My reason for withdrawing.. I dont have the energy to pretend I'm happy. I dont want friends to feel uncomfortable with my sadness so its better to pull away.
Your comment is spot on! I’m so glad I’m not alone on this :) as much as I would love to talk to my friends and keep up this happy go lucky facade, I don’t want them to feel uncomfortable with my Debbie Downer vibe either meanwhile everyone else is having a good time. I feel like an attention seeker that way and because my depression has worsened, it went from talking to them everyday to once every year or two. I feel bad but I feel like it’s better that way instead of bombarding them with my struggles, y’know? Whatever it is that is making you depressed, I hope you find and the energy you once had before and I wish you all the best! 🌹 you got this!💕
Ikr! I've been through a depression, still not completely recovered, and it was the absolute worst time of my life. It makes me sad to think that it's getting more and more common. As you said, I wouldn't want even some one I hate to go through this.
@@ruruama3666 Same. It's because we have empathy. Even though our depression can be so debilitating, we wouldn't want to see anyone else, go through anything that we're going through. Unfortunately i really don't know when i'm going to feel better. All i seem to do is isolate myself. I got rid of all the toxic people from my life. I try to reach out, but it's very hard, especially when u have been hurt so freak'n much, that it's difficult to trust anyone any more..!!
@@spiritangel1367 I get you, I really just have 2 friends, and I'm fortunate to have them. I've been betrayed many times, and so it's hard for me to meet people, and even more to really feel a connexion. But you'll find good people in your life eventually, I'm sure 😊🙏
if someone didn't tell u already u worth it,ily even if u don't know me and i genuinely appreciate u and u are doing amazing.every little thing will be alright so keep going and remember that It is scientifically proved that if u are really bad right now u will be good maybe soon too i m here for u i know what u are going trough but pls ilysm feel free to talk to me,i am not telling u to underestimate ur things,go to a doctor or stuff is not something that is bad or like... U ARE BEAUTIFUL AND I WANNA SCREAM AT THE WORLD THIS BC IT'S WORTH IT AND U ARE WORTH IT AT LEAST FOR THIS STRANGER THAT LITERALLY LOVES YOU SO MUCH,when you want to die you have to strive to live as much as you you want to to die,trust GOD.GOD Bless us.Amen
@@_ilovekpop_thanku5125 omg that's so amazing this may not be directed towards me but that's really positive! wish i had you as a friend. most of my friends don't talk to me as much. :')
Why you socially withdraw when depressed: 1. You feel unworthy 2. You lack energy 3. You struggle to find time 4. Struggle from social anhedonia 5. You have a history of social anxiety
i was on the same boat when i just got into college. i'm still battling this. after pandemic it feels somewhat better, i tried not to care about those "happy looking people". who knows if everyone is actually depressed and judgmental when not around others?
it is hard to reach out to others when i dont feel comfortable even being in the same room as someone. i dont even feel comfortable near family members its just a continus feeling of anxiety. i cant even look at them at times but i hate feeling rude so its a losing battle against myself
Hey :) yeah i also kinda struggle with reaching out talking about this stuff can feel sooo hard at times but for me not actually talking but writing like letters or small things i write down(and "accidentally" leave somewhere(gosh it sounda silly^^)) or something kinda helped i mean its still really hard but it was a little easier and got me to open up a little more i think. It feels kinda silly and ikinda feel like it would be more nice in person but like its a beginning and eho cares if its silly or something. So well idk maybe this might help. Or if its still to hard for now thats also alright. It can be hard. But you can do it :). You already managed to talk a little about it here yay :).
For some people seeing this comment: for those who go through depressive times. You'll be lucky one day. So, don't give up, there's always a solution to a problem. 😊
Depression and "depressive times" like you call it are not the same. Some people will fortunately never have depression during their entire life, some will. As someone who had depression, this suffering is not something that anyone can relate to...
I was just thinking about it. I isolate myself when I have my phases. The fatigue, that weird fatigue is truly draining. I feel there's no energy. Another thing is that, I get mad at people for no reason and yell at them. I don't wanna hurt them and that's why I talk the least. But the phases last for approx. 3-4 days at a strech and in a month, 2-3 times. The rest of the month is spent with pms and period cramps. I'm fed up. It's just getting worse day by day. Is it my lack of self-discipline? I don't trust therapists. I don't know. It's just getting worse.
I find this very relatable, especially the part about having trouble trusting therapists. I wish you the best, and hope you have a long and fulfilling life
Hey y'all...to all of my fellow friends with depression...it's ok not to feel ok...it's ok to break down, to cry in public, to feel like it's out of control.... remember to take a breath, hold on to something soft, like a pillow...and remember that God loves you more than you could ever imagine...lots of love❤️❤️❤️
Why did they invite? They just felt bad and decided to invite me. Are they really my friends do they like me or the homework I provide, if it stopped would they talk to me , why am I so ugly, why must I be not wanted , don't talk no one cares. These circle my mind everyday and I can't just can't stop them
I've been struggling with depression for almost a year, slowly getting better, I find myself going to bed early, it's like my escape from the cruel world. I can sleep 12 hours or 7 hours and still for so damn tired. When I can't sleep I talk to God and makes me feel better and rested then I end up falling asleep. The good Lord is helping me greatly 🙏
I have dealt with depression most of my life. There are days when my brain chemistry tells me it would be better not to be alive, but for anyone who feels this way, please listen to this: THAT IS A LIE! Eat a healthy but satisfying meal, go for a walk, take a nap, etc. I hope that this helps at least one person.
The first point isn't always far from the truth. Sure it's true that when you're depressed you hate yourself and have negative self-esteem, and assume that others might feel like that towards you too... but when people state their discontent around you or express those negative feelings towards you, KNOWING how you feel, they're no longer assumptions... you start noticing other people who always felt the same way but didn't say anything, and it hits even harder. The other points are accurate tho, feeling tired the whole day and every day makes it harder to do stuff, since it takes away all motivation and makes it feel like you never have enough time to do anything, leading to take way longer than it should to finish homework or any other activity, leading to failing classes and such things. And also after spending years with severe anxiety and depression, you can't even talk with people, let alone be somewhere near a group... you suddenly start stuttering and sweating, feeling a rise in temperature, can't look in the eyes, and barely able to give a clear answer... this combined with not feeling any interest in socializing due to social anhedonia makes it even more difficult. All I said is from personal experience btw.
I have the exact same problems, I've suffered from major depression for about 8 years now. I want to see a therapist but I don't want to dump all my problems on them.
@@Tyler-te4cr It's better that you look for a good theraphist when you have a chance, the longer you stay in a completely depressed state without seeking any help, the harder it gets to get out of it... I know that for sure since I've been dealing with severe depression and anxiety for over 15 years by now. Also, you don't need to worry about dumping your problems into a theraphist. Their job is centered in helping people who are dealing with these issues, and the years they spent studying about this prepares them for it... besides they also know of ways to clear their minds after treating multiple patients, so it doesn't take a heavy toll on their conscience, otherwise they wouldn't be working in this field.
@@JustMotamed lmao your assumption is inaccurate might wanna delete that. If you take it seriously as to comment that, as if I have not watched the video at all and bro fr all the videos start out that way!
*Why Do We Socially Withdraw Depressed?* 1:04 1. You feel unworthy 1:54 2. You lack energy 2:49 3. Not enough time 3:28 4. Social anhedonia 4:19 5. Social anxiety
Having gone through two depressive episodes, withdrawing or as I like to call it, "detaching" from the world around me is a form of going into a sort of "safe mode" - physically, mentally and emotionally. Although I am an introvert - more like a "Lone Wolf" kind of person, having to deal with the pressures, stressful events, frustrations, burnout (the list goes on) on my own can be very taxing on my overall wellbeing. I find it difficult to share with other people, unless it is my family, my wife, my friends or most recently, a licenced professional. But anyway, I appreciate this channel for making mental health awareness more accessible to the public. To anyone who is going through similar events as I do, know this: You are not alone, my friend... Keep safe, everyone...
It was like holding a mirror up to myself - I recognised a lot of it! By the way, I got steered towards Fabulous by you, which is beginning to really good changes for me. Early days, but thank you so much.
I am so glad to find this channel. A few months ago, I was diagnosed with bipolar disorder and most recently, burnout. I haven't been mentally stable for years but was only able to afford therapy and medication this year. Your videos help me a lot in understanding my condition and makes me feel less alone at times. Thank you so much for your awesome and super useful content. 💕 And to whoever is reading is, I hope you are well. And if you aren't, it's okay not to be okay. It will all get better. We are not alone in this. 💕
It's nice to know that I'm understood, because I didn't know what was happening to me a few month ago. I became distant to people I love and care about, because I thought I was unworthy and that they would be happier without me. Big mistake. I mean, I didn't talk to them about this or about anything, so they thought I didn't care for them, so I scarred these relationships. But I wasn't okay and was scared to ask for help. I was in pain of knowing I have hurt these people. I never wanted this to happen, and when I told them about that they thought I was joking. I just told them the truth... I'm beginning to feel this way again, but now I'll be prepared and won't let these feeling get me down like they did before.
@Phoenix 𝙾𝚙𝚎𝚗 𝙼𝚢 PROFILE Reduce social media and negative news. Take short walks. If needed visit a psychologist. Take a decision to enjoy life. To feel better reduce negative thoughts with a simple practice. Your breath is directly related to your mind [brain] causing negative thoughts-anxiety. For a better life sit on a chair, back straight, eyes closed and observe the sensations of your incoming--outgoing breath at the entrance of the nostrils for around 5-10-15 minutes or more. Don’t fight your thoughts. Slowly the mind will relax. No deep breathing needed. Day or night, when taking a walk, when reading, on the phone, before sleep etc sit or lie down and observe your breath. Like me, make this a lifetime daily habit to have a good life. Avoid constipation as it affects the mind instantly. Best wishes Shyaaam Sir. -Counsellor.
@@m2pozad unfortunately you can only judge people based on their words, actions, and behaviors. people of severely compromised integrity can’t fake it like they do everything else in their life. When you have trust issues you’re more sensitive to certain behaviors that are red flags. As soon as you see that red flag, ptsd sets in. Even when it’s not a major thing.
@@SuperDR2K Ah! You are talking about being inauthentic adding to one's own depression. So true. Authenticity goes to self-esteem, which goes to self-worth, which when low, factors into anxiety, which can lead to depression. As I understand it. I thought 'blaming the world' was being suggested.
@@SuperDR2K this is my personal issues with my family, apparently my Sister are Narc, their constant toxic behaviour makes my body go to flight or flight modes every time i engaging with her, childhood trauma playing a big part in my life....
My friends used to invite me to outings, etc. just to bully me, like I'm the clown of the group or their source of amusement.. I don't think that will ever go away, now I am afraid to be friends with anyone, just to avoid bullying and criticism. I am the type that hates to make people hate me, thinking I am making fun of them or something, so I am always anxious when talking to people, or so I think of myself.
If I feel socially withdrawn it is true that I got a lot on my mind to take care of. I think the key is being a good listener to talk about your heartfelt emotions from time to time. That way the beginning depression can have no further impact on you because you name your own shortcomings. You understand what you feel and try to explain to yourself why all these thoughts keep nagging on your brain. You will learn to openly express and get a closer look at the cause of your depression. Once you figured that out you will understand your emotional well being. I remember myself from time to time thoughts are my feelings but my feelings aren't the way I should look. I learned that I could look at my life from different perspectives. Even so, could still go berserk but that is a switch inside my own head. A lot of people who I spoke with over the years all kept different perspectives of life. It learned me to see things from all different outcomes that don't mean I don't have weaknesses. But I will learn to give that thought of me impact or be less mellow about it. However, sometimes will be more understandable but that depends on the way you see me too. If there is no reflection in what I said or have done then how can I be sure I can trust you? See it as a sort of self-defence to let nobody mingle with your emotions as well. After all, we are here to weapon ourselves against depression not placing blames just pure understanding.
2:53 I struggle with depression and I have been diagnosed and I really relate to this. I’m always telling people I don’t have time but in reality I do have time I just can’t always manage it well due to my depression.
Samels, No excuses. Reduce social media and negative news. If needed visit a psychologist. Take a decision to enjoy life. To feel better reduce negative thoughts with a simple practice. Your breath is directly related to your mind [brain] causing negative thoughts-anxiety. For a better life sit on a chair, back straight, eyes closed and observe the sensations of your incoming--outgoing breath at the entrance of the nostrils for around 5-10-15 minutes or more. Don’t fight your thoughts. Slowly the mind will relax. No deep breathing needed. Day or night, when taking a walk, when reading, on the phone, before sleep etc sit or lie down and observe your breath. Like me, make this a lifetime daily habit to have a good life. Avoid constipation as it affects the mind instantly. Best wishes Shyaaam Sir. -Counsellor.
@@fisamels228 Why such a rude answer? I have already received several positive replies. Today I am enjoying life because I listened to advice 20 years back and put it into practice. If needed combine medication with meditation under a psychologist's guidance. Be determined to enjoy life. Since many years I have made it a habit to observe my breath sensations even during my normal activities and I am feeling relaxed and healthy. No deep breathing or counting needed. Never do meditation with expectations. Meditation happens to you from within if done sincerely. Read my msg and do the practice daily to develop your mental muscles during these tough times. Best wishes. Shyaaam Sir-Senior counsellor.
I have a friend who has had depression for over 20 years. She is employed and lives about 20 miles away. I have not seen her since before the pandemic. I had plans to celebrate her birthday in the spring, but she stopped responding to texts and phone calls since then. The social withdrawal combined with anxiety about the pandemic has protracted the ability to meet and talk.
I’m just so freaking tired of this empty feeling that I can’t get rid of. I can’t take it anymore. I can’t even remember the last time I was able to feel any emotions other than guilt and anxiety. I hate living because every time something that would usually fill me with joy now fills me with nothing and life is just nothing. I’m so empty. I just can’t find a reason of why it’s worth it. Can anyone relate?
to it's day i've understand that opening to people by letting them talk and also talking about my self and past help me a ton to express what i feel and make me good day by day.
I was mentally exhausted and this video just popped on my timeline.. Was watching it very seriously until a chimmy wall watch suddenly came out.. I got some energy now😌💜
This is very relatable especially the first one. I often felt like people are inviting me just to add more people in something. I used to feel I'm not really wanted and doubted their sincerity but I know I was wrong for thinking that way.
I withdrawal so not to dump and unload on people who didn’t calls what I’m going through. I cannot pretend that I’m not going through a major life change I’m trying to process everything myself. So I stay quiet and isolate , so not to make everyone else around me miserable,and then I get attacked because I stay quiet and isolate.
I don't know why but I suddenly cried watching this. I've been depressed for a few years now and I feel really shitty. I am unemployed for almost a year, single and have very low self-esteem. I wanted to go see a therapist before but was too afraid. Now I really can't go since I'm fucking broke. I'm basically just a freeloading empty flesh.
My family is mostly the type where they are "there for me" but they just seem to only use for their own personal needs and I act as a servant around them.
Have you tried contacting a therapist of any kind? They could help you out, if you have I dont know anything to do to help, hope things get better for you mate
Bro dont feel so upset... These feelings are temporory. Dont give up...this too shall pass...after this good days are waitting for you...dont lose hope💜💜
I’m really grateful mental health is widely talked about and is better accepted now adays. I’ve suffered with depression and other mental health issues stemming from a series of head injuries I had as a child. I shut down my business at the beginning of Covid and literally haven’t gotten out of bed since. I have doctors, therapists, ketamine infusions… I’m just broken. I’m grateful for my RUclips escape. Btw- this video is on point- time management, being overwhelmed, isolating, incredible guilt, people-hating, zero focus, and most of all NO ENERGY- that’s my life in a nutshell.
"Self isolation" so much of socialising is a two way street you can't socialise by yourself. It is also up to others to be inclusive. When you are struggling and your efforts to connect are ignored or mocked it reinforces to not try.
I withdraw because I've already decided that I want out, and I don't want anybody to worry about me, or feel like they could've done anything to stop me.
I really relate to this video but every time I open up no one understands me and the pain that I feel every single day. Thank you for this video...at least I'm now able to know the reason for why I do a lot of these things
Every single point perfectly described me :( but these days I try to congratulate myself on small wins like I went out of my room for a small event even if it was only for a bit. I always blame myself for being lonely because it’s my own fault for not being friendly enough or social enough. I just find it draining to maintain conversation with people I have no interest in anyways or feel uneasy around and would prefer a deeper relationship but that takes time and most people aren’t willing to wait for you if you don’t speak often. Ofc it’s not their fault but it just makes finding real friends harder
It's hard to talk to others because when I do I feel like I put pressure on them. And it's like I'm a burden just by existing. But my parents say I have no problems, I'm just a brat. And maybe I am. But I don't know.
About 4 years ago I told my sister that earlier that year I had considered suicide as my only way out, had a plan and every thing! She said, "If you had been serious about it, you would have done it." Wow, just wow! 😱
In my case, i‘m afraid that someone would hurt me and this would make my depression worse… that it would be just another experience of failure and i would not be able to get out of bed again the next day… i become extremely careful with who i meet or talk to when i‘m depressed.
Emotions are like clouds they will pass, when it's cloudy and you can't see the sun it doesn't mean that it isn't there , that your sun will never show up again ,but don't worry sun will shine on you again , maybe not now , not tomorrow but it will , give it a time , keep going and never ever give up , i believe you can get though this , it's hard i know and you maybe don't see the light at the end of the tunnel , but you will and when you will , you will run towards it to see the beauty of the life again
This literally hit all for me. Hurts really bad to want to be with people when I actually want to but I just can't for one or several of these reasons. Let alone that I have no one to even be with, I feel like no wants to be with me and time always gets in the way.
After the 5min Mark I just started crying even tho I'm in the train. I never have been so sad as I have been the last 3 Months and I felt almost all of the symptoms described. But I'm in the Train to my best friend's to talk about my feelings and seek for their understanding. So I guess I'm doing the right thing as I'm sitting here
I have social anxiety and depression. I stay in my room to avoid my parents, I’m an embarrassment to them, and how they always have to lie when people ask about me. I go to therapy, and it was working, i was feeling more motivated to clean my room and I cleaned it every day. Yesterday my mom walked in the room and had a talk with me. I can’t say it was screaming but she was mad. She told me what I have is just laziness and I’m just making excuses and that my therapist isn’t even helping. I haven’t changed anything about myself. I cried, and that whole day I had a headache.I wanted to tell her that my therapist has helped me in some ways, being a bit more social, starting to be a bit more organized. More motivated on my goals (RUclips). I can’t tell her this because I just want her to hurry up and stop talking and because I don’t like argument. I once talked about RUclips with her. Her response “You’re just wasting your life on that phone, you don’t even earn any thing from those videos, it’s just a waste of time. Anyone can do interior design, what will you get from it? Nothing, everyone your age has a job or graduated college.” Honesty I started RUclips because i was afraid to get a job and be around people I don’t know. I looked online for online jobs, and RUclips caught my attention. I read about it and how much you earn per ads. I then saw you could earn a plaque. I’ve never won a trophy but when I saw that I knew that if I got it I would make my parents proud. My channel grew fast and when I reached 50k I was so excited I was so close. I showed my parents, all they said “is 50k how much you’re earning?” I laughed and said no, I’m earning less than that. Then they said “show us when you’re earning something, or else it’s just useless, your cousin who is younger than you is going to college and your cousin is a rapper, but you do nothing” That right there broke my heart. I stopped uploading, I was going to delete RUclips. But something kept telling me not to, that I would be someone in life. So now I try to edit when I can and upload. Although for me RUclips is a hobby now, I like it. And I hope I can continue on RUclips. But this time I’m doing it to make myself proud, not them
For me the reason I withdraw was because I didn't want to bring down the mood for others. Just because I'm suffering, doesn't mean they should. And growing up in a family that has many gatherings and by extension surrounded by people who unintentionally caused my depressive mood makes it difficult.
This is about all the help I am able to receive since there is a therapist shortage and I can’t see one for three months. I hope I can survive until then!
It’s like.. I really want my friends to hangout with me but they always say their busy with sports. but I act like it’s okay, it doesn’t effect me but yet it does it’s the same excuse from them every time! and it’s like when I do my hobbies it takes the energy out of me, but yet some of those hobbies will be my career. and when I went to the Apple festival in Ellijay there was a lot of people I instantly wanted to go back to the car. I stopped enjoying stuff like that but yet I use to.
thanks for another great vid. for me the biggest obstacle of opening up is that i'm afraid ppl will never talk to me ever again once i tell them what i struggle with.
I'm always exhausted and don't want to leave my bed at all . For this past few weeks I'm having trouble falling sleep . Even if I sleep on time , I tend to wake up in the middle of the nights . I used to hang out with people but now everything irritates me . I don't want to talk with anybody but again i want somebody to listen to my talk for hours . But again I don't feel like sharing anything with anyone . I'm not that emotional person but currently everything hurts and I feel pain inside me . I've a bf and when I told him about my problems he just told me that you have everything in your life , you are with your family , there is no need to feel sad or lonely. This shit hurt even more . I know I'm surrounded with the people I love but still I feel like there is something hollow inside me . I don't call or text my friends any more but when they call I feel excited and talk with them but as soon as I cut the phone , I again feel that hollowness . I don't know if i need help or I'm just over reacting . At this point of time , I wish I could get someone who would listen to me and my problems without judging me . Can anyone relate this with me?
if someone didn't tell u already u worth it,ily even if u don't know me and i genuinely appreciate u and u are doing amazing.every little thing will be alright so keep going and remember that It is scientifically proved that if u are really bad right now u will be good maybe soon too i m here for u i know what u are going trough but pls ilysm feel free to talk to me,i am not telling u to underestimate ur things,go to a doctor or stuff is not something that is bad or like... U ARE BEAUTIFUL AND I WANNA SCREAM AT THE WORLD THIS BC IT'S WORTH IT AND U ARE WORTH IT AT LEAST FOR THIS STRANGER THAT LITERALLY LOVES YOU SO MUCH,when you want to die you have to strive to live as much as you you want to to die,trust GOD.GOD Bless us.Amen
October has been really hard for me, since the month started I feel like I’m losing all my friends, idk if it’s actually true or not, but i feel like it.
I was never diagnosed with depression, I couldn't bring myself to talk with my parents to get some help because I thought they would think that I would be joking with serious matters since I always showed a smile to everyone around me, but I'm pretty sure I might have been depressed at that time and I'm glad I was able to pull myself out of that awful time of my life
It can quite seriously alter how your brain functions, especially with things like cognitive function, processing, comprehension... ect ect. I think some people who may not understand depression as a condition might 'forget' that the brain is actually a fully physical organ inside of our body, like all other parts of our body.
I have to be feeling really good/energetic to be able to involve myself with all the superficial/shallow social nonsense that makes up our society today. When I am depressed, I don’t have the energy to accommodate all of that fake/boring crap.
i have not been out for a social life for 27 years ..i only go out for shopping or work , now i took early retirement from work , simply because after 40 years of working , shifts etc etc ..my life was nothing but work , i have no proper friends ,everyone who i ever came into contact with , work was married , old friends from 30 years ago all had families ,i remember being alone in infant School , and junior school , and secondary school , i felt like all women/girls hated me so would never mix with them ,i stood alone in the playground , alone in youth clubs ,alone in nightclubs , at 20 years of age ..i felt suicidal ,drinking ,walking home from pubs drunk , even crying with depression at 2 am in the morning ,all the people i knew were courting women ..im 59 now , been single all of my life ,i never go out
I hope you doing better and finding a way... My story is the same, I'm 46 now, don't even feel capable of working anymore... From UK but now totally socially isolated in Asia with a dwindling bank balance and no idea what to do.. Have severe depression, anxiety, stress and I suspect personality disorders undiagnosed.. I try now to quit drinking myself to sleep with diazepam and start Prozac 19 days ago.. Zero improvement as of yet.. Every day feels like a year. I think I'm a hopeless case... *BARRY*
I hide because I require nobody to ask me what is wrong with me. The last thing I want is to have strangers around me when I am depressed. Even if I were not depressed, why would I want to be around a bunch of strangers? The number one reason people become depressed is because of other people. Thus, I just maintain a very well defined distance from humans.
A bit unrelated but idk why i just got whole mental breakdown week because of some small things. Like about 2 3 weeks ago when i feel tired of living and lost interested in everything i used to love i found out a romance comic. That time i just want to find some new things to gain interest back and yet that romance comic was my savior, it literally help me feel better with living and gain interest in that comic. I was love it too much that i just try to find the author's twitter account to dig about that comic. The moment I noticed the author's text on twitter saying that the series will end soon, i was so shocked and horrifying that i got mental breakdown for whole week. Is there a problem with my mental health? I never went to hospital to check about my mental health before because if i talk this to my mom she would yell at me that I'm overdramatic and waste of money
Another great video. As usual offering my suggestion. To feel better reduce negative thoughts with a simple practice. Your breath is directly related to your mind [brain] causing negative thoughts-anxiety. For a better life sit on a chair, back straight, eyes closed and observe the sensations of your incoming--outgoing breath at the entrance of the nostrils for around 5-10-15 minutes or more. Don’t fight your thoughts. Slowly the mind will relax. No deep breathing needed. Day or night, when taking a walk, when reading, on the phone, before sleep etc sit or lie down and observe your breath. Like me, make this a lifetime daily habit to have a good life. Avoid constipation as it affects the mind instantly. Best wishes Shyaaam Sir. -Counsellor.
I relate to all of these. I've known I was clinically depressed since I was 15 years old, though I never connected the scheduling difficulties with it. It's true, though--I struggle to find time for anything because there's so much on my plate already and I lack motivation, energy, or both.
When you are severely depressed you see yourself and everyone through a negative lens. You regard yourself as unworthy of friendships and relationships and you regard even kind people as selfish. To save yourself the disappointment you withdraw from others. Whether reality or fantasy, forgiveness of ourselves and others is necessary for people who self isolate to heal.
@Brynn Brooklynn hey, I understand you very well. I would also say that I relate to most of what you're going through. The thing is, even though the description of what we're going through is the same, not everything is actually the same. It gets annoying so much that I disgust myself. Nowadays, I'm so fed up that I've developed a habit of stress eating. Gained some weight in the past two months. I feel I'm becoming more selfish and I hate it because that's not the type of person I am. I'm already seeing a therapist and honestly, nothing is changing. I've been lying to the psychiatrist just because the meds prescribed make me sleep. Honestly, I don't care anymore and it's a problem that I'm changing to a more negative attitude. Spending money over stuffs I don't really need.I feel like shit everyday, just locked up in my room that's a mess. Sigh...it's getting outta hand. I dunno what to do. Everything feels so fake. I've lost touch and I feel numb. I feel nothing is genuine.
I wanna send one of tour videos to my mom in hopes she’ll take me to a professional, but im worried she’ll just say im lazy or some crap and that im making excuses 😅
No friends, strong social anxiety lead to a fear of people, and not being able to see a specialist. I'm in that case. I'm stuck. I left all the people who were counting on me behind bc i was too anxious to speak to them about why they hated me. Alone, unable to make new friends because I know I'm gonna abandon them, no feelings, just bored and thinking of a cool way to end my life.
My grandma always says that i can tell her anything but when i do tell her stuff she says i should ‘stop exaggerating’ or stop crying about it because it’s not that upsetting. Of course its not, not to her. She doesnt understand what im going through and she doesnt make an effort to understand. When i cry or have panic attacks she automatically assumes im just being moody and grounds me or says that im only crying because i cant ‘get my own way’ or i’m lazy and don’t want to help her with anything while my sister helps with everything and is her perfect angel. Im sick of everything
i go through these depressive episodes and isolation periods a couple times each month and they can last from days to weeks at a time. the worst part is the dread of coming back to the people i’ve ignored during these times and trying to make up some dumb excuse as to why i’ve been ignoring their messages when in reality, i just didn’t have enough energy in me to keep a conversation going with any of them. it’s usually always the same old excuse and i’m wondering if any of them have noticed this pattern and if they have, i’m wondering if they could just be understanding of my situation.
I don't want to just take pills, either. I don't want to be dull and uncreative. Therapy has been complex... the last 2 therapists I tried seemed uninterested in actually helping me and kept trying to medicate or make me write my feelings down which I have tried and found that alone is not enough.
I may share my situation in this topic here, because... I just can't stand it. I've never spend so much time socializing, but seeing how people have fun on friday nights with their friends while I'm studying because I don't have anything to do with anybody makes me feel so gelous. I'm tired of fighting over and over again trying to invite people to do something fun and being indirectly rejected, never being invited again by anybody. I get on well with almost everybody, I consider myself a nice guy to stay with, people look confortable around me, but nobody, even my 'friends' (as they all have their own groups) seem to remember me, I feel like a ghost, lonely around people. People might think that my perfect marks, lifestyle and attitude makes me a happy person, but it is not true at all. It's heartbreaking wanting to 'have fun' and just don't knowing how to do it, I'm in a point were I can't really disconnect, I'm tired of living, my future always seems darker than my past, and I feel that I've lost all my hopes for improvement... I don't have anyobody who barely shares my interests, I don't talk with anybody about the things that I do, as they aren't interested at all. It's been more than a year that I'm suffering from a pain that is draining me out, it's really killing me, very bad ideas have been wandering around my head since then, and I'm exhausted, I'm extremely exhausted. My daydream of just enjoying a great time with people seems impossible to achieve, as I've been fighting for it for a long time, and I lost all my hopes. I'm surviving, my mind has been burned out and is getting me crazy, I have very strange reactions and sometimes I can't even think clearly for hours, it's like my head is broken. It really feels like an illness. On top of that, my deep inferiority complex does not help either. I'm that sad that I can't even cry, but when I do, I can't stop. I'm scared of feeling euphoric or hopeful, as in my experience it has always finished in big dissapointments... I actually feel like I have damaged myself that much that I won't never recover completely from it... Thanks if you have read it all, I may have wandered too much but I just had to say it, really apreciate it :´)
What's your comfort food? Comment below and let's see how similar we are!
Ice cream😊
Maggii(instant noodles)
Burger,ice cream,water(not food but-)
Ye-
Carrots and candy
ice cream
My reason for withdrawing.. I dont have the energy to pretend I'm happy. I dont want friends to feel uncomfortable with my sadness so its better to pull away.
Well said. Pretending to be upbeat and optimistic is Exhausting, and I don't want to bring everyone else down. I hope your sadness lifts soon. Cheers
Same.
Your comment is spot on! I’m so glad I’m not alone on this :) as much as I would love to talk to my friends and keep up this happy go lucky facade, I don’t want them to feel uncomfortable with my Debbie Downer vibe either meanwhile everyone else is having a good time. I feel like an attention seeker that way and because my depression has worsened, it went from talking to them everyday to once every year or two. I feel bad but I feel like it’s better that way instead of bombarding them with my struggles, y’know?
Whatever it is that is making you depressed, I hope you find and the energy you once had before and I wish you all the best! 🌹 you got this!💕
I relate so much
Same! I have been an actor my entire life! 😱
It is quite scary to hear depression is common. I really hope nobody will ever feel the pain I had, not even my worse enemy
Ikr! I've been through a depression, still not completely recovered, and it was the absolute worst time of my life. It makes me sad to think that it's getting more and more common. As you said, I wouldn't want even some one I hate to go through this.
@@ruruama3666
Same. It's because we have empathy. Even though our depression can be so debilitating, we wouldn't want to see anyone else, go through anything that we're going through. Unfortunately i really don't know when i'm going to feel better. All i seem to do is isolate myself. I got rid of all the toxic people from my life. I try to reach out, but it's very hard, especially when u have been hurt so freak'n much, that it's difficult to trust anyone any more..!!
@@spiritangel1367 I get you, I really just have 2 friends, and I'm fortunate to have them. I've been betrayed many times, and so it's hard for me to meet people, and even more to really feel a connexion. But you'll find good people in your life eventually, I'm sure 😊🙏
Well I would wish it on other people because I hate everyone and I only want to watch the world burn.
Most depressions are short episodes luckily, a few months.
The people who sees depression as nothing but a joke really needs to watch this video.
if someone didn't tell u already u worth it,ily even if u don't know me and i genuinely appreciate u and u are doing amazing.every little thing will be alright so keep going and remember that It is scientifically proved that if u are really bad right now u will be good maybe soon too i m here for u i know what u are going trough but pls ilysm feel free to talk to me,i am not telling u to underestimate ur things,go to a doctor or stuff is not something that is bad or like... U ARE BEAUTIFUL AND I WANNA SCREAM AT THE WORLD THIS BC IT'S WORTH IT AND U ARE WORTH IT AT LEAST FOR THIS STRANGER THAT LITERALLY LOVES YOU SO MUCH,when you want to die you have to strive to live as much as you you want to to die,trust GOD.GOD Bless us.Amen
Yah right
@@_ilovekpop_thanku5125 😢 aww
@@_ilovekpop_thanku5125 omg that's so amazing this may not be directed towards me but that's really positive! wish i had you as a friend. most of my friends don't talk to me as much. :')
@@_ilovekpop_thanku5125 Thanks for spreading positivity 😊 it made me feel better
Why you socially withdraw when depressed:
1. You feel unworthy
2. You lack energy
3. You struggle to find time
4. Struggle from social anhedonia
5. You have a history of social anxiety
Thank you so much! I watched the entire video but I don't speak fluent English so your comment helped me understand the summary
@@thaiavssts My pleasure. :-)
5/5
It's better to Watch The Whole Video to Feel more and Understand More 🙂
I avoid people because happy people just make me feel sadder and I judge myself more harshly.
i feel you...
Yeah they don't even know how we feel l hate being around happy people lt's like they make us feel worse and more depressed.
i was on the same boat when i just got into college. i'm still battling this. after pandemic it feels somewhat better, i tried not to care about those "happy looking people". who knows if everyone is actually depressed and judgmental when not around others?
it is hard to reach out to others when i dont feel comfortable even being in the same room as someone. i dont even feel comfortable near family members its just a continus feeling of anxiety. i cant even look at them at times but i hate feeling rude so its a losing battle against myself
i hear you. i relate to you.. maybe on a smaller scale but i relate to you and i hear you. it’s okay. it’ll all be okay, marc.
@@jamiepo777 thank you for the kindness. i feel emotionally damaged most of the time so this makes me feel a sense of comfort.
recently I get so anxious even when I’m doing work and my mum is in the same room doing something else
Hey :) yeah i also kinda struggle with reaching out talking about this stuff can feel sooo hard at times but for me not actually talking but writing like letters or small things i write down(and "accidentally" leave somewhere(gosh it sounda silly^^)) or something kinda helped i mean its still really hard but it was a little easier and got me to open up a little more i think. It feels kinda silly and ikinda feel like it would be more nice in person but like its a beginning and eho cares if its silly or something. So well idk maybe this might help. Or if its still to hard for now thats also alright. It can be hard. But you can do it :). You already managed to talk a little about it here yay :).
I'm so glad that I'm not alone I always thought I was the only one who felt this way😞
1. you feel unworthy 1:04
2. you lack energy 1:54
3. not enough time 2:49
4. social anhedonia 3:28
5. social anxiety 4:19
I hope I could help! :)
You're a fast boii
Thank yoi
OMG A TIME TRAVELLER HIII
Tysm 💜🥺
how are you so early..
For some people seeing this comment: for those who go through depressive times. You'll be lucky one day. So, don't give up, there's always a solution to a problem. 😊
There ain't not when you have to live in the same house full of toxic people
@@keiron.4612 hope u get out of there asap or when you can accommodate for urself. ❤
Depression and "depressive times" like you call it are not the same. Some people will fortunately never have depression during their entire life, some will. As someone who had depression, this suffering is not something that anyone can relate to...
@@shakurwonders5216 thank you I don't plan to be here forever your amazing 💓
@@agatheissmol thanks. Well said
Psych2Go understands me better than my own family.
Anyone else feels the same way?
Yes
Yes,same thing
same
You can't understand depression unless you've been through it. Just remember you are not alone ❤
Even more than myself sometimes
I was just thinking about it. I isolate myself when I have my phases. The fatigue, that weird fatigue is truly draining. I feel there's no energy. Another thing is that, I get mad at people for no reason and yell at them. I don't wanna hurt them and that's why I talk the least. But the phases last for approx. 3-4 days at a strech and in a month, 2-3 times. The rest of the month is spent with pms and period cramps. I'm fed up. It's just getting worse day by day.
Is it my lack of self-discipline? I don't trust therapists. I don't know. It's just getting worse.
Its ok. I feel you.
I find this very relatable, especially the part about having trouble trusting therapists. I wish you the best, and hope you have a long and fulfilling life
Hey y'all...to all of my fellow friends with depression...it's ok not to feel ok...it's ok to break down, to cry in public, to feel like it's out of control.... remember to take a breath, hold on to something soft, like a pillow...and remember that God loves you more than you could ever imagine...lots of love❤️❤️❤️
HOW ARE YOU HERE IF THE VIDEO WAS POSTED 24 SECONDS AGO?!
Thank u for the kind words
HOW THERE SO MANY TIME TRAVELELRS
@@monroerosant4619 time traveling is a real ding
Why did they invite? They just felt bad and decided to invite me. Are they really my friends do they like me or the homework I provide, if it stopped would they talk to me , why am I so ugly, why must I be not wanted , don't talk no one cares. These circle my mind everyday and I can't just can't stop them
To the person reading this: Even though I don't know you, I wish you the best of what life has to offer 💝
thanks you too
Thank you... I wish you the same and much more...
Thanks for saying that. I'm cynical but I have my own experience. ✊🏿💔📉❤
Thanks kind stranger, same to you
same to you love 💕🌸
I've been struggling with depression for almost a year, slowly getting better, I find myself going to bed early, it's like my escape from the cruel world. I can sleep 12 hours or 7 hours and still for so damn tired. When I can't sleep I talk to God and makes me feel better and rested then I end up falling asleep. The good Lord is helping me greatly 🙏
I have dealt with depression most of my life. There are days when my brain chemistry tells me it would be better not to be alive, but for anyone who feels this way, please listen to this: THAT IS A LIE! Eat a healthy but satisfying meal, go for a walk, take a nap, etc. I hope that this helps at least one person.
The first point isn't always far from the truth. Sure it's true that when you're depressed you hate yourself and have negative self-esteem, and assume that others might feel like that towards you too... but when people state their discontent around you or express those negative feelings towards you, KNOWING how you feel, they're no longer assumptions... you start noticing other people who always felt the same way but didn't say anything, and it hits even harder.
The other points are accurate tho, feeling tired the whole day and every day makes it harder to do stuff, since it takes away all motivation and makes it feel like you never have enough time to do anything, leading to take way longer than it should to finish homework or any other activity, leading to failing classes and such things. And also after spending years with severe anxiety and depression, you can't even talk with people, let alone be somewhere near a group... you suddenly start stuttering and sweating, feeling a rise in temperature, can't look in the eyes, and barely able to give a clear answer... this combined with not feeling any interest in socializing due to social anhedonia makes it even more difficult.
All I said is from personal experience btw.
I have the exact same problems, I've suffered from major depression for about 8 years now. I want to see a therapist but I don't want to dump all my problems on them.
@@Tyler-te4cr It's better that you look for a good theraphist when you have a chance, the longer you stay in a completely depressed state without seeking any help, the harder it gets to get out of it... I know that for sure since I've been dealing with severe depression and anxiety for over 15 years by now.
Also, you don't need to worry about dumping your problems into a theraphist. Their job is centered in helping people who are dealing with these issues, and the years they spent studying about this prepares them for it... besides they also know of ways to clear their minds after treating multiple patients, so it doesn't take a heavy toll on their conscience, otherwise they wouldn't be working in this field.
That's litteraly true for me....
I love how the flower was the main character today.
But hate how parents label their kid's fatigue as laziness.
My guardians do that to me and it makes me feel a thousand times worse. It makes me wish I was dead, or never born at all.
@@thatonerosebud2530 You are not alone ❣️
This explains a lot.
Literally said dont use this for self diagnosis
@@JustMotamed lmao your assumption is inaccurate might wanna delete that. If you take it seriously as to comment that, as if I have not watched the video at all and bro fr all the videos start out that way!
*Why Do We Socially Withdraw Depressed?*
1:04 1. You feel unworthy
1:54 2. You lack energy
2:49 3. Not enough time
3:28 4. Social anhedonia
4:19 5. Social anxiety
Perfect timing, I haven’t talked to anyone in months, feel like I’m zapping the energy away from everyone
I feel that way too.
same here i feel like im kinda mute :/
I haven't talked to anyone in 12 years. I was never meant to be around other people.
Having gone through two depressive episodes, withdrawing or as I like to call it, "detaching" from the world around me is a form of going into a sort of "safe mode" - physically, mentally and emotionally.
Although I am an introvert - more like a "Lone Wolf" kind of person, having to deal with the pressures, stressful events, frustrations, burnout (the list goes on) on my own can be very taxing on my overall wellbeing.
I find it difficult to share with other people, unless it is my family, my wife, my friends or most recently, a licenced professional.
But anyway, I appreciate this channel for making mental health awareness more accessible to the public.
To anyone who is going through similar events as I do, know this: You are not alone, my friend...
Keep safe, everyone...
This saddens me, because I have resonated with this all my life. I just shutdown everyone, including those that mean well...it comes natural to me.
It was like holding a mirror up to myself - I recognised a lot of it! By the way, I got steered towards Fabulous by you, which is beginning to really good changes for me. Early days, but thank you so much.
I am so glad to find this channel. A few months ago, I was diagnosed with bipolar disorder and most recently, burnout. I haven't been mentally stable for years but was only able to afford therapy and medication this year.
Your videos help me a lot in understanding my condition and makes me feel less alone at times. Thank you so much for your awesome and super useful content. 💕
And to whoever is reading is, I hope you are well. And if you aren't, it's okay not to be okay. It will all get better. We are not alone in this. 💕
It's nice to know that I'm understood, because I didn't know what was happening to me a few month ago. I became distant to people I love and care about, because I thought I was unworthy and that they would be happier without me. Big mistake. I mean, I didn't talk to them about this or about anything, so they thought I didn't care for them, so I scarred these relationships. But I wasn't okay and was scared to ask for help. I was in pain of knowing I have hurt these people. I never wanted this to happen, and when I told them about that they thought I was joking. I just told them the truth... I'm beginning to feel this way again, but now I'll be prepared and won't let these feeling get me down like they did before.
Those people who don't understand you and don't respect your time don't deserve your friendship
@Phoenix 𝙾𝚙𝚎𝚗 𝙼𝚢 PROFILE Reduce social media and negative news. Take short walks. If needed visit a psychologist. Take a decision to enjoy life. To feel better reduce negative thoughts with a simple practice. Your breath is directly related to your mind [brain] causing negative thoughts-anxiety. For a better life sit on a chair, back straight, eyes closed and observe the sensations of your incoming--outgoing breath at the entrance of the nostrils for around 5-10-15 minutes or more. Don’t fight your thoughts. Slowly the mind will relax. No deep breathing needed. Day or night, when taking a walk, when reading, on the phone, before sleep etc sit or lie down and observe your breath. Like me, make this a lifetime daily habit to have a good life. Avoid constipation as it affects the mind instantly. Best wishes Shyaaam Sir. -Counsellor.
Because inauthentic people add to depression, anxiety, stress, and trauma.
That is not a beneficial focus, even when true.
@@m2pozad unfortunately you can only judge people based on their words, actions, and behaviors.
people of severely compromised integrity can’t fake it like they do everything else in their life.
When you have trust issues you’re more sensitive to certain behaviors that are red flags. As soon as you see that red flag, ptsd sets in. Even when it’s not a major thing.
@@SuperDR2K Ah! You are talking about being inauthentic adding to one's own depression. So true. Authenticity goes to self-esteem, which goes to self-worth, which when low, factors into anxiety, which can lead to depression. As I understand it.
I thought 'blaming the world' was being suggested.
@@SuperDR2K this is my personal issues with my family, apparently my Sister are Narc, their constant toxic behaviour makes my body go to flight or flight modes every time i engaging with her, childhood trauma playing a big part in my life....
I self isolated for years then I tried going out and doing things I love …. then I went back to being self isolated it’s a viscus cycle
So many of us have been there.
Many of us are still there.
I wish to believe that we are here on this channel for each other.
Peace
My friends used to invite me to outings, etc. just to bully me, like I'm the clown of the group or their source of amusement.. I don't think that will ever go away, now I am afraid to be friends with anyone, just to avoid bullying and criticism. I am the type that hates to make people hate me, thinking I am making fun of them or something, so I am always anxious when talking to people, or so I think of myself.
If I feel socially withdrawn it is true that I got a lot on my mind to take care of.
I think the key is being a good listener to talk about your heartfelt emotions from time to time.
That way the beginning depression can have no further impact on you because you name your own shortcomings.
You understand what you feel and try to explain to yourself why all these thoughts keep nagging on your brain.
You will learn to openly express and get a closer look at the cause of your depression.
Once you figured that out you will understand your emotional well being.
I remember myself from time to time thoughts are my feelings but my feelings aren't the way I should look.
I learned that I could look at my life from different perspectives.
Even so, could still go berserk but that is a switch inside my own head.
A lot of people who I spoke with over the years all kept different perspectives of life.
It learned me to see things from all different outcomes that don't mean I don't have weaknesses.
But I will learn to give that thought of me impact or be less mellow about it.
However, sometimes will be more understandable but that depends on the way you see me too.
If there is no reflection in what I said or have done then how can I be sure I can trust you?
See it as a sort of self-defence to let nobody mingle with your emotions as well.
After all, we are here to weapon ourselves against depression not placing blames just pure understanding.
2:53 I struggle with depression and I have been diagnosed and I really relate to this. I’m always telling people I don’t have time but in reality I do have time I just can’t always manage it well due to my depression.
Samels, No excuses. Reduce social media and negative news. If needed visit a psychologist. Take a decision to enjoy life. To feel better reduce negative thoughts with a simple practice. Your breath is directly related to your mind [brain] causing negative thoughts-anxiety. For a better life sit on a chair, back straight, eyes closed and observe the sensations of your incoming--outgoing breath at the entrance of the nostrils for around 5-10-15 minutes or more. Don’t fight your thoughts. Slowly the mind will relax. No deep breathing needed. Day or night, when taking a walk, when reading, on the phone, before sleep etc sit or lie down and observe your breath. Like me, make this a lifetime daily habit to have a good life. Avoid constipation as it affects the mind instantly. Best wishes Shyaaam Sir. -Counsellor.
@@shyaaammeneen63 I literally do all of this so stop making assumptions and shut up.
@@fisamels228 Why such a rude answer? I have already received several positive replies. Today I am enjoying life because I listened to advice 20 years back and put it into practice. If needed combine medication with meditation under a psychologist's guidance. Be determined to enjoy life. Since many years I have made it a habit to observe my breath sensations even during my normal activities and I am feeling relaxed and healthy. No deep breathing or counting needed. Never do meditation with expectations. Meditation happens to you from within if done sincerely. Read my msg and do the practice daily to develop your mental muscles during these tough times. Best wishes. Shyaaam Sir-Senior counsellor.
I know how this goes as well
I have a friend who has had depression for over 20 years. She is employed and lives about 20 miles away. I have not seen her since before the pandemic. I had plans to celebrate her birthday in the spring, but she stopped responding to texts and phone calls since then. The social withdrawal combined with anxiety about the pandemic has protracted the ability to meet and talk.
I’m just so freaking tired of this empty feeling that I can’t get rid of. I can’t take it anymore. I can’t even remember the last time I was able to feel any emotions other than guilt and anxiety. I hate living because every time something that would usually fill me with joy now fills me with nothing and life is just nothing. I’m so empty. I just can’t find a reason of why it’s worth it. Can anyone relate?
Thank you but I don’t think it’ll matter I’ve been like this for a while.
to it's day i've understand that opening to people by letting them talk and also talking about my self and past help me a ton to express what i feel and make me good day by day.
I was mentally exhausted and this video just popped on my timeline.. Was watching it very seriously until a chimmy wall watch suddenly came out.. I got some energy now😌💜
This is very relatable especially the first one. I often felt like people are inviting me just to add more people in something. I used to feel I'm not really wanted and doubted their sincerity but I know I was wrong for thinking that way.
I withdrawal so not to dump and unload on people who didn’t calls what I’m going through. I cannot pretend that I’m not going through a major life change I’m trying to process everything myself. So I stay quiet and isolate , so not to make everyone else around me miserable,and then I get attacked because I stay quiet and isolate.
What's one thing you are grateful for this week?
How is it possible, that there are comments from 4 or 5 months ago?
My family
Everything
That I was able to play with dogs at a nearby by dog park
Free time
The little drawings you guys have with your videos always make me so happy ^w^
I don't know why but I suddenly cried watching this. I've been depressed for a few years now and I feel really shitty. I am unemployed for almost a year, single and have very low self-esteem. I wanted to go see a therapist before but was too afraid. Now I really can't go since I'm fucking broke. I'm basically just a freeloading empty flesh.
Me who just thought about that I don’t even want to meet anyone anymore(not even my crush) because I’m just too exhausted: *surprised pikachu face*
My family is mostly the type where they are "there for me" but they just seem to only use for their own personal needs and I act as a servant around them.
YES, great video!! Sometimes even just going out to a coffee shop to avoid being alone can be an important first step
The drawings on this ARE SO GOOD!!!
I am actually struggling with these signs since august. I had a major event. Now I don't know what to do now. I feel so helpless and trapped.
Can't help you sorry bro... I'm replying so I can know the answer from the knowledgeable folk here
Have you tried contacting a therapist of any kind? They could help you out, if you have I dont know anything to do to help, hope things get better for you mate
@@death3073 Thanks, but my parents would think I am too crazy. I think I can heal from these major events. 😄
Bro dont feel so upset... These feelings are temporory. Dont give up...this too shall pass...after this good days are waitting for you...dont lose hope💜💜
@@raayla__ Thanks. That was splendid. Thanks for the kind advice.
I’m really grateful mental health is widely talked about and is better accepted now adays. I’ve suffered with depression and other mental health issues stemming from a series of head injuries I had as a child. I shut down my business at the beginning of Covid and literally haven’t gotten out of bed since. I have doctors, therapists, ketamine infusions… I’m just broken. I’m grateful for my RUclips escape. Btw- this video is on point- time management, being overwhelmed, isolating, incredible guilt, people-hating, zero focus, and most of all NO ENERGY- that’s my life in a nutshell.
heyoooo hope you guys are having a good day today ^^
Mhm...How's the day going?
Hello time travellers
"Self isolation" so much of socialising is a two way street you can't socialise by yourself. It is also up to others to be inclusive. When you are struggling and your efforts to connect are ignored or mocked it reinforces to not try.
I lost friends during depression and find it now hard to make new ones.
I withdraw because I've already decided that I want out, and I don't want anybody to worry about me, or feel like they could've done anything to stop me.
I really relate to this video but every time I open up no one understands me and the pain that I feel every single day. Thank you for this video...at least I'm now able to know the reason for why I do a lot of these things
Every single point perfectly described me :( but these days I try to congratulate myself on small wins like I went out of my room for a small event even if it was only for a bit. I always blame myself for being lonely because it’s my own fault for not being friendly enough or social enough. I just find it draining to maintain conversation with people I have no interest in anyways or feel uneasy around and would prefer a deeper relationship but that takes time and most people aren’t willing to wait for you if you don’t speak often. Ofc it’s not their fault but it just makes finding real friends harder
Either I feeling Depressed or I feel like I am not here or just straight up feel numb with the occasional exception
It's hard to talk to others because when I do I feel like I put pressure on them. And it's like I'm a burden just by existing. But my parents say I have no problems, I'm just a brat. And maybe I am. But I don't know.
About 4 years ago I told my sister that earlier that year I had considered suicide as my only way out, had a plan and every thing! She said, "If you had been serious about it, you would have done it." Wow, just wow! 😱
In my case, i‘m afraid that someone would hurt me and this would make my depression worse… that it would be just another experience of failure and i would not be able to get out of bed again the next day… i become extremely careful with who i meet or talk to when i‘m depressed.
Anxiety gets looked over a lot by people when they try to look into themselves so don't think you can cure yourself. I've been there
Emotions are like clouds they will pass, when it's cloudy and you can't see the sun it doesn't mean that it isn't there , that your sun will never show up again ,but don't worry sun will shine on you again , maybe not now , not tomorrow but it will , give it a time , keep going and never ever give up , i believe you can get though this , it's hard i know and you maybe don't see the light at the end of the tunnel , but you will and when you will , you will run towards it to see the beauty of the life again
that's very kind and nice words of you, thank you
@@nttthao i am here to help ,if you feel like you need to talk about something, you can to me if you feel comfortable :)
This literally hit all for me. Hurts really bad to want to be with people when I actually want to but I just can't for one or several of these reasons. Let alone that I have no one to even be with, I feel like no wants to be with me and time always gets in the way.
After the 5min Mark I just started crying even tho I'm in the train. I never have been so sad as I have been the last 3 Months and I felt almost all of the symptoms described. But I'm in the Train to my best friend's to talk about my feelings and seek for their understanding. So I guess I'm doing the right thing as I'm sitting here
Nice
I have social anxiety and depression. I stay in my room to avoid my parents, I’m an embarrassment to them, and how they always have to lie when people ask about me. I go to therapy, and it was working, i was feeling more motivated to clean my room and I cleaned it every day. Yesterday my mom walked in the room and had a talk with me. I can’t say it was screaming but she was mad. She told me what I have is just laziness and I’m just making excuses and that my therapist isn’t even helping. I haven’t changed anything about myself. I cried, and that whole day I had a headache.I wanted to tell her that my therapist has helped me in some ways, being a bit more social, starting to be a bit more organized. More motivated on my goals (RUclips). I can’t tell her this because I just want her to hurry up and stop talking and because I don’t like argument. I once talked about RUclips with her. Her response “You’re just wasting your life on that phone, you don’t even earn any thing from those videos, it’s just a waste of time. Anyone can do interior design, what will you get from it? Nothing, everyone your age has a job or graduated college.” Honesty I started RUclips because i was afraid to get a job and be around people I don’t know. I looked online for online jobs, and RUclips caught my attention. I read about it and how much you earn per ads. I then saw you could earn a plaque. I’ve never won a trophy but when I saw that I knew that if I got it I would make my parents proud. My channel grew fast and when I reached 50k I was so excited I was so close. I showed my parents, all they said “is 50k how much you’re earning?” I laughed and said no, I’m earning less than that. Then they said “show us when you’re earning something, or else it’s just useless, your cousin who is younger than you is going to college and your cousin is a rapper, but you do nothing” That right there broke my heart. I stopped uploading, I was going to delete RUclips. But something kept telling me not to, that I would be someone in life. So now I try to edit when I can and upload. Although for me RUclips is a hobby now, I like it. And I hope I can continue on RUclips. But this time I’m doing it to make myself proud, not them
It’s hard for me to tell sometimes because in general I just like being by myself
For me the reason I withdraw was because I didn't want to bring down the mood for others. Just because I'm suffering, doesn't mean they should. And growing up in a family that has many gatherings and by extension surrounded by people who unintentionally caused my depressive mood makes it difficult.
This is about all the help I am able to receive since there is a therapist shortage and I can’t see one for three months. I hope I can survive until then!
This symptoms were the ones why I searched therapy. Thanks ☺️
Those videos, are like diary entry's, of my life
It’s like.. I really want my friends to hangout with me but they always say their busy with sports. but I act like it’s okay, it doesn’t effect me but yet it does it’s the same excuse from them every time! and it’s like when I do my hobbies it takes the energy out of me, but yet some of those hobbies will be my career. and when I went to the Apple festival in Ellijay there was a lot of people I instantly wanted to go back to the car. I stopped enjoying stuff like that but yet I use to.
i"d rather have an honest enemy then a fake friend who lies to me
thanks for another great vid. for me the biggest obstacle of opening up is that i'm afraid ppl will never talk to me ever again once i tell them what i struggle with.
I'm always exhausted and don't want to leave my bed at all . For this past few weeks I'm having trouble falling sleep . Even if I sleep on time , I tend to wake up in the middle of the nights . I used to hang out with people but now everything irritates me . I don't want to talk with anybody but again i want somebody to listen to my talk for hours . But again I don't feel like sharing anything with anyone . I'm not that emotional person but currently everything hurts and I feel pain inside me . I've a bf and when I told him about my problems he just told me that you have everything in your life , you are with your family , there is no need to feel sad or lonely. This shit hurt even more . I know I'm surrounded with the people I love but still I feel like there is something hollow inside me . I don't call or text my friends any more but when they call I feel excited and talk with them but as soon as I cut the phone , I again feel that hollowness . I don't know if i need help or I'm just over reacting . At this point of time , I wish I could get someone who would listen to me and my problems without judging me . Can anyone relate this with me?
if someone didn't tell u already u worth it,ily even if u don't know me and i genuinely appreciate u and u are doing amazing.every little thing will be alright so keep going and remember that It is scientifically proved that if u are really bad right now u will be good maybe soon too i m here for u i know what u are going trough but pls ilysm feel free to talk to me,i am not telling u to underestimate ur things,go to a doctor or stuff is not something that is bad or like... U ARE BEAUTIFUL AND I WANNA SCREAM AT THE WORLD THIS BC IT'S WORTH IT AND U ARE WORTH IT AT LEAST FOR THIS STRANGER THAT LITERALLY LOVES YOU SO MUCH,when you want to die you have to strive to live as much as you you want to to die,trust GOD.GOD Bless us.Amen
October has been really hard for me, since the month started I feel like I’m losing all my friends, idk if it’s actually true or not, but i feel like it.
I was never diagnosed with depression, I couldn't bring myself to talk with my parents to get some help because I thought they would think that I would be joking with serious matters since I always showed a smile to everyone around me, but I'm pretty sure I might have been depressed at that time and I'm glad I was able to pull myself out of that awful time of my life
It can quite seriously alter how your brain functions, especially with things like cognitive function, processing, comprehension... ect ect. I think some people who may not understand depression as a condition might 'forget' that the brain is actually a fully physical organ inside of our body, like all other parts of our body.
I have to be feeling really good/energetic to be able to involve myself with all the superficial/shallow social nonsense that makes up our society today. When I am depressed, I don’t have the energy to accommodate all of that fake/boring crap.
As time goes on I feel more and more like I am turning into a hermit.
Me to... I'm in terrible place... Complete social isolation in Asia... Don't know what to do.. I hope you find a way forward
*BARRY*
I'm dying inside... depression is real
i have not been out for a social life for 27 years ..i only go out for shopping or work , now i took early retirement from work , simply because after 40 years of working , shifts etc etc ..my life was nothing but work , i have no proper friends ,everyone who i ever came into contact with , work was married , old friends from 30 years ago all had families ,i remember being alone in infant School , and junior school , and secondary school , i felt like all women/girls hated me so would never mix with them ,i stood alone in the playground , alone in youth clubs ,alone in nightclubs , at 20 years of age ..i felt suicidal ,drinking ,walking home from pubs drunk , even crying with depression at 2 am in the morning ,all the people i knew were courting women ..im 59 now , been single all of my life ,i never go out
I hope you doing better and finding a way... My story is the same, I'm 46 now, don't even feel capable of working anymore... From UK but now totally socially isolated in Asia with a dwindling bank balance and no idea what to do.. Have severe depression, anxiety, stress and I suspect personality disorders undiagnosed.. I try now to quit drinking myself to sleep with diazepam and start Prozac 19 days ago.. Zero improvement as of yet.. Every day feels like a year. I think I'm a hopeless case...
*BARRY*
I relate to this. In Greece, retired early. Never felt so low in my life. No hope.
When will this get released, I wonder...
I love your animations!!!😊
I hide because I require nobody to ask me what is wrong with me. The last thing I want is to have strangers around me when I am depressed. Even if I were not depressed, why would I want to be around a bunch of strangers? The number one reason people become depressed is because of other people. Thus, I just maintain a very well defined distance from humans.
A bit unrelated but idk why i just got whole mental breakdown week because of some small things. Like about 2 3 weeks ago when i feel tired of living and lost interested in everything i used to love i found out a romance comic. That time i just want to find some new things to gain interest back and yet that romance comic was my savior, it literally help me feel better with living and gain interest in that comic. I was love it too much that i just try to find the author's twitter account to dig about that comic. The moment I noticed the author's text on twitter saying that the series will end soon, i was so shocked and horrifying that i got mental breakdown for whole week. Is there a problem with my mental health? I never went to hospital to check about my mental health before because if i talk this to my mom she would yell at me that I'm overdramatic and waste of money
Seek ur mom some help. No parent should call their kids that...
I detest myself entirely, for I am bereft of logical intelligence.
Without high intelligence, I am absolutely worthless...
Another great video. As usual offering my suggestion. To feel better reduce negative thoughts with a simple practice. Your breath is directly related to your mind [brain] causing negative thoughts-anxiety. For a better life sit on a chair, back straight, eyes closed and observe the sensations of your incoming--outgoing breath at the entrance of the nostrils for around 5-10-15 minutes or more. Don’t fight your thoughts. Slowly the mind will relax. No deep breathing needed. Day or night, when taking a walk, when reading, on the phone, before sleep etc sit or lie down and observe your breath. Like me, make this a lifetime daily habit to have a good life. Avoid constipation as it affects the mind instantly. Best wishes Shyaaam Sir. -Counsellor.
Sorry to those suffering depression 😔💖
This is what I wish people around me understood
This is so relatable. I withdrew from someone I really like this morning and am already regretting it...
That's okay. I think it is best to be honest with that person about how you are feeling, that way they can understand and won't feel hurt. 😊
I relate to all of these. I've known I was clinically depressed since I was 15 years old, though I never connected the scheduling difficulties with it. It's true, though--I struggle to find time for anything because there's so much on my plate already and I lack motivation, energy, or both.
When you are severely depressed you see yourself and everyone through a negative lens. You regard yourself as unworthy of friendships and relationships and you regard even kind people as selfish. To save yourself the disappointment you withdraw from others. Whether reality or fantasy, forgiveness of ourselves and others is necessary for people who self isolate to heal.
Depression makes me wanna be alone and be held together with warm hugs from my crush at the same time
@Brynn Brooklynn hey, I understand you very well. I would also say that I relate to most of what you're going through. The thing is, even though the description of what we're going through is the same, not everything is actually the same. It gets annoying so much that I disgust myself. Nowadays, I'm so fed up that I've developed a habit of stress eating. Gained some weight in the past two months. I feel I'm becoming more selfish and I hate it because that's not the type of person I am. I'm already seeing a therapist and honestly, nothing is changing. I've been lying to the psychiatrist just because the meds prescribed make me sleep. Honestly, I don't care anymore and it's a problem that I'm changing to a more negative attitude. Spending money over stuffs I don't really need.I feel like shit everyday, just locked up in my room that's a mess. Sigh...it's getting outta hand. I dunno what to do. Everything feels so fake. I've lost touch and I feel numb. I feel nothing is genuine.
I wanna send one of tour videos to my mom in hopes she’ll take me to a professional, but im worried she’ll just say im lazy or some crap and that im making excuses 😅
I have both depression and social anxiety due to past traumas and I really hate living with it. People just don't understand.
Yes.
@Phoenix 𝙾𝚙𝚎𝚗 𝙼𝚢 PROFILE I can relate to that.
Yeah I know how this goes
No friends, strong social anxiety lead to a fear of people, and not being able to see a specialist. I'm in that case. I'm stuck. I left all the people who were counting on me behind bc i was too anxious to speak to them about why they hated me. Alone, unable to make new friends because I know I'm gonna abandon them, no feelings, just bored and thinking of a cool way to end my life.
This describes me exactly……unfortunately.
My grandma always says that i can tell her anything but when i do tell her stuff she says i should ‘stop exaggerating’ or stop crying about it because it’s not that upsetting. Of course its not, not to her. She doesnt understand what im going through and she doesnt make an effort to understand. When i cry or have panic attacks she automatically assumes im just being moody and grounds me or says that im only crying because i cant ‘get my own way’ or i’m lazy and don’t want to help her with anything while my sister helps with everything and is her perfect angel. Im sick of everything
i go through these depressive episodes and isolation periods a couple times each month and they can last from days to weeks at a time. the worst part is the dread of coming back to the people i’ve ignored during these times and trying to make up some dumb excuse as to why i’ve been ignoring their messages when in reality, i just didn’t have enough energy in me to keep a conversation going with any of them. it’s usually always the same old excuse and i’m wondering if any of them have noticed this pattern and if they have, i’m wondering if they could just be understanding of my situation.
I'm the same but this latest period is two years long... I think there is no way out for me now. Or rather only one way
*BARRY*
Because videos like this make it seem like being socially withdrawn = depression
I don't want to just take pills, either. I don't want to be dull and uncreative. Therapy has been complex... the last 2 therapists I tried seemed uninterested in actually helping me and kept trying to medicate or make me write my feelings down which I have tried and found that alone is not enough.
Is it getting to the point where we should all assume everyone is depressable? That would be depressing!
I may share my situation in this topic here, because... I just can't stand it. I've never spend so much time socializing, but seeing how people have fun on friday nights with their friends while I'm studying because I don't have anything to do with anybody makes me feel so gelous. I'm tired of fighting over and over again trying to invite people to do something fun and being indirectly rejected, never being invited again by anybody. I get on well with almost everybody, I consider myself a nice guy to stay with, people look confortable around me, but nobody, even my 'friends' (as they all have their own groups) seem to remember me, I feel like a ghost, lonely around people. People might think that my perfect marks, lifestyle and attitude makes me a happy person, but it is not true at all.
It's heartbreaking wanting to 'have fun' and just don't knowing how to do it, I'm in a point were I can't really disconnect, I'm tired of living, my future always seems darker than my past, and I feel that I've lost all my hopes for improvement... I don't have anyobody who barely shares my interests, I don't talk with anybody about the things that I do, as they aren't interested at all.
It's been more than a year that I'm suffering from a pain that is draining me out, it's really killing me, very bad ideas have been wandering around my head since then, and I'm exhausted, I'm extremely exhausted. My daydream of just enjoying a great time with people seems impossible to achieve, as I've been fighting for it for a long time, and I lost all my hopes. I'm surviving, my mind has been burned out and is getting me crazy, I have very strange reactions and sometimes I can't even think clearly for hours, it's like my head is broken. It really feels like an illness. On top of that, my deep inferiority complex does not help either. I'm that sad that I can't even cry, but when I do, I can't stop. I'm scared of feeling euphoric or hopeful, as in my experience it has always finished in big dissapointments...
I actually feel like I have damaged myself that much that I won't never recover completely from it...
Thanks if you have read it all, I may have wandered too much but I just had to say it, really apreciate it :´)
I have been through the same ,you r describing my life
People make groups and always exclude me,
🎉 u r a warrior sir 💪 I want to meet u someday ❤