The vulnerability and humility Dr John has is exactly why I faithfully watch this show. I am so thankful he brought us into this teaching moment and didn’t scrub the show or throw it away. Yes it was hard to listen to but those moments are hard in our own lives as well. I am just really glad he let us into those calls. I’m thankful for all of the work he does and I’m praying for him to continue on ❤
It's always good to know the "experts" are still human. I wouldn't want a therapist who doesn't understand what it means to fight the good fight because they seem above it all, but one who would guides us to know how to effectively keep on keeping on to best thrive, because they have overcome, gotten through trials. and healed.
I’m going to college for counseling and I kind of listened to this and was trying to see if I could recognize anything that was wrong. I started going through a mental checklist that constantly said, “I’ve been taught not to do/say this, etc.” agreed, very difficult to listen to.
The vulnerability you share today John, is the exact reason why I’m such a huge fan. You have been a role model for me for now 3 years of taking ownership, being humble and admitting your mistakes, and just having amazing wisdom along the way that I have implemented in my own life as I navigate some difficult medical challenges. My mental health has never been better and that’s all thanks to this show!! Love you John! 💕
I heard a marriage therapist giving a lecture once say that the best marriage advice he and his newlywed wife had been given themselves by friends was, "Prepare to be disappointed and to be disappointing."
I started to listen to this show before and thought ok this just another person giving advice. So I started to listen to other ones for a while. Then I decided to give this another try. Now I’m hooked. I love how Dr John really takes the time to be in the moment and give the person time to really take a moment and hear how compassionate and empathetic he really is. That is a great Dr and a great therapist all wrapped into one. He has helped me with numerous struggles lately and mostly understanding that my marriage is worth saving and not just giving up on. Keep up the great work Dr John and please never hide how u are just a person also because everyone is more apt to share more with someone who is real and not just coming up with the right answers to fix things.
Way to show that even if we screw up, we can be adult enough to make the tough choice of admitting it, and doing the best we can to fix it. Truth is, we all screw up sometimes.
I appreciate your heartfelt, raw honesty and vulnerability. Sometimes you have to love people enough to be honest inspite of the fact that you might hurting their feelings. We are here to help people see each other's blind spots! You are awesome John and I appreciate you and your work! I don't think that you were too harsh at all. Please don't candy coat your advice!!
Thanks, John, for being real. Man, my heart goes out to the second caller. I understand the situation a little from a similar experience as a child. I think your advice was gold!
I thought this conversation was good. Both my parents aren’t Christian and sent me to a Christian school and when I turned 18 honestly I made a choice on my own to be a believer my parents never forced me, and both my parents are still not believers, but they have been so supportive and they have always allowed me the choice to choose .I am forever grateful 💕
@@happyface3216 my mom said that she was talking to a Jew that she knew. & she was asking him where she should send me to school, and he explained Jews don’t teach Torah and then send there kids to public school, he explained that it’s confusing .If you teach your kid the about God to keep it consistent . So that they won’t be confused, I hope this makes sense lol . But yeah ! my mom then put me in a Christian school and my life was consistent I wasn’t going to church and seeing two diffrent worlds . All my friends lined up with the same belief, and as I got older I knew the world was there, but it didn’t interest me as much .
I appreciate this episode being aired despite the mistakes. The ex-wife in the first call is completely irrelevant, and I think normally Dr. John would've caught himself before going down that road.
Married to a man who was in great shape when married to his kids' mom, he did that because he was miserable in his marriage. Now that he's in a happy marriage, he's not obsessed with it. 🤷🏼♀️
Didn't listen to the first call. Thought the second call was pretty solid - yeah, John went personal, but it wasn't a bad thing. He still gave good advice.
To be totally honest, I don’t think John has a single thing to feel bad about. From the start of the call it was clear that she hates her husband. She doesn’t care about his hopes and dreams, she only cares about herself. She wants him to have a hot body like his first has wife had. She is delusional.
@@bktenn29 I'm not insulting John. I didn't say he did a bad job or that I could host the show. I stated that I was cringing because I was uncomfortable listening to their exchange.
Yeah I'm cringing cause I'm also unhappy with my husband's health and weight. But it's less, "I expected hotness" and more, you way too young to be this bad health wise! But he also has an ace score of 6.....so I'm trying to be patient and pushing him towards therapy first.
WOW. How is she supposed to tell you about his previous wife? I am so offended that you're blaming her. She's trying so hard to eke out some help from you and you're just pummeling her.
In fairness Dr John prefaced ALL of this, with the fact he was going thru his own sizzles … and this was NOT his A game. Kindness. He didn’t have to air this.
To the 2nd call, and this may seem messed up, but that boy needs to have his daddy's back. He walked in on the neighbor screwing his woman. As a man, you can't imagine that pain.
Parent that put themselves before their children will poison their life time and time again ... trust me. action and consequences ... he need to be out of his life until this child is strong enough to see thing in prospective and have a relationship with boundaries with a toxic fathers ... he need to be cut off until the child is recovered by the trauma of thus tragic episode ... this trauma has changed the trajectory of his life forever ...
The vulnerability and humility Dr John has is exactly why I faithfully watch this show. I am so thankful he brought us into this teaching moment and didn’t scrub the show or throw it away. Yes it was hard to listen to but those moments are hard in our own lives as well. I am just really glad he let us into those calls. I’m thankful for all of the work he does and I’m praying for him to continue on ❤
It's always good to know the "experts" are still human. I wouldn't want a therapist who doesn't understand what it means to fight the good fight because they seem above it all, but one who would guides us to know how to effectively keep on keeping on to best thrive, because they have overcome, gotten through trials. and healed.
Oof as a former counselor who has had many a bad day, this is so hard to watch 🫣 good for John being so vulnerable and sharing this.
I’m going to college for counseling and I kind of listened to this and was trying to see if I could recognize anything that was wrong. I started going through a mental checklist that constantly said, “I’ve been taught not to do/say this, etc.” agreed, very difficult to listen to.
The vulnerability you share today John, is the exact reason why I’m such a huge fan. You have been a role model for me for now 3 years of taking ownership, being humble and admitting your mistakes, and just having amazing wisdom along the way that I have implemented in my own life as I navigate some difficult medical challenges. My mental health has never been better and that’s all thanks to this show!! Love you John! 💕
Dr John I think you getting deep with the calls made this show great . It felt like your involved instead of just talking
I heard a marriage therapist giving a lecture once say that the best marriage advice he and his newlywed wife had been given themselves by friends was, "Prepare to be disappointed and to be disappointing."
Boy, is that ever true. 😄
I started to listen to this show before and thought ok this just another person giving advice. So I started to listen to other ones for a while. Then I decided to give this another try. Now I’m hooked. I love how Dr John really takes the time to be in the moment and give the person time to really take a moment and hear how compassionate and empathetic he really is. That is a great Dr and a great therapist all wrapped into one. He has helped me with numerous struggles lately and mostly understanding that my marriage is worth saving and not just giving up on. Keep up the great work Dr John and please never hide how u are just a person also because everyone is more apt to share more with someone who is real and not just coming up with the right answers to fix things.
Major major respect to John here. More people should replicate the authentic and ownership path
This version of dr John is great honestly
Thank you so much for your honesty John. You are a real person like us. We all have bad days, thank you for make it a teaching moment
Way to show that even if we screw up, we can be adult enough to make the tough choice of admitting it, and doing the best we can to fix it. Truth is, we all screw up sometimes.
"a bunch of little wins" What a great goal.
I appreciate your heartfelt, raw honesty and vulnerability. Sometimes you have to love people enough to be honest inspite of the fact that you might hurting their feelings. We are here to help people see each other's blind spots! You are awesome John and I appreciate you and your work! I don't think that you were too harsh at all. Please don't candy coat your advice!!
Thanks, John, for being real. Man, my heart goes out to the second caller. I understand the situation a little from a similar experience as a child. I think your advice was gold!
You are awesome Dr. John Delony
Thank you for everything you do! We all appreciate you.
There have been other calls that I have been critical of John's handling of them. The three calls from this episode are not any of them.
I thought this conversation was good. Both my parents aren’t Christian and sent me to a Christian school and when I turned 18 honestly I made a choice on my own to be a believer my parents never forced me, and both my parents are still not believers, but they have been so supportive and they have always allowed me the choice to choose .I am forever grateful 💕
That is so cool. What made them send you to that school?
Praise God
@@happyface3216 my mom said that she was talking to a Jew that she knew. & she was asking him where she should send me to school, and he explained Jews don’t teach Torah and then send there kids to public school, he explained that it’s confusing .If you teach your kid the about God to keep it consistent . So that they won’t be confused, I hope this makes sense lol . But yeah ! my mom then put me in a Christian school and my life was consistent I wasn’t going to church and seeing two diffrent worlds . All my friends lined up with the same belief, and as I got older I knew the world was there, but it didn’t interest me as much .
To be human is to be flawed.
I appreciate this episode being aired despite the mistakes. The ex-wife in the first call is completely irrelevant, and I think normally Dr. John would've caught himself before going down that road.
Thank you for being honest and admitting you messed up...these calls...just 😳
I wonder if john called these people back to fix things
Married to a man who was in great shape when married to his kids' mom, he did that because he was miserable in his marriage. Now that he's in a happy marriage, he's not obsessed with it. 🤷🏼♀️
Didn't listen to the first call. Thought the second call was pretty solid - yeah, John went personal, but it wasn't a bad thing. He still gave good advice.
To be totally honest, I don’t think John has a single thing to feel bad about. From the start of the call it was clear that she hates her husband. She doesn’t care about his hopes and dreams, she only cares about herself. She wants him to have a hot body like his first has wife had. She is delusional.
Encouraged.
John warned us about the first call and I am still cringing out of my skin 😵💫
Damn maybe you should do the show Kaye
Why? She's honest.
@@bktenn29 I'm not insulting John. I didn't say he did a bad job or that I could host the show. I stated that I was cringing because I was uncomfortable listening to their exchange.
Seemed like John got triggered by the subject of weight and acted from his triggered state rather than separating himself
Yeah I'm cringing cause I'm also unhappy with my husband's health and weight. But it's less, "I expected hotness" and more, you way too young to be this bad health wise! But he also has an ace score of 6.....so I'm trying to be patient and pushing him towards therapy first.
This is awkward. Definitely not the support she needed.
Yea, he said he was having an off-day at the beginning. I'm assuming you're hard of hearing, is that right?
I feel like I am being gaslit. Do I buy DreamCloud, Helix, or one of each?
You actually make your purchases based on RUclipsr's recommendations? Weird.
Jane sounds awful to be with and be around.
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Man needs to go to Overeater's Anonymous.
He is going to get divorce. They both have to be on the same page when it came to religion before they got married.
Who???
WOW. How is she supposed to tell you about his previous wife? I am so offended that you're blaming her. She's trying so hard to eke out some help from you and you're just pummeling her.
In fairness Dr John prefaced ALL of this, with the fact he was going thru his own sizzles … and this was NOT his A game.
Kindness.
He didn’t have to air this.
and EW 😂😂😂
I'm trying to be the best pizza maker at home I can be.
She didn't sound bitter at all..this is bad advice
To the 2nd call, and this may seem messed up, but that boy needs to have his daddy's back. He walked in on the neighbor screwing his woman. As a man, you can't imagine that pain.
No. The kid's life should come first.
Pop's issues don't matter to a child that didn't ask for any of dad's mess
@@TheEsperKing1 what negatively will happen to the kid if he explains it in a manner that shows it was self defense?
So he was right to kill the dude??? Insane
Haha, that profile pic though🤣
Parent that put themselves before their children will poison their life time and time again ... trust me. action and consequences ... he need to be out of his life until this child is strong enough to see thing in prospective and have a relationship with boundaries with a toxic fathers ...
he need to be cut off until the child is recovered by the trauma of thus tragic episode ... this trauma has changed the trajectory of his life forever ...