How Do You Fight False Allegations of Abuse in Family Court?
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- Опубликовано: 3 июл 2024
- What can you do if you have been falsely accused of child abuse or domestic violence? Your only real option is to go on the offensive and prove your ex is a liar. In questions of credibility, there is no real burden of proof, you need to gather the evidence to prove your innocence so you don't lose your children and your reputation.
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This happens frequently and is usually women accusing men just to get custody . It’s disgusting
Ohh yes full Custody plust free home free food,free bills and obviously freedom to party every single weekend
meanwhile a man or a hardworking taxpayer father don't have any opportunity to talk bcz court system protects retirement profits
Not this time.....
Going through this right now. Our family is being torn apart by lies of abuse that were filed in retaliation for a contempt action brought against her, which I won. Her claims are so wild and completely unfounded. She wants more custody and support of just one child and doesn't mention the other, yet the claims being made are so drastic that if they were true, no child should be in the home they describe. None of it makes any sense. Very hard and expensive thing to go through.
Stay strong brother, I went through as well ex put kids against me. She’s on drugs no job I tried taking my kids away from her, then the allegations started. I did everything correctly hired an attorney spent 20k she didn’t show up court hearings didn’t obey her court orders and yet I’m the bad guy. Luckily law enforcement didn’t believed her crap. But the damage is done
Experienced divorce lawyer here (PA / NJ). Love the video! I wish the burden of proof on these domestic violence cases was “beyond a reasonable doubt”, like in a criminal case. Some people (narcissists, borderlines, etc.) are good liars and try to ruin someone’s life by making up lies and then lying under oath in court. Keep up the great work!
Exactly especially the BPD NPD part.
Jcnlaw: UNLESS YOU DONATE 10% of your services to men who cannot afford you, you are just part of the most corrupt system in America: Family courts.
Why should men take part in a system that DETESTS men?
Are you any less corrupt than the system you represent? If so, prove it. Do pro bono.
Sanjosemike (no longer in CA)
I'm going through this now.
This is exactly what I'm going through.
This actually happens more often than we care to admit and the courts instigates this
That's why you often need someone in your corner to prevent any misleading information from turning against you.
@@mymodernlaw you mean a friend or family member? The reality is, when the person lie on you , they often bring a false witness to lie in court to win.. I have a final order entered against me by default and I don't even live in the same state as the accuser
@@mymodernlaw No, we need to reform the system so you leeches...I mean lawyers, sorry, stop using it as your personal cash cow. That's one of the main problems!!! People like you swooping in to profit off of tragedy. Makes me sick tbh...
bc it probably makes them money
@@tristanchapman5092
I can recommend you to a man who can help you with court case dismissed like he helped me
I’m am representing myself. I don’t have lawyer fees right now. But I do have time to educate myself and learn the law. Wish me great results. God willing.
I understand not being able to afford. I’m praying for you. I’m I. This situation myself. You can do this. Especially if you’re the parent you outta be. Let God lead you. Be wise and listen to all the advice you can like this video. I’m taking notes. Don’t listen to a video without a pen and paper and capture all messages and post from online. This has been the worst struggle of my life thus far. I’m sure you feel the same way. I know you do if the children mean the world to you. I’m fighting a person with borderline personality disorder along with cps neglect and abuse charges and she is willing to not only lie but obviously fabricate evidence it seems. I figure this will continue and every chance she gets there will be something new. A new lie etc. it’s the way it’s been so far. I’m just lucky she is so dumb to obviously. That she post the worst possible stuff on her tic toc account. Claiming one thing in court the turning around and exposing herself online. I would have missed it if I wouldn’t have payed an online service to tell me as much about her as possible (what social media sites she uses/ date sites/records etc). It takes a lot of work and I feel like I’m doing what a good lawyer should be doing. I just know the kids are worth my life and I tell myself it will work out while praying. Thanks for reading. I’m on Facebook Drew McDaniel. DM if I could do anything for anyone. I’m no expert. I’m learning as I go.
Even if money is tight, I would continue looking for a low cost attorney. In my area, attorneys are very expensive but I was able to find one that took a $1200 retainer and allows me to pay $300 every month which if you really grind and look hard, is achievable. When you represent yourself, you're going up against a season attorney that can run laps around you and screw you over bad.
How did it go...
@@life_of_DrewSo sorry. My mother had borderline personality disorder. It was so bad that my brother killed himself in her driveway.
You need to do psychotherapy to LEARN to avoid women with BPD.
Better yet, avoid women completely. You need to repair yourself.
Sanjosemike (no longer in CA)
Be careful, friend. You only get one shot. It is a club and unless you are an attorney. You are not a member.
Just my two cents. I am not an attorney.
My ex filed three false DCFS reports on me in three months. All of the reports have been unfounded. So exhausting
So sorry to hear that, Jessica! Hopefully, they are proven unfounded asap!
@@mymodernlaw thank you. I have been unfounded for all three .
Sadly, I was in this situation but I was lucky enough to have a lawyer who gave me this same advice.
My wife is a pathological liar and she just filed an RO against me protesting her our two year old. I’m absolutely terrified and mortified that she could fabricate this all for the upper hand in our divorce. I’m beside myself. I can’t even sleep.
There are people that can help you! If not an attorney, there are so many support groups to pull information and advice from. Good luck!
Me too
@@joneday9131 fast forward, I got it dismissed. She then filed another one a few months later. Got it dismissed. The judge told her he found her not credible and found me credible. It was glorious.
@@mymodernlaw Yes and no. I have an attorney and the judge still erred on the side of caution. Likely will have to go to trial but in the mean time, she was granted temporary orders in her favor. Really, I should be facing criminal charges for some of the ridiculous allegations, but she didn't even ask for a protective orders, just a parenting plan mod. Makes no sense with the heinous allegations made. I passed a CPS inspection with flying colors already and that didn't matter. I'm lost and feel helpless.
Just happened to me, tomorrow is my first day in court, 14 days with no contact with my kids. Absolute torture, cannot fathom my wife would be this desperate.
A prison sentence for one spouse means that the other spouse gets the whole house instead of half the value of the house. That creates a strong incentive for someone to falsely accuse the other.
A strong incentive for sure, but depending upon the situation, is a prison sentence for either parent good for the younger, more impressionable family members?
@@mymodernlaw No, a prison sentence is a nightmare. What concerns me is that occasionally people will falsely accuse their partner of domestic violence in order to get ownership of the whole house.
You hit that on the money.
We need good people like this to protect us from the vile twisted and greedy predators that proliferate our modern day society. These guys are our saviours.
Thanks Michael.
I'm a mother and I was accused of sa abuse to my sons. There was coaching identified by the father, he was punishing me for wanting my sons and not him. 11 years have past and one ran away from his dad and is safe at home. He tells me he was starved, neglected, forced to eat dog food, exposed to gross things and the whole time I became psychotic because of the gross accusations so child protection used my mental illness to destroy my family. I couldn't get a lawyer because the state don't fund child protection matters and I couldn't get a job due to the accusations. Two of my sons were brainwashed and psychology reports said they were coached!. I haven't seen them in 11 years😢 my grandchild is being raised to hate me without knowing me😢 I have three of my children, but yearn for those stolen from me. I don't know if I can live with this forever, I exist, constantly miserable. Things and systems shouldn't be like this
Fight it people
I've been to court 15 times, the truth is in the proof
Stay out of the shit, say and do nothing that can be used against you
Document everything
For sure! Thanks for watching!
I keep fighting the same known false allegations in court - it’s completely fabricated , and I have to keep proving myself over and over and over but lose out I’m doing so each time .
Girl point out to the court that these issues have already been handled. If he tries to switch judges or courts, point out he’s “court shopping” essentially until he gets his way. Best of luck to you either way!
If you're like me and you *DON'T* have the THOUSANDS of dollars to throw away on an Attorney.....
Here are some steps to help.....
1. *KEEP TRACK OF EVERYTHING.* Texts, emails, even calls if you can get it and make sure they KNOW they are being recorded.
Having cameras outside AND inside your home... Focus on the areas of the house YOU are always in and make sure you are always in them. Do this so if anything happens - you always have an INSTANT alibi. The cameras are good for a week or so or however long they store the footage for - keep the texts and emails for LIFE.
2. Make *SURE* with *EVERY* false allegation that that allegation is DOCUMENTED, and if you can, always make sure you file court papers telling the courts that it is false.... Even IF they get away with it a couple times and you gotta eat shit those couple times....
Make SURE the record is there for *WHEN* they *DO* slip up - so you can *SHOW* the judge - "See, I TOLD you years ago it was false Your Honor." - then show them the documented papers from the last however many times....
3. *DISTANCE YOURSELF* from the false accuser.... *STOP* thining you can fix it, or chnage them, you can't - it's over. NOW protect yourself. Make sure there is enough mileage between you and them that they can't just up and show up at your house whenever they feel like it.... *KEEP YOUR DISTANCE.* When meeting, do it in PUBLIC, make SURE there are cameras.
4. *NEVER BE ALONE* - Always.... ESPECIALLY around your children on visitation.... *NEVER* find yourself alone with the individual.... Because that person OR child, can and WILL manipulate and BE manipulated by the other parent to lie... You wanna make sure you have witnesses.... Even if it's just the other children.... NEVER let yourself be caught alone with the accuser or anyone they may be in contact with, even if it's your with your OWN children. Call neighbor to come hang out with you guys... Call other family... Till the situation has been FULLY resolved and the accuser is OUT of your life, NEVER be alone.
5. *READ THE STATE LAWS ON DOMESTIC VIOLENCE IN YOUR STATE.* "Domestic Violence Act"
*NOTHING BEATS KNOWLEDGE.* Knowing the laws is the BEST way to protect yourself, AND to know how to strike back when they let their guard down and get caught slippin....
Check the DEFINITIONS of the terms of the specific language used in the laws written in your state....
For Illinois - "ABUSE" can be defined as "HARASSMENT," in just one of many ways, Harassment is defined as "Threatening to take a minor child out of state or to improperly conceal the minor"
In MY situation - my ex always threatens to leave the state with my son. ALWAYS bugging me to sign over my rights, and telling me she is moving out of state.
Although she can NEVER provide the courts with enough that would satisfy them to ALLOW her to leave - I always KNOW I can rely on her eventually threatening me with it again.
When she makes these threats - she also falsely accuses me of HORRENDOUS things with my kids....
Well - I am able in my state to get an Order of Protection based on the harassment of her threatening to leave the state.
I can also prove I didn't do anything she accused me of - AND have kept track of EVERYTHING for years so I can show the Judge text messages, emails, history, video - and proof - that she threatened me again with taking him out of state.
Even tho it's small - SHE broke the law in saying what she said. The judge HAS to uphold that law - so he is obligated to give me the O.P. now, which covers me AND my son, so I will get my son in the process as well.
ALL because I learned the laws and waited for her to break them.
You don't need a lawyer.. You need to be telling the REAL Truth - and you need to be able to prove it.
Hope this helps!
This is actually happening to me right now, my son fell while naked on a step and injured his butt and my ex wife went to a doctor said she suspected abuse and since they are obligated to report I’m dealing with the child services investigation for a baseless claim. Mind you we have proven dozens of her claims false at this point but she just keeps increasing the severity of her claims it’s malevolent
That's pretty intense! Hopefully your little one is feeling better and everything works out in his best interest.
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@@mymodernlaw how can I contact with you personally
Powerful from start to finish thank you for this enlightenment truly honored 🙌
It’s been more than one month I’m staying without my 5 years old daughter. I’ve been taking care of her since her birth. My husband falsely obtained restraining order against me and taught my daughter to lie to dcpp that her mother hits her. The judge ordered supervised visitation for only one hour in whole week, I’m going through this for doing nothing.. don’t know how to get my child back 😭
I love u. This has been most helpful than all the others I've looked at
Thanks so much for the love and watching our videos!
This video is a outstanding! You are definitely one of the best attorney's that I have seen in this area of law. I would definitely retain your services If only you were in Dallas, Texas - Great info nonetheless and sincerely appreciate the advice given! Much respect from Dallas, & Semper Fi 🇺🇸
Going through this right now.. im surprised at seeing recent comments... im more hurt about her accusing me of having intent to hurt my child just to get full custody.. nobody deserves to go through this situation.. lost 25lbs in 6 weeks.. God is Great.. have faith and stay strong..
Stay positive! Keep your child first before everything out and things will work out!
@@mymodernlaw Thank you!.. court date is tomorrow... your input may have just given me a winning shot (representing myself)..
Thank you so very much for this video!
You are so welcome!
Thank you so much
I’m going through this as we speak. Took my kids away from me (was stay at home dad while ex wife worked the entire time son was awake (7-7pm). Now saying I apparently threw the kid like around in the living room maliciously, showing a text message in court when clearly I was talking about dancing with him or holding him in the air 🤦🏽♂️. And judge somehow believed her even though she said multiple times that she just got out of a psych ward a week prior to making these false allegations 😳🤷🏽♂️.
Thank you for having the courage to share your story, hopefully she gets the help she needs and the family can get settled into a new type of normalcy!
Hoping so too 🙏🏽. She’s not the person I married anymore from seeing who she was in court on the 4th last week. So it started with a insanely falsified report to the judge to initiate a no contact order. I was forced to leave my service dog behind (100% VA disabled Veteran and medically retired from the navy). And lied so much in court under oath to attempt further charges against me. Never have done any of this to her and now facing a violation because I’d texted her sisters brother when initially served this protective order to let her know I wasn’t home and the service dog was so I didn’t come home at the end of this to a dead dog as I couldn’t find his hard copy ID card at the time I was served and forced to vacate my home. She’d even put in her paperwork she was going to be staying at her parents house down the street the entirety of this falsified protective order 🤷🏽♂️. Already had to go to jail at the first hearing because of the said text and now have a hearing to see whether or not she wants to drop that charge. Never been charged of anything in my life or had a reason to hire an attorney. And they never heard my testimony or got a statement from me 😳🤷🏽♂️🤦🏽♂️
Midlife crisis
Going thru this too thanks for video
You got this! Thanks so much for watching!
My ex just took all my custody away. I know have to file a motion to vacate. This is horrible
Wow you just blew me away ma'am kudos to you. I have been shaken down to the Core. 15 days ago my five boys will ripped out of my home by DSS period after a call was made to an officer not once but twice in one day for alleged domestic violence. Both times I was not home. Supposedly when the officer came the second time he found a pipe paraphernalia on my wife. At which time my wife completely threw me under the bus under false allegations. Therefore the officer called DSS I got a text from my wife telling me that an officer and DSs were there and she thought the children were going to be taken. Immediately immediately I ran the two blocks that I was away at a casino to find my wife DSS and the officer there. The officer tells me that the SS will be taking my children that there is drug use in the house and this is the second call for domestic violence I'm completely blown away at this point. Nobody will listen to me they think it's all my fault. I told the officer if she was calling the pipe "outside mind you" she should leave and that me and my boys were going inside. It ended with my five boys being loaded into a van I have not seen them since but one time for 2 hours. My boys are shaking they're scared they're crying they have only been away from my wife and I a handful of times they range from 12 years old to 1 and 1/2 my youngest is just staring at me like Daddy you're not there for me. There is so much more to the story I don't even have counsel at this point. Because I was led to believe that my wife's grandfather pay $3,000 to an attorney who we found out on the 10th day never entered into the case for us. I understand it sounds absurd maybe a little crazy. But that's because it is I have contacted multiple attorneys sense only to be turned away either they don't deal with DSS cases or the caseload is too full and it's too complex. I have been told not to fight by just about everybody I know plus a few attorneys but my children's eyes are burning inside of my soul the hopeless tears I see falling still from our meeting drives me I know that my 14th amendment has been violated yes the placement order has been put in place the temporary emergency custody is done and yet still I have not been able to speak one word on my behalf for my children for myself. The caseworker doesn't return my calls I didn't receive any of the paperwork that my wife did until yesterday because I requested it I'm not and haven't been offered a safety plan we are not on a reunification plan. They did a medical exam without my wife or my consent my six-year-old and my nine-year-old said that they told them they didn't want them to touch their privates for Christ's sake please somebody hear this please somebody reach My email is kimberanthony7@gmail.com please don't hesitate to reach out any any information or direction is greatly appreciated. I will stop at nothing till my last breath to make sure that my family is together again. Thank you
Hi there Jennifer, I'm so sorry to hear about your story it sounds absolutely incredible. I'll send you an email shortly and if there is anyway we can help you, we will try our best! Thanks so much for sharing!
This is such a good video I’ve replayed it like 10 times lol
So happy you enjoyed it! Thanks, John!
If you can't afford an attorney, you won't stand a chance. That was the biggest mistake I made was trying to fight it on my own. In hindsight, even if I wanted a lawyer I couldn't have gotten one as she drained all the bank accounts and sold everything I had of value before I had a chance. That's why they call it the silver bullet. Without a law degree, it will probably work. I went in thinking no way would any sane person believe what she's saying when I have no history of any such behavior. Oh how wrong I was... It ended up hurting our daughter the most. I wish the courts would wake up to some of this stuff.
Thanks so much for sharing your story, these situations can be messy and expensive. I'm sorry that yours was a bit both :/
@@mymodernlaw well, let's be honest here, the lawyers are over half the reason family court gets so expensive. The family court lawyers associations/lobbyists have tried to block every equal parenting bill that's been put forth. This is a cash cow for the lawyers, judges, and commissioners. If a national equal/split custody bill was signed into law, I think most of you would be out of jobs. Divorcecorps is a fantastic documentary on this exact topic. Even if you're one of the very few who fight for men on this stuff. For every one of you, there's ten of the other. We don't need strategies to beat the individual cases. We need sweeping reform of the entire family court system. Anyone who isn't for that, is being willfully ignorant, or benefiting from the current system.
I’m literally in this exact situation when it comes to the slander and false allegations I can’t take it anymore. I’m in Glendale Arizona. I guess I just need a bite the bullet I just don’t wanna make any mistakes and Yavapai County is far from modern..
I told her long time ago don’t ever put me in a position to make me fight for the truth because I’ll fight to the death for it, but I can’t do this alone
3:19 You need an experienced lawyer who is not afraid to be aggressive! So true. Mr or Mrs Nice only raise the credibility of the other side.
Also, the harder the allegations against a person, the deeper the system burys the accused before the start of the case. There's a lot of work to do in family courts in such cases to begin to be believed. I have witnessed circumstantial evidence, defects in character in any of the accused's backstory carrys weight in their credibility in the allegations in question. The past proves the present so careful about your skeletons. Thank you for making this clip.
I thank you for the advice, i am going through the exact thing right now. My ex wife is a NYPD officer and she has done all that you mentioned. My attorney is not aggressive at all and i have not had any type of defense. Have not started trial and have spent over $100,000.
That's intense! You might want to look for a more persistent, aggressive attorney who will have your back!
I am going through exactly this 😞
So sorry to hear that, if you need an attorney referral in your state please let us know!
The situation described is my entire year. I lost my 5 yo daughter to covid on jam 3 2022. Ava-Mae was from a previous relationship, while my other dauggter and 2 step daughters were my familyvwith wife of 6 yrs. Jan 22 was Ava-Mae's funeral, and my ex was extremely insensitive and jealous and fighting with me all morning. as I was leaving, 45 min before service started, she called in false assault charges and had me arrested. since.... she has let me see/talk to my children once, Aug 20, and has launched an extensive campaign (claiming yrs of abuse and drugs) which has resulted in loss of my job, home, all belongings.. and my nuclear family.. my parents havnt spoken to me in months, believing it... I'm still in shock... we were happy. had a wonderful loving kind warn home. and out of no where.... interestingly.. my stepdaughter bio dad (deceased last year suicide) was portrayed exactly the same. she is always the innocent victim. so many more details, including security cam proof that directly contradicts her initial police report... and despite it all... all the gut wrenching pain.. anger at betrayel. disgust at the diversion from the focus being a child lost... I still love her. still want her to be the wonderful woman she is. still willing to go to any length to provide my girls with the loving, safe, and happy family that we all thought we had. maybe im a fool, but i value my children's future... and they need to see us show it. I just wish I wasn't so alone... it kills me imagining the hurt they feel seeing they're mom vilify their dad.... literally overnight. advice, help.. anything is welcome. my girls deserve better
Thank you for this video. I am exactly in this position. We have been married 24.5 years, a loving couple with two young children and no history of any abuse. I don’t even have a parking ticket on my record. My wife fabricated over 20 years of abuse due to a change in personality and behavior as result of mild TBI caused by a car accident. She then committed infidelity and the verbal arguments started. She has had a temporary protection order on me for three months, and I have a restraining order against her. I was able to regain full temporary custody of our children. The children and I have been in therapy for four months. I have a high paying job that supports both her and the children, and she has promised to destroyed my career. She also told our 8 year old daughter that she was going to “destroy this Fucxxxing family.” There were dozens of reasons for the judge to dismiss the petition and he has not. There were dozens of reason for the judge to reclassify me the children as the one needing the protecting, and he did not. The court put the desire of the women, even before the needs of the children.
I agree with this. How do I hire a lawyer? And how much time do I have? Defamation and false allegations
Terrific question! It's like dealing with Penelope from Saturday Night Live, only they're trying to destroy you. It's ridiculous.
I was in an abusive relationship for six years. I escaped, yes escaped, and took our daughter with. My ex now uses the courts against me and has threatened to call CPS and the police because I am not communicating in the way that he likes. For example, replying within five minutes of a text. He says that he is the victim and that I am neglectful. It's so odd and strange... I don't understand how he can be so demanding and it's doesn't even involve our child... He hasn't brought it up in court but we have our final coming up. I have representation now. I love our child. She always comes first. This whole thing is just so mind boggling. Thank you for the advice.
Its simple.... you don't get married.
You are absolutely right
take it a step further and don't have kids in the US. I wasn't married and still had the same outcome.
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You're so welcome, thanks for watching!
I want to thank you again Ma'am! You gave me belief that I can Fight Back! You kept me out of a psych ward!! Thank God I found your Video! I'm in a Deep Dark Spot Right now but I kept moving forward because I Have Hope! Don't have much but the Little I have I use it to FIGHT BACK!! FIGHT BACK is my Motivation! Thank you and you have a FAN in Me! Would love to Talk with you for Some Additional Advice One Day! God Bless you Ma'am! 🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹❤️
Thank goodness I kept all the text messages.
Good for you! Thanks for watching, Jade!
Same here
This is my life right now and there are no words to explain how hard and painful this is. My wife got on the stand at the protection order hearing and lied through her teeth. Because I'm under a criminal investigation for her false allegations I could say NOTHING. My attorney did a great job defending me and calling out her discrepancies but the judge wanted to wait and look at the evidence again. I won't know until next week what he decides.
Going through it too. An investigator in our case caught her in lie after lie, and ultimately determined there was no domestic violence and I should have full custody of our children. She and her lawyer then went after the investigator and got her suspended. Now we are starting over. I have text messages that refute her allegations. I have witnesses. I have audio and video. But it keeps getting continued to later and later dates.
This actually happens pretty often. I’ve talked to many guys that have gone through this.
1:02 How do you prove a negative?
Happening to me right now. It's sickening.
So sorry to hear that! Hopefully, some of our videos give you a bit of inspiration!
Very
I’m in NY and I’m going through this now.
Hopefully, our video helped a bit! Best of luck!
bro hmu im from ny too im going thru the same shit
My ex wife of 12 years falsely accused me of domestic violence, she has been denied by the judge, but now a non profit organization is helping her with attorney fees, so I'm getting served every other month on the same RFO custody case, it's becoming too much for me to handle.
Same situation! The women organisations and feminist organisations are crazy. I didn't know that before but they're populated by insane women, often borderline or NPD. Keep fighting it out! Don't give up! When it comes to narcissists - which is the likely case with these women - you have to fight until the end.
He keeps calling cps all have come back unfounded. He has also accused me of mental illness and has refused me visits…
Going through this now such b.s thank you for the insight.
good luck!
You're not alone
I'm going through this right now too. I haven't seen my son in weeks.
Please tell me you found a way out so I can have hope too.
same here smh
This happened to me. But he lied on me and said I was abusing him when he was abusing me and I got the charge instead of him.
And now for the past three years of get to be able to speak to my children or even see my children. Especially since my children's mother passed away last year and now I'm The only living parent to them
Makes sense...
Can you imagine having to deal with a mother plucking spouse like that? Geez
It happens! Luckily there's people out there who can help!
Thank you for this video. I have a friend who is an amazing Mother that is now undergoing criminal charges for abuse bc her son bumped his head while they were playing. CPS closed the case and ruled it an accident however, the policeman that was called filed charges and is claiming that this was due to the advisement of the State Attorney. Do you have a recommendation for a Lawyer and or parental support group in the MD and DC area?
this happened to me. it happens often because family court and domestic violence has its own rules and the laws are broad and a catch all. all it takes is an accusation and the state takes it over. there doesn't need to be any proof that the accuser need to file criminal charges or a restraining order.
OR, the spouse isn't lying at all - and the judge just can't believe it...and then the kids are jerked up and sent to live with the abuser, who happily uses the kids to get back at the other parent...and when it comes out in the wash at the end - the judge finds that it WAS occurring, but just for that brief period... my lawyer absolutely WASN'T aggressive enough.
So sorry to hear that, I hope you can find someone who's willing to push harder for their clients and their families!
@@mymodernlaw awww, thanks. It looks like I'll just have to file myself - and that's ok, because I'm stronger now.
My situation is that the social worker made a stories contradicting their reports
Do you have proof of this?
A finding unprepared fast process on the ponpreponderance of the evidence
Found your channel as I’m going through this now. I brought a foreigner to this country and we got married in February now (may) he received his paperwork to legally stay here and is now saying I have been emotionally abusing him and has filed something called a VAWA case against me. I have no idea what to do and I’m hoping I can fight this thing successfully.
Hi there, thanks for checking out our channel! Are you in Arizona. we might be able to help you!
@@mymodernlaw no I’m in Texas
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I'm in this situation I have got c.p.s records, Austria medical records, comprehensive metal health records, supervised visits reports, and children ,
And G.A.L REPORT . all the records clearly show that my daughter mother is out of her mind . She was order to get metal evaluation, "result " pending. I have really been Alinated since March 8th 2020. Have only seen my little girl a total of 32 hours since then. February 21st 2021 was the last time I spent time with my daughter . She recently began to say all the negative things her moms has been saying. Only after 8th contempt and treated jail time . And the court has provided a attorney for her .
I have been trying hard to be listen to. But seems the court is blest.
So sorry to hear this, such a sad story. If you haven't yet, look for an attorney that can help get you more time with your daughter! Good luck!
What If the Abuser plead down in criminal for a domestic violence charge on immunity because they are law enforcement. I’m stuck. I can’t afford a attorney but when it’s law enforcement no one wants your case.
I was accused of of things that effected my custody and no evidence was given to the judge. I usually wouldn’t ask on here but a mom will do anything to keep her children and herself safe. Officer involved domestic violence is is something I wished I knew about.
My ex son in law (he was married to my daughter but she died three years ago they have three daughters under five at the time). After my daughter died he remarried and had another baby with his new wife. My daughters family accused him of molesting his oldest daughter which is an in sane accusation just because they want the girls. The state took the kids, it's been two years. He and his wife had to get a divorce. The girls are under foster care with the accusing family. We hired the best lawyers in his state. After 10k they still have not been able to even get his vpo's lifted or visitations going again. This has ruined his life. Not only is he grieving his wife dying, he hasn't seen his kids, he is forced to divorce his new wife and their daughter taken away, he lost his military career, he's spent all the money he can find and borrow and STILL he can't get anywhere. I trust his lawyers but I'm saying this because it's said how just because this family wants my daughters girls, they can make this happen. Nobody stands a change if you need the court system, and you are a male accused of abuse. I don't know what to do.
What if you showed 49 screenshots of text messages. Had over 160 but was only allowed 49. No history of abuse, never a police report, but only false allegations with no proof. The other part had contradicting statements, inconsistency and submitted a new report where she walked back on statements? Judge still chose to believe them but didn’t charge the other party.
I'm in that situation right now I've never raised my voice or displayed any form of aggression ever but yet she's saying that I am violence she fears for the Is safety of the children. It's funny too because I got served today and reading it it says that I am this horrible person and the kids should not be around or in my care. But at the same time she asks me what time am I picking up the kids Friday...
I have kept all of our texting back-and-forth for the past 6 years. And about a month ago she said pay me or you will never see your kids again. A few months ago she said do what I say or I am going to take you to court. The day after she got me she said you are a man you have no rights you will never get these kids. That was the response I got from me asking asking could I come by and pick up the kids to take them to the park and bring them back she said no it's kidnapping. She has pushed me out so far and refuse to help and then turns around and makes me look like I'm this monster. She wrote down all the abuse allegations and all these things about me being mentally unstable and unpredictable and I'm stalking her and none of it's true. All of that was attached to the paperwork of establishing establishing parental rights.
That's a horrible situation, I'm so sorry that you're dealing with volatility like that. Have you had a chance to speak with a lawyer?
NO, It happens often.
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My wife done lost her dam mind , all I got to say is honestly the best policy, ,,nothing to hide , nothing to worry about,
I can recommend you to a man who can help you with court case dismissed like he helped me
This is exactly what's happening. I received an order of protection against me for my mother while she only has no more than a month and a half or so left to live. My fiance and our dog and I are now homeless living from our truck. We took care of my uncle my aunt his wife and my father till their individual deaths and never asked for money. My sister 2as I. Vacation for our 7ncle and father's passing and didn't care at all when our aunt passed but now has power of attorney, changed the will to an irrevocable trust and turned everyone against my fiance and I. I am grateful to have spent the time with my family even if this is the outcome. I just wish my siblings weren't so 😔
At least I have proof against everything that is happening , more than anyone would think.
I'm so sorry to hear about your situation, thank you so much for sharing your story and I wish you good luck with everything in the future!
I can recommend you to a man who can help you with court case dismissed like he helped me
I need help please they toook my kids for lies that were told
Our lives have been destroyed by cos. They dragged me to court saying I neglected my child, there were mandates and no workers for my autistic child, and they said I neglected to get them. Then people chased us to my sister's house, and people harassed us, nurses called cps because she disliked me. My baby was swaddled in a blanket and diaper, plenty warm, and she said she had no clothes on. Car was warm. We lived only feet away from the office. She never got cold. Then she called again because she wanted to make a referral to a specialist. Then she said "we'll wait" to me. Then dhhs' showed up to investigate. Then they had an appointed lawyer that said to file jeapardy on me "to get certain dhhs' services" that he wouldn't specify. Then they chased us everywhere we went with papers to sign it I'd lose my daughter. Told us we neglected our daughter because we didn't make it to an appointment the day Dr. Offices were closed, but we were there! They said, Sorry we're closed!" I said, what do I do? Push them out if the way and enter anyway??" Then we were sick, and the nurse refused to touch us and help us, so we got our child out of the car. It was 90 and our car air was broken. We got her to the shade as best as we could, and they called cps saying her bare feet were in the ground. The same office as the nurse I spoke of earlier. The office where a chubby woman named brown appeared and stated she worked for dhhs' and could make our lives a living hell. And now it continues.
I can prove it but I was put in jail!
My husband has dementia, and I have been caring for him. He’s had this dementia for three years with Parkinson’s. We moved closer to his family and he put his sister as his health advocate over me and she purposely got inside his head to confuse him and he became very combative with me, and not trust me, I have taken great care of him. I was always confident when I gave him his medication but I was falsely accused and she brought APS in my house and they took my husband away. I haven’t seen him now in six months. I’m absolutely devastated. I did nothing wrong but I haven’t been able to defend myself or say one word and I got videos to prove that she lied to the state but nobody wants to see it
My husband retired three years ago. We built a brand new retirement home and he was so happy he wanted it to, but they have warped, his mind and his heart for me and we’ve been together since we were 14 years old. I’m grieving as if he die. I’ve hired an attorney and The APS did not even do any investigating and I told everyone she lied I didn’t have a parking ticket and she said that I had a shoplifting record and the police have been phoned to my house. Multiple multiple times I have proof it’s on my ring camera that she said that to APS and when she brought him into my home, she didn’t say who he was my husband and I thought he was a religious marriage counselor !They’re forcing me to divorce him now because his family is over his shoulders and not allowing him to see me because they have no contact order. I’m desperate because I love him so much. !
Even the report, the police report people cannot believe that they actually put me in jail! I’m a 61-year-old woman. They picked me up in my pajamas and put me in jail and I didn’t even have a parking ticket.!
Myself and my sister take care of my mother. Much to our surprise we got accused of Elder abuse of my mother by an Anonymous person (whom I suspect is a family member who wants to be involved more directly in our mother's care). An Adult Protective Services case manager showed up to inspect our apartment and told us she was there because they were called for elder abuse. How can I protect myself or get info on who submitted this false claim? Would really like to know who did this to us? Thanks!
do you practice in NM? I'm dealing with exactly what you are talking about.
Do you have any lawyer recommendations in Hawaii?
My ex wife is now divorcing her 3rd husband and she's running her Narc game as usual in family court against my kids step Dsd. False accusations of abuse, she even has accused him of SA to the GAL and his attorney wants me to make a statement to tye GAL. She falsely accused Me back in 2008. I really want to help I have extensive knowledge of NPD but I can't approach the GAL with no diagnosis
I know what I need to include but I dont see how to phrase it
I’m in Ma. Dealing with this too. I have 6 month hearing coming up. I have evidence that he lied to get the RO. Will I have an opportunity to appeal / how can I?
Not sure of the specifics on your case or MA law, but your attorney should be able to get that taken care of.
I sued the state for recovery of costs but they awarded themselves sovereign immunity embracing fact of me proofing that the social workers had cooked the books! They called it standard normal operating procedure! This was a huge blunder legally and the Fed took exception to it in the followings years of budget funding...
That's crazy!
@@mymodernlaw yes it was a most difficult time but did you view the video ?
My wife did this to me. After I found out that a year before we were married she had lied to the courts adhering for my daughter's lawsuit for malpractice did she was the mother of my daughter when in fact she wasn't not only the mother but we did not even know and then a year later we how do I show to the courts that she pre-planned
I even have actual proof that the seaway if Dee caseworker in my case lied against me under oath in court
Happening to me.......
Do you have any attorney contacts in Reading PA area that you would recommend?
Contact us at info@mymodernlaw.com and we can try to find someone near you, thanks!
What about when the school is doing the false allegations? CPS has been to my place twice this year because of the schools false allegations.
im watching this because as a 16 year old who has been abuse for his entire life i need to know how to fight against a woman like my mother without a lawyer wish me luck guys thankfully i have serious proof and witnesses so im not really that scared
Is there an attorney you can refer me to in Brooklyn NY area?
The problem , if nothing is done about there lies and false allegations they keep doing it over and over again , cause they know there no repercussions
Thank you. But did you really just say, "This doesn't happen very often" ? LOL
Going though this now, i have court orders saying i can't contact my 9 yr old daughter for 5 years.
Its rubbish, i haven't done anything wrong. I just want time with my little girl
Are you in Arizona? If so, maybe we can help: (480) 571-0346
My wife asked to use my phone to text someone and I wouldn’t let her use my personal phone so I let her use my work phone then she proceeded to text to herself posing as me that I was threatening to kill her and that to not call the police saying that I beat her also saying who’s going to believe her because she’s illegal then deleted the text messages but I recovered them on my phone, she wants to try to get papers by saying that I physically abused her but I plan on showing these texts to my attorney
Wow! Those are pretty ridiculous lengths to go to paint a false picture of someone, you should definitely show the texts to your attorney and hear what they have to say.
Can you get a subpoena for camera footage of an apartment building enforced y the Court in Family Court Domestic Violence Division?
Sad you're not in Florida.
We might know someone who can help you! Shoot me an email at info@modernlaw.com and we'll see if we have any resources in your area!
Going through this now., It's like the legal system hasn't evolved since the witch trials of 17th century.
I need help here in Oregon
Please contact us at info@mymodernlaw.com with some details and we can try to find someone to help out. We're currently only practicing in Arizona.
Yup there is no evidence aside the 14 page declaration 4 pages over the accepted court amount. I objected it but judge didn’t strike. I have all the inconsistencies but judge doesn’t care… how do I get in touch with you I’ve been trying . Please help
Hello Jon, thanks for reaching out. You can contact us at (480)-571-0346, we'll be happy to help you find an attorney in California. Talk to you soon!
So an allegation of a partner is sufficient to obtain a Permanent Restraining Order fro the Family Court Judge?
1:08 this is not criminal court.
So true but how can you take them back to court later like 4 years later.. than everyone knows that all was a lie.. so 4 years later, I always say it a matter of when not how? Do I have a Case that overlap 4 years later. Remember I live in California..
Check with an attorney in Cali, they should be able to give a more precise answer. Thanks so much for watching!
Im going thru this with my ex i need help court is in ten days
Sorry to hear that! If you're in Arizona, contact us directly at (480)-571-0346 to see how we can help.
Please respond to me
My daughter is making a horrible allegation against me ...I get visitation every 2 weeks ...I raised him since birth till she took him my 14 last year
Hello, Tammy! If you're in need of assistance, please contact us when you can at info@mymodernlaw.com or
(480)-571-0346. Even if you aren't in the state we are licensed to practice in (Arizona) we can try to help find someone near you.
This is exactly what happened to me after I ended our 22-year relationship in May of 2022, In June I was served a domestic violence protection papers packet and removed from my house...... by the way I am 1000% innocent of these allegations I have never ever raised my hand to her or threatened her in any serious way. ( of course we have all jokeed around, all in fun. NEVER seriously ) And now I'm being garnished for child support for a child that I have been living with and supporting damn near her whole life. I've got a protection order against me and she's lied TWO other times and now I'm facing charges of breaking that protection order TWICE..... And she's turned our daughter against me, I haven't talked to my daughter and over six months now, and we used to be very very loving and very tight...... she was Daddy's Little Girl, and now I fear I've been demonized in her eyes from my EX talking g smack about me. What am I supposed to do about that ?
I have hired a lawyer but he is very very expensive So I guess my question would be, what should the lawyer fees be for this ? Because I don't think he wanted to take my case and he gave me some ungodly number thinking that I wouldn't be able to pay that so I got a personal loan and I paid it thinking that it's going to be worth it in the end.
I am very scared and terrified of what could happen to me if he fails defending me. I don't even know if I should be asking these questions in a public forum like this.
I'm just scared.
If you have any advice I am all ears, anything you can do to help me is very welcomed.
Thank you,
Jon.
I'm in the same situation as well. I've had joint custody of my 3 kids for 2 years. During that time, she called the cops on me several times and also child protective services but nothing came of it. She somehow convinced my son to say i've been abusing him, so all 3 were taken away. I've never abused him or any of the kids. I've now had to do supervised visitation for the last 14 months, costing $1k a month. Not only that, the police are trying to interview me as well as child protective services. This is all public and now anyone that googles me or checks the records can see this. The best thing you can do is remain calm, clear headed and let your ex and the child dig themselves a hole. Don't talk to the police or child protective services because they are not on your side. With this kind of allegation, they already have their mind made up and want to prosecute you. They are good at twisting words and asking leading questions. Have confidence in the fact you haven't done anything. Also have a backup plan. If the police are coming at you hard, make sure you've consulted with a defense attorney and have somewhat of a gameplan. Whatever you do, don't settle in family court either. Take it all the way and show that you are not afraid and you are innocent. So far this has kept me out of trouble. During my visits, their mom has shown what kind of person she is by missing visits and encouraging the kids to be bad and say stuff about me. If you just stay the course, do what you're supposed to and show your character, it will make it much easier for her to be exposed. Good luck!
My situation is my sister has been lying to my immediate family and friends that I'm a violent person. She has taken 2-3 events,band twisted the truth into a blatent lie. I have proof that she has lied to my parents, and I want to clear my name. My Father knows she is lying and I have recorded a conversation where he tells me about the lies she told him. Any Advise? Also I'm from the UK.
Go to the person you trust the most and tell them your plan. Different personalities can react different ways and sometimes its good to get a close, outside perspective on family issues like this. Good luck with clearing your name!
Do you have any attorneys around Nc/sc area ?
If you contact us at info@mymodernlaw.com we can try to help you find someone near you! Thanks for watching!
TLDR if i find evidence that my STBXW premeditatively conspired with the affair partner in detail how they were going to accomplish getting me out of my house and even take my rights away to be a parent to my children... I was able to get these messages after checking an old iPhone back up that was left on my computer. the dvpo expires on sept 10th but trial for our dissolution is 31 oct. Would It be better to just hold off and introduce that as evidence in the trial to get some kind of legal remedy for time lost with my children? Personally, I have been so ground down by the machine that is Family Court I want to say even if this was brought up in trial the judge isn't going to give two shits because I AM A MAN probably going make some women mad but that is my experience thus far. Anyways thank you for your content
Well I am. She has been on a campaign of alienation fur over a year now and to complicate things my son lies and embellishes like crazy. Thankfully this is documented greatly by credible non familial witnesses. It’s sad that I’m fxn to spend tens of thousands of dollars fighting this.
I was investigated three or four times by Probation, six or seven times by CPS, once by the FBI, and two or three times by the local police, for supposed physical and sexual abuse of our toddler daughter, and then others.
I had one of the messiest divorce cases in my county. I wanted equal time joint custody long before that was a known or commonly accepted option. She, the Ex-, used her considerable charms and tears to persuade the court counselor and a court appointed psychologist. She initially got everything she wanted, and I got almost nothing. I laid low. Almost immediately, she started using me, a supposed child abuser and child molester, as an almost daily baby sitter and several overnights. I eventually was able to prove an extensive pattern of lying by my Ex. Both the court appointed psychologist and court counselor totally flipped. I won total custody at a time when males had zero chance of having primary custody (tender years doctrine). She then kidnapped our toddler daughter and disappeared for nine months. After bribing her back, I finally obtained physical custody. The court bent over backwards protecting her rights, ordering the Probation Department to investigating me. The daughter had only two temper tantrums with me. Of course, one started just as the Probation officer rang the doorbell. After letting the officer in, I picked the toddler daughter up, asked her to take a nap, and promised we would make things right when she woke up. She woke up about 40 minutes later wanting lots of hugs, but could not remember why she was angry. After four meetings, the probation officers wrote that up as handling discipline with a firm hand.
My Ex reported me to CPS for child abuse multiple times and to the FBI as the Unibomber and maybe got neighbors to also make false reports. I always cooperated with investigators and always came out clean. I think during the CPS first visit, I was explaining the custody conflict history while the daughter was happily singing to herself a few feet away while swinging on the swing hanging from the living room ceiling. I asked her to put her swimming suit (bikini style) on which she happily did; not a scratch anywhere. The Ex-‘s baseless accusations only stopped when the judge threatened her with jail time for contempt. Knowing what I know now, I would probably still let the investigators in, but would insist on video recording everything for everybody’s safety.
I was assaulted annually for about a decade by the Ex-. She was of equal size, weight, and strength. She often used weapons (pogo stick, baseball bat.) I reported every incident to the police and to the courts. Several times the police took confirming photos of sizable fresh bruises. The DA and the court repeatedly did nothing. When our daughter was in the third grade, I asked her where she would like to live if something were to happen to me. Her two choices did not include Mom. I figured the best witness to her choices and reasoning would be the court counselor. The counselor apparent asked about her relations to her mother. She told about a fist fight she had with her mother on the school grounds several months earlier. At the next court hearing, the judge on his own initiative issued a permanent restraining order. Several months later, the Ex- came by, wanting to borrow some money. She had stopped payment on a prior check, so I refused to loan her any more money and went back to work. She kicked me in the genitals. I landed on the ground in a fetal position and was wiped out for nearly two weeks. The DA finally took action and the court issued an warrant, but dropped the warrant in less than a year. The Ex- was never inconvenienced for any of her antics at any point. The daughter has wanted nothing to do with her mother for over thirty years now, but gets along fine with all her other maternal relatives (and me.)