Its extremely terrifying what is happening to young men in dating. I really hope this gets resolved within the next few years. Its leading to the collapse of society.
happened this actually to someone to? women flirt with me when they have her boyfriend on her side or when they in a large group of girls. but when they are solo go by they ignore me. As if they want to make it extra difficult for me to approach them
I was thinking that maybe it is due to the hook-up culture but even in where I live where we still have traditional values and necessity for marriage and all, we still have high divorce rates and screwed up relationships.
My first time touching a girl was age 26. And now I'm getting dates regularly at 37. Life gets better. The key is simply taking regular action. Improve upon your mistakes. And while you do that, build a career, go to the gym, work on your fashion, practice your social skills, lots of trial and error with girls. All the rejections will build your masculine core. 21 is like baby age, c'mon. Life is just getting started. I was super depressed in college. But the truth is nobody cares. You have to pick yourself up and go get what you want. Gather all that experience with interactions. All the rejections are a valuable foundation to your confidence. And women love confidence.
Bro your comment really touhed me. I just started hanging around with gals recently. and all thru teenage yrs or early twenties, I felt like shit because I couldn't get them. Then I learned to approach, it feels better than getting ignored. it soothes to know life gets better as you age. I still lack social skills tho, What did you do to practice social skill.
@Shuvojit I'm glad I made a difference in your thinking. I started with a lot of online dating. I got hundreds of phone numbers over the last 5 years. All this experience really adds up. Lots of dates, and lots of rejections. You inevitably get both. Work your way into doing cold approach too. There's lots of girls to talk to at the gym. And meetup events. And I have my co workers and family to chat with daily. But with women, you need cold raw experience talking to women so you aren't nervous and awkward. Gather as much experience as you can and go on as many dates as you can handle. You'll inevitably get results.
@@ShiniGorky187 " go on as many dates as you can " , this is same as telling a bad futball player to " play better " . That is our biggest problem bro , tf do you mean go in as many dats as possible ? lmfao
@NETIZAL zz If you're getting zero dates then ask yourself how much daily effort are you putting into improving yourself and pursuit dates with women? This must be a habit for life. You can't just turn it on once a month or once a year
The problem nowadays is how our generation puts so much emphasis on dating that it brings a bad mindset that you automatically start attractive and have a future made for you. Most people who are attractive put work into their lives and the attractiveness in personality and looks came with time. Nowadays people give up when they can't automatically get the partner they want and it's truly saddening to see. Even I was in this mindset all throughout high school and nearly tried to end things. Hopefully this video helps as many young men as possible.
@@Robert.Lachowski550 Culture in general, movies and shows emphasize it a lot. Same story with the media. Whenever someone posts them getting together with someone, it convinced other people that dating can be successful early on when in reality it's not always easy.
@@dillonc7955 I don't see what you are seeing. In fact, the majority of my friends are not in relationships or they are dating womyn who are low quality anyway, so why I should be envy/anxious about it?
@@Robert.Lachowski550 The difference is you are consulting the real world in that scenario. People are stuck online listening to red pill and how they're worthless if they can't get chicks, workout, earn millions, etc. Yet, if you realize that these forms of entertainment are just undermining your mentality, you begin to see that the real world is better than perceived.
I'm 21 and in the same position, zero experiences at all. I did have 3 chances with women who legit liked me and invited me to hang out but my inexplicable social anxiety (probably stemming from bullying I experienced in middleschool) always takes over and destroys every chance I have. Worst thing about being alone is having to watch so many other people you know score such high success in that area while you struggle immensely, even if those guys are objectively lower achievers/worse looking than you are. This peer pressure/fear of missing out is the true source of my misery. Even if I don't really need these experiences for myself I feel like society has conditioned me to believe I am a failure without having them.
@@CC-mm3bl Everyone has a hole in their heart and only God can patch that hole for us. People always try to do things like go after women/men who can't love them in the way they want or go after money which is never satisfying enough to try and feel purpose or fulfillment. The only thing that will give you true fulfillment is Jesus Christ. This earth is not our home, heaven is. Things here are temporary and heaven is eternal. I tried a lot of different things to find meaning while I didn't believe in God and everything felt empty, until I started having experiences where God showed me through daily life that he was real and then it made sense to me. Seeking after God is the ultimate purpose and everything else is basically nothing. The Bible is the true word of God. We need forgiveness to go to heaven. We have all sinned and broken God's laws and therefore deserve punishment aka hell. God loved us so much that he sent Jesus Christ here to live a perfect life, to die for our sins and to be resurrected. When we believe that Jesus died for our sins, was buried and rose again 3 days later, we are given God's Spirit and receive eternal life. We go straight to heaven when we die. It is a free gift given to us. After we are saved, we can go on to live life for God's plan which is better than our own and we can grow spiritually and learn more about him. God may have some great things waiting for you as well. If you want to receive eternal life check out some of these Bible verses, you can find online Bibles easily for free. I recommend the King James Version. Romans Chapter 10 Verses 9-10 John Chapter 3 Verses 16-17 and Chapter 6 Verse 47 (John is a great book to read in general) Ephesians Chapter 2 verses 8-9
Yes, it is definitely rough to fail a lot with women. 24 and never had a girlfriend, no dates, and only 1 compliment from a woman who is not a sweet old lady. Somehow, I always manage to not only get rejected, but also offend the person I'm asking out. I've found that based on my failures, there needs to a balance between directness (don't pretend you are not interested) and speed. Specifically regarding speed, too fast can come off as overbearing, too slow comes off as afraid or gets you friendzoned. I haven't figured it all out yet, I'm still a work in progress. Life is hard my friends, we bros gotta stick together and build each other up.
I’m 27. Same deal. I have always had more connection with older people because they see how traditional I am (courteous, respectful, commitment to family and obligations come easy to me). I’m not rebellious. I respect authority
I’m 23 and virgin never had a girlfriend. I am not suicidal, but completely gave up on relationships after so many rejections that hurt me. I don’t hink there is a girl that’s want to be with me. I am not good enough for a girlfriend. I gave up and accepted being single forever. Made my life much better then constantly thinking about getting a girlfriend.
99% of males in the world are in your same predicament, only the top 1% of attractive and wealthy males get to experience what we have been neglected for free...... It's a social issue
This is the new normal for guys. Every guy is going to be starved for sex until age 30-ish. I'm just going to say right now that this is unsustainable.
Lol as if age 30 is some quick fix. We'll all be starved at that age as well. Still ugly and undesirable. Maybe get surgery now before it's too late and we start balding.
ya nowadays young peoples just think about studying or are just busy, if you are a male can't just go out and start singing like a bird to attract females, it became too difficult
i’m 34 and i have been feeling this way for years. rejection/flakes/ghosting takes a toll and you never get “used” to it. dating has defeated me. i would love to not wake up tomorrow.
I just see it as them showing their character and "dodging grenades". Don't give up there is a good girl out there somewhere. Focus on improving yourself and be open minded to the girls that you happen upon throughout your day to days.
Don't give up, you never know what could happen tomorrow or the next week/month etc. Its very easy to be pessimistic when you are down and it doesn't seem like it's going your way but try to look up and forward, 🙏 stay strong
I felt the same way as this guy when I was that age. I was drinking heavily and just trying to cope with what I thought was a meaningless life. Fast forward a year and I was working a delivery job where we'd drive through downtown areas and see tons of homeless. This one day I distinctly remember thinking, "How can some of these people just give up on life like this?" (Yes obviously some of them didn't do it by choice). That's when it hit me like a ton of bricks. I DID care about my life. I DIDN'T want to end up that way. I DID want to live an amazing life. Still chokes me up to think about it tbh. Now to the present, I am a licensed realtor and home inspector, and I'm confident I'll get my first home under contract any day. Life does get better fellas. But damn if it isn't hard most of the time.
All that career stuff is meaningless if you have no relationships and suffer on a regular basis from being rejected as a person from society so you have to outcast yourself and hide who you are from others otherwise you will just offend someone and ruin your reputation
At 30 I feel the same way, no gf never been on a date getting rejected, gets me down and constantly have to fight my demons. Can't hate on anyone if the women are not attracted to me what can I do besides work on myself exercise and be the best person, even then its hard to get into a relationship.
@@chaseeppards3155 nah man, if you have hobbies you truly love, and a few good friends, live is aight, women are overrated af anyways. I’m 21 and a virgin myself, but I spend my time going out with the boys and going fishing, drinkin some beer occasionally, and I have other personal hobbies. I build computers, gaming, guns, cars, play guitar, I also write poetry, I sketch, read books, weight lifting, bird watching, camping, all kinds of shit I do, that being wayyy more fulfilling things to my life than some nagging women that only wants your money, and uses her smelly fish box to fool you into simping for it. Just find what you love in life (other than women) and stop being a loser man, so many guys nowadays just get emotional over the most pathetic shit it ain’t even funny bro, chase money not hoes 💯
I am 27 and feel devastated because of my lack of success with women and social interactions too. It’s not uncommon and I’m constantly wrestling with bad thoughts. FOMo hits hard and feeling rejected leaves you devastated. You try to build your confidence up but they bring you down and it’s not cool at all.I wonder why it can’t be like in my parents and grandparents day when you just got into a marriage through arrangement. Problem solved. I have so much to offer someone. All I want is to adore and love someone and serve them to the end of my days and reciprocity in turn. And it hurts when you feel you are the optimal man for a relationship/marriage/fatherhood and girls around you just don’t take you and your dedication seriously.
Hey bud, I can relate to what you are feeling. I am 29 and have struggled with some of the same feelings. The biggest things that I can recommend is getting into martial arts (BJJ, Judo, Boxing, Muay Thai, etc.), go on a bulk and start lifting weights, and focus on developing yourself. Go monk mode and don't stop until you've developed your character (yourself) into who you want to be. That's the fun part about being a guy, you can develop yourself into whatever you want to be in life. Don't focus on chasing women, build yourself up until the women that you want chase you. Honestly, if you have a little bit of money saved up I would do a complete re-frame and go to Thailand for a month a la @CEOofTestosterone. A change of scenery might do you some good.
The last part specially hit me hard. It seems the more decent you are the less desirable you get. Even if you even have social proof that you got anything or something. This is fucked up bro.
The truth my friend, it is that life ain't fair, the only sure things you can have is pain and suffering coming your way on all sides, but guess what, happiness and love exists out there somewhere, and as long as you are alive and looking for it, you have a chance to find it. But you gotta accept taking the damage, the unending damage you take from life everyday. It is a decision you have to make.
im 28 and i often feel the same. I changed my diet and i started to go into the forest a lot and making sports. This helps a ton i promise. I finally found a new job (lost mine 1 year ago) and things go uphill again. Start with urself and get diserable (happens when u feel good when ur alone)
Do stuff to get friends. Don't care about the girls. Knowing more people will anyway increase your chances. But before having a fulfilling life you must actually respond to all your natural basic needs. Doing so makes life really colorful
It's quite serious when you think about it because the success of our whole genetic survival depends on approval from the opposite sex. Being denied that almost feels like a death sentence. But what's beautiful about masculinity is that we can always build our own value as men as we go through many trials and tribulations. Even a 40 year old man can attract a girl in her 20s if he's made himself into a top-tier male. And even women in some level know that it takes time for men to realise their full potential.
As I'm interested in Biology, I always thought that the importance of sex and dating for young men was totally underrated. During puberty, when people freaked out badly it was always about releationship stuff. But at 29 I also noticed that people in general became more open and interested in me as I grew older.
Can men date younger usually? Yes. But there is a limit to how young. 5 years? Ok. 7-8 years? Doable. But the only way a 40 year old man can attract an attractive early 20s to mid 20s woman is either a)he looks like Henry Cavill or b)he is like at least top 1% in earnings/social standing. We are talking about outliers here. For the rest, it ain't happening. And if it happens, it probably won't be a high quality woman of good moral character. And that's my issue with the red pill. It gets some things right, but it's also filled with BS. A great physique and a 100k+/year job won't really guarantee you much if you're older. And let's be honest here, what's the point of putting so much effort to end up with a 35 year old plain looking woman with a lot of baggage? There is no point. The best advice is to simply improve your looks as much as you can and your social skills when you're young, and the earlier you start the better. Work out, dress better, get on accutane if you have a lot of acne, get on finasteride if you lose hair, and socialize a lot so that you can meet more people and women and become more socially competent. Everyone ages and after a certain point you will be unable to date the ones you want and you'll be stuck with the bad apples.
@@mrdouche9172I'm 39 and dated 19 to 25yr olds. 25 to 29 is usually my target. I simply look young for my age (and good looks help) and got my stuff together. Girls take that into account .
Dude I got rejected by 12 women, I may have felt that small depression afterwards, but I never sulked in it for life... I stood up and grew some balls because I know there's some girl out there who absolutely loves me. This is a reminder to never give up 🤝
i have been rejected by 21 women but the 21st rejection hurt a lot because i fell in love with her before it makes a huge difference if you are rejected by a relatively foreign woman or by someone you already know well
Holy shit I don't think I've ever even interacted with that much girls lolz, here I am still trying to decide whether or not to approach this girl at the gym...
@@desb3459 Most were just cold approaches so it's not that special i did interact with these girls maybe 1 or 2 minutes in most cases. And you should just approach this girl at the gym they longer you wait how harder will it get and you have nothing to lose.
I'm 21, virgin, broke, extremely isolated and lonely, paranoid, empty, friendless, lost, miserable, slightly overweight, 24/7 in house, friendless, stuck, helpless, and most importantly I don't know what to do with my life carrier job wise at all. ,
@@wulfsorenson8859I'd been going to gym from age 16 to 20. What does it change? Yes, my body looked much better but it didn't make me any friends let alone girls. I was still miserable in many regards, I was awkward, shy, socially unintelligent etc. It's just a way to distract from everyday problems for a couple of hours and eventually you get tired of it.
this hits pretty close to home. I'm also 21 and although I do have friends and am doing okay mentally I still feel like shit about never having had a girlfriend or being rejected. Thank you for making this video
Kinda in a similar situation man! I'm just chilling enjoying life, even though it kinda sucks I have not had a girl. No destructive thoughts though. Life is what you make of it and I've not really put that much effort in trying to get women or get out there so I know it's 100% in my hands. Maybe at some point I'll stop being this big a hermit and get out there XD we'll see though.
At the start of the year I ended my relationship with my ex fiance because she cheated on me while I was on deployment in Japan I was at my lowest point and felt like I had nothing to live for. I started going to the gym because of your videos I gained 30 pounds of mass and feel very confident in myself now I am having very good success with dating and meeting new people I feel like without your videos I would still be in a dark place.
Imagine being 24 and zero dating experience. Since i have passed all the phases of disappointment and frustration, now it doesn't matters to me at all. I am just focussing on my health and career now instead of wasting time and effort for girls which i did since 16 17. I cant even imagine the success i could have if i had focussed on my development since 16. Just remember every life is different.
I am 24 years old bro. Keep trying and don't waste too much time on a particular girl. It's a numbers game. I almost faced 15 rejections before getting a girlfriend (ex). I am still trying.
@@SquallSZ Thats 100% true, I am 23 and I am independently happy. Coming from a life of being bullied, having social anxiety and a lot of pain. But I became happy through the years by looking at all the things that ALSO made me happy. Girls isn't everything in life.
Dating as an average young guy is just extremely hard nowadays due to abundance of options women have with social media and online dating apps. As a guy, u need to adjust your expectations and realize u will get rejected a lot, and it's gonna take improving your social skills, personality, looks, and other areas of ur life before u will start seeing consistent dating success with girls.
I've honestly gotta keep reminding myself that sometimes I think I'm the problem uno. Like dating apps really haven't done us guys any favours let's be honest.
yeah dating apps did fuck us average or below average guys. Unless your a chad its hard getting into a relationship. Even in person the game as gotten harder all these social media posts with perfect models, its like some women expect every men to look like a model.
@@ChadAV69 It's nature. Why do you think brothels were so popular with soldiers in WW1 and 2? Or were you not told about that because the redpill grifters had you believe pussy doesn't matter ?
@@nuclearpugg You would end yourself over Women? That’s pathetic and weak. Find some other stuff to do in life and get your mind off of Women. Once you finally have sex you would realize it’s not all as people make it out to be. Plus you risk having a kid do you want a child on your hands and the responsibilities?
Im 20. I feel so lonely, depressed and hopeless everyday. Going to the gym doesnt help and hanging out w friends doesnt fully help either. To no ones suprise im still a virgin and i feel so helpless and wothless. It destoys my confidence quite alot. I sometimes think im too ugly and dumb to ever have a chance on women my age. Also, i have multiple dating apps but have practically no likes or matches. My friends have alot more female attention and frequently talk about theis intimate experiences while i just sit there alone, depressed and looking like a fool. I dont know how to build myself up as a more confident person so i have contiplated just taking my own life multiple times. Life just feels like an endless struggle. Taking anti depressants but they dont work. Live alone and probably gonna die alone aswell.
Don’t take ya life bro. I’m 22, a virgin in the same boat. I just decided to go monk and focus on education and work They’ll flock later. This is workin for me, I hope it works for you
im 28 and i often feel like this guy. Just recently i thought every day of ending myself. A short while ago I changed my diet to be really healthy and nearly completely quitting junkfood and i started to go into the forest a lot, exploring nature and making sports. This helps a ton i promise. I finally found a new job (lost mine 1 year ago) and things go uphill again. Start with urself and get diserable (happens when u feel good when ur alone)
@@ceooflonelinessinc.267what you need is to explore other options . Western women have become incredibly shallow so why settle for these women when you can go over seas and find a woman that appreciates a good guy
You’ve gotta love yourself before you love others. If you can’t stand you, why would anybody else? Be the man you’d be proud of and your successes will follow.
Yes very true because no one understands you as much as yourself. but I just wanna add you need friends too. Don’t try to live life all of life alone that’s torture. Doesn’t even need to be a woman, just a friend can be so important.
Man I'm 21 and have had some dark, dark thoughts and states of mind like this lately. Fortunately due in part to these vids and others I've had at least some success recently. Thanks Jack.
I'm 30 and I've never had a girlfriend or even touched a girl. In high school and college I asked out a few girls and got rejected, and then I tried dating apps for a few years. Dating apps are utterly useless. I would rarely ever get matches, and on the rare occasion that I did, it would never go anywhere. The girl would just stop responding for no reason, every time. I eventually just said screw it and stopped trying to date altogether. I don't let being single bother me. If I happen to meet someone, then great, but if not I don't care. I'm content.
Dude that sucks. I understand not having GFs as that is hard for many guys but you should at least get touched by a girl(though that can be hard too). Also it sounds like you got sub human treatment sadly.
I honestly don’t know why I carry on living sometimes, the release of death sounds too good. I feel so defeated and tired of carrying on, nothing motivates me. I used to crave intimacy, but it just feels like all of my feelings and hope turned into dread and oddly enough I can feel it in my heart and my brain that I’m losing the war. I think it’s just not worth fighting anymore, it causes my mental health to get worse. I’ve lost boys
I am 34 years old and a virgin, Im going to put an end to my life this december on my birthday, Ive talked about this with psycologists, etc. never helped, my friends never helped me, no female friends to talk about this with... never had confidence with my mom or sister to talk about this either... Ive been fighting too long, this society is not prepared to help with the issues that it has created, farewell everyone
Damn man thats really sad. I am a 22 year old guy who never had a girlfriend before and yet to get my first kiss. Since 13th July 2023, I started going for some classes to prepare for exams to get into an MBA B School as I just graduated college last week and wanna study MBA next. There in the classes, I got a massive crush on this girl who is also 22 or maybe 23 now. We did handshake on our first class and introduced ourselves and she sometimes tries to initiate convos with me asking whether I had lunch or not and some more she does say me hi but I just answer what she asks or say hi back but I am still shy to initiate further talks with her. I am still kinda shy near girls in person so I don't really feel the confidence to initiate any conversation with her unless she initiates one with me. But yesterday she actually said I am cute as I keep smiling(like a shy smile) almost all the time in class and I blushed hard after she said I am cute and my friends too teased me about it hehe. I also had been chatting with this another girl who is 19 on Instagram since 28th May 2023 and also asked out my childhood friend 3 months ago and she is 21 now turning 22 soon. My childhood friend did agree to meet up but she is so inactive on Instagram that I still don't know when we will meet as she takes weeks or even a month to reply to me whereas I chat with the 19 year old daily about everything and send each other virtual hugs daily. We used to be in the same school but now she is in a different college which is very near to my home tho. I wanna ask her out too but I am nervous as I get rejected by 4 girls recently and it looks like she still sees me as just a friend.
@@manosijroy8282 Dont be afraid of being rejected mate, trust me, life is only one, do what I couldnt do, invite her to go for a drink and just be yourself, you never know, good things may happen, all the best luck mate
So....just don't? I know this is kinda passé, but if you want to lose your virginity that badly, i would suggest making a few phone calls to an escort. That's probably a fool-proof plan for you to get it out the way, from a lady of the night. It ain't ever really that bad, to the point where you have to end your life dawg. You're still a young man & still have a lot more life to live. Grow a pair & talk to your mom, or any other female family member. They'll probably help hook you up, with some of their female friends, or co-workers.
@@NikoBelic4 This kind of opinion is what makes males like me want to end up our lives, would you tell a 34 years old virgin woman to pay for a escort? be honest... no, you wouldnt, why do I have to assume the ONLY way I can have sex is by PAYING? is that what im worth? I dont habe any female support... read again my comment
I can relate to this even though I am in my late 20s, I get these really f-ed up thoughts about ending my life from time to time, but then I realize that these thoughts are not exactly my own but rather they are a result of trauma and isolation. I have the option of pursuing women or making new friends but instead I choose to use this time alone to make upgrades in my life. I've come to find out that it's times like that you need to focus on the things that you STILL HAVE rather than what you don't. Also don't be too hard on yourself and acknowledge the mistakes that you made before and how you can inprove moving forward.
One thing I’ll say is atleast this guy had the balls to actually approach women and try something. I literally don’t even have the courage to glance at a cute girl’s direction. It’s so over for me
Ur smart to do so. In Me2 era u can go to jail for looking at gals. In France there is supposedly a law that says u can't stare at a women for a few secs
Same here. I know where I stand. You know the common phrase, "stay in your lane" I'm ugly, balding, 5'7" or dare I say I rounded up. Fuck life honestly. Used to somewhat care about life, politics, culture. Xyz, now I care of about nothing at all. People like us aren't welcomed by our species and are filtered out like coffee.
As a 21-year-old I was stuck in the same rathole but after 3 years of self-improvement now I have GF that loves me for who I am plus now I am working even harder, unlike most men who might slack off after getting into a relationship. However, I am still working on my past trauma so there's a long way to go :)
I struggle with mental health issues including this regularly. Loneliness, feelings of insecurity towards women, some ptsd from the military, and other stuff. It’s rough. It’s important to build strong friendships irl. Sometimes you just need to go to sleep. But I get it. Sometimes my dog is the only reason I can hold on.
i started following you because of your self-improvement videos. but i never expected to see you talking about such sensitive subject just because one person got on edge. i just acquired massive respect for you. you are great, keep it going and i’m sure you’ll inspire many more people that desperately need help.
People often take temporary failures as defeat but when you cross the temporary failures there is a huge success Written in ch 2 think and grow rich It's same happening to me rn , 9 rejections in a row But i never loose Your subconcious mind manifests what you believe Don't loose hope , use your mind as a superpower not as a self destruction device
The problem is, I feel like, Women have way higher standards then Men. A lot of man will settle for a average or below average women these days, a women will want a 1% type of dude who is rich and attractive. This is the problem and why all women are taken whereas, all men are single. Also, society has too much emphasis on romance and love, you can’t get away from it
Jack I’m 32 and this content you’ve been coming out with has been great man. I hate the word wholesome cause it’s overly used now but it’s the only word I can describe it. But your channel has grown and love it man. Love the affect you’re making on young men and others bro 🙏🏻
I lost my virginity at age 26... I thought it would never happen. I'm 33 now and have been with plenty of women and am getting married later next year. Life does get better but only if you put in the work. I stopped making excuses for why women weren't showing interest in me, started dressing better, going out and putting myself in situations to meet and approach women. It was not easy but you can make it happen. Don't think that it will solve your depression though. Women bring a whole host of new problems into your life and sometimes I ask myself if I was happier when celibate.
@@christiansnaturestudio6599 I'm 5 7 actually just under, 31 and balding. This same dude would happily gaslight me into thinking this doesn't makes dating next to impossible. 1 thing these "work on yourself bro" ppl seem to think that if a balding 5 7 guy works on himself that all of a sudden the majority of the male population she's got at her finger tips can't "work on themselves bro" also. So working on myself is going to set me apart from the other 6ft and handsome guys who possibly have a good career that's further bolstered by the halo effect. They're delusional. It's like blindfolding someone, and telling them to throw the dart at a dart board, that it's an excuse to give up and not compete with a pro darts player. You are out of your league, handicapped, and no amount of effort you make will help you hit that bullseye, but somehow they still say you weren't confident enough. I'm all honesty, this rationale isn't really an exaggeration to my actual potential to get a gf.
UPDATE: I have a girl who’s 21 who likes me who I built up the courage to ask if she’s kissed anyone and when she said no, I told her I haven’t either. Eventually, I kissed her on the lips, almost forgot to turn right, and it went on for 2-3 minutes. I accidentally took her right hearing aid off and she stopped to pick it up when I asked her if she wanted to continue or if she didn’t feel comfortable anymore, she said she didn’t feel comfortable anymore and just left it at that. After the kiss, I felt like I had a stomach ache. Thankfully my breath wasn’t bad and neither was her breath bad.😂☺️ Then when we went to camp with our church’s youth group, she slipped out on accident (I’m not even sure if her friend might’ve dared her to say it) that she’s just like me describing what the title of this video says.😳I had doubts about her whether she would be a good communicator because of her hearing aids and whether I liked her back, but now I do. Her waiting like I am for marriage is way more beautiful than any good physical attributes that she has.☺️🙌🙏
To the guy who post this comment. Stay strong brother. I´m like in the same position. 22 Years old , never had a girl , date and kiss. I know it´s tough times nowadays. But i think like there should be more reasons to life then girls. If you start thinking in this way , maybe it will better for you. I overcome this solution because i´m thinking like look. I had cancer in the age of 5 and survived , while other didn´t . So i think why wasting this second chance in life , while other didnt have. I hope this comment maybe helps you. Stay strong and try to build a good future . And thanks Denmo for this and the other good videos. I´m really enjoying your good content.
Best wishes for him. I belive we all had this period in our lives an it might be a pivot point in which we will grow so much stronger and wiser (at least that's what I experienced). To any that feels down, remember, there is way more people to connect and a greater motive to be alive and keep going. Thnaks Jack for putting videos like this.
I'm 28 and I want to my mine because life is pointless and I'm done with all of the liars, thieves, and cheaters in my life. I completely understand what he was going through, until I actually got into relationships. He wouldn't be able to handle the betrayal and lies that come with being in a relationship. That would only make him feel worse. I am jealous that he still believes he can find someone he can trust in this crooked society. Unfortunately, the only person you can rely on is yourself. However, if you hate being yourself, what is the point?
Can understand that, Im like that too since half my life and Im 27. I have noone, no family, no friends. Its very hurtful. And I can't fix it since I have social anxiety and can't talk or go outside. But I am working on my life slowly. And all that probably only because my father left when I was a little child and it destroyed me. So annoying, wish I could be happy alone.
Yeah, been there as well. Now I'm 29yo and when i reflect back on those problems, it makes me laugh. Like how dramatic certain things seem when you're young, but when you see more life you understand its not as bad.
Something that helped me was learning that even the "Top Gs" of the world only close with chicks about 10 percent of the time. You might think they get the girl every single time. The thing is, they only showcase or talk about their wins. The part you don't see is the 9 out of 10 girls who reject them too. They only talk about the 1 out of 10 girls they took home that night. If you put in the work and stay patient my guy, things will get better. Keep grinding my G.
Nope thats copium. Life's not fair, theres times in my past were I could go into a club and get with 4 girls minimal effort ( they didn't even care I kissed other girls anf theres
Been a silent fan all throughout college, watching your stuff since those early pranks, and wow this is such a great level of understanding for this kind of guy that I never really see in this world. Thank you for making me and many others feel less alone through this. I think you’re helping even more than we realize P.s. I think I saw you at the airport in dallas last month. Not sure though
I'm 21 rn. To all the other 21 year olds right now.. please do not end your life. Our birth year is super cool, it has two '0's and two '2's. 2002, that's a-lot of twos! Do you want your tombstone to read 2002 - 2023? Or would you rather it read 2096 or even 2105! Right now up to this point, we have experienced a tiny portion of what life has to offer. You may have not experienced much in your short time on this earth, and that's okay, there's so much more to come. Maybe you have, maybe you've been places and seen things! That's great. Why end it so early?? Why not have *mooore* experiences! Children only start remembering things at age 4 or 5, which means that's even less to have experienced. We are at the very beginning of our journey. Quitting now is like being thirsty as hell and seeing a Walmart 5 blocks away, then turning around because "it's too far". Don't be like that. Liiiiiiiiiiive!!!!!!!!!!!
Im 21 but it feels like it will never happen you always here your time will come but tick tock im 30. The frustrating part is not about being a virgin and the label its more that im ready for sex. Like a rocket on standby but never being launched. I have everything aswell for my age a business with my dad a drivers license passed first time, good looks and clothes, confident and funny. I socialise like bars, bowling alleys and fishing. Its like wtf do i need to do to get laid besides getting drunk at a nightclub is this seriously what the modern dating scene is. To think if i were alive 100 years ago i would already be married with kids with a factory job. Fuck modern society. I try and get nothing in return
I`m gonna be 20 years old after few months. I have never had a girlfriend or kissed any girl and at the same time I don`t even give a f*ck. I don`t plan to make it soon. I`m too busy with myself and my hobbies and self-improvement that I feel like I don`t even want to have girlfriend or experience intimacy. It`s sad to know that someone who is almost at my age want to kill himself only because he can`t get some b*tches. Life is so good to be lived even without girls.
If the woman thinks you’re attractive enough, she won’t care if you’re broke af, the women saying they want a guy making 6 figures are usually older and looking for a provider.
@@jonathanm9986 I don't make six figures either and I still have luck. Also, the fact that he's willing to die over that hints at some problems within himself
It's okay to feel like the guy in the discord, to feel negative emotions, it's part of being human. Still I want to offer a mind game. If I could show you that two years from now, one year from now, one month from now, things get better, things would be okay, meaning you'd be in a better headspace, your days would be filled with more positivity than negativity. You would meet new people, new friends, date a girl, kiss a girl, she would become your girlfriend, you would keep doing things that motivate you like sports, hobbys, travel, socializing, improving your body, your work, etc. etc. Would you want that? Would you say: "Yes, I will take that!" Then let me tell you, that now is not the time to give up man. Keep walking, keep your head up! This universe, everything around you, gravitates towards balance. Life is like a wave. It goes up and down. It's cyclic. The state you are in now is not permanent. Dont. Give. Up.
Omg. 21 years old. I felt exactly like this guy. Wanna destroy myself due to the lack of success w women. Now 29 and look back, I am fucking love that 21 years old me. Without him suffering pain, i am not myself today. It’s a process of character building.
Jack, my guy. Thank you so much for what you’re doing. This is real change. This is real. To the young man that is going through this struggle or any other human being struggling, just keep fighting. Please, just keep fighting.
21 and never been on a date in my life. Socially awkward, shy, and self-conscious. Can’t really connect with people outside of myself. I think I’m really all I need.
I am 23, kissed a girl, made out, but safe for that I didn’t experienced much. Do a natural Testosterone boost, do sport, eat healthy, healthy life and you will get less shy and more manly, that’s what I can promise… But, I have still hope to get a girl pretty soon…
You're dating life is oretty much dead in the water even if somehow you had some success. You're dating experience should begin in middle school and at worse early high-school. If 30 yrs old and nothing, girls will know INSTANTLY You're a virgin and I'd bet You're not too handsome and 6+' tall?
At 21 he's getting rejected, wich means at least he's trying. Im 23, same problem but in the step beheind (not even trying) cause im afraid of rejection too. He needs to not give up and keep going cause he already started the journey to have a better life (or at least on this topic)
Same. N its honestly hard bc we live in a world where women get shamed for not being virgins but shamed for it as well. Im tryna do the right thing n wait for the right one but will it even be worth it? Most dudes are sleeping with every girl possible so will I even find someone who thinks like me to connect with? Its a battle bc i feel pathetic for wanting to give up and give into the feeling n desire but I feel pathetic for waiting whilst everyone loses their v-card as well. I feel pathetic in general. Its crazy bc i wanna say our society is messed up to the point ppl wanna off themselves for being virgins but I also kinda get it....idk.
@@portman8909 not my case, I'm pretty average, just awkward, depressed and miserable (no desire for living, no passion). And it's WAY worse than ugliness.
This is overwhelming how young man are struggling nowdays with human connection especially with girls but it's important to realize that you are not alone , behind evry man you see out there having success he done something you didn't.lets embarras that we need to work on ourself until it's comes everybody's hit.
i quit porn completely, i rewired my brain using neurofeedback, I healed my bipolar disorder and this is what I get for 5 years of living monk style!???
Lost my virginity at 21, dated the girl for almost half a year then broke up and realized she never loved me. I used to think rejections were the worst thing in the world, but heartbreak is much worse. Guys who are still virgins, just remember the grass in not always greener on the other side. Along with pleasure comes pain and we gotta keep going no matter what.
@@forsadeltoro8692 true. Having a female partner is not a birthright but an earned privilige for most of us men out there. I’m working on being stronger every day. The break up means I wasn’t strong enough
I’m 19 and am in the same position as this guy. I dated what I thought was the most perfect girl for a year with no problems what so ever just for her to find out she was asexual and also infertile. Even with all of that I still wanted to stay with her for the rest of my life and marry her even if that meant I couldn’t have sex with her and that having kids with her would be more complicated. Despite all of that she left me after telling me those things and will not talk to me anymore. My heart is shattered and I wake up every morning wishing to meet my end. Now I am all alone with no experience with women whatsoever considering me and my ex didn’t do anything besides kiss. Despite being financially secure, in shape, and decently looking I am afraid I will never find another girl like my ex again. We had so much in common and I have never been accepted by any other woman in my life they always just ignored me and thought I was weird which I am but so was my ex. My perfect future crumbled right in front of me and now I am an empty vessel. I can’t believe I was willing to sacrifice a big part of life like sex to be with someone just for her to throw me away and not tell me why.
What male behaviors DOES attract a girl? What are the consequence when a guy wants to sleep with you on dates? How to curb the drama when we are putting ourselves out there? I mean, there aren’t even a class to lecture how you make&choose friends. Everything we know about love is from drama and movie which proves to be failures in this day and age. My deep skepticism is gradually increasing: I wonder “dating modernism” cannot coexist with “dating traditionalism”, and hence one must destroy one another and thrive on its enemy’ grave. In order for your future generation to have healthy families and offsprings, first of all, the “consequences carefree” sort of culture must be eradicated. This will start from each of you maximizing your self-improvement journey and bringing more and more of your brothers in, be the man of your word, filter out trashes from your inner circle, eats healthy and workout, spare your arrogance towards those who are degenerated. Only each of us rally up in numbers, can a brighter future finally comes.
24 and I have never kissed a girl or held hands with a girl. And when people hear this they’re like just go and talk. It’s not that easy with me. I just got to the point to accept it
23, same position. I try sometimes, extremely hard too, but its so defeating. I think if I hit 30 and still haven't known love I'll end it all. This world fucking sucks.
I feel like this needs to be said; these videos sometimes make you feel like you have to be a certain someone to get intimacy, but that's not true. You need to be a certain someone to go out and meet people, not to keep them around. It's important to know that there are lots of people out there who are more introverted than extroverted and they know the same thing. You have to be a certain amount of outgoing in order to be successful in the system. In fact, it was my 'outgoingness' that now got me to get a girlfriend who ironically went through the same thing: not being able to be without people, but also not willing to always say a lot and put energy into socializing. I'm not gonna give you some story of "you gotta find the one" but know that the fact that you might not fit the stereotype means that not all girls do either. You don't have to change yourself to be with someone, you have to change the way you present yourself to a certain way to meet people. Keep that in mind. Not everyone is an extroverted popular man/woman of high status, they just present themselves like that to the outside world.
Im unfortunately in the similar position as the person being talked to in this video, except im 22. Never had a girlfriend either. This past month I met this girl at the gym and she lead me on hard as hell, things seemed to be going good and the day of our plans to hangout she canceled then eventually she unadded me on snap. This most recent experience has really set me over the edge cause I felt like this was the closest to me having a girlfriend, just for her to easily vanish like that on me
I have been a virgin until 24,5 years of age, even though most people considered me a "chad". My first relationship was very short because i did many mistakes that unexperienced men do. The only good thing - she was toxic too, so it was better to lose her anyway. Later i improved from year to year and got better and better with women. Also the quality of these women improved. It is important to learn to enjoy the process of becoming a better person. Now i am 32 and single again (i have broken up because i started a career in another country) but i do not feel worthless/parasuicidal like i did at the age of 23 years. Remember guys, women usually age like milk, men usually age like wine (if you cultivate a healthy lifestyle - if you only sit around and eat fast-food all the time, you gonna age like milk too)
I'm 27 and still a virgin I managed to get a gf through online dating 2 years ago but it's long distance. Our relationship is currently on the rocks so I have a feeling I'm going to go right back into the pit of lonely depression again. It's super hard getting girls when you have such mediocre social skills like me I feel like I will be alone the rest of my life. It's really not the virginity thing that bothers me it's the fact I will die alone with nobody to love that gets me. Girls have so many options when it comes to men that fit exactly what they want even if they are not super attractive. If you are not one of the top guys your options will be extremely limited because obviously like anyone they are going to choose the best option. All I can do is try to improve myself I guess but man it's going to be tough.
21 and still a Virgin ? Try being 28 and I never been kissed by a woman, hold hands and even touched by one, i genuinely hope that the guy in question turned his life around and is feelling much better and happy
I didn’t lose my virginity until I was 25… I was clueless and naive at 21… I thought at the time it was the norm to be a virgin at 21 and to never of had a girlfriend since 21 is young and I haven’t had the experience so I assumed that it was the norm… I was upset about not having a girlfriend, but I foolishly thought I could get a girlfriend without asking girls out! When I was 19 I told my parents that I didn’t get a girlfriend in my pervious college because I was too shy to ask girls out and my dad told me “that being rejected was better than not asking at all”… and I still thought I could get a girlfriend without asking any girls out! I find it even more embarrassing that I didn’t even get my first girlfriend until I was 22 years old! Which is sad… I hear ppl say it’s late to not even get a girlfriend until they were 18… but 18 is a much better age than 22 since your still a teenager at 18!… I would be so happy if I gotten my first girlfriend and lost my V card at 18!
I'm 21 too. No friends, never had a girl, nothing. I can't talk to anyone because my social skills suck and because of that, I have no self confidence in myself. I'm so lonely.
@@iiCounted-op5jx what you doing watching a self help video if you think there’s no hope? i don’t think you’d be here if you didn’t think there was at least a chance things could change
@@iiCounted-op5jx if you’re black pilled you’re just consciously being pessimistic which won’t help anything imo. being realistic and blackpilled are two very different things
@@iiCounted-op5jx What do you do on a day to day basis? Just nothing. Read Awaken the Giant Within by Tony Robbins. Ask yourself different questions. I’m struggling too with dating. I don’t ask myself “Why don’t I have a girlfriend?” But rather “How can I improve myself to get a girlfriend?” I bring that question to you, how can you improve yourself to qualify for your desired relationship? How can you add value to someone else’s life? If you cannot create that value, create the circumstances and figure out how. Through sheer PERSISTENCE, FAITH, and a BURNING DESIRE to accomplish your dreams, it does happen.
Never hurts to get a dog either, girls love dogs, you can have almost zero social skills and girls will still come up and talk to you on the weekends or if they have time. Plus the dog will be loyal for life and the best wingman you ever had. Also, there are lot's of dogs at kennels and pounds literally dying to be your best friend and do anything to help you get that girl and have you get them out of horrible situation they are in at the pound. Win Wi Win
A lot of guys get mislead with bad advice the best advice is to perhaps seek cosmetic surgery or leg lengthening all celebrities do it to be more attractive you will definitely see results your personality is never the problem it’s just the world we live in ❤
Personality is the sum of the whole part not a choice. So msny guys are misled with this falsehood that a girl GENERALLY speaking, is determining your personality on looks. And balding and being short individually are rough but mixing. Yeah, there's a pretty solid chance the only card you'll get is sone torn up crumpled dirty card.
I’m not much in life rn. I’ve made huge progress with myself but not enough to fix all the problems I have. Hopefully I can come back to this comment when I’ve reached the point I want to reach. Thank you for the motivation Denmo.
I really feel him. I'm in the same position and its hard to stay positive. I used to go climbing to distract myself from my dating problem, was also quite good at it (5.13a). Sadly the thoughts never went away and at some point climbing didn't make me feel any better, so i quit. Then I tried lifting weights and running to distract myself, but I still felt so depressed. I also have been to three psychotherapists, but that also didn't help. I don't know what to do anymore.
Hard pill to swallow, especially when you think that barring falling ill or accident, you can safely expect to live 50+ years longer. And from mid 30-70, you pretty much are doomed as far as se* or sny female intimacy. You may get leftovers and that's almost worse then getting nothing.
Thanks for the video Denmo 👍, keep helping out the boys. And bro’s we gotta stick together and move forward. Especially when ww3 happens after ww3 those who survive will drown in poon
Im 23 years old and ive never experienced love or relationship. I recentely became an orthodox christian, im learning Chinese and Japanese, doing 400 Push Ups a day, running, exercising and reading tons of books. Now i dont give a damn **** because i love myself. Im also ok if im gonna die alone, and i really believe that this is going to happen. Nevertheless guys, lift weights, praise jesus and read books and alls gonna be ok
woman here: please please please, be vulnerable with us. It does not make us less attracted to you, if anything, the opposite. The right woman will love you and your heart so much more if you trust her with your emotions and feelings. I felt compelled to write this comment because I hear this all the time and it's not true. We value you
This is so true. Another thing is there are women who value guys who havent had s3x yet like me. Im waiting on the right person for the least and not only wud I wanna experience my first time w sum1 who is also experiencing their first time, but I want that deep connection couples have when youve only been with each other. Not all girls are the same..
I'm 43 years old and still can't get Women I've never had a date, or a girlfriend or had sex because it's hard to be confident when I have a small penis plus I believe I'm ugly so I have nothing a woman likes or wants.
24 and in a similar position. It’s easy to say just hang around guys that can easily attract women, but whenever I try to, those guys think I’m a loser because I can’t attract women and they want nothing to do with me. It’s a total lose-lose situation. And no, I’ll never pay to lose my v-card.
Why did the RUclips algorithm decide to assassinate me. I have never felt more personally called out by a video (and to think it’s only three days away from not being 100% accurate)
This was me at 24, and I didn’t climb out of my near-deletion level of despair until 26 when I got a powerful, lucrative white collar gig. I was able to hold out until then but I shudder to think how I might have ended up if I hadn’t. Still haven’t solved my social deficits at 52 but I was able to compensate for them
Thanks for this video. You’re doing gods work here. My 20 year old son is a virgin, and recently diagnosed as bi polar. I try to find the right words to help him out of depression but it’s difficult. I know he needs to reset his habits and go meet people
I was there ... felt a lot of pain and loneliness. But guys it gets better if you put in the work believe me! I'm 28 now and the amount of female attention I am receiving now vs. then is night and day difference. I hear it only gets exponentially better past 30 for men but put the work in and others will see your value shine.
Someone please give me some advice, I feel the same way as this person. Nothing I ever do seems to work and my confidence is so low and feel pathetic all day everyday. I have ran out of motivation to live my life. I’ve been trying to turn my life around for 5 years and wasted all that time. It’s time I’m never going to get back and I want everything done with
dude, unfortunately ladies have all the options now. Do not kill yourself, it isn't worth it. Work on yourself, go to the gym, get a haircut, quit bad habits, cook, read, start to do activities which involve people. Hard making friends? Develop your social skills. Look ugly as hell? Mate I'm a good looking guy and I cant get women either you can go on bumble pretend to be a fat ugly chick and she will get 200 plus likes. Work on your looks. Dating is dead yes but there are a few loyal and good women out there still. I know rejection is hard, we all have had it and yes some more than others. We're literally just weeding out the bad ones. If a woman doesn't wanna date you, its not you, its them. Its their loss, who gives a shit. Women's standards/preferences are fucked nowadays. I know its been 5yrs of working on yourself (I've been going for 2yrs) but you gotta keep moving forward. Hug your family too. If you have no family or friends, get a cat or a dog.
Advice for you guys: if you are meeting a girl, try to be "as direct and quick as possible", don't delay things for months or even years. What Im trying to say is, for example, you start your academic season on September 1st, and then you see a new classmate girl you like, then approach and start talking to her. All it will take for her is 4 seconds to see you and tell whether or not she likes you physically, and then talk for two/three weeks with her to see if your personality is compatible. You will be a couple already after that time if she likes you, granted, no doubt about it, if not, she will play with you (because she knows you like her even if she does not like you back) and use you to raise her self-esteem when she feels down, and after months/years of talking together (and even going out!!!) she will eventually reject you after you reveal your feelings due to being bored of waiting way to much time to do so and you will feel devastated, because you have created (in your mind) an entire relationship with her, you have day-dreamed about her and also having night-dreams, but is all fake, in your mind, while in reality she has never even think about you and has meet a Chad she likes, and within those two/three weeks they have become a couple already. So if within two/three weeks she has not showed you interest, tell her that you like her (not gonna work most likely, but at least you shoot your shot), if she rejects you just move on, but since you have not created any real bond with her, you won't feel as bad. Hope it helps, it literally happened to me 8 months ago when I was rejected by a girl I met on March 2021, and on September 2022 she met a Chad she liked and within those two three weeks they became couple 🤷
"You will be a couple already after that time if she likes you, granted, no doubt about it, if not, she will play with you (because she knows you like her even if she does not like you back) and use you to raise her self-esteem when she feels down" It's good to be aware of how this can be the case, but know that this is definitely not always, or nearly always, true. I took 3 months to get with my girlfriend; there are many other factors at play, even without chad.
I understand it hurts when being rejected. On a previous video I mentioned that I am a Software Engineer and asked out a girl that works as supervisor of a clothing store at a mall. On previous occasions I spoke with her and told me she was studying to get her Bachelors on Web Designing. It stung but I see other beautiful girls everywhere and think there are more fish in the sea. I would suggest to go to the gym. I go to the gym as well. He should talk to some gym buddies there and who knows maybe he can make friends to go out with on Friday nights and meet more people like that. I’m 31 years old and still looking for a girlfriend. He should try to no rush things but also to talk to people.
Guys do this in this exact order: Join an online-help-community, cut out drugs, alcohol, porn, social media and sugar/wheat (best strategy is to stay as busy as possible), join the Gym and work out at least 4 times a week, eat nutritous (especially fix deficancies of zinc, omega 3, magnesium, B-vitamins, proteins), meditate and journal every night, go to Theraphy for a few months and at the same time go out there and talk to people and women everyday as if your life depends on it (which it does). Once the energy-drainers are gone, the willpower for change will skyrocket and the gym, meditation and theraphy will keep the dark thoughts at a managable level and help you get up after rejections.
24 got rejected thrice still living with parent just now started making money in a 9-5 job still a virgin and fighting thru no fap shit is hard and yet trying to work part time online and saving money to move out of home , i felt that void yesterday and sadness still im gonna keep going
Its extremely terrifying what is happening to young men in dating. I really hope this gets resolved within the next few years. Its leading to the collapse of society.
happened this actually to someone to? women flirt with me when they have her boyfriend on her side or when they in a large group of girls. but
when they are solo go by they ignore me. As if they want to make it extra difficult for me to approach them
@@MegaUnwetter Geschichten aus dem Paulaner Garten
@@pascalbohm2456 Ne ich erlebe das wirklich oft. Wenn ich angelächelt werde dann von einer die ihren Freund neben sich hat.
I was thinking that maybe it is due to the hook-up culture but even in where I live where we still have traditional values and necessity for marriage and all, we still have high divorce rates and screwed up relationships.
@@sabn9139 Yeah I would blame the bluepill/simp/nice guy phenomena.
My first time touching a girl was age 26. And now I'm getting dates regularly at 37. Life gets better. The key is simply taking regular action. Improve upon your mistakes. And while you do that, build a career, go to the gym, work on your fashion, practice your social skills, lots of trial and error with girls. All the rejections will build your masculine core. 21 is like baby age, c'mon. Life is just getting started.
I was super depressed in college. But the truth is nobody cares. You have to pick yourself up and go get what you want. Gather all that experience with interactions. All the rejections are a valuable foundation to your confidence. And women love confidence.
Bro your comment really touhed me. I just started hanging around with gals recently. and all thru teenage yrs or early twenties, I felt like shit because I couldn't get them. Then I learned to approach, it feels better than getting ignored. it soothes to know life gets better as you age. I still lack social skills tho, What did you do to practice social skill.
@Shuvojit I'm glad I made a difference in your thinking.
I started with a lot of online dating. I got hundreds of phone numbers over the last 5 years. All this experience really adds up. Lots of dates, and lots of rejections. You inevitably get both. Work your way into doing cold approach too. There's lots of girls to talk to at the gym. And meetup events. And I have my co workers and family to chat with daily. But with women, you need cold raw experience talking to women so you aren't nervous and awkward. Gather as much experience as you can and go on as many dates as you can handle. You'll inevitably get results.
@@ShiniGorky187 " go on as many dates as you can " , this is same as telling a bad futball player to " play better " . That is our biggest problem bro , tf do you mean go in as many dats as possible ? lmfao
@NETIZAL zz If you're getting zero dates then ask yourself how much daily effort are you putting into improving yourself and pursuit dates with women? This must be a habit for life. You can't just turn it on once a month or once a year
Yo this comment hit different for me ,thank you so much for sharing ,your comment really helped me and I mean that ❤️💪💪
The problem nowadays is how our generation puts so much emphasis on dating that it brings a bad mindset that you automatically start attractive and have a future made for you. Most people who are attractive put work into their lives and the attractiveness in personality and looks came with time. Nowadays people give up when they can't automatically get the partner they want and it's truly saddening to see. Even I was in this mindset all throughout high school and nearly tried to end things. Hopefully this video helps as many young men as possible.
No one is emphasazing dating, no one is pressuring you to do nothing. It's all in your head
@@Robert.Lachowski550 Culture in general, movies and shows emphasize it a lot. Same story with the media. Whenever someone posts them getting together with someone, it convinced other people that dating can be successful early on when in reality it's not always easy.
@@dillonc7955 I don't see what you are seeing. In fact, the majority of my friends are not in relationships or they are dating womyn who are low quality anyway, so why I should be envy/anxious about it?
@@Robert.Lachowski550 The difference is you are consulting the real world in that scenario. People are stuck online listening to red pill and how they're worthless if they can't get chicks, workout, earn millions, etc. Yet, if you realize that these forms of entertainment are just undermining your mentality, you begin to see that the real world is better than perceived.
@@UserRobot215 Oofy doofy is law, when you hope for something you fear it. Don't fear it, embrace it.
I'm 21 and in the same position, zero experiences at all. I did have 3 chances with women who legit liked me and invited me to hang out but my inexplicable social anxiety (probably stemming from bullying I experienced in middleschool) always takes over and destroys every chance I have. Worst thing about being alone is having to watch so many other people you know score such high success in that area while you struggle immensely, even if those guys are objectively lower achievers/worse looking than you are. This peer pressure/fear of missing out is the true source of my misery. Even if I don't really need these experiences for myself I feel like society has conditioned me to believe I am a failure without having them.
28 here and in the same position. I don't see it changing, ever. Hope is lost. It ain't gonna happen for me. Period.
@@rodycaz8984 You should try seeking the Lord Jesus Christ instead and see what he has for you.
Yeah
@@willc539 What exactly is that suppose to mean?
@@CC-mm3bl Everyone has a hole in their heart and only God can patch that hole for us. People always try to do things like go after women/men who can't love them in the way they want or go after money which is never satisfying enough to try and feel purpose or fulfillment. The only thing that will give you true fulfillment is Jesus Christ. This earth is not our home, heaven is. Things here are temporary and heaven is eternal. I tried a lot of different things to find meaning while I didn't believe in God and everything felt empty, until I started having experiences where God showed me through daily life that he was real and then it made sense to me. Seeking after God is the ultimate purpose and everything else is basically nothing.
The Bible is the true word of God. We need forgiveness to go to heaven. We have all sinned and broken God's laws and therefore deserve punishment aka hell. God loved us so much that he sent Jesus Christ here to live a perfect life, to die for our sins and to be resurrected. When we believe that Jesus died for our sins, was buried and rose again 3 days later, we are given God's Spirit and receive eternal life. We go straight to heaven when we die. It is a free gift given to us. After we are saved, we can go on to live life for God's plan which is better than our own and we can grow spiritually and learn more about him. God may have some great things waiting for you as well.
If you want to receive eternal life check out some of these Bible verses, you can find online Bibles easily for free. I recommend the King James Version.
Romans Chapter 10 Verses 9-10
John Chapter 3 Verses 16-17 and Chapter 6 Verse 47 (John is a great book to read in general)
Ephesians Chapter 2 verses 8-9
Yes, it is definitely rough to fail a lot with women. 24 and never had a girlfriend, no dates, and only 1 compliment from a woman who is not a sweet old lady. Somehow, I always manage to not only get rejected, but also offend the person I'm asking out. I've found that based on my failures, there needs to a balance between directness (don't pretend you are not interested) and speed. Specifically regarding speed, too fast can come off as overbearing, too slow comes off as afraid or gets you friendzoned. I haven't figured it all out yet, I'm still a work in progress. Life is hard my friends, we bros gotta stick together and build each other up.
I’m 27. Same deal. I have always had more connection with older people because they see how traditional I am (courteous, respectful, commitment to family and obligations come easy to me). I’m not rebellious. I respect authority
Sounds like a classical sigma male. Don’t change for the other sex. Walk your own path and if they reject you, so what?
It doesn't feel worth it. I don't want to put the effort for this. Living like this sounds miserable
I really don’t understand that you guys can’t get GF,is is really looks or are you guys not putting yourselves out in the dating markets ?
Send me a dm guys I am really curious to understand why you can’t get a GF @mrachillee
I’m 23 and virgin never had a girlfriend. I am not suicidal, but completely gave up on relationships after so many rejections that hurt me. I don’t hink there is a girl that’s want to be with me. I am not good enough for a girlfriend. I gave up and accepted being single forever. Made my life much better then constantly thinking about getting a girlfriend.
Look for some Monk's Pepper bro, it helps to reduce frustrations related to that
99% of males in the world are in your same predicament, only the top 1% of attractive and wealthy males get to experience what we have been neglected for free...... It's a social issue
This is the new normal for guys. Every guy is going to be starved for sex until age 30-ish. I'm just going to say right now that this is unsustainable.
Just masturbate
Lol as if age 30 is some quick fix. We'll all be starved at that age as well. Still ugly and undesirable. Maybe get surgery now before it's too late and we start balding.
ya nowadays young peoples just think about studying or are just busy, if you are a male can't just go out and start singing like a bird to attract females, it became too difficult
@@Joseph12O I'm not busy at all, and I've tried with women, but the don't care about ugly males.
Starved for sex? Have you never heard of Mrs. Palm and her five daughters?
i’m 34 and i have been feeling this way for years. rejection/flakes/ghosting takes a toll and you never get “used” to it. dating has defeated me. i would love to not wake up tomorrow.
I just see it as them showing their character and "dodging grenades". Don't give up there is a good girl out there somewhere. Focus on improving yourself and be open minded to the girls that you happen upon throughout your day to days.
Don't give up, you never know what could happen tomorrow or the next week/month etc. Its very easy to be pessimistic when you are down and it doesn't seem like it's going your way but try to look up and forward, 🙏 stay strong
Me too bro I'm 25 and still single.
you are in your prime, dont give up bro. we will win one day no matter what
not big deal,in my country there are a lot of people still single in this age,very normal!
I felt the same way as this guy when I was that age. I was drinking heavily and just trying to cope with what I thought was a meaningless life. Fast forward a year and I was working a delivery job where we'd drive through downtown areas and see tons of homeless. This one day I distinctly remember thinking, "How can some of these people just give up on life like this?" (Yes obviously some of them didn't do it by choice).
That's when it hit me like a ton of bricks. I DID care about my life. I DIDN'T want to end up that way. I DID want to live an amazing life. Still chokes me up to think about it tbh.
Now to the present, I am a licensed realtor and home inspector, and I'm confident I'll get my first home under contract any day. Life does get better fellas. But damn if it isn't hard most of the time.
All that career stuff is meaningless if you have no relationships and suffer on a regular basis from being rejected as a person from society so you have to outcast yourself and hide who you are from others otherwise you will just offend someone and ruin your reputation
@@chaseeppards3155 well said botherrrr all that matters is what you look like and what it looks like
At 30 I feel the same way, no gf never been on a date getting rejected, gets me down and constantly have to fight my demons. Can't hate on anyone if the women are not attracted to me what can I do besides work on myself exercise and be the best person, even then its hard to get into a relationship.
@@chaseeppards3155 nah man, if you have hobbies you truly love, and a few good friends, live is aight, women are overrated af anyways. I’m 21 and a virgin myself, but I spend my time going out with the boys and going fishing, drinkin some beer occasionally, and I have other personal hobbies. I build computers, gaming, guns, cars, play guitar, I also write poetry, I sketch, read books, weight lifting, bird watching, camping, all kinds of shit I do, that being wayyy more fulfilling things to my life than some nagging women that only wants your money, and uses her smelly fish box to fool you into simping for it. Just find what you love in life (other than women) and stop being a loser man, so many guys nowadays just get emotional over the most pathetic shit it ain’t even funny bro, chase money not hoes 💯
I am 27 and feel devastated because of my lack of success with women and social interactions too. It’s not uncommon and I’m constantly wrestling with bad thoughts. FOMo hits hard and feeling rejected leaves you devastated. You try to build your confidence up but they bring you down and it’s not cool at all.I wonder why it can’t be like in my parents and grandparents day when you just got into a marriage through arrangement. Problem solved. I have so much to offer someone. All I want is to adore and love someone and serve them to the end of my days and reciprocity in turn. And it hurts when you feel you are the optimal man for a relationship/marriage/fatherhood and girls around you just don’t take you and your dedication seriously.
Hey bud, I can relate to what you are feeling. I am 29 and have struggled with some of the same feelings. The biggest things that I can recommend is getting into martial arts (BJJ, Judo, Boxing, Muay Thai, etc.), go on a bulk and start lifting weights, and focus on developing yourself. Go monk mode and don't stop until you've developed your character (yourself) into who you want to be. That's the fun part about being a guy, you can develop yourself into whatever you want to be in life. Don't focus on chasing women, build yourself up until the women that you want chase you. Honestly, if you have a little bit of money saved up I would do a complete re-frame and go to Thailand for a month a la @CEOofTestosterone. A change of scenery might do you some good.
The last part specially hit me hard. It seems the more decent you are the less desirable you get. Even if you even have social proof that you got anything or something. This is fucked up bro.
The truth my friend, it is that life ain't fair, the only sure things you can have is pain and suffering coming your way on all sides, but guess what, happiness and love exists out there somewhere, and as long as you are alive and looking for it, you have a chance to find it. But you gotta accept taking the damage, the unending damage you take from life everyday. It is a decision you have to make.
im 28 and i often feel the same. I changed my diet and i started to go into the forest a lot and making sports. This helps a ton i promise. I finally found a new job (lost mine 1 year ago) and things go uphill again. Start with urself and get diserable (happens when u feel good when ur alone)
Do stuff to get friends. Don't care about the girls. Knowing more people will anyway increase your chances. But before having a fulfilling life you must actually respond to all your natural basic needs. Doing so makes life really colorful
It's quite serious when you think about it because the success of our whole genetic survival depends on approval from the opposite sex. Being denied that almost feels like a death sentence. But what's beautiful about masculinity is that we can always build our own value as men as we go through many trials and tribulations. Even a 40 year old man can attract a girl in her 20s if he's made himself into a top-tier male. And even women in some level know that it takes time for men to realise their full potential.
As I'm interested in Biology, I always thought that the importance of sex and dating for young men was totally underrated. During puberty, when people freaked out badly it was always about releationship stuff. But at 29 I also noticed that people in general became more open and interested in me as I grew older.
Can men date younger usually? Yes. But there is a limit to how young. 5 years? Ok. 7-8 years? Doable. But the only way a 40 year old man can attract an attractive early 20s to mid 20s woman is either a)he looks like Henry Cavill or b)he is like at least top 1% in earnings/social standing. We are talking about outliers here. For the rest, it ain't happening. And if it happens, it probably won't be a high quality woman of good moral character. And that's my issue with the red pill. It gets some things right, but it's also filled with BS. A great physique and a 100k+/year job won't really guarantee you much if you're older. And let's be honest here, what's the point of putting so much effort to end up with a 35 year old plain looking woman with a lot of baggage? There is no point.
The best advice is to simply improve your looks as much as you can and your social skills when you're young, and the earlier you start the better. Work out, dress better, get on accutane if you have a lot of acne, get on finasteride if you lose hair, and socialize a lot so that you can meet more people and women and become more socially competent. Everyone ages and after a certain point you will be unable to date the ones you want and you'll be stuck with the bad apples.
@@mrdouche9172I'm 39 and dated 19 to 25yr olds. 25 to 29 is usually my target. I simply look young for my age (and good looks help) and got my stuff together. Girls take that into account .
Yeah like you can imporve your bad genetics
@@mrdouche9172Depends on how well you age and genetics. Since my hairline started receding at 17 that's not going to be an option or my life.
Dude I got rejected by 12 women, I may have felt that small depression afterwards, but I never sulked in it for life... I stood up and grew some balls because I know there's some girl out there who absolutely loves me. This is a reminder to never give up 🤝
i have been rejected by 21 women but the 21st rejection hurt a lot because i fell in love with her before it makes a huge difference if you are rejected by a relatively foreign woman or by someone you already know well
Holy shit I don't think I've ever even interacted with that much girls lolz, here I am still trying to decide whether or not to approach this girl at the gym...
Yes, there's a girl out there somewhere. Lol one day she will just appear out of things air like a genie
@@desb3459 Most were just cold approaches so it's not that special i did interact with these girls maybe 1 or 2 minutes in most cases. And you should just approach this girl at the gym they longer you wait how harder will it get and you have nothing to lose.
@@famousmidnight there are no fairy tales in real life sir
I'm 21, virgin, broke, extremely isolated and lonely, paranoid, empty, friendless, lost, miserable, slightly overweight, 24/7 in house, friendless, stuck, helpless, and most importantly I don't know what to do with my life carrier job wise at all. ,
Start by working out at a gym.
@@wulfsorenson8859I'd been going to gym from age 16 to 20. What does it change? Yes, my body looked much better but it didn't make me any friends let alone girls. I was still miserable in many regards, I was awkward, shy, socially unintelligent etc. It's just a way to distract from everyday problems for a couple of hours and eventually you get tired of it.
this hits pretty close to home. I'm also 21 and although I do have friends and am doing okay mentally I still feel like shit about never having had a girlfriend or being rejected. Thank you for making this video
Kinda in a similar situation man! I'm just chilling enjoying life, even though it kinda sucks I have not had a girl. No destructive thoughts though. Life is what you make of it and I've not really put that much effort in trying to get women or get out there so I know it's 100% in my hands.
Maybe at some point I'll stop being this big a hermit and get out there XD we'll see though.
At the start of the year I ended my relationship with my ex fiance because she cheated on me while I was on deployment in Japan I was at my lowest point and felt like I had nothing to live for. I started going to the gym because of your videos I gained 30 pounds of mass and feel very confident in myself now I am having very good success with dating and meeting new people I feel like without your videos I would still be in a dark place.
No way you gained 30 pounds of mass in the first quarter lol. You couldn’t even do that if you ate like shit in a surplus.
30 pounds of mass in 3 months ?
You are a marine
@@gabenewell3955 yeah
@@flaviodfalcaonot possible. Mixture of fat and mass. No hate on the guy, just saying. Newbie gains get halted eventually.
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Thank you Jack for making the content that you do. I know you’ve got me through some rough times. Continue to do good things bro 👍
Self-deletion is never the answer. I hope this guy gets help soon.
I post lots of Cool and Interesting videos on my own Channel 😃
youre a legend for this man. respect fully your passion for helping fellow young men out
I'm somewhat in this situation right now
Imagine being 24 and zero dating experience. Since i have passed all the phases of disappointment and frustration, now it doesn't matters to me at all. I am just focussing on my health and career now instead of wasting time and effort for girls which i did since 16 17. I cant even imagine the success i could have if i had focussed on my development since 16. Just remember every life is different.
I am 24 years old bro. Keep trying and don't waste too much time on a particular girl. It's a numbers game. I almost faced 15 rejections before getting a girlfriend (ex). I am still trying.
People saying that is horrible to read. I started dating at 29 and im 32 now. Please do réalise that this kind of comments are also suicide inducing
@@SquallSZ Thats 100% true, I am 23 and I am independently happy. Coming from a life of being bullied, having social anxiety and a lot of pain. But I became happy through the years by looking at all the things that ALSO made me happy. Girls isn't everything in life.
It's over my dude. Think about getting a surgical consultation. Tell them you want to look more masculine.
24? I'm twice as old, still nothing, I just wish that I was never born.
Dating as an average young guy is just extremely hard nowadays due to abundance of options women have with social media and online dating apps. As a guy, u need to adjust your expectations and realize u will get rejected a lot, and it's gonna take improving your social skills, personality, looks, and other areas of ur life before u will start seeing consistent dating success with girls.
I've honestly gotta keep reminding myself that sometimes I think I'm the problem uno. Like dating apps really haven't done us guys any favours let's be honest.
yeah dating apps did fuck us average or below average guys. Unless your a chad its hard getting into a relationship. Even in person the game as gotten harder all these social media posts with perfect models, its like some women expect every men to look like a model.
I don’t blame him at all.
Dude if you want to kill yourself just because you aren’t getting pussy, you need to find a hobby. Don’t kill yourself.
@@ChadAV69 It's nature. Why do you think brothels were so popular with soldiers in WW1 and 2? Or were you not told about that because the redpill grifters had you believe pussy doesn't matter ?
If it takes to 30 and all im left with is used up women I probably would do the same
@@nuclearpugg Save for cosmetic surgery. That’s what the men in Hollywood do to enhance their masculinity
@@nuclearpugg You would end yourself over Women? That’s pathetic and weak. Find some other stuff to do in life and get your mind off of Women. Once you finally have sex you would realize it’s not all as people make it out to be. Plus you risk having a kid do you want a child on your hands and the responsibilities?
Im 20. I feel so lonely, depressed and hopeless everyday. Going to the gym doesnt help and hanging out w friends doesnt fully help either. To no ones suprise im still a virgin and i feel so helpless and wothless. It destoys my confidence quite alot. I sometimes think im too ugly and dumb to ever have a chance on women my age. Also, i have multiple dating apps but have practically no likes or matches. My friends have alot more female attention and frequently talk about theis intimate experiences while i just sit there alone, depressed and looking like a fool. I dont know how to build myself up as a more confident person so i have contiplated just taking my own life multiple times. Life just feels like an endless struggle. Taking anti depressants but they dont work. Live alone and probably gonna die alone aswell.
Buy a silicone doll🍑❤, that's my goal.
Don’t take ya life bro. I’m 22, a virgin in the same boat. I just decided to go monk and focus on education and work They’ll flock later. This is workin for me, I hope it works for you
Yes bro, keep trying. I used to be a v till 23.
im 28 and i often feel like this guy. Just recently i thought every day of ending myself. A short while ago I changed my diet to be really healthy and nearly completely quitting junkfood and i started to go into the forest a lot, exploring nature and making sports. This helps a ton i promise. I finally found a new job (lost mine 1 year ago) and things go uphill again. Start with urself and get diserable (happens when u feel good when ur alone)
I started to read books before bed and even after a little over a week, I feel a lot better, about stuff.
@@knightleeb3606 thats a great idea! I will add reading books.
Man wtf don t kill yourself for a girl wtf .. go to gym learn programming idk something you like ...
That the sad thing. I quitted the bad diet, alcohol amd other bad stuff. Nut life just didn't improve. In fact it got worse. So I would just return.
@@ceooflonelinessinc.267what you need is to explore other options .
Western women have become incredibly shallow so why settle for these women when you can go over seas and find a woman that appreciates a good guy
You’ve gotta love yourself before you love others. If you can’t stand you, why would anybody else? Be the man you’d be proud of and your successes will follow.
I love myself. I feel I’m amazing. But they won’t even give me a chance.
Yes very true because no one understands you as much as yourself. but I just wanna add you need friends too. Don’t try to live life all of life alone that’s torture. Doesn’t even need to be a woman, just a friend can be so important.
Sounds good doesn't work. I improved massively after getting my girlfriend. I was already standalone to others. Love yourself after getting her.
That's why I don't want a gf right now, I don't like me at least not yet.
@@acdragonrider exactly man
Man I'm 21 and have had some dark, dark thoughts and states of mind like this lately. Fortunately due in part to these vids and others I've had at least some success recently. Thanks Jack.
I'm 30 and I've never had a girlfriend or even touched a girl. In high school and college I asked out a few girls and got rejected, and then I tried dating apps for a few years. Dating apps are utterly useless. I would rarely ever get matches, and on the rare occasion that I did, it would never go anywhere. The girl would just stop responding for no reason, every time. I eventually just said screw it and stopped trying to date altogether. I don't let being single bother me. If I happen to meet someone, then great, but if not I don't care. I'm content.
@Zach223 like that would be hard to believe 😂
Dude that sucks. I understand not having GFs as that is hard for many guys but you should at least get touched by a girl(though that can be hard too). Also it sounds like you got sub human treatment sadly.
I honestly don’t know why I carry on living sometimes, the release of death sounds too good. I feel so defeated and tired of carrying on, nothing motivates me. I used to crave intimacy, but it just feels like all of my feelings and hope turned into dread and oddly enough I can feel it in my heart and my brain that I’m losing the war. I think it’s just not worth fighting anymore, it causes my mental health to get worse.
I’ve lost boys
I am 34 years old and a virgin, Im going to put an end to my life this december on my birthday, Ive talked about this with psycologists, etc. never helped, my friends never helped me, no female friends to talk about this with... never had confidence with my mom or sister to talk about this either... Ive been fighting too long, this society is not prepared to help with the issues that it has created, farewell everyone
Damn man thats really sad. I am a 22 year old guy who never had a girlfriend before and yet to get my first kiss. Since 13th July 2023, I started going for some classes to prepare for exams to get into an MBA B School as I just graduated college last week and wanna study MBA next. There in the classes, I got a massive crush on this girl who is also 22 or maybe 23 now. We did handshake on our first class and introduced ourselves and she sometimes tries to initiate convos with me asking whether I had lunch or not and some more she does say me hi but I just answer what she asks or say hi back but I am still shy to initiate further talks with her. I am still kinda shy near girls in person so I don't really feel the confidence to initiate any conversation with her unless she initiates one with me. But yesterday she actually said I am cute as I keep smiling(like a shy smile) almost all the time in class and I blushed hard after she said I am cute and my friends too teased me about it hehe.
I also had been chatting with this another girl who is 19 on Instagram since 28th May 2023 and also asked out my childhood friend 3 months ago and she is 21 now turning 22 soon. My childhood friend did agree to meet up but she is so inactive on Instagram that I still don't know when we will meet as she takes weeks or even a month to reply to me whereas I chat with the 19 year old daily about everything and send each other virtual hugs daily. We used to be in the same school but now she is in a different college which is very near to my home tho. I wanna ask her out too but I am nervous as I get rejected by 4 girls recently and it looks like she still sees me as just a friend.
@@manosijroy8282 Dont be afraid of being rejected mate, trust me, life is only one, do what I couldnt do, invite her to go for a drink and just be yourself, you never know, good things may happen, all the best luck mate
So....just don't? I know this is kinda passé, but if you want to lose your virginity that badly, i would suggest making a few phone calls to an escort. That's probably a fool-proof plan for you to get it out the way, from a lady of the night. It ain't ever really that bad, to the point where you have to end your life dawg. You're still a young man & still have a lot more life to live. Grow a pair & talk to your mom, or any other female family member. They'll probably help hook you up, with some of their female friends, or co-workers.
@@NikoBelic4 This kind of opinion is what makes males like me want to end up our lives, would you tell a 34 years old virgin woman to pay for a escort? be honest... no, you wouldnt, why do I have to assume the ONLY way I can have sex is by PAYING? is that what im worth? I dont habe any female support... read again my comment
Don't end yourself because women won't accept you. You have at least as much worth as them, probably more. Relationships are over rated.
I can relate to this even though I am in my late 20s, I get these really f-ed up thoughts about ending my life from time to time, but then I realize that these thoughts are not exactly my own but rather they are a result of trauma and isolation.
I have the option of pursuing women or making new friends but instead I choose to use this time alone to make upgrades in my life. I've come to find out that it's times like that you need to focus on the things that you STILL HAVE rather than what you don't. Also don't be too hard on yourself and acknowledge the mistakes that you made before and how you can inprove moving forward.
One thing I’ll say is atleast this guy had the balls to actually approach women and try something. I literally don’t even have the courage to glance at a cute girl’s direction. It’s so over for me
Indeed
Hey at least you have the motivation to go out there. I can't be even bothered to leave my house unless I go buy groceries XD
Ur smart to do so. In Me2 era u can go to jail for looking at gals. In France there is supposedly a law that says u can't stare at a women for a few secs
Same here. I know where I stand. You know the common phrase, "stay in your lane" I'm ugly, balding, 5'7" or dare I say I rounded up. Fuck life honestly. Used to somewhat care about life, politics, culture. Xyz, now I care of about nothing at all. People like us aren't welcomed by our species and are filtered out like coffee.
As a 21-year-old I was stuck in the same rathole but after 3 years of self-improvement now I have GF that loves me for who I am plus now I am working even harder, unlike most men who might slack off after getting into a relationship. However, I am still working on my past trauma so there's a long way to go :)
Hi, could i ask you how did you solve this problem? I m 21 and i don t know how i can do. Do we Need techniques? Thanks
No girl loves you for who you are
I won't make it that far, I am just waiting to leave my parents home so they maybe would get less sad
I struggle with mental health issues including this regularly. Loneliness, feelings of insecurity towards women, some ptsd from the military, and other stuff.
It’s rough. It’s important to build strong friendships irl. Sometimes you just need to go to sleep. But I get it. Sometimes my dog is the only reason I can hold on.
Finding real true friends as adult is tricky as well
It's good to see how you actually care about your viewers Jack. Keep being you! 👏🏼
i started following you because of your self-improvement videos. but i never expected to see you talking about such sensitive subject just because one person got on edge. i just acquired massive respect for you. you are great, keep it going and i’m sure you’ll inspire many more people that desperately need help.
People often take temporary failures as defeat but when you cross the temporary failures there is a huge success
Written in ch 2 think and grow rich
It's same happening to me rn , 9 rejections in a row
But i never loose
Your subconcious mind manifests what you believe
Don't loose hope , use your mind as a superpower not as a self destruction device
The problem is, I feel like, Women have way higher standards then Men. A lot of man will settle for a average or below average women these days, a women will want a 1% type of dude who is rich and attractive. This is the problem and why all women are taken whereas, all men are single. Also, society has too much emphasis on romance and love, you can’t get away from it
Jack I’m 32 and this content you’ve been coming out with has been great man. I hate the word wholesome cause it’s overly used now but it’s the only word I can describe it. But your channel has grown and love it man. Love the affect you’re making on young men and others bro 🙏🏻
I lost my virginity at age 26... I thought it would never happen. I'm 33 now and have been with plenty of women and am getting married later next year. Life does get better but only if you put in the work. I stopped making excuses for why women weren't showing interest in me, started dressing better, going out and putting myself in situations to meet and approach women. It was not easy but you can make it happen. Don't think that it will solve your depression though. Women bring a whole host of new problems into your life and sometimes I ask myself if I was happier when celibate.
Where did you go to meet them? I just moved to a new city (Dallas).
What was it like losing virginity does it hurt
@@dainlewis4502😂
But sometimes, having lack of success with women may not be your fault. Dating is sadly an out-of_control thing.
@@christiansnaturestudio6599 I'm 5 7 actually just under, 31 and balding. This same dude would happily gaslight me into thinking this doesn't makes dating next to impossible. 1 thing these "work on yourself bro" ppl seem to think that if a balding 5 7 guy works on himself that all of a sudden the majority of the male population she's got at her finger tips can't "work on themselves bro" also. So working on myself is going to set me apart from the other 6ft and handsome guys who possibly have a good career that's further bolstered by the halo effect. They're delusional. It's like blindfolding someone, and telling them to throw the dart at a dart board, that it's an excuse to give up and not compete with a pro darts player. You are out of your league, handicapped, and no amount of effort you make will help you hit that bullseye, but somehow they still say you weren't confident enough. I'm all honesty, this rationale isn't really an exaggeration to my actual potential to get a gf.
As someone who’s gonna be 23 years old soon, this video legit made me cry. Pray for me.😭🙏
Bro I'm 24 and still virgin. Life in Turkey is worse believe me
You're way too mentally weak; read my comment I posted today, you'll soon sober up
UPDATE: I have a girl who’s 21 who likes me who I built up the courage to ask if she’s kissed anyone and when she said no, I told her I haven’t either. Eventually, I kissed her on the lips, almost forgot to turn right, and it went on for 2-3 minutes. I accidentally took her right hearing aid off and she stopped to pick it up when I asked her if she wanted to continue or if she didn’t feel comfortable anymore, she said she didn’t feel comfortable anymore and just left it at that. After the kiss, I felt like I had a stomach ache. Thankfully my breath wasn’t bad and neither was her breath bad.😂☺️
Then when we went to camp with our church’s youth group, she slipped out on accident (I’m not even sure if her friend might’ve dared her to say it) that she’s just like me describing what the title of this video says.😳I had doubts about her whether she would be a good communicator because of her hearing aids and whether I liked her back, but now I do. Her waiting like I am for marriage is way more beautiful than any good physical attributes that she has.☺️🙌🙏
@@charleyb24 wow man happy to hear that!! Good for you 👍🙏
@@djganiboy7643Thanks man!☺️👍
To the guy who post this comment. Stay strong brother. I´m like in the same position. 22 Years old , never had a girl , date and kiss. I know it´s tough times nowadays. But i think like there should be more reasons to life then girls. If you start thinking in this way , maybe it will better for you. I overcome this solution because i´m thinking like look. I had cancer in the age of 5 and survived , while other didn´t . So i think why wasting this second chance in life , while other didnt have. I hope this comment maybe helps you. Stay strong and try to build a good future . And thanks Denmo for this and the other good videos. I´m really enjoying your good content.
Having a cancer and survived is a huge flex
Best wishes for him. I belive we all had this period in our lives an it might be a pivot point in which we will grow so much stronger and wiser (at least that's what I experienced). To any that feels down, remember, there is way more people to connect and a greater motive to be alive and keep going. Thnaks Jack for putting videos like this.
I'm 28 and I want to my mine because life is pointless and I'm done with all of the liars, thieves, and cheaters in my life. I completely understand what he was going through, until I actually got into relationships. He wouldn't be able to handle the betrayal and lies that come with being in a relationship. That would only make him feel worse. I am jealous that he still believes he can find someone he can trust in this crooked society. Unfortunately, the only person you can rely on is yourself. However, if you hate being yourself, what is the point?
Can understand that, Im like that too since half my life and Im 27. I have noone, no family, no friends. Its very hurtful. And I can't fix it since I have social anxiety and can't talk or go outside. But I am working on my life slowly. And all that probably only because my father left when I was a little child and it destroyed me. So annoying, wish I could be happy alone.
Working on things slowly is progress ,good job
It’s actually crazy how this title literally describes me in every way. Same age, same situation
Yeah, been there as well. Now I'm 29yo and when i reflect back on those problems, it makes me laugh. Like how dramatic certain things seem when you're young, but when you see more life you understand its not as bad.
Something that helped me was learning that even the "Top Gs" of the world only close with chicks about 10 percent of the time. You might think they get the girl every single time. The thing is, they only showcase or talk about their wins. The part you don't see is the 9 out of 10 girls who reject them too. They only talk about the 1 out of 10 girls they took home that night.
If you put in the work and stay patient my guy, things will get better. Keep grinding my G.
Nope thats copium. Life's not fair, theres times in my past were I could go into a club and get with 4 girls minimal effort ( they didn't even care I kissed other girls anf theres
Every good solution is a permanent solution to a temporary problem. Hate when people say that as if it's a good argument not to delete it.
30 years old, never been on a date, never kissed, still a virgin.
Brutal!
you know whats even sadder? the fact that if you actually wanted it you could have it, you just don’t, you let comfort take the best of you
I'm the same age & a virgin. I'm only a virgin cause of girls rejecting me & the huge lack of girls where I live.
@@SlashinatorZ Wow man that sucks.
@@lucas3252 hey if you were 5'6 your gf wouldnt be with you, how does that make you feel?
Been a silent fan all throughout college, watching your stuff since those early pranks, and wow this is such a great level of understanding for this kind of guy that I never really see in this world. Thank you for making me and many others feel less alone through this. I think you’re helping even more than we realize
P.s. I think I saw you at the airport in dallas last month. Not sure though
I'm 21 rn. To all the other 21 year olds right now.. please do not end your life. Our birth year is super cool, it has two '0's and two '2's. 2002, that's a-lot of twos! Do you want your tombstone to read 2002 - 2023? Or would you rather it read 2096 or even 2105! Right now up to this point, we have experienced a tiny portion of what life has to offer. You may have not experienced much in your short time on this earth, and that's okay, there's so much more to come. Maybe you have, maybe you've been places and seen things! That's great. Why end it so early?? Why not have *mooore* experiences! Children only start remembering things at age 4 or 5, which means that's even less to have experienced. We are at the very beginning of our journey. Quitting now is like being thirsty as hell and seeing a Walmart 5 blocks away, then turning around because "it's too far". Don't be like that. Liiiiiiiiiiive!!!!!!!!!!!
Im 21 but it feels like it will never happen you always here your time will come but tick tock im 30. The frustrating part is not about being a virgin and the label its more that im ready for sex. Like a rocket on standby but never being launched. I have everything aswell for my age a business with my dad a drivers license passed first time, good looks and clothes, confident and funny. I socialise like bars, bowling alleys and fishing. Its like wtf do i need to do to get laid besides getting drunk at a nightclub is this seriously what the modern dating scene is. To think if i were alive 100 years ago i would already be married with kids with a factory job. Fuck modern society. I try and get nothing in return
Im not gonna have a tombstone.
I`m gonna be 20 years old after few months. I have never had a girlfriend or kissed any girl and at the same time I don`t even give a f*ck. I don`t plan to make it soon. I`m too busy with myself and my hobbies and self-improvement that I feel like I don`t even want to have girlfriend or experience intimacy.
It`s sad to know that someone who is almost at my age want to kill himself only because he can`t get some b*tches.
Life is so good to be lived even without girls.
And now?
$45K at 21? That's better than most at that age depending on where you live in the country
Ain’t six figures though. If you are below six figures can you even be considered an average man? Women logic
If the woman thinks you’re attractive enough, she won’t care if you’re broke af, the women saying they want a guy making 6 figures are usually older and looking for a provider.
ya thats pretty good for 21. he’s probably heading into a solid career
@@jonathanm9986 I don't make six figures either and I still have luck. Also, the fact that he's willing to die over that hints at some problems within himself
I’m the guy in the video. I’m comfortable and set to earn more. But I’m not satisfied and always want more.
It's okay to feel like the guy in the discord, to feel negative emotions, it's part of being human. Still I want to offer a mind game. If I could show you that two years from now, one year from now, one month from now, things get better, things would be okay, meaning you'd be in a better headspace, your days would be filled with more positivity than negativity. You would meet new people, new friends, date a girl, kiss a girl, she would become your girlfriend, you would keep doing things that motivate you like sports, hobbys, travel, socializing, improving your body, your work, etc. etc.
Would you want that? Would you say:
"Yes, I will take that!"
Then let me tell you, that now is not the time to give up man. Keep walking, keep your head up! This universe, everything around you, gravitates towards balance. Life is like a wave. It goes up and down. It's cyclic.
The state you are in now is not permanent.
Dont. Give. Up.
Bro, now you're on a serious mission. That is real talk, so many need to hear it.
Omg. 21 years old. I felt exactly like this guy. Wanna destroy myself due to the lack of success w women. Now 29 and look back, I am fucking love that 21 years old me. Without him suffering pain, i am not myself today. It’s a process of character building.
You have a great mindset. You'll find your queen, King.
Jack, my guy. Thank you so much for what you’re doing. This is real change. This is real.
To the young man that is going through this struggle or any other human being struggling, just keep fighting. Please, just keep fighting.
21 and never been on a date in my life. Socially awkward, shy, and self-conscious. Can’t really connect with people outside of myself. I think I’m really all I need.
Same here except I'm female lol
Damn, your channel reflects me 🤣🤣🤣
I am 23, kissed a girl, made out, but safe for that I didn’t experienced much. Do a natural Testosterone boost, do sport, eat healthy, healthy life and you will get less shy and more manly, that’s what I can promise… But, I have still hope to get a girl pretty soon…
I’m 32 and an incel, this makes me feel so old.
You're dating life is oretty much dead in the water even if somehow you had some success. You're dating experience should begin in middle school and at worse early high-school. If 30 yrs old and nothing, girls will know INSTANTLY You're a virgin and I'd bet You're not too handsome and 6+' tall?
Not trying to dog on you but I live this ezlerit8as well and it robs me of humanity.
At 21 he's getting rejected, wich means at least he's trying. Im 23, same problem but in the step beheind (not even trying) cause im afraid of rejection too. He needs to not give up and keep going cause he already started the journey to have a better life (or at least on this topic)
its ok bro give it a shot, it doesn't matter if you get rejected
Young women have no idea how they are affecting guys, in the same way they complain about F boys treating them badly
Women don’t care they are self centered. Men need to stop being simps and support other fellow men.
Both sexually active/non virgin men and women also bully virgin girls as well,so its not only virgin men alone who have it rough
Same. N its honestly hard bc we live in a world where women get shamed for not being virgins but shamed for it as well. Im tryna do the right thing n wait for the right one but will it even be worth it? Most dudes are sleeping with every girl possible so will I even find someone who thinks like me to connect with? Its a battle bc i feel pathetic for wanting to give up and give into the feeling n desire but I feel pathetic for waiting whilst everyone loses their v-card as well. I feel pathetic in general. Its crazy bc i wanna say our society is messed up to the point ppl wanna off themselves for being virgins but I also kinda get it....idk.
Not getting sex is a permanent problem. So it's not a permanent solution to a temporary problem.
U can pay for sex
@@ottomanpapyrus9365 yeah yeah goodbye self esteem. Most guys get it for free and you have to pay for it.
@@doomerbob5731 no guys get sex for free
Sex is sex so just pay
@@doomerbob5731 How else are you going to obtain it if you are ugly?
@@portman8909 not my case, I'm pretty average, just awkward, depressed and miserable (no desire for living, no passion). And it's WAY worse than ugliness.
24 virgin and single since birth. I relate.
This is overwhelming how young man are struggling nowdays with human connection especially with girls but it's important to realize that you are not alone , behind evry man you see out there having success he done something you didn't.lets embarras that we need to work on ourself until it's comes everybody's hit.
i quit porn completely, i rewired my brain using neurofeedback, I healed my bipolar disorder and this is what I get for 5 years of living monk style!???
Lost my virginity at 21, dated the girl for almost half a year then broke up and realized she never loved me. I used to think rejections were the worst thing in the world, but heartbreak is much worse. Guys who are still virgins, just remember the grass in not always greener on the other side. Along with pleasure comes pain and we gotta keep going no matter what.
female dont love the way men love, they look for the strong partner physically and mentally
@@forsadeltoro8692 true. Having a female partner is not a birthright but an earned privilige for most of us men out there. I’m working on being stronger every day. The break up means I wasn’t strong enough
@@bennycb6256 go on dude
I’m 19 and am in the same position as this guy. I dated what I thought was the most perfect girl for a year with no problems what so ever just for her to find out she was asexual and also infertile. Even with all of that I still wanted to stay with her for the rest of my life and marry her even if that meant I couldn’t have sex with her and that having kids with her would be more complicated. Despite all of that she left me after telling me those things and will not talk to me anymore. My heart is shattered and I wake up every morning wishing to meet my end. Now I am all alone with no experience with women whatsoever considering me and my ex didn’t do anything besides kiss. Despite being financially secure, in shape, and decently looking I am afraid I will never find another girl like my ex again. We had so much in common and I have never been accepted by any other woman in my life they always just ignored me and thought I was weird which I am but so was my ex. My perfect future crumbled right in front of me and now I am an empty vessel. I can’t believe I was willing to sacrifice a big part of life like sex to be with someone just for her to throw me away and not tell me why.
What male behaviors DOES attract a girl? What are the consequence when a guy wants to sleep with you on dates? How to curb the drama when we are putting ourselves out there? I mean, there aren’t even a class to lecture how you make&choose friends.
Everything we know about love is from drama and movie which proves to be failures in this day and age. My deep skepticism is gradually increasing: I wonder “dating modernism” cannot coexist with “dating traditionalism”, and hence one must destroy one another and thrive on its enemy’ grave. In order for your future generation to have healthy families and offsprings, first of all, the “consequences carefree” sort of culture must be eradicated.
This will start from each of you maximizing your self-improvement journey and bringing more and more of your brothers in, be the man of your word, filter out trashes from your inner circle, eats healthy and workout, spare your arrogance towards those who are degenerated. Only each of us rally up in numbers, can a brighter future finally comes.
24 and I have never kissed a girl or held hands with a girl. And when people hear this they’re like just go and talk. It’s not that easy with me. I just got to the point to accept it
23, same position. I try sometimes, extremely hard too, but its so defeating. I think if I hit 30 and still haven't known love I'll end it all. This world fucking sucks.
I feel like this needs to be said; these videos sometimes make you feel like you have to be a certain someone to get intimacy, but that's not true. You need to be a certain someone to go out and meet people, not to keep them around. It's important to know that there are lots of people out there who are more introverted than extroverted and they know the same thing. You have to be a certain amount of outgoing in order to be successful in the system. In fact, it was my 'outgoingness' that now got me to get a girlfriend who ironically went through the same thing: not being able to be without people, but also not willing to always say a lot and put energy into socializing. I'm not gonna give you some story of "you gotta find the one" but know that the fact that you might not fit the stereotype means that not all girls do either. You don't have to change yourself to be with someone, you have to change the way you present yourself to a certain way to meet people. Keep that in mind. Not everyone is an extroverted popular man/woman of high status, they just present themselves like that to the outside world.
Im unfortunately in the similar position as the person being talked to in this video, except im 22. Never had a girlfriend either. This past month I met this girl at the gym and she lead me on hard as hell, things seemed to be going good and the day of our plans to hangout she canceled then eventually she unadded me on snap. This most recent experience has really set me over the edge cause I felt like this was the closest to me having a girlfriend, just for her to easily vanish like that on me
Not a big fan of your channel man ngl. But I can’t hate on you for helping a struggling young man. Respect given where due ❤
I have been a virgin until 24,5 years of age, even though most people considered me a "chad". My first relationship was very short because i did many mistakes that unexperienced men do. The only good thing - she was toxic too, so it was better to lose her anyway. Later i improved from year to year and got better and better with women. Also the quality of these women improved. It is important to learn to enjoy the process of becoming a better person. Now i am 32 and single again (i have broken up because i started a career in another country) but i do not feel worthless/parasuicidal like i did at the age of 23 years. Remember guys, women usually age like milk, men usually age like wine (if you cultivate a healthy lifestyle - if you only sit around and eat fast-food all the time, you gonna age like milk too)
I'm 27 and still a virgin I managed to get a gf through online dating 2 years ago but it's long distance. Our relationship is currently on the rocks so I have a feeling I'm going to go right back into the pit of lonely depression again. It's super hard getting girls when you have such mediocre social skills like me I feel like I will be alone the rest of my life. It's really not the virginity thing that bothers me it's the fact I will die alone with nobody to love that gets me. Girls have so many options when it comes to men that fit exactly what they want even if they are not super attractive. If you are not one of the top guys your options will be extremely limited because obviously like anyone they are going to choose the best option. All I can do is try to improve myself I guess but man it's going to be tough.
I'm 29 and a virgin 21 isn't nothing he got plenty of time
21 and still a Virgin ? Try being 28 and I never been kissed by a woman, hold hands and even touched by one, i genuinely hope that the guy in question turned his life around and is feelling much better and happy
Wow that sucks man. Sounds like you got sub human treatment.
I didn’t lose my virginity until I was 25… I was clueless and naive at 21… I thought at the time it was the norm to be a virgin at 21 and to never of had a girlfriend since 21 is young and I haven’t had the experience so I assumed that it was the norm… I was upset about not having a girlfriend, but I foolishly thought I could get a girlfriend without asking girls out!
When I was 19 I told my parents that I didn’t get a girlfriend in my pervious college because I was too shy to ask girls out and my dad told me “that being rejected was better than not asking at all”… and I still thought I could get a girlfriend without asking any girls out!
I find it even more embarrassing that I didn’t even get my first girlfriend until I was 22 years old! Which is sad… I hear ppl say it’s late to not even get a girlfriend until they were 18… but 18 is a much better age than 22 since your still a teenager at 18!… I would be so happy if I gotten my first girlfriend and lost my V card at 18!
I'm 21 too. No friends, never had a girl, nothing. I can't talk to anyone because my social skills suck and because of that, I have no self confidence in myself. I'm so lonely.
@@iiCounted-op5jx bro nah😭
@@iiCounted-op5jx what you doing watching a self help video if you think there’s no hope? i don’t think you’d be here if you didn’t think there was at least a chance things could change
@@iiCounted-op5jx if you’re black pilled you’re just consciously being pessimistic which won’t help anything imo. being realistic and blackpilled are two very different things
@@iiCounted-op5jx i promise i get it bro
@@iiCounted-op5jx What do you do on a day to day basis? Just nothing.
Read Awaken the Giant Within by Tony Robbins. Ask yourself different questions. I’m struggling too with dating. I don’t ask myself “Why don’t I have a girlfriend?” But rather “How can I improve myself to get a girlfriend?” I bring that question to you, how can you improve yourself to qualify for your desired relationship? How can you add value to someone else’s life? If you cannot create that value, create the circumstances and figure out how. Through sheer PERSISTENCE, FAITH, and a BURNING DESIRE to accomplish your dreams, it does happen.
Never hurts to get a dog either, girls love dogs, you can have almost zero social skills and girls will still come up and talk to you on the weekends or if they have time. Plus the dog will be loyal for life and the best wingman you ever had. Also, there are lot's of dogs at kennels and pounds literally dying to be your best friend and do anything to help you get that girl and have you get them out of horrible situation they are in at the pound. Win Wi Win
Lol dogs suck tbh.
@@portman8909 maybe you suck too which is why no woman wants you 😂
Oh no they won't😂.
Thank you for the incredible videos demo you have helped me more than any other person on RUclips still watching in black-and-white
A lot of guys get mislead with bad advice the best advice is to perhaps seek cosmetic surgery or leg lengthening all celebrities do it to be more attractive you will definitely see results your personality is never the problem it’s just the world we live in ❤
Yeah this is the brutal truth. Surgery and a good gym routine solves most dating issues.
Personality is the sum of the whole part not a choice. So msny guys are misled with this falsehood that a girl GENERALLY speaking, is determining your personality on looks. And balding and being short individually are rough but mixing. Yeah, there's a pretty solid chance the only card you'll get is sone torn up crumpled dirty card.
I’m not much in life rn. I’ve made huge progress with myself but not enough to fix all the problems I have. Hopefully I can come back to this comment when I’ve reached the point I want to reach. Thank you for the motivation Denmo.
I really feel him. I'm in the same position and its hard to stay positive. I used to go climbing to distract myself from my dating problem, was also quite good at it (5.13a). Sadly the thoughts never went away and at some point climbing didn't make me feel any better, so i quit. Then I tried lifting weights and running to distract myself, but I still felt so depressed. I also have been to three psychotherapists, but that also didn't help. I don't know what to do anymore.
Hard pill to swallow, especially when you think that barring falling ill or accident, you can safely expect to live 50+ years longer. And from mid 30-70, you pretty much are doomed as far as se* or sny female intimacy. You may get leftovers and that's almost worse then getting nothing.
Thanks for the video Denmo 👍, keep helping out the boys. And bro’s we gotta stick together and move forward. Especially when ww3 happens after ww3 those who survive will drown in poon
Im 23 years old and ive never experienced love or relationship. I recentely became an orthodox christian, im learning Chinese and Japanese, doing 400 Push Ups a day, running, exercising and reading tons of books. Now i dont give a damn **** because i love myself. Im also ok if im gonna die alone, and i really believe that this is going to happen. Nevertheless guys, lift weights, praise jesus and read books and alls gonna be ok
woman here: please please please, be vulnerable with us. It does not make us less attracted to you, if anything, the opposite. The right woman will love you and your heart so much more if you trust her with your emotions and feelings. I felt compelled to write this comment because I hear this all the time and it's not true. We value you
nice try, not falling for that one
This is so true. Another thing is there are women who value guys who havent had s3x yet like me. Im waiting on the right person for the least and not only wud I wanna experience my first time w sum1 who is also experiencing their first time, but I want that deep connection couples have when youve only been with each other. Not all girls are the same..
@@carltonbeaenkesnoe8167 lol she almost got us
No😂 it's emasculating
I'm 43 years old and still can't get Women I've never had a date, or a girlfriend or had sex because it's hard to be confident when I have a small penis plus I believe I'm ugly so I have nothing a woman likes or wants.
24 and in a similar position. It’s easy to say just hang around guys that can easily attract women, but whenever I try to, those guys think I’m a loser because I can’t attract women and they want nothing to do with me. It’s a total lose-lose situation. And no, I’ll never pay to lose my v-card.
i’m 20, never even kissed anybody lmao.
SAME
Why did the RUclips algorithm decide to assassinate me. I have never felt more personally called out by a video (and to think it’s only three days away from not being 100% accurate)
This was me at 24, and I didn’t climb out of my near-deletion level of despair until 26 when I got a powerful, lucrative white collar gig. I was able to hold out until then but I shudder to think how I might have ended up if I hadn’t. Still haven’t solved my social deficits at 52 but I was able to compensate for them
Thanks for this video. You’re doing gods work here. My 20 year old son is a virgin, and recently diagnosed as bi polar. I try to find the right words to help him out of depression but it’s difficult. I know he needs to reset his habits and go meet people
Everyone ascends if they stay alive long enough. Women wont want you in ur 20s but hey, at least you'll get a used low tier becky in ur 30s
@Hallo81398 No I wholly disagree, having a child and getting sex (albeit not often) is still ascension
I’m an invisible person- no friends no relationships, I might as well not exist because all I do is suffer alone
I can relate feel the same way
I was there ... felt a lot of pain and loneliness. But guys it gets better if you put in the work believe me! I'm 28 now and the amount of female attention I am receiving now vs. then is night and day difference. I hear it only gets exponentially better past 30 for men but put the work in and others will see your value shine.
Someone please give me some advice, I feel the same way as this person. Nothing I ever do seems to work and my confidence is so low and feel pathetic all day everyday. I have ran out of motivation to live my life. I’ve been trying to turn my life around for 5 years and wasted all that time. It’s time I’m never going to get back and I want everything done with
dude, unfortunately ladies have all the options now. Do not kill yourself, it isn't worth it. Work on yourself, go to the gym, get a haircut, quit bad habits, cook, read, start to do activities which involve people. Hard making friends? Develop your social skills. Look ugly as hell? Mate I'm a good looking guy and I cant get women either you can go on bumble pretend to be a fat ugly chick and she will get 200 plus likes. Work on your looks. Dating is dead yes but there are a few loyal and good women out there still.
I know rejection is hard, we all have had it and yes some more than others. We're literally just weeding out the bad ones. If a woman doesn't wanna date you, its not you, its them. Its their loss, who gives a shit. Women's standards/preferences are fucked nowadays. I know its been 5yrs of working on yourself (I've been going for 2yrs) but you gotta keep moving forward.
Hug your family too. If you have no family or friends, get a cat or a dog.
Advice for you guys: if you are meeting a girl, try to be "as direct and quick as possible", don't delay things for months or even years.
What Im trying to say is, for example, you start your academic season on September 1st, and then you see a new classmate girl you like, then approach and start talking to her.
All it will take for her is 4 seconds to see you and tell whether or not she likes you physically, and then talk for two/three weeks with her to see if your personality is compatible. You will be a couple already after that time if she likes you, granted, no doubt about it, if not, she will play with you (because she knows you like her even if she does not like you back) and use you to raise her self-esteem when she feels down, and after months/years of talking together (and even going out!!!) she will eventually reject you after you reveal your feelings due to being bored of waiting way to much time to do so and you will feel devastated, because you have created (in your mind) an entire relationship with her, you have day-dreamed about her and also having night-dreams, but is all fake, in your mind, while in reality she has never even think about you and has meet a Chad she likes, and within those two/three weeks they have become a couple already.
So if within two/three weeks she has not showed you interest, tell her that you like her (not gonna work most likely, but at least you shoot your shot), if she rejects you just move on, but since you have not created any real bond with her, you won't feel as bad.
Hope it helps, it literally happened to me 8 months ago when I was rejected by a girl I met on March 2021, and on September 2022 she met a Chad she liked and within those two three weeks they became couple 🤷
"You will be a couple already after that time if she likes you, granted, no doubt about it, if not, she will play with you (because she knows you like her even if she does not like you back) and use you to raise her self-esteem when she feels down"
It's good to be aware of how this can be the case, but know that this is definitely not always, or nearly always, true. I took 3 months to get with my girlfriend; there are many other factors at play, even without chad.
@@StepwaveMusic No, at least she loses a family member, breaks a leg or something like that, it's gonna be the case pretty much always.
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I understand it hurts when being rejected. On a previous video I mentioned that I am a Software Engineer and asked out a girl that works as supervisor of a clothing store at a mall. On previous occasions I spoke with her and told me she was studying to get her Bachelors on Web Designing. It stung but I see other beautiful girls everywhere and think there are more fish in the sea. I would suggest to go to the gym. I go to the gym as well. He should talk to some gym buddies there and who knows maybe he can make friends to go out with on Friday nights and meet more people like that. I’m 31 years old and still looking for a girlfriend. He should try to no rush things but also to talk to people.
Guys do this in this exact order: Join an online-help-community, cut out drugs, alcohol, porn, social media and sugar/wheat (best strategy is to stay as busy as possible), join the Gym and work out at least 4 times a week, eat nutritous (especially fix deficancies of zinc, omega 3, magnesium, B-vitamins, proteins), meditate and journal every night, go to Theraphy for a few months and at the same time go out there and talk to people and women everyday as if your life depends on it (which it does). Once the energy-drainers are gone, the willpower for change will skyrocket and the gym, meditation and theraphy will keep the dark thoughts at a managable level and help you get up after rejections.
Dude is exactly my height, my weight, and he is feeling fckd up at 21 while I'm only 18.. Damn, I hope the destiny of his life is bright
Just don't be a midget 5'8"< and you're already leaps and bounds ahead of me.
24 got rejected thrice still living with parent just now started making money in a 9-5 job still a virgin and fighting thru no fap shit is hard and yet trying to work part time online and saving money to move out of home , i felt that void yesterday and sadness still im gonna keep going
Why you sad? As far as I see everything is coming up milhouse
I mean moving out is nice, but it won't effect dating will it? Surgery sounds more valuable for that purpose.