The IMPORTANCE of taking ACTION + tips on how to start
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- Опубликовано: 7 сен 2024
- With this video I want to show you that both action and inaction have consequences, how professional failures 03:12 differ from personal ones 07:08. Let's stop "thinking" about change and start making steps towards it NOW! I will share with you my personal tips on where to start at 13:07.
What are your tips for self discipline and being productive?
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With this video I want to show you that both action and inaction have consequences, how professional failures 03:12 differ from personal ones 07:08. Let's stop "thinking" about change and start making steps towards it NOW! I will share with you my personal tips on where to start at 13:07.
What are your tips for self discipline and being productive?
Thank you for watching :) Please like, comment and subscribe!
Thank you, i really need this video. I always make up excuses and put off things. And I’m very disorganized. In summary: im a hot mess! 😂 but i can learn from you, you seem very organized and have it together. 🙂
I have an interview Thursday for a dental clinic I’m interested in, this has made me feel so much better 😊❤️
Sassy Masha Vlogs mashaaaaaa thank you so much for you kind words of wisdom!!! im actually going through some difficult life challenges and really needed too hear this!!!! love all you do❤️❤️ love too your family xx
Thank you so so much for this video. I have been struggling with inaction for a while and I know I need to be better and make change. This opened my eyes even more. So thank you Maria ❤️
Oh my goodness it felt like you made this video for me lol. I'm having a tough time getting motivated to take action, seasonal affective disorder is real 😅 Thank you for the video Maria! Do you have any recommendations on books to help with taking action?
Yes! A counselor told me recently, “Perfectionism leads to procrastination. And procrastination leads to paralysis.” Just get the ball rolling. Momentum. 👊🏼 Thanks, Maria. xo
Also, "perfection prevents progress".
v pertinent to my life rn. I am overcoming perfectionism at university atm and starting to do work earlier which makes me feel so much better.
Good point! 👍
I will put this line in my room wall. Love❤️
I loved your comment so much, I actually took a picture of it! THANK YOU!
Honestly though? "People are too busy to care" is something I CONSTANTLY need to remember. I have social anxiety out the wazoo, so I forget that people don't like... catalogue my mistakes in our interactions and hold them against me.
Analysis Paralysis is the best thing I’ve ever heard, someone put that on a Tshirt
Interestingly, extinct by instinct is the opposite
that has been around for a long time
i’m sure the shirt exists. my sister and i have been saying this phrase since the 90s
Oh I suffered from analysis paralysis for a long time
I feel like it was destiny, for you to post this right now, and for me to watch it .
Julia Silveira same here, I’ve been up all night worrying and she just said everything I needed to hear and I feel hopeful for the future again
Applies to me too. Whatever it is, sending strength and positivity to ya xoxox
I quit my job today, immediate resignation. I needed this video today.
Me too!
This is how I feel! I REALLY needed this talk. So worried about so much & all I seem to do is overthink & think about what could go wrong & think of only the negative aspects & it freezes me & then I do not take any action.
I recently became the president of a society at my university. I am suddenly learning the importance of taking action otherwise nothing gets done!
Woohoo! Congratulations! It's alot of responsibility to take on, GOOD FOR YOU!
I took action and went out of my comfort zone. I moved to a new city, alone, where I knew no one. It paid off in the end, I got a PhD offer out of it. I 💕 action!! The comfort zone is your enemy.
Maria, I would love a career coach / counselor type roleplay with more information about this ... you have so much wisdom to offer, I’m soaking up every word! 😊✨
Yesssss!!!!
Maria kind of is like a life coach
I couldn’t agree more with the “any action is better than no action”
There have been MANY times when I wanted to do something.. but was so overwhelmed by my own negative thoughts about it that I did nothing.. and then a few weeks past and the opportunity has passed for me to do anything.. I’ll just ask myself “why didn’t I just do it!?”
I’ve learned from those lessons because of how awful I feel about not doing anything!
Sheyanne Echols Yup, hindsight is 20/20. And regret is 10x worse than just failing and going with it.
Keep in mind, sometimes making a fast decision ... ends up being a decision you'll later regret.
Just look at all the people who get married on impulse - and it takes years and $$$ to undo - and the many, many people who decide to start a business on impulse, pour every penny they have into it ... only to see it quickly fail, and they have lost valuable time and all their money - because they didn't take their time and do the research.
FYI- most businesses fail within 4 to 5 years - and most start ups don't earn any money for at least the first 3 years - and end up putting the owners in debt and lost years of income they would have earned working for someone else.
The reality is, for many people they would have a greater chance of making money in Vegas, than starting a business - and wouldn't waste years of their lives working 24/7 and only ending up deep in debt.
To quote my one of my favorite RUclips channels @do it on a dime.
"A done something is better than a perfect nothing."
I love that! I'm writing it on the dry erase board in my office right now!
Love her! And she’s so so right! Folded my clothes tonight and cleaned the living room, feels amazing 💕
@@alissaramirez2187 She's totally awesome! I totally use all her cleaning & organization hacks. Anyone interested in cool ways of keeping a tidy home should check her out, and her energy and air about herself is super motivating! ruclips.net/video/dyEtJFn6uEY/видео.html
Maria’s normal voice is so relaxing I was trying to understand the main point of taking action without being a relaxed blob 😂
Just got out of a nine years relationship. Realized I hate my job as well. I need to take actions for me. I needed this video so badly! Thank you❤️❤️❤️
Sam Peter wishing you only the best!! You go!!
Mikayla Cone Thank you❤️
I'm building up to ending an 8 year relationship after putting it off for far too long. I'm terrified, but this video feels like destiny!
Austen Wright It’s scary. That’s why I did not do it when I should have...we both waited too long and everything when south. We failed our separation if this is even a thing. But focusing on actions and the future from now on! It’s never fun ending things, but at least you will feel released and free. Good luck! Sending you positive vibes and love❤️
@@Ephelantine26 you go girl 😊
I agree with almost everything you have stated. I may have missed it, but there is ONE acceptable time to take “no action” and that is when a person’s emotions are running high (either too emotionally upset or to the other extreme, too elated). When emotions are at the extremes of the spectrum, and a decision needs to be made, the BEST decision is to WAIT. At least until there is a period of settling down and usually after at least one night to sleep things over. The only exception to this is if there is a true risk to life (meaning not making a decision would result in a fatal error). Other than that, perfectly stated. 👍🏻
Great comment! You are correct.
I agree. In times of crisis we need help and often seek action based on what others may help us see for our next step, not what we see ourselves and not knowing how to get there; even baby steps. And waiting a night/ day and not immediately acting on all our emotions is very important too, like you said.
Very insightful comment.
Also, the times where one is making an IMPORTANT decision whose outcome has serious, long term consequences ...either personally or monetarily - if the wrong decision is made where it is far better to overthink it - than jump in and spend months ...years and countless $$$ and headaches trying to recover from.
I have started to successful businesses, been married for many, many years ... raised 2 very successful young men .... and when I look back, most of my successes came from taking the time necessary to research and analyse ...IMPORTANT DECISIONS that can send a person's life into a downward spiral for years - simply because of making decisions based on impulse and whims ... rather than carefully researched conclusions.
Too many people when they get older - look back with regret at jumping into an impulsive marriage ... or investing all their money and years of their life to start a new poorly researched business .... that ultimately will "FAIL".
I really needed to hear this. I was turned down for a promotion today that a lot of people thought I was going to get. At least I applied for the job & got an interview... I will never wonder, “what if”.
Love getting wisdom from mama Maria 💓
You have no idea how much I needed to hear this right now. I love and appreciate you Maria, thank you so much!
Me too..
Really needed this mom talk...THANK YOUUUU ❤️❤️
- now former procrastinating college student
Oh, wow, I was needing a sign or clue as to how to move forward with my life. These are words to live by, thank you!
Girl, I needed this. I've been going through some tough, tough decision-making period in my life. And I've been taking steps towards bettering my life and my future family's life. Thank you for sharing your experience.
This is exactly the pep talk I needed. I've been letting fear do most of the talking lately and it's prevented me from taking steps forward. Thank you, Masha. You're amazing!
😂 What she said by the 1:02 point in the video was worth a like in itself. Oh and by the way YES, I've failed big a few times in my life. No question about it. But you can go ahead and put an asterisk next to all of those. Listen, no matter how good you may be or how well your plans are laid, OTHER PEOPLE are involved and they can and will derail your plans and your life through either jealousy, indifference or just sheer stupidity. I'm almost 45 years old now and that's a gem of wisdom that younger people can take with them if they happen to stumble upon this video and read the comments!😂 Believe that much.
Adding this to my favourites to rewatch every two days cause I'm going to need it.
Sammmme!
I was totally thinking about watching this on a weekly basis lol.
My anxiety problems are deeply connected to the fear of failure and pursuing my dreams. I usually manage them but today something happened that made me fall into a loop of despair! I grew up in a very strict household and I was taught not to make mistakes ever, so I'd rather take no action instead of doing something wrong. So thank you Maria for this video, I really needed to hear this tonight ❤
This hit me haaard. I am going to take action. Ok, imma go stydy for my science test now
I haven’t even watched this yet and my eyes are already welled up with tears. I needed this so much right now. Thank you, as always, dear Maria. 💗
Never have I enjoyed the 'BS' word more, than when I heard Maria whisper it ^_^ ( at 5:27 )
Anyway, this video is the total opposite of 'BS' :-) I recognise a lot of the things that she mentions, from both my personal and work life.
Thank you, Masha, for sharing your lessons and for being a beautiful person (inside and out)!
Maria. You have literally changed my life. I have anxiety and since I started watching your channels (both gentle whispering and sassy masha vlogs) I have felt so relaxed and loved. Your the only person who’s voice can put. Me. To. Sleep. ! Thanks for everything you do and being the reason I spend so much time on youtube!🤪😊🥰
Ally J more power to you ❤️❤️❤️🥳
Completely unrelated but your hair is growing so fast?! :o
I know every videos I'm like Maria's hair !! Howwwww do you do that Maria ? Mine takes ages... 😚
Taking actions is actually extremely important! Because I just used it and improved 20% of my grades!
This is how I know God is real! I have the worst anxiety and was slipping into a depression. I put off things both professionally and personally because I was simply to overwhelmed to deal with the “what Ifs”. This month though I was struck with this compelling feeling to do exactly what you said, take steps. So I did and I am now enrolled back in school, I have gotten a better Job that will help me support myself and my two children independently and perhaps the most important thing is because I took the steps to accomplish my goals I can now leave a relationship I have not wanted to be in for a long time. I stayed because of the support (financially) that was provided to me and the comfort in that support. I’m in therapy for my anxiety now as well and I have woken up at 345 am because my boyfriend is headed back out of town to work and I was trying to get back to sleep for a bit so I grabbed my phone got on RUclips and here you are, Maria! Telling my whole truth with your kind, honest and encouraging words. I love you, I appreciate you and you help me and so many others to simply be ourselves and love ourselves because you do! Thank you beautiful earth Angel and Thank you My God for giving me strength, courage and understanding, but above all unconditional love. ❤️🙏🏾
You are wise beyond your years. This was great, Thank you.
A boss told me a long time ago, no matter what you do, who you are, you’re replaceable so always be on your toes and be better. Best advice I’ve ever received!
to me it actually expresses the opposite: if you're replaceable why be better, you'll be replaced anyway. Just do what you can to pursuit your happiness. But taking action to satisfy others is not worth it.
I don't believe in angels but, Maria, you are literally an angel on earth. You give so much of yourself, and you make me feel less alone. You're a wonder and the world is brighter for your presence. You've helped me through so much, and this video is exactly what I needed today.
This is the kind of video I’d never normally look up just on my own, and yet it’s exactly what I needed to hear in my situation and I watched it because after years of watching and listening to you, I’m invested in you as a person and I now have a lot of trust in what you have to say. I hope that’s some encouragement for the work you’ve been doing Maria.
If there are any writers here, they can probably relate to the analysis paralysis. With us, it's not so much what other people think as what our internal editor thinks. That's the little voice that demands that each page, each paragraph, each sentence, each word be perfect as we write them, so we just sit and stare at the page or screen, or we keep trashing what we write as soon as we write it. I have had to visualize my internal editor as a naggy cartoon character and throw some metal over her mouth the way Michael Keaton does to Geena Davis in Beetlejuice to get her to be quiet so I can write. It sounds ridiculous, but it works, so I would add "Visualize yourself overcoming obstacles" to this. Thanks for the great video, Maria!
Danny Choo (dude who got famous a while back for dressing up as a stormtrooper and dancing in Tokyo crosswalks) had a great phrase for this that has stuck with me for 10+ years;
"Something leads to something. Nothing leads to nothing."
You would think "well that's obvious", but a lot of the times, it's really not.
God bless you Masha!! I have been struggling lately after starting my channel a couple of months ago I had to (for personal reasons) skip a couple of weeks of recording and I have been feeling exactly like you said, like I wanted to just give up because I have been feeling pressured to make up for lost time but you have once again INSPIRED and MOTIVATED me to JUST DO IT again! I will start recording tomorrow! Thank you for sharing this with us! ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻
You are the mom I never had! Love your videos so much!!!
Thank you for this, this is exactly what I needed to hear before my interview. I have a big interview coming up for a position that is really competitive. I have avoided it for 3 years because I was afraid. Now, I have realized that it is better to try and fail, than fail to try. I will never know if I don’t try. The worst thing they can say is no. I am so happy I decided to go for it. :)
I love you Maria, and I know this video is old, I just want to add how important it is to distinguish between situations where what you’re saying applies - where fear of failure is holding us back in life - and more impulsive situations like when we’re really emotional and it’s much better NOT to act in that moment!
This video has motivated me for my work today but you just talk in such a universal way about acting and there are definitely times when patience and/or perspective are valuable before doing something that can’t be taken back like hurting someone we love (or even a stranger) unnecessarily, doing something destructive that can’t be undone, making an impulse purchase because it’s on sale, even sending an angry email that’s not very eloquent or productive that we could rewrite with a clearer head the next day.
As someone who has lived in the past with a sense of urgency to escape my decision paralysis by acting out of a really scattered headspace and making bad judgments because I didn’t know how to get to a clear perspective, I’m such an advocate now for the value of patience in the right situations. A sense of urgency isn’t always helpful.
I wholeheartedly agree with your message though and I needed to hear this today! ❤️
At 14:51 Maria is basically saying that it is extremely important to have the constant thought process of "Business before pleasure." Meaning take care of your business first, limit distractions if not all distractions. After you are finished with what you are supposed to do then you may have that relax time; pleasure. This thought process goes with pretty much in everything in life. ie, Work, when you are shopping make sure that you purchase the things you need first before buying what you WANT. This also goes with school, education is very important; business, do what you need to do then you can do other things that you like to do in your free time. I think Maria posting this video, giving us valuable tips that we can use in life is one of the best things on youtube. So, thank you, Maria, for posting this. It is very crucial in life to have all the tips in this video that kids or adults can use this in their life. xoxoxo
Actually, I know of several situations when waiting and being cautious ... ended up being very beneficial. I also know of too many people who jumped into making quick decisions, and ended up with expensive mistakes that could not be undone costing them a lot of money and regret.
Once I waited 2 months to replace my AC during the hot summer, because I was not comfortable with the options I was given on such a big purchase. At the end of the summer the contractor contacted me, telling me the warehouse was clearing out their inventory, and I could get a much better AC that would last a lot longer - for the same price I was initially given. He told me my first option would only last a few years before needing pricey maintenance ... and the upgraded option would last much longer. He was right, my cheaper unit needs expensive repairs about every 2 years - and the nicer unit has gone almost 12 years without a single repair - saving me a fortune and a lot of headaches. I have never been so happy about delaying a decision - it was worth it. I knew from years of experience, I would regret the first choice I was given - decades of life experience can make a big difference between knowing when to wait - and when to act.
A similar thing happened when buying a newer used car. The options available when I first started looking, were not what I was looking for ... I held off for 3 months, hoping the car I wanted would become available - and sure enough at 3 months, the perfect car showed up at the right price. Again, I never regretted the wait on such an important purchase. I would have been very unhappy if I had compromised and rushed the decision.
Yet, when my son needed a new car, we got lucky as it only took one day to find his perfect car. When we saw it and drove it, had a mechanic check it out - and we bought. It was a little older car - but after owing it 12 years - it is still running great and hasn't needed a single repair. Again, a lot of experience clued me in when we saw the car, that this was a great choice.
My other son wanted to buy a new condo a few years out of college, after he got his dream job. I gently warned him about making such a big, serious expensive decision, when he did not know what the future would be for his job - and for the real estate market. He reluctantly waited ... and 3 years later, the real estate market where he lived, took a nose dive. It would have cost him a fortune between selling costs and depreciation to unload a property he was no longer that excited about - a financial nightmare, that would have impacted him for years to come - especially since he had large student loans to pay off. Now he is feeling smug, knowing he didn't get caught up the frenzy of buying something extremely expensive only to see it depreciate dramatically in value.
FYI - We know of too many people who get restless in their jobs, and decide to start their own business without doing extensive research before making the leap. Unfortunately, approx 4 out 5 businesses fail .. and it usually takes 2 to 3 years - IF you are lucky - to make enough money, to draw a salary - and that is if it is one of the 20% that succeed. The hours are brutal and the majority of people waste years of their life, work 70 hours weeks, with no benefits, no salary, no vacation time, no sick leave ... only to realize after 3-5 years, their business will never turn a profit, and continue to drag them deeper into debt. They have to walk away drained and exhausted - with huge debt to pay back and their savings depleted.
Our family was lucky, we were part of the 20% that survived - but had to endure a lot of long, long hours and intense stress for many years - but we learned a lot along the way about what NOT to do. Both of my sons work for companies who provide them with benefits and vacation time - and good salaries and retirement funds ... and my advice to them ... is to keep and appreciate their jobs, because the fantasy of having one's own business ... more often than not - turns into a nightmare.
The more research done, the better ... and if possible, when starting a business - keep your day job, until your new business turns a profit. Making quick decisions on 'important' items or life changing decisions, can end up costing you a fortune you may be paying for the rest of your life.
I really needed this. You should really consider motivational speaking Maria. No gimmicks, no crazy steps to be taken, just pure realistic goals and truths. Thank you Lord for the gift of Maria’s soothing voice and words of wisdom that help us sleep and be productive when we’re awake. 💕
I’m really struggling with this so this video is right on time
Honestly, her voice is just so soothing that I feel relaxed while watching this and it's not even an ASMR video.
i really needed this video. Im a junior at a top university, and even though i get good grades, i have found it extremely difficult recently to dedicate myself to work that i dont love. I know now that i just need to start my work sooner so that i have time to relax and not drive myself crazy. Iv been watching your asmr videos for 4 years now Maria. You have taught me so much about being a caring person, and now on how to be more productive XD
I love these! Your videos always make me smile. I struggle with this- I tend to sit and watch rather than taking action. Thank you for the upload!
I feel like you are speaking to me right now because this is just the thing I needed today. Thank you so much for this.
I was thinking yesterday about how I’m too scared to approach boys or talk to them and thinking how that’s really limiting me - the love of my life is out there I just need to use my opportunities :) I’m fed up of my anxiety and thank you for pushing me to just take that step and even if I get turned down or something, at least i took a step.
You can do it! 👍😎🌻
Thank you Maria for your precious perspective
You are a model for me
Thank you.
Martina Luporini, from Italy
Maria, GIRL. This belongs on your MAIN channel. You have no idea who many people this will help. Potentially MILLIONS. Don't worry about it sounding ASMR. Whether you know it or not, you speak in a perfect SOFT voice effortlessly (probably due to years of hard-work). At the end of the day, you can do what you please, but I TRULY IN MY BONES believe this can help sooooooooooo many people. It just has to stand on taller legs. Thank you for inspiring me to push forward.
I needed this motivation today, was going to cancel on gym. Because I was tired from work, but I am going to go to gym. Then meal plan then clean my house. 👊
You have no idea how much I needed this loving kick in the pants. As someone with a physical disability, it’s been far too easy to stay in the same rut, to give in. But that’s how we get on a fast track to nowhere. That’s why I’’m almost done with my Bachelors, and have been competitively powerlifting for 10 yrs now. Thanks YT Mom!!🤗
Oh honey, this video is a sign. About a month I’ve been thinking about changing my career path drastically and I’ve been going back and forth like “should I do it? What if it doesn’t work out?” This video is a kick in the butt I needed❤️
Maria,
Thank you for your advice for taking the time to talk about this. We live in a world where everything is moving so fast where everything is go, go, go but at the same time I feel that we are living in a time where we are staying in one place, we are being complacent. We are so absorbed in social media and we spend countless hours scrolling and consuming unhealthy media, media that doesn’t offer nutrition or any positive things to take from it even if the media were consuming is just entertainment. In those hours that we waste on our phones we are robbing ourselves of time where we can use for learning, for creating creative thoughts, and for taking action to changes our lives.
Action and inaction both have there place and time. The balance between the two is where peace is found.
I didn’t expect to see this type of video from you & boy was it GOOD!! Thank you so much! You have such a natural ability for teaching and inspiring people! I would do anything you told me to do 🙂
I can not thank you enough for creating this video. This popped up 1 day before a job interview. I was afraid to make such a huge change, if that was presented to me. I was miserable, anxiety-ridden and afraid that I would be stuck feeling this way until the day I retired. Dead end. And despite that, the thought of change is so very scary. "What if" scenarios can drive you insane. This video could not have come at a more perfect time. I nailed the interview. I got the job. And now, for the first time in years, I feel accomplished, proud, and excited with my career again. A huge weight was lifted. And so thank you, for giving me the boost I needed to confidently charge into this with my head held high. Bless your heart, Maria!
I was struggling yesterday thinking about starting my career after college. I really broke down, but this was like free counseling. Maria, you are such an incredible woman and have such a nurturing type of personality. Thank you for your encouragement and advice!
I watch this video almost daily. I've been in a rough spot, mentally, for about 2 years...constant.
This helps ALOT. Just hearing (in a positive way) I'm able to do it, and that could be even just doing the dishes.
I'm so thankful for you, Maria. 🖤
I needed to hear this, coming out of anxiety and depression I closed myself off from the world. I was so broken and hurt by people I thought loved me, I shut myself off from everyone. I need to start coming back to life and make some changes. I started making those loop blankets like the one you made for your baby
Only God know how many times I have watched this video, it helps me so...daily...it s inspiring. Thank you, Maria
I struggle daily with anything that involves Selfcare after years of CPTSD and no advice helps. My brain is stuck and has been for many years. Good Advice
Definitely what I needed, as I failed my last academic year hard, and fell in a deep rut because of it. Thank you for sharing amazing asmr that i listen to every time i study and it really helps, and thank you for this sassy channel that is helping me get through the life I’m living.
I love your ASMR videos wholeheartedly, they are to me the cosiest, warmest things, but this video. This video had a truth like nothing else. Maria, your wisdom is incredible and I'm so glad you have a platform and a kind enough heart and large enough mind to share it. This video.. it expressed everything so articulately and honestly and encouragingly. You are real and genuine and intelligent and so so generous💛
This couldn’t have come at a better time. I was literally panicking about feeling like a failure and feeling like I’m taking steps backward and then I see this video. Thanks Maria!
You are a gem, Maria. I had a similar experience last summer, when I realized that my current job was not going anywhere. I wasn't making a lot of money, and I didn't see my situation improving. This led to my applying to Texas Woman's University for graduate school. The health studies program is online, so I'm able to keep my job and do my coursework concurrently. This whole thing started with the feeling of discontent, and wondering if I was capable of more. Now I am looking to improve my studying skills! This is a challenge and a journey worth taking.
Thank you so much Maria, this is a wonderful and much needed video!!
I once read the sentence 'Failure is an event, not an identity' and I loved it. You're so right about taking change. Even little things like feeling I can't be bothered to tidy my desk so I can work better (which I'm now inspired to do!) - change and action is so important.
I also started something new for myself, lessons in a whole new skill and I'm so happy and free feeling, instead of saying 'I wish I could' over and over I just decided to be like 'I WILL be able to!' and now I'm on my way to that!!
Thank you so much Maria
wow maria you must be putting out some strong intentions and energy with this because after i watched the video i was subconsciouly inspired to do things NOW that make me happy and fulfilled. i went on a nice night time walk exploring my city after spending all day in bed and managed to make some progress on my music. it wasnt progress in the sense of finishing a song i love and want to share with the world, but i made SOMETHING. i allowed myself to play and experiment and thats a HUGE part of creative growth. much love!
Omgosh I NEEDED this!
I’ve been building inventory for an online accessories boutique…BUT I keep procrastinating and feeling overwhelmed. I compare myself to others and think, I can’t do what “they” are doing/did/have done.
It must come from a place of fear of failure.
You’re spot on and I am just watching this for the very 1st time. Perfect timing.
Thank you.
This video is sooo important. I loved every second of it. It is the absolute difference between nothing and something. Every word you say is the truth. I was so afraid to try things when I was younger because of this overwhelming need to be perfect. It took years of being a parent and growing older to realize that perfection is a complete illusion and always has been. Not one person or thing on this earth is perfect. Not even our precious kiddos 👶🏻! Lol. Once I freed myself from that constraint, trying things got so much easier. Strangely enough, I flipped to your videos to have something to watch while I was practicing learning my first crochet lessons of the simple chains (I forget the actual name of the chain). I got tickled because I had just decided I wanted to crochet some things I kept seeing on the Internet, which meant learning something new!! I can knit but I cannot crochet at all. So getting older and accepting my many imperfections has completely freed me to try many new things. I love this video and your advice is spot on. Thanks again, Maria!!!
On a broader note, this is very timely for me. I'm not really at a big crossroads -- I made the Big Scary Choice almost two years ago to return to school, and now I'm more than halfway through my master's -- but I could stand to keep the things you've said in mind in the micro sense more often, especially when I have mornings like this one, where I was paralyzed by having too many things to do and felt the weight of all of them at once. Any action, no matter how small, no matter if it's not ultimately the one I needed to take first, really is better than inaction. And this Anxiety Brain that I'm living with could stand to take note of that.
Love you Maria and I know that this comes from your personal experiences. UR very inspiring to me. I started something many years ago but allowed people's negativity to kill my spirit. I am in the process of regaining what I have lost. I let them take my most precious commodity myself. You didn't touch on human jealousy and negative thinkers who try to tear what your building down. It is said that some are like crabs in a basket. When one crab tries to crawl up to the top the other crabs grab a hold of his or her leg and pulls them back. Thank you so much beautiful person, soul, woman, mother, friend.
I literally went to reiki last night and this is exactly what I was told, and then I remembered back when I used to get my tarot read regularly and again it was just this over and over again. I’m hoping I’m starting to learn to get out of my own way.
OMG this was exactly what I needed! I’m on my first nursing placement currently and I keep holding back because I don’t want to stuff up. Now you’ve given me the courage to go and give everything a go! Thank you so much! ❤️
Amy congrats with the nursing! Best wishes great nurses are true angels!
I might have to listen to this once a month. Possibly a week. Maybe a night.
Serendipity that this was posted today! I finally got the courage today to take action and make a complaint about being discriminated against at work - because I’m a mum. I was just going to let it go and resign but I knew that would leave me regretting not taking action and standing up for myself 🙌🏼 😊
This is so important especially in cases where you are letting someone walk all over you and put you down constantly. Not only do you gain so much confidence and power by standing up for yourself, but you're actually helping that person as well, because you're giving them the criticism that they need to improve. I had a situation like this in college where I finally stood up to someone who had been putting me down for years- and they thanked me, because they told me they needed to hear that, and from then on they started working on them-self in ways that completely changed their personality for the better.
Trying to write my dissertation for my PhD so this video SPOKE to me!!!!!!
Maria, you should do a podcast of some kind! I know you are probably super busy with everything you already do but I would love to listen to your thoughts on topics like this. Things like staying motivated, getting inspired when you're in a rut, exploring creativity in different ways, being overwhelmed and things that help you cope, etc. You're extremely intelligent and understanding. It would be interesting to hear you share some other thoughts you have on life in general.
This is the most gentlest tough love I’ve ever received 🦋💕💯
My tip to me “Do not always believe everything you tell yourself” 💖🇬🇧 love you Maria 👏🏻👏🏻xx
I know that this video is almost a year old, but Dear Masha you brighten my life today.
You've said what I was so desperate to hear in such uncertain times. So I made a call which I have been delaying for 2 years straight, and I wasn't rejected (it was a total surprise for me). I finally can build a career of my dream and do what I always wanted to do for a living.
I can't thank you enough! Спасибо тебе от всей души!
P.S. 'Analysis Paralysis' is such a correct wording for that overthinking state of mind!
This is the second time I'm watching this. I am the queen of not taking action. It is so true, by not taking action, there's a real amount of anxiety behind that and it can eat you up and you can walk around with regret. I am so paralyzed by DOING, and I am trying to really practice becoming aware of my thought process.
ps...I love your voice. It is so soothing and wonderful. I really appreciate your videos.They calm down my anxiety and i have BPD, so just know it means a lot.
I feel like you almost made this just so I can hear it! It’s what I really needed to hear right now in my life. I appreciate you in more ways than you know! 💙🥰
Literally been seeing signs all over for me to take action lately, and this is one of them! I feel paralyzed a lot of the time when I think about sticking to my goals. Thanks for making this heart-to-heart video Maria!
This is exactly what I’m working on now!!
It gets hard with mental health in the way, but I’m finally coming out of the depressive phase, and extra working on this, so I’m really looking forward to watching this!! ☺️☺️
PS, I’ve been watching you since 2012, I really really love you Maria and you’re such a pure wonderful soul! Thank you always ♥️
This is really helpful. I greatly appreciate you being honest and saying “everyone is replaceable.” I’ve always had an intense fear of being replaced that has stopped me from pursuing both career and personal goals. The general advice I received was to simply tell myself that that wasn’t true/I wasn’t replaceable, and after many years of trying this method I can honestly say it does not help. Denial is never helpful and carrying the belief that you aren’t replaceable at all is just setting you up for devastation if/when you do get replaced by someone. It sounds grim but it’s true and rather than letting it hinder you, use it to your advantage.
Even if there’s not a big goal going on I make and complete mini goals/ tasks daily! I try of course but , mind , body and spirit sometimes arena always willing or able. I loved this , and I always need these encouragements, so thank you for the inspiration. Fear has been my nemesis my whole life. I’m still battling and I will always try to overcome it. I send you lots of love and hugs 🤗💜💜💜✨✨
Thank you for this. A few weeks ago I decided to drop out of my major after two years and start doing another thing. I feel happier. I spent two years depressed thinking only about how disappointed my family would be and now I'm on the right track, I hope. It's good to try new things.
I love your entire message, and I also love your voice, which is much softer in English than in Russian, it happens to me the same when I speak in English...I am spanish...thanks a lot María, great advise!!! I will take action for driving, I am new at it and I am scared and I procrastinate it, but your video has given me a pushing, the one I needed!!!
You always make me see things from another prospective. Thank you, dear Maria...you are such a gift ❤️
I love videos with topics like this, and the fact that you made one is extra great! Your unique voice (not just the comforting sound of it, but your ideas and how you present them) is much appreciated on this topic. Thanks Masha!
I really needed to hear all of this right now. I graduated from college in May and have been feeling so stuck. I feel pressure to move out, get accepted to a grad school, get a good job. It’s honestly just me putting pressure on myself because I know I’m not happy with where I’m at. Thanks for sharing this ❤️
This is exactly what I need to hear in my current situation! 💞
Sometimes my thoughts paralyse me from moving forward over the fear of failure or rejection and ultimately I end up being stuck in a rut - wanting change but always convincing myself that I’m not capable to do so!
Thank you for your advice Maria 🥰
I struggle with depression and anxiety and this is one of my biggest problems. Lately I feel like I'm just wasting my life doing nothing, but I also can't decide what I should even be doing. This video really spoke to me and brought tears to my eyes. Maria, if you read this, you have no idea how much you impact others...or maybe you do! You are such a bright and beautiful soul, I'm so grateful for you and that I found your videos. 💛
This was a wake up call to be honest. I have been a cycle of self deprecating/ self destructive behavior and this video came along at the right time for me. Thank you
Girl, thank you for this! I'm a professional photographer but have put off my business for a few years to raise my babies. Now they are older I'm trying to get back into it and it's so hard because I feel out of the loop or "rusty". I did just book my first wedding last week, so it's a start. I know I'll save this video for when I need that pep talk.
The comment you made about being replaceable is SO spot on. I worked at a restaurant for over a year and my boss was so mean that she made me cry sometimes. Although she probably never thinks of me and has an entirely new staff, I stood up to her in the end and it was HUGE growth for me. Thank you Maria. We love you. ❤️💕
OMG, "DITTO" I was lead here by serious stress at not achieving my work goals so I went to your ASMR channel to your hair salon and it's been a couple of years since I've seen you but my stress reduced dramatically and I noticed your new channel in a link and followed it and here I am Maria. You know ? I do so much work and preparation to AVOID the actual job at hand for the EXACT reasons you mentioned here. I believe in Karma and I've been subbed to your ASMR channel since it was started and I'm ever so happy to find your advice, your similar traits and I have to say it's SOO good to listen to you again after a long absence. Thank you Maria, Peace and Blessings to you as always and have a beautiful weekend lovely lady xo :)