I cannot tell you how much this video means to me. I just got out of a very toxic relationship because my lesbian ex had a problem with me being bi. I would never cheat, I will gladly have a family with a woman as I think it is the same as with a man. Families are not based on biology but love. Thank you for defending us- it means a lot to me 💕
As a lesbian i do find it interesting when some lesbians say they wouldn't date a girl if she was bisexual than claim its simply a preference and im like thats not a preference theyre women who are attracted to both
@@normandlandings6924 of course but that wasnt my point people have right to date who ever they want but when they say its not against bisexuals but their preference they're lying because they are still women if they liked butch over femme thats a preference its an insecurity because they feel they might cheat being bi isnt going to make more or less likely to cheat i know straight , gay , bi people cheat
It's my preference. I just don't feel mental connection to bisexual women. I want a woman with the same experiences as me. I'm not biphobic and i don't care if other lesbians date them but i'm just not into them.
So happy I found this vid. I'm coming out as a bi women and it true for me to find the right the person. I don't care about girl or guy I just want a trustworthy person ❤️
As a bisexual woman who wants kids, I can say for sure that I would fight 5x as hard for kids with a woman if I love her, without even thinking about it. I used to be in a long-term relationship with a woman and I would never have left her for a man because of the child factor. I did leave her for a person who treated me better though, because she became quite emotionally abusive as time went on. She is bisexual too btw. But nonetheless. While our relationship was still good, or amazing rather, we talked a lot about how we would become parents in the future. It might be more difficult, but it can certainly be done. And sure, that part is easier with a man. But there are quite a few other very meaningful things that are easier with a woman. And either way, I don’t choose my life partner based on simplicity.
I think the main flaw in the whole "what if she wants her own biological kids?" this can happen to any lesbian as well. (and it's cis-centric btw) and the thing about it all being easier with a guy is: tell that all the straight women who want kids and struggle finding the right partner. :D it's not like bisexuals have a secret premium membership of the dating market with access to suitable candidates and they just need to place an order. that's another overcome cliche: people saying that we have it so much easier when dating, because we have more options. we don't. :) because of people in and outside of the community with a ton of prejudice and making all the assumptions about us based on our sexuality. we also struggle finding the right partner. no matter what gender the other person has. we all have the same problems. and receiving a baby is not automatically easier in a het relationship. it's okay when someone has all these thoughts but you need to think them through. then you maybe realize that your perspective was a little skewed.
jeeznametaken right. I stated that the fears have no basis in reality. I still think for the MOST part in a heterosexual situation you will find having a child is at the very least cheaper. Remember, most. So of course that is going to be on some people’s minds. I also think men are probably less likely to put a stigma on bisexual women than lesbians. Just an observation though
@@rachelgeraci I did not attack you :) I know what you said and I understand. but all these reasonings still hurt because they basically assume that bisexuals don't feel but only decide based on these factors. I know you don't do that. but that is the subtext of "fears" like that. they often dehumanize the people behind them and that makes me so sad. I know fears and worries are not rational. but how else can I try to tell people who think this way that they're wrong if not by this approach?
because at the end of the day, I am the one on the receiving end of these worries or fears and if people try to rationalize their fears, then what am I supposed to do? those fears are not rational.
@@MsAaannaaa I understand. Unfortunately there will always be prejudice in the world no matter how hard we try to eliminate it. We cannot force anyone to love anyone, let alone date someone. There's so many factors. But, My solution/philosophy is this: the person that is for you will not walk away from you. That is the best advice I can give.
how is it phobic to say you won’t date bi people (which one should be free to voice) but you have a huge majority of bi people who say they won’t date the same sex and speak ill of same seks relationships and nobody bats an eye and call them homophobic. Double standards involving gay people always works against them and at their expense and that’s unfair and exhausting.
not dating bisexual or str8 women,u only flatter the heteronormativity ...u see hetero relationships asa ligitimate threat if u worry them leaving u 4 other men...
firstly, lesbians can have families too and i think linking bisexuality with infidelity is inherently biphobic because someone who is unfaithful will be unfaithful regardless of who they are and who they are dating. you see unfaithfulness in all kinds of relationships and that can't be avoided by cutting a certain group of people from your dating pool
definitely in regards of your insecuriies about bisexuals, I get you ..... and even with lesbians BUT as you said FIND a women with *quality and same values*
thank you for this statement. I think we need to scream it louder from every corner. judging people based on their sexual orientation is already pretty shitty. and they're doing it WITHIN THE LGBTQIA+ community. I mean... don't they see their double standards?
i’m bisexual currently but i just feel like now i can’t rlly imagine myself with a guy no matter how hard i try to imagine it. i feel like i lean more on the girls side but idk. i’m just so lost.
It's ok bb. I recently just developed a crush on a guy. I am confused. I chalk it up to just feel "people" out and try not to think too much about their gender.
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I cannot tell you how much this video means to me. I just got out of a very toxic relationship because my lesbian ex had a problem with me being bi. I would never cheat, I will gladly have a family with a woman as I think it is the same as with a man. Families are not based on biology but love. Thank you for defending us- it means a lot to me 💕
Yes! Love is thicker than blood and runs deeper than DNA.
Natreadsbooks glad I could be of service! The biphobic in our community is disturbing
As a lesbian i do find it interesting when some lesbians say they wouldn't date a girl if she was bisexual than claim its simply a preference and im like thats not a preference theyre women who are attracted to both
Jessica Williams it is fear-based for sure.
@@rachelgeraci yeah definitely but pussy is still pussy 😂🤣
@@jessicawilliams95 but shouldn't they have the right not to date bisexuals if they dont want to
@@normandlandings6924 of course but that wasnt my point people have right to date who ever they want but when they say its not against bisexuals but their preference they're lying because they are still women if they liked butch over femme thats a preference its an insecurity because they feel they might cheat being bi isnt going to make more or less likely to cheat i know straight , gay , bi people cheat
It's my preference. I just don't feel mental connection to bisexual women. I want a woman with the same experiences as me. I'm not biphobic and i don't care if other lesbians date them but i'm just not into them.
on the other hand some will find being bisexual easier than being fully straight or fully homosexual
So happy I found this vid. I'm coming out as a bi women and it true for me to find the right the person. I don't care about girl or guy I just want a trustworthy person ❤️
As a bisexual woman who wants kids, I can say for sure that I would fight 5x as hard for kids with a woman if I love her, without even thinking about it. I used to be in a long-term relationship with a woman and I would never have left her for a man because of the child factor.
I did leave her for a person who treated me better though, because she became quite emotionally abusive as time went on. She is bisexual too btw. But nonetheless.
While our relationship was still good, or amazing rather, we talked a lot about how we would become parents in the future. It might be more difficult, but it can certainly be done.
And sure, that part is easier with a man. But there are quite a few other very meaningful things that are easier with a woman. And either way, I don’t choose my life partner based on simplicity.
Sandra Norum thank you for that. I don’t think anyone should be chose for that reason.
Are going to undergo artificial insemination?
Thank you. I’m super grateful to see someone who is out in the world speaking affirmatively on this topic! 💗
I think the main flaw in the whole "what if she wants her own biological kids?" this can happen to any lesbian as well. (and it's cis-centric btw)
and the thing about it all being easier with a guy is: tell that all the straight women who want kids and struggle finding the right partner. :D
it's not like bisexuals have a secret premium membership of the dating market with access to suitable candidates and they just need to place an order.
that's another overcome cliche: people saying that we have it so much easier when dating, because we have more options. we don't. :) because of people in and outside of the community with a ton of prejudice and making all the assumptions about us based on our sexuality.
we also struggle finding the right partner. no matter what gender the other person has. we all have the same problems. and receiving a baby is not automatically easier in a het relationship.
it's okay when someone has all these thoughts but you need to think them through. then you maybe realize that your perspective was a little skewed.
jeeznametaken right. I stated that the fears have no basis in reality. I still think for the MOST part in a heterosexual situation you will find having a child is at the very least cheaper. Remember, most. So of course that is going to be on some people’s minds. I also think men are probably less likely to put a stigma on bisexual women than lesbians. Just an observation though
@@rachelgeraci I did not attack you :)
I know what you said and I understand.
but all these reasonings still hurt because they basically assume that bisexuals don't feel but only decide based on these factors.
I know you don't do that. but that is the subtext of "fears" like that. they often dehumanize the people behind them and that makes me so sad.
I know fears and worries are not rational. but how else can I try to tell people who think this way that they're wrong if not by this approach?
because at the end of the day, I am the one on the receiving end of these worries or fears and if people try to rationalize their fears, then what am I supposed to do?
those fears are not rational.
@@MsAaannaaa I understand. Unfortunately there will always be prejudice in the world no matter how hard we try to eliminate it. We cannot force anyone to love anyone, let alone date someone. There's so many factors. But, My solution/philosophy is this: the person that is for you will not walk away from you. That is the best advice I can give.
how is it phobic to say you won’t date bi people (which one should be free to voice) but you have a huge majority of bi people who say they won’t date the same sex and speak ill of same seks relationships and nobody bats an eye and call them homophobic. Double standards involving gay people always works against them and at their expense and that’s unfair and exhausting.
not dating bisexual or str8 women,u only flatter the heteronormativity ...u see hetero relationships asa ligitimate threat if u worry them leaving u 4 other men...
J a that is true, but I won’t knock lesbians either for having this fear.
Bisexuals have opposite Sex relationships not traditional straight relationships.
firstly, lesbians can have families too and i think linking bisexuality with infidelity is inherently biphobic because someone who is unfaithful will be unfaithful regardless of who they are and who they are dating. you see unfaithfulness in all kinds of relationships and that can't be avoided by cutting a certain group of people from your dating pool
Just.... THANK YOU!!
definitely in regards of your insecuriies about bisexuals, I get you ..... and even with lesbians BUT as you said FIND a women with *quality and same values*
Exactly!!
@@rachelgeraci yes and thats what I am doing, CHEERS!
thank you for this statement. I think we need to scream it louder from every corner.
judging people based on their sexual orientation is already pretty shitty. and they're doing it WITHIN THE LGBTQIA+ community. I mean... don't they see their double standards?
i’m bisexual currently but i just feel like now i can’t rlly imagine myself with a guy no matter how hard i try to imagine it. i feel like i lean more on the girls side but idk. i’m just so lost.
It's ok bb. I recently just developed a crush on a guy. I am confused. I chalk it up to just feel "people" out and try not to think too much about their gender.
Finding guys beautiful doesn't mean you're attracted to them. That's where the confusion comes.
Thanks, as a bisexual woman, I am open to dating you also.
Thank you!
If a woman is bisexual but never had a relationship with a woman is she bi or bi curious?
Donna M. Still bisexual
3:18 Yes 8:01 Yes
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