Sharing my divorce story.
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- Опубликовано: 27 сен 2024
- Thank you for letting my share my story of why I got divorced and the truth about my marriage. I never thought this would be my story but it is and my intention is to help anyone else who might be in the same position.
I want to make it clear that by no means was I perfect in this marriage. I would actually go as far as to say I had some really toxic behaviors as well. However, they stemmed from being with someone who was constantly disrespecting me and it was hard for me to continue to have respect for him. We all have things we could be better at in a relationship but please know that snapping a few times at your partner or not being super loving is NOT equivalent to adultery/infidelity, constant lying, manipulation, and sexual abuse.
I'm sending you love and praying for you, my friend.
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Chapters:
00:26 - disclaimers + trigger warnings
02:00 - How we met + where things started
05:20 - married, moved Santa cruz
15:25 - moved to Ohio
20:00 - start of the end
26:30 - what happened right after I found out
31:15 - love bombing
32:20 - when I knew it was over
35:00 - on my own
35:50 - marital rape
37:05 - my testimony of faith
38:25 - praying over you
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I’m Muslim and in my community women tend to marry early and really idolize marriage until they face the reality of it. As women, we need to know ourselves better and work on our future before we get with someone. We need to know the guy as well and we need to stop being delusional
Most guys today are not worth marrying. Our society has a serious masculinity issue and women should just vet as hard as possible before even getting in a relationship or married.
@@TechOutAdamthere's a masculinity problem and you are living proof of that. 😂
@@ardordeleonno, you’re the proof of it.
@@DX-dno it’s you who are the proof
@ardordeleon If you are a mature man leaving a serious comment - you should take the juvenile "laughing emoji" off at the end of said statement; then your words would hold to be true...
I'm an atheist but the prayer at the end felt really nice and really spoke to me. It's comforting to think that someone I don't even know would pray for my wellbeing.
Albertson, this touched me so much. Thank you for watching this video with an open mind and heart. I truly am praying for you and I want you to know you are never ever alone! Thanks again for watching 😊
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I'm Christian my best friend is atheist I hope that one day God brings you back to us. I don't agree with everything in the church either but I do know God is real there's a difference from religion and Faith @albertsonjenkins
And Lauren you are so strong marriage is hard for me and I'm 35 I could imagine at 18
@@Mrs.Rodarte I appreciate the sentiment but I was never a Christian. I never believed in God. I was raised without religion and I will remain that way. I respect all religions but have no intention practicing any faith. But thank you for your kind words.
he had no business being a school photographer….
Oy! I thought this to, right away.
too
Literally the worst job for someone addicted to porn….
@@nkyryryI feel like something might have happened…
@@nkyryryyes, but it's not a criminal offence. 80%of men and around 30/40% of women are watching porn on the thing you're holding in your hand and that number is increasing.
This dude will probably never change. It's a shame. Your such a sweet beautiful girl. HIS LOSS
You understand this all? Wow you must be super smart
@@GettothegoneI know marriage life could be complicated and it can’t be just one person’s fault but this whole story just sounds like it’s the husband who did not these wrong stuffs
The best thing I learned in life is that I don't have to accept unacceptable behavior❤. No one does actually.
That why I role solo now because people cannot take accountability for their action
My mom and I are going through something incredibly similar. Watching your story, it hits home. My dad is struggling with sex addiction and refuses to seek help. He's cheated on my mom hundreds, if not thousands of times. He's spent thousands of dollars on porn and meeting up with people from the internet.
My mom filed for divorce this week and since then, he's been love bombing us... pretending nothing is happening. Its really tough to go through. The denile, the lying, the manipulation, etc. Its very abusive to not only us, but himself. Sending you a massive hug. Thank you for sharing your story.
I pray your father finds Jesus and repents! The devil only has 3 intentions: to Kill, steal and destroy. He hated family and hates love. Try to bring him to church! I hope all will be well💕 and I'm so sorry you and your mom have been experiencing this betrayal for years.
@@Rachel-yr7ch No, it's my job as a Christian. If you don't want to listen, then that's your decision, but I'm not trying to force anything. Just spreading the word. Jesus saved my life, and I know he can save anybody that allowed him to. I hope you have a great night💕
@@Rachel-yr7ch It's not a cult, it's the truth.
@@Rachel-yr7ch no one is forcing anyone into anything, they were being kind and clearly you are upset about it. Some people have religions ( including ) and no need to disrespect them! People like you are saddening
@@nataliafranco3471 exactly i personally don't believe in god but im not going to be disrespectful about it and call it a "cult" everyone has the right to believe any religon
The amount of mental gymnastics that people do before getting out of a situation is incredible
And then share it. So cringe
As soon as he was flirting with others during their high school relationship and was a porn user should have been enough to end things. The fact that he was an unbeliever when they started dating and her Christian parents did not intervene speaks a thousand words. Marrying at such a young age and in such a rushed way after the history of bad behaviour and broken trust is sad- young girls need to stand up for themselves and parents need to raise girls to be wise and discerning when choosing a husband. Teenagers are not ready for marriage.
@@lelaninelson7200 it’s not that teenagers aren’t “ready”. It’s that society/community, family is not Ready to be a law abiding demanding organized disciplined religious community that protects their own with ferocity and the community & State BACKS THEM UP. That’s what isn’t ready.
Two young kids thrust out Alone into a hedonist lawless Atomized wilderness? A Fool’s errand. Demise awaits them. This modernity experiment has failed over And over again.
If we don’t stop it, there will be nothing left.
All I can say is thank you for sharing. Forty years I lived in this and I’m struggling to find myself again.
I don’t understand thinking it makes sense for teens/early 20s to marry and role-play adulthood when they’ve not matured or learned who they are yet. It’s a huge disservice to young people that early marriage is still pushed as a realistic or ideal decision. People deserve the time to grow up before committing themselves to be a life partner. They owe it to themselves AND their future spouse to get to grow up.
What religion is this
There’s no where in the Bible to marry young
There's no ideal age to marry. You can gain emotional maturity or not at any age depending on the work you've done on yourself. The main thing about marriage is commitment to growing together. It doesn't matter if you're 20 or 40, you will either grow together or grow apart. Marrying later has the disadvantage of having lived your own way without compromise or taking into consideration another in your home. And age does not equal emotional maturity. As a therapist I have 30/40/50/60 year olds in my office that have no emotional regulation or maturity, they've simply never learned it. A good marriage has the incredible ability for you to 'find yourself'. You don't 'find yourself' in a vacuum, but with people that you trust deeply and are willing to take healthy feedback from.
It’s common for relationships to encounter obstacles, but there is always a solution. My own marriage faced considerable issues, but with appropriate guidance, my husband and I worked through them and deepened our connection. Solutions are achievable if you’re ready to work together. Stay hopeful-there’s always a way forward.
I’m facing significant relationship problems and can’t stand the idea of losing him. My love and longing for my partner are profound, and I’m ready to do anything to restore our connection. I would greatly appreciate any advice or help you could give.
Parting with someone you love is always a challenging process, but in my experience, I had the guidance of a spiritual guide who prevented my marriage from collapsing. His name is Father Akunna.
I'll quickly search for him online. Thank you. I'm optimistic that taking this approach will yield results for me as well; his absence is keenly felt.
I promise you will not regret it.
The whole manipulation around sex and physical intimacy and using porn as a manipulation tactic is something that I went through in my previous relationship. I was 18 back then. 26 now. I haven't dated since because healing from that relationship alone has been a very long journey. I have taught myself so much in the process. I have been extremely selective about the people I surround myself with. Your story and persona resonated with me so much. Thank you for sharing your story. It must not have been easy. I wish you all the hope, comfort, and warmth in the world.
I'm 24, not married (yet), but your story taught me so much about the reality of marriage. Thank you for being open and brave enough to bare your scars to us. I'm so in love with your energy and overall style (cottagecore is my go-to aesthetic when it comes to dressing up). May He continually bless and heal your heart as the time passes! ♥️
Thank you so much for watching ♥️
Getting together at 23 and married at 38 is one thing. But, married at 18 I can't even imagine.
I have not had this experience myself, but I’ve struggled with pornography. I’ve never gotten to the point of addiction but it was something I turned to occasionally when my hormones were raging and I should have been crying out to God or reaching out to other people instead. I knew in theory that it was harmful to me but refused to believe it was harmful to anyone else. Seeing what happened to you absolutely broke my heart. I broke down crying because I can’t imagine ever breaking someone’s heart the way yours was broken. I don’t want to let it get to that point. I’ve been growing more and more disgusted with pornography and I thank God for that. But this is that extra push that’s made me decide that I will not let myself get into marriage with a porn problem. I will not do this to another person. God bless you for sharing. You’ve helped change something in me.
This is so brave of you to share. Your words are going to help validate what many others cannot say but are struggling with. I’m so proud of you. Thank you for listening to my story ♥️
I have struggled off and on as well... it's a continual choice to honor God.
No man chooses porn over his woman. He resorts to it when he's neglected by his woman.
Dear Lauren, my heart actually kind of broke a little listening to your story. I'm so sorry you had to go through all of this and equally I am so inspired by your faith and by the fact that you're still holding onto God and his promises to you. May He strengthen you and bless you abundantly. Much love ❤️
Hi Isabel. Thank you so much for watching and hearing my story. Jesus has truly been so good to me and has helped me during this loss. I appreciate you and I am so grateful for you!
I love that you were able to so beautifully articulate on all you went through even despite it being such a horrible time in your life. I went through a horrible marriage and hope to be able to share my story and help others, like you have! Thank you!! God is so amazing and truly works all our pain and brokenness out for good! ❤
@@liaslovelylife I appreciate you ❤️❤️❤️
I also just went through a divorce as well, this past August, still in my 20s, after three years of marriage. The similarities to your story are almost haunting. The many tiny lies, the pornography, the half-finished book on how to salvage the relationship, the shame, the stress signals my body was giving me that I ignored, being told he’s no longer attracted to you, the cheating with an older woman but claiming it’s not “real” cheating towards the end of the relationship…seriously. You and I could probably talk for hours, lol.
From the bottom of my heart, I wish you the best in your journey forward. You are NOT alone, and I mean that in both the sense that God is with you and that others have gone through similar experiences. I felt like an alien going through my divorce, unwanted, and a failure to boot. Time has given me so much clarity and peace already and I’m sure it has for you as well. A friend told me (when everything was still so raw) that someday she hoped everything I was going through would be seen as God’s mercy. That day came faster than I ever could’ve thought. Good luck. ❤
every single aspect of your story resonates with me. it’s so crazy that so many women have dealt with this. thank you for sharing.
100% on the same wave length minus the type of person he cheated with. But so undeniably spot on.
Everything happens for a reason. Imagine finding all this out later in life with children involved. You dodged a bullet and will be much stronger going forward because of this, thanks for sharing
Exactly. Thanks so much for watching and listening with an open mind and heart
I completely identify with being within the first few months of marriage and things suddenly becoming awful. I got married at 21 and divorced at 26. I knew within the first few months - but I stayed for 4 years.
Same exact thing!
Great video, A month ago, my five-year relationship came to an end. I really can't stop thinking about the love of my life, who made the decision to leave me. I've done everything in my power to win him back, but it's all in vain, and I can't imagine my life with anyone else. I genuinely miss him and just can't stop thinking about him, even though I've tried my hardest to stop thinking about him. I'm not sure why I'm saying this here.
It's hard to say goodbye to someone you love; I experienced this when my 12-year relationship ended. However, I couldn't just let him go; instead, I tried everything to win him back. Eventually, I turned to a spiritual counsellor for assistance, and he was able to help me win him back.
Interesting! How did you locate a spiritual counsellor, and how can I get in touch with him most effectively?
His name is Father Obah Eze, and he is a great spiritual counselor who can bring back your ex.
he is father obah eze, he has great powers, he can help you.
Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked him up now online. impressive
Wow I just looked Father Obah Eze on the net he’s very legit thanks once again ❤
I had been really uneasy this week as I learned that my dear friend who just recently turned 18 is now engaged to a man who has cheated and lied throughout their 10 month relationship. I believe that in the church, young girls often fall into these situations because self love is not focused on, and many outdated ideas of a woman’s value have been perpetuated. I think we encourage grace to a fault when it causes young girls to fail to stand up for themselves and their boundaries in these sorts of relationships. I am truly sorry that this is your reality and I am praying healing over you. Peace be with you ❤
I followed you on Instagram a while back, but asked for a divorce this weekend. I’m not on social media right now, but I wanted to seek out your story. Thank you for sharing. We need more content around this- getting divorced young can be so isolating.
I am so sorry to hear this. This breaks my heart. Through this, I know you will find new strength and the wound will heal in time. I will be praying over you tonight.
@@LaurenJuarez thank you 💕 your story is so full of hope. I hope someday I can share mine.
I felt every single word. It tore my heart apart! I wish i could give u the biggest hug u ever received. I can relate.. divorced.. 3 kids.. ex has cyber-sex addiction..
I’m so so sorry to hear this. You are so strong though. Thank you very much for watching ♥️
I am just seeing this now. With every passing minute I told myself that I couldn't get worse. I am so sorry for all the emotional manipulation and abuse this guy put you through.
You are a princess and you deserve someone to match your light. I wish you health, healing and love
Lauren, you are so strong to come out and be vulnerable, truthful, and transparent to all of us. I pray for your happiness on this new healing journey. You are not alone and are loved by many! One day the right person will come along. You are a beautiful lady, stay strong and love yourself! We love you!
I am going through a separation/ divorce right now. Hearing and watching this is encouraging
I’m so so sorry to hear that. You are not alone at all!! I’m so glad that you found this video and it could be helpful for you 🤍
I went through such a similar thing with my ex boyfriend I remember how stressed out I was during that time my body was screaming for me to get out, once he cheated on me I finally felt free cuz I finally left. Praying for our healing💕💕
Hi, Lauren! Just popping in to thank you for sharing your experience. I'm a 30 year old lady currently nagivating the breakup of my own long term relationship. It's easily one of the hardest things I've ever had to do, so I can't imagine going through it at your age. I'm so happy for you for being able to find so much strength and wisdom and for being able to find so many chances for joy among the difficulty. Your content has been a great comfort for me the past few weeks - it makes me feel like I'll be okay, too. You are wonderful, and you are doing amazing. Whenever you see this, I hope you're having a good day. 💖
Lauren, I am praying for you. I can identify with you after 52 years of marriage to someone like this. I was 19 and he was 24 when we married, but I realized 2 weeks after our wedding that I had made a terrible mistake. We had 3 children and it was not a good life for them, but God watched over us and gave me 8 grandchildren. I left him last year at the age of 71. God is so good! He will see you through this season of your life. Keep the faith!
Would you have wished that you left him before having children? I also married young and even before the marriage he made terrible mistakes. I can even think of exactly when we should've broken up before things got serious. We are married at 23 now and have known each other for 9 years, we have no children nor any joint assets. Im reaching my limit after all these years and wondering if now would he tye perfect time to end things before it's too late.
The amount of grace you showed him. 💕 He will eventually realize what he lost. Continually trust the Lord & glad you got out of this toxic relationship! Stay strong
Hi Ellona! Thank you for watching this video and listening to my story. Jesus works in mysterious ways and Im truly grateful he has stayed with me this whole time and wont ever leave my side.
I am not sure someone that's so toxic will ever realize what he lost, but that's probably for the better, we don't want him trying to get back into her life
Watched this because I saw one of your TikToks, I am also a believer and got married really young (19) and my heart goes out to you for everything you’ve been through already 💛 Thank you for opening up and sharing and being a place for others to feel welcome
Wow. Thank you so much for coming over to watch from tiktok. It has been so incredibly hard to navigate this but kindhearted people like you, supporting my journey and cheering me help me so much🤍thank you again for watching
I'm not the one to comment or even watch a 40 min long video, but you literally had me from beginning to end. You seem like such a sweet caring girl, I cannot believe everything that's happened to you. I wish you lots of growth and happiness in the future, you truly deserve it ❤️
Wow. This comment really got me 🥺🤍 thank you so so much for saying that and taking the time to comment! I appreciate your support so much!🤎
Let this be a lesson to other young Christian women getting married young.
Mmm, let this be a lesson to other young Christian women about getting married unequally yolked*. There’s nothing wrong with Christian couples getting married young.
@@AlwaysAsherthis is the comment I was looking for ❤
@AlwaysAsher Exactly. Actually, it should be a lesson to any Christian of any age getting married unevenly yolked.
At the end of the day it’s a failing of her parents. To encourage marriage so young and high school dating with an unbeliever is illogical. Teenagers should not be getting married. Why wasn’t she taught to discern red flags and learn to have some boundaries and standards for how a boy/man can treat her? A lot of “turning a blind eye” resulting in this relationship continuing longer than it ever should have. Their entire timeline revolves around him- his school, moving for his study, marrying because he was leaving. What was she doing with her time? Studying? Working on herself?
Your video helped me release so much pain. I’ve been separated since march 2023, but I’ve been holding back because it’s too painful to think about. I was also with him 7 years, lived with him for 5. I lost my job too, I feel so lost. Luckily I have my parents and friends and the Lord never abandons us. You are sooo strong for sharing your story, being vulnerable. You are really helping me. Thank you ❤God bless you ❤
Lauren, thank you for telling us your divorce story. I'm feeling so many emotions at once after watching your video that I struggle to find the right words to express them. But if I can say the least -- stay encouraged to spread the word and talk about that which is usually overlooked when we talk about women's position in marriage. Thank you for including all the resources, studies, and links. I pray that the person who watches this finds the courage to listen to what their heart is telling them. The way you've told this story with grace gave me so much hope for healing in this world and I'm so genuinely happy to see you heal and learn to trust, love, respect, and value yourself. That picture in the white summer dress truly says a lot about what a beautiful, talented, creative, kindly smiling, valuable part of this world you are ❤And thanks to the most merciful Lord who's helped you see that in yourself at the right time and place. Sending hugs your way xx
Hi Ana. Thank you so so much for watching and hearing my story. Your words hold so much value to me and truly encourage me so much. I am so blessed to know you and call you my friend. Thank you for being so supportive and rooting for me
I was also 18 when I got married in 2021 and got divorced august 2022. He made me feel like I was wrong for having opinions different than his as it didn't align with the "home values" he shares w his family. The relationship became toxic as he wanted me to change only and to do whatever his parents said and listen to his brother's verbal abuse, including to not work, stop my education and have a baby asap; it was a joint family system. I'm so glad my entire family was supportive and I got out in time. I'm now studying, working a government job and hanging out w my friends. I miss having a partner but this is better crying everynight wondering why I was just so unhappy and heartbroken. Stay strong girls and guys
How didn't you know this was the kind of person he was before getting married. With the person in the video, it made sense cuz these were things that he kept hidden. But with stuff like his family and values, that doesn't make sense
Lauren,
I just found your Instagram and saw your post bearing your soul about your divorce and journey to self love. While I haven’t dealt with things like this in my marriage, I have had a friendship which had some of these emotional abuse tactics used almost daily. So while I don’t know all of what you went through, I do know a glimpse. And I know God brought me out the other side. Keep going girlie.
“She is clothed with strength and dignity; she can laugh at the days to come.”
Proverbs 31:25 NIV
You’re a beautiful soul. And I see the joy of Christ shining in you as you work your way through this tough journey. From one sister in Christ to another, I love you.
Babe.. your story resonates so deeply with me as I had some eerily similar happen to me too. I began dating my ex (luckily we never married but we do have children) when I was 15 or 16 and went through the same patterns of lying, porn addiction and cheating. In the end he admitted to thinking he was a borderline sociopath. I was just a shell coming out of the relationship after 5 years. He cheated on me while I was pregnant. Everything was my fault because I was so “emotional”. It took YEARS and many hours of therapy to heal. And I truly believe I only made it because I had two kiddos to take care of. I had to prove that he couldn’t break me. I’m so so sorry this happened to you. I don’t think these types of people realize how deeply they’re breaking another persons soul and I’m not sure they care but please know there’s so many of us out here who do care. Please reach out if you ever want to chat. I’d love to talk.
Thank you for sharing your story with me. This must have been incredibly difficult to to go through but here you are. You made it and I’m so proud of you for going to therapy and healing through this!! Praying over you and your children!♥️
Discovered your channel through ig today and listening to just the short I was fully invested to hear your story. And , my heart has been broken, and shifted in many ways watching your story, I feel so deeply for you and the women who have gone through this - you are loved and supported by so many of us hearing this.
Thank you for sharing but also allowing a space for others to speak and think on these things and just have a catharsis.
Keep speaking , keep being you and keep healing you are light for so many 💜
You are so so brave for sharing this, thank you. I feel less alone hearing your story, though mine is different in many ways. When you said you realized you were worth more than the situation you were in I nearly started crying because I have felt the same way before. Also, when you shared that he said he didn't find you attractive my jaw literally dropped. You have such a delicate and feminine beauty and style, and a gracefulness about you that I envy- and I mean that wholeheartedly. I also teared up when you prayed for us. Thank you Lauren. Our God is truly the best mender of broken hearts and truly does reap joy from tears.
Lena, this touched me in ways I cannot explain. Thank you so so much for saying this. Wow, that is just so incredibly sweet and kind of you! Thank you for watching this and listening to my story. Jesus really is the Prince of Peace and i feel so much comfort knowing he will never leave our side!
Lauren, thank you for your faith and courage. I've had similar things happen in my marriage and this video was unbelievably helpful for me. I wish you all the joy and I know God will continue to bless you for your faith and kindness ❤
Thank you so much for watching and for sharing your story ♥️
Thanks for being so open and sharing 🙏🏻 I know that if I ended up getting married to my long term boyfriend when I was younger I would 100% ended up in divorce. So glad God got you out of that situation. Jeremiah 29:11 ❤
Thank you so much Sarah, this means so much to me. That verse is my lifeline!!!
Looked up this verse and went into tears reading it..very empowering 🙏🏼
I don't know how I reached to this video but it's unbelievable how such a beautiful and intelligent girl has gone through such bad experience.. 😔
Thank you so much for saying that and validating how I feel. It’s been hard but Jesus can heal all wounds!!♥️
I'm not Christian but wow did I feel emotional with your prayer at the end. Thank you for this, for sharing and talking and being brave, for showing that it's possible to exist on your own. I wish you so much love and peace xx
i think it’s a sign :))
its not on our own, its with Jesus ❤
I was in a relationship that ended when I mentioned my ex’s pornography obsession. He tried to justify that with depression. I really thought he was the one, so it was really shocking for me. For the past two years I have felt so alone wondering if I was the problem for feeling insecure and uncomfortable with him watching those kinds of things. Your story really opened my eyes- I feel so relieved that I was definitely not the problem. Thank you for telling your story, and I’m praying for your continued healing ❤️
i know that some people will not be happy with what im about to say but as someone who was in a relationship with a non-believer, you have to marry someone in the faith. You have to have the same faith, values, and morals. Its the only way a marriage can work. Sending prayers for healing 💗
Saying this out of love. (❤) I also got married young (21) & have had many friends also marrying young (were all Christian) … it’s important BEFORE marriage, to take the time to get to know your significant other. Be honest & vulnerable. Participate in your local church together, join ministries, have leaders watch over your relationship. Talk about finances, morals, and what trauma you went through as children. Basically the idea is to protect yourself from getting hurt before making the big commitment. Marriage can bring out both the worst / best in people. But before marriage is the time to learn about a person … and marriage can be messy, it’s not always going to be perfect. May God will protect you & heal you.
and live together... even if its against your beliefs...you dont have to have sex...
Lauren, you shared with such grace. It was never supposed to be this way, but I know God is using you to be a light to others who are going through similar situations. You are brave, resilient, kind, and beautiful inside and out. I love you pal🤍
Thank you so much for watching this Brynne and for being here for me for so long. You truly are a friend that I feel so grateful to have in my life. You are a part of my healing journey and I couldn't be more grateful for that!
Gurl you’re absolutely gorgeous, it’s his loss. I pray you find someone who will treat you right 🩷🩷🩷
I'm so sorry Lauren. Your strength is inspirational and I know you'll continue to be a beacon of light in this world. I'm proud of your courage through this process. God #1 and yourself #2 know more about yourself than anyone else. I wish you the best that this life has to offer and God bless you and your family
Hi Ethan, it's so good to hear from you! Thank you for watching this and for listening to my story. You say the beginning and from an outside perspective, hearing what was really happening myst be strange in some ways. I appreciate you listening and saying this!
I just want to give you a big hug!!!
I’m sorry you went through this.
I want to give YOU the biggest hug! Thank you for watching ♥️
I relate to this SO much. Currently going through a divorce due to my STBX porn addiction and being lied to/manipulated for 4 years. Fell sooo ill from everything, ending up seeing 5 different specialists during that time.
I’m so sorry you had to go through this ordeal, and all these situations.
Love is supposed to be a beautiful life experience, where people care for each other & navigate life together.
I hope you find the strength over time, take care of yourself, heal from this & go on to love & life your life the way you want & deserve ✨ 🌻
First, I am so sorry you suffered this way -- and for so long. Thank you for sharing your story and helping others! One lesson for all viewing this is to walk away with the first major event. Your time is precious -- valuable; don't waste it on fools. "When people show you who they are, believe them the first time" -- MayaAngelou.
Thanks for sharing this, Lauren. I can’t even imagine how hard and painful was pass through this relationship. I got so emotional when you talked about deserving someone better because I had a similar situation with my ex boyfriend, I accepted a lot of things that wasn’t good for me, I exceeded all my limits and values just to not lose him, until it got to the point where I lost myself.
That's when I went back to church and I felt in my heart that he wasn't for me and that God is separating someone better for my life, so I broke up with him. But it’s still difficult because we are in the senior year of high school and have to see each other every day, but I know that I’m not alone, God is with me, such as he is with you.
So thank you for your vulnerability in sharing this online, I appreciate how strong and brave you are.
I hope that God continues to bless your life and always believe in his plans, even if you don't understand them now.
P.S. sorry if the grammar is wrong, I'm brazilian 🇧🇷 and please keep making videos here for youtube! I will love to see them ❤️
Wow Fernanda. This touched me. Thank you so much for sharing a part of your story here. I know that me as well as others will be really encouraged by what you said. I am so glad you also know Jesus and know that he will always be with us in times of trouble and throughout our everyday. Thank you again, for watching and for sharing this.
Thank you for sharing your story. Here’s a recap of mine so hopefully you can relate.
I was married at 22 and divorced at 28. Not including marriage, we were together for over 7 years. He was my everything. We were the best of friends. But one day he came forward and told me about his porn addiction. It was something he’d been struggling with since before we were even together. He hid all of it from me. I saw red flags, but like you, I brushed them off. It crushed me, but I was willing to work through it. But unfortunately there was more. He then felt the need to completely come forward. He told me about girls, lies, deception and manipulation through the years. It was completely horrifying. At the same time he didn’t want me telling anybody about our issues. So I remained silent (which was the worst thing I could have done). I was miserable for months until my breaking point. Once I finally reached out and started talking to friends and family, I realized I wasn’t crazy, though my husband at the time made me feel that way. Thankfully it was an amicable divorce. And GIRL! Changing your last name again is the worst! Anyway, it’s been 6 months and I’m starting to feel more independent and healing more each day. I hope you focus on yourself and start healing as well. ❤️
Lauren, thank you so so much for sharing your story. My heart breaks for you ♥️ You are so strong and such an inspiration. Your testimony that God was by your side through all of this, has been such a comfort for me, as my relationship with God has been rocky. Thank you for sharing your story and I wish you all the best as you go towards the wonderful life that awaits you
Hi Emma! Thank you for watching and I am so glad that this was able to encourage you and bless you in some way! Please remember Jesus is always here with us and just wants to hear from us. He is a father and a friend and loves you so much!
thank you so much for sharing your story. i stumbled across your instagram page through reels, and as a christian who is getting engaged really soon (he just asked my dad!!) and will be 19 or 20 when we do get married, i was curious as to what happened. thank you for sharing and giving me more confidence in my future husband, and i am so sorry that this was your experience. i pray you can find a man who loves and honors God with his whole heart.
#1 don’t marry straight out of high school.
You’ve inspired me so muchhhhh in my healing journey
Thank you so much for watching and I am so glad this video could help support you on your own journey!
Yeah. When someone says they "struggle" with p0rn. . . No such thing. Just don't look at it, if you actually want to change. Shouldn't even give someone who says that a chance.
I’m so sorry to hear about the pain you went through. I can’t wait to see what is in store for your future 💕
needed this, going through the same scenario. thank you Lauren.
You deserve so much love 💛 you seem like such an amazing, loving, and wholesome person. I’ll say a prayer for you and I wish you nothing but happiness and healing in your life. You’re beautiful inside and out and I’m proud of you for everything you’ve overcome.
Thank you so much ♥️
Love you Lauren 🥺❤️❤️ My heart is broken hearing about your story. So proud of you for sharing and how far you’ve come- and most importantly how much you look to and lean on God ❤️
Anna, I truly wouldn't be where I am right now without you. You have been such an answered prayer to me and I am so grateful to know you
You made a clean break. Feel the pain and sadness, but allow yourself to feel the relief too. You’re young and wiser now. 💐
your story hits home that it was really hard to watch because a lot of the things that happened to you all the way up to the inadequate and transactional part out of fear. I felt so clueless on what to do most part of that relationship, confused on if this was something normal to deal with as a partner or if I was doing something wrong. It was years ago but now 8-9 years later I can say that we both were young and I dont even think he realized what he was doing to me or how this was affecting me. I'm so sorry you had to go through this, its hard to 100% know who your partner really is sometimes with all the technology, socials, and personal lives ppl have on their devices. Thank you for sharing your story.
Never feel bad about divorcing a man! Even if you weren't the best partner, a real man should accept you no matter what you do, and if he doesn't he doesn't deserve your time.
Glad you were able to leave him… hope you are doing better now … sending good vibes ur way!!! You are enough you are beautiful 💜
You are so so strong and brave Lauren. My heart breaks for you. But truly thank you so much for sharing. You’ve actually taught me a few things about a current situation I am going through in a relationship. So just thank you.
Lord, I pray for full restoration and healing over Laurens life. I pray that her faith continues to grow. I pray you give her peace. I pray that you heal her of any health issues she has come to struggle with in Jesus name. God keep Lauren wrapped in Your arms. That she never forgets she is a LITERAL princess! She is Your daughter. The daughter of the King. She deserves a life full of true genuine love and happiness, nothing less. Amen❤️
Hi Caroline! Thank you so much for listening to my story. it definitely was a lot to go through but I know Jesus will use this story to help others which is just what he does best!!
That prayer means more to me than you know. I don't know if I have had anyone pray for FULL healing for me and that is what I need after all of this. Thank you so so much
Been considering divorce. We also had a rocky start to our marriage, as we planned on moving in with his father and step mother but circumstances made it to where we had to move in with my mother. Starting the very next day after a got married, things were miserable. He started being cold and mean, withholding affection, and just this chronic tension between us. I kept trying to figure out why, but he wouldn't tell me. After months of this, he finally told me its because we didn't go with his plan and he felt like I needed to be punished for it. We already had moments that really messed up the trust between us but that thoroughly broke my trust. 3 years later he still hides his feelings and when he's in a bad mood he acts cold and rude to me even if his mood had nothing to do with me. A lot has happened since then and even though it feels like we are making progress, my anxiety keeps getting worse and its eating at me. I keep feeling like my life might be better if we divorced, but I don't know what I would even do.
Same here after 24 years married, I am fed up and need to leave now. The disrespect and lies and constantly making the marriage open, I am done with.
Were you guys practicing celibacy prior to the unification?
Sometimes the desires of our flesh, can lead us to seeing past things, when we wouldn’t otherwise.
QUICK VENT:
I got engaged a few days ago, and despite being super overwhelmed with joy, something kept tugging at me ever since the engagement, and I had to let my now fiancé know that I am not ready for marriage yet.
And although it was a tough convo to have, I feel that him and I both have a lot of growing to do, and I would also like to have more for myself before becoming one with him.
I will say though, that us choosing to start and remain consistent within our celibacy journey, helped a lot in being able to have that (more like “those” cause there were a few convos had) conversation.
I feel like I need to take things slower, because I feel like only time will tell if he’s the right man for me.
Hoping that he is, but I don’t want to control the situation or anything. I’m literally just gonna focus on school and let God do what God does best lmao.
BACK TO YOU:
You are a warrior though and you know what they say, “humans make plans and God laughs. “
See what you can take from this season and see the areas in which this situation has provided you an outlet to grow.
Even in a healthy relationship, God needs to remain the main focus, otherwise it can all easily fall apart. And it’s so much easier said than done.
That’s one of those, I need to practice what I’m preaching moments haha.
Praying for you healing ❤
Thank you so much for sharing. It’s been years since I watched a RUclips video from start to finish. You’re an inspiration and good luck on your journey ❤
Lauren, thank you for sharing
Thank you so much for watching Amanda ♥️
Ma’am your prayer 🥹 thank you.
I have a similar situation to you but I'm contemplating divorce. Ive know him since we were 14, married at 20 and we're now 23. There have been multiple problems and I even know exactly when we should've broken up before things got out of hand. At the moment the main problem is that he avoids going to college and driving, a few months ago, him getting a job was a huge problem too. I'm keeping a journal to analyze the situation so that I can learn from this and make an informed decision.
Unfortunately some of us go through these experiences and have to learn from it. But, this gives us the chance to make more informed choices. I cannot express how happy I am to know your story, I cant talk to my family or friends about this issue and even though this is a video and not a conversation there is so much insight you have. I'm sorry you had to go through this, I dont wish it on anyone. Im also a Christian and your prayer at the end really touched my heart ❤️
13:23 I got shingles when I was 14 cause of stress. I understand that part of your story. I’m sorry you went through this. 😢
I feel for you girl. Its so painful too!! Thank you for watching!
I can’t believe the last part????? “You’re going to be ok” argh.
Wow Lauren. This is very hard to watch but thank you so much for having the courage to share. Rooting for you always, okay? ❤
Thank you for watching Fabi. I appreciate you being so supportive to me for so long
I can feel the strength in you, you are so deserving of everything beautiful that God has to offer!
God bless, definitely going to be keeping up with your journey 💛✨
Wow Lyric thank you so so much for saying this and for watching ♥️
personally for me this is insanely relatable 💘💘💘 sending love , I’m 24 years old now , healing will happen ❤️
Thank you for watching and listening to my story Kaylen
Thank you for sharing your story and vulnerability. I am not a Christian but I really appreciate your genuine prayers. I hope you are taking the most care of yourself and health xx
This makes me want to be a better husband.
The Bible is a lamp unto my feet and a light unto my path.
Oh I’m so so glad to here this!!!
I'm so sorry what you've gone through, you are incredibly strong, stable and together.
You keep working on yourself, you keep growing and becoming the best Lauren you can.
You are a light to other women, I know I'm a man but I'm divorced and I feel your pain.
As time goes by, healing occurs, thank Jesus He will never leave your side.
You're very inspirational, keep sharing your story, your videos are amazing.
Fall down seven times, get up eight.
Thanks so much for watching and for saying this Paul! I am glad that you could relate to this video and the ways that divorce can make you feel. I appreciate your encouragement as well!
@@LaurenJuarez You're very welcome Lauren. You are beautiful inside and out I can tell, you are not the one at a loss here.
You keep shining.
Thank you for sharing. I’m so sorry you went through all of this. I see your strength, it’s very empowering to see. ❤
I’m sending you so much love, you deserve much much much much better. You are strong, you will be absolutely fine on your own, I am certain of this :)
Wow thank you so so much!!
My story is almost identical- it is insane. I’m so sorry this happened to you. I hope your heart heals and you find fulfillment in life
I’m praying for you sister! I was SA from my ex. I’m sorry had to go through this. God has a purpose for you! ❤️💜🙏🏻
Thank you for sharing your story. You are so beautiful, inside and out, and I’m so sorry you were treated like this. God has given you so much strength and resiliency, and it’s inspiring! God’s got this! Can’t wait to see how your story continues!
You are so sweet thank you for watching 🤍
Hi Lauren. I stumbled upon your story from your viral Instagram reel. I just want to encourage you for remaining in Jesus. I see that you are a young girl who is maturing and growing in the faith. Don’t let your fire for Jesus go unkindled. I am sorry for your divorce and the things you went through. I appreciate that you shared even you had made mistakes and carried toxic habits. That’s the reality of us all, even as Jesus followers. But because of that, He is sufficient to supply us what we need: wisdom, strength, courage, peace, His LOVE… I’ve been married to my wonderful wife of almost 2 years now. It has been hard at times but it’s been a joy more times than not. I’m growing in the pursuit of what it means to be a biblical husband - it’s hard work.
I pray that if marriage is still a desire of yours, God will equip and raise up a fine young man who will be the kind of husband that models Christ. I pray for your healing and continued growth in the Lord. I pray you would grow deeper in the truth and knowledge of the Lord and may that radically inform how you live!
God bless.
Thank you so much!
I wish I could hug you! Your were fighting with all you had for your marriage, but it takes two. May the Lord heal you. Don't forget that you are gorgeous and godly woman; you are so valuable.
I pray that the Lord makes you feel as loved as you really are by Him and by others around you. Lord bless, thanks for sharing ❤️
I wish I could give YOU a big hug! You are so sweet for saying this and for watching. Thank you Iris♥️
Oh sweet lauren 😭 i’m so sad thinking about how heartbroken you felt going through this. I’ve gone through something similar with an ex bf (he used to watch a lot of xxx videos) and I understand how it can affect your self esteem 💔 I love you so much and I’m sure god has a greater plan for you. You deserve all the love and peace.
Sandra thank you so much for watching this. I am really sad to hear you have experienced something similar, its so painful to go though and makes you feel confused and unsure of the future at times which can certainly feel disorienting. I am so glad you are with a sweet husband now who cherishes you! Thank you for being here for me for so long.
Thank you for sharing your story, Lauren! I just found your IG reels last night and something about your spirit really touched me, so I followed. I’m so sorry that you had to go through this 😔.
Thank you for sharing your story! I am so sorry this happened. You are fearfully and wonderfully made (psalms 139)
Thank you so much for being so bold to speak out about this! Thank you for sharing your story along with your faith. I love seeing how the Lord uses people to help others in this way. Prayers going to you!!
I appreciate you so much
Thanks for sharing. I'm so sorry you were betrayed over and over, but it seems that you've learned so much from the experience. I hope you find your forever person and get all the happiness you deserve.
Thank you for sharing your story. It will help a lot of women to recognise signs and to be extra cautious
Thank you so much for watching! ♥️ i Appreciate this comment!
Hey, I really thank you. I hear your story because there is a lot of similarities regarding yours to mine. I don't want to share my story but I can really relate to you and I can say I was comforted and also encouraged to move forward. Not looking back. God is ahead of us, right?
I resonate with how trusting you were towards him. (In my own experiences) We keep giving them the benefit of the doubt even through the countless times they've lied, gaslit us and manipulated us, because we have so much love to give, so much so, that we take the love reserved for ourselves and give it all to them. We make them our entire world and just like you said, they make you feel like you'll have now idea how to live without them.
I'm so sorry for all that you've been through, but I'm so glad to have found you on IG. As a 19 year old Christian, who's dealing with depression, boarderline personality disorder (as a result of failed relationships and friendships) and anxiety, I've truly found peace in seeing your posts, not just for myself but for you too. You're really an inspiration and I pray that nothing but love, joy, peace, acceptance, comfort and strength will come out of what you've faced, in Jesus' name. Thank you for sharing your story with us.❤️
Hi Lauren! I'm here watching this video and listening to your divorce story and thinking that you fell in love with a narcissist. He only thought about himself and his pleasures. He only used you for his needs. Narcisists don't have souls they are incapable of genuinely loving others. They prey on highly empathetic people to lie and manipulate. I'm really glad you were able to get away from someone that is a danger to your soul. thank you for sharing.❤