Lovely guy. Not just because you're Dutch (I'm generally fond of the Dutch sensibility and way of life) but also because of who you are. Keep it coming. You're an inspiration.
Pride in the LGBTQ sense, is to not be ashamed of who you are. Gay men, lesbians and bi sexuals, trans people and queer where all shunned, humiliated and attacked many many years ago. 30-40years ago, gay men where hunted and murdered. There was an outcry from the LGBTQ community, to not be ashamed but be proud of who you are. This empowered us to be able to hold our heads high against the bigots, homophobes and transphobes. It is about standing up for your rights and not conforming to straight heterosexual expectations, no matter what the force used against you. Be proud my man.
Great video. Sincere, warm, thoughtful, and open-hearted. For me, being gay has been a great gift. I grew up on a farm in rural Michigan, USA. The community, what there was of it, was very conservative. If I hadn’t been gay, it’s highly likely i would have grown up just as conservative, narrow-minded, and bigoted as most of my peers. But one of the central messages of conservatives, when it comes to homosexuality, is that it a choice…an immoral, unnatural choice gay people make. But I knew it wasn’t true. I knew they were wrong about the most important “fact” of their whole understanding of homosexuality, a fact upon which they base their entire perspective, and social and political agendas. That insight allowed me to question everything else they insisted was true. It allowed me to not only accept myself as I am, but to recognize all the other ways conservative thought is wrong, moribund, discriminatory, and harmful. They are just plain, factually wrong about gay people, people of color, women’s issues, the environment and global warming/climate change, trans people, government regulation of business, lanor unions, ethnic and “racial” minorities, and so on. To put it another way, if I wasn’t gay, I would very likely be a total asshole. p.s. Pride can sound odd…why should we be proud of something we didn’t do? It may sound similar to being proud that you have red hair or that you’re six feet tall…very silly. But that’s not what Pride is about. It’s saying if you’re gay (or bi, lesbian, queer, trans, asexual, etc.) you CAN be proud, you don’t have to feel what the bigots and haters want you to feel: ashamed, immoral, unworthy, unequal. Remember, Pride has a history, and has always tried to be a beacon of hope. It’s not boastful, it’s supportive, encouraging, and hopeful.
Dann ❤ Love watching your vlogs and seeing you - very cute and handsome. Your views show how you think deeply on everything. Always look forward to your videos. Keep up the good work. Being proud is an emotion about how you are living your life and how you feel about it. You can also be proud that you have made difficult decisions so that you can live the life that is you and achieve the goals and happiness that is everyone’s right. Sadly, too many of us have lived our lives to conform with what family and society expect of us. And now that society has become more accepting of the fact that there are so many variants and variables it has become easier to live the life that is the real you and no longer live the lie. This is an excellent reason to be proud of your achievements. And yes, I do believe being queer can be a blessing!
Wat een mooi om dit te zien, Daan. Zelf heb ik als queer man jaren moeite met de term “pride” gehad, omdat ook voor mij dit een term was die gaat over prestaties, alsof je voor wie je bent een schouderklopje moet krijgen. Maar de afgelopen jaren ben ik het woord toch gaan omarmen, niet als dat schouderklopje, maar vanuit het idee dat je je niet hoeft te schamen. Wees jezelf zonder je te hoeven verantwoorden, zonder je te schamen of toestemming te vragen om dat te zijn. Keep it up and keep these vlogs coming.
Hello Daan. I discovered your channel a few days ago, on Monday. This video was recommended to me on my homepage. I'm very happy to have found your videos. I've been making my way though them during the week and I've enjoyed every one. I like the style of your videos, your thoughtful delivery, that you share your experiences in an educational manner. How sweet to know that the world has a lovely man like you in it.
Daan, this is my first time seeing one of your episodes and it was very moving. You have obviously had a long and difficult journey to achieve this place in life. However, happy you are with your physical appearance, your emotional well being has perhaps not kept pace. Just as you want to be an expert level athlete but need to pace yourself, unfamiliar emotions and self love, self acceptance and self respect take time. Your shoulder sounds like a rotator cuff injury which is complicated, and the foot and ankle have many bones in them. So you need evaluation as to current injury before you know where to begin exercising them. There is nothing wrong with staying put and not creating further injury. Being a man does not make you invulnerable. Being bisexual means you love people : their minds and hearts, not their genitals alone. Being queer means you are intelligent. You see the world with unique eyes. You organize your environment to be very comfortable and functional and visually pleasing. You are a clever cook perhaps? Or not. Be fearless in finding your truest self and loving the person who emerges. Hug yourself. Love yourself as you are NOW. Be your best self ever. 😊❤❤
i love your channel Dann. i hardly ever make comments but i feel this needs to be said for whoever reads it... you making videos and putting it out there IS a form of Pride. its because of this pride that i can sit here at home and know im not alone. because people like you are making videos. the form of pride of getting into people's face and protesting is what makes us, as trans people able to access gender affirmation medical care. our predecessors who faught for our rights are the reason why i have the rights i do. its the people who embarrass themselves, hurt themselves and put themselves on the front line online or in person who made it possible for me to be able to access and normalise the trans experience. to be seen, to be heard, no matter how much we are silenced on an hourly, daily basis, IS Pride Daan. to make our voices as loud and clear as possible and making trouble in the eyes of law makers IS the reason why some of us are still alive. I met this amazing Historian who wrote a book and i would very highly recommend it for you to read a little about our history, and why we must continue to be proud. not just as a trans person, but as a person of colour and ethnicity, at times in my life where people scream racist hate and spit in my face, i have NO OTHER CHOICE but to hold my head up high and BE PROUD of exactly the way I am, the way I am born, the way that i choose to live my life. when people tell me i cant do anything, i have NO CHOICE but to stand proud and continue to do what i want to do to achieve what i want in life. its the same... I am also a proud bisexual and by being confident and proud of this part of myself, others who may not be out yet are given a voice when I advocate for myself and against biphobia and bierasure, which affects our mental health, physically health, and social wellbeing. when i am out and talk about my trans experience, i am giving voice to others who want to transition. when i call out racist remarks, i am protecting all people of culturally and linguistically diverse backgrounds. this is why we MUST be proud. its not just for us to live a peaceful and happier life. its that we have a social responsibility to even in the smallest ways influence the world to become a better place for eachother, just like those before us who gave us our current freedom. if we do not know why we are fighting or why we must keep our chin up and walk into the sunset with pride, the fight is meaningless. know your roots. know where you came from. like Simba from the lion King. lol remember where you're frommmm simba... book: Rainbow History Class by Hannah McElhinney
I think in my own words and what I think you're trying to say is to be happy with who you are and to not apologise for it. As someone who identified as a lesbian because it allowed for the fluidity of "gender role expectation", allowing my masculinity to flow as a balm for not allowing my transness to come forward, I can say that my experience with "Pride" is long lived. For everyone it's different. Being proud of accomplishment is similar to pride in who one is. To accomplish something means that you had to have the skill to do it, yes? Aka you would have to be proud of yourself to be proud of your accomplishment, yes? To have queer pride is like you're describing and the person in the reel described. Rather than hiding in the corner of "otherness" or allowing the world to define you as "other" in a negative connotation. Instead, we stand strong in that otherness and say, "We don't have to be like you because the world is made of unique and colourful things. Without us, there would be no normal. Without us, you cannot seek to grow into something more loving and whole. Without us, there is no other option." Humans are too complex to be placed in boxes. We are that reminder. We can be quiet reminders. We can boisterous reminders. We can act or sing and be reminders through our presence. All of it is a form of standing in Pride. Your videos are a form of expression of Pride Spirit. Because you're NOT hiding. That is the point. We don't have to lurk in the shadows. It's wonderful to watch you grow and come to these epiphanies. I'm proud for you Daan.
What a cool vlog.... sharing.. "just be there'.... is such an understated phrase. Thanks for calling out this important view point. Regardless or inspite of any label or 'norm', I think, every individual 'just' wants 'to be there'.. exist...live.. be happy. Thanks for sharing! As someone below (in comments) said... very inspiring. 💗 Bedantkt!
Why is it so hard to believe that the queer experience is a gift? Yes, looking past the hetero BS that’s blankets the earth, we, us, queerness is life in a liberated state. I don’t say this lightly, we are designed differently to heterosexuals. We excel in so many ways but the most important aspect of who we are, is we don’t do and we could not do what they have done to us. We, for the most part are not built that way. ❤
💯 💶 I treat my friends all straight guys like gold. I would never do harm to someone just because I can. I'm definitely built as you could see from my uploads and the Playlist vid is me. I'm skinny but stupid strong 💪 but I never used it to bully people. I only use it on someone who comes at me or tries to bully me first.
I thank the Universe for being Queer. It's a sacred blessing for me. Had I been "normal" and straight, I probably would never have questioned my own existence. Instead I would have gone through life asleep, thinking "OK, this is cool." "I'm normal." And that's all I would have been. A life that is not reflective. A life that is black and white. A life that never questions existence. A life that accepts the world as it is and never feels the need to change it.
Thank you Daan for this video and for your views etc. ❤ If I can have a little of your time I would like to show you another way of thinking, which might help many in tow. 🙂 So firstly our gender and/or sexuality does not define us as people, it does however affect our direction in life... I will explain... 🙂 Who we are equates to what we hold important in life, coupled with all the thought processes/motivations around our "decision making". This my friend is not gender specific, but very much tied to the spectrum that is "human nature", and both genders are equally affected by the same "parameters"... Now gender on the other hand affects how we conduct and present ourselves, coupled with our psyches and ways of thinking. Males tend to be go getters and perhaps more "self" oriented, whereas females tend to be more doers and spend more time thinking about outcomes from their actions. They can be more emotionally needy when starved of validation (the appreciation of their efforts etc)... They will also be more attuned in terms of "nurturing practices", e.g. the male thrives in direct praise for accomplishments, whereas the female learns and grows through praise and appreciation for their actions, efforts and thoughtfulness. Sexuality of course defines who we look to build relationships with, whether that be physical, emotional or both... For those interested in Spirituality, this is how it fits into that model for want of a better word... Our Souls (a culmination from many lives lived before, that which is still very much present when our consciousness is wiped before entering a "new" life) are not gender specific, and again they very much fit into the "human nature spectrum". And it pretty much boils down to a simple equation:- How much consideration they give to others vs their own perceived needs Our Spirit (consciousness) is from all the parameters in this physical realm, where body image, gender, sexuality, perceptions of ourselves and others coupled with what we hold as important to us very much defines our direction and progress in life. In terms of all manner of relationships the less baggage we carry coupled with better understandings of others and selfless agendas the more likely we are to form and build upon healthy relationships with less turbulence etc...
Indeed, we're such a complex amalgam of past incarnations with their own astrological types, experiences and other complex factors, including the epoch of each one and the cultures they happened in and the level of development that transmigratory consciousness has achieved that the usual reductionist binary ideas of gender can hardly convey that complexity at all!
I would have to make the comparison of how you're proud to be a teacher, to be yourself and like what you do? Almost the same feeling? I can see how you've became more comfortable with yourself, maybe "proud" to you has a different connotation from how others use the word? I'm not "out, loud, and proud" in my community, I'm more of a "Please just see me as a guy and treat me as such, I don't want the attention." type of person. I'm proud that I can make people laugh using my shortcomings as an example (including my transition experience to my trusted friends), I'm not quite self-deprecating, I just find life amusing and quite puzzling! I like to share my odd observations with close friends for a laugh ☺ (back/rear end hair surprise!) I'm happy to be who I am most of the time. Being trans and queer in a place full of people with memory problems kind of leads to it's own weird set of problems for sure. I had one lady ask me "What's wrong with your face?" when I grew out my beard, I was shocked at first, then got a good laugh from it. She's still a good friend of mine 👍 She really tries her best to remember my name now, and trying is a plus in my book! Here in the US we have a saying "Not your average Joe Schmoe" I love being different, queer/gay/trans/non-binary. I'm also still exploring the intricacies of LGBTQIA+ language and trying to find out what fits me the best so I can describe myself to others when I meet them. I know I like guys, but I'm not quite "all gay" for many reasons. I'm artistic and can appreciate beauty in any form or function. I like feminine men, but some women really are beautiful. I'm not attracted s3xually, but can appreciate their form just as much as I can appreciate nature's beauty and all there is to experience and explore on this planet. I just started playing animal crossing new horizons, and on my "passport" I have the title "omnivorous observationist", fits me quite well! I think you're doing great, no need to share what you don't want to (your past before transition). Everyone has their boundaries and I think it's very healthy to stick with them for your own well being. ☯ I think you look tall in your videos and out walking, but I'm 5 foot 3 inches (stupid empirical measurements over here, when will we learn the easier way?!?! lol) is that 1.6 meters? 🤔🤷 Thank you Daan! Just be you, you're awesome and I thank you for sharing your thoughts 😁🥰
Ok I am sorry, as I don't intend to disrespect or cause any discomfort, but I am for some reason compelled to say that It's my first exposure to you and a few minutes into the video I was shocked to learn that you're a trans man. I love and respect all humans( that includes trans men). I am just disappointed in myself with the feeling of shock that I experienced. I don't know if its appropriate to congratulate a trans person on their unspookable/unclockable(as the kids say) transition. I guess I have to work harder not to assume things on the basis of looks. Anyways, I am happy to have found such an honest, smart and handsome person on RUclips. Hope your body pains go away soon❤
To love others, one must love oneself. If gay, you must be out and comfortable with the fact it is who you are. Your sexual attractions are the clues of who you are and who you could fall in love with. While some will be hateful to you about being gay (or whatever) don't let them take you down or take away your self-confidence. You are you, so just be the way that you feel like being, acting, behaving, interacting with others, and finding that special someone. Yes, you could do some homework on homosexuality to become familiar with the jargon. Good Luck!
I'm 64, I suffered for a long time for having what I consider a feminine brain but, for so many reasons, I didn't want to go on with transition as a teen in the late seventies. It took me literally decades to adjust to my biological sex but with slight adaptations such as shaving my body I pulled it off. I don't know if it was the energetic practices and the lucid dreaming which made me gradually realize that though felt my brain to be incongruent with my biological sex, it wasn't really my personality, just something my brain was wired into. The more I managed to undo the misconceptions society and religion inculcates on us about what it means to be female or male, the gender stereotypes which even gay cis males often have in even much stronger form - especially in a latino country like Brazil! - I realized that my innermost being wanted to be free of all that, that I actually longed for something in between but never had the courage to embrace it as I was already targeted for being too weird and nutty even among the gay guys I got to know. As I got older, the many hardships I've had to cope in life with, plus many disappointments and the disillusion about so many facets of the LGBTIQ movement in its radical segments -whether trans or anti-trans LGs - convinced me that serious non binaries don't worry about these trends and skirmishes, we just want to live our lives the way we feel deep inside to be our true selves. It's the radicals who turn it all into a mess of words and ideologies, which only end up stirring the already existing intolerance among most conservatives even more. You're incredibly handsome, sensitive and intelligent. It's a true delight to watch your videos, I just don't know why I haven't been getting their notifications! I don't have Instagram anymore, and left Facebook a long time ago but I'd certainly follow you on those social webs if I still used them. Keep being this amazing person you are, gorgeous guy! Kisses in your heart, as we say it here in Brazil.😍😘😇 By the way, as someone who loves languages and has been interested in some spoken in your country (like Frisian and Twentsk), I so love when you speak Dutch. I can't recognize the different accents or dialects but your good diction allows us foreign learners to be able to recognize some of the words we've learned, this is so gratifying! Forgive me for posting such a long comment!
I'm very much with you on this, we shouldn't give too much emphasis on our gender image in our lives... ❤ What matters is being true to our views and values, strong within ourselves, but not so strong that we don't listen to the views and opinions of others if there is some "sense/weight" in what they have to say etc. Yes our direction in life is very much dictated around needs that develop us as people (and no one wants to be stagnant), but when it comes to decision making is should be consulting what we deem as important vs the offsets to others and arriving at a "considered and measured" conclusion (and gender doesn't feature in this thought processing)... To put it another way we shouldn't be questioning our own self-importance/feelings of inferiority etc. We should all be strong and secure within ourselves and true to our values and beliefs etc. and therefore living a true and authentic life. I wonder if you would agree. ❤
I’m happy with myself, glad to be me. I take pride only in my achievements. For me, there’s a difference. For others, perhaps not. Maybe some people need to feel proud to be queer because it gives them strength to withstand the opposition. I don’t. I’m strong enough not to care what small-minded people think about me. Why should I be like them? Because they think they are superior? The dictionary doesn’t define average as superior. 😉 I think I’ll just keep being myself. 😺✌️
I'm very proud of you. Continue to be you in whatever form you feel comfortable with. We all have questions about navigating our way through life, and those questions change as we gain more experience and our prospectives change. Keep doing what you're doing. The whole point of being LGBTQ+ is to be ourselves. We do not have to conform to any standard, not even the ones some LGBTQ+ people determined we should follow. Follow your heart and be happy. That's all anyone wants in life is to be happy.
It’s a tremendous blessing. Personally I don’t like the word Queer. My husband and I met at church 9 years ago and will be celebrating our 6th anniversary this December. God has seen fit to bless us every step of the way. Yes, we know what scripture says however cultivate your own personal relationship with God, and see where He leads you.
Being part of the queer community is a blessing. We can see the banality of life in a unique way. I feel sorry for heterosexual people who are often unhappy in their marriage, with two children. They are bound by societal expectations. 🫶
It is good to be gay - you can live your lives as you decide yourself. Of course gay people are as different as heteroes, so there are also idiots being gay. Some feel they want to kiss 1000 of frogs and some of us not that many. I didn't want to base my life on lies, what I sow being a child. It is so important to live as the one I am. Some years I was not welcome at home by my father. So I stayed away and later I could visit my parents as he got more educated. Life is not without problems. But had I made a girl pregnant and got family - it would have a disaster and a bitryal to her and a family. It is so important to find the right true balance in side your self. Don't care so much about what others think. Live your life in balance, according to your feelings and it will be right. We all can contribute by being kind and forgiving and smile to people we meet on our way. I wish you the best of life.
Hey daan. I was wondering if you'd heard of this guy's work. He's an orthopedic surgeon who began to prescribe hanging from a bar to his patients; it worked so well he wrote a book about it. The basic idea is that for shoulder health, we need to brachiate. So bring on the monkey bars. Check it out, if you like. I love your videos btw
I think, in my non-binary/gender fluid experience, that there is joy in being finally free to be who I truly am. There is even a term for it: gender euphoria, which I only just discovered. It is the opposite of gender dysphoria. It is the joy of genuine being. Love & light from Northern California!
Nice share. I am gay, 64, and realize that most of my greatest influences and favorite people are LGBTQ. Our contribution is still vastly underestimated and not talked about enough.
Sickening comment I don’t know if you do this to every young little man that you see on the RUclips but it’s like your comment is like a clone. I see it over and over there’s nothing great about the complete self-absorption of these young guys that you over you need to like talk to someone your own age.
Dann ❤ Love watching your vlogs and seeing you - very cute and handsome. Your views show how you think deeply on everything. Always look forward to your videos. Keep up the good work. Being proud is an emotion about how you are living your life and how you feel about it. You can also be proud that you have made difficult decisions so that you can live the life that is you and achieve the goals and happiness that is everyone’s right. Sadly, too many of us have lived our lives to conform with what family and society expect of us. And now that society has become more accepting of the fact that there are so many variants and variables it has become easier to live the life that is the real you and no longer live the lie. This is an excellent reason to be proud of your achievements. And yes, I do believe being queer can be a blessing!
Lovely guy. Not just because you're Dutch (I'm generally fond of the Dutch sensibility and way of life) but also because of who you are. Keep it coming. You're an inspiration.
Pride in the LGBTQ sense, is to not be ashamed of who you are. Gay men, lesbians and bi sexuals, trans people and queer where all shunned, humiliated and attacked many many years ago. 30-40years ago, gay men where hunted and murdered. There was an outcry from the LGBTQ community, to not be ashamed but be proud of who you are. This empowered us to be able to hold our heads high against the bigots, homophobes and transphobes. It is about standing up for your rights and not conforming to straight heterosexual expectations, no matter what the force used against you. Be proud my man.
Great video. Sincere, warm, thoughtful, and open-hearted.
For me, being gay has been a great gift. I grew up on a farm in rural Michigan, USA. The community, what there was of it, was very conservative. If I hadn’t been gay, it’s highly likely i would have grown up just as conservative, narrow-minded, and bigoted as most of my peers. But one of the central messages of conservatives, when it comes to homosexuality, is that it a choice…an immoral, unnatural choice gay people make. But I knew it wasn’t true. I knew they were wrong about the most important “fact” of their whole understanding of homosexuality, a fact upon which they base their entire perspective, and social and political agendas.
That insight allowed me to question everything else they insisted was true. It allowed me to not only accept myself as I am, but to recognize all the other ways conservative thought is wrong, moribund, discriminatory, and harmful. They are just plain, factually wrong about gay people, people of color, women’s issues, the environment and global warming/climate change, trans people, government regulation of business, lanor unions, ethnic and “racial” minorities, and so on.
To put it another way, if I wasn’t gay, I would very likely be a total asshole.
p.s. Pride can sound odd…why should we be proud of something we didn’t do? It may sound similar to being proud that you have red hair or that you’re six feet tall…very silly.
But that’s not what Pride is about. It’s saying if you’re gay (or bi, lesbian, queer, trans, asexual, etc.) you CAN be proud, you don’t have to feel what the bigots and haters want you to feel: ashamed, immoral, unworthy, unequal. Remember, Pride has a history, and has always tried to be a beacon of hope. It’s not boastful, it’s supportive, encouraging, and hopeful.
Dann
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Love watching your vlogs and seeing you - very cute and handsome.
Your views show how you think deeply on everything.
Always look forward to your videos. Keep up the good work.
Being proud is an emotion about how you are living your life and how you feel about it. You can also be proud that you have made difficult decisions so that you can live the life that is you and achieve the goals and happiness that is everyone’s right.
Sadly, too many of us have lived our lives to conform with what family and society expect of us. And now that society has become more accepting of the fact that there are so many variants and variables it has become easier to live the life that is the real you and no longer live the lie. This is an excellent reason to be proud of your achievements.
And yes, I do believe being queer can be a blessing!
Thanks 🙂❤️
Wat een mooi om dit te zien, Daan.
Zelf heb ik als queer man jaren moeite met de term “pride” gehad, omdat ook voor mij dit een term was die gaat over prestaties, alsof je voor wie je bent een schouderklopje moet krijgen. Maar de afgelopen jaren ben ik het woord toch gaan omarmen, niet als dat schouderklopje, maar vanuit het idee dat je je niet hoeft te schamen. Wees jezelf zonder je te hoeven verantwoorden, zonder je te schamen of toestemming te vragen om dat te zijn.
Keep it up and keep these vlogs coming.
Hello Daan. I discovered your channel a few days ago, on Monday. This video was recommended to me on my homepage. I'm very happy to have found your videos. I've been making my way though them during the week and I've enjoyed every one. I like the style of your videos, your thoughtful delivery, that you share your experiences in an educational manner.
How sweet to know that the world has a lovely man like you in it.
Daan, this is my first time seeing one of your episodes and it was very moving. You have obviously had a long and difficult journey to achieve this place in life. However, happy you are with your physical appearance, your emotional well being has perhaps not kept pace. Just as you want to be an expert level athlete but need to pace yourself, unfamiliar emotions and self love, self acceptance and self respect take time. Your shoulder sounds like a rotator cuff injury which is complicated, and the foot and ankle have many bones in them. So you need evaluation as to current injury before you know where to begin exercising them. There is nothing wrong with staying put and not creating further injury. Being a man does not make you invulnerable. Being bisexual means you love people : their minds and hearts, not their genitals alone. Being queer means you are intelligent. You see the world with unique eyes. You organize your environment to be very comfortable and functional and visually pleasing. You are a clever cook perhaps? Or not. Be fearless in finding your truest self and loving the person who emerges. Hug yourself. Love yourself as you are NOW. Be your best self ever. 😊❤❤
i love your channel Dann. i hardly ever make comments but i feel this needs to be said for whoever reads it... you making videos and putting it out there IS a form of Pride. its because of this pride that i can sit here at home and know im not alone. because people like you are making videos. the form of pride of getting into people's face and protesting is what makes us, as trans people able to access gender affirmation medical care. our predecessors who faught for our rights are the reason why i have the rights i do. its the people who embarrass themselves, hurt themselves and put themselves on the front line online or in person who made it possible for me to be able to access and normalise the trans experience. to be seen, to be heard, no matter how much we are silenced on an hourly, daily basis, IS Pride Daan. to make our voices as loud and clear as possible and making trouble in the eyes of law makers IS the reason why some of us are still alive. I met this amazing Historian who wrote a book and i would very highly recommend it for you to read a little about our history, and why we must continue to be proud. not just as a trans person, but as a person of colour and ethnicity, at times in my life where people scream racist hate and spit in my face, i have NO OTHER CHOICE but to hold my head up high and BE PROUD of exactly the way I am, the way I am born, the way that i choose to live my life. when people tell me i cant do anything, i have NO CHOICE but to stand proud and continue to do what i want to do to achieve what i want in life. its the same... I am also a proud bisexual and by being confident and proud of this part of myself, others who may not be out yet are given a voice when I advocate for myself and against biphobia and bierasure, which affects our mental health, physically health, and social wellbeing. when i am out and talk about my trans experience, i am giving voice to others who want to transition. when i call out racist remarks, i am protecting all people of culturally and linguistically diverse backgrounds. this is why we MUST be proud. its not just for us to live a peaceful and happier life. its that we have a social responsibility to even in the smallest ways influence the world to become a better place for eachother, just like those before us who gave us our current freedom. if we do not know why we are fighting or why we must keep our chin up and walk into the sunset with pride, the fight is meaningless. know your roots. know where you came from. like Simba from the lion King. lol remember where you're frommmm simba...
book:
Rainbow History Class by Hannah McElhinney
Sounds like an interesting read! (but first I have to read the books for my study 😅). Thanks for sharing your view ❤️
This utterly charming man that you are....wonderful to listen to!
I think in my own words and what I think you're trying to say is to be happy with who you are and to not apologise for it.
As someone who identified as a lesbian because it allowed for the fluidity of "gender role expectation", allowing my masculinity to flow as a balm for not allowing my transness to come forward, I can say that my experience with "Pride" is long lived. For everyone it's different. Being proud of accomplishment is similar to pride in who one is. To accomplish something means that you had to have the skill to do it, yes? Aka you would have to be proud of yourself to be proud of your accomplishment, yes? To have queer pride is like you're describing and the person in the reel described. Rather than hiding in the corner of "otherness" or allowing the world to define you as "other" in a negative connotation. Instead, we stand strong in that otherness and say, "We don't have to be like you because the world is made of unique and colourful things. Without us, there would be no normal. Without us, you cannot seek to grow into something more loving and whole. Without us, there is no other option." Humans are too complex to be placed in boxes. We are that reminder. We can be quiet reminders. We can boisterous reminders. We can act or sing and be reminders through our presence. All of it is a form of standing in Pride. Your videos are a form of expression of Pride Spirit. Because you're NOT hiding. That is the point. We don't have to lurk in the shadows. It's wonderful to watch you grow and come to these epiphanies. I'm proud for you Daan.
What a cool vlog.... sharing.. "just be there'.... is such an understated phrase. Thanks for calling out this important view point. Regardless or inspite of any label or 'norm', I think, every individual 'just' wants 'to be there'.. exist...live.. be happy. Thanks for sharing! As someone below (in comments) said... very inspiring. 💗 Bedantkt!
Why is it so hard to believe that the queer experience is a gift? Yes, looking past the hetero BS that’s blankets the earth, we, us, queerness is life in a liberated state. I don’t say this lightly, we are designed differently to heterosexuals. We excel in so many ways but the most important aspect of who we are, is we don’t do and we could not do what they have done to us. We, for the most part are not built that way. ❤
💯 💶 I treat my friends all straight guys like gold. I would never do harm to someone just because I can. I'm definitely built as you could see from my uploads and the Playlist vid is me. I'm skinny but stupid strong 💪 but I never used it to bully people. I only use it on someone who comes at me or tries to bully me first.
I thank the Universe for being Queer. It's a sacred blessing for me. Had I been "normal" and straight, I probably would never have questioned my own existence. Instead I would have gone through life asleep, thinking "OK, this is cool." "I'm normal." And that's all I would have been. A life that is not reflective. A life that is black and white. A life that never questions existence. A life that accepts the world as it is and never feels the need to change it.
Thank you Daan for this video and for your views etc. ❤ If I can have a little of your time I would like to show you another way of thinking, which might help many in tow. 🙂
So firstly our gender and/or sexuality does not define us as people, it does however affect our direction in life... I will explain... 🙂
Who we are equates to what we hold important in life, coupled with all the thought processes/motivations around our "decision making". This my friend is not gender specific, but very much tied to the spectrum that is "human nature", and both genders are equally affected by the same "parameters"... Now gender on the other hand affects how we conduct and present ourselves, coupled with our psyches and ways of thinking. Males tend to be go getters and perhaps more "self" oriented, whereas females tend to be more doers and spend more time thinking about outcomes from their actions. They can be more emotionally needy when starved of validation (the appreciation of their efforts etc)... They will also be more attuned in terms of "nurturing practices", e.g. the male thrives in direct praise for accomplishments, whereas the female learns and grows through praise and appreciation for their actions, efforts and thoughtfulness.
Sexuality of course defines who we look to build relationships with, whether that be physical, emotional or both...
For those interested in Spirituality, this is how it fits into that model for want of a better word... Our Souls (a culmination from many lives lived before, that which is still very much present when our consciousness is wiped before entering a "new" life) are not gender specific, and again they very much fit into the "human nature spectrum". And it pretty much boils down to a simple equation:-
How much consideration they give to others vs their own perceived needs
Our Spirit (consciousness) is from all the parameters in this physical realm, where body image, gender, sexuality, perceptions of ourselves and others coupled with what we hold as important to us very much defines our direction and progress in life. In terms of all manner of relationships the less baggage we carry coupled with better understandings of others and selfless agendas the more likely we are to form and build upon healthy relationships with less turbulence etc...
Indeed, we're such a complex amalgam of past incarnations with their own astrological types, experiences and other complex factors, including the epoch of each one and the cultures they happened in and the level of development that transmigratory consciousness has achieved that the usual reductionist binary ideas of gender can hardly convey that complexity at all!
Thank you for sharing your perspective and insights 🙂
I would have to make the comparison of how you're proud to be a teacher, to be yourself and like what you do? Almost the same feeling? I can see how you've became more comfortable with yourself, maybe "proud" to you has a different connotation from how others use the word? I'm not "out, loud, and proud" in my community, I'm more of a "Please just see me as a guy and treat me as such, I don't want the attention." type of person.
I'm proud that I can make people laugh using my shortcomings as an example (including my transition experience to my trusted friends), I'm not quite self-deprecating, I just find life amusing and quite puzzling! I like to share my odd observations with close friends for a laugh ☺ (back/rear end hair surprise!) I'm happy to be who I am most of the time. Being trans and queer in a place full of people with memory problems kind of leads to it's own weird set of problems for sure. I had one lady ask me "What's wrong with your face?" when I grew out my beard, I was shocked at first, then got a good laugh from it. She's still a good friend of mine 👍 She really tries her best to remember my name now, and trying is a plus in my book!
Here in the US we have a saying "Not your average Joe Schmoe" I love being different, queer/gay/trans/non-binary. I'm also still exploring the intricacies of LGBTQIA+ language and trying to find out what fits me the best so I can describe myself to others when I meet them. I know I like guys, but I'm not quite "all gay" for many reasons. I'm artistic and can appreciate beauty in any form or function. I like feminine men, but some women really are beautiful. I'm not attracted s3xually, but can appreciate their form just as much as I can appreciate nature's beauty and all there is to experience and explore on this planet.
I just started playing animal crossing new horizons, and on my "passport" I have the title "omnivorous observationist", fits me quite well!
I think you're doing great, no need to share what you don't want to (your past before transition). Everyone has their boundaries and I think it's very healthy to stick with them for your own well being. ☯
I think you look tall in your videos and out walking, but I'm 5 foot 3 inches (stupid empirical measurements over here, when will we learn the easier way?!?! lol) is that 1.6 meters? 🤔🤷
Thank you Daan! Just be you, you're awesome and I thank you for sharing your thoughts 😁🥰
Ok I am sorry, as I don't intend to disrespect or cause any discomfort, but I am for some reason compelled to say that It's my first exposure to you and a few minutes into the video I was shocked to learn that you're a trans man.
I love and respect all humans( that includes trans men). I am just disappointed in myself with the feeling of shock that I experienced. I don't know if its appropriate to congratulate a trans person on their unspookable/unclockable(as the kids say) transition.
I guess I have to work harder not to assume things on the basis of looks.
Anyways, I am happy to have found such an honest, smart and handsome person on RUclips. Hope your body pains go away soon❤
I agree with your instinctual interpretation that "proud" implies some kind of accomplishment, when being gay is not an accomplishment.
To love others, one must love oneself. If gay, you must be out and comfortable with the fact it is who you are. Your sexual attractions are the clues of who you are and who you could fall in love with. While some will be hateful to you about being gay (or whatever) don't let them take you down or take away your self-confidence. You are you, so just be the way that you feel like being, acting, behaving, interacting with others, and finding that special someone. Yes, you could do some homework on homosexuality to become familiar with the jargon. Good Luck!
I'm 64, I suffered for a long time for having what I consider a feminine brain but, for so many reasons, I didn't want to go on with transition as a teen in the late seventies.
It took me literally decades to adjust to my biological sex but with slight adaptations such as shaving my body I pulled it off. I don't know if it was the energetic practices and the lucid dreaming which made me gradually realize that though felt my brain to be incongruent with my biological sex, it wasn't really my personality, just something my brain was wired into.
The more I managed to undo the misconceptions society and religion inculcates on us about what it means to be female or male, the gender stereotypes which even gay cis males often have in even much stronger form - especially in a latino country like Brazil! - I realized that my innermost being wanted to be free of all that, that I actually longed for something in between but never had the courage to embrace it as I was already targeted for being too weird and nutty even among the gay guys I got to know.
As I got older, the many hardships I've had to cope in life with, plus many disappointments and the disillusion about so many facets of the LGBTIQ movement in its radical segments -whether trans or anti-trans LGs - convinced me that serious non binaries don't worry about these trends and skirmishes, we just want to live our lives the way we feel deep inside to be our true selves. It's the radicals who turn it all into a mess of words and ideologies, which only end up stirring the already existing intolerance among most conservatives even more.
You're incredibly handsome, sensitive and intelligent. It's a true delight to watch your videos, I just don't know why I haven't been getting their notifications!
I don't have Instagram anymore, and left Facebook a long time ago but I'd certainly follow you on those social webs if I still used them. Keep being this amazing person you are, gorgeous guy! Kisses in your heart, as we say it here in Brazil.😍😘😇
By the way, as someone who loves languages and has been interested in some spoken in your country (like Frisian and Twentsk), I so love when you speak Dutch. I can't recognize the different accents or dialects but your good diction allows us foreign learners to be able to recognize some of the words we've learned, this is so gratifying!
Forgive me for posting such a long comment!
I'm very much with you on this, we shouldn't give too much emphasis on our gender image in our lives... ❤ What matters is being true to our views and values, strong within ourselves, but not so strong that we don't listen to the views and opinions of others if there is some "sense/weight" in what they have to say etc.
Yes our direction in life is very much dictated around needs that develop us as people (and no one wants to be stagnant), but when it comes to decision making is should be consulting what we deem as important vs the offsets to others and arriving at a "considered and measured" conclusion (and gender doesn't feature in this thought processing)... To put it another way we shouldn't be questioning our own self-importance/feelings of inferiority etc. We should all be strong and secure within ourselves and true to our values and beliefs etc. and therefore living a true and authentic life. I wonder if you would agree. ❤
@@John26767 I so do, lol! Thanks for the wholesome insights!😇🙏🙏
Thank you for your (long ;)) comment and thanks for sharing your story and perspective ❤️
@@Daan_Spieard Thank you for being so understanding and sorry again for it being so long 😵💫😀
Here's to blessings for just "being." Your gallant true being.
I’m happy with myself, glad to be me. I take pride only in my achievements.
For me, there’s a difference. For others, perhaps not.
Maybe some people need to feel proud to be queer because it gives them strength to withstand the opposition.
I don’t. I’m strong enough not to care what small-minded people think about me. Why should I be like them? Because they think they are superior? The dictionary doesn’t define average as superior. 😉
I think I’ll just keep being myself.
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Keep being yourself indeed :), thanks for sharing
I'm very proud of you. Continue to be you in whatever form you feel comfortable with. We all have questions about navigating our way through life, and those questions change as we gain more experience and our prospectives change. Keep doing what you're doing. The whole point of being LGBTQ+ is to be ourselves. We do not have to conform to any standard, not even the ones some LGBTQ+ people determined we should follow. Follow your heart and be happy. That's all anyone wants in life is to be happy.
I hate the word queer, "but," bro. 38 😮 Good genes.
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It’s a tremendous blessing. Personally I don’t like the word Queer. My husband and I met at church 9 years ago and will be celebrating our 6th anniversary this December. God has seen fit to bless us every step of the way. Yes, we know what scripture says however cultivate your own personal relationship with God, and see where He leads you.
Being part of the queer community is a blessing. We can see the banality of life in a unique way. I feel sorry for heterosexual people who are often unhappy in their marriage, with two children. They are bound by societal expectations. 🫶
Being Queer is a blessing?
That is what they say, it is a gift from God.
I never felt it that way. It gave me many "downs" in my life.
Is the coffee instant one?
I love the long comments on this video
Being homosexual is a higher calling.
@02:28 - Lactic Acid will cause that kind of soreness. ( has to dissipate on it's own )
::: Butterscotch Flavored Coffee ::: wonders if the U.S. has anything like that.
@03:08 = Ask the Sports Injury, Specialist - if they've got some 'Chiropractic' contacts.
Are you ftm trans? Or cis male bisexual? Whichever, you're beautiful ❤️
It is good to be gay - you can live your lives as you decide yourself. Of course gay people are as different as heteroes, so there are also idiots being gay. Some feel they want to kiss 1000 of frogs and some of us not that many. I didn't want to base my life on lies, what I sow being a child. It is so important to live as the one I am. Some years I was not welcome at home by my father. So I stayed away and later I could visit my parents as he got more educated. Life is not without problems. But had I made a girl pregnant and got family - it would have a disaster and a bitryal to her and a family. It is so important to find the right true balance in side your self.
Don't care so much about what others think. Live your life in balance, according to your feelings and it will be right. We all can contribute by being kind and forgiving and smile to people we meet on our way. I wish you the best of life.
Study the Collarbone / Clavicle area...
Hey daan. I was wondering if you'd heard of this guy's work. He's an orthopedic surgeon who began to prescribe hanging from a bar to his patients; it worked so well he wrote a book about it. The basic idea is that for shoulder health, we need to brachiate. So bring on the monkey bars. Check it out, if you like. I love your videos btw
The link keeps getting deleted for whatever reason. John M. Kirsch is the doctor's name, and kirschshoulder is the website
RUclips doesn’t allow posting links. Thanks for sharing, I'll look into it. At the moment, I'll try anything to reduce the pain 😅
Nice, I hope it helps (:
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I think, in my non-binary/gender fluid experience, that there is joy in being finally free to be who I truly am. There is even a term for it: gender euphoria, which I only just discovered. It is the opposite of gender dysphoria. It is the joy of genuine being. Love & light from Northern California!
I love short.
Nice share. I am gay, 64, and realize that most of my greatest influences and favorite people are LGBTQ. Our contribution is still vastly underestimated and not talked about enough.
*Tape up your ankles...
Are you left handed?
Sickening comment I don’t know if you do this to every young little man that you see on the RUclips but it’s like your comment is like a clone. I see it over and over there’s nothing great about the complete self-absorption of these young guys that you over you need to like talk to someone your own age.
Hey I’m gay. Guess what. It’s a curse xo
Snore
Thank you Daan. If I may suggest, try taking up swimming. Get to an aquatic center and do exercise in the water in the weightlessness. 🏜🕺🏻🐕🏖
Dann
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Love watching your vlogs and seeing you - very cute and handsome.
Your views show how you think deeply on everything.
Always look forward to your videos. Keep up the good work.
Being proud is an emotion about how you are living your life and how you feel about it. You can also be proud that you have made difficult decisions so that you can live the life that is you and achieve the goals and happiness that is everyone’s right.
Sadly, too many of us have lived our lives to conform with what family and society expect of us. And now that society has become more accepting of the fact that there are so many variants and variables it has become easier to live the life that is the real you and no longer live the lie. This is an excellent reason to be proud of your achievements.
And yes, I do believe being queer can be a blessing!