How To Create Your Alter Ego
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- Опубликовано: 7 июл 2024
- How to create an alter ego and live your best damn life.
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Coffee Talk Chapters ✨:
00:00 - Welcome & Todays topic
01:57 - What is an alter ego?
04:45 - We already have alternating egos
06:04 - How do you create one: Step One
07:41 - Step two - build out the character
08:46 - Step three - name and activate your alter ego
10:26 - Potential cons of this concept
11:58 - Final thoughts ✨
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Coffee Talk Chapters ✨:
00:00 - Welcome & Todays topic
01:57 - What is an alter ego?
04:45 - We already have alternating egos
06:04 - How do you create one: Step One
07:41 - Step two - build out the character
08:46 - Step three - name and activate your alter ego
10:26 - Potential cons of this concept
11:58 - Final thoughts ✨
wow for years i've been doing this thing.. let's say there's a stressful email to be sent, i'd be like "ok u know what i am not gonna send this, i'll get my assistant do it for me" so i feel like the stress is hers not mine but the assistant is me too lol. time to level up the assistant, name her and create a proper alter ego
omgosh! so clever! 💛
My mom used to do this with cleaning! So smart, honestly
I love this so much "my assistant will do it for me" 😂 I think I've also done this unknowingly
are you currently looking for a virtual / personal assistant? I am one :)
What a great idea!😊
I have 2 alter egos- Wonda, she is there as the one that does the "stupid things," kind of like the drunk me; and Wilma, she is my confident badass that gets things done. And there is me, driving the party bus. We are all best friends that love & support each other.
The thing you said about - Having so many versions of me with different people made me think about how draining it is for me. I don't like acting out of alignment with my highest truth just to avoid making other people uncomfortable just because of the fear of judgment. So I'm just slowly one day at a time working on becoming the raw, true, unapologetic version of me. Boundaries are helping me with that a lot.
Normal me is a 35 yr old mom who cooks and cleans and works. But I feel like there is a part of me that never got to show up because I had my first son at 18 and went straight into mom mode. This other me has just been hanging out waiting for a chance to get out. She’s adventurous and romantic and vibrant. I’m thinking I should try to activate her soon! Even if just for a day
Go fo it! ✨
I feel you ❤
Don't think, just go for it, it'll be awesome,
Wow, I so feel this! As a mum who also had children young. My Alta ego is such a free spirit. Free from fears, stress and spends time having fun, dancing, meditating and doing yoga 🧘♀️ 😂x
For the last eight ish years when I need a booster of Confidence and need to be more out going I put on some red lipstick and become Lady danger, it has helped me in unimaginable ways
I've been wanting to create this confident, fearless version of myself. I am job hunting, have been unemployed for 10 months. At first I took some months as a break cause my mental health was awful, but my job hunting has been awful. I have so much fear and lack of confidence that I have only managed to send 4 applications which is ridiculous and definitely not where I thought I would be at 24 years old with a degree and zero experience... I wanted to create a version of myself that applies without fears, that believes she is capable of success, that is not afraid of discovering different job roles and building a career and is not afraid of making mistakes cause mistakes = learning. I think about this version of me a lot and wish I could be her every day, but I haven't been able to bring it to the light yet. I hope to do so fast.
I accidentally created an alter ego as a teenager when I wanted to be more confident in myself and not let my anxiety hold me back from living life. I haven’t thought about her in awhile but I’ve realized now in my young adult years that I’ve become that version of myself younger me created and strived to become for so long.
I had an "alter ego" named Celene 2.0 and I thought of her as an upgraded version of myself, like a newer model without any defects. But TBH that probably wasn't the healthiest mindset of looking at it and I never really knew what an "alter ego" was / how to use it. Now I feel inspired to make a new, healthier version with her own name!
I love this! I think this is an idea that's not widely discussed because of the stigma that comes with it, that is, “ oh you are double-faced”. ( which is true only when you incorporate negative tendencies with it) Love that we are positively putting this to use
Exactly ✨
I’m a hard-core introvert, but i work in marketing. I have the way I am around customers/clients/coworkers and the version I actually am! Been doing this whenever I have a customer service type of role ☺️
I literally cannot believe it because just 3 HOURS ago I was listening to the Reputation album and suddenly thought of kinda starting a project "me without any subconscious fears and beliefs about myself". Because I've always had a certain version of myself where I felt super confident and brave and sexy and all of those things which I'm usually not. I even have a different name too for this version of myself, but have always been too shy to let her out.
And so I got so inspired by Taylor, and was excited thinking it's finally high time to start and so, how to start it and what to do, and there's this!!!! Istg I felt chills the moment I saw this title, just HOW.
You're always on point omg, but this is just mind-blowing, I'm speechless.
I've always felt creeped out by the idea of having an alter ego, until Kalyn made a coffee talk about it, and made it seem like the most peaceful thing you could ever do. Thank you for all the beautiful energy and inspiration you bring into our lives.
I’ve had an alter ego since I was a baby! I had one of those little telephone toys that would re-play whatever you said into it and I would imagine this sophisticated adult version of myself in a fancy down town office with huge windows and I would call her “Mosha.” I think I was trying to say “Moesha” because I was a 90’s baby and I thought Moesha was cool but I combined it with my own name, which I also couldn’t really say, so I’d ask for “Mosha-Kaya” and my future confident adult self would answer and give me advice about how to become her. I imagined her in her 30’s like the cast of Sex And The City and I’m almost 26 now so I am trying to become more like Mosha in the next 4-10 years! She definitely had money but she also had this warm and steady energy about her so I’m guessing Mosha does yoga and meditates regularly too!
I want to become more ME, and stop bringing myself down, or others down out of fear of disappointment from others
Literally obsessed with your coffee talks but I don’t think all of these have been uploaded to Spotify? The past few at least. That’s usually the platform I listen on.
I watch all your videos but rarely post. But I wanted to share that when I want to step into the higher version of me, I spray Chanel N5. I instantly feel more beautiful and elegant. I haven’t named my alter ego.. kind of just calling it Kelly 2.0. But if I were to name her she’d be Elizabeth. 💕
I’m creating an alter ego named, Skye! I recently left my long term career to live more slowly and recover from what is the corporate world. I need a me that gardens, recovers and absolutely nourishes the world in her feminine energy. This is Skye.
My alter ego is named Brooke and is actually inspired by Brooke Davis 😂🙈
Yasss... from one tree hill??
i love you just for that
YES
Definitely plan on making one now! I’ve never thought about it this way - it sounds like just the thing I’ve been needing!
You inspire me so much, girl. Even before the video starts I thought "I'd like to be more like her". Keep shining.
I looove this alter ego concept. Showing up in the world as the fully complex version of myself is something I’ve been struggling to engage with for a while. Thank you for this push! 💕
this is a great tool for going beyond fear and breaking self-imposed boundaries. awesome video!
This video was so healing to watch!!! I've been following Koze for a year to help support my healing journey. As I've learned to understand the origins of my limiting beliefs, I've wondered what is my next step. This video on the alter ego has helped me visualise the person I want to become, while still remaining authentic and also accepting my past. Thank you Kalyn for your healing presence, and your unconditional love and support! Forever part of the Koze community
at this point I am convinced we are somehow connected lol EVERY TIME you make a new video it's something I've been searching for an answer for. It's insane.
i love the idea ! realizing i kinda unintentionally did this for years - i adapt really well to situation and sometimes ''mimics'' the traits of other persons in order to be able to do something i knew i ''could'nt'' do ''myself''.
Wow, this is brilliant! I’m excited and inspired to try this idea and create my own alter ego!
Good luck!!
Omg this lip & eyeshadow color suits you soooo well, really makes your blue eyes even brighter! ✨🧡✨💙✨
Wow! I love your explanation of alter egos Kalyn! I never thought of them like you explained but now I’m definitely writing out my alter ego this morning!! 💕💕
You have a varied range of content in your channel Kalyn which is so interesting. It's all about learning and sharing and you're exactly doing that. Love your content..keep going girl! ❤
Oh Kalyn I cannot tell you how needed this was right now ❤️ I adored it, thank you!
Just when I’m feeling hopeless..your video pops up in my subscription box 💕 I loved this video so much and needed it. I’m going to try to create an alter ego when it comes to my chronic pain. Instead of Shyla being in pain, it will be Sara being in pain so I can start to dissociate myself and my identity with pain. Thank you K🙏❤️☮️
Just made a coffee☕️ now sitting down to watch this perfect timing ✨
I was creating my alter ego during your video and I think it is going to help me so much with my anxiety and my feeling of being stuck! Thank you for this video Kalyn, you might have changed my current life quality for a better one
I am soo excited to listen to this! I feel like this has been what I'm trying to figure out for myself rn, I've just quit my job and I feel like I need to see who *I* am, not a student or an employee but *me* . all the love from South Africa ✨💛✨
I love the idea and feel motivated to create one for myself now. ☺
One thought came to mind I feel like sharing:
I thought that creating an alter ego is like a conscious and healthy version of what happens unconsciously to people with a dissociative identity disorder. It's there way to survive in everyday life with the help of different characters.
I just now realised that I've had an alter ego for years now haha kinda forgot about her.. I always activated her by putting on a certain outfit and doing my makeout in a certain way (and different way than usual) 😅 used her for high anxiety days so I could get groceries and stuff 😬
Once again, you are reading my mind Kayln! Thank you for the awesome video!
This video is so perfect for my life right now! I have been reading about alter egos and creating one.
I love the look! Thank you for the coffee talk its what I needed today
I have been thinking about creating an alter ego lately, but I was never really sure how to do it, or find a good reason why. But this chat helped me so much! I understand much better what it is for now, and I know exactly what kind of alter ego I am going to create. She is going to be like I always imagined myself when I was a kid playing "fantasy games". She is bold, not afraid to go after what she wants and stands up for herself, she can say No. She is also always kind and doesn´t talk bad about others (I won´t lie, I noticed that I talk bad about colleagues at work in order to fit in with the few that are also talking bad, and I really dislike that about myself since I noticed. I still catch myself doing it sometimes, but I got way better and am more mindfull of me actually doing so). My alter ego is simply braver than me and no people pleaser. And she get´s up in the morning to work for the life she actually wants and deserves. I don´t know what to call her yet, but I´ll try to come up with a name today :)
Don't mind me I'm just going to grab a coffee, roll out my yoga mat, and listen to Kalyn to start my day right.
Don't have an alter ego and this subject is definitely new to me however after watching this video I'll definitely give it a try and create my alter ego. Loved the video Caroline 😜❤️❤️
I never thought of this and after your video I can't wait to create one!!!!
You have such a great content!❤🙌🏽
Love this! Creating one now for sure that will be more extroverted! ✨
I had no idea I needed this until I saw the title of your video! Thank you Kalyn💗
Also so funny, I’ve always been drawn to this one name for some reason, and that’s what I’m naming my alter ego. It fits perfectly, but I’ve been drawn to it for month maybe if not years and not in a way like “I want to name of my kids this name”, so cool and crazy!!✨
Midge is my alter ego 😊 she makes me my best version of myself, my most confident version.
Thank you Kalyn. It was needed
AH! YES! creating one right now!! 🤩 BRILLIANT!
This came at the perfect time for me.. thank you
I'm so excited for this, a few months ago I was searching this very topic!!!
Really nice episode, thank you!❤
I’ve never created an alter ego but now I’m definitely intrigued to do so!
Excitedly watching this with a raspberry leaf tea 🍵 Kalyn you look beautiful!! Love those vibrant colours on you
Love this video and this is how I found your channel!
Love this👏✨
I haven't made my alter ego yet but I love the idea! I'm gonna work on making it right away. Thanks for the video!
Wow, this is an amazing tool to help me do stuff I'm scared to do.
Thank you! 💛
I had never realized this could be a thing, and I am actually in desperate need of this! I have oral exams in medical school and I keep getting bad grades (despite studying so hard and actually knowing the answer to all of the questions) simply because I get so nervous and can’t speak properly during the exam.
SO SAY HELLO TO ELLE (inspired by Elle Woods ofc) my bright, tenacious alter ego who has no shame in being who she is and is ready to show the world her power 🙌🏼🙌🏼💕💕
This is such a great idea!! OMG thank youuuu! It will be very helpful to me!
I've been interested in the concept of an alter ego for about a year- I've never really come across content regarding it. Appreciate you
I love this video
I love this idea! My alter ego will definitely be more confident and extroverted
I used to that as a kid! Like I have different names and I use to assign all the names different works and different personalities lol. Like one for schoolwork, one for friends and one for home.
I think that this is gonna save me from many difficult situation. Amazing video
Intriguing! I have defs heard of people doing this in the past but haven't actually deep dived into it myself. You've got the ball rolling in my head now lol
Great content as always!!! ❤️❤️❤️
I actually was a touch thrown by this - I don't even know who I am before bad events and fear of failure. I'm not sure if I've already bypassed this but it's actually quite a powerful thing to think on
Hii girl! I just found your channel again after two years and idk what.. But something just drew me in🙈 can't believe I got lost! I'm here to stay and support you now! Thank you for this amazing content 🤍🤍🤍
Heyyy! I just had saved this video for too long & I guess for good reason- I watched it with kind of a prepared mind to really set my growing journey on.
I have been feeling down & anxious & like I'm not worth doing anything great or that I CANNOT do anything that I want for the longest time now. And tbh I'm so tired of this self of me.
I am so so glad I watched this video and I will create an alterego quality/characteristics that I wish to possess and have it imbibed in me forever. For real .
You make the best videos and I appreciate you for that🥰💕💕
Kinda what I do when I follow the "fake it till you make it" mindset^^ time to level that up a notch
Caroline… like from vampire dairies?!? I love it!! Very fitting!! ❤️
I have kinda done this for a while actually! I said last year that my alter ego was like Zendaya! I made my alter ego name zenny to be more zenful. I’m going to dive deeper into this and tap into my zenny energy!! 💕🪄
my alter-ego "Lilac" says thank you so much, I always knew there was this version of me that is separate from my anxieties and self-doubts, a force so powerful and confident that knows exactly what to do. cheers indeed!
👏 👏 this is exactly what I’ve been looking for
That is an absolute awesome idea 🥰 thank you so much 🙏💕
I’m gonna do this !!! Thank you 🙌🏻
Hey kalyn i fill the same way you do about alter ego.i think you explained it perfectly.good coffee talk.
Wow I didn’t know I had an alter ego until this chat, thank you for shedding the light . I have always been very confused about my nature, am I introverted or extroverted!? I now have realised my alter ego is this extrovert that I step into but I’m really more of an introvert ☀️🙏🏻
It’s so weird but my alter ego is also named Caroline (incidentally it’s also the name i ask my friends to call me and use on all social media...)! I still haven’t figured out exactly what she’s there for but i do step into her once in a while and it really helps in difficult or stressful situations! Thank you for the video, it was just the thing i’ve been searching for, i think. Gotta go and figure out what it is that motivates her, what are her values and, well, what can we achieve together! Love you, Kalyn, thank you for always coming to give me a push in the right direction ❤️
Well done talk! A few things come to mind.. the movie I feel pretty. And a gentle way to start this is create a journal and or Pinterest board filled with words and images that align with that version.
Beautiful vid! :) thanks for sharing, really helpful
I love the idea. Im definitely thinking about creating one now.
such an interesting topic, can't wait to learn more about it! :)
This is absolutely awesome☕. I've always imagined my alter ego as a Wizard from the Wizarding World✨!
Uh i like that idea!
I feel the person everyone knows as "me" is the alter ego and my real self is only out there when I'm alone or with nature
I always wanted to try this concept but never understood where to start. Now I can't wait to show up as her right from tomorrow
So much light bulbs 💡 !!! Something I’ve never been able to label!!! THANK YOU! And yes, I have alter egos…
Great stuff!
Such a great idea to have this alter ego to become more of who you are. I will try this
I used to work as an Executive Assistant. Sometimes, to get interested in my work, I had to pretend I was "playing Barbie," and "Barbie" was pretending to be an Executive Assistant today. LOL hard to explain but it made work more tolerable. Now, I should act as my own EA when I need to get things done. Might even call her Barbie. Thanks for the inspo!
The fact that you mentioned Brooke Davis! Who wouldn’t want her as their alter ego😍
Thats sounds so interesting. Sometimes its even a trauma response. People develop different personalities so they can cope with what happened.. because in their head it didnt happen to themselves but to their alter ego
This is great! Love this so much! One more tool in the toolkit to grow and become the person I want to be :)
I love that idea!
I don’t have a real alter ego yet, but I will definitely get one now. I already have a pseudonym under which I want to publish my writing, I think that will also be my alter ego going forward 😊
I love that curly hair you’re wearing but until now I never did something like that. I think I’ll use it now to step into my new persona
Definitely plan on making one now!
Okay, I so loved this, AND … you look STUN.NING. Summer vibesss! ☀️
I second this SO HARD! That coral shadow + lip color combo, right?!
thank youu! I actively chose something different and vibrant to fit the theme 🧡
@@marthawasser886 yaaaas 🙌
god I love your outlook on life
I was just thinking about doing this a few days ago 🤯 though i was afraid of ending up with a multi-personality disorder 😅
Liked the idea! :)