Therapist Reacts to Jada and Will
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- Опубликовано: 12 июл 2020
- Dr. Kirk Honda reacts to Jada and Will Smith.
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Bruh, even Will was like "an Entanglement 🙂?"
Chicken Salad he has his own “entanglements” that’s why he can’t judge ! And “bad marriage for life”? Oh hell naw!
😂😂😂
bruhhhhh 😆🤣😂
😂😂😂😂
@@arabesquejacob8176 True this is a bad marriage. I'm not gonna settle for marriage like this. Better to wait than to have this. There's still rare individuals who can give you loyalty and faithfulness. But well, they deserve each other because they're desame. HAHA.
I think the Red Table Talk needs a license and certified therapist as a cohost along with Jada
You’re right, they’re using the language of psychology/healing based on their anecdotal experience, without any actual license to diagnose
Yeah, if they are going to do the talk, then they should follow it up with Dr. Phil. Ha!!! But I agree with you: a licensed therapist is needed.
I agree.
@@reginayfavors Dr Phil is the worst! Lol
@@hecticado8080 absolutely!!!
Crazy seeing this a year later and realizing they didn't both emerge "healed". Seems like Will's masculinity was totally threatened.
I'm not sure if I'd call it masculinity. Seems to me to be more basic - feeling secure in intimacy and your role as a partner. It can be that that might take the form of some common notion of "masculinity", such as the protective macho, but it really just serves the purpose of anchoring your own identity within your family.
I read that they have an open relationship and that he has a very small penis.
I think this broke will smith august and jada made a fool of him
Its interesting to me that they say they were separated when her relationship with August happened but noone ever hears that. They were still married but separated and Will may have had his own entanglements but it just didn't come to the lime light.
@@jannikostermann9821 right, and she did say...on tv Will's sex wasn't satisfying her.
"By saying Entanglement she is maybe trying to distance herself from the voluntary nature of the relationship" this man speaks the truth.
Jada doesn't seem to acknowledge Wills pain. It's all about accepting herself and will accepting her feelings and journey.
Yes, Carole, it's unfortunate but is a true assessment. I'm so sorry this happened. I have never been married and am now up in age [and still have hope], so I don't know what it is like but I have most certainly been hurt in relationships when I was dating back ions ago. I Love that they were both vulnerable and willing to share their life with us, so very grateful, and absolutely Love them both for weathering the storm of life together. God Bless them Both!
And Will doesn't acknowledge her pain...
she’s her own biggest fan. She’s full of herself.
she doesn't give a shit because will is a beta male. Females don't give a shit about betas
Adopting her weird idea of doing what she wants when she wants doesn't seem to be working for Will. Wish he'd get counseling to realize he can stand up as the man & let her go on her own way without him .. she's doing that anyway but he's stuck and trying to look like he's in agreement.
This entire Jada/Will situation is a real-life version of "WE WERE ON A BREAK!!!!"
There are no breaks in a marriage!
@@Michelle-pn9xt depends on the marriage. Different strokes for different folks
I got the reference lol but who is Ross? 🤔🤣
gold haha
This was way worse
She strikes me as a narcissist. Very eager to talk a lot about herself and enjoying the attention she will get from millions of viewers in the process. It's noticable that Will doesn't get a lot of room to talk about his own pain.
She is self-centered and shallow for sure. Everything is centered on “is Jada happy? This is fine because it made Jada happy. This is NOT fine because it made jade unhappy. How does Jada feel?” I notice she never asks or considers how he feels, or asks even for his thoughts. She seems manipulative the way she speaks. Constantly using words like “empowerment” and “spiritual” and “journey”
I find it funny that the Therapist was mostly focused on Jada, praising what Jada's saying, but didn't notice the pain and sarcasm in Will's face. 😂 But what do I know, I'm just an anonymous person in the comments.
Chrysses, you make an excellent point. But why do you make the point and then immediately desparage or lessen it? There is no such thing as the expert. Everybody has their own sharp insights, as valid as anyone else's.
@@brendaannedufaur6244 Well, that is because, I've been told several times that I'm not an expert or what do I know, or that I don't know what it's like etc. so I just want to clarify in advance that what I'm saying is based on what I've observed and not based on any expertise or degrees, in case my "expertise" gets questioned. =)
@@brendaannedufaur6244 what a great comment. Sometimes we “normal” folk defer to the “experts” even though we may have more insight. Don’t shortchange yourself!!
He does seem to fail to notice pretty glaring things in this video
I think that most people miss one point: the fact that he is so hurt, doesnt mean that he hasn't done the same and possibly multiple times, but he had a public image to mantain. We saw part of the less public image at the Oscars.
What's gross about this situation is that August was her son's friend.
Imagine your mom messing with your friend.
There’s also something extremely wrong and weird about the way Will, on several occasions, has kissed his son Jaden on the mouth in public and Jaden is clearly not appreciating it (on the Ellen show, during an interview in Thailand). What is that about?
And why did Jaden seek Emancipation at 15. Even for a Hollywierd teen this is strange. Why does Jaden look so sick and confused?
August is much older than Jaden. August was not some kind of child. They were both vulnerable!
And he was like 22.....
@@annakchf7084 chill. You are reaching
Dr. Honda, I think the salacious part was the fact that August came into their home as Jaden's friend who had mental health and substance abuse issues. I think most people are uncomfortable with Jada's role change from mother figure to lover. It's hitting a "predator" nerve with people (myself included). I admit that I have a bias because I have a hard rule that I will never date anyone I could've given birth to.
You summed this up so well. I think August was also blackballed a bit within the industry from rumours of his "affair" with Jada circling and people seeing that as disrespect to Will, I feel really bad for him in this entire situation. It sounds like he was hurt personally and professionally and the person who the hurt came from just went on the internet and repeatedly called what to him was a very pivotal relation an entanglement.
Thank you for this
This is a TOTALLY valid argument, and i love that dating rule. But as far as I was seeing online most people just thought Jada was cheating and Will was hurt. Real issues like this rarely matter to the majority :/
During a time of vulnerability loosing a ton of family members and turning into a father over night all while battling major health issues.
@@reginayfavors There is huge difference (both legally and morally) between a teacher sleeping with her 12-13 year old, sixth grade student and a 42-year-old woman sleeping with a 21-year-old.
"Will, im so very sorry ..."
imagine if she'd said that instead.
You don't know if she didn't
@@Anya21084 she didn’t. Wayyyyy too bold and called it an “entanglement”. Lacked accountability
@@joewill9967 you don't really know what exactly happened in their relationship, they will not tell everything. We don't see their emotions when that happend but only intellectual discussion about it
They had open marriage
She can’t see beyond her own nose
She tells the story her way. Controls it completely. He gets no genuine input and is only allowed to try to sooth her. Can a therapist never see the onesidedness of this interaction. So tragic.
Oh because you’re the expert. Lol. The narrative of the conversation was Jada explaining her involvement with the man who went public about their relationship. It was not about Will. They were separated amicably as they stated and the therapist mentioned. Will was off doing his own thing. You want to know where penis was? Why are people so dumb and quick to latch on to just oh she had sex and Will ok’d it?
@@jevonk Everything you said was Jada's words NOT Will's, So that amicably separation was what Jada said. So that "you're the expert. Lol." Is YOUR assessment, Your bias for Jada is REAL LOUD/CLEAR👀....Got it!👍🏽
@jevonk you know hbe was her sond friend a teenager who was very ill and valuable!
My thoughts exactly
“This August fella” lol we don’t deserve you Dr. Kirk
Lol!🤣😂🤣😂🤣
Sad story
I wonder if she ever said to Will, "I am sorry. I made a huge mistake & I hurt you. Will you be able to forgive me?"
This sounds like she is making a lot of excuses for her actions. She sounds like she is rationalising her actions to make herself feel better, but it is clearly hurting Will.
I would like but you have 69 likes I would never like and ruin it
@@depressedrocketsfan2880 - haha
You’re a hoot!
totally agree... where is the public apology? We would expect it from a man to his wife...
Precisely i dont know what he sees in her
I agree she is making excuses . Saying entanglement and really not taking responsibility for what she did to Will. And laughing and joking around it's not funny. You have a husband Jada and Kids you should have thought of before going outside of your marriage .
“August” was introduced to the Smith family by Will & Jada’s son, Jadan. So, August was Jada’s son’s friend. Essentially JADA HAD AN AFFAIR WITH HER SON’s FRIEND. That is twisted & dysfunctional as hell. Please Analyze that Doctor. What kind of mother has a sexual relationship with their child’s friend?
This is from so long ago….he doesn’t keep up on salacious gossip. He even said he doesn’t know anything about them, and only knows their story from this convo that has been orchestrated by Will and Jada themselves. He has a legit practice and career as an academic.
It wasn’t Jadan’s friend. It was Will Smith’s son’s friend from an earlier relationship. But still, …
I think on its face without the context you provided this looks fine and dandy. Very emotionally mature. However, if he knew the context he might have a completely different take.
Exactly, that fact is important to the whole back story
And she was molested by grandma and taught willow it was ok.
As for the “humor” demonstrated by Will and Jada especially at the end I’m surprised the therapist didn’t recognize the rage that they have towards one another was being masked (poorly) by the humor. I mean Will literally said he wants to get revenge at Jada and Jada said “You already did”. These are not people that have resolved their issues.
Also, Will is the consummate actor, highly intelligent and a man. Men GENERALLY don't like speaking about emotions, especially publicly. Note how he mainly listened and how his comments were short and to the point - he didn't delve into his emotions at all. I agree this soundbite does not reflect their true feelings very much at all.
The therapist was extremely sympathetic towards Jada. It's interesting to see how different perspectives can be. He saw the laughing and "joking" as wonderful and warm, I saw it as just plain toxic like when people use humor to deflect pain. There was nothing funny about it im sure.
Not that we have a degree in psychology, but sometimes we just get a feeling, and know through experiences as well.
@@thatswhatshesaid3126 It's not the first time this therapist has shown really shocking ignorance of the real dynamics - to the point of siding with really manipulative and abusive people against the person they're abusing. A therapist who can't recognise manipulative people is horrendous. I feel sorry for the partners and children of narcissist clients of his.... because you know they convinced him that they are the real victim and the true victim is in fact the bully and the abuser 😑
@aba r No, he was very clear he was talking about petty revenge lol
@@cosmicmuffin322 I’m still barely in the first 2 mins of this particular video, but I agree with you about his channel overall. Dr. Honda can be incredibly insightful, but there are also some WILDLY missed/misinterpreted/mis-speculated problematic moments in his videos.
I tend to give people the benefit of the doubt and lots of natural slack too, especially if I’m unfamiliar with full details of personality/experiences/case history. And when examining only one piece of info in a vacuum (like this one Red Table Talk), I tend to be even more conservative in my judgments and more overcompensatory in my allowances for a person.
But the contempt Will displayed was *open* and abundant throughout the entire video, and yes, 90% of the laughter was to mask discomfort. And his idea that Will doesn’t feel his masculinity has been threatened seems not just unlikely, but incongruous with Will’s entire attitude. He is a man scorned. “Wonderful modeling,” though.
“An affair with your son’s bestie is just a bump in the road in your marriage, hey, these things happen :)”
Imagine if Will tried to “counsel & heal” one of Willow’s friends and ended up piping her, bet this situation would be totally different. There would be no funny memes, there would’ve been outrage and Will’s career would be over.
Okay, but that didn’t happen, so this hypothetical situation doesn’t matter. If anything, there are people encouraging him to cheat, and praising him if he did so. Also, August was 23 with a mind of his own, not some underage boy. You’d be surprised how many men in Hollywood has done grimy things with younger women, and they are still loved and has a career.
Roman Polanski, Woody Allen do these names ring a bell? They are still very much around.
Still doesn't make it right. He was the same age as Trey, her stepson, who she was a second mother to. I just don't see how she overlooked that similarity... she obviously has an issue. No it isn't funny and yes she should be held to the same standard.
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I said the same thing. Imagine Will getting into an entanglement with Willow's close female friend...
i feel like she she uses the word "enganglement" to minimize her personal responsibility in a affair whether they were separated or not.
I agree. I also hate she said it felt good to heal. She didnt heal August. He came to her broken and was dismissed even more broken because of her actions.
Accountability, was da??
Entanglement is a relationship that has a lot of issues. She may not have been trying to minimize it per say but trying to actually describe their relationship
Not really. If you google the definition of entanglement, it actually seems to describe her relationship with him quite well.
@@CushPlayerProps am I the only person that saw your horrible misspelling
Will was visibly squirming. I was advised to stop going to couple's therapy with my narcissist for good reason. I would come home destroyed, psychologically beaten up while he came out of the session glowing and content armed with new ammunition to use on me. Our therapist made it seem we were both 50% responsible for our relationship being successful. They confuse the therapist the way they confuse us when we're on the fence deciding if we should get out or stay. The therapist praises the perpetrator and treats the victim as the side kick which is exactly what the narcissist wants.
Therapists are just people who take a lot of classes. My dad is a therapist, I'm not knocking them but they are people and some are better than others at seeing manipulative behavior
@@jrmints80 yes, you're right, many good therapists won't even touch that kind of patient it's too crazy making for them, they're convincing natural born liars.
I was just saying this on another thread, even if you aren't a licensed therapist you can feel how self serving and self absorbed this woman is by the way she talks about her "entanglement" not acknowledging her husband feeling and making everything revolve around her. It just transpires toxicity.
I used to work in a women's shelter and the women would always say the mental abuse was the worst aspect. Couple's counselling doesn't ever work in an abusive relationship. I don't know how their assessment works but in theory they should be able to identity abusive relationships and sign post to other services. Perpetrators are very skilled at manipulation and narcissists will use therapy as a tool against their victim.. Sorry you experienced this.
Well said. Therapists should be trained better to notice these kinds of dynamics.
And pay attention to wills voice and body language.. he’s NOT okay with the affair… he’s PISSED… he’s been emasculated. She’s done this multiple times btw.
Didn't will get in to 'entanglements " of his own with persons?
I actually tear up every time Dr. Honda ends with “please take care of yourself because you deserve it”. I’m starting to believe it myself. Thank you Dr. Honda for all that you do!
Hey Ale , you deserve it , your beautiful and you deserve the best in life no matter what
Good for you! I remember tearing up when people said i should think about myself that way. The general culture and our own inner voice says otherwise, constantly.
You really really really do
This is what happens when we look for "healing" and "completeness" from someone else...from personal experience I find it very helpful to spend time alone, to be absolutely single and on your own instead of always relying on someone else for happiness...yes relationships/marriages can be messy but I wanna be sure that I know myself and where my happiness lies so I don't hurt myself and anyone else in the process...
I did that for years and found myself! It was the best thing I've ever done!
Right on point! Everything you need and are looking for is within you 😚
I myself depend on Our Almighty Creator. I've tried it on my own, we definately need God. And if you seek him He will answer.
This 💯
@@michelleantonette9345 No one has to follow your religion. Some of us want reason and science in our solutions.
This video had some cuts in it but I think people felt Will was in pain when she kept going on and on about her other relationship. He appeared to be crying at some point and not as ok with the situation as she was. I think they also questioned his comfort level discussing these painful issues publicly for her show. He actually criticizes her doing this in another video where she is filming him without his consent to try to get him to publicly talk about what they talk about in therapy.
She also exploits her family with Red Table Talk for her own publicity, including her children, where she normalizes selfish things she does by reframing them as things like "open relationships" and "healing." She is the master at reframing things and making destructive and toxic things seem healthy. August cut her off for a reason. Will clearly felt very hurt by things he thinks she did to him in the past and does not seem over it in this video, while she tries to make light of it. He is just following her cues and avoiding saying much. Hes joking about things he feels deeply hurt by and isnt over because people are watching.
If you watch more of her show Ref Table Talk, you can see Will is insecure in his relationship with her. This is probably because she keeps saying things like she never wanted to be with him (she is absolutely horrible when she talks about their wedding day). By making him insecure in the relationship, she has all the power. It also seems very important to Jada that the world know how much he wanted her and how much she didnt care about being with him. Everything she says tends to flatter her and make everything she does somehow normal and healthy. We saw nothing in this video but her trying to redeem her reputation and getting him to reluctantly help her do that.
Therapists need to be able to see past peoples denial, justifying and normalizing of their toxic behaviors. They need to see past the deflecting jokes and make sure both people are heard and supported. Simply stating you are "healing" and "healthy" does not make it so. People saw the flags with this RTT and they were right. Now that the world watched Will flip out at the Oscars because Jada self-importantly rolled her eyes over an inoculous joke about her appearance, people can see there is very obviously nothing healthy or normal about these people.
True, and ppl dont need to listen to this type of therapist on youtube when they are only about feelings and not about the truth and about Man nature .. Goverment care too much about women to control them and giving them chans controll their husbands.. Thats why in Western culture womens becomes Narsist the most time...
This is why me and my fiancé are going to couples coaching/therapy before our wedding lol. We’re letting go of our childhood traumas and issues before starting our own family. I really recommend it 🙌🏽👌🏽
That's awesome!!! So......did y'all get married officially yet?
No, they thought they had to go through a time of healing each other having an entanglement with child's of their friends. Instead of a healing they were traumatized but also convinced that they could do it a lifetime together. Then they realized pretty soon that nothing can take away this shadow from their relationship and ended up divorced. She took the child and half of his wealth, he began to drink and committed suicide after accidentally seeing his child calling a random dude daddy.
The pain in Will's eyes when Jada said she was thankful for the affair with August. Wow..... Just wow
I think they decided to say they were separated to make it less trashy.
@@WordWoman111 in all honesty no one but the couple knows this. And especially not us on the internet.
@@lookhowshegobbledthat I was married and split up, most likely heading for divorce when my wife at the time hooked up with another dude. Yes we were separated but we were still married, that meant something to me. It didn't to her. That caused a lot of pain. Will might be feeling the same
After A Long Night Of Hooking well, based on your own insight, your perception of separation is also irrelevant. What you believe is and isn’t acceptable during separation might not be what Will and Jada agreed was acceptable within their marriage and separation. We have to accept that individuals get to make individual beliefs and opinions about their own standards, right?
After A Long Night Of Hooking Yes, still married. Still a contract and there are still emotional connections involved
I love how the therapist is like "why am I here?" 😂
HAHAHAHAHHAHAH LOLOLOLOLLOLOLL YA, no big deal. Will Smith is obviously ok with it all. He's a model for masculinity because his words agree with Jada; just don't look at his face.
His face ! Hahahaha
Word Salad 🥗
Didn't Will have some Yung Huney in the dessert?
Wills Eyes tho.... ouch!
Jada claims she really cared for August and wanted to help him. So she slept with him for years and then broke his heart.
This is what happens, when the psychologist doesn’t have ALL the information!🤣🤣🤣
He did a great job with snippet video he had. Unfortunately that video was just the rosebud decoration on the icing that lay on top of the frosting on the crumbling cake.
Did he do any follow-up after the slap? (Will, I learned this week,has been in India, the report said "hding in" but I'm thinking maybe he's learning TM from a master?)
If a middle aged man had a fling with a sick 23 year old woman who was mentored by him and then got back with his wife, I think the reaction would be a bit different. It seems like an unhealthy power dynamic. All she's talking about is how great she was for "helping him" when in reality it sounds like she used him.
I didn't hear her call herself great for that. Or even imply that.
I don’t know much about the situation but from this video I don’t think that’s what Jada was saying at all. I think she was trying to say that it FELT great to be able to help someone not that it WAS great. She was acknowledging that she used that relationship or “entanglement” to try to heal her internal wounds. She seemed very open and mature about the fact that that wasn’t the right move.
In both situations I'd feel sympathy for everyone involved, more so for the younger person, but still for both. I don't think the older person in these situations is always maliciously and intentionally taking advantage, it's just that relationships are messy and sometimes lines blur when that isn't the intention, particularly if one or both people have past traumas. I just find it hard to judge Jada too harshly when it's a situation I could see myself getting involved in, as either the younger or older person in the relationship. I do think she was too dismissive of what the relationship was, so as to protect her reputation and not start shit with Will.
Leonardo DiCaprio met his girlfriend when she was 11 and was/is friends with her family and nobody is talking about it...
And hurt him plus her husband but i see no remorse, no empathy or compassion for their pain in her selfish desires!!! She didn't apologise to either and she is stuck solely on herself. Pointing herself as the victim and would be hero all throughout this. She is a villain!!! Those two men are the victims!!!
So she used a young, unstable person, who came to her for help, to make herself feel "good again" 🤔 There's a word for that.. and it's not 'entanglement '
She was unstable herself. Lets not point finger. We all get into relationships that in hindsight wish we didn't.
don't be stupid!
I wonder wish kind of help this boy was looking for
After A Long Night Of Hooking home wrecker? SHE invited him into their home
@@colouredlioness2199 speak for yourself
Jada is really happy with herself. Will is miserable.
Just because she says she’s codependent doesn’t mean she is. She’s not. She’s a malignant narcissist and this session is abuse of Will. And she enjoys it.
I agree with you. I actually feel sorry for him now. He's in an abusive relationship. It's so hard to realise that when your abusers weapon is emotional manipulation.
I totally agree!!!
I'm sorry it didn't really sound like they were genuinely joking around it sounded more like humor trying to hide the pain. The laughter sounded fake.
I think people may be projecting a little with that and what they’ve been able to stand in their relationships; and with how they feel about August’s statements and how they were introduced to/wrapped in that first, coloring any response after.
For people who already felt very strongly about what August said initially and felt that way still when this Red Table ep came out, I don’t think there was really anything she could have said to make her and Will look “positive” at the end of this. As someone who did feel strongly about August and then thought about it more, and kind of neutraled out a bit, the talk b/w Will and Jada was actually a lot different than what I expected from what I heard beforehand on social media. I was expecting a real heaviness/intensity/palpable hurt and I didn’t really feel any of that. They looked to me the same as always. It does feel that they most likely have moved on from this in their marriage, but I can see both sides with how this clearly still affects August.
It mostly seemed like embarrassment at having to talk about when they really didn't want to
thats how some people cope with pain, ie when people smile when they're nervous.
She did say she wasn't yet ready to talk about it. I know I may cope with embarrassment or the uneasy feeling myself, with laughter. She is human.
Yeah, I don't think Will was joking about getting her back, he said it like 3 times.
I will be using the word "entanglement" to describe all of my future mistakes hahaha
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Lmao! It’s funny everyone has been using that word since then
WHY DID JADA SAY THAT RIGHT AFTER I READ THIS😂
@@beaniebabyyy___882 WOW that timing tho
😂😂😂😂 me tooo !!!
I NEVER want to settle for a relationship/marriage like this.💔
She’s still defending August. She giddy when she talks about her affair, she has a glow when she remembers certain things. She’s showing no remorse. She’s ripping his heart out and smiling at the same time. She’s playing the victim and the hero all in one breath.🤦🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️🙄
She’s a repulsive self-absorbed type- so Will is no angel- the relationship was over long ago and should have stayed that way.
Am I the only one seeing the HURT in Will's eyes😥
He looks sooooo sad, like his heart is breaking in front of our eyes.
Lisa S nope you’re not! He looks like he’s dying inside and she just sounds rehearsed!
He looks tired and embarrassed
Exactly hes crushed , he's laughing but dying inside.
@@MolyBDenum-lh3wy interpretation can be dangerous, we don't know anything. Things might not always be what it looks like. Just saying, don't be so quick to judge what you see as it's facts. Stay happy and healthy 💚
We all makes mistakes...no judgement here...
I just pray I never have an entanglement with my 26 yo son's friend.
😂🤣
No judgement. Whether you are a public figure or not many married couples have had the same situation and not mature or mentally developed enough to be honest with their spouse and deal with the situation that works for them if they want to stay together.
@@lynnkitchen8252 yes marriage is very hard..my husband and I of 28 yrs definitely had our pitfalls...most ppl can't even maintain a 1 yr relationship...
But Im still going to say my sons cute sexy friends better not asked for any counseling, mentorship, advice..NOTHING...LOL
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I agree supposing it was the way round ,Will getting into an "entanglement" with his daughter's friend would it go so peaceful.
Can we get an update on this video and if you still agree with everything you said after seeing Will's actions and the social media posts he's been putting up with just negative self talk and need to be "younger?"
Although this is not a real therapy session but a public display for the two celebrities to save their image, the therapist is buying into all of Jada’s narrative while ignoring Will’s body language of unresolved pain. I wonder how he would approach this in a real therapy session？
Don't forget August was their son's friend and is only a couple of years older than their son. I wonder how Jaden feels about his Mom sleeping with his friend.
I........😷😷😷😟😟😟
How would you feel yourself??
That’s creepy & gross
@@yvettewigfall9168 storys
People miss that completely
Something is wrong with Jada... she seems to keep falling in love with other men and speaking passionately about them in her husbands presence. That’s weird as hell. It seems like she don’t really care about nobody feelings but her own.
Apparently they seperatedand qnd after all we know nothing about their situation. But there is almost never a "bad" and a "good" person
She’s a narcissist she used August
August played, he lost
Her husband sat down to have an open conversation with her. Being truthful was expected. The truth isn't always pretty but how can it be dealt with if it's never brought to light?
That's why she's always quick to regurgitate those old ass stories about her & 2Pac. It makes her feel relevant. She knows deep inside, she ain't sh!t without Will. And she resents him for it. And he's so determined not to have another failed marriage, that he overlooks it. But you can tell he's HURT.
She seems totally unaffected, while he seems on the verge of tears.
Let us not forget, August was Jada’s son’s friend and that’s how they met
I think the shady part was that her "entanglement" was a a friend of Jada's son. That is how they met, through Jaiden.
and invited into their home 🏡 to live and get help. He was 28 and Jaidens friend. Jada at 49 I believe ends up in a romantic relationship with him
@@1970karenleah no he was 20. Jada is a creep
It was a friend from Will Smiths first son
@@nfbconnect - No, it was Jaden's friend.
I'm just going to come out and say that I think Jada is a bad mom for that. It's irredeemable.
I can overlook Jada's past as far as her being a drug dealer and having affairs, but she slept with her son's friend. She was supposed to be an example to him, not prey upon him.
What kinda drugs?
Exactly
Wtf....august was adult himself too... 23 it's like the most sugar babies younger women coming for the rich old men... So...
23 you pay rent drive car and work like all other adults. If 23 is a child then how...
You know people to be honest. This marriage is between will and Jada. And will ain't stupid. So for them to still decide to be together doesn't make anyone's opinion right about who is a bitch or dumb.because they all adults knowing what they and how they resolve their own personal life. They ain't effecting anyone nor doing any crime like real-life crisis like children being mistreated etc.. Etc.. Talking like young new generations they think they know everything but believe you will all come in a situation when you will understand how life can works. And every single person is everyday learning about themselves in the most bad situations.. It's called being human. And it's called strong love to survive.
This is also a good example of a person whom very cleverly know how say they right things in order to cover a deeper and darker side
I agree. Surprised the therapist dismisses why people are interested in their relationship. I understand the gender bias aspects of this but body language still can be so obvious, she seems to have all the power in the relationship and I also think it’s interesting that they’re being congratulated for these “hard conversations” that are like psyudotherapy when basically Red Table talk was apparently monetizing his pain and humiliation a lot. Jadas TV show kind of reminds me of how therapy can cause a lot of harm done badly. She’s not unbiased as his partner but acts as the leader in these ‘hard discussions’, driving the narrative. It seems like possible brainwashing almost. (“I had to hurt you like this because I was on my necessary healing journey… don’t you agree?”)
As a therapist, you could ask yourself: who shows empathy for the other? Who shows only empathy for them self?
Why miss such basic stuff!
I don't think being in pain is an excuse to step outside your marriage. What about the pain she's caused her children and husband. Excusing Jada's behavior is not healthy! As a result her children appear damaged, her husband damaged and the young man August was damaged! I think some relationships are TOXIC and UNHEALTHY! Now at the Oscars will has SNAPPED! Folks need to face REALITY. Jada needs to STOP putting her business in the streets! Her and Will both appear BROKEN. A bump in the road!!!!!! This is much more than a bump in the road!!!!! I hope no one SNAPPS more than what happened at the Oscars! This is NOT a laugjing matter! I don't see the humour! Let's hope he doesn't act VIOLENT toward another person!!!!
Yea Seattle psychology is no for me
Yea you missin a bunch of red flags here and fallin for jadas holier than thou healing crap
It’s based off of one convo - if he was their therapist they’d have multiple convos individually and together about their backgrounds and this issue. He doesn’t follow their marriage, he’s just going off of this one convo. By the third convo a good psychologist can generally start to see the bull crap.
Also - this is a curated convo cultivated by Jada and Will. A therapist will ask questions and ask you to go where you don’t want to go. As a therapist it’s not your job to judge the person you’re giving therapy to. If the family is asking you to help them work through infidelity, they will try until they conclude that you’re unable to. A good therapist will cut the relationship off if they sense you’re using the therapist as a weapon in the relationship.
Too much of the back story is missing like August was her son's friend and she was his mentor and the 20 year age difference. If I didn't know any of that then I would agree with the reaction
Also he was having a mental and physical health breakdown and was vulnerable during the entanglement...
Plus the fact she lied and said it never happened until he made it clear that he wasn't going to back down.
I agree wish he would have gotten the back story
So the biggest issue for you is that he potentially wasn't able to consent or she took advantage of him?
🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾 i also think if they both agreed to seeing other people they would have either said that in this red table talk and not even that but will wouldn’t look as hurt as he did 🤷🏾♀️ i dunno if august was there to get help thats how it should have ended, i feel like she took advantage of august’s situation because let’s be honest did she think of anyone else other than herself? That’s her son’s friend even if she didn’t care for Will’s feelings, HER SON’S feelings should at least stopped her from doing what she did. Because not only did she hurt Will she ruined a friendship between her son and his friend.
Every time she says "healing", she means sex. "I needed a lot of healing. He needed healing. We needed lots and lots and lots of healing. Lots of healing, all over the house we both live in."
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
Well sex can heal you.
It was rumors for decades that the couple were swingers. Let's say for the sake of argument it's true. Will Smith is a brand. He has a very clean image. No criminal past, the boy next door that transition into a respectable charismatic gentleman. This August incident may put a damper on his brand. August made a terrible boo boo by exposing his situation with Jada. Will is about to have panties thrown at him like he has the vaccine for covid-19 LOL. It's going to be the love scene from the movie Purple Rain but with extra participants.
Lisa H sexual healing 🤣🤣
She also healed August as well, sucked the depression out of him hallelujah
Whether you are counseling someone as a friend, parental figure, or for that matter, a licensed therapist, boundaries need to be set in place. Crossing those boundaries can be damaging to the vulnerable one on so many levels, no matter what age. I am suprised that Dr. Honda did not comment on that aspect. When Jada wanted to take it to another level, I believe she felt that was her earned reward for "helping" August, uncaring about the damage caused. It was selfish, manipulative, and predatory. She should have encouraged August to seek professional help right in the beginning, instead of "playing" a shrink, especially knowing she had her own issues to deal with.
bc he’s clueless.
This aged badly. Will Smith had a total breakdown at the the Oscar's. The signs were clear in the video. It is just sad.
Jada using safer terms to describe her relationship with August trying to make it sound less bad is making me question how honest they are with each other. Regardless August was ill and Jada did take advantage of him
Really how do we know who made the first move. It was wrong but shit happen.
I agree
SHAY FITNESS you all still don’t understand. The Therapist just explained to us clearly!
i don't believe anything of them,this is all made up.lots of fidgeting in the story,each trying to choose words to down play the situation
They have talked before this public show. This not a genuine talk between two partners because this is a press conference or press statement for the public. Everything here is agreed upon both to make this public and also which words they use
Word of 2020: “Entanglement”
And i thought Quarantine would've been the word of 2020 😂😂
This whole damn year is an entanglement... 🤣😂🤣
It's actually COVID. Not everyone knows about the Smith's situation but the whole entire world knows COVID
Entanglement = cheating
Sheeettttt.. sheesh!!!
she defended august more than her own husband😭
Oh man, I wonder what this therapist feels about his analysis after the Oscar thing. there seems to be a miss in his analysis.
The look on Will's face. His eyes look hurt and betrayed. 🥺
I thought that, too. His face and the pain in it just broke my heart.
Yup that why he is a very good actor that get paid the big bucks #MissMeWithThatBS
#KarmaIsABitch
Yeahhh I saw that and was wondering why Dr. Honda didn't notice it....
You r seeing ego there
God. I worry about a therapist who can't see narcissism when it's screaming it's existence and he still thinks she's acting healthy!
Cmon!
Jada abused Will for years and he's such a nice guy he tried to make it work.
How dare she treat him so bad.
Exactly
Exactly she is showing lot of narcissism traits in this talk & I don't really understand how she didn't realise atleast during red table talk with Dr ramani on narcissism
That's exactly what I was going to say!!!
Therapists are dumb. They pretend to know erverything, but they now nothing and mostly of them don't have empathy. He seems like to be one oft them. Don't believe a "expert" just because it's a therapist, they just talk crap
She's an empath
And a year on she's still a raging narcissist and he's still clinging and waiting for the love bombing phase to start all over again...
Dr. Honda out here helping me understand what’s going on in this world. 😭🙌 Thanks for keeping up with pop culture and making sure we get these vids ❤️
zinab2blessa I could not agree with you more!
Dr.Kirk is the only one I have seen that listens to his viewers on suggestion. 😍
Yes! I avoid these celebrity stories because so many RUclipsrs are just purveyors of gossip. It’s nice to stay up to date with Honda.
Not for nothing but this sounds like damage control.
Exactly what it is. Especially when you watch the interviews before this
Exactly
Since when Jada is therapist to help another human being??? She knew very well what she was doing with August. I was in a lot of pain and I needed a fix by August.
No, no, no. Nothing in this relationship is “wonderful modeling” for any one. All due respect, Dr. You are wrong here. The reason Will is using humor for a lot of thins, is because he is masking the pain. I can’t believe you didn’t see the pain in his face. Jada is a covert narc who dragged her husband into this “talk” and humiliated him in front of the whole world.
Nothing about this dynamic is healthy. They say a whole lot of nothing substantive…Will trying to make himself believe this nonsensical narrative in order to please her. Please people, do not look to this couple for relationship advice.
exactly! very refreshing to hear it from a woman. speak the truth!
Yes, thank you for saying this. Pretty much everybody in America could see this relationship was toxic just from this interview, and this psychologist is clueless.
@@Sokrabiades some people are so “woke” that they can betray their own conscious and common sense.
It was wonderful modeling for me. I didn’t go through what they went through, but I’ve been separated from my wife. And when we were we were done. What she did or I did during that time ain’t none of my business if she doesn’t want to share that with me or I don’t want to share that with her.
@@Sokrabiades Don’t look toxic to me. It looks real to me. I guarantee if I start picking apart your relationship I could find a dozen red flags.
My husband and I are at the brink of divorce now so I'm watching this as my heart breaks, wondering if we can make it through this dark time together. No-one has gotten "entagled" in our marriage, we are both hurting over separate issues in our lives so instead of being on the same team, we're attacking each other. 9 years of bliss...now struggle town.
I'm hoping Jada and Will are going to be ok and stronger than ever. I pray the same for my husband and I because 9 years is worth fighting for.
I do hope you and your husband find your way back to each other. If you go to church, most pastors do therapy for marriages. I don’t know what y’all are going through, I want you to know I will pray for you!
Maybe you should both sit and talk to each other and understand each others perspectives with patience!
Girl hold on to your marriage, and work if out no matter how freaking hard it is. It WILL get better if you treat eachother better and put pride and resentmenr aside and stay positive and think of the good times. Dont follow destruction. If you stuck 9 years, u can stuck another. Except for cheating and abuse.
Fight!
Please read Men are from Mars and Women are from Venus. Hope everything goes well with your marriage.
Jada's mom was an addict and they spoke about it on her show 'red table talks'... Somehow, I think Doc Honda will actually like her table talks.
It's interesting I don't need to know these things.. and I already know what's wrong and right.. or at least I know what is to be respected and what not to waste time on. I think Dr. Honda is smart enough for this.. although at times he is too forgiving.
@@michaelsotomayor5001 hes a therapist its his job to be forgiving 🤷🏻♀️
Her dad was an alcoholic and abusive to her mom her mom was addicted to heroine
Not to mention her mom if I'm not mistaken worked in the healthcare field, nurse. A healer so to speak.
@Julia Mimi most of us aren't aware of this context & are going off what she said in this particular interview + what August said..
Well, this diagnosis did not age well. The way he deems it’s ok for her to cheat and would have no effect on Will… was dead wrong.
Precisely, she played both of them like a fiddle ... : )
note to self: don't go to this psych if ever in the states and need therapy, because he is manipulated by narcs
Astute observation!! (Though potentially tragic for those who don't recognize the danger!)
Will clearly looks like he's not having none of that BS
Lol. He's an actor. Rumors have been out for years about their 'open relationship'.
totally, doesn't matter they were separated for a while. So it doesn't matter.
Not to mention HE said SHE was messing up and they both agreed
@@jank358 Even in an open relationship trust and boundaries can be broken, I think that is what happened.
@@MariekeFW True. However Will is not going anywhere. Jada knows too much about him. It was easier for him to take this embarrassment and humiliation than what they could really be sitting at the Red Table talking about.
I just feel like August got caught up with a married woman. She didn’t want to leave her husband for him and he got fed up. People are saying she used August but to me they mutually used each other.
This!
She used him. If the genders were reversed, most of the country would call Jada a predator for screwing her son's drug addicted, mentally unwell friend.
Exactly!!!
@@lavinder11 BIG FACTS!!! Women do get a pass alot in these situations.
She was wrong for starting something new before finalising the marriage. Not by divorce but emotionally resolved. Why would anyone start a relationship with someone in such a vulnerable state as August its worrying.
It was mutual! They were both adults and they turned to each other.
I feel like I disagree with the therapist on this. It's ok to stay in a long term relationship for the 'good' in it but the key point here is that you need to assess if you can actually hold on to the good by continuing to stay. Many people cannot let go of infidelity and some can. Being the type who can't stand it is ok . I'm one such person, I think I would turn the relationship totally toxic if I continued to stay after my parter cheats. So I would rather leave.if It's progressively downhill from infidelity, better to leave. I feel like you stay in a relationship and not with a person. People make everything about their partner being the' love of their life ', where as any good relationship is a living breathing thing that you need to keep alive. If that is no longer possible, please just leave. Stop watering a dead plant .
Will joking and laughing is anger.
Maybe the Red Table Talk Show is another distraction for Jada to look away from her own pain and issues. She literally focuses on other people's problems on that show.
No she really talks about her own life a lot. Go back and watch she puts a lot of her wish out there.
Sophia Gelsey I think Jada really messed up big time by sleeping with her son's best friend.
she is a narcissist
@@emilio2647 I think it just happened. She said they became a really good friends. We could say it the other way that he preyed on HER during a vulnerable period. He's not exactly innocent.
She needs to fix her family..
Reality check: The majority of us are either in relationships that have it's challenges, a lot of us are alone and some of us are in relationships that are just volatile, abusive and unhealthy. So, as a result of our own personal struggles and disappointments, and sometimes just being nosey, we sit around and question other couples, especially those who have been together a long time like Will and Jada...and we wonder if they have that "fairytale, happily ever after" and then when we see that they are human and have issues too, some of us glorify in that. Bottom line is, that "fairytale" does NOT exist. If you are in a relationship, you care about each other and things are 70-80 % good, you are probably better off than most...but things are NOT perfect because people are NOT perfect.
THIS!!! 👆👏👏👏👏👏 Louder for the people in the back
THANK YOU!
Exactly!!!
I think this is perfect I would not change a thing
Well put. ❤️❤️ Loved this comment alot
-Jade *twists knife into Will's heart*
-couple counsellor: this is so beautiful :...-)
Who’s here after the “the slap heard around the world”? 😅
🙋🏼♀️guilty as charged! 😂
The fact that the doc has no clue about these celebrities' loves is funny to me when he keeps saying "This August Fella" lol
Yesss 😂😂😂
Right he needs to watch August interview, to get the full scope too analyze this video.
I hear you...But truthfully did anybody know who the “August fella” was before this entanglement?!
If I hear the word 'healing' again, I throw up...Seems like healing is an excuse for everything
Same. Everybody out here to heal themselves while wrecking others.
Because healing is what we are doing on a continuous basis.. living is hard.. anyone can withstand a tragedy is the day today living that wears you down
"Healing" means that she can sleep around to fix her internal problems. She has no love or respect for her husband. He Loves and respects her because I don't think he has cheated on her. They took a break to fix themselves not to sleep around. This is just selfish.
Bad marriage. They deserve each other. There's still rare individuals that can offer loyalty and faithfulness. This people control by the fame and money.
Keshwin Mohan he have cheated before as well he’s not innocent
Rare L from the doc. I know in his field they aren’t supposed to assign blame, but this was cheating and even if they were on a break, jada didn’t once apologize, or even acknowledge will’s feelings. To me it says the whole televised conversation was about her saving face and not having to take responsibility
Wills side was never heard :( I can see the pain in his eyes. He knows that everything she’s saying is exactly what the world wants to hear and if he tries to question that the world will end up hating them…in my eyes she’s a master manipulator. She never even says I’m sorry I hurt you. Idk just my opinion.
I agree
She doesn’t even consider the fact that he WAS hurt. She doesn’t consider what he wants or thinks at all. She’s the “if you don’t like it then leave”
Agree @CorinneWoods and finaly someone said that in this video .. I read many comments and the most where happy to listen to Therapist analyses an to Jada Pain ... And now we are in 2022 and the Oscar 2022 Chris Slap was the result how Jada controlled Will to attack Chris in the oscar show 2022.. In this Red Table you dont need Therapist shitt we all can See how looks Wills Face and broken and look to Jada Narsist Face and she was only about her self and she want it help from Will becouse she know she did big mistake and paparazzi everywhere. So poor Will must again clean up her dirty action from the news in this nonsens shit red table talk... Ppl need to run from Nrasistish ppl..
People wanted you to notice will and his mindset. He seemed still very angry and resentful towards her and that’s why he kept joking. Jada still seemed really selfish about it and didn’t bother asking how he felt about stuff.
THANK YOU
You don't need to study psychology to see that. In fact a lot of very high educated psychologists often lack the real life social intelligence to interprete the behaviour of someone rather than interprete literally the words they say.
Yeah this. I'm surprised it never came up. It's good that they're talking about it but its less about the topic itself/the media misinformation at the beginning and more about their behavior in this clip especially.
That's making a hell of a lot of assumptions. In a case where you do not know the people and their personality, its damaging to say that hes clearly angry because he makes jokes and shes clearly selfish when you have no idea how many times theyve discussed this privately or what they agreed to say during this talk.
@@angelostanojevic304 But the study of psychology also teaches you not to make assumptions, particularly not ones based on a previous bias towards certain parties, which many people in this comment section seem to have. He's discussing what he sees, not assuming everything about two people hes never met.
You should watch August's interview first. He didn't describe their relationship as an entanglement. It sounded much more and he has a history of mental and medical health issues.
Jada's trauma, I believe, comes from her mother's 20 year drug addiction. August also had a drug addiction when he came into their lives.
The relationship may have been significant to him but insignificant to Jada
@@venessapurefoy8336 I agree!
he didn't call it that cause he was in love with her, and he felt he would win her enough to, one day, leave Will. Jada, on the other hand, might have loved him but not enough to leave Will. Therefore, she was significant to him but not significant enough to her
@@venessapurefoy8336 I think it was significant to a certain level to her I think.
This conversation must have been the most emotionally exhausting, stressful and anxiety inducing for Jada and Will to have openly with each other with a camera in the background. Jada did dig deep into her own traumas and articulate her honest and vulnerable feelings to Will 👏 I do applaud her on that HOWEVER I don't think she acknowledged Will's own pain, vulnerability and sorrow brought on by the affair with August. Will's side of the story deserved to be heard just as much as Jada's story
Jada is a "vulnerable narcessist." They use their vulnerability to gain control.
Lol when Jada started talking about her traumas and "Helping" August Will was looking at her like she's full of💩!
i see you drunk the juice🙄
Not in the least for Jada. This is her chance to air their dirty laundry with the world which she NEVER should have done.
Horseshit. That man is crushed.
I can’t even watch this halfway. I feel like i am intruding into their private lives and i’d rather not know
Lalrinpuii Ralte thanks for commenting though
I feel the same, but it’s the analysis that is interesting and the mechanisms explained that matters.
Why would you feel as if you were encroaching upon the privacy of the lives of individuals who obviously DON'T WANT THE PRIVACY? They are freely and openly VOLUNTEERING the intimate details of their marriage to the public domain-- whether for personal gain or therapeutic purposes. This was not a hostage ordeal.
It is painful to watch, but it is fascinating. I am forever interested in the lives of others. And admittedly that people curiosity has landed me in trouble more than once.
Unfortunately this was a turning point for society
"There's a fella named August?" 😂
😂😂
That part killed me🤣🤣🤣🤣
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#DEAD!!! LMAO
@@julietmooketsi6746 🤣🤣
I'd like to see a update on this after the Oscars. I also think this is a case of divergent careers in Hollywood couples who get together during a time when both are successful and where one spouse has their career excel while the other one is on the decline. It's happened before. Most don't do a public airing of it.
Agree. Also it’s weird how Jada chose to have kids and get married. Nobody forced her to do these things, so she can’t blame it on Will. If a man or woman doesn’t want marriage or kids, that’s ok, just say so, so the other person knows and can make a decision on continuing or ending it.
I don't hear ppl really talking abt this enough. Jada has always struck me as extremely ambitious. I think she's disappointed that her career hasn't been bigger, & that she's known primarily as the WIFE of a superstar instead of being one herself. Part of her unhappiness might stem from this. This kind of thing usually happens when the wife is the big success (Reese W, Hilary Swank etc) & the husband can't handle it. The marriage ends pretty quickly in those situations.
Jada doesn't love Will! She's a narcissist and she has no pain you can see the pain in Will Smith! Jada has Will in control by gaslighting him with her narcissism! Will should of dumped her years ago! Will is so scared of her that's why he smacked Chris Rock! Their relationship isn't bumps in the road! Jada Jada is manipulating will! There in a very toxic relationship! Sad
She doesn’t. Maybe she did once but she clearly doesn’t anymore. So sad
“Since it has been made public, I want to bring myself to the Table, and be honest. First of all, we were taking time apart from our Marriage, 4 years ago, and in the process, I was already emotional invested in my sons friend, August. That transcends into a friendship and later, in a romance. I was unfaithful, and Will IM SORRY for hurting you in my process to self love.” WHY SHE COULDN’T SAY THIS? She has a hard time using the word “unfaithful” she said she had NO regrets, because she believes this made her grow. Also, she turn back to her HUSBAND WHEN, August left Her... she said, August didn’t talk to her anymore. So, that being said, Jada has trouble recognizing and feeling remorse, that sounds exactly like a narcissistic personality disorder. Also, Wills reaction to her saying “entanglement” shows His need to get her to admit “relationship”. Body language its very important, and we can tell when someone is hurting or uncomfortable. That doesn’t mean is a 100% accurate, but it does guides us to a better understanding. 90% of our language is body language. I believe his using “jokes” a self defense mechanism, cause his uncomfortable with the topic, and you can see the sadness that, after 4 years of the event, he still shows in his eyes. Moreover, if she says: “I haven’t feel good in soooo long” they need to dig deeper, because that hurts Will in the process. He might think “she has NEVER been happy with me in 21 years? Is this marriage for real?” In the end, I see he respects her, I can see she is the dominant one in the relationship, and that they need more couples, and individual therapy.
How do you know Will and Jada didn't come to an understanding that they were allowed to see other people? They implied Will knew what was going on. If August got that impression and Jada and Will aren't refuting it, I don't understand why people are so determined to call her unfaithful. He said he was done with her and Jada said "you left me." What am I missing that everyone else is hearing?
@Chika I. Right? Like folks are so determined to make it out like she cheated, even though ALL THREE PARTIES are saying this was not cheating. Plus we were getting rumors about Will during that time as well, only difference is his rumors signed the NDA. She doesn't feel like she was unfaithful with August because she wasn't. And she shouldn't have to apologize when both parties agreed to separate and do their own thing for a couple years and then I guess somebody went to therapy (Jada). They finally found out a lot of answers they had about themselves, that it can be managed, and then reflected on how a past relationship deteriorated because of those issues. Now that they are working on them, they think they can repair relationships that were once broken.
They had a mutual separation. How would you define her involvement with another man as unfaithful?
Because she doesn’t see it as being unfaithful. Also, from some of the things Will says it sounds like he was having his own/had his own “entanglement”
WHY COULDN'T SHE SAY THIS?
Because people who have gotten away with not showing accountability for their behavior will continue to do so provided they can get what they want without growing.
The fact that you recognize this behavior in her displays a high level of awareness typically only present in high quality people who have grown into a high emotional intelligence.
Congratulations for investing in yourself. It seems to be paying off!
Whether the audience feels as though she was unfaithful or not is irrelevant. What is rather blatant is that Will feels as though she was unfaithful. It seems pretty clear that his impression of their separation was that they were taking time apart to work on themselves individually. It's equally clear that her choice to start another relationship has deeply hurt him, despite his ability to hide his pain with humor in front of the camera.
You're observations seem very on point.
This is the reason why I love Dr Kirk Honda’s reaction video. He always gives his honest opinion without judgment. You would really learn some important life lessons from it. Anyone who’s reading this comment, please take your time to watch his other reaction videos, definitely won’t regret it because you would learn so much from him
I feel that way already just from watching this one, even though he was unaware of some of the key backstory here, but I think in a way, that can enhance & reinforce his assessments when he gets it right.. 💣
Who else is here after will's oscar slap? Another marker in the self destruction of Will Smith
Just seems like a messy, toxic relationship, and really you can choose to have respect , honesty if it works great, if it runs it’s course then it runs it’s course, but forcing a square peg into a round hole is just too much energy spent and time lost, life is short this just seems drama and trauma adicted
I just love Dr. Honda always coming to the table with no previous feelings or viewings, love the honest reactions.
"This August fella" LMFAO
*Dr Kirk is so adorable...obv doesn't listen to that kinda music*
Married 30 years this year, and we have God 🙏🏻 in our lives and we pray together for our family, and we have gratitude in our hearts 💕 for the love we have! My husband is still crazy about me and it's the same for me! I honor his role as the man in my life and the head of our family! And he honor's me as his wife and Mother of his children! True love dosen't pay the bills, but it gives you more happiness then anything else!
Thank you for sharing, I am divorced, and I envy some people that is happily married. May God continue to bless you!!!
I think Will needs an entanglement so he can help one of his daughter’s friends. I love how she’s so proud she could heal her son’s friend while she cut out her husbands heart.
I had a proffesor in 80's when I was getting my BS in Psych who described the pain...etc..that we suppress as a "beach ball we r trying to sit on and hold down in the water".
I will NEVER forget that prof, Dr.G .....he had such a way of metaphorically speaking which made it sooooo easy to TRULY understand certain concepts.
He went on to say that we had two choices w/the "beach ball" aka "our suppressed feelings".... either reach down.... take hold of it...gently help to guide it out from underneath us....and out of water....OR...we could keep trying to sit on it.... balancing ourselves.... til it came popping up & out from underneath us.... FLYING....out of control.
Any of y'all ever tried to sit & balance on a beach ball in water....I found I could NEVER balance for long. 🤔😉
With so much appreciation and respect....RIP... Dr. G....you taught me so much!
lori or you pop that beach ball
@@majo3423 REALLY good point MA Jo! I agree w/you! Also....just wanted to mention...I love the flower in your Avatar....looks so much like the beautiful blooms from a Crape Myrtle tree 😉😇
Excellent metaphor indeed.
I feel like Jada has dealt with some of the issues leading her to involve herself with her "entanglement", but feel like she was dismissive of how it affected Will. It would have been nice for her to admit, "i understand how I hurt you when..." or "im sorry for..."but calling it an entanglement seemed rather dismissive, whether it be an affair or relationship. Who knows what they have said in their private talks.
I didn't get the impression that Will was joking in a healthy 'I've dealt with this and can now laugh' kind of way. I suspect that since he is an entertainer, he feels some pressure to make light of the situation and is resorting to humor as it comes more natural to him.
As a completely uninvolved observer, I have a lot of respect for them bringing this delicate topic to the public. Taking control of the situation in a way instead of letting the media go crazy with it. I wish them the best and hope that they don't force the relationship to work to satisfy the public, but for their own desire to be a healthier stronger couple/individuals.
She doesn't give a sh!t about anything or anyone but HERSELF. She just enjoys being in front of the camera and hearing herself TALK.
Yesss! She is absolutely self-absorbed and dismissive of anything that doesn't affect her. She repulses me honestly. I remember watching a Red Table Talk from like winter and they spoke about his upbringing or love languages and she was controlling all the conversation and moving around anything that didn't benefit her in the conversation. Ugh.
Best reply so far. 👍🏽
I just think they're in an open relationship and really don't want to admit it. Not sure why, it doesn't make them look any better imo. But then I know Americans can be very puritanical
@Lola Y yes. you are right. why are people so bent on pointing out Jada's dirt but left Will squeaky clean? Will was most definitely doing the same thing, period !!!
Amazing how this therapist sees light of a woman telling her husband..and he's not anything about how crap the guy must be feeling
Perhaps if he knew more back story. I mean August wasn't just some guy, it's their son's friend, thats gross.
Jada is a narcissist claiming codependency. The recent Oscar's mess is evidence this is a case of narcissistic abuse. With all due respect, please educate yourself on this insidious and growing issue.
At the end of the day Will and Jada have a functional "dysfunctional" relationship that is typical of narcissists and of and co-dependents. The narcissist and co-dependent are made for each other and they will never leave.
They have fused based on their childhood trauma. They have a toxic trauma bond. They intentionally engage in behavior that they know will hurt the other person. After the hurt, they bond and they become closer. Classic trauma bonding behavior.
Jada has endured years of Will's cheating. They can talk about this openly, but we should not be giving them kudos or commending them for using fancy therapist language to talk about their toxic relationship.
Staying in dysfunction isn't commendable.
ineedhoez you’re making a lot of assumptions. At the end of the day, only they (and their therapist, if they have one) really know what’s going on in their relationship. All we see is what the media portrays of them, and this video, which can be performative or not. The fact is we don’t know. I’m absolutely no expert, but I definitely respect Dr. Kirk’s opinion, and even more, I’m married myself, and know how hard and messy it can be, and I don’t consider myself more “damaged” than the next person.
@@chise963 they have a therapists thats why they weya able to go thru it
katherine barrios oh please, you haven’t seen all of the footage of them talking about the relationship. In one interview jada says “will can do whatever he wants as long as he can look in the mirror” so I think that gives some context that he has had extramarital affairs or at least was looking to engage in them. It’s also being investigated that Will was friends with Jeffrey Epstein. I think we have 2 people both equally in the wrong here but it is not being treated that way.
Indeed you should be doing the RUclips therapy.
I’ll take Dr. Honda’s commentary, thanks