Coming Clean About My Divorce, Life Changes, And Lack Of Motivation
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- Опубликовано: 8 фев 2025
- Recently, lots of you have been asking about what happened to my wife who you used to see on the channel, and asking for general life updates, and it's been weighing on me pretty heavily. So I figured I'd take the Rebel 1100 out for some "throttle therapy" and come clean about what's been going on in the Life Of Burch...
This was a tough one to film, let alone watch back 12 times as I edited it...so be nice.
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It’s called “LifeofBurch” not “BikesofBurch”, so never feel bad about using us as part of your therapy. We just enjoy your videos and we use you for our own therapy just as much as you may use us! Keep being you.
Love the honesty and letting us really see the true “life of Burch”. I’ve been thru divorce before as well as the whole deed fiasco. Congrats on getting approved on the loan. Everything turns around with the right attitude. Continue to stay true to yourself and dropping great content. We all cheering for ya Burch!
Thanks man! I appreciate the kind words! 🙏🏻
Where motivation fails discipline succeeds! You made a commitment and you stuck with it . This is my favorite video of yours that I watched. Keep it up.
Thank you so much!! And I LOVE that quote! “Where motivation fails discipline succeeds” 🙌🏻🙌🏻🙌🏻
I started riding soon after losing my wife to cancer; it is therapeutic.
“If they can do it, why can’t I”… sums it up perfectly.
We need more of this! Communication is everything! Love that you just brought it out and put it all on the table.
Thanks dude! This comment means more than you know! I appreciate you!! 🙏🏻🙌🏻
Hey bro, love the openness and honesty you bring. Been thru losing my wife to cancer so feel your hurt. Should be getting my bike this month here in Australia 🏍 looking forward to getting out on it for my own therapy 🙏 peace ✌️
Congrats on keeping your head high and letting people in on what is typically a very personal and stressful situation. Keep on keeping on homie.
Thank you for sharing. Riding the Rebel is what keeps me sane!
Dude you're such a nice person, so chill, so relax. It's cool to see you happy with Nina and moving on with your life. 👍
Thanks bro! I seriously appreciate that!! 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻
Hey man, I’ve recently moved to Japan with my wife and kids and getting adapted here is proving quite difficult. After 6 months of unemployment I finally found a position this week and I’ve been spending way too much time watching your videos. I’ve always dreamed of owning a bike someday and that will be my goal over the next year or so. Getting my license and the 1100. It’s given me something to aim for and look forward to that’s mine and not family related. Keep it going.
Cheers
Good luck! I just got my licence last month here in Japan.
Careful of them yakuza motorbike gangs I’ve seen anime and that’s real life I’m pretty sure lol
Came for the bikes, stayed for the slice of life! 🤟🏽🕶
Hell yea, let’s gooo!! 🤘🏻
Action definitely follows motivation. Thanks for sharing your story & I’m happy that things are getting better for you!
Thank you!! 🙌🏻🙌🏻🙌🏻
Life happens and sometimes it's rough and sometimes it's great. As long as you are honest with yourself and continue ur healing in anyway that is healthy is great. Keep it up brother.
One of the best pieces of advice I’ve heard is it never gets better and the pain never goes away you jus learn to live with it and deal with it it gets easier to deal with.
Dude, going through the same thing. Venting on your channel helps the rest of us going through this too. We all need a support system.
Life throws us curve balls & sometimes they're not great bro. Focus on yourself and your happiness and self development and you'll overcome. Reaching out is the best thing we can do, don't apologize for it. Move on to the next, better chapter of your life and cherish it. Live to ride!
Definitely needed this today as I'm currently going through the start of the divorce process. That and being in the military has me in a ton of stress but this kinda lifted my head up a bit and I appreciate you for that.
I feel ya on the motivation thing. Sorry to hear about the big D, but things will get better!
Also, I totally agree about riding while emotional... it can be a killer situation (literally). I've noticed in dozens of my vlogs that I was rage riding, so I had to scrap the video... completely wrong mood and tone to convey.
I rode up to OKC on my Ryker a couple of years ago in an attempt to see my father after a major heart attack. I ran flat-out on the speed limiter (102+ mph) for 2 hours, blasting the highway shoulders, threading traffic, etc, etc. Long story short... I didn't make it up there in time, so all of that drama was in vain. I cut all of that drama out of the video and I made a strongly-worded mental note to avoid that behavior in the future!
Stay strong, and keep dropping great content! Sharing helps to strengthen your emotional state! Cheers! 👏😉👍 --QM
Thanks Quasi!! Riding/driving like that always feels right in the moment…and then you look back and go, “What the hell was I thinking?!” It’s even worse when you have to watch the video back and really realize how out of line you were 😅 I appreciate the comment!
I can’t even express how proud I am of you son!!!!!! Love you and think it’s hilarious that one of the ads that ran during this was a taco ad for Moe’s haha
ENJOYING some of your videos...I ride a Honda CTX DCT 700...started at age 62, now nearly 68 and really having great rides from seacoast Maine to White Mountains in NH.
Thanks for the video. I've been through the big D, and I totally get the motivation thing. Lastly I love when you get off track (small dog rant), it helps me keep motivated watching ya. Perfect.
Thanks Paul! Glad you appreciate my side tangents 😂 sometimes I almost cut them out because they’re so random! Haha
I really enjoy your advice and wisdom. I feel confident to go ahead and get my Honda 1100. You are an inspiration 🎉
Please take care of you. Find your happiness, breathe and be thankful for the small stuff 🤗
I love this kind of video. Feels like sitting down with a close friend and talking about life and what it really is. Mens mental health is important like you say and I’m glad to be able to watch you talk about your life and thanks for being so open with us and sharing your thoughts and feelings with us. It’s an honor for me to listen to it and see how you have grwon through different stages of life. Amazing of how far you have come
I've been a follower for a whole and I'm now a patreon member for a few months. I just found this video. I went through a divorce a few years ago. I'm still single, but I have struggled like you. I struggle with motivation. I go to work and that's like all I can do. Once I get out and ride I'm good. Or once I get cleaning I'm good. So same as you, as once you do it, it's all good. Much love man, you're an awesome person and I see your videos now and your much happier. I can tell by your voice.
Good to know your life is improving. It's nice seeing and hearing your entire life isn't some highlight reel of success, but that it has ups and downs. Looking forward to seeing your future self.
Vulnerability allows for growth and strength. Also allows for emotional connections. Say with your audience. Don't be afraid to be vulnerable.
Agreed
Thanks man! I appreciate that!! 🙏🏻
Life’s too short to dwell on the past.... venting always helps in the healing process and we are all here for you ! Enjoy the positive people in your life before you know it you’ll be back to your happier self.
Im still new to this, but being on the road on my rebel 500 is very therapeutic. I've loved every second of owning this thing, and part of me getting it was watching your videos. For that, I thank you. Wishing you and Nina well.
Bro, it's videos like this that I look forward to the most. Like John Wicks said below, it's LifeofBurch and I can't speak for everyone, but I appreciate that you let us come along on the ride. It isn't easy to be vulnerable and I think there is a stigma that it is hard for a man to vulnerable. We are all on this beautiful planet together and finding our way through life. I would love to be able to do what you do, but have no idea where to begin. I love my Rebel 500 and motorcycling in general. I wish I started sooner. Can't wait to see where life takes you bud!
Been there man...its a rough patch and life can be full of them but try and stay centered and it'll keep getting easier just thank God there aren't kids involved that's when it can get real ugly. Hang in there stay busy you'll prevail.
I’m shocked… I literally just watched your Rebel 500 passenger test video and thought “I didn’t know he was married, they’re so cute together”. And then this video came up right after. I’m so sorry this happened to you, but I’m happy you seem to be in a better place now ✌🏼 I’m going through the same thing at the moment. Together 13 years, married for 5. Two months ago she told me she wants a divorce because she met someone else. I never saw it coming. That’s how I found your channel… I need some of that “vroom vroom makes the hurt go away” 😅
One step back, two steps forward my friend. Things will go to the right place eventually. Just keep going.
Man I tell you one thing. I’ve been watching all your videos for the last couple months and I just scrolled across this one. Look where you are now, full time on RUclips! I’m still waiting to grab my first bike. I’m a single father that just recently went through a divorce. I’m happy but financially not even close.😅 I’m still trying to save up in order to get a rebel 500 abs it’s my dream (well 1100) but 500 would be the most like inspirational thing in my life in a while. Still saving so maybe I’ll be up on 2 wheels within another year or so 🤞🏼! But keep your head up and enjoy life man. That’s all that matters at the end!
Stay strong brother and thank you for sharing. 🫡
Thanks for the video. It helped me to realize i'm not the only person with problems. Glad to see that you are doing better.
I've been through some similar things the past 2 years glad to know I'm not alone and things turn around
Never feel bad bro. We all go through shiz.. here for ya! Love the channel.. you have inspired me to get my first bike.. I was too scared to ride a bike all my life.
So glad I came across your channel. My divorce should be finalized this month. Thank you for giving me the hope that it will get better
Thanks for the motivational video and sharing your personal stories. Good luck to you brother.
It is NEVER easy my friend and I wish you the best...as a divorced man I found cruising a small tour on my motorcycle helped me see perspective. The world doesn't stop and didn't for me, it keeps circling around. I can't and won't comment on your ex or the whys and wherefores ..that is a personal decision between you both. Its rough no matter how you slice it or spin it but just know, we care and wish you happiness.
Love your channel, love your honesty. Life is ludicrous, nobody is perfect, we are all treading water trying to keep our heads above water. You're doing great.
Thanks dude!! I really appreciate that! 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻
Some of the worlds best works started as just getting the words out, it doesn't matter whether it makes sense to us or not (even though it did). What matters is that it makes sense to you because we're along for the ride, if any of us find something that helps us and that's just an additional benefit.
We are here for entertainment and to support you. That support comes in many ways, some of it being emotional, and some of it is financial. We're glad to support anyway we can
I relate to you so much man. Thanks for being open and for the advice. I’m working on getting my first bike soon rebel 500
So glad to hear things are getting better man! I joined the Burch squad about when COVID happened and I was going to get my first motorcycle. Fast forward to now and I got my motorcycle license and my bike and I’m still tuning in for every video. Thanks for being so open with your community and creating killer content. Just throwing out the idea but a community discord would be super cool so we all could interact with each other more.🤝🤝💯💯
Yeah, wind therapy/throttle therapy has been keeping me going this past year or so. My wife and mother, despite their concerns about my safety, have been extremely encouraging of me riding when I can, as they see how much it helps me. I'm thankfully not enduring a divorce, but work and other outside concerns have been HARD. I've had poor experiences with actual therapists, so just getting to ride has been a tremendous help. I wish that I could ride more, but just getting ready takes a freakin' hour, so when I do ride, it's for a good 3 hours or so, and thus only on weekends.
Anyway, good to hear that you're on the mend.
You seem like a really great dude and I am glad things have been improving in life. I wish you the best of luck man.
Thank you for sharing what you went and are going through. Moreover, thank you for showing us that it does get better. Congratulations on the condo. Cheers and chin up!
Thanks for sharing what you're going thru and you are right....riding is great therapy. When riding you get in the zone and just think of the "now", not the past not the future, and life is good when you're riding.
Old video now, but I like your channel. Thanks for being open with us
Glad you felt comfortable sharing
Love your stuff Burch! We are here for you through whatever life has in store for you!
Thanks Prestyn! I really appreciate that!! 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻
Been there done that Divorce are hard but you get through it . And besides you have a nice new friend Nina just take your time and take care God is with you
Glad you are coming out of the storm.
Life is a forward motion with delay by emotions. Life never gives us more than we can handle, keep going forward. Love and compassion your way
Honestly bro life can be tricky it gets hard sometimes but by words my great grandfather always said just roll the dice eventually you will get numbers you need or won’t but you won’t know till you take the chance. But good on you that you turned things around like that man.
Forever so proud of you 🖤 seeing your happiness, success, and self confidence grow has been so inspiring. Keep killin it, and keep staying safe! Love you so much!
So true about NOT riding when emotional, angry or otherwise distracted. For those with both car and motorcycle... choose the car when in a hurry.
Been there, divorce/sorting out the debris/etc. The details are unique to each situation. Glad you're pulling it together and getting out and riding. I'm trying to do something similar but here I sit until I can get some new wheels under me. I'm seeing some daylight again but some days, it's a tough. Best wishes Burch.
Thanx for the motivation. I agree. If you can't go down anymore, the only way is up. Good luck with everything. Thanx for sharing. Talking takes the burden off.
Thank you! I really appreciate that! 🙏🏻
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Good job. I'm a life coach, and I help people through this and other scenarios. From what I just saw, you done good! 👍 Keep up the throttle therapy, and stay safe. 🤙
I just recently started watching you when I started looking for a bike. I just came across this video a week after my divorce, I had the same theory of throttle therapy. Hoping it helps as i wish to get a '23 1100T when I relocate from ND to Ohio.
Glad to hear you are moving in the right direction. Mental health is hard to talk about, and hard to take time to work on. I agree two wheel therapy is really nice.
I took a week long trip down to ride through the Redwoods in California earlier this year solo just to think and clear my head.
And yes, encouraging others is a great way to help yourself.
Thanks!
Thanks so much! It’s good to see my older videos still getting appreciated 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻
I figure a couple of your vids will help me. I'm installin' the speedo healer and Dyno... after Xmas. And, a few of your vids made me change pegs and a few other parts/items. See them on the facebook group for the 1100 Rebel. I do appreciate your out-put and info! I want 'Horned-rim-handle bars!!!🤔🏍🏍🏍🏍
Congratulations on that loan. I had a similar situation where I couldn't claim my income, and was still able to work it out. It was highly stressful, but was amazing when it got settled. So, I can somewhat relate.
I just started watching your videos a few days ago, and I love the genuine energy that you put into your videos!
Dude Thank you very much for everything!
I truly mean that you have helped me way more than you could ever know…
I have been going through a breakup (after 7 years relationship) since march, and since then i have been watching your videos and these have helped me sooo much. Just to see you being ahead a few month in this and seeing how well you are doing.
I am truly glad for you man. Hope you enjoy every single day as much as i enjoy your videos!
Thanks man!
Burch man we love you bro!! Stay strong man!! Everything will be over man Everything!! Thank you for this amazing video bro!! And again don't worry Everything will be over and be good ! And it come from someone living in the middle east!
I like riding to clear my mind , riding takes all my attention and thoughts, no room for bad things!
Lots of great info on the rebel 1100. Thanks so much! Subscribed!
Throttle therapy is the best therapy you can get! Your channel is awesome! Keep riding, keep RUclipsing!
PS: I Just ordered my Rebel 1100! In black, but with DCT, for my birthday next year!
Life is looking good for you dude, take care and keep doing the videos I like hearing about your ups and downs and how your doing.
Happy to know you feel comfortable on getting personal with us. It definitely sucks getting through all the bureaucracy involved with the divorce but glad to hear it’s almost at the end. About the lack of motivation, I’m going through the same thing on my final semester at University. But, taking you as an example that things can change for the better, really helps me. Tks for keeping it real with us o/
Quote "Motivation comes from taking action.
When you start taking action, motivation follows.
Keep riding keep striving
I know what you mean man, sometimes it can take years for things to turn around. You just have to learn from your mistakes and keep applying them to your life as you go forward. You just have to keep yourself going forward. I'm glad things are going better for you, man. Sometimes a good ramble can make you feel a lot better, I know it works for me. I love watching your videos, you inspire me to start making my own videos again. Just have to find the motivation. Ugh
Went through my 2nd divorce and it finalized in December of 2019. It is definitely a rough thing to go through, and it often takes a long time to recover in all ways. Emotionally, financially, etc. It does get better as time goes by. The longer it goes at this point the better I feel. I do more things I like, and Im totally happy just focusing on myself. The motorcycles have been great fun for me, including the rebel. The biggest challenge I have these days is just time. Much more hectic than life was, but thats not all bad...
Way to go man!! Small daily victories add up to huge life altering accomplishments! So happy for you and it’s cool following you along your journey. #inspired
I really can say that I’m glad I watched this. It made a lot of sense. I have some things that I’m dealing with and you helped things look more promising.
I completely understand what your saying about motivation. I bought a second helmet, a hero9 and a mic so I could start making vids and post them to kickoff my own channel. I was all set to go then the day before I was going to make my first video is when I hit a deer. That night I ordered all the damaged parts from partzilla and almost two months later I’m still waiting on the upper and lower fairing. The upper is back ordered with no estimated date of delivery. I did finally get all the other parts and put them on and managed to Frankenstein the original fairings good enough to ride. But as far as my motivation for making videos, well it’s almost September and I live in Michigan. Yes I could make a few before snow falls but then what? I still have yet to figure out what to do with my channel for the winter months.
Proud of you man, keep on going and nothing will stop you.
I feel your pain, because I also went through a divorce and I know how painful and stressful could be
Dude sorry about the divorce but you got an adorable GEM in komotovlogs! Glad you are doing better!
👍keep yourself just like this! Always be positive. And you’re destined for far better things and days ! God has a much better plan for you!
Hey bro...all the way from Seychelles and sending love and support!
The dogg. Lmao. The little dogg 🤣🤣🤣 Burch, keep rolling, brother. Stay strong!
Great content man. You seem pretty young, you'll get thru this. Just ride that bike, and let that little shorty of yours ride your face. You'll forget all about this mess. Cool area you get to ride btw. Really enjoy those roads.
I enjoyed this video, thank you for sharing♥️
All the best 4 U! Greetings from Poland! 🇵🇱💪
Nothing much life wind therapy, Personal favorite is hitting the mountains! Good tip on the emotional warning!
Where all here for
" life of burch"
all of us support you.
ride home from work or what your doing talk about what's bothering you or what's on your mind And will talk to you though the comments.
Ride on brother !
Love the videos. And vent away bud. Gotta get that out.
Just found your channel and subbed - definitely not a problem to voice your problems out as it's better than holding it in. I also live in MD! I definitely understand lacking motivation to do a video - I mainly do airsoft content but been super busy between work and house hunting that I haven't been able to put stuff out. I also wore myself out and never gave myself time to recover and it kinda came back and bit me haha sometimes breaks are definitely needed!
Great vid. On another note, I, too, await the backrest for mine :-)
Sorry to hear about your divorce, I've done that 2x working on 3rd. It gets better, glad to see your able to get out there, I'm thinking about buying a rebel. Taking the class in sept
Thanks man! Good luck on your class! I learned a lot in mine that I still use today 🤘🏻
I've been damaged a couple of times because I was upset over something, and I was riding my bike, and thinking about whatever it was, and not paying attention to what was happening with the bike, and then something happened and I ended up making a rapid unintended dismount.
I bet that was hard to edit and hard to post. I don't think I'd be able to edit and post something like that. I'd like to someday. Right now all I have a Grom. Great video! I have enjoyed all the ones I've seen so far.
It's good to off load, love your content. Keep it up man
Life’s pendulum always swings both ways. As a 58 year old who has been through 2 divorce’s, my advice is to just do what makes you happy for a while. The pieces fall into place on their own. I had a bike during the first marriage and sold it when the baby was due. My second wife didn’t like motorcycles, every spring when the bikes came out I would make those grunting sounds when they flew by and she would always say “ I love you to much for you to get a bike if you got hurt I could never forgive myself” it was hard to argue with that. But when wife #2 said “ Ive decided we are going to get divorced”. That was a kick in the teeth but then I figured “ Hey I bet she dont mind I get a bike now !”
So bought my first bike in a very long time a 2012 Honda Shadow Phantom, then a 2015 Triumph Thunderbird now I’m waiting for a new Honda 1100 in black and manual..Never underestimate the value of a little wind therapy, I’m sure the inspiration will follow. Enjoy the content of your channel and look forward to the future episodes
Love the honesty 💯 hello from Salt Lake City 👋
Thanks bro! Much love from Maryland! 🤘🏻
Throttle therapy Really Works, We are all with you! If you love someone it will be with you forever, the Good, the Bad, and the Ugly. I still love my EX after Many years and I still Hate her, but rarely think of her! I'm sure you will be fine as you have a lot to offer!
Thanks James! I appreciate you! 🙏🏻