I Want to Lose 30lbs
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- Опубликовано: 26 окт 2022
- When you say to want to lose a certain amount of weight or weight a specific number on the scale… what is it you’re really after?
Gently asking some more probing questions about the reasons behind why someone wants to achieve a specific weight loss goal can reveal a lot.
I love that question- What is on the other side of that thirty pounds for you?
Such a valid question!!
I really love this approach 😁
It depends. If you are obese - health.
@@saramarija21 why depends? that still wouldn’t devalue the question; I think you are just looking for excuses to fatshame.
Kindly leave. In a manner similar to your attempts at ostracization, I would like for you to feel unwelcome and leave this comment section.
@@saramarija21 less jpint paint, more mobility, more capability to engage in activities, and so on. Usually for people fatter than chubby. For "just" chubby people there could still be health there, though.
Less back pain, joint pain, sweating. More mobility, athleticism, and can fit into places/clothes better
Someone told me once "you can't hate yourself into loving yourself" and that's really stuck with me through the years
Damn so true
Thats exactly what I did tho and it kinda worked. Lost 40 ibs and I love my body now
@@amw_cats this is valid, i did the same but i did realize that the hatred never went away, just became me obsessing over my body
@@amw_catscongrats. Thats also how eating disorders come about.
@@charliedeegan1598 what? they literally said they love their body now & you’re assuming they have an eating disorder?
When I was battling obesity, I changed my narrative from "I hate myself. I need to change" to "I love myself so much that I want to live a healthier life and take care of my body".
I'm currently trying to help my friend believe this for himself, too much change out of hatred for himself and not enough change out of love.
@@sploompdoomper it's very difficult. I feel it's necessary. If not, it's teaching yourself that you only deserve conditional love.
this is an amazing way of viewing this path! i never thought of it this way
Yeah we asian very strict with body weight because we care about you but we can't do anything ( except told you to loose weight) until you change yourself. We don't care if you are ugly or not fit in your clothes, we care if you are not healthy. If you just have a big build, it still categories as healthy but not with obesity
EXACTLY, I’m starting to go towards I love myself enough to make this change, I want to be able to feel good everyday and have less joint pain ect, instead of I need to do this to get skinny so I can be pretty and happy
I lost 55 pounds and felt a million times better. No extra weight slowing me down, no aches and pains in my joints and my feet anymore. I feel lighter and happier. Most people will feel better in a fitter and healthier body.
Yeah. But it's the fitter and healthier body more than the actual number lost. The weight that comes off is a side effect of being healthier over all. Muscle and fat weigh the same, for example, but take up wildly different volumes. The number can stay exactly the same but you can still look and feel much much better.
Regardless of that. Huge congratulations on that level, it must have taken a lot of dedication. :)
This was so interesting to me. As someone gaining weight and very frustrated about it, body positivity just doesn't cut it. I want to fit in my old clothes old bras. It feels so wasteful to be outgrowing clothes in this way. I want to move with more ease, I want my body to feel healthier. Because I can feel how my change in weight has started causing more aches and pains. Thank you for the question "what is on the other side of weight loss for you"
Hearing what motivates all of you has been so interestin ❤️
same. my metabolism is slowing down and I gained 30 lbs in the last few months. all of the aritzia pants I bought just last year no longer fit me so I feel like I wasted money. I’ve been working out 5 days a week (boxing + pilates) to regulate my mental health and to feel healthier. even though I’ve never been this heavy, I’m in the best shape of my life. it feels so rewarding to see improvement in my endurance and flexibility week after week
Same body positivity doesn’t cut it for me either. I just want to experience the freedom that comes with a skinnier body.
Yeah the backache sucks I've osteoporosis I took off guts of a stone and taking off more.
That's exactly why I'm so sad when people use body positivity to excuse or encourage unhealthy weights and behaviours.
Unfortunately body positivity seems to have become an echo chamber. Absolutely we need to change the mindset around bigger bodies and stop the harassment, bullying and discrimination but wanting to lose weight in a healthy and sustainable manner isn’t a bad thing. Body positivity tends to (in my experience) paint it as giving into diet culture and it can cause a lot of people to avoid the gym and eating better because they don’t want to feel like they’re betraying their beliefs.
Tbh i lost the weight and felt amazing! I’m not even gna sugar coat it. I felt lighter, looked better, shopping was so easy! Jeans didn’t suffocate me and most importantly I became healthier. I wasn’t feeling tired all the time and constant fatigue. A flight of stairs wouldn’t be challenging. So lost the weight but also understand what it takes to be a healthy and fit person. How to eat right and how to exercise properly with good form! Your life will change.
This.
I'm skinny and feel constant fatigue and lightheadedness 💀💀
@@bloddrinkeraka how’s your diet? You may have low iron or low vitamin D levels. I would get a blood test down to make sure everything is fine. Don’t just ignore it. Better safe than sorry. Goodluck :)
Great job
Thanks for this. Everyone is always like “you should be comfortable with the way u are” but the truth is, being overweight isn’t good for you and it can actually shorten ur life. I’m not saying ppl should be bullied or discriminated against, but still it’s bad for you
Both are totally valid! Sometimes losing weight, and the HEALTHY behavior change (physically and mentally) can help you achieve a better self perception, but it really is mostly a mental game.
You miss the point. If you are losing weight only because you have body dysmorphia, you are doing it for the wrong reasons. And, you are risking developing and eating disorder.
@@RaccoonRecluse being insecure doesn’t always equal body dysmorphia. Ofc losing weight while having body dysmorphia isn’t gonna fix your perception of yourself but if you’re genuinely just unhappy with how you actually look, and want to change that. It can actually help you massively.
Looking the way I wanted was definitely the main factor in reducing my anxiety.
@@RaccoonRecluse 😂if you wanted to lose weight because you hate the way you look does not mean you got body Dysmorphia and it doesn’t mean you will get it.........when your unhappy your unhappy if you don’t want to live anymore you don’t want to live anymore if you want to make a change to fell better be more happy healthier more comfortable in your own skin look better fell better you cant be healthy being obese or fat or overweight simple as that you don’t look good either
I am fat. I know I will feel better both mentally and physically if I loose weight. There is nothing positive about being morbidly obese.
But in this case, she is skinny. Loosing that 30lbs would be bad for her, so making her feel good about herself mentally would be a better solution-possibly get her out of a ed, and prevent her body dysmorphia
I hated my body and myself just as much at a BMI of 14 as I did at a BMI of 39. I'm at a healthy BMI now and I'm trying to learn to love myself regardless of how my body looks.
Yes! When I was 20 I lost a lot of weight and was at a healthy BMI for my height and what not but I had really bad body dysmorphia and hated the way I looked still and thought I was still overweight when I wasn’t. I started gaining the weight back slowly but surely and now I’m probably heavier than I was before the weight loss. I also didn’t lose the weight in a healthy way either, I labeled many foods bad and I wouldn’t eat very much maybe a smoothie and a protein bar and then dinner and that was really it. As time went on I added some foods back into my diet and then started binging again and then Covid hit and man that sent me!! My binging was at an all time high and then life things happened and made it worse and now I have about 100 pounds to lose and haven’t even started trying very much, I’ll eat somewhat decent for dinner and what not but yeah anyways it’s hard to overcome and I just am trying to be happy with myself at my current weight so hopefully when I get my goal weight I’ll feel differently than I did last time.
I kinda hate my body over bmi 17. I get the biggest ego boost from being under 17.
@@Milkythefawn ok?
@@ihavenoidea2805 I’m saying some people do feel better about their body at certain weights.
@@Milkythefawn I hope you can get the help you need. ❤
I wish this was how the talk went with drs before my daughter. I was so insecure. Now im 40kgs overweight, but i don't hate my body and my loss goals are purely for physical ability and improved comfort (temp tollerance etc). Not how i percieve my body because i feel confidant in my body the way it is. And that's purely on how the people around me talk about weight
You still shouldn’t be overweight because of health reasons
@cyde Really? They expressed the desire to lose weight despite being confident in their body, and you're still criticizing them?
@@frozenraspberries1552 I’m not criticizing anyone
@@cydeYT this is not needed.
@@cydeYT Being overweight doesn't carry many health risks until you cross the line into obesity. Overweight is the "you're getting close to the danger zone" category on BMI charts.
Yes, a person who has a great body telling another one who hasn't that they should feel good about themselves. After I gained weight, I started having many health issues, losing weight is a goal for fixing exactly these problems and thus feeling better about myself!
right, so the other side of weight loss for you was fixing health issues. totally valid! but some people without those issues think it will magically fix their self esteem, when many people who have lost weight report still having a negative self image.
@@cbh4166 yeah it varies so much and its also a very sensitive thing bevause bad habits (over/under eating and excessive exercise) can be rlly bad for you and its important to consider other ways you can reach your goal. I think depending on someone’s situation it differs loads
Chafing has got to go 😭😭
Idk, I understand if you have health issues, but it’s CRAZY to me to think about being fat. Like how do you even get to that point. If I was over 135 pounds, I’d immediately start starving myself.. and I’m 5’9
@@cbh4166nah this is still so condescending. I don’t want to be fat
I know that in the online space, it's currently really popular to say that losing weight is not actually going to make you feel better or solve the problems you'll think it'll solve. But let's not forget it actually *can* make you feel better about yourself. I lost weight and it was pretty much as amazing as I always dreamt it to be 😂 I wish I saw the positivity around managing to lose weight more often
Okay but this video supports that? They’re saying it’s about why you want to lose weight that matters.. if you want to lose weight because you want to overall improve your health and well-being or even if you just would like to lose an inch or two off your waist, there’s nothing wrong with that and no one said there was
@@stellarae8257 There's actually a lot of people that say even wanting to lose weight is toxic and synonymous with disordered eating - the fat acceptance movement is quite literally grounded on that belief. But, you're right, the video supports that weight loss can be valid. I just wish there was a bit more time dedicated to that, instead of being glossed over. Based on my experiences, I'd like to see it highlighted a bit more - that's what my comment expresses.
@@annak1542 okay I get what you’re saying better now. Thank you for responding to me so civilly! I think for a while a lot of us really did think that wanting to lose weight kinda seemed toxic, but I think now a days more of us are aware that it’s okay as long as it’s done for the right reasons. I tell people to focus their efforts on something else like physical ability or consistent workouts just because weight isn’t the most accurate way to determine health, but yeah losing weight is totally fine sometimes.
I get frustrated when people correlate the body positivity or fat acceptance movement with toxicity and over the top takes, but I also understand that there are a lot of people who just aren’t going about it right and it can affect others negatively and therefore lead to that conclusion. To me the body positivity movement or whatever just meant that no matter your weight you are still worthy of love, kindness, equal opportunity, and adequate medical care. Sometimes people can sidetrack their focus to something else that isn’t really related to all those things. These are still good conversations to have but the problem is when people start to get defensive and insulting someone else who doesn’t see it the same way.
I personally just think body neutrality is the way to go. We all have bodies that carry us through the day and they don’t need to serve any other purpose.
And I can understand the desire to see more content about maintaining a sustainable weight. There is definitely room for more content in that area and maintaining weight is just as important as losing the weight in the first place.
Your pfp is great btw lol. Anyways thank you again for not being rude! It’s really hard to find that on the internet these days. And thank you for clarifying that your comment wasn’t solely based on just this video. Hope you have a good day/night! ☺️💛
@@stellarae8257 The same thanks goes back to you - it's so refreshing to discussing without being unnecessarily snarky, insulting and frankly horrible online. Genuine body positively is a beautiful thing and I am just sad it has taken such a turn in interpretation and has manifested into glorifying obesity and/or hating people watching what they eat.
Although weight loss can start with aesthetic goals, wanting to become happier, more confident and stronger is truly what brings the most fulfilment in the long term.
I agree with pretty much all of your points and I'm very happy for this wholesome chat. Your pfp is also adorable - have a lovely rest of your day or night 💗
@@annak1542 and I completely agree with basically all of the points you just listed as well!
I wish more people realized that things aren’t black and white a lot of the time solid common ground can be found in the gray. And thanks! 🥰 bye for now! ❣️
The loop is hilarious on this...
"We can focus on things that will make you feel good"
"I want to lose 30 pounds"
Like she didn't get anything out of what the other you said. Lol
yeah i thought so too haha
Omigosh same 😂 love the short tho ❤
Didn't listen, learned nothing 😂
Exactly 🤣
@@hayjessay same pfp
I will say that referencing that idea that weight loss will make you like yourself more….I lost 70 pounds before getting pregnant with my son (which I am currently pregnant so this is current yall) and I will tell you that I gained so much confidence with the different body that I had especially intimately and publicly with the way I carried myself and such. However, I still picked myself apart at home quite often, and my true healing journey didn’t come start until I realized that going to the gym wasn’t for the goal of being hot or feeling hot. It was the same as drinking water or taking a shower. It was something that MY body needed to feel it’s best and it was genuine self care to take care my myself. Once I realized that, then I made it permanent in the same way that we drink water. It had to happen to improve my overall well being and it was nonnegotiable.
Sort of agree. I am starting to like my body much better now and even somtimes that it's minmaly pretty because it looks that way because I do exercises and what you see is my work and me getting stronger. I have a pretty much loating for it. I started for strength and that only bc I couldn't do the sports I actually wanted to do. But like the first times someone didn't respect that I get into a mentally bad feeling when somoen calles me pretty I spend weeks just hardly getting through it because I felt so bad. Now I am sort of ok with it bc I make myself think that this is my strength
This is legit what my psych did for me. I told her I had body image issues and she was like "ok but would losing weight actually make you feel better?" and I was like mmmm probs not.. and she was like "is that lifestyle something you want to maintain?" And I was like lol no. Love her for that
My therapist was the opposite. She quickly jumped onto that losing weight idea and called me out for still being fat the next time I visited her.
@@waewae bro please get a new therapist. you should not be paying someone if they treat you like that
@@waewae yea, get rid of them. I’ve heard anything above 50kg is considered fat in Korea, is that true?
@@Milkythefawn In korea, my ideal weight is 30kgs 💀
@@waewae how do you calculate it?
I want to lose weight because I KNOW I will feel better.
It took all of my 20’s (31 now) to get there mentally and I finally did.
Then I got covid and it destroyed my metabolism. Lost 20 pounds from not being able to eat while I had covid for 6 weeks.
Put my weight back on in a month and then without changing my diet I gained 20 additional pounds in a month. And another 20 the following year despite no changes.
Went to the doctor had every blood test done they found out it was covid.
I am so uncomfortable in my body, not just in how I look but more because nothing fits me well (I don’t have money to buy a whole new wardrobe) & I physically feel miserable 😢
From 280, once I hit my “goal weight” I bawled. Not joy. It didn’t do what it was supposed to. I didn’t love myself the way I thought the thin popular girls did. It didn’t work. It was then I realized if you want something, you have to work towards that exact thing, you don’t love yourself vicariously through thinness
I wanna be skinnier and it’s okay for me to feel that way
My "other side of 30 lbs" is reduced pain. And I've done that ❤ my next 30 is much more emotionally motivated.
I used to feel a lot better about myself when I was skinny. I'm working on getting that body back, but damn it's hard, mostly mentally. As much as I watch body positivity videos all across different channels, I can't accept myself when I see my big belly, big tighs and such, I just can't. I feel guilty over eating any foods, even the healthy ones. I really admire overweight people who seem so happy in their own skin, so confident that they're not afraid of showing themselves on the internet. But that admiration only goes to them, not me, because I feel ugly as shit.
Then change it. The time is going to pass anyways might as well take the leap and help yourself. Start off with walks or some light cardio and a small caloric deficiency. If you’re supposed to eat 2,500 eat instead 2,300 you’ll see the weight drop off slowly but surely. What helps me to stay in shape is being creative with my foods. So many ways to make the things you love in a healthier way. It also helps to be kind to yourself along the way.
You see your past self with pink glasses as well.
@@JoJo-op5xy Gosh, I absolutely hate cooking. I can eat whatever and lose weight just from calory defficiency. Smoking helped a little with that, lost 10 kg bcs of it. I know, smoking kills, but I already am dead inside. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯ And as I said it's hard mentally. When I come back home from work all I want to do is to fill the void that I'm feeling with food.
Feeling good about your body is so so hard, especially since most of the messages we get tell us not to like ourselves as we are 🙄 self acceptance really is a skill that gets way easier with practice though, you could definitely get to a point where you admire yourself as much as you admire those other women!
@@JoJo-op5xy just remember that it isn't easy for everyone. When you are overworked and burnt out sometimes cooking feels like an impossible task and when someone suffers from an eating disorder counting calories can be a huge trigger. It's always good to want to better yourself but sometimes working to accept your body is self-care because if all you ever do is chastise yourself for what you aren't doing It can destroy you mentally. Just make sure to be empathetic to others and yourself.
I’d argue that making yourself healthier (including losing weight for health reasons) is having a positive attitude toward your body. If you hated your body you wouldn’t be wanting to improve your health. There are people who are miserable because they are overweight. If the person you’re talking to is already at a healthy weight I’d understand the concerns, but most healthy minded people who are seeking to lose weight are doing so because they are at an unhealthy weight already, and probably deal with a lot of effects because of that.
The person is this video isn't doing it for health reasons are they?
Except sometimes people aren't doing it to be healthier and while your goal being to be more comfortable with your body is a good goal, in this hypothetical situation, the person was probably already healthy and would likely be doing anything to make themselves skinnier (starving, purging)even if it risks their health worse than that 2 pounds of chub they had. The point of this video is not "weight loss is bad🤬🤬" its "why do you want to loose weight and will that reason hurt you more/ lets find a healthier reason to loose weight."
If you're literally carrying extra weight everywhere around, it's hard. I'm all for self-love, but unnecessary weight is hella taxing for body. And you just have to do what's best for you.
Thank you! I often forget this.. then I remember when I was at my "goal" weight and STILL didn't feel good enough
true! its never enough until you feel enough from the inside, and that's not weight related at all!
@@0123hellooooo genuine question here. how exactly does one feel enough from the inside? i'm struggling and i've been harsh on myself lately because i hated seeing my belly fat. i tell people i'm on a calorie deficit but i restrict myself so much that i barely even reach 1000 calories a day. a part of me knows and acknowledges that it's bad for me, but i can't afford to gain more calories than i burn and i am paranoid about it. i feel like i'll let my efforts (cardio/working out) go to waste if i eat. i'm not even sure if i'll love myself after this because as of right now, there's only hatred and pressure.
What’s on the other side of weight loss for me? Lowered liver enzymes. Controlling my Pcos and diabetes. Making my chronic illnesses (POTS, celiac, hashimotos) easier to manage. Easier to walk/run/exercise.
I feel so sorry that people still feel like in order to feel comfortable in their own body they need to lose weight and usually lots of it. I’ve had the worst relationship with food for so much of my life. And honestly I made just a few changes that made such a huge difference for me. I ended up losing a good bit of weight but not intentionally and it was in a healthy way. Gradually too. Because what I was doing before was far from healthy. Several ed problems. And if it had continued things would have gotten so much worse. It’s ok to lose weight. And it’s ok to gain weight. But ask yourself why you’re doing it first. And honestly I can say that now I’m pretty happy with how I look. I think for my own health benefits I could probably do more in terms of exercise and that would probably make me lose weight but that’s not my goal. Because now I don’t care if I do or don’t. I just want to feel good in my body. And that’s all that should matter. Listen to it, not what someone else’s body needs, but yours.
As someone who's life was made everything about weight constantly to the point I was sent off by my lunatic "parents", from the bottom of my heart thank you Sohee ❤️ makes my head hurt by realizing all the brainwashing and fixing relationship with food & working out
A therapist (or anyone, really) speaking to me in this way feels like they’re invalidating my goals and that they perceive me as ignorant
A therapist or anyone talking this way is just asking you to look beyond the surface of your goals. You need to know your true motives for them so that you can make sure you’re making changes for the right reasons. There is nothing wrong with weight loss and it can be a valid goal for many people.
Interesting. Why do you feel that way? Because to me it seems like she is only trying to get the other person to elaborate on their goal.
I love that question, it actually helped me change my mindset when it comes to my weight loss. It's now about my health and learning to love a healthy self instead of continuing in unhealthy habits and forcing a false sense of confidence even though I'm incredibly unhealthy.
I love the shift. Dropping those pounds won't necessarily change how you feel. For me weight loss was a harmful cycle of not feeling small enough. Now I've shifted towards fitness based goals and have never felt better. The body I'm in can do amazing things and I'd rather empower it than put it at risk due to harmful diets.
My physical form will be more comfortable *physically* on the other side of 50 lbs
I wanna lose weight bc I’m unhealthy. That’s it. My body shape and all that is fine and actually I prefer the way I look now to when I was 50lbs lighter… but like… I’m not healthy.
The reason I prefer the way I look now is bc I look like a feminine Greek statue. Bloody gorgeous. 😫
Yeah, I don’t like that my clothes say large on the tags, but I like the way I look without losing weight as long as they fit me well and are the right style and colors for me…
With that said, I don’t like the way I look when I see skinny pictures of me. And I feel healthy already at the weight where my clothes are size large…
@@kylennpetersen4407 size large is normal!! and yeah, it doesn't make me feel good when i see pictures of myself when i was thinner either (however those pics are from when i was barely eating which was definitely the worst point of my life so far). if large clothes look good and make you feel good, then keep on wearing them!! clothes are meant to fit you, not the other way around.
Love your content. As a Health Coach, these conversations are vital to the process 💯
I was pregnant 4 times in 4.5 years. Gained about 50-60 pounds each pregnancy (except the third which I lost). After this third pregnancy, even though I was very active, I was at my highest. 184 pounds for 167cm. My baby had health issues and I'm in Uni so it was hard to find time to workout. I now lost about 5 pounds in the last 5 weeks with consistant exercise and good diet! I want to lose about 30 pounds to go back to a BMI of 25. I'll still be 150 pounds but I just want to be healthy (and make conceiving our next Bubba easier!). I want to reach 150 in the next 6 months before we start trying to conceive again, when our youngest is 1yo. Wish me luck ❤️
This actually sounds like a good sustainable goal so I think you’re on the right track! Also you should love every inch of your body and partly because you’re a damn super hero for managing multiple pregnancies in such a short time! That takes a HUGE toll on your body so try to remember to be gentle with yourself and know there are a lot of other factors like crazy hormones affecting your appearance and weight. It can take a year - multiple years for hormones to go back to normal after a pregnancy so patience is key! I am also sorry you lost a pregnancy. It’s extremely common but no one deserves to go through it. Sending lots of love to you and your cute family ❤❤
I can't, I feel really uncomfortable. So, yes, I feel better now I go on walks everyday, but it would feel better when I feel lighter and also stronger.
"What's on the other side of that thirty pounds for you?"
Thrift store clothes that will fit me
I love my body after losing fat and gaining muscles. I toned my body so yes looking good can help you feel good. It’s not always about what’s on the inside.
Health. Health is on the other side of weight loss
That is such a good question/way of perceiving weight loss.
When I started losing weight, my main goal was to drop 50lbs because my antidepressants sent me spiraling a few years ago and I wanted to revert that. I just wanted to look better. After losing some weight and getting more active, my goals changed. I still want to lose the rest of those 50lbs (only 20 away) but not for the same reason. I want to lose weight to be healthier, to be able to walk longer distances, to go hiking, to play with my dog more, to help lift heavy things for people that can't do it themselves, to be an overall (physically) better version of myself. Gonna remember that question every time I lose motivation now ❤
Very True!! 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼 I lost 30+ lbs to feel better about myself and realized I felt exactly the SAME after I lost weight...so that's when I did my INNER work to feel better and it worked. 😊
Let's lose 30lbs to... lower cholesterol, lower BP, lower inflammation, lower risk of type 2 diabetes... you know the steps for prevention when you cross that mid life it's coming for ya.
Thank you for this reminder. I didn't realize I needed it.
i wish someone told me this a couple years ago!! i have body dysmorphia so i have a really hard time perceiving myself positively. i developed an ed a couple years back and lost a ton of weight but i didn't feel any better about myself. now that i've gained some weight back it's been really hard for me to cope with. if someone told me this before i started restricting my food, i think i would be in a much better place now. i hope this message gets out to anyone who feels how i did so that they don't have to go through what i did!! you're doing great things
This was such a smart way of asking about goals. I stopped and asked myself what was on the other side of my weight loss, and my main reasons are a reduced risk of heart disease (runs in my family VERY strongly) and being able to move the way I used to.
same!! my family has a history of pretty much every single disease so i want to lose weight for that reason too. i'm at risk of diabetes, high blood pressure, chronic pain, arthritis, you name it- just from genetics. so although i'd love to feel better about how i look, i have an actual medical reason to want to lose some weight too!!
That's actually a really good thought. I've been struggling with my self image a lot right now, and have been really trying not to relapse into my old ED. I feel really guilty when I eat things that might be empty calories, like sweets or more greasy foods like french fries (I tend to limit how much I eat of that anyways) and I feel like I need to starve myself to make up for eating so much---which I know isn't healthy and I'm actively avoiding trying to do. Going to the gym has been helpful, and I do have goals, but I'm more so going trying to help my self image and to feel better in general because I'm more active. Even if it's just going for a walk or something, I know that that has been really helpful.
Thank you for this though, asking the question "what's on the other side of x lbs for you?" is a really good question. I love the phrasing and it really made me stop and think for a bit about what my relation to food, health, and working out is. Thank you. 😊
I dont know. I feel much more confident and happy in my muscular body.
This is so valid! I was asked why i wanna build muscle and i said so i can feel more confident with better posture, some people just say they wanna do something but body dysmorphia will always exist no matter what you look like 💗
True. I was not liking my bosy last week. And just exercising consistently, though I haven't changed physically, I just see my body in a different light now. Because I feel better in general.
I wanna lose 100 pounds. Because I am 100 pounds overweight and I feel gross. I am 230 and I still function fine I just hate being reminded I'm overweight everytime I go to the doctor.
your videos have already done so much more for me than a month of inpatient treatment. thank you 🖤
Nice job there, let's tell a person who wants to be a better version of themselves to just "feel" healthier instead of being. Amazing tip
everyone feels better about themselves when they are in shape.
I love these videos 🥹❤ so wholesome
Nah I'd rather lose 30 lbs and love the healthier version of myself instead
Exactly
This makes me cry. I’ve always been so harsh about my body. It’s not about the number on the scale it’s about loving me first the way I currently look.
I love the way you speak, so elegant and sofisticated
Conversations like this are why I sometimes hate trying to talk to specialists about losing weight. Like you know you can lose weight and work on your mental health and self esteem at the same time. It doesn't have to be either or. I'm not gonna gaslight myself into loving something that I don't like, especially if that thing can be changed or improved.
Cute until the person is actually obese... body positivity should have limits
This is so helpful! It's important to think about what goals we're actually trying to accomplish, and this approach leaves room for people to think about what needs to change in their life.
For instance, a person might walk in and be like "I need to lose weight because I can't move around like I used to when I was smaller". Weight loss would probably help them, but this way the trainer knows that they probably also want to focus on range of motion and flexibility. The client will make progress faster, and they'll be more likely to stick to lifestyle changes that leave them feeling better.
This was so helpful for me to learn as someone who needs to lose a lot of weight. As soon as I learned that I realized it’s ok to ask for help, not push yourself too hard everyday, and you don’t need to starve yourself. And also to love yourself while you work on losing weight
Easy for someone who looks perfect to say
women giving women bad advice again.
focus on the presented goal of losing weight then redirect the focus to tangible outcomes: more clothing options. lower blood pressure, less pressure on the knees snd hips.
I really think it's interesting that in your version of this, you completely ignore her actual stated desires in favor of the things you think she should want.
And by interesting I really mean disturbing. I suspect you struggle to accept other people's autonomy.
@@evantesseract737 i deal in reality. if an lpc is providing therapy, you address actionable outcomes. stop allowing social media to condition you towards your feelings getting in the way of real progress.
@@OmegaSeraphim feeling good about yourself is an actionable outcome so by your own definition you're wrong
If this is your profession, I really hope everyone knows in advance that you don't respect people's actual stated goals
@@evantesseract737 can you qualitatively measure how much you feel about yourself?
in order to reach goals, you must achieve results. losing weight (fat) requires measured results.
When I was in high school I was skinny (100lbs for a 5'5 woman) and SH and constantly trying to lose more weight. After my kids I have gained weight significantly but I have actually found I loved myself more. Excellent question. Thank you
And truly it works ❤️ because it was only after I started to love my body as is that I started to loose weight and now I’m more than 50 lbs down and going
Body positivity and all that sounds and is good BUT IF YOU ARE OBESE, think it like this - would you let your pet be OBESE and get weaker and weaker day by day ???
DON'T DO IT TO YOURSELF. Looking good and gaining confidence are just Perks of weightloss the real motive is to be healthy.
So true, we need more people like you on the internet
... or you could just lose 30lbs and feel happier and more confident in yourself.
never in my life did i think we would live in a culture where striving to be the healthiest version of ourselves is a mortal sin.
This is true. I remember losing so much weight and still hated my body. It was all in my head, not a number on a scale. Everyone’s journey is gonna be different, but this video resonates with me and my experience.
and the circle starts anew... brilliantly made👌
If I told my trainer I wanted to lose 30 pounds and they asked me this I would fire them. Just do your job and tell me how to get to my weight goals
If you are overweight though you absolutely will feel better losing weight. Women that size is ED Territory as they don’t need to lose anything but they perceive it that way due to dismorphia
You missed the point.
If you're overweight and lose enough ti become normal weight, that doesn't mean you'll feel better about yourself.
And working out and eating well will help you no matter how much you weigh.
You clearly know nothing. Neither about weight nor about eating disorders..... please educate yourself bc your mindset is very dangerous and wrong.
"Overweight" is a hell of a spectrum. You see gym ppl? By their bmi they're considered "obese" but are they tho??? Obviously not. "Normal" weight can be severely lifethreatening underweight for other people.
Furthermore eating disorders aren't exclusively anorexia. There are countless of types of disordered eating. A lot of them do not even have a "weight" or "weightloss" as a factor. It's completely irrelevant. Disordered eating can be as easy as only eating the same few foods over and over again bc one is scared of even buying a different brand of said food.
So please. Go do your research before trying to comment dangerous halfassed knowledge
I'm about to start my weight loss journey (I have a few weeks to live with greasy food and laziness) and your channel has made me realize that I don't need to be skinny to feel better (eventhough it would help) but rather I need to work on my behaviors as well as my body
I want to lose about 90 lbs (i already lost 10!) Bc ppl very clearly just treat thinner ppl better. Which sucks but like... I already love myself but I want approval from the outside world
Yeah, thats BS.
if someone wants to lose weight than let them lose weight 🤦♀️
Obviously, but people should know that A number on the scale itself will not make them happier. If someone is overweight, yes that should lose weight to be healthier and feel and look better, but many people think that weight loss will make them love themselves more or have a happier life, and that's not always the case.
That's not what this is about 🤦♀️
Why do you think anyone is stopping them?
Thank you. I’ve been feeling a bit down about my body this week (I should get more sleep - I think the lack of sleep let’s my bad thought patterns creep in and linger). When I was 70 lbs lighter, I still kinda hated my body. Not constantly, but a lot. I would say I would like to be healthier. But I don’t hate my body right now. Sometimes I’m more down on it. But I forget how much better my life was when I stopped hating my body. And that my weight doesn’t dictate my hate. My brain does.
she be speaking facts, bc i used to be medium weight, felt fat, lost an unhealthy amount of weight, now im underweight and still want to lose more. sadly, im not happier😫
Yes please. As an overweight person I definitely want to try and lose weight, but I'm definitely open to hearing about how to be happy with how I am now.
Honestly i lost weight for this reason, I wasn't exactly fat or overweight before but i constantly felt bad about myself and thought losing weight would change everything. And it did. I am healthier and feel so much better about myself, am much more confident because i look better. I know this doesn't work for everyone, but it certainly works for many.
This is a great point and people should feel comfortable in their own skin and many people do have incorrect perceptions about how they look. However, some people are also very unhealthy and need to lose the weight, which will make them feel better about themselves. And whether we like it or not, everyone’s first impression is based on appearance, so it’s better to make a good one by looking after yourself ❤
that question is a really good question, as you can want to lose weight to feel physically better, and/or mentally better. my stepmom has been on a diet to lose weight, since she is overweight. so far, she has lost 50 pounds and has said that she has started feeling better. and my mom has started losing weight from not eating gluten anymore, but she did develop a gluten intolerance too...
100% agree with this . We can gain weight because of trauma ( not feeling safe in your body ) fear, inflammation,hormones etc. In order for the body to release the weight it has to feel safe . By having self love, patience and self care is definitely a good first step . I'm menopausal and going through this despite eating healthy ,having a active job and exercising whenever I can . Love to all that are on the journey 🤍
A good conversation to have with everyone except those who actually need to loose the weight
This is why I love your channel ❤
Totally agree. Im already confident in my own body, so working out for me is not to feel good when I didn't before. It makes you feel so good tho knowing your taking care of yourself, becoming stronger and acheiving your dream body. One little tip, don't point out your insicurities too much or call yourself ugly like all the time because it will get anoyig and people will actually start seeing you that way. It's ok to talk about it but sometimes it's to much because we don't notice how you look and don't care. Change for yourself. Love yourself. ❤
I love how you say the importance of body imagine and also acknowledge that weight loss can be a good goal! ❤❤❤
This is actually a really funny loop!
Jokes aside making sure they want to lose weight for the right reasons is a great question.
I felt much better about myself after I started going to the gym. I felt stronger and healthier. I like how my clothes fit and how I see myself.
The trick is to be better than I was yesterday.
The question "What is on the other side of thirty pounds for you" is such a good one! It helps decipher if the goal of weight loss is based on self-image of the need to lose weight. For me, the other side of thirty pounds is just a beginning to my personal journey. I've always been a bigger person, and while you think my self-image of my body would be worse-
I d o love my body, deeply, I think I'm beautiful no matter what. For me, weight loss is about doing so to feel physically healthier, and to avoid potential health issues from being on the bigger side- Which for my family is everything from heart disease, to diabetes type 2, to issues with arthritis. Not to mention, for myself, I personally just want to know what it feels like to take better care of my body (as I currently am not.)
But for some of my friends, their entire reason for losing any amount of weight is often emotional or emotionally charged, not for actual health benefits. So honestly, the question asked in this video is pretty helpful in at least helping someone figure out why they want to lose weight.
That’s true, many of the people who aren’t satisfied with their bodies are perceived to be perfectly fine by everyone else.
“What’s on the other side of the 30 pounds for you” that hit hard
This is something i did back in highschool. I was insecure but i could see even at that age how diet culture was likely to just be a dangerous slope of unhappiness. Instead i thought "im insecure now bc the messages i recieve from society is that im not pretty/thin enough. Ive been brain washed negatively. Im going to instead use the same science to positively brainwash myself into loving myself" and exclusively consumed media with diverse bodytypes, same with youtubers, stopped reading magazines etc etc
You have to love your body for getting you there, anywhere. For doing what it does for you. Getting to move and do things for yourself because your body makes these things possible for you to have an experience and your ABLE to change anything you don’t like. So, having a positive attitude toward your body is going to make it so much better on yourself mentally and your going to grow to appreciate it a lot more than being stuck in that mindset that your body needs to change in order for you to love it. Love content like this! It actually helps people understand their goals and getting there in the best possible way!
As someone on a current weight loss journey, even though I have a goal weight and I know I’ll be happier when I achieve it I still make sure to like myself where I’m at it makes it a lot easier
i want to lose 30 pounds
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What’s on the other side is an amazing question! In the midst of my ED when I had severe body dysmorphia, I would have said life will just be better. Now that I’ve healed, my goal is still weight loss, but because I’ve gained weight. I’m sluggish and slow, and I have sleep apnea so my quality of sleep has significantly decreased and I want to maintain health and fitness so I can be active with my dog and eventually my kid.
this can apply to so much, amazing! you don't need to change yourself to feel better if you can feel better about yourself as you are
Oh my god, thank you for existing!!!!❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️ I can emphasize enough how much did I need this ❤️ thanks 😭
That made me feel A LOT better, thank you!😀
Similar to “why do you want to get sober?“. It really is.
The best channel i swear
This is so perfect! As a plus-size young adult, all I wanted was to be skinny because i thought itd make me happy. I achieved thinness, but still didn't like myself and i was more depressed than ever. I've gained all the weight back but also went to therapy. Now when I think about losing weight my reasons aren't to be thin so I'll be happy. I'm pretty happy as it is. I want to lose a little weight for concrete reasons. Ease joint stress, fit into more clothes, fit into the world more comfortably etc. Losing weight won't make me happy but it might mean more shopping options and that'd be nice.