What REALLY helped me with overcoming lust when I became a Christian was asking God to take away my sexual desires until it is time for me to get married. I know that they were a gift from Him, and He has so graciously taken them and tucked them away for safe keeping until I need them again. I also am careful of what I watch, read, etc. to be responsible and not stir those feelings up again. If you reading this are struggling with this I would encourage you to ask Him to do the same for you! 🙏🏼
He still didn’t remove my sexual desires. I prayed for Him to remove it months ago but I’m still burning. Young single healthy men who are abstaining burn a lot
@@tainoloco2361 I cannot imagine how it must be for men, and I am sorry to hear that you are still struggling. I still believe that God can do it for you because He did it for me. I would encourage you to also abstain from anything that stirs desire within you. Personally, when I prayed this prayer I also cut out all secular music that spoke of anything about love and desire, I also do not look at, read or watch anything that would stir those desires. This is really important because although God can temporarily remove it we also must be responsible not to pick it back up. I encourage you not to give up hope, continue to bring it before Him until He does it, and I will pray for you also. Love and Blessings 🙏🏼🤍
@@tainoloco2361 Hey I was in prayer this morning and my mind ran on you.. I know I already replied, but I wanted to also tell you that sometimes when we really struggle with something it may require deliverance. I know I needed deliverance for something that I had had been pleading with the Lord to take from me, and He didn’t right away because it was demonically influenced and I needed to reject it and go through deliverance. I am not saying that is your case, but it would not hurt to go through a deliverance prayer for lust. There are people like Isaiah Salvidar and Vlad Savchuk on RUclips that have videos on those prayers if you’re interested. And lastly, I encourage you to use those moments of weakness to seek God. When you feel those temptations and desires. As hard as it may be, discipline yourself and go to God. Pick up your Bible and read something, because the word of God is our weapon against our enemy, sin. Also talk to Him, tell Him everything you’re feeling because He’s not afraid of our ugly parts. Give Him those feelings and ask Him for grace and He will surely help you. Be encouraged, beloved. God sees your struggle and He honors your will to obey His commands. He will never abandon you. I will continue to pray for you.🙏🏼🫶🏼
@@tainoloco2361 I have posted two replies to you and it doesn’t seem like they came through. Nonetheless I have been praying for you and I wanted to say that sometimes when we really struggle with something it may require deliverance. I know that I needed deliverance for something I had been pleading with the Lord to take from me and He didn’t right away because I needed to reject it and go through deliverance and now I am free. I am not saying that is your case, but it would not hurt to go through a deliverance prayer for lust. I know this can be a touchy subject, and everyone doesn’t believe it but if you’re interested there are a number of RUclipsrs that do deliverance prayers- Isaiah Salvidar, Vlad Savchuck, etc. But lastly I would encourage you to use those moments when you’re struggling with temptation and desires to run to our Heavenly Father. As hard as it may be in the moment, learn to discipline yourself in this way. Pick up your Bible and read something, because the word of God is our weapon against our enemy, sin. Also just talk to Him, tell Him everything you’re feeling because He’s not afraid of our ugly parts. Give Him those feelings and ask Him for grace, and He will surely help you. Be encouraged, beloved. God sees your struggle and He honors your desire to obey His commands. He will never abandon you. I will continue to pray for you. 🙏🏼🤍
I struggled with lust. I fell into pornography and self satisfaction. I dealt with this for about four years. But God came and healed me ! And it was only when I truly repented and sought God that I got healed. So let this be your reminder that God still heals and hears our prayers. Don’t be afraid or ashamed HE cares for us. 1 Peter 5:7 ♡︎ Amen Hallelujah 🙏🏾✝️❤️
Amen! Thank you for sharing your testimony. Our God is so gracious and he’s truly a redeemer. We are to be set free from sin as children of the most high. When we let the Lord in fully he will be our saviour ever single time ❤️🙏🏽
@@CAI.DREAMS Yeah ofc 😊 I just began seeking God more and in that time i resisted the temptations what made me stronger in the spirit and after a lot of prayer and faith and time God heald me. The healing process was basically Isolation for me. Where God purified and sanctified me. Working on my character and mind and heart I would say. :)
Can i ask a question? I want to repent but (as silly as this may sound, i don't know if i truly mean it) I'm just scared of going to hell. How did you get to a place where you were truly tired of falling into pornography? (I hope this made sense) lol.
The struggle is real, but thats precisely the reason Jesus was crucified on that cross, so we could also overcome sin and lust, which is indeed one of the most destructive sins one can deal with.
Amenn!!! A pastor once said: sin is like a roommate that constantly trashes our house. But because of what Jesus has done for us the house has been paid for: we are now the owners! Unfortunately, we don’t walk in the gift of the cross, we don’t accept the price that’s been paid so we keep letting sin into our homes thinking it has a right to be there. It doesn’t!! We have been set free by the blood of Jesus. We will be tempted by the enemy, sin will come knowing on our door, even Jesus was tempted. But we have authority to say NO GET OFF MY PROPERTY IN JESUS NAME! 🗣️🗣️
Thank you for mentioning, that for us women hormones have such a big impact on our feelings! Since I realized, that I have certain wishes and feelings always at the same time every month I was able to be a bit more compassionate to myself because I now know, that it's just part of my biology and will get back to normal in a couple of days... So, ladies, don't condemn yourselves for it!
I found out I was pregnant by a man I dated when I was in the world. Since I gave my life to Christ we are unequally yoked and he’s not worthy to be husband. It’s hard to deal with the fact I now have a baby with a man who isn’t nor would ever be my husband but I know Christ gives me strength and everyday he heals my heart 🤍
Same, I regretted ever dating him, I still do ...and I'm struggling to forgive myself. It took a long time for me to appreciate/ accept the pregnancy. My baby's here now & I love him.
"I will live a fulfilled life with or without a partner" - no safer place to be or else the presence of God. Prayer and words like this will doubtless strengthen the will to overcome. Though not a woman yet I'm so glad how the words of Christ coming through you helps all.
Fantasy is one of the most subtle yet evil sins out there. You have to remember that your fantasies submit to the Lord. Cut out all the stimuli that might be causing it. If you're watching any fictional content, I highly advise you to stop. If you're in fandom spaces, delete the account and leave the space. Identify the thought and remember 2 Corinthians 10:5: We take every thought captive and make it obedient to Christ. I pray that you have the mind of Christ and that you can identify the desires in your heart that fantasy is stimulating and that you may take those to the Father. Fantasy is absolutely a backdoor for the enemy to sneak in sexual sin so please be vigilant. God is the only thing that can satisfy the yearning in your soul. I hope the Prince of Peace covers you. You are not alone.
I do this so much too. I’ve done this for such a long time. Like a really long time. And I was so addicted to it I needed to be on my own, daydream, and make up false scenarios and I would catch myself sitting on my bed for hours and hours and hours on end doing this. I did this to: 1. Pass time - I was bored and when left with my thoughts it left me with too much so I ran to daydreaming 2. Did not like my own reality - I ran from my own reality by making my own. I lived in my own world with made up people. And fantasized everything I’ve never done. 3. Dreams - I daydreamed things I wanted to look like, do, and experience. Instead of working out I imagined my dream body. These are false desires. Reality can be hard to function in when you’re never there almost. Many people do it and don’t understand how truly important is it to stay alert when this happens.
I think Messages like this will really pull and stretch people but in a positive way. Sometimes we as believers forget that EVERY desire and "ambition" must be first submitted to the lord. If we don't do this we risk creating a false Idol in our hearts that MUST be destroyed. Great message Deborah.
This video is an absolute blessing, I find myself dealing with desires that some days feel like a burden and so isolating. I was getting to know a guy I met recently and ultimately had to take space away from him because our values didn’t align and some days I feel that burning desire to keep him in my life he makes me feel so bubbly and it’s hard to give myself grace for still liking him. It’s also hard because I did find a lot of comfort and happiness in his company. I will pray about this and please pray for me to have strength and grace for this part of my life. Thank you for your wisdom girl! ❤
This is SO ON TIME ! I’ve been avoiding talking to God, I’ve allowed my heart to harden so that i can entertain my desires without the guilt , I’ve been giving into the loneliness and didn’t want the “burden “ of upholding Gods words and feeling like the only one set apart always
Your story is very similar to mine, I was exposed to porn at very young age by mistake, and things went south south from then on. I stopped watching porn years back but my mind became breeding ground for a lot of stuff. It has been my dirty secret and it leaves me feeling dirty and ashamed and yet I could not get myself to stop making lustful scenarios in my mind. I am on a journey with Jesus Christ and one of my prayers is purification of the mind, renewal of the mind and restoration to my former innocence. Your story is inspiring❤😊
A thing that I’ve observed in the body of Christ is that we often times use the scripture seek ye first the kingdom of God for everything except for when it comes to marriage. Suddenly we don’t have to seek God on this matter. We have to understand that marriage is one of that thing that will be added unto you. The same way you know the other things were of God for you, is the same way you’ll know when God send you you’re spouse.
God does have a husband for you 💯 lol I just feel this strongly even though it’s not guaranteed. God grants the desires of the righteous heart. You don’t idolize marriage & that’s where you have to be before your spouse is revealed. It’s a beautiful thing to be content with just you & God 🫶🏽
I wished that I had never gone to my older brother's room and looked at his computer would kept me from a lot of hardships, but thankfully God saved me His mercy is great.
The fact that I woke up this morning and asked God that if I do end up dating again, to send me “the one”. The man that is God fearing, the man that will love me and my kids unconditionally (and vice verse), the man that will also be my very best friend, etc. This was right on time. I’m praying for us!!! Y’all the options out here are quite QUESTIONABLE 🥴
Not everyone is called to earthly marriage but we are all called to marriage with God. We are the bride 🥹 Sis thank you for ur video I’m praying for you.
Lolllll this is a topic I run away from bc mannn , in the past i've had terrible taste in men😭 I think the dating (getting to know someone better) is sensible !! I don't wanna just jump into a relationship without being bestfriends !
Sameee sis!! I can relate 😭 But in Jesus name no more, he is our example now so if a man doesn’t aspire to be like Jesus we flee from him faster than lightning 🏃🏾♀️➡️
I stopped praying and walking with God and I stopped feeling peace and contentment. I sought out my validation outside of God and this is God bringing me back I love how God is faithful and always pulling me towards him when I'm pulling away I had a heart break a few weeks ago but upon watching this I see it was God 🥺🙏 he was redirecting me I love my God
Girl, God has been using you to directly help me on my walk with Him. Along with my prayer for finances (which God answered amazingly!), I've also been praying this week about a guy who I've happened to recently reconnect with. After months of being fine, i find my feelings have reemerged THIS week. You've reminded me to put my emotions back on the altar, and to be ok with whatever the Lord says, because His love is much more than enough!! Please continue to pray for me sis🙏🏾💕
This topic is quite needed in times like these. I will trust Gods plan, whatever He has called me here to do I will give my life to it🙏. I pray that everyone’s prayers be answered and that your journey be successful 🙌💕
Oh my gosh this is so convicting!!!! Lust is prob the main thing I struggle with so this video was needed!! Esp the lustful fantasising, wow! Thank you for this!
So crazy how people don’t believe in God but I been struggling with lust and I asked for his help, now my RUclips suggestions are about dealing with lust. God is good
Now I've finally watched it 😊.......It's so interesting watching your video Deborah, everything you've said is a great view and I've had this conversation in the past with single sisters and that mindset actually was on a come and go basis...like seasons. What you are 100% about..... now I'm a person that's married...that God is all you need and I don't say that in a disresepctive way towards my husband but I thought I understood what marriage was but I actually didn't until I was married. There's a lot of balancing to go through in a marriage, yes there's a lot of blessed times before the marriage getting to know each other and yes there's blessings during the marriage but the getting to know each other is on a different level. Sexual intimacy...a lot of married couples will mask and say their's is great, but it is a time of getting to know each other and it can be awkward at times.... additionally, we spend so much time abstaining from sex that when we are allowed to be sexually intimate in marriage it can feel like you're sinning...seriously there's quite a bit of re-jigging in marriage...this also includes all the sexual health issues that can be revealed about either or both spouses and learning how to work with that. People will need to be willing to work at marriage and not want to be running for a divorce when something doesn't turn out as they want because everything popular that was said about marriage doesn't match up to what they're experiencing. Enjoy Jesus like never before while single because it will change and take another shape....remember when you're married your husband is head of the home and there's to be no more independent woman, not saying a woman doesn't have any freedom but over all the husband is the head of the home and you have to consider each other so you can't go off and do everything the way you did while you were single....like spending a whole day just spending time with God, your husband/wife may not want to fast and pray when you do....this is where you can feel lonely. A person can seem very close to God while getting to know them but when on a daily basis behind closed doors that can look different to how it did when you use to meet up in the week and wave goodbye and go to your own homes. I don't want to seem negative about marriage, I just want to give my opinion on the truth of marriage in Christ. Deborah B...you are giving the best and wisest advice you can to the single Christians and like I said I've had that same perspective when I was single with my sisters in Christ praying for our warrior mighty man of God lol, my husband wasn't that type of mighty man of God but he is amazing in the way God has created him to be and he is certainly a light in the darkness within his work environment, he is beautifully bold in that environment and God had to reveal that to me that he may not seem so mighty man of God where you think but he is where I have him to be. We have to be prepared to receive God's best for us, God's good is not always what we consider good. God is going to get us to be formed to how He intends us to be even with our kicking and screaming because His ways are not our ways and His thoughts are higher than ours. Praise God for HIs faithfulness 😌the unveiling of every area of our lives is beautiful each time God restores those little areas of our lives to reflect Him. God bless you Deborah 💖
Wow thank you so much for sharing your experience of being a married woman, I loved reading your truthful and balanced perspective about marriage. It really serves as a reminder that marriage isn’t a cake walk, and that it takes work to stay committed to your spouse after the wedding day 😮💨. Also, your story has inspired me to pray to Abba Father, to see my future husband as a human being flaws and all, instead of just having preconceived notions that might cause me to have rose tinted glasses. Thank you again for being so truthful it was soo helpful to read, bless you sister in Christ 💕.
I agree if I am going to date someone the long-term goal is to become Husband and Wife, I am divorced over 4 years now and if it's the lords will that I be married again, Let his will be done. But I am not looking I am using my time to get to know the Lord a lot better and working on becoming a better person! I just Love your talks 😊
This was great, I was just talking to Jesus yesterday about how I fantasize and make scenarios about love and something made me want to watch this video so I'm taking this as his response so thank you!
i hope you’re having a wonderful weekend! I’ve been watching your faith talks every morning and it’s really encouraged me to talk to God more and rely on Him even through the times of difficulty! God bless Deborah 🫶
Ohh praise the Lord Daisy 🥹🤍 to God be all the glory! I pray that he will continue to encourage and strengthen you as you walk with him. This is only the beginning in Jesus mighty name 🫂 it’s such a blessing to have you here :)
20:57 “let the light in.” Bring it before God. “Sin is sin because it’s in secret. The enemy can use sin against you when you keep it in the dark.” “You need to be honest with God.”
I don't think you are aware how much God has used you. You've said I am sure in your past "even if this video helps just 1 person...", you help more than that, more than you know. Thank you for being such a wondrous servant of Christ. ❤
Girl!! You mentioned the dreams and i just remembered I went through the same thing, waking up guilty just being disgusted by myself. We really just get attacked the same way all around the world, lets always pray for the body when we're in the warfare. Our true satisfaction is in the LORD and prayer is the best weapon against every challenge and temptation.
Excellent! Thank you so much for your obedience with these Faith Talks....I LOVE tuning in! I'm always very blessed and receive so much! I would also add, to get free from lust, add fasting with your prayers. Speaking from experience with awful dreams/attacks and demons not wanting to let go because of the soul ties that were created. Fasting and praying has ALWAYS broken the chains and has allowed me to be free for years🙌🏽😭The blood of Jesus, whew!🩸✝️🙌🏽
Princess Deborah you are so pure, compassionate, and honest. Sadly, we are constantly shaped by our ugly experiences outside of Christ, and thank you tackling these subjects with such grace, gentle firmness, and biblical perspective in responding the world views and contemporary cultures (unfortunately) defining our Christian experiences. The LORD will help us. The principle of purpose the why is deeply emphasized by the Lord in this episode, and it took me to the purpose class where I learned and still learning that when purpose is unknown at best abuse is inevitable. Until I know the purpose of the thing; the purpose of someone daughter or son I must be humble enough to withhold myself from the thing or else abusing it will be inevitable. Awaken not love until it so desire. We getting helped here in each episode. Thank Lord, and thank you sister Deborah for bringing us to this episode
Listening to you is a blessing for me, it's like God speaking directly to me, I’m struggling with this right now, and it's a cycle I haven't been able to break :(, but you are the voice of God for me right now, everything you said, was a word for me, every vowel, everything and I feel so touch, thank you for this, I thank God for your life!
I’m currently 17 and as a teenager the pressure is REALLL let me tell you that! And I for one am a shy girl so I never had the courage to do those stuff BUT I started fantasising about them since I couldn’t do it real life and what I noticed is the more I thought about it the more I felt the confidence to do it which goes to show that our thoughts do become our actions eventually! Thank you so much for the encouragement you really helped a teenage girl out God bless you❤️!
@@ev6564 a scripture just came to mind that there is always a brother going through the same thing so I guess we have to keep fighting and praying for each other when we don’t have the strength to pray for ourselves and also have each other in thought when we feel like giving in🥹
We are FAR more useful in ministry being single than we could ever be by being married! Craving to be married is craving after a person and not craving after God.
I am so happy i came across this video I can definitely relate to the part where u said the enemy makes u feel guilty By giving you dreams I am feeling free now The enemy used guilt to hold me captive Thank you very much
So much wisdom in this video! You're a blessing to the body - thanks for this message. May you continue to grow in the grace and knowledge of Jesus Christ.
I just clicked on this and although I have yet to watch, you have NO idea how grateful I am. Ive been in such a shame spiral around battling lust and trying to get close to God and it feels very defeating. Im praying that if anyone else is struggling with this that you know how seen and loved you are by our Heavenly Father. ❤
It's so crazy how God works because I am also on this journey to overcome lust and daydreaming and fantasizing. And then I saw this video which is truly amazing. Thank You God and thank You God for Your daughter, our Big sister in Christ Deborah❤🥺🙏.
I can really relate to the part where this week I prayed for a partner then next week I don't pray for it so maybe it's just hormones speaking😅 Also, I thought that being in a marriage will make me happier than now but thank you for letting me know that God is more than enough and being single is not any lesser than being in marriage. I hope you'll share some tips how you battled against lust in the next videos, I want your viewers to know them as well😊
Thanks for sharing and being vulnerable. It's really cool to see someone else speaking the gospel, but speaking to our age group. Keep going and keep being the Lord's vessel.
Thank you so much Debohra. I was and still struggling with porn and I just pray that this time I will not fall back to it. It's been a week of no porn and now the real battle begins because I always fall when I do not have anything to do which would be the weekend. Weekdays I have school so it's not that bad. Please pray for me this weekend 🙏
Oh my goodness my friend and I were having a conversation about this exact topic yesterday and boom this is the first thing I see when I open RUclips!! God always puts your videos in my face when I need them the most! Thank you Deborah ❤️❤️
If you have the desire God fulfil the desires of our hearts, if we don’t desire it then it’s not something God will bring our way. But he does give us the desire of our hearts. Dont think I’ve ever heard someone desiring a child that they have asked for fill time after time and didn’t get it. Because he wants for us what we want once it’s in his will. Bless you girl 💙
I am befriended with many nuns and consider becoming one of them and believe me, they are one on of the happiest, healthiest, godly feminine women that I know. Answering your vocation will make you the happiest you can be.
To hear this form a woman of God hits different😭🌸God has worked on my listing habits and wanting to be “loved” by a guy that doesn’t even love God. I’m thankful for the word you shared and for God sharing you to me. Love you🥹💞💜
Your message really touched me 😢 I cried listening to you..I was also exposed to lust at an early age..I tell you the struggle is not easy,it's frustrating and difficult to overcome. May God deliver us all from lustful thoughts and daydreams🙏🔥
This is so so so good!!! You have no idea how many people you are helping with your videos. Praise God for making you and using you in so many ways. I feel like everything you say is overflowing with so much wisdom that is only coming from walking closely with the Lord. THANK YOU for helping your girls to stay on the right track!:) God Bless you so much Deborah
Thank you so much for this video. It helped a lot as a young Christian starting my journey with Christ it is very hard to let go of unhealthy habits and routines, so I also pray for the people who are struggling to let go of those unhealthy habit for God to help the in the mighty name of Jesus Christ our lord and saviour Amen
Wonderful video. Thank you🥰💗 I’m glad you mentioned the impact of hormones, because it affects most of us. I was struggling with this as well, and knowing I wasn’t the only one helped me a lot!!
Thank you so much for this video. God's timing for me to see this was perfect. Thank you so much. Also for those who are going through heart break Isaiah 51 has helped me so much. Specifically verse 3.
Wow amazing. Love your channel. Christians don't have enough safe spaces to discuss these very important topics without being judged. Glad I found this video 😊
Hay Deborah this information was quite helpful I am a Born Again Christian and I am in this season of my life and I am struggling with lust but I will pray about it ❤.
When you truly give yourself over to God and allow him to move in your life. The desires of your heart will align with the word. You will no longer want to sin. Will you be tempted. Yes. But you have been given the power to do what’s right. You can and will.
12:46 “it’s very hard to flee from lust and sexual immorality when you’re constantly feeding yourself with it.” 🔥
Omg u nailed it
It’s a struggle
Wow so true
Dear God, deliver me from lustful thoughts.
What REALLY helped me with overcoming lust when I became a Christian was asking God to take away my sexual desires until it is time for me to get married. I know that they were a gift from Him, and He has so graciously taken them and tucked them away for safe keeping until I need them again. I also am careful of what I watch, read, etc. to be responsible and not stir those feelings up again.
If you reading this are struggling with this I would encourage you to ask Him to do the same for you! 🙏🏼
I’m just now finally giving it ALL to Him 🙏🏾💕
He still didn’t remove my sexual desires. I prayed for Him to remove it months ago but I’m still burning. Young single healthy men who are abstaining burn a lot
@@tainoloco2361 I cannot imagine how it must be for men, and I am sorry to hear that you are still struggling. I still believe that God can do it for you because He did it for me. I would encourage you to also abstain from anything that stirs desire within you. Personally, when I prayed this prayer I also cut out all secular music that spoke of anything about love and desire, I also do not look at, read or watch anything that would stir those desires. This is really important because although God can temporarily remove it we also must be responsible not to pick it back up. I encourage you not to give up hope, continue to bring it before Him until He does it, and I will pray for you also. Love and Blessings 🙏🏼🤍
@@tainoloco2361 Hey I was in prayer this morning and my mind ran on you.. I know I already replied, but I wanted to also tell you that sometimes when we really struggle with something it may require deliverance. I know I needed deliverance for something that I had had been pleading with the Lord to take from me, and He didn’t right away because it was demonically influenced and I needed to reject it and go through deliverance. I am not saying that is your case, but it would not hurt to go through a deliverance prayer for lust. There are people like Isaiah Salvidar and Vlad Savchuk on RUclips that have videos on those prayers if you’re interested. And lastly, I encourage you to use those moments of weakness to seek God. When you feel those temptations and desires. As hard as it may be, discipline yourself and go to God. Pick up your Bible and read something, because the word of God is our weapon against our enemy, sin. Also talk to Him, tell Him everything you’re feeling because He’s not afraid of our ugly parts. Give Him those feelings and ask Him for grace and He will surely help you.
Be encouraged, beloved. God sees your struggle and He honors your will to obey His commands. He will never abandon you. I will continue to pray for you.🙏🏼🫶🏼
@@tainoloco2361 I have posted two replies to you and it doesn’t seem like they came through. Nonetheless I have been praying for you and I wanted to say that sometimes when we really struggle with something it may require deliverance. I know that I needed deliverance for something I had been pleading with the Lord to take from me and He didn’t right away because I needed to reject it and go through deliverance and now I am free. I am not saying that is your case, but it would not hurt to go through a deliverance prayer for lust. I know this can be a touchy subject, and everyone doesn’t believe it but if you’re interested there are a number of RUclipsrs that do deliverance prayers- Isaiah Salvidar, Vlad Savchuck, etc.
But lastly I would encourage you to use those moments when you’re struggling with temptation and desires to run to our Heavenly Father. As hard as it may be in the moment, learn to discipline yourself in this way. Pick up your Bible and read something, because the word of God is our weapon against our enemy, sin. Also just talk to Him, tell Him everything you’re feeling because He’s not afraid of our ugly parts. Give Him those feelings and ask Him for grace, and He will surely help you.
Be encouraged, beloved. God sees your struggle and He honors your desire to obey His commands. He will never abandon you. I will continue to pray for you. 🙏🏼🤍
I struggled with lust. I fell into pornography and self satisfaction. I dealt with this for about four years. But God came and healed me ! And it was only when I truly repented and sought God that I got healed. So let this be your reminder that God still heals and hears our prayers. Don’t be afraid or ashamed HE cares for us. 1 Peter 5:7 ♡︎
Amen Hallelujah 🙏🏾✝️❤️
Amen! Thank you for sharing your testimony. Our God is so gracious and he’s truly a redeemer. We are to be set free from sin as children of the most high. When we let the Lord in fully he will be our saviour ever single time ❤️🙏🏽
@@deborahbx_ Amen ✝️❤️
Can I ask what that process of healing looked like for you? ❤
@@CAI.DREAMS Yeah ofc 😊 I just began seeking God more and in that time i resisted the temptations what made me stronger in the spirit and after a lot of prayer and faith and time God heald me. The healing process was basically Isolation for me. Where God purified and sanctified me. Working on my character and mind and heart I would say. :)
Can i ask a question? I want to repent but (as silly as this may sound, i don't know if i truly mean it) I'm just scared of going to hell. How did you get to a place where you were truly tired of falling into pornography? (I hope this made sense) lol.
I agree with you! A lot of us were exposed early on to lust.
The struggle is real, but thats precisely the reason Jesus was crucified on that cross, so we could also overcome sin and lust, which is indeed one of the most destructive sins one can deal with.
Amenn!!! A pastor once said: sin is like a roommate that constantly trashes our house. But because of what Jesus has done for us the house has been paid for: we are now the owners! Unfortunately, we don’t walk in the gift of the cross, we don’t accept the price that’s been paid so we keep letting sin into our homes thinking it has a right to be there. It doesn’t!! We have been set free by the blood of Jesus. We will be tempted by the enemy, sin will come knowing on our door, even Jesus was tempted. But we have authority to say NO GET OFF MY PROPERTY IN JESUS NAME! 🗣️🗣️
@@deborahbx_ Amen to that sister ! Keep up this wonderful work you've been doing. God Bless!
@@deborahbx_Hallelujah!!✝️🌺🌺🌺We can do it!!
@deborahbx_ Amen well said keep posting authentic content love your attitude on life. Was inspired by the message you carried have a blessed day
@@deborahbx_ thanks so much dear. Today’s episode spoke right to me 😢 God bless you
Thank you for mentioning, that for us women hormones have such a big impact on our feelings! Since I realized, that I have certain wishes and feelings always at the same time every month I was able to be a bit more compassionate to myself because I now know, that it's just part of my biology and will get back to normal in a couple of days... So, ladies, don't condemn yourselves for it!
Yes!!!!
Omg yess!!!
Love this❤️
The crazy dreams where you wake up feeling like you sinned literally started with me the more God shielded me from lust in my day to day life.
I found out I was pregnant by a man I dated when I was in the world. Since I gave my life to Christ we are unequally yoked and he’s not worthy to be husband. It’s hard to deal with the fact I now have a baby with a man who isn’t nor would ever be my husband but I know Christ gives me strength and everyday he heals my heart 🤍
Same sis x
Same, I regretted ever dating him, I still do ...and I'm struggling to forgive myself. It took a long time for me to appreciate/ accept the pregnancy.
My baby's here now & I love him.
Wow Sis. I pray you experience even more now the love, warmth and grace of God that is so available for you through this season and beyond ❤
@@tomisinv 🙏🏽🤍
I’m in the same situation
"I will live a fulfilled life with or without a partner" - no safer place to be or else the presence of God.
Prayer and words like this will doubtless strengthen the will to overcome.
Though not a woman yet I'm so glad how the words of Christ coming through you helps all.
“It is going to be a very hard time to beat lust, if you keep dancing with it.” Amazingly said 👏👏👏
That point about fantasizing and weird dreams IS SO REAL!!!
Just 20 minutes ago i was struggling enough to praying for forgiveness and then this came out😭
Our God is so intentional!! 🥺🤍 he knows exactly what you need when you need it!
@@deborahbx_ i literally love you man God also is like so proud of youuu!
@@deborahbx_ proverbs 3:27-28 🙏🏿🙇🏾💺
@@Li-AnnSieberhagenlove you too sis!! 🥹🤍
AMEN
Please pray with me regarding daydreaming.
Fantasy is one of the most subtle yet evil sins out there. You have to remember that your fantasies submit to the Lord. Cut out all the stimuli that might be causing it. If you're watching any fictional content, I highly advise you to stop. If you're in fandom spaces, delete the account and leave the space. Identify the thought and remember 2 Corinthians 10:5: We take every thought captive and make it obedient to Christ. I pray that you have the mind of Christ and that you can identify the desires in your heart that fantasy is stimulating and that you may take those to the Father. Fantasy is absolutely a backdoor for the enemy to sneak in sexual sin so please be vigilant. God is the only thing that can satisfy the yearning in your soul. I hope the Prince of Peace covers you. You are not alone.
@toniodejimi3905 This is helpful for me as well although I'm not the OP commentor. Fantasizing is my biggest struggle
I do this so much too. I’ve done this for such a long time. Like a really long time. And I was so addicted to it I needed to be on my own, daydream, and make up false scenarios and I would catch myself sitting on my bed for hours and hours and hours on end doing this. I did this to:
1. Pass time - I was bored and when left with my thoughts it left me with too much so I ran to daydreaming
2. Did not like my own reality - I ran from my own reality by making my own. I lived in my own world with made up people. And fantasized everything I’ve never done.
3. Dreams - I daydreamed things I wanted to look like, do, and experience. Instead of working out I imagined my dream body.
These are false desires. Reality can be hard to function in when you’re never there almost. Many people do it and don’t understand how truly important is it to stay alert when this happens.
@@Dreamworld789_ I can relate so much to everything you are saying
I think Messages like this will really pull and stretch people but in a positive way. Sometimes we as believers forget that EVERY desire and "ambition" must be first submitted to the lord. If we don't do this we risk creating a false Idol in our hearts that MUST be destroyed. Great message Deborah.
This video is an absolute blessing, I find myself dealing with desires that some days feel like a burden and so isolating. I was getting to know a guy I met recently and ultimately had to take space away from him because our values didn’t align and some days I feel that burning desire to keep him in my life he makes me feel so bubbly and it’s hard to give myself grace for still liking him. It’s also hard because I did find a lot of comfort and happiness in his company. I will pray about this and please pray for me to have strength and grace for this part of my life. Thank you for your wisdom girl! ❤
We love you girl! I'm also praying for God's continued guidance, strength and grace for you, cause it really is tough sometimes 💓
May God be with you in Jesus mighty name.
amen
This is SO ON TIME ! I’ve been avoiding talking to God, I’ve allowed my heart to harden so that i can entertain my desires without the guilt , I’ve been giving into the loneliness and didn’t want the “burden “ of upholding Gods words and feeling like the only one set apart always
Your story is very similar to mine, I was exposed to porn at very young age by mistake, and things went south south from then on. I stopped watching porn years back but my mind became breeding ground for a lot of stuff. It has been my dirty secret and it leaves me feeling dirty and ashamed and yet I could not get myself to stop making lustful scenarios in my mind. I am on a journey with Jesus Christ and one of my prayers is purification of the mind, renewal of the mind and restoration to my former innocence. Your story is inspiring❤😊
Its crazy how God speaks. I was just thinking about how to overcome lust and then i see your video. Glory be to the Lord, the most High
If you don’t fill your mind with the word of God , The enemy ( Satan) will fill it with fear , anxiety, stress, worry and temptation “
A thing that I’ve observed in the body of Christ is that we often times use the scripture seek ye first the kingdom of God for everything except for when it comes to marriage. Suddenly we don’t have to seek God on this matter. We have to understand that marriage is one of that thing that will be added unto you. The same way you know the other things were of God for you, is the same way you’ll know when God send you you’re spouse.
God does have a husband for you 💯 lol I just feel this strongly even though it’s not guaranteed. God grants the desires of the righteous heart. You don’t idolize marriage & that’s where you have to be before your spouse is revealed. It’s a beautiful thing to be content with just you & God 🫶🏽
Actually the Bible says that some people might never get married and are better alone
I wished that I had never gone to my older brother's room and looked at his computer would kept me from a lot of hardships, but thankfully God saved me His mercy is great.
The fact that I woke up this morning and asked God that if I do end up dating again, to send me “the one”. The man that is God fearing, the man that will love me and my kids unconditionally (and vice verse), the man that will also be my very best friend, etc. This was right on time. I’m praying for us!!! Y’all the options out here are quite QUESTIONABLE 🥴
Verrrryyyy Questionable
Not everyone is called to earthly marriage but we are all called to marriage with God. We are the bride 🥹
Sis thank you for ur video I’m praying for you.
As a grown man, I can honestly say I learned something from today's Faith Talk! This is real talk from one of God's children. Keep going ❤✨
Praise the Lord! All glory goes to the most high 🙏🏽🥹 thank you Jesus
Lolllll this is a topic I run away from bc mannn , in the past i've had terrible taste in men😭 I think the dating (getting to know someone better) is sensible !! I don't wanna just jump into a relationship without being bestfriends !
Sameee sis!! I can relate 😭 But in Jesus name no more, he is our example now so if a man doesn’t aspire to be like Jesus we flee from him faster than lightning 🏃🏾♀️➡️
@@deborahbx_ Amen girl 🤣✅
@@deborahbx_ (Philippians. 4 )-6-7🙇🏾🙏🏿
There is such a tenderness to your spirit that allow your words, God's message to truly resonate with me. Thank you.
I stopped praying and walking with God and I stopped feeling peace and contentment. I sought out my validation outside of God and this is God bringing me back
I love how God is faithful and always pulling me towards him when I'm pulling away
I had a heart break a few weeks ago but upon watching this I see it was God 🥺🙏 he was redirecting me
I love my God
Same here 😢 I wanted to take control of my life and I end up getting hurt
Girl, God has been using you to directly help me on my walk with Him. Along with my prayer for finances (which God answered amazingly!), I've also been praying this week about a guy who I've happened to recently reconnect with. After months of being fine, i find my feelings have reemerged THIS week. You've reminded me to put my emotions back on the altar, and to be ok with whatever the Lord says, because His love is much more than enough!! Please continue to pray for me sis🙏🏾💕
THIS IS MY MESSAGE. TRUSTING THAT GOD WANTS THE BEST FOR ME AND STOP ESCAPING IN MY DAYDREAMS, WHERE EVERYTHING SEEMS "EASIER".
You were not all over the place. You were very clear and structured with 🔥🔥🔥
I have been having a lot of questions about my dating life, this is very informative
The holy spirit speaking thru u sis! Preach
This topic is quite needed in times like these. I will trust Gods plan, whatever He has called me here to do I will give my life to it🙏. I pray that everyone’s prayers be answered and that your journey be successful 🙌💕
Amen Paris 🤍🙏🏽 we can trust our Heavenly Father. He has good plans in store for us - Jeremiah 29:11
Oh my gosh this is so convicting!!!! Lust is prob the main thing I struggle with so this video was needed!! Esp the lustful fantasising, wow! Thank you for this!
So crazy how people don’t believe in God but I been struggling with lust and I asked for his help, now my RUclips suggestions are about dealing with lust. God is good
Happy Mother’s Day blessings to you and your mom
I hope you know how important and impactful your channel is. May God richly bless you for saying YES to his word❤️
Now I've finally watched it 😊.......It's so interesting watching your video Deborah, everything you've said is a great view and I've had this conversation in the past with single sisters and that mindset actually was on a come and go basis...like seasons. What you are 100% about..... now I'm a person that's married...that God is all you need and I don't say that in a disresepctive way towards my husband but I thought I understood what marriage was but I actually didn't until I was married. There's a lot of balancing to go through in a marriage, yes there's a lot of blessed times before the marriage getting to know each other and yes there's blessings during the marriage but the getting to know each other is on a different level. Sexual intimacy...a lot of married couples will mask and say their's is great, but it is a time of getting to know each other and it can be awkward at times.... additionally, we spend so much time abstaining from sex that when we are allowed to be sexually intimate in marriage it can feel like you're sinning...seriously there's quite a bit of re-jigging in marriage...this also includes all the sexual health issues that can be revealed about either or both spouses and learning how to work with that. People will need to be willing to work at marriage and not want to be running for a divorce when something doesn't turn out as they want because everything popular that was said about marriage doesn't match up to what they're experiencing. Enjoy Jesus like never before while single because it will change and take another shape....remember when you're married your husband is head of the home and there's to be no more independent woman, not saying a woman doesn't have any freedom but over all the husband is the head of the home and you have to consider each other so you can't go off and do everything the way you did while you were single....like spending a whole day just spending time with God, your husband/wife may not want to fast and pray when you do....this is where you can feel lonely. A person can seem very close to God while getting to know them but when on a daily basis behind closed doors that can look different to how it did when you use to meet up in the week and wave goodbye and go to your own homes. I don't want to seem negative about marriage, I just want to give my opinion on the truth of marriage in Christ. Deborah B...you are giving the best and wisest advice you can to the single Christians and like I said I've had that same perspective when I was single with my sisters in Christ praying for our warrior mighty man of God lol, my husband wasn't that type of mighty man of God but he is amazing in the way God has created him to be and he is certainly a light in the darkness within his work environment, he is beautifully bold in that environment and God had to reveal that to me that he may not seem so mighty man of God where you think but he is where I have him to be. We have to be prepared to receive God's best for us, God's good is not always what we consider good. God is going to get us to be formed to how He intends us to be even with our kicking and screaming because His ways are not our ways and His thoughts are higher than ours. Praise God for HIs faithfulness 😌the unveiling of every area of our lives is beautiful each time God restores those little areas of our lives to reflect Him. God bless you Deborah 💖
Wow thank you so much for sharing your experience of being a married woman, I loved reading your truthful and balanced perspective about marriage. It really serves as a reminder that marriage isn’t a cake walk, and that it takes work to stay committed to your spouse after the wedding day 😮💨. Also, your story has inspired me to pray to Abba Father, to see my future husband as a human being flaws and all, instead of just having preconceived notions that might cause me to have rose tinted glasses. Thank you again for being so truthful it was soo helpful to read, bless you sister in Christ 💕.
@@Jojo-cz4kp aww God bless you, your welcome and may God grant you your desire as it lines up with his. 2 Corinthians 1:2-7 💗🙏
This was so timely. Thank you so much Deborah for being a vessel. My key point here was Pray and believe your prayers.
The Lord really spoke to me through this. Thank you so much.❤
I agree if I am going to date someone the long-term goal is to become Husband and Wife, I am divorced over 4 years now and if it's the lords will that I be married again, Let his will be done. But I am not looking I am using my time to get to know the Lord a lot better and working on becoming a better person! I just Love your talks 😊
The conviction was real! Deborah you spoke nothing but facts! Thank you ❤️❤️❤️
This was great, I was just talking to Jesus yesterday about how I fantasize and make scenarios about love and something made me want to watch this video so I'm taking this as his response so thank you!
i hope you’re having a wonderful weekend! I’ve been watching your faith talks every morning and it’s really encouraged me to talk to God more and rely on Him even through the times of difficulty! God bless Deborah 🫶
Ohh praise the Lord Daisy 🥹🤍 to God be all the glory! I pray that he will continue to encourage and strengthen you as you walk with him. This is only the beginning in Jesus mighty name 🫂 it’s such a blessing to have you here :)
20:57 “let the light in.” Bring it before God. “Sin is sin because it’s in secret. The enemy can use sin against you when you keep it in the dark.” “You need to be honest with God.”
I don't think you are aware how much God has used you. You've said I am sure in your past "even if this video helps just 1 person...", you help more than that, more than you know. Thank you for being such a wondrous servant of Christ. ❤
Girl!! You mentioned the dreams and i just remembered I went through the same thing, waking up guilty just being disgusted by myself. We really just get attacked the same way all around the world, lets always pray for the body when we're in the warfare. Our true satisfaction is in the LORD and prayer is the best weapon against every challenge and temptation.
Excellent! Thank you so much for your obedience with these Faith Talks....I LOVE tuning in! I'm always very blessed and receive so much!
I would also add, to get free from lust, add fasting with your prayers. Speaking from experience with awful dreams/attacks and demons not wanting to let go because of the soul ties that were created. Fasting and praying has ALWAYS broken the chains and has allowed me to be free for years🙌🏽😭The blood of Jesus, whew!🩸✝️🙌🏽
Princess Deborah you are so pure, compassionate, and honest.
Sadly, we are constantly shaped by our ugly experiences outside of Christ, and thank you tackling these subjects with such grace, gentle firmness, and biblical perspective in responding the world views and contemporary cultures (unfortunately) defining our Christian experiences. The LORD will help us.
The principle of purpose the why is deeply emphasized by the Lord in this episode, and it took me to the purpose class where I learned and still learning that when purpose is unknown at best abuse is inevitable. Until I know the purpose of the thing; the purpose of someone daughter or son I must be humble enough to withhold myself from the thing or else abusing it will be inevitable. Awaken not love until it so desire. We getting helped here in each episode. Thank Lord, and thank you sister Deborah for bringing us to this episode
Thank you for this episode! I’ve been lookin for a women’s perspective on this topic ❤
I find that listening and watching links like this helps when I have sinful thoughts
thank you for your obedience!! needed this 🤍
Listening to you is a blessing for me, it's like God speaking directly to me, I’m struggling with this right now, and it's a cycle I haven't been able to break :(, but you are the voice of God for me right now, everything you said, was a word for me, every vowel, everything and I feel so touch, thank you for this, I thank God for your life!
The Lord’s timing is perfect! He reveled what was heavy on my heart through this video ❤️🙌
I’m currently 17 and as a teenager the pressure is REALLL let me tell you that! And I for one am a shy girl so I never had the courage to do those stuff BUT I started fantasising about them since I couldn’t do it real life and what I noticed is the more I thought about it the more I felt the confidence to do it which goes to show that our thoughts do become our actions eventually! Thank you so much for the encouragement you really helped a teenage girl out God bless you❤️!
I'm 23 but same. I'm shy but the more I fantasize, the more bold I feel about the wrong things😢
@@ev6564 a scripture just came to mind that there is always a brother going through the same thing so I guess we have to keep fighting and praying for each other when we don’t have the strength to pray for ourselves and also have each other in thought when we feel like giving in🥹
We are FAR more useful in ministry being single than we could ever be by being married! Craving to be married is craving after a person and not craving after God.
I am so happy i came across this video
I can definitely relate to the part where u said the enemy makes u feel guilty
By giving you dreams
I am feeling free now
The enemy used guilt to hold me captive
Thank you very much
I was just praying about this and I came across your video. Hallelujah Lord!
Powerful words. Thank you! Bless be to God! 🙏🏿 ✝️
This is so good, exactly what I needed to hear in this season 😮💨 loneliness can make you act out and God is dealing with me in this and I’m grateful.
Thank you for this, sis. ❤️❤ This was big sis talk that I definitely needed☝️🙌
So much wisdom in this video! You're a blessing to the body - thanks for this message. May you continue to grow in the grace and knowledge of Jesus Christ.
I just clicked on this and although I have yet to watch, you have NO idea how grateful I am. Ive been in such a shame spiral around battling lust and trying to get close to God and it feels very defeating. Im praying that if anyone else is struggling with this that you know how seen and loved you are by our Heavenly Father. ❤
Wish I could like this a million times. Thank you, Deborah 🌸
That’s good, we are never enough to help fulfill other’s desires.
This vlog was a eye opener for me and my Life, and my previous dating experiences.
This was incredible.
thank you so much sis!🔥🔥🔥👏🏾
It's so crazy how God works because I am also on this journey to overcome lust and daydreaming and fantasizing. And then I saw this video which is truly amazing. Thank You God and thank You God for Your daughter, our Big sister in Christ Deborah❤🥺🙏.
I can really relate to the part where this week I prayed for a partner then next week I don't pray for it so maybe it's just hormones speaking😅 Also, I thought that being in a marriage will make me happier than now but thank you for letting me know that God is more than enough and being single is not any lesser than being in marriage.
I hope you'll share some tips how you battled against lust in the next videos, I want your viewers to know them as well😊
Thanks for sharing and being vulnerable. It's really cool to see someone else speaking the gospel, but speaking to our age group. Keep going and keep being the Lord's vessel.
Thank you so much Debohra. I was and still struggling with porn and I just pray that this time I will not fall back to it. It's been a week of no porn and now the real battle begins because I always fall when I do not have anything to do which would be the weekend. Weekdays I have school so it's not that bad. Please pray for me this weekend 🙏
Oh my goodness my friend and I were having a conversation about this exact topic yesterday and boom this is the first thing I see when I open RUclips!! God always puts your videos in my face when I need them the most! Thank you Deborah ❤️❤️
The "why you wanna date" part is so true... I wish I had a big sis telling me that when I was younger 😅
God bless you and your channel 🙏🏾💜
If you have the desire God fulfil the desires of our hearts, if we don’t desire it then it’s not something God will bring our way. But he does give us the desire of our hearts. Dont think I’ve ever heard someone desiring a child that they have asked for fill time after time and didn’t get it. Because he wants for us what we want once it’s in his will. Bless you girl 💙
BRO SHE IS PREACHING!!!🔥👏🏼
I am befriended with many nuns and consider becoming one of them and believe me, they are one on of the happiest, healthiest, godly feminine women that I know. Answering your vocation will make you the happiest you can be.
To hear this form a woman of God hits different😭🌸God has worked on my listing habits and wanting to be “loved” by a guy that doesn’t even love God. I’m thankful for the word you shared and for God sharing you to me. Love you🥹💞💜
Thankyou for sharing. No burden is too much for our Lord n who He sets free is free indeed
Your message really touched me 😢 I cried listening to you..I was also exposed to lust at an early age..I tell you the struggle is not easy,it's frustrating and difficult to overcome. May God deliver us all from lustful thoughts and daydreams🙏🔥
This is so so so good!!! You have no idea how many people you are helping with your videos. Praise God for making you and using you in so many ways. I feel like everything you say is overflowing with so much wisdom that is only coming from walking closely with the Lord. THANK YOU for helping your girls to stay on the right track!:) God Bless you so much Deborah
Thank you so much for this video. It helped a lot as a young Christian starting my journey with Christ it is very hard to let go of unhealthy habits and routines, so I also pray for the people who are struggling to let go of those unhealthy habit for God to help the in the mighty name of Jesus Christ our lord and saviour Amen
Wonderful video. Thank you🥰💗 I’m glad you mentioned the impact of hormones, because it affects most of us. I was struggling with this as well, and knowing I wasn’t the only one helped me a lot!!
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You were NOT all over the place Deb. As always you are on point.
This was very good 🙃🙏🏽
Thank you for obeying God and shining light on everyone else❤
Literally Loves this, God Bless you sisterrrr 🤍🙏
Thank you so much for this video. God's timing for me to see this was perfect. Thank you so much. Also for those who are going through heart break Isaiah 51 has helped me so much. Specifically verse 3.
Amen girl I love you thank you so much I really needed to hear this 🥹
You’re not alone in this sis 🤍
Wow amazing. Love your channel. Christians don't have enough safe spaces to discuss these very important topics without being judged. Glad I found this video 😊
Love you so much ❤❤
Love you too sis!! 😭🫂
Awww one love
Thank you sister deb i pray that God continues to to use you ☺️🥰❤❤
You’re going to get married. And happily so. Trust. It’s written all over you.
I like your content it's interesting and most Christians are seriously struggling with this concept of Christian dating
Hay Deborah this information was quite helpful I am a Born Again Christian and I am in this season of my life and I am struggling with lust but I will pray about it ❤.
Hey Deborah ❤️❤️ Blessings hun 🙏🏽
When you truly give yourself over to God and allow him to move in your life. The desires of your heart will align with the word. You will no longer want to sin. Will you be tempted. Yes. But you have been given the power to do what’s right. You can and will.
Ooof this was a word! God knows I needed to hear this lol
Praise the Lord for this on-time video ❤️ may God bless you ❤️