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- Опубликовано: 21 окт 2024
- Alayna, Ashley, and Mak are back again, and this time with a 5-course meal. Things get a little personal: we discuss everyone's attachment style, learn that Mak and Ashley can't control themselves around a femme who's showing collar bone, and debate who the biggest simp of the family is.
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alayna did in fact do the hand thing and proceeded to gaslight mak so effectively
I thought I was the only one that noticed 💀
I know right?
I had to go back and look again. Thought I was crazy. Lol.
Poor Mak gave in so easily 😂
Yea… agreed & I know they already addressed this, but sometimes their responses to Mak feel a bit condescending
“It’s the other drivers we don’t trust” most mum thing you could’ve said Alayna 🤣
literally a friend's mom said this when she was giving her driving lessons
Yes
Guilty mom here 🙋♀️
The way Ashley is looking at Mak while Mak is talking about her healthy relationship is proud dad 100%. Was just waiting for Ashley to say, "That's my boy!" 😂
Haha Mak making her motorcycle argument "everyday we wake up and could die" gives very gen z vibes
My mum overheard that part and was like "Well that's very doom and gloom! She sounds very young so that's probably highly unlikely."
I’m a millennial and legit said something like this today during a tornado warning 😅 I’ve been planning what I want done with my ashes since I was 12 and planned to donate my organs since I was 15. I got psyched about signing a will this month and I’m not even 30 yet.
@@MeadowSongs Haha! I'm thinking of planning my own funeral, so...
@@conlon4332 I think everyone should!! My great grandma planned hers and prepaid for basically everything. It was how we knew SHE wanted it and we didn’t have to think about organizing stuff so much while in the middle of grieving. It was the best gift to we who remained ❤️
@@MeadowSongs Same, I want to have a dramatic funeral. I want them to burn my body on a boat and have a big party.
Dear Alayna, Mak, and Ashley,
Please make this a 3-hour podcast.
Kind regards,
All of the gay cousins
All the gay cousins agree with this comment. 🙂
literally this!
Yes please!
What they said!
Yes yes European cousins met and we all agree that it needs to be longer!!!
I think Ashley was the "hero of the episode" because she put her self out there in the name of helping people who might be going through somthing similar.
Yes! She definitely was the episode hero!
She really is the hero, honestly everything she shared was so valuable and was what I really needed to hear. Thank you Ashley 🙏🏼
Mak talking about her motorcycle and how she plans to avoid danger solidified the hot older brother role for me 🤣
finally....validation.
@@Makingemi LMAOOO
I adore the way Ashley is so rough in her humor but also so transparent & vulnerable
I love how much Mak and Ashley casually make it sexual while Alaynas just fending off the sexual energy
Honestly I don't care if Ashley mentions the other podcast - I like the format of everyone plugging what they have going on and it would feel weird to act like it didn't exist.
I need to know what episode she talks about this girl in though!
@@nahadoth2087 okay thank you because it seems like so long since that came out that I'm royally confused in the timeliness with both of the podcasts and how they overlap but not in sync lol I was like, "Did Ashley hook up with her AGAIN?!" Haha
Same!!
I don't know, I find Alayna ranting about it very amusing!
Yeah I think most of us already watch the WHGS podcast!
the way alayna did in fact do that and then gaslit mak lmao 4:10
Mak always looks slightly traumatized after each episode 😂
5:47 I find it so funny that Alayna and Ashley try to express their concerns about the bike and the perils that might come with driving one to Mak and she keeps making it worse and worse 😂.
I think this episode was a thanksgiving dinner for sure
This is it!
I think it could even be a cold soup type of episode, like you don’t want to cook so you make soup, but then you get distracted after cooking it and now it’s cold, but you don’t want to heat it up again so you eat cold soup that should have been hot, but you just want to go to bed yk😐🫠🥲🥹
I know Ashley's story from her podcast already and she left out the crucial detail of it being a small studio apartment where the only place you could hide and wouldn't see the other would be the bathroom. 10 months. With her ex.
Oh yes that part 😂
What it's the name/number of the episode? I tried to find the episode with the story but I couldn't find it
@@hipeople8_8 I think it's the last one in the new apartment, so it's relatively recent.
@@ashgavsOh Ashley, that’s rough. I’ve bought two different ex’s a vehicle (before they became ex’s, but still)
I relate so so hardcore to ash feeling embarrassment and worry about oversharing, but its honestly so reassuring to hear that I'm not just mentally insane when I fixate on other people's behaviors and put my partner's wellbeing over my own. Hearing stories of you being in those situations and managing to find your way out and grow gives a lot of us the strength to do that ourselves.
This podcast never ceases to make me wheeze to the point I fear I will actually die from laughter
I love when daddy gets flustered over mommy
Oh my goodness Alayna, I had the exact same convo with my own therapist recently. I kept saying about my gf “I feel like she’s angry with me, she’s upset with me,” etc. but without any evidence that it was in fact me who had done something wrong. It was really helpful when my therapist suggested that I repeat it, but remove the “with me” part. It became “She’s angry, she’s upset,” and it changed my perspective, and made it easier for me to let her be angry and upset without me feeling the compulsion to fix it. Hope this helps x
My sister’s boyfriend said to her recently “it’s ok to be angry”, which was SO sweet and mature and totally won me over! Like you don’t have to fix… you just have to feel
Alayna nailed it! It's getting to that point in therapy where you learn that your people pleasing is actually a form of being controlling. Allowing others to have their own reactions or distress without immediately assuming it's about you or your responsibility sets you up to be available to actually be supportive to your partner! This was an amazing episode and I love to hear conversations like this!
You guys bring me and my husband so much joy! We are so glad you guys decided to colab! This podcast would have helped so much when we were younger, makes all of the “awkward stuff” more normal! If that makes sense 🤷♀️😂 For reference I identify as a pansexual and I am a female and my husband was a lesbian woman when I met him in high school and is now a trans man. We haven’t quite figured out the sexuality label for him yet. Anyway, listening to you guys talk about everything is just so therapeutic 😂 you guys are going to help so many baby gays! Love y’all! ❤️
Ashley's face when Mak was talking about how healthy her relationship is actually choked me up a little, that was so sweet :')
alayna doing that hand gesture and then gaslighting mak when she pointed it out is really relatable to my family! 😍
The heart eyes are killing me lol
I love how they tease each other, but acceptance and validation and support is always at the base.
Mak talking about the progress they've made with their new partner was just so moving!
There is NOTHING I love more than seeing a femme make Ashley blush. And it’s so pure to see my parents still making each other flustered after all these years😊❤️
Ashley being vulnerable 💜
The dynamic of Ashley, Alayna and Mak together makes this podcast awesome 💚
Soo true
Ashley as the emotionally vulnerable dad I never had ❤️❤️❤️
No, Ash! You have nothing to be embraced about! Your story was vulnerable and insightful! Thank you for sharing it with us!
THE HAPPY LOOKS ON ALAYNA AND ASHLEY'S FACES WHEN MAK WAS TALKING ABT HER CURRENT HEALTHY REALTIONSHIP :((( i love this family you guys make my days!
“I have a background in mountain biking…Also I have plenty of scars”
😂😂🤣😭 I’m ded
it’s nice to hear Ashley open up, even if it feels uncomfortable for her. just so you know Ashley it wasn’t too much!!!!
Ashley definitely giving divorced dad still in love with the mom 😂
I rewound it.. Alayna did the hand thing.. hahah ;)
I UNDERSTOOD THE LION KING REFERENCE
It's not about a relationship I was in but I totally get what Ashley was saying about how having such a negative and frankly traumatic event had made them realize the position they're in. The fact that she has come out of that a better and happier person shows how truely strong Ashley is.
@30:54 - that moan came out of NOWHERE, I'm wrapping a gift and physically jumped and did a double take towards my laptop
oh I relate SO much to Ashley regarding feeling "too much" or "too emotional". this episode made me rethink some things! Thanks
The hand thing that Mak was talking about totally happened!! At around the 3.5-4 minute mark 🤣 you guys totally gaslit poor Mak 😔🫢
I’m in a similar spot with Alayna right now. By obsessing with making an important friend of mine happy, even though she isn’t, has completely paralyzed me the last two months. Added with other problems, I had a huge depressive episode since October and is now luckily on the path of improvement. I kind of feel relieved that I’m not alone on this
There’s someone in my life I do this with too, and a feeling of being utterly frozen is such a succinct way of expressing it, when in fact you just have to see that relationship not as an iceberg but as a river
Posting around 3:00pm helps boost engagement and the likelihood that your videos will be pushed by the algorithm. Posting at 3am gives my goblin self something new and exciting to watch when I should be sleeping 😈 thank you
It came out around 7:30pm (wed) my time. So, perfect timing.
Alayna definitely made a scissoring gesture when she was saying cut, realized it, and then swiftly changed it.
I caught the Lion King reference. It even rhymes with sun!
I thought that reference was super obvious too!
ashley watching mak with this "proud dad" look while she talked about her healthy relationship with her new girlfriend (around 21:45 onwards) just kills me, like these guys really love each other. you can see it in their faces
I'm a highly empathetic people-pleaser with a disorganized attachment style, so I relate to the statement about spiraling when I no longer had anything to fixate on. I've been with my partner for seven years, and it's a very happy and healthy relationship, but it's also the first one I've ever had. For me, people pleasing was developed as a survival tactic. Being perfect and unobtrusive were my tickets to love and approval, and unlearning that tendency has been hard. Therapy has helped a ton, but it's still my default setting. I don't know that I'll ever overcome the compulsion, but surrounding myself with people who care about my well-being and know about the issue has made a big difference. I hope it gets easier for you, too.
I understand you don't feel the mom title suits you, Alayna, but "its the other drivers we don't trust" is the most mom thing that could've been said.
I love this podcast. The conversation about attachment styles was great. Like Mak, I lean towards avoidant, but I’m much more secure these days. It’s so much easier to just talk to my girlfriend and explain when I need space. The fact that she’s just able to give me space is so reassuring for me and makes me feel safe enough to open up to her.
Ashley and Alayna totally dismissing Maks simpness 😆
4:08 Alayna is making the scissor sign
ashley, those depths of the ocean is actually what we writers call the “dark night of the soul.” and i’m so happy for you that it was so transformative. i know you’re going thru other stuff within urself still (stress and chronic pain) but i can tell you love yourself now which is what truly matters to get thru the hard ass shit we face in life. thank you for your vulnerability and honesty always!
thank you all so much for this episode! I am so grateful for the vulnerability you showed here, it really helped with some things I've been struggling with a lot lately 🥰
oh damn this was recorded a while ago (judging by the recency of the rooftop dryhumping story & the lingering embarrassment over "i let my ex financially depend on me & live w me in a studio apt for 10 months")! nice, a stockpile of episodes to keep releasing. hell yeah. lol
anyway loved the discussion abt attachment & communication, highly important and relatable. &to drive the point home abt the ex story, you definitely don't need to be embarrassed. i think it's merely that they didn't (yet) know exactly how comfortable you'd be joking abt it to turn it into a nice life lesson w self deprecating humor. lol
i love the intergenerational vibes, too, even though functionally you're all relatively close in age. lol ash has been there, done that, learned from it and grown, alayna's done most of it & is still growing a bit but has less to learn and more just to implement & practice, &mak is like "i got this" and yet is constantly [pikachu surprised face] at all of the experience & life lessons you have for her. lol a lovely dynamic. lol
Yeah i thought the same , about it being a while ago, cus Mak has had her motorcycle for months now, I think..
Ashley’s proud dad smile at 22:05 is everything. ❤️
5 minutes in and I'm losing it LMAO
Thank you for being the best 3 therapists on the planet.
You make me laugh, you make me cry and you make my day
I'm not being dramatic when I say this podcast healed me. 💜💜💜
I loved the simping as well as the insights about attachment styles, boundaries, meditation....SO good!! 🙌
Mak’s “This is so healthy” at the end 😂 Seriously. Loved everything about this episode 🖤
I feel like this family dinner was a soul food potluck. Very wholesome and fulfilling 🥰
Ashley your story wasn’t over sharing or embarrassing at all, you are an inspiration to those of us who have been to the depths/unwell/toxic relationships and haven’t made a breakthrough to the other side yet. Gives me hope. MAD RESPECT for you.
Mom & Dad do not stan baby on the bike 😂
2:41 “come hug us”
Can I? 🥺
amongst other things, mak's hair having a life of its own is always a great part of this podcast
ASHLEY that's so interesting that you talk about co dependency addiction, because I am also a scorpio and I have HUGE emotions. It was at a point where I didn't even exist because the other person was so much more important than me. Remember your ability to love so deeply is beautiful, but you have to find the person who DESERVES that level of love. I can relate to the pain bro, I can relate...
i just can't get over how important this podcast is to me already. despite growing up around queerness and queer discussion, a lot of it was male-centered so i didn't really have a place to hear about lesbian specific experiences. i love women, and i love being a lesbian, but i still have a lot of internalized lesbiphobia to unlearn so hearing alayna, mak, and ashley opening talking about their gay lives and gay opinions is really healing and validating to me. plus, between all the sincere and important moments, they're just fucking hilarious. so glad to have this podcast in my life ❤❤❤
Lol I love that Alayna very much did make that hand gesture 🤣😂🤣
Internal Family Systems has been hands down the most effective method of attachment style healing.
I wasn't a podcast person but MY GOD is this great!! Tha dynamic is so freaking cool, thank you for being my little virtual far and distant chosen family :3 (simp face to go with the theme lol)
THE LION KING REFERENCE 😭
I'm amazed I saw this 51 seconds after the posting XD
I got the lion king joke and laughed so hard I almost dropped my dish
10:15 alayna’s “ew… ashley” makes me laugh so hard 😂
When Ashley said “not just for you but for the other person” it felt like a line in a climatic scene in a family movie like Airbud with intensifying music that a mom cries to thinking of her past trauma and the one that got away while sitting next to her ungrateful child and unloving spouse.
I did in fact get the Lion King joke and also expected it from Ashley!?!?
I feel like this is the best episode, hands down. I love the funnier ones of course, but the vulnerability of you all was so important. I'm definitely a mix of Alayna and Ashley, attachment-wise. Working on it though with the people-pleasing.
Yes!!!!❤
I was going to watch two of these Avery week to catch up but it’s been less than a day and I’m probably going to watch seven
Not the family sexual tension 😅😂😂
not even a minute in and im already laughing
Alayna please convince Ashley to have a show in Canada (Toronto)
I absolutely love this podcast and it helps me through rough times in my life so thank you guys keep making up the good work
legit this episode helped me have a psychological breakthrough, thank you all so much holy shit
Not the footage of Ashley sending voice memos 😂
34:00 I still view simping in general as a corrosive thing, I know we love giving the 2000% but when u get that line cross is just too hard to give yourself… anything because you already gave your all to them.
Love the podcast going from hilarious and flirty to profound and really insightful in a blink 😂❤
Hey, everyone. To the anxious preoccupied people of this lovely family, I see you. I just wanted to mention something that might be helpful. I can only speak about my own experience with anxious preoccupied tendencies, and I had tendencies like this in almost every relationship I was in (not only just the romantic.) Meditation really did help me understand myself, but I think I had one incredible moment during meditation that really put things into perspective. A voice, my own voice, spoke to me and said “I have always been here for you, you just weren’t ever ready to see that until now.”
Sorry if this is on the mystic/spiritual side, but I’m a deep believer that we’re all our own medicine. A big reason why I was anxious-preoccupied in most of my relationships was because I didn’t trust myself. It felt like I didn’t have my own back, and that meant in moments where I felt safety my mindset translated that to something to worry about- because I couldn’t even trust myself to enjoy and preserve the good that was happening in my life. Of course, if this is too long of a comment, I hope that you’ll at least read this part: Letting yourself enjoy what life wants to offer you will always include believing in yourself.
It’s a journey, and it’s good to be able to see that we’re all family for at leaaast 30 minutes. Thanks so much.
Appriciate Ashley bein vulnerable, co dependancy and unhealthy patterns can be so hard to even identify within yourself, let alone finding a way to break the cycle. Thanks for talkin about this stuff in a queer context you guys are killin it.
this podcast gives me life ngl
I'm totaly straight and I love this podcast. 🥰
Legit paused this to go retake the attachment style quiz cuz I was fearful avoidant before. Haven’t checked in years, but now I’m anxious preoccupied! I mean, still not great, but soooo much better! 💜
I have the opposite of Alayna - my wife wants me to take on all of her issues and although I want to be there for her, I feel like she needs to work on her own mental health instead of putting it on me. It makes me resent her when she is unable to do anything (except her job) unless I am physically there with her.
Ashley, you did not overshare! Thank you for being so honest and open and vulnerable.
You all are awesome! Ashley the story you shared was great and you should not feel embarrased at all. One of the things that I really appreciate about this podcast is that I feel like Alayna and Mak bring out your softer side which is so relatable! Blessings to all three of you!
Yes!!!!❤
i love how chaotic this podcast is
Ashley i immediately got your lion king reference and appreciate it
This episode arrived at a great time, my sister is going through a breakup and I recently realized how unhealthy my first relationship was and how it should have ended sooner than it did. It really feels like having a healthy family giving good advice Jaja and I understand the feeling of embarrassment of Ashley and I think it is because of vulnerability and the fear of other people thinking that our feelings are dumb or that we are being too dramatic, I've felt that before for sure.
Not the proud Mom and Dad face while Mak is talking about her GF
I got the lion king reference for the record
Alright so today I learnt that Alayna and I are so truly similar, I have said those exact words the other week. Being so overly controlling where you think you’re just trying to help but no one asked you to take on everyone else’s problems. I completely agree that as soon as things don’t feel perfect I start to spiral. But I’m really glad I know I have this problem and can work on it.
Literally here from the “listeners” podcast to back up Mak to see if Alayna actually did the thing with her hands ahahahahahha
she did lol I’m with mak! I think alayna thought mak meant the two-handed motion and not just the one hand
@@Green-88 hahahha exactly and also can definitely see where Mack’s head was at due to the typical topics they talk about!
I'm literally obsessed with this podcast, I freaking love every part of it
You guys really do make me feel like family ❤this podcast is top tier
Alayna gaslighting mak into think she didn't do the hand this when she totally did 🤣🤣
I love you all.. but man alive Ashley just OWNED this episode. NO you did NOT overshare! You just exposed your very huge heart.. 🥰and I hope that you sharing this story helps others who may be going through something similar! Mak and the motorcycle story.. as well "and thank god everything works" zinger was so good!!! lol Also... Alyana always there to be so supportive and validating everyone's feelings in such a caring way. Lastly.. "oh no... my zipper!" lol This episode was an emotional rollercoaster in all the best ways.. and gave me a gamut of the all the feels.. but I'd listen to it all over again .. with no regrets! 😁😆