Landlord PROBLEMS so Finding BLESSINGS in Ordinary Simple Things
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- I can't believe it but it's true! There are landlord problems from my previous rental. They are definitely trying it on! But, I am taking refuge and softness from the little, simple, ordinary things in life. Counting my blessings in all the ways. Gratitude in all things... I'm also sharing about my health struggles aswell atm and especially about being alone in the week whilst James is away. There's of course some painting popped in there too in my messy studio! Thank you so much for keeping me company in this little corner of RUclips. Love you all to bits, Biggest, Softest, Everythings, Wendy. Xx
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I am struggling with depression and suicidal thoughts and when I’m really having a difficult time I play your videos. Your spirit and voice have helped me get through some difficult days. Thank you for just being you. I hope you know how much light you bring to the world. Stay magical ❤❤❤❤
you got this and are def not alone dear friend. x and do reach out for help in other places too, we all have these times... big loves and soft hugs for the darker days... xx
I am 66( single), after many failed relationships. I have little art studio in my little apartment. I stumbled upon your channel this year. You feel like a " sister", a friend. I struggle daily with anxiety, depression. Perhaps hormones play a part? I relate to every word you say.Your life seems so mirrored to mine. You are an inspiration to me and advice is gold. I love watching your art journey. There are days I need to push myself to get out of house and not fall into an artistic " slump". There are days...when I have no energy to get up and go.It is important for our mental care and to be gentle on ourselves.You are fortunate to have James and he seems to be very understanding. We all have struggles on this road called " life" and we need to be kind and encouraging to all.God Bless you and Thankyou for all the positive words. I love your creativity and art work. Cheers from Quebec, Canada xx
Don't act on it. Please. You're family will never forgive themselves... please ask your doctor for help. It will be an outlet xxx
Good that you reached out to share what you're experiencing. Even though it's not easily visible, you're part of a community of kindred spirits here, and our hearts go out to you. Many of us share similar challenges, and it helps to feel ourselves part of a sisterhood, and to be uplifted when we feel wobbly. And it helps to know that something as simple as sharing our feelings can uplift someone else as well. So you have the magic of our love and support, and the magic of the fairy realm holding you. Lean into it, breathe in some fairy dust, and we'll get through these times together.
Please, please, reach out to get some professional help. I lost my twin sister to suicide six years ago and my whole family, and me especially will never get over it. I miss my sister every minute of every day. Please, know that you are loved and irreplaceable. Please, see a psychiatrist. Depression is a real illness, that you cannot cure just by watching videos, even if they help a little. Big, big hugs
I feel completely in tune with your message today, Wendy. In the last fortnight I’ve been dealing with everything from a sudden family bereavement, to another close family member having a breakdown, to being stranded in a huge snowstorm. Tonight I sat in front of my bedroom mirror and thought - well, at least my earrings looked nice today, and I have a warm bed to get in. My bookcase also looks colourful and interesting. Small things to help me put one foot in front of the other. Small moments of appreciating life. Thank you for so generously sharing yours and helping me to feel a sense of community this evening 🌸🌸🌸
I had a sudden loss (my dad) in October. Just wanted to say, I'm thinking about you xxxx
❤ Thanks for sharing. COUNTING MY BLESSINGS..GOD IS GREAT. I HAVE TO STAY STRONG IN FAITH. 😢 T!wo months ago my grandaughter @ 13yo suffered a Cerebral hemorrhage..a catastrophic incident. See also has a Congenital disorder found out with Stroke " AVM" Ateriovenous Malformation..a new medical insight unknown to us till this occurrence. She lays @ Texas Childrens Hospital with a Trach & tummy tube fighting for her life..She is on a Breathing machine " Ventilator " every breath matters. To say Depression is the Least. NO one knows someone else darkness. We must continue to Shine our light bright..Count our blessings 🙌. We pray 🙏 unceasingly for God to restore her Health. Miraculous Prayers as we speak. Thks Wendy for your shoulder to lean on. She battles for her Life..teeny progress but we cheer her on for improvement. She communicates with her eyes ." LOCKED IN Syndrome " Just info ..AVM Awareness has a Green Butterfly 🦋 as a their symbol of Awareness... Green Butterflies if you can paint some & share would be greatly appreciated from my Creative friends..as a reflection & Awareness of this Disorder that can be so debilitating & devastating. God Bless & always remember to be a Blessing to Someone. Thks again Big Soft Hugs 🫂 🤗
My daughter had the same issue moving out of her flat last year. They were charged because there was dust….they didn’t actually do the check until 3 weeks after they moved out so no wonder there was dust on the surfaces!!! Very crafty these landlords. I hope you get it sorted because we were all witness to your cleaning process. Xx
I had the same situation 20 years ago. They went behind a door and found dust on the skirting board. They go out of their way to retain the deposit. There was a time when the landlord would pay to have the house cleaned between tenants. Those days are long gone! Now they squeeze as much money as they can from tenants; and they can because more people are renting nowadays.
I am 81 and I have such a hard time wrapping my brain around the greedy unkind self-serving mentality it is so frustrating but I agree with you it is the little things that matter the most the little good things . Thank you so much for sharing and being so open and vulnerable with us. You are a very special and wise woman and I am grateful for you. Blessings and love from New Mexico
As an ex property manager - I’m gobsmacked. The condition of which you found it is the condition in which you can leave it (but I’m the same and would clean within an inch of my life), however any decent landlord would see the tenant has cleaned and provide an opportunity to go back to clean the missed spot. This is clearly motivated by money and if was he in Victoria, Australia would be thrown out of VCAT. This landlord is kidding themselves. All the best lovely. ❤
I’m glad you share your stories with us. In the USA it seems people want to always portray themselves as never having bad days and they are always so productive. I know some of my family members do that. It somehow makes me feel like I’m not good enough. I try to remember it’s ok to slow down and take care of your mental and physical heath. I’m glad you are so honest!! Hope everything works out with the landlord. I don’t think they are doing the right thing. Love your paintings so much! Blessings to you and have a merry Christmas!!🌲🤗
Meditating in nature can really calm people down.
It was wonderful to be with you in Spirit again Wendy, thank you for the Lovely video and I so enjoyed the pop in the shops with you xxx
Glad you are here Wendy! You are such a kind and generous soul and people like your landlord try to take advantage of your good nature. We have to stick up for ourselves when people try to exploit us. Hope you have a lovely week doing whatever makes you happy. x
I couldn't believe how hard you worked to clean your flat before you left. It is very hard to see how anyone could possibly find fault. Love and best wishes to you both in your new home, I hope you will be very happy there.
Landlords steal money from tenants all the time here. That's why they had to introduce the deposit scheme in the first place...
Just like you I moved from an apartment to a house, and I remember worrying about getting my deposit back because I had spilled a little bit of bleach which left a small white stain on the carpet in the corner of the living room. When their employee came to check the level of cleanliness before I left, I told him about the stain right away and showed him where it was. He was a super nice guy and said that this is a part of natural wear and tear and the apartment by itself looks very clean. He didn't go from corner to corner to look for cobwebs, etc, but he made a general assessment like a decent human being.
Those decorated places you showed in the video are magical!
Contracts are binding by signing and dating. They can't change the contract after. That's illegal. All changes would be noted, all signed of by all parties with new dates.
well, that's what I thought too...! crazy landlord has been a problem for the longest time... bring on the karma!
Thank you Wendy and all who’ve come to say positive or overwhelmed too. Yes Bonkers world! Cheers! Love and fairy blessings
That's why I never knock myself out in cleaning an apartment that I am vacating. I scrub the toilet and vacuum, that's about it. David Sedaris calls it a "redecorating fee" and allows himself to do what he wants in terms of painting walls, etc. Once i embraced the idea of a redecorating fee, i have a lot more peace and satisfaction.
pretty wise advice!!!
Speaking from a landlord's perspective, that is all I expect from my vacating tenants.
Ooooo I love this concept!!
Citizens Advice will be able to advise re landlord issues. They see exiting tenants as a way to earn a few extra bob.
yes, I might try them, they so busy though...
@@theunexpectedgypsy Wendy do try them. Citizens Advice Bureau were very supportive to me regarding a large Council bill I was struggling to pay some years ago.
Love & best wishes to you🤗💜💫
Sorry about the landlord!!! So glad you have each other and that you always find things to be grateful for and happy about when you are right in the middle of things... I love happy lights too🥰😇🙏🕯☕🫖everything cozy🌷🌱🍀💖Warm hugs coming your way
yes there are! xx happy lights are the best!! xxx big lvoes
Your videos bring such joy!! Currently nursing a case of covid. Sometimes I feel like you are speaking directly to me, like you just know what I'm going through. Maybe we creatives are just on a similar cycle of life or something, LOL!!! Warm hugs for inner peace and feeling wellness. Merry Christmas!! ❤
thx i needed to be reminded of your msge.. feeling cold and hating this nasty winter weather..
Love and hugs to you both. Sadly it seems to be the way of this crazy world to try and cheat good people out of their money. Stay strong.
Listen to your body , rest when you need to. Nothing is more important than your health.
I learnt that lesson the hard way, never again will I compromise myself for others.❤
I have one of those storage units. I adore it. Hope you do too.
yeah? good to hear River, I think I do like it already!! x
Keeping m y fingers are crossed for you and James re- your previous landlord issues and I hope that he/she plays fair! Even when you are feeling down or over whelmed you cheer others up with your videos. Thank you for the lovely Christmassy views of Glastonbury too. Love your new floral paintings!
Wendy, Sorry your struggling, your landlord story is absolutely shocking, you worked so hard to make the flat immaculate. but it so typical it’s disgusting. Well done! for setting your boundaries and keeping your peace. The video was really helpful and informative, it’s really important to listen to our bodies, taking time out to do something we enjoy. Like watching your videos. 🇬🇧🩷🎄🤍⭐️❄️☃️☃️❄️🧚🏾
This video was just what I needed on this Sunday afternoon. 2 more weeks until I have a much needed break from work. You’re right, we benefit from embracing new habits straight away instead of putting them off until a new day/week/month.
I hope you get your full deposit back from your previous landlord.
Much love from Australia.
thankyou so much and loves to you all the way in Australia! xx
The town looked lovely with all the beautiful independent shops. Do you mind telling me where it is Wendy? Sending hugs 🥰
Glastonbury Somerset
Hi Wendy this is my job, your landlord should have put the deposit in a deposit scheme, if they are charging you unreasonably you need to get into touch with the bond scheme send them before and after photos and even your video they will make a judgement. This is totally unreasonable, trust me I inspect private rented houses for the local authority your flat was in the top 95% of properties. You could try your local council private sector housing department, often a phone call can put a stop to it. But definitely get in touch with the bond scheme, if they haven’t used a bond scheme then definitely get in touch with the LA as this is an offence. Good luck. Lovely vlog although my blood is boiling for you this exploitation makes me cross xxx
😂...while you were talking about snacks etc....I was putting a s+v crisp in my mouth - and I refuse to regret it! 😂😂😂
Hope the freaking landlord situation will get a chriatmassy resolution...look after yourself, dearest Wendy 🕯️🕯️❄️🌟🎶💕🎄
hahahah!! brilliant!! xxx adn thankyou x
Im just wondering why so many of us have depression, anxiety and suicidal thoughts... I wish we all could be closer together to help each other out... I wish for all of us contentment and happiness 🙏🧡✨
Hi Wendy loved this video! The little shop tour at the end was fabulous. I love how all the shops just seem magical and old world. Thanks for sharing. Hoping your whole landlord thing gets worked out! I agree totally with all that you said. Its ok for them to break part of a contract?? NOT.
Take good care-Hugs from Az🏜️🥰❤️
I didn’t comment after you left the flat, but I watched the entire cleaning video and what you did and the shape it was in when you left was incredible! Also expecting you to live up to a contract you didn’t sign seems basically wrong. And if the clause wasn’t in it when you signed it you didn’t agree to that clause. That’s common sense! So, don’t give up, unless you want to for your own sake!
We totes got this! (Thanks to your daughter!) My "healthy habits and self-care" include starting my day gently with a cup of tea, having healthy snack options of raw veggies with a savoury, non-salty spice sprinkle, daily yoga stretching, daily reading (my choice - whether non-fiction or fiction), the option of having a half-day of "being small" (doing fun stuff with childish glee - drawing, window shopping, having a favourite meal, reading, watching videos, etc.), finding gratitude for the simplest things. Please do get some professional advice about the old landlord and what options are available to resolve the issue, so that you can move on with less internal stress.
I think most of us love the colours and softness of Prismacolours, but are frustrated by the breakable leads. I had taken to using a sharpener that just removes the wood, and then using a sanding pad to get a point to avoid the breakage, with a moderate degree of satisfaction. It just takes time and care, for which i rarely have patience! But like many things in life, the results are worth the effort.😅
Many of us have long-standing health issues that challenge us - life's path is one we make, and is sometimes more like hacking our way through a jungle rather than strolling along a paved walkway. We must do what we can to stay strong and healthy, and take a breath, count our blessings, smell the roses, before confronting the next obstacle in our path. And sometimes we have to step back and sharpen our tools, and gather strength before moving forward. Sometimes its a matter of reminding ourselves that we posess our mental and emotional strength to wield our machete (figuratively, of course) and move forward on our path.
Enjoy settling into your new home, find the things that fill your cup (and remember to do them - yes, smoothies!), sharpen your machete and catch your breath, cocoon if you need (it's that time of year, consider vitamin D and possibly light therapy) and even take time to be small.
Sending love, light, and squishy hugs, and you can borrow my machete if you need!😂(probably feeling more like a character from The African Queen than Indiana Jones!)
And, no matter if we are thousands of miles away, for those that care, a thought, a wish and a hope is always right there. Gentle hugs always to my kindred spirits 🤗
Uptick in greed and negative behavior.
What an incredibly beautiful town or city you live / work in! Thanks for all your videos and well wishes for everyone that needs them (we probably all do).💖🍀
Unbelievable about the landlord. So not right. You did the most fantastic job in cleaning. Just can´t believe it. Hope all goes well and you receive your deposit back. Want to thank you for the walk in town! So beautiful. Decorations and a huge tree... lights and art material.... wonderful!! In all you are going through you still give us a present. Thank you very much for your huge heart and kindness!! ❤
Wendy you have the most genuine, sweet soul. Appreciate your honesty & that you share your stories. The struggle is real & I live it too. Watching you and listening to you is so inspiring & gives me hope. Thank you for being you. ❤
Thank you for your chat today! It felt like you were speaking directly to me… and it is this time of year! The lack of light…the lunacy of the consumerism Christmas … it all magnifies the other things that aren’t going so well. Thank you for the list of the little things that will help!!
Oh my, is that Glastonbury? Small world x
My landlord is trying to keep my entire damage deposit because her 12 year old washing machine in our building stopped working while we were renting it, and she is trying to bring us to court for "vandalism" because of it as well, saying we are responsible for it breaking.... It feels so utterly powerless and frustrating to be in these positions with landlords. I'm only 24 and it's hard for me to rationalize these things and be able to keep moving forwards despite it. It's nice to hear someone with more experience talking about going through a similar difficult time, i really needed this video and im sending you so much love and courage to navigate your situation as well :,)
I am struggling and totally "cocooning" ...have been for a while now. But, recent medical news has me wanting to find a cave and hibernate. But, eventually I will yawn and wake up and hopefully break free. ❤
wishing you soft hugs getting there Renee xxx
I live in Australia and rent through a real estate. Every time we have to move, we are forced to pay for professional cleaning, carpet cleaning, and pest control, and it eats up our entire rental bond. So we never get anything back. I’m like you, Wendy; we leave a place spotless, and it feels so unfair to lose our entire bond every single time. I hate having to rent! 😒 xx
In Australia and have been renting for 45 years. When you have to move it is a massive expense and spotless is never good enough. Punished for the slackness of others maybe? A lease is almost useless as they can give you a few weeks notice and out you go.
We have never moved in to a spotless house. Pretty crook I reckon😮
I’m in the exact same situation as both of you. The system here in Australia is stacked against you if you’re a renter. It’s completely unfair. Our agent even demands that our 6 monthly inspections be completely spotless. We had to find a house in two weeks in 2021 because the owner decided to sell, and there were few houses around, prices had skyrocketed, and we had to pay hundreds of dollars to get both houses cleaned. The house we were forced out of now rents for $200 a week more than two years ago, after being the same price for 5 years.
@@Sharon_L
Yes It’s a vicious cycle. Very frustrating.
The government in Australia who do not build public housing use and abuse investors. During COVID landlords had to support people who lost jobs and couldn’t pay rent. It was the belligerent governments causing the harm. In our street a person with drug addictions mental health issues trashed her rental and was behind in rent. Others sneak in dogs cats that do a lot of damage. Gardens are neglected etc Morals what are morals these days? It’s a mixed upside down world we are living in.
Such beautiful shops! I hope the landlord reimburses you!!
thankyou xxx
Fight back, Wendy. You have documented video of all your hard work.
Thank you for keeping us company too. Your new place looks lovely and cozy - no place like home. I believe your former landlord will turn around to the good. :)))
PLEASE BE CAREFUL STAY WHERE YOU ARE WINTER HERE
I once had a landlord cheat me out of my deposit as well. And I was a single parent at the time and really needed the money. That was the only time I've never gotten my deposit back, so frustrating. Thank you for sharing, we are all struggling with something, some more than others.
I love how you are so real and honest. Lots of us can really relate to what you talk about So a huge THANKYOU. Musnt forget to say how much i love your art,you are very talented. ❤❤❤❤
this may've been addressed in chat but would "straw that breaks the camel's back" be more suited instead of "cherry on top" or is there a different uk usage of this from usa?
The UK usage is the same... I've not heard "cherry on top" having negative connotations before Wendy used it as such.
I work for a commercial landlord, they are definitely trying it on. Fight it and don't give up Wendy.
thankyou and will do! crooks!
I really struggled with landlords in the UK… I had an apartment in Edinburgh that when we moved in had awful sticky counters with dried soda stains and a literal used condom in a cabinet, and when we moved out, we got charged £20 per light bulb because we hadn’t put new light bulbs in (how could they tell?? They were all working) and a cleaning fee because there was one cobweb behind a bureau that was physically too large for us to move…
The other one was in London, and I was moving back to the US, and they just refused to give me my deposit, no reason. Stopped responding to my calls and emails and just knew once I moved away, I wouldn’t be able to do anything about it. 😢
Hi Wendy, just discovered your channel. It picks me up. I feel I relate so well to everything you are saying. Living in Queensland, Australia, I struggle with the heat, not the cold. It really drains me. Oh for a cold climate. I love your suggestions about the little things, that's how I am living right now. Your life seems very similar to mine, even down to the daily green smoothies.Have a wonderful Christmas 🎄 🎉❤
Right there with you. The heat has been so stifling! 34+ is far from my thing..(my max tolerant temp is 26).finally mowed the lawn, at 7pm mind you as it was finally somewhat sensible temperature to do it in. Here's hoping Xmas will be cool, wet and constant rain...
We had the same situation with a landlord. We had paid to have the apt. cleaned, but he wanted us to pay for a new stove, not bc it was damaged but bc it was old. And he accused us of stealing light fixtures we had bought. It worked out bc his partner had already signed off that everything was ok. In NY we never paid last month's rent bc they never gave deposits back. Don't know how it is now.
For 7 years I have had chronic fatigue like symptoms. They do tests, say I am ok, shrug and offer me anti depressants , which I refuse of course. My life has changed massively.
Moving is one of the most stressful things in life.
you could be me...i'm having similar health issues
Sorry to hear that.@@betmo
This past week has been so crazy. This is just what I needed. Thank you..💝
Totally understand what you’ve shared, health and gratitude and love for the small pluses. And of course how we view things that happen. Especially since that is something we have control over. Really enjoy your videos Wendy. Thanks for the reminder about self care! Something I definitely need a reminder about. Always appreciate your honesty and candor ♥️
I wanted to tell you I found you during the pandemic! You have been such a blessing for me going through lots of really ruff part of my life. Lost my husband last year to a very long illness. My daughter got married and lives in Belfast Ireland now. So I've decided to move to France, so we will be closer. I'm 69 years young and am working in retail for extra money to help with the move. I am so tired sometimes I want to cocoon like you said totally relate!!!! Can't wait to get over there and rest!!!! And paint!! Love watching you. Thank you so much
happy new adventures and resting when you get there! xx
Thankyou for your latest video Wendy,
I enjoy watching you paint or draw, it's always interesting to see the end result. I have quite a few of the pens you mentioned they do dry out quite quickly. It's unbelievable what some landlords think they can get away with. imagine how landlords would react if anyone did leave the property just as they found them. uproar for sure.
Keep safe and warm, I hibernate each winter for a few weeks simply restock food etc, batten down the hatches, people are used to me not being around for a while , I enjoy my own company and find lots to do indoors or not as the case may be. It's recharging the batteries , Following natures way , We are not machines after all,
Hugs and Blessings to you .💚🌹
Thank you Wendy for sharing all your news. It is a struggle this time of year for sure but just hearing we are not alone in this makes a big difference.😊❤
I adore you🥰 Congratulations for your new beautiful cozy home🕯️✨💚🥂🍀🧚
Your video was a great reflection on a lot of things. I myself have had quite a bit of changes happening in my life as like yourself. ( hard to leave home, menopausel symptoms, life, the world). Life is going by so fast & I feel I can't keep up with all the demands. Positive attitude & doing things that make you smile or a song to lift your spirits has been helping me. Best wishes to you & James on getting your refund & Merry Christmas.
Due to my sever anxiety Wendy, I have not been out and about since 2000. So nearly 4 years now. I only go out to walk my dog from my front door, and I live in a rural place, and sold my car, as I could not drive it, due to the anxiety, so it was just a waste sitting there. I just do not seem to be able to help myself in moving forward for some reason? But I am so grateful for the life I have, and try and be positive in my outlook, and love being kind to others. But it only takes one unkind word from the few human beings I see, to make my day sad, as I am sooo over sensitive. xxx
24 years??? If you have not been out since 2000….Please seek professional help. There is help available online so u do not need to go out but glad to hear you are walking and you have a dog to comfort you!!
@@diannajohnston4558 No, not 24 years! I should have put 2024! So only 4 years, but bad enough. xxx
Hey, Wendy & James! Glad to see you're taking care of yourself in all the ways. Congratulations on the new pens! They look lovely, as does your new home. Very cozy on a winter's night, along with a simple soup and salad dinner. Gratitude will get you everywhere. Happy holidays. 💖🎄
The shops there are heavenly! Lovely video as usual. Blessings to you and James! 💗❣️💗
Hi Wendy, so awful about your landlord situation, such a shame that us 149k subscribers can't be used as proof how hard you both worked cleaning the flat before you vacated it, as witnesses : ) we saw how beautifully clean it was. Shame on you Mr Landlord ! Keep shining brightly Wendy ☺
I think there must be some universal estate agent scam going on. We vacated on a Thursday, were instructed to leave the keys on the kitchen bench because the agent couldn’t check the property until the Friday morning. Thankfully we took photos because I received an email the following day for a cleaning fee because a bird left its business on the balcony railing and apparently we failed to clean it before leaving. The photos proved the poo wasn’t there when we left 😄 Absolutely ridiculous! The certainly is a power dynamic in these situations. You really have to tick all the boxes just to ensure you don’t get ripped off. Keep smiling and creating. Life is weird sometimes.
mmm, interesting... oh my heavens!! so true, and yes, life is weird sometimes... x
Been feeling horribly blue this Christmas season. Had to put our 17 year dog down this year and just lost a very dear friend from previous work life. My sister moved away and just the three of us for Christmas. No desire to decorate and all I can do to wrap the gifts for hubby and son. Live in upper Midwest USA. 62 birthday is Dec 23 and I just feel old…..
You are sooooooo delightful! Thank yoU for the uplift :) x0x0
I understand the struggle. Seasonal depression but I also have gone into Afib again. I'm scheduled for a pacemaker in February. So incredibly tired and the desire to do anything has flown out the window. Feeling this way is tiring .
I wish you well.Imagine your Angel wrapping her healing wings all around you.All will be well.Its OK to be scared ❤
Thank you for taking us out to see your magical little town. Such lovely things and so sparkly this time of year. I hope you get your full deposit back , your old landlord could have the lead in Scrooge or Mr. potter in “ It’s a wonderful life “. Hugs to you and James . ❤️
I just had to write this as we have had the same problem.. We are clean, tidy people anyway, but when we moved out of one rental to another ,we also cleaned for hours.
We didn't get our money at all...so so unfair...
As for Fibromyalgia, I, too, have it... it took 20 years to get a diagnosis.... I'm taking some natural products for it. We own a health shop in the North West. If you ever need any help or just info, don't hesitate to get in touch xxxxxx
Hi Wendy, can relate to you in so many ways ! Over last few years struggled with my health , problems with neck and back and really quite bad menopausal symptoms, anxiety being the worst ! Can’t work out if it’s menopause, covid or just the mad state of world that has made me want to cocoon in my own space , maybe all three!! Really do not enjoy crowds and would rather stay indoors or out in nature where it’s quiet. Husband has had quite a few health problems recently too and also problems with pets . Sometimes think the world has gone mad 😫. Just want to let you know though that watching you and James really helps as you seem to say it how it is , warts and all and don’t try to pretend everything is perfect but on the other hand can remind us to appreciate all the good things too ! Hope you sort things out with landlord. I personally think some of these landlords have overstretched themselves in these crazy times and are trying to claw back any money they can and as per usual the wrong people suffer! All the best to you and James and hope you can sort it out ❤x
Yes, yes, yes! Same here
Hope things improve for you soon too !!🤞
The past year ive suffered such symptoms as well...some days i feel normal, very little pain but more and more days have been debilitating fatigue and horrendous pain in my muscles and joints..
ive struggled terribly with foggy mind and migraines as well, cant seem to focus. its so frustrating as i want to get on, but just cant muster the energy.
i will say that ive suffered the past 4 years with loss..of my dad, and now my mom is very ill...loss of my job and side job, car, home everything when i had to walk away to care for my parents. ..so i can't know if what im going through is my trying to deal with all that sorrow or something more...what makes it the most frustrating is that im trying to start over to move on to care for my mom but there are days i can hardly get to the restroom and back to bed...
overwhelm has also seemed to steal even my desire to do somthung as simple as read a book or even bathe...i struggle with needeing to work and all the care my mom needs...its so overwhelming trying to juggle just that that i have nothing else left.
i have found that if i just focus on one thing even if all I do that day is clean up dishes or just myself up helps...i try to cheer myself on in them. ..its so easy to beat ourselves down for not doing enough when in fact we are putting so much on our list that we set ourselves up for defeat.
im tired of being defeated....tired of all the loss...but its me focusing on those thoughts that are part of the problem...i have found that in praise and thankfulness has done more for my spirits than anything else so have started a praise and blessing gratitude journal with a limited supply of art materials to do each day when i have a moment....to fill that time with thankfulness for the time i have with my mom to help her...for our food...for everything its funny how that cup fills and overflows with joy and happiness in contentment and peace...this is where healing begins...
i still have pain and struggle but doing this is better than any medicine and helps keep me going.
I'm a "landlord" in Scotland. I'm gobsmacked. You are an exceptional tenant in my books. If the system is similar and the landlord had to lodge your deposit with an approved third party, then it shouldn't be too difficult to prove you're entitled to receive it back in full. To have part or full deposit withheld, a bit of skirting missed by the hoover and a cleaning cloth is not going to cut it. Find out who the company that holds your deposit is (your landlord should have copied you in on those details) and give them a call, explaining your position and that you have all the evidence. Unless the story is substantially different (you've left huge stains on the carpets requiring a carpet cleaning company, the oven's a mess or the bath looks like a body's been dissolved in there), I think he's wasting his time. The problem is, of course, that the Government is making it so hard for the "landlords" they encouraged, when it suited them, to become "landlords" in the first place, that a great deal are not only not "raking" it in, they're often paying for the tenants to live in the properties (what with mortgages, insurances, agency fees, safety checks, registration, voids, repairs, etc, etc, never mind the tenants who think they can live free of charge, often bankrupting good people who don't deserve that), so, sad though it is, it's hardly surprising that some are taking their lead from Government practice of trying to wrangle more cash out of the public where they can. Doesn't mean it's right, though.
Given outside 10 days is too late. I'm with you that any modifications need to be signed by all parties. Do you have a rental authority especially suppottive of tenants? maybe give them a dingle and see what advice they can give. I think landlords are increasingly trying to squeeze more juice out of an orange than what there is. if you get my drift.
I'm having absent memory problems so I was wondering if you could make a video focusing on your preferred/favourite art materials like brands etc.
If you continue to have problems please let the Deposit Protection Scheme deal with it. They will 100% find in your favour. So many LL try on this utter rubbish, and rely on people not fighting it. All you need to do is go online to the Scheme your deposit is lodged with, and open a case. It may take a while, but you are so right this is definitely a battle worth fighting. Good luck! And for future ref, LL cannot legally demand a professional clean as that is their responsibility, all a tenant needs to do is a normal domestic clean.
We should never compare our life situations with others or the world’s. What we are experiencing is just as important and valuable as anyone else’s situation. I recently stumbled on a RUclips Ted Talk video, My Stroke of Insight by Jill Bolte Taylor. Purchased her book by the same title, read it, and now diving into her book, Whole Brain Living. Highly recommend them to everyone. Sending love and light to you and James and to the world. ❤️❤️❤️
Thats shit. A lot of times they will charge for "painting" after you leave. which if you lived there for years that would just be basic maintenance. Renters really get screwed, and seem to have little recourse.
Thanks for sharing those "little" things that help us carry on. When winter sets in I feel what you describe. Here is what helps me:
Daily walk
Hydrate by drinking more water.
Do one thing. Depending on energy, sometimes I do two things.
Be gentle with myself.
Sleep as much as my body wants -- no alarms!
In the U.S. landlords HAVE to clean carpets and paint before new tenants move in. They can't charge the prior tenant for this cleaning. There is yearly maintenance they have to do such as new furnace filters, a/c units, vents etc. I also know that some landlods do not do their own inspections, but rather depend on hired crews to do this for them. I hope you can settle this dispute to your satisfaction.
They are called narcissists & they seem to have come out of the woodwork, or have become more obvious since “ you know what “ & all that rubbish.
I’m gob smacked at the reaction of the landlord, but at the same time, like I said before, here they are, larger than life.
We know the world is a weird place right now, but shine your light even brighter & really piss them off!! “They” can’t bear it when we continue to shine our inner light for everyone to swim around in…💕💕🌸
OK a comment from a landlord: No matter what... I always charge a cleaning fee, but that is stated in the lease. I consider wear and tear from use and only expect the property to be released back to me "broom clean". Any additional cleaning the tenant does is on the tenant. I hire a professional with specifications on how I want it, so that my properties are all cleaned the same with each tenant's departure. (this is all explained when I interview and sign new leases with new tenants before occupancy). The fee I charge the vacating tenant is the fee that the cleaning company charges for the cleaning and the tenant gets a copy of this bill.
It appears to me that your landlord did not give enough information about this. If you cannot resolve with satisfaction, I suggest a mediator or attorney, with real estate expertise. Unfortunately, there can be expectations not voiced between landlords and tenants.
I hope this gets worked out.
tfs.
Thank you for sharing the video of your trip home. Enjoyed the lovely shops🤗😊
The Tenancy Deposit Scheme your landlord/landlord agent used will have an arbitration service. If you feel they are being unjust in asking for a huge lump out of your tenancy deposit which having watched the video I think they are, then you should use them if you cannot come to a compromise you are happy with. Re the contract and the ten day clause I would go and see the Citizens Advice Bureau as they will be able to help you without any cost to you and will be able to tell you if what you are being told is correct. If you weren't informed about any changes to your basic contractual rights at the time, then I would think the original stands and they are out of time. Good luck with it all. Love watching your vlogs and it is such a shame that you and James are being taken advantage of in this way.
I’ve had to rely on my coping strategies for the last three weeks…a list of small things that I do to gently raise my vibration 💫
This was such a sweet heart warming and nurturing video. It felt like a big hug. In the bigger picture there is so much sorrow to be witnessed that, all more frequently, it is easy to be overwhelmed. Taking refuge in the present moment and the beauty surrounding us is really a survival skill! I noticed on social media a new idea cropping up...to counteract the triggers we encounter every day by looking for the 'glimmers' that are also present. The glimmers being all of the positive, magical, and beautiful things of life. Today my glimmers were cuddling with my cats, going for a walk with a friend and drinking a chai tea together at the farmers market. Also finishing painting a Christmas card and, now, watching your video. Thank you so much.
Had similar experience in the UK regarding deposit. Glad you contested the deposit claim.
yup! sad to hear but it's common... Wendy the warrior is out now!
I love the charming shops in your town. You seem to speak about where I have been in regards to stepping back from the pain in the world and reminding me we are not alone in needing to nest. Spot on as usual Wendy!
I can't help but notice how superior your art stores are in the UK. They're actually stocked and you even have choices!! Wow! Here in Canada (Vancouver Island, Victoria, B.C. NOT Vancouver), the standards that were already pretty low in our shops, has diminished further since post-covid. Stocks just have never returned and choices are very slim. Even sketchbooks have not returned! It's so pathetic here in Canada (Victoria, B.C.), that we're forced to overpay and wait for months by ordering on-line. I can't help but realize that our small businesses are suffering so badly. Our poor country is falling quickly before our eyes. I see your shops are still nicely stocked over there. Also, I watch a woman in Asia and she recently took us into an art store there and I was blown away at the stock, organization and sheer size of the store. Incredible! We have three art stores here and they are all in such a sorry state that I'm not sure how they're surviving to pay their leases. It's so bad and even Christmas has not spurred them onto fresh stock. I don't live in a large city (Vancouver Island, Victoria, B.C. NOT Vancouver), so maybe that's the reason?! Not sure. I'm very frustrated. I've travelled plenty in England and France to a lot of their small cities and their art supply shops are incredible, everywhere!
Your post is so true, even here in Alberta we are finding the same. The European shops are fabulous and I’m afraid I would go broke shopping them. Cheers to your local shops surviving.
I live in England and there are no art stores anywhere near me even though there are two colleges in the surrounding towns that have art courses, I have to go a long way to the nearest store and it's a small one with limited stock. Every time you go out you see another store that's closed down , it's not just Canada.
Same here, around Calgary. Have you noticed the consistent lowering of standards in all of our shops? Is it just a matter of the economy, or are our entrepeneurs really that bad?
I’m in Vancouver NOT Vancouver island lmao 😂❤
@@mooziet652 hahaha
Thank you Wendy for your wise words, uplifting and authentic as always ❤ and for the little tour of Glasto... 😉 Wishing you peace and light 🙏
I understand what you are saying Wendy. Be good to yourself and allow yourself to indulge in those treats like salt and vinegar chips. My fav too. My escape is my art room and watercolor or painting is so relaxing. I am using a spare bedroom for my art room. I get to stay in my cozy cocoon. Love and hugs
I feel like I needed this video. I'm stuck in a really busy time right now; Moving, family lives far away, quitting my job because of a toxic environment, etc. Listening to you hit a point in me where I feel like I found a small spark of peace and calm. Thank you for that
You are such an inspiration to me and i am sure others. Many of us struggle with mental / physical health. Your words are gold and much appreciated. We all struggle in some way and we need to be gentle,kind and encouraging as we all walk this journey of life. I love your channel and art journey ! Thankyou
I love Prismacolor pemcils! So happy you've been able to get the big set! I have mine in a 6" square clear glass container, with 3 stained glass dividers that my sister made for me. I finished out the divisions (to make 8) with some in clear acrylic dividers. I got a 6" lazy susan on amazon, and just love how easy it all swirls around so all the delightful colors can be seen to choose from!
My color divisions are the rainbow colors, neutrals, and grays.
So sorry for your landlord problems. They like to do things like that. My sister had several improvements, which I helped with, and the landlord still wouldn't give any of the deposit back! Hugs and prayers! Peggy
I hope you are feeling better on all levels soon Wendy and just WOW! Those floral paintings are GORGEOUS. Your current physical and landlord woes are not damaging your creativity that is for sure. All the very best to you and James ❤
Many years ago we rented from a fellow church member. Same thing...we cleaned the duplex until it shined when we left. In the end, we got NO deposit back because we didn't clean the GASKET of the refrigerator. We protested it to no avail. Wouldn't you think they'd give you the opportunity to go in and clean the dang gasket? Needless to say, our relationship with said "friend" was forever broken. So sad all of this over money. I don't know anyone who has ever gotten their rental deposit back.
Thank you Wendy for this delightful video. i always get excited when i see a new video up. Its like a gift i cant wait to open! You are such a blessing. I am especially appreciating seeing the shops all decked out for the holidays and sharing a meal!!! Love to you !
Thank you dear Wendy, for sharing your videos, with us all. It really helps to know we are not alone, so many of us struggle with our emotions. In this day and age with the world going inside out, and upside down. Seems like every corner of the world is fighting about something, they are missing sight of what really matters, love and joy and peace. I try really hard especially during the holiday, trying to carve out some happiness and embrace the magic of it all. I so enjoyed your walk about at the shops, what lovely treasures! I wish you and James and your families a wonderful peaceful holiday season. And to all who watch your videos with me I wish you all the same. Find joy and peace and love. Blessings to you all! From across the pond in Sheffield Lake, Ohio!!😊 ❤🧚♂🧚🧚♀🌟🎄🎆
❤❤❤gosh your post was as if you were inside my mind and heart! Hope you are staying warm in Ohio. 😊
Thank you for your kind words, I am glad to know my heart spoke to yours! And yes I am trying to keep warm here. :)) @@DR3itmatters 😊❤❤❤!
spoke to mine too , xx 'they are missing sight of what really matters' x big loves to you in Ohio Barbara, x
l know how you feel about not wanting to leave the house, l have been struggling with this for years, l can go weeks without venturing outside, living in a city l find everything out there overwhelming, my home is my safe space, l know l need to change things but not ready yet, and thank you for talking about grace l think l will use the word grace and it's meaning for 2024, big hugs to you Wendy and all who are struggling too x
It,s sooo unfair...and sooo common that landlords are so horrible money grasping.. They already make so much on the rent,,why do they have to be so unfair???It,s emotionally upsetting because of the injustice more than the money..❤❤
yes, and it also gives other landlords a bad reputation too... sad indeed!
Always love your video’s. Thank you for taking us all on a little shopping trip. We got to enjoy looking at all the pretty items in the festive setting. We all listened to perfect music. Best of all, it was like we were really all together doing a little holiday shopping. Good for the soul and since it was not in person, great for my wallet. So glad your new place is becoming yours. Bring that blanket to the studio next time. Even if you don’t use it all the time, it will add to the coziness of your space. Enjoy your holidays. The peace and quiet of the season can be restorative.
I see you I feel you my arms are around you ❤
So much love to you Wendy you are amazing.
I hope you manage to get sorted with the landlord.
Rest and look after yourself beautiful ❤
that landlord thing happened to me too, ages ago and it was totally what you said: a theft. I was having so many troubles at the time I didn't have the energy so I let it go. I am proud of you for not doing the same. It teaches the awful person that it might not be easy to run over people and they may remember next tenant and not be so mean. One hopes. Loving your video.
completely understand why you did let it go too though.. xx
oooh Glastonbury is looking all sparkly in the evening light 🥰