3 Signs God Is Preparing a Quiet Man to Pursue You

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  • How will a quiet man pursue a woman? How will a quieter guy who does not express himself verbally that much pursue you as a Christian woman? Here are 3 common ways quiet Christian men pursue the woman they are interested in.
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  • @jenniferk6697
    @jenniferk6697 Год назад +286

    A quiet guy sounds like my ideal man! It’s amazing when someone remembers small things about you that you don’t remember saying

    • @audra100120
      @audra100120 Год назад +26

      I completely agree. I'm for sure not going to be compatible with the life of the party and would definitely be drawn to the quieter man.

    • @dawnstonerock4253
      @dawnstonerock4253 8 месяцев назад +6

      Yes. Like when he’s the only one who remembers extra ice, lemons , and napkins! (My waiter friend) ❤

    • @crispyz2864
      @crispyz2864 Месяц назад +1

      We are out there, an introvert woman would be ideal for me lol. I know as an introvert we definitely do remember pretty much everything, even the stuff I'd rather not..lol. being an introvert is great tho

    • @crispyz2864
      @crispyz2864 Месяц назад

      @@audra100120 i agree, I couldn't be with a extremely extroveted girl

  • @KaylaSteele61
    @KaylaSteele61 Год назад +224

    1. A quiet man uses his presence as a way of pursuing a woman.
    2. A quiet man uses serving as a way of pursuing a woman.
    3. A quiet man uses strong language once he decides to express himself.

  • @helenoftroy5130
    @helenoftroy5130 5 месяцев назад +32

    This was my husband of thirty-four years and three months!!! He died suddenly in November 2022. What a tremendous void he left in his wake. I cannot describe how much I miss him. I am extremely blessed to have had him.

    • @CommentingSomeMore
      @CommentingSomeMore Месяц назад +3

      I’m sorry for your loss ❤ but I’m glad you got to experience such a wonderful love and marriage. May God bless you generously and exceedingly as you walk in this new season. God will never leave you ❤

    • @amadeagottlieb
      @amadeagottlieb Месяц назад +1

      I'm so sorry for your loss! My husband died suddenly six years ago so I know what you're going through. God bless you and give you comfort and strength every day. It will get easier over time.

    • @meroco20ify
      @meroco20ify 15 дней назад +2

      🫶🏽 sorry for your loss. **hugs**

  • @em77775
    @em77775 Год назад +163

    If a guy is usually pretty outgoing and friendly and appears to like you but somehow appears nervous and a little quieter around you, it might be a good sign ☺

    • @FatBellyChemist1234
      @FatBellyChemist1234 Год назад +3

      Very true.

    • @FaithAnswered
      @FaithAnswered Год назад +5

      Got it thank you! What if I enjoy the silence, would they find it awkward? 😂

    • @em77775
      @em77775 Год назад +5

      @@FaithAnswered Sure, why not? If you remain calm, warm, open, friendly, hopefully you'll get a chance to talk more at some point.

    • @RubysDude
      @RubysDude Год назад +15

      Someone, for the love of God, tell that to my Crush...

  • @wellbeingwithwendysmith6651
    @wellbeingwithwendysmith6651 Год назад +217

    This is true. My partner and I are both quiet and considerate so neither of us wanted to do anything to make either feel uncomfortable. We worked together but I left, hoping he would pursue me. He was going to ask me out and, as it turns out, we’re a couple now. A Christmas miracle happened for us. Our coming together is simply miraculous and unexpected in our mutual attraction to who each other is. He’s gentle, loving and committed. A true, traditional gentleman.

    • @dawnstonerock4253
      @dawnstonerock4253 Год назад +9

      Congratulations!!!

    • @alexandria3177
      @alexandria3177 Год назад +6

      Congrats Wendy!!💝 So excited for you🥹

    • @janderson9477
      @janderson9477 7 месяцев назад +3

      So sweet and that’s a blessing and sometimes strength isn’t always loud it’s within and inner strength that cannot be broken 🤗

    • @karinafoster6974
      @karinafoster6974 7 месяцев назад +3

      Congrats so happy for you both

    • @lynnemarylou7611
      @lynnemarylou7611 6 месяцев назад +2

      ❤ how wonderful

  • @takahammah
    @takahammah Год назад +151

    I’m a quiet guy and Mark hit the nail on the head with this one 💯

    • @KRushMissions
      @KRushMissions 8 месяцев назад +8

      Thank you for the feedback on quiet men❤

    • @ebuggs212
      @ebuggs212 6 месяцев назад +2

      Scary accurate of me

    • @winnumber101
      @winnumber101 5 месяцев назад +2

      unbelievably on point about me omg

  • @dbaird8784
    @dbaird8784 Год назад +43

    A quiet man generally gets overlooked and his acts of kindness get taken advantage of.

    • @dinomra7771
      @dinomra7771 Год назад +5

      Yes often times are quietness and politeness get mistaken for harmlessness.

    • @rogercolon619
      @rogercolon619 Год назад +2

      @@dinomra7771 people just think I'm mean in general lol its hilarious 😅

    • @dinomra7771
      @dinomra7771 Год назад +3

      @@rogercolon619 lol same man. We can be blunt as an axe sometimes.

    • @rogercolon619
      @rogercolon619 Год назад +2

      @@dinomra7771 I usually add humor so it goes down easier lol

    • @jeremylutes8943
      @jeremylutes8943 2 месяца назад

      10-4.

  • @hooballoolify
    @hooballoolify Год назад +254

    THIS RIGHT HERE! I'm an introvert with the "gift" of quality time. It's SO hard to find guys who want to slow down, spend time, and enjoy a deep (or light) conversation with me. I've only had two guy friends in my lifetime who had this gift, and they were awesome! I'm an older, never married single (no kids--my preference), who is still praying for my Boaz. Also, I'd like to thank my parents (married 58 years) for explaining and demonstrating God's way of biblical marriage to their kids. Mark, keep up the good work!

    • @vincentortega4284
      @vincentortega4284 Год назад +16

      Tina, your Boaz is out their; continue to pray for that godly husband.

    • @InHisSservice
      @InHisSservice Год назад +15

      Amen to what Vincent Ortega said. Just keep THANKING GOD (in advance, as Hezekiah did) for the godly man that GOD CHOSE-- not you... and WAIT WAIT WAIT. Anything less is a PAINFUL WASTE OF TIME. TRUST IN THE LORD WITH ALL YOUR HEART Prov 3

    • @Kari_Michele
      @Kari_Michele Год назад +3

      Are your 2 guy friends still single as well? 🤔😉

    • @lillianthomas9861
      @lillianthomas9861 Год назад +6

      " and enjoy a deep (or light) conversation with me " Tina, I think he's talking about YOU picking up the slack for the relational connection, because this kind of man can't even start a conversation, much less maintain a 'deep ongoing dialogue'. He's talking about having a life with a man that looks to his wife to fill this "verbal short-coming".

    • @vincentortega4284
      @vincentortega4284 Год назад +3

      @@Kari_Michele Hi, ka .la and I are not friends, I believe she is my sister in Christ, and I'm single. God bless you Kari

  • @estherkeeling777
    @estherkeeling777 8 месяцев назад +56

    WHAT IS SO AMAZING IS I KNOW my husband is on his way and suddenly all of these helpful videos about marriage just started popping up and they are so HELPFUL and enlightening. Thank you LORD for being so mindful and helpful.

    • @estherkeeling777
      @estherkeeling777 7 месяцев назад +6

      Update I have met my husband we get along very well he is a Godly praying fasting man. And treats me very.

    • @vivaeuropa
      @vivaeuropa 6 месяцев назад +1

      ​@estherkeeling777 How long have you been talking with one another, and does he see you as his future wife already like you do him?

    • @estherkeeling777
      @estherkeeling777 6 месяцев назад +5

      @@vivaeuropa Absolutely he sees me more as his wife then I initially seen him as my husband. He said he knew I was his wife the first time he saw me.

    •  Месяц назад

      How did y’all meet ❤️❤️❤️

  • @sincerelysamanthas
    @sincerelysamanthas Год назад +23

    Idk why I feel so strongly in my spirit that this is God telling me how my future husband will be.

  • @BB-ch9km
    @BB-ch9km Год назад +81

    I was chuckling the whole way through this video because I have definitely found a quiet guy and this is exactly how he is expressing himself to me... through his hands in serving me. I love it! So many good points in this video!! I have been around the block a few times and let me tell ya, being with a quiet guy having quality time is such a blessing compared to dating drama ego filled guys. Give the quiet guys a chance, be patient on them opening up. You will be blessed.

  • @isabelhanberg780
    @isabelhanberg780 Год назад +81

    I LOVE the way this video presents the quiet type of guy as such a normal thing. I just feel like there are a lot of quiet guys out there just being themselves and it's a valuable personality trait that gets overlooked sometimes. We love you, quiet guys!

    • @nankanglesley9529
      @nankanglesley9529 Год назад +4

      But no one really shows us love 😢

    • @SJD36
      @SJD36 8 месяцев назад +8

      I notice this with my son. He shows me he cares when he remembers things I have said and then does it. He doesn't hug me or tell me caring things, but he does listen well. It was very important to him to be on time for a dance that a girl asked him to recently. He probably would have been too shy to ask her, but she notices the value in him and wanted to go with him.

  • @cryptojihadi265
    @cryptojihadi265 Год назад +67

    There's another kind of quiet guy that actually will become quite expressive, once they're ready to open up.
    They're quite deep, which is why they seem so reserved in large social settings where conversations tend to be surface and mundane: things they have little interest in.
    But if they find you interesting and once they feel comfortable and trust you, they become quite expressive snd even talkative and value deep emptional connection. Things at least women in the past tended to value.
    So not only will they be able to have the deep sincere passionate and emotional connections with their woman, they aren't players. They are very choosy about who they ooen up to, making the woman feel more valued and exclusive.
    The challenge for the woman is finding those hidden diamonds as they aren't the showboats.

    • @vivaeuropa
      @vivaeuropa 6 месяцев назад +4

      This sums me up pretty well. I noticed I'll attract girls when they see me talking about things I'm passionate about, like traveling, learning languages, where I want to live, and what I want to do in the future. Then they'll approach me like you'd do to an expressive guy but I still need them to be inviting like you'd invite a quiet guy; so their pushy aggressive flirting makes me pull back and get cold as I feel emotionally disconnected and it results in me avoiding the girl. This was when I wasn't saved, but now that I'm saved, I haven't really gotten out of my bubble of two church friends, so I haven't interacted much with Godly women ever. Still only have worldy women at work interested in me.

  • @ginaromano4858
    @ginaromano4858 Год назад +70

    Thank you for this! This is my fiance almost to a T. It really caught my attention because he didn't say all of these flowery things and was so reserved. I struggled with this at first, but have come to appreciate this about him. It distinguishes him from any other man I've been in a relationship with. My love languages are quality time and words of encouragement. He may not talk all the time, but when he does, he knows me well enough to say just what I need to hear even if it's not what I want to hear at that moment. And shocker...he has a clever sense of humor. You wouldn't expect it with him being so quiet, but he can say something and leave me speechless or have me busting out laughing.
    Ladies, don't discount these guys! They can and will treat you like a queen if you're patient with them and acknowledge their efforts to pursue you their way.

    • @Jeweliedear
      @Jeweliedear Год назад +12

      this is so encouraging bc I had met quiet guy who made me feel closer to Jesus and helped me to become more still and quiet, which is not my natural tendency at all--i am outgoing and friendly but also guarded more I get to know people bc of past abuse. but I felt such a peace and presence of God with him. I felt fully present with him and vice versa.

    • @dawnstonerock4253
      @dawnstonerock4253 Год назад +4

      He’s a keeper!!!❤

    • @RubysDude
      @RubysDude Год назад +2

      Preach Gina. Preach.. 😂

    • @jimdavis9284
      @jimdavis9284 Год назад +5

      Thanks, Gina. Love you too :) (Yes, I am that quiet guy!)

  • @joycekyalo8117
    @joycekyalo8117 Год назад +36

    All the points Mark said makes sense. If a quiet guy pursues a woman, the woman might empower and strengthen his verbal shortcomings. However, I will add that if he pursues a woman quietly and slowly builds trust with the woman, eventually he can be a little bit more expressive and will be able to talk way later because again, he trusts her. That's what I believe.

  • @koreagirl2977
    @koreagirl2977 Год назад +95

    This is exactly what I need. For the first time in 16 years I finally am in a relationship with someone. But he didn't seem to be pursuing me the way I thought he should be pursuing me. Now I know he's just a quiet guy. I am so glad that I have seen this video.

    • @ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger
      @ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger  Год назад +13

      So glad this was useful!

    • @koreagirl2977
      @koreagirl2977 Год назад +13

      In a sad Twist of reality he actually wasn't into me that much. But he opened the door to someone else to come into my life, so here's hoping this relationship works out.

    • @TokioTE
      @TokioTE Год назад +5

      ​@@koreagirl2977 all the best 🙏

  • @shellbell8062
    @shellbell8062 Год назад +54

    I am an introvert female and I just love introverts in general. When they say something they have thought it through and considered it deeply; and it has weight to it. Maybe not all introverts; but I have often found this to be the case. Still waters run deep and these are often people who have a very keen perception and insight into people and how they tick. Like an iceberg, there is so much more going on under the surface. Thanks for this video Mark. It's so easy for women to mess things up with this kind of guy as it's easy to misunderstand their intentions.

    • @dinomra7771
      @dinomra7771 Год назад +8

      As a fellow introvert, I can confirm this is fact check true.

  • @NaileaGuerrero
    @NaileaGuerrero Год назад +109

    This is fascinating. A quiet guy sounds very attractive and charming in their own way. I’ve only dated expressive men that were players. Now that I’m Christian, a quiet guy (that’s also a Christian) sounds nicer lol waiting on God 🙏🏼

    • @mmommo10
      @mmommo10 Год назад

      sounds too good to be true!haha

    • @NaileaGuerrero
      @NaileaGuerrero Год назад +1

      @@mmommo10 have faith in God 🙏🏼

    • @RubysDude
      @RubysDude Год назад

      I'm available Nailea.. 😂

    • @etcwhatever
      @etcwhatever Год назад +12

      They can be players too. Be careful. Having suffered too much now i dont compromise on basic principles. Pray that the Holy Spirit gives you discernment

    • @joniangelsrreal6262
      @joniangelsrreal6262 Год назад

      Or
      The quiet guy often times are
      COVERT narcissists… beware ladies of RED flags …

  • @owenpeters4266
    @owenpeters4266 4 месяца назад +4

    This is so true dawg there’s a girl at my small group and I have trouble talking to her directly because I hate talking but I love standing beside her or a few feet away just to listen. Listen is the key word because I remember all the small things about her I hope to use one day to connect

  • @r.j.whitaker
    @r.j.whitaker Год назад +22

    This is a good description of my husband. He does not say much, but he serves us in so many ways 💙

  • @Hanna-fg9kc
    @Hanna-fg9kc 5 месяцев назад +6

    My man fills me with his prescence around me , enjoying every minute with him❤

  • @collectivemindsunique7945
    @collectivemindsunique7945 Год назад +158

    God really is working through you. I needed this message 🙏🏽

    • @blanctonia
      @blanctonia Год назад +6

      As in I have a meeting with someone and I have been praying about him

  • @theabergeoksnes7306
    @theabergeoksnes7306 Год назад +45

    I think people also have to understand that this can go both ways. A quiet woman and a quiet man. I can 110% relate to this video and I’m a girl/woman. I just felt God wanted me to remind people of that 😊💕🌿

  • @jacquis9312
    @jacquis9312 Год назад +13

    Hard to discern the quiet guy from the dreaded covert narcissist, a video about this would be awesome mark

    • @jaligawesa
      @jaligawesa Месяц назад

      Now this is true 😮

  • @praisegirl264
    @praisegirl264 2 месяца назад +3

    To all the shy guys I think yall are awesome!🎉❤

  • @eion-ch3pn
    @eion-ch3pn Год назад +7

    😊I'm a quiet man myself I show my expression by serving. Thanks for the video

  • @lke4907
    @lke4907 Год назад +41

    My man is EXACTLY like this!! Thank you for reassuring me what I already believed.

  • @jamesq7954
    @jamesq7954 5 месяцев назад +2

    Quiet guy here: this is on point.

  • @Neptuneman07
    @Neptuneman07 Год назад +43

    I'm learning this at this present moment how to be more honest about my expressions. I'm naturally quiet, but if I truly like someone, I will chat as a friend to get to know someone. Then I pray about it and if God says yes, then take action.

    • @royalevictoria
      @royalevictoria Год назад +7

      How do you know if God responds? I'm trying to know this. I pray daily. And I recently started asking God about a guy. I guess I will have to wait.

    • @MeyCord
      @MeyCord Год назад +1

      Are you still single
      Can we pray together?

    • @vivaeuropa
      @vivaeuropa 6 месяцев назад +1

      ​@royalevictoria You know the presence of the Holy Spirit you feel when someone gives a good one liner during a sermon or even in a worship song that just spiritually speaks to you. It's the same thing if you're praying to Christ just sit still and wait for an answer. It can even happen when you think about it like you can think for example "God can I date this guy" Then you feel the presence of the Holy Spirit that is confirming that you can. Or you can ask yes or no and see which one you feel the presence.

    • @Neptuneman07
      @Neptuneman07 6 месяцев назад

      @vivaeuropa3005 Great response. I'm still in a waiting season in my life. While waiting, I'm fulfilling my calling to be in a Grad school program at Seminary. My call to do the will of the Lord is top priority. My desire for a future companion will be fulfilled in which she will have the same desire to do the will of the Lord as I do. She will be in my life in the future. Until then, my focus on studying the Word of God is my primary focus. And she will be my secondary focus.

  • @angeliquechelle
    @angeliquechelle 8 месяцев назад +13

    This is so good and so eye opening for me. I feel like I tend to attract the shy, quiet guy but never really knew how to respond until now 👏

  • @AdrieandJudah
    @AdrieandJudah Год назад +200

    Jesus is that you 😂

  • @proper.role.model.819
    @proper.role.model.819 6 месяцев назад +2

    I used to be good at finding these kinds of guys until I got caught up with the quiet ones who were emotionally unavailable. That's the hard part. I love quieter guys though!

  • @marco13mag
    @marco13mag Год назад +65

    Thanks so much for making this video Mark. I am a quiet guy and I hope a lot of women see this video and understand what you are saying. Cuz you are hitting the bullseye on this.

    • @db4419
      @db4419 Год назад +5

      I second this!😁

    • @FatBellyChemist1234
      @FatBellyChemist1234 Год назад +1

      My guy friend is this type of guy other girls needa watch this video. I have to say that I do not like my guy friend beyond friendship.

    • @KRushMissions
      @KRushMissions 8 месяцев назад +3

      Thank you quiet guys for letting us know that Mark is spot on.❤

  • @davidbigd9047
    @davidbigd9047 13 дней назад +1

    As a quiet man, these are all true. I do acknowledge I have some shortcomings compared to the rest of the men in society and I am working on improving those areas.

  • @melinaathena
    @melinaathena Год назад +6

    You should do one on a quiet woman and what a quiet woman can do to open up a quiet guy.

  • @naca1553
    @naca1553 5 месяцев назад +3

    This sounds kind of heavenly. I am so done with men who will NOT stop talking that I don't even want to date. They think we had a wonderful time.

  • @joshgreen4521
    @joshgreen4521 Год назад +99

    This was literally a description of how I went about some feelings I had for a girl for a long time. I came to a point where I became tired of speculating if the feelings were mutual from her side and I wanted to know so I decided to tell her straight up how I felt about her and inviting her on a date. I had never done that before. But it was too much too soon and the feelings were not mutual, but then I found out.

    • @someonespecial581
      @someonespecial581 Год назад +11

      Awww. Bless you 🤗

    • @Mers0913
      @Mers0913 Год назад +9

      I’m the same way right now with a guy I’ve known/been friends with for awhile. Just recently developed feelings for him & Im debating on telling him bc I don’t want to ruin our friendship. I’ve always been a shy girl & I stepped out of my box in college a couple times & always got shot down…

    • @kingbutters2721
      @kingbutters2721 Год назад +3

      Same but the thing she has a bf but She gives me some signals but I know don’t pursue

    • @RubysDude
      @RubysDude Год назад +1

      Yep, usually how it happens. You unload your feelings. They get like a deer in headlights. Girls call it Lovebombing nowadays. Its crazy. I give up...

    • @stevehicks399
      @stevehicks399 Год назад +4

      I've been there too. Don't take it personal. It's called taking a risk. God Bless 🙏 you ❤️

  • @sandrasalinas9787
    @sandrasalinas9787 Год назад +29

    Thank you so much you literally made my day!!! I’m having this issue with a quiet man lol I almost sent him a good bye text because he is terrible at texting and calling. However When he takes me out he is so present and in tune with me. He is the most sweetest guy and the most attentive and respectful. I could tell he is shy and a bit socially awkward.. I think that’s cute. He did open the door lol and he goes above and beyond..

    • @sleeping.helper
      @sleeping.helper Год назад +13

      this is true... we can not be great with words or when there´s too many people around, BUT when it comes to one on one, we will make you the center of the universe and the most important people on the planet.

    • @sandrasalinas9787
      @sandrasalinas9787 Год назад +10

      @@sleeping.helper thank you, God knew I needed to hear this ….I’m so blessed. I was frustrated and anxious. God made me watch this video ….

  • @cmc479
    @cmc479 29 дней назад +2

    As a quiet guy myself, everything you said was spot on. What women need to understand is that number 3 is the biggest point. Me personally, every time I would say something to a woman, I would always come across as too strong or they wouldn't feel the same and would end up walking away. Every experience like that makes me wait longer and unsure if I should say something for fear I would get the same result. If you have a quiet man around you that is doing these things and you have feelings for him, give him a nudge. Offer to study together. Suggest getting lunch together. If you don't mind being blunt about it, tell him you enjoy spending time with him. We do NOT pick up on signs or signals very well, so the more obvious you make it, the better.

  • @citizensister
    @citizensister Год назад +50

    I love your videos and they have been a huge help to me in adjusting my understanding of how to respond to pursuit from a Godly man. But this one was exactly what I needed. God keeps telling me he is pursuing me, but it doesn't look like I expected and that has made me second guess what is happening. What it does look like is exactly this, as you've described in this video. So it is a beautiful confirmation. And for the record, so, so many women do not understand the things you've described here.

    • @ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger
      @ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger  Год назад +10

      I'm so glad it was helpful Tracy! All glory to God!

    • @db4419
      @db4419 Год назад +8

      Amen to that! Many women probably need to hear/read what you've said here - especially that "it doesn't look like [you] expected. Lol! I've lost out for that I think, not pursuing in the way it might be "expected" 😉

  • @Tiggity80
    @Tiggity80 Год назад +15

    I’m currently dating a quiet guy. He is unlike any other man I’ve dated, as I’m used to more charismatic, outgoing men. I’ve been struggling to not lose interest, because o do like him and I think there’s potential there. My issue is I feel like unless he’s talking about something he’s passionate about, mostly work, I have to drive the conversation. Doing this makes me feel like I’m stepping out of my feminine. I’d prefer his masculine to lead the conversation at times. This video has helped me make sense of him and has given me a different perspective. Thank you.

    • @ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger
      @ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger  Год назад +12

      Amen, masculine strength is also expressed through quiet strength, being present, and listening well :)

  • @LexTan
    @LexTan Год назад +14

    As I watch this video, I am finding and appreciating a certain irony for myself: I am a broadcaster, musician, actor, public speaker. But I’m actually a quiet man at heart. I have no problems, expressing myself in many different ways, but I also identify with all of the traits that a quiet man has. It’s equally awesome and frustrating at the same time.

  • @n.ee.h
    @n.ee.h Год назад +30

    This video helped me see a guy in my church differently and it encouraged me to message him in a joking way about he wasn’t great at messaging so he would know that I would like him to try and respond from time to time, and to my surprise he messaged back quite quickly agreeing and we had a good laugh about it. God is good 😊

    • @alexandria3177
      @alexandria3177 Год назад +6

      Comepletely unrelated but you’re very pretty!!🤗❣️

  • @pinkshirtguy6533
    @pinkshirtguy6533 Год назад +3

    Words are meaningless. Action is EVERYTHING!!!

  • @reynaro2496
    @reynaro2496 Год назад +43

    Amen! Thanks for the message 😇quiet man and quiet woman, is so difficult to know each others.

    • @ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger
      @ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger  Год назад +5

      God bless Reyna!

    • @L62719
      @L62719 Год назад +9

      Was just about to post that lol. Missed an encounter on the train, he was verbal with elderly people but once they left he just kept looking in my direction but not saying anything...I regretted not speaking up. We had core values and language in common (his conversation with the elderly people) don't know if I will see him again 🫤

    • @reynaro2496
      @reynaro2496 Год назад +5

      @@L62719 yea same with me, I keep seeing a man that shows that he likes me and he is not verbal with me, and I also cant say a word for some reason 😁 💙 maybe the character match so much that the nerves get in the way.

  • @joytotheworld9988
    @joytotheworld9988 8 месяцев назад +4

    I ran across this video and it brought to mind some painful memories for me that I thought I had healed from. I dated a quiet man, and you described him precisely. There were many things I didn't understand that I wish I had not taken for granted. I felt insecure because I talk a lot, but he told me, "I like to listen." Long story short, there were some major insecurities he had, combined with the fact that I still had some growing to do, that led him to end the relationship, run away from God, and make a lot of really unhealthy and destructive decisions. I've learned to let it go - someone has to choose to change on their own, God still has plans for me, but this just made me a little sad.

  • @trippy9548
    @trippy9548 Год назад +25

    Omg I needed this lol. I have this guy at work I have a crush on and we are both kinda nervous to talk to each other but he constantly finds a way to be around me lol😅😊

    • @ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger
      @ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger  Год назад +5

      Nice!

    • @caroliinec
      @caroliinec Год назад +11

      please be careful with work relationships . . . they're not always the wisest choice.

    • @HannahJoy333
      @HannahJoy333 Год назад +5

      @@caroliinec they also can be incredible if God decided on the two coworkers to eventually be married. It happens.

  • @inspiredx3866
    @inspiredx3866 Год назад +4

    Thanks for representing the small percentage of us. Message is 💯

  • @jennya7438
    @jennya7438 11 месяцев назад +12

    I've met many women in NYC and in South Florida who married some so-called quiet guy to help them get their immigration papers & then that same guy turned around abusing these women sexually & or physically. Not all quiet guys are good guys and not all expressive guys are bad guys.
    *Prayer should be focused on God our Father to select His guy for us women b/c we want to avoid being deceived at all cost.

  • @bucketspree4952
    @bucketspree4952 Год назад +6

    This is a good and needed video for helping women to understand quiet guys. Often it seems off putting to just throw stuff out there, and I agree completely with not wanting to hog/ fight for air time.
    It's really good to let people know there are other ways of communicating, and that just because you may have difficulty or not prefer to express yourself verbally, that it's still possible to make your intentions known, and there's nothing inherently wrong with the way your built, but it shows how we can all work to compliment one another.
    God bless and thank you.

  • @georgiasinspirations
    @georgiasinspirations Год назад +16

    My perspective has been completely changed. Thanks for this video, I really really needed it. ❤️

  • @JudaBuddha
    @JudaBuddha Год назад +12

    The timing of this video was divine. Thank you. ❤️🙏🏻

  • @uscitizen5656
    @uscitizen5656 9 месяцев назад +3

    This is me, I keep praying for God to put the words in my mouth, to tell My Love how much I want to be with her forever!

  • @lynnettewells4178
    @lynnettewells4178 Год назад +7

    Very good information. Gives you a different perspective from what modern social media is telling us. I am at a point in life that I am in no hurry and just let them have their space and time to contact me / talk to me. It is so less stressful and makes the conversation more genuine and connection better.

  • @anniciaaaaa
    @anniciaaaaa Год назад +17

    This is so beautifully said🤍🤍thank you Mark for helping us to understand better! God bless

  • @chrisfish9405
    @chrisfish9405 14 дней назад

    This excites me because not only is it how God has transformed me to be but its also what he is teaching me.

  • @Kari_Michele
    @Kari_Michele Год назад +5

    This video confirms that this is exactly the type of man I need in my life 😇🙏🏾💗

  • @cwill8294
    @cwill8294 Год назад +1

    This was SO helpful! Thank you for articulating this, it definitely makes me see things in a proper light.

  • @ashleighb997
    @ashleighb997 Год назад +6

    I love your website. I have read so many of your articles and watched a few videos, too. I’m praying and believing God to fulfill the desire for a relationship that leads to marriage. Thank you for the articles and videos. You have a great ministry for people wanting relationships and marriage. I’m so glad I found your videos. Have a Happy New Year and if you take prayer requests please pray for me!

  • @AudraT
    @AudraT 3 месяца назад +2

    The tricky part is figuring out if the dude is a quiet guy or a not interested guy. They both act the same!!! And a woman has to be so careful about expressing interest because she can so easily be perceived as desperate.

  • @ivanav6697
    @ivanav6697 Год назад +5

    Thank you so much Mark. Unfortunately sometimes, many women forget or don't consider too much this type of guy. It's a great lesson for me. GOD bless you!

  • @tllee_tommy
    @tllee_tommy Год назад +3

    Hi Mark,
    Just want to drop a message here to say ' Thank you ' for putting this explanation out here, explaining how a quiet guy tends to behave towards their relationship or dating process. It may not be much, but those pointers mentioned really match the majority of how quiet guys put in efforts to create or manage their relationship. As an introvert, speaking to a fellow stranger and hanging around after church service is already a daunting task, let alone finding someone who truly understands how you felt and how much you are trying to maintain or please them. Also, this message here is to thank the majority out there who are also struggling as much as I do. Don't give up and continue to be you and improve accordingly (I'm not gaslight here but truly wishing you to have a blessed partner in the coming future).
    Happy 2023 and New Year to all!

  • @GraciousGiftsofGod
    @GraciousGiftsofGod 10 месяцев назад

    OH MY GOSH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! This is SO TRUE AND RELEVANT. Thank you, and God bless you!!

  • @AngieP84
    @AngieP84 Год назад +2

    Wow! This video is giving me some answers and clarity that I didn't expect and at the right time. I appreciate your videos and your clear communication brother. I appreciate the biblical application you add to your videos as well! God bless you🙌🏽🙏🏽💖

  • @murakas2
    @murakas2 Год назад +11

    Thank you so much for this message - I'm really glad I had discovered your videos, praise be to God!

  • @anacossa8437
    @anacossa8437 Год назад +15

    Hum, most of the times that I ask God for a question, you bring a new video concerning situations that I passed by and confused me about His will. You are blessing to my life. Thank you, God bless you❤👋🙏

    • @sunnyclouds1372
      @sunnyclouds1372 Год назад +1

      Same here been praying for 2 days for God to give me a sign... then this popped up

  • @sasharemez7459
    @sasharemez7459 8 месяцев назад +5

    This is so good! I was praying asking God where is my Boaz, because I love his character traits. This makes sense to me, now I know what to take note of.
    Thank you for making this video Mark!

  • @carmenfreeman693
    @carmenfreeman693 Год назад +1

    He shows up and is present, I can work with that....thank you. 🙏

  • @Andallthatja_5
    @Andallthatja_5 8 месяцев назад +1

    Wowwww. SO MUCH revelation in this video. Holy Spirit 🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾

  • @Nina-zo1cb
    @Nina-zo1cb Год назад +1

    This 5 points are valid.. I certainly appreciate you for pointing them out. In today's generation many marriages break due to lack of understanding with these valid points. Thank you for your teachings.

  • @judygraessle7358
    @judygraessle7358 Год назад +6

    Thank you Mark. I needed this instruction, guidance and words of wisdom.

  • @KRushMissions
    @KRushMissions 8 месяцев назад

    Ty so much! This has helped me understand quiet guys exponentially better.

  • @JH-qy8no
    @JH-qy8no Год назад +5

    Jim Croce wrote a great song about this called "I'll have to say I love you in a song." He must have been a quiet guy.

  • @ItinerarySweat
    @ItinerarySweat Год назад +1

    Mr Ballenger,
    Excellent platform Jesus shines on through you. God Bless you

  • @someonespecial581
    @someonespecial581 Год назад +1

    This is a timely message

  • @bimbap007
    @bimbap007 Год назад +6

    So timely, and on point in my situation... Thank you so much.

  • @jessyojah4065
    @jessyojah4065 4 месяца назад +2

    I thank God for this video

  • @jifunzekiingerezanadorothy
    @jifunzekiingerezanadorothy 10 месяцев назад

    This is such a helpful video 😅

  • @ItinerarySweat
    @ItinerarySweat Год назад +1

    Mr Ballenger Jesus Christ is using you for his Glory. Keep encouraging me and inspiring me through your amazing channel. God Bless

  • @TEWMUCH
    @TEWMUCH 10 месяцев назад +2

    You sir, have a gift. 😊

  • @jesusfan8504
    @jesusfan8504 Год назад +5

    Thank you for sharing this! Let Love and Light continue to flow from Jesus freely through us all today and in 2023...Filling us with Joy, and overflowing into others lives!

  • @toyaqueen-kp2wz
    @toyaqueen-kp2wz 10 месяцев назад +1

    God taken me to this video 😮wow amazing 😊

  • @DAUGHTERofSARAH23
    @DAUGHTERofSARAH23 Год назад

    Wow! If only I knew this years ago! I’m glad that I know now!

  • @andrewc8615
    @andrewc8615 Год назад +2

    I'm a quiet chap myself. Mark has clearly touched on some points that reflect my personality.

  • @MistyEry
    @MistyEry Год назад

    This explains and makes sense of things. Thankyou.

  • @antoinettkandiesmith3487
    @antoinettkandiesmith3487 Год назад +2

    Thank you Mark this was meant for me to see

  • @fifi5535
    @fifi5535 8 месяцев назад

    Thank you so much for this information! It’s invaluable for me and what I’ve been praying for.🥺

  • @chemistryforbabes9862
    @chemistryforbabes9862 Год назад +1

    Wao! Thanks Mark, this is so timely.
    Now i understand better.

  • @coltonbrewer6632
    @coltonbrewer6632 Год назад +1

    Another one. Great job. God bless.

  • @prettiegyrl99
    @prettiegyrl99 Год назад +1

    So glad I saw this. ❤

  • @_heyimbritt
    @_heyimbritt Год назад +6

    Glad to hear this, this was helpful

  • @mmommo10
    @mmommo10 3 месяца назад +2

    this was soooo good, thank you so much, sure appreciate it, just what I needed, and confirms my thoughts.

  • @periswagathiki
    @periswagathiki 8 месяцев назад +2

    I connect to this type of a guy 🙏🏽

  • @jenniferv9450
    @jenniferv9450 Год назад +19

    Lol Wow thank you Mark! This is a very interesting and helpful video. If a quiet guy is in my immediate future you just gave me help to acknowledge him and be receptive. I don’t want to miss out on the man who is right for me and who I could be a blessing to.
    May God bless you Mark🙏
    Thanks again 🙂

    • @ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger
      @ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger  Год назад +1

      Glad it was helpful!

    • @dinomra7771
      @dinomra7771 Год назад +6

      You just have to be a bit patient with us, because we tend to be quite methodical about how we approach Women.

  • @cynthiawoods4512
    @cynthiawoods4512 Год назад

    Sounds worthwhile: I think I may have 1-2 to look into!!

  • @lonsp.t3568
    @lonsp.t3568 Год назад +8

    Very interesting. I love how you constantly help me to open my mind to see men (and people) differently and not just what my mind perceives or wants from/ with someone. You will definitely be someone who can help single women like myself meet GODLY CHRISTIAN men. Thank you , GOD BLESS ALWAYS 🥰🙌🏽🙏🏼

    • @user-cp1hp5zi6k
      @user-cp1hp5zi6k 11 месяцев назад

      Am quite christian woman looking for a quite man of god am single 50 years old

  • @shuesther
    @shuesther 8 месяцев назад

    Very Good!👍 Thanks for educating and advising

  • @cyndiva83
    @cyndiva83 8 месяцев назад

    I looooove this! I hate being indecisive on my thoughts concerning this matter but I feel encouraged yet scared (d/t past rejection in romantic relationships). I have distance with the man I care for and I’m going to his hometown next week….& I envision myself WAITING for him to speak on how he’s feeling about me 1st before I become vulnerable in reciprocating. What I feel is PINNED up. I need to keep praying. 🙏🏾

  • @antonettereyes5468
    @antonettereyes5468 Год назад

    understood! very well! Thank you❤️

  • @Rachelle-qs5ge
    @Rachelle-qs5ge 9 месяцев назад

    I would love his gifting ways and hands.
    Hallelujah!