The holy trinity of dating in America. Looks, race and height. For example a short average looking guy with great personality and confidence have zero chance with an tall awkward good looking guy. Your looks is you personality
I can totally understand if Black, Latino or White women do not prefer dating Asian men because there is a cultural difference. The problem arises when Asian women prefer not to date Asian men and leave Asian men with no other options.
I've said this stuff for DECADES. No one believed me. As an Asian male, I fully see this issue of why Asian men struggle with dating, marriage, etc. It is a complex issue. At least others now finally see this.
It's an unfortunate racist stereotype that has permeated our society, culture, and media for centuries. It's almost impossible to fight ignorance and common myths that people will still believe and sadly defend to the better end.
Best of luck on getting approval from the Asian parents too if you like an Asian guy! If you don't check all the boxes for Asian parent's approval then 9/10 no matter how much he likes you (at any age), a relationship will not happen. I'm really surprised this wasn't mentioned. My BF is Chinese, he treats me like a queen and is absolutely gorgeous! <3
Dating as an Asian-American male is on Veteran mode, even when you're "good-looking" lol. However, the main problem with AA males is that we believed that stereotypes affects our dating chances, and that made us lose our confidence. We gotta pick up the attitude that we don't give a fuck and we're going to live our life as best we can! People/women will gravitate towards that when we do what we want (with reason)!
I grew up in so cal in the 90’s where Asian men weren’t really a thing. We were just basically set aside and so I didn’t really try to date anybody. But now looking back there were a lot of Hispanics, African Americans, whites, other Asians who were interested. I just didn’t notice because I was so down on myself and insecure. I’m just saying that yes the stereotypes are there. But instead of focusing on the systematic flaws, probably better to just work on ourselves. I’ve been fat and unattractive and gotten no interest. But I’ve always been athletic and attractive and without even trying I got the respect fr other men and interest from women.
It's great to see someone who is expressing and trying to tackle this real life issue about Asian men on a social media platform. Hope your channel gets more exposure on here.
Good analysis. However, one point I think you missed is that many women, rightly or wrongly, believe that Asian men have “traditional” views of gender roles and relations which is unappealing to modern women.
All sets of people have their struggles even if they seem to have it all. Be willing to let time have it’s course, and you will see a difference. PEACE!!
I'm latino, good looking, have a six pack abs, business owner and I still struggle with dating why? Because I'm 5'8 socially awkward and timid. I have better luck dating women from Colombia, Venezuela, Africa and Asia.
I assume you don't live in Asia. A lot of information is either incorrect or very outdated. Most of what you said is also really western points of view which are biased.
Very good video with historical and cultural references. I have heard of the silent screen Japanese actor, but did not know what he looked like. As you know, many people, especially young people struggle with dating. I remember hearing about a professor who was approached by one of her students & inquired, how do you ask someone out for a date? The struggle is real.
The holy trinity of dating in America. Looks, race and height. For example a short average looking guy with great personality and confidence have zero chance with an tall awkward good looking guy. Your looks is you personality
To put in simply, in Asia dating is completely geared towards marriage. There being a nerd will get you a wife, but not here.
Well it's better to live alone. Love in genersl is overrated. 60% couple divorce. Many people cannot live in marriages.
I can totally understand if Black, Latino or White women do not prefer dating Asian men because there is a cultural difference. The problem arises when Asian women prefer not to date Asian men and leave Asian men with no other options.
I've said this stuff for DECADES. No one believed me. As an Asian male, I fully see this issue of why Asian men struggle with dating, marriage, etc. It is a complex issue. At least others now finally see this.
When women think of Asian men, Jet Li, Bruce Lee come to mind. Stereotypes perceived by how Asian men are portrayed on tv
It's an unfortunate racist stereotype that has permeated our society, culture, and media for centuries. It's almost impossible to fight ignorance and common myths that people will still believe and sadly defend to the better end.
It’s the height I’ve seen tall Asian guys pull all day but being short is a true Deficit
Best of luck on getting approval from the Asian parents too if you like an Asian guy! If you don't check all the boxes for Asian parent's approval then 9/10 no matter how much he likes you (at any age), a relationship will not happen. I'm really surprised this wasn't mentioned. My BF is Chinese, he treats me like a queen and is absolutely gorgeous! <3
I had no idea!
Dating as an Asian-American male is on Veteran mode, even when you're "good-looking" lol. However, the main problem with AA males is that we believed that stereotypes affects our dating chances, and that made us lose our confidence. We gotta pick up the attitude that we don't give a fuck and we're going to live our life as best we can! People/women will gravitate towards that when we do what we want (with reason)!
I grew up in so cal in the 90’s where Asian men weren’t really a thing. We were just basically set aside and so I didn’t really try to date anybody. But now looking back there were a lot of Hispanics, African Americans, whites, other Asians who were interested. I just didn’t notice because I was so down on myself and insecure. I’m just saying that yes the stereotypes are there. But instead of focusing on the systematic flaws, probably better to just work on ourselves. I’ve been fat and unattractive and gotten no interest. But I’ve always been athletic and attractive and without even trying I got the respect fr other men and interest from women.
Asian men dating in the west/europe is like playing a game on hard mode.
It's great to see someone who is expressing and trying to tackle this real life issue about Asian men on a social media platform. Hope your channel gets more exposure on here.
Thanks so much for this video. It really helps ☺️
Good analysis. However, one point I think you missed is that many women, rightly or wrongly, believe that Asian men have “traditional” views of gender roles and relations which is unappealing to modern women.
All sets of people have their struggles even if they seem to have it all. Be willing to let time have it’s course, and you will see a difference. PEACE!!
I'm latino, good looking, have a six pack abs, business owner and I still struggle with dating why? Because I'm 5'8 socially awkward and timid. I have better luck dating women from Colombia, Venezuela, Africa and Asia.
I assume you don't live in Asia. A lot of information is either incorrect or very outdated. Most of what you said is also really western points of view which are biased.
Very good video with historical and cultural references. I have heard of the silent screen Japanese actor, but did not know what he looked like. As you know, many people, especially young people struggle with dating. I remember hearing about a professor who was approached by one of her students & inquired, how do you ask someone out for a date? The struggle is real.