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Anna, watching this I would love some advice on how to use online dating as a tool. Due to where I live it’s very rural and actually even the county population is small for the UK, so would love some advice on best ways to use online dating as a starting point, this will help my cut out some of the time wasters you have highlighted I want someone who accepts me for who I am In all other aspects of my life I feel very lucky my career although not secure as it’s in politics I love I have great friends and know my deal breakers ect.
I was happy to realize 40 years ago that feminism had awakened society and that women would have the same financial opportunities as men. So, I started my adult working life as a middle class professional, thinking I'd meet my female counterpart and we'd live happily. Not so. Every woman I dated wanted more money and lots of other stuff from me, as if I were her daddy. So, what I anticipated was not true. Women wanted equality, but only when they benefitted. In personal relationships, they wanted to pretend it was still 1950. Their money was theirs. My money was theirs. I gave up dating 6 years ago because I realized it, and certainly marriage, was not fair to men. Feminism had nothing to do with equality. It was aimed only at giving benefits and advantages wherever possible to women. Screw men. No woman today is worth what they think they're worth. Even with no kids involved, they all essentially wanna retire after 30, and let a man drag the all the weight. That's what "equality" is, and we can thank feminism for creating it.
That's because the communists had crept in unaware since the 1920's and slowly planted their ideology into our culture so that we would be forced to accept the destruction of the family.
Nailed it!! My only "feminist" girlfriends (not even modern feminists, at that) definitely embodied that attitude of wanting to retire at 30ish and expect me to then INCREASE my income to now enable them to be stay at home mothers.
@@MrZdvy It always was a needle in a haystack. But society had shame to mostly enforce cultural norms. Today, the combination of no shame and women gone wild is the end. Men are done with it. I hear it from ALL dudes, which is great IMO. Consider it the age of Mens’ Lib.
As a self made multimillionaire with little formal education. It's to late for these woman. Now that I'm rich, these woman can't have me. That opportunity war when I was young & had nothing. Now I have to much to lose. I just play the field & never commit.
@@kinsmicket6262 I agree, the odds are increased. However times have changed. Here in Australia, they too are taking there husbands to the cleaners in divorce. While the government is sleeping in the matrimonial bed, it gives them an incredible incentive to leave.
The sad thing is women used to all want a guy with like $3 million in the bank. Nowadays they all want a guy with at least $30 million for the Beverly Hills pool party. Just being smart and frugal with your money is boring for women cuz no designer clothes shopping spree, endless vacay's, or new luxury cars there!
You may want to even consider dating outside your native country or culture, and definitely not make mentions of money. ymmv of what you want out of life though
I became a widower in my late 40's. In my early 50's I decided that I still wanted to be in a relationship so I tried dating again (20 years out of practice). As an older man I found that a form of 3rd wave feminism is alive and well among women my age also. It comes from a cynicism after getting divorced from poor marriages. Armed with a new attitude towards men and relationship women in my age group (mid 40's to mid 50's) want it all while proclaiming that they don't need a man and won't be my "cheer leader" . Okay then, so what's in it for me? I went MGTOW before I even heard the term. I watch my nephews these days, late 20's early 30's looking to settle down with the right woman. The women their age are racking up the body count in their 20's but want to marry and start families in their 30's but feel that they don't need to offer anything to the relationship because they're the prize itself. However, as my mother used to say, why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free. These young women don't seem to realize that if all they propose to bring to the equation is sex, there is a younger woman giving it away for free sitting at the bar.
OH MY DAM!!, That was sooooo cold but true when you said "These young women don't seem to realize that if all they propose to bring to the equation is sex, there is a younger woman giving it away for free sitting at the bar."........lmao.
Its amazing how many women feel incredibly entitled even in their 40s if they still have a modicum of physical beauty. It feels as if i am a young man chasing women in their mid 20s as they seem to have the same high opinion of themselves as a younger more attractive woman. You would think they have attained some humility with age, nope.
Dated a girl for about a month, was going great, got called insecure because of a subtle brag. But I realized how damaged she is and she's not over her former relationships so her mischaracterization of me is meaningless. It's just annoying, that was another waste of time.
could be a sh1t test. They are inevitable, and female dating coach here forgot them. Sh1t test: she will insult you, usually with what she thinks you might be the most sensitive about. Why are you fat? why are you old? why are you poor? are you g@y for drinking whiteclaws? the success of the inevitable sh1t test is not get upset and reactive and usually just agree with her insanity. "yeah im the oldest old person you'll ever meet" for example and dont get upset. Picture her becoming a bully, and testing you, if you fall apart over an insult, shes going to lose interest because of perceived weakness.
gave up dating 26 years ago, complete waste of my time. After the last break up I decided to spend some time focusing on myself and I learned rather quickly that I was a lot happier doing whatever I want whenever I want without having to answer to the judgements of another. No longer care at all about women and I am better off. I enjoy friends, hobbies and plenty of free time in a stress free life. I own my home, have retirement saved up. FYI not caring at all seems to be the perfect way to attract women which I still find baffling.
it is.......but it too results in the death of society from no one getting born because we all hate each other too much to stick around to build anything. We cant all just go fuck off to a mountaintop to read books and grow a garden and play xbox with the boys forever. In the end hobbies are just hobbies. Nice. But no replacement for a family. Im not happier surrounded by nothing but silent, depreciating toys. Like yea sure Ill still bave my friends but they will all move on and form families without you until one day in your 30s you realize theres almost no one left. Just you. Doing what? Working for another promotion to get the better version of a toy I probably already have. I dunno, its pretty empty either way. Eother I get to be a trapped work mule forever under appreciated. Or outright lonely and trying to ease the pain with material bullshit. Yay.
Thank you Anna. This needs to go viral. It took me years to figure out all these points. You have done a very good job putting all of this in a succinct way.
Men have no luck on dating sites because let's face it, most men are not attractive or have anything going for them and are extremely abusive. Best thing a man can do is stay celibate and single forever.
Nice to see a woman point out the problems created by feminism. You are right on target with these points in my opinion. Wish I knew all this when I was younger, would have saved me a lot of heartache and a whole lot of money as well. Thank you, keep up the good work you do.
She is just telling you pathetic men what you want to hear to get more money off you. The problem is not feminism the problem is men are not taught to be husband material. If you're father's didn't abandon you at birth and actually taught you to actually be husband material then feminism wouldn't be a thing. Since men play game's and have high body counts and are petty and childish and abusive women are forced to depend on feminism to get the things they are not getting from men. Ask yourself this question? Would you set up your female family members with any of the men in the comments? If the answer is no then it proves my point that feminism is not the problem and it's men being failures.
Thanks Anna, great information. I really like the then and now comparison. My wife Penny was 14 years older than me. We were Paramedic partners working on the ambulance together for many years. We were a great team on and off duty. We built a life successful together. I knew her for 43 wonderful years. We lived together for 30 years, married 15 of them. Unfortunately she passed away May of 2020 at the age of 73. I can tell you they don't make women like her anymore.
babe, trust me.. were it not for feminism, I'm 99% sure dating would be 99% easier.... the sexual energy reversal that the woke leaders of our societies and corporate world have forced on us has ruined relationships between men and women. The one woman I fell in love with ended our relationship because I was "too old fashioned and sexist" .. her words.
You are the only woman I have ever heard, on RUclips or elsewhere who has the slightest clue about men or genuine relationships. I’m always encouraged to hear your understanding and wisdom. I’m fortunate to not be in the market. I’ve been happily married 54 years next week, but if that changed, I would enlist in the Navy and spend the next one hundred years at sea on an aircraft carrier. After that maybe a date.
3:20 "the [gender differences] they can't [destroy] they call toxic." You are another Jordan Peterson, but far easier to look at and listen to. Thanks for the important service that you provide.
Beautiful message. The biggest strength a man has nowadays is to withdraw their attention and time. I blame the lack of boundaries in parenting skills in today's generations. At my age, I value sanity over sex and self-love over chasing love. This actually has helped make me more attractive and I'm grateful for the lessons each dating experience has taught me.
I started this with extreme skepticism, due to the fact that you were a woman trying to give guys advice. But I was wrong, this was a really well made and simplified advice video. I just became a fan! Cheers
Wingmam, you hit it on the head! The woman you described are "Kim Kardashian" types. Kim has already been married 3 times and she's only 41 years old. I know you're truly trying to help the single man, but at this point it may already be too late... Guys are feed up and that's a big reason why many are going overseas to find a good wife. While some have given up all together... 😞
It is dire out there but I do get success stories so I know it’s possible and even if you are going overseas you’re still going to need to know how to handle that relationship because even women from overseas will take advantage if you let them :)
Frankly if you want an easy answer of where women are going wrong look at Kim K she's not the sole reason but it's women like her that are being hyped up by the media the media are promoting her whorish Behvaiour and many like her no wonder more and more women are growing up like this
So on target tonight! When I was 18, the joke used to be many women went to college to get their "MRS" degree -- and it was largely true. So many marriages took place before Christmas of her college graduation year! Body count: some men had higher body counts than women, but for most men & woman, that number was only a single digit by graduation. I can't think of one friend (male or female) who claimed double digits. It was a different world to be sure. The dating pool was local and relatively small. People who thought too much of themselves ended up with no attention at all -- and that corrected some bad behavior. Divorce used to protect the unskilled woman; now it punishes the unexciting but serious man. Your skill of matching outfits to backdrops is becoming impressive. And your hair tonight is lovely! Praying that your pumped up schedule is reflecting an increase in energy! -- Russ P PS/"Life is hard. Change is HARD." Glad you didn't reach for a third one. ;) Mr. T sends loving snores.
Times certainly have changed and not all for the better. Background credit to my editor who matches backgrounds to my outfits! Yay for Alora! I've been saving up the extra videos for awhile but hopefully I'll be able to continue with them. Energy is a roller coaster. Third hard... ha!! Scratch for Tyson, sounds like he's doing alright! God bless you, Russ! :)
Yea marriage is a terrible deal for men look I can understand if a husband is being abusive or cheating on his wife or showing massive contempt for his wife but these days alot of divorce is good men who are loyal and faithful to their wife but are not exciting enough as dumb as that sounds
Excellent content! Only problem is that should the guy ultimately get the girl, he’s still likely to lose at least 50 percent of the marital estate and access to his children when the girl, now wife and mother of their children, files for divorce after a few years. This is a case where the guy wins the dating battle but loses the marital war. Don't want to sound cynical but the chances of being happy in an LTR are slim to none. Yes, guys, do all those good things for you as mentioned above in this awesome video, but then leave it at that. There are painfully few paths forward to happiness in a world where guys and girls just can't get along for any extended period of time.
I know the risk Jolly but damn it I need to fucking try yes I am playing Russian roulette but never ever forget you don't need a thousand women all you need is 1 woman just 1 who is not abusive and who is loving loyal friendly great to be around and that's it your life is complete Hit one Homer out of the park and you win it all Yes there are risks and ? Your never gonna get anywhere in life if you don't try and if your in a relationship paranoid over it ending it will end as far as why continue marriage? Because any woman worth it wants you to properly commit to her that's why last thing a good woman wants is to get into a relationship long term with a man who won't commit to her maybe I'm old fashioned but refusing to marry her means you are not fully commiting yourself to her and she's gonna notice that What if I fail and it goes wrong ? You get your ass up dust yourself off and try again
I like the analogy to Russian roulette. Sure. Go ahead and look for that special one. I do hope you find her and live happily ever after. I would prefer to find happiness in my career and staying spiritually grounded.
9 years of dating and I’ve met sooo many unhealed unhealthy woman who act entitled. I work on myself continuously to heal and become the best version of me. I weight train & have a successful band now after 31 years of UPS. I won’t give in nor give up. And I do not tolerate negativity or bitchy woman. I will find a woman who sees and appreciates the value in me. I just feel a lot of women lack integrity and character nowadays. I live my life this way and haven’t lost hope in attracting this to me. Thanks Anna for all your advice. Love watching your videos. I feel some women will eventually understand men will not tolerate their negative behavior. But unfortunately some of them will become old and it will be too late.
Great testimony. My story is similar but I have found a few great women. Problem is they are twice the weight they should be and have all the potential health issues obesity brings. I don't want to be 60 years old with a woman who can't do anything physical. Like you, I will never surrender..........
Agreed, similar experiences. So many unhealed women out there, nothing unusual about trauma and issues but they seem oblivious. I didn’t realise there were so many. I quickly walk away these days, as soon as I see the signs, I’m done.
You've hit the nail right on the head here, a perfect synopsis of the problem with modern feminism.Sadly, judging by the predominantly male comments below, very few woman have watched this video.
Oh, there are podcast for women. The content is essentally the same. They also tell the listerner what they want to hear; that it is someone else fault. There are though a few podcast, books, and counsellors who folcus of us taking reposnsibility for ourself, being the best we can be and caring for our children, lovers family and friends. No one owes you sex. Time to Man Up
See thats the real problem right now the problem is a huge chunk of men have figured this shit out understanding how rigged marriage is understanding the modern dating game and just do not want anything to do with it anymore but on the woman end far fewer of them have realised they are the ones in many cases that need to change not men they are still too used to treating men like filth and are not yet used to men actually understanding the game and doing his own thing its not that we can beat them at their own game it's that we realise they are not willing to play fair so men just said nah fuck this and set the controller down and walked away And the real issue is yes there's still alot of great women out there but you know what they are not doing? In general They are not calling out the bad women shaming them for what they are doing to people and promoting an actual healthy lifestyle and life the dating world will never recover unless the good women stand up and say NO this is wrong what you are doing to these men this needs to stop but their silence is allowing the problem to grow worse and every day its infecting more and more women I hope for the sake of our species people finally rise up before its too late
@@russellmiles7247 The problem is finding proper wives and mothers. Your comment makes no sense because getting sex these days is easy....easier than it has ever been. And that is a big part of the problem. Women think that providing some orifices is all that they have to do or offer a man. They are wrong.
Being single is really nice, fun and stress-free. Getting to do whatever you want, whenever you want, without having to ask permission to put yourself first, is really great. On the contrary, all my friends who are dating, engaged or married, constantly have to compromise, and put themselves last. Couples are always fighting, disagreeing, and generally just sucking the life and happiness out of the person they are with. It really makes me appreciate my life, and that I don't live a life sentence in their shoes.
I am very lucky to have a girlfriend with the same core values. Not so long ago a female friend of her told me "She did not understand, why we were a couple". "In her view, we were so different". She also started to text me. I told her that, this was none of her business and that she definitely crossed the line. I blocked her immidiately and told my girlfriend everything about her so called friend. (Showing her the texts) She confronted her friend and she kept denying everything until my girlfriend showed her the text messages. Oeps. No friend anymore. Mutual respect and values are key.
I agree with this entire video. Modern dating is so bad, that a majority of men actually do the five things you are talking about in your video, but they are taking them one step further: They are living their own lives and doing things for themselves and taking care of themselves and not even stepping into the dating game anymore. And most of those "independent" women who say that they don't need a man are now on social media (and in most cases, still are) complaining about men not dating them anymore. Unfortunately, they are upset because they have finally understood female nature and it is making them really upset. In my honest opinion, women like this should get into some serious therapy because in 2022, relationships are not going to solve their problems because, chances are, their issues will be brought into every relationship they get into.
Oh yea in general women have gone too far I know not all women are in this but I feel that with the good women they need to do far more shaming and calling out this behaviour but there's pretty much Radio silence on that end mainstream media have no interest in condemning Whorish behaviour and other fucked up abusive shit I'm in a situation where I don't want a fucking model I don't want someone who's rich I just want a down to earth woman with a good sense of humor is that really too much to fucking ask ? On my part someone who is down to earth good sense of humor very kind loyal loving I do feel that If I get a chance I'm gonna do great now my problem is finding a woman who feels the same What is my type ? Well honestly after down to earth and a good sense of humor I'm pretty open to dating after after because what is in here ❤ is far more important to me then what is here 👩
@@YourWingmam Not a problem. A lot of men have gone through this pre-internet, but now, we see the same thing going on now and we are just not going down that path again. It's sort of like a "been there done that" sort of scenario.
Maybe this is your best video yet. Such a concise summary of dating in 2022. It sounds like you found Coach Greg Adams or Better Bachelor. These are their main talking points and reasons for bowing out.
Thank you! I actually just sat down and wrote the accompanying blog in one fell swoop but appreciate the comparison.. I’ve only seen one of Better Bachelor’s videos.. (none of Adams’ yet)..I did a review on BB’s most popular video (you might not like my take but watch to the end): ruclips.net/video/MWzMqSTt70Q/видео.html
@Your Wingmam Thank you. I watched your video again and I found your points to be well reasoned. I believe Joker would agree. From what I have seen, he welcomes open discourse. Sadly this video (7 Reasons...) includes only the short list of why modern dating is terrible. Joker and others can easily add another thousand reasons. “Me Too” indoctrination would be high on my list, alongside women's toxicity in the workplace.
WOW! You hit the nail in the head, you literally enumerated EVERY single thing we do notice from modern women. They are so different from the Old days and they have created a very broken image of what being a Woman is. Men don’t care about their status or how much money they make….. but they are so hypocritical on that subject that NOW they want Men who earn MORE than they do no matter how successful they are. They care more about having some career and the PERFECT Man that they don’t care about having a Family until its too late for them. A lot of these workaholic Women forget that they work so much, they are not fun to be around anymore and Men like FUN Women way more than a Rich Women. FACTS!
Appreciate the calm and wise presentation. It is great to hear these notions of resilience and perseverance expressed and especially by a woman, who intelligently appreciates men. Thank you!
I got married in the mid 2000s, right before social media really hit hard. We got married in our early 20s, before I had any post hs education or any great financial success. I feel and see that she married me for love. I was interested in her and she was interested in me. She didn't see that I was interested and put me on hold to see who else was available. Now we are happy together with 4 children. We share our successes together as well as our failures and support each other. That's something I see a lot today... sorry more so with women than with men... is that a good man that wants to give his heart to a woman, and would work hard for their future is being set aside for something that is (in her eyes) better. Like you say in this video, women are putting themselves on a pedestal and taking the highest bidder... and the highest bidder ends up being the 6 ft handsome, and sometimes also a little wealthy, player that breaks her heart. She keeps doing this same mistake into her 30s, 40s, and eventually hates men and wonder where all the good men went... he was right there! He really wanted a future with you! But it was not good enough. This happened to me twice. I was very interested in a woman, but she was more interested in the taller bad boy, they divorced just one year later. I was interested in this other woman, and she was also interested in me, we very lightly dated (never got intimate) for a couple months. I wanted her to be my girlfriend, and she knew this, but I got a call saying that someone she really liked for a long time confessed his love to her. She then said it wouldn't be right for us to keep talking, especially because of the way I feel about her. We said our goodbyes and 2 months later she calls me back and gives me a sob story about how this guy just wanted one thing and broke up with her. Call it pride or self respect, but my response was basically, "we said goodbye 2 months ago. You really hurt me by pushing me aside for someone else. I moved on. I really wanted to be your #1. I wish you a good future." And we said goodbye again, for the last time. 1 year later, I met my wife. Good men who truly love a woman... are often invisible to them, even when they will do their damndest to give them the world. It's very sad to see. My wife and I have a lot of work to do in educating our children. I leave by saying, be good to one another and you can't have a happy and successful marriage if you don't 1)love one another 2)trust one another 3)respect one another
Feminism killed the dating scene and they need to be feminine. Women need to be women and men need to be men. On a bright note, have a wonderful Tuesday spicy señorita Anna 🌹
@@YourWingmam What else you missed is the subscribers who haven't found your channel 🤔😁 jajaja. Overall, I thought you did a great video and I feel that both men and women can just be honest with one another in what they want and avoid playing games if they do want to have someone as their partner. When games are played, the clock is ticking and we don't get that time back are almost certain that it won't go anywhere. There are good women out there but you have to find that fish that won't fight back
So much truth in this video. I'm not in the dating market as I've been married for 30 years, but I see all the simping and woman validation circles on social media. So many divorced 40 / 50 / 60 year old women posting those sad FB selfies. And then all the validation comments from their friends. A year later, another birthday FB selfie and another year alone.
Many great points. I’m worried the gulf between the sexes is diverging so drastically that there’s no way to “fix it.” Yes we should always strive to be our best selves for ourselves. We should be looking for “that” person who compliments who we already are. The idea is that birds of a feather flock together. Trying to change purely for another person is a lose/lose endeavor. If for example, many women today want high body counts while quality men are looking for women with low counts, then that’s an unreconcilable roadblock. My guess is that the daughters of these women will learn how their mothers screwed up and will revert to more traditional values. Likewise, I can imagine it won’t be long before tattoos lose their mojo and appeal to the young people with wallpapered great grandparents. The pendulum is always swinging. Cheers!
yea great. and I get to die a slow horrible spiritual death that i can see coming but cant prevent and my hope is supposed to be that tbe kids ill never have figure it out. viva la revolution indeed.
I’m in my mid 30s luckily I met my wife before dating apps. People are crazy now. I’m so blessed to have someone normal. Seeing these videos circulating makes me realize how lucky I really am.
Damn good video. Best I've seen on the subject. Concise and clear, with a perfectly accurate explanation for the causes, and with no-sugar coating on what men need to do to have a chance of overcoming it. You even recogize and acknowledge that doing all the recommendations is not a guarantee either. But it will make you a better man and improve your life. It's a sad situation, and it's understandable that for a lot of men they've decided "the juice just isn't worth the squeeze". Today's extreme and ever growing monopolization of the dating pool by Chads and Tyrones is no different than today's even greater acceleration of wealth transfer to the already rich. Both are symptoms of society's moral and ethical decay, magnifying humanity's darker sides. Or, perhaps, we are simply witnessing natural selection on steroids (i.e. social media). I tend think it's a bit of both, both mostly the latter.
Very, very good. This is the type of observations that, if I share with others, I am always told that I am "negative", "give out bad vibes" and "don't know how to approach women"
Everything you are talking about here is “spot on” I have been alone now for over 8 years since my 2nd wife had a very bad mental breakdown because of her MS. She was a keeper someone I thought would be with the rest of my life…? But now she has become a completely different person from her breakdown and left me to go live with her dad in Tennessee. I was 21 years older than her and I am disabled too for over 20 years. I stay on top of my health with an organic vegan diet acupuncture, yoga, and meditation. I am a Boomer but the girls my age are not even in the same book as me let alone the same page. Most of them look older than me because of alcohol drugs and smoking let alone same political views. I can’t even compare the younger girls anything like the girls my age. I feel I can barely fit in anywhere but I know I could have a better relationship with the much younger girls. My daughters friends some think I am their older brother and some of them have even hit on me too. I am 65 but everyone thinks I am in my 40’s… I can go on and on here with more. I just wanted to let you know you’re so right here on this video!!!
I actually paid attention to how you compared modern dating with how dating was in the past. The problem is...I'm not a traditional man, and I'm not exactly looking for a traditional, feminine lady. So what advice do you have for non-traditional or unmasculine/feminine guys? I'd love it if you could make a video on this. And also, I'm not feminine physically, but I do look really boyish.
@@deadhouse3889 I can 100% confirm this is true 👍. I’m androgynous (femme-leaning), and have been an artist for 15-20 years (on and off, traditional and digital), and can confidently say that QUANTITY of prospective women has never been a problem, though for the reasons detailed in this video, QUALITY has been the factor keeping me single for years. From my experience, women/femmes LOVE to be drawn (for figure studies or portraits), and they will willingly offer themselves to be drawn if they like you and know you have artistic talent.
Anna, you have some real balls. #4 pisses women off the most, and they're so quick to call a man "sexist", "misogynist", "toxic", "intimidated", "insecure" when he says he doesn't want to get with a woman who's had more partners than she can count on all her fingers and toes.
Hi Anna, You really made me realize where I am with tonites video. At 68 she is exactly as the lesson says. I have known her for a long time. To have lunch or diner or an over night stay. Forget it not getting close. She said she is happy and content with her solitary life. Yeah, right when I do something good for myself, I can feel the jealousy and angry she puts out of herself. I would never be close or a partnership now cause I know what to expect. I'll just be fair and good natured and help her. She is the one I always write about in your lessons. Her income is almost the same as mine and when she seen that I do my own income tax she went ape she could hardly speak. She is exactly like you mention in this video. Take Care and have a good week George.
I'm curious, how many cats does she have?? Also, to help you out (or any other reader), I have a suggestion, do a RUclips search on "narcissist" and thank me later. My theory is that by encroaching into a man's world they also manage to get the same bubblegum stuck on their shoes that a man would. Now, as wonderful Anna points out, men are uniquely qualified with skills (e.g. logic) that women do not have in order to overcome these negatives (from the jungle the world is) in order to provide a living for the family. Sure, women have their own set of skills, but they're centered around rearing and taking care of children. Which today's women really *are not using*.
Dating has been definitely harder since I started 30+ years ago. Many of the reasons you stated. It's true, but I've had to learn to weed them out. You just can't except less, settle or fix anyone. If so, then shame on us. lol. Simple. You either learn from experiences or don't. My parents were from WW2 generation and I feel they were a generation that valued people, relationships and things more so than people do today. I'm certainly not saying they were perfect but the bar was higher then. Glad I had the upbringing with the parents/grandparents I had and grew up in the 70's/80s. I feel like you're in my corner when I watch your videos but at the same time you're definitely fair in your assessment of women, too. Anna, I think it should be said you're a good high value woman for making these high quality videos.Thanks again! Looking forward to more videos!
if our parents generation was so ... why was homocide rates, family violence and alchole and other drug abuse so much worse. Why was you dad denied jobs because of his religion, race or that he was from Saskatchewan. Your mother unable to pursue education despite being smarter than the boys. Don't romatise the past. Perhaps ask your mother how great this time was. And dating for me was terrible when i was a adolescent ... dead easy now I'm in my 60s. Has been over my life. I have been in relationship longer than my sibligs combined. I just lack continuity. But keep an open mind and explore the wonderful world about us. Meeting gorgours women is just too easy. Choice is the problem.
@@russellmiles7247 My dad had plenty of work and my mom did pursue an education after we grew up. I can't answer why drug abuse and violence homocide rates where higher. You're right. Choice is the problem and there are too many choices. Getting dates is easier these days but with all the computer dating sites people just give up easier when they hit a bump in a relationship and can go right back on the dating sites. I just think people were more resilient and tougher when the going got tough. I'm not romanticizing the past. As I said that generation wasn't perfect they just had more value and the bar was higher.
Brilliant! Only thing I find is being emotional doesn't really mean being irrational, although common usage. Being emotional without being rational when needed is being "emotional"
While never going anywhere near the online dating game, I always find Anna Jorgensen's insight fascinating and interesting with her non-pretentious, empathetic demeanour. I enjoy listening to her from beyond the periphery of that turbulent (sometimes soul-destroying) superficial online world as an eternal social science and humanities student. She offers clear, concise nbs uncomfortable but necessary home truths with good introductions leading towards further study.
Two corrections: 1) This is Canada so "hitting the wall" does not exist. The endless crowds of young and old men desparate for love and intinacy will never stop pursuing you, no matter how haggard and used up you are; 2) The dream of an educated white woman from a good family is usually becoming the CEO of RBC or Deloitte, combined with smashing the Patriatchy and eliminating men from key positions in the company
Excellent point Anna, do not try to fix people...YOU CAN'T !! They have to fix themselves ! Be kind, compassionate, and helpful, but DO NOT be a rescuer !! Observe her relationship with her parents, as this was the first relationship she witnessed. If it was tumultuous, then her idea of love is the same. At some point have a disappointing evening with her and see how she handles it, if she takes no responsibility about helping to make it better, then you will be the one filling in the gaps all on your own !!
This is my first time visiting your channel, but so far I am in total agreement with you! Very well said and all valid points. I think you have earned a new subscriber!
Dated a Russian girl (not in Russia) for 6 months. She routinely mentioned how she was a business woman, earned her own money, could do everything herself, etc but expected the man to pay 100% of everything. Business class tickets, nice restaurants, multiple vacations, fancy perfumes, etc. She even expected me to pay for her to go on vacation with her friends ... Of course, I didn't comply and ended it. She had caviar taste on a tuna budget. She thought it was strange that I wouldn't pay for everything. Eastern block women have the most unrealistic expectations driven by social media and old traditional values taught by their mothers that their wallet is their private wallet and a man's wallet is the common wallet.
Great video "Your wingman"!!! I stumbled upon your video after watching the "hoeflation" video. I have always been a believer of dating within your "league" and I am astonished how some of these women can so easily reject men that clearly have so much more going for them when 10-20 years ago it would have been a non-issue. I have no problem getting the dates but it's incredible how even after a good date women can now just ghost you; it's a disease. Thank you for the valuable insight!
OMG you are a genius Ma’am!! Some of these reasons I’ve realized on my own but took me years to learn. You absolutely get it. Keep up the impeccable work!
Great video Anna, yes, I think dating is tough these days. I find it hard to hold down a full time job, do my house up, start a side hussle, keep up with friends, look after my health and keep fit, date, etc etc. As you say, things take time and effort. I will keep on with my grind as I’m slowly getting to the place where I want to be. One thing I would say is that the pickup skills aren’t just for pickup artists these days, they’re expected, and not just because of ho-ville, but also because most women want that, so that’s another thing to learn. If you don’t play the game, there seems to be little chance, if you do, you have to compete. I also focus a lot on working and n myself, but it can feel lonely at times. I really don’t know how other men do it.
Indeed. Be on your purpose and dont chase women. Ignore most of them unless they show real sings of interest or genuine qualities. I hate playing the game as well so i chose not to. I go for introverted women who have calm personalities, or geeky women who are not afriad to be themselves
I feel all this list of negatives are a good thing. It saves me the time of dealing with the bad ones. They just show it easier now. It's a big world. There are lots of good men and women still out there.
Anna, I couldn’t agree more with your observations. Woman today definitely have a very high opinion of themselves. I appreciate your efforts in helping men.
Hi Anna, I'd like to tell you about an experience of mine...some years ago. Along about February of 2004, I met a 42 year old woman on-line (I turned 29 in July of 04) while living in Ottawa Kansas (she lived in Dayton Ohio)...we talked on the site, then went to talking on the phone during that summer...and even tho I was never in-love with her, in September...I moved all the way from Ottawa Kansas to Columbus Ohio (actually Grove City which is a sub-city of Columbus)...well, sometime before I moved up there, her dad had being diagnosed with prostate cancer...and sometime after I moved up there, I helped her move in with her mom and dad (they lived in Huber Heights which is a sub-city of Dayton) so she could help her mom take care of her dad. That evening, she was working in a storage unit she had, trying to condense the unit she had and the one her parents had into one storage unit...and at one point, she was trying to build a wall of boxes in the new storage unit, and was having trouble getting this box ontop and I proceeded to ask her..."Would you like some help with that?, and she proceeds to yell my head off while saying..."I'VE NEVER NEEDED A MAN". I was not to happy and she knew it, but I didn't rip her a new *** out of respect for her mom who was standing there. Her mom looked at her and said.."Quit being so nasty to him". Visus to say, we did not work out.
@Bagpussisevil - Yeah, I quickly learned why her ex-husband cheated on her bc the thought crossed my mind, once or twice. Also, she got po'd when she found out she couldn't control me.
@@YourWingmam - your welcome! Anna, this may be hard to believe but I'm a man that doesn't believe in cheating bc it gets no one, anywhere but it definitely crossed my mind with her.
Absolutely priceless information. Very informative, especially when hearing it from a female perspective. Your videos are incredibly helpful and right on target
Great video Anna, I love your honesty and straight up content. Your delivery style is spot on and you are a pleasure to listen to. Thank you and keep up the great work!
Anna! An outstanding presentation. The negative influences you have described are what has infected women with a plague of toxic NARCISSISM. Women will NEVER be happy embracing this garbage. Thank you for shedding a very bright light in this darkness.
Excellent, straight to point video. I hope alot of youg fellas get access this information. Being in my forties I could see the mix of feminism (and now wokism, which is the worst in every single aspect) & social media destroy dating, so I could adapt along. But young people who discover the game wouldn't even know how wrong everything has gone. Anyway, subscribed and sharing. Thanks.
Wait until someone shows interest in you. Protect yourself from being taken advantage of. In the meantime, workout hard 4 days a week. Ebjoy your life. Go out and do what you'd enjoy. Go to concerts & events. Save your money. Earn more money. Be financially prepared for life with a wife and kids; but don't bother chasing it. Just earn more than you need to for you. Then keep it for yourself! Don't let any lady move in with you. Don't let her ever do your laundry. Learn cooking online. Don't worry about bothering with women. Let her chase you when she's older and you're high earning, fully physically fit & financially comfortable. Men don't need a woman.. What does she do in the home, to benefit a man? Make lists of chores he has to do? Nevermind them..
I lost my wife of 20 years to cancer 2 years ago. I just recently started looking for companionship....not necessarily a relationship. I'm 58 with a youthful flair and have had little trouble getting attention. I carry myself well. Dress well when I go out, even grocery shopping, and started exercising and stopped feeling sorry for myself. I'll never get over the loss of my beautiful wife, but I do realize I need to move on and live the remainder of my life and watch our kids grow. That said, there are plenty of substandard women in my area, as well as subpar men. That statement is not seated in arrogance but the fact that everyone is a smartphone zombie and cannot carry on the most minimal of conversation. This speaks volumes of why so many men carry on that they cannot find an eligible, dateable woman. Women also need to put the phone away. I recently had lunch with a woman who was a friend of a friend. As soon as we ordered drinks, out came the phone. After competing with 20 minutes of her madcap texting, I quietly went to the bar, paid the bill and walked out. She of course texted me and could not understand why I had done such a callous thing to her. I explained that I am a gentlemen and value my time. My time is something I do not not waste. I had left my phone in my car, as the focus of the afternoon was our lunch date. I further let her know that I did not wish to become a hindrance to her text-a-thons. After a few weeks she stopped texting me, as I had not replied. I owed no explanation. I did not feel bad and likely dodged a bullet. Men....stop whining, lose a few like I did, put the sneakers and sweats away and shave. Don't pander to every woman's whim, but be respectful, and ultimately have self respect. Relearn he art of conversation. There are high quality women out there, but you will not find them looking at dating apps while sitting in lifted F 150 projecting a false sense of masculinity.
I personally view trends like higher levels of female education and career ambitions as a net positive for society. I think it is a good thing that women can further unlock their talents and use their skills to create and add value. I do agree with the arguments against the narcissism and dellusions that social media creates. And thanks, learnt a new verb .. simping lol
Liked your video, you hit on a lot of key points. I am in my late 40s, and have thrown in the towel on the whole dating thing. The thing that did it for me were the last few women I dated. They were pretty, but narcistic, and just greedy. I got tired of being treated as an ATM, sorry but I think at this point, if it were a choice between giving a girl one dollar if she promised me eternal happiness and bliss and keeping it, I'd be happier with the dollar. My goal now is to retire a multi-millionaire with a house on a beach, play computer games, and take up fishing, and I am well on my way there.
Great video, Single dad with one daughter in colorguard team in high school. Very involved in my daughters life. Most woman I meet, and mothers are impressed by my actions.
Thank you, Anna! As always, you go straight to the point and I really appreciate that. Modern feminism is damaging relationships, and it forces men (like me) to hate themselves in order to make marital relationships work. I understand that many of your videos are for helping single men. Is it too much to ask if you could make a video, giving us tips on how to maintain a relationship with a feminist woman? You're the only relationship expert I trust on RUclips. The only one.. and for that reason, may God fill your life with everlasting happiness.. ⚘ One more thing, say hi to the cat! 😉
Thank you so much for a wonderful complement! And my heart goes out to you and all the other men in a situation that has caused you to load your masculinity. I did do a video on dating a masculine woman and on dating a feminist. But not specifically for men in relationships. I’ve also done a video on how to keep your woman happy… Surprise: it does not include cowering, pandering, or giving in. Let me see if I can find them for you… BRB
Dating a Feminist: ruclips.net/video/YI4yRhZlEy0/видео.html Keep her happy: ruclips.net/video/-RZK4ycesV0/видео.html Masculine/Dominant women: ruclips.net/video/_mmCtg1OjW0/видео.html You also have to ask yourself if your values actually match. I have to have some tough conversations about what’s not working for you. You got to stand up for yourself. If you want to know how to ask for something different used to love sammich approach described in this video: ruclips.net/video/bib2O2oC_TU/видео.html Hope these help!
@@YourWingmam oh wow! Ahh you're such a generous soul. I'll watch the videos in the links and definitely will study them! You're right, I need to stand up for myself ❤❤❤ salute
I think one thing more men need to understand is loving ourself and no I don't mean in a narcissistic way I mean having standards morals and not being afraid to walk if we are being badly treated I think too many men these days stay far longer in a toxic relationship then they should because of fear they won't find anyone else the sickening thing is some women actively prey on this fear to wield power
Honestly social media ruined dating for both men and women back then you needed to meet your lover in person but nowadays you can hookup with 10 people on tinder
At 62 yrs. age, every girl in and out of my life deserted me and mine for Mr. Good Bar. Yet I'm accused of being the druggy. How sick is that ! Hope the next generation has better encounters, good luck!
I used to be angry about female behavior in my 20s and 30s. Now I'm at peace with being single in 40s. Don't get me wrong its still nice know that well adjusted beautiful woman exist. But for the most part I'm not stressing about it
Another thing that I’ve been noticing. Okay for those that are Gay, Lesbians, etc. no direct offense to those reading this comment, but I actually need your opinions on this. Many people that say that their lesbian or gay are what they say they are, but one thing that I’ve been noticing, many tend to use the 🏳️🌈 as an excuse to get attention, for example I met this girl once who had a girlfriend, they recently broke up and now she’s looking for man to date, and she basically didnt like women to begin with. This tells me that many use the LGBT to get attention, which makes actual gay, lesbians, etc look bad. For those reading this comment please let me know what you think?
Im 26, and haven’t been on a date in over a decade. I’ve asked out girls in my personal life, not on the internet, dozens of times and I think I’ve been rejected by ever girl I’ve ever asked out. What’s the point? I’m not getting anything out of this except depression and rejection. No one’s willing to make a commitment. I’ve seen that. I’m about tired of pursuing relationships all together forever.
Gotta say, this is the BEST, most informative and validating video I have seen from you, and I watch you regularly. I learned new stuff, but mostly you validated what I intuitively concluded. ...and ya, once I'm smitten, I tend to 'think' down below, not with my brain. Love your delivery, pacing, filming and over all affect...this is a cut above your usual offerings, Bravo!
I'm dating ladies in late 40s to mid 50s. Seems like a very common story is: successful career/ business, beautiful house, traveled the world flashy luxury car... very independent.. lonely as hell! Human relationships are or can be a very healthy part of life. Loneliness the opposite. I think alot of 'modern' women find this out maybe too late in life. Just my 2 cents from experience.
I’d like to introduce my theory called the “cheesecake theory” on why dating is so hard for both men and women today. It’s ground roots are that we both have way too many options of people created by social media and dating sites. (like the Cheesecake Factory) there are dozens of flavors to choose from, but most people choose just one slice of the flavor they think they will like while also knowing they like many of the others, and after having one for anywhere between 6-9 dollars a slice we all tell ourselves next time I’m trying or having this other different one. While dating actual people requires more time and effort we’re often distracted wondering what the other one would “taste like” to fully commit to savoring the one we’re dating. While nearly everyone, guy and gal are being hit up on social media and dating sites the options keeps our serotonin flowing in our brains. That’s what we’re really addicted to and keeping us going in the dating pool to never permanently return with someone is the addiction of different people that we want to try because amongst them are the perfect one (has to be) and there is, and we know it. The problem is that as humans once we pick one, we shut the doors to our other options and doing that activates our insecurities. Our insecurities make us question if we choose the right one, and that dominos into In compulsive thoughts and false scenarios much like wishing you would have chose another type of cheesecake. What we don’t realize is that if there were only 2 or 3 types of cheesecake at the Cheesecake Factory we would be more satisfied with trying one of them and have much less regret on not choosing the other two because we didn’t loose out on much. To conclude my theory we would enjoy the same piece we chose just as equally as much as the other dozens of flavors we didn’t choose. We need to recognize that and loosen our addiction to excessive options by opting out of them because excessive options concerning people do a lot of harm to us by creating an unnecessary insecurity, an unnecessary addiction to options, that keep us indecisive and waste too much of our valuable time that inevitably results in never being happy. Take the plunge and choose one while ignoring the rest because it would likely be precisely the same with the other one you’re thinking of, and if it works, enjoy all the real cheesecake together. “The cheesecake theory” -A. Kiker-
Talk about positive advise! So I'm not the only one then who rolls his eyes or wants to wretch at all the - new word for me - Simping going on. Thank you for all that you cover here and for the wisdom and truth that you are sharing here. Blessings!
@@YourWingmam Great! A lot of girls today are just so selfish and put all the blame on what men do or don´t do, that is no strange why they end alone and bitter, don´t you think?
Love it !!! Couldn't agree more with every point you made and if you allow yourself to sour and become a woman hater, just throw the towel in. Wouldn't want a woman with a serious body count, even for a one night stand or friend with benefits.
@@YourWingmam You just see so much bitterness in the manosphere. Just walk away on to the next. I'm the rescuer type. Not that I'm trying to change anyone. They are typically in dire straights (trapped in an abusive home or relationship). You really have to be self sacrificial, and it's no picnic ... I wouldn't recommend it
This does however, have us dating guys being very cautious. Any red flags or excess baggage for me and I walk. I don’t need it. Not that I am not polite. Always polite. Always kind. But as we get older, we start to realize that we don’t need anyone. This is the other side of the coin in terms of the new modern man. We are now liking and really enjoying our freedom. But this probably is the best way to do it anyway. No expectations. Go in with an open mind, open heart, and not be critical….but then not be afraid to walk, and sometimes even run. 🤗 Thank you, Anna, and always happy to fly with you, and to always watch your six.
One thing I've noticed is that the Grade A wife material tends to get taken off the market pretty quickly. They'll be engaged (if not married) by the time they are 25-26.
I have enjoyed your insight for quite a while now. I think this is one of your best videos. You "named names" of societal obstacles that have made the building of m/f relationships so difficult. I appreciate that courage. While I am married and not looking, this advice is very timely for a couple other young adult guys I know. Thanks.
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So this video is useless until these videos are directed at women, call them out , shame them, tell them they need to change 🤬
Anna, watching this I would love some advice on how to use online dating as a tool. Due to where I live it’s very rural and actually even the county population is small for the UK, so would love some advice on best ways to use online dating as a starting point, this will help my cut out some of the time wasters you have highlighted I want someone who accepts me for who I am
In all other aspects of my life I feel very lucky my career although not secure as it’s in politics I love I have great friends and know my deal breakers ect.
@@britishpatriot9422 my advice, dont
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@@adammiller6606 what’s that supposed to mean?
I was happy to realize 40 years ago that feminism had awakened society and that women would have the same financial opportunities as men. So, I started my adult working life as a middle class professional, thinking I'd meet my female counterpart and we'd live happily.
Not so. Every woman I dated wanted more money and lots of other stuff from me, as if I were her daddy. So, what I anticipated was not true. Women wanted equality, but only when they benefitted. In personal relationships, they wanted to pretend it was still 1950. Their money was theirs. My money was theirs.
I gave up dating 6 years ago because I realized it, and certainly marriage, was not fair to men. Feminism had nothing to do with equality. It was aimed only at giving benefits and advantages wherever possible to women. Screw men.
No woman today is worth what they think they're worth. Even with no kids involved, they all essentially wanna retire after 30, and let a man drag the all the weight.
That's what "equality" is, and we can thank feminism for creating it.
Thank you for sharing, I appreciate that ❤️
That's because the communists had crept in unaware since the 1920's and slowly planted their ideology into our culture so that we would be forced to accept the destruction of the family.
Nailed it!! My only "feminist" girlfriends (not even modern feminists, at that) definitely embodied that attitude of wanting to retire at 30ish and expect me to then INCREASE my income to now enable them to be stay at home mothers.
Those are not feminists! Duh!
When a land whale thinks she's a '9', you know that feminism has done its job.
Sounds like a laundry list of reasons to avoid modern women altogether! 😂
Ain't gonna lie, it's a lot of work. So is staying fit. Decide where you want to put your effort and be ok with that. :)
Thats the point, dont waste your time..... you'll only get burned.
haha more like avoid the idiots. like the youtuber mentions, good women exist, and you have to filter the bad out and find the good ones.
@@luzhang2982 Seems like a needle in a haystack these days.
@@MrZdvy
It always was a needle in a haystack. But society had shame to mostly enforce cultural norms. Today, the combination of no shame and women gone wild is the end. Men are done with it. I hear it from ALL dudes, which is great IMO.
Consider it the age of Mens’ Lib.
As a self made multimillionaire with little formal education. It's to late for these woman. Now that I'm rich, these woman can't have me. That opportunity war when I was young & had nothing. Now I have to much to lose. I just play the field & never commit.
Thank you for your feedback, I appreciate hearing from you ❤️
merry a muslim and you gonna have the best relationship you could ever dream to have
@@kinsmicket6262 I agree, the odds are increased. However times have changed. Here in Australia, they too are taking there husbands to the cleaners in divorce. While the government is sleeping in the matrimonial bed, it gives them an incredible incentive to leave.
The sad thing is women used to all want a guy with like $3 million in the bank. Nowadays they all want a guy with at least $30 million for the Beverly Hills pool party. Just being smart and frugal with your money is boring for women cuz no designer clothes shopping spree, endless vacay's, or new luxury cars there!
You may want to even consider dating outside your native country or culture, and definitely not make mentions of money. ymmv of what you want out of life though
I became a widower in my late 40's. In my early 50's I decided that I still wanted to be in a relationship so I tried dating again (20 years out of practice). As an older man I found that a form of 3rd wave feminism is alive and well among women my age also. It comes from a cynicism after getting divorced from poor marriages. Armed with a new attitude towards men and relationship women in my age group (mid 40's to mid 50's) want it all while proclaiming that they don't need a man and won't be my "cheer leader" . Okay then, so what's in it for me? I went MGTOW before I even heard the term.
I watch my nephews these days, late 20's early 30's looking to settle down with the right woman. The women their age are racking up the body count in their 20's but want to marry and start families in their 30's but feel that they don't need to offer anything to the relationship because they're the prize itself. However, as my mother used to say, why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free. These young women don't seem to realize that if all they propose to bring to the equation is sex, there is a younger woman giving it away for free sitting at the bar.
Perfectly stated.
I feel you, it definitely isn't an easy situation, but the focus needs to be on doing what is truly best 🙏
OH MY DAM!!, That was sooooo cold but true when you said "These young women don't seem to realize that if all they propose to bring to the equation is sex, there is a younger woman giving it away for free sitting at the bar."........lmao.
Its amazing how many women feel incredibly entitled even in their 40s if they still have a modicum of physical beauty. It feels as if i am a young man chasing women in their mid 20s as they seem to have the same high opinion of themselves as a younger more attractive woman.
You would think they have attained some humility with age, nope.
I bought an escort about a month ago. Was much easier.
Dated a girl for about a month, was going great, got called insecure because of a subtle brag. But I realized how damaged she is and she's not over her former relationships so her mischaracterization of me is meaningless. It's just annoying, that was another waste of time.
I'm sorry to hear about that, I pray that you heal from all that you have been through, and be able to keep moving in faith 🙏 ❤️
could be a sh1t test. They are inevitable, and female dating coach here forgot them. Sh1t test: she will insult you, usually with what she thinks you might be the most sensitive about. Why are you fat? why are you old? why are you poor? are you g@y for drinking whiteclaws? the success of the inevitable sh1t test is not get upset and reactive and usually just agree with her insanity. "yeah im the oldest old person you'll ever meet" for example and dont get upset. Picture her becoming a bully, and testing you, if you fall apart over an insult, shes going to lose interest because of perceived weakness.
What was the brag
Sounds like she dodged a huge bullet
gave up dating 26 years ago, complete waste of my time. After the last break up I decided to spend some time focusing on myself and I learned rather quickly that I was a lot happier doing whatever I want whenever I want without having to answer to the judgements of another. No longer care at all about women and I am better off. I enjoy friends, hobbies and plenty of free time in a stress free life. I own my home, have retirement saved up. FYI not caring at all seems to be the perfect way to attract women which I still find baffling.
Thank you for sharing. I appreciate your feedback ❤️ 🙏
That's why Sigma males like me don't pay women no attention. Don't need the drama.
it is.......but it too results in the death of society from no one getting born because we all hate each other too much to stick around to build anything. We cant all just go fuck off to a mountaintop to read books and grow a garden and play xbox with the boys forever. In the end hobbies are just hobbies. Nice. But no replacement for a family. Im not happier surrounded by nothing but silent, depreciating toys. Like yea sure Ill still bave my friends but they will all move on and form families without you until one day in your 30s you realize theres almost no one left. Just you. Doing what? Working for another promotion to get the better version of a toy I probably already have. I dunno, its pretty empty either way. Eother I get to be a trapped work mule forever under appreciated. Or outright lonely and trying to ease the pain with material bullshit. Yay.
@@trashcan2088 ... I agree... my post above... some men head for Foreign Women.. that don't have all the baggage..
This is the best decision. Relationships are overrated.
Thank you Anna. This needs to go viral. It took me years to figure out all these points. You have done a very good job putting all of this in a succinct way.
I'm glad you appreciate it! Please share it far and wide!
She really did. She nailed it.
Men have no luck on dating sites because let's face it, most men are not attractive or have anything going for them and are extremely abusive.
Best thing a man can do is stay celibate and single forever.
Nice to see a woman point out the problems created by feminism. You are right on target with these points in my opinion. Wish I knew all this when I was younger, would have saved me a lot of heartache and a whole lot of money as well. Thank you, keep up the good work you do.
I will, thank you for watching 🙏
Damn I think a puked a little in my mouth.
@@Rig0r_M0rtis You must be a man hating feminist
Not harsh enough on feminism.
She is just telling you pathetic men what you want to hear to get more money off you.
The problem is not feminism the problem is men are not taught to be husband material.
If you're father's didn't abandon you at birth and actually taught you to actually be husband material then feminism wouldn't be a thing.
Since men play game's and have high body counts and are petty and childish and abusive women are forced to depend on feminism to get the things they are not getting from men.
Ask yourself this question? Would you set up your female family members with any of the men in the comments? If the answer is no then it proves my point that feminism is not the problem and it's men being failures.
“Don’t lose hope” requires hope. Sorry, we’ve written off dating as a total loss
Before you give up on dating, try changing your focus from dating to learning, and you will start to see positive results in your dating experiences!
Join the passport bros
Modern men are not husband material and I'm happy most are realizing this and are saving women from the headache
@@winning3329 with user name like this you are not a wife material , just a femnazi who hate men
@@winning3329 what makes you say that?
Thanks Anna, great information. I really like the then and now comparison.
My wife Penny was 14 years older than me. We were Paramedic partners working on the ambulance together for many years. We were a great team on and off duty. We built a life successful together.
I knew her for 43 wonderful years. We lived together for 30 years, married 15 of them. Unfortunately she passed away May of 2020 at the age of 73.
I can tell you they don't make women like her anymore.
Thank you for sharing I appreciate hearing from you 🙏
babe, trust me.. were it not for feminism, I'm 99% sure dating would be 99% easier.... the sexual energy reversal that the woke leaders of our societies and corporate world have forced on us has ruined relationships between men and women. The one woman I fell in love with ended our relationship because I was "too old fashioned and sexist" .. her words.
I completely agree! One day she will realize her folly.
but what would be the point ... a whole lot of women watching reality TV
@@russellmiles7247 You totally lost me.
You're better off without her.
Ya, feminism had a net negative impact on Ladies.
You are the only woman I have ever heard, on RUclips or elsewhere who has the slightest clue about men or genuine relationships. I’m always encouraged to hear your understanding and wisdom. I’m fortunate to not be in the market. I’ve been happily married 54 years next week, but if that changed, I would enlist in the Navy and spend the next one hundred years at sea on an aircraft carrier. After that maybe a date.
Thank you for sharing, I appreciate that ❤️
@@YourWingmam I’m sorry. 55 years this week. Not 54. Thanks for your response
They have women onboard aircraft carriers
@@plasmopix You’re right. Yes they do. I’m in trouble wherever I go. I’ll avoid them when I get aboard.
@@waltersistrunk4200 Check out the "Just Pearly Things" RUclips channel. She gets it, too...
3:20 "the [gender differences] they can't [destroy] they call toxic." You are another Jordan Peterson, but far easier to look at and listen to. Thanks for the important service that you provide.
Wow thank you for an amazing compliment!
Beautiful message. The biggest strength a man has nowadays is to withdraw their attention and time. I blame the lack of boundaries in parenting skills in today's generations. At my age, I value sanity over sex and self-love over chasing love. This actually has helped make me more attractive and I'm grateful for the lessons each dating experience has taught me.
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I started this with extreme skepticism, due to the fact that you were a woman trying to give guys advice. But I was wrong, this was a really well made and simplified advice video. I just became a fan! Cheers
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Wingmam, you hit it on the head! The woman you described are "Kim Kardashian" types. Kim has already been married 3 times and she's only 41 years old. I know you're truly trying to help the single man, but at this point it may already be too late... Guys are feed up and that's a big reason why many are going overseas to find a good wife. While some have given up all together... 😞
It is dire out there but I do get success stories so I know it’s possible and even if you are going overseas you’re still going to need to know how to handle that relationship because even women from overseas will take advantage if you let them :)
Frankly if you want an easy answer of where women are going wrong look at Kim K she's not the sole reason but it's women like her that are being hyped up by the media the media are promoting her whorish Behvaiour and many like her no wonder more and more women are growing up like this
So on target tonight! When I was 18, the joke used to be many women went to college to get their "MRS" degree -- and it was largely true. So many marriages took place before Christmas of her college graduation year! Body count: some men had higher body counts than women, but for most men & woman, that number was only a single digit by graduation. I can't think of one friend (male or female) who claimed double digits. It was a different world to be sure. The dating pool was local and relatively small. People who thought too much of themselves ended up with no attention at all -- and that corrected some bad behavior. Divorce used to protect the unskilled woman; now it punishes the unexciting but serious man. Your skill of matching outfits to backdrops is becoming impressive. And your hair tonight is lovely! Praying that your pumped up schedule is reflecting an increase in energy! -- Russ P PS/"Life is hard. Change is HARD." Glad you didn't reach for a third one. ;) Mr. T sends loving snores.
Times certainly have changed and not all for the better. Background credit to my editor who matches backgrounds to my outfits! Yay for Alora! I've been saving up the extra videos for awhile but hopefully I'll be able to continue with them. Energy is a roller coaster. Third hard... ha!! Scratch for Tyson, sounds like he's doing alright! God bless you, Russ! :)
such on saying what you want to hear ... so typical of folk not to except repossibility for their own life ... no one owes us! Man Up!
Yea marriage is a terrible deal for men look I can understand if a husband is being abusive or cheating on his wife or showing massive contempt for his wife but these days alot of divorce is good men who are loyal and faithful to their wife but are not exciting enough as dumb as that sounds
@@russellmiles7247 I think that you are woman with a male username.
Excellent content! Only problem is that should the guy ultimately get the girl, he’s still likely to lose at least 50 percent of the marital estate and access to his children when the girl, now wife and mother of their children, files for divorce after a few years. This is a case where the guy wins the dating battle but loses the marital war. Don't want to sound cynical but the chances of being happy in an LTR are slim to none. Yes, guys, do all those good things for you as mentioned above in this awesome video, but then leave it at that. There are painfully few paths forward to happiness in a world where guys and girls just can't get along for any extended period of time.
I know the risk Jolly but damn it I need to fucking try yes I am playing Russian roulette but never ever forget you don't need a thousand women all you need is 1 woman just 1 who is not abusive and who is loving loyal friendly great to be around and that's it your life is complete
Hit one Homer out of the park and you win it all
Yes there are risks and ? Your never gonna get anywhere in life if you don't try and if your in a relationship paranoid over it ending it will end as far as why continue marriage?
Because any woman worth it wants you to properly commit to her that's why last thing a good woman wants is to get into a relationship long term with a man who won't commit to her maybe I'm old fashioned but refusing to marry her means you are not fully commiting yourself to her and she's gonna notice that
What if I fail and it goes wrong ?
You get your ass up dust yourself off and try again
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I like the analogy to Russian roulette. Sure. Go ahead and look for that special one. I do hope you find her and live happily ever after. I would prefer to find happiness in my career and staying spiritually grounded.
Sad but true
Correct. Your concerns are valid
9 years of dating and I’ve met sooo many unhealed unhealthy woman who act entitled.
I work on myself continuously to heal and become the best version of me.
I weight train & have a successful band now after 31 years of UPS.
I won’t give in nor give up. And I do not tolerate negativity or bitchy woman.
I will find a woman who sees and appreciates the value in me.
I just feel a lot of women lack integrity and character nowadays. I live my life this way and haven’t lost hope in attracting this to me. Thanks Anna for all your advice. Love watching your videos.
I feel some women will eventually understand men will not tolerate their negative behavior. But unfortunately some of them will become old and it will be too late.
Great testimony. My story is similar but I have found a few great women. Problem is they are twice the weight they should be and have all the potential health issues obesity brings. I don't want to be 60 years old with a woman who can't do anything physical. Like you, I will never surrender..........
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Agreed, similar experiences. So many unhealed women out there, nothing unusual about trauma and issues but they seem oblivious. I didn’t realise there were so many. I quickly walk away these days, as soon as I see the signs, I’m done.
*_"When you go looking for a damsel in distress, all you end up with is a distressed damsel."_*
*-- Dr. Laura Schlesinger*
You've hit the nail right on the head here, a perfect synopsis of the problem with modern feminism.Sadly, judging by the predominantly male comments below, very few woman have watched this video.
Oh, there are podcast for women. The content is essentally the same. They also tell the listerner what they want to hear; that it is someone else fault. There are though a few podcast, books, and counsellors who folcus of us taking reposnsibility for ourself, being the best we can be and caring for our children, lovers family and friends.
No one owes you sex.
Time to Man Up
See thats the real problem right now the problem is a huge chunk of men have figured this shit out understanding how rigged marriage is understanding the modern dating game and just do not want anything to do with it anymore but on the woman end far fewer of them have realised they are the ones in many cases that need to change not men they are still too used to treating men like filth and are not yet used to men actually understanding the game and doing his own thing its not that we can beat them at their own game it's that we realise they are not willing to play fair so men just said nah fuck this and set the controller down and walked away
And the real issue is yes there's still alot of great women out there but you know what they are not doing? In general They are not calling out the bad women shaming them for what they are doing to people and promoting an actual healthy lifestyle and life the dating world will never recover unless the good women stand up and say NO this is wrong what you are doing to these men this needs to stop but their silence is allowing the problem to grow worse and every day its infecting more and more women I hope for the sake of our species people finally rise up before its too late
@@russellmiles7247 The problem is finding proper wives and mothers.
Your comment makes no sense because getting sex these days is easy....easier than it has ever been.
And that is a big part of the problem.
Women think that providing some orifices is all that they have to do or offer a man.
They are wrong.
Being single is really nice, fun and stress-free. Getting to do whatever you want, whenever you want, without having to ask permission to put yourself first, is really great.
On the contrary, all my friends who are dating, engaged or married, constantly have to compromise, and put themselves last. Couples are always fighting, disagreeing, and generally just sucking the life and happiness out of the person they are with.
It really makes me appreciate my life, and that I don't live a life sentence in their shoes.
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I am very lucky to have a girlfriend with the same core values. Not so long ago a female friend of her told me "She did not understand, why we were a couple". "In her view, we were so different". She also started to text me. I told her that, this was none of her business and that she definitely crossed the line. I blocked her immidiately and told my girlfriend everything about her so called friend. (Showing her the texts) She confronted her friend and she kept denying everything until my girlfriend showed her the text messages. Oeps. No friend anymore. Mutual respect and values are key.
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I agree with this entire video. Modern dating is so bad, that a majority of men actually do the five things you are talking about in your video, but they are taking them one step further: They are living their own lives and doing things for themselves and taking care of themselves and not even stepping into the dating game anymore. And most of those "independent" women who say that they don't need a man are now on social media (and in most cases, still are) complaining about men not dating them anymore. Unfortunately, they are upset because they have finally understood female nature and it is making them really upset. In my honest opinion, women like this should get into some serious therapy because in 2022, relationships are not going to solve their problems because, chances are, their issues will be brought into every relationship they get into.
Oh yea in general women have gone too far I know not all women are in this but I feel that with the good women they need to do far more shaming and calling out this behaviour but there's pretty much Radio silence on that end mainstream media have no interest in condemning Whorish behaviour and other fucked up abusive shit
I'm in a situation where I don't want a fucking model I don't want someone who's rich I just want a down to earth woman with a good sense of humor is that really too much to fucking ask ?
On my part someone who is down to earth good sense of humor very kind loyal loving I do feel that If I get a chance I'm gonna do great now my problem is finding a woman who feels the same
What is my type ? Well honestly after down to earth and a good sense of humor I'm pretty open to dating after after because what is in here ❤ is far more important to me then what is here 👩
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@@YourWingmam Not a problem. A lot of men have gone through this pre-internet, but now, we see the same thing going on now and we are just not going down that path again. It's sort of like a "been there done that" sort of scenario.
Agreed.
Maybe this is your best video yet. Such a concise summary of dating in 2022. It sounds like you found Coach Greg Adams or Better Bachelor. These are their main talking points and reasons for bowing out.
Thank you! I actually just sat down and wrote the accompanying blog in one fell swoop but appreciate the comparison.. I’ve only seen one of Better Bachelor’s videos.. (none of Adams’ yet)..I did a review on BB’s most popular video (you might not like my take but watch to the end): ruclips.net/video/MWzMqSTt70Q/видео.html
@Your Wingmam Thank you. I watched your video again and I found your points to be well reasoned. I believe Joker would agree. From what I have seen, he welcomes open discourse.
Sadly this video (7 Reasons...) includes only the short list of why modern dating is terrible. Joker and others can easily add another thousand reasons. “Me Too” indoctrination would be high on my list, alongside women's toxicity in the workplace.
For 11 minutes straight I listened to someone speaking 100% facts
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WOW! You hit the nail in the head, you literally enumerated EVERY single thing we do notice from modern women.
They are so different from the Old days and they have created a very broken image of what being a Woman is. Men don’t care about their status or how much money they make….. but they are so hypocritical on that subject that NOW they want Men who earn MORE than they do no matter how successful they are.
They care more about having some career and the PERFECT Man that they don’t care about having a Family until its too late for them.
A lot of these workaholic Women forget that they work so much, they are not fun to be around anymore and Men like FUN Women way more than a Rich Women. FACTS!
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Appreciate the calm and wise presentation. It is great to hear these notions of resilience and perseverance expressed and especially by a woman, who intelligently appreciates men. Thank you!
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I got married in the mid 2000s, right before social media really hit hard. We got married in our early 20s, before I had any post hs education or any great financial success. I feel and see that she married me for love. I was interested in her and she was interested in me. She didn't see that I was interested and put me on hold to see who else was available. Now we are happy together with 4 children. We share our successes together as well as our failures and support each other.
That's something I see a lot today... sorry more so with women than with men... is that a good man that wants to give his heart to a woman, and would work hard for their future is being set aside for something that is (in her eyes) better. Like you say in this video, women are putting themselves on a pedestal and taking the highest bidder... and the highest bidder ends up being the 6 ft handsome, and sometimes also a little wealthy, player that breaks her heart. She keeps doing this same mistake into her 30s, 40s, and eventually hates men and wonder where all the good men went... he was right there! He really wanted a future with you! But it was not good enough. This happened to me twice. I was very interested in a woman, but she was more interested in the taller bad boy, they divorced just one year later. I was interested in this other woman, and she was also interested in me, we very lightly dated (never got intimate) for a couple months. I wanted her to be my girlfriend, and she knew this, but I got a call saying that someone she really liked for a long time confessed his love to her. She then said it wouldn't be right for us to keep talking, especially because of the way I feel about her. We said our goodbyes and 2 months later she calls me back and gives me a sob story about how this guy just wanted one thing and broke up with her. Call it pride or self respect, but my response was basically, "we said goodbye 2 months ago. You really hurt me by pushing me aside for someone else. I moved on. I really wanted to be your #1. I wish you a good future." And we said goodbye again, for the last time. 1 year later, I met my wife.
Good men who truly love a woman... are often invisible to them, even when they will do their damndest to give them the world. It's very sad to see. My wife and I have a lot of work to do in educating our children.
I leave by saying, be good to one another and you can't have a happy and successful marriage if you don't
1)love one another
2)trust one another
3)respect one another
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Feminism killed the dating scene and they need to be feminine. Women need to be women and men need to be men. On a bright note, have a wonderful Tuesday spicy señorita Anna 🌹
100%... I missed post ed indoctrination... what else did I miss? Happy Tuesday!
@@YourWingmam What else you missed is the subscribers who haven't found your channel 🤔😁 jajaja. Overall, I thought you did a great video and I feel that both men and women can just be honest with one another in what they want and avoid playing games if they do want to have someone as their partner. When games are played, the clock is ticking and we don't get that time back are almost certain that it won't go anywhere. There are good women out there but you have to find that fish that won't fight back
Really? It is so much more fun.
So much truth in this video. I'm not in the dating market as I've been married for 30 years, but I see all the simping and woman validation circles on social media. So many divorced 40 / 50 / 60 year old women posting those sad FB selfies. And then all the validation comments from their friends. A year later, another birthday FB selfie and another year alone.
It definitely isn't an easy situation, but the focus needs to be on doing what is truly best 🙏
Many great points. I’m worried the gulf between the sexes is diverging so drastically that there’s no way to “fix it.” Yes we should always strive to be our best selves for ourselves. We should be looking for “that” person who compliments who we already are. The idea is that birds of a feather flock together. Trying to change purely for another person is a lose/lose endeavor. If for example, many women today want high body counts while quality men are looking for women with low counts, then that’s an unreconcilable roadblock. My guess is that the daughters of these women will learn how their mothers screwed up and will revert to more traditional values. Likewise, I can imagine it won’t be long before tattoos lose their mojo and appeal to the young people with wallpapered great grandparents. The pendulum is always swinging. Cheers!
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Neither one of 2 are bright because this is a westetn cultural phenomenon Its hard to be polite listening to this lack of global perspective....!
Every action has an equal and opposite reaction.
yea great. and I get to die a slow horrible spiritual death that i can see coming but cant prevent and my hope is supposed to be that tbe kids ill never have figure it out. viva la revolution indeed.
I’m in my mid 30s luckily I met my wife before dating apps. People are crazy now. I’m so blessed to have someone normal. Seeing these videos circulating makes me realize how lucky I really am.
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Damn good video. Best I've seen on the subject. Concise and clear, with a perfectly accurate explanation for the causes, and with no-sugar coating on what men need to do to have a chance of overcoming it. You even recogize and acknowledge that doing all the recommendations is not a guarantee either. But it will make you a better man and improve your life. It's a sad situation, and it's understandable that for a lot of men they've decided "the juice just isn't worth the squeeze". Today's extreme and ever growing monopolization of the dating pool by Chads and Tyrones is no different than today's even greater acceleration of wealth transfer to the already rich. Both are symptoms of society's moral and ethical decay, magnifying humanity's darker sides. Or, perhaps, we are simply witnessing natural selection on steroids (i.e. social media). I tend think it's a bit of both, both mostly the latter.
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Very, very good. This is the type of observations that, if I share with others, I am always told that I am "negative", "give out bad vibes" and "don't know how to approach women"
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I knew I was in trouble from the time I first saw "A woman needs a man like a fish needs a bicycle" written on a wall somewhere in the 1970s.
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Everything you are talking about here is “spot on” I have been alone now for over 8 years since my 2nd wife had a very bad mental breakdown because of her MS. She was a keeper someone I thought would be with the rest of my life…? But now she has become a completely different person from her breakdown and left me to go live with her dad in Tennessee. I was 21 years older than her and I am disabled too for over 20 years. I stay on top of my health with an organic vegan diet acupuncture, yoga, and meditation. I am a Boomer but the girls my age are not even in the same book as me let alone the same page. Most of them look older than me because of alcohol drugs and smoking let alone same political views. I can’t even compare the younger girls anything like the girls my age. I feel I can barely fit in anywhere but I know I could have a better relationship with the much younger girls. My daughters friends some think I am their older brother and some of them have even hit on me too. I am 65 but everyone thinks I am in my 40’s… I can go on and on here with more. I just wanted to let you know you’re so right here on this video!!!
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I actually paid attention to how you compared modern dating with how dating was in the past. The problem is...I'm not a traditional man, and I'm not exactly looking for a traditional, feminine lady. So what advice do you have for non-traditional or unmasculine/feminine guys? I'd love it if you could make a video on this.
And also, I'm not feminine physically, but I do look really boyish.
Learn to paint. Women love the thoughtful artist. Might work well for your m-o.
@@deadhouse3889 I can 100% confirm this is true 👍. I’m androgynous (femme-leaning), and have been an artist for 15-20 years (on and off, traditional and digital), and can confidently say that QUANTITY of prospective women has never been a problem, though for the reasons detailed in this video, QUALITY has been the factor keeping me single for years. From my experience, women/femmes LOVE to be drawn (for figure studies or portraits), and they will willingly offer themselves to be drawn if they like you and know you have artistic talent.
Anna, you have some real balls. #4 pisses women off the most, and they're so quick to call a man "sexist", "misogynist", "toxic", "intimidated", "insecure" when he says he doesn't want to get with a woman who's had more partners than she can count on all her fingers and toes.
Hi Anna, You really made me realize where I am with tonites video. At 68 she is exactly as the lesson says. I have known her for a long time. To have lunch or diner or an over night stay. Forget it not getting close. She said she is happy and content with her solitary life. Yeah, right when I do something good for myself, I can feel the jealousy and angry she puts out of herself. I would never be close or a partnership now cause I know what to expect. I'll just be fair and good natured and help her. She is the one I always write about in your lessons. Her income is almost the same as mine and when she seen that I do my own income tax she went ape she could hardly speak. She is exactly like you mention in this video. Take Care and have a good week George.
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I'm curious, how many cats does she have?? Also, to help you out (or any other reader), I have a suggestion, do a RUclips search on "narcissist" and thank me later. My theory is that by encroaching into a man's world they also manage to get the same bubblegum stuck on their shoes that a man would. Now, as wonderful Anna points out, men are uniquely qualified with skills (e.g. logic) that women do not have in order to overcome these negatives (from the jungle the world is) in order to provide a living for the family. Sure, women have their own set of skills, but they're centered around rearing and taking care of children. Which today's women really *are not using*.
Dating has been definitely harder since I started 30+ years ago. Many of the reasons you stated. It's true, but I've had to learn to weed them out. You just can't except less, settle or fix anyone. If so, then shame on us. lol. Simple. You either learn from experiences or don't. My parents were from WW2 generation and I feel they were a generation that valued people, relationships and things more so than people do today. I'm certainly not saying they were perfect but the bar was higher then. Glad I had the upbringing with the parents/grandparents I had and grew up in the 70's/80s. I feel like you're in my corner when I watch your videos but at the same time you're definitely fair in your assessment of women, too. Anna, I think it should be said you're a good high value woman for making these high quality videos.Thanks again! Looking forward to more videos!
Excellent points and thank you for a wonderful compliment, glad you appreciate my videos!
if our parents generation was so ... why was homocide rates, family violence and alchole and other drug abuse so much worse. Why was you dad denied jobs because of his religion, race or that he was from Saskatchewan. Your mother unable to pursue education despite being smarter than the boys.
Don't romatise the past. Perhaps ask your mother how great this time was.
And dating for me was terrible when i was a adolescent ... dead easy now I'm in my 60s. Has been over my life. I have been in relationship longer than my sibligs combined. I just lack continuity. But keep an open mind and explore the wonderful world about us. Meeting gorgours women is just too easy. Choice is the problem.
@@russellmiles7247 My dad had plenty of work and my mom did pursue an education after we grew up. I can't answer why drug abuse and violence homocide rates where higher. You're right. Choice is the problem and there are too many choices. Getting dates is easier these days but with all the computer dating sites people just give up easier when they hit a bump in a relationship and can go right back on the dating sites. I just think people were more resilient and tougher when the going got tough. I'm not romanticizing the past. As I said that generation wasn't perfect they just had more value and the bar was higher.
Brilliant! Only thing I find is being emotional doesn't really mean being irrational, although common usage. Being emotional without being rational when needed is being "emotional"
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While never going anywhere near the online dating game, I always find Anna Jorgensen's insight fascinating and interesting with her non-pretentious, empathetic demeanour. I enjoy listening to her from beyond the periphery of that turbulent (sometimes soul-destroying) superficial online world as an eternal social science and humanities student. She offers clear, concise nbs uncomfortable but necessary home truths with good introductions leading towards further study.
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been celibate for 18 years now. i come back to channels like this to remind me why it's not worth it. building something is way more rewarding
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That does not sound fun. Do you at least masturbate to internet porn?
Two corrections: 1) This is Canada so "hitting the wall" does not exist. The endless crowds of young and old men desparate for love and intinacy will never stop pursuing you, no matter how haggard and used up you are; 2) The dream of an educated white woman from a good family is usually becoming the CEO of RBC or Deloitte, combined with smashing the Patriatchy and eliminating men from key positions in the company
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Excellent point Anna, do not try to fix people...YOU CAN'T !! They have to fix themselves ! Be kind, compassionate, and helpful, but DO NOT be a rescuer !! Observe her relationship with her parents, as this was the first relationship she witnessed. If it was tumultuous, then her idea of love is the same. At some point have a disappointing evening with her and see how she handles it, if she takes no responsibility about helping to make it better, then you will be the one filling in the gaps all on your own !!
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Great video. You've earned a new subscriber. Keep up the good work.
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Really great talk in so many ways. The whole presentation was perfect. Very impressed and I feel great after watching and listening to that😁
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My goodness Anna. You have so much good information in this short video that it’s mind blowing. Thank you
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Unrequited Love and Mixed Signals are dealbreakers for me Anna.
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This is my first time visiting your channel, but so far I am in total agreement with you! Very well said and all valid points. I think you have earned a new subscriber!
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Dated a Russian girl (not in Russia) for 6 months. She routinely mentioned how she was a business woman, earned her own money, could do everything herself, etc but expected the man to pay 100% of everything. Business class tickets, nice restaurants, multiple vacations, fancy perfumes, etc. She even expected me to pay for her to go on vacation with her friends ... Of course, I didn't comply and ended it. She had caviar taste on a tuna budget. She thought it was strange that I wouldn't pay for everything. Eastern block women have the most unrealistic expectations driven by social media and old traditional values taught by their mothers that their wallet is their private wallet and a man's wallet is the common wallet.
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Great video "Your wingman"!!! I stumbled upon your video after watching the "hoeflation" video. I have always been a believer of dating within your "league" and I am astonished how some of these women can so easily reject men that clearly have so much more going for them when 10-20 years ago it would have been a non-issue. I have no problem getting the dates but it's incredible how even after a good date women can now just ghost you; it's a disease. Thank you for the valuable insight!
It definitely isn't an easy situation, but the focus needs to be on doing what is truly best 🙏
OMG you are a genius Ma’am!!
Some of these reasons I’ve realized on my own but took me years to learn. You absolutely get it. Keep up the impeccable work!
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Great video Anna, yes, I think dating is tough these days. I find it hard to hold down a full time job, do my house up, start a side hussle, keep up with friends, look after my health and keep fit, date, etc etc. As you say, things take time and effort. I will keep on with my grind as I’m slowly getting to the place where I want to be. One thing I would say is that the pickup skills aren’t just for pickup artists these days, they’re expected, and not just because of ho-ville, but also because most women want that, so that’s another thing to learn. If you don’t play the game, there seems to be little chance, if you do, you have to compete. I also focus a lot on working and n myself, but it can feel lonely at times. I really don’t know how other men do it.
It definitely isn't an easy situation, but the focus needs to be on doing what is truly best 🙏
Indeed. Be on your purpose and dont chase women. Ignore most of them unless they show real sings of interest or genuine qualities. I hate playing the game as well so i chose not to. I go for introverted women who have calm personalities, or geeky women who are not afriad to be themselves
I knew it was hard....but this is insane. We need to go back to the simple life. Always with the awesome advice Anna, thank you 🌹🌹❤❤
Focus on what you *can* do and let the cards fall where they will! :)
I feel all this list of negatives are a good thing. It saves me the time of dealing with the bad ones. They just show it easier now. It's a big world. There are lots of good men and women still out there.
You're absolutely right, there are still a lot of good men and women out there ❤
Thanks a lot for your videos they have been objectively eye opening.
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Hearing you speak these wise words yet staying so humble, I'm actually impressed. I think I'd like to date you, we would make a great team!
I'm off the market 🙂
Anna, I couldn’t agree more with your observations. Woman today definitely have a very high opinion of themselves. I appreciate your efforts in helping men.
Thank you so much! Please share if you think it might reach more men (or the women who also need to see this)!
Hi Anna, I'd like to tell you about an experience of mine...some years ago. Along about February of 2004, I met a 42 year old woman on-line (I turned 29 in July of 04) while living in Ottawa Kansas (she lived in Dayton Ohio)...we talked on the site, then went to talking on the phone during that summer...and even tho I was never in-love with her, in September...I moved all the way from Ottawa Kansas to Columbus Ohio (actually Grove City which is a sub-city of Columbus)...well, sometime before I moved up there, her dad had being diagnosed with prostate cancer...and sometime after I moved up there, I helped her move in with her mom and dad (they lived in Huber Heights which is a sub-city of Dayton) so she could help her mom take care of her dad. That evening, she was working in a storage unit she had, trying to condense the unit she had and the one her parents had into one storage unit...and at one point, she was trying to build a wall of boxes in the new storage unit, and was having trouble getting this box ontop and I proceeded to ask her..."Would you like some help with that?, and she proceeds to yell my head off while saying..."I'VE NEVER NEEDED A MAN". I was not to happy and she knew it, but I didn't rip her a new *** out of respect for her mom who was standing there. Her mom looked at her and said.."Quit being so nasty to him".
Visus to say, we did not work out.
@Bagpussisevil - Yeah, I quickly learned why her ex-husband cheated on her bc the thought crossed my mind, once or twice. Also, she got po'd when she found out she couldn't control me.
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@@YourWingmam - your welcome! Anna, this may be hard to believe but I'm a man that doesn't believe in cheating bc it gets no one, anywhere but it definitely crossed my mind with her.
@Bagpussisevil unless she's a widow then yea Sus af
Absolutely priceless information. Very informative, especially when hearing it from a female perspective. Your videos are incredibly helpful and right on target
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Great video Anna, I love your honesty and straight up content. Your delivery style is spot on and you are a pleasure to listen to. Thank you and keep up the great work!
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Anna! An outstanding presentation. The negative influences you have described are what has infected women with a plague of toxic NARCISSISM. Women will NEVER be happy embracing this garbage. Thank you for shedding a very bright light in this darkness.
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Excellent, straight to point video. I hope alot of youg fellas get access this information. Being in my forties I could see the mix of feminism (and now wokism, which is the worst in every single aspect) & social media destroy dating, so I could adapt along. But young people who discover the game wouldn't even know how wrong everything has gone. Anyway, subscribed and sharing. Thanks.
Truth and thanks! 😁🙏🥰
Oh my god! So on point, I’m so happy someone finally talked about the solution.
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Wait until someone shows interest in you. Protect yourself from being taken advantage of. In the meantime, workout hard 4 days a week. Ebjoy your life. Go out and do what you'd enjoy. Go to concerts & events. Save your money. Earn more money. Be financially prepared for life with a wife and kids; but don't bother chasing it. Just earn more than you need to for you. Then keep it for yourself! Don't let any lady move in with you. Don't let her ever do your laundry. Learn cooking online. Don't worry about bothering with women. Let her chase you when she's older and you're high earning, fully physically fit & financially comfortable. Men don't need a woman.. What does she do in the home, to benefit a man? Make lists of chores he has to do? Nevermind them..
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I lost my wife of 20 years to cancer 2 years ago. I just recently started looking for companionship....not necessarily a relationship. I'm 58 with a youthful flair and have had little trouble getting attention. I carry myself well. Dress well when I go out, even grocery shopping, and started exercising and stopped feeling sorry for myself. I'll never get over the loss of my beautiful wife, but I do realize I need to move on and live the remainder of my life and watch our kids grow. That said, there are plenty of substandard women in my area, as well as subpar men. That statement is not seated in arrogance but the fact that everyone is a smartphone zombie and cannot carry on the most minimal of conversation. This speaks volumes of why so many men carry on that they cannot find an eligible, dateable woman. Women also need to put the phone away. I recently had lunch with a woman who was a friend of a friend. As soon as we ordered drinks, out came the phone. After competing with 20 minutes of her madcap texting, I quietly went to the bar, paid the bill and walked out. She of course texted me and could not understand why I had done such a callous thing to her. I explained that I am a gentlemen and value my time. My time is something I do not not waste. I had left my phone in my car, as the focus of the afternoon was our lunch date. I further let her know that I did not wish to become a hindrance to her text-a-thons. After a few weeks she stopped texting me, as I had not replied. I owed no explanation. I did not feel bad and likely dodged a bullet. Men....stop whining, lose a few like I did, put the sneakers and sweats away and shave. Don't pander to every woman's whim, but be respectful, and ultimately have self respect. Relearn he art of conversation. There are high quality women out there, but you will not find them looking at dating apps while sitting in lifted F 150 projecting a false sense of masculinity.
I'm glad I clicked this when it randomly(?) came up today! I needed to hear this. Thank you!
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I personally view trends like higher levels of female education and career ambitions as a net positive for society. I think it is a good thing that women can further unlock their talents and use their skills to create and add value. I do agree with the arguments against the narcissism and dellusions that social media creates. And thanks, learnt a new verb .. simping lol
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Liked your video, you hit on a lot of key points. I am in my late 40s, and have thrown in the towel on the whole dating thing. The thing that did it for me were the last few women I dated. They were pretty, but narcistic, and just greedy. I got tired of being treated as an ATM, sorry but I think at this point, if it were a choice between giving a girl one dollar if she promised me eternal happiness and bliss and keeping it, I'd be happier with the dollar. My goal now is to retire a multi-millionaire with a house on a beach, play computer games, and take up fishing, and I am well on my way there.
You are not alone! Don’t blame ya
Not much to add. You pretty much nailed it. It is pretty much go MGTOW or be in for a lot of headaches.
For anyone choosing to be in a relationship with a woman it definitely requires ongoing effort forever after… Read the fine print lol
Join the passport bros
Fabulous! Just excellent. Best yet. Thank you.
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Gave up on Western women years ago. Live in Bangkok and having a wonderful time!
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32&26 both virgins when married. It almost destroyed me waiting for her.
Worth it 19 years later peaceful family 🕊️
Congratulations and may you have many more happy years together! 🙏
@@YourWingmam new sub, your message is Mothernature
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If you’re so happily married, what are you doing listening to dating advice videos?
Kevin Samuels sent me.
Great video, Single dad with one daughter in colorguard team in high school. Very involved in my daughters life. Most woman I meet, and mothers are impressed by my actions.
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Thank you, Anna!
As always, you go straight to the point and I really appreciate that. Modern feminism is damaging relationships, and it forces men (like me) to hate themselves in order to make marital relationships work. I understand that many of your videos are for helping single men. Is it too much to ask if you could make a video, giving us tips on how to maintain a relationship with a feminist woman?
You're the only relationship expert I trust on RUclips. The only one.. and for that reason, may God fill your life with everlasting happiness.. ⚘
One more thing, say hi to the cat! 😉
Thank you so much for a wonderful complement! And my heart goes out to you and all the other men in a situation that has caused you to load your masculinity. I did do a video on dating a masculine woman and on dating a feminist. But not specifically for men in relationships. I’ve also done a video on how to keep your woman happy… Surprise: it does not include cowering, pandering, or giving in. Let me see if I can find them for you… BRB
Dating a Feminist: ruclips.net/video/YI4yRhZlEy0/видео.html
Keep her happy: ruclips.net/video/-RZK4ycesV0/видео.html
Masculine/Dominant women: ruclips.net/video/_mmCtg1OjW0/видео.html
You also have to ask yourself if your values actually match. I have to have some tough conversations about what’s not working for you. You got to stand up for yourself. If you want to know how to ask for something different used to love sammich approach described in this video: ruclips.net/video/bib2O2oC_TU/видео.html
Hope these help!
@@YourWingmam oh wow! Ahh you're such a generous soul. I'll watch the videos in the links and definitely will study them! You're right, I need to stand up for myself ❤❤❤ salute
I think one thing more men need to understand is loving ourself and no I don't mean in a narcissistic way I mean having standards morals and not being afraid to walk if we are being badly treated I think too many men these days stay far longer in a toxic relationship then they should because of fear they won't find anyone else the sickening thing is some women actively prey on this fear to wield power
@@kurtpunchesthings2411 well put
Honestly social media ruined dating for both men and women back then you needed to meet your lover in person but nowadays you can hookup with 10 people on tinder
It definitely isn't an easy situation, but the focus needs to be on doing what is truly best 🙏
Just subscribed. Love this fifth column content.
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At 62 yrs. age, every girl in and out of my life deserted me and mine for Mr. Good Bar. Yet I'm accused of being the druggy. How sick is that ! Hope the next generation has better encounters, good luck!
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I used to be angry about female behavior in my 20s and 30s. Now I'm at peace with being single in 40s. Don't get me wrong its still nice know that well adjusted beautiful woman exist. But for the most part I'm not stressing about it
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Another thing that I’ve been noticing. Okay for those that are Gay, Lesbians, etc. no direct offense to those reading this comment, but I actually need your opinions on this. Many people that say that their lesbian or gay are what they say they are, but one thing that I’ve been noticing, many tend to use the 🏳️🌈 as an excuse to get attention, for example I met this girl once who had a girlfriend, they recently broke up and now she’s looking for man to date, and she basically didnt like women to begin with. This tells me that many use the LGBT to get attention, which makes actual gay, lesbians, etc look bad. For those reading this comment please let me know what you think?
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Im 26, and haven’t been on a date in over a decade. I’ve asked out girls in my personal life, not on the internet, dozens of times and I think I’ve been rejected by ever girl I’ve ever asked out. What’s the point?
I’m not getting anything out of this except depression and rejection. No one’s willing to make a commitment. I’ve seen that. I’m about tired of pursuing relationships all together forever.
Before you give up on dating, try changing your focus from dating to learning, and you will start to see positive results in your dating experiences!
Gotta say, this is the BEST, most informative and validating video I have seen from you, and I watch you regularly. I learned new stuff, but mostly you validated what I intuitively concluded. ...and ya, once I'm smitten, I tend to 'think' down below, not with my brain. Love your delivery, pacing, filming and over all affect...this is a cut above your usual offerings, Bravo!
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@@YourWingmam My pleasure!
I'm dating ladies in late 40s to mid 50s. Seems like a very common story is: successful career/ business, beautiful house, traveled the world flashy luxury car... very independent.. lonely as hell! Human relationships are or can be a very healthy part of life. Loneliness the opposite. I think alot of 'modern' women find this out maybe too late in life. Just my 2 cents from experience.
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I’d like to introduce my theory called the “cheesecake theory” on why dating is so hard for both men and women today. It’s ground roots are that we both have way too many options of people created by social media and dating sites. (like the Cheesecake Factory) there are dozens of flavors to choose from, but most people choose just one slice of the flavor they think they will like while also knowing they like many of the others, and after having one for anywhere between 6-9 dollars a slice we all tell ourselves next time I’m trying or having this other different one. While dating actual people requires more time and effort we’re often distracted wondering what the other one would “taste like” to fully commit to savoring the one we’re dating. While nearly everyone, guy and gal are being hit up on social media and dating sites the options keeps our serotonin flowing in our brains. That’s what we’re really addicted to and keeping us going in the dating pool to never permanently return with someone is the addiction of different people that we want to try because amongst them are the perfect one (has to be) and there is, and we know it. The problem is that as humans once we pick one, we shut the doors to our other options and doing that activates our insecurities. Our insecurities make us question if we choose the right one, and that dominos into In compulsive thoughts and false scenarios much like wishing you would have chose another type of cheesecake. What we don’t realize is that if there were only 2 or 3 types of cheesecake at the Cheesecake Factory we would be more satisfied with trying one of them and have much less regret on not choosing the other two because we didn’t loose out on much. To conclude my theory we would enjoy the same piece we chose just as equally as much as the other dozens of flavors we didn’t choose. We need to recognize that and loosen our addiction to excessive options by opting out of them because excessive options concerning people do a lot of harm to us by creating an unnecessary insecurity, an unnecessary addiction to options, that keep us indecisive and waste too much of our valuable time that inevitably results in never being happy. Take the plunge and choose one while ignoring the rest because it would likely be precisely the same with the other one you’re thinking of, and if it works, enjoy all the real cheesecake together.
“The cheesecake theory”
-A. Kiker-
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women don't care about your struggles as a man, they only care about Results and Winners
Have you seen my video on women don’t care about you? Just in case: ruclips.net/video/1l47Sy6-UG0/видео.html
Talk about positive advise! So I'm not the only one then who rolls his eyes or wants to wretch at all the - new word for me - Simping going on. Thank you for all that you cover here and for the wisdom and truth that you are sharing here. Blessings!
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Finally a lady that speak of reality and not the same girly talk that men "should do to understand women" You earned a male subscriber!!
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@@YourWingmam Great! A lot of girls today are just so selfish and put all the blame on what men do or don´t do, that is no strange why they end alone and bitter, don´t you think?
Excellent video. It deserves 50 million views and it should be shown to every woman on the planet. I watched it while I was on the exercise machine.👍
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You will lose money chasing women, but you will never lose women chasing money.
You're absolutely right!
Love it !!! Couldn't agree more with every point you made and if you allow yourself to sour and become a woman hater, just throw the towel in. Wouldn't want a woman with a serious body count, even for a one night stand or friend with benefits.
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Glad you liked it and I agree! Get better not bitter!
@@YourWingmam You just see so much bitterness in the manosphere. Just walk away on to the next. I'm the rescuer type. Not that I'm trying to change anyone. They are typically in dire straights (trapped in an abusive home or relationship). You really have to be self sacrificial, and it's no picnic ... I wouldn't recommend it
Become the best you for you and don’t simp on social media are the main points I really needed to be reminded of!
@@ericsmith6677 that was my point and my first name is Ali. My last name is Abdul-Aziz, so calling me Abdul would be like me referring to you as Smi.
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This does however, have us dating guys being very cautious. Any red flags or excess baggage for me and I walk. I don’t need it. Not that I am not polite. Always polite. Always kind.
But as we get older, we start to realize that we don’t need anyone. This is the other side of the coin in terms of the new modern man. We are now liking and really enjoying our freedom.
But this probably is the best way to do it anyway. No expectations. Go in with an open mind, open heart, and not be critical….but then not be afraid to walk, and sometimes even run. 🤗
Thank you, Anna, and always happy to fly with you, and to always watch your six.
Misery loves company. Got it.
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One thing I've noticed is that the Grade A wife material tends to get taken off the market pretty quickly. They'll be engaged (if not married) by the time they are 25-26.
Most definitely!
The one time I actually agreed with Rush Limbaugh is when he coined the word, "feminazi."
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Great video Anna. Thanks for addressing the epidemic of Simps I. Social media.
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I have enjoyed your insight for quite a while now. I think this is one of your best videos. You "named names" of societal obstacles that have made the building of m/f relationships so difficult. I appreciate that courage. While I am married and not looking, this advice is very timely for a couple other young adult guys I know. Thanks.
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