North Korea's Dating Culture
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Don't worry, many Americans can't handle American dating culture too
Dating is stupid and pointless,even the word is idiotic
Well thought what ever you name is dating don’t suck see it’s all about to know the partner I never date a North Korea woman or met a defector I feel sad that a lot suffer in the hell whole but if I were to date a North Korea woman I would be happy with her and treat her with respect honor and honesty in sense of way we would have to learn echuther life culture a lot . To the RUclipsr who is in the video god bless you I never will be ever lie or abuse to a woman personally I treat women with respect I know abuse I been threw it worse.
100% agree. Born and raised in America and I hate our dating culture.
I’m an American, and I don’t think the North Koreans have it figured out, but I hope somewhere there is a land that does. Dating is a horrible maze of apps and drinks and nonsense over here.
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‘Well, I didn’t hate him’ was how I began my longest relationship. X’D
Weirdly enough most of my relationships started that way
That’s what she told me
Me too that's how I started my first marriage lol. We made it just 3 years lol
Funny saying: if you're talking to her and she's not running away, she probably likes you.
(Take with a grain of common sense.)
I've done it too. It comes from trauma and always leads to more trauma.
"If you don't love me, I'll break your bones".
Yes, that sounds very not-confusing at all.
TheMage00000 haha exactly 😊
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Yes more honest and less confusing, but confusing for the guy if he just thinks 3 'no's' can lead to a 'yes'. Being polite by saying no, isn't that confusing? No is no has always been a problem for women. Sounds like dating a N Korean man can be terrifying to a woman.
@@ACP099 its all because of an idiotic custom that a woman is immodest if she accepts your request easily. I don't even mean sex I mean just going on dates and hanging out together. Of course guys are confused and then angry if she actually meant no. Not no for a "im a good girl" sake but actually no - i don't like you. And it makes them angry. I can understand that.
What I can't understand is why a woman is thought to be a bad woman if she just say - yes I also like you and want to date you! Let's go and meet on a rail track or river bank tomorrow ! This "say no even if you like him " is weird as he'll
and yeah again must be confusing as he'll for a lot of guys .
Life would be much more easier if people just said that they feel directly.....
I would love to see a video where you explain the different “family statuses” in North Korea and how the different groups live differently (if they do) and the rules surrounding family status and daily life.
And thank you for what you do! Absolutely fascinating videos! You’re so amazing!
She already has done. Family status is based on perceived loyalty to the communist regime.
Even with all her life’s hardships yeonmi still has an innocent charm and wonder
You can tell she has become very Americanized just by the way she is dressed.
Just say you want to smash
She left North Korea when she was 12, didn't she? Strange when she talks about dating there.
@@risharehraje793 yes it's strange, what she would know about dating at 12? What kind of love letter or dates could she have by the age of 12? She also contradicts what she has been saying before- that they have no concept of love nor romantic relationship and that marriages are arranged according to the class and that people don't date. Also before she said she was from a middle higher class and now she says does from a low class.
I'm afraid with every video I watch i can see more and more how she's making things up. And I start questioning ....
@@risharehraje793 right! I’ve noticed a lot of her videos talking about situations she wasn’t really in. She’s making herself identify with part of the culture she didn’t live. Everything about her is American, don’t let the innocence act fool you!
"dating was so much easier cause your standards were so low" I know I shouldnt have but I laughed like no matter how shitty it is somehow she's able to be humourous and lighthearted
My standards are nonexistent at this point I'll take anyone who likes me
@@Getout634 45 minutes later: no one still likes you...
@@_____J______ I have no likable qualities so I'll just have to wait for someone whose standards are as low as mine
Well in Germany we have this joke that was made by a Professor and became an academic tenet:
"The better the jokes, the worse the situation!"
But it can also be read as:
"The worse the Situation, the better the jokes!" 😁
She mentions how standards are low but I don't think it is so. Just realistically not much is necessary. You just need to know someone is trustworthy and you can be around them. Thinking you'll find a disney prince/princess is just having bad expectations xD
This was fascinating. Thank you.
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Yes, this is my dream- the meeting of the minds of my two favorite RUclipsrs who cover Asian content!
Stay awesome 😎
I didn’t know laowhy86 and serpentza like her too.
I know right?!
My husband and I knew we were soulmates when we first met. We met, got engaged, and got married all in 3 months...10 years later and we are more in love than ever. It felt magical when we first met!!
Wow! Glad it worked out so well!
could be lies
Haha not at all. Its my life. I have better things to do than sit around telling lies.
My boyfriend and I met online in a chat group, we started arguing and something about the way he talked made me feel like I could be myself with someone for the first time in a long time, maybe ever. Five years and moving countries later we're still together, have an apartment together, and now go to the same University. With some people you just know they're special. I'm always happy seeing other people happy, hopefully we'll last as long as you guys have :)
Saara im sure you guys will. We have 4 kids now and are in our 30s. I wish you all the best in the world. Congratulations on 5 years!!
"I don't hate you"
"I don't hate you too"
"Let's marry"
"SURE!"
that's how it should be done, lol
@@johngalt1967 🤣🤣🤣
I hope one day that boy that you were talking about gets out and you two are able to meet again. He seems like a sweet boy
North Italian dating is getting married after 10 years of dating (if ever getting married). Not because we're not serious, but because our divorce laws are hell.
What's wrong with divorce laws in Italy?
@@jadacnrl they are extremely long, now they're getting better but if you have a child they are insane especially if they're minor, we took many years even to get the divorce law because we literally have the Vatican City inside of Italy
In Argentine was similar, but now you can divorce in a couple of month and you dont need
the consent of the other party. You can also get a divorce and deal with the division of assets later. Guetting divorce is no longer a battle, it is a right. If one of the two seeks to interrupt the marriage, all you have to do is appear before a judge. There are no guilt, no obligation to fulfill the promise of marriage, or causes that achieve one of the members claim for damages. Although the law does protect the spouse who suffers an imbalance due to divorce, recognizing the right to compensation.
@@rocket7D in Italy it's like that too but if you have children it's way more difficult. It's complicated. I also remember that Argentina is our twin sister because it's full of Italians (very catholics Italians)
Ummm can you please do a video on this? I’m interested ... and I’m not even thinking about getting married. Lol
The prevalence and normalization of intimate partner violence in NK is truly horrifying - I was actually surprised to hear that men there will even threaten violence to a woman if she won't agree to date and marry him. Being a woman in NK is just playing Russian Roullette all the time
I mean my dad did something similar to my mom in the US, except he threatened to kill himself if she didn't marry him, so there are crazies everywhere. I understand that's probably not exactly what you were getting at though!
@@frogsnack7072 Exactly I'm from the UK and growing up, I witnessed my dad beat my mother many times. A lot of alcohol related violence happens here too. As you said, crazies everywhere
@@bayleaf7588 Right. Desperate people do desperate things. Thank you for sharing your story.
@Brian Sandberg Unfortunately. Most people are afraid to share things like that I guess, but the truth is important.
Yes! More people need to hear this. I'm very disturbed to see a few people in the comments behaving as though people who are stating how toxic some aspects of how the date are are actually saying something bad about the North Korean people themselves. Some people don't seem to understand that the way dating works there comes from necessity and not knowing anything different, not from them doing what they like and believe in. It's not a reflection of what kind of people they are at all but some people seem unable to grasp that concept and get misguidedly defensive.
Me: Do you like me?
Him: Well, I don't hate you.
ME: Okay time to get married!
@Fuck Yeonmi you're username tho 💀 it clearly shows that you're a hater
Have you bought her book ?
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I think it’s a good method
Dating in America is more like going on dates and getting to know each other and when you know this is the person you want, that’s when you get in a relationship. It’s crazy how many people think dating is an absolute, relationships are still very important to a lot of people in America. That’s how “dating to marry” became a big thing.
Asian culture gives so much importance to relationships
But also takes away agency from women in a second
There are multiple countries and cultures in Asia, this video is just about North Korea
African culture too. It's so exhausting tbh
and no respect to women at all
yea but there's a reason marriage is becoming so uncommon in Asian countries, so many single people, that the pulsations are just getting older.
This is one the most interesting people and youtube channels I've ever seen.
K P ❤️
Because NK lifestyle is so different and secretive, it fascinates us or at least me.
@@vg7985 yaa
She knows how to tell a story, everything she says is interesting, definitely un-American, because Americans just blather on about nothing. She has something to say. Thank God for immigrants. I hope she doesn’t become too Americanized.
@@steveperreira5850 All Americans talk to much according to you. None of them choose their words. Ok
“Well I didn’t hate him”
😅 I mean, yeah. That’s a good starting point tbh. Lol 😂
😂😂 it can't go much better I guess
As an American, I agree...it takes forever to get where you wanna go. Sometimes people deceive people about where the relationship is going. It’s very complicated. I wish it was more direct.
I heard that so many times in arranged marriages in Greece that have almost faded now. Those that got married in the 1950s and 1960s can relate.
Baby steps, everyone starts at this point. 😂😂
Being an Indian, I can relate to this at so many levels. It's not bad honestly. American dating culture is out of my understanding too 😅😅
I grew up here, I don't get it either. I have friends who say that when they're in long term relationships say they miss dating. I'm like "nope!"
True. Here, if you are getting into a relationship with someone, this means that you want that person as your life partner. It provides emotional security. Though it has its own disadvantages too 🤷
@Redskins 7 I meant that "dating that way, the way most Asians do, staying sticked to one partner throughout life is not bad honestly"
@Redskins 7 that's why I said that there are bad sides to it too. And I hope you are at a better place now.
This is one the most interesting people and youtube channels I've ever seen.
I grew up in the US before people communicated through cell phones& the internet. It was really great getting to know friends and seeking a potential match through long conversations on the phone or in person, and through writing letters back and forth.
I never even thought about this. What a difference. Thank you for sharing!
You should make a video on how you met your husband.
Americans love a good love story
I was about to ask that too lol but I saw your comment 👍
@@Sakshi-yq4jm Ya but where is her wedding ring??
@@Sakshi-yq4jm She also has a child
@@annbellgrau wtf!! Seriously?
@@Sakshi-yq4jm Yep!😄 She has a son, I think she has some pictures on her instagram
The typical American dating culture “right now” SUCKS. It’s sometimes gross actually.....
Better to date with a purpose ♥️
hmm,,, well it depends-- i mean lmao you can date casually if you want and if it isn't hurting anyone- let people make their own decisions yk? i myself would also date with a purpose but like lmao if both people just wanna date casually then who is anyone t judge them??
That would be nice but people are idiots, I went out of my way to not date an American
Dating with a purpose is better in my opinion because if you don't you *are* hurting someone. You're hurting yourself by setting yourself up for heartbreak. Y'all gotta be more honest with yourselves and stop pretending you have no emotions when it comes to sex/dating.
@@nibblesxsips i have emotions when it comes to those things,, but i don't know about others- and neither do you. if both people are fine with it then let them be lmao. you don't know what others feel and think and neither do i. also, i don't think that they don't have emotions. they might just not want something serious or "date with a purpose" - and that's fine. they can do what they want and we can't judge others for that- anhyways stream back door
That's the way God designed dating to begin with. That's the way I courted and married my husband 🥰 "Dating with a purpose" - perfect way to word it 🙏 That way nobody enters marriage with relationship baggage and both parties have a clear understanding of the expectations. It takes the Drama out of it ☀️
Feeling confused vs. feeling unsafe.
"They're more honest, they don't make me confused" - 5 seconds earlier "I have to reject the man at least 3 times", is that not confusing for the man?
Yes, but not for her 😉 thats literaly what she said
Yea, but in case of that, you can beat her, and threaten to kill her.
In general it sounds realy shitty to me, but she had good personal experiences when she was young so she it in much more positive way.
Lucked out with my wife. We took our being together seriously. Not to say we rushed into it but I felt a true beaming, unconditional love for her about a year in. Very lucky to have her. ❤️ American dating is extremely frightening, I agree. I was terrified of rejection or not being taken seriously. It's the luck of the draw, honestly!
I love how she is explaining it as if we’re going to go to North Korea to find a man 😂😂
She is just sharing cultural things, what's actually the purpose of this channel (to show North Korean's life)
@@Klau377 I know, I watch her all the time and appreciate her videos, I just interpreted it like this as a joke but I know the real purpose of it. No worries 😌
Park yeon-mi fled North Korea when she was 8yrs old
@@Steveinthailand No she was 13
@@mianatalie2443 According to South Korean Intelligence, she was 8-9yrs old
"in north korea, we don't have movie theaters. we don't even have 24 hour electricity." That's some real shit dude. Wow.
Thats not even that bad.
24 hour electricity is a myth in backward areas of India too.
@@doomsday7308 it's just something else that i used to take for granted and didn't even realize is a privilege until yeonmi said that!
@@lizzybelle11 its fine.. If u get used to stuff u wont realize ur blesses cuz u have them
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Men outside of North Korea also threaten women's lives for being rejected/broken up with... Often.
In the US and any developed country there is still death and violence in "love." It's partially a natural reaction to rejection when people don't know how to control themselves and are not emotionally well. I just wonder if the cases of women committing domestic abuse is lower in NK xD
In India they’ll throw acid in your face.
Yes, I live in Mexico and you get MURDERED for rejecting some entitled asshole... :(
Women just get so much shit over here
Honestly part of maturing as a woman in America is to learn to spot that type of man before you make the mistake of dating them. Sadly A LOT of women here never actually learn to do that cause they are too focused on just not being alone.
@@Lindseyisloony it's part of maturing anywhere. Just in america you have the choice of dating them xD and if they're forceful you have the law
North Korean dating is how my mom described dating in the 80s. I think it is sweet to write letters and other traditional forms of affection :)
Thank you for sharing this video, Yeonmi! I just wanted to comment a couple of things - I think everyone has a bit different idea of dating in the US. Some people do it to have fun and others do it to find someone they want a serious relationship with. So it is possible to find the best of both worlds, where as a woman, you have a lot of control over how the relationship goes and who you are dating, but at the same time, the man takes it seriously and intends to marry one day.
As an American, I agree...it takes forever to get where you wanna go. Sometimes people deceive people about where the relationship is going. It’s very complicated. I wish it was more direct.
I can't say anything for America as I live in Germany but here I have the impression a lot of it is up to you, if you yourself are honest and upfront from the start it might scare some people off but the ones that are worthwhile appreciate it and stick around
@@91clarie way to twist her words and put blame on the woman. typical. she didn't ask to be gaslighted. If u don't agree her viewpoint then just ignore it and go 🙄
@@maachan711 um excuse me?? I just said how it's in my country and shared my personal expierence as a woman I might add. why attack me for it lol?
Blame women
Your first crush sounds like an amazing guy. I hope he is happy.
Yes I was very touched when she shared that story
I actually got married after knowing my husband for 2 years! (And I personally never touched online dating.) We are religious, and hold family values dear to us. Our way of dating was a little different from mainstream dating, to be honest, but I thought it ended up being perfect! I guess I’m trying by to say that a more pure and simple (yet still safe) dating culture does exist here in America!
Yes!
The way you speak of that young, selfless man made me tear up. The love you had/have for that man is very obvious.
Mexico same deal: "Declarar" essentially means Novias>Fiancé>Wife. I have been married to a wonderful Mexican woman for 25 years but I still cannot wrap my head around the concept.
It sounds like North Korean dating is tainted with death and violence instead of love, like many other aspects of life over there
exactly. not raised with love, might be why the relationships involve more control and violence. It makes you wonder even if an abused starving individual was to exchanged places with their abuser, could they be just as ruthlessly brutal or would they become more compassionate.
In the US and any developed country there is still death and violence in "love." It's partially a natural reaction to rejection when people don't know how to control themselves.
I think love is partially characterized by sacrifice. That is hard to do when you hardly have anything for yourself.
Sounded pretty romantic to me, actually.
@@alukuhito having to marry someone so they don’t beat you senseless sounds pretty romantic alright
@@InnaPepina That sounds bad, but the way that our little lovely narrator was explaining dating made it sound quite romantic. I'd rather just meet someone in some random situation in my life than over some online app. And, BTW, tons of people have ended up in bad relationships and marriages outside of North Korea.
There are some subcultures in the US (especially in Christian churches) where we are also encouraged to not date people unless we are viewing them as a possible spouse.
Not one individual needs a 'subculture' to learn about his or hers individuality. It's rather the other way around.
it is usually a factor of religiosity and traditionalism. It is sad that is only a subculture that is resisting the modern degeneracy which is ruining society.
@@hugopepe1722 So true
Even being more liberal in the south you are still raises that way. Yep.
Yup, when my husband and I started dating, it was for marriage. If marriage wasn’t possible, it was a waste of time.
im american born and raised and I absolutely hate the dating culture. America is wonderful but some things I believe have evolved too much.
Ya right
I agree, a few years ago i tried the whole online dating thing and all I got was a bunch of guys trying to hookup. It was so annoying!! Ended up meeting my current boyfriend at my friends house before a concert we were all going to. That was 3 years ago. Meeting people irl is hard in amaerica but its so much better than online dating.
Oh I see, you wanna get beat up.
S Userman definitely not but there should be a happy medium like people actually being loyal to their significant other there is no romanticism involved in dating in America it’s all about physicality.
@@miriammischel4210 I've in both types of relationships. Physical, and romantic+physical. I would definitely NOT like an oppressive system that blocks any particular type of relationship. Maybe you've had some bad luck. Maybe you like the wrong type of guy. IDK.
There is no such thing as a soulmate the best that you can hope for is to find someone that you are happy to change yourself for and willing To accept their shortcomings and for them to do the same if you are expecting anything more than you are bound to be disappointed.
I can definitely see your point of view and it’s very interesting. I agree that our dating style is so long, taking years to get married. North Koreas is very simple and yet also complicated with the whole family status/ Romeo and Juliet relationships. Thank you for sharing
Am I the only one who like the “ i didn’t hate him” part?
No, I like that too.
Why do you like that?
Realistically not much is needed in a relationship besides trust in who your partner is. People set themselves up for failure expecting too much from a person. Even when they themselves aren't that great either lol
I just bought your book tonight on Amazon. Looking forward to reading it! Your videos are such an inspiration to me! As an American, I feel like it is so easy to take things for granted and your story reminds me to be grateful for everything I have and of just how fortunate I am to have been born in America. My heart bleeds for the people of North Korea.
Thank you so much for your care and support! Hope you enjoy the book ❤️
"Way more honest."
"You should say no at least 3 times."
She was referring to the men, not women.
Mmmm...🤔 dunno .....
tbh that's how it is in parts of asia for a lot of things. A guest has to say no to food offered to "be polite" the first time. They say it the second/third time if they really mean it. Just remember this ain't American culture and that's okay.
@@lauraelizabethbrown same in many parts of europe. weird especially when you have a child who doesn’t understand this silly etiquette or what😅
from the female point of view it's considered more honest when the man's intentions are clear from the get-go rather than dissimulating, manipulating, trying to buy time, being purposely unclear and bs-ing about "fun"
That's actually really interesting about dating in North Korea with how there isn't really any electricity. There's actually something that's really sweet, sincere, and endearing about how most dates take place out in nature because of it.
I also prefer the type of dating where it’s more like courting. It’s more traditional and romantic. It’s so hard to find someone who has the same values and who doesn’t just want to “date” just for fun or to have a good time. I was also brought up in a similar manner; that the purpose dating someone is to find your life partner. If I am not interested in marriage or the other person isn’t then there’s no reason to date. I’d love to find someone who’d send handwritten letters back and forth and is a true gentleman. Someone to watch the stars together, write poetry, play piano and sing together, make or get meaningful gifts for each and just take our time and not rush anything. To me even just holding hands is a big step. I know this isn’t how things are these days, but I just personally prefer courting over what dating has turning into.
I agree that I also want to find my life partner, but it doesn't mean it has to be the one I'm with at the moment. It can take a few tries and love is what love is. You may not want to be in a relationship with someone anymore you've been dating for awhile. I do strongly agree, as well, that dating should be respectful, meaningful, unrushed, and romantic. I think this is what most people really want, but are afraid of it.
courting lol, man it's not 1066 anymore, society evolves and so do relationships
does everyone else keep getting this channel on their recommendations? Lol not mad tho, this is awesome and eye opening!
As someone who hasn’t dated my whole life, I can’t handle the dating culture in America. I am 21 now, and if I’m considering a relationship, I’m not considering “fun” anymore, but marriage.
I get the feeling I should never admit that to anyone 😅
I'm 23 and I met my boyfriend at 20. And the first thing I told him that I was looking to get married. Believe me, young people do date to get married.
Yeah don't. Just say you we've date with purpose but not that marriage stuff.
It’s important to talk about those things early on. Plus I feel like people our age are good at communication
I mean... On the one hand that is the right way to look at dating but on the other hand that's an off putting thing to hear from somebody who hasn't actually dated before. Somebody who hasn't even dated certainly has absolutely no idea what being married would be like so it would be very hard to take such a person seriously when they say they only want to date somebody if there's potential for it to result in marriage. I know I would definitely steer clear of any man who said that to me who didn't actually have any dating experience. Experienced people dating with intent certainly don't want to have to teach somebody everything.
Wonderful, couldn't agree more. I find the society's normal of dating stupid
Off topic but-
The way she speaks english is so cute jdbsjsj
Sadly it messes up subtitles when it shows “steer” instead of “steal” thats not racist that actually happened on a video
Her English is amazing, too.
@@Jimmy911ism South Park would beg to differ... 😳 🤔 lol
Hey, i get it. When i fall in love, i want to start a family and never look back. Ive not dated for fun as an adult. Ive always been one who wanted to meet a girl, make her my wife, start a life and be happy together. I totally get that view of dating.
That's a rare insight into North Korean society.
Keep up the good work!
You look gorgeous 🥰
I'm sure you know this, but Urban America is VERY different from Rural America. The kind of relationship dynamics you miss from North Korea still exist in parts of America.
I am only 30, but at 24 years old I began writing letters to someone. I met them in person the day after my 25th birthday. We started dating, and because there is not a lot to do in small towns and we don't have a lot of money, most off our dates were going on long walks, talking over a campfire, or cooking together at home.
We were married 11months after we met in person, and have been married for 5 years, are very happy, and will probably be married for the rest of our lives.
This story may be odd in metropolitan areas, but this is still a normal way for relationships to go in rural communities.
Sounds lovely! I always enjoy those types of dates, even as a city girl.
I need this kind of girl . Girls in city all over the place . They always looking for something better . I wish all you had to say i like you
Really??? You wrote letters in which year? The late 2010s??? You ought to be more honest with us.
You're full of sh@t, you might ahve done this, but I can assure you in Rual parts its still nothing like what you describe unless you're Amish.
The American culture has become more self-centered, living for the moment and selfish. Kinda hard to create a long-term relationship with no ability or desire to plan for the future.
Very true. I gave up dating American women in my 30s. I ended up getting serious with women from Turkey, Haiti, Mexico, Colombia, Ethiopia and the Philippines. There are still a lot of countries in the world that take marriage seriously. People from those countries that are citizens in the US are like gold when it comes to relationships.
@@joebombero1 Sounds so serious 6 (at least ) women ....did you get married to all of them ?)))) How is it different from normal dating?
@h2 8 the problem is many people don't understabd their real needs and wants and don't understand other people . Nothing wrong with dating and dating culture of you do it with at least half of your brain working.
The hot chick next door or a handsome dude at work /bar might just not be right for you .
I have so many female friends and male friends who choose their partner for all kind of weird reasons. Mostly looks but also other reasons like family background or simply money. And then are suprised the relationship didnt last.....
Also people don't seem to understand that you probably you will have to go on dates with many people to find "the one " .
They just meet a few bitches / assholes and then decide all gender is like this.
@@electroandcake6658 I proposed to two but was turned down. Two were one dates and friends. One was marriage but she passed away. I dated another and was set to propose when she confessed she was married (LOL). Last one was my current wife. All but two were American citizens but still very traditional beliefs.
@@joebombero1 what i mean is what as you describe yourself being of "traditional beliefs " doesn't guarantee what you will marry and have kids or whatever....stay together forever....one was married , 2 said no. So clearly they were not that serious either. What is a difference ? I am not an American but an European living in Europe. But your comment doesn't really make sence to me. That's why I'm asking .....Plenty of girls still want to get married and are looking to for that. Maybe it should be one of the first questions you ask......instead of blaming a culture. Some women don't want that and that's ok too.
I just finished your book, you are amazing!
Ohh thank you so much for reading it! You are absolutely amazing too ❤️
I'm not trying to be mean but North Korea's dating culture sounds so unhealthy. I am so horrified for the women who cannot report being abused by men who basically stalk them. Thank you for bringing awareness ma'am!
Mean? Lol everything in North Korea is terrifying, you sound like you never heard about North Korean communism, poor guys don't even have internet, they live in their own slavery world created by evil dictators.
@@davolthe1261 well yeah but I don't want most people (who aren't North or South Korean) who see my comment to think I'm being mean rip "-"
@@supergirlysofia3054 Fair enough
American dating culture sucks too. All people care about is having fun and casual sex. No one takes things seriously anymore.
But yes, NK sounds dangerous for women.
@@davolthe1261No Internet is the least terrible thing. They can't even express emotion normally.
I really like that you were able to describe how socio-economic status relates to dating relationships in the US vs. N. Korea. You make it seem so easy to explain. I think it might have a bit to do with your excellent language skills.
Oh wow, how women are treated there is so wrong 😮
And I have to say you look stunning in this video! And that dress is all I want 😂😂
This women has class, moral, everything in a full package after all she and her family went through. Does not get anymore attractive than that.
I was thinking the same thing
She has grace...really rare in a woman today unfortunatly
Plus she's beautiful
on any other channel I would've said that you're a simp but on this one that's just honest praise.
@@sybilpandemik5970 yeah okey mister you know every woman on this planet. Go be a virgin somewhere else
Last time I was this early Kim Il Sung was still alive.
Also it's pretty horrifying that someone can be just threatened into marriage with a guy she hates and is afraid of. I can see why your mother considered "I don't hate him" to be good enough.
But at least there are good people too like that boyfriend willing to lower his status.
Loved this perspective. And the fact you prefer NK style. I get it. Thanks for sharing ♥️
Please do a video on how are gey people treated in North Korea.Also please do a video on how are dissabled people treated in North Korea
I wanna date to marry. Many of Americans say “I love you” early as hell in the relationship and I don’t like that
To be honest this American "dating" (i.e. noncommittal, "just having fun") isn't much of a thing in Europe. It's becoming more of a thing due to US cultural influence though. I'm pretty happy it's not much of a thing though. No ambiguity. No "We've been dating 3 years, are we a couple now?". "let's go on a date" means "Let's see if we are compatible for a relationship".
I live in Oklahoma and people will go out to eat on dates as its a public place to talk and get to know each other ..yes a date is to go see if we are compatible dating for 3 years is just a couple or fuck buddy's who don't want to commit so they just call it dating....tinder isn't for dating mostly its for 1 night stands ...to think all Americans go about "dating" the same way is just wrong some use the term more loosely ..also when I go in a date I'm paying ...unless she wants to but if not I fully expect to else I wouldn't have asked .. ive done where I payed for the first date movie then the next time we went out she wanted to pay so she payed ..I don't see what the deal with paying is
Thats not true. You'll have to specify where in europe you experience this, because in northern europe people are a lot more noncommital than in american culture. One night stands are completely normalized and people get horrified and scared if the other person has feelings. There are good and bad parts to it, but yeah
Can we please remember that europe is a continent with many different countries and cultures? Thanks
@@BasicallyJustLina kinda like theres an Africa and all with in is just called Africa...or 50 states just lumps into merica ...people like to group things
@Robby Dey I think u would need to define dating...I live in Oklahoma and can tell u for sure The odds that your parents are together are very slim my father has had 5 wives and I am 27 .. i know 1 family that is The mother and father of all of their kids and have been married since shortly after high school...
Tender is for hookups you may accidentally find a wife but how many people did you sleep through before you settled on that 1. Again I've met lots of people and none of them have ever told me the tender wasn't just for a one night hook up I have met at least a 100 people my friends in strangers in bars and parties that open tender in swipe right on everybody And filter through the matches they get later.
Everyone I know who is in a relationship or is married met this person organically in person or through friends
It's very rare to find kids that their parents are still married at least in the US ... Again I've only met one family that still married that their kids can say that their parents live in the same house in still sleep in the same bed. literally everyone else I've ever met My family, my friends family, my families friends i only know 1 that isn't divorced
I hate what "dating" has become in western countries. I'm always so reluctant to start dating someone because it happened to me twice that the guy I had genuine feelings for just wanted to have sex once and then break up. It's giving me trust issues and I have just turned my back on dating for good for now.
All men are created equal but not all cultures are equally good.
I liked how in depth of North Korea you put it . I can't wait to read your book "In order to live" that I ordered on Amazon last week.Keep the videos coming !!!!
It was so sweet to hear about the guy who selflessly loved you 💕🥺
She was 13 when she fled nth korea. I'm kinda curious about that now.
I want to know what happend to their relationship
Me too! It's so sad she didn't give more details
She’s sweet, gorgeous, smart, kind and so incredibly strong. How can someone ever click the dislike button? HOW? Lol
Well, they might dislike the NK dating scene.
she prefers the system of arranged marriage, routine violence, male dominance…gee…i dunno…
There are people who think she is spreading lies about NK, there are hundreds of spam comments in her most popular video daily life of North Korean
"Way more honest"... "we always say no at least three times"..
Clearly western dating is WAY MORE dishonest
@Jumpcut Jimmy none of that makes it honest Jimmy. We could easily come up with a bunch of reasons "westerners" lie too, just as valid as "they have to say no so they don't look like sloots"... how about, "I have to say I'm rich so I don't look like a deadbeat!"?
Honest on the guys' side, not on the girls' side. That's what she meant.
@@sgcl10658 in my experience that's what a lot of women mean when it comes to the subject of honesty.
Spanx, make-up, hair dye, washed out photos... all fair game. Go ahead and discover how fair they think it is if they find out all your pics in $$$ clothes were in a fitting room and the sick car was a rental.
@@Zaphod7835 you're comparing a woman's beauty with a man's wealth, so it's not really a fair comparison.
I don't mean to minimize what you are saying, here, but you are such a beautiful person inside and out, girl! I love your videos.
Im American and our culture was beyond my understanding or tolerance also 😅 im married now didnt have to look hard, he found me. But i dont understand treating emotions and physical closeness so flippantly, never was my thing.
I like a girl who uses the word “literally” properly
Like, that is like literally the most important thing. Totally. 😉
Sounds like you would be best pals with Sheldon Cooper from the BBT.
@@xxes11xx lmao! Gud one
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Thank you so much for your regular videos! You provide so much information, which in some times can be crucial. Put together 3-4 of your videos and you have this whole documentary. You put so much effort into each of your videos. I wish you the best for all your future videos and anything to do later in the future. You are an amazing human being, who never deserved to live in a dark place such as North Korea. Thank you..
I wonder what the domestic violence statistics are like in North Korea. Guess we will never properly know.
Yea no matter what I'm sure any "study" would show 0% but I'm sure it's over 75% maybe even over 80%
@@theescapist9450 I'm sure its zero since north korea is a shit hole,why would people be together in the first place
It's horrible, no matter where you look
I bet it is high in both Koreas.
in the south, it wasnt all about kpop, korean dramas but there are very high domestic violence cases too.
I know that NK women are taught to smile through all the pain, but I just can't get over how genuinely happy you seem to be after all you must have been through. Of course anyone would feel thrilled after escaping from from NK, but scars from the past don't just disappear overnight do they? You're in incredible woman, and I hope you find happiness for the rest of your life. Few deserve it more.
Heck, I don't like American modern dating myself and I'm American. So I can imagine how you feel. I think I have a higher moral standard than most people I'vecome across who wanted to date.
I feel like every mom says "well I didn't hate him". My parents been married for 25 years, and my mom still isn't satisfied completely because my dad isn't Tom Cruise
Exactly I'm not satisfied completely cuz my husband is not tom cruise...lol but in my case, my husband does know this And I'm not Jennifer Lowe-Hewit either so... It's a tie.
@@nsbl1753 it's great to know that people can look at themselves honestly xD
People are setting themselves for failure if they're expecting to find their Disney princess/prince
But Tom Cruise is a brainwashed cult sheep.... I'm pretty sure your father was the better choice ^^
My mother still goes on about Jon Bon Jovi😂😂😂
Tom cruise can’t date a woman if they’re not in their mid 20’s. He’s also in a cult and completely bonkers.
I wonder in your hometown if he's thinking about you too
Your comment really made me think about this.... because, obviously, she was truly special to him if he was so willing to give up so much.
That’s so sad she got to escape but not him..
Yes! That story was so heartbreaking, I wish she gave more details about it. He really seemed to love her.
@@vio3366 i think he was mentioned more in her book so if you're interested you should definitely go and read it :D
I remember this from her book :(
Very interesting. In the US and UK there are people who do not rush for one night stands and just want a long term relationship so people should keep looking. I married my first boyfriend.
k. we all know and we don’t care
@@59fiftycap someone’s jealous
@@PrincessAshley12 😂😂
@@59fiftycap eff off
@@59fiftycap jealous
Agraïm, thank you very much for your Channel. I am convinced that you are helping some people.
I thought she said she didn't know anything about America.
Now she says she saw Pretty Woman.
Yeonmi I recently found your channel and watching your interview shocked me out of a sense of complacency from daily life and it made me realize how little all of my problems are. I was really touched by your story. Although it made me sad to hear, your resiliency and gratitude is really inspiring.
I can totally understand her confusion!!! Thank God my husband fell head over heels in love with me at 1st sight and the same for me!!! We were married in just 18 months and have been stupid happy for 18 years as of September 2020.
technically you are choosing someone to spend the rest of your life with. things don't have to be fast, it's a big decision so i agree with definitely getting to know your partner for years to see if it will work out. marriage is the type of thing you shouldn't hurry.
Addicted to your videos 👌❤ Lots of love💫💞
I’m an American with a North Korean mindset approach to relationships. It all makes sense now 😐
From what I can tell, the reason North Korea allows their dating culture to be the way that you described seems largely because it is to ensure stability.
Since the dating culture in North Korea doesn't seem like one that would lead to a lot of premarital sex, but given that's common in practically every culture both present and historical, I was wondering what North Korea does about abortions given I know that I know that China has used forced abortion ever since they began the One Child policy(now Two child policy). Does North Korea also carry out forced abortions?
I love this dress! She is so pretty. I love that she shares what life is like in DPKR. They are just so reclusive and there are so few who can speak out and share what it's really like
When your Indian and arranged marriage is still the only way 😂
Nope, that's not a hardcore rule. All my friends, cousins, and many more people I know had love marriage. The marriage situation in India really differs from person to person, family to family and city to city.
So, please don't generalize all Indians.
@@IamPriaa I think OC _is_ an indian _
@@IamPriaa it is what it is. Arrnged marriages r the only way in major part of India.
@@Itsparulsingh even though that is true , it has evolved a lot from the common perspective of arranged marriages. It is kind of like a family arranged blind date situation. You do have a lot of choices and also time to hash it out with your potential partner. So at the end it is like dating with a purpose.
Ahahaahahahahahaahaahahahaha 🤣🤣🤣
Thanks that are you Talking about it.
The thought of two people corresponding with each other with handwritten letters sounds so romantic.
Wow Yeonmi, thanks for teaching us about that kind of culture in North Korea! 🇰🇵 I didn’t how different the country is/was from other parts in the world. Looking forward for your next video! 😊
Yes! My mom moved away from her family in the provincial Philippines to work in Vietnam and Hong Kong where she met my dad (who's from Ohio) to me being born in California! I'm so grateful my mom fought to give her family a better life!
No, you don’t get used to American dating culture, and you shouldn’t. I dated guys from the age of 14 to 24 before I got married. My husband and I met online April 1st, and when we met in person in June we decided to get married. We were married on November 5th. It was fast, but we both liked each other, and were so sick of dating, that we didn’t see a reason to delay! We’ve been married for nine years and it was the best decision of our lives!
I was born in the 50’s, and back in that time dating was more proper and structured. Today in America it seems most everything goes and many are just looking for a good time. There is a downsize to having too much like we have in America,, we lost a lot of appreciation for our traditional ways of the past. It’s still the best country in the world to live in. I do love the commitment of marriage and choosing only one woman to be with and love. I could be called ‘old fashioned’ but my lifestyle works well for me. Been married now for 42 years and we still love each other and do so much together . We are independent, and we are also a team. Knowing you from your videos, I’m certain that you have picked your mate wisely and you will have the same blessings that I have shared with my wife for many many years to come. My best to you, you are very special.
I can't imagine preferring to be beaten up and not being able to have a "no" being taken seriously, and being threatened to be murdered because it's a quicker system than getting to know someone for a long time 😨
It’s all she knew for a very long time. People are accustomed to doing what they know. But I know what you mean. It’s hard to believe eh
Your videos are so informative and interesting; thank you so much for sharing your experiences with us.
I’ve always been a little confused with this dating culture too. Whenever I want to be with someone I don’t just want to date them like I wanna fall in love with them and form a family someday
Your stories are so amazing... I'm the same age as you, from in Eastern Europe. So, obviously, my generation felt such huge changes because of the fall of USSR. I am very happy that I have a chance to date freely and have options - but I completely agree on your views on dating culture. My younger friends are so much into casual dating, hook-ups and apps, and I never felt like it was an organic way to find love. It was like shopping for the best dress. It didn't just make things difficult for me, but for all serious people. You constantly have to evaluate if the person really feels something or if they just see you as someone to "experiment with and see how things go". This word "looking for someone serious" is thrown around so much, we don't care about it anymore. So you spend long amounts of time observing, looking, evaluating, questioning the person. Imagine two people like each other and both people are doing this.
OMG she's so beautiful bless her heart!
Traditional relationships. Easy and simple, the way it should be.