The ex-narcissist perfected the art of creating a reaction to prove to others that I was acting badly. The ex-narcissist's underlying covert manipulation was not apparent and the flying monkeys would see me get upset while the narcissist was cool and seemingly innocent. I am now free of this insanity.
absolutely....mine would be rude or pick a fight right before we were going to an event to make my reaction appear the one who was upset to others...finally learned to not react but man what a set up he did.. I also witnessed it with his kids..a provoker and a coward
@@ArtistNorth Easy to understand what was happening, after having gotten educated, looking back. The art of manipulation. I looked sour and moody to the outside world.
@@ArtistNorth My ex-narcissist was a sociopath, addict and had some underlying mental illness. These conditions really took hold during the course of our relationship, but looking back to the beginning, I see the seeds and red flags. Be well.
I am right in the middle of the fight of my life., prayers needed, I’ve been discarded,replaced, and he’s smeared my name beyond anything I could have ever imagined, it’s heartbreaking, but I will continue to fight til the end, asking for all the prayers I can get, he’s done the most horrific things n accusing me of everything, suing me, I quit working years ago n I’ve been isolated for years. God Bless all!,,
I was discarded a month ago too and they have completely moved on with their life already and yet I’m here to pick up the pieces. Im not letting him ruin my life and making me chase him!
They feed off of our reactions like a leech. It's demonic and so evil what they do! God bless everyone. ✝️🙏 Stay strong!! Thank you Andrew have a blessed day!!!✝️🙏🤍🕊️
“Respond don’t react”, I love this Andrew, great advice!!! The narcissist loves to get reactions from you, it boosts their fragile ego, they feed on your attention. Starve them!
I stopped reacting to his infidelity and and he tried even harder to get reaction out of me. Really opened my eyes to the fact that he doesn't love me. He said I was pushing him away when i stopped reacting to triangulation. He needed me to be jealous of other women to prove that I love him. I'm happier loving myself
I thought I was ready in my life to start a romantic relationship, the narcissist could sense this, but couldn't get off the ground with the narcissist because the red flags were too strong and I slowly started listening to my instincts despite being in the fog of the love bomb stage. I know I dodged a massive bullet despite having no experience with dating. It's like almost getting run over by a dump truck when you barely have one foot out the door...
Thank God your discernment took you down the right path. God Bless! I'm so happy you didn't ignore red flags. I did,... got me into a toxic relationship which lasted for far too many years.
@@sylviaamodeo7090 I'm by no means completely rid of the narcissist unfortunately. She knows a lot of people I still talk to and I'm sure she gets info when she wants it. But I have the advantage because I know she's a narc and have seen her real face, (through a gift from God), and will no longer play along. The only thing I feel I lost was some time, but worth the incredible learning experience and the new skill in detecting a real, dangerous narcissist. I feel that I am immune for life now thanks to the education from videos like Andrew's and their comment sections. I'm sorry that you're a victim of one and from reading other's stories it's truly frightening what these creatures are capable of...
I remember one time in my relationship I got a text from my ex saying “I’ve been trying to call you for 45 minutes. I’m giving up and going to bed”. I called her back and told her I had 0 missed calls and no voicemails. “Oh, there must be something wrong with your phone”. My phone was pretty new at the time. There was nothing wrong with it.
@@archiehendricks6093 Oh I found out after the relationship she was talking to her first bf from 15 yrs ago the whole time. Not to mention she never got divorced like she promised me she would. It was a LDR.
@@archiehendricks6093 She had a refurbished Galaxy S9 that she would never replace. Finally killed that battery for good and turns up with a Flip Z in November, switched from Verizon to T-Mobile (they had a special going on at the time).
When we are talking about a relationship with a narcissist, it is much more important to understand yourself than the narcissist. We wonder why we were so receptive to theirs love bombing? Only by working on ourselves we take away their power from narcissists.
Yes. Why the love bombing impacts some so tremendously? I figured the unknowing recipient had a ton of love, romantic notions and a beautiful imagination- not the narc. The narc was skilled at fashioning fishing lures.All is not lost, despite the damage. That beautiful imagination of a better life and a healthier, self-protective caution can still grow.
@@jhavajoe3792 It was all (love bombing) too much for me, too intense, terribly exhausting. And his immature statements, and he only knew me for a few days.
Newbies: I hoped things would improve for 33 years. Please never hope for dreamed potential. He forced me to legally end it. Love yourself, dear ones.❣️
Bread crumbing is another excellent way to get a response. Promising something then not delivering. . . hoping to get an emotional heated response. I'm learning to see this for what it is and I have to say while it's still frustrating. . . now that I know why it's happening it's almost a game. Thank you for your excellent vids. It's therapy for me everyday.
I recently realized this myself too, and I'm now feeling a Lot better about everything, having "Taken My Power Back." I'm No Longer Reacting, just giving Myself Every Good Moment I Can, and Not Fixating on the Narcissist, who just happens to be my adult daughter. Not living with me, thank goodness.
Being disgaurded is a blessing in disguise !!! It gives you a chance to escape these monsters !!! Heel your childhood trauma so they can’t ever hurt you again !!! It’s the only way . When you heel yourself you will look back and go … wtf was I thinking
One of the narcissists I dealt with used to love to push my buttons, until I finally told them off, then would respond with "kewl" or "Lighten up Francis" or some other man-child arrogant remark. It used to make me so upset to see them posting how Godly and goodly they were on group pages, when i knew how awful a person they really were behind the mask. Once I stopped reacting from emotion, and blocked them, it was empowering. Side note..look great in green Andrew. 💚🌿☘️
@@emilykathleenn exactly!! Mine would say all kinds of nasty things about the person who ran this group (who is a major influencer on one of the social media sites), but then turn around and act all Godly for status, and new unsuspecting supply. Money and status is all they care about!
I was discarded 3 days ago. The stress has gotten me sick. I am hurting so bad… I would do anything for this person. I am completely in love and he scoffed when I told him as he discarded me and told me he is dating someone else. This pain is unbearable and I am living off of Andrew’s videos.
When the gaslighting starts, say “If that’s the way you feel then that’s the way you feel.” Or “If that’s what you think then that’s what you think.” Watch them go berserk!
The narcissist would text his kids. His friends. His co workers. Everyone but me. Made me feel so insignificant. And when I brought it up he twisted it on me.
Same here. When I brought it up, I was told that I was being a psycho...? Never could understand why she would take 4-5 hrs to answer my texts, when everytime she was with me she was never off her phone texting her colleagues or male friends. Insane thing is you start believing that it's yourself that's crazy...
Since I've learned gray rock it's gotten so fun!People who used to expect a big bunch of reactive abuse are stu😮nned and speechless when you're quiet and don't react.Then they'll go farther to try to get some reaction Then they'll start trying to call the cops on you and call you things you wouldn't call a dog, ramp up the smear campaign find out who your friends are and go talk to them. They'll call your boss. Try stuff that used to really bother me but now I figure somebody that can be a flying monkey for a narcissist listen to lies about me is not my friend. No loss
There is nothing like literally smelling the steam coming out of their ears as they're trying to provoke me to do REACTIVE ABUSE over the telephone while pretending to be calm, while I don't take the bait. (You can just tell from the micro intonations of voice inflection on the telephone!) 😄
This is so true, once I told the narcissist I loved him I got the smirk and the devaluation began. I had not been in contact with him for over a year, however, recently I was in contact and he had got so much worse said things he wanted me to react to, but I had wised up and never reacted, now it’s back to being silent and that’s the best place for these monsters.
Blessings to everyone reading this post. No contact means, we do respond to any attempt to reconnect. Not responding to a hoover means you DO NOT contact the narcissist to tell the to stop or not to contact you again. You just ignore the hoover and find a way to block that avenue or path that was used to get to you again Is a relapse on our healing and it could open the door to a very dangerous emotional set back. Once freed from that person, stay out, do not walk back into the cage.
Your daily words and a cup of coffee- Boom, I'm back into accumulating flight hrs. training, post Narc unawareness. My habits and mindset won't change overnight. I never want to tolerate shifty, cowardly and abusive tactics from anyone or fly blindly in a fog.👍🙏
One of the last things my narcissist said to me was that she never loved me, and that she only dated me because she felt pressured by me. We dated on and off for YEARS. I legitimately never expected anything past a friendship with her until she initiated it. I was surprised by it. I hate to say it but I think what she really meant was "I never loved you, I needed a supply of validation until my mask fell off"
in my case, i should have trusted what his social media said about him. it was mostly partying and girls lol i unfortunately gave him the benefit of the doubt.
You are God sent . Just yesterday got a hoover via text. 24 hours later I am so glad at my healing progress..I didn't respond as would have years back. I need nothing to do with that sense of sadistic and misery . When I remember he once stepped on me 😢😢
This message confirms a decision I made last week to not respond to a friend from the past. I didn’t even read entire message. Just swiped delete. Another message came days later and did the same. Energies I’ve allowed to be given away in years of my life are now energies going into me now. I don’t do this flippantly or pretend to know it all as I’m sorting through this ongoing journey of growing healthier. There are simply people and situations that do not benefit our lives and I’m not willing to even give them any reaction anymore. Thank you so much. ❤🙏
I know how you feel. I finally broke my silence about my Brother who criticizes me EVERYDAY for anything and everything I do. I take care of him. Just wanted you to know I couldn't take it anymore. I FINALLY let it out. I'm sorry what you went thru. (Going thru). ⚘️⚘️🙏🕊💗
@@jannlewandowski5540 good for you Jann! 💪 that was probably very difficult, but you should be proud of yourself! I feel more at peace with my decisions to leave more situations and people just be and I move forward (sometimes that means I have to gray rock or block but I’m okay with it). Blessings to you! 💖🙏
Like most narcissists, my own played the reaction game just like he played the blame game. I have already compassionately told him, "No." I had, too, because of my fear of his pattern of rage and anger. He never texts me but comes in person - scary! At last, I am now empowered, confident, and healing. I will never leave my spiritual path - that's my reaction. ♥
No contact all the way. The kids and I ended up homeless, bankrupt and a paper bag full of dog shit in the rain was better off. With GRIT you can get through this! Don't give in, don't give up. I don't know how else to put it. There is joy at every moment. You just gotta wanna see it. Look back where you were in your journal 1, 2 ,5, 10 yrs there have been improvements no matter how small it may seem. I keep life simple. It's not what I lost materialy but what I've spiritaly gained. When everything is awesome nothing sucks. Thanks Andrew
Yes. I have narcissistic family members who make small jabs and passive-aggressive remarks in the form of jokes. Others may laugh--which is also a reaction the narc seeks in order to feel good about themselves--but I don't show any reaction because I disapprove of their behavior (even though I'm boiling inside). And because they get nothing out of me, they don't talk to me. This is perfectly fine because I've been burned by colleagues, which opened my eyes to wolves in sheep's clothing (narcissists and other toxic people) and how it also exists in my family and circle of friends.
Wow! I'm so thankful for your video! I have been dealing with a narcissist for 6 months. I left him and moved to a different state. The best decision I have ever made. He's angry for what I did and keeps messaging me on social media. He's been stalking me on social media in numerous different accounts. He thinks he's hurting me with his sharp words, but he's not! I know better, I know it's his anger, and he's trying to hurt my feelings by creating bedtime stories that he created in his head. The stories about me that he created in his head and believes them. I know my life, but apparently, he knows my past better..lol Somehow, he knows everything about my past..so he thinks I'm wrong about everything. I literally started laughing about everything he said, I realized he couldn't hurt me because..thank God I know that he can't hurt me with his lies and the untrue stories that he made up in his sick head just to hurt me. I don't respond to his messages. I keep quiet. You're amazing & I'm truly thankful for your videos. I have never dealt with narcissists before. He's first, but it's ok because I'm learning something new about certain people that I did not know they existed. Again, thank you 😊 Enjoy your day! God Bless 🙌 🙏 ❤️
Andrew, I watch your videos on the weekend. Just recently started doing this. You have helped me make sense of my past. I am one of those who never really suspected I was married to a narcissist. None of it made sense. I am free, but your videos bring me so much peace. Blessings to you and all who watch your videos! 💐🥰
Andrew, this is my story for the past 4 years. I left my narcissist fiance 12.3 years ago. I thought everything was over. My biggest SHOCK of my life. (and NEVER admitted it) was my own family member, MY BROTHER! YES, for the past 4 years i have been taking a lot of criticism, name calling, and you name it. I've been taking care of him since he had a heart attack in 2021. He was unresponsive for 3 minutes. I was a mess! What's been going on is even worse. He's abusive (mentally) and i nursed him back from a sever back problem. Helping a 6'4" man up from a chair is no fun when you're only 5'4" and God helped me. My Guardian Angel watched over me. Now that he's FINALLY better, the abuse goes on. I have tried to get him to leave, but he's on Disability and i am his caregiver. I DON'T LOVE HIM! HE IS A FULL BLOWN NARCISSIST and he gets no reaction from me. The name calling, the way i drive, the way i do EVERYTHING is criticized. I don't react. It KILLS me inside, but i am silent. Sometimes I want to just smack the hell out of him, but i don't fight Devils. I never spoke of this before, but today i almost explided! I didn't! I took it in, as usual. You get over one narc, then you realize someone you're living with is also a narc. HE IS MEAN! VERY MEAN! I know what all of you are going thru living with a narc, but i never acknowledged it until now. I do know how you feel living with narcs. I don't know how long this is going to last with caring for him, but i did receive phone numbers for help, which i will call tomorrow. I NEVER would believe that your own family members would be narcs. It HURTS! My little Brother who i LOVED at one time, is a MONSTER! I pray every night at bedtime, asking for PEACE for my heart. God bless you all, and THANK YOU ANDREW FOR BEING YOU..I LOVE YOU!❤🙏🙏🕊🕊
It IS heartbreaking, Jann, when you come to the realization that blood relatives are narcs 😞😞😞 It’s _definitely_ hard to live with on a daily basis. For me, personally, the hardest part lately has been the constant invalidation… like nothing I’m going through matters.
@@jennifernewton4637 Jennifer, I am so sorry what you're going thru. I NEVER wanted to admit that my Brother was a narc. Like an idiot, I shrugged it off! Yesterday really did it! I felt like slapping the hell out of him. The name calling, the criticism I endured, and I nursed him back to health! Ugh. I will be fine. I'm just sad, but I keep busy. THANK YOU FOR WRITING BACK!! ❤️❤️⚘️⚘️😊🫠
It is so hard to wrap your head around the total disregard for other people. The lack of empathy is very disturbing. I couldn't believe someone could think and act so hatefully. Where there is Love in a Heart, there is no room for hate. I could never wish Ill will on someone else! My Heart truly goes out for people who are dealing or have dealt with this most abusive behavior. I am one of the Lucky ones who have healed. However, it is so nice to Lend any support for others in anyway we can. Thank You for doing your part with this channel Andrew! Using your own experiences to help others is very admirable.
I exhibited reactive abuse on about 5 major times in my life from several different narcs. I still feel shame from it on occasion, however, I had a counselor tell me that it was not my fault, that I was pushed to my breaking point by taking the abuse for so very long. It took me time to understand that because I was blamed by family and friends, not the narcs. I became the "bad person." Anyway, I'm 62 now and know what it was and that it was reactive abuse, and those people are out of my life!
EVERYTHING IN THIS VIDEO. EVERYTHING!! HE DID EVERYTHING. I ended the relationship, now im the bad guy 🫠 He was waiting for me to do that on my own, so he seems the poor creature. Thank you Andrew, this video helped a lot, and explained EVERY SINGLE THING. Namaste. 🙏🏼
I was on a first date with a handsome and conceited younger man that was flirting with our waitress in the restaurant. When he asked the waitress for her phone number I waited until after were almost finishing dinner and excused myself to go to the ladies room. Instead I sneaked out and grabbed a taxi to my sister’s home and left him to find a way to pay the same waitress for the bill. After we arrived in the restaurant he opened his wallet and pretended to have lost his credit card and was carrying a $10 bill and asked if I could cover dinner. At that point I was thinking he probably does this scam all the time.
Yes it's the weirdest thing. I've noticed that it happens when things are going well or if you're in the middle of a task when your focus isn't on them. It does disrupt your energy. It also has other layers - like it's a no win situation, for instance if you down tools and give them attention - they are still being provoking.
The terrible and annoying is, they sized you and think you’ll never change, like there is no tomorrow. The worse is, they argue saying you like this you don’t like that !! They decide what you like or want. They are really crazy !!!
I like to think of them as a dry sponge and I’m liquid. I want the sponge to remain dry so I don’t give it any liquid. Eventually the sponge will be so dry it will turn to dust. 😊
My husband has hardly spoken to me in four years because I got sick. He's comes home and acts like I don't exist. He lives with his mother. He feels as though he can't live without her! Talk about toxic! He did me a favor by not talking to me because now I can see the truth. I've learned so much about narcissism and this channel is very helpful as well. Thank you.
I love this channel so much! Everything is absolutely true. The abuse, the poor behavior, them playing the role of the victim and wearing you off. This opened my eyes, everything is so clear, my narc ex checked all the boxes, she double checked them. Unfortunately I took the hoover bate 1 time already, but these videos really make me stronger, I can feel it Thank you for all the advice Andrew, god bless you my friend!
The woman nearly did me in. Never would I think that I would be involved with a 'thing' like that.. Bingo on tolerating. I felt like I was imploding. How could a street wise guy like me, put up with that. Praise the Lord Jesus that I saw what this woman was all about. Thank you Andrew for helping people to overcome such destructive people. God Bless.
Totally Andrew with the reaction, I Finally saw my narcissist dad for who he is he finally shattered his mask to me with actually seeing the truth with the second life he lives and I’m currently shattered knowing that this is the same person he cheated on the family with. I saw him at 4:15 the other day at a local bar that he told me on Sunday he wants to go to and guess what he did, he dressed down to golf clothes he wears on the weekends and kissed this person his new supply on the mouth in front of the bar outside while he gaslights me everyday saying he’s at work till 6-8 latest and I knew exactly who this person was. The same person he said I love you to on the phone in the relationship pre divorce with my mom when I confronted him about it at the time he said it was a family member and not of concern when I heard the voice it was the same voice this person I saw him kiss and it was that person his new supply. I’m so over the lies he’s been pushing to me daily and the rage fits and gaslighting and physical and verbal abuse and I’m ready to quit! it’s one of the toughest things I’m going through but I’m going to hang on despite that and keep moving forward and know that I’m not alone in this!
I was married to one of those things for almost 20 years - and it's true Andrew. This marriage towards the end consisted only of 3 - 5 minute phone calls and days when he wanted to see me - these were rare. I was very angry at the end - but not at this monster - but at myself - for putting up with him showing me more and more how worthless he thought I was. My continued understanding of his poor behavior ended up being highly toxic and damaging to myself. However, it also helped me get out of there with a loud "bang."
Me, too, for about that amount of time. But I also know there were good reasons to stay in it, like not worrying about custody issues, plus then there was the recession and later, covid got in the way. I decided I needed to go before another disaster strikes, though. 🫣
People that may have shared parenting or had, the best way to communicate with the narc, in regards to the child, is text. It gives them less opportunity, to hang up on you, yell at you, create drama, track you! You can respond, without over reacting, when you have to communicate in regards to a child. I went through this in the past, and did'nt have this education. Your knowledge, along with my past, is helping me with my current situations. It takes a lot of strength, to not react to narcs childish, manipulative, twisted behaviors, especially when you are very intuitive to their behaviors. You can see, that they are provoking you, and all the while, they will turn the charm mask on when others are looking, and act as though, they have done nothing. You have to continue moving forward, and avoid narcs, as much as you can. Gray rocking, short responses when you have to. They love that reactive drama scene, don't give it to them. Namaste, strength, love and light🙏🕊🌏🌟🕯🛡
The most terrifying thing I've identified from these narc people is that they are in so much pain they want you to act like them. It almost seems as if it's a self validation for their own misbehavior. I find myself too often doing a self check, making sure the compassion that I offer to individuals is free and requesting nothing in return. I guess it's my attempt to ensure they don't fall prey. Always remember that it's harder to create beauty than to destroy it. Namaste, and thank you for enlightening us with your wisdom.
Everything Andrew said here is true. Been there done that. I dealt with some narcissistic abusive lawyers 4 years ago. I tricked them into believing I was reacting to them as I figured out their game. Little did they know I had already settled the case behind their backs. So I ACTED like a scared little rabbit. It made them so happy. I revealed this behind the scene settlement at the last hearing, gathered my things,showed them the check copy, smiled sardonically and walked out. They were Fukked as they believed their abuse had defeated me. With my family narcissists the lesson with the lawyers carried over to them with an added twist. Narcissists are B-O-R-I-N-G! I cut them off more out of boredom than anything else and I don't want to waste energy even responding to narcissistic repetitive bullshit. Responding still requires an investment of time and energy into someone else's narrative. No thanks. I cut their asses off. Flying monkeys, enablers etc. 1 1/2 years no contact. No emails, no texts, no phone calls, no visits. No contact=No conflict!!! PEACE.
😢my hubby died 16yrs ago, I decided to get out and find a friend,this,is what I get,4 yrs now.He controlled me with suicide threats,now he is threatening me.Thank you for educating me.This is exactly what is going on.
My friend went through the same thing with a narc gf I hope you get a exit plan and leave asap these people will push more and more then the suicidal threats they are dangerous. Record them document everything if you have to report them. Be safe stay strong
We should never accept bad behavior. Just hang up the phone. Do not read the text. Do not explain your self. You are busy living your fantastic life and the narc can not stand this. They hate it. The best you can do is to treat them like they do not exist and never did. Do not look for an explanation, there is none.
I'm a writer and survivor of Narcissistic abuse. I've got many sources of research on Narcissism and I've got to say, Andrew, your channel is by far the best learning experience I've gotten. Thank you! And again, I'm sorry you went through this too. Stay blessed!
I was triangulated...with...kids, bosses, colleagues, (potential office romance - new primary source of supply), friends, etc. HATE it! With time, I learned to become stoic...no point in escalating a bad situation. This made him even madder... He realized I was no longer a fun playmate and discarded me. It hurt...and then I realized I had my LIFE back! I could let go of my ego and needing to be loved by him...there was no love to be found. That is long ago...and far away... A hazy experience...as I have said before, I have spent more time ripping the scab off and letting fresh air, sunshine and this channel heal the wound that I have ignored for years due to other pressing family matters. My turn ....thank you, Andrew! 🙏🏻♥️🙌🏻☀️😎
She sometimes claimed my ACTIONS CAUSED her reactions..i used that line on her they just ignore you.. i went through a reactive abuse scene one night..what a Great actress..
"Spiderweb" of manipulation" is an excellent description of the madness of narc abuse. How could I have not been aware that I was being played like a violin? Rather beaten like a bass drum.
Dang !! Andrew, it’s unbelievable how “ spot on accurate “ you describe the narc behavior. Everything, I mean everything you say is exact. Keep up the great work. Peace🙏
I have reached the point where I absolutely am NOT a YOYO for anyone. I may or may not respond. I know about narcissist 's. Both parents & Husband. NO is a completete sentence. No hoovers allowed,NO. Thank You Andrew, so much 🌿🙏🌿🌺👑
Yep, and every time I’ve reacted previously, I tell myself that’s the very last time I do! Trouble is, it’s not easy not to react. They’re so darn nasty and personal that we find we defend ourselves everytime they kick off. They just push your buttons. I wish I knew how to switch off and not give a damn anymore. I cant always walk away though and maybe that’s the problem. I feel trapped so have to hear to his crap 😔 The other reason not to react, apart from it feeds the narcs power and prolongs their rage, is that nothing we say that’s valid and justified will ever change their behaviour. Once a narc always a narc and I found this out only a couple of years ago, and I’ve been with him 30 years 😖
Nearly one year no contact. He still comes to my house and leaves letters or packages telling me he still loves me. He even came to my job. I have not seen him at all. He will never get a reaction from me. He will never hear my voice again. This parasite does not exist to me. Thank you for your content.
spot on 100%,,,lived through it,,,,been there and done it....finally said no more and dropped her like yesterdays newspaper,,,best thing i ever did.....back stronger than ever....you are not alone,,listen to this mans wise words of wisdom because its the truth....only then you will be able to finally break free
Every word that Andrew has spoken is true. I have lived it over and over. I am 2 years free, as he continues to malign me in the community in spite of no contact during this time. I know he is looking for, as he always did, a reaction.
Your videos have been so much help for me Andrew. And this video is so true. A month after I gave up and broke things off with my narc ex she had a new bf - but continued to hoover me every 3-6 weeks. 6 months later I found someone else and unfriended (not blocked) her from all social media. She messaged me saying that was a very mean thing for me to do and blocked me on everything. Funny thing is she blamed me for the whole thing ending for “moving too fast” when it was her who said she’d come live with me after just 3 dates
Thankyou for explaining reactive abuse. As narc and associates used the dynamic insidiously for dual deceitful purposes. They've used baiting on me. Extreme baiting. Totally sick.
I recently let go of relationship after almost 3 years of total chaos. Every day is work but the level of peace and tranquility I am feeling is AMAZING. I’m getting my LIFE BACK!
I have been divorced for over 10 years. I never understood narcissistic behavior, even thou I heard the word. I thank you for all you do for all of us that went through this torture, and awakening us, to who they really are. They are full of demonic spirits, trying to destroy the light of God in in us. You have woken me up, when I was blind. God bless you forever! 🙏
This is an important teaching. It’s absolutely true. We must not react. Thank you. Everyone in our tribe, keep your spirits up & remember you have others just like you out in the world 🙏🤗
Once you broke up, they will try more than ever to make ypu react to what they do, any way possible.. Get ready for a psicho.. They would even try to sleep with your friends and family.. Stay stoic, get to know who is who and the true colors of everyone around you.. Be strong.. This is the hardest thing ever.. Trauma is here for more...
I agree with you, Andrew. Always response to a narcissist after a very long time. May be after a week, especially if its a narcissistic friend. Better yet don't bother to respond!
Andrew, thank you! Your videos have changed my life! God Bless!
Welcome..😌🙏💜
Walking on egg shells, feels like your home is a prison.
If I'm going to be alone,,,, I might as well be by myself!
God bless everyone healing from these demons hiding in human skin.
“Batting their eyelashes to complete strangers all around the room” made me 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
The ex-narcissist perfected the art of creating a reaction to prove to others that I was acting badly. The ex-narcissist's underlying covert manipulation was not apparent and the flying monkeys would see me get upset while the narcissist was cool and seemingly innocent. I am now free of this insanity.
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absolutely....mine would be rude or pick a fight right before we were going to an event to make my reaction appear the one who was upset to others...finally learned to not react but man what a set up he did.. I also witnessed it with his kids..a provoker and a coward
@@ArtistNorth Easy to understand what was happening, after having gotten educated, looking back. The art of manipulation. I looked sour and moody to the outside world.
@@malibu90265 yes it was amazing to look back and realize all the time it was a set up....that coolness sometimes is bordering on sociopathic
@@ArtistNorth My ex-narcissist was a sociopath, addict and had some underlying mental illness. These conditions really took hold during the course of our relationship, but looking back to the beginning, I see the seeds and red flags. Be well.
I am right in the middle of the fight of my life., prayers needed, I’ve been discarded,replaced, and he’s smeared my name beyond anything I could have ever imagined, it’s heartbreaking, but I will continue to fight til the end, asking for all the prayers I can get, he’s done the most horrific things n accusing me of everything, suing me, I quit working years ago n I’ve been isolated for years. God Bless all!,,
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Sending hugs. I've started to wonder if narcissists keep lawyers in business.
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I was discarded a month ago too and they have completely moved on with their life already and yet I’m here to pick up the pieces. Im not letting him ruin my life and making me chase him!
They feed off of our reactions like a leech. It's demonic and so evil what they do! God bless everyone. ✝️🙏 Stay strong!! Thank you Andrew have a blessed day!!!✝️🙏🤍🕊️
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Put a show on and always have fun around them but never include them
“Respond don’t react”, I love this Andrew, great advice!!!
The narcissist loves to get reactions from you, it boosts their fragile ego, they feed on your attention. Starve them!
My response is NO response. At all !
Thats all they want dont give them one even then they still act out best go no contact
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No contact!! He still does drive byes! I don't know his friends so no flying monkeys, he will have to do his own stalking.. Stand strong! Thanks..
Narcissists are BRILLIANT at figuring out ways to make you the “bad guy”
I stopped reacting to his infidelity and and he tried even harder to get reaction out of me. Really opened my eyes to the fact that he doesn't love me. He said I was pushing him away when i stopped reacting to triangulation. He needed me to be jealous of other women to prove that I love him. I'm happier loving myself
Need to go on a narcissist recovery cruise.
I thought I was ready in my life to start a romantic relationship, the narcissist could sense this, but couldn't get off the ground with the narcissist because the red flags were too strong and I slowly started listening to my instincts despite being in the fog of the love bomb stage. I know I dodged a massive bullet despite having no experience with dating. It's like almost getting run over by a dump truck when you barely have one foot out the door...
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Thank God your discernment took you down the right path. God Bless!
I'm so happy you didn't ignore red flags. I did,... got me into a toxic relationship which lasted for far too many years.
@@sylviaamodeo7090 I'm by no means completely rid of the narcissist unfortunately. She knows a lot of people I still talk to and I'm sure she gets info when she wants it. But I have the advantage because I know she's a narc and have seen her real face, (through a gift from God), and will no longer play along. The only thing I feel I lost was some time, but worth the incredible learning experience and the new skill in detecting a real, dangerous narcissist. I feel that I am immune for life now thanks to the education from videos like Andrew's and their comment sections. I'm sorry that you're a victim of one and from reading other's stories it's truly frightening what these creatures are capable of...
They like to talk about you behind your back. And they only tell others there version of what they want to tell them.
I remember one time in my relationship I got a text from my ex saying “I’ve been trying to call you for 45 minutes. I’m giving up and going to bed”. I called her back and told her I had 0 missed calls and no voicemails. “Oh, there must be something wrong with your phone”. My phone was pretty new at the time. There was nothing wrong with it.
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Give her a phone, where you got parental monitoring , at the time she said she was calling, she likely had another source she was playing.
@@archiehendricks6093 Oh I found out after the relationship she was talking to her first bf from 15 yrs ago the whole time. Not to mention she never got divorced like she promised me she would. It was a LDR.
@@emilykathleenn I know that now. Wish I did at the time, but it was definitely weird.
@@archiehendricks6093 She had a refurbished Galaxy S9 that she would never replace. Finally killed that battery for good and turns up with a Flip Z in November, switched from
Verizon to T-Mobile (they had a special going on at the time).
When we are talking about a relationship with a narcissist, it is much more important to understand yourself than the narcissist. We wonder why we were so receptive to theirs love bombing?
Only by working on ourselves we take away their power from narcissists.
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Yes. Why the love bombing impacts some so tremendously? I figured the unknowing recipient had a ton of love, romantic notions and a beautiful imagination- not the narc.
The narc was skilled at fashioning fishing lures.All is not lost, despite the damage. That
beautiful imagination of a better life and a healthier, self-protective caution can still grow.
@@jhavajoe3792 It was all (love bombing) too much for me, too intense, terribly exhausting. And his immature statements, and he only knew me for a few days.
@@jhavajoe3792 "Man tries harder to protect himself than to encounter joy." S. Freud
@Ruby Jet. I agree with you. Working on ourselves is the key. 😊
“One Way Relationships to Destructionsville “ best line ever!
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Newbies: I hoped things would improve for 33 years. Please never hope for dreamed potential. He forced me to legally end it. Love yourself, dear ones.❣️
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Bread crumbing is another excellent way to get a response. Promising something then not delivering. . . hoping to get an emotional heated response. I'm learning to see this for what it is and I have to say while it's still frustrating. . . now that I know why it's happening it's almost a game. Thank you for your excellent vids. It's therapy for me everyday.
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That’s how I’m seeing it, as a game, my narc doesn’t know it yet…but since finding Andrew I’m Winning!
Breadcrumbs every day, and moving the goal on the big stuff.
I recently realized this myself too, and I'm now feeling a Lot better about everything, having "Taken My Power Back." I'm No Longer Reacting, just giving Myself Every Good Moment I Can, and Not Fixating on the Narcissist, who just happens to be my adult daughter. Not living with me, thank goodness.
The text thing is so spot on...
It's heartbreaking knowing that you mean so little to someone for whom you would do anything...
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They reply when they want.
Being disgaurded is a blessing in disguise !!! It gives you a chance to escape these monsters !!! Heel your childhood trauma so they can’t ever hurt you again !!! It’s the only way . When you heel yourself you will look back and go … wtf was I thinking
They complain about things they have missing and will rant and rave about it. It is BS.
One of the narcissists I dealt with used to love to push my buttons, until I finally told them off, then would respond with "kewl" or "Lighten up Francis" or some other man-child arrogant remark. It used to make me so upset to see them posting how Godly and goodly they were on group pages, when i knew how awful a person they really were behind the mask. Once I stopped reacting from emotion, and blocked them, it was empowering.
Side note..look great in green Andrew. 💚🌿☘️
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@@emilykathleenn exactly!! Mine would say all kinds of nasty things about the person who ran this group (who is a major influencer on one of the social media sites), but then turn around and act all Godly for status, and new unsuspecting supply. Money and status is all they care about!
I was discarded 3 days ago. The stress has gotten me sick. I am hurting so bad… I would do anything for this person. I am completely in love and he scoffed when I told him as he discarded me and told me he is dating someone else. This pain is unbearable and I am living off of Andrew’s videos.
When the gaslighting starts, say “If that’s the way you feel then that’s the way you feel.” Or “If that’s what you think then that’s what you think.” Watch them go berserk!
The narcissist would text his kids. His friends. His co workers. Everyone but me. Made me feel so insignificant. And when I brought it up he twisted it on me.
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Same here. When I brought it up, I was told that I was being a psycho...?
Never could understand why she would take 4-5 hrs to answer my texts, when everytime she was with me she was never off her phone texting her colleagues or male friends. Insane thing is you start believing that it's yourself that's crazy...
Since I've learned gray rock it's gotten so fun!People who used to expect a big bunch of reactive abuse are stu😮nned and speechless when you're quiet and don't react.Then they'll go farther to try to get some reaction Then they'll start trying to call the cops on you and call you things you wouldn't call a dog, ramp up the smear campaign find out who your friends are and go talk to them. They'll call your boss. Try stuff that used to really bother me but now I figure somebody that can be a flying monkey for a narcissist listen to lies about me is not my friend. No loss
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You are doing so well! You have a handle on it and in the driver's seat! 👏 yes the smear campaign is despicable! Good riddance!
Yes!
There is nothing like literally smelling the steam coming out of their ears as they're trying to provoke me to do REACTIVE ABUSE over the telephone while pretending to be calm, while I don't take the bait. (You can just tell from the micro intonations of voice inflection on the telephone!) 😄
Why just gray rock? Why not go no contact?
This is so true, once I told the narcissist I loved him I got the smirk and the devaluation began. I had not been in contact with him for over a year, however, recently I was in contact and he had got so much worse said things he wanted me to react to, but I had wised up and never reacted, now it’s back to being silent and that’s the best place for these monsters.
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I’m so glad these narcs are getting called on their toxic behavior people are wising up!
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He's trying to make me feel bad for bringing up that he treats me bad and trying to put up boundaries.
I feel like they get upset that you called them out. They just want you to deal with it.
I've been alone over 11 years now, but I'm totally fine with that. I'm a total introvert and I don't need a mate.
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Blessings to everyone reading this post. No contact means, we do respond to any attempt to reconnect. Not responding to a hoover means you DO NOT contact the narcissist to tell the to stop or not to contact you again. You just ignore the hoover and find a way to block that avenue or path that was used to get to you again Is a relapse on our healing and it could open the door to a very dangerous emotional set back. Once freed from that person, stay out, do not walk back into the cage.
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Went no contact 4 months ago 😊 best thing ever
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Your daily words and a cup of coffee- Boom, I'm back into accumulating flight hrs. training, post Narc unawareness. My habits and mindset won't change overnight. I never want to tolerate shifty, cowardly and abusive tactics from anyone or fly blindly in a fog.👍🙏
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It is advisable to view his videos more than once .It helps make a new grove in your brain. I listen to each one at lease 4 times
True. They cannot survive without having your attention.💯💙🤚
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One of the last things my narcissist said to me was that she never loved me, and that she only dated me because she felt pressured by me. We dated on and off for YEARS. I legitimately never expected anything past a friendship with her until she initiated it. I was surprised by it. I hate to say it but I think what she really meant was "I never loved you, I needed a supply of validation until my mask fell off"
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Their whole world is social media. It's pathetic. Who they are on social media is NOT who they are in real life.
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in my case, i should have trusted what his social media said about him. it was mostly partying and girls lol i unfortunately gave him the benefit of the doubt.
You are God sent . Just yesterday got a hoover via text. 24 hours later I am so glad at my healing progress..I didn't respond as would have years back. I need nothing to do with that sense of sadistic and misery . When I remember he once stepped on me 😢😢
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This message confirms a decision I made last week to not respond to a friend from the past. I didn’t even read entire message. Just swiped delete. Another message came days later and did the same. Energies I’ve allowed to be given away in years of my life are now energies going into me now. I don’t do this flippantly or pretend to know it all as I’m sorting through this ongoing journey of growing healthier. There are simply people and situations that do not benefit our lives and I’m not willing to even give them any reaction anymore. Thank you so much. ❤🙏
Wow, that's major. Inspiring!
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I know how you feel. I finally broke my silence about my Brother who criticizes me EVERYDAY for anything and everything I do. I take care of him. Just wanted you to know I couldn't take it anymore. I FINALLY let it out. I'm sorry what you went thru. (Going thru). ⚘️⚘️🙏🕊💗
Good job!❤
@@jannlewandowski5540 good for you Jann! 💪 that was probably very difficult, but you should be proud of yourself! I feel more at peace with my decisions to leave more situations and people just be and I move forward (sometimes that means I have to gray rock or block but I’m okay with it). Blessings to you! 💖🙏
This host is done feeding evil parasites! Praise God. Thank you Andrew! Blessings!
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Like most narcissists, my own played the reaction game just like he played the blame game. I have already compassionately told him, "No." I had, too, because of my fear of his pattern of rage and anger. He never texts me but comes in person - scary! At last, I am now empowered, confident, and healing. I will never leave my spiritual path - that's my reaction. ♥
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No contact all the way. The kids and I ended up homeless, bankrupt and a paper bag full of dog shit in the rain was better off. With GRIT you can get through this! Don't give in, don't give up. I don't know how else to put it. There is joy at every moment. You just gotta wanna see it. Look back where you were in your journal 1, 2 ,5, 10 yrs there have been improvements no matter how small it may seem. I keep life simple. It's not what I lost materialy but what I've spiritaly gained. When everything is awesome nothing sucks. Thanks Andrew
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Yes. I have narcissistic family members who make small jabs and passive-aggressive remarks in the form of jokes. Others may laugh--which is also a reaction the narc seeks in order to feel good about themselves--but I don't show any reaction because I disapprove of their behavior (even though I'm boiling inside). And because they get nothing out of me, they don't talk to me. This is perfectly fine because I've been burned by colleagues, which opened my eyes to wolves in sheep's clothing (narcissists and other toxic people) and how it also exists in my family and circle of friends.
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Funniest line, Andrew, "... their little pea brain movie..." 😅 Thank you for your priceless daily service.
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@@emilywilson7308 pea brain movie 📽 LOL!
@@margueritebaca3921 He's so right about that!
@@emilywilson7308 Yes! He's helping us identify the signs of upcoming episodes of drama ... 🍿🍿🍿😂😂🤣 Let them go someplace else for their audience.
Wow! I'm so thankful for your video! I have been dealing with a narcissist for 6 months. I left him and moved to a different state. The best decision I have ever made. He's angry for what I did and keeps messaging me on social media. He's been stalking me on social media in numerous different accounts. He thinks he's hurting me with his sharp words, but he's not! I know better, I know it's his anger, and he's trying to hurt my feelings by creating bedtime stories that he created in his head. The stories about me that he created in his head and believes them. I know my life, but apparently, he knows my past better..lol Somehow, he knows everything about my past..so he thinks I'm wrong about everything. I literally started laughing about everything he said, I realized he couldn't hurt me because..thank God I know that he can't hurt me with his lies and the untrue stories that he made up in his sick head just to hurt me. I don't respond to his messages. I keep quiet. You're amazing & I'm truly thankful for your videos. I have never dealt with narcissists before. He's first, but it's ok because I'm learning something new about certain people that I did not know they existed. Again, thank you 😊 Enjoy your day! God Bless 🙌 🙏 ❤️
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Andrew, I watch your videos on the weekend. Just recently started doing this. You have helped me make sense of my past. I am one of those who never really suspected I was married to a narcissist. None of it made sense. I am free, but your videos bring me so much peace. Blessings to you and all who watch your videos! 💐🥰
Andrew, this is my story for the past 4 years. I left my narcissist fiance 12.3 years ago. I thought everything was over. My biggest SHOCK of my life. (and NEVER admitted it) was my own family member, MY BROTHER! YES, for the past 4 years i have been taking a lot of criticism, name calling, and you name it. I've been taking care of him since he had a heart attack in 2021. He was unresponsive for 3 minutes. I was a mess! What's been going on is even worse. He's abusive (mentally) and i nursed him back from a sever back problem. Helping a 6'4" man up from a chair is no fun when you're only 5'4" and God helped me. My Guardian Angel watched over me. Now that he's FINALLY better, the abuse goes on. I have tried to get him to leave, but he's on Disability and i am his caregiver. I DON'T LOVE HIM! HE IS A FULL BLOWN NARCISSIST and he gets no reaction from me. The name calling, the way i drive, the way i do EVERYTHING is criticized. I don't react. It KILLS me inside, but i am silent. Sometimes I want to just smack the hell out of him, but i don't fight Devils. I never spoke of this before, but today i almost explided! I didn't! I took it in, as usual.
You get over one narc, then you realize someone you're living with is also a narc. HE IS MEAN! VERY MEAN! I know what all of you are going thru living with a narc, but i never acknowledged it until now. I do know how you feel living with narcs. I don't know how long this is going to last with caring for him, but i did receive phone numbers for help, which i will call tomorrow. I NEVER would believe that your own family members would be narcs. It HURTS! My little Brother who i LOVED at one time, is a MONSTER! I pray every night at bedtime, asking for PEACE for my heart. God bless you all, and THANK YOU ANDREW FOR BEING YOU..I LOVE YOU!❤🙏🙏🕊🕊
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@NARCDAILY -You Are Not Alone I am totally HEARTBROKEN!
It IS heartbreaking, Jann, when you come to the realization that blood relatives are narcs 😞😞😞 It’s _definitely_ hard to live with on a daily basis. For me, personally, the hardest part lately has been the constant invalidation… like nothing I’m going through matters.
@@jennifernewton4637 Jennifer, I am so sorry what you're going thru. I NEVER wanted to admit that my Brother was a narc. Like an idiot, I shrugged it off! Yesterday really did it! I felt like slapping the hell out of him. The name calling, the criticism I endured, and I nursed him back to health! Ugh. I will be fine. I'm just sad, but I keep busy.
THANK YOU FOR WRITING BACK!! ❤️❤️⚘️⚘️😊🫠
@@jannlewandowski5540 Of course, Jann 😊😊😊 🤗🩷🤗🩷🤗🩷🤗
It is so hard to wrap your head around the total disregard for other people. The lack of empathy is very disturbing. I couldn't believe someone could think and act so hatefully. Where there is Love in a Heart, there is no room for hate. I could never wish Ill will on someone else! My Heart truly goes out for people who are dealing or have dealt with this most abusive behavior.
I am one of the Lucky ones who have healed. However, it is so nice to Lend any support for others in anyway we can.
Thank You for doing your part with this channel Andrew! Using your own experiences to help others is very admirable.
Our REACTION now should be:
We are living our best life.
Thats the best revenge.
Thx Andrew, everything green that looks beautiful.🌿🌳😊❤
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I exhibited reactive abuse on about 5 major times in my life from several different narcs. I still feel shame from it on occasion, however, I had a counselor tell me that it was not my fault, that I was pushed to my breaking point by taking the abuse for so very long. It took me time to understand that because I was blamed by family and friends, not the narcs. I became the "bad person." Anyway, I'm 62 now and know what it was and that it was reactive abuse, and those people are out of my life!
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EVERYTHING IN THIS VIDEO. EVERYTHING!! HE DID EVERYTHING.
I ended the relationship, now im the bad guy 🫠 He was waiting for me to do that on my own, so he seems the poor creature.
Thank you Andrew, this video helped a lot, and explained EVERY SINGLE THING.
Namaste. 🙏🏼
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I was on a first date with a handsome and conceited younger man that was flirting with our waitress in the restaurant. When he asked the waitress for her phone number I waited until after were almost finishing dinner and excused myself to go to the ladies room. Instead I sneaked out and grabbed a taxi to my sister’s home and left him to find a way to pay the same waitress for the bill. After we arrived in the restaurant he opened his wallet and pretended to have lost his credit card and was carrying a $10 bill and asked if I could cover dinner. At that point I was thinking he probably does this scam all the time.
🤮 i m disgust - good for you you went away right away!
Yes it's the weirdest thing. I've noticed that it happens when things are going well or if you're in the middle of a task when your focus isn't on them. It does disrupt your energy. It also has other layers - like it's a no win situation, for instance if you down tools and give them attention - they are still being provoking.
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The terrible and annoying is, they sized you and think you’ll never change, like there is no tomorrow. The worse is, they argue saying you like this you don’t like that !! They decide what you like or want. They are really crazy !!!
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I like to think of them as a dry sponge and I’m liquid. I want the sponge to remain dry so I don’t give it any liquid. Eventually the sponge will be so dry it will turn to dust. 😊
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My husband has hardly spoken to me in four years because I got sick. He's comes home and acts like I don't exist. He lives with his mother. He feels as though he can't live without her! Talk about toxic! He did me a favor by not talking to me because now I can see the truth. I've learned so much about narcissism and this channel is very helpful as well. Thank you.
I love this channel so much! Everything is absolutely true.
The abuse, the poor behavior, them playing the role of the victim and wearing you off. This opened my eyes, everything is so clear, my narc ex checked all the boxes, she double checked them.
Unfortunately I took the hoover bate 1 time already, but these videos really make me stronger, I can feel it
Thank you for all the advice Andrew, god bless you my friend!
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The woman nearly did me in. Never would I think that I would be involved with a 'thing' like that.. Bingo on tolerating. I felt like I was imploding. How could a street wise guy like me, put up with that. Praise the Lord Jesus that I saw what this woman was all about. Thank you Andrew for helping people to overcome such destructive people. God Bless.
Totally Andrew with the reaction, I Finally saw my narcissist dad for who he is he finally shattered his mask to me with actually seeing the truth with the second life he lives and I’m currently shattered knowing that this is the same person he cheated on the family with. I saw him at 4:15 the other day at a local bar that he told me on Sunday he wants to go to and guess what he did, he dressed down to golf clothes he wears on the weekends and kissed this person his new supply on the mouth in front of the bar outside while he gaslights me everyday saying he’s at work till 6-8 latest and I knew exactly who this person was. The same person he said I love you to on the phone in the relationship pre divorce with my mom when I confronted him about it at the time he said it was a family member and not of concern when I heard the voice it was the same voice this person I saw him kiss and it was that person his new supply. I’m so over the lies he’s been pushing to me daily and the rage fits and gaslighting and physical and verbal abuse and I’m ready to quit! it’s one of the toughest things I’m going through but I’m going to hang on despite that and keep moving forward and know that I’m not alone in this!
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I was married to one of those things for almost 20 years - and it's true Andrew.
This marriage towards the end consisted only of 3 - 5 minute phone calls and days when he wanted to see me - these were rare.
I was very angry at the end - but not at this monster - but at myself - for putting up with him showing me more and more how worthless he thought I was. My continued understanding of his poor behavior ended up being highly toxic and damaging to myself.
However, it also helped me get out of there with a loud "bang."
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Me too, I have children and I dont like to hear his voice,when he calls my child .No contact is Best, by court it is not possible
Me, too, for about that amount of time. But I also know there were good reasons to stay in it, like not worrying about custody issues, plus then there was the recession and later, covid got in the way. I decided I needed to go before another disaster strikes, though. 🫣
They are sneaky and such big liars!!
People that may have shared parenting or had, the best way to communicate with the narc, in regards to the child, is text. It gives them less opportunity, to hang up on you, yell at you, create drama, track you! You can respond, without over reacting, when you have to communicate in regards to a child. I went through this in the past, and did'nt have this education. Your knowledge, along with my past, is helping me with my current situations. It takes a lot of strength, to not react to narcs childish, manipulative, twisted behaviors, especially when you are very intuitive to their behaviors. You can see, that they are provoking you, and all the while, they will turn the charm mask on when others are looking, and act as though, they have done nothing. You have to continue moving forward, and avoid narcs, as much as you can. Gray rocking, short responses when you have to. They love that reactive drama scene, don't give it to them. Namaste, strength, love and light🙏🕊🌏🌟🕯🛡
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Uncanny timing! Thank you, Coach Andrew! 🙌✨🌟🥇🌞💪
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Haha I’ve always thought Andrew has IMPECCABLE timing with his messages 😉👍👍
Wow this is exactly what I had been going through. Crazy 😢
The most terrifying thing I've identified from these narc people is that they are in so much pain they want you to act like them. It almost seems as if it's a self validation for their own misbehavior. I find myself too often doing a self check, making sure the compassion that I offer to individuals is free and requesting nothing in return. I guess it's my attempt to ensure they don't fall prey. Always remember that it's harder to create beauty than to destroy it. Namaste, and thank you for enlightening us with your wisdom.
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Everything Andrew said here is true. Been there done that. I dealt with some narcissistic abusive lawyers 4 years ago. I tricked them into believing I was reacting to them as I figured out their game.
Little did they know I had already settled the case behind their backs. So I ACTED like a scared little rabbit. It made them so happy.
I revealed this behind the scene settlement at the last hearing, gathered my things,showed them the check copy, smiled sardonically and walked out. They were Fukked as they believed their abuse had defeated me.
With my family narcissists the lesson with the lawyers carried over to them with an added twist.
Narcissists are B-O-R-I-N-G!
I cut them off more out of boredom than anything else and I don't want to waste energy even responding to narcissistic repetitive bullshit.
Responding still requires an investment of time and energy into someone else's narrative.
No thanks.
I cut their asses off. Flying monkeys, enablers etc. 1 1/2 years no contact. No emails, no texts, no phone calls, no visits.
No contact=No conflict!!!
PEACE.
I don’t want to be discarded and abused emotionally verbally mentally and physically anymore…
😢my hubby died 16yrs ago, I decided to get out and find a friend,this,is what I get,4 yrs now.He controlled me with suicide threats,now he is threatening me.Thank you for educating me.This is exactly what is going on.
My friend went through the same thing with a narc gf I hope you get a exit plan and leave asap these people will push more and more then the suicidal threats they are dangerous. Record them document everything if you have to report them. Be safe stay strong
Narcissists will create drama AND talk badly about you behind your back.
My prayers are with you.
You say the words you never thought you will say..
'In time, in your time, you will heal.' 💚
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They hoovered me after 7 weeks. And i fell for it.
Yes Sir this is happening to me now and have to be better than I have been for self to be a better person for self 🙏
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We should never accept bad behavior. Just hang up the phone. Do not read the text. Do not explain your self. You are busy living your fantastic life and the narc can not stand this. They hate it. The best you can do is to treat them like they do not exist and never did. Do not look for an explanation, there is none.
I'm a writer and survivor of Narcissistic abuse. I've got many sources of research on Narcissism and I've got to say, Andrew, your channel is by far the best learning experience I've gotten. Thank you! And again, I'm sorry you went through this too. Stay blessed!
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I was triangulated...with...kids, bosses, colleagues, (potential office romance - new primary source of supply), friends, etc.
HATE it!
With time, I learned to become stoic...no point in escalating a bad situation. This made him even madder...
He realized I was no longer a fun playmate and discarded me.
It hurt...and then I realized I had my LIFE back! I could let go of my ego and needing to be loved by him...there was no love to be found.
That is long ago...and far away...
A hazy experience...as I have said before, I have spent more time ripping the scab off and letting fresh air, sunshine and this channel heal the wound that I have ignored for years due to other pressing family matters.
My turn ....thank you, Andrew!
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They are so nauseating I’m out 15 months today!!😊
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She sometimes claimed my ACTIONS CAUSED her reactions..i used that line on her they just ignore you.. i went through a reactive abuse scene one night..what a Great actress..
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This same thing happened to me last Saturday and was ready to shut down the narcissist
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Brother you know what you're talking about. Thank you!!!!!.
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No contact, and blocking them is the only way to heal.
"Spiderweb" of manipulation" is an excellent description of the madness of narc abuse. How could I have not been aware that I was being played like a violin? Rather beaten like a bass drum.
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Dang !! Andrew, it’s unbelievable how “ spot on accurate “ you describe the narc behavior. Everything, I mean everything you say is exact. Keep up the great work. Peace🙏
I have reached the point where I absolutely am NOT a YOYO for anyone. I may or may not respond. I know about narcissist 's. Both parents & Husband. NO is a completete sentence. No hoovers allowed,NO. Thank You Andrew, so much 🌿🙏🌿🌺👑
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Yep, and every time I’ve reacted previously, I tell myself that’s the very last time I do! Trouble is, it’s not easy not to react. They’re so darn nasty and personal that we find we defend ourselves everytime they kick off. They just push your buttons. I wish I knew how to switch off and not give a damn anymore. I cant always walk away though and maybe that’s the problem. I feel trapped so have to hear to his crap 😔 The other reason not to react, apart from it feeds the narcs power and prolongs their rage, is that nothing we say that’s valid and justified will ever change their behaviour. Once a narc always a narc and I found this out only a couple of years ago, and I’ve been with him 30 years 😖
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Nearly one year no contact. He still comes to my house and leaves letters or packages telling me he still loves me. He even came to my job. I have not seen him at all. He will never get a reaction from me. He will never hear my voice again. This parasite does not exist to me. Thank you for your content.
spot on 100%,,,lived through it,,,,been there and done it....finally said no more and dropped her like yesterdays newspaper,,,best thing i ever did.....back stronger than ever....you are not alone,,listen to this mans wise words of wisdom because its the truth....only then you will be able to finally break free
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Every word that Andrew has spoken is true. I have lived it over and over. I am 2 years free, as he continues to malign me in the community in spite of no contact during this time. I know he is looking for, as he always did, a reaction.
Your videos have been so much help for me Andrew. And this video is so true.
A month after I gave up and broke things off with my narc ex she had a new bf - but continued to hoover me every 3-6 weeks. 6 months later I found someone else and unfriended (not blocked) her from all social media. She messaged me saying that was a very mean thing for me to do and blocked me on everything. Funny thing is she blamed me for the whole thing ending for “moving too fast” when it was her who said she’d come live with me after just 3 dates
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Thankyou for explaining reactive abuse. As narc and associates used the dynamic insidiously for dual deceitful purposes. They've used baiting on me. Extreme baiting. Totally sick.
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Thank you! Exactly! So I give them no emotion. Reciprocate their energy.💋😘❤
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I recently let go of relationship after almost 3 years of total chaos. Every day is work but the level of peace and tranquility I am feeling is AMAZING. I’m getting my LIFE BACK!
I have been divorced for over 10 years. I never understood narcissistic behavior, even thou I heard the word. I thank you for all you do for all of us that went through this torture, and awakening us, to who they really are. They are full of demonic spirits, trying to destroy the light of God in in us. You have woken me up, when I was blind. God bless you forever! 🙏
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This is an important teaching. It’s absolutely true. We must not react. Thank you. Everyone in our tribe, keep your spirits up & remember you have others just like you out in the world 🙏🤗
Once you broke up, they will try more than ever to make ypu react to what they do, any way possible.. Get ready for a psicho.. They would even try to sleep with your friends and family.. Stay stoic, get to know who is who and the true colors of everyone around you.. Be strong.. This is the hardest thing ever.. Trauma is here for more...
This is great as it is about all narcissist poor behaviour in everyday life. Especially the local councils and their criminal agents and the police.
This was 💯💯💯👺absolutely TRUE, ANDREW You Have Brought So Much Clarity Here THANKS 🙏✨✨❤️❤️
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I agree with you, Andrew. Always response to a narcissist after a very long time. May be after a week, especially if its a narcissistic friend. Better yet don't bother to respond!