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Very good advice. When I was single I had decided that, as a Christian woman, I was not going to share my body with a guy until we were married. That filtered out a lot of guys, even in the Christian community,, but I didn't compromise and I met a guy with the same values. We have been married 21 years. Don't compromise on your values.
Me too. I always held out on intimacy and spent a lot of time dateless. Once many men find out you won’t put out on the first date, that’s it. POOF! They go. No loss, right? The word goes out that “she’s no fun” and you get the opposite reputation of being a wanton woman. Lots of defensiveness ensues. When I was young and pretty I had plenty of attention paid to me. I would go out with him, and spend the entire evening explaining why I would not “Loosen Up”. Not fun. Frankly exhausting and dispiriting. Glad I am married now, 49 years. It was worth it.
My mother taught me: "Most things in life are irritations, just irritations. Deal with it, walk away and forget it. Save your anger for what is really important." All of these years later, I can't recall the last time I was angry. But also, I don't live with resentment, bitterness or recrimation. Because, as Mom said, I deal, as Mom did, with forthright, direct honesty. Many people have complimented me on the calm and yes, classy, way that I handle difficult situations. Thanks Mom!
Dr Kelly Love Spells can make your ex come back to you begging you for a second chance. He helped me restored my broken relationship of 6 years by bringing back my ex Also Dr Kelly always keep up with his words I strongly advise you to seek help from him.
For me etiquette is very classy. Someone who says please, thank you, will/would you mind, I’d love, and so on. This demonstrates to me the person is aware that they have a responsibility to others in their own behaviors and that kindness matters. Etiquette is a great social lubricant! 😊
Classy to me starts with honesty. It also includes loyalty, discipline, empathy, curiosity, the ability to listen and to stick to your values and walk the talk.
Hello I'm so excited my relationship was fixed back again my ex is back to me we loving and happily together,I got help from a great man who brought us back together......
“A confident woman isn’t afraid of scaring off the ‘wrong’ guy in order to attract the ‘right’ guy.........Weak minds are quick to ANGER, strong minds are quick to LOVE.”--pearls of wisdom👍🏻 I so appreciate the insight and perspective you share on this channel Matt, thank you! 👏🏻
A classy woman will stand up for herself. She will speak the truth always but in a loving way. I always try to remember to encourage my husband. To tell him he did a good job whenever I can. To listen without interrupting and again to speak the truth with love. Thank you Matt for an awesome and informative video.
As a former waitress of many years, I am quiet when in a restaurant and watch the way that my date responds to the wait staff. One can almost always pick up on other's personalities via watching the way that they interact with those whom they claim are there to serve them. Excellent video!!
1.integrity 2. Respect for myself and others 3. Kindness 4. Compassionate 5. Does not boast of self 6. Selfcontrol 7. Humple 8. Forgiving 9. Good listener 10. Not worry about what others think of me. 11. Decisive 12. Know what I want and where I stand 13. Walk away from an arqument. 14. Never ever stoop to anyone's level 15. Always positive not matter how hopeless a situation is because there is always a solution for everything.
My husband giggled when I told him my grandfather told me the key to finding a good man. "Give him nothing and he can't get enough. Like a great mystery book." Bless his soul, he was right, my wonderful man was hooked for 6 yrs. We were neighbors and great friends. Now we are even better together.
Holley Your grandfather was absolutely correct! I like the way he put it. Too many women think giving more to a man is the best thing but it’s actually not. Something I learned years ago. The key to a woman’s allure is to hold something back.
The real classy woman is the one who you could go through any type of adversities with. The real class is revealed only in the face of challenges and troubles. As it is very easy to be calm, charming, well mannered and so when your life is fine in general. Yet, the real personality is tested in the critical situations only.
Well That’s a very negative attitude because I don’t think we have to go through adversities with all the men we are dating in order to prove our class. Our presence our strength of character, accomplishments and the life story we share with them will let them know that we are people who are capable of overcoming adversity ....it shows through your character and manners. I certainly would not want to go thru anymore adversities with a man to prove to him that I have class !!! that mindset is just going to attract BS and Unnecessary problems in your life. And optimistic and positive attitude showman that we have class and making
@@sarahmk2966 I didn't say that you have to go through adversities to prove your character to any man you date. Your accomplishments and life story is indeed speaking volumes of who you are. Yet, to me the right attitude is the one that helps to keep worthy relationships to last long. To me nothing blinds the person more than unreasonable optimism. Your mindset has nothing to do with chances life brings to you in regard to relationships.. Perhaps we are in different age and social category. Actively dating or being constantly on a hunt for a man is not my type of thing. I solely rely on destiny. My way of being positive is to staying fit and creative no matter what.
THANK YOU FOR ALSO adding this ! This describes me being well mannered, poised and confident but my strengths lie in being resilience honest, courageous ethical. 👌🏾
Your story of the cranky waitress, and your dates poor reaction to her, made me think of an experience of my own. When I was 17 and working at Mcdonalds, we had a regular guest who would yell, belittle, and just be rude in so many ways. I was training a new girl, and this regular guest came up in her line. After the encounter the new girl started to cry as she was talking to me about the experience. Knowing that the guest was within ear shot, I said in a loud clear voice. "Your doing great it's your first day. She is like that to EVERYONE. She may be going through a difficult time in her life right now and WE MAY be the only bit of kindness she gets." Every time I saw this guest after that she had a huge smile on her face, called me sweetheart and sweetie, and opened up to me about recently loosing her husband and how she has two teenage boys to deal with alone. The guest opened up to me more and more each time we spoke. My only regret now upon reflection, is that I didn't see it sooner and reach out to her. I'm sorry that the new girl had to go through that, But the point is, how we react can be lovely, or ugly, because it influences change toward a greater beauty or something more vile.
Yes, we can always control our reaction; and we don't know what is going on in another's life that is causing their attitude. It can be hard, but try to not take it personally as it usually isn't.
working in sales and as a server, i've had a number of this type of encounter. they may be very hard jobs at times, but the rewards you describe are seldom available elsewhere. thank you for telling this story. it hits all of the high-notes.
@@JaneDoe-ds2iz Thank you! I am the way I am because of a long standing relationship with Jesus Christ. He has molded me and guided me in my ways. He is the BEST friend anyone can have. Father God I want to pray for Jane Doe right now, that if she does not know you that you reveal yourself to her in a very real and tangible way. Let your goodness and blessings and mercy flow on her life, on her family, in her work. Let there be healing where there needs healing. Let her know your deep Love for her, Your deep desire to be her friend, in Jesus precious name. Amen
I am now 70 years of age and class has also meant being gracious, in addition to your lovely list. Graciousness means being willing to help others by being attentive, caring and kind.
Thank you Mat. Some ideas that my mom taught me growing up in how she thought women could be classy were : no use of foul language, no gum chewing, always have good manners and etiquette. Listening to others without interrupting and actually show an interest in the people around you and to what they are saying. Be kind, don’t judge and that it is ok to be anonymous when being charitable to others. In this day and age, being classy is not having your phone attached to you while on a date or at dinner while sharing someone else’s company. Insignificance towards others is definitely NOT CLASSY. Love your channel!
Classy women respect the man’s time. They don’t text him all day long, just to sound needy. In addition, classy women never chase a guy nor strike up drama. They don’t flirt with other guys when dating another. She sets her boundaries, and if he walks away or ghosts, she walks away. Never settle for such disrespect.
I think being classy is by having boundaries. When a woman sets certain standards that a man needs to achieve in order to be fully be with her shows that the woman is of high value. By making yourself accesible to men truly digrades a woman's elegance and men are more likely to see her as a pushover than a woman of high value.
The mistake I used to make was to tell a guy, I would pay for my meal on the first date. I found out that is a masculine behavior on a woman’s part. I learned to shut up and not to offer and let him be the man. Also if he does ask you to pay. Say of course. Pay leave a tip, and never go out with him again.
Also men need to pursue you. Never chase a man. Also do sweetie and honey and your so good looking. That’s for men to do not women. It’s comes across as you are already flirting and can make him uncomfortable.
@@jenplinguist Really? My guy friend who dates, said, he gets frustrated that woman never offer to pay. I always offer, so then he can say, "no, I got it" Now a days some women make more money than men. Nothing wrong with offering, in my opinion.
@@tamaraharris4851 I was obviously speaking from my own perspective as a single girl on first dates. The perspectives of guys, third party friends, etc will vary. I recently told a young single guy planning on moving to the U.S. in the future "she will offer and you will say 'nope, I got it.'"
I’ve been married for 32 years, I cherish my husband, and so I appreciate this video because I still want him to want me and I don’t want to take him for granted, thank you so much!!! For the wise words
Agree! I am married too. I respect myself so I do not accept mediocrity. But I also respect my husband is a human being and recognize that he deserves my kindness, courtesy and love. He takes me to dinner, but sometimes I stop at the same exact restaurants to do "take out" to surprise him at home. Respect and treating someone the way you want to be treated is classy.
Nice to see other married women enjoying these videos. Lots of wisdom for relationships in general, not just that initial dating time. I have been married nearly 23 years and love the insights for what men find attractive in a woman's conduct and character. The information on this channel generally resonates with my husband and me.
A lady at Walmart was crying because a customer screamed at her. I gave her comfort and encouragement, a hug. I think it did help. I believe it's classy to be a person who practices what you preach. I do try to be this way. I try to be kind and understanding but still take care of my families needs too. It's always classy to really know Jesus Christ.
I'm so happy having back my ex fiance back, after being separated for 4months . All thanks to Mr Ali whom help me to get back my ex again, I will suggest y'all get help from him and it works within 4days
Classy for me is dressing well. It shows respect for your partner and yourself. Classy is not swearing or using vulgar language. Classy is good manners. Classy is listening to your partner, having a two way conversation. Don't gossip. Be polite and kind to people serving you or helping you. If you're in a bad mood, don't take it out in public. If your parents haven't taught you these things, learn them yourself. Like attracts like.. if you want a classy partner, you must be classy yourself.
Mel I agree with you 👍🏾 When I found myself pregnant and single 40 years ago, after a number of difficult situations, I made the decision for my future self that I would rather stay single than settle for second best. 💖 😊 🙆🏻♀️ 🌿 👍🏾 I'm still single to this day, and now I'm a very happy Nana with a full and rich life. 💃😊 🌿
I’ve tried to stay true to my values and have integrity and believed the right person would come along. Several men I loved came along but it was never the right time, place or circumstances. I’ve never found the right man and the right time and place. Now it is too late.
My father always said a person who has class treats everyone kindly, from the CEO to the guy who shines your shoes. He also said a person with class knows how to graciously let someone else pick up the tab. I try to live by those two rules; the latter is easier for me. Peace to everyone everywhere!
@@karenmartin4221 I think we were both blessed to have wise gentlemen for fathers. The world needs more of them! Blessings to you and yours, now and always.
Classy is head held up without being arrogant. Also, a smile on the face without teeth showing - kind of hints toward a sense of humor too. and friendliness toward the man
To me its not just about classiness. It is about maturity. The thin line between these is razor sharp. When feelings are hurt, we can cross over very quickly and IDK about other women but when I feel disrespected by anyone I dont confront it immediately (because I have class and I don’t like to hurt others internationally ) BUT I also know that I don’t like that feeling and it takes time to mull over those emotions to rise above others words or actions. Sometimes stepping back is the easiest thing when you are mature enough to do so. Maturity is key.
Spot on! When someone disrespects you, you know that person will never be someone you would be friends with. So honestly you really don't care what that person thinks, to the point you just walk away and forget the incident and them.
I would argue that maturity is having the EMOTIONAL REGULATION to actually CONFRONT the issue ASAP. People are only allowed to disrespect you and others because they aren't confronted at the time the issue happens. Work on mulling those emotions a little quicker-- dont be the one taking up your valuable time with that person's energy. Eliminate it by giving it back to them; you'll be helping yourself and other after you :)
I’ve learned not to react to being disrespected as I’ve learned to control my temper. I’ve come to understand it’s not about me but them. I’m fine. They are the ones with the issues as far as I’m concerned. At a less heated moment if it’s a situation where I’m in contact with the person I ask them why they behaved as they did and if there is anything going on with them I can help with. Works almost all the time. I’ve had people breakdown and share deep challenges and hurts they are going through. It it’s just a casual contact I just walk away. They are irrelevant to my life and I forget all about them almost immediately. I wasn’t always like this but boy do I have peace in my life now.
It's wonderful to be a strong and classy lady but sometimes it's great to have a man who can be empathetic and give those loving hugs when you need them. Strong confident women need men who know how to be loving . xoxoxo
l know of a manl who helped me bring my ex back he can also help you just as he did mine, he does a perfect work l' m assuring you, you gonna testify....
I find it classy when the man is secure and mature enough to let the other person know it’s not a good match as soon as he figures it out in an honorable way and this goes both ways.
A woman with class has or does the following: 1. Confidence 2. Lives above the line 3. Accountable 4. Self respect & respect for others 5. Style without being self-consumed These are some quality tips! 👍🏾
Classy to me is having self worth, boundaries, standing up for myself, being authentic, respectful, confident, positive and having main character energy.
Hello I'm so excited my relationship was fixed back again my ex is back to me we loving and happily together,I got help from a great man who brought us back together
One of the things that has served me well, is using the other person's name in conversation. Whether it's my date, a co-worker, my neighbor, the barista at the coffee shop, etc, etc. It helps me focus on giving that person my undivided attention, however brief that may be. I think most people appreciate that. In the more frequent times that I forget someone's name, I'll simply say, "Forgive me, I know we've met, but don't recall your name", and then make a joke about being a senior citizen. It breaks the tension. All the best...Mark
That’s all good up until you make jokes about senior citizens. Living a long life is a privilege and it’s understandable if not everyone is in perfect health in advanced age, so if you compare forgetting someone’s name to being a senior citizen, that’s not very sensitive. It would be classier, if you feel that forgetting the person’s name requires explanation, to chalk it up to information overload, which nearly everyone can relate to, and also doesn’t belittle an entire category of people. When you first learn someone’s name, really listen to it, use it in conversation with that person, write it down later, and if you do forget it, ask them how they spell their name. It’s a reasonable question anyway and shows you care. Plus it helps you commit their name to memory, and it averts embarrassment of forgetting it.
This popped up in my feed and my first reaction after seeing the title was, "Wow! Are we setting women back 50 years???" Man I'm glad I watched! This was actually a VERY empowering video for women!!! Thank you for this! You gained a new subscriber ;-)
Classy for me is not to be vulgar in thought, to be thoughtful in conduct, be polite, no malicious gossip and good quality talk and well put together inside out.
I’m still great mates with my former husband, he comes for dinner once a week, we have each others backs when needed. I’ve got COVID currently and he got me a tonne of soup and juices, I’m decorating his new apartment as he trust me with style decisions. We have 2 kids together and many wanted me to go for his jugular yet my kids came first, particularly our autistic then child, now adult. There was no DV nor manipulation so I bit my tongue, held my head high trudged on as a solo Mum and it all worked out. We were best friends when married for over a decade, we could remain good friends thereafter. Kids came first for us both and life is short. ☮️😊
Classy is when he notices another woman or runs into a friend, and his date chooses to be respectful and kind, instead on displaying jealousy and insecurities, while being disrespectful and giving the other woman a mean look etc. Be confident, don’t embarrass yourself. Be watchful.
Kindness is very classy. Maybe it often goes with respect. Also to be a woman who moves softly and speaks with the right tone and volume of voice (meaning no abrupt movements, no yelling, no speaking to low).
Excellent info. I am married, 42 years, and still believe in self-improvement, that's why I listened in. Hitting "follow"! There's always room to improve. My parents were Air Force and etiquette was important, it's communication as well as courtesy. The world could use some culture and finesse. Thank you for encouraging that!
My man knew I was classy & fell in love. He was everything I wanted on my list above & beyond my expectations. I was celibate for 10yrs waiting for my dream man. No I complain when necessary! Others earn it not given.
Posture...posture is very important at the same time carrying yourself with all the confident qualities you mentioned. You have to be comfortable in your own skin and believe in yourself know your a good person with a good heart but also realizing at the same time there is no such thing as perfection Treating others as we wish to be treated shouldn't be a hard thing to do if you are genuine. I've always carried myself well no matter what the circumstances. And a note to those young ladies and or women out there who's perception is ...acting like this by carrying yourself well does not make you self absorbed or stuck up or better than anyone else you don't have to have a lot of money to carry yourself well. I know women that don't carry themselves well and I know they are very capable of doing so but they feel to insecure to act in this manner they don't feel pretty or they don't have what others have they compare themselves to others they don't feel important enough. I personally don't come from a family that had a lot and I'm surely not a beauty queen but I am beautiful inside I definitely have my flaws and qwirks like anyone else I don't feel I have to wear the best clothes. Girls🖐️ you can look great in anything if you know your value. We are all beautiful on the inside no matter what we do not have and what we have been through. . Second note.....who you are you draw too you and what you put out into that universe you get back....good OR bad. If you do t know your value you need to find it because you have it☝️☝️☝️ NO MATTER what you've been through and what you do not have...you absolutely without a doubt MATTER. If you cannot find your value if you cannot find your beauty then you just let me know 😉♥️God bless all you beautiful women out there .👋☺️
For me, classy is knowing and being comfortable and confident with who U are and WHOSE U are. I deeply appreciate this video. Because, I am a caregiver. We have tendencies to put the needs of others first. Ironically enough, I'm currently going through this now in my dating life. This is a friendly reminder to take care of self first. My needs matter. If they can't understand that, move on. Thank you again for another great video. P.S. It's also classy being confident, happy and comfortable to stand up for what you want without worrying about being alone. Classy is knowing the difference between sacrificing your wants, hopes, dreams and goals for others to suit their needs.
I'm also a professional caregiver, I'm dating and looking for a Christian man. I've worked on my assertiveness and confidence and I'm looking for a caring sensitive man who will take care of me & protect me, primarily.
Speaking without using profanity. Being able to take a compliment and give a compliment Being present at the date (stop checking your phone) Having good manners
I was curious to watch this video because of the title. However, I didn't finish it because I realized that it was just talking points. It is very simple: A person who has class, regardless of his/her social and economic status, has class. You just need to have good manners, be educated, knowledgeable, kind, not to get drunk, loud, rude, vulgar, have good taste in clothes and food, know how to behave in different social situations and environments, etc. I talk and treat everybody the same from the person who cleans the bathrooms (whom I really appreciate) to my friends who are literally millionaires and anybody in between. You can not learn class. You are born with it! In my humble opinion
Clarity has been my key word …clarity of mind is classy … it is an umbrella word for me and embraces every aspect of my life … clear about my motives , desires , goals … it is a constant state of awareness which differs from being capricious and self conscious .
I define: -A woman who knows what she wants - Doesn't over do things ( putting so much effort into her looks & looks phony) - Caring & forgiving - Go getter - Just being herself - Knows the kinda guy she wants - Isn't self absorbed - knows how to carry herself Just to point out a few..!!
Being kind to myself and others! Appreciating value in myself and others! Self-control! Respect .All of these things I deem valuable and am always learning to be with the help of my creator. But of course only a man whom values those things will Appreciate,,I'm agreeable to that
I'm not quite sure if you really understand what I'm saying.Im not in need of a another person to help me,I already have a worldwide brotherhood that is supportive and God.
I look for these traits in a man. These are signs of class in anyone, but also I feel these come from a core of decency, manners & a healthy regard & respect for yourself as well as others you may interact with on any level in our worlds... From.the waitress to your date.
I'd say that not going into a physical relationship too fast is classy as well. Everyone will have different timeframes, but as for myself I don't sleep with a man until we're exclusive and he's my boyfriend.
Knowing your worth and understanding how you show actions with different people whether they are rich, poor there status must not be how I can treat them. Remember we are like a dot in the sky we glow differently so we should accept those flaws because we are not perfect. Thank you Mat Boggs for this informative video :)
Dr Kelly Love Spells can make your ex come back to you begging you for a second chance. He helped me restored my broken relationship of 6 years by bringing back my ex Also Dr Kelly always keep up with his words I strongly advise you to seek help from him.
Saying thank you when he spends money on something for you no matter how small. Being on time for dates and when he picks you up. Asking him what it is he is looking for and stating what you're looking for. Not being too nosey in the beginning in regards to his personal life. Buying him something/treating him to show you appreciate him. Being yourself and not trying to impress.
Matt, I absolutely love the information you provide in your videos, I find myself saying.."yes!" as I listen to your content. Classy to me is wishing someone well as you walk away from them. I was lied to repeatedly, I was fortunate enough to found that my instincts were spot on! I did let him know what I discovered about his true self. I decided to walk away with my class and dignity, divulging what I found out, but doing it in a classy way, no harsh words, but wanting to feel good about myself at that moment with no regrets about how I handled it. I expressed myself, but not in an angry way, in a classy way. It helped me positively move forward and I handled it on my terms. Felt so good to leave him that way! Thanks again for all your positive content!
For me being classy means - knowing your self-worth, acting and reacting in a way which is respectful to yourself (this is subjective), having boundaries and knowing when to walk away - eg when you have given someone a chance and knowing when enough is enough. This is all linked to confidence too.
The behavior I define in myself as Classy is having self-respect, application, being dignified, manners kindness, understanding for others,give a pleasant smile,say hi ,hello are good bye when you enter a place are leaving ,you threat others as you will like someone to threat,with me not to much makeupare jewels, just a beautiful comfortable dress,nice purse , and a comfortabl shoes ,my hair properly comb , and finally give my date my whole attention ,say excuse to if I have something to ask are tell him,make him, and myself comfortable our date by being playful, and not serious but setting standards of what I want in a relationship between us we are all human beings we all come with flaws ,we are not perfect, let us enjoy each other's company.
Thankyou for inviting my comments . Something that is very important to me is the manner in which I treat people. Along the lines of your point about the ideal of self-respect and not feeling as though you need to make others like you, I do not cow -tow or saddle up to someone who seems worthy of my respect and then conversely demean or show a form of disdain for someone who doen’t; male or female. How we treat those people whom we feel we do not need speaks volumes about who we are. CEO or blue collar worker, highly attractive or rough around the edges, I strive to treat people equally. I want others to see me as beautiful inside as out, but not because I want their attention, strictly because I believe in treating everyone by the same standard.it is an ugly trait to show one face to “little people” and a complete different face to “important” ones. I like to remember that we never know when we have entertained angels unaware!
Classy in myself is to be myself. I love to listen and have a good conversation. In all this I understood when you said how the woman said, you talked about yourself, you think I can talk about me.
I totally agree with these important aspects of being classy. I was recently asked what I am passionate about. I realized that I was in a lull in my life about being passionate about things. It inspired me to wake up to things I was passionate about. So, I would say, be classy, but be aware of what you are passionate about. It will help with your confidence and make you more interesting as well, I think, but it is healthy for you. Besides, it takes a lot of energy to be rude or small minded. You feel better about yourself acting with class.
Classy is when a Woman is Herself having the Courage to Not JUMP Out of the Line Just to make Something Happen. Classy is understanding the Situations and values of the Other Person without hurting them. Know what to do next and right to respect the man of Love. Classy is Loving someone as they are.
You are always on point. 4yrs ago I came across your videos just around the time I was getting out of a bad relationship. You helped me so much to figure out what I was doing wrong. Thank you. Now I have the best man in the whole world.
Even if she’s covered with tattoos, if all you said is true, then she’s still a good woman. Please don’t ever ask a random stranger on the internet 😂 (saying this in a respectful way cus you’ll get all types of rude replies especially from men. Not all but majority of them don’t like girls with a lot of tattoos)
Women look in the mirror more than men because we have more things that could go wrong. Lipstick on teeth, a false eyelash needs adjusting, smeared mascara, a wardrobe malfunction with our bra straps, checking the back of our pants for stains if it’s our time of the month…. I don’t expect men to understand all that, but neither should they judge.
I love how you brought up a woman who in a classy way, let the man she was with know that he didn't know anything about her. SOOOOoooo many people, both men and women NEVER ask a person, whether it's a woman or man, ANYTHING about them, which comes across like they just aren't interested. I have a kinda of friend who told me "I figure if it's something they want to talk about, then they will, otherwise I don't ask" as in they are coming across as nosey, but I told her, "It could come across that you aren't interested in that person at all." I could write biographies on most people I know, but on me? Almost nothing. It's not that hard to be a mystery woman afterall.
Dr Kelly Love Spells can make your ex come back to you begging you for a second chance. He helped me restored my broken relationship of 6 years by bringing back my ex Also Dr Kelly always keep up with his words I strongly advise you to seek help from him.
Dr Kelly Love Spells can make your ex come back to you begging you for a second chance. He helped me restored my broken relationship of 6 years by bringing back my ex Also Dr Kelly always keep up with his words I strongly advise you to seek help from him.
Classy in myself is just believing in what I want in a man not settling and being honest with him and myself Was married for 35 years and my husband died it was like shell shock out there..had to learn alot about dating at my age 50 at time..was tough still is but I hold on to God has someone for me just be who you are .. Thx video was great!!
Striking a balance between classy, confident, and sophisticated has always worked for me. Men love when they see a woman they're interested in is worth the chase.
Everything that you talked about was how girls learned and what made her a true , classy lady. My Mother and Father taught us that truth and honor were also part of what was a young woman. Loyalty to self, family and country and be proud of it. Having integrity in all matters.
Yes, plus generosity and attentiveness. Strong 2 way communication with kindness...don't leave others to guess what u are feeling...State your preferences clearly but kindly. Learn how to create a win/win situation. Allow both of u to come out of the chat feeling considered and respected.
Oh my hell..... The best thing anybody can do is be themselves. Things like this is why I'm happy I'm choosing to remain single. Thank you Lord for choices.
I think what is being articulated here is also applicable to a SINGLE person in the way they relate to people in their Lives not necessarily romantic relationships
I was the same way. Owned my own condo, had a job supported myself, was involved in community non-profits, went on vacations and was very independent. Then I met a man who loved me for me and loved me for who I was. I didn't have to pretend to be anyone else. We've been happily in love and married for 14 years.
All good advice for when you are looking for a new job as well, funny that :) Whether a person is looking for a partner or not, these are all good tips on life in general, and they all start with good self esteem.
Always be kind and respectful. Don't tolerate bad behavior on any level. Know that you are worthy and don't settle. Be honest about what you want in life and in a partner. Just know that sometimes the timing may not be right because of a person's journey at that moment. Try to end things on good terms. Who knows, you may reconnect later in life and everything may fall in place.
This was spot on! About not letting a man talk..... only about himself! Some do this to be a good listener or to be sympathetic Or not to "Spoil any of their chances." I realized that these guys didn't even know who I was. 2 months and they are gone. Gone on to someone else. I should have sent them a bill! I did an experiment once: I timed this guy to see just how LONG he would carry on. 5 hours. If a man, a good man, wants to at least impress you, even as a young man, he'd NOT go on and on and on unless he cares nothing about you. I learned too late!!
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I also timed it once too, out of morbid curiosity, 5 non stop hours of blathering. Well I did chalk it up to some pandemic isolation, but yep that was the end of that!
I went over the "A" example three times 😆 I have yet to meet a man who DOESN'T talk alllll about himself at first (why do they do this??) I don't think I could sit thru 90 minutes of that so I really appreciate the example you mentioned on how to handle this situation. It's been an automatic no for me but I will be trying your approach! Thanks 😊
In the past when I realised the guy was doing this I would just sit back and encourage it, all the while being just amazed that anyone could be so oblivious. It's like when they start exaggerating and outright lying, just play along and let them dig their own hole instead of calling them out.
I've just recently came across your videos and I have to say, you really know how to be honest without being rude and arrogant. You speak from experience and you are very observant of others behaviors. You know how to tell a story and make your points very clear. I really appreciate it!
Everything you said is very true and the acronym will help me to remember all the points. I would just like to add two things...1. Table manners and 2. Using a person's name...often
That video was excellent. Thank you for posting. One thing I find classy is when someone asks a question about what someone just said. As an example, someone talking about their trip to Japan. Be classy and ask about it! For example “what surprised you the most about the culture ?” Instead of “oh Japan! I went there several times !” It’s nice to share but ask a question first. 😊
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Personally, I think the L in this model - living above the line - is the hallmark of class. Don't allow yourself to be pulled down to someone else's level. This is particularly true with language choices, such as not using crude swear words, even if the other person does it. Thank you for this content. Excellent delivery as well.
When my partner is talking about something that is important to him I give him my full attention. My eyes are on him and I 'm listening. It's important to me that he knows I am all in on what matters to him. As I'm listening I feel so empowered because I am also investing in our relationship, because many people say "My partner doesn't listen to me" My partner always tells me no one listens, talks to him or understands him the way I do. And no one he knows has the beautiful mind I do. Yeah!!!! That makes me feel like a very classy lady when after six years he still thinks I have a beautiful mind❤
A sense of calm from a man. It's a quiet confidence. He doesn't need to make himself known. And because he's so relaxed either way, he is noticed. I don't know. Just something I admire. I don't see it very often. But when I do, I notice.
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Very good advice. When I was single I had decided that, as a Christian woman, I was not going to share my body with a guy until we were married. That filtered out a lot of guys, even in the Christian community,, but I didn't compromise and I met a guy with the same values. We have been married 21 years. Don't compromise on your values.
Me too. I always held out on intimacy and spent a lot of time dateless. Once many men find out you won’t put out on the first date, that’s it. POOF! They go. No loss, right? The word goes out that “she’s no fun” and you get the opposite reputation of being a wanton woman. Lots of defensiveness ensues. When I was young and pretty I had plenty of attention paid to me. I would go out with him, and spend the entire evening explaining why I would not “Loosen Up”. Not fun. Frankly exhausting and dispiriting. Glad I am married now, 49 years. It was worth it.
Wow I’m impressed. Way to go.
Very nice .......
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I'm I found someone who believes the same
My mother taught me: "Most things in life are irritations, just irritations. Deal with it, walk away and forget it. Save your anger for what is really important." All of these years later, I can't recall the last time I was angry. But also, I don't live with resentment, bitterness or recrimation. Because, as Mom said, I deal, as Mom did, with forthright, direct honesty. Many people have complimented me on the calm and yes, classy, way that I handle difficult situations. Thanks Mom!
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Best advice ever! I will pass that wisdom to my kids…..a gem.
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C. L. A. S. S.
1. Confidence.
2. Lives above the line.
3. Accountable.
4. Self respect and respect for others.
5. Style without being self consumed.
Thank you 🙏🏻👍🏻
Thank you
Thank for your summary points of "5 Attractive Qualities That Tell Men You Have Class". Namaste 🙏
Thx for not making me watch the entire video😉
People like you are hero's! 🙂
For me etiquette is very classy. Someone who says please, thank you, will/would you mind, I’d love, and so on. This demonstrates to me the person is aware that they have a responsibility to others in their own behaviors and that kindness matters. Etiquette is a great social lubricant! 😊
I agree with etiquete. It definitely sets one apart. Great comment!
very true.
many think of it as some sort of snobbishness, but at root, it is just a way to make things run more smoothly.
As long as you are not notating
Others lack of etiquette and your
Strength
Very well said.
@@lydiapicano8806 I don't know--not sure I needed to know how lubed up Laurie is at the moment. 😳
Ladies, please don't forget that these qualities are required in men who ask to date you, too.
Exactly. Men need to behave well too.
Thanks for your comment, was waiting for such.
The pressure is always on women to be right always. Too crazy. Great video though. Thank you
Exactly…. Women put up with so much crap from men!
The point of the video is in the header, so why detour from that? This comment was projective, and low class
Agreed!!!!
“A weak mind is quick to anger. A strong mind is quick to love and forgive.” Perfectly said. Great tips, as always.
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Don't be so quock to judge people who do get angry. Often it's hiding a lot of hurt.
@@LR-kj8ec df .
Im kind of both...
Classy to me starts with honesty. It also includes loyalty, discipline, empathy, curiosity, the ability to listen and to stick to your values and walk the talk.
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Yeah I agree, Communication and honesty.
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A classy woman will stand up for herself. She will speak the truth always but in a loving way. I always try to remember to encourage my husband. To tell him he did a good job whenever I can. To listen without interrupting and again to speak the truth with love. Thank you Matt for an awesome and informative video.
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Oh Nowwwww you say that. Don't you think it's a little late of that?
As a former waitress of many years, I am quiet when in a restaurant and watch the way that my date responds to the wait staff. One can almost always pick up on other's personalities via watching the way that they interact with those whom they claim are there to serve them. Excellent video!!
1.integrity
2. Respect for myself and others
3. Kindness
4. Compassionate
5. Does not boast of self
6. Selfcontrol
7. Humple
8. Forgiving
9. Good listener
10. Not worry about what others think of me.
11. Decisive
12. Know what I want and where I stand
13. Walk away from an arqument.
14. Never ever stoop to anyone's level
15. Always positive not matter how hopeless a situation is because there is always a solution for everything.
Thanks for last list of positive traits ,but you cheered me up with number 7 ‘Humple.😂 I think you meant ‘ humble .So funny but it made my day ❤
My husband giggled when I told him my grandfather told me the key to finding a good man. "Give him nothing and he can't get enough. Like a great mystery book." Bless his soul, he was right, my wonderful man was hooked for 6 yrs. We were neighbors and great friends. Now we are even better together.
Lol interesting
That only works when you're attractive. When you're ugly, men don't care how much "mystery" you have.
@@rtphotos4691 beauty is in the eye of the beholder
Holley Your grandfather was absolutely correct! I like the way he put it. Too many women think giving more to a man is the best thing but it’s actually not. Something I learned years ago. The key to a woman’s allure is to hold something back.
KD Photos Unattractive women have men too. I live in a large city and I can’t tell how many unattractive / average women I see with men.
The real classy woman is the one who you could go through any type of adversities with. The real class is revealed only in the face of challenges and troubles. As it is very easy to be calm, charming, well mannered and so when your life is fine in general. Yet, the real personality is tested in the critical situations only.
Well That’s a very negative attitude because I don’t think we have to go through adversities with all the men we are dating in order to prove our class. Our presence our strength of character, accomplishments and the life story we share with them will let them know that we are people who are capable of overcoming adversity ....it shows through your character and manners. I certainly would not want to go thru anymore adversities with a man to prove to him that I have class !!! that mindset is just going to attract BS and Unnecessary problems in your life. And optimistic and positive attitude showman that we have class and making
@@sarahmk2966 I didn't say that you have to go through adversities to prove your character to any man you date. Your accomplishments and life story is indeed speaking volumes of who you are. Yet, to me the right attitude is the one that helps to keep worthy relationships to last long. To me nothing blinds the person more than unreasonable optimism. Your mindset has nothing to do with chances life brings to you in regard to relationships.. Perhaps we are in different age and social category. Actively dating or being constantly on a hunt for a man is not my type of thing. I solely rely on destiny. My way of being positive is to staying fit and creative no matter what.
Amen 🙏🙏🙏🙏 That is Class ...
THANK YOU FOR ALSO adding this ! This describes me being well mannered, poised and confident but my strengths lie in being resilience honest, courageous ethical. 👌🏾
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Your story of the cranky waitress, and your dates poor reaction to her, made me think of an experience of my own. When I was 17 and working at Mcdonalds, we had a regular guest who would yell, belittle, and just be rude in so many ways. I was training a new girl, and this regular guest came up in her line. After the encounter the new girl started to cry as she was talking to me about the experience. Knowing that the guest was within ear shot, I said in a loud clear voice. "Your doing great it's your first day. She is like that to EVERYONE. She may be going through a difficult time in her life right now and WE MAY be the only bit of kindness she gets." Every time I saw this guest after that she had a huge smile on her face, called me sweetheart and sweetie, and opened up to me about recently loosing her husband and how she has two teenage boys to deal with alone. The guest opened up to me more and more each time we spoke. My only regret now upon reflection, is that I didn't see it sooner and reach out to her. I'm sorry that the new girl had to go through that, But the point is, how we react can be lovely, or ugly, because it influences change toward a greater beauty or something more vile.
Whoa @Grace Pierce. What a great story. You're the kind of person I'd love to have as a next-door-neighbor....or a FRIEND. Rock on!
Yes, we can always control our reaction; and we don't know what is going on in another's life that is causing their attitude. It can be hard, but try to not take it personally as it usually isn't.
working in sales and as a server, i've had a number of this type of encounter.
they may be very hard jobs at times, but the rewards you describe are seldom available elsewhere.
thank you for telling this story.
it hits all of the high-notes.
Your compassion is pure class.
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I am now 70 years of age and class has also meant being gracious, in addition to your lovely list. Graciousness means being willing to help others by being attentive, caring and kind.
Thank you Mat. Some ideas that my mom taught me growing up in how she thought women could be classy were : no use of foul language, no gum chewing, always have good manners and etiquette. Listening to others without interrupting and actually show an interest in the people around you and to what they are saying. Be kind, don’t judge and that it is ok to be anonymous when being charitable to others. In this day and age, being classy is not having your phone attached to you while on a date or at dinner while sharing someone else’s company. Insignificance towards others is definitely NOT CLASSY. Love your channel!
Classy women respect the man’s time. They don’t text him all day long, just to sound needy.
In addition, classy women never chase a guy nor strike up drama. They don’t flirt with other guys when dating another. She sets her boundaries, and if he walks away or ghosts, she walks away. Never settle for such disrespect.
I'm amazed at how often some women text a man. It does seem needy. I have to wonder if it gets on the last nerve.
👏👏👏👏 NEVER EVER SETTLE FOR SUCH DISRESPECT. WELL SAID. 👏👏👏👏👏👏
@Gods Time so many promo like this in the comments
I think they mistake the attention seekers for the ones described.
@Gods Time Yeah but he picked up all sorts of STDs along the way...🤢
I think being classy is by having boundaries. When a woman sets certain standards that a man needs to achieve in order to be fully be with her shows that the woman is of high value. By making yourself accesible to men truly digrades a woman's elegance and men are more likely to see her as a pushover than a woman of high value.
BRAVO 👏 WELL PUT! THESE MEN ARE STIPID!
I mean I like playing outside the boundaries
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*degrades
The mistake I used to make was to tell a guy, I would pay for my meal on the first date. I found out that is a masculine behavior on a woman’s part. I learned to shut up and not to offer and let him be the man. Also if he does ask you to pay. Say of course. Pay leave a tip, and never go out with him again.
Also men need to pursue you. Never chase a man. Also do sweetie and honey and your so good looking. That’s for men to do not women. It’s comes across as you are already flirting and can make him uncomfortable.
Exactly❤️❤️❤️
I agree. Don't offer.
@@jenplinguist Really? My guy friend who dates, said, he gets frustrated that woman never offer to pay. I always offer, so then he can say, "no, I got it" Now a days some women make more money than men. Nothing wrong with offering, in my opinion.
@@tamaraharris4851 I was obviously speaking from my own perspective as a single girl on first dates. The perspectives of guys, third party friends, etc will vary. I recently told a young single guy planning on moving to the U.S. in the future "she will offer and you will say 'nope, I got it.'"
I’ve been married for 32 years, I cherish my husband, and so I appreciate this video because I still want him to want me and I don’t want to take him for granted, thank you so much!!! For the wise words
Agree! I am married too. I respect myself so I do not accept mediocrity. But I also respect my husband is a human being and recognize that he deserves my kindness, courtesy and love. He takes me to dinner, but sometimes I stop at the same exact restaurants to do "take out" to surprise him at home. Respect and treating someone the way you want to be treated is classy.
I feel exactly the same way I'm married for 46 years and I keep him happy 😉 and he keeps me happy 😊
Nice to see other married women enjoying these videos. Lots of wisdom for relationships in general, not just that initial dating time. I have been married nearly 23 years and love the insights for what men find attractive in a woman's conduct and character. The information on this channel generally resonates with my husband and me.
A lady at Walmart was crying because a customer screamed at her. I gave her comfort and encouragement, a hug. I think it did help. I believe it's classy to be a person who practices what you preach. I do try to be this way. I try to be kind and understanding but still take care of my families needs too. It's always classy to really know Jesus Christ.
I'm so happy having back my ex fiance back, after being separated for 4months . All thanks to Mr Ali whom help me to get back my ex again, I will suggest y'all get help from him and it works within 4days
I feel the same way about the Tooth Fairy. She’s always there when I need her. Such a classy broad. 🧚♀️
Classy for me is dressing well. It shows respect for your partner and yourself. Classy is not swearing or using vulgar language. Classy is good manners. Classy is listening to your partner, having a two way conversation. Don't gossip. Be polite and kind to people serving you or helping you. If you're in a bad mood, don't take it out in public. If your parents haven't taught you these things, learn them yourself. Like attracts like.. if you want a classy partner, you must be classy yourself.
@@scf7334 Classy, is not being snarky.
Woo..."Weak mind is quick to anger, the Strong mind is quick to love" I really love this concept.
And even if it does not attract any of the men you date please keep classy! The right one will come or not, but you don’t betray who you are. 🙏🏻🙏🏻
Mel I agree with you 👍🏾
When I found myself pregnant and single 40 years ago, after a number of difficult situations, I made the decision for my future self that I would rather stay single than settle for second best. 💖 😊 🙆🏻♀️ 🌿 👍🏾
I'm still single to this day, and now I'm a very happy Nana with a full and rich life. 💃😊 🌿
Well said.
I’ve tried to stay true to my values and have integrity and believed the right person would come along. Several men I loved came along but it was never the right time, place or circumstances. I’ve never found the right man and the right time and place. Now it is too late.
My father always said a person who has class treats everyone kindly, from the CEO to the guy who shines your shoes. He also said a person with class knows how to graciously let someone else pick up the tab. I try to live by those two rules; the latter is easier for me. Peace to everyone everywhere!
My dad said, and lived by, that first rule too. Boy do I miss him & try to live up to his model.
@@karenmartin4221 I think we were both blessed to have wise gentlemen for fathers. The world needs more of them! Blessings to you and yours, now and always.
Classy is head held up without being arrogant. Also, a smile on the face without teeth showing - kind of hints toward a sense of humor too. and friendliness toward the man
To me its not just about classiness. It is about maturity. The thin line between these is razor sharp. When feelings are hurt, we can cross over very quickly and IDK about other women but when I feel disrespected by anyone I dont confront it immediately (because I have class and I don’t like to hurt others internationally ) BUT I also know that I don’t like that feeling and it takes time to mull over those emotions to rise above others words or actions. Sometimes stepping back is the easiest thing when you are mature enough to do so. Maturity is key.
Spot on! When someone disrespects you, you know that person will never be someone you would be friends with. So honestly you really don't care what that person thinks, to the point you just walk away and forget the incident and them.
I would argue that maturity is having the EMOTIONAL REGULATION to actually CONFRONT the issue ASAP.
People are only allowed to disrespect you and others because they aren't confronted at the time the issue happens.
Work on mulling those emotions a little quicker-- dont be the one taking up your valuable time with that person's energy. Eliminate it by giving it back to them; you'll be helping yourself and other after you :)
I’ve learned not to react to being disrespected as I’ve learned to control my temper. I’ve come to understand it’s not about me but them. I’m fine. They are the ones with the issues as far as I’m concerned. At a less heated moment if it’s a situation where I’m in contact with the person I ask them why they behaved as they did and if there is anything going on with them I can help with. Works almost all the time. I’ve had people breakdown and share deep challenges and hurts they are going through. It it’s just a casual contact I just walk away. They are irrelevant to my life and I forget all about them almost immediately. I wasn’t always like this but boy do I have peace in my life now.
@@SA-yd1xk Thank you Shade, nicely said.
So we'll put. I totally agree.
Thank you. I find classy when a man is respectful, kind, attentive and smiles. 😊
It's wonderful to be a strong and classy lady but sometimes it's great to have a man who can be empathetic and give those loving hugs when you need them. Strong confident women need men who know how to be loving . xoxoxo
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Those things aren't in contradiction. You can have both at the same time.
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I find it classy when the man is secure and mature enough to let the other person know it’s not a good match as soon as he figures it out in an honorable way and this goes both ways.
A woman with class has or does the following:
1. Confidence
2. Lives above the line
3. Accountable
4. Self respect & respect for others
5. Style without being self-consumed
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1being on time
2 be respectful
3 listening
4 there is a classy way to dress
5 confident
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Wow! That was inspiring!
@@lmiller1413 Awesome that you found it valuable :)
@ AWESOME to read that Isabelle
Classy to me is having self worth, boundaries, standing up for myself, being authentic, respectful, confident, positive and having main character energy.
Hello I'm so excited my relationship was fixed back again my ex is back to me we loving and happily together,I got help from a great man who brought us back together
Whatzapp him now......
main character energy? lol
One of the things that has served me well, is using the other person's name in conversation. Whether it's my date, a co-worker, my neighbor, the barista at the coffee shop, etc, etc. It helps me focus on giving that person my undivided attention, however brief that may be. I think most people appreciate that. In the more frequent times that I forget someone's name, I'll simply say, "Forgive me, I know we've met, but don't recall your name", and then make a joke about being a senior citizen. It breaks the tension. All the best...Mark
That’s all good up until you make jokes about senior citizens. Living a long life is a privilege and it’s understandable if not everyone is in perfect health in advanced age, so if you compare forgetting someone’s name to being a senior citizen, that’s not very sensitive.
It would be classier, if you feel that forgetting the person’s name requires explanation, to chalk it up to information overload, which nearly everyone can relate to, and also doesn’t belittle an entire category of people.
When you first learn someone’s name, really listen to it, use it in conversation with that person, write it down later, and if you do forget it, ask them how they spell their name. It’s a reasonable question anyway and shows you care. Plus it helps you commit their name to memory, and it averts embarrassment of forgetting it.
My go to comment is, brain fart.
When speaking to a representative over the phone I always write down their name and be sure to thank them by name before we hang up.
This popped up in my feed and my first reaction after seeing the title was, "Wow! Are we setting women back 50 years???" Man I'm glad I watched! This was actually a VERY empowering video for women!!! Thank you for this! You gained a new subscriber ;-)
Classy for me is not to be vulgar in thought, to be thoughtful in conduct, be polite, no malicious gossip and good quality talk and well put together inside out.
I think that ending the relationship with somebody who hurt you with understanding, honesty, calm and with no revenge is very classy.
I love that.
My grandmother used to say … a person shows their true colors on the way out.
@@anettee.1805absolutely correct. That's acting with grace.
I’m still great mates with my former husband, he comes for dinner once a week, we have each others backs when needed. I’ve got COVID currently and he got me a tonne of soup and juices, I’m decorating his new apartment as he trust me with style decisions. We have 2 kids together and many wanted me to go for his jugular yet my kids came first, particularly our autistic then child, now adult. There was no DV nor manipulation so I bit my tongue, held my head high trudged on as a solo Mum and it all worked out. We were best friends when married for over a decade, we could remain good friends thereafter. Kids came first for us both and life is short. ☮️😊
Classy is when he notices another woman or runs into a friend, and his date chooses to be respectful and kind, instead on displaying jealousy and insecurities, while being disrespectful and giving the other woman a mean look etc. Be confident, don’t embarrass yourself. Be watchful.
Kindness is very classy. Maybe it often goes with respect. Also to be a woman who moves softly and speaks with the right tone and volume of voice (meaning no abrupt movements, no yelling, no speaking to low).
Excellent info. I am married, 42 years, and still believe in self-improvement, that's why I listened in. Hitting "follow"!
There's always room to improve. My parents were Air Force and etiquette was important, it's communication as well as courtesy. The world could use some culture and finesse. Thank you for encouraging that!
Classy is kind, smart, funny, attentive, gounded, and compassionate.
Hello Jenny how are you doing
Yes. Men like to talk about themselves and don’t think to ask about the person in front of them so what you said to say is really helpful
Class is simply walking in your true self. Knowing what you want not settling for what you don’t 💜
My man knew I was classy & fell in love. He was everything I wanted on my list above & beyond my expectations. I was celibate for 10yrs waiting for my dream man. No I complain when necessary! Others earn it not given.
Don't be in an interview try saying something your interested in and then ask him something related.
Being honest, transparent, appreciating what's good in others.
Posture...posture is very important at the same time carrying yourself with all the confident qualities you mentioned. You have to be comfortable in your own skin and believe in yourself know your a good person with a good heart but also realizing at the same time there is no such thing as perfection Treating others as we wish to be treated shouldn't be a hard thing to do if you are genuine. I've always carried myself well no matter what the circumstances. And a note to those young ladies and or women out there who's perception is ...acting like this by carrying yourself well does not make you self absorbed or stuck up or better than anyone else you don't have to have a lot of money to carry yourself well. I know women that don't carry themselves well and I know they are very capable of doing so but they feel to insecure to act in this manner they don't feel pretty or they don't have what others have they compare themselves to others they don't feel important enough. I personally don't come from a family that had a lot and I'm surely not a beauty queen but I am beautiful inside I definitely have my flaws and qwirks like anyone else I don't feel I have to wear the best clothes. Girls🖐️ you can look great in anything if you know your value. We are all beautiful on the inside no matter what we do not have and what we have been through. . Second note.....who you are you draw too you and what you put out into that universe you get back....good OR bad. If you do t know your value you need to find it because you have it☝️☝️☝️ NO MATTER what you've been through and what you do not have...you absolutely without a doubt MATTER. If you cannot find your value if you cannot find your beauty then you just let me know 😉♥️God bless all you beautiful women out there .👋☺️
For me, classy is knowing and being comfortable and confident with who U are and WHOSE U are. I deeply appreciate this video. Because, I am a caregiver. We have tendencies to put the needs of others first. Ironically enough, I'm currently going through this now in my dating life. This is a friendly reminder to take care of self first. My needs matter. If they can't understand that, move on. Thank you again for another great video.
P.S. It's also classy being confident, happy and comfortable to stand up for what you want without worrying about being alone. Classy is knowing the difference between sacrificing your wants, hopes, dreams and goals for others to suit their needs.
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I'm also a professional caregiver, I'm dating and looking for a Christian man. I've worked on my assertiveness and confidence and I'm looking for a caring sensitive man who will take care of me & protect me, primarily.
I've been in a loving marriage for 30 years, but your tips are life lessons that apply to many situations.
Speaking without using profanity.
Being able to take a compliment and give a compliment
Being present at the date (stop checking your phone)
Having good manners
I was curious to watch this video because of the title. However, I didn't finish it because I realized that it was just talking points. It is very simple: A person who has class, regardless of his/her social and economic status, has class. You just need to have good manners, be educated, knowledgeable, kind, not to get drunk, loud, rude, vulgar, have good taste in clothes and food, know how to behave in different social situations and environments, etc. I talk and treat everybody the same from the person who cleans the bathrooms (whom I really appreciate) to my friends who are literally millionaires and anybody in between. You can not learn class. You are born with it! In my humble opinion
Clarity has been my key word …clarity of mind is classy … it is an umbrella word for me and embraces every aspect of my life … clear about my motives , desires , goals … it is a constant state of awareness which differs from being capricious and self conscious .
I define:
-A woman who knows what she wants
- Doesn't over do things ( putting so much effort into her looks & looks phony)
- Caring & forgiving
- Go getter
- Just being herself
- Knows the kinda guy she wants
- Isn't self absorbed
- knows how to carry herself
Just to point out a few..!!
Being kind to myself and others! Appreciating value in myself and others! Self-control! Respect .All of these things I deem valuable and am always learning to be with the help of my creator. But of course only a man whom values those things will Appreciate,,I'm agreeable to that
I'm not quite sure if you really understand what I'm saying.Im not in need of a another person to help me,I already have a worldwide brotherhood that is supportive and God.
I look for these traits in a man. These are signs of class in anyone, but also I feel these come from a core of decency, manners & a healthy regard & respect for yourself as well as others you may interact with on any level in our worlds... From.the waitress to your date.
Hello Marni how are you doing
So many good tips! My father taught me to “walk like a lady.“ Many men have complimented me over the years on how I carry myself. Thanks dad!
Going through life we learn and grow. Maturity and self respect often comes with age and experience.
I'd say that not going into a physical relationship too fast is classy as well. Everyone will have different timeframes, but as for myself I don't sleep with a man until we're exclusive and he's my boyfriend.
Yesssss to that!!!! I need to feel they are worthy of seeing me naked.
Knowing your worth and understanding how you show actions with different people whether they are rich, poor there status must not be how I can treat them. Remember we are like a dot in the sky we glow differently so we should accept those flaws because we are not perfect. Thank you Mat Boggs for this informative video :)
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Knowing what I want ,good manners ,kindness ,paying it forward and being caring and positive .
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Being kind, authentic, respectful, honest, real, loving ,caring, nurturing....this all are me
Saying thank you when he spends money on something for you no matter how small. Being on time for dates and when he picks you up. Asking him what it is he is looking for and stating what you're looking for. Not being too nosey in the beginning in regards to his personal life. Buying him something/treating him to show you appreciate him. Being yourself and not trying to impress.
Matt, I absolutely love the information you provide in your videos, I find myself saying.."yes!" as I listen to your content. Classy to me is wishing someone well as you walk away from them. I was lied to repeatedly, I was fortunate enough to found that my instincts were spot on! I did let him know what I discovered about his true self. I decided to walk away with my class and dignity, divulging what I found out, but doing it in a classy way, no harsh words, but wanting to feel good about myself at that moment with no regrets about how I handled it. I expressed myself, but not in an angry way, in a classy way. It helped me positively move forward and I handled it on my terms. Felt so good to leave him that way! Thanks again for all your positive content!
That's a great acronym to live by. I definitely would add Clear Communication. That is an integral part of expressing Clear boundaries and Confidence.
Classy means being kind . Thank you for the very gentle way you have presented this video. Really appreciate it
Demonstrating appreciation. Thanking the guy.
Not taking what he does, says or gives
for granted. Not acting spoiled.
Kindness, warmth, humility and a good sense of humor
For me being classy means - knowing your self-worth, acting and reacting in a way which is respectful to yourself (this is subjective), having boundaries and knowing when to walk away - eg when you have given someone a chance and knowing when enough is enough. This is all linked to confidence too.
I have often being called a lady (even by the roughest of men). Not sure if that is good or bad!
@@AJ-kb9hf It's good. As a woman it means your connected with your femininity which is what you want.
The behavior I define in myself as Classy is having self-respect, application, being dignified, manners kindness, understanding for others,give a pleasant smile,say hi ,hello are good bye when you enter a place are leaving ,you threat others as you will like someone to threat,with me not to much makeupare jewels, just a beautiful comfortable dress,nice purse , and a comfortabl shoes ,my hair properly comb , and finally give my date my whole attention ,say excuse to if I have something to ask are tell him,make him, and myself comfortable our date by being playful, and not serious but setting standards of what I want in a relationship between us we are all human beings we all come with flaws ,we are not perfect, let us enjoy each other's company.
Thankyou for inviting my comments . Something that is very important to me is the manner in which I treat people. Along the lines of your point about the ideal of self-respect and not feeling as though you need to make others like you, I do not cow -tow or saddle up to someone who seems worthy of my respect and then conversely demean or show a form of disdain for someone who doen’t; male or female. How we treat those people whom we feel we do not need speaks volumes about who we are. CEO or blue collar worker, highly attractive or rough around the edges, I strive to treat people equally. I want others to see me as beautiful inside as out, but not because I want their attention, strictly because I believe in treating everyone by the same standard.it is an ugly trait to show one face to “little people” and a complete different face to “important” ones. I like to remember that we never know when we have entertained angels unaware!
It will all come back to you ultimately. Unclassy and rude people don't seem to realize this.
People who take accountability for their actions come from a place of power. Love that wording if it!
Classy in myself is to be myself. I love to listen and have a good conversation. In all this I understood when you said how the woman said, you talked about yourself, you think I can talk about me.
I totally agree with these important aspects of being classy. I was recently asked what I am passionate about. I realized that I was in a lull in my life about being passionate about things. It inspired me to wake up to things I was passionate about. So, I would say, be classy, but be aware of what you are passionate about. It will help with your confidence and make you more interesting as well, I think, but it is healthy for you. Besides, it takes a lot of energy to be rude or small minded. You feel better about yourself acting with class.
Classy is when a Woman is Herself having the Courage to Not JUMP Out of the Line Just to make Something Happen. Classy is understanding the Situations and values of the Other Person without hurting them. Know what to do next and right to respect the man of Love. Classy is Loving someone as they are.
You are always on point. 4yrs ago I came across your videos just around the time I was getting out of a bad relationship. You helped me so much to figure out what I was doing wrong. Thank you. Now I have the best man in the whole world.
Classy is learning to listen to others but assertive to say the right thing at the right time.
No tattoos. Polite. Feminine. No foul language. Loving and caring.
Lol no tattoos.
Would if she is all of that and more but has a couple of small hidden tattoos and she’s not planning to get anymore?
In other words, Polly Pureheart, right?
Even if she’s covered with tattoos, if all you said is true, then she’s still a good woman. Please don’t ever ask a random stranger on the internet 😂 (saying this in a respectful way cus you’ll get all types of rude replies especially from men. Not all but majority of them don’t like girls with a lot of tattoos)
Totally agree with you on all points!
Women look in the mirror more than men because we have more things that could go wrong. Lipstick on teeth, a false eyelash needs adjusting, smeared mascara, a wardrobe malfunction with our bra straps, checking the back of our pants for stains if it’s our time of the month…. I don’t expect men to understand all that, but neither should they judge.
I love how you brought up a woman who in a classy way, let the man she was with know that he didn't know anything about her. SOOOOoooo many people, both men and women NEVER ask a person, whether it's a woman or man, ANYTHING about them, which comes across like they just aren't interested. I have a kinda of friend who told me "I figure if it's something they want to talk about, then they will, otherwise I don't ask" as in they are coming across as nosey, but I told her, "It could come across that you aren't interested in that person at all." I could write biographies on most people I know, but on me? Almost nothing. It's not that hard to be a mystery woman afterall.
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Kindness. Genuine kindness . I love to be kind . Putting good energy out is contagious , so make the best of it
Being honest, respectful, accountable.
Dr Kelly Love Spells can make your ex come back to you begging you for a second chance. He helped me restored my broken relationship of 6 years by bringing back my ex Also Dr Kelly always keep up with his words I strongly advise you to seek help from him.
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Classy in myself is just believing in what I want in a man not settling and being honest with him and myself
Was married for 35 years and my husband died it was like shell shock out there..had to learn alot about dating at my age 50 at time..was tough still is but I hold on to God has someone for me just be who you are ..
Thx video was great!!
I'm.so sorry about your loss 💝 hugs x
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Striking a balance between classy, confident, and sophisticated has always worked for me. Men love when they see a woman they're interested in is worth the chase.
Everything that you talked about was how girls learned and what made her a true , classy lady. My Mother and Father taught us that truth and honor were also part of what was a young woman.
Loyalty to self, family and country and be proud of it. Having integrity in all matters.
I agree 100%. Being classy isn’t about having money, it’s about having integrity.
*Being urself Is CLASSY !!!*
Thank you Matt. The behaviors I define as classy in myself are: self awareness , humbleness, gentleness, kindness, confidence, forgiveness 💖
Ok but don't let yourself become foolishness because a man can make you think that to love is to let him treat you any way he wants.
Yes, plus generosity and attentiveness. Strong 2 way communication with kindness...don't leave others to guess what u are feeling...State your preferences clearly but kindly. Learn how to create a win/win situation. Allow both of u to come out of the chat feeling considered and respected.
Oh my hell..... The best thing anybody can do is be themselves. Things like this is why I'm happy I'm choosing to remain single. Thank you Lord for choices.
I think what is being articulated here is also applicable to a SINGLE person in the way they relate to people in their Lives not necessarily romantic relationships
Being right for a man is like trying to cure cancer. I'm done with their complicated fucking rules.
I was the same way. Owned my own condo, had a job supported myself, was involved in community non-profits, went on vacations and was very independent. Then I met a man who loved me for me and loved me for who I was. I didn't have to pretend to be anyone else.
We've been happily in love and married for 14 years.
All good advice for when you are looking for a new job as well, funny that :) Whether a person is looking for a partner or not, these are all good tips on life in general, and they all start with good self esteem.
Proper manners, honesty, and gratitude.
I love khadija for being calm and not reacting to other's words
Always be kind and respectful. Don't tolerate bad behavior on any level. Know that you are worthy and don't settle. Be honest about what you want in life and in a partner.
Just know that sometimes the timing may not be right because of a person's journey at that moment.
Try to end things on good terms.
Who knows, you may reconnect later in life and everything may fall in place.
This was spot on! About not letting a man talk..... only about himself! Some do this to be a good listener or to be sympathetic Or not to "Spoil any of their chances." I realized that these guys didn't even know who I was. 2 months and they are gone. Gone on to someone else.
I should have sent them a bill! I did an experiment once: I timed this guy to see just how LONG he would carry on. 5 hours. If a man, a good man, wants to at least impress you, even as a young man, he'd NOT go on and on and on unless he cares nothing about you. I learned too late!!
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I also timed it once too, out of morbid curiosity, 5 non stop hours of blathering. Well I did chalk it up to some pandemic isolation, but yep that was the end of that!
I went over the "A" example three times 😆 I have yet to meet a man who DOESN'T talk alllll about himself at first (why do they do this??) I don't think I could sit thru 90 minutes of that so I really appreciate the example you mentioned on how to handle this situation. It's been an automatic no for me but I will be trying your approach! Thanks 😊
In the past when I realised the guy was doing this I would just sit back and encourage it, all the while being just amazed that anyone could be so oblivious. It's like when they start exaggerating and outright lying, just play along and let them dig their own hole instead of calling them out.
If you find him interesting, let him talk. If not, it's not going to work.
An hour and a half is a long time to listen to ANYONE talk about ANYTHING! Lol
I've just recently came across your videos and I have to say, you really know how to be honest without being rude and arrogant. You speak from experience and you are very observant of others behaviors. You know how to tell a story and make your points very clear. I really appreciate it!
Everything you said is very true and the acronym will help me to remember all the points. I would just like to add two things...1. Table manners and 2. Using a person's name...often
I love the example you gave about your client Johanne ❤️ The way she expressed her need was indeed so classy, love it
That video was excellent. Thank you for posting. One thing I find classy is when someone asks a question about what someone just said. As an example, someone talking about their trip to Japan. Be classy and ask about it! For example “what surprised you the most about the culture ?” Instead of “oh Japan! I went there several times !” It’s nice to share but ask a question first. 😊
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Personally, I think the L in this model - living above the line - is the hallmark of class. Don't allow yourself to be pulled down to someone else's level. This is particularly true with language choices, such as not using crude swear words, even if the other person does it.
Thank you for this content. Excellent delivery as well.
When my partner is talking about something that is important to him I give him my full attention. My eyes are on him and I 'm listening.
It's important to me that he knows I am all in on what matters to him.
As I'm listening I feel so empowered because I am also investing in our relationship, because many people say "My partner doesn't listen to me"
My partner always tells me no one listens, talks to him or understands him the way I do. And no one he knows has the beautiful mind I do.
Yeah!!!! That makes me feel like a very classy lady when after six years he still thinks I have a beautiful mind❤
A sense of calm from a man. It's a quiet confidence. He doesn't need to make himself known. And because he's so relaxed either way, he is noticed. I don't know. Just something I admire. I don't see it very often. But when I do, I notice.