@@unicornsanddinosaurs3681 well with me my WHOLE family dosent approve of gays or anyone lgbtq+ bc theyve all complained about lgbtq+ people to me without knowing im bi
I had a girl next to me in English, after me telling her about my girlfriend, say "I had too much drama with girls, that's why I stopped being bi." And I, a bi person, was like "that's???? Not How It Works?????"
Omgsh the same kinda tjing happened to me !! I came out to my friend and she was so serious whenn she said this "*deep breath* yknow i used be bi" i was like "girl, you cant walk away from you sexuality dude" bruh how can you just STOP being bi like ???????
My best friend was the first person I came out to, her immediate reaction? “You don’t have a crush on me right?” “No! You’re like my sister!” She accepted that real quick her mom on the other hand? Her mom doesn’t know my sexuality nor does she need to but she is 90% sure I’m gay her daughters gay and that means we’re dating??? Like no??
I'm a closeted bisexual. One day my mom made a cake where one half was chocolate and the other half was cream. And cut this cake in pieces. I asked myself for a piece with both parts saying "I take the best from both sides" Looks like coming out failed.
Пепе Килджой you could made a pink, blue and purple cake. Or put those color toppings, and choose a slice of each of them, or checkered bi colors I dunno, your choice
"you're just doing it for attention" I have social anxiety. I do nothing for attention. That's why I didn't come out until 10 years after I realized I was not Heterosexual
I told my Friends and they reacted normal and they asked normal questions. Since I came out to my friends, one of them are confused about her sexuality and I'm helping her with ir
I came out as bi just a couple weeks ago, and the weirdest thing was that no one really reacted. Like sure, my mom said a joke about it but that was?? All?? None of the other people (my dad, sister & a couple friends) even said a word.. My best friend's reaction was "aha" before she went on about her ex.. Like, isn't there supposed to be at least something like a "we accept you" or even just an "ok cool"? Am I doing this for attention? Now i feel like I am. Feck 😳😳
Awesome Pet even tho I'm gay I wish people would stop labeling people and make them choose sides or descriminate because it's wrong to do that to other human beings and I think everything that is good should be respected and people in the LGBT+ should stop descriminating other LGBT people because we as a community sometimes get hate, so why should we hate on each other, I'm sorry if I'm ranting I just hate, hate in general.
When you say you're whatever and then they think you're attracted to them, especially the more bigoted people. I now just respond with, "I wouldn't date you. I have standards and self-respect."
People be like: Oh how are you bi when you havent even dated both yet? Me: Well Samantha........how did you know you were straight when you never dated a dude before?
To put it bluntly with that last question: it doesn’t suck being bi, it sucks being surrounded by people who are biphobic and won’t bother to understand it.
@@randomk7198 You'd really be surprised how little people can understand it. Even when its explained there's still morons who say "its just a faze" ext, people in the LGBTQ still don't accept us, christ one of my dad's friends think its the same as gender fluidity.
Oh I understand it. I just think it is gross. Like how I think people who are into bestiality are gross. You can't help who or what you like...but we dont have to accept your views.
@@depurasangre86 false equivalence you got there. You yourself are more perverted than you're insinuating bisexuality itself is with that mindset..Via ignorance..I'm not even Bi myself and it doesn't confuse or disgust me. Educate yourself & grow up.
Wasteful Girl So true though!!! Like, oh, do you like everyone? No, you have a type or certain traits in a person you like not just any girl or guy walking down the street
"Just because I'm bi doesn't mean I'll sleep with literally anyone. I mean, I will, but more because of my daddy issues than my being bi" -quote from a bisexual friend
I know right! When people hear that you're bi, they're like, "So are you just attracted to everyone?" Well, you're straight, right? Are you attracted to every guy? No! You're not! So why should I be?
As a bisexual I really had trouble with my friends. And dating, some gay girls refuse to date bisexual women, some guys feel they can do whatever with me just because they think ‘because I’m up for dating women as well’ Respect the B in LGBT
Me: *is a bi female* Me: *comes out as bi* Me: You know that bi means I like guys and girls, right? Friend: yes. Me: And you understand that, right? Friend: yes. Me: And you’re okay with that, right? Friend: yes. Me: *gets a boyfriend* Friend: *WaIt I tHoUgHt YoU wErE bIsExUaL*
Natasha Longley when you've been denied the other set of genitals for years and years. You'll eventually cheat. Bisexuality means you are attracted to #crave sex with both sets of genitals eventuality you will want the other. And most people are not ok with having a third person on the bedroom so you'll eventually cheat out of sheer sexual frustration.
Ruhe1986 Your argument can apply for straight or gay people as well. Eventually you can get tired of the same pair of genitals you've been having sex with and you'll desire someone else of the same gender. But that's not the case necessarily, why? Because most people respect themselves and have morals and aren't driven by sex ffs. Being bisexual means you like both men and women, it makes you openminded not hornier.
soraji- and unfortunately there are more that are driven by sex than you think. And it's an unfortunate reality that there are body parts I don't have that a bisexual person will eventually crave and not be able to get in any way shape or form other than cheating with me.
i had a crush on this guy and he wouldn’t date me cause i was “too gay” because i also liked girls. a couple years later i had a crush on this girl who wouldn’t date me because she thought i was “a wannabe gay”. it sucks.
A friend of mine thought being bisexual meant you have a girlfriend and a boyfriend at the same time. When my brother found out I was bisexual he forbid me from being alone with his girlfriend at any one time. Never mind that she wasn't my type, why do straight people assume that you fancy anything with a pulse just because you're bi?
Omg I am so lucky with my friends, after I came out to them they were super cool with it. With family, well...they are homophobic and basically everything that's not straight phobic so I didn't come out
Dee Gee no, just straight people in general - my male and female coworkers were equally confused as to how I could be bisexual and married to a man; one woman asked how women even had sex with each other (I would point out that there was more to sexual pleasure than penetration), and the men were unsurprised that my husband didn't mind me swinging both ways, though one was unsure how he would react if his missus came out as being bi. The funniest one was my best friend in college, who constantly asked "but you don't fancy me, right?" to the point where I eventually did start to fancy her.
A phase? This phase has lasted almost two decades. But seriously I told one guy that I was bi and he instantly stopped talking to me, I was just being honest. Do I ever wish I wasn't bi? No, I feel more comfortable being bi than anything else
My aunt thinks I dunno what I’m talking about when I told her I was pan and then I sorta came out to her about me being trans, she thinks it’s a phase and it’s been 6-7 years
Legit when I came out to my mother about being bi, the first thing that came out of her mouth was "So you want to date me? So you want to date your grandmother?" And just remember crying for a long time that night because she literally thought I would just date anything that was female. She would always downplay my relationships from that point forward because "but you're dating a guy! So you're not a lesbian." Even now in my wonderful relationship, I'm apparently "straight" and have "come out of a bisexual phase." A similar thing happened with my Step-Grandmother when I gently came out to her at 17 about being bi but she instantly said "No! You're either gay or you're straight, being bi is just greedy. You're either one or the other." I didn't sleep that night because I was crying so hard. Parents and relatives of Bisexual/Biromantic children/relatives please just take them at face value. If they say how they feel, it means they trust you enough to tell you in the first place. If you love them enough, then please please please don't yell or tell them they are wrong or assume anything. If it's an experiment, they will likely tell you they are experimenting, you don't have to tell them they are. If you love them, tell them you love them. Try to learn about bisexuality and get your information straight from the bisexual community. Hell, get your information from the LGBTQ+ community, because your family member will appreciate it and will trust you more in the future. If you are a family member learning about bisexuality and LGBTQ+ through this video, thank you. Knowledge is a wonderful thing and to learn more about us will always be appreciated. Have a lovely day. :)
Maybe something unlogical like in the mangas will happen and somehow you turn the straight person gay JK it wont happen in real life but I wish it did then love troubles would go away
One girl from my class once told me, that I can't change in the girls locker room, beacause I like girls. So I asked "Where should I change then?" And she was like "In the boys locker room" And I was like "But I like boys as well" And then she was like "But you can't like both" And I was so done with that shit, that I didn't change at all for the next year, and got bad grade from PE.
Yo! I came out to my PE class and they started getting super paranoid, and anytime I would glance at the for a second, they would literally say, "stop staring at me! Lesbo!" I'm like: "I'm not a lesbo, I like boys to ya know, and just because I like girls doesn't mean I like you. You don't like every guy in this school, why would I like every girl?"
im Kindaproblematic But the thing is many gay people come out as bi at first. Somehow they find it easier, at least in my generation it was like that. My best friend said to me she was bi even though she already knew I was gay. She even made out with some boys. A year later of so she admited she was lesbian. I dated a lot of "bi" guys in my younger years. They didn't want to put the "gay" label on themselves, but with time they ended up doing so. It came to a point that I thought that bisexuality didn't exist. One woman told me she was bisexual, and i was really wasted that night so I bluntly replied "bisexuality doesn't exist", and she got so mad lol. To this day, i've still never met a bisexual person that doesn't end up being actually gay. I don't deny the existence of bisexuality, but I think the "it's just a phase" thing is not unreasonable given the circumstances.
I am not bi, but I hate it when people say that bi people are transphobic because being bi indicates there are two genders. An orientation that you have no control over is not transphobic.
No, bisexuality is an attraction to the typically binary sexes: males and females. Gender is different to sex. I consider myself to be bisexual panromantic because I am sexually attracted to both male and female bodies (as well as intersex, because they are usually a combination of both), and because gender is not a binary thing, hence the pan meaning all. I agree that being bi doesn’t automatically make them transphobic, because regardless of body parts, what matters is their heart.
Bisexual means 'attracted to 2 or more genders' and has been around way longer than pansexual etc. We're not transphobic, we do not have problems with nb-people. If a bi person has a preference.... still not a horrible thing. People just love to hate us :/
Bi nonbinary person here! To say bisexuaity is inherently transphobic is in itself biphobic AND transphobic. Trans men and trans women are still men and women. (So to say someone is pan, not bi, because they also like trans people is treating trans people like a third thing when they're not). The purple stripe on the bi flag represents attraction to nonbinary genders as well as a mix of male and female (so to say bisexuals are enbyphobic is just untrue. I'm a bi enby. Am I enbyphobic?) to any accidental Biphobes reading this: Do not minimize the definition of bisexuality just because pansexuality exists and overlaps. Both bi and pan people can be transphobic. But neither sexuality is inherently
I just tell them that whatever has a dick and whatever has a pussy will do, so many trans people freeze up when I reply with that statement. I also prefer my men pussyless, and my ladies dickless
I GET SO ASHAMED THE WHOLE TIME BECAUSE OF THIS AND I SHOULDN'T BECAUSE I'M JUST BI, I'M NOT IN LOVE WITH YOU, THANK YOU VERY MUCH FOR YOUR UNDERSTANDING.
Actually yes, my best friend at the time thought that I was totally going to have sex with her. Never happened so I don't see what she was so worked up about.
Not exactly that problem. I rarely dare to tell anyone because I'm afraid they might think that. (Or think that I'm actually homosexual and are lying.)
Ali Reed oh gawd a lot, I came out to my friends on National coming out Day and they over reacted.....”OMG IM SCARED DON’T RAPE ME” “You’re just saying that to scare us because we had sex-ed” “Wait......are you thinking about having sex with me!?..... Eww” “......You’re gonna rape us one day” Smh smh 🙄 after I came out to my family I’m done coming out to peeps. But my family was very supportive since my Aunty is Transgender 💗
What's sad is that she's not "both straight and a lesbian" she's entirely bi, so they're right, she can't be both, but being bi ISN'T being both, it's just being entirely bi! *sigh*
They forgot “so do you want a threesome?” I made the mistake of telling my bf I *might* be bi and now he keeps hinting at threesomes. It’s driving me insane and reminding me of why I don’t like men as much as I did when I was a naive high schooler.
Being a guy I feel sorry you have to experience this. Funnily enough I've had it the other way around back when I was "just" straight and told my bisexual girlfriend back then I was ok with her having sex with women as long as it's not behind my back. She actually understood it as me asking for a threesome at first.
This one time a dude from my math class came up to me asking me to the upcoming prom, I said no. He said, "Why? Are you lesbian or something?" I said "No I'm bi." he says "Ok. I changed my mind. Don't wanna be cheated on."
Oml storytime: So, in school, I drew an LGBTQ flag on my arm because I was bored, and I didn't think much of it. Later, when I went outside with my friends, one of em said "Dude are you gay?" as a joke, which I was extremely annoyed about, and I said "Yes." (Note that I'm bisexual and closeted, so I just said I was gay bc I assumed my friends dunno what Bi meant) She INSTANTLY BACKED AWAY FROM ME. I hope it was merely a joke, but still, that hurt bro, like being gay/bi etc isn't like a disease T^T
Oof that reminds me of one time that my friend was playing with my arm and she misheard say that I liked a girl and she immediately let go of my arm and backed away. That hurt a lot.
I wonder if men feel like this, I usually avoid touching them entirely 😰 So thank you for sharing your experience, it helps us straights understand how not to hurt you better!
I am a male, and I have a girlfriend. When I'd tell people that they'd say "But I thought you were bi?" wtf? You literally just answered your own question.
That is SOOOO true! Everyone in my family is rejoiced at the fact that I am now dating a male and that I am all of a sudden "straight" sorry, but I am *still* bi, as much as you'd hate to accept that. Jeez.
OKAY SAME. Currently dating a guy, and I love him, but I have definitely had some female interests.. and since people know that, they think it's weird that I'm with a guy. l m a o
My mom accepted the fact I liked the same gender, but she kept asking which one, and she wouldnt accept both so I was forced to choose one so she would piss off
You exist Your not a going through a phase Your not doing this for attention You don’t have to pick one or the other Your not confused You may find one gender more attractive than others. But that doesn’t make you any less bisexual. I’m bisexual too. Let’s make this year our year! Have a great 20BiTeen everybody!!
I'm bisexual. And the one comment I'm starting to get a lot is "I thought you were gay because you hang out with dudes" and "I thought you were gay because of how you dress". I've always been a tomboy my whole life. Never been comfortable in dresses always preferred jeans and tshirts. So because of this,people that don't get to know me just assume I'm a butch lesbian lol. I find it funny that how I decide to dress should somehow determine my sexuality. There are very girly dressing bisexual women but no one assumes they are gay. So why should who I hang out with and what I feel comfortable wearing have anything to do with who I love? I just never understood that logic.
coexisting vlogs EXACTLY. It's like a stigma that you are either not gay enough or not straight enough to be Bi. It's annoying as fuck and it needs to stop.
i'm bi too, with a prefercence for girls. i dress my self in a very feminine way, i always get told that i am straight. like tf no just cause i wear dresses and a lot of makeup and like to do my hear doesn't mean i am hetero?
Breyana You are basically me most of my friends are guys and I've always hated wearing dresses and skirts and shorts I'm always wearing either ripped jeans skinny jeans and t-shirts even in the summer.
Telling someone in a relationship you’re bisexual and having them stop talking to you because the guy thinks you’re going to flirt with him and the girl thinks you’re going to flirt with her while at the same time they both think you are going to flirt with their partner behind their back. UGH!
things I hear/see as a bisexual woman: "but you're in a relationship with a guy, right?" "but how do you get...you know...your uh...fix? with girls?" *predatory male stare* "so you like threesomes?" "no you're not" *that girl who thinks you're going to pounce on her immediately after finding out you're bi* "you're giving us(lesbians) a bad name" "I bet I can turn you straight/gay for good" "how are you going to get married?" "I was bi once too! I kissed my best friend at a party on a dare!" "so you're half gay then yeah?" "so you're half straight then yeah?" "gal pals"
My friend and I were having a conversation once and somehow we both ended up telling each other how we were bisexual and I was just like "bi-five?" and after that we died of laughter and still do every time we do it
alex I have a huge crush on this one girl, and she knows it so whenever she asks my opinion on something she did/how she looks, etc. I give my answer and say “but idk, I’m probably bi-ased”
Literally I told my friend I was bisexual and they were like do you have a crush on me? I was like I have certain type just like all of you! just because I’m bisexual doesn’t mean I like everyone in the world!
Yes. I came out as gay to my best friend and that same thing happened. Me: I'm gay. Him: We can be friends just as long as you don't come onto me. Me: DUDE! I have a certain type...and you ain't it.
I’m straight but my friend told me the same thing whenever she tells someone she’s bi they always assume she likes them are bisexuals not allowed to have types ?😂
I laugh at myself when I used to say "I just really support the LGBTQ+ community" like no honey, you're in love with your girl best friend and are 110% bisexual, just admit it 😂
ellice tytler Well first off im bi and it seems more like a community only for librels and only they can speak for "acceptance". Also they spead alot of hate towards Christians ,straight people, and conservatives. Its overall a toxic community in my view
FyreBal I hope you don't stay that way forever hun. With all the crap I've caught being openly me in a tiny southern town, I wouldn't undo nuking my closet for the world. My real friends didn't care and it was a huge burden off me that I didn't realize I had until it was gone. Any that bolt just make room for ones that like the real you. I'm not saying to do it tomorrow, just eventually.
I don't have children or a husband. maybe i don't want them. maybe I want a wife. maybe I want a wife and kids. or maybe I do want a husband, with or without children. either way, it's not your right to tell me that.
You should tell people. It makes you feel much better. At least for me. I have depression so I'm dealing with that, but coming out to my friends made things feel better.
Coveralic i mean, tenchinicaly speaking its a correct sentence. Normal is another world for majority or most of. And you guessed it, most of the population is straight, so, half gay half normal is a correct sentence. Did you go to school?
The Cringe that's just stupid. That's like saying that people that have curly hair aren't normal. That natural blondes aren't normal. That blue eyed people aren't normal. It doesn't work like that.
Well, what the percentage of people with curly hair? Whats the percentage of people with blond hair? Is there a chart you can show me? If all the percentiles are similar then they would all be considered normal varieties of hair/eyes [EDIT] The point is was making is that something like only 1.6% (last I checked) of the population is bisexual. That's not anywhere near the percentage of straight people ergo not normal, not saying not being normal is a bad thing, but it's not normal. Its not usual, its not average.
For example, let's use America, from what I can tell, 5.2% of the population is gay, If 5.2% of your hair was green, is that your normal hair color? No, your hair color would be for example, brown. Green is an anomaly. Technically it shouldn't be there. But that doesn't make it a bad thing, hell if a small bit of my hair were green, that would be quite neat, you know. A defining feature! It's not a bad thing! Everyone needs to stop thinking that, 'Not normal = Bad' That's not how that works. you're giving "not normal" a bad reputation, stop oppressing the phrase "not normal". You're being rude and you're making it feel bad.
"If you're bisexual, why do you dress so girly?" Bruh???? Is dressing up a specific way identifies your gender? My cousins mock me that "Im faking" just because I dress so girly.
My daughter is bi and first came out as a lesbian. She’s had some stupid things said to her, totally uncalled for comments. I feel so protective over her, I just want her to be happy and loved by whoever she’s seeing ❤️
"It's just a phase" this one pissed me off, like oh my god... I am currently 13 going on 14 and I hear this *So much* it's not even funny! Like it's not a phase! Not everything that happens while in your teen years is a phase!
True. And the thing is: even if it turns out to be a 'phase'... where would be the problem with that?? No need to make people feel bad. If a gay peep is unsure and thinks they miiiight be bi, just to find out they're not? Not a bad thing either. I'm 26, out for years, still get that comment. Just ask them if they ever had sex with the same gender, and if they haven't (which, ofc, most biphobes havent)... ask them how they can be sure that they are not bi if they neve had 'gay-sex'. They will GET SO MAD lol
@@TheSpiceMoth my grandma is so confused 'cause l recently cut my hair and gave so many red flags about being trans, but she's just like "but you're a girl" that pisses me off 😑
@@MrsTold Same but I have not come out yet. I figured out I was bisexual at 14 and am now 15. Trust me I know for sure I am bisexual. I told my friends but not anyone else and it turns out one of them is bisexual too.
When I was in like sixth or seventh grade I was questioning and sort of decided that, yeah, I in fact do like girls, and my longest relationship ever has been with a girl, so for a while during my freshman year I was mostly dating boys so I was even beginning to doubt my own sexuality until I moved and I met this reallllyyy beautiful girl so yeah, pretty sure I still like girls too and its not a phase ya get me homie
I’m bisexual and I remember I was dating a guy at the time and someone says to me “if you’re bi why don’t you go date a girl” and my response was “let’s say the guy I’m dating is a cookie and all other females are cake, right now I have craving for the cookie more so than cake at the moment”
Rose Lily if they treat me good and respect me then that’s the sweet I’m craving 😋 I don’t really have a preference just be a good partner for me and I want ya . Short and sweet 😜
The thing I hate is when people tell me I'm straight because I'm currently in a straight relationship.... But I'm still bisexual.... Then when I date a girl I'm automatically a lesbian and must hate men er something.... Like no, I'm still bisexual, doesn't matter what gender I date, still bi 😂
@@kylesimpson3669 wow...i-this comment is just👌👌👌 Thank you for making me feel grateful I didn't form beliefs like this and I could have turned out WAY worse
Yes hahaha I love it when I come out to a girl and she thinks I automaticaly like her like sweetie congrats for the confidence but that's like assuming every straight male on the planet likes you
i haven't come out yet but when i do i hope no one automatically thinks i like them XD i wish my crush liked me tho XD she wears the most cutiest cat ear headband ever XD my crush is who made me realize i was bi :p
This is pretty common. Most assume that having a preference means you will be attracted to everyone. That's not how it works. I think this is why understanding romantic attraction is just as important as understanding sexual attraction for sexuality to be truly understood.
1. Some women like submissive men 2. Being bi doesn’t make you submissive 3. Being bi doesn’t mean you’re a bottom 4. Being a. bottom doesn’t make you submissive 5. Idiot
Megan Gudgeon yes it's so real. Alot of people in the LGBT+ community don't respect bisexuals. I used to go to a LGBT+ social club and it was awful. People were nice but you could tell there was a divide. It wasn't like one big happy family. Everyone pretty much stuck to there own group and a lot of the gay and lesbians. Some admit that they would never date someone who is bi or pan. The social club was open to everyone but it felt really close minded when there would be heated discussions about bisexuality and pansexuality. And whether its just for attention or greed. I left that club and just went spent time on my own realising that no one can tell me what my sexuality is but me. (Also There were usual about 70 people at the club every month and only about 3 bisexual people. We felt lonely as hell and we didn't get along well)
Ginger L Grant Ginger L Grant no honey that is the wrong answer. Bisexual people do have same sex relationships, bisexuals to have relationships that we're dating someone of the opposite gender. I know bisexual people who do not have sex with their partner until about a year or so in their relationship. Does that mean they are a slut? No it doesn't. And the majority of people to the LGBT+ Social Club went to make friends or come out secretly without their friends or family knowing. Do you know what bisexual people have in common with gay and lesbians, that we're all people and we have all had a hard time. Why are bisexual people singled out. My sexuality doesn't mean I want to have sex with everyone. Bisexual people struggle you know. A lot of people have painful coming out stories and bisexual people do find it hard to come out. Yet a lot of people seem to think of yeah you're a slut if you like boy and girls.When I accidentally came out in the middle of my school playground at 12 (I planned on coming out on my 18th because I knew that life would have been hell for me in school and at home) and you have no idea, how many people constantly tried to tell me different. My mother nearly put me in care because of it. She doesn't accept it, and she never will. We've agreed just to not talk about it. I had family were telling me that I was bored and lonely, greedy. Someone said I wanted people to bully me. Everyone would come up to me and say oh you're just gay. You're doing it for attention. Asking me have you had a threesome, would you become a prostitute. Girls wouldn't sit next to me because they thought I would touch them. Girls would pretend to flirt with me to see if Im really bisexual. Straight boys older than me would ask if I would have a threesome with their girlfriend. A boy threaten me with a knife because I'm bisexual so I must want to have sex with guys anyways. If its true the bisexual people have orgies on the weekend. If you're bisexual does that mean you're a virgin. Every time I went to class this boy kept throwing a bible at me, reading the bible behind me and made a Facebook page on why I should kill myself because I'm bisexual. A girl called me a slut and sent bleach to me house. Actually what's wrong is everyone else. Their interpretation of bisexual=slut. My bisexuality does not mean I want sex. I'm in love with a girl but I'm still attracted to other guys and girls does that mean that I want to fuck any guy or a girl. No it doesn't. Just because I'm bisexual doesn't mean that I don't have standards. Please just stop with this attitude because it hurts. We're just people and we don't deserve to be treated less than.
Ginger L Grant you can still be bisexual even if you're in a straight relationship. You can still be bisexual even if you're in a same sex relationship. Just because you're in a relationship with someone, it doesn't change your sexuality.
My ex girlfriend used to always say “oh, you aren’t bi. You’re gay. You just don’t know it” and honestly it used to - and still does - make me really sad and frustrated
Ok so I only came out as bi last year at the ripe old age of 40 and no I'm not having a midlife crisis!!!!!!!!!!!!! The first person I had feelings for was a girl/woman when I was around 15 but I always wanted to be a wife and mum and in those days the only way you could do that was with a guy so I thought "well I like them too so ok!" and also the parents were old school and although things like that were never discussed I certainly knew where my mum stood 😒! However when I came out to one of my friends last year (who I've known since we were 5) she told me she remembered her mum telling her, when were early 20s, that my mum said she had suspicions I could be ........................ queer! I nearly fell over!!!! My mum died 13 years ago so will never be able to tell/ask her. 😢 I am not a wife or mum, and the way I'm going never will be, so I thought "fuck it I'm gonna die being me" so that's why I finally came out! I still haven't got the confidence to get out there as I've hidden for so long but maybe some day............ I envy all you young guys and girls out and proud and living your lives and loving who you want. Raise your pink and blue flags and be happy. I wish I was x
oh boogie, I feel your pain my lovely. I'm 52, male, and only just started my coming out journey before Xmas 2018. It had been building up for about 35 years and I got to the point where I was just too tired to fight it anymore and hide from myself. I'm so thankful to the younger generation for being brave in their identities and helping me to realise that I'm Pansexual. There just wasn't the term when I was growing up and I'd always assumed I just must be gay even though I was attracted to some girls at school. I don't feel bi because I can be attracted, sexually or romantically, to any human. I'm gender blind and just see the person in all their beauty... nothing more, nothing less! My situation is slightly tricky though because I did get married and have kids. I came out to my wife who kind of realise that I wasn't just hetro. She wasn't overly shocked thank goodness, but we really haven't discussed our future yet and what it means. I just wish I was braver so I could have lived my authentic life. I love my current life, but just don't know where I may be heading. My kids were amazing about it and just said 'yeah we know' as if it was the most normal thing in the world.; it's really not a big deal for them. It seems everyone knows or suspects except myself and I've just been hiding. I'm not fully out yet and my parents don't know. I'm just taking small steps to try and figure it all out until I'm properly 'out'. Good luck on your journey hun! XX
knrdvmmlbkkn It’s more like when the person knows you have no interest in them like the girl hated me and I disliked her and the moment I came out as bi she asked me this question
"and the moment I came out as bi she asked me this question" Then simply give an honest answer. Or ask "Like, in what sense?". That shouldn't be a problem, unless they persist in asking the same question again and again and...
people actually do, though. biphobia in particular happens among LGBTQ people- i don't think i've ever been in a LGBTQ space without someone or other having something negative to say about bi people, about how they're just straight people experimenting or trying to be cool, or just gay people who are too scared to go all the way... so there's both hate from homophobic straight people, and hate from our own communities (although, obviously, not everyone is like that). it really is a dealbreaker for some people as well
not to be overly personal, but are you a bisexual person? because just about every other bisexual person i've spoken to has had similar experiences to what's being spoken about here- being stereotyped as unfaithful, indecisive, just wanting attention, etc, or being made to feel left out of LGBTQ communities, and I would be surprised if many bisexual people would say that wasn't the case. it isn't really a small minority at all. I agree people could do with being less sensitive and easily offended, but that has little to do with actually ostracizing people from a community- that isn't something that's offensive but you can brush off, it's something that actually majorly impacts peoples' lives
Chi Colborne i am but i dont really hang around large groups of people and i dont go to lgbtq events or clubs. i sit at home on weekends and i work way to much overtime during the week.
But can you see how for people who spend more time with others and make their social life a high priority (which is often essential for some LGBTQ people, that sense of community) feeling ostracized from that or having that experience made negative (as well as all the day-to-day standard homophobia from straight people) it could be really hard? I'm not much of a social butterfly either but I feel like i would be much more connected with the community if there hadn't been negativity there- when I actually have reached out that's when I realize how much biphobia is a real thing
"It's just a phase" "So your half gay?" "So then do you like all of us and that's why you hang out with us?" "So you'll date anyone?" "You must have some low standards/you must be desperate" "Why can't you just choose?" "Wow that's a LOT to keep track of in the love department" "So do you think hes hot? What about her?" etc.
I'm bisexual (and transgender) and the worst thing that's ever been said to me is probably: Me: I'm bisexual Person: soooo...? Me: I like both girls and boys Person: Can't you choose between being straight and gay...? Me: No...There is a B in LGBTQ+ for a reason and it doesn't mean badass (laughs on the inside) Person: How do you know it's not a phase? Me: Because I love both genders like why deny someone the ability to date me just cause they are a girl or boy. Person: Right...You're also transgender right? Me: yes Person: so...if you were straight you'd like girls? Me: Correct Person: Are you sure your not a tomboy Me: *pulls girlfriend next to me* am I a tomboy? GF: No...your a strange human being whose obsessed with yelling random crap to everyone Me: Seeeee? Person: Bye...*walks away*
Eren Jaeger ugh, that sucks. Im also bisexual and ftm transgender. Ive never struggled with or experienced much cons with being bi, i love being bi, but i experience countless cons with being transgender *every* day. Being called a tomboy is the absolute worst.
I'm bi to and people don't think I can like boys and girls they come up to me all the time saying are you a lesbian or straight and I said i like both genders equally
I have a boyfriend and when I tell people that I'm bi they sometimes say things like "but don't u have a boyfriend?" or sometimes they don't even believe me
Same! Im bi and Im in a relationship with a man and we are going to get married..so its really confusing to people when I say Im bi. Like, my sexuality doesnt change just because Im in a long term relationship with someone that happens to be of the opposite gender
I'm getting married to a man and had to explain to my mum that I'm still bisexual 😂 just because I'm in love with my boyfriend doesn't mean I'm not attracted to women as well anymore 😂
I came out some weeks ago as bisexual to my mom, and she literally told me "that's the trend now." Then she began to tell me a bunch of biphobic stereotypes and said that this is bc a group of boys were mean to me when I was younger and now i have a trauma and therefore I like girls. The thing is, mom, I ALSO LIKE BOYS!!
THANKYOU!!!! I remember going through ths highstreet where a pride march was going on and my parents were saying that it's such a trend for young ppl....liek......srsly?
Mara P.C. My mom did something similar to me when I came out, I told I was bi because I knew she would probably think that multi sexual isn’t real, so then she asked me if I was going marry a girl or boy and she wasn’t the last to do that it bothers me so much
My father and his side of the family were very prejudice. Racism and homophobia was something that I had to deal with growing up. My mother and her side of the family were VERY opened minded. They taught me at a very very early age (when I could understand what they were talking about.) that everyone is equal no matter what skin color, and that you can love who ever you want because love is love... that’s what I believed full heartedly. (My fathers side did not like that very much.) I told my grandmother when I was about 11-12 years old that I was Bi. (She was a god awful woman and she made my life hell.) made me believe she would keep my secret but ended up outing me to my father. I got belittled and ridiculed by him. He said it was just a phase. I know nothing because I’m a kid. Blah blah blah. So that topic never got brought up again with him... When I told my mom, she was really supportive but the way she reacted was like I was talking about some every day thing. Needless to say... I’m bisexual. It’s not a phase. And thank god I had my mother in my life... because I could have turned into a horrible hateful human being if my fathers family were solely responsible for raising me.,
oh please I see marry men cheating on there wives everyday, looking for boyfriend to keep on the side. even married women cheating with both men and women. I've seen it all nothing shocks me anymore
Glen Jones wow i found you again ... what a shame .... You know what i don‘t understand? How you think you know bi people better than others do , even tho you aren‘t bi yourself , and have never dated somebody who is ! So tell me , why do you think like this ? What has a bisexual done to you that makes it ok to say every single one of them is like that ?
"Bisexual doesn't mean slutty, it just means open-minded" It's not open minded, it's a preference. It's not close minded to just be sexually attracted to one sex, it's just how you're orientated.
So basically at school my friends were talking about someone who was bisexual then they started to talk about how awkward it would be to date a bi person. I am bisexual myself and I've only came out to 2 people who accept me, and them talking about that kinda triggered me. One of them also said "oh imagine if I was dating a guy but then they leave me for a guy, that would just be awkward and I don't think I could ever become bi." And even the teacher agreed to what she said and I got kinda mad
Dating a bi person is not awkward at all. I've been with one almost 20 years and married over 10y. He just came out to me a year ago, even tough I allready knew and I have been open about how ok I am with different sexualities. I identify myself as pan. Dont let anyone get you down.
I get really strange reactions when I mention that I am attracted to both men and women. I am in a very happy committed relationship with a man. I didn't choose him because he is a man, he just happens to be a man. I would have been just as happy with a woman or with a man. Often times when I mention I am Bi I get, "Well, you obviously like men more", no I attracted to all different types of people and my boyfriend fits into that category. It freaks people out because I casually mention it sometimes. I never felt this huge need to come out. I have never really came out to anyone, people just figure it out when I hit on women or when LGBTQ+ topics come up. I am just attracted to people, why is this so difficult for some people to understand?
Never really comes up in convos for me and most people think I'm straight because that's the default. I didn't come out either since it's not a big deal for me to, if someone asks I'll say I'm pan but never been an issue. Probably would get shit from some family members if I had a female partner but atm I'm together with a guy. Based on these comments and the video it's a good think I've never had a gf..
I'm so happy to have found this video and this discussion, yes it's a struggle! that people understand that simply I make no gender distinctions when feeling sexually attracted to people / falling in love. After having a girlfriend for a long time, then dating a man, people were saying "so you changed to men now" . Mum said "I see now that being lesbian was a stage". I never said i was lesbian, ever, I only said I was dating this girl. Misunderstood, invisible bi-sexuality!
@@irtap404 EXACTLY. People always assume if a bi person has a gf they've somehow turned gay/lesbian, and if they have a bf they're straight. *nO biSH tHAt'S nOt hOW iT wORks*
Bi problems: going through phases of liking girls or guys more and unintentionally confusing everyone.
Hannah Smith I feel this so much
Hannah Smith
TheUnPCDrunkBastard _ Well, no, cause you still like both genders.
Dumbass.
You seem confused, judging by your spelling and grammar and whatnot.
TheUnPCDrunkBastard _ You're definitely the confused one, you are an alcoholic after all.
Some of the most unintelligent people in the entire world.
Hannah Smith yeah :/ going through this right now but gotta stay in the closet for a while cause school and parents rip
when i told my therapist i was bi she literally said “oh so your experimenting.”
NOOO. i’m bi
Damn at least I can put safe space as one of my options with my insurance
Aaaaaand time for a new therapist
I think she meant bi curious
I think you should change therapists if you can
@@unicornsanddinosaurs3681 well with me my WHOLE family dosent approve of gays or anyone lgbtq+ bc theyve all complained about lgbtq+ people to me without knowing im bi
I had a girl next to me in English, after me telling her about my girlfriend, say "I had too much drama with girls, that's why I stopped being bi." And I, a bi person, was like "that's???? Not How It Works?????"
Exactly, you can't run away from your sexuality....you are born this way....
"You too can stop being bi now! Try... STOPPING BI" 😂
@@dragibusdrawer8446 HOOOW CAN YOU BEEN BORN SO IS SOMETHING YOU DESIDE
Oh god. I’m personally having boy drama atm but I don’t say that I’m NOT BI anymore. Statements like that make things worse for us bi people.
Omgsh the same kinda tjing happened to me !! I came out to my friend and she was so serious whenn she said this "*deep breath* yknow i used be bi" i was like "girl, you cant walk away from you sexuality dude" bruh how can you just STOP being bi like ???????
"I'm bi"
"Oh, so you just wanna, like, get with everyone?"
"I have standards, ya badgers armpit"
My version
"I'm bi"
"Oh, so you just wanna, like, get with everyone?"
"Yes, except you."
Haha I’m Bi and everyone is hot fuehdsxhsz
I’m pan. And I get that all the dam time. It’s annoying enough when people ask if I’m attracted to literal pans 😑
If you didn't read "ya badgers armpit" in a Scottish accent, you're lying.
EiferBrennan I did it in a Northern England accent idk what it's called
I hate when girls find out and then think you're gonna hit on them or look at them in the locker room.
I mean seriously?
Do I look that desperate?
The Treacherous Leech IKR
Omg yes it’s like you’re a creep or something like sis calm down 🤦♀️
My best friend was the first person I came out to, her immediate reaction?
“You don’t have a crush on me right?”
“No! You’re like my sister!”
She accepted that real quick her mom on the other hand? Her mom doesn’t know my sexuality nor does she need to but she is 90% sure I’m gay her daughters gay and that means we’re dating??? Like no??
LITERALLY I HAATEEE THAAT
- because it's true no straight girl want you watching them in the locker room you big lez
I'm a closeted bisexual.
One day my mom made a cake where one half was chocolate and the other half was cream.
And cut this cake in pieces. I asked myself for a piece with both parts saying "I take the best from both sides"
Looks like coming out failed.
Okay, I get it, but
What kind of cake was your mom trying to make???
Пепе Килджой you could made a pink, blue and purple cake. Or put those color toppings, and choose a slice of each of them, or checkered bi colors I dunno, your choice
gotta try harder next time XD
was the cake good though
@@koolcat6320 XD the important question is asked
me: i'm bisexual.
person: oh! so you have double the chances
me: 0×2=0
Relatable
I cracked up😂😂😂😂
Lol same
This is a personal attack. That hurt
I can't laugh everyone's asleep.
I sound like a dying horse but not loud
"you're just doing it for attention"
I have social anxiety. I do nothing for attention. That's why I didn't come out until 10 years after I realized I was not Heterosexual
dang 10 years? I only took 5
I told my Friends and they reacted normal and they asked normal questions. Since I came out to my friends, one of them are confused about her sexuality and I'm helping her with ir
I came out as bi just a couple weeks ago, and the weirdest thing was that no one really reacted. Like sure, my mom said a joke about it but that was?? All?? None of the other people (my dad, sister & a couple friends) even said a word.. My best friend's reaction was "aha" before she went on about her ex.. Like, isn't there supposed to be at least something like a "we accept you" or even just an "ok cool"? Am I doing this for attention? Now i feel like I am. Feck 😳😳
Aw, I fee ya. Hope everything’s going better
That is why I used the global lockdown to finally come out. No way people say I want attention when nobody is allowed to meet.
It's sad when we get hate from both gay and straight people and I find it really frustrating.
Awesome Pet even tho I'm gay I wish people would stop labeling people and make them choose sides or descriminate because it's wrong to do that to other human beings and I think everything that is good should be respected and people in the LGBT+ should stop descriminating other LGBT people because we as a community sometimes get hate, so why should we hate on each other, I'm sorry if I'm ranting I just hate, hate in general.
Awesome Pet yeah
I dont hate you. I just don't want to date you.
Awesome Pet I know right people are so negative
Ruhe1986 No one said anything about dating you thoough, it's not like being bisexual will instantly make someone want to date other people.
“Oh so you’re gay right? Does that mean you’ll date me?”
I’m gay, not desperate
I mean, maybe I'm also desperate, but not THAT much.
I mean, would you date me? Are you sure I’m the only bisexual here?
When you say you're whatever and then they think you're attracted to them, especially the more bigoted people.
I now just respond with, "I wouldn't date you. I have standards and self-respect."
bahaha
I’m bi and desperate-
People be like: Oh how are you bi when you havent even dated both yet?
Me: Well Samantha........how did you know you were straight when you never dated a dude before?
Crushes?
@@theorangedinosaur4098 YEP.
can we be friends? I love the sass you have :)
*hah uR sO sMaRT gOod RoAST*
@@khalix1011 its just cringe
To put it bluntly with that last question: it doesn’t suck being bi, it sucks being surrounded by people who are biphobic and won’t bother to understand it.
Tbf its not like bi ppl can be bothered to explain their just like "omg how dare u question my sexuality" and its like i dont understand sorry ya bam
@@randomk7198 You'd really be surprised how little people can understand it. Even when its explained there's still morons who say "its just a faze" ext, people in the LGBTQ still don't accept us, christ one of my dad's friends think its the same as gender fluidity.
@@atticusv668 fair enough but u can see how their dad might see it as similair but still hes pure stupid
Oh I understand it. I just think it is gross. Like how I think people who are into bestiality are gross. You can't help who or what you like...but we dont have to accept your views.
@@depurasangre86 false equivalence you got there. You yourself are more perverted than you're insinuating bisexuality itself is with that mindset..Via ignorance..I'm not even Bi myself and it doesn't confuse or disgust me. Educate yourself & grow up.
Just because I'm bi doesn't mean I don't have standards.
Wasteful Girl So true though!!! Like, oh, do you like everyone? No, you have a type or certain traits in a person you like not just any girl or guy walking down the street
"Just because I'm bi doesn't mean I don't have standards."
No, correct - that means you have DOUBLE standards. Ha ha ha!
"Just because I'm bi doesn't mean I'll sleep with literally anyone. I mean, I will, but more because of my daddy issues than my being bi"
-quote from a bisexual friend
I know right! When people hear that you're bi, they're like, "So are you just attracted to everyone?" Well, you're straight, right? Are you attracted to every guy? No! You're not! So why should I be?
Lol i can relate to that, it's just we still have standards and they don't understand that
Do you like girls or guys?
Yes.
Is that a Thomas Sanders reference I spy ʕ•ᴥ•ʔ
Is Lafayette ur profile pic
sapphire shimmer um yeah! I mean it's Lafayette!
Somehow this phrase perfectly fits your profile pic
I ain’t sayin nothing bout Laf but like
Booper Boops i couldn't agree more!
As a bisexual I really had trouble with my friends. And dating, some gay girls refuse to date bisexual women, some guys feel they can do whatever with me just because they think ‘because I’m up for dating women as well’
Respect the B in LGBT
Peachycow yes!
Geezz i feel u 😔
Yes queen, as a fellow bisexual army, I feel you 😔
💜💜💜you💜💜💜💜
@expectaetions x
YES 👏YES 👏YES 👏
Me: *is a bi female*
Me: *comes out as bi*
Me: You know that bi means I like guys and girls, right?
Friend: yes.
Me: And you understand that, right?
Friend: yes.
Me: And you’re okay with that, right?
Friend: yes.
Me: *gets a boyfriend*
Friend: *WaIt I tHoUgHt YoU wErE bIsExUaL*
tanya misra ha my crushes normally go like the song ‘I wish you were gay’ (for the dudes) because they just aren’t interested in me.
oh my God... being bi doesn't mean that I'm gonna date girls and boys at the same freakin' time! :D
Omg that's really annoying
I feel this deep in my soul XD
That happens to me a few weeks ago🙃 and that's annoying
“Oh so you’re a cheater” or “it must be so much harder to resist cheating”
Seriously no just stop
Natasha Longley when you've been denied the other set of genitals for years and years. You'll eventually cheat. Bisexuality means you are attracted to #crave sex with both sets of genitals eventuality you will want the other. And most people are not ok with having a third person on the bedroom so you'll eventually cheat out of sheer sexual frustration.
i havn't been told that yet but if some one said that to me i would just slap them XD
Ruhe1986 Your argument can apply for straight or gay people as well. Eventually you can get tired of the same pair of genitals you've been having sex with and you'll desire someone else of the same gender. But that's not the case necessarily, why? Because most people respect themselves and have morals and aren't driven by sex ffs. Being bisexual means you like both men and women, it makes you openminded not hornier.
soraji- and unfortunately there are more that are driven by sex than you think. And it's an unfortunate reality that there are body parts I don't have that a bisexual person will eventually crave and not be able to get in any way shape or form other than cheating with me.
You sound like the clingy girl/guy in the dms after the relationship who make an ama later on why you shouldn't get into relationships.
Gay
Thanos: no
Straight
Thanos: no
Bisexual
Thanos: balanced as all things should be
Is this why Thanos is purple?
Alexandra Ghita exactly
thanos doesn't discriminate, he will kill you all
@@liz8477 wait what if they did this on purpose
HOLY- YES
*I edited this comment so now no one understands what's happening in the reply section*
The majority of the LGBT people are bisexual and are underrepresented. 🤔
DO. YOU KNOW THERE is a HELL???
@@j.oaklley8965 You don't know that.
You don't. know who has VDS or AIDS !!!!
@@j.oaklley8965 Wait Wtf 😅. I'm confused. Why are you talking about aids all of a sudden?.
Me: I'm bise-
Society: Oh, so you're *experimenting*
No. Like I haven't date all genders I know I'm not pan but poly. 🙂
i had a crush on this guy and he wouldn’t date me cause i was “too gay” because i also liked girls. a couple years later i had a crush on this girl who wouldn’t date me because she thought i was “a wannabe gay”. it sucks.
I know I'm late but that sucks, I hope you find someone who deserves you
Well, as a bi, you're picking the person not the gender. And anybody who goes with "you're too gay" and "you're not gay enough" can go to hell.
Honestly any girl or guy who says shit like that isn't worth your time. Be glad you didn't date people like that.
Dude I know.... it sucks...
Even with everyone knowing about bisexuality it’s still *a stepping stone*
Just be you Juts ignore what they say
A friend of mine thought being bisexual meant you have a girlfriend and a boyfriend at the same time. When my brother found out I was bisexual he forbid me from being alone with his girlfriend at any one time. Never mind that she wasn't my type, why do straight people assume that you fancy anything with a pulse just because you're bi?
ChiBiMo Because they are ignorant
Omg I am so lucky with my friends, after I came out to them they were super cool with it. With family, well...they are homophobic and basically everything that's not straight phobic so I didn't come out
PurpleFrenchie all straight ppl or straight guys? Bc if it’s guys, then that’s bc they at times fancy everything with a pulse, so they assume you do.
Dee Gee no, just straight people in general - my male and female coworkers were equally confused as to how I could be bisexual and married to a man; one woman asked how women even had sex with each other (I would point out that there was more to sexual pleasure than penetration), and the men were unsurprised that my husband didn't mind me swinging both ways, though one was unsure how he would react if his missus came out as being bi. The funniest one was my best friend in college, who constantly asked "but you don't fancy me, right?" to the point where I eventually did start to fancy her.
What they're refering to is "pansexuality".
A phase? This phase has lasted almost two decades. But seriously I told one guy that I was bi and he instantly stopped talking to me, I was just being honest. Do I ever wish I wasn't bi? No, I feel more comfortable being bi than anything else
My aunt thinks I dunno what I’m talking about when I told her I was pan and then I sorta came out to her about me being trans, she thinks it’s a phase and it’s been 6-7 years
I wish I was entirely straight but only because I had a conservative religious upbringing.
Legit when I came out to my mother about being bi, the first thing that came out of her mouth was "So you want to date me? So you want to date your grandmother?" And just remember crying for a long time that night because she literally thought I would just date anything that was female. She would always downplay my relationships from that point forward because "but you're dating a guy! So you're not a lesbian."
Even now in my wonderful relationship, I'm apparently "straight" and have "come out of a bisexual phase."
A similar thing happened with my Step-Grandmother when I gently came out to her at 17 about being bi but she instantly said "No! You're either gay or you're straight, being bi is just greedy. You're either one or the other." I didn't sleep that night because I was crying so hard.
Parents and relatives of Bisexual/Biromantic children/relatives please just take them at face value. If they say how they feel, it means they trust you enough to tell you in the first place. If you love them enough, then please please please don't yell or tell them they are wrong or assume anything. If it's an experiment, they will likely tell you they are experimenting, you don't have to tell them they are.
If you love them, tell them you love them.
Try to learn about bisexuality and get your information straight from the bisexual community. Hell, get your information from the LGBTQ+ community, because your family member will appreciate it and will trust you more in the future.
If you are a family member learning about bisexuality and LGBTQ+ through this video, thank you. Knowledge is a wonderful thing and to learn more about us will always be appreciated. Have a lovely day. :)
NoxNilrem I’m here for ya
Me too.
Im so sorry, u deserve better
What they said to you was very hurtful...
Just say if I was straight , does it means that I wanna date my father ,my grandfather?
Everything gonna be ok! :)
My struggles with being ‘gay’:
*your crush being straight*
THAT'S ME RIGHT NOW I CAN RELATE
Sins_amon xx OMG SAME like why does this happen I don’t even get a chance
Maybe something unlogical like in the mangas will happen and somehow you turn the straight person gay JK it wont happen in real life but I wish it did then love troubles would go away
OH THIS IS SO TRUE IT'S HURTS ME RIGHT NOW
MGAM /// I turned a gay guy bi and a straight girl bi (well they were always that but I made them realize it LOL)
One girl from my class once told me, that I can't change in the girls locker room, beacause I like girls. So I asked "Where should I change then?" And she was like "In the boys locker room" And I was like "But I like boys as well" And then she was like "But you can't like both" And I was so done with that shit, that I didn't change at all for the next year, and got bad grade from PE.
aaahahah
Haha, lol. That is funny.
Yo! I came out to my PE class and they started getting super paranoid, and anytime I would glance at the for a second, they would literally say, "stop staring at me! Lesbo!" I'm like: "I'm not a lesbo, I like boys to ya know, and just because I like girls doesn't mean I like you. You don't like every guy in this school, why would I like every girl?"
@sad sushi agreed. lol
Zelinda Ubren You should have answered "I have a taste, you know?"
"It's just a phase"
Sweetheart our relationship is about to be a phase too.
im Kindaproblematic 😂😂😂😂😂
I love this comment 😂😂
PREACH THAT IS AMAZING
I hope I could say that to my mom😂
im Kindaproblematic
But the thing is many gay people come out as bi at first. Somehow they find it easier, at least in my generation it was like that. My best friend said to me she was bi even though she already knew I was gay. She even made out with some boys. A year later of so she admited she was lesbian.
I dated a lot of "bi" guys in my younger years. They didn't want to put the "gay" label on themselves, but with time they ended up doing so. It came to a point that I thought that bisexuality didn't exist. One woman told me she was bisexual, and i was really wasted that night so I bluntly replied "bisexuality doesn't exist", and she got so mad lol.
To this day, i've still never met a bisexual person that doesn't end up being actually gay. I don't deny the existence of bisexuality, but I think the "it's just a phase" thing is not unreasonable given the circumstances.
My aunt found out I was bi and she told me that I'm just going through a "phase" but my "phase" has lasted longer than her marriage
Oof
turn down for what??? 😎😎😎😎😎😎😎
oh shit
I am not bi, but I hate it when people say that bi people are transphobic because being bi indicates there are two genders. An orientation that you have no control over is not transphobic.
No, bisexuality is an attraction to the typically binary sexes: males and females. Gender is different to sex.
I consider myself to be bisexual panromantic because I am sexually attracted to both male and female bodies (as well as intersex, because they are usually a combination of both), and because gender is not a binary thing, hence the pan meaning all.
I agree that being bi doesn’t automatically make them transphobic, because regardless of body parts, what matters is their heart.
Bisexual means 'attracted to 2 or more genders' and has been around way longer than pansexual etc. We're not transphobic, we do not have problems with nb-people. If a bi person has a preference.... still not a horrible thing. People just love to hate us :/
Bi nonbinary person here!
To say bisexuaity is inherently transphobic is in itself biphobic AND transphobic. Trans men and trans women are still men and women. (So to say someone is pan, not bi, because they also like trans people is treating trans people like a third thing when they're not). The purple stripe on the bi flag represents attraction to nonbinary genders as well as a mix of male and female (so to say bisexuals are enbyphobic is just untrue. I'm a bi enby. Am I enbyphobic?)
to any accidental Biphobes reading this: Do not minimize the definition of bisexuality just because pansexuality exists and overlaps. Both bi and pan people can be transphobic. But neither sexuality is inherently
I just tell them that whatever has a dick and whatever has a pussy will do, so many trans people freeze up when I reply with that statement. I also prefer my men pussyless, and my ladies dickless
In my belief which is correct, there are 2 genders trans is a surgery to change gender
The most annoying thing as a bi, is if u tell a straight person of the same sex ur bi, and they instantly think u like them
Thai Soop ikr
Thai Soop yessss
I GET SO ASHAMED THE WHOLE TIME BECAUSE OF THIS AND I SHOULDN'T BECAUSE I'M JUST BI, I'M NOT IN LOVE WITH YOU, THANK YOU VERY MUCH FOR YOUR UNDERSTANDING.
Yessss its so annoying 😂
omg yessssssss
I hate telling women that I'm bi because then they always think that I'm coming onto them. Anyone else have this problem?
Actually yes, my best friend at the time thought that I was totally going to have sex with her. Never happened so I don't see what she was so worked up about.
Not exactly that problem. I rarely dare to tell anyone because I'm afraid they might think that. (Or think that I'm actually homosexual and are lying.)
Not yet. I havent told anyone. The people I know are kinda homophobic
Ali Reed I do, and I'm married to a guy
Ali Reed oh gawd a lot, I came out to my friends on National coming out Day and they over reacted.....”OMG IM SCARED DON’T RAPE ME”
“You’re just saying that to scare us because we had sex-ed”
“Wait......are you thinking about having sex with me!?..... Eww”
“......You’re gonna rape us one day”
Smh smh 🙄 after I came out to my family I’m done coming out to peeps. But my family was very supportive since my Aunty is Transgender 💗
My friend came out to her family as bi and her mom and sister both said:
“You can be straight or lesbian. You can’t be both”💀
What's sad is that she's not "both straight and a lesbian" she's entirely bi, so they're right, she can't be both, but being bi ISN'T being both, it's just being entirely bi! *sigh*
@@nkelly5851 I mean, technically if we look at it from a VERY, VERY, *VERY* simplified angle, it's being straight and gay/lesbian at the same time.
@@nkelly5851 it is the same thing
Because you can’t be both they are very smart people
@@lukeallen7304 because being bi is diffrent than being straight and lesbian at the same time, you're right, very Smart person
They forgot “so do you want a threesome?” I made the mistake of telling my bf I *might* be bi and now he keeps hinting at threesomes. It’s driving me insane and reminding me of why I don’t like men as much as I did when I was a naive high schooler.
Oh hun *hugs* I know that pain. Best to sit him down and explain that just because you're bisexual doesn't mean your polyamorous.
Nicole C, you should sit down and explain this to him because it's better for your relationship in the long run...
Dump him sis
That's why I'm afraid to come out to my boyfriend.
Being a guy I feel sorry you have to experience this. Funnily enough I've had it the other way around back when I was "just" straight and told my bisexual girlfriend back then I was ok with her having sex with women as long as it's not behind my back. She actually understood it as me asking for a threesome at first.
This one time a dude from my math class came up to me asking me to the upcoming prom, I said no. He said, "Why? Are you lesbian or something?" I said "No I'm bi." he says "Ok. I changed my mind. Don't wanna be cheated on."
trash can at least you know a person liked you
*im lonely*
trash can aaaaaaaaAAAAAAAAAAAAAaahahahahahahahahhaahaha I love people like that yey
trash can get epically trolled bruh!!1!11!
Big oof
lmfao he salty
I get "so you're dating *insert guy name* ...does that mean you're straight now?" 😒
I get this all the time, I broke up with my girlfriend then tons of people asked if I was straight now
people in my school keep asking me if im still a lesbian (which i’ve never identified as btw) even though i’ve had a boyfriend for over 8 months now 😂
Yeet exactly ! Im like stfu that’s the point of bisexuality ! We don’t have straight phases or gay phases we are just bisexual duh
SAME
@@user-cf3by5bu5t I go through phases were I wana be with a female then phases were I want sleep with guys an now am with a trans female lol
Oml storytime:
So, in school, I drew an LGBTQ flag on my arm because I was bored, and I didn't think much of it. Later, when I went outside with my friends, one of em said "Dude are you gay?" as a joke, which I was extremely annoyed about, and I said "Yes." (Note that I'm bisexual and closeted, so I just said I was gay bc I assumed my friends dunno what Bi meant) She INSTANTLY BACKED AWAY FROM ME. I hope it was merely a joke, but still, that hurt bro, like being gay/bi etc isn't like a disease T^T
Oof that reminds me of one time that my friend was playing with my arm and she misheard say that I liked a girl and she immediately let go of my arm and backed away. That hurt a lot.
@@pris1145 Maybe she didn't want to give the wrong impression.
I wonder if men feel like this, I usually avoid touching them entirely 😰
So thank you for sharing your experience, it helps us straights understand how not to hurt you better!
Yeah lol, just cuz ur gay dosent mean ur in love with him
I am a male, and I have a girlfriend. When I'd tell people that they'd say "But I thought you were bi?"
wtf? You literally just answered your own question.
Tyler Ryan 😂😂😂
That is SOOOO true! Everyone in my family is rejoiced at the fact that I am now dating a male and that I am all of a sudden "straight" sorry, but I am *still* bi, as much as you'd hate to accept that. Jeez.
OKAY SAME. Currently dating a guy, and I love him, but I have definitely had some female interests.. and since people know that, they think it's weird that I'm with a guy. l m a o
Tyler Ryan me as a bisexual female with a boyfriend 😂
Tyler Ryan I'm a bisexual female. I'm also single and will probably be alone forever.
I hate when people say “just pick one”
pick one
me too, it really hurt.
My mom accepted the fact I liked the same gender, but she kept asking which one, and she wouldnt accept both so I was forced to choose one so she would piss off
Love your profile pic! Peridot is my favorite green smol space dorito!
Same
I told a group a friends that I’m bi and one person said:”really? You look pretty straight.”
why would you even come out to you mom? just get a boyfriend for goodness sake
what can she do? no one is beating you or keeping you from eating
@@glenjones7597
Because people don't want their own family to assume them
@@MyNguyen-gv2ip Some people strengthen their feelings and don't care how others perceive them.
@@gummieboy16
This is the internet
'bUt yOu dOn'T hAvE a bOyFrIeNd!!'
- Yeah, and I don't have a girlfriend either, what's your point? XDD
LITERALLY
alone bi people gang
Stand-bi
Yeah, many hetrosexual people are single, so do you mean they're actually not straight??
You exist
Your not a going through a phase
Your not doing this for attention
You don’t have to pick one or the other
Your not confused
You may find one gender more attractive than others. But that doesn’t make you any less bisexual.
I’m bisexual too. Let’s make this year our year! Have a great 20BiTeen everybody!!
Thanks. I needed that
Thank you i did my coming out a couple of hours ago and it was very disturbing....i definetly needed this ❤
Kenza Hanchir ❤️
You can only know that you exist. The rest is uncertain.
I love this comment, but it's you're*
Sorry I had to ;-;
I'm bisexual. And the one comment I'm starting to get a lot is "I thought you were gay because you hang out with dudes" and "I thought you were gay because of how you dress". I've always been a tomboy my whole life. Never been comfortable in dresses always preferred jeans and tshirts. So because of this,people that don't get to know me just assume I'm a butch lesbian lol. I find it funny that how I decide to dress should somehow determine my sexuality. There are very girly dressing bisexual women but no one assumes they are gay. So why should who I hang out with and what I feel comfortable wearing have anything to do with who I love? I just never understood that logic.
Breyana Me too.
Breyana omg this is me .....i relate to this so much ...its so stupid. like you cant be bi because ur a tomboy
coexisting vlogs EXACTLY. It's like a stigma that you are either not gay enough or not straight enough to be Bi. It's annoying as fuck and it needs to stop.
i'm bi too, with a prefercence for girls. i dress my self in a very feminine way, i always get told that i am straight. like tf no just cause i wear dresses and a lot of makeup and like to do my hear doesn't mean i am hetero?
Breyana You are basically me most of my friends are guys and I've always hated wearing dresses and skirts and shorts I'm always wearing either ripped jeans skinny jeans and t-shirts even in the summer.
Then what does the B in LGBT+ stand for?? Bees??
gemlikestardust Beyonce obviously! (This is sarcastic)
gemlikestardust yes. we will release the bees when the time is right
Bogus, no woman love both men and women
Karen P. Well I like both, so you're wrong
gemlikestardust Brendon Urie.
Telling someone in a relationship you’re bisexual and having them stop talking to you because the guy thinks you’re going to flirt with him and the girl thinks you’re going to flirt with her while at the same time they both think you are going to flirt with their partner behind their back. UGH!
Ikr. Like, we are JUST PEOPLE! Maybe look beyond the sexual?
things I hear/see as a bisexual woman:
"but you're in a relationship with a guy, right?"
"but how do you get...you know...your uh...fix? with girls?"
*predatory male stare*
"so you like threesomes?"
"no you're not"
*that girl who thinks you're going to pounce on her immediately after finding out you're bi*
"you're giving us(lesbians) a bad name"
"I bet I can turn you straight/gay for good"
"how are you going to get married?"
"I was bi once too! I kissed my best friend at a party on a dare!"
"so you're half gay then yeah?"
"so you're half straight then yeah?"
"gal pals"
Jessica Landwehr I relate so much to this!! xD
Ugh this is so true it's sad.
Jessica Landwehr I've only hear you half gay then and I only came out to 2 people
Jessica Landwehr I dome think I’ve ever related to a comment so much....
I'm bisexual as well and it sucks sometimes
"It's just a phase."
"Yeah and so was our friendship, now it's over."
"Bye, Felicia"
I luv it
sanfu YES
oof
LOL, I'm using that next time.
I hate it when you tell your friend your bi and they’re like “oh that’s okay as long as you don’t flirt with me”
this is why i'm glad almost every friend i have is bi or pan.
That's when you start flirting with them aggressively.
Omg this is exactly my life
Scratch that I flirt with him aggressively
My tactic is to start moaning very sexually and aggressively whenever they touch you. It is great for aces and aros
I'm too introverted to flirt
Bisexual female struggles:
All the cute boys are gay and all the cute girls are straight.
RIGHT? JUST... HOW? WHY?
:((( yesss
literally me tho
Not for me cause I’m a guy
So I’ll get either
I FEEL ATTACKED--
My friend and I were having a conversation once and somehow we both ended up telling each other how we were bisexual and I was just like "bi-five?" and after that we died of laughter and still do every time we do it
alex yes.
I have a BBF
Best BI friends
alex I have a huge crush on this one girl, and she knows it so whenever she asks my opinion on something she did/how she looks, etc. I give my answer and say “but idk, I’m probably bi-ased”
alex that was funny bi-five i love it lmao
alex:
That sounds too good to be true. I just don't BI it!
Literally I told my friend I was bisexual and they were like do you have a crush on me? I was like I have certain type just like all of you! just because I’m bisexual doesn’t mean I like everyone in the world!
I can relate to this
Yes.
I came out as gay to my best friend and that same thing happened.
Me: I'm gay.
Him: We can be friends just as long as you don't come onto me.
Me: DUDE! I have a certain type...and you ain't it.
"like uHM I HAVE STANDARDS. FIRST OF ALL."
I know right! I hated when people said that!
I’m straight but my friend told me the same thing whenever she tells someone she’s bi they always assume she likes them are bisexuals not allowed to have types ?😂
It said Adam and Eve, so I did both.
darya garnett YES!!!!
Mood
Good one 😂
mood
BI PRIDE
“I’m bi”
My sister: “Oh ok”
*Later*
“Hey, since you’re now a lesbian-“
i've had the same experience, my best friend was so accepting as first but than he asked me if i was straight or gay every two minutes smh
LMAO that’s kinda funny ngl
Bahaha
I laugh at myself when I used to say "I just really support the LGBTQ+ community" like no honey, you're in love with your girl best friend and are 110% bisexual, just admit it 😂
isabella-umbrella big mood 😂😂😂
fuckin me
isabella-umbrella Reminds me of me but i stopped supporting them
stopped supporting the community? can i ask why
ellice tytler Well first off im bi and it seems more like a community only for librels and only they can speak for "acceptance". Also they spead alot of hate towards Christians ,straight people, and conservatives. Its overall a toxic community in my view
this is why i'm in the closet
edit: to my irl friends, anyways. just realized the irony of this comment
FyreBal
I hope you don't stay that way forever hun. With all the crap I've caught being openly me in a tiny southern town, I wouldn't undo nuking my closet for the world. My real friends didn't care and it was a huge burden off me that I didn't realize I had until it was gone. Any that bolt just make room for ones that like the real you. I'm not saying to do it tomorrow, just eventually.
HAHAHAHAH honey😂😂 me too though the closet was rough
I don't blame you, I'd stay in the closet to
I don't have children or a husband. maybe i don't want them. maybe I want a wife. maybe I want a wife and kids. or maybe I do want a husband, with or without children. either way, it's not your right to tell me that.
oh honey, you think I would allow a man like that to be in my life? in my future children's lives? oh honey, no.
We're open doors
we swing both ways
*wE DoN't liKE evErY PErSOn We sEe*
We don't let just anybody cross to the other side, we aren't sluts, we're bi :3
swinging both ways nuff said
Oh my god , the last one is so true
Yea, with some people we like hitting them in the face.
*Like a door-*
Yup
Whenever my mom sends me a ❤️I always send 💗💙💜 She hasn't understood yet... I'll outright come out if this gets 77 likes
Precious Pets the bi flag is 💖💜💙 x
#77thLike
did you come out?
Oof
Did you come out?
"it's just a phase"
"just choose one"
"you have to think about this"
"that's confusing"
I'm pan and I always hear these
red x purple well i just dont get pans sorry but thats like bi..
Arent ya Gladalecki? No, they’re not. Bi is two genders (usually male and female). Pan is all genders.
Miss Marvel that’s interesting, I never knew that
Miss Marvel yeah, But bi means two. The correct term is polysexual - likeing multiple genders But not all
red x purple except for the fact that there's only two genders
And this is why I don’t tell people I’m Bisexual
good.
Well u just did
You should tell people. It makes you feel much better. At least for me. I have depression so I'm dealing with that, but coming out to my friends made things feel better.
Lmao thats why i dont tell my parents, for different reasons tho (they would disown my ass lmao)
what du u say instead
Lots of people say when i tell them im bi: 'So like, half gay and half normal?' it pisses me off
Coveralic i mean, tenchinicaly speaking its a correct sentence. Normal is another world for majority or most of. And you guessed it, most of the population is straight, so, half gay half normal is a correct sentence. Did you go to school?
The Cringe that's just stupid. That's like saying that people that have curly hair aren't normal. That natural blondes aren't normal. That blue eyed people aren't normal. It doesn't work like that.
Well, what the percentage of people with curly hair? Whats the percentage of people with blond hair? Is there a chart you can show me? If all the percentiles are similar then they would all be considered normal varieties of hair/eyes
[EDIT] The point is was making is that something like only 1.6% (last I checked) of the population is bisexual. That's not anywhere near the percentage of straight people ergo not normal, not saying not being normal is a bad thing, but it's not normal. Its not usual, its not average.
Coveralic I‘m bi and I take it as a joke lmfao
For example, let's use America, from what I can tell, 5.2% of the population is gay, If 5.2% of your hair was green, is that your normal hair color? No, your hair color would be for example, brown. Green is an anomaly.
Technically it shouldn't be there. But that doesn't make it a bad thing, hell if a small bit of my hair were green, that would be quite neat, you know. A defining feature! It's not a bad thing!
Everyone needs to stop thinking that,
'Not normal = Bad'
That's not how that works. you're giving "not normal" a bad reputation, stop oppressing the phrase "not normal". You're being rude and you're making it feel bad.
Guy at start of video "Can't you just choose?"
Me *Honey you got a big storm coming*
"Bisexual people do not exist"
Because the B in LGBT stands for banana
La Shava De los Memes 😂😂😂😂😭😭😭😂😂😂😂😂
Futuristically Fat Wombat UwU it's clearly for Bees don't be ignorant
Uh no it's Bees
XD
Futuristically Fat Wombat UwU Nah it stands for Beyoncé 😂
Yes I am bi. Yes I am selfish. All the chips are mine I'm not sharing, get your own.
Aki Okami Same... Lmao
LMAO
Aki Okami You just described me 😂
whiffleknob WWII
Selfish about what? XD
Aki Okami yes. Bi power. Same.
the girl in the green sweater is so pretty omg
I know 😍
Ikr 😍
izzynct Literally
izzynct I know right! I was thinking she was gorgeous the whole time😍😍😍
izzynct what a boring, shallow, uninteresting comment.
"If you're bisexual, why do you dress so girly?"
Bruh???? Is dressing up a specific way identifies your gender?
My cousins mock me that "Im faking" just because I dress so girly.
I'm so sorry. I've been there. You're not faking. When you know it you know it. Dresses don't matter
My daughter is bi and first came out as a lesbian. She’s had some stupid things said to her, totally uncalled for comments. I feel so protective over her, I just want her to be happy and loved by whoever she’s seeing ❤️
Jane Richardson we need more parents like you! ❤️
Thank you 😊
Jane you are god sent. Love xoxo
Lechiffresix six that’s lovely thank you 😊
grade A parent
"It's just a phase" this one pissed me off, like oh my god... I am currently 13 going on 14 and I hear this *So much* it's not even funny!
Like it's not a phase! Not everything that happens while in your teen years is a phase!
True. And the thing is: even if it turns out to be a 'phase'... where would be the problem with that?? No need to make people feel bad. If a gay peep is unsure and thinks they miiiight be bi, just to find out they're not? Not a bad thing either. I'm 26, out for years, still get that comment. Just ask them if they ever had sex with the same gender, and if they haven't (which, ofc, most biphobes havent)... ask them how they can be sure that they are not bi if they neve had 'gay-sex'. They will GET SO MAD lol
My aunt thinks me being trans is phase but it’s been 6-7 years
@@TheSpiceMoth my grandma is so confused 'cause l recently cut my hair and gave so many red flags about being trans, but she's just like "but you're a girl" that pisses me off 😑
@@MrsTold Same but I have not come out yet. I figured out I was bisexual at 14 and am now 15. Trust me I know for sure I am bisexual. I told my friends but not anyone else and it turns out one of them is bisexual too.
When I was in like sixth or seventh grade I was questioning and sort of decided that, yeah, I in fact do like girls, and my longest relationship ever has been with a girl, so for a while during my freshman year I was mostly dating boys so I was even beginning to doubt my own sexuality until I moved and I met this reallllyyy beautiful girl so yeah, pretty sure I still like girls too and its not a phase ya get me homie
I’m bisexual and I remember I was dating a guy at the time and someone says to me “if you’re bi why don’t you go date a girl” and my response was “let’s say the guy I’m dating is a cookie and all other females are cake, right now I have craving for the cookie more so than cake at the moment”
The Mess of Jess
😂👌🏻🍰🍪
That's the best thing. I'm going to use that if you don't mind
Ain’t no trade mark on my shizz so feel free to do so lmao
So do you crave for men more at times? Or does it just depend on a person? I'm really curious :)
Rose Lily if they treat me good and respect me then that’s the sweet I’m craving 😋 I don’t really have a preference just be a good partner for me and I want ya . Short and sweet 😜
"You're doing it for attention." With my social anxiety? Never😅
The thing I hate is when people tell me I'm straight because I'm currently in a straight relationship.... But I'm still bisexual.... Then when I date a girl I'm automatically a lesbian and must hate men er something....
Like no, I'm still bisexual, doesn't matter what gender I date, still bi 😂
@@johno4521 - that's so true what he's gonna do her makeup
@@keithm.3456 Can you just delete your channel? Your homophobic comments aren't doing a thing.
@@keithm.3456 🙄 Cute.
@@kylesimpson3669 wow...i-this comment is just👌👌👌
Thank you for making me feel grateful I didn't form beliefs like this and I could have turned out WAY worse
@@keithm.3456 Sounds like somebody is deep in the closet
There was one they didn't say
"Oh you don't look bi?"
LIKE HONEY, YOU DONT NEED TO LOOK IT TO BE IT FFS
bts fangirl lol that’s what i was thinking
"you dont look bi" id say "well you sure as hell dont look stupid but here we are"
Lil Army but how does one look bi? (Without wearing a pride flag lol) 🤔
Soda Plush typical stereotypes like cuffing jeans, etc etc
"Is there a chance that you'll be heteronormative?"
Ouch. That's too accurate
My friend came out to me yesterday I’m so proud of her!
i'm gay and i just wanna say bisexuality (and pansexuality!) is 100% valid and i appreciate your existence dear bi and pan people!!
oopsie thank u :3 I needed this
oopsie thank you :3 i wanna be friends cause you just made me so happy rn
oopsie thanks man
oopsie whats the real diffrence
Paaaaannnnnnseeeexxxxuuuuallllll!!!!!!!
Ugh I can relate.
Big fan
EllieJayden same
EllieJayden me too I get asked this a lot from my strait friends
EllieJayden Samee
EllieJayden me too
Just because I'm bi doesn't mean I fancy everyone..
No you just fancy male and females,No one should trust you
Yes hahaha I love it when I come out to a girl and she thinks I automaticaly like her like sweetie congrats for the confidence but that's like assuming every straight male on the planet likes you
i haven't come out yet but when i do i hope no one automatically thinks i like them XD
i wish my crush liked me tho XD she wears the most cutiest cat ear headband ever XD
my crush is who made me realize i was bi :p
I can relate. The girl who made me realize I was bi is like 3 or 4 years older than me though. 🙁🙁🙁
This is pretty common. Most assume that having a preference means you will be attracted to everyone. That's not how it works. I think this is why understanding romantic attraction is just as important as understanding sexual attraction for sexuality to be truly understood.
"I'm happy to be bisexual and I think other people need to stop being biphobic"
GO OFF YES
I’m a bi girl but poor bi guys get it the hardest
I.Y.A X i’m super late but:
haha get it the hardest
Ya if a guy says "I'm bi" everyone is like "No you're gay"
Ooer, missus
1. Some women like submissive men
2. Being bi doesn’t make you submissive
3. Being bi doesn’t mean you’re a bottom
4. Being a. bottom doesn’t make you submissive
5. Idiot
You should marry one and put him out of his misery lol
I found it shocking to hear that ppl who are bisexual get so much back lash from the LGBT community
Megan Gudgeon yes it's so real. Alot of people in the LGBT+ community don't respect bisexuals. I used to go to a LGBT+ social club and it was awful. People were nice but you could tell there was a divide. It wasn't like one big happy family. Everyone pretty much stuck to there own group and a lot of the gay and lesbians. Some admit that they would never date someone who is bi or pan. The social club was open to everyone but it felt really close minded when there would be heated discussions about bisexuality and pansexuality. And whether its just for attention or greed. I left that club and just went spent time on my own realising that no one can tell me what my sexuality is but me. (Also There were usual about 70 people at the club every month and only about 3 bisexual people. We felt lonely as hell and we didn't get along well)
Ginger L Grant Ginger L Grant no honey that is the wrong answer. Bisexual people do have same sex relationships, bisexuals to have relationships that we're dating someone of the opposite gender. I know bisexual people who do not have sex with their partner until about a year or so in their relationship. Does that mean they are a slut? No it doesn't. And the majority of people to the LGBT+ Social Club went to make friends or come out secretly without their friends or family knowing. Do you know what bisexual people have in common with gay and lesbians, that we're all people and we have all had a hard time. Why are bisexual people singled out. My sexuality doesn't mean I want to have sex with everyone. Bisexual people struggle you know. A lot of people have painful coming out stories and bisexual people do find it hard to come out. Yet a lot of people seem to think of yeah you're a slut if you like boy and girls.When I accidentally came out in the middle of my school playground at 12 (I planned on coming out on my 18th because I knew that life would have been hell for me in school and at home) and you have no idea, how many people constantly tried to tell me different. My mother nearly put me in care because of it. She doesn't accept it, and she never will. We've agreed just to not talk about it. I had family were telling me that I was bored and lonely, greedy. Someone said I wanted people to bully me. Everyone would come up to me and say oh you're just gay. You're doing it for attention. Asking me have you had a threesome, would you become a prostitute. Girls wouldn't sit next to me because they thought I would touch them. Girls would pretend to flirt with me to see if Im really bisexual. Straight boys older than me would ask if I would have a threesome with their girlfriend. A boy threaten me with a knife because I'm bisexual so I must want to have sex with guys anyways. If its true the bisexual people have orgies on the weekend. If you're bisexual does that mean you're a virgin. Every time I went to class this boy kept throwing a bible at me, reading the bible behind me and made a Facebook page on why I should kill myself because I'm bisexual. A girl called me a slut and sent bleach to me house. Actually what's wrong is everyone else. Their interpretation of bisexual=slut. My bisexuality does not mean I want sex. I'm in love with a girl but I'm still attracted to other guys and girls does that mean that I want to fuck any guy or a girl. No it doesn't. Just because I'm bisexual doesn't mean that I don't have standards. Please just stop with this attitude because it hurts. We're just people and we don't deserve to be treated less than.
Megan Gudgeon I think it's just a loud minority for the most part, that's just from my experience though
Ginger L Grant you can still be bisexual even if you're in a straight relationship. You can still be bisexual even if you're in a same sex relationship. Just because you're in a relationship with someone, it doesn't change your sexuality.
Ginger L Grant This is a perfect example of Bi phobia.
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My ex girlfriend used to always say “oh, you aren’t bi. You’re gay. You just don’t know it” and honestly it used to - and still does - make me really sad and frustrated
Ok so I only came out as bi last year at the ripe old age of 40 and no I'm not having a midlife crisis!!!!!!!!!!!!! The first person I had feelings for was a girl/woman when I was around 15 but I always wanted to be a wife and mum and in those days the only way you could do that was with a guy so I thought "well I like them too so ok!" and also the parents were old school and although things like that were never discussed I certainly knew where my mum stood 😒! However when I came out to one of my friends last year (who I've known since we were 5) she told me she remembered her mum telling her, when were early 20s, that my mum said she had suspicions I could be ........................ queer! I nearly fell over!!!! My mum died 13 years ago so will never be able to tell/ask her. 😢 I am not a wife or mum, and the way I'm going never will be, so I thought "fuck it I'm gonna die being me" so that's why I finally came out! I still haven't got the confidence to get out there as I've hidden for so long but maybe some day............ I envy all you young guys and girls out and proud and living your lives and loving who you want. Raise your pink and blue flags and be happy. I wish I was x
oh boogie, I feel your pain my lovely. I'm 52, male, and only just started my coming out journey before Xmas 2018. It had been building up for about 35 years and I got to the point where I was just too tired to fight it anymore and hide from myself. I'm so thankful to the younger generation for being brave in their identities and helping me to realise that I'm Pansexual. There just wasn't the term when I was growing up and I'd always assumed I just must be gay even though I was attracted to some girls at school. I don't feel bi because I can be attracted, sexually or romantically, to any human. I'm gender blind and just see the person in all their beauty... nothing more, nothing less! My situation is slightly tricky though because I did get married and have kids. I came out to my wife who kind of realise that I wasn't just hetro. She wasn't overly shocked thank goodness, but we really haven't discussed our future yet and what it means. I just wish I was braver so I could have lived my authentic life. I love my current life, but just don't know where I may be heading. My kids were amazing about it and just said 'yeah we know' as if it was the most normal thing in the world.; it's really not a big deal for them. It seems everyone knows or suspects except myself and I've just been hiding. I'm not fully out yet and my parents don't know. I'm just taking small steps to try and figure it all out until I'm properly 'out'. Good luck on your journey hun! XX
yes!!!! u go girl!!!!! keep knowing and loving who u are!!!!!!! we love it!!!!! what a queen!!!!!!!
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@Katherine Riggs Me except that I'm 12 although soon to be 13 and I don't know where the girl I love is. So yeah heartaches
Wait they forgot the most important thing not to say to someone who’s bisexual
“So do you like me”
“So do you like me”
What's wrong with that question?
knrdvmmlbkkn It’s more like when the person knows you have no interest in them like the girl hated me and I disliked her and the moment I came out as bi she asked me this question
"and the moment I came out as bi she asked me this question"
Then simply give an honest answer. Or ask "Like, in what sense?". That shouldn't be a problem, unless they persist in asking the same question again and again and...
knrdvmmlbkkn True and it was a year ago she asked so it’s ok now
Someone asked me this today and I'm so UPSET. All because I was kind to her. >:(
"but like, do you even know you're bi if you haven't done anything with a girl" yes. and i have. now leave.
response "So how do you know you're not gay if you haven't done anything with a man/woman"
or punch them, either would probably work
We’re way to straight for gays
And way to gay for straights
coming from a bisexual person, ALL of these things piss me off. people need to stop criticizing people who are bisexual
kamilla tombeno no one is, stfu. no one hates you.
people actually do, though. biphobia in particular happens among LGBTQ people- i don't think i've ever been in a LGBTQ space without someone or other having something negative to say about bi people, about how they're just straight people experimenting or trying to be cool, or just gay people who are too scared to go all the way... so there's both hate from homophobic straight people, and hate from our own communities (although, obviously, not everyone is like that). it really is a dealbreaker for some people as well
not to be overly personal, but are you a bisexual person? because just about every other bisexual person i've spoken to has had similar experiences to what's being spoken about here- being stereotyped as unfaithful, indecisive, just wanting attention, etc, or being made to feel left out of LGBTQ communities, and I would be surprised if many bisexual people would say that wasn't the case. it isn't really a small minority at all.
I agree people could do with being less sensitive and easily offended, but that has little to do with actually ostracizing people from a community- that isn't something that's offensive but you can brush off, it's something that actually majorly impacts peoples' lives
Chi Colborne i am but i dont really hang around large groups of people and i dont go to lgbtq events or clubs. i sit at home on weekends and i work way to much overtime during the week.
But can you see how for people who spend more time with others and make their social life a high priority (which is often essential for some LGBTQ people, that sense of community) feeling ostracized from that or having that experience made negative (as well as all the day-to-day standard homophobia from straight people) it could be really hard?
I'm not much of a social butterfly either but I feel like i would be much more connected with the community if there hadn't been negativity there- when I actually have reached out that's when I realize how much biphobia is a real thing
"It's just a phase" "So your half gay?" "So then do you like all of us and that's why you hang out with us?" "So you'll date anyone?" "You must have some low standards/you must be desperate" "Why can't you just choose?" "Wow that's a LOT to keep track of in the love department" "So do you think hes hot? What about her?" etc.
One thing they didn't cover: Me and my partner are looking for a 3rd person...
Very true or having threesomes while straight people watch. Like nope
Was looking for this comment, I get offered threesomes by almost every guy that finds out I'm bi, they often want me to provide the other girl as well
Bisexual does not mean having sex with everyone.
It means being attracted to both genders.
I'm bisexual (and transgender) and the worst thing that's ever been said to me is probably:
Me: I'm bisexual
Person: soooo...?
Me: I like both girls and boys
Person: Can't you choose between being straight and gay...?
Me: No...There is a B in LGBTQ+ for a reason and it doesn't mean badass (laughs on the inside)
Person: How do you know it's not a phase?
Me: Because I love both genders like why deny someone the ability to date me just cause they are a girl or boy.
Person: Right...You're also transgender right?
Me: yes
Person: so...if you were straight you'd like girls?
Me: Correct
Person: Are you sure your not a tomboy
Me: *pulls girlfriend next to me* am I a tomboy?
GF: No...your a strange human being whose obsessed with yelling random crap to everyone
Me: Seeeee?
Person: Bye...*walks away*
Eren Jaeger ugh, that sucks. Im also bisexual and ftm transgender. Ive never struggled with or experienced much cons with being bi, i love being bi, but i experience countless cons with being transgender *every* day. Being called a tomboy is the absolute worst.
I'm bi to and people don't think I can like boys and girls they come up to me all the time saying are you a lesbian or straight and I said i like both genders equally
Lol
I love when people put the Q in LGBTQ+ like don’t forget about us non binary people I’m gay but also non binary
@@Phantom-qi6bf am attracted to femininity but am still bi, dating a tran girl tomorrow
I have a boyfriend and when I tell people that I'm bi they sometimes say things like "but don't u have a boyfriend?" or sometimes they don't even believe me
YES. It's like every time I say "Okay, I have a girlfriend", they are like "I knew you were gay!"
Same! Im bi and Im in a relationship with a man and we are going to get married..so its really confusing to people when I say Im bi. Like, my sexuality doesnt change just because Im in a long term relationship with someone that happens to be of the opposite gender
I'm getting married to a man and had to explain to my mum that I'm still bisexual 😂 just because I'm in love with my boyfriend doesn't mean I'm not attracted to women as well anymore 😂
Ginger L Grant free speech..
Ginger L Grant also this video is about bisexuality...why are you here if you don't want people to talk about it?
I came out some weeks ago as bisexual to my mom, and she literally told me "that's the trend now." Then she began to tell me a bunch of biphobic stereotypes and said that this is bc a group of boys were mean to me when I was younger and now i have a trauma and therefore I like girls. The thing is, mom, I ALSO LIKE BOYS!!
StarDust Hahaha I love that metaphor!! Thank you😊❤️😁
My mom just kinda went "Oh, well I am not really surprised that you are bi."
THANKYOU!!!! I remember going through ths highstreet where a pride march was going on and my parents were saying that it's such a trend for young ppl....liek......srsly?
Ikr its like yeah I went through all of that emotional pain and depression with anxiety sauce and a cherry on top because its the cool new thing xD
Mara P.C. My mom did something similar to me when I came out, I told I was bi because I knew she would probably think that multi sexual isn’t real, so then she asked me if I was going marry a girl or boy and she wasn’t the last to do that it bothers me so much
My friend is bi and this person once said to him
"If YoU hAd To ChOoSe BeTwEen BoyS aNd gIrLs wHo wOulD you cHoOse?"
*both*
G-... w...well...maybe guy... girl..... wait FU
My father and his side of the family were very prejudice. Racism and homophobia was something that I had to deal with growing up.
My mother and her side of the family were VERY opened minded. They taught me at a very very early age (when I could understand what they were talking about.) that everyone is equal no matter what skin color, and that you can love who ever you want because love is love... that’s what I believed full heartedly. (My fathers side did not like that very much.)
I told my grandmother when I was about 11-12 years old that I was Bi.
(She was a god awful woman and she made my life hell.) made me believe she would keep my secret but ended up outing me to my father.
I got belittled and ridiculed by him. He said it was just a phase. I know nothing because I’m a kid. Blah blah blah. So that topic never got brought up again with him... When I told my mom, she was really supportive but the way she reacted was like I was talking about some every day thing.
Needless to say... I’m bisexual.
It’s not a phase.
And thank god I had my mother in my life... because I could have turned into a horrible hateful human being if my fathers family were solely responsible for raising me.,
It’s a good thing there’s at least one person in your life that loves and supports you. All the love -💖💜💙
"I wouldn't be with a bisexual partner. Then he could cheat." ...yeah as if straight and gay people cannot do that.
it's because they do cheat with either gender, twice the chance of cheating
oh please I see marry men cheating on there wives everyday, looking for boyfriend to keep on the side. even married women cheating with both men and women. I've seen it all nothing shocks me anymore
Glen Jones wow i found you again ... what a shame ....
You know what i don‘t understand? How you think you know bi people better than others do , even tho you aren‘t bi yourself , and have never dated somebody who is ! So tell me , why do you think like this ? What has a bisexual done to you that makes it ok to say every single one of them is like that ?
I go by what I see, once with a man it will always be a man and you my dear with be left in the dust unless you can grow a penis
Glen Jones wtf does that even mean “left in the dust unless you grow a penis” ? And your comment doesn’t answer my question dumbass
"Bisexual doesn't mean slutty, it just means open-minded"
It's not open minded, it's a preference. It's not close minded to just be sexually attracted to one sex, it's just how you're orientated.
Black Rose "sexual preference" has been used interchangeably as a term to mean "sexual orientation" for a long time
Bleep Shmeep true
Who’s bi and didn’t come out to there parents?
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I didn't need to come out i just kinda fell out of the closet
I am sooooooo ok with not coming out to my parents lmao
Me, ik my mom will accept its just that it will he awkward so yeh
I'd rather not get the death sentence...
When I come out as bi, my parents don't have much opinion about it. But they had against me about being transqueer lol.
So basically at school my friends were talking about someone who was bisexual then they started to talk about how awkward it would be to date a bi person. I am bisexual myself and I've only came out to 2 people who accept me, and them talking about that kinda triggered me.
One of them also said "oh imagine if I was dating a guy but then they leave me for a guy, that would just be awkward and I don't think I could ever become bi." And even the teacher agreed to what she said and I got kinda mad
Seriously??? EDUCATE THOSE FOOLS 💕💕
I'm Bi and I haven't come out to anyone yet. I know how you feel but don't worry we have the whole bi community who has our back! 🌈
Of course they couldn't because bi... You can't choose your sexuality..
What kind of teacher teaches hate ?!?
Dating a bi person is not awkward at all. I've been with one almost 20 years and married over 10y. He just came out to me a year ago, even tough I allready knew and I have been open about how ok I am with different sexualities. I identify myself as pan. Dont let anyone get you down.
"You're so greedy"
Well who else is bi and single here?✋✋
wow can't get a date too bad
@@glenjones7597
Fact: night everyone want a relationship
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Me🙋🏽♀️ but I’m 15 maybe too young to date😅
I get really strange reactions when I mention that I am attracted to both men and women. I am in a very happy committed relationship with a man. I didn't choose him because he is a man, he just happens to be a man. I would have been just as happy with a woman or with a man. Often times when I mention I am Bi I get, "Well, you obviously like men more", no I attracted to all different types of people and my boyfriend fits into that category. It freaks people out because I casually mention it sometimes. I never felt this huge need to come out. I have never really came out to anyone, people just figure it out when I hit on women or when LGBTQ+ topics come up. I am just attracted to people, why is this so difficult for some people to understand?
Never really comes up in convos for me and most people think I'm straight because that's the default. I didn't come out either since it's not a big deal for me to, if someone asks I'll say I'm pan but never been an issue. Probably would get shit from some family members if I had a female partner but atm I'm together with a guy. Based on these comments and the video it's a good think I've never had a gf..
I'm so happy to have found this video and this discussion, yes it's a struggle! that people understand that simply I make no gender distinctions when feeling sexually attracted to people / falling in love.
After having a girlfriend for a long time, then dating a man, people were saying "so you changed to men now" . Mum said "I see now that being lesbian was a stage". I never said i was lesbian, ever, I only said I was dating this girl.
Misunderstood, invisible bi-sexuality!
@@irtap404 EXACTLY. People always assume if a bi person has a gf they've somehow turned gay/lesbian, and if they have a bf they're straight. *nO biSH tHAt'S nOt hOW iT wORks*
My friends: you have two times more choise than us how are you single
Me: I-
Well
If you aren’t interested in anybody so it would be like
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@@miyanorei9309 lmao true but in my situation nobody is interested in me
xMalin1 I feel ya