This doc was the thing that flipped the switch in my brain that made me consider the fact that I was a lesbian. I think the target audience for this doc is women, like me, that are questioning their attraction to men, likely with prior knowledge that they are attracted to women (I identified as bi for years prior to this). I think it definitely has some flaws, but I recognized too many traits in myself to ignore (deciding which men to be attracted to, only being attracted to fictional men/celebrities, not being able to picture myself in a happy relationship with a man, etc). I think it's a good conversation starter for how we come to terms with our sexuality but I don't think it should be treated like a textbook or anything. Sorry this comment is so long, I love your videos!
I think the fact that many woman suppress their own needs due to trauma (chronically low self esteem) plays a big role. Many woman are completely out of touch with their own wants and need, especially sexually. This in connection to the conditioning of striving for male validation makes it very hard for lesbians to even recognize that they like woman at all. When all you’re taught and role-modeled was to seek being wanted by a man you don’t realize there is any other option. In addition it’s not even possible to realize it if they’re so out of touch with their own sexual drive. (Haven’t watched the full video yet tho, so maybe you already mentioned this)
"Love women and feel fake about it". It is a thing: Example: Girl tells boy she is bisexual. Boy respond that he does not belive that bisexuality really exist. Then the girl tells another girl about her bisexuality and other girl responds by suggesting that a lot of girls are doing it for attention. Then the girl decides to experiment by kissing her best female friend. Best female friend gets bored with kissing after a few times and explain that is is nice to kiss, but not enough to want to do it anymore. Then the Girl feels she must be the same. She will kiss girls till she gets bored with it. But never gets bored with it and keeps dating women and having relationships with women, but feels guilty because she assumes she will get bored. That is what happened to her best friend so it make sense that it will happen to girl also. Girl feels guilty and fake.
I totally agree with everything except that I dont think that there are more Bi women. I think that men are just as likely to be bisexual but Biphobia is waaaay harsher on men, they are not afforded the same open mindedness when exploring their sexuality
You may be right. I’ve heard a theory though and I don’t know how true it is, but because of how men are hardwired, they are more likely to be gay or straight.
I agree with you, women should be allowed to choose men even if they might be attracted to women Just the same way it's okay for women to choose women even if they might also like men There's nothing wrong with choice. And people should learn to respect others choices
I agree with you. I've always thought that homosexuality was nature's form of popularion control and that our roles is to be part of the village that raises the children that our family members have. Or even nowadays to adopt children I've never wanted children of my own but I would love to adopt and I would love to be an aunt one day and help my sister's with their kids.
I loved your preamble to this (as well as the rest of your thoughts)! Honestly, I'm not sure that even the expectation that someone is straight is society-driven, but rather an extension of the conclusion that since most people pair up with someone for the opposite sex, statistically it is most likely that someone you meet is straight. It can be frustrating when trying to date, especially for women seeking women who look straight (like me), but I totally understand why the assumption is there. It makes sense to me why heterosexuality is normative, both physically and culturally, because, like you said, it's necessary for the continuation of our species. I'd love to know more about homosexuality from an evolutionary perspective (Evolutionary biologist Bret Weinstein wants to do a panel on this topic. When he's ready to do it, I'm all ears!). I hope we can discover more as time goes on. I also agree with you about women being more likely to be bisexual than strictly gay or straight. I consider myself strictly gay (as far as I know, since I don't believe that is something I can know 100% about myself, which might be controversial), but it wasn't a clear-cut process to come to that conclusion. I wonder if it is possible for certain parts of our culture/certain subcultures to actually go in the opposite direction and indirectly pressure or influence people to think they are gay/bi. I also wonder if how one relates to this document not only depends on age and maturity, but also the environment in which one grows up. For example, I think someone who grew up in a liberal secular family would have a different experience than someone who grew up in a strictly conservative religious family. Thankfully, our general culture in the US has become much more accepting, but there are still pockets that are not. I think your approach to this document is very mature. Glad to hear you are continuing your channel. :)
I think you are talking from the American standpoint. Where I live (Poland) homosexuality is still frowned upon by many people mostly because of religion. It isn't ok to be gay in Poland and people assume you're heterosexual because to them it is the norm
This comment probably won’t get read but I think a good think too add to the conversation might be Kissing Jessica Stein- it’s kinda of looks at the idea of sexuality being on a Spectrum.
Nice to see your point of view on this doc. You should definitly check out Tallulah Guard, she made quite a lot of videos on comphet and some things you said reminded me of her comments on the doc. For example this one: ruclips.net/video/8Ly6HzpKTRc/видео.html Please keep on, I like your channel :)
Why would they think somebody strigh if someone a woman a lesbain a gay women into women not men and a Japanese gay into women not men and women are not weird and men are not being weird being gay men
No that not true and why would u have crushes on men when u a gay women into women not you attracted to women not men and have crushes on man gay when are not attracted to jen they attracted to women not men
Am not being nasty to this women please stop talking crap and theirs lot of lesbain gay women and gay men and bisexual women and bisexual men into men not women bisexual women are attracted to women into women as well as men
People am jot being nasty bout this women shout up most people,e are not born stight 5hiers lots of gay women into women not and gay men into men not women
Exuse me to this women of this video u say when u was coming out u think your jot normal being attracted to men and u thought if u choose men u would couse that normal thatsvnot nice what u say why would u have think u be with men fouse its easy been with them its easy been with women andbthe lesbain dateing pool is big and women not being attracted to men does meen they not into men their into women
This doc was the thing that flipped the switch in my brain that made me consider the fact that I was a lesbian. I think the target audience for this doc is women, like me, that are questioning their attraction to men, likely with prior knowledge that they are attracted to women (I identified as bi for years prior to this). I think it definitely has some flaws, but I recognized too many traits in myself to ignore (deciding which men to be attracted to, only being attracted to fictional men/celebrities, not being able to picture myself in a happy relationship with a man, etc). I think it's a good conversation starter for how we come to terms with our sexuality but I don't think it should be treated like a textbook or anything. Sorry this comment is so long, I love your videos!
Hey, thanks for the comment! All civil views welcome! Thanks for watching and I’m
Glad you enjoy the content
I think the fact that many woman suppress their own needs due to trauma (chronically low self esteem) plays a big role.
Many woman are completely out of touch with their own wants and need, especially sexually. This in connection to the conditioning of striving for male validation makes it very hard for lesbians to even recognize that they like woman at all. When all you’re taught and role-modeled was to seek being wanted by a man you don’t realize there is any other option. In addition it’s not even possible to realize it if they’re so out of touch with their own sexual drive.
(Haven’t watched the full video yet tho, so maybe you already mentioned this)
Hope you won't quit youtube, I love your channel!
"Love women and feel fake about it". It is a thing: Example: Girl tells boy she is bisexual. Boy respond that he does not belive that bisexuality really exist. Then the girl tells another girl about her bisexuality and other girl responds by suggesting that a lot of girls are doing it for attention. Then the girl decides to experiment by kissing her best female friend. Best female friend gets bored with kissing after a few times and explain that is is nice to kiss, but not enough to want to do it anymore. Then the Girl feels she must be the same. She will kiss girls till she gets bored with it. But never gets bored with it and keeps dating women and having relationships with women, but feels guilty because she assumes she will get bored. That is what happened to her best friend so it make sense that it will happen to girl also. Girl feels guilty and fake.
I totally agree with everything except that I dont think that there are more Bi women. I think that men are just as likely to be bisexual but Biphobia is waaaay harsher on men, they are not afforded the same open mindedness when exploring their sexuality
You may be right. I’ve heard a theory though and I don’t know how true it is, but because of how men are hardwired, they are more likely to be gay or straight.
I thought I was bi for the longest time but the masterdoc is what helped me understand that Im just gay
I agree with you, women should be allowed to choose men even if they might be attracted to women
Just the same way it's okay for women to choose women even if they might also like men
There's nothing wrong with choice. And people should learn to respect others choices
I agree with you. I've always thought that homosexuality was nature's form of popularion control and that our roles is to be part of the village that raises the children that our family members have. Or even nowadays to adopt children
I've never wanted children of my own but I would love to adopt and I would love to be an aunt one day and help my sister's with their kids.
I loved your preamble to this (as well as the rest of your thoughts)! Honestly, I'm not sure that even the expectation that someone is straight is society-driven, but rather an extension of the conclusion that since most people pair up with someone for the opposite sex, statistically it is most likely that someone you meet is straight. It can be frustrating when trying to date, especially for women seeking women who look straight (like me), but I totally understand why the assumption is there. It makes sense to me why heterosexuality is normative, both physically and culturally, because, like you said, it's necessary for the continuation of our species. I'd love to know more about homosexuality from an evolutionary perspective (Evolutionary biologist Bret Weinstein wants to do a panel on this topic. When he's ready to do it, I'm all ears!). I hope we can discover more as time goes on. I also agree with you about women being more likely to be bisexual than strictly gay or straight. I consider myself strictly gay (as far as I know, since I don't believe that is something I can know 100% about myself, which might be controversial), but it wasn't a clear-cut process to come to that conclusion.
I wonder if it is possible for certain parts of our culture/certain subcultures to actually go in the opposite direction and indirectly pressure or influence people to think they are gay/bi.
I also wonder if how one relates to this document not only depends on age and maturity, but also the environment in which one grows up. For example, I think someone who grew up in a liberal secular family would have a different experience than someone who grew up in a strictly conservative religious family. Thankfully, our general culture in the US has become much more accepting, but there are still pockets that are not. I think your approach to this document is very mature. Glad to hear you are continuing your channel. :)
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Thank you for sharing your perspective. These were my exact thoughts!
This was very helpful! Thank you
i agree with you, it's an assumption
I think you are talking from the American standpoint. Where I live (Poland) homosexuality is still frowned upon by many people mostly because of religion. It isn't ok to be gay in Poland and people assume you're heterosexual because to them it is the norm
And many people want to believe they are heterosexual o bisexual because being gay is hard and even dangerous.
Cuts video short 26:36.
Video is 28:28.
This comment probably won’t get read but I think a good think too add to the conversation might be Kissing Jessica Stein- it’s kinda of looks at the idea of sexuality being on a Spectrum.
But now you are bi because of comphet or how you explain it
Great video. Please don't use the background music.
Nice to see your point of view on this doc. You should definitly check out Tallulah Guard, she made quite a lot of videos on comphet and some things you said reminded me of her comments on the doc. For example this one: ruclips.net/video/8Ly6HzpKTRc/видео.html
Please keep on, I like your channel :)
Thanks for the rec!
i also didn't get the hype about it, written improperly and with no justifications
You live the live that make you happy .I m happy for you
Why would they think somebody strigh if someone a woman a lesbain a gay women into women not men and a Japanese gay into women not men and women are not weird and men are not being weird being gay men
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No that not true and why would u have crushes on men when u a gay women into women not you attracted to women not men and have crushes on man gay when are not attracted to jen they attracted to women not men
Am not being nasty to this women please stop talking crap and theirs lot of lesbain gay women and gay men and bisexual women and bisexual men into men not women bisexual women are attracted to women into women as well as men
People am jot being nasty bout this women shout up most people,e are not born stight 5hiers lots of gay women into women not and gay men into men not women
Most people not born just stight that's not true theirs lots of gay women into women not men and lots gay jen
Exuse me to this women of this video u say when u was coming out u think your jot normal being attracted to men and u thought if u choose men u would couse that normal thatsvnot nice what u say why would u have think u be with men fouse its easy been with them its easy been with women andbthe lesbain dateing pool is big and women not being attracted to men does meen they not into men their into women
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