Japan's Virginity Pandemic | Birthrate Crisis (ep.5)
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- Опубликовано: 5 июл 2024
- Japan's birth rate continues to decline and the government has pledged more financial aid to reverse the trend. But many people still hesitate to have children.
In this series, a Japanese journalist Nobita investigates the reasons behind his nations's crisis and meets with various people on this phenomenon.
Since we focused on the change of women in the previous episode, we focus on men this time. Hope you enjoy this series!
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“I used to think the worst thing in life was to end up all alone. It's not. The worst thing in life is ending up with people who make you feel all alone.” - Robin Williams
And he did himself in
@@1sexymary Took 3 wives before death finally seemed preferable.
I just got done watching Mrs. Doubtfire, RIP to a legend
Robin Williams pay The Ultimate price chasing a lie.
Being alone still sucks sometimes
It is not only Japan that is decreasing.
Most of the developed countries are decreasing.
Yikes
Why is this bad? Individuals should have the absolute choice to remain single or get married. What, you want to enforce government mandated Husbands/Wives?
@@Labyrinth6000 Wells thats just a weak version of "socialist" conservatism if that ever came to be. The real issue is, dating, marriage, gender affirming roles, isnt worth it, cost too much $$$< time and energy and jobs don't pay a "liveable" wage. Considering its easy enough to survive on ones own, theres no need for that "survival" instinct when we get old for our kids to take care of us, hence why no one has kids, society will eventually evolve to "AI" to take care of us eventually.. Perhaps that AI will create that system of "force" breeding us lol later down the centuries..
If you want mandated Husbands/Wives.. move to the middle east or any other "regressive" religious conservative country, or join the taliban where they kidnap children for their mandated wives.
also Liberalism also creates that "freedum" for women... Hence they don't care for dating or generic gender affirming "role"., its whythe taliban incels fought soo hard against it.
People freak out about this, but they are WRONG, it's wrong thinking. Population decline is good for everyone, for all the citizens. As a chronically underemployed over educated person I UNDERSTAND the assertion of Malthus that an unemployed person should not have been born! If we have a situation where there is less work to do, it's better to let the population adjust than to create an army of unemployed!
@@leonardpearlman4017 Good you first
I am not surprised porn stars don't have a negative opinion towards porn. It's literally their livelihood and source of income. You can't expect them to be honest. Even if they thought porn had a negative impact on society, they would just shut up.
These are the same people that will complain why Japanese men aren't manly enough to pay for dates or why many Japanese guys end up marrying foreign women from Phillipines and Thailand.
It's basically the same self destructive societal norms and behavior we have here in the west and its not by coincidence its designed this way on purpose.
I'm not surprised by that, but I was surprised by how aggressively they shut Nobita down. The most conciliatory one was the Western woman. Japanese culture is certainly changing... soon they will be screaming at each other like the Koreans. 😜
The babyfaced porn actor one was particularly a douche, each time he appeared was to say stupid absurdities
Exactly, it's like asking an addict's opinion on substance abuse. Or a mugger's opinion on mugging.
There seems to be a worrying thread of egalitarianism, "whatever maximises my immediate happiness is best" being weighed against the existence of society altogether. I fear Japan and the world has some tough choices to make in the coming decades.
@@mikicerise6250
I thought the Japanese were screaming, boorish tribe of savages during 1949-1960 Reconstruction, and the Polite Japanese only exist from 1990's.
Rude and crude Koreans are just how Japanese were back in the 70's and 80's.
This isn't just a Japanese issue, but over 35% of men in the US under the age of 30 have never had sex, so it's a massive thing. Even with marriage down and everything, it's just something that is happening, and many men see it safer than being devoiced and losing everything they have. and Modern women also only want the top 15% of men. So it's a problem on both sides.
I blame the internet. A unreal beauty standard has been created, and it hits women especially hard. They look for the perfect looking man and also feel like they need to look like a form of beauty close to godliness. It’s sad. I’m having issues dating women because of this and I am a male fashion model(and a proud otaku)
Divided States of America Does not have a Politic to Tolerate Red Light District....Sex is a Terapy for Men and Women its to reach Adult hood.
It makes 0 sense for women to feel like that. It is insanely easy for a woman to be with any man if they really want it. Men are abysmally desperate.
Yikes
Really? I was a nerd in HS but even I'm not a virgin. I'm not as social as I was back then though, so I bet COVID has had an effect on those statistics.
It's good to see people embracing their lives instead of letting other people deride them. I'm happy for them for finding good community.
What's odd is that a few years ago a documentary where it touched on this situation I'm Japan, the reporter was asking a bunch of japanese guys why they don't want to find a girlfriend or go on dates, one guy said "only old women want to date men these days" another guy said "most girls cheat and act like nothing's wrong with it" the last guy said " all they want is our money, beside my rent and bills my extra income goes to her" he points to his 3ds and shows he's playing a dating sim game, "any extra income goes to buying her extra outfits, gifts and taking her out to places, she's loyal, she does what I ask and she makes me feel happy, what else do I need"
Before he leaves he asked the reporter to go to a maid cafe nearby and ask a girl what they think and he'll see what he means,
The reporter goes to the cafe and asked one cat girl maid what she thought about dating, the chick just turns from happy smiling maid to extremely ticked off vengeance look to her and whispers "I hate couple's, I wish they would all die whenever I see them, I'm tired of them kissing, hugging and sweet talking each other whenever I go out for a walk"
In my head I was like WHOA female Elliott Rodger calm down there 😅
Own Way is the only logical way. Sadly, out of thirst, men are still bending a knee, paying mortgages, working 80 hr/week, and loved less than a cat or box of wine.
Now I want to watch that video
@@bobbruce4135 From now on, I guess we can all discuss this in terms of KEN!??!! Are you Kenough? Ken Enough? Is it enough to be Ken? WELL. I am retired/single. Never married, no children. I generally consider myself to be a failure overall in terms of life and career... and sometimes get in conversation with other such losers, and we joke "At least we're not married!". It's a worse joke b/c I am not single out of some kind of wisdom, but because I never could really get a stable career going. Yes, poverty and ? looks and being a kook overall saved me, you could say. I don't know if I FELT saved at the time! I do NOW. Relief I guess you could say. I KNOW that there are old married people who do well, keep each other company, look out for each other... I don't think that's COMMON!
@@leonardpearlman4017 I didn't see the movie Barbie. But, I drank the Kool-Aid of my childhood indoctrination and suffered as did most. But, not being super successful. in looks too, I discovered I was nothing more than a utility. My co-workers (STEM) all complained of wives not loving them, only agreeing to romance to make babies, complaining they want a bigger house and mortgage, etc. I saw these men capitulate on every whim their wives wanted. The very few men who didn't do any of this $imping had a revolving door of women chasing them, choosing signals galore, were super Chads in looks and decent lifestyle. All had the snip and they were happy. One had a hot and very "affectionate" live-in. A mail order bride (who only did it once with her husband) did one of my Chad buddies multiple times. That bride's husband had no idea. Men get down on a knee and beg for reciprocity (for love, salvation, etc). Time to stand up and go Own Way.
@@martiddy Same here.
If anyone knows the video, let us know!
I've seldom watched a video that is so wholesome while being so disturbing.
This is an incredibly complicated topic and I can see you tried very hard not to give offense, while still trying to get facts and opinions. Relationships have become such a social dilemma that I fear we are really not well equipped to deal with. May those that still hold onto hope lead us towards a better future.
I love your channel. You’re not afraid to talk about anything.
Other than the alphabet group lol
@@GrassMudHorseLand Be afraid of the rainbow AlphaBits...🤣
@@GrassMudHorseLand fear us
finally a country where a -virgin- like me is accepted and valid
After being over more than 10 years in out of Japan. Most Japanese women I dated were weird akward and didn’t how to convey any feelings. Most of them also chose to overwork like crazy and despite that they were still like I want a boyfriend. How the heck do you want someone to love you if you don’t love yourself and can’t understand your own feeling. This is not only the main problem with Japanese women but also men because in the end Japanese society nowadays stands for suicide by overwork instead putting children and family the middle point of society. That’s also the reason why there are no more babies 😢🫠
Instead of suffering individual rejection by women, men appear to be getting even by unilaterally rejecting women and finding a better life doing other pursuits.
Said who?
This is exactly the type of video I would love to create myself. I studied media & journalism. It's super interesting and props on interviewing different people; it creates a more complete picture of the phenomenon 🙌🏼
Great video 😊
Well, now (slowly but surely), virgin men are being more widely accepted in the west as numbers have shown so many men never had a girlfriend. So sooner or later, the west will adopt the same attitude as Japan when it comes to virgins. A lot of this has to do with people wanting someone who is 'perfect' but not realizing that likes attract likes. Most people are average meanwhile wanting someone who is part of the top percentage (super models and rich men), but the top percentage don't want someone who is 'beneath them'. The other aspect is that people don't want to date those who make less money than they do, either out of fear of losing their earnings in divorce and being taken advantage of or due to pride. It's a complicated issue and it's sad.
In the Philippines, it's okay to be a virgin and stay virgin. People with religious upbringing will think it's okay to stay virgin.
Scars in heaven😊
Why is the Philippines actually so based?
I think the decline in births has more to do with housing problems and a pessimistic view of the future.
Also, the "purity" thing... That's a dangerous belief.
people often forget about that the housing problem is one of the biggest causes of birth rate decline
It is a global world wide phenomenom too. It is complex and has many root causes.
@@lilacheaven222
It's not. Studies have shown that women with higher body count = less marital happiness and more likely to cheat.
It's biological instinct built in men to avoid bad investments.
It's all on purpose. Too many people make it difficult to control
Staying a virgin until marriage is based. Not marrying a bad option is wise.
Respect yourself. Recognize areas you can improve, figure out what you want to achieve with your life.
to be fair, if that was the standard, probabloy 99% of us wont be here 😂.
Cope
@theonce-ler7732 I'd rather marry to a Japanese women (or a hafu women), and become a indie game developer (so I can 3d model some sexy video game characters, especially the female ones).
I don't think that is the purpose of their virginity... If it was I would agree with you...
I lost my virginity to your mom at 14, soycuck.
Is it possible people are putting too much emphasis on sex and too little emphasis on relationship
And who are the ones who control sex?
The most important thing in life is to be happy, and I can see that these guys are quite content with their current lifestyle.
That's good that at least they are happy but if this keeps up the country is going to have serious problems a decade or 2 later. Birth rates are declining in many countries but they are somewhat compensated by immigration. Moving to Japan and finding a decent job is still pretty hard for foreigners.
I'm still young, married and live in Japan with my wife who's also from abroad. I was single here for awhile too. The reality is that a lot of men have become disenfranchised really early in their dating lives and give up. The effects of not keeping up and building confidence compounds over time. There's also an ideal in developer countries of people getting good jobs and surviving on their own. With inflation this has gone out the window, but it's too late for many people to adjust. Dating apps and the like haven't helped much either.
I guess when you have highly Conservative countries, it's difficult to be seen as desirable. You want competition as a group of man, women need to feel like they have options. Notice Naomi Osaka never considered dating Asian men because she's already "othered" in her own country?
yes that is the problem, culturally, men have been made irrelevant. The trans movement is making women irrelevant. We have to realize that the nuclear family is what builds society. Men are the foundation of nations. Women are the mothers of nations. We've lost that culturally, and it's either people wake up to the reality, and do something or just accept it as the new normal and the human race perishes slowly...
Good luck when she files divorce! That time will come. Mark my words! Women are always looking for the next best man available. When you can no longer perform sexually or satisfy her in every way, she will cheat on you with a better man! Hypergamy is true! Women are very very demanding! mark my words man! We will revisit this comment section when she leaves you
Naomi Osaka loves sex with black men and big black penis. Naomi will soon realize her Tyrone has already been fucking several women behind her back. Naomi must be willing to share his cock with other women. Once you go black, you never go back. @@suezcontours6653
@@suezcontours6653 It's not being Conservative. It's simply what women are sexually selecting for. Women being attracted to ambitious men with resources isn't "Conservative"; it's normal.
Thank you Nobita for bringing "Men's" side as well to this topic. There were varied responses and I understood how people in Japan think about it. ARIGATOO ❤😊
Thanks for watching!
One factor is Financial capability because women nowadays can work or sometimes they are more income than other man so they find a guy that is more capable or can provide for the family and not to be burden by husband. The standard of women towards guy now is more higher than before so they find sugar daddy who can treat them like a queen eat in fancy restaurant, travel, expensive things etc unlike other guys that broke or live pay check to paycheck the income is exact for the bills and no savings. I think it is the biggest factor of all shyness is the second. Specially nowadays that all the prices of basic commodoties are getting higher like rent, bills and foods.
Another factor is propensity of women to spend money in order to live a high standard life. While men traditionally save more money for future (ie retirement/marriage). As such even if men and women earn the same, the women would have higher standard and erroneously expects higher standard.
So basically the same as the west. The women are being promiscuous and chasing money. The average men is not appealing to them. Japanese women just hide this dark reality better. Birth Control is one hellava drug. Most of the world especially the developed nations are addicted to brith control and will die out from it.
Obviously the adult actors have to defend their ego and only have a perspective from the inside, but I wish they could see people like me and many of my friends that gained great psychological benefits from abstaining from that sort of content.
Someone is legit faxxing
The moment I stopped too I felt much better, but not yet to the point of being happy
I’m still a virgin myself and I’ve had opportunities to lose my V card, but ultimately what stopped me was two things. 1. Fear of not being big enough down there and 2. Fear of pregnancy even with contraception. The thought of having to be responsible for a child stresses me out.
Get a virgin.
Same. I am also below average, so I have become an incel. I also see myself as genetically defective and do not want my boy to suffer the same hell I went through with bullying, neglect and humiliation from medical professionals, humiliation by teachers and professors due to my ADHD and autism, and today as an adult the constant humiliation and accusations that I am a deviant, the looks of disgust by women, underemployment, and loss of family support. Regardless if my children are born healthy, the world today is rapidly becoming a nightmarish hell and nuclear war or a global natural catastrophe are imminent which will make life on earth hell. I would not want my children to suffer through that and I also will not be able to defend them from the evils of the world as every day evil, degeneracy, and deviancy are becoming normalized and unpunished.
Dude you need to relax enjoy life a bit. Get laid quick.
@@jacqueslee2592 nah.... ur thinking too much into it. just book a one way ticket to southeast asia and begin day banging some pinays upon arrival before marrying a local rice paddy farmer's daughter... trust me, its quite easy to find beaver and create a family of ur own over there even if ur considered autistic in the west..... trust me, u be considered a neurotypical westerner in the east even if ur schwang schwang is smaller than the western average (ur being too hard on urself, ur thaang is probably bigger than the local rice paddy farmer's thaang). youll have no problems over there trust me, the west is a spiritually devoid cesspool.
There is no real social or economic "advantage" for Men to be married in the "Modern Western(ized) World", neither is there any innate sense of familial "security". "Modern Marriage" is just prolonged dating that any one can/will at any time. Combine the "fear" of failure, rejection, having to play by all the old, traditional rules and it's a "No-Win" situation, as such is often more wise not to play at all.
Don't forget the post divorce alimony situation plus the child custody and childcare aspect as well, both of which are highly negative towards Men.
This isn't true at all. Economically, there are a few advantages. My tax refunds are way bigger because i Duke jointly, i get nice tax credits for the kids. Hell, i just found out that even though we aren't struggling overall because we are a family of 5, we qualify for really cheap insurance.
And the familial security thing is 100% a product of who you pick. You try to turn a hoe into a housewife, then yeah, you're going to have a bad time.
But if you pick better or get lucky, you'll be fine
@@jdzspace33 Well situation differs from country to country, and what Initial Commenter and I said applies to a lot of countries.
@@Sup_D fair, but men have a lot of control over the outcomes by being more selective as opposed to just saying it's not worth it and giving up. If you want to get married, if you want a family that's not the mentality to have
Jußt say that u want free bangmaid and sugar mummy. No need to write that much🤔
There have always been problems, unbalance and unhappiness in a lot of marriages, always. I'd like to hear honest personal stories from the older generation, not the "we protect our marriage's image story".The low birthrate is a socio-economic issue but people's well-being is a psychological and sociological issue... the latter should be addressed sooner than later if Japan wants to increase its birthrate. So what are we doing to change that trend and become better people to each other? I mean, if porn and prostitution was the main problem, humanity would have become extinct a long time ago.
Also, this virgin male idol band is not surprising to me, Japan is known for creating a lot of niche markets so that everyone can consume things and be addicted to a genre or style. I dont think that this boyband is well-known and popular nationally.
Virginity is a very good thing. No one should be ashamed of that. Everyone should marry virgin, as according to the will of Our Holy Father.
I think all of the reasons shown have valid points. I dont know if its for similar reasons as much in Japan, but certainly in western culture many men are scared of approaching women because of being accused of being a creep or of sexual harassment falsely.
Especially if you are shy and awkward, women will find your genuine attempts to flirt as weird and uncomfortable, and some men have had their lives ruined because of these types of accusations. We also get told things in media and the workplace now like even staring at someone can be classed as harassment, or that any unwanted advances are harassment, but for many men it is difficult to understand when it is wanted or not by women. Many men choose to not even try to approach women because of that small chance that she might accuse them of something.
Yeah. That’s one issue i don’t see mentioned or don’t see fully explored. Culture now days basically tell men that you can’t even think of a attractive woman without being a harasser.(I’m being hyperbolic) and yet women wonder why men won’t approach anymore.
Also accountability is another issue. Many wanna speaks of women’s accountability for this mess but men have some blame to. The fact many would rather give up on dating and just not try and give a excuse is sad.
Your a man, nature made you the approacher. I’m gonna say for a fact the women that tell you that going up to a woman to flirt and strike a conversation is harassment (Wich is a minority) are themselves being approached and saying yes to other men that catch their fancy. It’s your job as a man to go out there and put yourself out there. You will fail, ALOTE, but law of probability as well as learning some natural skill and game goes along way. I hate to sound like a A**hole but your gonna have to man up.
@@kalebpinkston3495 Men aren't entirely afraid of being falsely accused, it's that they've learnt the truth about women. They're just not worth the effort.
@@kalebpinkston3495Nah approaching is just tedious honestly
Snoozefest
@@kalebpinkston3495 the thing is women still get grief if they approach men, so this is something that is continued via culture
I highly recommend all guys on the Internet to just become friends with a few women.
If some men think you would be accused of sexual harassment for approaching women, then the problem is that you don't know how to be social in general.
This is BEAUTIFUL!!!! 🙂 CELEBRATE DISCIPLINE AND PURITY. LOVE THIS!!!!
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It's crazy how comfortable they are with fornication and adultery. Really sad to see.
I don't think virgin men should be stigmatized, but I don't think this is a solution either. Normalizing the death of a society is not healthy, as men are the foundation of a strong nation...
We’d be Loooong dead by the time the society would die, so it’s not like my dead self couldn’t care less.
Uuufff. This one is a interesting one, and as always, a very insightful one. Thank you for these videos Nobita-san.
There are A LOT of issues presented in this video that cannot be discussed in a RUclips comment at length, but a few things would be interesting to know regarding important statistics for the issue of virgin men:
- Testosterone levels and how they have changed (if they are lower compared to previous decades).
- Statistics regarding male victims of sexual abuse and your particular brand of bullying (ijime).
- (If they exist) Statistics about prostitution consumption by demographic group in Japan.
- Young women (20yrs-30yrs) average economical expectations in their "ideal" partner.
- Incidence of Sugar Daddy (Pappa katsu) and compensation dating in women between 20 and 30 yrs old, as well as the average age they started doing it.
- (If they exist) Porn-consumption indexes.
All of these can be ideas for videos by themselves, but they can paint a better picture of many of the issues portrayed in this one. Also, aside from the childless women issue you presented in a previous video of the series, it would be interesting to see what would be the equivalent problem(s) for Japanese women.
Love your content man. Best of wishes.
Your comment is a gem. Even before reading it, I also thought about that one problem: "Low Testosterone". There are not many studies (well, I didn´t find many) about the Japanese testo rates. There are only a handful of 17 year old studies regarding it. Actually the newest one I could find had 13 years old.
To me, it´s a very neglected aspect of all this problem. Being honest, it´s clear that the japanese male don´t have that much of it running on their blood, which is freaking scary, knowing the effects of such things in men.
Food and lifestyle are usually the greatest factors for low testo levels. That should be further researched.
Wow!!! There is so much to say about this video- male virginity, prostitution, the Japanese point of view on everything- wow!! So much!! Great video!!!
Thanks for watching!
I am not virgin but the main reason i think is that men ( specially those with huge pride like me ) wanted to give their future wife and kids to have a better life than what they currently have... On their mind, if i marry right now, i wouldnt be able to do it, thus delaying and delaying marriage
yeah. better to suffer along myself rather than giving or pass pain to children or wife who is someone else daughter.
so your sin is pride? i think mine ins envy.
I think it all boils down to financial capacity. If you aren't earning more, you would view relationships and building a family a luxury. Anyways, good luck to them.
Something is very, very wrong with developed countries.
Yes. I've been to 14 countries. I've lived in Canada, UK, UAE, Japan and the Philippines. In the Philippines dating isn't much of an issue at all. Even with weirdo puritanical hangover. Equality doesn't automatically mean happiness.
What is a developed country??
Educated women, economic independence and women's picky nature in partners as a result.
@@user-gr1gb7os2tany country that consistently meets certain economic benchmarks. Like education, infrastructure, industrialization, etc.
Or right. Maybe we have just realised that life is nothig but a pointless circle of suffering and death.
my first marriage ended in me losing my kids, my house, most of my savings, and left me starting over homeless while paying for a mortgage for a $600,000 home i couldnt even live in. men are waking up. marriage/divorce only benefits women. i have been fucked over at every turn by family courts.
sorry brother. just keep your head up it gets better man,.
You were just born in the wrong country. In other countries people also divorce, but its not such a big deal. There must be something wrong with the system
Well, I don't know, there are so many things to do everyday that women are becoming less and less interesting. Sex itself is becoming less interesting, because you can get pleasure in a thousand other things. Japan is not the only case, the same thing is happening in many other countries in Europe.
Here in the U.S. as well
only if it is your choice. otherwise it is dehumanising, humiliating and constant pain
Nearly every issue brought up in this video has a root in poor communication, poor socialization, and too much segregation and isolation.
Relationships are social. We ALL need to learn how to relate to each other better. Don't blame it on the economy, or porn, or herbivores, etc. As a society we need to communicate better and manage our expectations of each other--remember that were are humans/people.
I had wondered just recently if there were ppl like this! Never have or thought/care, too. COOL☺️
All pornography related people be like its okey. Then they give reason such as sex crimes but Even in countries with high pornography sex crimes happen id say even more.
that guy who married hologram can no longer interract with his now so 2d wife definitely can die. That article didn't age well
THANK YOU FOR YOUR INFORMATION ❤
“There is a way that seems right to a man, but its end is the way to death. Even in laughter the heart may ache, and the end of joy may be grief.”
Proverbs 14:12-13 ESV
Amazing Topic Nobita! Keep it up がんばてください。
If all life suffers as is taught in some Buddhist ideology then why not marry? It is better to love and lost than to never have lived at all? As a Japanese and Chinese man in America I came from a poor family where my mother commited suicide in front of me at age 6. My Father went insane and was abusive. By age 13 I was working a full time job that I had to lie about my age to get and against the odds I should be dead. I managed to finish Middle School and High school. What saved my life or could have killed me was the US Military. After sleeping at my Public Library by day and Working at night at age 18 I joined the US Marines for 4 years then the USAF FOR ANOTHER 4 YEARS. At age 26 I left the USAF and finished my BS Degree and then worked for the US Government. I am not shy because I have had death placed on my doors countless times. I am a man who like other men who had the odds stacked against them managed to survive. Insumountable odds sometimes make men see the World as a short amount of time. It is like betting on a card game while playing Chess at the same time? You NEVER KNOW until you try. Clean yourself up and dust yourself off even IF girls say they do not care what you wear ... YOU should wear clothes that make you YOU look confident, but not strange looking. If you try 1000 times or 1 million times then by the Laws of Averages you WILL meet someone cool. Excercise: Work your body out, run, and stay the best version of YOU and you will find someone against all the odds. There are so many excuses for failure; but there is only one answer for success and that is to walk your path in life or NOT. I am 5'11 and 208 lbs and I consider myself a short Asian man. Good Hunting.
The world is headed towards a population crises just not what the ideologues imagined where there are too many but in reality will be too few as the birth rates crash as young people are priced out of life. The rapidly declining fertility for those who want and can afford to have kids will be well noticed in a couple of decades as society could very well be facing a Children of Men scenario where basically the population becomes infertile due to forever chemicals.
To say nothing of the impending threat of global war.
Ukraine has already burned through all of its young people and is now facing complete demographical collapse in a matter of years.
Imagine if war breaks out in Europe, Asia, the Middle East, even a civil war in the U.S.
We could very well see entire cultures, languages and ethnicities forced into extinction.
@@Killzoneguy117 Wasting the young for the sake of the old.
and the downside of extinction is..?
I watched every episode so far, thanks for your insight in japanese culture.
However i think this is a phenomenon on many parts of the world, seems like everyone is bringing up economic topics, it's too expensive to raise kids and give them a good life, so everyone is terrified of that responsability.
Except for wealthy people. People are not having less kids, but the number of people who are not having kids at all is skyrocketing.
There's a documentary by Stephen J Shaw called "Birthgap" that i recommend people watch if they are interested in that topic.
It all comes down to economics. Give a majority of your people a living wage that lets them support their kids, and you will have more families. I find it hard to believe that people want to die alone. I would bet a lot of people do not get married because it is not economically feasible to get married and start a family and still have enough money left over and enjoy your life a bit.
Exactly!
That's probably why poor people have large family 🤔
@@arkasonus7678 Locally the poorest people seem to have the biggest families. I don't know if this is a PLAN in most cases! Watch IDIOCRACY five more times is my suggestion.
@@arkasonus7678 you are aware that I note that "a lot of people" may avoid having kids because of their financial situation... not all. There are poor people with large families and poor people with small families. The existence of a % of poor families with a lot of kids does not contradict the point that Japan's population shrinking has more to do with economic conditions than virgin idols.
@@arkasonus7678 It's an issue of r vs K selection. Japan is a K-selection country. en.wikipedia.org/wiki/R/K_selection_theory
Repopulating is the easiest thing a human can do, infertility not considered. WORKING is difference.
Sounds like a lot of fear based decisions
fear is the only real thing nowadays
I'm loner but not a virgin. I had sex 50+ times through different paid girls. But still have no girlfriend since birth. Never experienced courtshiping woman. I'm 43
それは本当に悲しいことです。
If not married to a woman, men being a virgin is pleasing to God, according to God’s word the KJV Bible. Men shouldn’t fret about doing the right thing ❤
I still virgin and I really don't care about that, is not a issue for live after all, not for me at last..
If you're happy be happy! ❤️
I actually think this complacency is the main issue, most young people have become fine with living like children for the rest of their lives.
I could endure anything but I would like to have children, if there was a way to have children without needing a woman it would be great
Thank you so much for this very informative video with different perspectives about japanese men's issues related to sex and relationships, Nobita-san. I always admire how you talk with people with so divergent opinions in such a polite and clear way. Furthermore, the virgin idols group is simply great! Their desire to inspire people with similar issues/traumas to be happy and enjoy more life is more than admirable.
I fell into a severe depression and almost suicidal when I was 18, knowing that I am defective mentally, developmentally, and sexually. I was fearing that I was going to be part of a small percentage of men who will be virgins their whole life, single, never have a girlfriend, a pariah of society and people assuming I am some kind of sexual deviant or gay as some people and relatives were already accusing me of. And then growing into my late 20s and now 30, I realize that I am not alone and that there is a large population of the world that are in the same life situation as me, regardless of how normal of a man they are. This is a global phenomenon and I am proud of being part of this demographic group contributing to the balance and peace of the world as overpopulation will certainly have devastating consequences worldwide as it is already.
Very interesting. You present all this aspects of the male virginity in Japan, it's really helpfull to have a complete view on this "problem". Thanks for this video.
Appreciate it!
This looks kinda bad for Asian men because most foreign women already have a low opinion of them as desirable(though KPOP seemed to be breaking down that wall)... only to have this! I've always thought that this looks much worse for men than for women.😒
You should do an in-depth interview with Eimi Fukada. I think she would add a lot of valuable insight.
The biggest issue for the increase in virgin men is because of government and school restrictions.
Like the recent ban of ponytail for girls in school, because it apparently sexualizes them and diverts boys from studying. This is just creating more social and emotional distance between men & women at a very early age itself.
There is also active deterrence towards dating in Japanese schools, as a boy has to get school permission to date a girl, which majority would find a big hassle.
Plus, high focus on academic and economic performance, which is making then focus more on other things than on relationship.
Fear of misunderstood is also a big reason, as a Woman could easily get a Man arrested or socially ostracized just for talking, since Women in general have the notion that all Men are sexual predators especially those who don't look appropriate, which is more common in western countries.
Even if you solve all these issues you will not see a rise in birth rates. In western countries, where sex is welcomed and even encouraged, you still see a drop in birth rates. The lack of babies is directly correlated to women's educational attainment. If you want japanese women to have babies again, you NEED to keep them out of higher education such as college and university.
@@theravenousrabbit3671 That is more related to the system of many women not having proper maternity support program in companies, who also enforce workaholic nature on them.
One of the primary reason why working women give-up on marrying or having kids is because of fear of losing job if they had to take maternity leave. Heck, many companies (especially in Japan) actively discourage female employees from getting married or having kids (by indirect blackmail with their job on the line). And since it's hard to get a good stable job in Japan (especially a permanent one), many cave-in and follow those enforcement.
There is also the notion which is heavily being marketed nowadays, and that being Women don't need Men to survive, whether they have job or not.
There is also the fact that Women in general look for high income men to marry, to have a better life, and if things go bad, they can then always get divorce along with alimony and move on.
Is it true that a male has to get a school's permission to date a girl? What age range are talking about for that? College level, high school, grade school?
@@Bateluer Well i said that based on what a Japanese RUclipsr had mentioned in a video I saw recently. And since he said some stuff which i already knew were true, so i trusted it.
As for age range, i am not sure. The RUclipsr only said that a Male Student in a School has to take permission from the School Staff to date a Girl. Not sure whether it extends to College/University or not, but I guess if the restriction is at school level, then by College/University level, interest in dating would already be lost for majority of them.
@@theravenousrabbit3671 Babies are an easy problem. Everybody speaks of "we" need more, but you know what ? Babies are crazy expensive.
They are so damn expensive that many just can't afford to raise them anymore.
Money problems are also a relationship killer.
Companies aren't paying most people enough so they can't afford them themselves.
But someone has to pay for it.
So if government wants babies they should pay for them.
If government lets say pays parents parents minimum wage for all the time they invest for raising children I would guess we would see much more babies soon.....
This is the beginning of the end for Japan. And elsewhere isn't far behind. Japan is just a leader. Don't think the government can do much about this phenomenon and society will have to adapt quickly to a what will be a vastly different future to what has been the norm throughout human history.
Well said. This is happening in Canada and the U.S. too, not quite as fast, but the signs are everywhere.
We have to lower living standards, the lower more people get kids, the higher it’s the opposite.
It’s a first World Problem. According to our 2022 Census in Ireland, approx. 520,000 adults are still
living with their Parents (total population of the Republic of Ireland is approx 5.1m).
Because of the shortage of housing and crazy house prices, they are unable to get on the property ladder, establish their true independence and start their own Family. A sad situation afflicting the ‘Western World ‘ Japan included I’m sure 🌸🤔☘️
Nobita san, I like the topic of this video. The issue is become global problem, not only in Japan but also many countries. Not just male virgin but also female virgin almost the same reason. The fear of economic factor, the culture of society also give the big impact of the young generation to choose to be virgin and single.
As for me, the trauma of sex abuse became one of the reason to be single.
But I hope one day I can find genuine man with traditional value and good heart.
All the best for ypur channel
I wish Americans looked at virginity as a positive instead of a negative.
It can only be looked at positively, if that virgin can get another Virgin of childbearing age. And the only way to do that is through matchmaking culture. Dating is not biblical. Dating is relatively new and is Western culture. The Bible is Eastern culture from cover to cover and there is no dating in the bible.
God gave Eve to Adam
Abraham sent for a wife for Isaac
Hagar got a wife for Ishmael
Pharaoh got a wife for Joseph
Jethro gave his daughter to Moses
Judge Ibzan sent for wives for his sons
Etc.
In eastern culture there is no physical contact before marriage.
Even kissing and touching are the first steps on the stairway to sexual intercourse.
Why would you play with fire if you don't want to get burned.
So if on one hand you are going to a spouse all the prohibitions against fornication...
Then on the other hand you must also espouse the compliment to that.
That is matchmaking. Facilitating marriage. Honorably bringing together a man and woman that are desirous a marriage mate.
This was great! Thank you for reporting!
Thanks for watching!
Yeah, there's nothing wrong with being a virgin.
ok virgin
Wrong for who? sex = not happiness.
@@Haunt888 How's defending the Niji goes, clown? 🤡🤡🤡
Circus mindset 🎪🎪
Listening to what the guys here are really saying, what I heard again and again was some variation on "I don't think it's realistic to have a deep, meaningful romantic relationship." And I think that probably has less to do with economics or porn or anything like that, and more to do with social isolation.
Having lived in Japan for many years, one thing that struck me was how isolating and lonely it can be to live in a Japanese city, at least if you live alone. Because Japanese people don't tend to have meaningful interactions with people who they don't know very well, it's very possible for someone living alone to very rarely have a real conversation with anyone, aside from maybe coworkers in a work setting. I can see how in that environment it would be easy to lose hope about the possibility of really connecting with another human being in a way where you can show your weaknesses and insecurities.
I am often struck by how terrible Japanese people are at actually communicating with one another - there is this cultural expectation that people should understand one another without the need to really say things out loud, and many Japanese people will tell you that Japanese people are very good at it. But the truth is Japanese people are not really much better understanding each other without talking than anybody else, despite their claims to the contrary. It's one of the great ironies of Japanese culture - everyone is trying to be tactful and considerate and avoid offending anyone else, but the result is that you have a society full of misunderstandings that nobody is brave enough to actually sort out. One of the most common tropes in Japanese fiction is people totally misunderstanding one another, and then having a big awakening when that misunderstanding is finally revealed, often after some traumatic event that finally gives them permission to speak honestly. But nobody seems to think "wait, why do we need some traumatic event to happen in order to be able to say our true feelings?"
If you've basically never had really had a meaningful, deep connection with anyone, and your culture encourages you not to attempt to connect with people in that way, I can see how it would seem like an impossible dream to find the sort of partner with whom you can just be yourself. And how, if you don't believe that is possible, you would think that romantic relationships are just a source of stress and not worth having.
What people often forget is that banning pornography solely for the sake of the consumers would be a useless gesture unless it were to be done worldwide or in a place like communist China where citizens are not allowed to freely access the internet. There are situations where you just can't put the genie back in the bottle.
Ah but China has a similar problem without porn being available…,..
I agree with your thoughts and concerns with excessive porn and prostitution it obviously has negative impacts. This is sad, I have always enjoyed the physical connections in my relationships, and it’s sad that there are so many people men or woman who can’t or avoid it. Sad for those victims of abuse or anyone who has fear and hope they can overcome it with support. If brothels and prostitution fill your cup and you don’t have desire for relationships, there is so much that’s missed then in a relationship. With that said, I enjoy my time alone and being single as well, you need to feel good about yourself regardless of your relationship status. Wish all the people you interviewed well. ❤
Maybe they don't want to waste their money on women in general who would leave them or file fake rape cases or divorce them and take half of their property? Too much risk for no reward at all
Porn isn't the only reason why birthrates are declining all over 1st world countries and parts of Asia but it does have a part to play nonetheless.
Still, downplaying porn's part in all this is dishonest and shows how little even the ones making the content know about it's effects.
There's numerous studies to prove negative effects and not being aware of them is no excuse to downplay valid criticism.
I'm curious to see what studies exist that prove pornography usage causes virginity and declining birth rates. Frankly, I don't believe it's true.
Porn isn't the major issue or cause here, if anything, its a coping mechanism that signals deeper issues. Many people want to point to it, since it's an easy surface level examination and hand waving away from any deeper thoughts or perspectives or issues. Partially, I see a large part of the issue being social media, dating apps, high expectations of females towards their male partners, women outearning men, men being discouraged overall and used as a scapegoat, the rise of the internet age and demonization of masculinity and male sexuality and the over-promotion and over correction by feminism taking hold of culture. A lot of this in fact can be laid bare at radical feminists feet, but people aren't allowed to say that.
@@MastaOfMonkeyDisasta I don't really see feminism as part of the issue, and more with urbanization. For example, women earning more than men isn't exactly a problem unless it makes a guy feel insecure, in which case that's just insecurity. What is a problem is that both parents care more about advancing their careers and having children, and thanks to urbanization, a child is a huge monetary investment and potential detriment to at least one partner's career if they're gonna dedicate their time to raising a child.
Pron isn't a *_cause;_* it's a *_symptom._*
@@bubblesofsoapy It most definitely is. The pendulum of gender equality has swung too far the other way. It is increasingly more and more likely that men will be lower educated, drop out of college and make up the lower end of the workforce/labour market. There are vast amount of incentives and double standards that thrust women into success by virtue of their chromosomes while men struggle to even have a solid percentage. On top of the fact that in general, most education systems favour female learners than male (due to the maturity and grow of the brain) it casts a pall over men. Despite how the most rich and successful people are doing, people in the middle and lower classes are definitely feeling it.
Modern women, like the ones in the video, still desire the fantasy of being able to not work and still be taken care of by their male partners. Though in reality men are earning less than women, when fairly compared, in more and more fields. Thus Hypergamy is on display; generally, women don't want to compromise/"marry down", they want a partner that can fuel their desired lifestyle on a single income.
All this information is just quick Google searches away. You'll have to sift through some bias--as is naturally these days--but you can quickly identify leading contributors in the reasons why men make up so many of the self-deletion numbers. Society has grown and enable women at the cost of men and if anyone tries to point out that fact in certain public spaces they are swiftly censored or shouted over.
All that said, I definitely agree with you on the point of there being such a large focus on improving careers that people forget to have a life. Due to economical constraints(inflation being one of the largest reasons) it is understandable why people want to earn more money but at the same time it is leaving the ability to have children for the privileged few and people who don't care about what happens to their progeny.
Tl;Dr: It isn't wrong to want better for women. There is just too much support for people saying it is wrong to want anything better for men. This New Age Feminism is misandrist by nature. Men are suffering and there is precious little that is being done to help us, at least in comparison to the other big movements going on.
Young men in Japan can not financially afford to chase women if they even had the time to begin with. I get hundreds of women on dating apps who are just bored.
Japan's business and work culture seems to grind men down into dust with long hours. Plus there is a high cost of living. There is no economic incentive for Japanese men to have relationships or marry anymore.
In the old days, lots of children were necessary for farming, and for maintaining a Clan. There was a high infant mortality rate too. You can have 12 kids, but 6 of them would die as babies.
In modern days, Japan doesn't need to worry about any of that. So having Children would only place a greater burden on a man with no payoff.
This totally isn't true by the way.
A small apartment in Tokyo can be had for the price of renting a room in Central London. The other thing is you don't have to worry about neighbourhood as much. Commute times matter, but safety is implied in Tokyo. That's not the case in London, NYC or even Toronto at this point.
Lastly, Tokyo isn't all of Japan. Some areas in the main wards of Tokyo are expensive but many areas aren't. Outside of Tokyo things are dirt cheap. My rent in Northern Japan is under $400 USD a month.
Cost of living isn't an issue. Working culture doesn't help either, but I'd point to OECD data. Japanese don't actually work as much hours on average as the USA or Canada. There's tons of part-time jobs.
Recently I was considering adopting a dog. Adoption fees, insurance fees, and about 100€ a month in food and pet care products. Unfortunately I decided I just can't risk it... employment is so bad and wages are so low. A *dog*. And I LOVE dogs. So you can imagine what I would think about having children.
Common denominators with the west seem to be materialistic women, video games, porn and financial pressures on men.
I am a virgin myself, but it was my choice. I'm Indian living in Canada, and my culture is very traditional. It's not that we don't have opportunities, but there's a wisdom of abstaining from immediate gratification, and instead pursue what is truly lasting and meaningful. The first path creates emptiness, the second path creates contentment. If someone only wanted sex, they could hook up / hire a worker. But most of us don't want to just "lose our virginity" / "hook up", we want a friend for life, lasting love, someone we can build our lives with, and achieve goals together. Those are two very different things. People who are virgins, tend to be more content in their marriages, because they're not jaded, they don't have dozens of 'peak experiences', they're not desensitized. I believe this is one of the reasons our divorce rates are one of the lowest in the world 1.3%... ofc some divorces go unreported due to cultural stigma, and there are unhappy marriages, but many are successful -- compare that with 40-50% in USA / Canada. Having no experience, means you get to give someone your first time experience. You can experience, learn, and grow together. So many people in the west have experienced it all, and they no longer want new experiences from you, just companionship and resources. Dating is a nightmare in the west for me personally. In summary, because it's my choice, similar like being "straight edge" (no drugs / intoxication / casual sex), being "sober", "clean", "vegan" (abstaining from animal exploitation) etc... I feel proud and empowered by it.
Japan I think has a different problem, there's a very casual attitude towards brothels (married couples say it's okay for husbands to go to a prostitute), there's even student discounts at brothels (learned this from 'Yuki dark side of japan" channel), there is a toxic work culture, and many isolated individuals / Hikikomoris, I should also mention underage illustrations, child idols, p0rn addiction,... etc. which definitely removes the drive to pursue meaning, and just subsist on occasional hedonism. This is happening in the west too: OF girls, Incel culture, and p0rn addiction... This is not empowering -- this is cultural decline. I hope good things for Japan, because they have so much to offer the world. And not to generalize either, I'm sure there's traditional and happy marriages that do happen, and there's a lot of good people that want lasting and wholesome relationships. It's up to each of us to be the change we want to see in the world.
In eastern culture and especially traditional Judeo-Christian culture, Chastity before marriage was expected and it was the duty of the parents, the family and the community to honorably bring young men and women together for the purpose of facilitating marriage. There is no dating in the bible. Another thing, virgins are timid by nature and may not be inclined to go out and seek a mate even if that is their heartfelt desire. Modern Christianity especially within Western nations is trying to live with one foot in Eastern culture and one foot in Western culture. Although they may state the biblical injunction for Chastity before marriage, they do nothing with regard to honorable matchmaking and facilitating marriage. One foot in Western culture and the other foot in Eastern culture. That does not work. When a young person comes forward and announces their desire for a marriage mate, it is the Christian obligation of the parents, the family and the community to see that becomes a reality. Although Japan was not Christian, it was still Eastern culture. Yes, the brothels are bad but that's not the root cause of this problem in Japan. Even though Japan had prostitution historically, women were expected to be virgins upon marriage. This all changed after the war when Japan became subjugated and westernized.
The problem is in Western loose culture where dating is the norm and women are not expected to keep their chastity. This results in the 80/20 effect in Western culture. Where women are not expected to keep their chastity, and the loose dating culture is introduced, the 80/20 effect occurs.
That is, 20,%.of males have sex with 80% of females. Statistical fact and it naturally occurs in cultures where dating is introduced.
This begins in adolescence so that by the time high school graduation rolls around, the majority of females have engaged in sexual activity. A few males having sex with many females. This is why most men in Western Nations will never have sex with a virgin much less marry one. Statistically proven that women who are virgin upon marriage have the lowest divorce rate. The more sexual partners a woman has, the less likely she is to pair bond.
Watch the video by Von Hanshaw entitled Why A Man Needs To Marry A Virgin
Social media. Men/women want the perfect beautiful people. The beautiful people want the same so you have the 90% of uggos that would rather play dating sims. 😂
Can relate.
I heard that women in Japan turn into Godzilla after they get married, maybe there's a problem there.
Not every man is supposed to procreate and not every woman is meant to carry a child. We’re not entitled to a mate it is what it is.
Except they're about the only ones that do
China has almost the same population reduction problem
Good that nation needs to change for the better or fail.
I don't think that's a specifically Japanese problem. More young people these days are retreating into these isolated online worlds, tethered to their phone, spending much less face to face time than before amd therefore lack interpersonal skills and confidence to interact, especially with potential partners. The other issues brought up in the video are rather peripheral. Of course a girl wants to be with someone who can provide, but money is only one aspect. Being caring and making time to be with her is at least as important.
I agree 1 big hurdle is to be expected to pay everything Easier to not even bother.
I agree. The western view is very sad. Virtue isn't praised.
Statistics from developed countries report basically the same. Population crash is fast approaching, and it ain't going to be pretty.
My experience when i was in high school was that most girls were dating guys 20-25+. Most boys in high school were single, getting rejected and ignored. All due to globalisation of dating market. Why should a girl date a boy that has nothing when she's a couple swipes away from a man that has a place to live, money, etc...
Now, those boys have only negative experiences and no confidence, which negatively affects their drive to get better education or a job, resulting in further diminishing of their chances of getting women and many just straight shift deleting.
There will be no population crash since the West has insisted on having completely open borders and immigration for decades from countries with incompatible cultures, and it shows no signs of stopping. THAT'S what ain't going to be pretty. It's the reason for the housing crisis as well. Japan won't have that problem at least.
@@koffe-yet Japan will probably be long extinct before any “open borders” country would if they keep on the current trajectory. No good solutions all around….unless the native men and women start having kids and self sustain but that won’t happen
The problem is the increasing number of woman trying to extort man in japan.
These people are deeply troubled. They need help. Marrying a stuffed character unironically is not normal.
The men of Japan have become sissified. What happened to Bushido Model of being a man in Japan?
Bushido is also weak or prideless. Their entire life was to protect and serve another man... even committing seppuku if they 'failed' their 'master'. Basically beta males dying for their alphas. That is not a desirable trait to put it lightly.
@@reinatycoon3644 thats a great point
Samurais are rolling in their graves right now.
Why they don’t workout a bit and dress like men, don’t know lol
How could this possibly be a bad thing???
❤❤. Keep up the great work
In Germany, there has been a tradition of dancing lessons and at the end, there was a classical ball with classical dances like Walz or Tango. These balls offered an opportunity to meet and talk and dance in a formal manner. Men were not allowed to say no when they were the choice of a lady for a dance while women were not allowed to refuse when they were a choice of a male partner, but if they liked each other, they could talk more and if they did not like each other, they could go separate ways. Maybe, ballrooms could be a solution for this problem, and I should offer such ballrrooms and go to Japan.....Ballrooms also were institutions to learn how to behave in society....
Germany has a low birthrate too, though
Turning Women into Work Units destroyed the dynamic between Men & Women. Men do not want to compete with Women, they also do not care about how much money a Woman makes, so Career Women are not only undesirable but also out of reach unless you make more than her & even if you do & she is career oriented she will never love you. This was done on purpose by the way & it has already destroyed the West. I am watching what is happening to Japan & it breaks my Heart.
A fact that's been glaringly obvious for some time now. It's Briffault's law in action.
No one "turned women into work units." Women willingly *_chose_* to become work units. Which means women's own choices are to blame for this. No mustache-twirling villain required.
@@latt.qcd9221I mean, but you have to understand the world from a woman’s perspective. Our fathers taught us and pushed for us to make our own money so that we’re not at the mercy of an abusive or lackluster man. And so that if he wouldn’t provide for our children, then at least we’d be able to. And to ensure that we won’t end up on the streets if our husbands decide they’re done with us. Cause a lot of dudes tend to flake on raising kids nowadays. Women pushing to be able to work was for our own protection.
You can’t just look at the world from your own POV. That’s what created nasty biases and scary ideologies. The same way I’m open to hearing men out, men have to be open to hearing women out and to be able to empathize instead of just talking down to women. That won’t work and we’ll never come to a solution. (Unless ur not actually looking for a solution. Cause some ppl just want to argue and want to feel like they’re in the right but I have no idea what ur thought process is so 🤷🏿♀️.)
@@latt.qcd9221Blame? If they haven't had sex, nothing bad has happened. No blame required. ❤
As Free as it goes. If Sex and Nudity became Norms, also woman and Men could choose whoever they want to have sexual intimacy. I'm not surprised married or having childrens became obsolete on those cultures. I mean, what's the point?
This reality is better than the drug epidemic in some countries
I can't speak for Japan but the West would've gone extinct long ago if porn/prostitutes would spell the end of marriage and raising families. With the state of the world, i can't blame anyone for wanting to avoid the extra pressures of having kids.
That said I'm a dad. And for me, it's totally worth it. But that's just me. I don't know how others would experience it.
but western porn is different they sick japanese porn, there are things in Japanese porn that are illegal in the West and the directors would be imprisoned for them
@@secret-mx9ryHistorically speaking there was much worse and people still procreated. Like, "litteral" sexual things, not simply porn. Porn is just a side effect and coping mechanism, it's not the cause. But people find one simple scapegoat answer and run with it forever because people are small minded like that.
@@MastaOfMonkeyDisasta what coping mechanism? come on tell me about that
the japanese porn, is a power show of yakuza, what is behind it, i tell you, it's a message for average people, that say, 'look, what we can do with women, and you only can watching, but never doing, and we can rich from your money" yes, its aall about fucking their power and money
@@secret-mx9ry Because the coping mechanism entraps and then like an addiction they seek stronger drug. Porn isn't the cause, it's a symptom of a larger and deeper issue at play here.
@@MastaOfMonkeyDisasta hm it's true, however, this cannot be their excuse
The Vigin Idols: We don't even feel a desire for women
The Porn Actress: Sex is something humans cannot help but desire
Almost like people will twist logic to fit their reality.
Most people start with their beliefs and use logic to justify what they've already concluded.
@@AlteraLinif you understand this you could have a lucrative future in politics 😂
its because the porn actress are normally promiscius in their younger age,they cant understand why someone cant have this desire
I actually asked one of my Japanese coworker who is 34 now and I was surprised when he told me he is still a virgin.
Well, he beat me. I was a virgin until 33 first kiss at 32.
It very obviously and government told any less staff.
It's insightful but glorifying an inherit problem doesn't solve it, a lot of family bloodlines will end in about a decade or 2. Which is worst for Japan, and Jp isn't the only country going through it. Tho you'll some guys are "waiting" for the right girl but as time marches on you can't expect to match with someone with the similar needs.
Social and sexual incompetence should not be praised, thanks for the vid Nobita
most of us dont have options,in the us the percent of single men in their 20s are double the women,this is not a problem of individuals
@@kst2154 I think it is a problem of individuals; each number is a person with wants, needs, impressionable minds, and motivations. Something or several things have happened that have caused this global shift.
Why would their bloodlines die? They can get married and have children. If they are too young to get married right now, they just have to wait a few years.
Are they more into cartoons than real people?? omg... It's insane!!! 🤯 And the man married to a doll???? Wtf??? 😬Nobita your videos are mindblowing!!!!
You know why? Because that cartoon or game doesn't start petty arguments. Doesn't bitch and moan about nonsense and doesn't fuck off as soon as something better comes along. Which is what WOMEN like to do most of the time. Makes me ashamed to share the same sex as women in this day an age.
I don't find their (porn stars) excuse logical at all. It's like a cartel member saying "Oh, you see... There was already a demand of drugs, so we just produced some... It's not our responsibility that people die because of it..." This is what people who are guilty do in general, they try to excuse themselves for what they do with the "It already existed a little before us" type of argument. It is wrong.
How many of those actors do you know personally? Talked to them? Many are doing this job because they want it and love to do it. If they are forced to do something they don´t want - agreed this is wrong.
I hate the "it's my body my choice argument"
If you start drilling a hole on your side of the boat, I'm gonna have to intervene before you sink the damn boat.
Liberalism, being the idiotic ideology that it is, presumes that people live in a vacuum and their choices affect no one else.
Yet we all know that's not true. I wonder if these same pornstars would be okay with the total legalization of all firearms and explosives.
"It's my life my choice. So what if I fire this gun in the air?"
As long as these men are happy I'm happy. Take of yourselves men. Love yourselves Prioritize yourselves. Know what YOU WANT, and do That. You are a man be free, thonk for yourselves be true with yourselves. Peace.