As a Wardrobe and Personal Stylist for over 16 years, I've dressed women for movies, tv, and film. When we want an actress to appear older than she is for her role, we will actually use some of these "style mistakes" to do so.
You speak my language, so many women give up on their style just because they’re in a certain age. I do believe that we should dress well and not be seen as giving up on life, at least not me, I’m 53 and there’s no way I’m going to look dowdy. Great video, thank you 😀
I embraced the long, loose tunic top because I was sure it was hiding my expanding middle. Nope. It was, in fact, putting a big red arrow pointing out the fact that I had something to hide. I decided to work on making the middle smaller (I am in my sixties and yes it can be done) and wearing more tailored items with a front tuck. Who knew? It actually gave me a waist and made me look younger and more stylish.
I have to agree with most of your points here. My style words are comfortable, casual, minimal with a touch of edgy. A lot of thought is put into it. I agree that comfortable doesn’t always mean frumpy but it can if you are not paying attention. Being creative in my wardrobe using these style words gives me challenge in my wardrobe and I like the process of putting outfits together
Dressing for comfort doesn't mean one's given up, it means one doesn't feel like dressing to please someone else. I'm done with that. Now, I dress to please myself and I dare say I look pretty damn good, even if I say so myself.
You sound confident in your style and that above all else is the #1 goal when it comes to personal style! As some women get older I see them stop caring about style as a direct result of not taking care of themselves. As in all the content I share, take what's helpful for you and leave what isn't.
Great points! I would also add capri pants, the ones that stop mid calf. The only one I disagree with is sweater sets. But the trendy ones with a shorter sweater tank, almost cropped but not showing belly.
Yes! Totally agree, forgot about capri pants, especially the khaki-colored ones. You're right Sylvia, there are some modern sweater sets that are cute and stylish. I'm thinking more of the old-school version that some women still wear w pearls. More Ann Taylor-ish. 🙃
Hi Ruth. I've worked with many women that have issues with their feet. Luckily there are more shoe designers making comfortable but stylish shoes these days. Plus chic sneakers are always stylish too. I don't think it has to be one or the other.
@@ruthwilfong2342 Thanks Ruth! Nordstrom (not sponsored) has a whole online section of comfortable shoes www.nordstrom.com/browse/women/shoes/comfort Cole Haan is a client favorite with women who have trouble with their feet but who also want to look stylish. 😊
This is fascinating. I think about everything you mentioned and I agree with them all except one. The Bermuda shorts. I'm sure I'm the exception and not the rule but I have a short torso and a short waist with a large bust and very long legs in proportion. I wear tailored Bermuda shorts that hit right above the knee Or fitted denim ones. I wear tops that fall right below the natural waste and it helps me create balance in my look. I think it's because of the rule of thirds. Ironically in real life I always got compliments when I wear them.
Thanks for your comment. It sounds like Bermuda shorts work for you and that you feel good in them. That's the most important thing. What I share here is general advice and it should be tweaked to work for you. ❤
@@EricaBallStyle Thank you! Fashion advice can be helpful But I guess that's why they call it personal style because figuring out what works for each of us is the key. However no one wants to look older than their age LOL
You’re showing slim Bermudas, they’re out of style, but I like some of the current wider-leg ones, but shorter than just above the knee, at least four inches above, I’d say. I have great legs (thanks, DNA), but just find shorts usually uncomfortable, they tend to ride up when I sit, so I only wear them when nothing else will do (same for blue jeans). Most occasions where shorts might be worn, like barbecues, a cotton dress works fine.
Agree. Bermudas are very chic and look great with a pair of espadrilles. A couple of those pics I wouldn't even consider to be bermuda shorts that were shown.
There’s no rules to fashion and ages, as long one is mentally happier. Some people as they get older, they finally have enough finances to able to shop for themselves whereby they have waited for ages to dress up that so happens it has past their time. So be it, as we live only once
There are some rules to aging gracefully: • Don't try to mimic your teenager daughter • Don't expose parts of your body that are not attractive • Dress more sophisticated as you get older. Don't wear the lime green blouse. Buy the shoes or scarf instead
@@bernitajenkins3180 I think a mini can be worn past 40 (I'm not referring to micro-minis) if it's an item that fits with one's personal style. I agree about the short shorts though which in my opinion are not a good look on anyone.
Perhaps you should consider your style to be a bit bias because you don't like particular styles not the age of the person wearing them a sweater set is classic if the person wearing it is classic pearls are timeless no age for them either perhaps you should consider it
Thanks for sharing your thoughts Andrea. Above everything else, wear what you feel great in. That's the goal. These are my general suggestions for style, take what's helpful and leave the rest behind.
Just checked out the parker long jeans, no way on earth would I wear them. They are too short for someone of a petite size. I've tried them before. Personally, I don't like showing too much flesh and would be uncomfortable in them. I go for boho knee-length dresses in the summer they look just right. Also I think as long as you adapt certain pieces of clothing that instantly makes you feel great, then that's all that matters. Each to their own.❤
Thanks for your comment Angela! If you don't like showing above-the-knee then the shorts wouldn't work for you. I'm 5'4 and they hit at about mid-thigh on me which is a lot longer than most denim shorts out there. But I still have clients like you that don't want to show that much skin. I think a skirt or dress is a great alternative. 😊
Cowl necks only emphasizes sagging skin, softening jawlines and the downward droop and wrinkles of the face and neck of us mature women, they’re awful. Those wide-cut necklines, tunic-length tops and sweaters, and 3/4-length sleeves at mature brands are super-frumpy, too. No one has a perfect figure, it’s always better to show one’s shape than wear oversized, baggy clothes. I do wear “cropped” tops and sweaters because they come down to at least cover my waistband, and often to my hipbone, I’m short overall and very short-waisted (never exposed belly skin, though, no one wants to see that, especially me!). Regular-length tops and sweaters end between my leg break and mid-thigh, major frump-a-dump. I always tuck in my tops or otherwise show my waistband, it looks so much more youthful and improves the proportions significantly. Even though my legs are on the long side, they look very stumpy in those tunic lengths, plus, they’ve been out of style for three decades, they were only a thing briefly in the 90s, with leggings. That silhouette is long gone from fashion.
Yes stores for women over 40 are full of frumpy loud prints and the worst of the boxy cut loose tops and elasticated wide cropped pants that are the awful uniform of too many older women
I’m in my early 30s and I find it difficult to find stores to shop at. It seems like stores either have styles for teens and young adults or 50 year old women. Where is the in between? 😅
Thanks for your comment Claire. Do you know what your personal style is? There are lots of great brands and stores/online sites that make great wardrobe options for early 30's. Anthropologie, Revolve.com, Shopbop.com, and then the department stores (like Nordstrom and Bloomingdale's) have great brands and styles too.
@@EricaBallStyle I do have a skort from anthropology that I like :) but it’s not something I could wear to work because its a micro mini lolll thank you for the suggestions xx
I am plus size 22, apple bodied, short from crotch to waist and have a terrible time with pants as a regular or high waisted fit is up under my large bust. I have several pairs of rolled cuff denim shorts that you would probably call Bermudas and they are perfect for me so yes, I am rocking them! There is no way that I could wear the shorts you recommend because a) they don't come in my size and b) for an event with an older crowd attending, the raw hem is less polished than the rolled up. Please keep us oldies in mind!
My question….what is WRONG with looking older if you are? It breaks my heart that women are still being told their worth is diminished by looking their age. I popped on here because I just need to say out loud…..PLEASE quit making women feel “looking older” is bad, wrong, ugly, etc. Many of us are older and are so thrilled we have lived this long. PLEASE. This is what keeps women hating themselves as the natural progression of life happens.
Thanks for your comment Chris. There is nothing wrong with looking older (I too am "older"). It's about embracing your age and not trying to look younger or older than you are. If someone is in their 50s trying to dress like their 20, or in their 40s trying to dress like they're 60, they will be perceived a certain way and that way won't be stylish. That's what my message here is.
Great video, I have gone to making my short shorts because of this issue. I find a 5 or 6 inch inseam is great on my 5'7 frame. I just took a pair of wide legged jeans that were just not right and turned them into some great shorts. Consider what is wrong. It might be a trip to the seamstress. 😊
@@EricaBallStyle yes I forgot to say. I am 63, I agree about the Bermuda shorts, not so great. But 3 inch inseam are also a bit too short. The fashion world isn't kind to the older crowd.
Designers would benefit from creating quality pieces that work for all ranges of women. They're getting better, but there's still room for them to grow and meet people at every stage and body.
Yes! Wide leg jeans that are too Cropped I find make perfect shorts! Especially if you are not into shorts that really hug your thighs, and you want more of a flare leg short, which is slimming! I just made a pair of shorts from some nice Levi’s jeans that had a very long inseam but a wide leg. They are absolutely perfect for me and very flattering.
I have to say I don't agree about the cowl neck sweaters. I think if one has a softer body (as in soft natural or soft classic in the Kibbe system for example) the soft draping of a cowl neck can look really good, regardless of age.
@@SueRosalie Maybe they are not the best choice then. But I think it's important to not only look at certain features alone but at the overall vibe of a person and what fits that vibe.
@@EricaBallStyle What colors make you look older? We had Barbie pink and now moving into red. How do we style bright colors? What size prints look modern? The small flower print look like teenager and the big floral looks golden girl.
@@chrismctarsney3092 These are great questions Chris! I personally don't think there are colors that make you look older. It's more the style of the clothing. When it comes to colors, I think wearing colors you love and feel great in is how to choose. If you feel great on the inside, it will show on the outside. In terms of styling bright colors- I talk about choosing 1 statement per outfit to not overwhelm a look. In the case of bright colors, the color is your statement. Think about keeping everything else about your outfit simple and streamlined. A classic silhouette works best. When it comes to prints, I personally avoid most prints aside from some basic stripes and florals because that works with my personal style. Again I think the style of the clothing and how it's worn creates an "older" appearance more than a specific print. But I think it depends on what you feel best in. I think above all else that's what to follow. I hope that helps!
Yes! Slim/straight ankle or skinny jeans are the most flattering over 35-ish in my opinion. Wide-leg jeans are a great one to add to this list Elizabeth 🙂
Completely disagree, I love it when older women wear "younger clothes," whatever feels like them, and I hate the idea that women need to change their style each decade and look accordingly.
I am only 30 years old… Take that as one may as far as the age scale, but I still feel like I’m pretty young amongst my friend group, especially since they are all older than me. I do tend to dress a little “older” as those my age or younger might say, but really, it’s dressing for myself, which is minimal, chic, comfortable, and elegant. I have found I am actually taking a little more seriously, especially since I look a lot younger than I am, and I really stand out amongst people my age who are mostly just stressing gym/pj style. I actually find I am comfortable wearing my style of clothing rather than the “comfortable” gym/pj style. I feel rather uncomfortable if I go out in this type of clothing even at home, I like to get dressed! I feel confident and powerful in the way I dress, and it definitely comes across and the way I portray myself. It did take some time to get comfortable dressing so differently in an area where most people do not dress in a chic and classy style. But I feel confident and get many compliments!
A year late to this video, but the combination of wide width and foot problems means it's really hard to find nice shoes! Also, I love bermuda shorts and cannot wear anything shorter - it wouldn't be a good look...and I don't want to wear a dress when it's hot. Anyway, enjoying your videos, even if this 68-year-old is doing it all wrong...😁! Like cowl necks, too, because they help a little with my small bustline - oh, no!!!!
Thanks for your comment Mary and for watching! These are my suggestions, but it's more important to follow what works for YOU ❤ Nordstrom has some great wide-width comfortable shoe options. You can narrow your search by width on their site which is awesome. Brands like the Naturalizer and Aerosoles are good options.
@@EricaBallStyle Thanks! Nordstrom was never on my radar b/c I assumed it was too expensive but I will take a look - I do remember reading one time that they have a high level of customer service regarding shoes to the point that they would break up pairs at no additional cost for the rare customer who had very special needs and wore two completely different size shoes so they did not need to buy two pairs of shoes to get one pair that fit - don't know if that's true but if so, it's a very nice thing to do!
My personal fashion rule is: after a certain age, if you wore a particular garment the first time it was in style, you have no business wearing it when it comes back in style.
I love this advice Tristan! I feel like that when I see teens wearing some of the trends out now. I wore that in the 90s and don't want to do it again.
Lol 😂😃- cowls, long shorts, capris will come back as moto jackets blazers and skinny belts die away. (Again) The circle of life with consumerism. 👜 None of it really has to do with style or fashion. ❤ Just spending 💵💰.
You can wear comfortable shoes without looking frumpy. Study French style. Parisian women never wear heels in the day time, they wear sneakers, usually Converse etc.or loafers, with jeans or pants and with a chic top, white t shirt etc and a blazer. Study Ines de la Fressange for inspiration.
Could you please define, what it means for you - dressing for your age? You keep repeating this, in this video. Do you have a rules how a woman should look like in their 30s, 40s, 50s…etc 🤔 that’s a very old way of thinking I would say 😜 I’m 47, my style is minimalist, androgynous with a touch of vintage. I got myself a baggy jeans, love it, and wear it with a well design jacket. my 17 years old son complimented me that I look like a cool mom 😝 and wanted to find for me a nice colorful sneakers! I believe that the problem is not in the specific piece of clothes, but in how we wear them! I will happily wear oversize clothes, bermudas and sometimes I'll buy trendy item at the teen store 🤪😜😝 because women can express themselves, regardless of age.
I have found that women who don't feel confident in their clothes tend to make certain purchase/style "mistakes". As I always say, if you feel great in what you are wearing that is the most important thing. Not age. If you feel confident in your style, that's the goal. But for others who don't feel great, it may be helpful to look at your clothes and style this way.
@@EricaBallStyle I'm against putting women in restrictions “ at this age you shouldn't wear this “ it's not about me, as I stopped listening to it a long time ago. This is what you teach women, and that’s why I ask, why you say this in this video. If women are insecure about their style and themselves, you believe that giving them even more restrictions will help them become more confident 🧐 I personally believe exactly the opposite. If we don't experiment, try different things, we won't find confidence and what we like. obviously you've worked with women and I hope they found their style in the end. 👍
@@agataseredyn1367 Thanks for your feedback. Many women I've worked with over the last 15+ years struggle with their style. Our initial perception of people is created in the first 60 seconds. A lot of that has to do with what we wear. There are certain items women wear that I believe makes them look older and not as stylish. This is my opinion. I also believe if they feel confident in what they're wearing even if it's items I believe make them look older, they should still wear them. That is the most important factor and should override age. Ps. I'm in my 40s and apply these to myself as well. I would love to wear a crop top for example but choose to skip wearing them. But I support other women in their 40s who feel great wearing crop tops
Martha Stewart looks so frumpy there, she needs to get her weight under control, too. But capri pants and crocs? I always thought that big-shirt worn out look is aging, too. I agree with all of your points. I think most mature women where I live tend towards too young, rather than too old in their clothing, makeup and hairstyling. It’s sad seeing a 60-year old in Daisy Dukes, a crop top and heels and waist-length bleached curls. More age-appropriate, but modern, clothing looks much better on mature women than teenagers’ outfits, which are going to fool anyone anyway. It hard to go wrong with high-quality, modern classics at any age.
Love lots of your advice, but this one fell flat for me. I think different body types can wear different cuts and hangs of fabric successfully. And your "style" isn't for everyone, timeless is great advice, but neither my style nor my lifestyle is "classy". I was hoping for more details that could apply across style choices.
@EricaBallStyle, wow disappointed you agree about the snarky complisult (compliment & insult) comment on Martha Stewart being frumpy. Agree this particular outfit could be better but does not mean she is or her style should be categorized that way. Sometimes people have bad fashion day or and a bad day hers whatever it was just happened be photographed and published. Most of the time MS has been photographed or on camera she looks great. Even if she did not no need to publicly bash her style on this channel.
@@egarvey6403 Sorry you feel I was bashing her. You'll find me on certain days running around in sweats (not the stylish ones). I want to offer visuals for the examples I share. The particular outfit, not that person's style as a whole. For instance, I love Sarah Jessica Parker's style but I used her as an example of what not to do in my video "18 fashion mistakes".
@EricaBallStyle Hi, its not that you used her as example, totally get that it's that you agreed with the comment she is frumpy. Btw, when someone says in an apology "sorry you feel" its not an apology. Was pointing out that comment was a little mean spirited and you agreed with it. You're on this channel to help not agree to comments that bash someones style based on one picture.
@@egarvey6403 Oh I see! I don't perceive the comment as bashing her. I think the community here is a place we can have respectful opinions. Style is subjective. So my thumbs up is more about supporting the comment. I honestly don't follow MS's style that closely.
That's a good point Stella. This makes me think of my Greek grandmother who wore black every day of her life (20+ years) after my grandfather passed away.
Depends on your body type! I am a petite with an hourglass figure, and bermuda looks ridiculous on me. It does nothing for my figure. Last time I wore one of these bermudas, a colleague told me "you look like a pupil" (I was already in my late thirties).
Life is too short for uncomfortable shoes. Oversize looks awful on everyone. Heartily disagree on the Bermudas. They must fit properly. The images you showed all looked like crap because none of those shorts fit properly or were the correct length.
Its amazing how youre wrong in jut about everything you say. I opt you dot mind me saying this.Really mom jeans look good on everyone. And mom jeans always have a high rise, so u dont o=know what they are.
As a Wardrobe and Personal Stylist for over 16 years, I've dressed women for movies, tv, and film. When we want an actress to appear older than she is for her role, we will actually use some of these "style mistakes" to do so.
You speak my language, so many women give up on their style just because they’re in a certain age. I do believe that we should dress well and not be seen as giving up on life, at least not me, I’m 53 and there’s no way I’m going to look dowdy. Great video, thank you 😀
Yes Lily! Love your comment thank you 😊
I embraced the long, loose tunic top because I was sure it was hiding my expanding middle. Nope. It was, in fact, putting a big red arrow pointing out the fact that I had something to hide. I decided to work on making the middle smaller (I am in my sixties and yes it can be done) and wearing more tailored items with a front tuck. Who knew? It actually gave me a waist and made me look younger and more stylish.
I love hearing this Victoria! Sometimes all it takes is a simple tweak like a front tuck to change how something looks and as a result how you feel.
I have to agree with most of your points here. My style words are comfortable, casual, minimal with a touch of edgy. A lot of thought is put into it. I agree that comfortable doesn’t always mean frumpy but it can if you are not paying attention. Being creative in my wardrobe using these style words gives me challenge in my wardrobe and I like the process of putting outfits together
I like your style words Elle. Using your personal style words to build outfits can be such a creative process. 🙂
Dressing for comfort doesn't mean one's given up, it means one doesn't feel like dressing to please someone else. I'm done with that. Now, I dress to please myself and I dare say I look pretty damn good, even if I say so myself.
You sound confident in your style and that above all else is the #1 goal when it comes to personal style! As some women get older I see them stop caring about style as a direct result of not taking care of themselves. As in all the content I share, take what's helpful for you and leave what isn't.
Great points! I would also add capri pants, the ones that stop mid calf.
The only one I disagree with is sweater sets. But the trendy ones with a shorter sweater tank, almost cropped but not showing belly.
Yes! Totally agree, forgot about capri pants, especially the khaki-colored ones. You're right Sylvia, there are some modern sweater sets that are cute and stylish. I'm thinking more of the old-school version that some women still wear w pearls. More Ann Taylor-ish. 🙃
Some of us older gals can only wear comfortable shoes! ❤
Hi Ruth. I've worked with many women that have issues with their feet. Luckily there are more shoe designers making comfortable but stylish shoes these days. Plus chic sneakers are always stylish too. I don't think it has to be one or the other.
@@EricaBallStyle thanks, I agree but selection is very limited & absolutely no heels, not even platforms! 😞 Love your vids. 💜
@@ruthwilfong2342 Thanks Ruth! Nordstrom (not sponsored) has a whole online section of comfortable shoes www.nordstrom.com/browse/women/shoes/comfort
Cole Haan is a client favorite with women who have trouble with their feet but who also want to look stylish. 😊
This is fascinating. I think about everything you mentioned and I agree with them all except one. The Bermuda shorts. I'm sure I'm the exception and not the rule but I have a short torso and a short waist with a large bust and very long legs in proportion. I wear tailored Bermuda shorts that hit right above the knee Or fitted denim ones. I wear tops that fall right below the natural waste and it helps me create balance in my look. I think it's because of the rule of thirds. Ironically in real life I always got compliments when I wear them.
Thanks for your comment. It sounds like Bermuda shorts work for you and that you feel good in them. That's the most important thing. What I share here is general advice and it should be tweaked to work for you. ❤
@@EricaBallStyle Thank you! Fashion advice can be helpful But I guess that's why they call it personal style because figuring out what works for each of us is the key. However no one wants to look older than their age LOL
@@pajamamama5965 Well said! ❤
Great video, Erica! Keep them coming!
Thanks Thomas!
Horizontal and vertical proportions are key. Know YOURs, learn to balance your own body. Following fashion reveals insecurity.
Thanks for your insights Dawn.
You’re showing slim Bermudas, they’re out of style, but I like some of the current wider-leg ones, but shorter than just above the knee, at least four inches above, I’d say. I have great legs (thanks, DNA), but just find shorts usually uncomfortable, they tend to ride up when I sit, so I only wear them when nothing else will do (same for blue jeans). Most occasions where shorts might be worn, like barbecues, a cotton dress works fine.
Agree. Bermudas are very chic and look great with a pair of espadrilles. A couple of those pics I wouldn't even consider to be bermuda shorts that were shown.
There’s no rules to fashion and ages, as long one is mentally happier. Some people as they get older, they finally have enough finances to able to shop for themselves whereby they have waited for ages to dress up that so happens it has past their time. So be it, as we live only once
Great point! I like to say above all else if you love it and feel great in it then wear it.
There are some rules to aging gracefully:
• Don't try to mimic your teenager daughter
• Don't expose parts of your body that are not attractive
• Dress more sophisticated as you get older. Don't wear the lime green blouse. Buy the shoes or scarf instead
Well, I hope you don't rock a mini past 40!! Or Daisy Dukes...
@@americafirst9144 Don't ban books. Don't tell women what to do with their bodies. Beware of fascism.
@@bernitajenkins3180 I think a mini can be worn past 40 (I'm not referring to micro-minis) if it's an item that fits with one's personal style. I agree about the short shorts though which in my opinion are not a good look on anyone.
Great points!
Thank you 🙂
Perhaps you should consider your style to be a bit bias because you don't like particular styles not the age of the person wearing them a sweater set is classic if the person wearing it is classic pearls are timeless no age for them either perhaps you should consider it
Thanks for sharing your thoughts Andrea. Above everything else, wear what you feel great in. That's the goal. These are my general suggestions for style, take what's helpful and leave the rest behind.
Just checked out the parker long jeans, no way on earth would I wear them. They are too short for someone of a petite size. I've tried them before. Personally, I don't like showing too much flesh and would be uncomfortable in them. I go for boho knee-length dresses in the summer they look just right.
Also I think as long as you adapt certain pieces of clothing that instantly makes you feel great, then that's all that matters. Each to their own.❤
Thanks for your comment Angela! If you don't like showing above-the-knee then the shorts wouldn't work for you. I'm 5'4 and they hit at about mid-thigh on me which is a lot longer than most denim shorts out there. But I still have clients like you that don't want to show that much skin. I think a skirt or dress is a great alternative. 😊
@Erica Ball Style
Thank-you Erica
I love the video❤️
@@angelaharris6577 Thanks Angela ❤
Cowl necks only emphasizes sagging skin, softening jawlines and the downward droop and wrinkles of the face and neck of us mature women, they’re awful. Those wide-cut necklines, tunic-length tops and sweaters, and 3/4-length sleeves at mature brands are super-frumpy, too. No one has a perfect figure, it’s always better to show one’s shape than wear oversized, baggy clothes. I do wear “cropped” tops and sweaters because they come down to at least cover my waistband, and often to my hipbone, I’m short overall and very short-waisted (never exposed belly skin, though, no one wants to see that, especially me!). Regular-length tops and sweaters end between my leg break and mid-thigh, major frump-a-dump. I always tuck in my tops or otherwise show my waistband, it looks so much more youthful and improves the proportions significantly. Even though my legs are on the long side, they look very stumpy in those tunic lengths, plus, they’ve been out of style for three decades, they were only a thing briefly in the 90s, with leggings. That silhouette is long gone from fashion.
Yes stores for women over 40 are full of frumpy loud prints and the worst of the boxy cut loose tops and elasticated wide cropped pants that are the awful uniform of too many older women
I’m in my early 30s and I find it difficult to find stores to shop at. It seems like stores either have styles for teens and young adults or 50 year old women. Where is the in between? 😅
Thanks for your comment Claire. Do you know what your personal style is? There are lots of great brands and stores/online sites that make great wardrobe options for early 30's. Anthropologie, Revolve.com, Shopbop.com, and then the department stores (like Nordstrom and Bloomingdale's) have great brands and styles too.
look for classic items that are ageless and timeless and well cut
@@EricaBallStyle I do have a skort from anthropology that I like :) but it’s not something I could wear to work because its a micro mini lolll thank you for the suggestions xx
@@SueRosalie true
I am plus size 22, apple bodied, short from crotch to waist and have a terrible time with pants as a regular or high waisted fit is up under my large bust. I have several pairs of rolled cuff denim shorts that you would probably call Bermudas and they are perfect for me so yes, I am rocking them! There is no way that I could wear the shorts you recommend because a) they don't come in my size and b) for an event with an older crowd attending, the raw hem is less polished than the rolled up. Please keep us oldies in mind!
My question….what is WRONG with looking older if you are? It breaks my heart that women are still being told their worth is diminished by looking their age. I popped on here because I just need to say out loud…..PLEASE quit making women feel “looking older” is bad, wrong, ugly, etc. Many of us are older and are so thrilled we have lived this long. PLEASE. This is what keeps women hating themselves as the natural progression of life happens.
Thanks for your comment Chris. There is nothing wrong with looking older (I too am "older"). It's about embracing your age and not trying to look younger or older than you are. If someone is in their 50s trying to dress like their 20, or in their 40s trying to dress like they're 60, they will be perceived a certain way and that way won't be stylish. That's what my message here is.
Who cares on how women are perceived anyway .
I know this is about clothes but choice of make up hairstyle and eyeglass frames also can be very aging.
That is definitely true! Thanks for your comment.
Great video, I have gone to making my short shorts because of this issue. I find a 5 or 6 inch inseam is great on my 5'7 frame. I just took a pair of wide legged jeans that were just not right and turned them into some great shorts. Consider what is wrong. It might be a trip to the seamstress. 😊
Thanks Cheryl! That's such a great tip and so easy to turn your jeans into shorts. 🙂
@@EricaBallStyle yes I forgot to say. I am 63, I agree about the Bermuda shorts, not so great. But 3 inch inseam are also a bit too short. The fashion world isn't kind to the older crowd.
Designers would benefit from creating quality pieces that work for all ranges of women. They're getting better, but there's still room for them to grow and meet people at every stage and body.
Yes! Wide leg jeans that are too Cropped I find make perfect shorts! Especially if you are not into shorts that really hug your thighs, and you want more of a flare leg short, which is slimming! I just made a pair of shorts from some nice Levi’s jeans that had a very long inseam but a wide leg. They are absolutely perfect for me and very flattering.
I wish I could wear my heels
Had a stress fracture in my foot now I got to wear flats 😢love your video
Thanks Dawn! Luckily there are some cute flats out there 😊
I have to say I don't agree about the cowl neck sweaters. I think if one has a softer body (as in soft natural or soft classic in the Kibbe system for example) the soft draping of a cowl neck can look really good, regardless of age.
Cowl necks are to be avoided if you have a big bust
@@SueRosalie Maybe they are not the best choice then. But I think it's important to not only look at certain features alone but at the overall vibe of a person and what fits that vibe.
Love your video. Please talk about color and prints.
Thanks Chris! When you say colors and prints what do you specifically want help with?
@@EricaBallStyle What colors make you look older? We had Barbie pink and now moving into red. How do we style bright colors? What size prints look modern? The small flower print look like teenager and the big floral looks golden girl.
@@chrismctarsney3092 These are great questions Chris! I personally don't think there are colors that make you look older. It's more the style of the clothing. When it comes to colors, I think wearing colors you love and feel great in is how to choose. If you feel great on the inside, it will show on the outside.
In terms of styling bright colors- I talk about choosing 1 statement per outfit to not overwhelm a look. In the case of bright colors, the color is your statement. Think about keeping everything else about your outfit simple and streamlined. A classic silhouette works best.
When it comes to prints, I personally avoid most prints aside from some basic stripes and florals because that works with my personal style. Again I think the style of the clothing and how it's worn creates an "older" appearance more than a specific print.
But I think it depends on what you feel best in. I think above all else that's what to follow.
I hope that helps!
What about wide leg jeans should they be avoided if over 50? Black ones can look like wide leg trousers. Great tips on the video 🙏 x
Yes! Slim/straight ankle or skinny jeans are the most flattering over 35-ish in my opinion. Wide-leg jeans are a great one to add to this list Elizabeth 🙂
Wear what you feel 1000 in, when you look in the mirror and feel exited and in love with what you see❤❤
A wide leg trousers can look fantastic for any age! Please don’t limit yourself, becouse you are 50. ❤ I’m 47, wear wide leg trousers and love it.
@@agataseredyn1367 Wear what you feel great in! No matter your age.
the most flattering cut is bootcut, or if you can't find those, straight cut.
Classic pieces should not go out of style.
Yes, dressing too young is ageing! So is dressing too old!
YES SueRosalie well said!
I don't feel I gave up - I've just never had any sense of style.
Sometimes I like what you say and sometimes I don't!. This was both.
Take what's helpful and leave behind what isn't 😉
Completely disagree, I love it when older women wear "younger clothes," whatever feels like them, and I hate the idea that women need to change their style each decade and look accordingly.
I personally find frumpy-looking midi skirts really ageing.
WOW 💯 correct! Love this video. Cowl neck…UGH!
I think the most important factor with clothes is body type, height and size.
I am only 30 years old… Take that as one may as far as the age scale, but I still feel like I’m pretty young amongst my friend group, especially since they are all older than me. I do tend to dress a little “older” as those my age or younger might say, but really, it’s dressing for myself, which is minimal, chic, comfortable, and elegant. I have found I am actually taking a little more seriously, especially since I look a lot younger than I am, and I really stand out amongst people my age who are mostly just stressing gym/pj style. I actually find I am comfortable wearing my style of clothing rather than the “comfortable” gym/pj style. I feel rather uncomfortable if I go out in this type of clothing even at home, I like to get dressed! I feel confident and powerful in the way I dress, and it definitely comes across and the way I portray myself. It did take some time to get comfortable dressing so differently in an area where most people do not dress in a chic and classy style. But I feel confident and get many compliments!
Love this Ashlynn! It sounds like you've really embraced your style and who you are 👏
A year late to this video, but the combination of wide width and foot problems means it's really hard to find nice shoes! Also, I love bermuda shorts and cannot wear anything shorter - it wouldn't be a good look...and I don't want to wear a dress when it's hot. Anyway, enjoying your videos, even if this 68-year-old is doing it all wrong...😁! Like cowl necks, too, because they help a little with my small bustline - oh, no!!!!
Thanks for your comment Mary and for watching! These are my suggestions, but it's more important to follow what works for YOU ❤
Nordstrom has some great wide-width comfortable shoe options. You can narrow your search by width on their site which is awesome. Brands like the Naturalizer and Aerosoles are good options.
@@EricaBallStyle Thanks! Nordstrom was never on my radar b/c I assumed it was too expensive but I will take a look - I do remember reading one time that they have a high level of customer service regarding shoes to the point that they would break up pairs at no additional cost for the rare customer who had very special needs and wore two completely different size shoes so they did not need to buy two pairs of shoes to get one pair that fit - don't know if that's true but if so, it's a very nice thing to do!
@@user-wu7sv6hr7v You can also try Nordstrom Rack for more budget-friendly options. You can narrow it down by width there too.
@@EricaBallStyle 👍 Thanks!
@@user-wu7sv6hr7v Anytime! ❤
What is sweater set?
It's a thin knit tank or short sleeve sweater that is worn under a matching cardigan.
the correct name is twin set. A short sleeved crew neck sweater with matching button down cardigan. Very popular in the 1950s.
They were usually worn with pants or a pleated wool skirt.
@@SueRosalie thank you.
What about skorts? I don't have one but have considered it.
Personally, I'm not a fan of skorts unless you wear them for working out.
My personal fashion rule is: after a certain age, if you wore a particular garment the first time it was in style, you have no business wearing it when it comes back in style.
I love this advice Tristan! I feel like that when I see teens wearing some of the trends out now. I wore that in the 90s and don't want to do it again.
yes and it applies very much to the 80s!
Sneakers? Cowboy boots? Pleated pants? MIDI skirts? Suits? Leather jackets?
@kathygann7632 well, leather jackets are a classic. Whether you're 8 or 80, if you've got the attitude, wrap it up in leather. 😉
@@tristanarnold9616 I love a good leather jacket at any age!
Lol 😂😃- cowls, long shorts, capris will come back as moto jackets blazers and skinny belts die away. (Again) The circle of life with consumerism. 👜
None of it really has to do with style or fashion. ❤ Just spending 💵💰.
You can wear comfortable shoes without looking frumpy. Study French style. Parisian women never wear heels in the day time, they wear sneakers, usually Converse etc.or loafers, with jeans or pants and with a chic top, white t shirt etc and a blazer. Study Ines de la Fressange for inspiration.
Sweater sets are classic timeless. Otherwise I agree.
Thanks for sharing your opinion Barbara!
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Omg yes, cowl necks! 😂 They are awful. Also, I know everyone loves them but denim jackets are dowdy. Sorry not sorry....
If it's the right cut of a denim jacket it can be super stylish. But cowl necks I never got lol!
Could you please define, what it means for you - dressing for your age? You keep repeating this, in this video.
Do you have a rules how a woman should look like in their 30s, 40s, 50s…etc 🤔
that’s a very old way of thinking I would say 😜
I’m 47, my style is minimalist, androgynous with a touch of vintage. I got myself a baggy jeans, love it, and wear it with a well design jacket. my 17 years old son complimented me that I look like a cool mom 😝 and wanted to find for me a nice colorful sneakers!
I believe that the problem is not in the specific piece of clothes, but in how we wear them! I will happily wear oversize clothes, bermudas and sometimes I'll buy trendy item at the teen store 🤪😜😝 because women can express themselves, regardless of age.
I have found that women who don't feel confident in their clothes tend to make certain purchase/style "mistakes". As I always say, if you feel great in what you are wearing that is the most important thing. Not age.
If you feel confident in your style, that's the goal. But for others who don't feel great, it may be helpful to look at your clothes and style this way.
@@EricaBallStyle
I'm against putting women in restrictions “ at this age you shouldn't wear this “ it's not about me, as I stopped listening to it a long time ago.
This is what you teach women, and that’s why I ask, why you say this in this video.
If women are insecure about their style and themselves, you believe that giving them even more restrictions will help them become more confident 🧐 I personally believe exactly the opposite. If we don't experiment, try different things, we won't find confidence and what we like. obviously you've worked with women and I hope they found their style in the end. 👍
@@agataseredyn1367 Thanks for your feedback. Many women I've worked with over the last 15+ years struggle with their style. Our initial perception of people is created in the first 60 seconds. A lot of that has to do with what we wear. There are certain items women wear that I believe makes them look older and not as stylish. This is my opinion. I also believe if they feel confident in what they're wearing even if it's items I believe make them look older, they should still wear them. That is the most important factor and should override age. Ps. I'm in my 40s and apply these to myself as well. I would love to wear a crop top for example but choose to skip wearing them. But I support other women in their 40s who feel great wearing crop tops
I always think older women wearing “zany” is really aging. Purple hair and talons is a look I’ll never wear 😂
Martha Stewart looks so frumpy there, she needs to get her weight under control, too. But capri pants and crocs? I always thought that big-shirt worn out look is aging, too. I agree with all of your points. I think most mature women where I live tend towards too young, rather than too old in their clothing, makeup and hairstyling. It’s sad seeing a 60-year old in Daisy Dukes, a crop top and heels and waist-length bleached curls. More age-appropriate, but modern, clothing looks much better on mature women than teenagers’ outfits, which are going to fool anyone anyway. It hard to go wrong with high-quality, modern classics at any age.
Thanks Kimberly! You always make great points.
Love lots of your advice, but this one fell flat for me. I think different body types can wear different cuts and hangs of fabric successfully. And your "style" isn't for everyone, timeless is great advice, but neither my style nor my lifestyle is "classy". I was hoping for more details that could apply across style choices.
Martha Stewart is an extremely successful woman, but she’s never been fashionable. Even 20 years ago, she looked frumpy to me.
So true Katherine!
@EricaBallStyle, wow disappointed you agree about the snarky complisult (compliment & insult) comment on Martha Stewart being frumpy. Agree this particular outfit could be better but does not mean she is or her style should be categorized that way. Sometimes people have bad fashion day or and a bad day hers whatever it was just happened be photographed and published. Most of the time MS has been photographed or on camera she looks great. Even if she did not no need to publicly bash her style on this channel.
@@egarvey6403 Sorry you feel I was bashing her. You'll find me on certain days running around in sweats (not the stylish ones). I want to offer visuals for the examples I share. The particular outfit, not that person's style as a whole. For instance, I love Sarah Jessica Parker's style but I used her as an example of what not to do in my video "18 fashion mistakes".
@EricaBallStyle Hi, its not that you used her as example, totally get that it's that you agreed with the comment she is frumpy. Btw, when someone says in an apology "sorry you feel" its not an apology. Was pointing out that comment was a little mean spirited and you agreed with it. You're on this channel to help not agree to comments that bash someones style based on one picture.
@@egarvey6403 Oh I see! I don't perceive the comment as bashing her. I think the community here is a place we can have respectful opinions. Style is subjective. So my thumbs up is more about supporting the comment. I honestly don't follow MS's style that closely.
Colour is a big one,too much black sometimes.
That's a good point Stella. This makes me think of my Greek grandmother who wore black every day of her life (20+ years) after my grandfather passed away.
less than a quarter of the population looks good in black
I disagree, I think Bermuda shorts are really classy!
That's what's great about fashion Rosemary- it's subjective! I always say if you feel great in something that's the most important thing.
Depends on your body type! I am a petite with an hourglass figure, and bermuda looks ridiculous on me. It does nothing for my figure. Last time I wore one of these bermudas, a colleague told me "you look like a pupil" (I was already in my late thirties).
Painfully obvious advice.
Life is too short for uncomfortable shoes. Oversize looks awful on everyone. Heartily disagree on the Bermudas. They must fit properly. The images you showed all looked like crap because none of those shorts fit properly or were the correct length.
don't take my bermuda shorts!
If you love them Elizabeth then go for it! Just look for a modern pair that is a flat front. 😉
Its amazing how youre wrong in jut about everything you say. I opt you dot mind me saying this.Really mom jeans look good on everyone. And mom jeans always have a high rise, so u dont o=know what they are.
I respectfully disagree. Mom jeans look terrible on me. 😂