Neither He, Nor She, But Me | Hannah Fons | TEDxAdelphiUniversity
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- Опубликовано: 26 мар 2018
- Hannah Fons focuses on gender identity as fluid, not fixed, and existing on a spectrum. Just as there are a multitude of ways to express one’s identity as a cisgender (i.e, not transgender) man or woman, there is not one way to be trans, to navigate a trans identity, or to conceive of trans people. Hannah Fons '19 was born in the cornfields of rural Iowa, and moved to New York City in 2000 to seek her fortune. She presently serves as Senior Editor at a small trade publishing company and is also a professional strength and conditioning coach at Five Points Academy in New York City. Hannah is a graduate student in the MSW program at Adelphi University's Manhattan Center, focusing on the care and concerns of LGBTQ youth in general, and transgender/gender-divergent youth in particular. Along with direct practice, she is also deeply interested in the psychospiritual history of Queer people, and exploring how mythology, folklore, and legend may be mobilized to empower Queer communities. In addition to her current work, she holds an MA in Sexuality and Gender Studies from the CUNY Graduate Center in NYC, and undergraduate degrees from the University of Iowa in Iowa City. Over the years, Hannah has also practiced multiple martial arts -- including muay thai, Brazilian jiujitsu, and capoeira -- and studied fashion at the Fashion Institute of Technology. This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at www.ted.com/tedx
There was a time when I questioned and judged, then I started to hear what I said and what I thought and realized what I had become, a bigot. Now I see this and I think, this is a human, and nothing they are doing or advocating harms me, they just want to live free, hey, just like me. Well said Hannah!
That's a big realization to have! Good on you
I got to 1:44 and started crying... this was my experience as a child. I remember being a child and having a toy tool box and going outside to where the men were working to pretend I was a worker like one of them. But I also loved playing dress up in my moms heels and when I was a little older I got into makeup (I love makeup now) tears are running down my cheeks as a type this... it's so validating hearing someone else talking about similar experiences.
When you’re a child there really aren’t many constraints. You can do whatever suits your fancy.
I live in a society where people still can't accept you if you are different from others. Watching Hannah reminds me that just because my community is behind the times does not mean others do not get it and for that I am grateful. Thank you Hannah for paving the way.
So true
Has anyone stopped to think that maybe kids these days just have access to better language, reference and exposure that means they are better able to express those inner feelings? Hannah has articulated so much of this beautifully. I love it.
NOPE - Pronoun means nothing because DNA 🧬 fingerprinting will be in everybody’s photo ID🥜
This is such an important talk, because very quickly Hannah puts you at ease, with clear understandable descriptions of topics most people just gossip about and never bother to learn about.
This makes me cry. It makes me cry HARD. Not for Hannah- not for other trans or non-binary folks. But for those sorts who are so closed-minded and so small & cruel that they'll never understand Hannah- nor get to know anyone similar. ❤️🧡💛💚💙💜
Me too, I agree 100% time for more understanding.
I agree, tears are good though as it shows we care.
💙😢😢thank you
A Gen Z tard crying over made up problems and imaginary gender spectrum. Imagine my lack of shock 😂
This is madness ..... Ruining your personality just to become like a man or woman.
She was a girl but hated her gender and wanted to become like a man.... Girls have a beautiful personality, now look at her... She has become disgusted.
You nailed it H. So bummed I was out of town and missed this. For the lady in the comments that wants to meet her: You're not wrong. Hannah is one of my favorite humans on this planet. Intelligent, self aware, empathetic and ridiculously funny.
This is an incredible lecture. What we all need is room, respect and reciprocity.
Hannah is so amazing! A beautiful soul with a message that people need to hear. I wish that the world would understand what Hannah is saying. I love when Hannah said "Neither a he or a she, but just me" I do not understand why people have a need to identify others and feel threatened because someone is different. Everyone has the right to feel safe in this world.
I agree wonderful ted!
Proud to say, we've met and the Fons is hella cool.
They are so incredibly lucky to have a loving, supportive family. I would love to hear from their mother to explain her compassionate and understanding parenting. It makes all the difference. Hannah grew up feeling strong and supported. I especially loved how the mother said after the surgery, "You look more like yourself now." If more trans parents treated their children with dignity and understanding, maybe fewer trans people would attempt suicide. Hannah and their mother are wonderful examples for us all on how to treat people and live with understanding.
I was thinking the same thing.
I am grateful to you Hannah for having the voice and presence to speak up and educate, thank you.
So refreshing to hear a story like this where family and the like were supportive and understanding, definitely brought some tears to my eyes.
I know right! There are many parents who could use this lesson and understanding
Sounds like Hannah really hit the jackpot with their support network. I've known far too many people in my time who could never and would never be able to speak this freely.
I have used this talk to help show some friends the very perspective I have, thank you Hannah
So interesting to hear Hannah's story. I loved hearing how they found themselves, felt more comfortable within themselves, despite peoples initial reactions. A really beautiful (and tough) journey but I can only imagine how it'll help other youths struggling with identity.
I love her! She's so beautiful!
Yaaaaaahhhhhhh!!!! I've been WAITING for this to be released, SUPER!!!! This is so amazing, wonderful and I love this, yes yes yes!! Thank you!! The world needs an hour++ long version of this fantastic-ness!! They should play this TedTalk at those lamaze classes for new parents, so their kids can grow up with compassion & freedom to be whoever they are. Change the binary dialogue, that is where it starts. Thank you!
The run through of terminology in the beginning is the perfect start point, and defining them and three separate qualities is the perfect opening to this discussion. It really lays some solid ground work and more people need to know these terms.
Agreed, perfect way to help people understand.
I love how Hannah explains the differences in Gender, S3xuality and the like. I really was unsure of how to differentiate between them and now I do!
Really great to have a talk that is open, honest and real- not all drama and flair (though I do love me some drama and flair). Powerfully genuine, thanks Hannah.
I thought the way Hannah presented had the perfect amount of all those things. One of the best speakers I've seen in a long time
This is the first time I'm understanding all these words. Thank you for making it very easy to understand.
This is probably one of the best talks on transgenderism I’ve ever heard. Some who feels more masculine than a typical woman, but also doesn’t try to impose herself onto what it means to be a man either.
Acceptance ought to be a two way street.
the crowd missed a great opportunity to give an applause at 16:00
"Just because your culture doesn't acknowledge or value what you are; doesn't make what you are the problem!"
Currently we spoke , chat and discuss important issues of life I can proudly tell you that Hanaah is such a wonderful, gifted, unique individual . I keep loving hana each and every moment we chat. She is so amazing and special . She is among the few people created by God to impact the human race positively. God bless you Hanaah
“She”
WOW. That was excellent. Thank you for getting this message out there, Hannah! Eloquent, intelligent, and informative-this is exactly what our world needs. More of this, please!
it has opened my eyes, and shut my mouth til I know!
all of this needed to be said. and this was perfect. the "static" part totally resonated. i hope im a mom like that too. this is why i want to adopt everyone lol
I know what you mean, I am the same way.
Hannah is exquisite! It's hard enough being human let alone struggling with one's identity. Hannah could really help some grade school children I dare say.
Honestly I can't wait to show this to my kids, I think they'll get a lot out of it.
This was an incredible talk. Thank you so much for sharing your story with us! 💗💗💗💗💗💗💗💗💗💗
Can I just say, I had been admiring your eyebrows from the start and was so happy when you mentioned them!! Goals!
Great stuff here. Brilliant to hear the differences in such an articulate and experience filled way. Much appreciated.
I loved hearing about when you arrived in NY and really coming into yourself. This life sounds like it would make an incredible movie script. There are many young people who need to hear this story.
I often think of NY as a city to lose and then find yourself
@@macyduens exactly!
I have heard many stories of NY but I think Hannah's feeling of the place is how I imagine it to be
Thank you. I hope to be a better human and a better friend to everyone. 🙏
Watching Hannah was so inspiring. It was such a great speech that everyone should listen to. ❤️❤️❤️🦋
how beautifully and authentically presented. I am cisgender person trying to find an understanding around the needs of those around me. This was really really helpful. thank you.
I wish I’d seen this closer to the presentation date to be able to comment then. But I still want to say how wonderful this talk was to hear. I’ve revisited it a few times now. A beautiful and meaningful message presented with such a kind and smart voice. I hope Hannah Fons plans to present and give talks in the future. A really captivating presenter.
Thank you for sharing this and YOU!
Hannahhh, I appreciate you so much for sharing your experience and perspective. It's been so helpful to use with my clients.
Wow....clear and concise...thank you.
Thank you Hannah, this is such a beautifully put together talk and one that could educate so many as we move forward.
Heck yes this was such an incredible topic for a ted talk and I think Hannah has done such an incredible job explaining just what it means. Incredible!!!!
Thank you that was an amazing talk. Intelligent and beautiful .
Oh my gosh, what a beautiful person, inside and out ❤
Thank you. Best I've heard on this topic. Thanks so much and best wishes.
Such an important talk! Thank you so much for sharing and being the amazing and inspiring YOU!
I respect people like Hannah. They have the courage to be what they like!
Beautiful person with an amazing message. You go Hannah!
Perfect talk Hannah! thank you for being so Brave!
This talk created a complete picture in my head of what a person may feel when they have doubts about their gender identity.
A great person and interesting to listen at.Thank you ❤❤❤❤❤
Hannah, your strength and resilience are mind blowing. Your strength of character and confidence are seriously inspiring. I want to hear more from you!
They're so incredibly beautiful, inside and out
Hannah is divine! What a beautiful soul and an incredible speaker. We have so much conditioning to shed and it's people like Hannah that are leading by example. I love it.
This was the best ted Ive ever seen without a doubt
Everyone has to live the life they like. Forget all the stereotypes.
This is so good, so much honesty.
This is the coolest human I've ever seen/heard..... this is how I feel about gender exactly 💯
I totally agree. As a middle school teacher, I feel humbled yet grateful for people like them who share their stories.
What a fascinating journey. I had to google search you! And I think your Mother is a writer? Makes sense because the way in which you articulate and carry yourself is mesmerizing. Thank you for speaking so openly, so very much appreciated
Hannah has incredible presence on that stage, such a joy to hear and watch
Incredible speaker and a topic that I believe the vast majority of the population needs a little perspective for and my goodness, Hannah is superb!
I am sharing it for sure
I am just finding out that I also have some masculine part in me that I always had. I would love to meet more people like this. Like Hanna who I find is an amazing being and I would love to talk to them and find out what makes them tick. Could I ever talk to her? Amazing!❤❤❤
Thank you so much for doing this talk. I've bookmarked it to use whenever someone asks me to explain my kid's gender. People are so used to thinking in the binary, that they just can't seem to wrap their heads around anything non-binary, let alone a non-binary gender.
What's your kid up to now four years later?
Excellent TED talk. I learned so much from this. Thank you so much for sharing your experience. Much Love. Lynne
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Excellent explanation of terms I didn't understand. Hannah is so beautiful and speaks so well. I recommend this TED Talk to everyone. Someday I want to meet her.(Oh dear is that the correct pronoun?) I love hearing about how her mother gave her the love and support she needed.
Totally the right pronoun! (In my case, there really isn't a 'wrong' one!) :)
This presentation is so informative, valuable, and illuminating. Thank you for sharing your truth and helping our whole species develop into something better.
I know you have no doubt suffered to find your path, but I love how unashamedly you you are and your stories of your youth. I wish I had the sense of self that you have. I have a long way to go.
An inspiration, we all need some Hannah in our lives.
you are absolutely beautiful ❤️ thankyou for this.
Beautiful beautiful soul, bless you Hannah.
Probably the best video on this topic I've seen, and I've seen hundreds. Congrats Hannah. Thank you. Straight male with female gender identity.
Splendid presentation. Thanks.
Great story of the inner personality coming to life.
we need more this kind of talk
thank you so much for this video
Amazing and eye opening
Hannah gives me hope I have the chance to find people who accept me enough that I no longer hide just to fit in comfortably.
Discomfort with yourself shouldn’t be a requirement for comfort among your friends and family.
2021 and people still have to explain themselves, good talk!
well, we have to in many regards dont we.
14:08- the price of truth is solitude… This is a true statement of choosing yourself over a relationship and is a very powerful statement. In the wrong hands, it could be so dangerous and isolating. I am so happy that we live in a world now where these discussions are happening and a community is building around acceptance of the individual rather than their conformity.
Gosh me too! It has taken us much too long
At 4:14 I appreciate what Hannah says. Also a lot of what Hannah mentions.
Hormones and surgeries those are not the things that define or legitimize a trans identity.
In the binary context of society, however, it is often handled in this way.
You can have an f or an m in your passport. As a legal document.
Often you are taken seriously when you take steps. Such as the alignment of the body.
🥰👏🤗❤️ tnx for sharing your experience with the world 🤗
If life was more difficult this wouldnt even be a discussion..
Variation is the biggest thing. I always wonder how much is based on conditioning. I feel Hannah on many levels. I am definitely a non-conformist. I feel better about that now having heard Hannah speak out. This is brilliant.
I struggle with this, not lieing, I do!
a real eye opener here
Great talk. Brought with humor, I loved it.
Wouldn't it make everything so much easier if things like different genders was tought at school in biologyclass?
That there are more genders then just male or female, but also both in the same body, or neither.
Put aside your judgement, and just hear Hannah out, and it you hade prejudice I bet it will change!
I wish so much that people could understand that societal conditioning has done a number on us in regards to prejudice and stereotypes. I genuinely believe we won't be free until we shed ourselves of such beliefs.
In this day and age it is just awful that people are still scared to say who and what they are. Well done TED!
You are happy to have a wonderful, understanding family. But I know stories where children were denied because they didn't feel that they have the right body or had other preferences.
thanks for sending me this link SP!
❤️
Excellent 👍
En que momento de toda mi vida toque para ver este video??????
Hannah, I would love to know what you feel about Gina Rippon's research! Your talk is beautiful and I think a lot of people need to see this to fully understand. Sharing right away!
I've heard of her
Also follow Hs' instagram.
Doing that now
Okay but does anyone know where to get that suit vest thing
Beautiful talk, as awkward as this sounds, this is bringing humanity to humans, because first and foremost thats what we all are first.
Why do we have to label everything? Can’t we just be what we are and get on with life? Seriously, as long as you aren’t causing others suffering, you do you! I often feel like this need to label feeds the ‘us and them’ mentality.
Pretty sure that's Hannah's whole point!
I wish I had this courage. I think I'll be "trapped in the halloween costume", dealing with bearable, for ever
Thanks for making everything clear. I was sure that $exual orientation and $exual identity are the same things.
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Hannah looks and sounds like Marilyn Manson and I think that's pretty cool 🥰
😲 wow
Trans ≠ across from.
Trans = to go across, extend across, through. (You know, like how you transition from one place to the next)
Hetero would probably be a better fit. It means another. There's other, better terms probably but that's the one i first thought
I believe once we have all accepted gender non-conformity, when we've finally released the shackles of stereotypes, only then will be free!
and I agree with that!
true true true
It seems these days there is no one way to be any way!
acceptance and no judgement is key in us moving forward.