Sex and Anxiety: Tips for Overcoming Performance Anxiety

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  • Опубликовано: 1 окт 2024
  • Do you experience anxiety during sex? In this blog, Victoria Haller provides tips on how to overcome performance anxiety.
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Комментарии • 31

  • @DAClub-uf3br
    @DAClub-uf3br Год назад +86

    I am under the impression that i think to much when i am attempting to be intimate. My experience is that my partner feels responsible when i am unable to preform thinking they are not desirable.

    • @anthonywatts7696
      @anthonywatts7696 10 месяцев назад +4

      Same here

    • @Ryu-v8r
      @Ryu-v8r 9 месяцев назад +1

      Making Love
      The intention to have sex creates expectations, pressure to perform and fear of failure. If you've been sexually traumatized, it's even worse. Making love, on the other hand, is something that almost any being can do at any time. Even sexually traumatized people can do it if they are loving people by nature. Making love includes all sexual elements and works like a manual. what is good for you, you do. And we can practice it with ourselves and with others. Then sex is irrelevant and you can love yourself and others physically.

    • @TruthTriumphs786
      @TruthTriumphs786 5 месяцев назад +3

      The worst feeling is when our partner thinks it's their fault. That cuts deep

    • @joshua2615
      @joshua2615 4 месяца назад

      Yes it's the worst

    • @ProtoIndoEuropean88
      @ProtoIndoEuropean88 4 месяца назад

      @@Ryu-v8r
      you're everywhere, shut your trap

  • @zane8p978
    @zane8p978 Год назад +34

    I never had any problems with my partner of 6 years. After separating, I noticed how deeply overwhelming my performance anxiety became. It's hard to know if others will validate you sexually even remotely close to how your long-term partner did. Thank you for the insight, going forward being more honest and open with sexual partners will become a priority over simply "chatting sexy"

    • @RyuShinto
      @RyuShinto Год назад +5

      Making Love
      The intention to have sex creates expectations, pressure to perform, and fear of failure. If you have been sexually traumatized, it is even worse. Making love, on the other hand, is something that almost any being, at any time, can do. Even sexually traumatized people can do it, if they are by nature, loving people. Making love includes all sexual elements and works like a manual. What is good for you, you do. And we can practice it with ourselves and with others. Then sex is irrelevant and one can love oneself and others physically.

  • @faithfaithiyke9688
    @faithfaithiyke9688 5 месяцев назад +3

    How can i come out of Sexual performance anxiety, am about losing my relationship

  • @ProtoIndoEuropean88
    @ProtoIndoEuropean88 4 месяца назад +2

    You call it performance anxiety, I call it sexual depression. You simply lose the joy of doing it, or the joy of starting.
    Nobody is realizing this and this is why there is no cure for this yet.
    Best thing you can do is to do things that make you feel good, sunlight, drink water, good night sleep and exercise will improve your joy, and then will improve your sexual joy for better erections.

  • @RyuShinto
    @RyuShinto Год назад +17

    Making Love
    The intention to have sex creates expectations, pressure to perform, and fear of failure. If you have been sexually traumatized, it is even worse. Making love, on the other hand, is something that almost any being, at any time, can do. Even sexually traumatized people can do it, if they are by nature, loving people. Making love includes all sexual elements and works like a manual. What is good for you, you do. And we can practice it with ourselves and with others. Then sex is irrelevant and one can love oneself and others physically.

    • @rainnon578
      @rainnon578 5 месяцев назад +2

      Beautifully said. There is a huge difference. 👏👏

    • @RyuShinto
      @RyuShinto 5 месяцев назад +1

      @@rainnon578 Thank you :)

  • @faithfaithiyke9688
    @faithfaithiyke9688 5 месяцев назад +3

    This is my greatest challenge now, am about losing my partner

    • @Mrwisterks
      @Mrwisterks 5 месяцев назад

      Well thinking that probably wont make it better

  • @jimmyjohhn15
    @jimmyjohhn15 Год назад +11

    Whip it out, "anxiety POPS UP" , come as you are, "HANDY dandy". I love all the puns in this video!

    • @RyuShinto
      @RyuShinto Год назад +1

      Making Love
      The intention to have sex creates expectations, pressure to perform, and fear of failure. If you have been sexually traumatized, it is even worse. Making love, on the other hand, is something that almost any being, at any time, can do. Even sexually traumatized people can do it, if they are by nature, loving people. Making love includes all sexual elements and works like a manual. What is good for you, you do. And we can practice it with ourselves and with others. Then sex is irrelevant and one can love oneself and others physically.

  • @callamhw
    @callamhw Год назад +18

    Problem I've had for the last 18 months, so thank you for this information and perspective 😌

    • @durece100
      @durece100 Год назад

      Why not wear a three-hole ski mask(silk type) to reduce social anxiety disorder? This isn't for robbery, it used for lower social anxiety disorder, sexual pleasure, or just having sex with your partner.

    • @RyuShinto
      @RyuShinto Год назад +1

      Making Love
      The intention to have sex creates expectations, pressure to perform, and fear of failure. If you have been sexually traumatized, it is even worse. Making love, on the other hand, is something that almost any being, at any time, can do. Even sexually traumatized people can do it, if they are by nature, loving people. Making love includes all sexual elements and works like a manual. What is good for you, you do. And we can practice it with ourselves and with others. Then sex is irrelevant and one can love oneself and others physically.

  • @verydark..1988
    @verydark..1988 Месяц назад

    In all my 32 years, it never occurred to me to pause or use a safe word. I kinda expect to be frozen and get done. Thank you😢

  • @twilightgarrison3671
    @twilightgarrison3671 10 месяцев назад +2

    It’s just inhibitions it’s why I like to get buzzed before anything.

    • @Ryu-v8r
      @Ryu-v8r 9 месяцев назад

      Making Love
      The intention to have sex creates expectations, pressure to perform and fear of failure. If you've been sexually traumatized, it's even worse. Making love, on the other hand, is something that almost any being can do at any time. Even sexually traumatized people can do it if they are loving people by nature. Making love includes all sexual elements and works like a manual. what is good for you, you do. And we can practice it with ourselves and with others. Then sex is irrelevant and you can love yourself and others physically.

    • @juaquinsoria4339
      @juaquinsoria4339 8 месяцев назад

      Like drunk or high?

  • @Zayday1993
    @Zayday1993 Год назад +1

    Are there any videos on sexual arousal causing anxiety like feelings instead of mostly pleasurable feelings but not from a characteristic view but an actual physical point of view like something going on in the nervous system

    • @Ryu-v8r
      @Ryu-v8r 9 месяцев назад

      Making Love
      The intention to have sex creates expectations, pressure to perform and fear of failure. If you've been sexually traumatized, it's even worse. Making love, on the other hand, is something that almost any being can do at any time. Even sexually traumatized people can do it if they are loving people by nature. Making love includes all sexual elements and works like a manual. what is good for you, you do. And we can practice it with ourselves and with others. Then sex is irrelevant and you can love yourself and others physically.

  • @JacobA.-dv2uh
    @JacobA.-dv2uh 6 месяцев назад

    Funny, until recently I hadn't realized that Mario updated his favorite way to tackle ED and it's a relief! Although what he previously suggested was pretty good, it was a real pain to follow... I just go'ogled the latest in Mario's Thunderous Erections, it's so much easier and potent now!