Thanks Eva for this topic... If I may, please move the camera down for the next video...The focus is more on the picture above you than your lovely face...
Hullo Eva. I really enjoyed watching this video. I have learned so much from watching you, from learning about fragrances, dressing , self confidence, life lessons. You are such an inspiration to me. Love you
I always love your candidness. That “epic” relationship created a soul tie which affected future relationships. Been there, got a tee shirt. Been in the struggle marriage. But it was only through maturity and experience I found an older man protects, provides and stable. In the words of Tina Turner “What’s Love Got To Do With It”
Exactly and as I approach the 30’s I’m hearing you need to be married I said I’m staying single if he’s not established I’ll stay solo travel pamper myself with the men’s money lol and shop lol
Always work to have something for yourself , you bring something to the table , the person you date bring something to the table also , relationship isa TEAM WORK , you each work together
“The only way I’m doing this marriage thing again is if I’m going to be comfortable and taken care of.” My sentiments EXACTLY. A man must ADD to my life in every way for me to even consider it! There is nothing wrong with that. I am much happier single than with most men so I have high standards. 💃🏽💃🏽💃🏽
Same here!!!! House paid for, car paid for, no student loans and my best friend a male is rich and treats me to nice things often, so I will stay single 🤩🤩🤩
Relationship is a TEAM WORK , you bring something to the table and your partner bring something to the table as well , you might stay single for the rest of your life , if you think your partner has to pamper you and you are not giving in return. It takes TWO to tango
I've only been married once and secured my bag the first time around. My husband is my protector and provider and he loves me. I'm very happy with my decision.
I learned to avoid the men who gave me those shaking/shivering heated feelings. Things usually fizzled out quickly and I found those feelings to be too distracting from seeing the foundation. True compatibility and security.
Same!! That have happened to me! I was chasing the one who made flustered and I was legit a total idiot around them. That teen high school crush kinda feeling. In reality, when you grown you don’t want anybody that ever take your sense away like that
I've been saying this 🙌🏾 I don't do boyfriends there's no such thing in God's eyes. Court and get married. Weeds out the men that "ain't ready for commitment."
I had 2 serious relationships in my 20s where I tried to “build” with young men, and ended up in debt and had to start over from scratch. When I entered my 30s and had started building a life for myself, I knew I was over with building from the ground up with another man. Luckily I had no children, was pretty, petite and smart and could pretty much have whoever I wanted. Young ladies, don’t be opposed to choosing men who are just starting out, but don’t be dumb and give a man all your money or financially support another grown person who isn’t your husband.
Thank you, I’m 32 no kid. I wish my friend could see this message. I’m tired giving her this same advice. Anyway, she is 27 she will experience and learn. Supporting a grown man who is close to 40 and has nothing to offer. Struggle love I guess 😏
Happened to me, didn't end up in debt though because I had been observing for quite some time and had started pulling back. What hurt though was when he revealed he had 3,000USD in savings (that's doubled in my currency), he never took me to dinner not even spend 25USD just to say Thank you. You know what I have learnt though Money unlocks characters jailed by poverty.
I can relate but we live and we learn. And now I am married to a wonderful man and have not paid a bill since 2016. Young ladies it is possible and we are now getting ready to buy our first house together. ❤️😇
This conversation brought to mind 2 post that I had read. 1 said Lord do you know that these men are down here tying to make us pay half. The other said men want us to take care of them like grandmother but they don’t want to pay bills like granddaddy. 💞
Please do a video about right before you got married and how you got your house and decorated all of that. That is so important to learn how to be content with self and love self and then one can love another. Please do a video about that and making oneself content.
I’m widowed 1year. My late husband 12 years my senior was all presentation and no substance.Because of you, I’m regaining my femininity. You’re a beautiful,confident woman who knows how she wants to live and deserves a great life. I applaud you, Queen Eva! Getting me together in every aspect. Looking forward to having a wonderful future marriage. Continue living your best life. Cheers 🥂
Thank you for your transparency. I've been widowed a little over 2 years now and my 5 kids are grown. Dating over age 50 has not been what I thought it would be. I'm not looking for perfection, but, I not trying to settle for someone who can't add to me either.
I will pray that you will find a successful and hardworking Gentlemen. Do you eat at Country Clubs or Semi-private clubs? That is where I met my Mr.Cranky Pants😍💯!!
Period!! I realize when I was raising my kids BM were not checking for me and I'm not checking for them. Now 50 y/o men with a 9 yr old think I'm checking for him..Not!!🙄🙄
As a woman of a more mature age, I can’t tell you how much I appreciate your channel and especially this post👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾. Thank you!! I’m single and ONLY willing to marry someone who can add and multiply to my life, not subtract and divide!!! Such a great post!!!
Yaassssssssss!!!!! I love this!!! I just got out of a relationship recently and I told myself I will be with someone who can provide the life I’m providing for myself and better!!! I have an African man who is very well off that is interested but I’m really not attracted to him physically but he can make my life incredible and add more value. He is 8 years older 😬
You will. I say mantras to myself. The most important thing to me is that they treat me very well and are generous. I was never all that into looks but I was into "love" and "intelligence". Those 2 things didn't always quite pan out as I was never satisfied. They were either broke or a**holes. My number 1 mantra is "I love a man who spoils me. I love a man who is generous. I love a man who takes care of me." Look at his eyes. The way he looks at you. You will find the handsomeness. Handsome does not always equal fine. If he is kind and generous allow that to lead your thoughts.
Ever since I subscribed to you last year, I have been secretly hoping you would do a video like this. This message needs to keep getting passed around. PLEASE don't leave us hangin' for part 2 🙂
Fantastic video. You've basically covered all the relationship types lol. Barb the Builder Wife, D*ckmatized, Needs a Mommy For His kids, Wants a roommate to split Bills (so rude and offputting of a man to ever approach a woman like that to take over half of HIS responsibilities). Unlike many women you learned and grew. Thank you for sharing your journey.
My old school dad even told me to marry someone that can take care of the family financially so I don’t have to work when I have kids....... I didn’t listen to him and I ended up marrying “for love” , bad bad mistake
I feel like this very obvious but unfortunately people still don’t get it. The ONE distinction between a gold digger and a woman who’s trying to level up is their INTENTIONS BEHIND THEIR ACTIONS. A gold digger is someone who’s very entitled, self absorbed, selfish, and is essentially scamming men out of their money, jumping from one rich man to another. A woman who’s leveling up has worked on herself inside and out, is genuinely interested in being in an ACTUAL relationship with a man that just so happens to make money so she is taken care of.
If he loves himself he'll be a hard working man and if he loves you he wont have you out here stressed and struggling. Love and hypergamy are not mutually exclusive. Ive been married 6 years and have 2 children and one on the way. Unfortunately the 4 year old is autistic and non verbal and the other has a delayed speech. My income was completely cut in half after our oldest childs diagnosis so hypergamy is the only answer for our situation. I still work part time because i like having my own money but i will not pick up the weight of us financially because its my job to raise our kids. If im cooking, cleaning and child rearing than you need to pay the bills.
Wayment... she said, if I'm paying half of "YOUR" bills, I'm running half the show, I'm calling half the shots, I'm gon be home half the time, and yo ass is gettin' half the nookie!!! #Loveit #TellHim #ThisThough
Oohhhh everytime I hear pay half, my stomach turns.....these men have no sense and no shame.... every woman needs and should want a provider man.....full stop... we are too fabulous to be carrying grown men smh
I hear you but what about all this woman rights and equal pay. Im just confused like either you want the man to provide and work or you wanna stay at home and not work. Do woman really think they shouldn't contribute financial? Just asking...I don't beleive in half..but like what do women really want?
@@DC45193 You can't have it both ways...either you pay the cost to be the boss, or you make way for other bosses. Figure out what you want first, then find THAT woman.
You’re such an inspiration and great RUclips friend...lol! Thank you for being so transparent about your life. This is what sisterhood is all about. Sharing experiences that help elevate the next person. As well as, to help alleviate unnecessary pain and suffering. Bless you♥️
Eva! Eva! I continue to tell my NEICES and other young ladies, the exact same things you have just shared. Lord thank you for this video. I am 59, divorced and like you I've had fine and handsome...not looking for that anymore. My ex husband was a wonderful provider... financially....he'd work 4 jobs and pay bills...sex was great!....let me stop right there cause my story is too long🤣🤣🤣 I love your videos 😍
I LOVE women like you who warns us young ladies. I try to warn women also💯🙌🏼 I’m 31, open minded and know what I want and deserve after gaining 92 pounds, being in the breadwinner for 6 years with a guy with no drive and was spoon fed all his life and I’ve had close family and even my mom watch me hurt and struggle and promote struggle and won’t give you game, letting you figure out the hard way . Soon as I left for good I lost all the weight and my life completely changed 🏋🏽♀️ I appreciate you boo 💕💕
@@yeahimashley9515 Good job Pooh. I love to see the super young ones on board You’re at a great start 😍😍❤️💯. This stuff wasn’t so out there and talked about when I was 18 back in 2008. Soak up all the good Info and don’t be naive and foolish 😘
This was refreshing to hear because although I’m young with no children this is my perspective as well and people stay saying I’m crazy 😒😒 it’s truly annoying. If I’m letting anyone into my life it’s to add to my peace not disrupt it...and I will stand and never compromise on that!
Oh how shallow for people to be in someone else's bedroom. Something that will never benefit them. There's nothing wrong with what you decided for. YOUR LIFE. From the bits you tell us.. You paid your dues.. I like your reviews that's what I tune in for. The other stuff is life lessions and that's ok I'm not going to ask questions about anything but fragrance and neither should anyone élse
If you’re happy with your marriage/relationship/situation, then you’re doing you. If an older( how ever much older) gentleman is your flavor and he’s established then all happiness to you. All of us have criteria for our mates. You stuck to yours and you’re living the life you wanted. More of us ladies should stick to our plans for our lives. Makes for less stress. Mine is only 4 yrs older but established and mature. I’m spoiled and proud of it. I made the changes to my thinking and leveled myself up. I didn’t compromise. You just decide what works for you.
That's crazy, you moved to be a whole baby momma and suzie home maker and he want half. I get it sis. That was disrespectful. You there taking care of kids that don't even belong to you. That is crazy if you ask me. The audacity this fool.
OMG we had the same life! Married young, divorced young, left him with all of the furniture except a couch. Rebuilt from scratch by myself. Wasn't looking to start over yet again. 2nd time: Married Prince Charming - Love of my life and treats me with respect and does everything for his family. Life Partner.
Great video Eva! I’m still with the same husband throughout the fireworks, struggle, now we’re in the financial stability stage-Praise God. We have so many memories to share about those stages. A life partner for real. ♥️
The fact that so many of these comments couldn’t tell she was a well taken care of woman who has a husband who provides...... some of y’all need to learn how to read the room, y’all missing out on so many opportunities because you simply cannot read people. & my AuntyEva beautiful as always 💜💜💜
So true, the only reason a man would think different is because he’s not mature enough to know the difference, or he’s in it for himself and he’s not really concerned about you. Either way you will pay in that relationship, financially and mentally.
The old “you’re not doing enough” line. Translation: give me your money and KEEP on doing what you’ve been doing. Meanwhile, you don’t have title to anything. Lovin’ you, Eva.
I love your story.... Feels so similar with those "split the bills" men..and 20yo ideas of what man I wanted..., I was married and a mother at 23.... And lost everything (except my son). For years I actively avoided dating because I needed to build myself up again. When i started dating again, I thought I was going to have to date older.. mostly because I wanted to be with somebody who was a little more established in their life.... Knew what they wanted.... Would probably be okay with not wanting to do a "marriage".... And also did not want to have any more children because I absolutely did not want to have any more children and I have no interest in the marriage process. Anyone I dated who was older than me, was not able to keep up with me because I am very active. I'm actually with a man who is 5 years younger than me, who is his own person, who has no interest in actually getting married, and does not want kids.. I'm so lucky I waited for the right person. We are very happy in our relationship together with no pressures or expectations of marriage or kids hanging over us. And I've been an empty nester for about 3 years as my son has been off at college.
Kelly Hughes, thank you so much for sharing. You are a very successful individual. Your relationship is wonderful also. God Bless You. Always best to wait for that special someone who shares your thoughts.
this is GOLDEN. "right idea but the wrong person", love that. 20 (about to turn 21) and I look forward to gaining wisdom like this so thank you so much
Whew sis...not one lie detected! 🙌🏽 Pay half? He was looking for a roommate with benefits, no sir. We have to let God teach us and show us what true love is. I so appreciate you bringing that up.
Teach!!!! You wrong for leaving us hanging lol. That was a great story time and a wonderful message. I needed to hear that. I'm 36 and holding back from relationships possibly marriage all because I want that magnetic spark and butterflies with someone my age. I need to re-examine my priorities and give one of these more mature men a second look. Lol
Eva I have been watching you since day one. Yes I am an OG subs but I never comment on Parfums mind you I can't count how many parfums I bought because of you but Queen Diva of more mature ageeeee today I had to say preach sister you basically have my life story omg. Lord I live rich now. A real man can't take a woman money. To understand this you just have to experienced it period. I will teach my daughter Hypergamy life. The life I have now I want that for every women 24/7 and 365 days period 🤩
You have a powerful testamony. We go through things in our lives to one day have to share in order to help someone else. You're a great motivational speaker thanks for sharing part of your life. 💖👏🏽
Awesome video! I'm currently 53 and unattached. I can say my outlook now on love and relationships have changed over the years. My priorities and what I'm looking for has definitely changed. I can so relate. Thank you for sharing!
This is great to hear your real life experience. Personally, I refuse to be the starter wife to a man. I'm 25, but I don't date under 40. A man needs to be well established and secure in his masculinity or I would rather just be by myself period
Eva I am 40 and I can understand everything you've said and been through. I've had these experiences you speak of, and now I'm at a point where I'm not looking for love, but comfort and peace of mind. Thank you ❤️ so much. Looking forward for pt 2.
PREACH! I married a gentleman that really loves me and respects me. I can tell you that I experienced love in such a different way than I was used to in the past. God prepared my mind to SEE love and think about it in the words Provider, Protector, Supporter, Lover and Friend. This takes us beyond the sex into a place of understanding and appreciation for each other. God is good. I am older and wiser and can truly appreciate what I have, who I am and what God has entrusted me with. Not to mention how serious God takes what He has entrusted to my husband. It's remarkable the things that we go thru to get us to this point where we can receive God's highest and best, designed especially for us.
Bravo for leaving Mr. 50/50! So glad you found out that you are worth the efforts of a courting gentleman. Women who give of themselves deserve a partner that matches their energy. Take care and keep on living your best life.
All I can say is. I know EXACTLY what you are talking about. I’ve been there . Heck in my mind I’m and soul sista I’m still there. Had to leave FIRE and DESIRE alone before it killed me. OMG!!!
I really appreciate your honesty. Not everyone would share what you’ve just shared with us. I so enjoy listening to you speak about your past experiences and can relate to much of it. Also by sharing your thoughts & feelings it can help a lot of other women. Thank you so much.
I know your channel is for the “mature” women but I subscribed anyway. I’m 28 and I love gems. This was my first time watching you and I’m about to tune into the rest of you videos !
The views and opinions in this video are that of my own. We can agree to disagree in a very respectful manor in the comment section below. 🙂
THANK YOU 💖 EVA MONROE 💎 for This TOPIC. IT WAS JUST YOUR SEASON . BLESSED* 👑
Thanks Eva for this topic...
If I may, please move the camera down for the next video...The focus is more on the picture above you than your lovely face...
And another thing I’m not moving in with any man.... the property has to be in both of our names
Hullo Eva. I really enjoyed watching this video. I have learned so much from watching you, from learning about fragrances, dressing , self confidence, life lessons. You are such an inspiration to me. Love you
I always love your candidness. That “epic” relationship created a soul tie which affected future relationships. Been there, got a tee shirt. Been in the struggle marriage. But it was only through maturity and experience I found an older man protects, provides and stable. In the words of Tina Turner “What’s Love Got To Do With It”
My father said to me” the only guy that’s worried about you being a gold digger, is the one that can’t afford you or have any gold to dig”lol.
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Exactly and as I approach the 30’s I’m hearing you need to be married I said I’m staying single if he’s not established I’ll stay solo travel pamper myself with the men’s money lol and shop lol
Always work to have something for yourself , you bring something to the table , the person you date bring something to the table also , relationship isa TEAM WORK , you each work together
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Boom🤣🤣🤣💕
“The only way I’m doing this marriage thing again is if I’m going to be comfortable and taken care of.” My sentiments EXACTLY. A man must ADD to my life in every way for me to even consider it! There is nothing wrong with that. I am much happier single than with most men so I have high standards. 💃🏽💃🏽💃🏽
Keep the standard high, especially in these days and time.
Exactly sis. I'm totally with that.
Same here!!!! House paid for, car paid for, no student loans and my best friend a male is rich and treats me to nice things often, so I will stay single 🤩🤩🤩
Relationship is a TEAM WORK , you bring something to the table and your partner bring something to the table as well , you might stay single for the rest of your life , if you think your partner has to pamper you and you are not giving in return. It takes TWO to tango
Yes!
I've only been married once and secured my bag the first time around. My husband is my protector and provider and he loves me. I'm very happy with my decision.
Mine too. The best husband and father💯❤️
Wow! Good for u ladies.
Manifesting this rn. I'm young but happy to be learning from this young age.
There's nothing wrong with wanting the person to already be established. You can struggle alone.
FACTZZ
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Exactly
Amen
THANK YOU 💯💯💯💯
You know he was “grown” grown when he said I wanna court you. I haven’t heard that since my grandparents relationship.
#GrownGrown
Amen!
Some time, woman don’t let the man court her, woman this days are too fast.
Struggle love is for 20 yr olds. If he’s 40 and still trying to “get his start in life” something is wrong.
Exactly definitely red flags 🚩
Agreed!
True.
True
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I learned to avoid the men who gave me those shaking/shivering heated feelings. Things usually fizzled out quickly and I found those feelings to be too distracting from seeing the foundation. True compatibility and security.
Same!! That have happened to me! I was chasing the one who made flustered and I was legit a total idiot around them. That teen high school crush kinda feeling. In reality, when you grown you don’t want anybody that ever take your sense away like that
@@lee_rayyy58 🗣💯💯💯💯💯💯
"Do not turn your wife into a maid." Jordan Petersen. Don't give wife privileges to boyfriends.
I've been saying this 🙌🏾 I don't do boyfriends there's no such thing in God's eyes. Court and get married. Weeds out the men that "ain't ready for commitment."
@@Fatima-rz9vt amen 🙏 🙌
I holla’d when you started defining half!! 😂
Me too 😂😂
I laughed so hard, I had to pause the video.
Half the nookie 😽
Cause Issa fact 🤣
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I had 2 serious relationships in my 20s where I tried to “build” with young men, and ended up in debt and had to start over from scratch. When I entered my 30s and had started building a life for myself, I knew I was over with building from the ground up with another man. Luckily I had no children, was pretty, petite and smart and could pretty much have whoever I wanted. Young ladies, don’t be opposed to choosing men who are just starting out, but don’t be dumb and give a man all your money or financially support another grown person who isn’t your husband.
Thank you, I’m 32 no kid. I wish my friend could see this message. I’m tired giving her this same advice. Anyway, she is 27 she will experience and learn. Supporting a grown man who is close to 40 and has nothing to offer. Struggle love I guess 😏
@@bellatcup8 just leave her. She'll learn from her mistake and come to understand you. She'll definitely wake up on her own.
Happened to me, didn't end up in debt though because I had been observing for quite some time and had started pulling back. What hurt though was when he revealed he had 3,000USD in savings (that's doubled in my currency), he never took me to dinner not even spend 25USD just to say Thank you. You know what I have learnt though Money unlocks characters jailed by poverty.
After 3 months no building not woman job build unless hes husband these men will build then take their marry pursue other woman
I can relate but we live and we learn. And now I am married to a wonderful man and have not paid a bill since 2016. Young ladies it is possible and we are now getting ready to buy our first house together. ❤️😇
This conversation brought to mind 2 post that I had read. 1 said Lord do you know that these men are down here tying to make us pay half. The other said men want us to take care of them like grandmother but they don’t want to pay bills like granddaddy. 💞
Ain't that the truth...
My granddad always said he didn't need a woman, financially.
My grandma worked because she wanted to, not out of necessity.
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😂😂😂I hollered when I read this... best said
Please do a video about right before you got married and how you got your house and decorated all of that. That is so important to learn how to be content with self and love self and then one can love another. Please do a video about that and making oneself content.
DC UNDENIABLE, I will do that🥰
@@evamonroe I’ll be looking out for that video
Yea, I agree with you. I don't do 50/50 relationships either. That man was not a provider
I’m widowed 1year. My late husband 12 years my senior was all presentation and no substance.Because of you, I’m regaining my femininity. You’re a beautiful,confident woman who knows how she wants to live and deserves a great life. I applaud you, Queen Eva! Getting me together in every aspect. Looking forward to having a wonderful future marriage. Continue living your best life. Cheers 🥂
Eva you’re a real woman! Glad to have found your channel.
Doctorj2019 Doctor Thank you and Thank You for watching😊
"I was looking for the 4 f's: fireworks, fun, fit, fine and I got foolishness" - girl, this will preach!
Wow!... Thanks for that... Selah...
Dear Lord, WAKE HER UP & make her upload Part 2!!! Thank you. 🙏🏾❤😁😜
RIGHT NOWWWWW
🗣ASAP!!
Pay half the bills when everything’s in HIS name.?Ultimately, you will be played and left hanging after the mortgage is 3/4 paid off ,. You Go Girl,
Thank you for your transparency. I've been widowed a little over 2 years now and my 5 kids are grown. Dating over age 50 has not been what I thought it would be. I'm not looking for perfection, but, I not trying to settle for someone who can't add to me either.
I will pray that you will find a successful and hardworking Gentlemen. Do you eat at Country Clubs or Semi-private clubs?
That is where I met my Mr.Cranky Pants😍💯!!
Yes dating at 50s it’s harder but I’m not settling for a man that it’s a user or just wants help
Your skin is lovely.
Absolutely ❤️
My old boss told me first you marry for love, 2nd marriage you marry for money.
Appreciate your transparency and vulnerability to share ❤️. As always, excellent video.
I will be 40 y/o this year and I have said the same thing. I don’t want him to have small kids and you HAVE TO BE ESTABLISHED. Point blank period.
Period!! I realize when I was raising my kids BM were not checking for me and I'm not checking for them. Now 50 y/o men with a 9 yr old think I'm checking for him..Not!!🙄🙄
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@@sparklemocha8781 preach 🙌🏾 they looking for child support help🤣🤣🤣
I agree!
@@deliteful1991 Thank you! And Ok!!
Can't wait for Part 2. Can the church say "Amen"
Amen!
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Amen!!
Amen
Hallelu-Yer madea voice 😂😂🙌🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼
As a woman of a more mature age, I can’t tell you how much I appreciate your channel and especially this post👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾. Thank you!! I’m single and ONLY willing to marry someone who can add and multiply to my life, not subtract and divide!!! Such a great post!!!
I wish we had had resources like this back when I was younger. I could have learned so much and maybe be in a better situation today.
Yaassssssssss!!!!! I love this!!! I just got out of a relationship recently and I told myself I will be with someone who can provide the life I’m providing for myself and better!!! I have an African man who is very well off that is interested but I’m really not attracted to him physically but he can make my life incredible and add more value. He is 8 years older 😬
Consider...A well off man who wants to take care of me IS attractive. ☺
@@nuninuninu5095 Well since you put it that way. Yesssss it really is!!
Yes level up . Eventually you will get used to him
You will. I say mantras to myself. The most important thing to me is that they treat me very well and are generous. I was never all that into looks but I was into "love" and "intelligence". Those 2 things didn't always quite pan out as I was never satisfied. They were either broke or a**holes. My number 1 mantra is "I love a man who spoils me. I love a man who is generous. I love a man who takes care of me." Look at his eyes. The way he looks at you. You will find the handsomeness. Handsome does not always equal fine. If he is kind and generous allow that to lead your thoughts.
As you grown TOGETHER you’ll him more attractive and he’ll love more. It will be his pleasure to treat you well.
Ever since I subscribed to you last year, I have been secretly hoping you would do a video like this. This message needs to keep getting passed around. PLEASE don't leave us hangin' for part 2 🙂
That 750 square foot home sounds amazing!
Damn this was such a good video. I needed to hear this.
U ever heard of Sheraseven sis? U can thank me l8r. K💋
@@wisegoddess8224 Thank you Sis! I subscribed. ❤️
Fantastic video. You've basically covered all the relationship types lol. Barb the Builder Wife, D*ckmatized, Needs a Mommy For His kids, Wants a roommate to split Bills (so rude and offputting of a man to ever approach a woman like that to take over half of HIS responsibilities). Unlike many women you learned and grew. Thank you for sharing your journey.
I know it's been a year but I certainly will write these types down in by journal there no wonderful response to this video
My old school dad even told me to marry someone that can take care of the family financially so I don’t have to work when I have kids.......
I didn’t listen to him and I ended up marrying “for love” , bad bad mistake
I feel like this very obvious but unfortunately people still don’t get it. The ONE distinction between a gold digger and a woman who’s trying to level up is their INTENTIONS BEHIND THEIR ACTIONS.
A gold digger is someone who’s very entitled, self absorbed, selfish, and is essentially scamming men out of their money, jumping from one rich man to another.
A woman who’s leveling up has worked on herself inside and out, is genuinely interested in being in an ACTUAL relationship with a man that just so happens to make money so she is taken care of.
If he loves himself he'll be a hard working man and if he loves you he wont have you out here stressed and struggling. Love and hypergamy are not mutually exclusive. Ive been married 6 years and have 2 children and one on the way. Unfortunately the 4 year old is autistic and non verbal and the other has a delayed speech. My income was completely cut in half after our oldest childs diagnosis so hypergamy is the only answer for our situation. I still work part time because i like having my own money but i will not pick up the weight of us financially because its my job to raise our kids. If im cooking, cleaning and child rearing than you need to pay the bills.
Wayment... she said, if I'm paying half of "YOUR" bills, I'm running half the show, I'm calling half the shots, I'm gon be home half the time, and yo ass is gettin' half the nookie!!! #Loveit #TellHim #ThisThough
Girl you knocked the socks off on this one. You are the one and only, "The Eva Monroe." I can relate.
Great video. Had me glued from beginning to end. Waiting for part 2.
I am 31 and ma'am you dropped some jewels in this video.
I Agree!
Oohhhh everytime I hear pay half, my stomach turns.....these men have no sense and no shame.... every woman needs and should want a provider man.....full stop... we are too fabulous to be carrying grown men smh
I hear you but what about all this woman rights and equal pay. Im just confused like either you want the man to provide and work or you wanna stay at home and not work. Do woman really think they shouldn't contribute financial? Just asking...I don't beleive in half..but like what do women really want?
@@DC45193 You can't have it both ways...either you pay the cost to be the boss, or you make way for other bosses. Figure out what you want first, then find THAT woman.
@@nrsimmons178 honey it was sex. But I agree either you wanna have fwb or wife. Make it make sense.
You’re such an inspiration and great RUclips friend...lol! Thank you for being so transparent about your life. This is what sisterhood is all about. Sharing experiences that help elevate the next person. As well as, to help alleviate unnecessary pain and suffering. Bless you♥️
You are my type of girlfriend; I respect you for this discussion, thank you! 🙌 🤜🤛
Eva! Eva! I continue to tell my NEICES and other young ladies, the exact same things you have just shared. Lord thank you for this video. I am 59, divorced and like you I've had fine and handsome...not looking for that anymore. My ex husband was a wonderful provider... financially....he'd work 4 jobs and pay bills...sex was great!....let me stop right there cause my story is too long🤣🤣🤣
I love your videos 😍
I LOVE women like you who warns us young ladies. I try to warn women also💯🙌🏼 I’m 31, open minded and know what I want and deserve after gaining 92 pounds, being in the breadwinner for 6 years with a guy with no drive and was spoon fed all his life and I’ve had close family and even my mom watch me hurt and struggle and promote struggle and won’t give you game, letting you figure out the hard way . Soon as I left for good I lost all the weight and my life completely changed 🏋🏽♀️ I appreciate you boo 💕💕
I’m 18 and I got the message lol 😉✨
@@yeahimashley9515 Good job Pooh. I love to see the super young ones on board You’re at a great start 😍😍❤️💯. This stuff wasn’t so out there and talked about when I was 18 back in 2008. Soak up all the good Info and don’t be naive and foolish 😘
This was refreshing to hear because although I’m young with no children this is my perspective as well and people stay saying I’m crazy 😒😒 it’s truly annoying. If I’m letting anyone into my life it’s to add to my peace not disrupt it...and I will stand and never compromise on that!
Judge Lynne Toler always says do not get installed in a mans house & do not give out wifely duties for girlfriend prices
Oh how shallow for people to be in someone else's bedroom. Something that will never benefit them. There's nothing wrong with what you decided for. YOUR LIFE. From the bits you tell us.. You paid your dues.. I like your reviews that's what I tune in for. The other stuff is life lessions and that's ok
I'm not going to ask questions about anything but fragrance and neither should anyone élse
If you’re happy with your marriage/relationship/situation, then you’re doing you. If an older( how ever much older) gentleman is your flavor and he’s established then all happiness to you. All of us have criteria for our mates. You stuck to yours and you’re living the life you wanted. More of us ladies should stick to our plans for our lives. Makes for less stress. Mine is only 4 yrs older but established and mature. I’m spoiled and proud of it. I made the changes to my thinking and leveled myself up. I didn’t compromise. You just decide what works for you.
Yes, The Eva Monroe. Now that's grown women responsibilities/thinking. Thank you for this video.
Wait! Lord, I thought something was wrong with my RUclips when the screen started to go black. Anxiously awaiting part two! Great video!
Mrs Monroe you are the Queen of fragrance in my eyes but I LOVE these sit down chats you be giving us!
Can’t wait for part 2!
Hey Eva. I just dodged a guy like that. He is in his mid 60s having small children and I sensed that he wasn't gonna take care of me so I bounced.
Now, Mrs. Monroe, I'm gong to need to you come on with this part 2 bc you got a girl on the edge of her 💺!!
Like my mother says, if that man can’t upgrade you without your money... you need to say NO.
Paying half makes my mental illness start to show. 😆
Yes lawd...that half thing set me off
You is CRAZEEE🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
Its time for Eva to add a join button to her channel. This is worth money ❤️🙏🏿
Queen Eva, keepin' it REAL 👑🙌🏽
That's crazy, you moved to be a whole baby momma and suzie home maker and he want half. I get it sis. That was disrespectful. You there taking care of kids that don't even belong to you. That is crazy if you ask me. The audacity this fool.
OMG we had the same life! Married young, divorced young, left him with all of the furniture except a couch. Rebuilt from scratch by myself. Wasn't looking to start over yet again. 2nd time: Married Prince Charming - Love of my life and treats me with respect and does everything for his family. Life Partner.
Great video Eva! I’m still with the same husband throughout the fireworks, struggle, now we’re in the financial stability stage-Praise God. We have so many memories to share about those stages. A life partner for real. ♥️
You don't know how much I appreciate these videos! You are a TEACHER! Our lady Eva ❤️
The fact that so many of these comments couldn’t tell she was a well taken care of woman who has a husband who provides...... some of y’all need to learn how to read the room, y’all missing out on so many opportunities because you simply cannot read people.
& my AuntyEva beautiful as always 💜💜💜
👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
Her feminine energy & beauty says it all.
@@beac8238 😉 see you get it. I just wish more women would embrace their femininity
When a man asks you to marry him he should be able to take care of you better than you are taking care of yourself.
This is SO important.
So true, the only reason a man would think different is because he’s not mature enough to know the difference, or he’s in it for himself and he’s not really concerned about you. Either way you will pay in that relationship, financially and mentally.
This is the stuff that our young sisters need to be listening to. 💯 REAL‼️
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The old “you’re not doing enough” line.
Translation: give me your money and KEEP on doing what you’ve been doing. Meanwhile, you don’t have title to anything.
Lovin’ you, Eva.
Eva you don’t even need to explain anything to anybody but after this video I applaud you and respect you even more, just WOW 💕 👏
Your honesty is why I keep coming back, love, love your chat videos, please keep them coming👑👑
I love your story.... Feels so similar with those "split the bills" men..and 20yo ideas of what man I wanted..., I was married and a mother at 23.... And lost everything (except my son). For years I actively avoided dating because I needed to build myself up again. When i started dating again, I thought I was going to have to date older.. mostly because I wanted to be with somebody who was a little more established in their life.... Knew what they wanted.... Would probably be okay with not wanting to do a "marriage".... And also did not want to have any more children because I absolutely did not want to have any more children and I have no interest in the marriage process. Anyone I dated who was older than me, was not able to keep up with me because I am very active. I'm actually with a man who is 5 years younger than me, who is his own person, who has no interest in actually getting married, and does not want kids.. I'm so lucky I waited for the right person. We are very happy in our relationship together with no pressures or expectations of marriage or kids hanging over us. And I've been an empty nester for about 3 years as my son has been off at college.
Kelly Hughes, thank you so much for sharing. You are a very successful individual. Your relationship is wonderful also. God Bless You. Always best to wait for that special someone who shares your thoughts.
this is GOLDEN. "right idea but the wrong person", love that. 20 (about to turn 21) and I look forward to gaining wisdom like this so thank you so much
For me, this has been the best video you've ever done! So insightful and so me!
So many men are looking for sexual roommates!
I don't need a roommate!
Great video, DEva! I am 46 years strong and I don't do potential or possibilities only PENSIONS. So there's that...
He was actually looking for a roommate, not a partner. I would have done exactly what you did. 😃😃😃😃
Been to the peak 🙌🏽. Whoa!!! My man is 14 yes older than myself. I ain’t lookin to pay 1/2 of anything either. I’m too old for that!
Whew sis...not one lie detected! 🙌🏽 Pay half? He was looking for a roommate with benefits, no sir.
We have to let God teach us and show us what true love is. I so appreciate you bringing that up.
Oh girlfriend you can’t just leave us hanging like that you must come back and finish “come back EVA come back” I was all into it!!! LOL........
i was like nooooo at the fade out lol, why she do us like that
Right! I replayed it thinking I hit a button or something. 😄
She gone
Yup all into it to learn and shape up. Carve out our life so, we can be devoted and comfortable. There’s nothing wrong with that.
Before you even said it I knew he was in financial bind when he buy parents a house and two cars. Man you living check to ✔️.
Teach!!!! You wrong for leaving us hanging lol. That was a great story time and a wonderful message. I needed to hear that. I'm 36 and holding back from relationships possibly marriage all because I want that magnetic spark and butterflies with someone my age. I need to re-examine my priorities and give one of these more mature men a second look. Lol
"You're trying to take me down with you? I don't think so! I don't think so." I know that's right! To hell with that! LOL
Eva I have been watching you since day one. Yes I am an OG subs but I never comment on Parfums mind you I can't count how many parfums I bought because of you but Queen Diva of more mature ageeeee
today I had to say preach sister you basically have my life story omg. Lord I live rich now. A real man can't take a woman money. To understand this you just have to experienced it period. I will teach my daughter Hypergamy life. The life I have now I want that for every women 24/7 and 365 days period 🤩
You have a powerful testamony. We go through things in our lives to one day have to share in order to help someone else. You're a great motivational speaker thanks for sharing part of your life. 💖👏🏽
The gems that were dropped! Thank you.✨
There's no half in my generation baby,
I did the same thing Eva & been happily married for 21yrs. Bump the haters !!
Yes indeed...."to the peak". Ohhhh yes, you put it out there tonight and we want to hear more.
I really enjoy your candour and your strength to say hey this is what I brought to the relationship.
Awesome video! I'm currently 53 and unattached. I can say my outlook now on love and relationships have changed over the years. My priorities and what I'm looking for has definitely changed. I can so relate. Thank you for sharing!
Gurl, this was a Lifetime premier :-) Words of wisdom & I hope someone uses this in their life, Period! I can hardly wait til Part 2! 👏
Girl you took me back!!OMG SESSIONS! Those are entanglements
This is great to hear your real life experience. Personally, I refuse to be the starter wife to a man. I'm 25, but I don't date under 40. A man needs to be well established and secure in his masculinity or I would rather just be by myself period
Teach Sistah! This is why I subscribed. Teachable moments. Listen up Ladies
Eva I am 40 and I can understand everything you've said and been through. I've had these experiences you speak of, and now I'm at a point where I'm not looking for love, but comfort and peace of mind. Thank you ❤️ so much. Looking forward for pt 2.
PREACH! I married a gentleman that really loves me and respects me. I can tell you that I experienced love in such a different way than I was used to in the past. God prepared my mind to SEE love and think about it in the words Provider, Protector, Supporter, Lover and Friend. This takes us beyond the sex into a place of understanding and appreciation for each other. God is good. I am older and wiser and can truly appreciate what I have, who I am and what God has entrusted me with. Not to mention how serious God takes what He has entrusted to my husband. It's remarkable the things that we go thru to get us to this point where we can receive God's highest and best, designed especially for us.
Excuse my French binging your videos I f×#@ing love you. Thank you so much for your candidness and honesty. Very refreshing!!!
OMG I am hooked. This story is epic!
Always coming with the words of wisdom
Bravo for leaving Mr. 50/50! So glad you found out that you are worth the efforts of a courting gentleman. Women who give of themselves deserve a partner that matches their energy. Take care and keep on living your best life.
All I can say is. I know EXACTLY what you are talking about. I’ve been there . Heck in my mind I’m and soul sista I’m still there. Had to leave FIRE and DESIRE alone before it killed me. OMG!!!
Ms. Eva YOU are treasure 😊
"Half the bills" = "half the nookie!" GIRL!! That took me out!
I really appreciate your honesty. Not everyone would share what you’ve just shared with us. I so enjoy listening to you speak about your past experiences and can relate to much of it. Also by sharing your thoughts & feelings it can help a lot of other women. Thank you so much.
I know your channel is for the “mature” women but I subscribed anyway. I’m 28 and I love gems. This was my first time watching you and I’m about to tune into the rest of you videos !
Eva tell it! You're talking about maturity and wisdom. Over the years our wants, needs and bodies change.
I'm glad you have found a suitable mate.