How to Be Assertive
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- Опубликовано: 5 авг 2024
- This video describes what assertiveness is along with two basic assertive skills. While this is the fourth of four videos on anger, it can also be viewed as a separate stand alone topic. More can be found in the books "Anger, Taming the Beast" or "Anxiety, Phobias and Panic".
This content is exceptional. A congruent book I read was like an epiphany for me. "The Art of Saying No: Mastering Boundaries for a Fulfilling Life" by Samuel Dawn
Great video. I'm glad that someone is saying that human's rights is an Western concept. I find it very arrogant when people say that your thoughts depend only on you. That's not true because it depends a lot where you live. Where you live creates your thoughts.
Thank you for the video it has really become helpful
Thanks for you perspective on being assertiveness. Your examples were very helpful.
this is so good
Awesome.....thanks for sharing!
I should've been more assertive with my boss when she belittled me. She was upset I had signed up for a one-person shift because, to be honest, I'm kind of a slow learner who does much better with a helping hand. She said she didn't think I could manage alone and was all "I've told you not to sign up for shifts by yourself, I've been very clear about that, I don't know how much clearer I can get for you to listen" (something like, that, so I'm not perfectly quoting her), and she told me I need someone there to give me instructions and guide me. Her stern condescension really upset me, and I'm mad at myself for not saying something to show her how I felt. I should've said,
A. "Well, the thing is, if we keep me away from a shift just because of an _assumption_ about me, we won't know what I'm capable of, and that's just not practical thinking. You know the old saying, _You never know till you try_
B. "Well...don't you think if you're gonna say something like that, you might as well just say I'm incompetent and unintelligent?" (In a mellow voice to avoid sounding rude or passive-aggressive.)
C. "My family always taught me to be self-confident and believe in my abilities." Can't argue with that, unless you want to tell the person you disagree and _don't_ think they have it in them.
Maybe I _should_ show her signs of self-doubt, to show her I've accepted defeat and given up. Maybe she deserves that feeling of guilt.
Thank you for sharing.
Thank you so much for your video. It was really helpful!
Thank you for sharing. Foremost, I do like how you presented the topic. I would like to learn and apply the skills to be assertive. I'm tired of being push around, not respected. Thank you.
this is great, so that i dont go bananas in banana land
Hi dear professor
Thank you so much for your help and advice.
I really appreciate your job. I wish you peace and happiness under the sky of prosperity.
All the best.
Take care and have a good time.
Your follower from Algeria.
Great Vid. 😀
Fabulous! Thank you!
Excellent video, thanks
Really great video great animation
Thank you for the great video
Thank you so much for this explanation and I would be thankful if you change the example that show hijab is a sign of the passive non assertive style..not everyone wearing it knows what islam is ..the real islam gives a great respect for women...thank DR
Thank u so much
jesus, the non assertive portion of this video reminded me of my job. I can personaly relate to it. Good video!
Dear Person when you used Jesus name withoud a reason i feelt sad because i am beliver and i whould appreciate it if you can show respect to him because he gived his life for you on the cross whouldnt this be great when we whould honor him appreciate him giving him glory your life whould be great i am shure of it he changed my life he helped me with depression he can help you in your needs but we need first make a choice we need to open our hearts may he bless you and help you realise how amazing he is Amen
@@sebo3e Hello, the reason was to emphasise the point. Jesus said not to judge. That is best left to God.
Great vid
thanks alot
Thank you you are a great help.🌸
i tried to assert myself with my mother. she told me i was being aggressive. She was a very wounded person.
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Dad is supper aggressive moms super passive aggressive. Got the best of both!! XD
Cynthia Cardenas heres to dysfunctional families! high five baby gi rl 🙌
Lmao -no but when emotions hit I struggle like fuck-
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My Friend Dr Reneau,
So many videos in your channel, and I want to begin viewing them in correct order. Could you please direct me from here henceforth so I can reap all the benefits from your channel? My name is Dr. Hamad. Dubai D.C
Just go to the home page and pick a section. Each section has it's own sequence. For example, there are two on anxiety and four on anger. If you're interested in anger, start with the first.
The advantage of video is that you can review any that you wish whenever you wish.
+Reneau Peurifoy
Thanks Doc Rene
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I disagree with you, I belive that assertiveness is always the best way to resolve conflicts.
Being passive goes towards making sure there are no conflicts. What did the video say, I won't be watching all of it
But what if the other person is not respecting your assertive behaviour and is shameless. You need agression at that time coz thats the only Language they understand. Please ignore my message if you are a woman.
The logic doesn’t apply to women,
Hi dear professor
Thank you so much for your help and advice.
I really appreciate your job. I wish you peace and happiness under the sky of prosperity.
All the best.
Take care and have a good time.
Your follower from Algeria.