. Something was so wrong that I couldn't do it or show it making me actually unlovable despite actually the love they provide. In other hand, my need for justice is so extreme that it burns and controversial which pisses others off but not able to resist myself.
Sounds like anyone in Gen X to me. Everyone I know my age is like this in one way or another. Laugh when you want to cry. Shout when you should be quiet. Quiet when you need to talk. Help others when you need the help yourself. Give more than you take.
@katerinathatcher7004 I'm 58 and still suffering from this. I'm still doing things my way by myself and don't expect any glory for it from anyone. Just for my own satisfaction.
You have described me. I do not extend myself farther than I am willing to lose. Everything I do must be within my own world and therefore under my sole control. I am a fifty five year old virtual loner. A hermit. My belief is everyone will betray you if the price is right. For a very few that price is very high and for others well, they would kill you for a Klondike bar
Really appreciate the thoughtful approach in this video. As someone who’s studied the physiological effects of stress, it’s clear how important it is to incorporate these kinds of restorative practices into our routines. Each suggestion here aligns well with what we know about promoting mental and physical well-being after challenging times. Great content that can truly make a difference!
"They present a facade. Sometimes they're cold or distant, but it's not because they lack warmth. It's because warmth once led to burns". That's so amazingly accurate!
I know that's right!
except it's not a facade.....
We are tired of being shit on for trying to do the right thing.
So freaking true
Ah yea
Another trait... they're VERY averse to praise. Makes them uncomfortable. Bless🌊
So true. Don't feel it's deserved & unaccustomed to it. Definitely makes one feel incredibly uncomfortable. 🙏
@noelzywright6798 kindness too. I'm undone by it☮️
In a lot of cases, I'd include myself as one of them too, it's not so much I'm averse to praise but I'm averse to the idea of people thinking that I'm looking for praise or do something for praise. I'll do things for me and I'll do things for others. All I really expect in return is to not be screwed over for saving someone.
Omg. People tell me I don't know how to take a compliment. I hate it when someone says something nice to me.
I notice that praise is usually somebody seeking vulnerability. I have vulnerability but never show it. It's like a bullseye. I am aloof and emotionally self possessed . I don't seek people or events. I prefer my citadel
I have the majority of these traits because I’ve been betrayed, lied to, and taken advantage of way too many times. You just get to a point where you build a wall, enforce it with steel, and think to yourself, “Try to
penetrate that!” I have trust issues because of it.
I always gave more than I got. Now I’m at a point in my life, where I’m very much aware of people’s true feelings and I pick up on it very quickly. I listen to my intuition, because it doesn’t fail me. If something or someone doesn’t feel right, I pay attention and act accordingly. I am not who I used to be. And I refuse to be disrespected or taken for granted. It’s what happens to you when you’ve been through it over and over again. You just wake up one day and realize you’re not taking it anymore.
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I can relate growing up in a toxic verbally abusive alcoholic house. Parents argued all the time. Loud noises trigger me. So I built a wall around me to protect me. Trust is a big one for me. I'm 68 and I'm tired of all the bull$hit in my life. Seems like I can't ever get ahead of the next $hit storm that comes my way.
🎯 you nailed it, my friend 💓
@@desert_holly You are most welcome. Be strong and take care of yourself.
I hear you and respect it. I was raised in the system from 8 years old. Been abused by foster parents, stabbed and of course been in jail. I didn’t know what it meant or felt like to be loved. Because I’m hard and tough right. And I never let anyone get close. But if I can give you an advice? Be brave! Be courageous! Not naive! God bless you! And my thoughts comes from love.
I isolate myself often because it's necessary. People seem to be on humiliation campaigns and my patience plus restraint is fading.
Well stated!
My baby kitties are all the company I need
same here man
I hear ya 🎉❤🎉!!!
I find that the older I get, my tolerance for bu!!$hit is fading faster and faster. I find it much safer to be home, at least here my mouth and/or my attitude won't put me in jail or 5150'd for three days of enforced rest and relaxation with special visits from my psychiatrist.
Yes, much safer alone.
I think I have experience all kind of sufferings, from deep loss, deep rejection, suicidal thoughts, hard disease and intense disappointment and betrayal, and big financial anxiety and poverty.This video is accurate
I can relate to what you have gone through because I’ve been there too. It’s suppose to make you stronger, but in my case it’s worst. Having lost my parents at 14, losing my eldest sister at 20 after her suicide ( she was schizophrenic. Seeing my cripple kid brother who was in the car accident with my mother really damaged my youth. All this to say we are empathetic, but we are careful who we let in our lives at least for my part . I don’t know about you but It seems we get more defensive with people because we fear getting hurt. At work, a lot of colleagues I dealt with were quite nasty and unsympathetic towards me. Compassion is something they all lack. Last year I lost 2 of my 3 brothers. My immediate collègues were indifferent to my pain and sorrow. Today, I’m retired and I don’t miss them. Glad to be home and not dealing with with people who only care about themselves. Our journey in life is really short so I try to make the most of it: taking walks, biking, war we coloring, shopping, reading, internet of course etc. How about you? Feel free to write if you want. Wish you the best healing from your past sufferings and happy days to come. God bless.❤❤❤😊
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You described my life🫂
@@sylviestar8666 the word of God gives you light and guidance, the only true way of healing and hope
I hope you are feeling better
For those whom encompass all eight, if you haven't been told before by anyone else, you're great for being you and for all you've done.
Thank you. This went deep.
Agreed....thank you
Struggling every day, so thank you.
Neh.
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Terrifying how unbelievably accurate this is!!!😮😮😮😮😮
To accurate... I have even all of these. People always see how strong I am and are shocked what I can go through. Very few understand why. I have taken the last 5 years working on myself. I can honestly say, I'm proud of myself. For those that have suffered like I have, they are the only ones that will truly understand how hard that is to do.
I put up a mental "We're Closed!!" sign a long time ago.
Totally with you on that one. There was a guy at my job who was clearly experiencing hardship: greasy hair, pale skin and kinda stinky. I recognized he was in pain and made it a point to at least say hi to him everytime during passing. The other coworkers would mock and slander him and one day, he died, I don't know if it was his health or if he ended it. But it made me realize how people treat others who are "weaker" than them and it shut me off from pretty much everyone
Exact same! ❤
@@elgatomoscato230That was so cruel of them, and so good of you. 🌻
I agree. That kind of treatment makes me get into that "I don't like people" place. A friend of mine said her husband has become almost reclusive and when she gets upset with him because he doesn't do as many social things with her and their friends, he tells her, "I don't like people!" I get in that place also when I see man's inhumanity to man.
I was bullied by my peers, my father and even teachers throughout my adolescence, and as that time of life is critical for brain development, I was damaged for life by it. I became a misanthrope at the age of 18.
Nope. Don't want to be seen. Don't want to be heard. I made a home in silence, my sanctuary - the abyss. Just keep passing me by. It'll be allright.
Agreed, I do you feculent apes the courtesy of leaving you the hell alone, f*cking reciprocate.
This is me! I would love to just be invisible and finish out this hell that is my life!
Me too, I prefer to be a loner!
Same here.
Me too
This. From childhood abuse, chronic illness that caused over 20 surgeries and countless procedures. So much pain, it’s a lot to deal with.
Hope you are doing better. Please take care.
@@peterjakob5460 Thank you, I’m definitely trying. ❤️
im 7/8 of these
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I won't self-praise or put myself in the spotlight, but I will say this: You would ALL do well to listen to those people!
Who are "those'' people?! thx🕊️🌺
@@EC-yd9yv, those who have suffered too much, my dear. They can teach you a thing or two about life, as well as interpersonal relationships.
@@FilipRanogajec I'm def part of that club (many lessons learned indeed, thru the many traumas I have endured). Much love, peace and blessings to all on this journey.💖🕊️🙏✨
@@EC-yd9yv, agreed. Thanks.
Oh my... How wonderful
Just be smart, be aware, control your emotions and be careful out there
Nice rhymes ^^
❗️ Trust Not one other than yur wife or husband and never ever ask for help unless you absolutely need help and I mean absolutely need help, not asking for help makes you more capable, stronger 💪 and best of all far less reliant on others ❗️
❗️ PEEPS JUST #$@! ❗️
NEWCASTLE CALIFORNIA,USA 🇺🇸
I would rethink the "just"
@BIGPIE3333 trust your wife? Bad idea I think
I cry so easily so I'm not resilient
Forgot to mention distrust in others
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a VERY strong one at that
Being broken doesn't always lead to resilience. It leads to all the other traits, but a deep reluctance to open up again, to express oneself, to fight for justice. That's why the happy-happy tone of this video sickens me.
This also applies to the body. I’ve gone through a lot, and it has negatively affected my physical health. An ex nearly ended mg life, physically, and I was left with a disability that has affected my mobility, which has affected my overall health. People don’t talk about this enough.
In our American culture, from short videos to cheesy titles and phrases, background music and a happy yet robotic voice narrating, it was as if they were selling the idea that suffering too much is awesome. As if ‘look how amazing you can become if you just suffer too much’. Ridiculous
THIS. You can tell by his voice that he had 1 obstacle in his life and then mommy or daddy came and removed it from his way. It's also a pitiful & patronizing voice, it's like "oh, you little poor creatures, look how strong you can get" but you're right, all this things can really really break ppl.
@@DJ-nk4dq Thank you that's what I was thinking it's always a stock video showing something upbeat trying to make it seem like it's ok to suffer and stay in it.
I was thinking something similar, that it seemed very generalizing yes, it has not broken my empathy and kindness but I'm exceptionally wary, stripped away friends til I was down to (cautiously) 2...maybe. No one gets in. I may love the world from a distance but I'm deeply nihilistic and misanthropic. Without, at least, a trace of cynism
"Strong sense of justice"!? You're damned right: I was notorious for this ever since at least the 9th grade, when even my teachers noticed.
All of them here 🙋. I am all those things and I am more. I am blessed because I have the strength to protect myself. I am humbled by the intelligence that enables me to see the hypocrisy in people so that I can keep walking past them. I am fearless because that wall that surrounds me also gives me a place to retreat to when the world threatens me. I am wise because I took those experiences and built upon them to become stronger and endure the storms that surround me. I am more than my pain.
I still care, love, defend, protect, etc. however, I am very careful and weary now of who gets these things from me.
Life itself can be relentless for some as an overwhelming experience that marks each day. The next day comes and they have yet to recover from the day before.
Geez … I feel seen.
Well said and very true.
You know the feeling that you can't cry anymore..? and a pain inside your heart..? it feels heavy...
You mean the numb detached "I don't give a f*ck anymore" feeling? I know that one.
That is how I feel ALL the time, and the most sympathy I've ever received was "it's not THAT bad, is it?"
Obviously, I immediately shut down, and never spoke to that person again.
I too relate to all these traits and still struggle every day to stay above the ground, sometimes it’s just so much hard work.
Wow! This is 💯 me! Through adversity comes resilience!! Those of us whose life was explained in this video, are true survivors. Because we didn't get the love and protection that we needed, please make plenty of space in your life to shower yourself with self love that will inevitably attract the same to you. Love and blessings to all.❤❤
as a child, i was taught that "what doesn't kill you makes you stronger".
as an adult, i learned how true that is.
Sometimes, that's not always true
@@winterwoman i hear what you're saying, and i'm sorry. 😞
but we can't let the world break us, so we learn and, by learning, we grow stronger.
i pray you find the strength to turn tragedy to triumph, or, at the very least, learn to turn pain into peace.
it can be done.
What doesn’t kill you scars you deeply
So true, All that suffering is what I call life. get on with it, princesses. Pandering to these experiences actually weakens people beyond self-help.
@@DJ-nk4dq that is absolutely true.
but it is those scars that help you remember the lessons you learned the hard way.
The dark night of the soul is real. It's heartbreaking and more often ignored becoming one's bitterness, depression, anger, and other repressed emotions. I am going through it now. I dk if I'll survive it.😢
AnaMaria...please reach deep inside and grab that courage that has helped you before, hold on tight, you have worth and something special to give to those you care about,find a safe space and stay there until it's safe to come out again.
Same here❤
get help from a trusted professional oh - Anna Marie was my grandmother's name so this is doubly important. Things don't stay the same for very long, which includes the bad. But when the bad comes, maybe lingers, that's when it is time to learn how to do life. A good professional can help with that if you're struggling.
The joy when you see a rare person of worth. Sometimes, it doesn't happen
Yet to meet one.
Every one of these applies to me.
But I’m changing my perspective to think of hardships and challenges as absolute blessings! Once you do, they become real blessings too.
I've suffered from Mental illness since I've been born. I barely survived a Childhood Molestation at the very young age of 10 years young, too trusting & innocent. As a result of this, I ended up with PTSD, EDNOS (Eating Disorder Not Otherwise Specified), BPD (Borderline Personality Disorder) & other mental health issues Bad things have happened to me throughout my life & it's still happening to me 😢. I recently lost my husband & best friend, soul-mate & confidante on April 22nd, 2024 due to a brain injury from a bad fall. I also recently lost my Best Buddy, my Dad on August 14, 2024. I have absolutely NO real trustworthy friends I can count on anymore 😢 & all I now have are my Babies (Stuffed animals to everyone else) I can count on for my emotional support on a daily & nightly basis! They have become my life.
I wish you peace, I can relate
God is with you, you are never alone. Keep going always, you are loved. ❤
Do you need a friend?
@JanelleBlack-zz6mk yes, I could use a friend who I could trust not to hurt, use or talk negative behind my back. Someone who we could share deep secrets with, cry with or laugh with.
@@lindaalvarez8855 I’ll be your friend
This made me feel normal and that someone out there gets it.
Every single one of them. It's like someone finally gets my mindset. Problem is, I don't know what to do about it. I just can't bring myself to trust anyone. And I've also grown to not forgive anymore. I forgive accidents, not intentional actions.
I agree with you. If you intentionally hurt me f**k you forever. People do make mistakes and I can easily forgive that. But when there's malice behind it no.
Not to trust is a good, if not great start. People should earn trust. Never just give trust, especially to the ones asking for it.
I have most of these traits within myself but I haven’t suffered too much in my life, I have certainly had a few strong/traumatic experiences in my life, but for the most part I’ve been pretty blessed, still I do have most of these traits.
Empathy is tricky..... 'Doesn't always grow with hardship...
You might be downplaying your traumatic experience. It's a common coping mechanism.
Then, you are blessed. Not all of us were. Good for you. ❤
‘I haven’t suffered too much in my life’ ? If you have these traits, and you said that…I think you’re in denial. You’re not taking this seriously. You’ve buried your trauma bc you’re not willing or ready to deal with it. One day your subconscious will surface and you will deal with your traumas then. You will need to ’grieve your losses’.
One of your best and most accurate videos yet!
spot on! there is also the perception by others who have had less trauma that there is something different about us and this can create issues of connection even fear in them.
I've definitely been singed a few times over the years, by people and circumstance, which has led me to become much more independant emotionally.
I have all of these traits to the upmost degree! And yes, I have suffered for too much.
Suffering has made incredible human beings. ❤ Thank you God.I like this video. 😊
Every one of these is me exactly…😢 😂 not just scars….but stars….🌟 I love that…
Right on! This is totally me. Thank you, Lord, for guiding and blessing me. Amen 🙏
I don't think you people understand what "too much" means.
"TOO MUCH" SUFFERING... As if there's a fucking limit, there is a limit and it's called suicide.
Apart from validation, perfection, and control! I control myself and "while perfection is unattainable, we can be better people for engaging in the pursuit of it!"
Strong AMEN to all of this!
Self-reliance... because I've always had to rely on myself, I couldn't even begin to guess what I could rely on others for. Used to solving my own problems, or just dealing with problems that don't get solved.
Everyone of those are me, no trust, self reliant,etc, always taken advantage of. 😢 I’ve built a strong wall around me, that no one penetrates.
Thank you for your interesting video!
This was spot on- your scars become your stars! I feel no longer the victim asking “why me?”, but I’m so grateful now and I’m able to see to what I have got rather than what I don’t have. I’m a victim of psychopath and even I didn’t enjoy a minute of senseless abuse but it transformed me completely. I’m alive and I’m free! So I consider myself as wealthy person who can not be fooled easily if at all. Thank you 🙏
Please people be all gracious and humble. Even in your worst times, you will be able to find something positive, I can promise you that!
Yes, true. A great challenge is to keep love in the heart when I know that love leads to pain, but I would not become cold, not entirely. I do isolate myself, frequently, but I don't like people seeing my tears. Joy should be shared, not suffering. I fear bitterness... I have a sharp tongue. I restrain myself and many words are never said. Also, never become what you hate most, there is a danger of that.
Compassion and strong sense of justice are so accurate
I've experienced so much unfairness and crappy behavior that I don't want anyone else to ever experience that
It's hard to deserve this kind of treatment
Many of them do not survive but those that persevere are either too damaged emotionally or their resilence has transformed them into the gems among us.!
This hit pretty hard. I just wish things were different. But I have a motto i try to live by "I will never yield"
This really hits home for me. I have experienced so many of these traits. I used to tell people I don't feel anything about others or the world. It makes me sad that others never see who I truly am. Not sure what I can change
Thank you so much for your video. It is a comfort at a really critical time. A much needed but unexpected assurance… 🙏🏽
A lot of these are pretty accurate with my life. Relate to all of them more than I thought I would.
Absolutely on point!
I'm also blessed because Jesus Christ came in my life and He is healing my soul.
The algorithm did a great job with this video recommendation.
God bless you all and keep moving forward 🔥
I've been through a lot of 💩. This was an extremely accurate description of the way I am. Save for the need for control. Excellent
as someone who fits this category let me say this is refreshingly accurate. really good video .. well done.
That’s the definition of me but I accept for what it is I learn from it and always better myself
Affirmative to each and every trait. Thank you
This is the most accurate description of me I’ve seen in 40 years.
I have been through so much that i identify with all the above.The height of my suffering is the loss of my son Alex,the lovely lad in my picture.His loss has made everything else easier to deal with........i won't say my life has been terrible but certainly a rough ride,yet i try to smile now and again but sometimes in the wrong moments!!!
I can relate went through unimaginable pain and still I am here to share my testimonies with the world and things I went through and help guide through ppl pain
You have just described me to a T! Suffering through life with an undiagnosed personality disorder wreaked havoc. Now able to reflect, I feel I missed my whole life, certainly any good parts. But your description helps me feel proud I've made it to my 60s and that I am enough, and I certainly have resilience!
Those traits indeed resonate with someone I know well and love very much... ME. I'm few months to hit 60s, and I thanks for the gift of resilience to my heavenly father.
Greatly insightful and ultimately uplifting content. Here's to survivors and what can be achieved despite what can be almost insurmountable challenges life has held for some of us.
Very good points. Facing adversity regularly makes one resilient and more humble too
I've been through a lot since childhood and I have all but two of these traits
I have been used so many Times, that I am sick and tired of people.
The only persons I trust is i my two sons.
If you are kind, there is always someone who is trying to use you.
Take care of yourself and think twice before you let someone in.
😊🎉❤
Be kind anyway.
No matter what sort of abuse people throw back at you. People will disrespect you and crap on you. Be kind anyway. The world needs kind people more than ever.Never cease being kind.
This is very on point. I have healed what I wanted and the rest I want.
NAILED IT PERFECTLY!! BRAVO! 👏👏👏
The resilience part.. I often wonder how much resilience I have left in my spirit. Most days I exist in isolation, not certain if there's enough to reach for the light again.😔
I would say this is spot on. From a person who has been through to much but Gd has gotten me through and always will.
Bro this is sooo deep and accurate! Thank you for sharing! 👍
I am BLESSED by the hurt...now it is mindblowing in public ...people notice when I am in room or outside...just WORK on yourself and WHEN ready GO for a mindful walk...love to alll...God help the energy vampires
You're living in my head.🤯These are all very true. 👏🏽👏🏽
That melancholy feeling that your entire life has been full of pain and you don’t want others to suffer so you isolate yourself as a sort of pain quarantine.
1,2,6,7,8 is relatable. I find my peace with the mindset that the world doesn’t owe me anything, but I owe myself everything…
I would add the facade of humor. These traits are admirable but cover a lot of hurt inside. It's interesting that I described the burden as a backpack full of rocks, also. At my lowest point, I cried out to God for help. He lifted that burden, cleared my mind, and opened my eyes and ears. He changed my life. That day, I experienced being born again. He is the Way, the Truth, and the Life. And the Truth will set you free.
The same with me so close to dying asked him if i made the right choice he showed me heaven❤
Having survived 35 very serious surgeries (including a malignant brain tumor and removal of my Hippocampus and Amygdala, 13 heart surgeries with more to come, pulmonary embolisms, brain bleeds and a stroke, seizures, chronic horrific migraines ALL my life, Factor V Leiden blood clotting disorder, hypothyroidism, high cholesterol, high blood pressure, etc etc etc!!), I have tremendous empathy for others!! I'm my Daddy's only child & was truly a Daddy's Girl. We even worked together! I lost him 19 1/2 years ago to a massive heart attack. 😢💔 I miss him every day!! I lost my beloved Grandma the next year. 😢💔 It's been almost constant, losing loved ones. 💔 And I lost so many from a young age; very scary as an only child. BUT, I have 3 sons. My 2 youngest still live with me to help me since my medical issues are so severe, even though they're in their 20s. I love them beyond what words can express! ❤❤❤ I volunteer to help those diagnosed with malignant tumors, and this warms my heart. Sometimes, people just need someone to listen or a hand to hold. I truly shouldn't be alive! And through all the trauma, if not for my beloved boys, I'm not sure I could have stayed so strong. Now, after MUCH reflection, I believe I'm a Lightworker, and I'm at peace with all I've been through. I want to help others and help our world!! I also sponsor a dear boy in Lebanon, Ali. I'm so concerned about him right now; he's in Beirut. 💗🙏💗🙏 I'm sending so much love and peace to all who are struggling! You ARE worth it and loved!! 🕊🕯💜💫🌌✨️✝️🌟🕉🌜💜
Wow!! Sorry that was so long! I'm a wordy Gemini! 😁
Yes, that is true. But also, yesterday's victim can become tomorrow's monster.
Yep, you must of been a friend of mine? I wanted to die a hero, but lived long enough to be the villian.
Very common. That's the difference between a good and a bad person IMHO.
Amazingly accurate. I relate to everything you said and now living alone and studying legal history, philosophy and an advocate for stray animals.
Why does this hit me so hard 😭 I do all these and the hardest thing is rejecting someone who wants to know me
Thank you for this and all your other great videos. We love you. And to those who suffer currently: you got this!❤
Pointing out and listening at times can be exhausting due to your past. Fatigue comes with extremely empathetic people
I relate 💯.I something hate being so over sensitive and being an empath.Because people like us...are easy targets for narcissist. I'm still struggling with the issues of falling victim to selfish,self centred sheeps in wolf clothing.
I was raised in a sadistically abusive family fueled by crime, addiction, neglect & trauma w Criminality for blood who pushed me into a relationship w a NPD abuser when I was 13 he 16 & the nxt 25+ yrs off & on has this video legit hitting different.
Oh god u poor thing 💔💔💔💔💔💔 I hope your life is better now.
To suffer and Endure is the lot to humanity..🙏❤️
This is spot on - I realise it from my own life experiences. One question.... when do you move on and leave the trailer full of past experiences behind and start on the new chapter? You cannot move on if you have not dealt with the past. You will always look out for "the broken ones".
Wow, all that was sooo me! TY for this upload.
That's me, everyone of them, but you're hanging there. You'll make it.
trust is hard 2 build n easy 2 loose !! been there w people.. dont trust people anymore.. sorry i feel this way..😢
Definitely, I've suffered too much according what I remember and according to this video. Somehow, despite my empathy which is kinda fading away now, I always couldn't take an action to comfort others even if I wanted to. Something was so wrong that I couldn't do it or show it making me actually unlovable despite actually the love they provide.
In other hand, my need for justice is so extreme that it burns and controversial which pisses others off but not able to resist myself.
Sounds like anyone in Gen X to me. Everyone I know my age is like this in one way or another. Laugh when you want to cry. Shout when you should be quiet. Quiet when you need to talk. Help others when you need the help yourself. Give more than you take.
Yes.
Fuck it, though. Not any more, only it took me 42 years to realise it.
@katerinathatcher7004 I'm 58 and still suffering from this. I'm still doing things my way by myself and don't expect any glory for it from anyone. Just for my own satisfaction.
I've always said that life is like a rock being in a tumbler. All those bumps along the way are just polishing us off for when we get out of it.
You have described me. I do not extend myself farther than I am willing to lose. Everything I do must be within my own world and therefore under my sole control. I am a fifty five year old virtual loner. A hermit. My belief is everyone will betray you if the price is right. For a very few that price is very high and for others well, they would kill you for a Klondike bar
Thanks for the video i needed to watch.
Thank you, I fee like you are sitting on my shoulder! It is a great lesson of self awareness for me!
Your video harshly resonates with me. I can check off each box. Thanks for making it..... I think. 🤔🤔🤔
Really appreciate the thoughtful approach in this video. As someone who’s studied the physiological effects of stress, it’s clear how important it is to incorporate these kinds of restorative practices into our routines. Each suggestion here aligns well with what we know about promoting mental and physical well-being after challenging times. Great content that can truly make a difference!
The scars can become stars that lead through the darkness...
Wow! Spot on!
I relate to all of this, especially the Hyper Independence. I've been that way as long as I can remember...
Much love everybody ❤
That was a deep deep dive so deep got the bends good job man! Namaste 🙏