how to find your drive & life direction
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- Опубликовано: 27 июл 2024
- here's to finding motivation after you've lost it ☕️
Today's chat comes in as another member request and it felt close to home since I recently also lost my drive and needed time to rest on cruise.
It's easy to get hard on ourselves during these times; repeating the idea that we're "lost" or "wasting time"... let's reject that self-inflicted energy and give ourselves a damn moment to chill.
Don't buy into the idea that you always have to be moving in a direction or toward the next goal. Life is an experience not a to-do list.
And when you DO decide you want to pick up the pace and set your sights on a horizon... then here's some comforting support in doing so!
Coffee Talk Chapters ✨:
00:00 - intro
00:30 - member request
01:00 - losing your drive is normal
03:38 - find out your motivators
04:55 - intrinsic vs. extrinsic motivations
08:26 - examples
10:33 - ad break
13:42 - sit with your dang self
15:30 - how you'll know it's time
17:06 - journal session/personal question prompts
20:55 - let's get clear about purpose
23:02 - alright, let's pick a direction
26:35 - ad break
28:15 - pick a direction & go
30:55 - my experience with a recent burnout
33:00 - final thoughts
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Coffee Talk Chapters ✨:
00:00 - intro
00:30 - member request
01:00 - losing your drive is normal
03:38 - find out your motivators
04:55 - intrinsic vs. extrinsic motivations
08:26 - examples
10:33 - ad break
13:42 - sit with your dang self
15:30 - how you'll know it's time
17:06 - journal session/personal question prompts
20:55 - let's get clear about purpose
23:02 - alright, let's pick a direction
26:35 - ad break
28:15 - pick a direction & go
30:55 - my experience with a recent burnout
33:00 - final thoughts
Anyone in a rut right now, don't give up and keep believing in yourself.
Thank you! This means a lot!
😭😭😭 thank you
Happy International Women’s Day everyone!
I feel so safe watching your RUclips videos both on this channel and on your other channel. I come here so often when I’m dealing with heightened anxiety. I am so grateful for you and all your videos x
Oh I didn’t know there was another channel. But I agree, this does feel very safe space x
Kalyn, I really loved your weekly vlogs last year. Will we get more this year?
I miss her so much! I have been watching old Vlogs cause I’m like having withdrawals lol 😆
@@PassionatelyTaylorMarie same, sis. Same
I really hope so too!!
Dude ik like omg. I’ve been looking for weeks. Nothing :(
Yes please!
I really like how you come across very genuine, such a natural beauty x
Starting a journey of creation and inspiring others to live authentically!
It’s such a life changing revelation to realise that extrinsic motivators are good and all but what drives true, positive and long lasting change are intrinsic motivators...it’s like...what makes your soul sing💙🙏
THIS. idk if it’s the pandemic but man, it’s been incredibly difficult lately to feel motivation. it all just feels so pointless, man. this video couldn’t have come at a better time. your birthday is the day after mine! i hope one day we can grab a coffee and have a good ole piscean chat ♥️
Love this. I think its so important to recognize some days coasting is fine. ♡
These journal prompts are what I asked myself when I was struggling with whether or not to change my major years ago. I just graduated this past December 😊
Literally sat down to type in “how to find life path” into RUclips to look at advice and this video was in my subscription box. Desperately needed this after being laid off twice in a year due to covid
Kalyn I swear every week your video topics are always so relevant to my life and help me so so much! thank you so much for always sharing your words of inspiration 🤍
Please do this every week. I was lost for over a year. Jobless and week just wasting my time. Ur video has inspired me. I got a good job and in focus now. Please do this every week it really helps.
I'm the sort of person that gets easily exhausted, but for so long I also tried to be "Number 1," and so when things got really tough in college and even my best efforts were not putting me at the top, I got pretty depressed, and it didn't make things better that the path I was pursuing expected "top notch" students. The past year and a half I've been taking a spiritual journey. Although I did get to where I want to be, I was so exhausted by the time I got there that at first, I didn't even feel like continuing the thing I'd worked so hard for/waited for so long for. Thankfully I somehow pushed through the 1st semester, and now I have definitely been taking a more "enjoy the game instead of trying to win it" approach because I don't want to end up hating what I'm pursuing. Maybe I won't win the same title or make the same grades as the other students, but ultimately, I know I am dedicated to what I do and my purpose, and I know what is best for me in the long-term. Thanks for sharing this video, I definitely needed this :))
You talked me through one of the worst slumps of my life. Love you and keep being your awesome angel-self forever❤️
Pleeeeaaase make a video about how life is a simulation bc its such a mood sometimes
damn I needed this. This was infinitely more helpful than the conversation I tried having with my therapist about this topic this morning. Thank you.
Kalyn! My soul needs WEEKLY VLOGS back ❤️❤️❤️
Can we get a coffee talk about how to stay motivated to take care of yourself? I'm always falling off my trail when it comes to taking care of myself, drinking my water, taking my vitamins, meditating, journaling and exercising (even if it's just yoga)- life comes in the way too often that I really forget to make time for me. :( I hope I'm not the only one who gets this.
YES! I too struggle with this.
watching your videos every morning is such a serotonin boost
this was super helpful and very clearly broken down! thanks so much for putting this positivity and clarity out into the world
Thank you needed this so much☕, I've been trying to get back my drive as I have no idea what direction my life is going right now. Happy International Women's Day✨!
This was an amazing reminder to continue to go inward and it’s fascinating to think along this journey the more I learn the more I’m realizing the importance of staying true to yourself and how that always points you in the right direction 🥰
Kalyn, you always come with a topic I truly need! Thank you very much for your hard work!
I will definitely be rewatching to take notes so I can try some of your suggestions. I really needed this today. Love your videos.
Yes. I requested that topic last week. Thank you! 😊
well needed advice! Thank you! I definitely feel like I am in-between chapters of my life at the moment and I am excited to see what is to come.
Can’t wait to listen to this after I finish work in 30 minutes 💜💜
you’re almost there ♥️
LOVE THE METAPHOR!!! Thinking about it through that lens makes it so much more fun and exciting, ugh I just love the whole gamification idea! This totally got me amped!
Hi!!!! I love you so much and I’m so happy for you buying your own house. Sending hugs!!!
OMG, this couldn't be more perfect!
Thanks, Kalyn for such inspiring videos and messages.
You really make the world a better place!
It is so amazing that many people nowadays are into creating content about finding motivation, and life direction. Thank you for inspiring people and for sharing your thoughts and ideas! The great message in this video is definitely living into your purpose.
HERE'Z TO THE RIDE!!!! Love this
My favorite youtuber!!!
I really like listening to you, any time of the day 💕 you are both comforting and inspiring
That first reminder that we are allowed to just enjoy the ride if we choose to is so important for me rn. I am currently in a phase where I learn to take the rest I need to feel and contribute my best. Thanks to this video, it felt really motivating but caring at the same time.
Love the coffe talk and love the makeup free look ❤ you look stunning
Loved this episode🧡i have thought about similar things when i was deciding what to study at the university and basically what am I gling to do in my life and it really helped. I think everyone should first think about what interests them of course, but also what drives them. For me its people who depend on me, team work and helping others and it really cleared up which profession would be best suited for me.
We want a vloggg! 💜💜💜
you have changed my life in so many ways. Thankyou universe for blessing us with Kalyn. Thankyou Kalyn for being the beautiful pure soul that you are. So much power to you!
thank you! I appreciate this talk. For the past few weeks ive been feeling lost and confused about every aspect in my life. These steps and questions will help me align with myself and help me understand my life and everything around it. I saw one of your videos almost two years ago and now i came across you channel again I am so glad. I also want to congratulate you on your growth. I saw one of your videos when you had a few thousand subs and now you are at almost 200k. I am so happy for you sending you hugs!
13:42 is an amazing tip, I have been told by my professional to do this
Been going through a huge period of not feeling any motivation or drive. This talk helped me SO much in realizing I was focusing 100% on extrinsic motivators outside of my control and burning out from it. I’m going to be doing the journal prompts today so I can look inward and figure out my values and what I can do that’s actually in alignment with me. Thank you SO much for this talk🙏🏾
Beautiful advices I love the way share information 😊
I really appreciate your vulnerability Kaylyn; thanks so so much for all you do! I especially resonated with your learnings from burnout and getting back into alignment with our ultimate values and what makes us happy and at peace with ourselves. I first discovered you in 2018 and while your videos had many views the content didn't resonate with me at all. Now your chats really get to the core of the challenges faced by humans & women, and I so appreciate all your content. It's not about the extrinsic values / the quantity of people you are reaching - it's about the lives you are changing. ❤
This was such perfect timing, thank you for sharing!
Perfect timing this is something I needed to hear, it had a lot of helpful advice. ❤️
Thank you so much for this 🥰 so many great take always 💞 I appreciate you!!
Love listening to your podcasts on Spotify and happy to have found a bunch more videos on RUclips! So grateful to have people like you sharing their own knowledge and experience in regards to becoming more aware and aligned with ourselves. It doesn't get talked about enough. Your energy is amazing and I am so happy you are sharing it one video/podcast after another. Keep doing what you are doing! Much love 🧘🏼♀️🙏🏽🌱
Thank you for making this video I need this I felt I have lost that for the past weeks or months ❤️❤️
I really appreciate this content that you put out! You're an inspiration, Kalyn 🌟 I've just come out of a bit of a funk so this is great timing x
This answered my life dilemma right now. Perfect timing! So grateful for you!!!! 🦋
Thank you for the talk, it was so motivating and helpful! 😊💕
Thank you for making this vlog I needed this. I really appreciate you sharing this. Keep going girl we need you. Thank you!
I didn’t know how much I needed this video until I saw it. Thank you, Kalyn! ❤️
This couldn’t have come at a more perfect time. Thank you 😊
this will be my drive to work in a hour! I can’t wait!
This is amazing! It was so great to start with that metaphor of the car. Helped me let go of my guilt about my life.
your coffee talks always bring be a sense of peace in my everyday life
Love these videos. They're literally save my life.
Will you please add your koze flows on here? Or on your main channel? Please. They are easier to watch on here.
Perfect timing!! Been In a rut for a while now 😔. Here's to some kozenchill🤣💓
You are a beautiful person inside out. I really look upto you like an older sister I never had❤️
I really needed this right now 😌
Thank you because your choice of topics inspires me.
Thank you : ) I'm new here, and already appreciate your vibe.
Love this video! Really good questions you put in there to ask yourself! I have been through burnout aswell in periods and now my purpose is to share my journey on how I got myself burned out and how I recovered. I also share the things I do and think about actively to not get to that point again. Also touching on not feeling shame about getting burned out and how to love yourself limitless! ❤️
You look so pretty (as always, but I really like this natural look) ❤️
Needed this. Thank you beautiful Kalyn ❤️ also side note...I really think you'd suit white/grey hair! Suits your whole style haha.
Ah I didn’t get notified!!!
So excited. Kalyn in the BEST✨
This is exactly what I needed 🙌🏻
I needed to watch this video been going through so much mixed emotions, feeling lost.
I needed exactly this
I have been a silent viewer for a while, but the more you post the more I think "how are we not best friends?" Haha!
Also, we live in Hamilton and I love that I found a canadian youtuber that I can connect with while I have been going on my own road to self discovery!
As always, your video came at the perfect time. I’ve been feeling SO directionless and stressed because of it. Do you have any tips on dealing with overwhelm? I feel like I need to “make over” my whole life in almost all of the areas if that make sense, and I have no idea where to start because it all seems so daunting 🥺 sending you lots of love from La Jolla, California 🌈💜🌈💜🌈
Missing the regular vlogs and content on your main channel! Also, need 2017-2018 content vibes again, please! This year is just an extension of 2020, need some serious motivation in life. Videos on GYSTing, following habits, working on your goals, routines, systems, basically all the old videos would help so much right now. Thank you so much! Love. ❤️
This came to me at the perfect moment
They always do ❤
Kalyn, amazing video and very relatable. An idea for another video and something I feel a lot of your viewers will benefit from - How to shift gears in life with purpose? I mean in the past several months I have felt stuck, not inspired enough and just a lot of friction to get started with a ew direction or passion which I know I really want to pursue.
this whole conversation reminded me of the new disney film "soul"
I'm the first 🥰😍 love your videos
Achh I just love you dude
You look so pretty ☺️💕
Lovely video! Any specific recommendations on books or content that helped you align with your values and goals?
A companion and life
👀 possible video on if life is a simulation??? YESSSS PLEASE!!!!
I'm just gonna leave it here and move on: about the motivations. It is all a beautiful bullshit while it works. But there WILL be the day when NOTHING will motivate you. Not a line, not a picture not a person. So, what you have to do, is you going to have to think of it BEFORE it comes, ACCEPT that it WILL happen and then you will either 1) power through it or 2) give yourself a break and start over when the phase is over. I've been through that millions of times, and that is the only two things that will work in the end.
Such an inspirational video! Love it.
I also have some...hope it can help anybody
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Like how did you know I was just searching the KOZE Channel for a videoooo???????
HELL YEAH IM EARLY
Where is that comforter from? I've been looking for one like that!
You came as usual at the write time i am certainly kind of lost
Here
Coffee talk request...how to move on mentally and emotionally from a long term relationship. I’m struggling from getting out of an 8 year relationship. Please help. Love, Kim
I feel so lost that I didn’t know you had a DISCORD 😭
I was waiting for you to stop drinking so much coffee ☕️ it was really messing up my life tbh it’s a drug like any other.
are you ever going to vlog again? I love coffee talks but it's getting a bit old
vlogs will come when they come (naturally and without pressure or force), but I always make sure to come here and have chat once a week regardless of what's going on in my life. I've done this every week for 3 years now and I put a lot of work into them. Reading that it's getting a bit old is a little hurtful if I'm being honest. I nearly quit my personal channel all together after last year but decided not to be so dramatic and just post on that channel when I have spare time 💗 Right now I'm focused on building a yoga/bonus koze membership (that also includes vlog style content) and gearing up for spring so I can start posting things like regular vlogs and extra content on my personal channel more frequently again. There's really only so much I can do with my time and energy while also remaining connected to my physical life. I'm really trying to do it all fam, but gentle reminder that it's just me over here... no editor (for the time being), assistants, team or network behind me.
I see your sweet comments all the time so I know you don't mean this hurtfully, but figured this was an opportunity to explain!
@@KalynsCoffeeTalk oh shoot kalyn I didn't double check thatmy comment got cut off, I was saying, it's getting a bit old to ask about them all the time. I AM GENUINELY SORRY I NEVER MEANT TO POST A NEGATIVE COMMENT and of course the coffee talks are NOT getting old I LIVE FOR THEM AND THEY SAVED ME. thank you for the lengthy reply, I'm so sad to hurt you it wasn't intentional I SWEAR TO GOD I LOVE COFFEE TALKS AND ALL THD WORK YOU PUT IN THEM I don't know what happened I AM REALLY SORRY THIS WAS NOT A MEAN COMMENT!!! 😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭 what i meant is because everyone asks you about vlogs, its getting a bit old to ask again GOSH SORRY AGAIN A MILLION TIMES I CAN'T IMAGINE HOW YOU FELT READING THIS 😢 💔 😞
I LOVE YOU SO VERY MUCH
@@KalynsCoffeeTalk i genuine missed blogs and that was my only intention not to disregard or disrespect the coffee talks. I'm having anxiety now that I know this is how this message got through to you. I'm so excited for the membership, this community is the safest place online I NEVER INTENDED TO BE THE ONE TO BRING YOU DOWN. 😭😭
@@queeneva3 OMG IT'S OKAY!!!!! 💗 I TOTALLY had a feeling you didn't mean it negatively because I see all your loving comments all the time and appreciate them and YOU so much ✨ you're right that I get asked a lot about vlogs lately so I took the chance to explain it here!
@@KalynsCoffeeTalk THANK YOU SO MUCH ,a burden got off my chest because I wasn't sure you'll read this and i had anxiety all day. It made my day to know that you read my comments 🥰🥰🥰 sending you lots of love, don't feel pressured you're doing so much for us already 🤍🤍🥰🥰
Happy international womens day ❤
Hey there! Where is the Discord you're referring to? I would love to join :)
how do we get added to the discord server?