Make sure your mental health is good too, dad! It’s hard juggling everyone else’s emotions along with yours too. Good job on making sure mama and baby are doing good and taken care of also ❤
Matt you truly are an amazing support system for Abby! Please don’t let postpartum take Abby away from you and your family. Please don’t let postpartum take Abby away from HERSELF!! God bless
⚠️‼️⚠️‼️⚠️‼️⚠️‼️⚠️ Hey you wild and crazy little lovebirds, don't forget; You _CAN_ get pregnant while breastfeeding.⛔️ 😉😋 CONGRATULATIONS!!! And happy belated birthday and welcome to the world, sweet little one! ❤🥰🥳
No. Stop exploiting your kids! The child can’t even make out his parents features yet, and you have a camera shoved in his face, and are over sharing details about HIS life already. Gross! This needs to stop. Abby is wising up. The sooner she kicks this overgrown man child to the curb…and/or makes him stop…the better (the fact he uploaded this at all tells me he wasn’t impressed by anything but what the footage would do for/provide him)! She could do so much better for herself, and for her boys!
I got sent home alone, as a first time mum, on my own and breastfeeding and had to walk the entire length of the hospital out less than 24hrs after an emergency c section. C sections are no joke! It's so lovely that she and baby have you there supporting them ❤️
Judging by your mum spelling you’re either British or Aussie and as a Brit I’m really surprised they let you go home that early. Usually hospitals will keep you for 2 nights at least sometimes up to 4.
One of the strangest things that happen after giving birth is that nobody says hi to you anymore. They just grab the baby and give it a whole lot of loving and you’re left standing in the doorway saying hi to the walls.
Sad truth. Reason why i don't wanna have a kid. It's like they take care of you, protect you like an object that's gonna break soon, give you all the things you love to eat etc... when I realise that all these special treatings are not because they love you who was living for years but, for an unborn human that hasn't even form a relationship with. It's so sad. This is the reason why I don't want a kid. It's never worth it (for me). I hate it so much. But, I still support mamas. I was born alone, I am alone and then people love me, and at the end you are again alone when a baby comes. You'll just hate it, i mean idk about others but, surely i will hate it. No thanks i'll never get pregnant just to satisfy others. I'll have a baby using the new techno way but, still i will treat everyone equally and never mind if they don't care for me because at least i will not feel sad for enduring a pain for more than a year (including pregnancy)
@@nery_alfaro My life is my life. It's all about me. But, i won't get pregnant and that will remain the same. Edit:- why do people hate me when i say my opinion tho 😬 i mean everyone are different so why do others give me a sh*t. Some type hate comments towards my opinion which won't even affect them, but, they act like i'm living from their money and does a bad effect for their lives. I don't understand why others are like this.
@mothertrucker936 I always tell my friends that the moment they have a baby, we will no longer be the friends we were before. We will still be friends but unfortunately I'm not going to get all wrapped up in their kids lives. I have a tone of nieces and nephews and I'm burnt out on people thinking that their kids run everyone now and now i have to adjust my adult life for their kids. No thanks. My best friend had a baby and she said "you weren't joking". I said "sure wasn't". Your going to have to find some mom friends now.
if she felt overlooked why would you film all of this instead of being in the moment with her? this is about her health and well-being, not clicks or internet fame
It’s so crazy because he’s expressing how hard this journey has been and on top of that he’s filming it from multiple angles!! It’s wild to me that people can even think about picking up a camera in moments like this. 🤯🤯🤯
It's their job. And if they're comfortable and able, isn't it a good thing to see the RAW and REAL of starting a family, giving birth, etc.? So many young couples are struggling because they're not told the truth about life, and just how hard it can be and how many feel worthless because of COMPLETELY NORMAL feeling they're having in the moment. But go ahead and find something wrong with it.
@@lunamoona1505Its normal to feel that way, cos everyone is tending to the baby, and she's in pain, and extremely emotional. Matt was sleep deprived as well, and also had many other things to take care of, as well as support Abby, he did AMAZING, and I'm sure he was there helping and trying to make her feel loved and comfortable, as much as possible. He always does. And compared to some dads, he's a GEM.
😂😂 exactly! A planned c-section where he more than likely got a full nights sleep the night before and a chilled out morning heading to hospital and then to sit on his bum on a stool in theatre while the baby was born 😂 it wasn’t like she was in Labour days! With my second I was in hardcore Labour 4 days neither me nor my husband got any sleep so he was almost as exhausted as I was as he was supporting me!
Yes him too, the emotional damage of his wife in pain. What do you want your husband to not care about you?? Feminism is so focused the hatred of men that what you're complaining about don't even make sense anymore.💀🤦🏾♀️
So hes not allowed to have feelings or be exhausted. He ahd to watch his wife in pain for hours and when a new baby comws constantly be worried something will go wrong
Matt couldn’t put his little music career on hold for a day after Abby gave BIRTH. He ignored her for TWO DAYS after she gave birth. He’s lucky she didn’t leave him. He doesn’t even acknowledge that her pain is 1000x worse than his. It’s not “us” it’s HER.
@@crystalyousefi7266apparently he does pdcasts and on one of them he said how he gave her the silent treatment for two days because his career was interrupted by the GODDAMN BABY BEING BORN. Also hes apparently been posting a couple of vids(shorts) that gloos over the fight they had about breastfeeding and basically bad talking her for trying to breastfeed the baby. (He tried to put it on formula but that apparently makes it very difficult to start breastfeeding since its so much harder than a bottle.) Ofc, take this with a grain of salt, im not the most informed, but thats the gist of what ive seen so far.
@@crystalyousefi7266 It was in one of the recent podcasts, he outright admitted to ignoring her and he was just so dismissive. Plus this video and some others, he just will not recognize that his difficulties were insignificant compared to Abby, how difficult birth is. He’s kind of bullying her at this point
After my c-section, at one point I was just weeping and feeling so overwhelmed because it was also my first baby. My husband, who was sleep deprived as well, tells me “it’s because you’re hurting. You need more pain meds.” They had taken me off of IV meds and switched to capsules, which I need to request. I didn’t even realize I was in pain because I was so focused on the baby. I’m so grateful for him!
Mine told me the same thing. I couldnt take meds due to allergies so i was in pain on my own with 4th degree tears and 200 stitches in the bits could barely walk. My husband was a trooper though back and forth between my room and the nicu to care for our son since i wasnt allowed out of my room due to an unexplained fever. We were there a week and i dont think he slept more than 2 hours a day the entire time.
Meanwhile Matt here is giving his wife the silent treatment, undermining her confidence in breastfeeding, and then making vidoes blaming the "conflict" on her hormones and implying she was starving the baby because she was obsessed with breastfeeding.
It’s so emotional seeing her not having to go through it by herself, it’s hard to recover from those wounds physically and mentally when your partner thinks it’s mom’s problem alone. I’m so happy for you and I wish nothing but a calm recovery. You got this!! ❤❤❤
@@gondametzger6146 exactly, all he wanted to do was shove a camera in her face and play happy families for RUclips content not support her because he was having a meltdown about his ‘career’. Abby deserves more.
@@rileymannfeld8741There are many other comments saying at, he said in his podcast at he gave her for two days the silent treatment right after the C-Section.😢
@@rileymannfeld8741 he admitted to ignoring her and giving her the silent treatment for two days. Because the baby being born interrupted his music career plans 😮💨 he interrupted her to defend that he didn't do anything wrong. It's on the podcast
he did went through emotional struggles as well, and that’s okay. Abby obviously didn’t say a thing in the video, so it’s all Matt‘s POV. Of course it’s gonna be about him, I’m sure once Abby feels better she’s gonna share a lot of stuff that could be seen as a POV as well. This is a couple channel, if Abby would have not felt like this video was okay, they wouldn’t have uploaded it in the first place.
@@einfachalinaThe new podcast he says he didn't talk to Abby for two days shortly after she gave birth. 😢 Seems like more than an understandable struggle.
As always. He has always done this, but the young fans don't spot it because they are young. I don't mean any offense to young fans, but with life experience comes the ability to spot damaging behavior and recognize patterns of behavior. He puts his BEST self forward and spins thing to make himself look like husband/father of the year, and you can STILL notice a bunch of things that absolutely scream textbook narcissistic.
@@einfachalina the problem is that Matt's POV is strategically designed to paint himself as a saint while shifting blame and character attacking others. When there is no way to twist things, he shares blame as to make himself seem enlightened and honest. Otherwise, he does sneaky little things to embarass, put down, and shift blame on abby. Evvverrrything he does is carefully calculated to continue recieving adoration from young fans online, regardless of how dogshit his behavior and actions are. Matt is dangerous and unhealthy, he is not what any young person should hope for themselves in terms of a partner. I wish there was a better way to understand other than "with age and experience comes the ability to recognize this stuff." The people calling out his behavior aren't hating, we are continually observing a very distinct pattern of behaviors that suggest he is a narcissist, and because narcissists are dangerous, we call it out to inform others.
@@nikki1400 maybe you’re right, I mean you aren’t the only one that explained it that way to me/trying to put it as respectfully as possible. So there definitely must be something about it. In regards of the fight they had where they didn’t talk to each other right after birth I simply thought „it’s better to remove yourself from a situation than let is escalate“, trying to make a excuse on their behalf.. but y’all are definitely right. I can’t really spot all of the damaging behaviour you mentioned YET but I’ll be careful with what I say in the future since I’m well aware that I’m kind of romanticising their online personas. :)
While a man is in a different state after watching his wife give birth, the use of “recovery for us” is not correct. Abby is the one who did work for 9 months, had her body cut and now has to continue to work for her recovery and feeding her baby. Matt, it’s all about Abby at the moment.
Yes she went through a lot but they went through it together and Matt obviously went through his own issues as well. He worded it right, it acknowledges BOTH of their journeys .
@@amazingwrldofkaylah8575the problem here is that its implying his problem is the same as hers. His wife is the one dealing with it. Hes just sleep deprived
I will forever be grateful to my husband after my c section. Hospital staff was very low and he had to look after me and our newborn. I was very sick. He slept on a hard hospital chair, that didn’t recline, for 4 days… and never complained once. To the men who have been through this, you’re hero’s 😊 It’s always about the mother and babies during this time and I feel like our partners don’t always get the recognition. Big love to you guys, our silent knights in shining armour 💓
Men like your husband are so rare. I’ve seen many who make it al about them as if their partner didn’t just have a whole ass child and major pain and changes to their body (be it vaginal or c section delivery). I hope I find a guy like that. We need more men like him.
@@milesjackieh He admitted he gave her the silent treatment for two days after she gave birth. His reasoning was that the baby took time away from his career. It was in their recent podcast. He said it like it wasn't an awful thing for him to do, and he interrupted Abby to say that. It's no wonder she felt overlooked.
“It wasn’t the physical pain that wrecked US” says the man who did absolutely nothing physical in this situation besides being present. Maybe Abby’s emotions are stemming from ALSO being extremely uncomfortable from a major surgery. I felt emotional 2months pp when I had my gallbladder removed. It was hard not grabbing my baby and moving easily, and that wasn’t even directly after birth.
Men always complain but what women go through is always 1000x worse and then being in bad spirits only makes them feel like more of a burden. No room for weakness, gotta stay strong. It doesn’t matter if you’re tired… she’s more tired. That baby and mom just went through something you’d never begin to understand. I hope the third child gets easier ❤️
Yeah. They also have to do the 10 month pregnancy with pregnancy insomnia and all the hormonal and body changes before it even gets to the birth and recovery.
Taking care of his family should be his first job, not vlog content. I'm sure no one would care if they took two weeks off, except for Matt, because how would he promote his song if he's taking care of his wife and newborn?? Narcissistic behavior fishing for praise.
It rubs me the wrong way how he’s making it about him. Sir you did not just give birth. Your hormones and emotions aren’t all over the place. Maybe you’re sleep deprived but stop saying we.
😂😂😂 YOU must do a lot of complaining in your house for you to find fault in him speaking for the BOTH of them… I can tell you don’t listen well either because he was expressing how SHE and he was feeling 😂 Why are his feelings not valid Karen of the dads??
@@ceceslivinglifeLet’s see… dude there literally said that he didn’t speak to the mother of his child for two days after the doctors sliced her open & extracted a small human.
@@belindapaul9828 selective hearing is dangerous to the masses… you heard what you wanted to fit your rant. He never said he didn’t speak to her for 2 days,… get over yourselves and appreciate a man that communicates how he feels vs bottling it up and being cold and distant
@ceceslivinglife being cold and distant is one way of emotionally abusing your family. Being hyper emotional and making everything about yourself and your emotions while minimizing the importance of your family members' emotions is another method of emotional abuse. Neither is good.
Matt you keep saying “us” yet I didn’t see you on the table having a c-section, or go through 9 months of pregnancy, or the rush of hormones through all of the pregnancy and birth…. You quite literally did nothing but ignore your wife AFTER SHE GAVE BIRTH TO YOUR CHILD because you were sad and thought you couldn’t continue your music career
Agree. “It felt like the world was ending” is a cruddy thing to say about bringing your child into the world. If anything it’s a new beginning, and he should be expecting it considering he chose to have a second child for content. Matt wouldn’t even have a platform to promote his music career if it weren’t for his wife and kids.
So husbands aren’t allowed to feel fear, anxiety and other emotions around the idea of a new child? Don’t get me wrong Abby went through the most, but is the husband meant to just shut up and bottle away their feelings, concerns and etc?
@@bruhmoment6275when their wife was literally cut in half to bring a human to the world, the least a husband can do i sick it up for a while. It's called being a father
@@claudiaescoe7861weird how his solution to knowing his wife was in immense pain physically and emotionally was to give her the silent treament like a toddler. It's because he wasn't thinking about her and he was thinking about HIS music career. While his wife is still recovering from major surgery and his new baby has just been born this is the moment he throws a tantrum and ponders that his music career might be over. Dude had 9 months to plan for this and did it right after the birth of his child. Selfish and wouldn't be surprised if this type of behavior continues.
seriously can’t believe somebody would give another human being the silent treatment for days, let alone someone who didn’t even do anything, let alone someone they love, let alone the person that birthed their child, let alone not regretting it 😦😦 i always thought they were such a wholesome couple but now i’m feeling bad for abby, not only for what he did but there are significantly higher rates of postpartum depression after a c section maybe i’m just some rando that doesn’t know anything about their life but jeez man
This is what having a new baby is like for all c-section mums! I'm in the UK & i was up and walking around in less than 12 hours after having my little one. They then moved me to a different ward, where I was monitored and having tests & so was my baby. He then got jaundice, just as we were nearly able to go home, so we were in for a week after! Feeding every two hours and pumping breast milk half an hour before that! It was crazy! Horrific and traumatizing! But also pretty standard. You just have to keep in mind that your baby is safe and their safety is what matters above all else! Xxx
@isrelleutrra Idk that's what I thought too, but apparently he wants his music career to be bigger than it is? He never clarified what career goals exactly, just that it's her fault
Given the recent tragedy regarding social media influencer Ruby Franke’s arrest for child abuse, it’s time to enact legislation to protect minors who are being filmed by their parents in these for-profit family vlogs. There are strict guidelines for child stars in the tv and film industry. The same protections should be afforded to minors (like yours) who are often unwilling participants in their parents’ quest for internet fame and the money that comes with it I hope something is done soon.
does it kinda seem like he makes it seem like he’s doing a lot of work too like i know it’s a team effort but not the birthing recovery for her body yk
He won’t do that he has to make out he is a saint and the first guy whose wife has ever had 2 kids close together got to get the likes and the subs 💰💰💰💵💵💵
Abby is so tuff but Matt please support her more yes there’s a new born baby in the picture and you be got griffin but spending time with Abby makes a big difference to help her recover and she needs you Matt so be there ❤️❤️
I had an emergency c-section and my baby went straight to the NICU. I didn’t get to hold him until 18 hours later. That was really tough. 15 days later he came home and now he’ll be 11 in two weeks!
This is why we (my mom and I) sent my husband home after the birth. He was already sleep deprived and we decided it was best if one of us was well rested when we got home. My mom was much better equipped to help me through that first night anyway.
Even with all the help I got from my husband and mom after my emergency c-section, I seriously felt like the world was ending. Childbirth is so hard, the hormone crash is so hard, caring for a newborn while healing is so hard. But it helps tremendously when you have a support system.
I feel you, I had one that wasn't planned at all. Natural birth is painful when baby comes out as via a c-section but after that the pains are soo brutally, feeling like your organs are coming out, when trying to move a bit or so more during walking. My body needed long recovery had to stay in hospital for two weeks.😢 Luckily that was 17yrs ago. But at I always needed help to breastfeeding my newborn felt so bad at I couldn't do it all by myself. 🥺 And the milk, I had was alot at I had even to pump much of it cause my body was producing milk so much it did hurt as well and they took my pumped milk for mothers, who couldn't breastfeeding their newborns which made me feel better. The nurses called me the cowgirl.😅😮
Dude shut up like any man who feels like they are with the mother in all experiences of a birth or pregnancy is greatttt half the men I see won’t even stay awake during any of it I give him props cause he’ll it does hit him too that’s his wife his love if she’s hurting so is he
@@bryannamilligan4139he ignored her. Full silent treatment FOR TWO DAYS. So he showed up, he made it about him the whole time because he was upset the baby "took time from his music career" after acting like the most supportive person on the Internet when they found out they were expecting so soon after their first. He literally interrupted her when she was talking about the 2 day silent treatment to say he didn't feel like it was wrong.
I had amazing nurses after my delivery except for one. She left me crying, overwhelmed alone while my husband was getting stuff for us at home. She gave me the “figure it out” kind of attitude. This phase is so so hard. Take things one day at a time.❤️
Most new parents have no clue how much their lives will change over night. But you adjust and get to hold this beautiful baby. The love a parent feels for their child is not like anything you've ever felt before. It's actually painful. ❤️
And this folks is why you don't have babies back to back. Your body needs time to rest, doctors reccomend 2 years at least. Please be careful and make sure you have a strong support system yall
I remember that about my c sections. They bother you constantly. I’m like “just let me sleep!”❤ it will get better. Prayers for a safe and speedy recovery.
@@henri-hugoparik3982well i don’t know all the details, but ive heard matt gave her the silent treatment for 2 days after she had the C section because he thought the baby was effecting his career or something. he confirmed this on the podcast too its not just rumors.
I'm sorry what's wrong with a husband saying us? Yes a woman will hurt so much more during a pregnancy, but just like marriage, it's a partnership and affects both people in the relationship.
This happened with my first, people don’t realize the toll it takes when you have C-Section and the constant check ins every hour barely allow you to start recovery.
I’m sorry but in these circumstances, the only thing that is important is the health of mom and baby. You guys have that. Everything else will fall into place. I’ve been there, I know and I had twins. Don’t loose sight of what is important. Nothing but love
If you don't get up and walk it can lead to blood clots which can lead to death. Honestly it helps the recovery time so much as well, the sooner you can get up and walk the easier your recovery will be, at least in my experience and I've had to go through this twice.
as a nursing student this is not the way we should look at this situation! I agree that women’s pain is often overlooked in clinical settings, but in this instance, her nurses are having her get up and walk around to avoid developing something called a deep vein thrombosis - aka a blood clot. DVTs are most often caused by immobility, so early annulation after surgeries is standard procedure, and we try to medicate the patient as much as we can to minimize their pain while they’re walking. believe me, nurses don’t love making people get up and walk while they’re clearly in pain. we’d love to let you rest as long as you need to, but we’re also trying to weigh complications that you haven’t considered!
I couldn’t walk the day after having a C-section because of complications, and when that happens, they put these things on your legs that shake them every fifteen minutes so that you don’t get blood clots. Try sleeping with those things on. Would much rather have walked the day after. Perhaps my experience wasn’t typical, but the pain just wasn’t all that bad for me.
Its a good thing they had an extremely normal delivery, so much so that it almost went too well. If anything out of the ordinary or bad would have happened, I dont know how they would have coped.
Congratulations beautiful parents! Tell Abby she’s a star. Prayers of quick healing and support going your way. Both of you sleep when the baby sleeps. Don’t worry about anything, accept help when offered it will help you out in a big way. Hugs and Live 🤩
Wait, am I missing something? This is what EVERY MOTHER (c-section or natural) have to go through. I could’ve swore this was their second child. The first 24hrs IS hard for that simple fact. Of course doctors have to run tests on mom and baby; OF COURSE she has to get up and walk so they know everything is okay. What’s emotional is the mamas who didn’t get to hold their babies. What’s emotional is the moms who have done it on their OWN. This seems like frivolous complaints just for “content”
Agreed. I had a C-section and had to walk down to the nic u to see my son, my husband works full time so I had to do it alone, quit complaining and be thankful for what you do have!
@@Havis_Princessnope. That’s not what they said at all. They just wanted Matt and Abby not to pretend to make up stuff for content. They can share their struggles and show their appreciation without being condescending to others and their experience. Saying “it felt like the end of the world” when they had a relatively smooth birth experience and the privilege to receive quality care is out of touch. It’s called being thoughtful, but for Matt that is “unrealistic”
I had 2 emergency C-Sections. I was up and walking, taking care of baby alone as soon as the spinal wore off. Even got to go home in 24 hours because I had walked downstairs to put my babies carseat in the car (he was early so it wasn't installed yet) and took a shower so the doctors felt confident letting me go. Especially with my last, recovering from major surgery, taking care of a newborn and 3 older kids by myself, was super rough. The bond that created was amazing though. My youngest is 5 now, and our bond is still incredible.
Well, he actually ignored her for the first 48h of the baby being there so i don’t know about that. If you wanna hear them say it, listen to the podcast where they talk about the birth
You guys are so sweet!!! Btw, I didn't know this until my third birth, but you can usually refuse those night time check ups. My rockstar nurse offered to put a 'do not disturb' sign on my door (or however they word it). It was so helpful!
I think for a C-section they check more often cause it’s major surgery. Like trapped air or gas after a C-section is a really big deal. Blood clots and not being about to use your bowls can also happen.
Yes, here too. I had to stay 3 weeks in the hospital after my emergency c section because my daughter was born 7 weeks prematurely. When I could shower by myself and pee they changed rooms and let me stay and sleep in one room with my baby who was laying in the incubator. If I wanted to rest I could put up a sign at the door and they were very respectful of our privacy as long as my baby health was allowing it. They also taught us how to take care of such a little baby and we noticed the more we could do ourselves, the less they needed to come in. Sometimes they would only take a peek through the door and see how we did and left.
I feel for you. Im disabled, wheelchair user, i had c sections with both my babies, under general anaesthesia due to spinal reasons. My husband had both babies straight out of surgery, he looked after his disabled wife and newborn baby. He was amazing, never complained and took it all in his stride. I think caring for his disabled wife prepared him as he knew he'd be the main carer for our child the moment we decided to have them. We have 2 kids now, 18 months apart. They're amazing, and hes an amazing dad. He wouldnt have had it any other way. Get as much rest as you can and remember these feelings, this tiredness, wont last forever.
We need to focus more on both mom & dad health. Of course the largest hormonal storm happens to mom, but dads can can get depressed too. ❤ Take care, they grow up fast.
I’ve had three C-sections, and all of them are very traumatic. It is very different than a vaginal birth, and no one really ever tells you that. Your abdominal muscles have been cut and it’s at least a four week recovery. It’s learning how to get out of bed properly. It’s learning how to hold your stomach so that when you sneeze or cough, you don’t feel like it’s being ripped open again. The key to that is to use a pillow when holding your tummy. And on top of all that you’re taking care of a newborn baby.
Add to that trauma if you have a man child for a husband (at the best) or a toxic abusive one (at the worst) and more than one kid to look after 👍🏼 I will never forgive my husband for the way he treated me especially while pregnant and pp.
I love Jim Gaffigans line about people asking him what it’s like having 5 kids. He said, imagine you’re drowning and someone hands you a baby. To me, that’s what it felt like with each one!
Ahh there it is. The video where they complain about the recovery from a c-section they chose to "get it done". They act like they are the only one going through this. Sleep deprivation, emotional pain, that's all part of the package. At least they have people taking care of the oldest son so he can stay with his wife.
Thank you for sharing the reality of not just the highs but the lows as well💕 that’s really brave and you’re being so supportive to all of the new parents by letting them know it’s okay and normal if things aren’t all sunshine and rainbows right after having a baby
No he's not. He admitted to ignoring Abby for two days after she gave birth. His reasoning was that he didn't have time for his music career and he "felt like his world was ending". So he took it out on Abby. It was in the podcast where they talk about the birth. Abby felt overlooked for good reason.
I know it’s hard but you will get through this, and once all of this pain is over you will look back and remember how much of a blessing it was to have auggie🤗
Want to know what is so cute that I noticed, Matt rubs his hands on both of his kids heads to comfort them. Like when August was just born he rubbed his head. ❤❤😭 it’s adorable, what an awesome mom and dad💗
I’m 24 and 6 weeks pregnant, crying and watching all of your videos. I’m saving them all to a playlist to watch again because they’re so real and helpful and relatable…all of which I am going to need as part of my support because I’m living abroad with my husband currently. I’m also so inspired of Abby’s resilience, I hope to learn from it and push myself to be healthy like that postpartum! Thank y’all 💖
Wonder if she feels like she cheated now?😂 in all seriousness having a c section can be really serious, it took me almost a year and a half to finally be able to fully even stretch my body. It can be really hard on women and a lot of people don’t consider the emotional and physical toll that heightens when you have a c section . The trauma that is causes to your body can be intense and I wish people didn’t consider it cheating or not the same when you do receive a c section, although I get why I just wish people would consider the fact we also go through pain & that we also are powerful to even survive a c section.
Just so EVERYONE knows, you can absolutely tell them to stop coming on every hour and let you sleep. Unless there is something wrong, they don’t need to be in there every hour or every two hours. It’s literally just people practicing on you. You can tell them not to. Unless she needs to get up and walk there’s no reason for them to be in there.
My first born daughter was vaccum. Had 9 stitches and recovery was hellish. Sat my butt in hot salt water few times a day to help with the pain. Baby 2-4 all c section. All girl. 3 c section was hellish but the moment i set my eyes on my 4 daughters it was heaven on earth. Yes the pain was crazy. Slight move ended up with severe pain and bloodbath. I was discharged on the 3rd day after each birth and i literally took care babies myself. If i have to do it again i would in a heartbeat. Stay strong matt and abby. You can do it.
Really love that y’all are still giving us so much content while also adjusting to have the correct safety measures in place for your family by not showing close ups of the kids anymore! I greatly respect you both for making such a great choice!!
I was by myself, sent home with a c-section. No help. A sick baby. I would have her sleep in her car seat in my bed so she was upright with a severe cold. She had kidney surgery at 2 months, alone then too. Be thankful you had your husband there, and friends.
A huge congratulations! If only all partners were this nice! Some Dad's forget that birth especially csection recovery is brutal for a new mom, and leave her all alone for the whole process, went through that 4 times. Not fun. Would be a lot easier with a loving partner. So to all the good partners out there, you don't know how much you are appreciated!
I had to have an emergency c-section with my last one, during the pandemic. It was rough, to say the least. It's so beautiful to watch you two support and love each other. ❤
The way that you're seemingly putting your experience on the same level as hers is wild. She just had surgery, her hormones are all over the place from creating a whole human, and lastly she's sleep deprived. You're sleep deprived. I hope that's not getting twisted.
Watch the full video here: ruclips.net/video/JJLhPhVVmuY/видео.htmlsi=zt-b2Y1yLK3AfJDm
Make sure your mental health is good too, dad! It’s hard juggling everyone else’s emotions along with yours too. Good job on making sure mama and baby are doing good and taken care of also ❤
Matt you truly are an amazing support system for Abby! Please don’t let postpartum take Abby away from you and your family. Please don’t let postpartum take Abby away from HERSELF!! God bless
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Hey you wild and crazy little lovebirds, don't forget; You _CAN_ get pregnant while breastfeeding.⛔️
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CONGRATULATIONS!!! And happy belated birthday and welcome to the world, sweet little one! ❤🥰🥳
No. Stop exploiting your kids! The child can’t even make out his parents features yet, and you have a camera shoved in his face, and are over sharing details about HIS life already. Gross! This needs to stop. Abby is wising up. The sooner she kicks this overgrown man child to the curb…and/or makes him stop…the better (the fact he uploaded this at all tells me he wasn’t impressed by anything but what the footage would do for/provide him)! She could do so much better for herself, and for her boys!
Dude. You ignored her for 2 days. You need therapy and to grow up a bit. I feel so bad for your wife.
I got sent home alone, as a first time mum, on my own and breastfeeding and had to walk the entire length of the hospital out less than 24hrs after an emergency c section. C sections are no joke! It's so lovely that she and baby have you there supporting them ❤️
F that... I was there 5 days after my emergency c
Breastfeeding is also sooo much harder after csections! Hoping for a vbac just so I can hold my baby without being in pain 😩
Judging by your mum spelling you’re either British or Aussie and as a Brit I’m really surprised they let you go home that early. Usually hospitals will keep you for 2 nights at least sometimes up to 4.
Where were your parents are siblings
If i had known u i would have came and helped u. U poor new momma
One of the strangest things that happen after giving birth is that nobody says hi to you anymore. They just grab the baby and give it a whole lot of loving and you’re left standing in the doorway saying hi to the walls.
Sad truth. Reason why i don't wanna have a kid. It's like they take care of you, protect you like an object that's gonna break soon, give you all the things you love to eat etc... when I realise that all these special treatings are not because they love you who was living for years but, for an unborn human that hasn't even form a relationship with. It's so sad. This is the reason why I don't want a kid. It's never worth it (for me). I hate it so much. But, I still support mamas. I was born alone, I am alone and then people love me, and at the end you are again alone when a baby comes. You'll just hate it, i mean idk about others but, surely i will hate it. No thanks i'll never get pregnant just to satisfy others. I'll have a baby using the new techno way but, still i will treat everyone equally and never mind if they don't care for me because at least i will not feel sad for enduring a pain for more than a year (including pregnancy)
@@Fnb-cb-200yes please don't have children. This is such a selfish outlook on life. Life isn't about you and sadly you were taught that.
@@nery_alfaro My life is my life. It's all about me. But, i won't get pregnant and that will remain the same.
Edit:- why do people hate me when i say my opinion tho 😬 i mean everyone are different so why do others give me a sh*t. Some type hate comments towards my opinion which won't even affect them, but, they act like i'm living from their money and does a bad effect for their lives. I don't understand why others are like this.
@@nery_alfaroHer life *is* about her.
@mothertrucker936 I always tell my friends that the moment they have a baby, we will no longer be the friends we were before. We will still be friends but unfortunately I'm not going to get all wrapped up in their kids lives. I have a tone of nieces and nephews and I'm burnt out on people thinking that their kids run everyone now and now i have to adjust my adult life for their kids. No thanks. My best friend had a baby and she said "you weren't joking". I said "sure wasn't". Your going to have to find some mom friends now.
I'm 110% here for everyone roasting Matt. Keep doing the lords work yall.
if she felt overlooked why would you film all of this instead of being in the moment with her? this is about her health and well-being, not clicks or internet fame
It’s so crazy because he’s expressing how hard this journey has been and on top of that he’s filming it from multiple angles!! It’s wild to me that people can even think about picking up a camera in moments like this. 🤯🤯🤯
It’s their job, so he kinda has to remember it lol. Not like us normal folks who don’t do this for a living😂
It's their job. And if they're comfortable and able, isn't it a good thing to see the RAW and REAL of starting a family, giving birth, etc.? So many young couples are struggling because they're not told the truth about life, and just how hard it can be and how many feel worthless because of COMPLETELY NORMAL feeling they're having in the moment. But go ahead and find something wrong with it.
Right? I wonder why she felt overlooked.
@@lunamoona1505Its normal to feel that way, cos everyone is tending to the baby, and she's in pain, and extremely emotional. Matt was sleep deprived as well, and also had many other things to take care of, as well as support Abby, he did AMAZING, and I'm sure he was there helping and trying to make her feel loved and comfortable, as much as possible. He always does. And compared to some dads, he's a GEM.
@@succyamum4127no they weren’t comfortable lol, the podcast apparently she was not happy bout this recording
Hit “US” like a train!? Boy….
😂😂 exactly! A planned c-section where he more than likely got a full nights sleep the night before and a chilled out morning heading to hospital and then to sit on his bum on a stool in theatre while the baby was born 😂 it wasn’t like she was in Labour days! With my second I was in hardcore Labour 4 days neither me nor my husband got any sleep so he was almost as exhausted as I was as he was supporting me!
Hey, ordering door dash while listening to your wife scream through labour is EXHAUSTING.
Yes him too, the emotional damage of his wife in pain. What do you want your husband to not care about you?? Feminism is so focused the hatred of men that what you're complaining about don't even make sense anymore.💀🤦🏾♀️
So hes not allowed to have feelings or be exhausted. He ahd to watch his wife in pain for hours and when a new baby comws constantly be worried something will go wrong
@dengar96 she got a c section not a reg birth. So she didnt feel anything when giving birth
So glad all the these comments confirm how this video made me feel... like SHut UP little boy, jeez. Poor Abby, I hope she's recovering well.
Matt couldn’t put his little music career on hold for a day after Abby gave BIRTH. He ignored her for TWO DAYS after she gave birth. He’s lucky she didn’t leave him. He doesn’t even acknowledge that her pain is 1000x worse than his. It’s not “us” it’s HER.
WAIT WHAT????? what happened???
@@crystalyousefi7266apparently he does pdcasts and on one of them he said how he gave her the silent treatment for two days because his career was interrupted by the GODDAMN BABY BEING BORN. Also hes apparently been posting a couple of vids(shorts) that gloos over the fight they had about breastfeeding and basically bad talking her for trying to breastfeed the baby. (He tried to put it on formula but that apparently makes it very difficult to start breastfeeding since its so much harder than a bottle.)
Ofc, take this with a grain of salt, im not the most informed, but thats the gist of what ive seen so far.
@@crystalyousefi7266 It was in one of the recent podcasts, he outright admitted to ignoring her and he was just so dismissive. Plus this video and some others, he just will not recognize that his difficulties were insignificant compared to Abby, how difficult birth is. He’s kind of bullying her at this point
@@alicedodobirb2808 wow…. i thought he was a good man. that’s so embarrassing for him.
@@lachatte307 abby deserves better than this.
After my c-section, at one point I was just weeping and feeling so overwhelmed because it was also my first baby. My husband, who was sleep deprived as well, tells me “it’s because you’re hurting. You need more pain meds.” They had taken me off of IV meds and switched to capsules, which I need to request. I didn’t even realize I was in pain because I was so focused on the baby. I’m so grateful for him!
Yes and hormones after giving birth can cause mood swings, after my first i was so surprised how emotional and weepy i got in the next couple of days
Mine told me the same thing. I couldnt take meds due to allergies so i was in pain on my own with 4th degree tears and 200 stitches in the bits could barely walk. My husband was a trooper though back and forth between my room and the nicu to care for our son since i wasnt allowed out of my room due to an unexplained fever. We were there a week and i dont think he slept more than 2 hours a day the entire time.
Meanwhile Matt here is giving his wife the silent treatment, undermining her confidence in breastfeeding, and then making vidoes blaming the "conflict" on her hormones and implying she was starving the baby because she was obsessed with breastfeeding.
It’s so emotional seeing her not having to go through it by herself, it’s hard to recover from those wounds physically and mentally when your partner thinks it’s mom’s problem alone. I’m so happy for you and I wish nothing but a calm recovery. You got this!! ❤❤❤
Well done amazing people ❤
He did ignore her for 2 days after the birth
You sound like you're speaking from experience. Hope you're doing ok! ❤️
I know the feeling. This makes me happy too. I want the best for women as they go through their postpartum recovery, so seeing them well supported.
@@gondametzger6146 exactly, all he wanted to do was shove a camera in her face and play happy families for RUclips content not support her because he was having a meltdown about his ‘career’. Abby deserves more.
I have never seen a man make his wife's difficult postpartum more about HIM..... especially since I hear he's the one who made it difficult for her
preach
What did he do??
@@rileymannfeld8741There are many other comments saying at, he said in his podcast at he gave her for two days the silent treatment right after the C-Section.😢
@@rileymannfeld8741 he admitted to ignoring her and giving her the silent treatment for two days. Because the baby being born interrupted his music career plans 😮💨 he interrupted her to defend that he didn't do anything wrong. It's on the podcast
@@chaysethebadger that’s honestly so sad and messed up.
not him taking ownership of HER pain lmfao
dude his videos piss me off
@@lolainocencio8041 honestly
I love them but him saying "WE are pregnant" ...... no you're not dude
@@poorlenore fr! “We are expecting” or “we are having a baby” is more appropriate
You just had to make it all about you matt 🙄
he did went through emotional struggles as well, and that’s okay.
Abby obviously didn’t say a thing in the video, so it’s all Matt‘s POV. Of course it’s gonna be about him, I’m sure once Abby feels better she’s gonna share a lot of stuff that could be seen as a POV as well.
This is a couple channel, if Abby would have not felt like this video was okay, they wouldn’t have uploaded it in the first place.
@@einfachalinaThe new podcast he says he didn't talk to Abby for two days shortly after she gave birth. 😢 Seems like more than an understandable struggle.
As always. He has always done this, but the young fans don't spot it because they are young. I don't mean any offense to young fans, but with life experience comes the ability to spot damaging behavior and recognize patterns of behavior. He puts his BEST self forward and spins thing to make himself look like husband/father of the year, and you can STILL notice a bunch of things that absolutely scream textbook narcissistic.
@@einfachalina the problem is that Matt's POV is strategically designed to paint himself as a saint while shifting blame and character attacking others. When there is no way to twist things, he shares blame as to make himself seem enlightened and honest. Otherwise, he does sneaky little things to embarass, put down, and shift blame on abby. Evvverrrything he does is carefully calculated to continue recieving adoration from young fans online, regardless of how dogshit his behavior and actions are. Matt is dangerous and unhealthy, he is not what any young person should hope for themselves in terms of a partner. I wish there was a better way to understand other than "with age and experience comes the ability to recognize this stuff." The people calling out his behavior aren't hating, we are continually observing a very distinct pattern of behaviors that suggest he is a narcissist, and because narcissists are dangerous, we call it out to inform others.
@@nikki1400 maybe you’re right, I mean you aren’t the only one that explained it that way to me/trying to put it as respectfully as possible.
So there definitely must be something about it.
In regards of the fight they had where they didn’t talk to each other right after birth I simply thought „it’s better to remove yourself from a situation than let is escalate“, trying to make a excuse on their behalf.. but y’all are definitely right. I can’t really spot all of the damaging behaviour you mentioned YET but I’ll be careful with what I say in the future since I’m well aware that I’m kind of romanticising their online personas. :)
While a man is in a different state after watching his wife give birth, the use of “recovery for us” is not correct. Abby is the one who did work for 9 months, had her body cut and now has to continue to work for her recovery and feeding her baby. Matt, it’s all about Abby at the moment.
You're asking an adult man child to consider the emotional state of someone other than himself. You might as well ask a rock to solve calculus.
Yeah as a man, this guy's not all there.
@@dengar96well humans don’t read minds and not everyone is the same ! Just saying ! I’m sure even a grown man screws up
Yes she went through a lot but they went through it together and Matt obviously went through his own issues as well. He worded it right, it acknowledges BOTH of their journeys .
@@amazingwrldofkaylah8575the problem here is that its implying his problem is the same as hers. His wife is the one dealing with it. Hes just sleep deprived
Bro stop saying us like you birthed the baby💀
I will forever be grateful to my husband after my c section. Hospital staff was very low and he had to look after me and our newborn. I was very sick. He slept on a hard hospital chair, that didn’t recline, for 4 days… and never complained once. To the men who have been through this, you’re hero’s 😊 It’s always about the mother and babies during this time and I feel like our partners don’t always get the recognition. Big love to you guys, our silent knights in shining armour 💓
Men like your husband are so rare. I’ve seen many who make it al about them as if their partner didn’t just have a whole ass child and major pain and changes to their body (be it vaginal or c section delivery). I hope I find a guy like that. We need more men like him.
She felt overlooked because you overlooked her Matt.
How?
Harsh
@@katherinegaston5229Yet true.
How did he overlook her?
@@milesjackieh He admitted he gave her the silent treatment for two days after she gave birth. His reasoning was that the baby took time away from his career. It was in their recent podcast. He said it like it wasn't an awful thing for him to do, and he interrupted Abby to say that. It's no wonder she felt overlooked.
“It wasn’t the physical pain that wrecked US” says the man who did absolutely nothing physical in this situation besides being present. Maybe Abby’s emotions are stemming from ALSO being extremely uncomfortable from a major surgery. I felt emotional 2months pp when I had my gallbladder removed. It was hard not grabbing my baby and moving easily, and that wasn’t even directly after birth.
Oh Abby you are a miracle that's created a miracle. Hold fast sis you are seen and heard
Narcissist sensor alerted‼️ 🚨 RED FLAGS ALL OVER THIS AND AN ADDITIONAL VIDEO SHORT I SAW OF THIS COUPLE. Don’t know her but praying for you Abby.
Men always complain but what women go through is always 1000x worse and then being in bad spirits only makes them feel like more of a burden. No room for weakness, gotta stay strong. It doesn’t matter if you’re tired… she’s more tired. That baby and mom just went through something you’d never begin to understand. I hope the third child gets easier ❤️
Yeah, his wife got cut in half and he has the nerve to complain about how hard things are for HIM
@@alisonishere714he can be struggling to… their both struggling. There’s nothing wrong with that.
Yeah. They also have to do the 10 month pregnancy with pregnancy insomnia and all the hormonal and body changes before it even gets to the birth and recovery.
@@riley3522He said he didn't talk to Abby for two days after this, on the recent podcast. 😢 There is something wrong with that.
Taking care of his family should be his first job, not vlog content. I'm sure no one would care if they took two weeks off, except for Matt, because how would he promote his song if he's taking care of his wife and newborn?? Narcissistic behavior fishing for praise.
It rubs me the wrong way how he’s making it about him. Sir you did not just give birth. Your hormones and emotions aren’t all over the place. Maybe you’re sleep deprived but stop saying we.
😂😂😂 YOU must do a lot of complaining in your house for you to find fault in him speaking for the BOTH of them… I can tell you don’t listen well either because he was expressing how SHE and he was feeling 😂 Why are his feelings not valid Karen of the dads??
He's sus
@@ceceslivinglifeLet’s see… dude there literally said that he didn’t speak to the mother of his child for two days after the doctors sliced her open & extracted a small human.
@@belindapaul9828 selective hearing is dangerous to the masses… you heard what you wanted to fit your rant. He never said he didn’t speak to her for 2 days,… get over yourselves and appreciate a man that communicates how he feels vs bottling it up and being cold and distant
@ceceslivinglife being cold and distant is one way of emotionally abusing your family. Being hyper emotional and making everything about yourself and your emotions while minimizing the importance of your family members' emotions is another method of emotional abuse. Neither is good.
US??? HER 👏🏻
Post-maternal care in Korea is THE BEST! Recovery is focused in mom and the baby gets 24hr care by super nurses.
Matt you keep saying “us” yet I didn’t see you on the table having a c-section, or go through 9 months of pregnancy, or the rush of hormones through all of the pregnancy and birth…. You quite literally did nothing but ignore your wife AFTER SHE GAVE BIRTH TO YOUR CHILD because you were sad and thought you couldn’t continue your music career
Agree.
“It felt like the world was ending” is a cruddy thing to say about bringing your child into the world. If anything it’s a new beginning, and he should be expecting it considering he chose to have a second child for content. Matt wouldn’t even have a platform to promote his music career if it weren’t for his wife and kids.
@@gabriellegraham4103imagine growing older and seeing/hearing your dad make that comment holy heck 😢
So husbands aren’t allowed to feel fear, anxiety and other emotions around the idea of a new child? Don’t get me wrong Abby went through the most, but is the husband meant to just shut up and bottle away their feelings, concerns and etc?
@@bruhmoment6275when their wife was literally cut in half to bring a human to the world, the least a husband can do i sick it up for a while. It's called being a father
@@claudiaescoe7861weird how his solution to knowing his wife was in immense pain physically and emotionally was to give her the silent treament like a toddler. It's because he wasn't thinking about her and he was thinking about HIS music career. While his wife is still recovering from major surgery and his new baby has just been born this is the moment he throws a tantrum and ponders that his music career might be over. Dude had 9 months to plan for this and did it right after the birth of his child. Selfish and wouldn't be surprised if this type of behavior continues.
Hit "us" like a train. Pretty sure it was just one of you who had their insides pulled out and then a baby. But sure "we" recovered
she will be back again pregnant after 6 month😂😂😂
@@dglvr2006don't worry he is not African so she is happy with him
Pretty harsh having to watch that happen to your wife, don't you think?
@@dglvr2006Must be a feminist. They're happy together. Let them be happy. No pregnancy is planned.
@@pecker1217this pregnancy was not planned actually
seriously can’t believe somebody would give another human being the silent treatment for days, let alone someone who didn’t even do anything, let alone someone they love, let alone the person that birthed their child, let alone not regretting it 😦😦
i always thought they were such a wholesome couple but now i’m feeling bad for abby, not only for what he did but there are significantly higher rates of postpartum depression after a c section
maybe i’m just some rando that doesn’t know anything about their life but jeez man
This is what having a new baby is like for all c-section mums! I'm in the UK & i was up and walking around in less than 12 hours after having my little one. They then moved me to a different ward, where I was monitored and having tests & so was my baby. He then got jaundice, just as we were nearly able to go home, so we were in for a week after! Feeding every two hours and pumping breast milk half an hour before that! It was crazy! Horrific and traumatizing! But also pretty standard. You just have to keep in mind that your baby is safe and their safety is what matters above all else! Xxx
She felt overlooked cause u GAVE HER THE SILENT TREATMENT FOR 2 DAYS. Like u said on ur podcast matt.
Why the f did he do that?!
@@Minadori123he said he felt like his life was over so he was frustrated
@@Minadori123yea he also was talking about his goals and how he has to put everything aside for the baby’s and just didn’t talk to her. Narcissist
Wow I thought the really wanted to be a dad..
wtf i thought these dudes were wholesome
Of course Abby felt overlooked, you gave her the silent treatment for 2 days because she "ruined" your career goals by having your child.
What career goals? Aren’t they full-time RUclipsrs?
woah woah what did he do to make u think that /gen
@@justjaein he said it on their podcast 😒
@isrelleutrra Idk that's what I thought too, but apparently he wants his music career to be bigger than it is? He never clarified what career goals exactly, just that it's her fault
Wtf is wrong with him. hes always been sus to me
Given the recent tragedy regarding social media influencer Ruby Franke’s arrest for child abuse, it’s time to enact legislation to protect minors who are being filmed by their parents in these for-profit family vlogs. There are strict guidelines for child stars in the tv and film industry. The same protections should be afforded to minors (like yours) who are often unwilling participants in their parents’ quest for internet fame and the money that comes with it I hope something is done soon.
I wish Abby had her own channel
that part
Maybe you should put the camera down in moments like this and focus more on abby
that’s what i’m saying
does it kinda seem like he makes it seem like he’s doing a lot of work too like i know it’s a team effort but not the birthing recovery for her body yk
@@emilykelly5253this video was filmed in advanced he was born a while ago
@@emilykelly5253what episode was that?
He won’t do that he has to make out he is a saint and the first guy whose wife has ever had 2 kids close together got to get the likes and the subs 💰💰💰💵💵💵
Abby is so tuff but Matt please support her more yes there’s a new born baby in the picture and you be got griffin but spending time with Abby makes a big difference to help her recover and she needs you Matt so be there ❤️❤️
I had an emergency c-section and my baby went straight to the NICU. I didn’t get to hold him until 18 hours later. That was really tough. 15 days later he came home and now he’ll be 11 in two weeks!
awww!
Not every part of your life has to be filmed. If she is feeling overlooked put the camera down, not everything is about getting likes and money?
This is why we (my mom and I) sent my husband home after the birth. He was already sleep deprived and we decided it was best if one of us was well rested when we got home. My mom was much better equipped to help me through that first night anyway.
Mama’s are built different!
Even with all the help I got from my husband and mom after my emergency c-section, I seriously felt like the world was ending. Childbirth is so hard, the hormone crash is so hard, caring for a newborn while healing is so hard. But it helps tremendously when you have a support system.
I’ve had 3 c-sections and they are no joke! You’re one strong mommy Abby and I’m praying for a speedy recovery 🙏🏾
I feel you, I had one that wasn't planned at all. Natural birth is painful when baby comes out as via a c-section but after that the pains are soo brutally, feeling like your organs are coming out, when trying to move a bit or so more during walking. My body needed long recovery had to stay in hospital for two weeks.😢 Luckily that was 17yrs ago. But at I always needed help to breastfeeding my newborn felt so bad at I couldn't do it all by myself. 🥺 And the milk, I had was alot at I had even to pump much of it cause my body was producing milk so much it did hurt as well and they took my pumped milk for mothers, who couldn't breastfeeding their newborns which made me feel better. The nurses called me the cowgirl.😅😮
Your one strong mama too 💗
Hit us? You did nothing! 🙄
Dude shut up like any man who feels like they are with the mother in all experiences of a birth or pregnancy is greatttt half the men I see won’t even stay awake during any of it I give him props cause he’ll it does hit him too that’s his wife his love if she’s hurting so is he
Hell^
@@bryannamilligan4139he ignored her. Full silent treatment FOR TWO DAYS. So he showed up, he made it about him the whole time because he was upset the baby "took time from his music career" after acting like the most supportive person on the Internet when they found out they were expecting so soon after their first. He literally interrupted her when she was talking about the 2 day silent treatment to say he didn't feel like it was wrong.
Narcissists have to make things about him. He apparently gave her the silent treatment too, right after giving birth. More narcissistic abuse.
EXACTLY
I had amazing nurses after my delivery except for one. She left me crying, overwhelmed alone while my husband was getting stuff for us at home. She gave me the “figure it out” kind of attitude. This phase is so so hard. Take things one day at a time.❤️
Caffeine is your friend, patience is your motto, and love is your gift to give. Stay strong it gets way better!
Most new parents have no clue how much their lives will change over night. But you adjust and get to hold this beautiful baby. The love a parent feels for their child is not like anything you've ever felt before. It's actually painful. ❤️
Of course she felt over looked as you didn’t talk to her for 2 days
Why??😢
@@rimisingh6648 he was upset that the baby has paused his non existing music career
What?! Really? I’m actually surprised by this. Why did he do that?
Genuinely curious, how did you know he didn't talk to her for 2 days
@@myheartwillstopinjoy8142 he apparently talked about it on their podcast
And this folks is why you don't have babies back to back. Your body needs time to rest, doctors reccomend 2 years at least. Please be careful and make sure you have a strong support system yall
Lol 2 years is a long time, c sections back to back would be hard tho
@@stajia4694 Her first was a vaginal delivery.
I had 11 months between 2 c-sections....it wasn't easy but I coped as mum's do.
@@stajia4694she had one reg labor and one c section
Well even though they have a channel, they could put the camera down. That would have probably helped too.
I remember that about my c sections. They bother you constantly. I’m like “just let me sleep!”❤ it will get better. Prayers for a safe and speedy recovery.
Matt is absolutely tearing their relationship apart
Why?!?!
@@henri-hugoparik3982well i don’t know all the details, but ive heard matt gave her the silent treatment for 2 days after she had the C section because he thought the baby was effecting his career or something. he confirmed this on the podcast too its not just rumors.
@@henri-hugoparik3982 he ignored abby for 2 days after she gave birth
"us"? ha. hahaha
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Yeah no, I had the same reaction 😅
😂 Boom!
I'm sorry what's wrong with a husband saying us? Yes a woman will hurt so much more during a pregnancy, but just like marriage, it's a partnership and affects both people in the relationship.
They are so cute and will be the love of your life but the most important they are healthy and ◡̈⋆ⒽⒶⓅⓅⓎ😊
This happened with my first, people don’t realize the toll it takes when you have C-Section and the constant check ins every hour barely allow you to start recovery.
I’m sorry but in these circumstances, the only thing that is important is the health of mom and baby. You guys have that. Everything else will fall into place. I’ve been there, I know and I had twins. Don’t loose sight of what is important. Nothing but love
Honestly, it feels wrong to make anyone walk right after a surgery like that. Women's pain is typically overlooked :/
They have you walk around to help avoid getting blood clots.
It's not wrong. They do it for good reasons.
If you don't get up and walk it can lead to blood clots which can lead to death. Honestly it helps the recovery time so much as well, the sooner you can get up and walk the easier your recovery will be, at least in my experience and I've had to go through this twice.
as a nursing student this is not the way we should look at this situation! I agree that women’s pain is often overlooked in clinical settings, but in this instance, her nurses are having her get up and walk around to avoid developing something called a deep vein thrombosis - aka a blood clot. DVTs are most often caused by immobility, so early annulation after surgeries is standard procedure, and we try to medicate the patient as much as we can to minimize their pain while they’re walking. believe me, nurses don’t love making people get up and walk while they’re clearly in pain. we’d love to let you rest as long as you need to, but we’re also trying to weigh complications that you haven’t considered!
I couldn’t walk the day after having a C-section because of complications, and when that happens, they put these things on your legs that shake them every fifteen minutes so that you don’t get blood clots. Try sleeping with those things on. Would much rather have walked the day after. Perhaps my experience wasn’t typical, but the pain just wasn’t all that bad for me.
Its a good thing they had an extremely normal delivery, so much so that it almost went too well.
If anything out of the ordinary or bad would have happened, I dont know how they would have coped.
Congratulations beautiful parents! Tell Abby she’s a star. Prayers of quick healing and support going your way. Both of you sleep when the baby sleeps. Don’t worry about anything, accept help when offered it will help you out in a big way. Hugs and Live 🤩
Wait, am I missing something? This is what EVERY MOTHER (c-section or natural) have to go through. I could’ve swore this was their second child. The first 24hrs IS hard for that simple fact. Of course doctors have to run tests on mom and baby; OF COURSE she has to get up and walk so they know everything is okay. What’s emotional is the mamas who didn’t get to hold their babies. What’s emotional is the moms who have done it on their OWN. This seems like frivolous complaints just for “content”
Matt with the pick me vibes. Couldn’t agree with you more!
Agreed. I had a C-section and had to walk down to the nic u to see my son, my husband works full time so I had to do it alone, quit complaining and be thankful for what you do have!
@@caitlinlabyoda5662so bc your birth didnt go as planned means there not allowed to have feelings or complaints? Thats unrelaistic
@@Havis_Princessnope. That’s not what they said at all. They just wanted Matt and Abby not to pretend to make up stuff for content. They can share their struggles and show their appreciation without being condescending to others and their experience. Saying “it felt like the end of the world” when they had a relatively smooth birth experience and the privilege to receive quality care is out of touch. It’s called being thoughtful, but for Matt that is “unrealistic”
Everyone goes through this with having a baby and that doesn’t mean it shouldn’t be shared? Doesn’t mean it’s not hard still
Abby is one tough cookie! You go MAMA!
This man powers through literally anything when it comes to his family ❤️
I had 2 emergency C-Sections. I was up and walking, taking care of baby alone as soon as the spinal wore off. Even got to go home in 24 hours because I had walked downstairs to put my babies carseat in the car (he was early so it wasn't installed yet) and took a shower so the doctors felt confident letting me go. Especially with my last, recovering from major surgery, taking care of a newborn and 3 older kids by myself, was super rough. The bond that created was amazing though. My youngest is 5 now, and our bond is still incredible.
I'm really happy you're there for each other. Big adjustments go better with the kindness you show each other.
Well, he actually ignored her for the first 48h of the baby being there so i don’t know about that. If you wanna hear them say it, listen to the podcast where they talk about the birth
You guys are so sweet!!! Btw, I didn't know this until my third birth, but you can usually refuse those night time check ups. My rockstar nurse offered to put a 'do not disturb' sign on my door (or however they word it). It was so helpful!
WHAT?!? Is this true??? Why do I always find out valuable info through the internet Lol 😅. I just gave birth 4 weeks ago.
I think for a C-section they check more often cause it’s major surgery. Like trapped air or gas after a C-section is a really big deal. Blood clots and not being about to use your bowls can also happen.
@@Lola84794 that makes sense
Yes, here too. I had to stay 3 weeks in the hospital after my emergency c section because my daughter was born 7 weeks prematurely. When I could shower by myself and pee they changed rooms and let me stay and sleep in one room with my baby who was laying in the incubator. If I wanted to rest I could put up a sign at the door and they were very respectful of our privacy as long as my baby health was allowing it. They also taught us how to take care of such a little baby and we noticed the more we could do ourselves, the less they needed to come in. Sometimes they would only take a peek through the door and see how we did and left.
I feel for you. Im disabled, wheelchair user, i had c sections with both my babies, under general anaesthesia due to spinal reasons. My husband had both babies straight out of surgery, he looked after his disabled wife and newborn baby. He was amazing, never complained and took it all in his stride. I think caring for his disabled wife prepared him as he knew he'd be the main carer for our child the moment we decided to have them. We have 2 kids now, 18 months apart. They're amazing, and hes an amazing dad. He wouldnt have had it any other way.
Get as much rest as you can and remember these feelings, this tiredness, wont last forever.
Abby is AMAZING!!! God bless you both!
Just know this is gonna blow up
Ikr lol ❤
Frfr
Do you have to record everything?
Having had twins first, your emotions are all OVER the place! I commend her for getting up so quickly to move!! That HURTS!! Congrats too!🎉
We need to focus more on both mom & dad health. Of course the largest hormonal storm happens to mom, but dads can can get depressed too. ❤ Take care, they grow up fast.
I’ve had three C-sections, and all of them are very traumatic. It is very different than a vaginal birth, and no one really ever tells you that. Your abdominal muscles have been cut and it’s at least a four week recovery. It’s learning how to get out of bed properly. It’s learning how to hold your stomach so that when you sneeze or cough, you don’t feel like it’s being ripped open again. The key to that is to use a pillow when holding your tummy. And on top of all that you’re taking care of a newborn baby.
Add to that trauma if you have a man child for a husband (at the best) or a toxic abusive one (at the worst) and more than one kid to look after 👍🏼 I will never forgive my husband for the way he treated me especially while pregnant and pp.
@@hadilayyad6147 My exhusband was abusive so I was on my own. I would beg for him to take my 18 month old but nope. The pain was unbearable.
@@DominiqueMarieJolie I’m sorry to hear that. I am glad to hear that he’s an ex. Stay safe ♥️
I love Jim Gaffigans line about people asking him what it’s like having 5 kids.
He said, imagine you’re drowning and someone hands you a baby.
To me, that’s what it felt like with each one!
Ahh there it is. The video where they complain about the recovery from a c-section they chose to "get it done".
They act like they are the only one going through this. Sleep deprivation, emotional pain, that's all part of the package.
At least they have people taking care of the oldest son so he can stay with his wife.
I cannot imagine giving birth in a hospital setting where they just wont give you a break to rest.
Thank you for sharing the reality of not just the highs but the lows as well💕 that’s really brave and you’re being so supportive to all of the new parents by letting them know it’s okay and normal if things aren’t all sunshine and rainbows right after having a baby
This is why I plan to have a homebirth next. I hate all the interruptions.
Matt is so supportive as a husband and dad 🙌🏼
No he's not. He admitted to ignoring Abby for two days after she gave birth. His reasoning was that he didn't have time for his music career and he "felt like his world was ending". So he took it out on Abby. It was in the podcast where they talk about the birth. Abby felt overlooked for good reason.
True story. Emotionally I was usually a wreck after having a baby. Lots of tears in those first few days.
Soo proud of you both. God bless❤
I know it’s hard but you will get through this, and once all of this pain is over you will look back and remember how much of a blessing it was to have auggie🤗
I’m glad you made this. I hardly got any sleep with either baby after labor. Led to anxiety both times. It’s so hard. I feel like I’m a survivor.
Want to know what is so cute that I noticed, Matt rubs his hands on both of his kids heads to comfort them. Like when August was just born he rubbed his head. ❤❤😭 it’s adorable, what an awesome mom and dad💗
I’m so happy Abby is recovering well and Auggie is healthy!! 💗
its so weird seeing her with out a bump 😂…. Get better soon Abby!!! You are amazing!! (You too Matt!)
This is why I followed your channel... the healthy expectations and dialogue that I hope to emulate one day.
Congrats Mom & Dad on a beautiful baby!
Seriously the management of their household and workloads, the feeling of honesty... May good fortune bless them.
I’m 24 and 6 weeks pregnant, crying and watching all of your videos. I’m saving them all to a playlist to watch again because they’re so real and helpful and relatable…all of which I am going to need as part of my support because I’m living abroad with my husband currently. I’m also so inspired of Abby’s resilience, I hope to learn from it and push myself to be healthy like that postpartum! Thank y’all 💖
Wonder if she feels like she cheated now?😂 in all seriousness having a c section can be really serious, it took me almost a year and a half to finally be able to fully even stretch my body. It can be really hard on women and a lot of people don’t consider the emotional and physical toll that heightens when you have a c section . The trauma that is causes to your body can be intense and I wish people didn’t consider it cheating or not the same when you do receive a c section, although I get why I just wish people would consider the fact we also go through pain & that we also are powerful to even survive a c section.
To see Bella in tears and Happy for you guys. She's a real friend!! With a big heart
I love that you aren’t just saying all the good things. You’re being real.
“We get four hours of sleep…. combined” , I feel bad for you guys . Hope your children and you guys are healthy and well ❤
It's always sunshine and roses till the pain meds go away 😭😭 you guys look amazing ❤❤
Just so EVERYONE knows, you can absolutely tell them to stop coming on every hour and let you sleep. Unless there is something wrong, they don’t need to be in there every hour or every two hours. It’s literally just people practicing on you. You can tell them not to. Unless she needs to get up and walk there’s no reason for them to be in there.
My first born daughter was vaccum. Had 9 stitches and recovery was hellish. Sat my butt in hot salt water few times a day to help with the pain.
Baby 2-4 all c section. All girl. 3 c section was hellish but the moment i set my eyes on my 4 daughters it was heaven on earth. Yes the pain was crazy. Slight move ended up with severe pain and bloodbath.
I was discharged on the 3rd day after each birth and i literally took care babies myself. If i have to do it again i would in a heartbeat.
Stay strong matt and abby. You can do it.
Really love that y’all are still giving us so much content while also adjusting to have the correct safety measures in place for your family by not showing close ups of the kids anymore! I greatly respect you both for making such a great choice!!
Shoutout to them for normalizing these feelings mom’s experience. It’s not always sunshine and rainbows! ❤
He’s not normalising these though he is just after the sympathy and likes etc
It's not normal for your husband to ignore you for two days after you give birth. Her feelings are valid, but what she went through was not normal.
This is the transparency all parents need! Congratulations on your baby boy, may God Bless your children. 🩵🩵
I was by myself, sent home with a c-section. No help. A sick baby. I would have her sleep in her car seat in my bed so she was upright with a severe cold. She had kidney surgery at 2 months, alone then too. Be thankful you had your husband there, and friends.
I had 2 under 2. Both c-sections. They are now 5 and 4 and best friends! It was the hardest time of my life but it’s so worth it!
A huge congratulations! If only all partners were this nice! Some Dad's forget that birth especially csection recovery is brutal for a new mom, and leave her all alone for the whole process, went through that 4 times. Not fun. Would be a lot easier with a loving partner. So to all the good partners out there, you don't know how much you are appreciated!
Fyi Matt ignore Abby for 2 days after the birth
He ignored her
Nothing nice about not talking to your wife for two days after she just gave birth.
@@ericay3225 no not nice
He was not loving and he did forget that c section recovery is brutal. He left her all alone for 2 days giving her the silent treatment
I had to have an emergency c-section with my last one, during the pandemic. It was rough, to say the least. It's so beautiful to watch you two support and love each other. ❤
The way that you're seemingly putting your experience on the same level as hers is wild. She just had surgery, her hormones are all over the place from creating a whole human, and lastly she's sleep deprived. You're sleep deprived. I hope that's not getting twisted.
You guys are soooo strong!!, love you both❤
MILLIONS of women go through this every day!! Put down the camera and get over yourselves!