The Three Year Rule
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- Опубликовано: 23 авг 2024
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Failure feels better than regret.
YES!
Woowww never thought about that
Zachary Laid Finding Freedom great point!!!
Failure is temporary. Regret is forever.
Wow, I love that!
My dad always told me "The people who say they never got a chance, never took one"
Your dad is right. Thank you for sharing.
Love that.
African child gets malaria. Shame on that child for not taking that chance 😤😤😤
I read this one from the book "Pour Your Heart Into It"
Happy Potatoe are you one? No, context man
'Most people overestimate what they can do in one year and underestimate what they can do in ten years.' - Bill Gates
Love that!
I needed this comment. Thank you.
I first heard that one from Tony Robbins
I heard this from kobe
Bill Gates ??? yuck
Best quote of this episode: "People expect things to happen over night, not over time."
Let’s take a moment to appreciate Matt’s clip of dropping the phone on his face
Thank you. Is there an award for dropping things on your face.
I laughed so hard and now I feel bad but like not really because it made my day better. Sorry
It’s all about dedication lol 🙌
EtaMuTau 😀
Matt D'Avella probably
Matt: "There's this one rule that really changed my life..."
Me: "Ah shit, here we go again......."
It's deja vu all over again.
Haha! First thought I had. So much value in these videos, but it does jump out at you how EVERYTHING is the thing THAT CHANGED MY LIFE FOREVER.
I’m sure it’s just part of the whole thing, and doesn’t ultimately detract from the value of the video/message, but it’s funny to notice it from time to time.
I have a big penis btw 😤😤
aka...the "BOHICA" treatment... (Bend Over Here It Comes Again)!
Hahahah
Usually when you think "it takes too much time, Im not gonna do that" the same time passes and you done nothing
This is so true. I started my job 3 years ago and wasn't happy with the niche field I was in. I promised myself I'd study to get into a different company/job 3 years ago. I got busy with life, enjoying my first time in my life having disposable income and didn't study. Here I am 3 years later realizing how those small daily commitments could have helped me to change into a dream career. But I failed to do that. Now I can start my next 3 years now...
@Nikola Stanković thanks for your reply
That's so true
This guy has a lot of rules in his simple life
he would probably have a complex life without those rules.
@@angelayala7922 true
With modern civilization it’s very hard to remain simple, lots of distractions
Its part of having structure in your life
Keeps his life simple, if you’re not disciplined, it could lead to your life spiraling out of control
My grandad always says: “Anyone that never made a mistake, never made anything”. I think about that every day!
Wow, I wish Einstein was my grandpa too.
@@ghassanawwad99 Never claimed he made it up. Just said he always said it...
@@AUTOIDTV Right, my bad.
I say this when people try to dog on me for making mistakes at work. I usually tell them it’s easy to not make mistakes when you sit on your dead ass all day.
I’m really trying to take that to heart. I’m a pedantic perfectionist, and that’s been parlayed into a job as an editor. But... it’s not very helpful in my life in more general ways. When it’s too likely that you’ll mess up when you make a move, you have incentive to stay still, and that’s no way to live.
Even in small things like learning to knit, I beat myself up. I’ve only been knitting for three days, and I’m beating myself up for messing up or being messier than I’d like. I’m learning so I can donate blankets and hats and scarves etc to homeless shelters, women’s shelter’s, and the cancer center in my area. I know that if I’m too hard on myself, I’ll just quit, and then I won’t be able to do my part to help. I need to be kinder to myself.
What I think about every day is similar to what your grandad would say, but it was a saying of my mother’s. “If you would be encouraging to a friend with the same problem, why is it then okay to be harsh, if the one having a problem is you? Be half as kind to yourself as you are to others, and things will go much easier for you.” I’m in my head far more than any teacher ever could be, and if I’m always ragging on mistakes and not celebrating little achievements, it’s no wonder I’d want to quit.
We’ve got bad habits of psyching ourselves out of improving.
When are you giving a Ted talk ?
OH MY GOSH! I KNOW RIGHT?!!
He is the Ted talk
:0 ;)
Maybe when TED start paying their speakers, rather than charging attendees $10K and selling the speakers "exposure and prestige".
ted talks are brainwashing propaganda talks
@@busimo proof?
Short version: Rome wasn't built in a day
👏👏👏
, but it burned in one.
@@ensan4208 but was that planned in one day? Every creation takes time, every growth needs it. Unfortunately it only takes a few moments to destroy it. That's why it is and will always be harder to build something then to destroy it
👏👏👏
@@thisisaksu Woah 💯
When It Feels Scary to Jump, That Is Exactly When You Jump
People on 9/11 be like
I that idea. I'll teach that, and keep it in mind from now on. So, think you very much!
Dave_ Czech Idk if this should be on r/cursedcomments or not
this is most applicable in all scenarios but literally
That's how my dog died on a hiking trip
While hes editing this, matt is doing a 30-Day-Spinach challenge.
😂😂😂
HAHAHAHAAH! DEAD LOL
@Juan Cortez Muro stop spamming
😂😂😂
i do indeed stay up all night remembering my failures from over 5 years ago.
Me too.. now 10+ years is a different story. I am still trying to sort some of the same problems I had 5 years ago
Mhm. Some are over and done with. Some are ongoing. Either way, they're taking up a little space in my brain.
Maybe theres a reason. Have you learnt from it? 'Cos thats the important part.
@@lauraandevecampbell1661 nope
I literally sometimes agonize over embarrassing things that I said when I was as young as 9 years old. I'm 28, let alone failures lol. I'm not sure if I'm alone but thinking of whether I regret past failures definitely did not help me overcome my fear of failure haha.
Quick question: what did your financial situation look like when you took the leap? Did you still work part-time to pay the bills? Did you move back home? Borrow money? Live off of savings? Work full-time somewhere else until the side-gig built up?
Can you make a video where you interview several youtubers or people that "made it" and talk about what it actually looks like on the first few years? I think many like me get blinded by the end of the story and are clueless on what it actually looks like on day 1 of the journey and the sacrifices necessary. Thanks for you amazing comment!
This is important! I think a lot of people are afraid to take the leap because they don't have enough money in the bank to pay rent and buy groceries for even one month without their job, so they're waiting for a bullet proof business plan (or better finances)
Oh my god THIS
The three year rule : Master the art of failure.
I love that you brought that specific part out because it is what resonated most with me !!
"The handsome minimalist that got 2million subscribers in less than two years"
Hahaha, that got me xD
-Matt d'Avella 2019
:)
Fatima Zahra Vlogs don’t forget the smile at the end. Classic!!
@@rebeccasperring1747 He used that Smile to reply loool! I will never edit my comment, cuz I'll lose the heart lol
@@mattdavella MY GOD, YOU REPLIED!!
HAHAHA
“Bran thought about it. 'Can a man still be brave if he's afraid?' 'That is the only time a man can be brave,' his father told him.”
Isn't that from Game of Thrones?
@@sharik6862 Ye :D
I glowed-up “during corona virus” and lost over 60 pounds, but no one wants to listen when I say I started losing weight 9 months ago, and probably won’t hit my goal (because of skin elasticity and stuff) for probably another 9 months, but I’m ready for this process to take another year
Good for you! That’s an incredible journey 🙌🏼
Congratulations!!! Go for it and do it for your health and you will reach your goal.
Go you :) That's great!
Proud of you!!!
"during corona virus"
As if it isn't still going around, even worse.
And this comment was two months ago, yikes
“How we look at failure can tell us everything we need to know about success”. Boom. D’Avella strikes again
o:
A thesis statement. A vague one, but a thesis statement.
Jordan you absolute legend I knew you probably watched Matt Davella too!
@@deshira_4991 Hey Deshira! Likewise fellow legend! 😂
*If it doesn't take time, it won't be appreciated anyway.*
If it doesn't take time, it won't last long.
@@muhammadjoan2753 🤣 are you saying Matt's chennal is gona die soon?
Jk.
In finance there’s a saying, ‘if it grows too fast it’s probably a weed’ and aside from investment, it’s taught me to appreciate the process aside from the outcome
O'SSÉIN - Master Your Mind With Me verdade
If it doesn't take time, it would appreciate.
This is so spot on. I started fresh 5 years ago at the age of 35 as my family sold our house in MN for a huge loss while I quit my career I hated to start my own business doing what I love in FL. It took 3 years of struggling to start making any real money and now 5 years in I'm literally living my dream doing what I love where I want to live it but man it took a long time and there was so many struggles, but freaking worth it. I always told myself I'd rather give it everything I have an fail than live life with regret wondering. Do it people, he's so right!!!
Good for you!!!!!🏞️🏞️🏞️🏞️🏞️🏞️🏞️
@@batirtzeurkiaga4973 Thanks!
Thats amazing. What is your business?
@@selenalamothe997 I'm an online strength and nutrition coach, and thank you!
“We keep the same type of haircut over a decade”
Are you talking to me 🤣🤣🤣
I read somewhere that _we overestimate what we can do in a year and underestimate what we can achieve on a decade_
Cris wow...🤯 i needed to hear that
Tonny Robbins said that.
Best advice: There are probably people better than you, but you can still outwork them 🙌
loved that part a lot too!!
Ooooooooo. I like that! that's always been my life. I'm never more talented than anyone, I always have to be the hardest working one.
Nick Scuderi - RealLife Money 😍😍🎯✅👌🏿
"There are probably people better than you, but if you can do it the longest than you could potentially win!" Isn't this the entire premise of Tortoise and the Hare?
What I have realized is that the simple stories that we heard in our childhood contains all the life lessons . We just have to keep it simple and should not complicate the things.
Nobody:
Mat D'avella: 2 day rule
Mat D'avella: 3 years rule
After 5 months: 4 decades rule
Real 3 year rule: food can only stay on the floor for 3 years
that's when you know it's ripe 👌
@@MyNontraditionalLife Sweets aren't really food though.
Petition for Matt to make shirts with the quote "just keep trying to do better"
they would need to be grey on grey 😂
You make them and we will buy.
or ones that just say Failure or Massive Failure on them or something hahaha
The best part him is that, he reflects whatever he says, in his personality.
"The greatest teacher, failure is."
Master Yoda
Others: "You bloody failure"
Me: "Well thank you" :D
Yes!!
Oscar Holst actually they ´ll feel really dumb after that
So awesome. I love this. :)
I had the same bedsheet for a year. I'm gonna change that now
Commitment is strong with this one.
DID MATT D'AVELLA JUST REPLY TO MY COMMENT?
@@sarathgopinath3096 yes
@@mr.buttercat2797 Omg,buttercat also replied to my comment. Best day of my life!
sarath gopinath dude, how is it even possible? You didnt wash it for a year?!
There’s a Brian Koppelman quote that matches this: “If you want to be a screenwriter, read 1000 screenplays & watch 1000 movies. Then you'll have a frame of reference for the work, if you're honest with yourself.”
It’s hard to realize you have to dedicate the time upfront, but if it’s hard to start, it’s not a goal you want to pursue.
And that-is hard to hear!
i just started to dye my hair more often it's interesting to see people's reaction and I also started to go out more by myself and slowly i have more confidence within myself that i know how to be alone and actually feel better about it
Same. Except the hair dying part lol Keep building yourself!
"The humbling experience of realizing that you're not that great, and that there is probably people better than you, but if you can do it the longest, than you could still potentially win." Finishing by PhD two weeks ago, interview for professor position in two weeks, after a doctoral process of SEVEN years: I totally agree.
marienoellebl I was reading this when he said it
Congratulations!
Wow. Wowowow. Wow. Thank you so much.
That's greeeat! Congrats!
Matt, you have many rules that have changed your life. You share them with your subscribers in a way that is simple, enjoyable, and educational. I have started to REALLY try and follow some of these rules to try and find productivity in my own life. I just put out my third RUclips video and just scheduled the next 3, I plan to just keep pushing and making videos as a way to educate myself and hopefully others. You have been a huge help with making this change in my life :) Thank you!
Will Reil I bet it feel good to just create something, regardless of the outcome. A scary step to take (one I don’t have the courage to do) but I think it’ll be fulfilling in the long run. Best of luck man?
@@michaelsmith3533 Thank you very much! I am someone who is by nature pretty anxious and I think the most helpful thing has been taking a step back. I always just try and remember that no single act will make or break my life, the only thing that would is a habit of not trying.
Will Reil I feel like I can relate pretty well, as I am generally an anxious person. “Taking a step back” is so effective in breaking that negative thought process.
I've started doing things for my "future self". It's true, some of Matt's suggestions have really helped me!
There is a saying in Japanese: "Stay on the rock for three years". Basically means the same thing as this video.
I gave myself 3 years for my paintings to get closer to the inner visions that inspired them. It made me enjoy the creative process and learn so much by not being focused on the results so much. It made me be in the moment, deep within the journey. Turns out after those 3 years I even got the opportunity to have my first exhibition. The word failure doesn't even mean anything thing to me anymore. When you get the right mindset to achieve your goals the word failure becomes an illusion and tends to disappear from your perception of how life works.
Matt, you have motivated me so much in life, you are a true legend.
I really needed this today.
Really hoping I can look back in 3 years and remember the decision I made.
Thanks!
Thanks, Joseph!! Good luck!
I often feel like giving up because I fall into that instant gratification mindset. I only just turned 18 so it's absolutely ridiculous to think this way, thanks for the reminder!
Emmy Hucker just remember that you’re young! You have time and you don’t have to accomplish everything before you’re thirty!
5:50 “Push forward... adjust direction” your b-roll makes me smile every time Matt
"Quitters never win and Winners never quit"
But, if you never win and you never quit, then you're just a loser. Chuckle. This came from a poster at Despair.com
3 year rule; this video has only been posted 3 minutes ago and I'm already watching.
You were supposed to wait three years.
Wow. I am just starting with my podcast and I was: "This is slow."
But this guys made 500 episodes and are "just" around 4k subs and still going strong.
Inspiring video and people.
I want to be a novel writer and this video reminded me that writing takes time, sometimes years. I needed that reminder that I shouldn’t feel like a failure just because I’m not finishing a story in three months.
I love that Matt is helping other people's projects grow
You actually start a lot of videos the same way;
"There's one rule that REALLY changed my life..."
There's one rule that's changed the way I respond to RUclips comments and it's "The Always Be Polite Rule". Thank you for commenting.
it’s the one rule he uses for youtube videos
Matt D'Avella 😂😂😂
It's never false though and that's what matters
He just uses some lines he has memorized for his videos and daily life to have a minimalist speech
“You miss 100% of the shots you don’t take”
-wayne gretzky
-michael scott
Elena delle donne
That used to be one of my favourite quotes. Not anymore.
How come?
Hélia Alves why is that?
Feeling inspired after watching this
Keep it up, your projects are great
2:20
Be real, that actually hurt you hella.
It did. And this was the second take.
It's amazing how many people see instant success after decades of hard work 🤔
Just opened up an online thrift store and I’ve been considering giving up even though I’ve i it been at it for a 2 weeks. Thank you for this video
Give it one year before you do anything like that! And expect friends and family to be the least helpful. Market yourself, talk about it, make cards, and go be the next awesome woman in biz! You can do this! It just takes time. 2 steps forward one step back. It's ok. Just keep pushing and learning.
Micheal Ellis why so bitter?
I am laughing right now, cause this is what I've accidentally discovered for myself on 1st Jan 2020 and didn't think of extending that principle to other areas of my life! I decided to commit to doing yoga every single day for a whole year, at least 5 minutes a day (which I always exceed). I experimented with yoga in the past, but it was never enough to actually gain all of the benefits it has to offer. And the first day during my very first practice, I felt so calm, as I knew I've got whole year to learn everything. I am two weeks in and I have to say that it feels so good to do yoga. I am more flexible, I found my balance, got stronger and my mind is calm. I am just amazed.
I also started doing 30 day trials few months ago following advice Matt gave us and it's been incledible - I learned to type with all ten fingers, lost weight by tracking my calories and taking it slowly (after years of trying), tried intermittent fasting which works so well for me, started reading although I thought I didn't have time for that and almost learnt a pull up, an impossible task few weeks ago (still working on it). It's changed my life. Thank you so much, Matt!
...the most underrated comment...
100÷ agree
My channel passed the 100K subscribers last week. I start in RUclips 3 years ago. Literally no one saw my videos. Now everything Is different. We need to be more patience.
Greetings from Argentina
Congratulations
He meant 100%
%
Congratulations. Hope you hit 500k soon. God bless.
2 months in since I started my business. 0 sales so far, felt like crap. This video just showed me that I am just not committed for the long term. Thanks Matt! Another Awesome video.
I'm the middle of a crisis, with anxiety and other problems. I've been here for a while. Your videos (videos like that one!) are helping me do the littles things, one step at the time. Thank you.
This is currently what I’m going through 😭 I’m seriously crying right now, I didn’t realize how much I needed this today. Thank you. 🙌🏽🥺
I’ve started my 3rd year of my Biochemistry PhD, and this video couldn’t come at a better time!
All the best!! ;)
Best of luck :)
Hang in there! I left pharmacy school after 1 year, and it’s always harder after you leave to find something you “love” if you don’t have anything you’re sure you want to do. I’m going back to finish a couple classes I need to get my biology degree and I’m not really sure what science/med related thing I want to do next.
Go for it!! :)
It is amazing how you keep uploading such quality videos in a consistent way. Keep up the good work!
Thanks, Tico!
A little over a year ago I started my RUclips channel. I said at 6 months, I want to be about 1k subs and at 1-year 5k subs. I set out with these goals and if I go an entire year and don't make 1k subs then I will deem it a failure. About 3 months in and almost 100 videos produced, I had about 100 subs. Lots of failures, but something magical happened as I pushed forward... The rest is covered in this video. I made the commitment and if you're reading this, find what you want and commit in the long run!
So, so good! We need more of this message on patient persistence. Thanks, Matt!
0:38 Matt's haircut from the time he was playing with Green Day
Im watching you i would say since day one and something in me kept saying that i should go on watching your videos. And that something was right. In some kind of way you helped me setting goals and being continually on my way while always having it right before my eyes. Im waking up early, have a structured day and found a real life goal.
Thanks for that matt!
Ps: im german so please don’t criticise my bad english
Thank you Matt!
Me and my two friends have a small independent production company that is just the beginning of our 3rd full year. We have noticed a huge change in the way our projects used to look, and the way we used to work , up to now. We have been giving our company time to grow, and with each new project we get a better finished product. We love our work, its our passion, and it's something we will probably never stop doing whether we find that huge success or micro success. While so many other people we know in our industry get so frustrated for not being an overnight success, we stay true to our process and the love of the work. It's nice to see other people who feel exactly the same way that we do.
This is in line with the stoic idea that the people who become succesful are the ones who enjoy the process, not just the result or goal.
When I’m feeling good there’s nothing I won’t do to improve myself. And when I’m feeling like shit there’s nothing I won’t do to destroy that progress
I totally can relate to this!
Thank you Matt. Just finished a media detox and this was the first video I watched. This long term commitment idea really gives me a ton of clarity!!!
I was just talking to my Friend about how we’re dedicated to getting out of poverty in 2-3 years. We are both part of generational poverty and have decided we aren’t going to be poor when we send our own kids into the world. We want them to see their parents get out and learn to take care of themselves and be generous and humble people.
UltraHuman, I wish the best for y'all!
Azalia Marie Herebia ❤️❤️❤️
30 minuts meditation everyday, journaling, reading self development Books, cold shower everyday, gym 6 times per week, perfect diet, enough sleep, no smoke, no alcoohol, facing my fears by approaching women i find attractive in the street.
I'm 22 yo. I feel like a superhero and i'm proud of what i'm achieving!
Hey man . I am glad you put this up. I have a question. How do you date chicks if they are a teetotaler . Where do you take em on dates?
@@tintinxyzc ask them what restaurants they like
This is the one video i'll always thank RUclips for recommending
I have been doing this approach with my channel the past year. I didn't set a kill date for it, just dedicated to put out a video a week for a year and see what happened. I've had a few videos pop off with one of them hitting over 120,000 views. Time pays off, and we are just getting started! Thanks for the video Matt!
Candidly, I'm scared of failing. Trying to change my mindset to take chances, willing to fail and learn. Matt is such an inspiration! Definitely working towards a decluttered life! Thanks Matt!
2:21 imagine having to do that just for the video's sake, Matt is truly a hero
"The real truth comes through in how people refer to themselves unknowingly, not the messaging they are projecting"
This is one of my very favorite videos of yours, Matt. I relate SO much. I believe my expectations, although a seemingly simple notion, have caused such crushing pressure on my creativity that I've been unable to *do* much of anything! Like you sitting at your table, flicking your floral arrangement ;p Thank you for creating this video for people like me. Cheers xx
I came to this video in perfect timing, because I was having these thoughts earlier this morning with my life from a creative and professional perspective. Having goals is one thing, but it's another thing to just buy time with excuses or stretching out time so that you can do nothing. Thanks for sharing this video, Matt!
*"Who cares if your first 10 RUclips videos get 53 views..."*
*Me:* Uhhhh more like *12 views, 10 from me and 2 from my mom.* 😂
Just make content you love! :D
Well now you have 6.58k subs
Ha! I can relate to that
Patience and Persistence. Got to remember that.
everyone starting a new project in quarantine, we gotta listen to this 🔝🔝
I'm kinda one of those subscribers who saw you in your 2 year growth, Matt! And I can say that I'm super proud and in awe of how far you've come! Peace! 🤘🏻
I don’t know who you are or how you ended up on my feed ... but after I watched this video exactly when I needed to see it .... I’m
Going to binge watch everything
Hey random person scrolling
throught the comments. I just want to say have a great day or night.
Remember your loved and you have a purpose in this world. Always stay positive and never give up in life and on your goals
right back at you :)
Thank you Commenter
Patience and persistence are insanely powerful traits to develop and grow if you truly want the life you desire
This is one of the best RUclips videos for serious, original content creators. I’m on the cusp of 8,000 subs in 2 months time and your video was so inspiring. Thank YOU, Matt.
First few seconds of the video, and I already know this topic is for me.
the only youtuber who makes videos 9:46 long
Great things happen through time and many failures that make you even better.
Love it. Thanks for putting a name to it. I used a similar approach starting in 2013. After years of failure and just getting by, I gave myself 3 years to go back to school and graduate from college, and in 2016 I gave myself 3 years to get into med school. I'm now in my second year of med school...with more failure under my belt, but lots of success.
At 40 I have no career, unmarried, no relationships.....basically live still like a 19 year old before you get all that stuff...I feel like I am living in a room with no windows. But thanks for being that tiny light man
I hope you start achieving your smaller goals and working your way towards big ones. You are still alive. You still have your time. God bless you and stay safe !
Start by cleaning your room or your flat. Do some sport. Eat healthy. Don’t look on your phone so much. Read books.
@@classicalmusiclover4029 How does that change my reality?
@@xxxYouTunesxxx only changes mindset. Mindset changed life.
Nobody:
Matt: You broke the rules
Nobody:
Nobody:
this is so inspiring. I have been working on my channel for 2 years and I'm not where I wanted to be but I love creating content about minimalism and sharing my journey. Thank you for this. I will not stop grinding! xx
This was so good! I loved how you went back and explained your take on what Josh & Tommy were doing and how you have benefited from it in your career as well. 👏
2:19 It is my city - Wroclaw! Anyone here watching from Poland?
Is this some new kind of ads?
Yes! I noticed it instantly!
siema
Your channel literally motivated me to wake up early, practice cold showers and meditate. I finally aced my exams and created a yt channel fighing procrastination!
Matt, if you haven’t already, I recommend reading Finish by Jon Acuff. It’s about finishing goals how perfectionism can hold us back. One of the first tips is to either cut your goal in half or else double the timeline. It increases your odds of finishing and then setting and completing new goals.
Love love love this! Thank you Matt! My old high school's emblem and slogan was "Courage and Perseverance". Your video reminded of that x
When you're the child of an anti-vaxx mother: The Three Year Rule
Ultraviolet Lol
Savage! 🤣
Offensive but fucking true (i'm a pro vaccinator)
Iiris That’s good, but do we really need a word for not being an antivaxer? That’s like saying ”I’m a non-nazi”
@@TheSupahZ Yes. And I can see the need for the word "Anti-vaxer". But do we need "Pro vaccinator". Btw, I'm "Pro air" and "Pro food" ;)