This is my most favorite video on RUclips!! I love it so much.. As a slightly plump woman who has been rejected by a couple of men who chose the skinny shoe collecting self obsessed taker over me. This video made me cry at the thought that there are men out there that see beauty from within and want that.
Awe.. Don't cry.. You do not need men like those.. At least you found out early that those are the kind of men they are.. Remember when you feel bad that you have to tell yourself that "it is me that have to look into the mirror".. That was their lost not yours.. So smile Dear :}
LOL Thank you Con Nnie for your nice comment. I have been building my confidence for a while after all that past stuff. I will not let it happen to me again. I am who I am :)
These guys didn't reject "you" 'cause they didn't take the time to get to know you. If they had taken the time to get to know you, they would have realized that you're a great person. Their loss, someone else's gain. The same thing has happened to me a few times and when I looked back all I can say is "I dodged that one! Whew!"
Yes I see that now so agree with you Elizabeth's Calender. Through every bad experience I become better.Therefore my boundaries and what I accept for myself also changes for the better.
I agree. Character Vulnerability Loyalty Honesty My sweet man isn’t 6”4 with a washboard for his abs. Neither am I a movie star my any stretch ..... We get one another. He is the gentlest gentleman I’ve met . His goal is to make me happy whatever it takes. My role is to recognize that and reciprocate in my own way . Not the material things matter so much but his gentle heart .
Yes we'll said. I found a man as my life partner. I had acne, pigmentation that makes me look ugly and he was never judge my outer beauty. He loves me the way looks I am and you know what now he's love makes me get rid of all my skin problems and look more beautiful, he totally changed my life, he gives me an awesome life. Sorry for any mistakes in grammar, I don't have fluency in English. Thank you.
When you first meet someone your not going to see the true person that's not reality. They may be nervous or have 100 things on their mind. Give the person a chance and if after the 3rd date you still see they are not showing compassion then move on. We are all human and it takes time to get to know someone. Good luck every one.
Totally agreed! Just because a woman likes to look beautiful outside doesn't mean she's ugly from the inside. They judge you without trying to know you first. That's disrespect. I have tons of friends who are compassionate from the inside and beautiful from the outside. This is wrong thinking. Very wrong
YOU ARE SUCH A BEAUTIFUL AND HIGHLY SPIRITUAL MAN WHATEVER WOMAN GETS YOU WILL BE BLISSED. THANK YOU FOR YOUR BEAUTIFUL SOUL. HAVE A GREAT AND AWESOME DAY.
I'm so happy that there are still guys in this world that realize that looks are not everything and that a pretty girl can become ugly from her personality. Every girl has beauty but an amazing personality can make a not so pretty girl, beautiful. More guys in the world should realize that because eventually looks will fade and you will be stuck with their personality.
and what about girls, not that im talking about every girlon the planet, but like in mi school, im in 12th gradeand like theire are girls that are like beatifull 10, but when you get to now them theur personalities are not what i thought, and with that ive benn single all mi life, i havent had 1 girlfriend, and everyone that i know has,and also that in mi class the girls are more attractive too guys that are well, strong, popular, etc. and im well, dont have a lot of friends, im a gamer and i like anime, so not 1 girl in my class would be interested in me
Everyone is beautiful. Its what you make of yourself that makes someone beautiful. Take care of your well-being, display confidence and show love and compassion. That is what really defines beauty in this world. The only thing stopping someone from being beautiful is what they believe or perceive themselves as.
@@АлиАли-л8в2ь That's dependent solely on the individual. You can choose to be a follower or a leader. Many people stand out both bad and good for their individuality. In my opinion, as long as your individuality is deemed good, righteous, healthy, respectful etc. people tend to gravitate to it with positivity.
@Michelle Sithole No, speak for yourself. For me the only looks that matter to me is how you present yourself, and what makes you you(your personality etc). And by present I mean hygiene, hair, wear, and confidence. One thing I learned about being in the modelling industry, everybody is beautiful. You just have to genuinely care for yourself and wear the sleeve that proves it. That's why I don't model anymore.
I am a compassionate person, narcissist and users saw me a mile away. My ex pretended to be compassionate too just long enough to hook me. NOW my compassion will be reserved and given those who are not trying to manipulate the gift that God blessed me with. Be careful ladies use WISDOM over compassion or you may end up fighting to restore your life.
True compassion shouldn’t be reserved to specific people. God wants us to love all. Did God ever treat others differently? No. He showed compassion to all even those that tormented Him. Don’t let another person influence what your heart feels. That speaks of their character, not yours. Be careful yes, but always give love and compassion to all around you as that is what God wants from all of us. To love one another as you love yourself.
I liked the way you said it; so gentle and kind, not all men want like you ,some good hearted women are treated, used, abused and treat us like shut no respect
Thanks, I feel that I'm the woman you've described as having compassion, one who shines and one with soft heart. Keep on inspiring women with soft heart!
First I thought you were a little stiff and creepy, but then you opened this vault of emotion as you described your idea of beauty and I was blown away. Thank you for reminding me whats important.
Do not try to be someone else. God made us to be who we are. Don't try to impress others. If they don't like the way you looks, Too Bad!!! Be yourself, be compassionate & have a good heart, love life that’s how God created us. Do things that will make you comfortable & happy...Life is short, it's up to you & me to make it sweet. Life doesn't require that we be the best, only that we try our best👌👍Blessings to All🙏🤝✌☄☄☄☄
@@evanescencelight6767 the Bible says only fools say there’s no God, the main reason for this is because of how much of sin they indulge, so they alienate their mind from God. Anyhow I’d love to hear your thoughts on this argument FOR Gods existence or maybe you can even disprove it and tell me how science debunks God ruclips.net/video/XjHhtWL_3Og/видео.html
Ladies I completely agree with this guy, Im a happily married man of 10 years now. He is right that men see women differently than you do. When a man sees a woman and he is interested in her looks dont matter very much at all. When I met my wife it wasnt her looks that attracted me it was her personality. Even before that the most beautiful women I met had nothing to do with their looks. When men want sex we only look at looks, when we want more we dont care about looks.
Dont care about looks... Oh, please. Why you guys say such things only to please women, or impress them? Of course we care about looks, but not JUST looks!
Sorry - don't agree. He judges this good looking girl so harshly on what came out of her mouth. Perhaps she was just nervous - it doesn't mean she doesn't have compassion and isn't a nice person. I think he should lighten up!.
If he is man he can't be gentle and should not be.... He should be hard... Also if he is gentle he is not man.... Sorry to disappoint... He is she.... I mean she has to be gentle... Woman.....
I believe all teen girls are naturally like what you described but from experience they get taken advantage of and then that innocence leaves as they develop into a woman. So we have to act tough to protect and guard ourselves from predators.
I loved his presentation.. I thought he was spot on in many ways . But one thing that women or men has to be aware of is the love and compassion that your giving sometimes it's not being received" and you have to know when to just move on.. And hopefully be able to give in that way where it's being appreciated. Because people unfortunately do take advantage of kindness as a weakness.
Wow! I am amazed at your insight! OMG...you have the wisdom of a much older man. I imagine that every woman falls in love with a heart like yours. Thanks for showing us what a REAL MAN can be. nameste
Some men want someone deep but they're not going to get it on the first communication. Most of the time that someone asks how was your day the common answer will be "it was fine, thanks". No one will say "I fed 20 homeless people" or "I thought of my departed mother when I saw a lady wearing a coat at the grocery store and I cried". That's TMI. Most women will not open up like that on a first conversation and may not do it until they've gotten to know the man better. I think guys go for looks initially and will stick around a woman they think is hot until he finds out she is a biotch.
First ever thanks for sharing. Value a person for who they are and not what they have. People will hurt you but it's a part of the learning, testing and pruning process. A beautiful woman is not seen only with the naked eyes. Beauty fades, a tender heart can easily be seen by a praying man/woman connected to his father. A beautiful compassionate woman are reserve, you will not find them shopping. These woman keep themself busy caring for others and observing what next I can do to make this world a better place.
Wow, I am a 62 year old woman. This was amazing! It's what I needed to hear. While I look just fine I feel men have overlooked my stronger qualities such as depth and compassion.I wish I'd met more men like you! Thank YOU.
Wht ur saying is so true but its not the same for 90% of guys. What they need is outer beauty only, they have nothing to do with women’s heart or kindness or their behavior or innocence :)
I am the same. Tend to fall in love for broken men, that end up hurting me. We have a saying in my country that good people have no luck. I see it true over and over. I see these women grab some good guys then cheat on them and be such bitches. Sometimes I say I wish I could be more mean, bitchy but can't. I tend to be so honest. This guy speaks the truth for 50 years ago. People look at aging as ugly, meekness as weak. Whatever.
Same here, i always gave everything i have, i have no reservation, because i believe that is true love, giving and loving him...but i always end up hurting...
@@blackwidowotilia What hes trying to say is compassion comes before attraction, and love has no age limit. You can feel just as good about yourself at age 50 as you can at age 20, if your a compassionate person without a big ego.
Definitely goes both ways. Us females feel the same way about men. They could be so attractive, handsome, fit and as soon as you hear them start talking. Its all about him. Turn off!!! I enjoyed this video he has a very good point. Looks is not everything. Which shouldn't be confused with not taking care of yourself. We can't just say ok I'm going to eat whatever I want even tho its unhealthy and not exercise. Beauty comes from caring for yourself mind, body and spirit. I like this video.
So profound... :) Most people say self-confidence is what men really likes. Compassion? Wow, this is the first time I heard from a man. I love the heart connection part. What comes from the heart goes to the heart...love it! Thanks a lot!
Ive met men who asked me they dont know why their failling in love i told them before he chooses a woman he should see and choose her for Her honesty Loyalty Compassion Kindness Giving Calmness Positive Careing Loving Integrity Morals Values
This is literally the best video on youtube which describes real beauty... This is exactly the advice I was searching for! Thank you for being so honest... This brightened my day!
Compassion...a giver...a kind hearted...teaching what being humane is...contributer...getting connected...love...shine...energy...Don't get brain washed by the Society...👍
Love is light and when you are love and when you are compassion you are light and then you shine and when you shine people see you!! Thank you this is exactly what it is thank you!! so much!! you rock!!!!!!!!
Wow yes Wow I just tuned in to this amazing , beautiful , caring , loving , handsome man...inside and out! You made me cry. I am 64 years old, I am still looking for my amazing man. I have all those things I want to GIVE to just one man. Its hard, but I keep trying. I see and have been taking notes, studying you know with Adam Adole, and many others, but YOU have blown them all away, with just your few inspiring words. I will follow you, to the very edge.. and hopefully learn...thank you so, so , so , so much, God bless you. Sally
Thank you for this. You’re so right about compassion. We all need to show compassion, whether we are men or women. Maybe the reason it’s so attractive is that compassion is probably the same or similar as unconditional love...just a thought 🤔
Hi, thanks for the reminder! Sometimes I get the "pull away" issue when I like someone. Probably out of fear of rejection. But if I focus on compassion and being my genuine self it doesn't matter, regardless if it is returned or not. Inner beauty should be shared. Just like in this video :-)
Thank God. A guy speaking something sensible. . Apart from sex. . Don't know abt other guys . But your idea for a beautifull girl just blew me away. Good looking guy speaking beautifull words. . Wow.
I don't know dear dude if ure the only one on this planet...im this person you say lv light compassion. ..i had only narcissist experiences from all men i came across...i then realised we must be discerning and learnt to mind only whats my business.both men and woman cld be anything far from what they portray. ..so we keep our selves , our heart and nature to preserve ourselves..save the pain trauma cheat lie...and be real in this fancy cruel world. Truth prevails..lv heals...compassion helps. Self responsibility protects and provides. Ty for your speech. It was like a movie dialogue.
The physical apperance of a person is what we noticed first, we tend to be attracted to people who are good looking but actually being beautiful isn't the one that gets you a guy. Always remember that character is the most important thing that every woman should have because it's the only thing that won't fade in time.
Omg!!! That’s the first time I’ve heard that compassion is the most beautiful thing guys want in a woman. Amazing!! My male friend, not quite my boyfriend yet, knows how much I respect him and he knows how compassionate I really am. The feeling is mutual so I quess I’m doing everything right!!
That is awesome that you can see that in people. I don't think all guys are like you unfortunately however you yourself are an inspiration and if you spread this kind of deepti and insight to the world I hope other guys catch on. Xox
Buyer beware... If you buy this con job you will attract guys that have endless wants . Best you find someone that knows the value of a fair exchange in all aspects of life. Love, like, respect etc are earned by the people you choose to have in your live. Don't thow your pearls to the swine. Proceed with caution.
Is that why so many men fall in love with me in the first week. The downside is them being possessive, controlling and trying to dominate me. Then when I want out they keep calling me. Why I stayed covered up. I do set boundries. I just want to feel safe with a man again emotionally.
Thank you. This is so reassuring. I love it that you think and feel the way you do about what beauty and attractiveness really is. I hope women hear this and start cherishing this in them more, we all lack more compassion, warmth and deep connection in communication and less superficiality, fakeness, and selfishness. Thank you so much again, this is just lovely
Are you married now? Your video was in 2012 and it is now 2019! I know you must have met your Ruth! Because you are truly a Boaz.....compassionate, genuine, kind-hearted, respectful, honorable and humble! Should I say more? 🤗
Your voice is so profound!!! Love it! My man is younger by a lot . I am not rich. What he loves me about is about my heart; my passion for advice and nature and the way I take care of him even at a long distance . We have been in LDR for 9 months. He is a keeper for me and he is talking about me like you describe a woman.
Guys are easily attracted to beautiful women but being beautiful doesn't mean in physical appearance only. It's so important for women to possess a good character because it will make a man fall in love with you even more. Don't worry if you are not that good looking for as long as you have a compassionate heart to love someone and every guy would be chasing after you.
Hello Jad... You are just the sweetest person that I have met in a long time.... Your heart and your mind are simply beautiful....I have 5 sons my oldest is 33....I love each and everyone of my beautiful sons...they too have standards simular to yours. They love there mom with there whole heart and soul....I tried to educate my son's to treat all people equally with consideration patience understanding compassion friendly and approachable....I didn't want my son's to fear women instead they make pretty good buddies.....if I don't say so myself.... I am so pleased to have stumbled on to your site.....yes yes yes the whole world needs a little love, a little understanding, a little patience, having an open mind, and quite simply .... We all need to treat others they same way that we would like to be treated and understood. Good work....keep it coming..... Namaste Mary
You seem like a really nice guy. HOWEVER: I think that is a pretty quick judgement of "Yaletown Girl". For all you know that woman is totally heart centered and you will never know because you expected her to throw her trust, and vulnerability out to a stranger who only said hello. You didn't even give an example of what that "heart-centered woman" would say. Is it because you haven't met a girl who is willing to hand the sacred part of herself out like candy to every man who says hello? Men in the city need to realize that beautiful women are hit on ALL THE TIME. Men approach them with all sorts of intents - and a lot of them are shallow and selfish. Many of these women have given everything to men in the past - but those men only took without giving back. All women are givers by nature - so to bring out that generosity a man need to take the lead. Show her she is safe to give.There is softness behind every shell - and only a real man has the strength and patience to prove he isn't like the sea of jerks that created her shell. The best apples are at the top of the tree. You have to climb the tree to get to them.
How accurately you pointed out qualities of a real n loving woman.. You are 10 on 10 on explaining true beauty of a woman.. May each Man find such true n a v loving woman during his life time n let the man too feel thankful to God sending such woman in his Life making his Life worth living for.. Such couples can make awesome family n in return give many good things to society at large. Thanks for sharing your beautiful video dear.. stay bless stay safe . Have a blissful life ahead. 😊⚘
You are a nice guy and gentlemen. I am a black women and even though I know all guy's are different it seems like majority of guys only want a bimbo with a fat Ass smh but I am learning to love myself and now have guys wanting to ask me out, so your right about be you cause God loves me and will give me the perfect cute man for only me!
You cant say that 90% of men are not like this. In my opinion the majority are like this once they are mature enough and ready for a serious relationship. If you think all men are jerks then maybe you should try looking at the other men. Obviously you are attracted to the jerks since you think 90% of them are jerks maybe you should approach some decent guys. The jerks will become gentlemen once they find the one!
You are so profound and compassionate too and you can not be more right !! it's is from the 💕that you have to speak from ....I am so touched thst you are talking about this beautiful way ...to younger girls ...I will share it with other ladies .Sending you .Namaste ,light & peace ..
I believe we are a reflection of those we meet and the reason you can feel others love is because you're full of love yourself. Thank you for sharing your knowledge of what real love looks like.
compassionate woman is the most important thing that a man needs in his life to be happy and truly love and comforted and perfectly care for a compassionate woman will understand the inner most love feeling and worry some feeling of a man without being told by the man she will care for him so tenderly and emotionally and hold him so close to her arms all the time pamper him because men by nature need a woman that will truly love them and care for them and understand them ladies who only think about shopping high class things have no consideration for love i wish they will understand that shopping for ladies things that they think they need most is not the most important thing in a woman life because clothes and what ever it is that they you are always shopping for is not a man that will love you and care for you or give you the true happiness that a woman need in her life
Hi there : ) I really appreciate the sentiment of your video. From a realistic standpoint though, I will say this. You lost me at the point that you said men want us to give and give and give. Unfortunately, so do sociopaths and narcissists. I know this is your deal, but let me add a tip for those who keep giving and giving and giving to no avail. Stop. If someone doesn't want what you have to offer, move on. If you feel uncomfortable trust your intuition. Do not harbor negative vibes from other people. When its genuine it will feel good. You wont keep wondering what he wants you wont keep giving and giving. Be kind, be authentic. Be happy with exactly who you are as a person and self asses because you want to and when you want to create goals and vision and ultimately follow through. BeYOUtiful. You don't have to be a glow-worm to be happy. Happy women remain at ease. That is the key. ( I will watch the rest of the video now: ) Thank you. You are very sweet and I love your romanticism.
Sierra Castro Wow.. very insightful and important words indeed. You are absolutely right. Some women have a problem of not knowing when to stop giving.. I have overlooked this in my video.. I will definitely make a video soon addressing the topics you have so wisely elaborated on above. Many thanks
I also was triggered when he expressed this in that way , having had hard learning experiences of giving with no reciprocation . However I felt that his heart was flowing in an energy that felt real and grounded so I continued to listen and feel the essence of what he actually is conveying . Which for me really brought things back into perspective. Being in the dating world at 47 I really needed this reminder that it is my compassionate essence that is most desirable . The man of my desires will walk beside in this vein ... with ease ... it also reminded that ... that these are exactly the things I find most beautiful in a man ... i have this saying ... I will know it when I feel it. I found it super interesting that you mentioned Vocal tonal qualities because I absolutely do this ... I can tell much about a person by the tone of their voice. As you described it , it made sense that the higher pitch would be more head based because the energy has not traveled through the deeper resonance of the heart , for whatever reason in that person’s life . I think it is important to note that this does not devalue the person as a human being. It just means the resonances are not in alignment . I saw a great tuning fork analogy on s Gaia movie the other day called the “ electrobody “ it showed how if you activate a tuning fork it will activate other tuning forks that are of the same resonance , without those forks having to be strike , but will not activate the ones that are of a different resonance . This being activated by another’s vocal tonal qualities I believe is a manifestation of this energetic .
I appreciate your main message of compassion and personality, but I don't see what's wrong with saying "My day's good. I was just going shopping. Omg, I was going with friends ..." It seems rather shallow to judge a person on nothing but a few sentences of brief small talk.
That was so true...being compassionate and empathetic is so important for every person not only females...it is only where you can feel the heart....You're good-looking...
That is a really great point!! I think chemistry matters to a certain extent, but....a heart, a person who has passions, a person who is striving for something, a person who cares about being a good person, and a person who stimulates me intellectually is very very important as well. If that is not there the physical attraction is GONE. I was raised by men in my family that told me LOOKS ARE EVERYTHING! SO I REALLY APPRECIATE THIS VIDEO FROM A MAN. I remember thinking if that was true I am not sure if I even want to find a man. I mean I have been told that I am good looking to others, but if that is ALL that matters that is a total turn off.
This is my most favorite video on RUclips!! I love it so much.. As a slightly plump woman who has been rejected by a couple of men who chose the skinny shoe collecting self obsessed taker over me. This video made me cry at the thought that there are men out there that see beauty from within and want that.
Awe.. Don't cry.. You do not need men like those.. At least you found out early that those are the kind of men they are.. Remember when you feel bad that you have to tell yourself that "it is me that have to look into the mirror".. That was their lost not yours.. So smile Dear :}
That did not make any sense.. I am just saying.. Be happy in being you..
LOL Thank you Con Nnie for your nice comment. I have been building my confidence for a while after all that past stuff. I will not let it happen to me again. I am who I am :)
These guys didn't reject "you" 'cause they didn't take the time to get to know you. If they had taken the time to get to know you, they would have realized that you're a great person. Their loss, someone else's gain. The same thing has happened to me a few times and when I looked back all I can say is "I dodged that one! Whew!"
Yes I see that now so agree with you Elizabeth's Calender. Through every bad experience I become better.Therefore my boundaries and what I accept for myself also changes for the better.
"BEAUTY IS NOT IN THE FACE; BEAUTY IS A LIGHT IN THE HEART." ~KAHLIL GIBRAN
I agree! physical beauty fades, but who you are inside what matters.
That's right Terry ! 'A Beautiful Face will age, and a perfect body will change, but a beautiful soul will always be a beautiful soul. '
right on
Men will leech out everything out of the giver who even gives him a kid and then he runs after a woman who is half his age or hotter. Red pill.
Both help
I believe that's what women find beautiful in men, too. Innocence. Compassion.
I agree!
Amber Gardner I agree. I think same applies for both men and women.
Amber Gardner so right!😍😍😍😍
I agree.
Character
Vulnerability
Loyalty
Honesty
My sweet man isn’t 6”4 with a washboard for his abs. Neither am I a movie star my any stretch .....
We get one another.
He is the gentlest gentleman I’ve met .
His goal is to make me happy whatever it takes. My role is to recognize that and reciprocate in my own way . Not the material things matter so much but his gentle heart .
@@gratitude5740 how beautiful. That would be like an incredible dream.
Yes we'll said.
I found a man as my life partner. I had acne, pigmentation that makes me look ugly and he was never judge my outer beauty.
He loves me the way looks I am and you know what now he's love makes me get rid of all my skin problems and look more beautiful, he totally changed my life, he gives me an awesome life.
Sorry for any mistakes in grammar, I don't have fluency in English.
Thank you.
That's so beautiful! 💖 ☘️ 🌹 😊 👌
That's a one in a million guy 😀
You were NEVER ugly, you are NOT ugly! You are beautiful!
You are so pretty
When you first meet someone your not going to see the true person that's not reality. They may be nervous or have 100 things on their mind. Give the person a chance and if after the 3rd date you still see they are not showing compassion then move on. We are all human and it takes time to get to know someone. Good luck every one.
I agree with you.
Totally agreed! Just because a woman likes to look beautiful outside doesn't mean she's ugly from the inside. They judge you without trying to know you first. That's disrespect. I have tons of friends who are compassionate from the inside and beautiful from the outside. This is wrong thinking. Very wrong
YOU ARE SUCH A BEAUTIFUL AND HIGHLY SPIRITUAL MAN WHATEVER WOMAN GETS YOU WILL BE BLISSED. THANK YOU FOR YOUR BEAUTIFUL SOUL. HAVE A GREAT AND AWESOME DAY.
I'm so happy that there are still guys in this world that realize that looks are not everything and that a pretty girl can become ugly from her personality. Every girl has beauty but an amazing personality can make a not so pretty girl, beautiful. More guys in the world should realize that because eventually looks will fade and you will be stuck with their personality.
***** yeah but you can stil be good person
and what about girls, not that im talking about every girlon the planet, but like in mi school, im in 12th gradeand like theire are girls that are like beatifull 10, but when you get to now them theur personalities are not what i thought, and with that ive benn single all mi life, i havent had 1 girlfriend, and everyone that i know has,and also that in mi class the girls are more attractive too guys that are well, strong, popular, etc. and im well, dont have a lot of friends, im a gamer and i like anime, so not 1 girl in my class would be interested in me
If a girl is ugly but compassionate and innocent, men would never throw a glance on her. That's a tough world.
Everyone is beautiful. Its what you make of yourself that makes someone beautiful. Take care of your well-being, display confidence and show love and compassion. That is what really defines beauty in this world. The only thing stopping someone from being beautiful is what they believe or perceive themselves as.
@@MomLifeModestWife I agree but only to some extent. There're beauty standards we all fall for
@@АлиАли-л8в2ь That's dependent solely on the individual. You can choose to be a follower or a leader. Many people stand out both bad and good for their individuality. In my opinion, as long as your individuality is deemed good, righteous, healthy, respectful etc. people tend to gravitate to it with positivity.
I've noticed that man are more on looks
@Michelle Sithole No, speak for yourself. For me the only looks that matter to me is how you present yourself, and what makes you you(your personality etc). And by present I mean hygiene, hair, wear, and confidence. One thing I learned about being in the modelling industry, everybody is beautiful. You just have to genuinely care for yourself and wear the sleeve that proves it. That's why I don't model anymore.
You're just one of the few men who has love and compassion. Few men do or understand its depth and knows not how to appreciate it
Good Job and thanks.
I am a compassionate person, narcissist and users saw me a mile away. My ex pretended to be compassionate too just long enough to hook me. NOW my compassion will be reserved and given those who are not trying to manipulate the gift that God blessed me with. Be careful ladies use WISDOM over compassion or you may end up fighting to restore your life.
You are right... 100% truth
True compassion shouldn’t be reserved to specific people. God wants us to love all. Did God ever treat others differently? No. He showed compassion to all even those that tormented Him. Don’t let another person influence what your heart feels. That speaks of their character, not yours. Be careful yes, but always give love and compassion to all around you as that is what God wants from all of us. To love one another as you love yourself.
Lets love God first and the rest will overflow from within us i.e compassion,love,kindness,light name them all and without Jesus its impossible.
Ya Jesus freaks are an immediate turn off.
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@@steelman1506 I hate that term! And if it's true I guess I'm a turn off...I dont push my faith on anyone else but I do love The Lord!!!!
Amen !
Yes this is right first God first ok
I love the way he thinks but most men don't think that deeply .
your right nowadays its very few that man really care about our feeling as woman. but anyway nobody is perfect
Liz sings Yes.
dont give up Dawny cos Ive met lots of really nice guys with deep big hearts
my hubby is like this.
thats so true
Love hearing a young man describe what is so important, the feminine essence and heart.
I liked the way you said it; so gentle and kind, not all men want like you ,some good hearted women are treated, used, abused and treat us like shut no respect
Thanks, I feel that I'm the woman you've described as having compassion, one who shines and one with soft heart. Keep on inspiring women with soft heart!
First I thought you were a little stiff and creepy, but then you opened this vault of emotion as you described your idea of beauty and I was blown away. Thank you for reminding me whats important.
looool so true! hahahah
hahaha i agree :P
This is a very cool dude.
I always imagine that I am a bright light in a dark dreary world...that's one of the most charasmatic things about me... my energy and compassion!
Do not try to be someone else. God made us to be who we are. Don't try to impress others. If they don't like the way you looks, Too Bad!!! Be yourself, be compassionate & have a good heart, love life that’s how God created us. Do things that will make you comfortable & happy...Life is short, it's up to you & me to make it sweet. Life doesn't require that we be the best, only that we try our best👌👍Blessings to All🙏🤝✌☄☄☄☄
G.od is made up like Santa.
Amen
@@alanastone5241 then I’d love to hear your rebuttal for this argument buddy. If not don’t reply
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There’s no god but okay..
@@evanescencelight6767 the Bible says only fools say there’s no God, the main reason for this is because of how much of sin they indulge, so they alienate their mind from God. Anyhow I’d love to hear your thoughts on this argument FOR Gods existence or maybe you can even disprove it and tell me how science debunks God
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Ladies I completely agree with this guy, Im a happily married man of 10 years now. He is right that men see women differently than you do. When a man sees a woman and he is interested in her looks dont matter very much at all. When I met my wife it wasnt her looks that attracted me it was her personality. Even before that the most beautiful women I met had nothing to do with their looks. When men want sex we only look at looks, when we want more we dont care about looks.
Dont care about looks... Oh, please. Why you guys say such things only to please women, or impress them? Of course we care about looks, but not JUST looks!
I wish all men think like this gentleman.
I know this is November 13, 2019, but this man is SPOT ON! What a beautiful soul he is!
Today is December 13, 2019 on a Friday...A very Lucky Day!
Sorry - don't agree. He judges this good looking girl so harshly on what came out of her mouth. Perhaps she was just nervous - it doesn't mean she doesn't have compassion and isn't a nice person. I think he should lighten up!.
only one word..
A true gentleman
I think that's 3
"gentleman"
If he is man he can't be gentle and should not be.... He should be hard... Also if he is gentle he is not man.... Sorry to disappoint... He is she.... I mean she has to be gentle... Woman.....
As woman are gentle not man...... There is no gentleman if he is man.. Woman is gentle..... Man is hard...
Gentleman is not the opposite of hard. A gentleman is hard with whom he needs, but is also kind, polite, and honorable to others.
I believe all teen girls are naturally like what you described but from experience they get taken advantage of and then that innocence leaves as they develop into a woman. So we have to act tough to protect and guard ourselves from predators.
This is a real man. I wish most guys could think like him.
Stop watching reality shows and learn to be a REAL human being.
"That depth that I can dive into and enjoy."! His expression is priceless :) Well said!
I loved his presentation.. I thought he was spot on in many ways . But one thing that women or men has to be aware of is the love and compassion that your giving sometimes it's not being received" and you have to know when to just move on.. And hopefully be able to give in that way where it's being appreciated. Because people unfortunately do take advantage of kindness as a weakness.
agree
I was about to say the same thing
So true..... unfortunately......
Have to much he took everything from me
Elzy Arnold yes you are right.
Wow! I am amazed at your insight! OMG...you have the wisdom of a much older man. I imagine that every woman falls in love with a heart like yours. Thanks for showing us what a REAL MAN can be. nameste
Rebecca Marina Messenger namaste
You're right, beauty can't be seen outside, it comes from the heart
Some men want someone deep but they're not going to get it on the first communication. Most of the time that someone asks how was your day the common answer will be "it was fine, thanks". No one will say "I fed 20 homeless people" or "I thought of my departed mother when I saw a lady wearing a coat at the grocery store and I cried". That's TMI. Most women will not open up like that on a first conversation and may not do it until they've gotten to know the man better. I think guys go for looks initially and will stick around a woman they think is hot until he finds out she is a biotch.
I agree
First ever thanks for sharing. Value a person for who they are and not what they have. People will hurt you but it's a part of the learning, testing and pruning process. A beautiful woman is not seen only with the naked eyes. Beauty fades, a tender heart can easily be seen by a praying man/woman connected to his father. A beautiful compassionate woman are reserve, you will not find them shopping. These woman keep themself busy caring for others and observing what next I can do to make this world a better place.
Wow, I am a 62 year old woman. This was amazing! It's what I needed to hear. While I look just fine I feel men have overlooked my stronger qualities such as depth and compassion.I wish I'd met more men like you! Thank YOU.
My husband said what he loves about me it's everything..
you are a man thats why you value those things, but unfortunately there are so many boys out there. Tough to find a man nowadays.
Zahra Liang keep looking someones out there for everyone
Zahra Liang ur right
Wht ur saying is so true but its not the same for 90% of guys. What they need is outer beauty only, they have nothing to do with women’s heart or kindness or their behavior or innocence :)
True
@@ScholarlyAmbitions No, there's not.
We need more males like him in this world!
I'm too compassionate and too much of a "giver" and I continually get burned. Still haven't learned my lesson yet.
I am the same. Tend to fall in love for broken men, that end up hurting me. We have a saying in my country that good people have no luck. I see it true over and over. I see these women grab some good guys then cheat on them and be such bitches. Sometimes I say I wish I could be more mean, bitchy but can't. I tend to be so honest.
This guy speaks the truth for 50 years ago. People look at aging as ugly, meekness as weak.
Whatever.
Same here, i always gave everything i have, i have no reservation, because i believe that is true love, giving and loving him...but i always end up hurting...
Yes, I'm too compassionate, often call that I have good heart and I am a kind soul....still single.
me 3
@@blackwidowotilia What hes trying to say is compassion comes before attraction, and love has no age limit. You can feel just as good about yourself at age 50 as you can at age 20, if your a compassionate person without a big ego.
We girls too want a boy who is compassionate n caring ...bt I met all selffish boys in my life till now ...
Hahahahaha real
It’s called the familiarity principle in psychology. You different guys? Hangout in a different group...
Im a compassionate and a giver person, that is why i found my soulmate!
Definitely goes both ways. Us females feel the same way about men. They could be so attractive, handsome, fit and as soon as you hear them start talking. Its all about him. Turn off!!! I enjoyed this video he has a very good point. Looks is not everything. Which shouldn't be confused with not taking care of yourself. We can't just say ok I'm going to eat whatever I want even tho its unhealthy and not exercise. Beauty comes from caring for yourself mind, body and spirit. I like this video.
I wish all men were like you
Amen God bless them all
Madridista Girl A Real Man
isn't he`s selling his videos right there?
So profound... :)
Most people say self-confidence is what men really likes.
Compassion? Wow, this is the first time I heard from a man. I love the heart connection part. What comes from the heart goes to the heart...love it! Thanks a lot!
Ive met men who asked me they dont know why their failling in love i told them before he chooses a woman he should see and choose her for
Her honesty
Loyalty
Compassion
Kindness
Giving
Calmness
Positive
Careing
Loving
Integrity
Morals
Values
Wow! What a depth of soul from someone so young and so handsome.
Simple be a lady and you get a good man or be a bitch and you get a bad man or no man at all...
This is literally the best video on youtube which describes real beauty... This is exactly the advice I was searching for! Thank you for being so honest... This brightened my day!
You make me almost cry, Im a value woman and I feel happy listening a man talk in that way.
Compassion...a giver...a kind hearted...teaching what being humane is...contributer...getting connected...love...shine...energy...Don't get brain washed by the Society...👍
You are not shallow. You've got depth. Compassion IS beautiful. Love does shine.
Love is light and when you are love and when you are compassion you are light and then you shine and when you shine people see you!! Thank you this is exactly what it is thank you!! so much!! you rock!!!!!!!!
Wow yes Wow I just tuned in to this amazing , beautiful , caring , loving , handsome man...inside and out! You made me cry. I am 64 years old, I am still looking for my amazing man. I have all those things I want to GIVE to just one man. Its hard, but I keep trying. I see and have been taking notes, studying you know with Adam Adole, and many others, but YOU have blown them all away, with just your few inspiring words. I will follow you, to the very edge.. and hopefully learn...thank you so, so , so , so much, God bless you. Sally
Real nice way to put this, the words and descriptions. I now understand more about why men go for real plain girls.
Amazing, I've never been explained to something the way you've done it.
Chapeau from France!!
Thank you for this. You’re so right about compassion. We all need to show compassion, whether we are men or women. Maybe the reason it’s so attractive is that compassion is probably the same or similar as unconditional love...just a thought 🤔
Hi, thanks for the reminder!
Sometimes I get the "pull away" issue when I like someone. Probably out of fear of rejection. But if I focus on compassion and being my genuine self it doesn't matter, regardless if it is returned or not. Inner beauty should be shared. Just like in this video :-)
Only God can make a perfect woman and a perfect man.
Humans on their own is not perfect.
God is perfect.
Thank God. A guy speaking something sensible. . Apart from sex. .
Don't know abt other guys . But your idea for a beautifull girl just blew me away.
Good looking guy speaking beautifull words. . Wow.
great!
I don't know dear dude if ure the only one on this planet...im this person you say lv light compassion. ..i had only narcissist experiences from all men i came across...i then realised we must be discerning and learnt to mind only whats my business.both men and woman cld be anything far from what they portray. ..so we keep our selves , our heart and nature to preserve ourselves..save the pain trauma cheat lie...and be real in this fancy cruel world. Truth prevails..lv heals...compassion helps. Self responsibility protects and provides. Ty for your speech. It was like a movie dialogue.
Beautiful soul Beauty is in the eye of a beholder
You sirrrrrr, have an extreeeeemly sexy voice...
yaaassss
🔥💦💦💦
and sexy eyes and real feeling about what he says
+Salma Chikhaoui Everything about this man is sensuaaaallll....
BeautyLilya SHUT THE FUCK UP this site is for men NOT women 😠😠😠😠
I Applaud You....Well Said!
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The physical apperance of a person is what we noticed first, we tend to be attracted to people who are good looking but actually being beautiful isn't the one that gets you a guy. Always remember that character is the most important thing that every woman should have because it's the only thing that won't fade in time.
best said.
Yes i agree
💕
ETERNAL BEAUTY IS FOUND IN A HEART...
I like the way this man think. Yes, love is powerful. It makes a difference.
HOLY MACARONI YOU ARE AMAZINGLY GOOD LOOKING (SORRY, JUST HAD TO SAY IT)
You are a real man. kisses !!
Omg!!! That’s the first time I’ve heard that compassion is the most beautiful thing guys want in a woman. Amazing!! My male friend, not quite my boyfriend yet, knows how much I respect him and he knows how compassionate I really am. The feeling is mutual so I quess I’m doing everything right!!
Erika Hernandez Would you know how to treat him if you had him?
Erika Hernandez
Erika Hernandez amen!! Real man status!!
That is awesome that you can see that in people. I don't think all guys are like you unfortunately however you yourself are an inspiration and if you spread this kind of deepti and insight to the world I hope other guys catch on. Xox
Buyer beware...
If you buy this con job
you will attract guys
that have endless wants .
Best you find someone
that knows the value
of a fair exchange
in all aspects of life.
Love, like, respect etc
are earned by the people you choose to have
in your live.
Don't thow your pearls
to the swine.
Proceed with caution.
God bless your Heart, Genuine, soulful man!
that girl impersonation HAHAHAHAHAHHA GOT ME DED
Is that why so many men fall in love with me in the first week. The downside is them being possessive, controlling and trying to dominate me. Then when I want out they keep calling me. Why I stayed covered up. I do set boundries. I just want to feel safe with a man again emotionally.
light comes from God, Jesus is love only he can change hearts
Jasmine Betancourt I agree
Jasmine Betancourt true. But remember that he can only change it. If you really want him too.
Jasmine Betancourt amen u r so right
Jasmine Betancourt we have to choose love,Jesus... He has the power, but we have free will. Through our suffering we come to know love. Its true.
Amen😇
Many guys and women are like the girl you just described as lacking compassion. Equality is very important.
Thank you. This is so reassuring. I love it that you think and feel the way you do about what beauty and attractiveness really is. I hope women hear this and start cherishing this in them more, we all lack more compassion, warmth and deep connection in communication and less superficiality, fakeness, and selfishness. Thank you so much again, this is just lovely
Are you married now? Your video was in 2012 and it is now 2019! I know you must have met your Ruth! Because you are truly a Boaz.....compassionate, genuine, kind-hearted, respectful, honorable and humble! Should I say more? 🤗
Wow. What a great guy
do you happen to have a much older identical twin who thinks just like you?
Or just an older brother who thinks like him
Wow...your perfectly said about woman's beauty is compassion in her heart...God bless...😊👍✌
i can tell your connected to yur heart... you have alot of compasion
Your voice is so profound!!! Love it!
My man is younger by a lot . I am not rich.
What he loves me about is about my heart; my passion for advice and nature and the way I take care of him even at a long distance .
We have been in LDR for 9 months. He is a keeper for me and he is talking about me like you describe a woman.
Great... Thank u. If u want to b happy, be compassionate. If u want others to b happy, be compassionate.
Guys are easily attracted to beautiful women but being beautiful doesn't mean in physical appearance only. It's so important for women to possess a good character because it will make a man fall in love with you even more. Don't worry if you are not that good looking for as long as you have a compassionate heart to love someone and every guy would be chasing after you.
Beauty is in the eye of the beholder.
you understand spiritual conection ...heart conection...thats a only way....thaks....you have soft heart...
I never met a guy like him. He is awesome, wonderful
Hello Jad...
You are just the sweetest person that I have met in a long time.... Your heart and
your mind are simply beautiful....I have 5 sons my oldest is 33....I love each and everyone of my beautiful sons...they too have standards simular to yours. They love there mom with there whole heart and soul....I tried to educate my son's to treat all people equally with consideration patience understanding compassion friendly and approachable....I didn't want my son's to fear women instead they make pretty good buddies.....if I don't say so myself....
I am so pleased to have stumbled on to your site.....yes yes yes the whole world needs a little love, a little
understanding, a little patience, having an open mind, and quite simply .... We all need to treat others they same way that we would like to be treated and understood.
Good work....keep it coming.....
Namaste
Mary
You seem like a really nice guy. HOWEVER: I think that is a pretty quick judgement of "Yaletown Girl". For all you know that woman is totally heart centered and you will never know because you expected her to throw her trust, and vulnerability out to a stranger who only said hello. You didn't even give an example of what that "heart-centered woman" would say. Is it because you haven't met a girl who is willing to hand the sacred part of herself out like candy to every man who says hello?
Men in the city need to realize that beautiful women are hit on ALL THE TIME. Men approach them with all sorts of intents - and a lot of them are shallow and selfish. Many of these women have given everything to men in the past - but those men only took without giving back. All women are givers by nature - so to bring out that generosity a man need to take the lead. Show her she is safe to give.There is softness behind every shell - and only a real man has the strength and patience to prove he isn't like the sea of jerks that created her shell. The best apples are at the top of the tree. You have to climb the tree to get to them.
Thank you for your fantastic video! I love your attitude about true beauty! Wow! Let it shine!
I love you, I agree so much with your definition of beauty; I can even feel your heart as you speak......incredible!!!!!
Thank you!
Men are attracted to looks fIrst
Man you are so awsome. I like the way you express the truth. Not to many men or women know whats missing for a good relationship.
How accurately you pointed out qualities of a real n loving woman..
You are 10 on 10 on explaining true beauty of a woman..
May each Man find such true n a v loving woman during his life time n let the man too feel thankful to God sending such woman in his Life making his Life worth living for..
Such couples can make awesome family n in return give many good things to society at large.
Thanks for sharing your beautiful video dear.. stay bless stay safe . Have a blissful life ahead. 😊⚘
That explanation was beautiful.
You are a nice guy and gentlemen. I am a black women and even though I know all guy's are different it seems like majority of guys only want a bimbo with a fat Ass smh but I am learning to love myself and now have guys wanting to ask me out, so your right about be you cause God loves me and will give me the perfect cute man for only me!
You cant say that 90% of men are not like this. In my opinion the majority are like this once they are mature enough and ready for a serious relationship. If you think all men are jerks then maybe you should try looking at the other men. Obviously you are attracted to the jerks since you think 90% of them are jerks maybe you should approach some decent guys. The jerks will become gentlemen once they find the one!
You are so profound and compassionate too and you can not be more right !! it's is from the 💕that you have to speak from ....I am so touched thst you are talking about this beautiful way ...to younger girls ...I will share it with other ladies .Sending you .Namaste ,light & peace ..
Awesome ... Interesting and authentic facts .. thank you for sharing ... Enjoyed watching ..
Your right but it takes physical attraction to make a guy come up to you in the first place.
I believe we are a reflection of those we meet and the reason you can feel others love is because you're full of love yourself. Thank you for sharing your knowledge of what real love looks like.
Wow a very beautiful message for women, thanks!
And it is a message to impress women, indeed. Forget about most of it.
compassionate woman is the most important thing that a man needs in his life to be happy and truly love and comforted and perfectly care for a compassionate woman will understand the inner most love feeling and worry some feeling of a man without being told by the man she will care for him so tenderly and emotionally and hold him so close to her arms all the time pamper him because men by nature need a woman that will truly love them and care for them and understand them ladies who only think about shopping high class things have no consideration for love i wish they will understand that shopping for ladies things that they think they need most is not the most important thing in a woman life because clothes and what ever it is that they you are always shopping for is not a man that will love you and care for you or give you the true happiness that a woman need in her life
Couldn't help commenting... This is all true... True love and attraction may take a while to fire up... but its always here to stay...
Hi there : ) I really appreciate the sentiment of your video. From a realistic standpoint though, I will say this. You lost me at the point that you said men want us to give and give and give. Unfortunately, so do sociopaths and narcissists. I know this is your deal, but let me add a tip for those who keep giving and giving and giving to no avail. Stop. If someone doesn't want what you have to offer, move on. If you feel uncomfortable trust your intuition. Do not harbor negative vibes from other people. When its genuine it will feel good. You wont keep wondering what he wants you wont keep giving and giving. Be kind, be authentic. Be happy with exactly who you are as a person and self asses because you want to and when you want to create goals and vision and ultimately follow through. BeYOUtiful. You don't have to be a glow-worm to be happy. Happy women remain at ease. That is the key. ( I will watch the rest of the video now: ) Thank you. You are very sweet and I love your romanticism.
Sierra Castro Wow.. very insightful and important words indeed. You are absolutely right. Some women have a problem of not knowing when to stop giving.. I have overlooked this in my video.. I will definitely make a video soon addressing the topics you have so wisely elaborated on above. Many thanks
I also was triggered when he expressed this in that way , having had hard learning experiences of giving with no reciprocation . However I felt that his heart was flowing in an energy that felt real and grounded so I continued to listen and feel the essence of what he actually is conveying . Which for me really brought things back into perspective. Being in the dating world at 47 I really needed this reminder that it is my compassionate essence that is most desirable . The man of my desires will walk beside in this vein ... with ease ... it also reminded that ... that these are exactly the things I find most beautiful in a man ... i have this saying ... I will know it when I feel it. I found it super interesting that you mentioned
Vocal tonal qualities because I absolutely do this ... I can tell much about a person by the tone of their voice. As you described it , it made sense that the higher pitch would be more head based because the energy has not traveled through the deeper resonance of the heart , for whatever reason in that person’s life . I think it is important to note that this does not devalue the person as a human being. It just means the resonances are not in alignment . I saw a great tuning fork analogy on s Gaia movie the other day called the “ electrobody “ it showed how if you activate a tuning fork it will activate other tuning forks that are of the same resonance , without those forks having to be strike , but will not activate the ones that are of a different resonance . This being activated by another’s vocal tonal qualities I believe is a manifestation of this energetic .
I appreciate your main message of compassion and personality, but I don't see what's wrong with saying "My day's good. I was just going shopping. Omg, I was going with friends ..." It seems rather shallow to judge a person on nothing but a few sentences of brief small talk.
After all , we are not our physical Selves.
We're Spirits in human bodies owned by planet earth.
That was so true...being compassionate and empathetic is so important for every person not only females...it is only where you can feel the heart....You're good-looking...
That is a really great point!! I think chemistry matters to a certain extent, but....a heart, a person who has passions, a person who is striving for something, a person who cares about being a good person, and a person who stimulates me intellectually is very very important as well. If that is not there the physical attraction is GONE. I was raised by men in my family that told me LOOKS ARE EVERYTHING! SO I REALLY APPRECIATE THIS VIDEO FROM A MAN. I remember thinking if that was true I am not sure if I even want to find a man. I mean I have been told that I am good looking to others, but if that is ALL that matters that is a total turn off.