6 Painful Things About Depression No One Talks About
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- Опубликовано: 18 янв 2022
- Depression is a consuming illness that can take over the mind and body for a period of time. In this video, we talk about some things people with depression might hide. For example, feeling like an observer, sometimes known as dissociation. Feeling lazy and not wanting to get out of bed. Feeling withdrawn from friends and people. Depression can make people feel isolated.
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DISCLAIMER: This is by no means a comprehensive list, nor does it apply to everyone with depression. If you think you are suffering from depression, please seek the help of a mental health professional, as this is only intended for educational purposes.
Writer: Ria Parikh
Script Editor: Vanessa Tao
Script Manager: Kelly Soong
VO: Amanda Silvera
Animator: Ira Alifia (New Animator)
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Pineapple on pizza? Yes or no? Comment below.
Yes!
Heck nah
Yes
No, I don’t even like pineapples at all
Never, I don't care what anyone says.
Here's another one. You ever stand in a room full of people, maybe even people you know well, and still feel like you're alone?
One of the worst feelings. Even when it’s your family, you’re still all alone in your head, stuck with your thoughts.
For me It's like you need to be hero of yourself, then you can be better even for your personality, that's important bcs you know what you want and you know that want is from need, even animal have problem :) just survive because insane isn't changing we, normal what make us free to possible
True seeing others beining normal sociable like nothing bad is happening can also feel overwhelming and isolating just the other evening i was with my mom with relatives at a restuarant and even then I got anxiety sitting with everyone
yes i feel like im alive only inside my head
Or when you just wake up feeling deeply empty/hopeless/sad like you just want to sit and cry but your too exhausted to even do that 😕
It's really hard to describe what depression feels like, it feels like you're a dead human walking, it feels like you fighting against your own self to do simple things, still struggle with it to this day.
Yeah... It's very hard. I found out a few weeks ago that I have depression...
Just try to take part in everyday activities and talk to more people
U will slowly come out of kt
@@kadambaritamilarasan568 there is no one I can talk to except my parents . I have literally no friends🙂
@@Bharat-qe8pp make some online friends😀😀
Like how old r u
Don't u hv siblings or neighbours and no friends means- wait y u could make friends right
@@kadambaritamilarasan568 idk nobody wants to be my friend , may be I am boring or just depressed 🙂. I think I am living only because of my parents otherwise I may have taken extreme steps in past . I am almost 19 and my brother is 9 so he will not understand my pain . Friends for me are like diamond it's hard to find but are very precious......... So thanks for your valuable wishes , you are so kind😊
I think the worst part about depression for me is realizing that even if episodes pass and I will feel better in time, the pain is never going to entirely go away. Sometimes I forget that depression is only manageable right now and nor curable, which means that I might never get to be that joyful carefree child I always looked up to.
Omg....I can relate to this so much 😭......So this is how we end !😭😭😭
Yeah I too, but just focus on yourself, then you know how to enjoy your own will
it can entirely go away. why would u think otherwise?
Don’t say it’s not curable because it is. It’s just really hard to find
@@fireruby1882 or really hard to control
Seeing these comments make me feel that I'm not alone. I've been dealing with depression and anxiety; feeling like a burden to my family. Thank you for making these videos.
Same
Have a hug 🫂❤️
Same
same here
Same feelings for as long as i can remember
#1 Feeling like an observer of your own life (0:30)
#2 Can’t get out of bed (0:56)
#3 Social withdraw (1:31)
#4 Crippling exhaustion (2:00)
#5 Overwhelmed mind (2:38)
#6 Stigma and guilt (3:10)
Hope this helped 🙃✨
P.S. If you are going through any of this, best of wishes from Mexico 🇲🇽❤️
Thank u
That is so sweet of you and hope you are doing great to
Omg mexico that’s so cool
Thanks, love back from Canada 🇨🇦❤
Thanks! Keep your positive vibes! Hugs from Costa Rica!
1: feel like an observer in your life.
2: can’t get out of bed
3: social withdrawal
4: crippling exhaustion
5: overcrowded mind
6: stigma and guilt
The guilt and ruminating intrusive thoughts are the worst. 😔
Is it bad I can relate to all of these to some extent despite not having depression? (At least not diagnosed)
@@eeveeofalltrades4780 i’d say idk cause you can have it and its bad but if you dont and you have all symptoms it doesnt matter
@@eeveeofalltrades4780 I feel the same way. I was diagnosed with an unspecified depressive disorder, but I'm not sure if all of these things are caused by it or something else like me being on the spectrum.
@@PearlFirexx u ok? :(
For me the worst thing about depression that nobody talks about is the lack of feeling. Nothing matters because you feel nothing and now you have to try and remember how you're supposed to feel. You don't want to upset anyone but you also don't want others to know you feel nothing. Because it becomes a lecture of people who are uneducated in this area talking about how your life isn't that bad. That makes it even worse and that's why people isolate.
I feel ya
I would do more dangerous things because I was tired of my current life and didn't care enough to think about reproductions and I still couldn't care less
@@sadia2395I get it . 😢
Psych2go literally makes me feel like someone truly understands without any judgment. I don’t get that in real life and am always subtly blamed for my mental state. Fighting alone is so hurtful and difficult
The bed part hits hard.
Some people don’t understand why I’m in my room all day, every day.
They think I’m lazy, but if only they knew all the other reasons I wouldn’t leave.
I just feel as if I can’t go outside until I fix myself, but yet again, that isn’t just going to happen.
I can understand it and I have been there too. But until we make a conscious step to resolve the problem that is bugging us, every morning is going to feel that way. Follow the 5 second rule and jump out of bed. If not today certainly you would easily get out of the string of thoughts you say to yourself while you try to get out of bed with sufficient practise. Have a great day :)
@@Ascientistsjourney thank you so much, that means a lot
Yeah they don't understand the pain of depressed people cuz my family would always say that I'm lazy but iam saying iam depressed cuz I don't want to work or do chores
@@Ascientistsjourney thank you
This has been my life for the past 10 years now, on and off. Some days I physically cannot get out of bed. Today was such a day. It's 10 pm already... 😔 Good luck to anyone suffering 🙏🏻
I have to admit... I would not be in the state(mental) or even where I am without this channel. Rn I'm super happy with life. Thank you 😊
That's great to hear. Which part of the state are you in?
Yeah same
^ᴗ^
@@Psych2go I was talking about mental state 😅
@Moondrop I am glad bestie you got this:D
I have experienced all 6 over the past 2 years. Depression no doubt has hit a majority of people during the pandemic at different levels of severity and
different lengths of time. The scariest part of depression is when will it be over?When will there be light at the end of the tunnel? When will I feel better again and be able to function?
First you choose your path, second you don't judge by wisdom, you need to be able for yourself if you know what life meaning
@@frashiahwangari2177 why would you just say some hopeless thing like that to someone who just said they were already depressed. Careful!
we cant know the exact time when it will be over but trust me things really do get better. i can say that from exeprience. i personally dont know if what ive been through was depression but i'm sure that what i said applies to any mental issues. just dont lose hope, alright?
Be assured that it is definitely possible for depression to stop and for you to be peaceful and happy again. I know, I,ve been through severe depression and it went away with time. But unfortunately, it can come back. Being aware of it and then taking steps to stop it before it escalates is the key. a therapist can help with the steps. My best of luck to you.
I always felt that my depression was like having an abusive partner living in your brain. You can't get away and it never stops berating you until your so emotionally sapped and broken all you can do is laydown.
your own brotherand sometimes dad will jump in.
As a person suffering from bad anxiety and depression. Your videos always help me to improve my mood and emotional changes. Thank you
Your right
I really have bad social anxiety which makes it hard to go school and yes iam a student
@@nollusahithinollusahithi1576 school is hell
if u guys need to talk im here
When i was 13, I had so much trouble doing something as simple as brushing my hair. I never knew it was normal for an adolescent with depression until I studied it as an adult. I’m so grateful for this channel, so in hopes that one little girl may see this video and know she’s not alone, as like I wish I could have when I was.
are u ok now?
I am 12 and l cannot study also when l try to learn different subjects l always find myself daydreaming or staring at anything without realising.. Its too hard to study 😭😢
I'm one of those little girls
@@artgrid6768 I understand how hard that is. And I’m sure you here a LOT “find a quieter space” and other things like that, when they never seem to help. I have a couple of tricks that helped me, maybe try one out! Try feeling your feet on the floor and the seat you’re sitting in to gain reality back. Also, chew a piece of gum so aren’t so easily distracted while studying. Practice makes progress, and it doesn’t work immediately, but it definitely helped me. Let me know if you try it and how it’s going, you’ve got this!
@@cutewittlekittymew6664 I’m so sorry. I don’t wish that on anyone, and right now I wish I could give you a big hug and let you know how everything will turn out just fine as long as you give life the time to do so. Time is key, and so is patience. I know how horrible things are now, and I know how it feels like there’s no escape from it. But there’s always hope, even when it feels like there isn’t. If you need any advise or just someone to talk to, feel free to let me know, I always want to be able to help someone because going through it is so incredibly painful.
One more symptom that could be talked about, not being able to think clearly, your brain almost being numb and fogged. Just being in a fight or flight mode always, feeling like you just can't think. So i feel this is also one symptom, along with the others you mentioned
It's like adventuring hahah, but you know that even God don't like the person that many layere in the heart, you need to focus on your own need. I'm not saying it okay 😂 but know that the more you want to control the more deity want to conquer well its like true or not it's your judgment, well the word say, today I free myself, it is not in me, but within my judgement. Hope you be more okay than me okay.
yes i cant even do my homework and i dont care about it and i feel like i cant do anything for it
Agree
Yes 😭😭
Totally agree. It felt like I had sand in my head and literally had to pull thoughts and ideas through that sand in order to get them out. I would forget things like common words, where my car was, what day it was. It was like someone opened my head and poured sand in it.
Major Depressive Disorder caused me the most pain and misery I've ever had in my life besides grief.
same here, even with 2 chronic diseases, multiple operations, and almost dying on the operating table, the pain, hopelessness, exhaustion etc...from MDD was by far the worse thing that ever happened to me.
Over the past 8 years I’ve definitely experienced all of these, but 1, 4, and 5 hit me the most. I actually still feel an extremely overwhelming sense of worthlessness and uselessness every day, often times I don’t feel like I have the energy to do things I usually enjoy like making content for my channel, and I’ve had a hard time trying to understand what the word “relax” or “calm” means since my mind has always been physically and emotionally numb 24/7 due to anxiety and depression. Even though I’m still wrestling with these now, I’m currently trying to recover from depression, even though it probably might take a while to get to a point where I feel better.
For anyone suffering through depression, hopefully you find the will/courage/strength/energy to get rid of the weight of it too, no matter how long it takes. 🙏
💜
Try to have your own reason, and make it first for yourself and when you be better, you can help other too :)
try to take a break from everything. maybe u'll feel a bit better?
It feels good to know someone actually understand what i am going through
It’s a legit miracle I got out of depression. My parents didn’t care and kept treating me the same way, the way I got depression in the first place. I didn’t have a therapist or antidepressant at all, and then one day everything turned brighter. Just in time too, as I was becoming the slightest bit suicidal. You helped me out a lot during those stages psych2go! You are making the world a little bit better.
How.. 😭😭💔💔??
I'm feeling so bad... So depressed...
I'm again on my clinical depression...
Though I have few antidepressants for that but i just don't have any energy to do anything....
I'm just on my bed..
I just hate to wake up now....
I feel scared....
I feel empty....
I just can't stop my tearssss...
It's just so hard to breathe...
😭😭😭😭
Honestly it happens with me everyday...
I just don't have any one...
Parents didn't care and kept treating me the same way too.... 😭😭😭
Does our parents even notice that their happy little girl lost a long time ago...
I just don't have energy.... I hate people... They are scary..... 😭😭😭
That's all i wanted to say.... I'm sry I'm saying all these here.. As I really don't have anyone... I feel alonee...
I could try and help. A tip is to be more thankful, and it’ll be hard at first, but it’ll get easier. And if you are religious I recommend trusting in whatever thing you believe in. And don’t think it doesn’t take awhile. And if you suddenly feel brighter on some days, then those turn to weeks, you’ll be out of it soon. I have no idea if it works or not but I am definitely not a depression expert. If you need help still, you can ask me on one of my older videos
I am willing to help you out, and I want you to be happy
@@AllEnigmas that's really sweet of you... Thank u so much for your message... 🥺🙂
I will try to feel ok..... Though I can't promise myself .... 💔
But will try... ✨⭐
@@AllEnigmas thanks for your concern... ✨✨🥺🙂
I have been suffering from depression for 4+ years now. When I told my parents, they got upset and said it was because of the people I was around. The truth is those people were the reason I survived. I was taken from them, the people I actually felt good around. 2 years later, I was diagnosed with anxiety, but was still suffering from depression (I was diagnosed). It’s so annoying to see people faking these things for attention. Nobody actually talks about how hard it is
I would like to add the lack of desire for anything.
It's like the mind is stuck in this constant battle to stay alive that tomorrow stops existing. The person no longer thinks of doing, getting or experiencing things. It's mostly a loop of rumination, sleep and the crushing pressure of what one should do but doesn't.
And last, but not least, the loss of hope. Depression feels endless, with no light at the end of the tunnel. The feeling of helplessness when facing depression is crushing.
I've dealt with depression for over 15 years now, with episodes of various degrees of depth and length. And with each episode I've managed to drag myself out of, I've regained a bit of hope. I made it this far, right? 😊
I have had one period of severe clinical depression in my life which you seem to describe, I have come out of it and consider myself mildly depressed right now (a huge step up for me) and I can't imagine going through even one more. It was by far the hardest thing I have ever done in my life. I have 2 physical chronic conditions, muilitple surgeries and almost lost my life on the operating table and none of it comes close to that period of depression in terms of pain and hopelessness. People who have dealt with this for years astound me, you must be one of the strongest people there are out there. To go through that more than once and to have come through to the point of recognizing that the worst will not last forever (which is extrememly hard to do with severe depression) tells me that should that really, really bad part come again you will get through. Its exhausting tho, I experienced a total lack of desire for anything also, I someone had told me I won the lottery, I wouldn't have cared, if someone had handed me free trip to fabulous vacation, I wouldn't have cared, hell I didn't care enough to eat or brush my hair. Its a brutal disease, my hat is off to you for your strength.
@@_Y.Not_ Thank you for sharing! I am sorry you went through that, on top of the physical conditions.
To be completely honest, to this day, I am surprised I survived that. I was sleeping around 16 to 18 hours per day, eating one a day, washing once a week, left the flat once a month or so... all while failing to find a job, being in a toxic relationship, dealing with the death of a close relative. I think what kept me sane was reading and cleaning. I read anything I could get my hands on and kept the space around me spotless, maybe a bit on the obsessive side, just to feel as though I was in control of something. It was a terrible and incredibly painful time in my life, looking back. In the moment, I didn't feel much, too busy suppressing and denying anything was wrong with me.
I have been in therapy for close to 4 years now. It's given me a lot of tools to mitigate and keep my depressive episodes to a minimum. I honor my feelings and thoughts, work through childhood traumas and try to embrace the loss of loved ones.
I fail half the time with the above 😅
It's a very hard thing to do, to keep hope when everything seems hopeless and pointless and just... empty and heavy at the same time. Which is why, when depression gets too close again (which it will), I must remind myself that I've been through far worse and still, I conquered it.
Sending you a huge hug 🤗 and I'm always here to listen if you need me to.
I have depression and something I noticed was that even when I have things to do, I go though my day doing whatever I want and suddenly realize I don't remember what I was supposed to do that day or anything I've already done.
Basically, a lot of the time I mindlessly go through my day, not remembering things I did or was supposed to do because I wanted to do stuff I enjoy.
I can relate so much to this
same ugh
Wow, you summed up my days... I didn't realize this was a thing. Thank you for sharing, it helps to put things in perspective that others may be experiencing. May peace amd wellness always find you, my fellow humankind
@@kailani1138 Thanks.
Write stuff down. Make a todo list, easy ones, just so you have something to gauge your time or day with atleast
I feel guilty for the way I feel. Like, I have many good things to be grateful for. So it seems like I'm somehow whining for no reason. Even if it's not something I can control.
Same its like splitted
Your life circumstances have nothing to do whatsoever with what is going on physically in your body to affect your mental health. That's why you see so many with wonderful outside looking lives but still suffer from bad mental health. There are physical things occurring in your body that are causing your brain to react to things the way it is, your brain is being affected.
Wow the 1st one "Being an observer of your life" No one has ever mentioned that before! I remember telling myself I don't get to participate in life b/c I'm weird as a teen! That was decades ago! I still have a different life than most, but I did reach out for help years ago. Little things help me the most like making a list of achievable goals for the day and regular exercise.
I never heard that before either. I definitely was just an observer of life around me, esp. at school. I never smiled or spoke for years. I looked so sad, people would ask me if I was sick, but my family never did. Let,s have hope we get better and we can communicate positively with people. I wish you my best.
Internalized stigma continues to be an issue for me. (for the past 20+ years). I intellectually know that there is no shame in having a mood disorder. This does not stop me from feeling shame.
Shame, guilt and angry towards ourselves. We don't need other's beating us up, our depression voice already does.
Perfect timing I was going through a relapse/breakdown so now I can watch this and relate.
So am I. Wanna talk?
@@downhomesunset no it's okay I calmed myself down a fee minutes ago.
Few*
are u guys ok?
I have a serious question: how does someone struggling with diagnosed depression seek professional help when the cost of therapy isn't affordable/insurance isn't financially available? I always hear "you should seek professional help because you can't treat it on your own forever", which is true to some extent, but what are the alternatives for people who can't afford therapy other than just silently suffering and looking up self-help articles? What do you do when things are getting severely worse, but there's only so much a busy hotline can do?
You spoke my mind !
you should look into something called peer counseling and see if there’s any support groups around you.
When I was in the depths I wish I had known about it because I didn’t want to put it on my friends. Otherwise get involved or keep fighting for universal healthcare if ur in the US
Memes. Lots of memes.
While articles may not be enough, there are books out there on CBT, integrative, holistic or psychodynamic ect. therapy written by professionals offering a real programs, with time frames, steps, motivations ect. you can follow. Just like you may not click with the first therapist you go to, finding the right book may not happen right away, I had to sample and research a little before I committed to one. (I have been suffering from severe depression for as long as I can remember so I have been to therapy but found that, for the moment at least, this suits me so much better -and not only financially. ;)) There are websites listing great guide books that therapists themselves use, and studies that show self-therapy can be just as effective. It's definitely worth a try.
i think u can at least talk to somebody ab how u feel and even tho they might not be professionals, it will still help to some extent. sometimes one person just listening is enough. if u wanna talk, im here
Nobody talks about the amount of sheer pain it brings, I could try to explain it, but its indescribable, the loneliness, your own mind knowing all your fears and pinning them against your very self, and you can't cry, you're so desensitised that you just don't care, no matter how much it hurts, and what hurts even more, is that I'll it takes is a hug to melt the pain away, you wish and beg for someone, anyone to do anything good to you but it never comes, and it's just so, so exhausting, imagine everyday waking up to the same crappy day and you just go along with it because you've given up hoping for a change, everything you've worked so hard for has all been taken away and the pain just hurts so much, that is how I'd describe depression to a normal person, I really wish you had described the pain more, it just stays and won't go
i have a classmate like this and he really doesn't want to talk about stuffs that may just go off his comfort and he doesn't like those
To be honest I’ve felt so incompatible with life it’s self for so long. just existing is hard. Watching this video was hard. But I’m glad I did something. It’s hard when people ask you if your okay and you always say your fine because it’s like there’s no point beating a dead horse
For me there are type that compatible with be strong dont show brave, because when you brave many will want you, but if you strong without other knowing, you can be strong and be tamed horse for yourself.
Like there are many lone hero you know, it's like how can they be so strong even without relying to other, but yeah it'll be better you strong and have strong friend.
Or you say you're fine because you don't want to burden the other person about your life distresses and things like that. You might feel afraid of rejection when you really open up to the person about it.
Even harder when they don’t even ask if you’re okay
im sorry u guys :( if u wanna talk im here
One terrible part about depression is losing all your friends. Even before social withdrawal, most friends start dropping you because they naturally prefer to be around people who are uplifting and bring them joy. Depression is the polar opposite of that, so you get KonMaried out of their lives, which makes you feel like you're worthless and have nothing to offer, so you withdraw completely. When you withdraw, even people you considered close friends either give up on you, or take your failure to reach out to them as personal rejection and message you to let you know they're ending the friendship. Depression and stigma keep you from being able to reach out and maintain relationships, or to reach out at all, even just to explain why you have withdrawn.
I would just like to thank you for all the insights you give us! So grateful for this channel💕
Grateful for you too!
@@Psych2go , Psych2Grateful.
Yup, deal with this constantly for many many years, never goes away. Will probably win in the near future as well, I'll see. Depression is dormant even when you're having good days.
i hope you are ok
Yeah it's like we catching something that are naturally ours
Don,t give up hope!! I suffered from a severe depression in which I almost died due to the fact that at my worst, I became anorexic because of stress and fear. With time and mostly self-reflection and one sensitive doctor, I healed. You can too. I wish you my best.
Something I struggle with daily are not only the things mentioned but the dark thoughts that come with depression. We constantly have to remember that what we feel is temporary and we will have better days or months (if you're like me) ahead. Wishing everyone battling this invisible disease beautiful recoveries.💖
Thank you for your encouraging words. My best to you.😇
I find it very sad that those of us who struggle with depression have to pay someone ( a therapist)to listen to us because no friends or family are willing to even acknowledge our issues unless it inconveniences them, in witch case they get annoyed. THATS SO SAD😭
Hey, you are fine now???
This is really inspiring. Thank you for talking about depression because this channel helps me a lot as someone who battles with it everyday.❤️
I've had depression before and showed some of these symptoms. But right now I'm going through one of my worst cases of depression/anxiety and I'm suprised that I have all these signs happening to me atm. I hope I get better.
Have you seen a doctor, even your family doctor?
@@downhomesunset yeah I've just started receiving counsiling dw, thanks for your concern.
Lol
@@Vro_xppy do you know what insane boy, hahah you doesn't even know how insane can they be when you are on your losing, just think how can you better your surroundings that are not normally good
Try to walk in the sun every day.
Try to do some light excercises daily.
Try to watch funny positive films.
Try to help others who cannot help themselves. You will at least feel that you are doing something positve for another human being. You will start feeling worthy as a human being.
Try to paint or do some sort of art in which you can pour out your doubts, feelings of inadequacy, etc.
yeah all that is what i feel right now
sad part is no one care about me
I agree with how you feel. Even though I know no one can help if I can't get over the guilt and tell anyone I still can't do it.
Lol
Facing all of these together, while living in the society where have to hide all, the only thing that saves me is that my work is mostly remote. Everyday need to force myself to work, but living alone and with no help wouldn't simply survive. It's so hard that I felt like died at the age of 29... And now live a ghost life without any sense.
You know what made MY anxiety and depression worse (that nobody ever seems to talk about)? Breathing in black mold of which you might not be aware of (found a substantial amount in every crevice of all of my window sills, which triggered OCD and extreme fatigue all day, everyday). Most of my OCD (from increased anxiety and depression) is gone now, and now my anxiety and depression isn't so heavy anymore. However, I know that some people's depression can be major, even without black mold exposure; and I just pray that you all can find something that helps (because I still know that I have trouble getting out of bed in the morning, and have days where I beat myself up or feel embarrassed about past stupid things that I have said and done.
Actually black mold was a trigger to you. But there are many physical issues that can cause depression. Persistent pain, a temporary injury that takes you away from your routine. Some people don’t realize how much the two tie together!
That's interesting! For me it turns out my anxiety and depression were just symptoms of my autism that I didn't know I had.
I can relate to all of these. Too tired to get up. Stuck in bed. Feeling like I overreact. Crying all the time. Feeling guilty for no reason. Tired to the point I can't do what I want or do my work.
I don't know what to do. My doctor if basically useless. So I watch you guys. But I'm getting help f4om a doctor in a few weeks. ❤
Nobody knows this except my family and teacher.
I hope you get the help you need and get back into the swing of things!
Lol
@@Vro_xppy “lol”???? WHATS YOUR PROBLEM
@@downhomesunset Thank you! (Sorry for the late reply)
I’m struggling with all these things and it truly is crippling. Thanks for posting this, awareness is so important!
Very validating. One thing you missed is the cost and availability of getting proper help. And by proper, I don't mean the dime-a-dozen so-called therapists out there, but the ones who really understand depression and don't make the client feel as though they have wasted time, money, and effort to meet with a less-than-qualified therapist.
I didn't realize until now but I suffer with all that's listed in the video and it's so hard to go threw life with these things constantly happening
Definitely been withdrawing socially. I think it just becomes exhausting to talk about your sources of your depression so if we socially withdraw we can avoid that. Unhealthy but makes sense.
Been dealing with it for 17 years have no one in my life and just feel like giving up very sad and unhappy everyday with No one to be with me in my life. Really could use someone in my life to bring back my smile.
I can relate to a lot of these...especially stigmas. I've always fully wanted to reach out, but I'm afraid of being "dramatic" or "just another moody teen". It scares me what other people might think, and so I stay quiet. I just wish it was easier to talk to someone...do you guys have tips on that? or maybe you could make a video about how to talk to someone about your depression?
I love your channel, keep up the good messages and tips! 😌💖
Yeap! Being a follower of this channel since a long time ago, I can tell they have videos that can help you. In the main paych2go channel, you go to "playlists" and there's a lot of content about depression, self harming or suicidal ideation. Is quite helpful.
I also follow the channel of Kati Morton and MedCircle.
I've been there, in your shoes since I was 6yo. There's hope. I'm not out of the woods, I'm actually going through a relapse in my major depressive disorder (or clinical depression) that comes and goes. I have another mental health conditions that I approach with therapy and medication. In my case, medication is quite important, I'm at risk by just taking my treatment carelessly (like, if I delay 3 days from the date that I have to go for my meds at the hospital, stuff like that). So, as a personal advice:
1. Nobody receives a prize or a trophy for suffering in silence: You don't need or feel like you should endure this alone. There's nothing cool about being the king/queen of pain.
2. Prejudice from people: people who are judgemental will continue being the way they are knowing you since you were a baby, or just by looking at you for 5 minutes. So they can go and fu©k off. You are the one living with this, in your head... Whatever people what to say they'll do, we can't control their mouths but we can perfectly explain how invalidating and impertinent they are (haha).
3. Nobody judges a person struggling with diabetes, epilepsy, chronic pain or anything that people call a non visible condition. Your condition, being temporary or chronic, is impacting your brain and nervous system. Not screaming because you feel bad and in pain doesn't mean you're not having it.
4. You deserve to live better and you are the one who will care about your body, mind and spirit. Others can help and be there, of course, but at the end of the day this is for you.
I hope you can conquer the dread we feel, because is hugeeee, and the "nobody will care, this is meaningless for the ones around me, I'm just gonna be another burden, they're gonna think I'm faking it for attention, I'm not worthy enough to receive help". All those thoughts, guilt and shame kept me tied for so many years. You are worthy of help, understanding and respect.
heyy u can talk to me
@@userm180 yup, also I'm available to chat too! Is just to get a way you feel comfortable with and that's it.
How're you? (You can be brutally hones, I hate when people asks this question and you have to reply "oh im fine", because you know they don't mean it in a way to really care what's the whole situation. So I do mean it when I ask)
I also love videogames, so if you do, gaming has helped me a lot with my depression. I'm here to play online too.
@@Mtz2604 im okk right now. i have my ups and downs but i can get through it. wbu?
i like videogames too! what do u usually play?
@@userm180 I'm in the same. I like to think about my ups and downs as waves in life that I surf. Praise God I have the best husband ever, my partner in life, games and "surfer of the waves in life" I could ever have. The support of my family and my close circle of friends. Despite all the support that I'm infinitely grateful to have, because not all the people can or have it, I still have my relapses.
Like you, ups and downs and I'm currently feeling like I'm being dragged to a riptide, but there's ways to come out and I don't have any issue and lost my fear to be hospitalized if I need kinda little bit more medical care.
I'm happy to know you're doing better today. 😊🌈
We live day by day. I think is better because my anxiety, overthinking and sometimes paranoia (damn paranoia, is so annoying) gets the best from me. If I think about dealing with today and a little of tomorrow, I'm better. What do you think about living one day at the time?
Oh about gaming, a lot of survival games. I like shooters, rogue like, story rich and a lot of Stardew Valley, Starbound, the times where harvest Moon was Harvest Moon, now some of Story of Seasons. Metroidvanias and platformers, Metroid is my favorite game franchise. I can't with some RPGs or battle royals. A friend told me to try Apex and I literally stay in 2 matches and got absolutely bored... And Fortnite can go and hide under a rock in Mordor haha (my apologies if you like it). I can share if you want to, my steam code.
Currently I've been studying like crazy but I'm in a break from it and I'm in Sims 4, Graveyard Keeper and Metroid Dread (my hubby knew that I was bouncing all over the room waiting for a new good Metroid title and bought it as a surprise for me... That's love, within a gamers marriage haha). I'm mostly a PC player but Nintendo have me since my childhood.
How about you?
I keep getting blamed for my depression, and I am really tired of people tossing it aside like I'm just being lazy or not dealing with it right. I've been dealing with this at home, at college, and at work. I thought that, since we're basically all going through some amount of this, maybe people would be more accepting of mental health struggles. Instead, I feel more now than ever that people look at me like I'm an idiot for feeling this way and not just bouncing back, making them a top priority even when I clearly have more pressing issues that need to be resolved first. A lot of people just seem to be mad at mental health issues now, like they're afraid that showing kindness and acceptance towards it will mean they will have to accept they're dealing with it too. Of course, accept it or not, if depression is there, it's there. I cannot stress enough how much farther kindness will get you and how much more it'll help than looking down on others. People will resent you for condescending behavior and you'll make things worse for them, but just giving them some room and saying, "take care of yourself" will do wonders. If someone has to go through depression alone, don't kick them when they're down. Or just be kind in general to everyone and don't risk hurting anyone.
I agree completely. I was blamed for having depression too, esp. as a child. It is so hard to go through, because, you really don,t know what,s happening to you and you think you really are to blame. my best wishes to you. Hang in there!😍
I have diagnosis of major depressive disorder and GAD.Anyhoo, one day I told a friend that I feel like I should not wake up in the mornin and rather die,it would be so peaceful.Her response : but we cant do that cz we dont know if we will go to hell or heaven.😬😝😆.Made me laugh.Like here I dont want to live while she is busy with her religion talks.I dont share my thoughts with her now.She discusses her issues from home and work and I just listen.for her thats more important,as u said, prioritising others over own depression 🤷🏻♀️.Also ,yes, I have lived alone in 3 countries and always travel alone.Ofcourse eat out,go to movies, shop alone.When people are kind to me, I try to pay back 10 times more but more importantly always remember their kindness.a kind word is so fuzzy and warm.like a hug
1. Yes recently.
2. Every morning for a while now...
3. I've been distancing myself. And I'm doing it even more, and more extreme. I wanna be alone. I feel like everyone would be better off if I just left them alone
4. My mom keeps asking if I'm ok... I lie and say I'm tired because I don't feel good.. I'm mentally and physically exhausted I don't even want to draw anymore. I loved drawing. All I do is listen to music
5. I can barley relax... it's so hard to just shut off my thoughts and breath. So many thoughts run through my head and I Rarely get more then 30mins of peace.
I don't have depression nor have I been diagnosed. But my state of mind is out of wack and I'm not ok. I'm not self diagnosing. I can just relate.
I spent the last 10 years or so convincing myself that I'm not depressed or that it's just a mild form of depression. But this video descripes me perfectly...
This is the bad thing about having depression that no one talks about! More people need to know it’s not lazy ness! My mental health is a bit better since I found this channel!!!! Tysm 🙃
I’m only one point one and it already hits so hard. I definitely feel like I’m observing my life. I’m not doing anything is how I constantly feel. And I had EXTREME trouble getting out of bed this morning and now I’m doing homework on my bed rather than my desk. Help.
Try journalling, or typing out your thoughts, if you prefer. Take a few deep breaths and focus on that for a minute. I mean, literally a minute. I know I have literally no way of demonstrating this to you, but I understand the feeling, at least on the surface level. I don't know enough about your current situation, and I am ultimately just some random person who you don't owe any inforomation about your business, but if this is your problem, just try something small, like deep breathing. Just focus on your breath, and nothing else for a minute or more if you want.
At least youre doing your homework, good job
I'm so grateful to find this channel! It gives me so much information about my thoughts and feelings! Good job ma'am, you're doing an amazing work💕
This channel has really helped me a lot, both in knowing just what I'm dealing with, and how to confront with and deal with it. Honestly there are times where I am, or nearly am, brought to tears with these videos thanks to finally being felt like I was understood. Although I may just be another drop in the sea of comments, I want to say thank you, your content helps a lot.
I’ve been struggling with depression for a year or two. I just don’t feel like myself anymore. Feeling like my soul flew away and just me being stuck on a body. Feeling like I’m dead mentally. All my confidence just burned out. My mental and social battery just ran out and I can not find the charger. Yet no one realizes. I’ve been zoning out a lot recently and paying no attention to anything. I though depression would just go away eventually if you just try becoming positive but it’s just not how easy as it seemed to be. I feel like passing out a lot recently. There’s no much of things that actually makes me happy anymore except just sticking on my phone and talking to online friends, playing games and watching videos. They kinda help me a lot as it makes me less bored. Other than that, Idk what to do with real life anymore. I’m dealing with social anxiety and others things a lot. My mom said if you try talking it will eventually go away. But it’s just very hard. The simplest things are becoming more and more hard to me. I don’t know what I’m doing anymore. I just feel like a waste to my family. My mom and dad fights almost everyday. My mom even said that she’s only sticking in this relationship with my dad just because of me. I’ve been overthinking about it a lot. Feeling like I’m the reason my mom is suffering. I just don’t wanna deal with life anymore. Everything just feels like a big mess. just like a bedroom full of mess and your too tired to fix them. Actually I don’t know what I’m saying anymore so I’m just letting this leave here. Feels good to let it out of my chest ig.
lets agreed, to be kind to each others.. u can make someone’s day better ❤️ simple act, big impact ❤️
Thank you for speaking about these lesser-known symptoms of depression. I can’t count how many times I couldn’t explain what’s going on in my mind because of how rampant the thoughts are. I’m not suicidal in the slightest. Those days are thankfully behind me. However, my thoughts are running so rapidly, it’s hard to even type this comment without talking about Pokémon or drum corps.
This is so true, I kind of feel better of knowing this now. After fighting depression for years is a painful phase to drag through. Glad of knowing this and great video
There's also the feeling that good things won't last. Depression comes in waves, and sometimes when you're in a really good spot you have this lingering feeling that something might go wrong and ruin that good streak. This can cause paranoia, anxiety, and a whole pile of bad feelings that could send you back into a low point.
Thank you for this, makes me feel safe. I have had real bad depression for as long as I can remember. My ex used to tell me that I'm weak and stupid for being diagnosed with depression. I didn't feel good on the inside when she would tell me this. I still beat my self up for being to weak to overcome depression while being completely alone as a digital hermit.
The way this video explains depression is literally on point, nobody really talks about how tiring and difficult it truly is to even get out of bed, or brush your teeth. Nobody talks about that and it's mistaken for laziness, so if your feeling like you can't keep up your physical health, your not lazy your tired of everything, not exactly physically but mentally as well.
I just want to thank you for everything you have taught me about myself and knowing what to do. I wouldn't be in the same place without this channel so thank you x
This channel and the comments here make me understand myself more and feel like im not the only one drowning in this. Thank you.
i love the community that this channel builds up it would have been nice if there's a discord server for us to just talk about anything
I agree. That would be really good for a lot of us, I think.
I think one thing is loss of complete motivation, that you want to do something but you can't get yourself too, finding simple things like folding clothes a tiring task.
i’ve been suffering from mdd for the past 5 years, this year is the sixth. i related to all of them. just wanted to say thank you for making these videos, especially the ones about depression. i always feel better after watching them because i feel reassured that there’s 1 person out there who really understands. and for anyone dealing with depression, i know it’s so hard. but please don’t give up. it does get easier. you will be okay ❤️
Hearing these took me back to when I was really depressed in middle school. I experienced every single one of these and didn’t know how to get myself out of that headspace. It has been four years since then and I sometimes still struggle, but I now know how to get myself out of that headspace and regain my self confidence and control 😊 to anyone else who has/is struggling I believe in you, I know it’s hard, but keep working to get better because it is possible to learn how to love both yourself and your life again!
heyyyy here’s a list of everything in the vid and their times!
feeling like you’re an observer of your own life: 0:32
cant get out of bed: 0:59
social withdraw: 1:32
crippling exhaustion: 2:00
overcrowded mind: 2:38
stigma and guilt: 3:12
reply if i missed anything :)
@Dooblevoo bru
I’m diagnosed but I had no idea the isolation and separation from reality was because of it
I've been in the dark for too long. I'm trying to reach the lights, but it seems like they doubted me, including the one that I carry.
Thank you for this video, it helped a lot to be able to understand what's going on inside my head. With this channel's help I can slowly understand why I behave how i do. Also, I'm really grateful because this channel helps me to undertsand myself more and teaches me about how to behave in a relationship or as a parent toward my future-child. Thank you again 💜
You already know you have major depression when you feel like the side character or a spectator in your own life.
I felt #2 so hard! Sometimes I can't even get up form bed. I wanna do something but I won't get up for some reason it's like I'm stuck in bed.
Also #4 happens to me almost everyday worse if it's a school day. I just don't feel like I'll be able to do work properly
This channel is such a blessing. Thank you.
You helped me to get out of my comfort zone and I have started to talk with a lot of people. I had the confidence to speak with the girl I like and got into a very close relationship, thank you. I seen that I feel more and more depressed as I get more and more out of my comfort zone, trying new things (going to gym, reading books, hanging out with more people etc.) I still can't get rid of my old myself, and I often stare at nothing, doing nothing durring breakes. Me and myself. I just stay on that chair for 1-2 breakes or so and then I start talking, making jokes as I normally do. She asked me if I'm ok and I just said...nothing. After I got better, she asked me again if I am still depressed with a laugh and I gave a tired smile. I told her about my problems before to demonstrate her everyone has problems since she is an introvert (if you are one, you know the feeling when you have the worst life/problems and nobody has worse problems etc) and was socked that an "extrovert" like me has personal issuses since I am talking with all my classmates, hanging out with them and more. I stayed alone for a long time since my parents were working a lot, got kinda bullied as a kid (kid jokes) and when I got better in middle school, a classmate died and I started to get even worse than before.
I think the girl I like now is into me, like we went out 4 times, asked me if other girls liked/love me before several times and talked about love in general with me. She even deleted the photos with the coffin and bad memories from the girl that commited suicide to help me forget about my past from my phone. Thank you again and keep up the good work, you changed my life and I hope my little story can somewhat help y'all too! (also no fap helped a lot to gain confidence lol)
I remember subscribing to this channel during my lowest days when I came across one of their videos and it felt relatable. I was involved in a friendship I didn’t enjoy and rolled with it until we cut ties.
Until now, I still watch some their videos occasionally to roughly figure out what I was going through. I never had a therapist or anyone to talk to. It already has been a year and I feel like I’m holding onto that past for too long, still searching for an answer.
Has anyone felt this way too?
Thank you for doing these videos
Thank you for watching Jelly! Nice DP!
First of all I'd like to thank you, because last year I went through a hard and long depression, but I didn't actually realized until I started to watch your videos, then I reallized that, maybe, what I was feeling wasn't something temporal or small, but somthing else, something deeper, and only then I started to valid it, to recognise it, and to ask for help or tell how I was feeling, only then I strarted to heal, and feel better. I still healing and improving, but I just wanted to say THANK YOU, you just saved me.
Thank you for providing these videos that resonate with my battles with both anxiety/panic & depression. I can’t put a finger on it yet, but these videos are the only ones that actually make me feel less alone with my battle: believe me! I’ve tried so many others! Thank you
This was scarily accurate
For the people on a hurry:
0:29 1- Feeling like an observer of your own life
0:56 2- Can't get out of bed
1:00 3- Social withdrawal
2:00 4- Crippling exhaustion
2:37 5- Overcrowded mind
3:09 6- Stigma and guilt
I wish y'all the best of luck!
Man.. i really like your videos. I see myself in them very frequently and you guys really help me to understand. Thank you very much and as a last friendly note:
You have a very calming and beautiful voice!
Hey, I just want to thank this channel, because every time my mental health gets bad again, it helps me so much learning something about mental health issues and listening to your voice talking. It's so relaxing and it makes me feel better every time, thank you so much 🌸🌸
IT must be said that sometimes when we are under pressure. it seems like the end of the world but in this case your friends and closes are one who always give you a hand and help you to overcome depression .i never want to feel axiety or depreesion .MY FAMILY MY SUPPORTERS 😉🤗😎
Ah depression, the illness that makes you feel like it's your fault the moment something goes wrong. Fun
I don't really comment often if at all, though this is how its been for me for years now. I'm really at a loss of what to even do with my life, as a lot of the time it feels pointless as my friends continue on with there lives. I'm happy for them, but don't really care where I end up it seems. Whether it be dead or something else Idk. Anyhow, I appreciate this channel very much for raising awareness.
Keep doing what you do ❤
I've experienced every single one of these and I am thankful, that you mention them. Not being able to get out of bed is a weird feeling and it is almost impossible to explain it to others. What I've learned is that I don't have to explain it. It's not my fault. I am accepting this illness and so I managed to avoid stigma. I don't hide it anymore and if someone can't handle it, it's not my problem. It was a long way. I felt stigma and guilt for a very long time. My family even claimed, I would act selfish. But after many, many years, I'm still standing and I am here to stay. That's me, that's my condition, deal with it or leave it.
Having a mental breakdown currently this is relavent
Seeing Psych2go's videos popping up on your screen is like going to an important appointment to see your therapist.
Yes. We will keep popping them.
IKR
@@Psych2go your videos help us to sleep they are relaxing
The image on the right at 2:13 really hit home and made me cry. I'm an up and coming musician (Drums and other Percussion, I also am the primary lyricist for my band), and, partially due to COVID, I sometimes don't feel any desire to write, even though I feel it's my calling in life, as I currently am not having any sessions with my band bc of COVID. I'm turning 20 in May, I'm out of work otherwise and my parents have started asking me to pay rent this year, which has worsened my severe anxiety and OCD, ADHD and self-harm, and I'm also beating an addiction which I have not disclosed to anyone for about five years now...all simultaneously.
I feel like I've become numb to my pain, just bc I've stressed myself so much, I almost don't even feel it anymore (but in an unhealthy way). I don't want to lose motivation to do the very thing that keeps my heart beating and my mind at ease...🎵❤
I'm glad this is being discussed, thanks Psych2Go. 💙🇨🇦
Estos vídeos me hacen sentir menos sola, leer los comentarios me hace sentir conectada de alguna manera con miles de personas, aunque sea sólo por un momento... y ahora paso a contar mi experiencia...
Desde que tengo uso de razón me he sentido desconectada, triste y sola; sí, hay días buenos pero esos sentimientos son una constante. Nunca me sentí cercana a nada ni nadie, ni amigos, ni padres, ni mascotas, nada, no sé por qué, pero desde niña me encerré en mi misma, me sentía muy vulnerable... nunca sentí la pérdida porque nunca me permití acercarme emocionalmente a nadie, pero aún así me sentía vulnerable, es difícil de explicar, en fin... Siento que con el tiempo sólo he empeorado, se me hace imposible estudiar, lo mínimo me da deseos de llorar (una vez lloré porque no encontraba el mando de la TV), me estreso por lo mínimo, me siento ansiosa en las noches de saber que al día siguiente me tengo que levantar temprano, porque a pesar de que quiero levantarme temprano y ser productiva sé que en la mañana todo es difícil, salir de la cama me supone un reto, hacer mi rutina de limpieza, todo eso me estresa. Mi humor se divide en dos: Los días que me siento completamente anestesiada y sin ganas de existir, y los días en que me siento súper energética y feliz. Cuando estoy sin ganas de existir y tengo que hacer un gran esfuerzo para vivir como una persona normal me siento tan ansiosa que me da fiebre y frío al mismo tiempo, dolor de cabeza, falta de aire y palpitaciones, he estado en clases y prácticas sintiendo todo eso y simplemente tengo que actuar como si no pasara nada porque siento que si pido ayuda o lo hablo automáticamente estoy siendo dramática. Por otra parte mi mente no se detiene, nunca, cuando dejo de pensar me entran ganas de morir literalmente, es como si la bulla constante de mi mente tapara ese dolor latente, cuando duele tanto lo único que quieres es que deje de doler. Así que básicamente es una rutina soñar despierta: mientras me baño, camino, monto bicicleta, como, doy clases y antes de dormir, siempre estoy en otro lugar haciendo otras cosas, siendo feliz. Antes de dormir siempre invento uno de esos escenarios(soy muy detallista cuando los imagino) y llega un momento donde mi mente cansada empieza a confundir mis escenarios con otros, en un momento pasé de ser la reina de Inglaterra a un vagabundo luchando por comida, y sin darme cuenta estoy luchando con mi propia mente por mantener el hilo de mi imaginación hasta que me quedo dormida y empiezo a tener sueños súper vívidos y randome, por eso me encanta dormir, sueño cosas increíbles, es mi parte favorita del día... Bueno pero estoy tratando de mejorar poco a poco, y espero algún día sentirme feliz de verdad, y espero que todos aquí también lo logren 🙂
Depression is not a joke
Yeah :(
I have depression..... :< but I let it all out
Same here..
Same here
The inability to get out of bed and the extreme exhaustion have been hitting me really hard lately. I thought it was because I wasn't doing anything for myself, so I started back at a hobby I've been wanting to get back into. That helped a bit with the exhaustion but it's still difficult to get out of bed everyday. I think it might be time to go back to the doctor and counselor to see what is going on inside my noggin. Stigma is extremely real and alive even though everyone says it's not a thing anymore. Thanks for your wonderful videos. The more discussion about mental health and the stigma associated with it we have, the greater the chance that the stigma will be reduced and mental health awareness will increase.
This Chanel has really helped me during this uncertain time. Thank you Psych to Go.
Does anyone else feel like if your mom or dad or teacher or ANYONE called you you think something EXTREMELY TERRIBLE is gonna happen. i feel this everyday for around 5 years. Anyone else??
(Dont hate, i have so many other symptoms to but this one is something that is disturbing me so much... just wanted to ask.)
1. Feeling like a observer of your life
2. Can’t get out of bed
3. Social Withdrawal
4. Crippling Exhaustion
5. Overcrowded Mind
6. Stigma and Guilt
*Thank Gawd someone post these. I hate when some people think it's just crying and asking attention.*
relatable. I have depression & anxiety so I felt all of the things said in this vid. The feeling of hopelessness sometimes is just too much to bear alone
I hope everyone can find their way out & find someone to comfortably talk with