Just a side note... For some, God is still working on your CHARACTER and being more like Him before He gives you someone. Also, making sure you are not idolizing the process, the relationship, the spouse etc. God wants is to have a relationship with Him and to seek Him first. We get the desires of our hearts when we delight ourselves in God; our desires become His desires.
I met a man at my job who once told me to never get married. He had heard many horrific stories about coworkers marriages and decided that he never wanted to get married. He told many people that he would never get married. I married that man. Never say never.
I always say never and dwell there too much and learned from the video to stop dwelling there and the negativity. “I will probably never get married because I can’t find someone, I will never be rich and a millionaire so I hope I become rich enough to support a family and provide one day, I will never find a woman who would accept me for me and my heart and faith overlooking my lack of money, career success, and status so i will probably die alone and forgotten despite my desire to find a wife, I am so age behind in life at age 27 when compared to everyone else my age I will probably never will catch up and fulfill my goals.” You get the gist with me. It’s hard not having a soul who cares about me even though I have God with the loneliness, lack of friends and close relationships, and isolation taking it’s toll on me.
@@Justyouraverageguy172 I married my man when he was 42 he could have found a wife sooner but he stopped looking and it wasn't God's timing He stayed in his work and tried to live his life in a way that honored God and that is what I recognized. He was always quiet, smart, took responsibility for his own actions, never threw other people under the bus though he could have, he never took someone else's credit for their work though they try to take his. He is always kind, never yells at others when he is upset, he doesn't cuss. (which is rare to find in the trades) He doesn't chase money. He takes care of his family. Though he does work hard to provide what he can. My man is twice my age he doesn't make that much money he doesn't look like the kind of guy you will see on a magazine. On the outside he is just an average Joe but on the inside he is more attractive then anyone I've ever met. It might take a long time it might not. If you devote your life to following the God of the Bible and honoring him the right kind of woman will likely come along and notice that. Life's not about money and a good woman will know that. I think you need better goals then money and you might have a better life and a better chance of finding a good partner. It may be much later then your timeline that you have planned but one day you may find someone. You never know. My husband definitely didn't think that he would ever find someone that would appreciate him and that he would marry, then in his early 40's I came along.
1. God has a sense of humor that mortals just can't comprehend. "Never" is a challenge from an ant to a king. 2. Your future spouse isn't going to just show up in your bedroom. That's a home invasion. 3. Desperation has a smell and good/normal people subconsciously avoid it. 4. However many rocks you've unturned, there's always one you haven't considered. 5. Maybe you haven't found The One yet because you can't handle the truth about them yet.
This is so true! I met what would end up being my future husband when I was 15. We were great friends in high school, but never anything more. Neither of us were Christians at the time. After high school we lost touch and went down very different paths in our 20’s. At 29 we reconnected and learned we had both become Christians and in fact even attended the same church without even realizing it, since we attended different service times. Very quickly God opened our eyes to see each other in a whole new way. It did feel a bit awkward at first given our history, but it was the best surprise and gift ever. 6 months later he proposed at our church where God brought us back together. We just celebrated 10 years of marriage❤ Gods plans are so much better than our own 🎉
I am in serious need for another Christian to come into my life and help me right away. Esp someone a christian who knows how to handle n do things. I'm in such need now n pain..surgery on my leg had bad results I gained weight fr not being able to move right another earlier surgery I got a disease from..one med for this was taken away, disease is attacking my body, no one is helping me contact w church n fam is infuriating my mom is left without her needs met. A so called Christian lady came here n left me in the lurch acting out being a complete jerk. My bro ea time he came here has been a jerk n hurt n damaged me. There's a group of p who have messed me up locally..many businesses have barred me frgoing there without a cause. Etc.
@@MetalheadChristian ABSOLUTELY YES and ABSOLUTELY NO IT DEPENDS. I had given up totally on getting married and was prepared to be ALONE for the rest of my life. The LORD TOLD ME several months ago your husband is on his way. I SAID HUH WAAAY a minute just leave me the way I am. THE LORD SAID NO IT IS GOING TO GET REALLY BAD ON THIS EARTH AND I DON'T WANT YOU TO BE ALONE. I was like but but but. TO make a long story short I have met my husband and we will be getting married soon. He said he had prayed and asked the LORD TO BRING HIS WIFE TO HIM. The day we met he said he knew when he first looked at me he KNEW I WAS HIS WIFE. BACK in 2001 I had a dream me and my husband was putting up groceries and that he was 5 feet 10. Guess how tall he is EXACTLY the height he was in the dream. SO YES IF GOD WANTS YOU TO BE MARRIED HE WILL BRING IT TO pass. I kept trying to get out if it and the LORD said I THOUGHT YOU UNDERSTOOD it's going to happen. I have obeyed the LORD many times and it has always worked together for my good. YOU know something else the LORD told me. HE SAID I WANT YOU TO BE WITH HIM BECAUSE I KNOW YOU will do your best to do right regarding him.
@@MetalheadChristian it might. Mark has referred to that in some of his other videos. To try to paraphrase: If someone has a strong desire to get married - especially if they have sexual desires - there's a good chance that God would want that person to marry - to a Godly person, of course.
“I will never date/marry a drug dealer or someone who has had a vasectomy” Met a drug dealer (who was “fixed”) when I was an addict, fell in love, we both got sober, got saved, got married and then were pregnant in a little over a month 🥰
I would also take comfort in the fact that no one is perfect. Tbh, this channel seems to propagate the idea that you just have to wait. Your person is the person that you choose, it’s not written in the starts of destiny That’s the beauty of it, God will work through that and give you peace.
I'm getting married this week at the age of 41. We were introduced through mutual friends who knew we both wanted to find a spouse. I didn't fall in love with him at first sight, but I figured that I'd give it a chance. Fifteen months later, here I am about to marry him.
I thought this one was so funny.....because I just started dating a guy after being intentionally single for 12 years.....and he was in the NEVER EVER category. I'm really glad I wasn't drinking anything at the time I was watching this, because it would have come out my nose. I don't know if he will be "the one"....but it's still true even for dating life. ❤
I was using dating apps for about a year. But then I heard Holy Spirit tell me to delete them. It’s been about a year since. But in the past week, I’ve been tempted to download them again. It’s rough. But staying in prayer and fasting regularly to overcome this temptation. 🙏🏽
Pray that the Holy Spirit reveals your path to you. It may be that dating apps were not right for you ... at that time. I knew that "the app" was right for me because my mother, who is more righteous than I, had to push me into it.
Online dating is a straight no. I tried it several times on Christian dating sites and they are all scams. Many men on these sites are wolves in sheep's clothing. This was definitely an experience even using discernment. So, I am now content in my singleness, embedding my spirit, mind and heart fully to God. This being said, I now feel like a Ruth in a Boaz situation right now. I will see how it will unravel.
That's because the only men that women find attractive on dating sites are the wolves. 80% of women only find 14% of men attractive. So many women are all aiming to hook up with the same men who have LOTS of options and have no reason to commit.
I tried so hard to be in a relationship with men who weren’t meant for me. I stopped trying to make it happen and started waiting on the lords timing I even prayed while I was with someone to bring me the man I was supposed to be with and a week later me and that guy broke things off and a few months later I met my husband who was everything I prayed for even though it’s not everything I thought it was going to be it’s everything I needed him to be and that is what I find so beautiful about trusting God
He who FINDS a wife FINDSa good thing. A woman can be found if she is keeping her hands to the plow - she needs to continue on the path that Gos wants her on - doing God’s will
How many horror stories have you heard from normal dating though? You would need to avoid all dating to avoid the possibility of pain. Bad things happen everywhere, not just with online dating. Many people have used it to find their godly spouse. It's certainly has it's issues, and you are not wrong to avoid it if that's what you desire, but logically you are not safer by avoiding online dating. You could have a horror story in any form of dating as people are people. There are good men online and bad men, just like all of life. Just my thoughts :)
I’m in the same boat, but mostly because I don’t have a significant online presence for my IRL self, and I’m terrible at socializing solely through texting. It’s not my ideal way to meet people or find someone I’m compatible with.
I met the man God had for me on a dating site after experiencing men God didn't have for me . Short version we both were getting ready to get off site due to the deception and lies , that often go on these sites . Be careful saying the word never .
I think one of the problems with Godly women is sometimes we imprison ourselves with scriptures and become very religious, rather than having the scriptures liberate us so we can live in the Spirit and Truth. In the end despite your wants and needs the Heavenly Father knows who is right for you, and will bring you to your spouse in His Perfect Timing, sometimes when you least expect it. I also believe that The Heavenly Father does give you some hints and clues who your ordained spouse is, but sometimes we can not see or misinterpret signs.
This is so so true!!! I always said that I would never be with someone in the same workplace as me, and yet here I am with my future husband who I met at my workplace 😬😬 never say never. But thank you God.
Seeing testimonies like this give me hope. I dwelled too much for son long jn the “marriage can never happen for me God despite my desire because I am so far behind in life compared to everyone my age at 27 that there’s no way I can find someone, be accepted and loved, welcomed even though I don’t have the money, house, job, and career successes and abundances women expect me to have instead of the lack I am suffering from, and hope to fulfill the obligation I have as the husband to provide for the family. It’s just impossible for me.”
I met my current bf at work, but swore I would never date someone at work. I met him at a time when I wasn’t looking and he’s someone I never expected. Not sure if he’ll be my husband but I just enjoy these videos. Since he walked into my life I’ve gotten so much closer to God.🦋💙
Many true points.. God opened my eyes and heart to see the man who had been by my side, through thick and thin, praying for me. After I had run a long marathon trying other paths, pursuing my 'dream men' and ending up hurt, he was still there. I don't deserve such steadfast love. We've been married 10 years soon and have three little children. It has not been easy, but here we are.
This is so fitting for me right now. I am recently talking to this man who so far his fruits match his actions. To be honest I havent dated anyone in 6 years. I told myself no more online dating yet alone dating outside my comfort zone. I then met this guy who isnt the typical guy I go for. So far it has been an interesing journey because he is what I needed but not what I wanted. I am learning to be a godly woman and be the female and feminine woman God created me to be. He makes me feel something I have never felt before and I love it but it is a little scary sometimes. I am very grateful for him. We are still taking things very slow.
My bf matches every single one. 1) I had said never to online dating AND even making friends online. I met my bf online and we became chat buddies. We opened up and became genuine friends. And, more than a year later, we started flirting. 2) I stopped waiting to be found. I became more active and started pursuiting a suitor. I was also the one to start flirting with my bf. 3) I had also stopped feeling so hopeless. I had removed toxic people from my life and didn't need my partner to "save me" anymore. By removing the toxicity, I was happy even while single. 4) He was my friend/chat buddy for a long time when I finally saw him as a potential partner. 5) Well, maybe this doesn't match very much. The only thing he doesn't match is that he is dark instead of blond (which is not serios anyway). It doesn't matter, I love him 😊
I said I’d never marry a man who was more family oriented and who didn’t want kids like me. Lo and behold, God kept tugging at my heart and has softened me to motherhood. I’m not a mom yet and I still don’t get why He gave me the husband he did, but I couldn’t be happier!
I always told myself I would never date a very attractive man because they’re trouble lol funny enough am dating one right now. Am talking 6 2” six pack very handsome.
Thank you for this video, Mark! Recently God has been laying Matthew 6:33 on my heart when it comes to dating and kingdom marriage. Our focus should be on God, accept His pruning and preparation period (discernment is key!) and He will give us the desires of our heart at His divine timing! 🙌🏾👏🏾🙏🏾
I found that God has done this to me! All the things that I didn’t want to do.. God placed me in a position to just do that! When I did start to realise this.. I have learned to slow down and ask His direction for me!
Until people learn to be happy alone they're never going to be happy with somebody else. I'm 50 years old years old and I'm still learning to be happy with myself there's still a long time to go before I'm happy with another person
Because I'm unable to work and I don't have a license and unable to get out much - I often said I don't know how I'm going to meet my soulmate or future husband. I used to jokingly say almost got to bring some to my house and he walks down the driveway to my front door I don't see how we're going to meet. Cut two years after fighting each other online talking with and losing touch here and there when the timing was right- we finally met, it was at my house he pulled in my driveway. ❤
Desperate and dateless apps are not the way to find a spouse in my opinion. Just because they declare themselves a Christian doesn't mean they actually are. Look for their fruits. Isn't it amazing this man is speaking about what women should and shouldn't be doing but nothing about what men should be doing! Look for someone who is kind, speaks kindly of family and friends. Has a gentle spirit. Nothing wrong with being single. Enjoy your own strength given to you by God. Jesus is the only one who completes you.
Been married over 46 years to the same man. I mate him when i was 13 yrs old for about 10 minutes. I would dream of him. Saw him again when i was 15 years old. Dated Break up over & over..
I'm in the no. 4 category :) (male here)...the woman I like doesn't even know I exist (she's seen me, but barely acknowledges etc...)...I see her at church, but it just feels like it's not the right time to move yet (multiple reasons)...I'm hoping and praying the time will be right soon, when God's ready
Can I speak to this please? Is it "not the right time to move yet"? or is it fear? Have you said hello or introduced yourself to her yet? The problem I have with shyness or being afraid to take a risk of rejection is this, if a guy can't approach me then he's probably too afraid to do A HOST of other things that I'm going to need him to do as the leader of our future home. A lot of times we say we're waiting on God when really, he's waiting on us. I know I don't know you or your personal situation, so please don't be offended at my comment. The sooner you talk to her and feel out the vibe, the sooner you'll know if you're allowing her to take up head and heart space that she doesn't need to and you can move on to the next available girl that would love to talk to you. When you approach your crush a simple hi how are you is a great start. You don't have to go straight into asking her out, just ask her about the service or what she thought about the sermon, etc. Keep the conversation light and simple. I'm rooting for you!!
Another great one and to be applicable for men……for example I didn’t want to stop online dating and never wanted or want to meet someone in person but I’m willing to make a risk
The first one had me shocked because at first I wasn’t even the type of person who would wanted to find love through TikTok but I met him and we connected
sometimes ppl dont reply fast or leave u on hold bcuz they r in things they can't cope with n r already embroiled n can't start w u cuz u wd see them in such a down situation
I have made up my mind, I am going to cross train to eventually move departments to pursue my boss's boss. I'm 24 and autistic (so I can't take a hint to save my life), she's 30. The way I see it, if I can move and ask her out, then at that stage I win. If she says yes, great. If not, then I have no regrets because I gave it my all.
@@eisenhower9069 Well isn't my determination to make the effort, as well as the fact that (if successful) I have a diversified skills set that can move me across departments a good start? And the fact is I'm somewhat significantly younger than her makes me have a lot of learning and catching up to do to reach her level.
It is written: 38 For as in the days that were before the flood they were eating and drinking, marrying and giving in marriage, until the day that Noe entered into the ark, Matthew 24-38 27 They did eat, they drank, they married wives, they were given in marriage, until the day that Noe entered into the ark, and the flood came, and destroyed them all. Luke 17-27
I will never marry a divorcee😢 .. God ,i am ok single, i don't want any relationship with a man..( am done) that what i used to say. Out of no where, 7 month now , dating a divorce man,i dont even know how it happened, I'm in love and about to do church wedding.🤔. He gave me him even without asking. Mysterious God
The story in acts wasn’t actually about eating unclean foods. God's voice tells Peter to eat the food, including non-kosher food, which Peter realizes means that Gentiles are no longer unclean. Peter then goes to Cornelius, a centurion, and tells his household about salvation through Jesus. Before Peter can baptize or lay his hands on them, the Holy Spirit falls on them.
I’m in love with a godly man. We are really good friends. He does not know my feelings for him. He is over a decade younger than I am. Sometimes, it feels like the feeling is mutual, other days it is just plain friendship. On christmas day, he sent me a christmas message, telling me he was looking forward to many more years of friendship with me. I felt I got "friend-zoned." I am praying to God every day to help me get out of this mess I put myself in. I don’t want to lose our friendship, but it feels as though it’s going to happen soon, as I decided to take a few steps back from him, otherwise, it’s going to get messier. I rely on God’s power daily to save me from this mess I made. It’s just so hard. It’s my first time falling in love with a godly man, but it seems like it isn’t part of God’s plan for me.😢
I met my current boyfriend through discord. I never thought I would fall in love with someone through discord. We’ve been together for a little over 5 months now. This was definitely a God thing ❤
Wow. This is Confirmation…. Never Say Never. I learned that as a young girl. It’s like a Jinx. My older half sisters would say they would Never date this type of guy and they ended up w that guy……. Someone may Not fit in to your Normal. But, there are Always Exceptions…… I learned to find it’s Not Rigid. There are Absolutely Exceptions to the List.
Said i would never date a student, a certain tribe from my country and someone not in same state. well your guess is right😅, he was a student, from that very tribe and in a different state. I didn't realize it until much later, thinking about it now makes me laugh
Well, I'm in a season of waiting. No men for me yet. But my expectation is a man of God, fully devoted. And I'm coming off a relationship with a man thst did not worked for 12 years of 14. I am not getting together eith a man thst does not have a stable job. That's .y two main things. Drunking, drugs are off the table too. And Im waiting for my son to be 18 years old before anything or anybody comes along. The better plan from God would be to straighten my ex husband and make him new.
I asked God if I should forget about the person that I recently grew to like. And he revealed to me in the dream that this person will “never let me go.” So I say, ask God and wait for his answer, whether it’s through a dream-if you ask for it, or in real life somehow.
Sometimes God just wants you single. If you feel you're not meeting someone and everyone around you has...ask God if your walk with Him is one as a single.
I used to like him. Now I don't like him and across time I feel like I cant stand him and do not want him around me. He did communicate his intentions and after thinking about it, it was a hell no. He is God fearing. I feel like doesn't get me, it is hard to have a normal conversation with him because its like he is not aware of what's happening. I just get tired after every interaction rather than desiring to a have another. Is this normal? Am I being too difficult or canal?
@@MAR24300 nothing much. We have never been intimate. I don't believe in intimacy before marriage. The closest we got was a handshake. We always argued and never seemed to agree on anything. He'd always forget about what we talked about as a result the conversations were tiring for me. Sadly,our relationship was always like a prayer meeting. Our world views were totally different. I guess I was just lonely for being single for more than 5 years and I was just drawn by the looks and the tongues when he prayed.
@@bilhaadhiambo6448 I didn't even mention anything about intimacy so I'm not sure why you brought that up. Something doesn't seem right. My question was, what triggered you not liking him anymore? It doesn't seem like he has done anything wrong. Maybe you need to search your own heart
I am getting close to my second marriage and finding all sorts of problems with this person after almost 3 years of relationship. I need signs, now please.
Is it possible that God might be revealing something if you feel you are falling in love with someone who shares those feelings but he is the type of man you said you would never date? We are both Christians, and I have been wondering how strange it is that we both feel,that God is drawing us together, but he was a “ player” before he dedicated his life to Jesus. I never trusted that type. Would God do that?
Asa guy who can always see it coming...God hid my future wife in plain sight! He also hid me from her. The beauty of it was, we got to know each other without putting on a face nor tripping over emotions.
i think more context is needed: -are the two of you leading each other to sin? if so, do you and would you guys work on stopping that? -are you both equally yolked? -is this “anxiety” rational and fueled by scripture, and contextual interpretations of it, or is it more of just a feeling? -do you both lead each other closer to God?
@@lau279 yes to all of those questions. And my anxiety is more of just a feeling most of the time I feel at peace and I’m happy, but then out of nowhere. Sometimes I get this weird anxiety and anxiousness
@@karenac670hmmmm I hate to be a Debbie downer but I feel like random anxiousness isn’t a great sign, because you’ll never be able to fully love him if you have doubts, and in turn, it will be hard for you to fully submit to him if you don’t trust the relationship was put together by god. I also was talking to somebody for years and it was really a roller coaster, and I felt bipolar about it. He believed in God and had knowledge about the Bible, but wasn’t interested in learning more or praying (I asked him.) while I told myself he’s a believer and he’s sober and wants to be a father and overall a great guy, the fact that he doesn’t want to work on a relationship with God kind of makes me feel anxious, because I don’t think I’d feel comfortable submitting to him if I know he is that way. Of course I also made many mistakes. I asked God to change my character so I can become a good wife one day and be capable of loving my husband. It’s a very tough thing I know, but I think all you should do right now is pray, get into the word, and also ask your boyfriend to pray and get into the word as well. If he has trouble with that, well then that may be a problem
Well actually it just happen. Better and easy if not controlled or manipulated so you don't really have to do something since you trust God and sacrificed things in the first place. If there is no Christian rules we have many wives and husband's and all firstborn sons. Why worry about it. Hallelujah.
Gid never chooses our spouses for us otherwise we would blame him when things don't work out. God makes it possible to meet good matches for you, its not always that you only have one perfect match, the choice he leaves up to you. Its like bringing a donkey to the waters but tou can't force the donkey to drink the water
Eve was made for Adam by the Heavenly Father. I think the Heavenly Father wants you to make a wise choice in regards to your spouse. He knows who is right for you, he wants you in freewill to make that decision.
@@simplyshannon19 True words. The Heavenly Father knows who he has created you for, the perfect match. The Messiah rightly taught that "A man will leave his father and mother, to join with his wife, so they become one flesh, who the Heavenly Father puts together let no man separate. ' This is written in the book of Genesis. I really do think there is perfect match made by the Creator for each man and woman, to make a husband and wife.
Hi Mark, Q. My Friend is a Christian living in Peru. I live in The Netherlands. Divorced since 2007 and he has never heen married ..But he has 4 children with 2 different wonen. Q: Is it true that we van only marry, after my ex-husband died?? Thank you for your early reply.
Just a side note... For some, God is still working on your CHARACTER and being more like Him before He gives you someone. Also, making sure you are not idolizing the process, the relationship, the spouse etc. God wants is to have a relationship with Him and to seek Him first. We get the desires of our hearts when we delight ourselves in God; our desires become His desires.
And one may have all of that but still struggle in singleness, it's why most ppl don't bother trying anymore it too much of headache lmao
@@DemonDavisK 😂🤣😂
I was just telling a few of my female friends this and I told them I was talking about myself to.
Very true and well said. sometimes our character is the hinderance
@@chemybamford9919 😊
I met a man at my job who once told me to never get married. He had heard many horrific stories about coworkers marriages and decided that he never wanted to get married. He told many people that he would never get married. I married that man. Never say never.
I always say never and dwell there too much and learned from the video to stop dwelling there and the negativity.
“I will probably never get married because I can’t find someone, I will never be rich and a millionaire so I hope I become rich enough to support a family and provide one day, I will never find a woman who would accept me for me and my heart and faith overlooking my lack of money, career success, and status so i will probably die alone and forgotten despite my desire to find a wife, I am so age behind in life at age 27 when compared to everyone else my age I will probably never will catch up and fulfill my goals.” You get the gist with me. It’s hard not having a soul who cares about me even though I have God with the loneliness, lack of friends and close relationships, and isolation taking it’s toll on me.
Was a real challenge for you to step over that Never but wow …🙌🏻 😂😂😂hope it works
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I married my man when he was 42 he could have found a wife sooner but he stopped looking and it wasn't God's timing He stayed in his work and tried to live his life in a way that honored God and that is what I recognized. He was always quiet, smart, took responsibility for his own actions, never threw other people under the bus though he could have, he never took someone else's credit for their work though they try to take his. He is always kind, never yells at others when he is upset, he doesn't cuss. (which is rare to find in the trades) He doesn't chase money. He takes care of his family. Though he does work hard to provide what he can. My man is twice my age he doesn't make that much money he doesn't look like the kind of guy you will see on a magazine. On the outside he is just an average Joe but on the inside he is more attractive then anyone I've ever met.
It might take a long time it might not. If you devote your life to following the God of the Bible and honoring him the right kind of woman will likely come along and notice that. Life's not about money and a good woman will know that. I think you need better goals then money and you might have a better life and a better chance of finding a good partner. It may be much later then your timeline that you have planned but one day you may find someone. You never know. My husband definitely didn't think that he would ever find someone that would appreciate him and that he would marry, then in his early 40's I came along.
Wow 👏now this is amazing.
omg 🥰😅
1. God has a sense of humor that mortals just can't comprehend. "Never" is a challenge from an ant to a king.
2. Your future spouse isn't going to just show up in your bedroom. That's a home invasion.
3. Desperation has a smell and good/normal people subconsciously avoid it.
4. However many rocks you've unturned, there's always one you haven't considered.
5. Maybe you haven't found The One yet because you can't handle the truth about them yet.
for me the number 5 i guess for the reason🤷🏻♀️😢
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This is so true! I met what would end up being my future husband when I was 15. We were great friends in high school, but never anything more. Neither of us were Christians at the time. After high school we lost touch and went down very different paths in our 20’s. At 29 we reconnected and learned we had both become Christians and in fact even attended the same church without even realizing it, since we attended different service times. Very quickly God opened our eyes to see each other in a whole new way. It did feel a bit awkward at first given our history, but it was the best surprise and gift ever. 6 months later he proposed at our church where God brought us back together. We just celebrated 10 years of marriage❤ Gods plans are so much better than our own 🎉
Praise God! This is a beautiful testimony. Thank you for sharing Jasmine, God bless your union. 🙏🏾❤
I am in serious need for another Christian to come into my life and help me right away. Esp someone a christian who knows how to handle n do things. I'm in such need now n pain..surgery on my leg had bad results I gained weight fr not being able to move right another earlier surgery I got a disease from..one med for this was taken away, disease is attacking my body, no one is helping me contact w church n fam is infuriating my mom is left without her needs met. A so called Christian lady came here n left me in the lurch acting out being a complete jerk. My bro ea time he came here has been a jerk n hurt n damaged me. There's a group of p who have messed me up locally..many businesses have barred me frgoing there without a cause. Etc.
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GOD giving us the desires of our heart does not just mean what we want. GOD WILL PUT DESIRES IN OUR HEART THAT HE WANTS FOR US
Absolutely!!! People only like to read and understand "part" of that verse and not the entire verse!
Exactly!
Does that mean that if someone wants to get married it means that God wants them to get married too?
@@MetalheadChristian ABSOLUTELY YES and ABSOLUTELY NO IT DEPENDS. I had given up totally on getting married and was prepared to be ALONE for the rest of my life. The LORD TOLD ME several months ago your husband is on his way. I SAID HUH WAAAY a minute just leave me the way I am. THE LORD SAID NO IT IS GOING TO GET REALLY BAD ON THIS EARTH AND I DON'T WANT YOU TO BE ALONE. I was like but but but. TO make a long story short I have met my husband and we will be getting married soon. He said he had prayed and asked the LORD TO BRING HIS WIFE TO HIM. The day we met he said he knew when he first looked at me he KNEW I WAS HIS WIFE. BACK in 2001 I had a dream me and my husband was putting up groceries and that he was 5 feet 10. Guess how tall he is EXACTLY the height he was in the dream. SO YES IF GOD WANTS YOU TO BE MARRIED HE WILL BRING IT TO pass. I kept trying to get out if it and the LORD said I THOUGHT YOU UNDERSTOOD it's going to happen. I have obeyed the LORD many times and it has always worked together for my good. YOU know something else the LORD told me. HE SAID I WANT YOU TO BE WITH HIM BECAUSE I KNOW YOU will do your best to do right regarding him.
@@MetalheadChristian it might. Mark has referred to that in some of his other videos. To try to paraphrase: If someone has a strong desire to get married - especially if they have sexual desires - there's a good chance that God would want that person to marry - to a Godly person, of course.
“I will never date/marry a drug dealer or someone who has had a vasectomy”
Met a drug dealer (who was “fixed”) when I was an addict, fell in love, we both got sober, got saved, got married and then were pregnant in a little over a month 🥰
You only shared a small part but I can still tell its an amazing testimony! ❤ Congratulations you guys.
@@StephanieFayth thank you ♥️ God is so, so good!
Congratulations!! Blessings to your family!🙏🏾❤
I'll give it 5 years before the divorce begins.
@@monk4ever No one wants demons following them. Go away, devil.
Patiently waiting for God to reveal me to my person and vice versa.
God bless!
You'll be waiting forever
@@DemonDavisK oh ye of little faith.
I would also take comfort in the fact that no one is perfect.
Tbh, this channel seems to propagate the idea that you just have to wait. Your person is the person that you choose, it’s not written in the starts of destiny
That’s the beauty of it, God will work through that and give you peace.
Be patient. He will bring the right man for you, often when you least expect it.
I'm getting married this week at the age of 41. We were introduced through mutual friends who knew we both wanted to find a spouse. I didn't fall in love with him at first sight, but I figured that I'd give it a chance. Fifteen months later, here I am about to marry him.
Good for you for finding love 💕 it’s never too late . And congratulations!
that's great, wish you all the best.
Congratulations !❤❤❤
I stopped looking for a husband years ago and it’s the most liberating thing you can do!
The problem with saying "never" is like putting God ik a box and that just doesn't work because He can do ANY and ALL things.
I thought this one was so funny.....because I just started dating a guy after being intentionally single for 12 years.....and he was in the NEVER EVER category. I'm really glad I wasn't drinking anything at the time I was watching this, because it would have come out my nose. I don't know if he will be "the one"....but it's still true even for dating life. ❤
@@amandaw2994 😂😂
I was using dating apps for about a year. But then I heard Holy Spirit tell me to delete them. It’s been about a year since. But in the past week, I’ve been tempted to download them again. It’s rough. But staying in prayer and fasting regularly to overcome this temptation. 🙏🏽
What dating apps master chef. Do a back ground check on k y nastrr chef got gur k frind soo can't yse th e m
Deleted. Soo ther not goid appes
Same here
Obedience is better than sacrifice..obey GOD you will not regret it..
Pray that the Holy Spirit reveals your path to you. It may be that dating apps were not right for you ... at that time. I knew that "the app" was right for me because my mother, who is more righteous than I, had to push me into it.
There is NO DOUBT that God brought my soon-to-be fiancée to me.
Online dating is a straight no. I tried it several times on Christian dating sites and they are all scams. Many men on these sites are wolves in sheep's clothing. This was definitely an experience even using discernment. So, I am now content in my singleness, embedding my spirit, mind and heart fully to God. This being said, I now feel like a Ruth in a Boaz situation right now. I will see how it will unravel.
See the responses to Dawn's comment.
That's because the only men that women find attractive on dating sites are the wolves. 80% of women only find 14% of men attractive. So many women are all aiming to hook up with the same men who have LOTS of options and have no reason to commit.
I said that too and that's how I ended up meeting the love of my life on the Upward christian dating app 😂
@@Christfollwer94 Awesome!!
Thank you for sharing this; I'm a widow after 30 years with my husband and I know that hungry people make poor shoppers.
I tried so hard to be in a relationship with men who weren’t meant for me. I stopped trying to make it happen and started waiting on the lords timing I even prayed while I was with someone to bring me the man I was supposed to be with and a week later me and that guy broke things off and a few months later I met my husband who was everything I prayed for even though it’s not everything I thought it was going to be it’s everything I needed him to be and that is what I find so beautiful about trusting God
He who FINDS a wife FINDSa good thing. A woman can be found if she is keeping her hands to the plow - she needs to continue on the path that Gos wants her on - doing God’s will
I’ll never try online dating. Too many horror stories. No thanks.
Was thinking the same thing. Also I am not interested in a man who is sitting on such websites
How many horror stories have you heard from normal dating though? You would need to avoid all dating to avoid the possibility of pain. Bad things happen everywhere, not just with online dating. Many people have used it to find their godly spouse. It's certainly has it's issues, and you are not wrong to avoid it if that's what you desire, but logically you are not safer by avoiding online dating. You could have a horror story in any form of dating as people are people. There are good men online and bad men, just like all of life. Just my thoughts :)
I’m in the same boat, but mostly because I don’t have a significant online presence for my IRL self, and I’m terrible at socializing solely through texting.
It’s not my ideal way to meet people or find someone I’m compatible with.
Romance scams are so scary. I don’t want to meet some country princes. 😅
I met the man God had for me on a dating site after experiencing men God didn't have for me . Short version we both were getting ready to get off site due to the deception and lies , that often go on these sites . Be careful saying the word never .
I think one of the problems with Godly women is sometimes we imprison ourselves with scriptures and become very religious, rather than having the scriptures liberate us so we can live in the Spirit and Truth.
In the end despite your wants and needs the Heavenly Father knows who is right for you, and will bring you to your spouse in His Perfect Timing, sometimes when you least expect it. I also believe that The Heavenly Father does give you some hints and clues who your ordained spouse is, but sometimes we can not see or misinterpret signs.
This is so so true!!! I always said that I would never be with someone in the same workplace as me, and yet here I am with my future husband who I met at my workplace 😬😬 never say never. But thank you God.
Seeing testimonies like this give me hope.
I dwelled too much for son long jn the “marriage can never happen for me God despite my desire because I am so far behind in life compared to everyone my age at 27 that there’s no way I can find someone, be accepted and loved, welcomed even though I don’t have the money, house, job, and career successes and abundances women expect me to have instead of the lack I am suffering from, and hope to fulfill the obligation I have as the husband to provide for the family. It’s just impossible for me.”
I met my current bf at work, but swore I would never date someone at work. I met him at a time when I wasn’t looking and he’s someone I never expected. Not sure if he’ll be my husband but I just enjoy these videos. Since he walked into my life I’ve gotten so much closer to God.🦋💙
Many true points.. God opened my eyes and heart to see the man who had been by my side, through thick and thin, praying for me. After I had run a long marathon trying other paths, pursuing my 'dream men' and ending up hurt, he was still there. I don't deserve such steadfast love. We've been married 10 years soon and have three little children. It has not been easy, but here we are.
This is so fitting for me right now. I am recently talking to this man who so far his fruits match his actions. To be honest I havent dated anyone in 6 years. I told myself no more online dating yet alone dating outside my comfort zone. I then met this guy who isnt the typical guy I go for. So far it has been an interesing journey because he is what I needed but not what I wanted. I am learning to be a godly woman and be the female and feminine woman God created me to be. He makes me feel something I have never felt before and I love it but it is a little scary sometimes. I am very grateful for him. We are still taking things very slow.
Hey love, this is what's happening to me right now. But it has only been a week. How's it going for you?
The Word also says that "he who finds a wife, finds a good thing and obtains favor from the Lord".
I’m literally here just reading everyone stories ❤
same❤
It's so hard for a women to find a God fearing man. But I trust God for that husband and try harder to find him.
My bf matches every single one.
1) I had said never to online dating AND even making friends online. I met my bf online and we became chat buddies. We opened up and became genuine friends. And, more than a year later, we started flirting.
2) I stopped waiting to be found. I became more active and started pursuiting a suitor. I was also the one to start flirting with my bf.
3) I had also stopped feeling so hopeless. I had removed toxic people from my life and didn't need my partner to "save me" anymore. By removing the toxicity, I was happy even while single.
4) He was my friend/chat buddy for a long time when I finally saw him as a potential partner.
5) Well, maybe this doesn't match very much. The only thing he doesn't match is that he is dark instead of blond (which is not serios anyway). It doesn't matter, I love him 😊
I said I’d never marry a man who was more family oriented and who didn’t want kids like me. Lo and behold, God kept tugging at my heart and has softened me to motherhood. I’m not a mom yet and I still don’t get why He gave me the husband he did, but I couldn’t be happier!
I always told myself I would never date a very attractive man because they’re trouble lol funny enough am dating one right now. Am talking 6 2” six pack very handsome.
Thank you for this video, Mark! Recently God has been laying Matthew 6:33 on my heart when it comes to dating and kingdom marriage. Our focus should be on God, accept His pruning and preparation period (discernment is key!) and He will give us the desires of our heart at His divine timing! 🙌🏾👏🏾🙏🏾
Trust God & his plan for you❤
I've been singgle for 20 years. I just never found that/those sparks.
I found that God has done this to me! All the things that I didn’t want to do.. God placed me in a position to just do that! When I did start to realise this.. I have learned to slow down and ask His direction for me!
Until people learn to be happy alone they're never going to be happy with somebody else. I'm 50 years old years old and I'm still learning to be happy with myself there's still a long time to go before I'm happy with another person
Because I'm unable to work and I don't have a license and unable to get out much - I often said I don't know how I'm going to meet my soulmate or future husband. I used to jokingly say almost got to bring some to my house and he walks down the driveway to my front door I don't see how we're going to meet. Cut two years after fighting each other online talking with and losing touch here and there when the timing was right- we finally met, it was at my house he pulled in my driveway. ❤
God is shouting at me through this video 😂😂
😭😭😭 I am keeping quiet🤣
Desperate and dateless apps are not the way to find a spouse in my opinion. Just because they declare themselves a Christian doesn't mean they actually are. Look for their fruits. Isn't it amazing this man is speaking about what women should and shouldn't be doing but nothing about what men should be doing! Look for someone who is kind, speaks kindly of family and friends. Has a gentle spirit. Nothing wrong with being single. Enjoy your own strength given to you by God. Jesus is the only one who completes you.
Been married over 46 years to the same man. I mate him when i was 13 yrs old for about 10 minutes.
I would dream of him. Saw him again when i was 15 years old. Dated Break up over & over..
I'm in the no. 4 category :) (male here)...the woman I like doesn't even know I exist (she's seen me, but barely acknowledges etc...)...I see her at church, but it just feels like it's not the right time to move yet (multiple reasons)...I'm hoping and praying the time will be right soon, when God's ready
Can I speak to this please? Is it "not the right time to move yet"? or is it fear? Have you said hello or introduced yourself to her yet? The problem I have with shyness or being afraid to take a risk of rejection is this, if a guy can't approach me then he's probably too afraid to do A HOST of other things that I'm going to need him to do as the leader of our future home. A lot of times we say we're waiting on God when really, he's waiting on us. I know I don't know you or your personal situation, so please don't be offended at my comment. The sooner you talk to her and feel out the vibe, the sooner you'll know if you're allowing her to take up head and heart space that she doesn't need to and you can move on to the next available girl that would love to talk to you. When you approach your crush a simple hi how are you is a great start. You don't have to go straight into asking her out, just ask her about the service or what she thought about the sermon, etc. Keep the conversation light and simple. I'm rooting for you!!
I am a female and I want to tell you, take her advice! She is right! @@kimberlys347
Come through Lord, Come on through !! 😂😂And send instructions with it! 😂
100% all of these things were true for when I met my husband
I’ve said I would NEVER do fwb or one night stands, and still haven’t done it. Not my cup of tea and don’t want germs/diseases even tho I’m tempted.
Bravo. Can I hear a big round of aplause? I am still standing...🙏😎✝
Another great one and to be applicable for men……for example I didn’t want to stop online dating and never wanted or want to meet someone in person but I’m willing to make a risk
The first one had me shocked because at first I wasn’t even the type of person who would wanted to find love through TikTok but I met him and we connected
This was another good one. Thank you my Friend ❤
I think I've just met him! Thanks for sharing this! God bless you
sometimes ppl dont reply fast or leave u on hold bcuz they r in things they can't cope with n r already embroiled n can't start w u cuz u wd see them in such a down situation
As an older gal this was a good one
I have made up my mind, I am going to cross train to eventually move departments to pursue my boss's boss. I'm 24 and autistic (so I can't take a hint to save my life), she's 30. The way I see it, if I can move and ask her out, then at that stage I win. If she says yes, great. If not, then I have no regrets because I gave it my all.
Seriously? Your boss's boss? Are you ready to provide for your boss's boss? Lol. Well, your call
@@eisenhower9069 Well isn't my determination to make the effort, as well as the fact that (if successful) I have a diversified skills set that can move me across departments a good start? And the fact is I'm somewhat significantly younger than her makes me have a lot of learning and catching up to do to reach her level.
Please keep us updated on how this turns out.
@@Pabinta I will, thank you.
@@Pabinta Well, suddenly there's an open spot in the department I want to move to, I'll see if I can put my name in for consideration.
It's funny how I would say I would date a guy with dreads. I absolutely despised it. Now I'm attracted to a guy with dreads. Thr humor of god
Greetings 🤗
Mark Ballenger,
I Agree 💯% Of Your 5 Points. ❤
AMEN! 🙌
I waited to long I went through menopause!
It is written: 38 For as in the days that were before the flood they were eating and drinking, marrying and giving in marriage, until the day that Noe entered into the ark, Matthew 24-38
27 They did eat, they drank, they married wives, they were given in marriage, until the day that Noe entered into the ark, and the flood came, and destroyed them all. Luke 17-27
So glad God found this channel for me.
Love the talks supported by biblical truths. Thankyou !
I will never marry a divorcee😢 ..
God ,i am ok single, i don't want any relationship with a man..( am done) that what i used to say.
Out of no where, 7 month now , dating a divorce man,i dont even know how it happened, I'm in love and about to do church wedding.🤔. He gave me him even without asking. Mysterious God
The story in acts wasn’t actually about eating
unclean foods.
God's voice tells Peter to eat the food, including non-kosher food, which Peter realizes means that Gentiles are no longer unclean. Peter then goes to Cornelius, a centurion, and tells his household about salvation through Jesus. Before Peter can baptize or lay his hands on them, the Holy Spirit falls on them.
Oh my God i said the same thing. I will never do online dating!!
What a break through teaching!!!
I’m in love with a godly man. We are really good friends. He does not know my feelings for him. He is over a decade younger than I am. Sometimes, it feels like the feeling is mutual, other days it is just plain friendship. On christmas day, he sent me a christmas message, telling me he was looking forward to many more years of friendship with me. I felt I got "friend-zoned." I am praying to God every day to help me get out of this mess I put myself in. I don’t want to lose our friendship, but it feels as though it’s going to happen soon, as I decided to take a few steps back from him, otherwise, it’s going to get messier. I rely on God’s power daily to save me from this mess I made. It’s just so hard. It’s my first time falling in love with a godly man, but it seems like it isn’t part of God’s plan for me.😢
Wow. Confirmation on so much. Thank you as always
Your videos are insightful and provide a beacon of hope. ❤
I met my current boyfriend through discord. I never thought I would fall in love with someone through discord. We’ve been together for a little over 5 months now. This was definitely a God thing ❤
Wow. This is Confirmation….
Never Say Never.
I learned that as a young girl.
It’s like a Jinx.
My older half sisters would say they would Never date this type of guy and they ended up w that guy…….
Someone may Not fit in to your Normal.
But, there are Always Exceptions…… I learned to find it’s Not Rigid.
There are Absolutely Exceptions to the List.
Point 1 is so true ! I always thought this
Excellent encouragement!
Infact God gave you wisdom indeed ❤
I used to think God will send my my SP straight from heaven 😅 ❤️
Hope angel. Not hummmane
Thank you Sir 😊
Please get familiar with the book of Ruth to glean good signs of specific behaviors and attitudes necessary to meet your Boaz!
Said i would never date a student, a certain tribe from my country and someone not in same state. well your guess is right😅, he was a student, from that very tribe and in a different state. I didn't realize it until much later, thinking about it now makes me laugh
Well, I'm in a season of waiting. No men for me yet. But my expectation is a man of God, fully devoted. And I'm coming off a relationship with a man thst did not worked for 12 years of 14. I am not getting together eith a man thst does not have a stable job. That's .y two main things. Drunking, drugs are off the table too. And Im waiting for my son to be 18 years old before anything or anybody comes along. The better plan from God would be to straighten my ex husband and make him new.
Can i pray to God to let my crush be "the ONE" ?
Though my crush doesnt know i exist
I asked God if I should forget about the person that I recently grew to like. And he revealed to me in the dream that this person will “never let me go.” So I say, ask God and wait for his answer, whether it’s through a dream-if you ask for it, or in real life somehow.
I would avoid them if they act like you don’t exist . A man who wants you will make his presence known .
I have a crush on my crush It's a guy at my church
Believe in Jesus Christ and love one another
This is so true . 👌
Sometimes God just wants you single. If you feel you're not meeting someone and everyone around you has...ask God if your walk with Him is one as a single.
Your right or it isnt there time or season for marriage.
Loose here on earth, and it will be loosed in heaven 5:14
I used to like him. Now I don't like him and across time I feel like I cant stand him and do not want him around me. He did communicate his intentions and after thinking about it, it was a hell no. He is God fearing. I feel like doesn't get me, it is hard to have a normal conversation with him because its like he is not aware of what's happening. I just get tired after every interaction rather than desiring to a have another. Is this normal? Am I being too difficult or canal?
RUN!!
What happened that you began to not like him anymore? What triggered that change?
@@MAR24300 nothing much.
We have never been intimate. I don't believe in intimacy before marriage. The closest we got was a handshake. We always argued and never seemed to agree on anything. He'd always forget about what we talked about as a result the conversations were tiring for me. Sadly,our relationship was always like a prayer meeting.
Our world views were totally different. I guess I was just lonely for being single for more than 5 years and I was just drawn by the looks and the tongues when he prayed.
@@bilhaadhiambo6448 I'm sorry but from what it sounds like, doesn't seem like issue is him only...
@@bilhaadhiambo6448 I didn't even mention anything about intimacy so I'm not sure why you brought that up. Something doesn't seem right. My question was, what triggered you not liking him anymore? It doesn't seem like he has done anything wrong. Maybe you need to search your own heart
😂😂 i am laughing at myself, all your points i can really resonates. Soo soo true 😊
Thank you for sharing
What's are the qualities of a good husband based on the Bible?
I am getting close to my second marriage and finding all sorts of problems with this person after almost 3 years of relationship. I need signs, now please.
You already have your signs. . . You just stated you are finding all sorts of problems with this person.
I got the chills during this whole video. Kinda helps that this guy is cute, lol.
Is it possible that God might be revealing something if you feel you are falling in love with someone who shares those feelings but he is the type of man you said you would never date? We are both Christians, and I have been wondering how strange it is that we both feel,that God is drawing us together, but he was a “ player” before he dedicated his life to Jesus. I never trusted that type. Would God do that?
Asa guy who can always see it coming...God hid my future wife in plain sight! He also hid me from her. The beauty of it was, we got to know each other without putting on a face nor tripping over emotions.
Master i will be waiting for you still
Jesus loves you
God bless!
1980. Very gpldy men amd women
Hey you must be for me ! lol I have a #carthartt flannel shirt too ...I cant stop laughing😂🤣😂🤣
Sometimes I get anxiety that god is telling me not to marry my bf (we have been dating for 3 years) does this mean I shouldn’t marry my bf?
What’s God telling the bf?
@@brendah4773 that were meant to be and to marry me I just wanna make sure god wants me to marry him I stress about it a lot
i think more context is needed:
-are the two of you leading each other to sin? if so, do you and would you guys work on stopping that?
-are you both equally yolked?
-is this “anxiety” rational and fueled by scripture, and contextual interpretations of it, or is it more of just a feeling?
-do you both lead each other closer to God?
@@lau279 yes to all of those questions. And my anxiety is more of just a feeling most of the time I feel at peace and I’m happy, but then out of nowhere. Sometimes I get this weird anxiety and anxiousness
@@karenac670hmmmm I hate to be a Debbie downer but I feel like random anxiousness isn’t a great sign, because you’ll never be able to fully love him if you have doubts, and in turn, it will be hard for you to fully submit to him if you don’t trust the relationship was put together by god. I also was talking to somebody for years and it was really a roller coaster, and I felt bipolar about it. He believed in God and had knowledge about the Bible, but wasn’t interested in learning more or praying (I asked him.) while I told myself he’s a believer and he’s sober and wants to be a father and overall a great guy, the fact that he doesn’t want to work on a relationship with God kind of makes me feel anxious, because I don’t think I’d feel comfortable submitting to him if I know he is that way. Of course I also made many mistakes. I asked God to change my character so I can become a good wife one day and be capable of loving my husband. It’s a very tough thing I know, but I think all you should do right now is pray, get into the word, and also ask your boyfriend to pray and get into the word as well. If he has trouble with that, well then that may be a problem
Thank you!
All of this is true
I never use the word never lol (pun intended)
Would God choose a women a younger man for her?
Maser chef girfrind almost in heave. She soo god heave gid jesus wedibg
Well actually it just happen. Better and easy if not controlled or manipulated so you don't really have to do something since you trust God and sacrificed things in the first place. If there is no Christian rules we have many wives and husband's and all firstborn sons. Why worry about it. Hallelujah.
Amen! Thank you!
Or that you have done before, unsuccessfully because then is when it was not with the one he had for me. Thanks for this additional confirmation.
Gid never chooses our spouses for us otherwise we would blame him when things don't work out.
God makes it possible to meet good matches for you, its not always that you only have one perfect match, the choice he leaves up to you.
Its like bringing a donkey to the waters but tou can't force the donkey to drink the water
Eve was made for Adam by the Heavenly Father. I think the Heavenly Father wants you to make a wise choice in regards to your spouse. He knows who is right for you, he wants you in freewill to make that decision.
@@mariepearl-harbour2335amen!!!
If God chose our spouses, it would work out. God never fails.
@@simplyshannon19 True words. The Heavenly Father knows who he has created you for, the perfect match. The Messiah rightly taught that "A man will leave his father and mother, to join with his wife, so they become one flesh, who the Heavenly Father puts together let no man separate. ' This is written in the book of Genesis. I really do think there is perfect match made by the Creator for each man and woman, to make a husband and wife.
Wow 🎉🎉❤Powerful
4:33 amen❤
Does God hide us under the mans eyes as well? 🤔🤔
Amen!🙏🏾
Hi Mark, Q. My Friend is a Christian living in Peru. I live in The Netherlands. Divorced since 2007 and he has never heen married ..But he has 4 children with 2 different wonen. Q: Is it true that we van only marry, after my ex-husband died?? Thank you for your early reply.