This is fantastic advice!! I agree 100 percent. I have a great friend who is just so negative. I try to help her but she acts like she has no agency in her life. The three items: - Good grooming - Good posture - Good health Truly make a world of difference!
I think people are wondering. I think that’s why they all start talking to me. Lol. Yes I’ve heard that. It’s a cute saying. You know I’m a big fan of the little sayings. Well you would know if you followed me on Instagram. Lol.
@@CoffeewithCarey Don't do instragram don't subscribe, no twitter(X) Facebook or anything else. I like to respond, but want to limit online visibility. So it is comments or email.
The previous woman i liked was gorgeous. But when she opened her mouth and told me that she is out of my league, and that I need to be more realistic, I immediately withdrew. People who are too high on themselves is definitely not sexy.
why did she not know what you looked like ahead of time? I cannot imagine a person, uttering those words out loud or how you could describe her as gorgeous when she is obviously so hideous.
Love the content and humor in this one. Love the comment on what kind of friends you keep. Makes me feel good cause my friends are uplifting and solid. Also the comments on confidence and walking into a room. It’s a good feeling when you’re in the store and you notice the entire store stops dead to look at you walk by. Its all confidence and the way you carry yourself. You’d be amazed that every time you think about dropping and knocking out 20 push ups several times a day will work wonders on the body.
Is this a game of made you look? Because you made me look. haha It’s the eyelashes! Amazing what 3 coats of mascara and a little Latisse will do for ya. ;) Thank you. 🙏
@CoffeewithCarey but what does that mean "open to people who are open to you?" I'm physically unattractive so men aren't "open to me"! Are you saying that someone is and I'm not "open"? I need more clear explanation and less rhetoric 😊
I had a woman friend I was very attracted to due to her good looks and hot body and she was 60 years old … I was 69… the attraction went by the wayside as I got to know her more… she was thrice married, on disability due to mental/ emotional issues, quite possibly alcoholic, did not do much to support herself financially and had kind of a dismissive/snarky personality… looks are not everything… I ended it after 4 months…
Attraction matters, but it's fascinating to see the differences in what attracts one person and what attracts another. A beauty to one man is a "meh" to another. People are so interesting.
I've never been overconfident regarding my height. Our US culture values big, tall and muscular men versus tall skinny and lanky like myself 😁 I don't feel comfortable in gyms and prefer to be in the fresh air walking and/or doing physical labor to stay fit which I do a lot of. To your point Carrie, I started to force myself to stand up and walk tall, with better posture. It really has been transformational - such a simple, affordable and healthy thing to do in just keeping a 6'3" frame upright 😄
The older I get, the less impact the physical body attraction has for me. I'm not saying that I don't see that, but I no longer scan for if a man is "my type" and ignore all that aren't as I did in my younger years. I find eye contact is so much more revealing about establishing a genuine connection, than whether he can get my "internal fantasy" & wishful thinking juices flowing. I think a lot of men do not want to be seen these days. Head down, no eye contact, just in the grind to getting things done. In and out, no time for a friendly smile or a wink and a nod [I know there was an oldie about it, have to think about that one - Carey with her huge song inventory would probably know]. When you can get them to look up, you have a chance to make a connection - however fleetingly - even if just for a minute or two. And sometimes a conversation happens as a result ;o)
I think that’s a lot of people these days; not paying attention. Nose in their phones too. Some women say they feel invisible after 50, but sometimes they’re choosing that. I’ll have to think about the song
@@CoffeewithCarey I had the song wrong - spent just way too much time trying to figure it out: It's a "Wink & a Smile" from Sleepless in Seattle - ruclips.net/video/kcjdJt2nUj4/видео.html
Looks are the primary and only thing some desire, who are immature! These individuals must look a certain way and fit all their criteria in their eyes. The old saying is true, "Beauty is in the eyes of the beholder!"
I'm 51,I think I look ok, obviously women think I look ugly constant rejection over the years, recently had a painful romantic rejection, fell in love with her but she cruelly rejected me, I'm crushed, still hurting and healing,I wish we could have gotten together.thats life it's cruel.
indeed. but also some people need to stop listening to strangers on the internet who make them believe that beauty is universal and they have to have it and find it!
Based on my experience optimizing dating profiles I would surmise that your profile is just not at all up to par. I’ve never met anybody too ugly to date. 🤷🏻♀️
It makes me laugh when I hear people say, "There's someone for everyone". But this is, from a logical standpoint, fallacious because if it was true, then everyone would have someone, and matchmakers like yourself would have little or no business.
Perhaps I have clients because there are people coming of age who would like a partner! Or people who are newly divorced or widowed and don’t know how to go out there looking for people again. And there are some people who were busy building things other than a relationship and now want to change focus.. But I’m glad it’s making you laugh. 🙄 #PositivityAttractsPeople #NoNegatovityZone
Dating has changed in america and will change all around the world and not for the better. Dating nowadays is hookups, dating apps and money pursuit. Everything has changed in the last 6 to 8 months.
You know what though. There are so many youtube channels about dating and about hookups and about what women really want , what men reallly want and how to treat all men and how to treat all women. They all copy off each other and it becomes a social media trend but in real life I just haven’t seen it. I still see people going on dates , chivalry, gentlemanly and lady like acts, girls dressed up to impress each other not the guys. There are still tons of normal freaking people out there just just want to treat others right and want to be treated right. I laugh at so many of these ultra rich guys who call themselves high value men and they act like they have all the answers for how to treat women and how to treat high value women and how nobody cares about woman’s diplomas on the wall or whatever….its all total BS. Women put their diplomas on the wall because they’re proud of their hard work and sacrifice…that stuff ain’t easy especially if you’re married, raising kids, raising other peoples kids, adopting kids, runnjng three businesses and then getting your doctorate while you have stage Iv colon cancer and just took on another job teachjng nurse practitioners at the campus…..yeah man that was my wife and she sure as shit was proud to put her diplomas on her wall and she would laugh as these steroided frat boy “High value” women guru”s cause they couldnt walk a tenth of a mile in her shoes. These guys are just hooking people in for click bait topics because it sells. Its too boring to talk about two people meeting in high school , love at first sight, working five jobs together, having their own place at 17 years old, not wanting to be like other people in debt that have lots of toys the bank owns, sacrificing creature comfort’s today for incredible retirements in 50 years, laughing at all the morons who are laughing at them, living legally within the system while having a seperate system from side gigs that picks up the slack, learnjng how to cut your own hair and throwing $20 into a retirement fund every time you do it, teaching others how awesome your system of being self sufficient works especially young couples that are just starting out. Sadly I just have memories of all of this now that my wife passed but I have these conversations with young couples all the time and it really works…Im only 53 still very young and I enjoy sharing my story of my marriage to that woman. I know there are good people out there to date and there are just as many normal people as there are deviants and hook up artists…..you just have to get out there and do it on your own and not fall for these advice peddlers on youtube who think they know women. Ain’t no way in hell those guys would invite ME on their show.
@@Wookinpanub235 I love most of this and could not agree more with some of it . All these blogs, channels and influencers trying to convince everyone it’s horrible out there. That’s not my experience, friends’ experiences… and it’s not my clients’ experiences. Be careful where you choose to spend your time and whom you choose to listen to. Oh, and. If you ever see or hear the words high-value, run in the other direction. 🥴
@@CoffeewithCarey Yes …Ive noticed the “high value” term as something the frat boy copy off eachothers all say. Those dudes wouldnt know how to handle a high value woman if they ever met one and I’ll most certainly tell you this….if they ever dared treating a real high value woman the way they “claim” they treat women all the time then they’d either go home with a black eye, have a posse of daddy, brothers and cousins waiting for them when they got home from all the dating they claim to be doing or they would get ripped up one side and down the other and wouldn’t even realize it till an hour later. Those southern ladies can do that well. I love your channel and your honey badger attitude…tell it like it is. Im hoping I can find my own version of a high value woman soon but she may have freckles , could be a little chunky but gorgeous and she would look really sexy changjng a flat tire wearing that flannel shirt.
@@Wookinpanub235 no, no, no. Not a frat boy phrase at all! With fellas these are the lonely boys. The ones listening to other guys who for views are keeping them single and angry. For women minutes it’s a different story.
This was your feel good show. Felt like I was watching Disney. Definitely a fantasy. Yes, attitude is extremely important. Men are not really that picky. Women are way more selective. If you are a 5'3" male you should seriously consider the priesthood. I'm calling out this episode for the BS that it is. Have a nice day!
I have matched numerous men who are under 5‘,5“ tall. So I call bs right back at ya. 😊 And surprisingly it isn’t always the petite 4’ 11” to 5’1” women whom they end up dating. It has been women who are just a little bit taller than them -on the average. I’m not arguing ideals or premises here. I’m referencing the thousands of people with whom I’ve worked! you can’t call bullshit on my life! 😆 There are definitely dating coaches on RUclips, who have no matchmaking or coaching experience. I am not one of them.
@@CoffeewithCarey If a really short fellow pays a professional to match him up it might work. On his own, he is "dead in the water". There was an interesting study done 30 years ago that aired on TV. A bunch of women passed on the 5'3" dude because he was too short. The scientists even played him up as a surgeon, wealthy, charitable, and loved kids. Human nature and female nature has not evolved that much. You must be very good at what you do; so take that as a compliment. I'm not 5'3" thank God, but even 5'8" isn't that easy today. I've had 5'4" women tell me I'm too short. There are a lot of unreasonable women out there. Only 14% of the US male population is 6' or taller. If I was 6 foot I'd have to add another day to the week LoL. Just face it, women are shallow creatures. That's why they need you! Ciao bella!
I would have to agree with this guy. Dating is all good and we'll but most people today aren't staying together long. Marriage and births are going too shit. Migrants are the new kids of western countries and the world is full of over sexualized kids teens adults. That have body counts in the 100's before they even start their real dating life. Kids the age of 10 to 12 have body counts that women had in the their early 20's in the early 90's. Cmon wake up to reality
This is fantastic advice!! I agree 100 percent. I have a great friend who is just so negative. I try to help her but she acts like she has no agency in her life.
The three items:
- Good grooming
- Good posture
- Good health
Truly make a world of difference!
so glad this resonated for you, and maybe it can help your friend somehow.
Face it, physical attraction is often the first thing we feel and notice…
Yes, we noticed what people look like when we first meet them. And gauge whether we think they are attractive. But that’s not static is MY point.
It's ALWAYS the first thing.
My father had a saying "Always keep a smile on your face, it makes people wonder what you are up to".
I think people are wondering. I think that’s why they all start talking to me. Lol. Yes I’ve heard that. It’s a cute saying. You know I’m a big fan of the little sayings. Well you would know if you followed me on Instagram. Lol.
@@CoffeewithCarey Don't do instragram don't subscribe, no twitter(X) Facebook or anything else. I like to respond, but want to limit online visibility. So it is comments or email.
@@stevethompson8171 then I’ll just tell you that three x a week. The only thing I post is little quotes sayings or platitudes like that. ;)
I can still hear my grammar school teachers yelling at the class saying "Sit up straight don't slouch!". 👍👍☕☕
so you’ve been sitting up straight since third grade! Good for you!🤎
@@CoffeewithCarey Those teachers, back in the 1960s, were like drill sergeants.
@@robertvarner9519 walking around with their rulers!
The previous woman i liked was gorgeous. But when she opened her mouth and told me that she is out of my league, and that I need to be more realistic, I immediately withdrew. People who are too high on themselves is definitely not sexy.
why did she not know what you looked like ahead of time? I cannot imagine a person, uttering those words out loud or how you could describe her as gorgeous when she is obviously so hideous.
Love the content and humor in this one.
Love the comment on what kind of friends you keep.
Makes me feel good cause my friends are uplifting and solid.
Also the comments on confidence and walking into a room.
It’s a good feeling when you’re in the store and you notice the entire store stops dead to look at you walk by.
Its all confidence and the way you carry yourself.
You’d be amazed that every time you think about dropping and knocking out 20 push ups several times a day will work wonders on the body.
I would be amazed. 😏😆
@@CoffeewithCarey
Gets easier every time….as long as the carpel tunnel injuries hold off…lol…bit we wont talk about that.
I really liked this video... I'm 70 years old, single, never married.....maybe there is still a chance...
It’s not over til it’s over.
You know how much I love my clichés!
I am single😂
@@kikiandco1899 You're gorgeous.
My grandma has been divorced since the 70’s and she just met her boyfriend a few years ago at 88.
Not for me.
Totally agree with this! Also- I know this is “off topic” but I really like your makeup, it looks great! ❤
Is this a game of made you look? Because you made me look. haha
It’s the eyelashes! Amazing what 3 coats of mascara and a little Latisse will do for ya. ;)
Thank you. 🙏
🧐or maybe it’s the little dot of coffee on the tip of my nose. 😳🤣😆😩😂
There might be someone for everyone but the odds of everyone finding that someone are slim unless you win the genetic lottery.
And I would correct that to say slim… unless you are open to people who will also be open to you!
As I like to say, "Slim to non-existent, and Slim just left town!"
@CoffeewithCarey but what does that mean "open to people who are open to you?" I'm physically unattractive so men aren't "open to me"! Are you saying that someone is and I'm not "open"? I need more clear explanation and less rhetoric 😊
I had a woman friend I was very attracted to due to her good looks and hot body and she was 60 years old … I was 69… the attraction went by the wayside as I got to know her more… she was thrice married, on disability due to mental/ emotional issues, quite possibly alcoholic, did not do much to support herself financially and had kind of a dismissive/snarky personality… looks are not everything… I ended it after 4 months…
Lots of very ugly pretty people
Remember that phenomenon can work both ways.
Attraction matters, but it's fascinating to see the differences in what attracts one person and what attracts another. A beauty to one man is a "meh" to another. People are so interesting.
For sure!
I've never been overconfident regarding my height. Our US culture values big, tall and muscular men versus tall skinny and lanky like myself 😁 I don't feel comfortable in gyms and prefer to be in the fresh air walking and/or doing physical labor to stay fit which I do a lot of. To your point Carrie, I started to force myself to stand up and walk tall, with better posture. It really has been transformational - such a simple, affordable and healthy thing to do in just keeping a 6'3" frame upright 😄
hahah. got me!
for many people it is transformational!
dang! where do you live? lol
Know your value. Stand tall. Own the room in a humble way.
Tall, skinny, and lanky is so attractive to me...that's the Cowboy Type...it doesn't get more Masculine than that
The older I get, the less impact the physical body attraction has for me. I'm not saying that I don't see that, but I no longer scan for if a man is "my type" and ignore all that aren't as I did in my younger years. I find eye contact is so much more revealing about establishing a genuine connection, than whether he can get my "internal fantasy" & wishful thinking juices flowing.
I think a lot of men do not want to be seen these days. Head down, no eye contact, just in the grind to getting things done. In and out, no time for a friendly smile or a wink and a nod [I know there was an oldie about it, have to think about that one - Carey with her huge song inventory would probably know]. When you can get them to look up, you have a chance to make a connection - however fleetingly - even if just for a minute or two. And sometimes a conversation happens as a result ;o)
I think that’s a lot of people these days; not paying attention. Nose in their phones too. Some women say they feel invisible after 50, but sometimes they’re choosing that.
I’ll have to think about the song
@@CoffeewithCarey I had the song wrong - spent just way too much time trying to figure it out: It's a "Wink & a Smile" from Sleepless in Seattle - ruclips.net/video/kcjdJt2nUj4/видео.html
Looks are the primary and only thing some desire, who are immature! These individuals must look a certain way and fit all their criteria in their eyes. The old saying is true, "Beauty is in the eyes of the beholder!"
indeed
I'm 51,I think I look ok, obviously women think I look ugly constant rejection over the years, recently had a painful romantic rejection, fell in love with her but she cruelly rejected me, I'm crushed, still hurting and healing,I wish we could have gotten together.thats life it's cruel.
or maybe you’re just selecting the wrong women?
Great common sense advice. The simple measures that one employs to better oneself are not simple minded.
indeed. but also some people need to stop listening to strangers on the internet who make them believe that beauty is universal and they have to have it and find it!
Looks do matter my shrink told me to start dating, I tried all the online dating and got rejected 100% if you are ugly don’t bother
Based on my experience optimizing dating profiles I would surmise that your profile is just not at all up to par. I’ve never met anybody too ugly to date. 🤷🏻♀️
Hi Carey, Great video. Can you please post a link to the posture video you watched? Thanks very much.
ruclips.net/video/Ks-_Mh1QhMc/видео.htmlsi=Ncs36yAZrJWeRIhW
@@CoffeewithCarey Thanks, Carey. Great Ted Talk.
@@GemmaPagliei You’re welcome, Gemma! 🤎
Positive begets positive.
For sure! That energy is real and I’ve seen it too many times to not believe it
@@CoffeewithCarey I'm very attracted to positive, authentic, sense of humor, down to earth.
Thanks!
☺️
It makes me laugh when I hear people say, "There's someone for everyone". But this is, from a logical standpoint, fallacious because if it was true, then everyone would have someone, and matchmakers like yourself would have little or no business.
Perhaps I have clients because there are people coming of age who would like a partner! Or people who are newly divorced or widowed and don’t know how to go out there looking for people again. And there are some people who were busy building things other than a relationship and now want to change focus.. But I’m glad it’s making you laugh. 🙄
#PositivityAttractsPeople #NoNegatovityZone
Dating has changed in america and will change all around the world and not for the better. Dating nowadays is hookups, dating apps and money pursuit. Everything has changed in the last 6 to 8 months.
Yeah, I’m not really seeing that in my business. It’s changed over the years, but I haven’t seen anything in particular this year.
You know what though.
There are so many youtube channels about dating and about hookups and about what women really want , what men reallly want and how to treat all men and how to treat all women.
They all copy off each other and it becomes a social media trend but in real life I just haven’t seen it.
I still see people going on dates , chivalry, gentlemanly and lady like acts, girls dressed up to impress each other not the guys.
There are still tons of normal freaking people out there just just want to treat others right and want to be treated right.
I laugh at so many of these ultra rich guys who call themselves high value men and they act like they have all the answers for how to treat women and how to treat high value women and how nobody cares about woman’s diplomas on the wall or whatever….its all total BS.
Women put their diplomas on the wall because they’re proud of their hard work and sacrifice…that stuff ain’t easy especially if you’re married, raising kids, raising other peoples kids, adopting kids, runnjng three businesses and then getting your doctorate while you have stage Iv colon cancer and just took on another job teachjng nurse practitioners at the campus…..yeah man that was my wife and she sure as shit was proud to put her diplomas on her wall and she would laugh as these steroided frat boy “High value” women guru”s cause they couldnt walk a tenth of a mile in her shoes.
These guys are just hooking people in for click bait topics because it sells.
Its too boring to talk about two people meeting in high school , love at first sight, working five jobs together, having their own place at 17 years old, not wanting to be like other people in debt that have lots of toys the bank owns, sacrificing creature comfort’s today for incredible retirements in 50 years, laughing at all the morons who are laughing at them, living legally within the system while having a seperate system from side gigs that picks up the slack, learnjng how to cut your own hair and throwing $20 into a retirement fund every time you do it, teaching others how awesome your system of being self sufficient works especially young couples that are just starting out.
Sadly I just have memories of all of this now that my wife passed but I have these conversations with young couples all the time and it really works…Im only 53 still very young and I enjoy sharing my story of my marriage to that woman.
I know there are good people out there to date and there are just as many normal people as there are deviants and hook up artists…..you just have to get out there and do it on your own and not fall for these advice peddlers on youtube who think they know women.
Ain’t no way in hell those guys would invite ME on their show.
@@Wookinpanub235 I love most of this and could not agree more with some of it . All these blogs, channels and influencers trying to convince everyone it’s horrible out there. That’s not my experience, friends’ experiences… and it’s not my clients’ experiences. Be careful where you choose to spend your time and whom you choose to listen to.
Oh, and. If you ever see or hear the words high-value, run in the other direction. 🥴
@@CoffeewithCarey
Yes …Ive noticed the “high value” term as something the frat boy copy off eachothers all say.
Those dudes wouldnt know how to handle a high value woman if they ever met one and I’ll most certainly tell you this….if they ever dared treating a real high value woman the way they “claim” they treat women all the time then they’d either go home with a black eye, have a posse of daddy, brothers and cousins waiting for them when they got home from all the dating they claim to be doing or they would get ripped up one side and down the other and wouldn’t even realize it till an hour later.
Those southern ladies can do that well.
I love your channel and your honey badger attitude…tell it like it is.
Im hoping I can find my own version of a high value woman soon but she may have freckles , could be a little chunky but gorgeous and she would look really sexy changjng a flat tire wearing that flannel shirt.
@@Wookinpanub235 no, no, no. Not a frat boy phrase at all! With fellas these are the lonely boys. The ones listening to other guys who for views are keeping them single and angry. For women minutes it’s a different story.
This was your feel good show. Felt like I was watching Disney. Definitely a fantasy. Yes, attitude is extremely important. Men are not really that picky. Women are way more selective. If you are a 5'3" male you should seriously consider the priesthood. I'm calling out this episode for the BS that it is. Have a nice day!
I have matched numerous men who are under 5‘,5“ tall. So I call bs right back at ya. 😊
And surprisingly it isn’t always the petite 4’ 11” to 5’1” women whom they end up dating. It has been women who are just a little bit taller than them -on the average.
I’m not arguing ideals or premises here. I’m referencing the thousands of people with whom I’ve worked! you can’t call bullshit on my life! 😆
There are definitely dating coaches on RUclips, who have no matchmaking or coaching experience. I am not one of them.
@@CoffeewithCarey If a really short fellow pays a professional to match him up it might work. On his own, he is "dead in the water". There was an interesting study done 30 years ago that aired on TV. A bunch of women passed on the 5'3" dude because he was too short. The scientists even played him up as a surgeon, wealthy, charitable, and loved kids. Human nature and female nature has not evolved that much. You must be very good at what you do; so take that as a compliment. I'm not 5'3" thank God, but even 5'8" isn't that easy today. I've had 5'4" women tell me I'm too short. There are a lot of unreasonable women out there. Only 14% of the US male population is 6' or taller. If I was 6 foot I'd have to add another day to the week LoL. Just face it, women are shallow creatures. That's why they need you! Ciao bella!
@@thomash3688 dont be an idiot. The most sensual man I ever knew was about 5'3"...it's how you treat the woman, it's "in his kiss..."
I would have to agree with this guy. Dating is all good and we'll but most people today aren't staying together long. Marriage and births are going too shit. Migrants are the new kids of western countries and the world is full of over sexualized kids teens adults. That have body counts in the 100's before they even start their real dating life. Kids the age of 10 to 12 have body counts that women had in the their early 20's in the early 90's. Cmon wake up to reality
That fear hits you when you disable those comments, right hun? Like the taste of that nasty fallacy
who dis? you must have the wrong number I’ve never disabled comments.
please help find a man!!!
Looks like you have a lot more videos to watch! 🤎👍