I’m a Soldier of God; follower of Christ. I am 36 years old male, never married, no kids. God comes first and I am content with my life. God will guide me once necessary. The world is at war. God Bless.
@@emmanuelameyaw9735marriage isn't for everyone tho. We see in the new testament where it says it's better for both men and women to be alone. But if you aren't able to control your sexual desires, it's better to be married
@@emmanuelameyaw9735 what you quoted is directly from God mouth, while the last commenter quoted Paul 😅 Adam in his perfection saw he needed a companion, yet sinful beings are able to be content without a companionship😂
@BecamePneuma your spiritual contentment regarding marriage is wise and calming…God can lead us all differently to prepare for and meet our Kingdom partner…thank you for uplifting how you honor God’s plan with this comment…💯🔥🙏🏽
1. God wants you to date if you're equally yoked and attracted to one another. 2. If the interest also wants to date you. 3. If you're prepared to honor God and you're ready for a relationship. 4. If you are asking is that person the one. (Prayerful confirmation) 5. If you have maxed out the levels of a healthy friendship but want to connect in further. Thanks Mark!
@@notasleanstillasmean3593 "Dating" in the context of Christian discipleship is more or less equivalent to "courting" rather than modern secular dating. It is essentially dating with the purpose of deciding whether or not they are the one you should marry. The moment you feel God telling you yes or no to marriage with this person is the moment dating should end with either a breakup or engagement.
When I was widowed at a young age (38) I wasn’t interested in getting married again, I had three young teens and involved in our wonderful Word church. All my needs were met. I was busy preparing my life, I went back to school becoming a nurse. During these five years I asked God for a godly man friend. Without me knowing it the Lord was speaking to my future husband about me. He first saw me worshipping the Lord and a light enveloped me. Through a series of miracles the Lord brought us together and let me know he was the Lord’s choice. We’ve been happily married now for 29 years.🥰
UNEqually yoked is not just about a believer & unbeliever.IF you are both christian but do Not worship believe or have the same commitment to Christ you are Not Equally yoked. If how you believe live & interact are Not the same and un compatible you are unequally yoked. WISDOM ❤❤❤
Was almost engaged, had to break the relationship off. Both were Christian but learned that two can still be unequally yoked. Number of our views that started to show up that were quite different. Important views. I think God removes things from our life so he can bring us something better. That's hard for me to see right now but I trust him.
@@Spadesofbades May Yah Bless you with your True Bershert The Perfect mate for You 💕I applaud your bravery heart & Wisdom Hurting a moment is better than hurting a lifetime. May your New wife make you Rejoice 4Evr at this choice❣❣🙏🙏📖🔥😇😇😇🎶👐👐🎵💛💛💛💛💛
So needed this. Just ended a relationship with an unequally yoked man. He was a great man, would be a great husband, but he is not a believer. I will continue to pray for his soul. God is able to change his heart without me activity disobeying his word. Lord I praise you for this grace & clarity!
Praise God! He will honor your obedience. Pray for my friend who just married a man she is unequally yoked with. I tried to convince her not to, but she did anyway. Mostly I pray she is truly a believer because now I am not so sure
How do you come up with that statement? If he’s not a believer, then he would Not be a great husband. Contradictory. Maybe look for a believer as the First quality. Look at a man’s spiritual maturity First. Other qualities important too. Character qualities: Unselfish, responsible, kind, considerate, emotionally stable and mature. Goid values. Then financially responsible, hard worker, etc.
Lol my pastor says dint use dating to become a missionary...we are to join together with other believers not tie ourselves to non believers and hope to save them. Only Jesus saves and He gives us rules to protect us, His children.
You know mark, I started watching your videos in 2020 and then stopped bc they weren’t giving me the answers I wanted for the person I was interested in. Now 4 years later, after finding the person I truly want to marry, your videos popped back up and you were never wrong. Life is funny and God is definitely working through you. Thanks for the videos!
I know that I am not given the gift of celibacy for all time, but I am equally convinced that God is keeping me from the wrong wife. I've been in bad relationships, but God's protection is something glorious!
Thank you Mark I just made it official with my “dream christian man” on New Year’s Day and this just confirmed so much of my worries! We were friends for 5 weeks like casual dating friendship if that makes sense and now I feel like I am ready to bring things to the next level of a romantic dating Christian relationship we are also long distance so that is extremely helpful
Thank you for this wonderful Christian dating insight 💖 I obey God's Word and his will, as much as possible. I know God has the perfect partner & perfect future plan laid-out for me!
For sure I've been stranded but this page has revived my journey and now I can see were am going wen it comes to my future marriage.. God bless you really plus your family
Hey Mark, You are the channel I go to for sanctification and Christian dating. I just bought both of your books on Amazon and will be reading them on my free time! Thanks for doing God’s work! Sincerely, Zach
Thanks for breaking it all the way down for us!! I am so grateful for you and your ministry. Alot of us are guilty of making this topic more complicated than it should be!
Thank you for taking the time to make this video and including scripture with each point you made. I have been wanting to date again, after leaving an abusive marriage. I wanted insight into making the right choices as I move forward. The most helpful insight is where you point out the struggle in asking God if this person is the one I should marry. I now have biblical direction, coupled with your clear practical advice to guide me. Thank you so much again. God's timing is once again perfect, as it always has been. I'm glad this video popped up as I was scrolling through. Keep it up man, God will use your videos to help others, in His perfect timing...
I want to be married but Gods going to have to help me 😅 im a 37 year old widow with 2 kids. I don't even know how to date lol Im just going to keep perusing God until God sends someone to persue me in that way. 😊
I am 61 and still grieving my boyfriend's passing last September 2022. We grew up together and spent the last 12 years of his life as a couple. I have no want to be with anyone else unless it's clear it's God's Will.
@@Billy-bc8pkI've loved him since 7th grade, but never told him. We went to HS dances and a few dates right after HS. He moved to Colorado. I got into a relationship and had a child, but didn't marry. He came back, got married and over the next 24 years they had 3 kids. In that time I had 2 more failed relationships. I didn't date for 8 years after that, during which, his wife was unfaithful, and he divorced. He was up visiting family and called me one day. We met up and went on a date, and we were together ever since that day. 32 years after HS, God put me together with the only man I never stopped loving. I can live the rest of my life out blessed with each and every memory of those days and the love that forever connects him and I. So there you have it. Hope my story blesses you in some way🙂
Am Amina from Uganda, am 29 years old, am from Uganda, am a single mother of one kid, I believe that God will make a miracle for me and I will get some one who will love me the way iam because so many people have been ignoring me that my skin is very dark 😢😢😢 But I know one day I will get some one who is ready to stay with me in every situation
Thank you for pouring into your ministry. There’s hostility against these types of video. But they are so necessary in helping us make the right decision. Be blessed and be encouraged.
Perfect timing for your videos. I really appreciate your advice. I have also started watching your mens channel too. So I can see what you are saying to men so I can make sure, as a single woman I can fulfill what is needed to become a wife. God has really been talking to me for the past 7 months. I am excited for next year. As He told me 7 months ago I will be getting married in 2024. Will be interesting as I am not currently in a relationship. But He can make it happen!!! I am just trusting His timing and doing what I feel He is asking me to do
@ SteffiLovesRocks. I just felt God telling me I am going to get married. I have had some doubts it was Him telling me. But I keep hearing it. So I know it is from God and not from me. I was content being single. You need to spend time in prayer and reading His word, for you to hear Him.
1 Corinthians 7:36 AMP [36] But if any man thinks that he is not acting properly and honorably toward his virgin daughter, [by not permitting her to marry], if she is past her youth, and it must be so, let him do as he wishes, he does not sin; let her marry. 1 Corinthians 7:36 KJV [36] But if any man think that he behaveth himself uncomely toward his virgin, if she pass the flower of her age, and need so require, let him do what he will, he sinneth not: let them marry.
This 3-year journey regarding this particular man that's been on my heart will finally come to a conclusion! The universe is preparing me for an upcoming Valentine's day date (or nearbouts that weekend) for the right guy to reveal himself. I'm prepared for either: 1) I'm never going to see this guy again, or 2) we'll have the same conversation we had before, affirming that we're better off as friends. Either way, I'll get a clear answer 😊
Thank you so much, Mark, for yet another wise counsel. The red flag of one’s heart - that was very good and something to reflect upon. Very encouraging! God bless you and your family this holiday season and in the days ahead 🎄😊🙏
So helpful! And so simple! I wish I could go back in time when I hadn't yet fallen head over heels in love with the unbeliever narcissist and just... wait, that narcissist is my past life husband. And they are the one I believe I have to marry again. I am not expecting anyone to understand where I'm coming from with this statement, I'm just going to be honest with myself out loud here. I don't believe I need to look for anyone else. And I am honestly not going to. I don't mind praying to God about them and their faith journey (and I actually do that already), but I'm fine just waiting on the Lord. And if it should never happen, well...c'est la vie. I mean, I am open to the idea of staying happy single then. I just feel so feisty today, maybe I don't really believe I want to stay single, but I believe in honoring God the way He sees fit. And He knows where I'm at with my love life, so... we'll see. Thank you so much for the message! God bless!
I had just surrended my life to God's will ie religious life or marriage. The next week I met a man at Mass at the sign of peace. He asked me out after Mass. I was 26 and he was 31. We married 7 months later. 48 years of marriage, 4 children and 12 grandchildren later I think God made the right choice for us.
This video is amazing! Love the scripture references to back up everything he said. God bless the entire team that made this video. Thank you very much!!!
This is so helpful. I am in a situation with a godly girl who is 17 my age and I'm not sure if I should date her or not. This video helps me a lot thanks 😅
He Is even committed to me and trying to get more closer to God and I like that but I'm not attracted to him and that causes the relationship to not go smoothly because I'm lacking to love him
But also me and that person are still in our getting to know each other stage of our relationship. He knows that I like him. But he hasn’t said anything about liking me yet but he does somethings to where I just know that he does like me. But he’s as much as a Christian as me and follows his words. And he’s making me the happiest person in my life and I can feel my walls that were up after getting hurt going down.
I confess to my Crush exactly December 25 😅( He is a Christian) I've been praying to Jesus in that moment whatever happens to my confession I'm ok with that because I know He loves me. But my crush he didn't accept nor ignore my crush to Him instead He replied that " we should continued our battles in life and we should more admire Lord because He is the one that is great to our lives. He also said that year 2024 is the year of answered prayers and accomplished of plans. Fighting for the year 2024! Godbless". That is his reply ❤ Can someone give insights about this? And pray for me also. I really like this person and want to be my husband if it's God's plan 🥹❤️ Thank you
Hmm. I personally wouldn’t pursue/initiate it any further. That’s an interesting answer. You’ve already given him green light/ invitation to pursue you. So from here see if he will take initiative and pursue you. How old are you both?
He basically rejected you in the most nicest way possible without telling you he rejected you. He’s a coward and you gotta move on. Realize his red flags so it’s easier to move on. I’m pretty sure his breathe stink and have bad toe nails
Thank you for encouraging us to read the scriptures. You’d look good with a flattop or a “squarer profile”, my son has your head shape so it looks really nice… sorry, off topic but I’m a hair stylist so really notice the hair.
This is typically more like “God wouldn’t mind it if you date this person”. I believe that while some people come here with a specific person God has in mind for that person, many people don’t. My mom ended up with my dad, but I’m not sure that God had him in mind for her, and perhaps no one else, either. They just ended up together. She only ever had infatuation for one person, and it didn’t go anywhere per her own accord. He quickly ended up with another, pretty decent, woman.
Thank you, one of the things you mentioned, If you're to marry, then marry. However, Something Christians struggle with. Oh I was taught Christians don't date they court and he doesn't ask within six months move on. Meanwhile, I thank you you always coach well. God Bless
I have gone though the worst of things when it comes to dating the equally yoked thing really does set the mood for conversations about God which i learned the hard way when my 7 year relationship that almost turned into marriage turned to garbage, ive also developed crushes in the church before but one flat out rejected me and the other showed no interest on the last one i came to a realization that i dodged a bullet anyways after i learned a few things about her past which changed my perspective on her (though by that point i already threw my feelings in the trash when she denied a favor to just drive me 2 minutes to a nearby store from the mall to buy a charger i needed but had 0 problems asking to stop somewhere for pizza in which i paid for it) from my heart being killed that day by my ex fiance i vowed to take a step back and not pursue anyone till i felt ready and also that God tells me im ready its been 2 and a half years i dont feel ready fully yet not to mention i havent found anyone in the slightest id be interested in either i also threw fornication into the dumpster so i wont allow myself any situation in which i know ill fall into temptation i wanna do things right this time
@Billy-bc8pk things turned sour quickly when I moved in with her and her family considering my mother had just passed away I figured it was time to be with her and finally begin preparations for building a family and whatever else needed however because I lacked a high paying and long hour job I spent more time at her place but she had too many expectations for me to just up and take over the houses chores I however didn't feel comfortable just begin doing as I pleased as it was not my own house and I respected her mom so I let them better decide things but I'd help out even then it wasn't enough for either of them and began berating me calling me a lazy child I didn't own a car and for that matter I didn't even know how to drive, to be honest a childhood trauma prevents me from taking the wheel but I AM capable of driving but at the time I had no idea why I felt that way either way she expected me to just go and purchase a house and begin life there but I knew that was a bad and risky move without either of us having good paying jobs I didn't want to put us both at risk and because of all that plus her job stressing her out she took it out on me and then her brothers began to complain about this and that, she would then spend too much time being at her brothers house despite me not feeling comfortable because I didn't like the fact that he would get drunk and begin berating me by "joking" about my own problems she would tag along and also drink I avoided it because I didn't really enjoy drinking at all but that only made them feel a type of way about me like I'm boring and no fun, things only got worse when I saved up $600 for a trip to Vegas and I had to find a new job because my boss wouldn't allow me to take time off to go so she suggested I leave that place and so I did I ended up with a job that paid a dollar more but my hours were so small it really didn't make it worth it but we enjoyed our time and money ran out even though I won us both about 200 bucks it still didn't last and we went home after a few days. After that I bought her a gift a brand new Samsung tablet that had capabilities to draw something she enjoyed it made me glad she loved the gift this wqs in December for her birthday but by then things were not so great she began to hit me on occasions I'd sometimes cry myself to sleep over dumb arguments and then finally around January she kicked me out of her house when she said I wasn't putting in effort and her mom told her I'd end up lazy and worthless like her father who drunk himself to death despite all that I was willing to forgive her and give her another opportunity as to not throw away 7 and a half years but she in a sense just played with my heart and once I realized that I let go of her and my heart died along with my feelings for her as well and by that I mean I completely changed as a person and I lost the desire to even date anyone again but I have let go of that to and have moved on completely but with all that I learned in that relationship I won't ever allow anyone else to ever hurt me in that manner again I also won't ever fornicate, move in before marriage and allow myself to be treated as a punching bag essentially I'm gonna do everything right this time and I have 0 tolerance for anything that basically went wrong with that relationship including jobs and a house
Interesting perspective I don't use "God" as I already know God is source. So..I go by what my "soul, inner-being" is directing me too and trust and learn what the feelings are. I grew up believing that God was the answer being and us in meat suits were only relying on "him" on how we should or should not live / do / obey. I feel we are all extensions of God under one source (God)
Where I’ve gotten burned, is Christian men faking it till they make it, then I learned their all talk no walk! These videos really help me discern better!
If a Godly man and a Godly woman are equally yoked, attracted to one another and interested in dating, would it be a red light if the man is 55 years old and the woman is 65 years old? The woman knows how old the man is but the man does not know how old the woman is and she could easily pass for 50 even though she does not wear makeup and dresses modestly. Should the woman avoid dating this man?
4-part PRAYER: 1) There are 6 things Jesus has shown me I MUST do... - I have to make amends to my sister - I have to use my voice (RADICALLY HONESTLY) - I have to write the book - I have to continuously surrender to God, more and more... - I have to completely let go of Bryan... - I MUST DANCE! I pray I do/be/accomplish all of the above in this blessed New Year of 2024. (Along with achieving my own goals and resolutions I've set for myself!) I pray I don't have to do it alone. I pray Jesus and the angels assist me and guide me, and help me through all of it... So that it all feels joyful and easy! 2) I'm desperately lonely and alone. I pray for true love (with my twin flame). And a tribe of real friends. 3) I pray to be healed on every level, in every way: - emotionally - spiritually - mentally - physically - generationally 4) I pray for YOU! Yes you. You who are reading this. May you be blessed. For on the deepest levels... Crazy as it may sound... We are each other!
🙌🙌🙌🙌thank you for these advices according to the WORD OF GOD. I was wondering if both believe in THE LORD JESUS, we are CHRISTIANS, but we belong to different religions, is this considered inequellay yoked?
Thanks, I had a real problem recently trying to date again. I had attachment issues from childhood traumas, so it is a difficult process when the thing I love actually triggers me: other people loving me. What a viscous trick. That the very thing we want the most; love. Is also our worst enemy. I am grateful for God. I just struggle because I want to be ready but I am obviously not. So frustrating.
Well when God made man and woman he gave them a strong desire to be fruitful and multiply. When you meet the person that God wants you to be with that desire will double or triple for both of them. The both of them will spend half the day thinking of them. When you are together you will want to touch them and be touched by them all day. If he or she touches your arm you would never want them to let go. If someone else touched your arm that long it would feel creepy to you and you would pull away. When you are together both of you will have the pupils in your eyes dilate. When your with each other your eyes may appear just a little glassy showing the desire of your heart.
I mean at the time my grandmother married my grandfather they didn’t believe in god. But it was my grandmother who found him first and the day my grandfather was about to leave her he became born again and they are still married today are as in love as the day they married.
I met this woman, she is a Christian and we have a lot in common. But we are living in a different city. She is also quite busy with her work and sometimes she replies my message after 2 days, I am not sure if it is worth pursuing or just give up on her and pursue someone else..
If communication is one of your love language, make it known to her that’s what you desired. If she can’t meet you halfway, how can you expect her to meet you halfway during the tougher times. I told my boyfriend I like quality time and calls here and there. He’s busy; I’m busy. No excuses coming 2024✝️🙏🏾💕
I don't know you sir, but I do know from experience that God can speak directly to His children about any matter on earth. All you have to do is listen. The Bible says that His sheep know his voice. So if they can't recognize God's voice then maybe they shouldn't be getting married. They need to get closer to God. Have a good one.
I can get very easily romantically attracted to a woman, and want to commit to loving her, even to the point of marriage. And the need to love a woman is quite strong… however, I’ve been quite lonely for the past 9 years… minus the few individual women I’ve felt love for, only briefly… it’s hard
Ok. So I know that God needs me to date a Christian person. That part is clear. However in my case all the Christian girls I have asked out declined my dating offer. Is this a sign that I should wait more? Bear in mind it has been years of trying yet no dice. 🤔
@yumishishkin7321 I don't think so, I've been enlightened enough to know how preposterous marriage is, and how the system is stacked against the common man. If its for you go ahead, it's not for me. I've been voluntarily celibate for 7 years now, haven't dated in 10. I'm not perfect either but I've been done.
There's this guy who checks almost all the box and equally yoked but the truth is I have no kinda attraction towards him. I really don't like him romantically because even tho we have conversations but I feel no emotional connection or whatsoever. What do I do? I want to say "No" but I'm afraid I may be wrong 😢 Any advice please
I would recommend giving him a chance, but also don’t be afraid to be honest and move on!!😊 Sometimes it takes awhile, especially for girls to be attracted to a guy and so it’s good to give him a chance, but also if attraction doesn’t come, then don’t feel like you have to date/ stay in the relationship ❤️
I got babtised in July,and my boyfriend wants me to go to another church for confirmation 😥😥,he doesn't want me to be in revival churchs , karma he's thinking about the future 😥😭,i don't even know what to do 😭😭😭😭😭😭,i don't want to leave, but I love him dearly 😥😭
Hey, Pastor. Do you think that God would temporarily let you spend time with "the one," then take them away until you are more mature and fully ready to commit to them? Forgive me if you've discussed this before.
Yes, it can happen. Remember, with God anything is possible and he works in various and mysterious ways, but also be cautious and do not put your hope that it will happen.
I’m 25, dated a few and have a history of lessons. I’m currently in a year long relationship with an amazing woman whom I love deeply, it’s not perfect but we both want to make it work. I think there’s lots of “ones” throughout our life for different times. We’ve been sold this idea that we just absolutely end up with this person, which puts waaaayy too much pressure on us. (As a caveat, it’s totally okay to want the relationship to last) That sounds like a really rough and painful situstion , especially with you mentioning them being taken away . Perhaps they were meant to be there for that time and that time I let and perhaps there will be another time. Perhaps there will be another person that comes along that is amazing and maybe that lasts. I don’t think God sets our path out, there’s too much change in the world for that. But I do think he influenced all of our lives to connect with people through the choices we make. Take heart in that you have control and can choose what to do.
I’m a Soldier of God; follower of Christ. I am 36 years old male, never married, no kids. God comes first and I am content with my life. God will guide me once necessary. The world is at war. God Bless.
God said it is not good for man to be alone. Who are you to say it is good?😊
@@emmanuelameyaw9735marriage isn't for everyone tho. We see in the new testament where it says it's better for both men and women to be alone. But if you aren't able to control your sexual desires, it's better to be married
@@emmanuelameyaw9735 judging others will get you no where. God Bless ✝️
@@emmanuelameyaw9735 what you quoted is directly from God mouth, while the last commenter quoted Paul 😅 Adam in his perfection saw he needed a companion, yet sinful beings are able to be content without a companionship😂
@BecamePneuma your spiritual contentment regarding marriage is wise and calming…God can lead us all differently to prepare for and meet our Kingdom partner…thank you for uplifting how you honor God’s plan with this comment…💯🔥🙏🏽
1. God wants you to date if you're equally yoked and attracted to one another. 2. If the interest also wants to date you. 3. If you're prepared to honor God and you're ready for a relationship. 4. If you are asking is that person the one. (Prayerful confirmation) 5. If you have maxed out the levels of a healthy friendship but want to connect in further. Thanks Mark!
Is dating biblical? Serious question, trying to understand how dating should look like for a Christian.
@@notasleanstillasmean3593without anything sexual..no fornication...and please let me know if you find out more
@@notasleanstillasmean3593 "Dating" in the context of Christian discipleship is more or less equivalent to "courting" rather than modern secular dating. It is essentially dating with the purpose of deciding whether or not they are the one you should marry. The moment you feel God telling you yes or no to marriage with this person is the moment dating should end with either a breakup or engagement.
Thank you.
Yes, all of these.....😊
My marriage will be a match made in heaven 🎉❤ my courtship and Marriage shall honour God!
Amén
Hey
When I was widowed at a young age (38) I wasn’t interested in getting married again, I had three young teens and involved in our wonderful Word church. All my needs were met. I was busy preparing my life, I went back to school becoming a nurse. During these five years I asked God for a godly man friend. Without me knowing it the Lord was speaking to my future husband about me. He first saw me worshipping the Lord and a light enveloped me. Through a series of miracles the Lord brought us together and let me know he was the Lord’s choice. We’ve been happily married now for 29 years.🥰
Beautiful ❤️
Such a beautiful testimony! 🤍
Praise the Lord 🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾💃🏽💃🏽! I also liked how you prayed for a Godly man friend!
Yay! A story of success and love. ❤🎉
Wow that’s beautiful ❤
Patiently waiting for Yahweh to bless me with my person❤️❤️❤️
God bless!
Me too, 😂 I am waiting for Him to give me pointers
Same
. . . umYeea -keepWaiting
UNEqually yoked is not just about a believer & unbeliever.IF you are both christian but do Not worship believe or have the same commitment to Christ you are Not Equally yoked. If how you believe live & interact are Not the same and un compatible you are unequally yoked. WISDOM ❤❤❤
Amen
Was almost engaged, had to break the relationship off. Both were Christian but learned that two can still be unequally yoked. Number of our views that started to show up that were quite different. Important views. I think God removes things from our life so he can bring us something better. That's hard for me to see right now but I trust him.
@@Spadesofbades May Yah Bless you with your True Bershert The Perfect mate for You 💕I applaud your bravery heart & Wisdom Hurting a moment is better than hurting a lifetime. May your New wife make you Rejoice 4Evr at this choice❣❣🙏🙏📖🔥😇😇😇🎶👐👐🎵💛💛💛💛💛
@@Spadesofbadeswhat were the important views that made you call off the relationship?
So needed this. Just ended a relationship with an unequally yoked man. He was a great man, would be a great husband, but he is not a believer. I will continue to pray for his soul.
God is able to change his heart without me activity disobeying his word. Lord I praise you for this grace & clarity!
I am healing from heartbreak of this kind too, dear sister!!! I will keep you in prayer as I go to the Lord each day with my heartbreak
Praise God! He will honor your obedience. Pray for my friend who just married a man she is unequally yoked with. I tried to convince her not to, but she did anyway. Mostly I pray she is truly a believer because now I am not so sure
How do you come up with that statement? If he’s not a believer, then he would Not be a great husband. Contradictory. Maybe look for a believer as the First quality. Look at a man’s spiritual maturity First. Other qualities important too. Character qualities: Unselfish, responsible, kind, considerate, emotionally stable and mature. Goid values. Then financially responsible, hard worker, etc.
@llschnitz He could be the best man on planet Earth but if he doesn't believe in Trinity, he gotta got. Simple.
Lol my pastor says dint use dating to become a missionary...we are to join together with other believers not tie ourselves to non believers and hope to save them. Only Jesus saves and He gives us rules to protect us, His children.
You know mark, I started watching your videos in 2020 and then stopped bc they weren’t giving me the answers I wanted for the person I was interested in. Now 4 years later, after finding the person I truly want to marry, your videos popped back up and you were never wrong. Life is funny and God is definitely working through you. Thanks for the videos!
Don't put the cart before the horse, don't worry about marriage until you get the dating right first.
Literally prayed for this some hours ago and I go this notification
I know that I am not given the gift of celibacy for all time, but I am equally convinced that God is keeping me from the wrong wife. I've been in bad relationships, but God's protection is something glorious!
Thank you Mark I just made it official with my “dream christian man” on New Year’s Day and this just confirmed so much of my worries! We were friends for 5 weeks like casual dating friendship if that makes sense and now I feel like I am ready to bring things to the next level of a romantic dating Christian relationship we are also long distance so that is extremely helpful
HE should raise it to the next level. Not you. Let him move the relationship to courtship & you respond. Don't lead.
Thank you for this wonderful Christian dating insight 💖
I obey God's Word and his will, as much as possible.
I know God has the perfect partner & perfect future plan laid-out for me!
This video is very helpful and informative, even for us older Christian women who are single. Thank you for sharing this.
For sure I've been stranded but this page has revived my journey and now I can see were am going wen it comes to my future marriage.. God bless you really plus your family
Hey Mark,
You are the channel I go to for sanctification and Christian dating. I just bought both of your books on Amazon and will be reading them on my free time! Thanks for doing God’s work! Sincerely, Zach
Thanks for breaking it all the way down for us!! I am so grateful for you and your ministry. Alot of us are guilty of making this topic more complicated than it should be!
Thank you for taking the time to make this video and including scripture with each point you made. I have been wanting to date again, after leaving an abusive marriage. I wanted insight into making the right choices as I move forward. The most helpful insight is where you point out the struggle in asking God if this person is the one I should marry. I now have biblical direction, coupled with your clear practical advice to guide me. Thank you so much again. God's timing is once again perfect, as it always has been. I'm glad this video popped up as I was scrolling through. Keep it up man, God will use your videos to help others, in His perfect timing...
I want to be married but Gods going to have to help me 😅 im a 37 year old widow with 2 kids. I don't even know how to date lol Im just going to keep perusing God until God sends someone to persue me in that way. 😊
I am 61 and still grieving my boyfriend's passing last September 2022. We grew up together and spent the last 12 years of his life as a couple. I have no want to be with anyone else unless it's clear it's God's Will.
Why did you only get together at 49? Was he married before or were you married erstwhile?
@@Billy-bc8pkI've loved him since 7th grade, but never told him. We went to HS dances and a few dates right after HS. He moved to Colorado. I got into a relationship and had a child, but didn't marry. He came back, got married and over the next 24 years they had 3 kids. In that time I had 2 more failed relationships. I didn't date for 8 years after that, during which, his wife was unfaithful, and he divorced. He was up visiting family and called me one day. We met up and went on a date, and we were together ever since that day. 32 years after HS, God put me together with the only man I never stopped loving. I can live the rest of my life out blessed with each and every memory of those days and the love that forever connects him and I. So there you have it. Hope my story blesses you in some way🙂
Super grateful for you Mark. Thank you for discipling us in understanding relationships. You are a good man!
Am Amina from Uganda, am 29 years old, am from Uganda, am a single mother of one kid,
I believe that God will make a miracle for me and I will get some one who will love me the way iam because so many people have been ignoring me that my skin is very dark 😢😢😢
But I know one day I will get some one who is ready to stay with me in every situation
I like this Pastor Mark!! #2 Why would God not want me to date this person? The Red flags 🚩 you mentioned also resonated with me.
Thank you so much. God is good.
Amen, God is good!
Can you make a video…. Dating vs courtship ❤
applygodsword.com/whats-the-difference-between-christian-courting-and-dating-which-one-is-better-for-christians/
@@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger oh thank you kindly ❤️
These steps confirm the person that I currently like and enjoy being with at church and at small group.
Thank you God, this comment is the instantiation of my wish fulfilled.
Thank you for pouring into your ministry. There’s hostility against these types of video. But they are so necessary in helping us make the right decision. Be blessed and be encouraged.
Perfect timing for your videos. I really appreciate your advice. I have also started watching your mens channel too. So I can see what you are saying to men so I can make sure, as a single woman I can fulfill what is needed to become a wife.
God has really been talking to me for the past 7 months. I am excited for next year. As He told me 7 months ago I will be getting married in 2024.
Will be interesting as I am not currently in a relationship. But He can make it happen!!! I am just trusting His timing and doing what I feel He is asking me to do
So glad the channels have been useful to you, all glory to God!
can i ask you how you found that out? i’m still learning about god and how to communicate with him, so i’m a bit curious how you knew about it 😊
@ SteffiLovesRocks. I just felt God telling me I am going to get married. I have had some doubts it was Him telling me. But I keep hearing it. So I know it is from God and not from me. I was content being single. You need to spend time in prayer and reading His word, for you to hear Him.
1 Corinthians 7:36 AMP
[36] But if any man thinks that he is not acting properly and honorably toward his virgin daughter, [by not permitting her to marry], if she is past her youth, and it must be so, let him do as he wishes, he does not sin; let her marry.
1 Corinthians 7:36 KJV
[36] But if any man think that he behaveth himself uncomely toward his virgin, if she pass the flower of her age, and need so require, let him do what he will, he sinneth not: let them marry.
And I truly am asking for suggestions. I love God and so does she
🙏🏽🙏🏽All glory to God ❤thank you
Amen, all glory to God!
You hit the nail on the head with the last quote!! Boom 💥
Solo is the way to go!!! If it is HIS will it will be!!!! 🕊️❤️😇🙏
I know that confusion but asking God who exactly;he can show you,there’s also the sign!
Thank you Mark!
This 3-year journey regarding this particular man that's been on my heart will finally come to a conclusion! The universe is preparing me for an upcoming Valentine's day date (or nearbouts that weekend) for the right guy to reveal himself. I'm prepared for either: 1) I'm never going to see this guy again, or 2) we'll have the same conversation we had before, affirming that we're better off as friends.
Either way, I'll get a clear answer 😊
I receive this Word with gladness Amen
Thank you so much, Mark, for yet another wise counsel. The red flag of one’s heart - that was very good and something to reflect upon. Very encouraging! God bless you and your family this holiday season and in the days ahead 🎄😊🙏
Thank-you for sharing: the biblical views are very much appreciated!❤️😇🙏
God bless you all!💖👑💎🕊💖
So helpful! And so simple! I wish I could go back in time when I hadn't yet fallen head over heels in love with the unbeliever narcissist and just... wait, that narcissist is my past life husband. And they are the one I believe I have to marry again. I am not expecting anyone to understand where I'm coming from with this statement, I'm just going to be honest with myself out loud here. I don't believe I need to look for anyone else. And I am honestly not going to. I don't mind praying to God about them and their faith journey (and I actually do that already), but I'm fine just waiting on the Lord. And if it should never happen, well...c'est la vie. I mean, I am open to the idea of staying happy single then. I just feel so feisty today, maybe I don't really believe I want to stay single, but I believe in honoring God the way He sees fit. And He knows where I'm at with my love life, so... we'll see. Thank you so much for the message! God bless!
I had just surrended my life to God's will ie religious life or marriage. The next week I met a man at Mass at the sign of peace. He asked me out after Mass. I was 26 and he was 31. We married 7 months later. 48 years of marriage, 4 children and 12 grandchildren later I think God made the right choice for us.
Mark, you always keep it real and scriptural. No spell fantasies or limerence allowed, lol. I respect that
This video is amazing! Love the scripture references to back up everything he said. God bless the entire team that made this video. Thank you very much!!!
❤❤❤ praise of jesus form French🎉🎉
Master I will be waiting for you still.
God bless!
THANK YOU SO MUCH Brother Mark!!! ❤❤❤🙏🙏🙏 God bless you and your wonderful ministry!!! ✨️🙏✨️🤍✨️
Merry Christmas to you and your family, Brother.
This is very useful! I made the choice a week or two ago to get back and date.but just trying to connect with people
Amen.
Thank you for sharing!
God bless.
This is some different & very interesting info. I'll Definitely keep it in mind, on my journey to meet my future spouse!
Excellent & valuable information! Thank you for sharing this! Trust God & his love for you❤❤
God bless!
This is so helpful. I am in a situation with a godly girl who is 17 my age and I'm not sure if I should date her or not. This video helps me a lot thanks 😅
Amen. Thank You Yahweh. Thanks Mark. Yahweh bless.
So glad this was useful! All glory to God!
God l know that you makes no mistakes as l continue to walk by faith and not by sight Amen
He Is even committed to me and trying to get more closer to God and I like that but I'm not attracted to him and that causes the relationship to not go smoothly because I'm lacking to love him
But also me and that person are still in our getting to know each other stage of our relationship. He knows that I like him. But he hasn’t said anything about liking me yet but he does somethings to where I just know that he does like me. But he’s as much as a Christian as me and follows his words. And he’s making me the happiest person in my life and I can feel my walls that were up after getting hurt going down.
I confess to my Crush exactly December 25 😅( He is a Christian) I've been praying to Jesus in that moment whatever happens to my confession I'm ok with that because I know He loves me. But my crush he didn't accept nor ignore my crush to Him instead He replied that " we should continued our battles in life and we should more admire Lord because He is the one that is great to our lives. He also said that year 2024 is the year of answered prayers and accomplished of plans. Fighting for the year 2024! Godbless". That is his reply ❤
Can someone give insights about this? And pray for me also. I really like this person and want to be my husband if it's God's plan 🥹❤️ Thank you
Hmm. I personally wouldn’t pursue/initiate it any further. That’s an interesting answer. You’ve already given him green light/ invitation to pursue you. So from here see if he will take initiative and pursue you.
How old are you both?
You have done enough already. Let him do the rest. And keep on praying.
@@lil1627 I'm 27 and he's 35 years old 😊
@@chiwaraidzolynnechitima-yh5pf thank you 🥹
He basically rejected you in the most nicest way possible without telling you he rejected you. He’s a coward and you gotta move on.
Realize his red flags so it’s easier to move on. I’m pretty sure his breathe stink and have bad toe nails
Thank you for encouraging us to read the scriptures. You’d look good with a flattop or a “squarer profile”, my son has your head shape so it looks really nice… sorry, off topic but I’m a hair stylist so really notice the hair.
Thank you, Mark.
God bless, you also.
🙏🏻💖
This is typically more like “God wouldn’t mind it if you date this person”. I believe that while some people come here with a specific person God has in mind for that person, many people don’t. My mom ended up with my dad, but I’m not sure that God had him in mind for her, and perhaps no one else, either. They just ended up together. She only ever had infatuation for one person, and it didn’t go anywhere per her own accord. He quickly ended up with another, pretty decent, woman.
Thank you, one of the things you mentioned,
If you're to marry, then marry.
However,
Something Christians struggle with.
Oh I was taught Christians don't date they court and he doesn't ask within six months move on.
Meanwhile,
I thank you you always coach well.
God Bless
I have gone though the worst of things when it comes to dating the equally yoked thing really does set the mood for conversations about God which i learned the hard way when my 7 year relationship that almost turned into marriage turned to garbage, ive also developed crushes in the church before but one flat out rejected me and the other showed no interest on the last one i came to a realization that i dodged a bullet anyways after i learned a few things about her past which changed my perspective on her (though by that point i already threw my feelings in the trash when she denied a favor to just drive me 2 minutes to a nearby store from the mall to buy a charger i needed but had 0 problems asking to stop somewhere for pizza in which i paid for it) from my heart being killed that day by my ex fiance i vowed to take a step back and not pursue anyone till i felt ready and also that God tells me im ready its been 2 and a half years i dont feel ready fully yet not to mention i havent found anyone in the slightest id be interested in either i also threw fornication into the dumpster so i wont allow myself any situation in which i know ill fall into temptation i wanna do things right this time
What happened with your ex-fiance?
@Billy-bc8pk things turned sour quickly when I moved in with her and her family considering my mother had just passed away I figured it was time to be with her and finally begin preparations for building a family and whatever else needed however because I lacked a high paying and long hour job I spent more time at her place but she had too many expectations for me to just up and take over the houses chores I however didn't feel comfortable just begin doing as I pleased as it was not my own house and I respected her mom so I let them better decide things but I'd help out even then it wasn't enough for either of them and began berating me calling me a lazy child I didn't own a car and for that matter I didn't even know how to drive, to be honest a childhood trauma prevents me from taking the wheel but I AM capable of driving but at the time I had no idea why I felt that way either way she expected me to just go and purchase a house and begin life there but I knew that was a bad and risky move without either of us having good paying jobs I didn't want to put us both at risk and because of all that plus her job stressing her out she took it out on me and then her brothers began to complain about this and that, she would then spend too much time being at her brothers house despite me not feeling comfortable because I didn't like the fact that he would get drunk and begin berating me by "joking" about my own problems she would tag along and also drink I avoided it because I didn't really enjoy drinking at all but that only made them feel a type of way about me like I'm boring and no fun, things only got worse when I saved up $600 for a trip to Vegas and I had to find a new job because my boss wouldn't allow me to take time off to go so she suggested I leave that place and so I did I ended up with a job that paid a dollar more but my hours were so small it really didn't make it worth it but we enjoyed our time and money ran out even though I won us both about 200 bucks it still didn't last and we went home after a few days. After that I bought her a gift a brand new Samsung tablet that had capabilities to draw something she enjoyed it made me glad she loved the gift this wqs in December for her birthday but by then things were not so great she began to hit me on occasions I'd sometimes cry myself to sleep over dumb arguments and then finally around January she kicked me out of her house when she said I wasn't putting in effort and her mom told her I'd end up lazy and worthless like her father who drunk himself to death despite all that I was willing to forgive her and give her another opportunity as to not throw away 7 and a half years but she in a sense just played with my heart and once I realized that I let go of her and my heart died along with my feelings for her as well and by that I mean I completely changed as a person and I lost the desire to even date anyone again but I have let go of that to and have moved on completely but with all that I learned in that relationship I won't ever allow anyone else to ever hurt me in that manner again I also won't ever fornicate, move in before marriage and allow myself to be treated as a punching bag essentially I'm gonna do everything right this time and I have 0 tolerance for anything that basically went wrong with that relationship including jobs and a house
Amen 🙏 thanks for your message Mark.
Very little helpful information in here.
I should date someone if i want to date them and they also want to date me?! Wow, thanks!
Very good points 👍
This was wonderful, thank you! ❤
Loveland, Colorado ❤
God bless!
Hi, Brenda! I, too, live in Loveland, Colorado 😊 I am on FB too.
@@davidcross2341 oh nice! Hello! 😃
Interesting perspective I don't use "God" as I already know God is source. So..I go by what my "soul, inner-being" is directing me too and trust and learn what the feelings are. I grew up believing that God was the answer being and us in meat suits were only relying on "him" on how we should or should not live / do / obey. I feel we are all extensions of God under one source (God)
This helped. Thank you brother.
Where I’ve gotten burned, is Christian men faking it till they make it, then I learned their all talk no walk! These videos really help me discern better!
A woman in my church is into me. I am not. I feel like I am being pressured.
You just need to let her know you are NOT interested in her - problem solved
Mark do you have a video on signs of being equally yoked??
If a Godly man and a Godly woman are equally yoked, attracted to one another and interested in dating, would it be a red light if the man is 55 years old and the woman is 65 years old? The woman knows how old the man is but the man does not know how old the woman is and she could easily pass for 50 even though she does not wear makeup and dresses modestly. Should the woman avoid dating this man?
Thank you for this insight. 🙏🌈
Needed this. thank you
I disobeyed God’s word and married a nonbeliever, now my marriage is about to break up
Hi Mark, I’ve been watching your videos for years! They’re always sooooo helpful, thank you so much god bless ❤
Mark, does 5 years difference matter we share all qualities
She’s 26 and I am 21 years old
Amen....thank you Lord
4-part PRAYER:
1) There are 6 things Jesus has shown me I MUST do...
- I have to make amends to my sister
- I have to use my voice (RADICALLY HONESTLY)
- I have to write the book
- I have to continuously surrender to God, more and more...
- I have to completely let go of Bryan...
- I MUST DANCE!
I pray I do/be/accomplish all of the above
in this blessed New Year of 2024.
(Along with achieving my own goals
and resolutions I've set for myself!)
I pray I don't have to do it alone.
I pray Jesus and the angels assist me
and guide me, and help me through all of it...
So that it all feels joyful and easy!
2) I'm desperately lonely and alone.
I pray for true love (with my twin flame).
And a tribe of real friends.
3) I pray to be healed on every level, in every way:
- emotionally
- spiritually
- mentally
- physically
- generationally
4) I pray for YOU! Yes you.
You who are reading this.
May you be blessed.
For on the deepest levels...
Crazy as it may sound...
We are each other!
Mark, question for you- What does it actually mean to be equally yoked?
🙌🙌🙌🙌thank you for these advices according to the WORD OF GOD. I was wondering if both believe in THE LORD JESUS, we are CHRISTIANS, but we belong to different religions, is this considered inequellay yoked?
Great video, but (and I ask this in very good faith) can we really assume what the will of God is outside of scripture?
Thanks, I had a real problem recently trying to date again. I had attachment issues from childhood traumas, so it is a difficult process when the thing I love actually triggers me: other people loving me. What a viscous trick. That the very thing we want the most; love. Is also our worst enemy.
I am grateful for God. I just struggle because I want to be ready but I am obviously not. So frustrating.
I felt this. 🥺
I thought , I was alone...Lets keep growing in our Love for God ❤
Inner healing
@ yes indeed. He’s working on me.
Well when God made man and woman he gave them a strong desire to be fruitful and multiply. When you meet the person that God wants you to be with that desire will double or triple for both of them. The both of them will spend half the day thinking of them. When you are together you will want to touch them and be touched by them all day. If he or she touches your arm you would never want them to let go. If someone else touched your arm that long it would feel creepy to you and you would pull away. When you are together both of you will have the pupils in your eyes dilate. When your with each other your eyes may appear just a little glassy showing the desire of your heart.
Wait, but, what about that Mastiff? I wanted to hear the rest of the story!
I mean at the time my grandmother married my grandfather they didn’t believe in god. But it was my grandmother who found him first and the day my grandfather was about to leave her he became born again and they are still married today are as in love as the day they married.
I met this woman, she is a Christian and we have a lot in common. But we are living in a different city. She is also quite busy with her work and sometimes she replies my message after 2 days, I am not sure if it is worth pursuing or just give up on her and pursue someone else..
If communication is one of your love language, make it known to her that’s what you desired. If she can’t meet you halfway, how can you expect her to meet you halfway during the tougher times.
I told my boyfriend I like quality time and calls here and there. He’s busy; I’m busy. No excuses coming 2024✝️🙏🏾💕
I think you should date various ladies until you meet someone you feel you are both comfortable with each other then just be exclusive. No sex though.
I don't know you sir, but I do know from experience that God can speak directly to His children about any matter on earth. All you have to do is listen. The Bible says that His sheep know his voice. So if they can't recognize God's voice then maybe they shouldn't be getting married. They need to get closer to God. Have a good one.
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What is "equally yolked"?
I can get very easily romantically attracted to a woman, and want to commit to loving her, even to the point of marriage. And the need to love a woman is quite strong… however, I’ve been quite lonely for the past 9 years… minus the few individual women I’ve felt love for, only briefly… it’s hard
Ok. So I know that God needs me to date a Christian person. That part is clear. However in my case all the Christian girls I have asked out declined my dating offer.
Is this a sign that I should wait more? Bear in mind it has been years of trying yet no dice. 🤔
Thank you!
I found out long ago relationships aren't for me, I'm just a passerby. I've accepted my solitude gracefully.
Might be true or God has a plan for marriage in the future
@yumishishkin7321 I don't think so, I've been enlightened enough to know how preposterous marriage is, and how the system is stacked against the common man. If its for you go ahead, it's not for me. I've been voluntarily celibate for 7 years now, haven't dated in 10. I'm not perfect either but I've been done.
There's this guy who checks almost all the box and equally yoked but the truth is I have no kinda attraction towards him. I really don't like him romantically because even tho we have conversations but I feel no emotional connection or whatsoever. What do I do? I want to say "No" but I'm afraid I may be wrong 😢 Any advice please
I would recommend giving him a chance, but also don’t be afraid to be honest and move on!!😊 Sometimes it takes awhile, especially for girls to be attracted to a guy and so it’s good to give him a chance, but also if attraction doesn’t come, then don’t feel like you have to date/ stay in the relationship ❤️
What about one person being the one romantically interested in them . And you just fell like you're the one chasing.... It's frustrating
I got babtised in July,and my boyfriend wants me to go to another church for confirmation 😥😥,he doesn't want me to be in revival churchs , karma he's thinking about the future 😥😭,i don't even know what to do 😭😭😭😭😭😭,i don't want to leave, but I love him dearly 😥😭
Hey, Pastor. Do you think that God would temporarily let you spend time with "the one," then take them away until you are more mature and fully ready to commit to them?
Forgive me if you've discussed this before.
Yes, it can happen. Remember, with God anything is possible and he works in various and mysterious ways, but also be cautious and do not put your hope that it will happen.
I’m 25, dated a few and have a history of lessons. I’m currently in a year long relationship with an amazing woman whom I love deeply, it’s not perfect but we both want to make it work.
I think there’s lots of “ones” throughout our life for different times. We’ve been sold this idea that we just absolutely end up with this person, which puts waaaayy too much pressure on us. (As a caveat, it’s totally okay to want the relationship to last)
That sounds like a really rough and painful situstion , especially with you mentioning them being taken away
. Perhaps they were meant to be there for that time and that time I let and perhaps there will be another time. Perhaps there will be another person that comes along that is amazing and maybe that lasts.
I don’t think God sets our path out, there’s too much change in the world for that. But I do think he influenced all of our lives to connect with people through the choices we make. Take heart in that you have control and can choose what to do.
Amen just obey scripture