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Dude, I agree with you. My wife read this book "Love and Obey" which is about female empowerment in relationship and it completely changed everything for us. Her confidence skyrocketed.
absolutely right! I lost my husband beginning of this year... God taught me to love myself and know that I am His creation, more valuable than rubies! I lost 30 pounds, bought clothes that I love and look good in, and boy did I start getting attention... then my husband came back to me! instead of being co-dependent on him to define my worth, I know how worthy I am now with or without him, and we are doing fantastic!
I wear my headphones go into my world and will literally dance down the street while I'm going on my walks. I can't tell you the amount of men who've approached me or started dancing as well. I find that women will give me compliments and or nod their head with approval while smiling. I love going on walks while listening to the sound track of my life. ❤❤❤!!!
There are no women looking bad at you? If I would do that they'll hate me. A lot of women look and act bad at me. PD: Men too, what more in a incel way.
I think wearing a nice, not too over powering perfume makes all the difference in the world! When I come across someone that smells good, male or female I tell them. They smile and I smile-you know that's a confidence booster! That's why I always try to wear a nice perfume no matter what I'm wearing:)
Mathew Boggs I realize that Men are falling in love with the personality of the MOE anime girl. Women should start watching anime so they can study on the personalities of the MOE anime girl. Men are emotionally sexually attracted to the MOE anime girl and women stopped using that emotional sexual attraction strategy after feminism took over their lives. women should start using that old fashion strategy to get a man. Women should watch Watch this anime from this link. kissanime.to/Anime/Love-Live-School-Idol-Project-Dub dress like them and act like them and they will flawlessly get a man to love them. Today's men are falling in love with the anime girl and not falling in love with real women. Just look up the work (Waifu). Women should be aware of this.
Monica R. I agree. my man wears collonge it drives me wild. It bothers me sometimes how good he smells cause other females smell him and I know it turns me on so. lol. It always makes me feel sexy when I'm wearing my French perfume.
Monica R girl yes! It should be illegal to stink. But smelling delicious makes you feel that way. Sexy underwear and smelling fabulous will make you feel so much more confident.
You are SO right on! I've told my boyfriend many times that he should find someone else because of my weight. (I've lost quite a bit so far). He told me that he loves me just as I am. What a sweetheart. So confidence is a big deal. Thank you so much!
You are a hundred percent right!! It happened with me actually. But now i feel wonderful about my self. People would never see u attractive if you don't see ur self attractive!! Love you Matt xoxo
I don't think that's true, because I don't feel attractive, but I get told I am very attractive all the time. I can't see it, but apparently everyone else can .
oh my god this might be the most accurate deduction I've ever heard. whenever I compliment myself I got compliments on my beauty. it felt amazing to hear that from someone else
it's all inside of us. Meditation about self love and self worthiness increased my attraction and I suddenly got more dates than ever with high quality men. NOW I can choose 😉
I've been complementing myself instead of hating myself for quite sometime now and I tell you it's been wonderful because I feel so much comfortable with myself and how I carry myself now has completely changed. I feel so much happier now with myself. Wearing dresses and pencils skirts and wearing this red lipstick i own makes me feel very attractive.
I hang out with God who loves and esteems me. That’s how I’ve realized I was beautiful - he made my outside and insides match then opened my eyes. He’s the best!
Everyday I wake up go to washroom, see myself in the mirror and say to myself "I love you no matter what" and that makes me smile. I learnt to love myself fully and truly before looking for someone else cause it all starts within.
thank you Matt,I got a new hairstyle when I turned 46,which boosted my confidence ,made me feel and look sexier,and when I'm having a bad day,I look in the mirror and see this 46 yr old mom of 4 sons rockin it
My favorite thing I do for myself is wear perfume every day and it's just so wonderful when someone says you smell good - especially when I'm feeling stressed - I make it a point to comment on others perfume or cologne simply because I know how it makes me feel!
Single ladies, write a love letter to yourself every day. I do this daily. My self esteem has been building in a matter of months. Thank you so much for the advice. It's been over 10 years for me and I am lost when it comes to dating
I am Native American (Cherokee) and I am a curvy woman. I have big boobs and a curvy butt and I embrace my hour glass figure. What makes me feel confident is wearing good smelling perfume and getting my hair done. I also love to smile and when I walk I own my sexiness and confidence by knowing that I look and feel great! ☺😊👍❤💋
Tamara Brown. Hay. us Native Americans are naturally beautiful anyway. Beauty comes from inside and shines outward no matter our size, shape color heritage 😏
Tamara Brown bwhahahahahahahahahhahahahahahahahhah lucky you ..hour glass huh? you must not be full blooded, I'm almost full blooded and me and all my relatives have big boobs, exciting personalities, we can laugh and laugh. We're also Warrior Women, strong Iron Hearted but our butts and bodies are Apple Shaped. So, its not the Native in you that gives you that butt...just saying. No disrespect.
Im 48 and I've always been a very curvy girl. I was the kind of woman who lacked self confidence particularly in the bedroom with a man. I'd have all the lights off and covers on and barely moved. When I hit my 40s and still being a plus size lady I'd realised I'd had enough of trying to cover it up, I was exhausted. So I worked hard to change my mindset and the moment I did I became so confident. I smiled more than ever, I learned to choose clothes that made me feel sexy. I got up on the dance floor more and went on more dates. Im online dating for the most part. Now the first thing men say to me is that "your smile is gorgeous, your eyes are sexy and so are you". I've been told by both men and women that I radiate a happy, vibrant sexy energy! It took a few decades, but changing my mindset, which was damn hard, made all the difference and the more I received compliments I knew it had to be true.
what if I'm kind of a tomboy and don't dress in overly feminine clothes? I don't wear makeup or 'get my nails' done. But I do have long hair and I think i'm sexy!
not all men are ncessarily attracted to traditional feminine style. besides as Matt says it is your vibration which really matters. the authenticity and really owning yourself with every bit of your body and your soul. Love :)
Swankster listen to my advice I know the secret on attracting a man. 1. Men love the personality of the MOE anime girl 2. Start watching anime so you can study on the personalities of the MOE anime girl 3. Men are emotionally sexually attracted to the MOE anime girl and that emotion gets men to being physically sexually attracted to them. 4. Today's women don't use emotional sexual attraction anymore like they did before feminism and women should start using that old fashion strategy to get a man. 5. Watch this anime from this link. kissanime.to/Anime/Love-Live-School-Idol-Project-Dub dress like them and act like them and you will flawlessly get a man to love you.
If thats what makes you feel sexy, rock on! I bet he was meaning you to. Wear what makes you feel amazing. But do it for yourself. Then, you can be truly happy. But only once your happy about yourself.
Mathew, I know your manly talking to the singles, but I'm a married women with lower self esteem. This was helpful to me too. If I feel better me and my spouse will be able to have a more fulfilling relationship. Thank You
Every morning when I'm just waking up, I keep my eyes closed and stay connected to my subconscious by staying in alpha wave, and telling myself affirmations not out loud, but in my mind. Each affirmation statement starts with "I am." I do this for 20 minutes every morning. Another way of improving myself is listening to positive videos like Mathew Boggs on a daily. I need a constant reminder of positive energy to keep my vibration high.
This makes a lot of sense. Ever since I had to "retire" this month, my mindset has been that "I am old". That spills over into every aspect of my life. My weight, my age, my hair, my lack of energy, etc. Yesterday I decided that 2 weeks of this "old thing" was enough. I went for a walk. I bought myself a new lovely purple sweatshirt for the Fall which felt so comfortable 💜. I thanked God for all of his wonderful provisions in these times of uncertainty. Some tell me that 61 is not old, but I know my youth has slipped past me and that is what most men want EVEN the older ones. I am not interested in someone older than me. So my focus is to be happy in my circumstances and be at peace with who I am. I have learned that my validation does not come from a man.
Yesssss Mat, what comes from WITHIN!!!! This is what our society Needs to hear!!! And I love that you commented on "societal standards", this keeps people from being comfortable with/expressing their TRUE self. Keep preaching! You do a great job
I feel attractive when I feel like I'm personally growing, if I succeed in something I had wished for and when I feel like I had taken enough care of myself
I believe what you say, how you feel about yourself reflects. I used to suffer really bad with Exzema, and as a teen I used to get it on my face. I wanted to walk with a bag over my head. Now as an adult it's so much better, I feel better about myself. I learned to accept myself as I am. I love taking my time styling my hair and putting makeup, this is first for my own pleasure.
This is 4 years late, but this is exactly what I need to hear right now, and I feel so much better about myself already :) You don't know how much it means to me. Thank you, Matt.
Matt thank you thank you thank you!! I SO needed to hear this... I've gained weight & although in process of releasing, I found myself looking in the mirror lately & feeling so down on myself... I am FINALLY coming to a place where I believe I'm worth being & looking my best & listening to you is a big help in transitioning! So glad I found you... not even sure how I did but now you're one of my fav podcasts!! You have so much good insight & understanding of relationships!! You are definitely doing what you were put here to do... 👍
If we're speaking of tricks to perform on the exterior, go and get your "colors" done, meaning find what color palettes work best for your skin tone, eye and hair color. You'll find that, when you are wearing colors that work for you, not against you, your confidence naturally shines. This even goes down to the accessories you choose to wear. If we speaking of tricks to perform on the inside, know who you are, what you are worth, your value as a person and what you bring to each and every interaction you encounter, what you want and even don't want out of damn near everything, and that Knowing (yes, with a capital K) is priceless in owning your internal beauty. That's my Cliff Notes version of my input. ;) Thanks for the vid, Mathew.
Desiree Torres * Look into the book "Color Me Beautiful" ~ It's an old book but so worth it to bring out the best in you when you choose clothing color, 👗 shoes, 👠 accessories, 👛 etc. 😊 I suggest keeping your birth hair color though instead of coloring it, to come out natural as the way God created you! 👍 And no perfume as I disagree with Matt on this one on his vid,, just be sure to shower, lol, your natural smell MUST come through and you will catch "the right" guy that way. 😆 Trust me. I've been married almost 3 decades and sometimes men still try to hover around me that I avoid them purposely now. Lol 😂
I feel me as very sexy and attractive by wearing the sweetiest smile whenever I see myself in the mirror.I feel beautiful inside and out even without any daring clothes on or make up and thats what my bf loves so much me cuz I never down myself and my essence as a woman..thanks Matt..
Answering your question what I do to feel attractive: I remember all the councils, readings and videos that I watched, put my mind to work, straighten my posture like a ballerina about to enter a stage, and I say to myself " Girl, you're great, and you're the best thing that can happen in someone's life " Thank you por your post
I love this! I've been slacking on tapping into my feminine energy lately and I've just been feeling low but you've just inspired me to go and take care of myself and do some shopping lol I feel my best when I exercise, shave, paint my nails, have on a cute dress Etc :) needed to watch this thankyou!
I really like the comment about the sexy underwear. I never thought to do that. I am 62 and I do look at myself and say not bad for 62. I still have not found mr. right. Just a lot of mr wrong's. Thanks.
I have a concoction of Bath and Body Works Aromatherapy Wash and Lotion, Body Spray and a Baby Powder Oil. Makes me smell AMAZING! Drives the guys CRAZY!
I used to feel attractive before getting married, I'm pretty nothing changed and I know I'm pretty but I feel like I'm wasting my time and getting older, I just want to feel valued again
I love this. It's when I'm wearing an outfit I love, the jewelry is happening with it, the makeup is perfect, then I know I look amazing. I can walk into a room with a strut, & men's heads turn.
Great advice! What helps me feel attractive is my confidence. I work out and eat well something I didn’t do before and I look at myself and I compliment myself, I am getting a lot of more attention now and I am more selective on who I give my time to, I am worthy and I am valuable. Thanks for your videos.
I've always eaten well and love to cook but I had stopped working out quite some time ago. In late 2020, I spent 3 mos in Sicily and walked everywhere in a hilly city. I hadn't walked that much in years. I now live in Haifa, Israel and it is extremely hilly. I am having a bit of trouble coming up the hill to my house so I'll ride the bus one stop but I still have to walk about 350 meters and sometimes when I go out to the bank or whatever, I will walk a kilometer or more to get there. That's my exercise and it works. At 75 I'm not quite as fast as I was but I still stand up straight and have the walk of a much younger woman.
Having my nails done and doing my hair makes me feel sexy. However, I sometimes think I ruin this vibe of feeling attractive. I don't know if that's good or bad. Let me explain: I might catch men looking at my legs when I am wearing a skirt but in some cases I feel awkward cause he is not the kind of man I want attention from. If I feel safe with the man then I might even... blush. I guess that's ok?
Thank you Matt! I've been feeling very unattractive as three natural again process is making itself shown each time I'm near a mirror, THIS (along with LOTS that I've been hearing from senior model Cindy Joseph) is REALLY beginning to help me wear & adore my wrinkles, age spots, ect as badges of honor 🎖 from the experiences that I've been through with my life! Although I'm NOT a "petty girl" as I used to be, I'm becoming MORE & MORE GREATFUL for the "BEAUTIFUL WOMAN" that I am "becoming MORE OF" EACH & EVERY DAY!! YOU ROCK🎸, MATT!! (I can't thank you ENOUGH for the loving, gentle, effective, & kind advice that you research and give!!)
it's all completely on point .. i was that girl that was 60 pounds over weight n lost 20 n was working it , u r right , this is very very helpful.. ur way just speaks to me perfectly .. ty i m sexy n i know
MUSIC ! One Word - an amazing feeling. Listening to good upbeat music - for me it’s for example Madonna, hung up - and I just feel awesome and my self-esteem goes right up the ceiling
Don't know if my man of 50 years is like the others, but I could forget sexy panties or perfume or makeup. What drove him nuts was the sight of a woman in a frilly, feminine apron pulling a pan of homemade lasagna out of the oven. The woman plus the idea of being cooked for and fed was a turn on like no other.
A good reminder because I haven't always felt that way and in some ways dont always feel that way because my hubby says he doesn't feel attracted to me. That hurts!! We are working on our marriage and ourselves...so to help restore his attraction I will remember the spirit I had in the first place and bring it back more vibrantly.
Omg… you are so on point. Someone who was younger than me once told me that I was extremely attractive, beautiful and have something that even significant younger woman don’t have. At that time I was 47 I’m going to be 49 this month and someone else who is 20 yrs younger than me told me the same thing not too long ago. I noticed that when I dress up and do my hair and make up I feel good and confident about my self makes me feel sexy and guys do pick up on that! I walk around very confident and feeling very sexy ☺️
thank you so much Matt Boggs... I really needed to hear that, I've been feeling like I'm not worthy of love I look great but inside I'm fighting a very big battle of loneliness someone told me I was"hard to love"... now I just want to die..ive convinced myself that maybe their right.. But your video give me hope...❤
Dorthy Montes You are beautiful, and very worthy of love. You will meet the perfect guy at the right moment, forget the haters. You know who else loves you unconditionally? God. Don't lose hope honey.
Mathew Boggs thank you ive watched every video and want to sign up for your seminar with my next paycheck. i definately will take your advice..thank you again my friend.. and im feeling real sexy today 😙
Dorthy Montes. You are worthy of love. You have to love yourself first but finding. someone who will like and love you as you are is key. Someone is takes the good and bad and doesn't try to change you but encourages you makes the best of you come out. Please don't ever feel or think your not worthy of love maybe certain men are not worthy of being with you meaning they don't deserve you. Girl put yourself on a pedal stole meaning think of yourself as a queen and don't except anyone who can't respect and appreciate you or can't treat you like a queen deserves to be treated.
My scent makes me feel sexy/attractive. On I side note, a long time ago, my aunt gave me some lingerie she got for her wedding that she never wore. i was amazed how different about myself it made me feel. I wore those articles out, and I hadn't had anything like it in a long time. I just bought two new pieces for myself, and just having something sexy has made me more attractive! I guy approached me who I never would have imagined would look my way, and another started flirting. Who knew!
Wow this explains everything! 😁 A lot of guys hook on me, tease me, gasp at me and flirt and I never really knew why becouse I was (and still am) not yet interested in relationship but I was kind and polite to them, I love myself no matter what and I just think I'm awsome (I don't even know why, it just feels good to be alive being yourself ☺) But I have best friend In my opinion she's prettier than me, she got little curves (but curves are sexy am I right?😏) and way prettier face, longer, more shiny hair and.. but she hates herself, I still try to work it out with her but she might have depression and the entire time I know her, she say no one ever flirted with her I didn't really get that becouse she's kind and beautifull.. but she's also shy so she don't hook on anyone as well, even if she had a crush she'd just put herself down.. So yeah here is my experience and life example, just everyone waching this - love youself gor who you are becouse you don't have to have a reason! Great video btw! 😊
I've been feeling a lot better about myself lately (started losing a lot of weight) and feeling really sexy, even without the whole weight loss thing. The sexiest and happiest I've ever felt. My husband pulled me aside not long ago and told me that I had recently been the sexiest I've been the entire 16 years we've been together. Did I mention that I was nearly 60 pounds lighter when we first met? :) Feel it and you look it. Period.
That's the fact. Even when I was bigger I was always feeling good about myself and sexy no matter what I worn. Sexy is definitely in you not what you wear
Doing my hair, face, putting on my smell goods and wearing heels. Then I walk the walk with a big ol' smile greeting everyone I see. It's that "I know I'm cute" attitude! 😊
When I have it all together; makeup, hair, new dress, heels, perfume and the gym body... I feel amazing! And I'm usually running late from taking so many pictures. But I know it's vital to capture that feeling😌
Sexiness has nothing to do with clothes. I dance around my house while getting ready for a date, using my feel good music playlist. Some Latin, pop, Beyonce, Xtina, Jessie J, etc. Being in tune and proud of my body comes out in the date. Great results 😁
Loved this video Matt, just resonated so much to me. As I wobble myself with my own self esteem and it's so refreshing to hear your uplifting words. Our own energy and zest for life speaks on so many levels and you've reminded me of this, so thank you! Take care and I look forward to your next video x
What makes me feel attractive and happy is Sunday mornings when I dress best for church, when I wear makeup, when I'm with friends, when people make me laugh, and again when I look my best. I also enjoy when people take natural pics without my knowledge and seeing myself through a different lense and angle.
Creating an I am attractive state: Here's what's made a difference for me personally- wearing Opium perfume, sexy lacey underwear and bra, clothes that hug my curves, doing my make up, hair styled, listening to music that lifts me up, maintaining a flirty light hearted attitude, RELEASING attachment to the outcome with talking to men, taking time to really listen to what men are saying, to see them as the unique man they are, maintaining my OWN identity and life but also investing time and matching energy for energy with those I am connecting with and HONESTY that I am talking with more than just that one guy. It took time to shift my mindset. I used to be closed off, distrustful and clingy and needy. Now I am open, as you so beautifully said eyes up, heart open. What a game changer and I hold my value. Guys are blown away that I won't compromise my values and respect me even more. After being in a toxic relationship for a decade, it's been an adjustment with all the attention. Now I openly welcome it and don't get all starry eyed and overly invested with compliments. I graciously accept them and share from my joy. I share my grey moments too, but I focus more on the positive and growth. As always, you are a delight. I learn so much from you and deeply appreciate you loving your audience and helping us love ourselves. These tips are amazing. I appreciate you. 🙏😊🙌
You gave me some nice tips. I am pregnant 8 weeks and feel very uncomfortable because i am getting bigger. Because i am always been a little curvy. But my husband says you are my wife it doesn't matter how you look like. You have life in yourself. And you are carrying something special in you. And to feel attractive i excersize to stay fit and healthy. I cook every day. And don't eat for two. And i put clothes on with color a nice jeans wear i feel good in still my own and dresses. This is how i try to stay comfortable with the changes. But last friday something strange happened. My therapist was treating my back because i am pregnant. Yes he knew. I was lying down. He was asking me some strange things. What does hurt more your tattoos or back. I said my back why. No reason he said afterwards. I thought okay whatever. And then he was asking what kind of job are doing. I said reception. Why. And i told him i had a mental break down a while ago. He continued asking how my relationship was doing i said why do you want to know that. or do you live alone. No awnser. I didnt awnser. And he didnt know i was married. So he continued with his job. And then he was teasing me. Like i was crooked. I should smile more. So he was doing a smile sign on his face. And made fun of me because of the excersizes i got was for a sissy from my trainer. But he thought i could do more then this. I was pissed at him i couldnt smile. But okay he knows what he was doing And always looking at me. with a strange look in his eyes. So i kept him on a distance. Because i didnt smile and i wanted to leave. But he asked me if i wanted to drink. I said okay why not with his other clients. So we drank and i let my guard down then i smiled but he was enjoying this. He is very young single 23 and i am 25 married and pregnant. But no idea what he wanted. But being pregnant hasn't change the look on the faces of men i see. But me i don't like the feeling of getting bigger and having a young man a therapist asking these things. Hopefully it doesn't escalate. Because my husband is very protective of me. should i be worried or have my guard up with this. please help me.
There is a line of professionalism that should not be crossed; even if you were single and trying too, which obviously you're not. If you're comfortable saying so, make it clear you are only there for therapy. If the line gets muddy, find a new therapist.
Thank you-you could not be more right. I have Systemic Lupus and R.A. in all the major joints in my body. My body has endured so much change. But I am blessed with a husband that has been right beside me every step. Believe in yourself and it will reflect for all to see.
The best thing I ever did for myself was eat what I wanted and love my fat body. I get hot guys. Because I love myself. Who cares about the ideal body!
A great message! But I don't think about which part of me is attractive or which isn't. Sometimes you can't find anything attractive about you. 😁 I don't have to look attractive, to feel attractive. I am absolutely right the way I am. We all are. So just be confident for beeing you! ❤
awesome, Matt, thank you! your advice always makes me feel like im back in the drivers seat, instead of just affected by events. That feeling makes me feel sexy and powerful in itself! And now off to the gym! Because i also feel super strong and confident when i get in a strong, sweaty workout...😉
I have a beauty routine, my nails done once a month (gel nails, short not too long), my hair coloured also once a month (that gray is sneaking up on me!!), a facial also once a month. Then I have my daily routine, shower, face scrub, taking care of my curly hair, body lotion, deodorant!!! and my perfume. Then I wear a dress to work (usually) with nice shoes, I feel pretty and sexy and I know it :D Taking care of myself, eating right, makes me feel in control and sexy :) Thanks for your videos!
Hi Mat I think it's all down to good grooming: daily shower, wash hair every day, manicured clean nails, white clean teeth, lipstick and foundation, clean well pressed clothes ...etc . Make sure you present yourself well and always a smile and laughing. x
I have this great perfume. Mostly I get commented on how good I smell - by men and women 😉 like: let me hug you so I get the opportunity to have a nosefull of this good stuff.
The things I do to generate the mindset of “I am a sexy queen” is basically the things you mentioned here. I literally pose in the mirror every day, one of my favorite features is how well my jaw line goes with my hair. I don’t dress up often cuz I have school, but I still feel great about myself regardless. Ppl sometimes try to tell me I’m vain, but I just laugh it off. It’s contradictory to tell someone who is insecure that they should be more confident, then tell a confident woman that they’re vain. Ppl just don’t make sense, but ppl of both genders have been interested in me since I changed my mindset two years ago.
I do self-care and stay healthy by eating wholesome foods. I have regular meditations and also do a lot of mental care by setting a positive mind set everyday. Exercise helps for it boosts your endorphins. It is important to love yourself and think that you are beautiful in your own way. I stay confident and I don’t allow people’s opinion of me to destroy my self worth.
I was feeling as if I were headed down the black rabbit hole, I'm divorcing, I've lost 122 lbs and the loose saggy skin that goes with the weight loss and I'm 59! Well my family and friends love me so of course they tell me that I am beautiful and loving. They also tell me that my size doesn't matter and that some man is out there waiting just for me. A friend in Ireland told me to try this dating app and with reluctance, I signed up. Within minutes there were 16 hits and more coming in, I had watched this video from Matt and I simply stated what I was looking for and stated what up what up with and what I want I won't. I accepted a date from a gentleman and he was flirting with me, kept telling me that my eyes were beautiful and he simply said that "real beauty is in the heart and eye of the beholder." I've been happy and dating with confidence.
I came across your channel and really like it. It's good to see men who boost confidence in women! I'd love to hear your opinion and what men think about make up. I find that most women wear make up simply because they think they look better with make up on. But I find it funny, that most men don't even pay attention to stuff like that.
I have learn to love myself and speak nice to me. Every morning I look in the mirror and say hi beautiful you are attractive you are loved. And when ever I pass by a mirror through out the day I repeat it to myself again. Makes me feel good and I have notice I have gotten more beautiful just by telling myself this daily.
I’ve never felt pretty or scxy or particularly confident, I’ve noticed over the last 2 year and having to wear a mask 90% of the time I found that I was able to talk to ‘good looking’ guys (these people I wouldn’t dream of talking too before the pandemic cuz I was scared they would reject me or think I’m ugly)
I'm really trying to fell the best I can, but I find it hard cause I have extra kilo's who I'm trying to fix for years .. I feel as I look - pretty in face but not handsome body. 50% good vibes, right? Or maybe less, cause face is much smaller than body. I simply can't feel completely good with fat on my body. Maybe that's my subconscious protection from men? And I have a goood reasons for that, beginning with my father.
Маша Вујановић I hear you...I want to tell you...what I see...your face ...your beautiful. I tell guys all the time I'm to fat they say stop that your not at all. I need to stop saying it and saying it to myself. I believe I too have this extra weight to protect myself starting with my father...I decided a while ago I'm going to stop thinking about all the bad that's happened and now I really enjoy life!!! and I enjoy the man friend I have!!!
diane neufeld that's great Diane, if you made it in spite of all :) how did you make it by the way? I had to go on individual psyhotherapy for years and I don't feel it changed a lot till now..
Маша Вујановић I can't see your body, but I don't need to...your face in your profile pic is absolutely stunning! You're gorgeous! I too have had serious issues stemming from my father, on to extremely toxic relationships(one after another). I was in therapy of every kind for over a decade & a half... It only continued to get progressively worse until I pulled back from men completely. I quit dating, have been celibate for over 2yrs (I'm 33, no kids, never married). What's really benefited me, is the time I've taken out for myself- to fall in love with God & myself. That is the only way I've been able to repair all my brokenness. I'm nowhere near finished, but I'm not where I started😌...just another work in progress
The underwear suggestion is exactly right. And choose colors that you feel are complimentary, not what some "color expert" tells you. I have a light caffè au lait complexion, not a trace of pink, now that my hair is silver, I find that light grey actually emphasizes my face. Rather than ageing me, it emphasizes my coloring and with a bit of bronzer, I get a healthy glow. I keep my makeup as natural as possible. I use a bit of mascara on my brows to darken them and take off years, but no bright lipstick or eyeliner, especially none on the lower lids. I'm not a raccoon.
I'm 63 years old....and I finally got my thing going.....I am fit, healthy and happy....I keep up my appearance, wear sexy underwear all the time and I finally wear what I want...and I look sexy and feel more attractive than I ever have! I'm widowed now I was happily married for 38 years...I've had lots of offers from men of every age....but I've picked a boyfriend that I enjoy being with! Men and women stop me on the street, in the store and tell me I'm beautiful! For years although I dressed well, I was very shy because I didn't want the attention of men...I had a husband....so I'm enjoying my life...have fun....smile and never ever believe you can't be older and sexy, and when you have a critical decision to make, like having to choose between wearing underwear or perfume....always choose perfume! Lol
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I tell myself. I am beautiful. I am confident. It doesn't matter what others think of me.
Amber Wimer, rock on girl!!
Yes it should be this way !!!!! I don’t want to compare myself with anybody I’m happy for what I am !! If you don’t find me sexy so that’s it !!!!
@@matboggs plzzz tell me about long distance relationships pllzz
You go girl!
If you want a man then yes it matters what potential suitors think about you
Dude, I agree with you. My wife read this book "Love and Obey" which is about female empowerment in relationship and it completely changed everything for us. Her confidence skyrocketed.
Hmmmm....interesting thanks for the suggestions....any follow ups?
So.... is it called love honor and obey? A podcast? Lol please share title annd author 🥰
absolutely right! I lost my husband beginning of this year... God taught me to love myself and know that I am His creation, more valuable than rubies! I lost 30 pounds, bought clothes that I love and look good in, and boy did I start getting attention... then my husband came back to me! instead of being co-dependent on him to define my worth, I know how worthy I am now with or without him, and we are doing fantastic!
Cricket Law 111
Great!
I thought he died as you wrote it lol
@@annamp3645 me too lol
anna mp Same here lol
I wear my headphones go into my world and will literally dance down the street while I'm going on my walks. I can't tell you the amount of men who've approached me or started dancing as well. I find that women will give me compliments and or nod their head with approval while smiling. I love going on walks while listening to the sound track of my life. ❤❤❤!!!
There are no women looking bad at you? If I would do that they'll hate me. A lot of women look and act bad at me. PD: Men too, what more in a incel way.
Smelling shower fresh and matching underwear are a perfect boost to self esteem!😆
I think wearing a nice, not too over powering perfume makes all the difference in the world! When I come across someone that smells good, male or female I tell them. They smile and I smile-you know that's a confidence booster! That's why I always try to wear a nice perfume no matter what I'm wearing:)
Mathew Boggs I realize that Men are falling in love with the personality of the MOE anime girl. Women should start watching anime so they can study on the personalities of the MOE anime girl. Men are emotionally sexually attracted to the MOE anime girl and women stopped using that emotional sexual attraction strategy after feminism took over their lives. women should start using that old fashion strategy to get a man.
Women should watch Watch this anime from this link. kissanime.to/Anime/Love-Live-School-Idol-Project-Dub dress like them and act like them and they will flawlessly get a man to love them. Today's men are falling in love with the anime girl and not falling in love with real women. Just look up the work (Waifu). Women should be aware of this.
Monica R. I agree. my man wears collonge it drives me wild. It bothers me sometimes how good he smells cause other females smell him and I know it turns me on so. lol. It always makes me feel sexy when I'm wearing my French perfume.
Monica R girl yes! It should be illegal to stink. But smelling delicious makes you feel that way. Sexy underwear and smelling fabulous will make you feel so much more confident.
Great advice! I need to try this. Thanks ❤
Wear a floral scent, it will boost up your feminine energy and make men find you more attractive ☺️
You are SO right on! I've told my boyfriend many times that he should find someone else because of my weight. (I've lost quite a bit so far). He told me that he loves me just as I am. What a sweetheart. So confidence is a big deal. Thank you so much!
Sylvia Metos what a keeper he is❤️
Absolutely.. hold onto him
You are a hundred percent right!!
It happened with me actually. But now i feel wonderful about my self. People would never see u attractive if you don't see ur self attractive!! Love you Matt xoxo
Ghadir Shahin AMEN! #preach
I don't think that's true, because I don't feel attractive, but I get told I am very attractive all the time. I can't see it, but apparently everyone else can .
oh my god this might be the most accurate deduction I've ever heard. whenever I compliment myself I got compliments on my beauty. it felt amazing to hear that from someone else
it's all inside of us. Meditation about self love and self worthiness increased my attraction and I suddenly got more dates than ever with high quality men. NOW I can choose 😉
Thanks so much Mathew, I have learned so much from you ...and I am 56 years old, needed so long to get it, but now I am the happiest person ever ;-)
I've been complementing myself instead of hating myself for quite sometime now and I tell you it's been wonderful because I feel so much comfortable with myself and how I carry myself now has completely changed. I feel so much happier now with myself. Wearing dresses and pencils skirts and wearing this red lipstick i own makes me feel very attractive.
I hang out with God who loves and esteems me. That’s how I’ve realized I was beautiful - he made my outside and insides match then opened my eyes. He’s the best!
I love this so much
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like the law of atraction. thoughts become reality.
That is what Travis Alexander thought before Jodi Arias MURDERED him.
Everyday I wake up go to washroom, see myself in the mirror and say to myself "I love you no matter what" and that makes me smile. I learnt to love myself fully and truly before looking for someone else cause it all starts within.
thank you Matt,I got a new hairstyle when I turned 46,which boosted my confidence ,made me feel and look sexier,and when I'm having a bad day,I look in the mirror and see this 46 yr old mom of 4 sons rockin it
Sherrita hi I'm 58 and it gets even better!😀
Lol,looking forward to it,not rushing mind you,I welcome it,you're beautiful
Aww thank u for your kind words! YOU are beautiful! Nope. No rush!😀
Welcome and thank you
My favorite thing I do for myself is wear perfume every day and it's just so wonderful when someone says you smell good - especially when I'm feeling stressed - I make it a point to comment on others perfume or cologne simply because I know how it makes me feel!
Single ladies, write a love letter to yourself every day. I do this daily. My self esteem has been building in a matter of months.
Thank you so much for the advice. It's been over 10 years for me and I am lost when it comes to dating
What a great idea! I’ll start doing that
I love this!
I am Native American (Cherokee) and I am a curvy woman. I have big boobs and a curvy butt and I embrace my hour glass figure. What makes me feel confident is wearing good smelling perfume and getting my hair done. I also love to smile and when I walk I own my sexiness and confidence by knowing that I look and feel great! ☺😊👍❤💋
Tamara Brown. Hay. us Native Americans are naturally beautiful anyway. Beauty comes from inside and shines outward no matter our size, shape color heritage 😏
Tamara Brown bwhahahahahahahahahhahahahahahahahhah lucky you ..hour glass huh? you must not be full blooded, I'm almost full blooded and me and all my relatives have big boobs, exciting personalities, we can laugh and laugh. We're also Warrior Women, strong Iron Hearted but our butts and bodies are Apple Shaped. So, its not the Native in you that gives you that butt...just saying. No disrespect.
A Latin man that think the Womens does everyrhjg
Brazilian, Latina and curvy myself! lol
Tamara Brown same!! You can feel people watching when you walk across a room or even a parking lot lol you gotta know how to work it!! I feel u!
watching myself dance naked infront of the mirror before taking a shower makes me feel the most attractive
Nice. Wish I had that confidence
i put on my eye makeup whenever i go out and i feel way more confident about myself : )
I love eye makeup
I feel attractive when I wear my favorite color which is red😍❤️
RED LIPSTICK !! :D :D major confidence boost right there
Sara Najjar ikamuui$×*$.!
Me too! PS men LOVE women in red. Its very seductive and radiant
Im 48 and I've always been a very curvy girl. I was the kind of woman who lacked self confidence particularly in the bedroom with a man. I'd have all the lights off and covers on and barely moved. When I hit my 40s and still being a plus size lady I'd realised I'd had enough of trying to cover it up, I was exhausted. So I worked hard to change my mindset and the moment I did I became so confident. I smiled more than ever, I learned to choose clothes that made me feel sexy. I got up on the dance floor more and went on more dates. Im online dating for the most part. Now the first thing men say to me is that "your smile is gorgeous, your eyes are sexy and so are you". I've been told by both men and women that I radiate a happy, vibrant sexy energy! It took a few decades, but changing my mindset, which was damn hard, made all the difference and the more I received compliments I knew it had to be true.
Somewhat experiencing right now changing the mindset
what if I'm kind of a tomboy and don't dress in overly feminine clothes? I don't wear makeup or 'get my nails' done. But I do have long hair and I think i'm sexy!
not all men are ncessarily attracted to traditional feminine style. besides as Matt says it is your vibration which really matters. the authenticity and really owning yourself with every bit of your body and your soul. Love
:)
Swankster listen to my advice I know the secret on attracting a man.
1. Men love the personality of the MOE anime girl
2. Start watching anime so you can study on the personalities of the MOE anime girl
3. Men are emotionally sexually attracted to the MOE anime girl and that emotion gets men to being physically sexually attracted to them.
4. Today's women don't use emotional sexual attraction anymore like they did before feminism and women should start using that old fashion strategy to get a man.
5. Watch this anime from this link. kissanime.to/Anime/Love-Live-School-Idol-Project-Dub dress like them and act like them and you will flawlessly get a man to love you.
I'm like you, I prefer sports than look...but it's who I'm...and I'm happy in my own skin...I have no choice anyway...
If thats what makes you feel sexy, rock on! I bet he was meaning you to. Wear what makes you feel amazing. But do it for yourself. Then, you can be truly happy. But only once your happy about yourself.
Swankster you don’t have to dress really girly to feel and look attractive 🙂 whatever you feel great in is what works👍🏻
Mathew, I know your manly talking to the singles, but I'm a married women with lower self esteem. This was helpful to me too. If I feel better me and my spouse will be able to have a more fulfilling relationship. Thank You
Every morning when I'm just waking up, I keep my eyes closed and stay connected to my subconscious by staying in alpha wave, and telling myself affirmations not out loud, but in my mind. Each affirmation statement starts with "I am." I do this for 20 minutes every morning. Another way of improving myself is listening to positive videos like Mathew Boggs on a daily. I need a constant reminder of positive energy to keep my vibration high.
This makes a lot of sense. Ever since I had to "retire" this month, my mindset has been that "I am old". That spills over into every aspect of my life. My weight, my age, my hair, my lack of energy, etc.
Yesterday I decided that 2 weeks of this "old thing" was enough. I went for a walk. I bought myself a new lovely purple sweatshirt for the Fall which felt so comfortable 💜. I thanked God for all of his wonderful provisions in these times of uncertainty. Some tell me that 61 is not old, but I know my youth has slipped past me and that is what most men want EVEN the older ones. I am not interested in someone older than me. So my focus is to be happy in my circumstances and be at peace with who I am. I have learned that my validation does not come from a man.
Yesssss Mat, what comes from WITHIN!!!! This is what our society Needs to hear!!! And I love that you commented on "societal standards", this keeps people from being comfortable with/expressing their TRUE self. Keep preaching! You do a great job
how to tell if a guy is flirting with you, or he's just being nice to everyone?
If you flirt back and he likes it he will continue. If you are mistaken he will stop and turn away from you.
@lavidavi I haven't gotten my answer and I am not asking.
I went on a date this week and wore a dress that I wasn't sure in and it totally wreaked my confidence. If u are uncomfortable it shows
I feel attractive when I feel like I'm personally growing, if I succeed in something I had wished for and when I feel like I had taken enough care of myself
I believe what you say, how you feel about yourself reflects. I used to suffer really bad with Exzema, and as a teen I used to get it on my face. I wanted to walk with a bag over my head. Now as an adult it's so much better, I feel better about myself. I learned to accept myself as I am. I love taking my time styling my hair and putting makeup, this is first for my own pleasure.
This is 4 years late, but this is exactly what I need to hear right now, and I feel so much better about myself already :) You don't know how much it means to me. Thank you, Matt.
Matt thank you thank you thank you!! I SO needed to hear this... I've gained weight & although in process of releasing, I found myself looking in the mirror lately & feeling so down on myself... I am FINALLY coming to a place where I believe I'm worth being & looking my best & listening to you is a big help in transitioning! So glad I found you... not even sure how I did but now you're one of my fav podcasts!! You have so much good insight & understanding of relationships!! You are definitely doing what you were put here to do... 👍
I like your sweater. The color really works on you.
If we're speaking of tricks to perform on the exterior, go and get your "colors" done, meaning find what color palettes work best for your skin tone, eye and hair color. You'll find that, when you are wearing colors that work for you, not against you, your confidence naturally shines. This even goes down to the accessories you choose to wear.
If we speaking of tricks to perform on the inside, know who you are, what you are worth, your value as a person and what you bring to each and every interaction you encounter, what you want and even don't want out of damn near everything, and that Knowing (yes, with a capital K) is priceless in owning your internal beauty.
That's my Cliff Notes version of my input. ;) Thanks for the vid, Mathew.
how do you find out your color palette?
Desiree Torres * Look into the book "Color Me Beautiful" ~ It's an old book but so worth it to bring out the best in you when you choose clothing color, 👗 shoes, 👠 accessories, 👛 etc. 😊 I suggest keeping your birth hair color though instead of coloring it, to come out natural as the way God created you! 👍 And no perfume as I disagree with Matt on this one on his vid,, just be sure to shower, lol, your natural smell MUST come through and you will catch "the right" guy that way. 😆 Trust me. I've been married almost 3 decades and sometimes men still try to hover around me that I avoid them purposely now. Lol 😂
I feel me as very sexy and attractive by wearing the sweetiest smile whenever I see myself in the mirror.I feel beautiful inside and out even without any daring clothes on or make up and thats what my bf loves so much me cuz I never down myself and my essence as a woman..thanks Matt..
Answering your question what I do to feel attractive: I remember all the councils, readings and videos that I watched, put my mind to work, straighten my posture like a ballerina about to enter a stage, and I say to myself " Girl, you're great, and you're the best thing that can happen in someone's life " Thank you por your post
I love this! I've been slacking on tapping into my feminine energy lately and I've just been feeling low but you've just inspired me to go and take care of myself and do some shopping lol I feel my best when I exercise, shave, paint my nails, have on a cute dress Etc :) needed to watch this thankyou!
I really like the comment about the sexy underwear. I never thought to do that. I am 62 and I do look at myself and say not bad for 62. I still have not found mr. right. Just a lot of mr wrong's. Thanks.
Rhinestone chick never give up hope love!
Och, I hope you find him! I'm writing this from Ireland so I'll wish ya the luck o' the Irish :) Never give up!!
I don't ever intend on giving up. I am an eternal optimist. Thanks so much
G G
She's a woman, not a chick! Guys say chick and it is disrespectful. She's a grown woman, She's 62!
Seriously...getting plenty of sleep helps me feel attractive. Thanks for the good vibes!
Western Starland me too
when i change my state of mind i feel attractive, slow and sexier!
I have a concoction of Bath and Body Works Aromatherapy Wash and Lotion, Body Spray and a Baby Powder Oil. Makes me smell AMAZING! Drives the guys CRAZY!
T.Monet Chambers can I get the recipe please 😉
No. That's mine for my chemistry. You have to find your own Love.
T.Monet Chambers haha I was just joking Hun.. Merry Christmas x
Same to you!
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I do...1) Always remind myself I'm beautiful 2) take care of myself a lot....and much more !! I just love me everyday!!
I used to feel attractive before getting married, I'm pretty nothing changed and I know I'm pretty but I feel like I'm wasting my time and getting older, I just want to feel valued again
I love this. It's when I'm wearing an outfit I love, the jewelry is happening with it, the makeup is perfect, then I know I look amazing. I can walk into a room with a strut, & men's heads turn.
Great advice! What helps me feel attractive is my confidence. I work out and eat well something I didn’t do before and I look at myself and I compliment myself, I am getting a lot of more attention now and I am more selective on who I give my time to, I am worthy and I am valuable. Thanks for your videos.
I've always eaten well and love to cook but I had stopped working out quite some time ago. In late 2020, I spent 3 mos in Sicily and walked everywhere in a hilly city. I hadn't walked that much in years. I now live in Haifa, Israel and it is extremely hilly. I am having a bit of trouble coming up the hill to my house so I'll ride the bus one stop but I still have to walk about 350 meters and sometimes when I go out to the bank or whatever, I will walk a kilometer or more to get there. That's my exercise and it works. At 75 I'm not quite as fast as I was but I still stand up straight and have the walk of a much younger woman.
I practise smiling in front of the mirror or anywhere I see my reflection. when you smile at yourself, the world would wanna smile with you.
Having my nails done and doing my hair makes me feel sexy. However, I sometimes think I ruin this vibe of feeling attractive. I don't know if that's good or bad. Let me explain: I might catch men looking at my legs when I am wearing a skirt but in some cases I feel awkward cause he is not the kind of man I want attention from. If I feel safe with the man then I might even... blush. I guess that's ok?
Thank you Matt! I've been feeling very unattractive as three natural again process is making itself shown each time I'm near a mirror, THIS (along with LOTS that I've been hearing from senior model Cindy Joseph) is REALLY beginning to help me wear & adore my wrinkles, age spots, ect as badges of honor 🎖 from the experiences that I've been through with my life! Although I'm NOT a "petty girl" as I used to be, I'm becoming MORE & MORE GREATFUL for the "BEAUTIFUL WOMAN" that I am "becoming MORE OF" EACH & EVERY DAY!!
YOU ROCK🎸, MATT!!
(I can't thank you ENOUGH for the loving, gentle, effective, & kind advice that you research and give!!)
it's all completely on point .. i was that girl that was 60 pounds over weight n lost 20 n was working it , u r right , this is very very helpful.. ur way just speaks to me perfectly .. ty
i m sexy n i know
MUSIC ! One Word - an amazing feeling. Listening to good upbeat music - for me it’s for example Madonna, hung up - and I just feel awesome and my self-esteem goes right up the ceiling
Don't know if my man of 50 years is like the others, but I could forget sexy panties or perfume or makeup. What drove him nuts was the sight of a woman in a frilly, feminine apron pulling a pan of homemade lasagna out of the oven. The woman plus the idea of being cooked for and fed was a turn on like no other.
Jemase hell fucking yea feed me in this bitch lmmfao 👌
+Jo Anderson
That was . . .
Strange, Silly, Unnecessary and EXTREMELY UNINTELLIGENT!
Jemase Wait a man of 50 yrs? Why come on here?:)
A good reminder because I haven't always felt that way and in some ways dont always feel that way because my hubby says he doesn't feel attracted to me. That hurts!! We are working on our marriage and ourselves...so to help restore his attraction I will remember the spirit I had in the first place and bring it back more vibrantly.
Positivy and self confidence on how you look shines through.
Omg… you are so on point. Someone who was younger than me once told me that I was extremely attractive, beautiful and have something that even significant younger woman don’t have. At that time I was 47 I’m going to be 49 this month and someone else who is 20 yrs younger than me told me the same thing not too long ago. I noticed that when I dress up and do my hair and make up I feel good and confident about my self makes me feel sexy and guys do pick up on that! I walk around very confident and feeling very sexy ☺️
thank you so much Matt Boggs... I really needed to hear that, I've been feeling like I'm not worthy of love I look great but inside I'm fighting a very big battle of loneliness someone told me I was"hard to love"... now I just want to die..ive convinced myself that maybe their right.. But your video give me hope...❤
Dorthy Montes You are beautiful, and very worthy of love. You will meet the perfect guy at the right moment, forget the haters. You know who else loves you unconditionally? God. Don't lose hope honey.
Brew Werb thank you ❤
Mathew Boggs thank you ive watched every video and want to sign up for your seminar with my next paycheck. i definately will take your advice..thank you again my friend.. and im feeling real sexy today 😙
Dorthy Montes. You are worthy of love. You have to love yourself first but finding. someone who will like and love you as you are is key. Someone is takes the good and bad and doesn't try to change you but encourages you makes the best of you come out. Please don't ever feel or think your not worthy of love maybe certain men are not worthy of being with you meaning they don't deserve you. Girl put yourself on a pedal stole meaning think of yourself as a queen and don't except anyone who can't respect and appreciate you or can't treat you like a queen deserves to be treated.
My scent makes me feel sexy/attractive. On I side note, a long time ago, my aunt gave me some lingerie she got for her wedding that she never wore. i was amazed how different about myself it made me feel. I wore those articles out, and I hadn't had anything like it in a long time. I just bought two new pieces for myself, and just having something sexy has made me more attractive! I guy approached me who I never would have imagined would look my way, and another started flirting. Who knew!
Wow this explains everything! 😁
A lot of guys hook on me, tease me, gasp at me and flirt and I never really knew why becouse I was (and still am) not yet interested in relationship but I was kind and polite to them, I love myself no matter what and I just think I'm awsome (I don't even know why, it just feels good to be alive being yourself ☺)
But I have best friend
In my opinion she's prettier than me, she got little curves (but curves are sexy am I right?😏) and way prettier face, longer, more shiny hair and.. but she hates herself, I still try to work it out with her but she might have depression and the entire time I know her, she say no one ever flirted with her
I didn't really get that becouse she's kind and beautifull.. but she's also shy so she don't hook on anyone as well, even if she had a crush she'd just put herself down..
So yeah here is my experience and life example, just everyone waching this - love youself gor who you are becouse you don't have to have a reason!
Great video btw! 😊
I've been feeling a lot better about myself lately (started losing a lot of weight) and feeling really sexy, even without the whole weight loss thing. The sexiest and happiest I've ever felt. My husband pulled me aside not long ago and told me that I had recently been the sexiest I've been the entire 16 years we've been together. Did I mention that I was nearly 60 pounds lighter when we first met? :)
Feel it and you look it. Period.
That's the fact. Even when I was bigger I was always feeling good about myself and sexy no matter what I worn. Sexy is definitely in you not what you wear
Doing my hair, face, putting on my smell goods and wearing heels. Then I walk the walk with a big ol' smile greeting everyone I see. It's that "I know I'm cute" attitude! 😊
When I have it all together; makeup, hair, new dress, heels, perfume and the gym body... I feel amazing! And I'm usually running late from taking so many pictures. But I know it's vital to capture that feeling😌
Love this!!! Thank you for the reminder to actually say to myself: “at 68...Mary you look awesome!!!! And you deserve another soulmate!”
Hello Mary. How are you doing?
Sexiness has nothing to do with clothes. I dance around my house while getting ready for a date, using my feel good music playlist. Some Latin, pop, Beyonce, Xtina, Jessie J, etc. Being in tune and proud of my body comes out in the date. Great results 😁
Hello Jennifer. How are you doing?
Loved this video Matt, just resonated so much to me. As I wobble myself with my own self esteem and it's so refreshing to hear your uplifting words. Our own energy and zest for life speaks on so many levels and you've reminded me of this, so thank you! Take care and I look forward to your next video x
What makes me feel attractive and happy is Sunday mornings when I dress best for church, when I wear makeup, when I'm with friends, when people make me laugh, and again when I look my best. I also enjoy when people take natural pics without my knowledge and seeing myself through a different lense and angle.
This was a drink of water to my soul. Refreshing! :)
Ana Rebecca same
Creating an I am attractive state: Here's what's made a difference for me personally- wearing Opium perfume, sexy lacey underwear and bra, clothes that hug my curves, doing my make up, hair styled, listening to music that lifts me up, maintaining a flirty light hearted attitude, RELEASING attachment to the outcome with talking to men, taking time to really listen to what men are saying, to see them as the unique man they are, maintaining my OWN identity and life but also investing time and matching energy for energy with those I am connecting with and HONESTY that I am talking with more than just that one guy. It took time to shift my mindset. I used to be closed off, distrustful and clingy and needy. Now I am open, as you so beautifully said eyes up, heart open. What a game changer and I hold my value. Guys are blown away that I won't compromise my values and respect me even more. After being in a toxic relationship for a decade, it's been an adjustment with all the attention. Now I openly welcome it and don't get all starry eyed and overly invested with compliments. I graciously accept them and share from my joy. I share my grey moments too, but I focus more on the positive and growth. As always, you are a delight. I learn so much from you and deeply appreciate you loving your audience and helping us love ourselves. These tips are amazing. I appreciate you. 🙏😊🙌
You gave me some nice tips. I am pregnant 8 weeks and feel very uncomfortable because i am getting bigger. Because i am always been a little curvy. But my husband says you are my wife it doesn't matter how you look like. You have life in yourself. And you are carrying something special in you. And to feel attractive i excersize to stay fit and healthy. I cook every day. And don't eat for two. And i put clothes on with color a nice jeans wear i feel good in still my own and dresses. This is how i try to stay comfortable with the changes. But last friday something strange happened. My therapist was treating my back because i am pregnant. Yes he knew. I was lying down. He was asking me some strange things. What does hurt more your tattoos or back. I said my back why. No reason he said afterwards. I thought okay whatever. And then he was asking what kind of job are doing. I said reception. Why. And i told him i had a mental break down a while ago. He continued asking how my relationship was doing i said why do you want to know that. or do you live alone. No awnser. I didnt awnser. And he didnt know i was married. So he continued with his job. And then he was teasing me. Like i was crooked. I should smile more. So he was doing a smile sign on his face. And made fun of me because of the excersizes i got was for a sissy from my trainer. But he thought i could do more then this. I was pissed at him i couldnt smile. But okay he knows what he was doing And always looking at me. with a strange look in his eyes. So i kept him on a distance. Because i didnt smile and i wanted to leave. But he asked me if i wanted to drink. I said okay why not with his other clients. So we drank and i let my guard down then i smiled but he was enjoying this. He is very young single 23 and i am 25 married and pregnant. But no idea what he wanted. But being pregnant hasn't change the look on the faces of men i see. But me i don't like the feeling of getting bigger and having a young man a therapist asking these things. Hopefully it doesn't escalate. Because my husband is very protective of me. should i be worried or have my guard up with this. please help me.
There is a line of professionalism that should not be crossed; even if you were single and trying too, which obviously you're not. If you're comfortable saying so, make it clear you are only there for therapy. If the line gets muddy, find a new therapist.
Thanks for the tips. I will watch every step and don't let it happen again soon
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I look into my eyes in the mirror and tell myself “Your are beautiful and everyone around you sees it too”
Feeling good about myself is the magic ingredient for me : )
Listening to my music, taking a bath, doing my nails, wearing lipstick, wearing heels and wedges, wearing skirts, bringing ou my curls. 💗
Got a beautiful wave of positive energy from this -- thank you so much, self-love is the best love EVERYTHING else is secondary!
"It's not out there, it's in here" -- LOVE!!! Thank you!
Great advice. I get my hair, and nails done. Play up my best asset, which is my butt, and I look at it often, and its real!
Thank you-you could not be more right. I have Systemic Lupus and R.A. in all the major joints in my body. My body has endured so much change. But I am blessed with a husband that has been right beside me every step. Believe in yourself and it will reflect for all to see.
The best thing I ever did for myself was eat what I wanted and love my fat body. I get hot guys. Because I love myself. Who cares about the ideal body!
A great message!
But I don't think about which part of me is attractive or which isn't. Sometimes you can't find anything attractive about you. 😁 I don't have to look attractive, to feel attractive. I am absolutely right the way I am. We all are. So just be confident for beeing you! ❤
awesome, Matt, thank you! your advice always makes me feel like im back in the drivers seat, instead of just affected by events. That feeling makes me feel sexy and powerful in itself! And now off to the gym! Because i also feel super strong and confident when i get in a strong, sweaty workout...😉
I have a beauty routine, my nails done once a month (gel nails, short not too long), my hair coloured also once a month (that gray is sneaking up on me!!), a facial also once a month. Then I have my daily routine, shower, face scrub, taking care of my curly hair, body lotion, deodorant!!! and my perfume. Then I wear a dress to work (usually) with nice shoes, I feel pretty and sexy and I know it :D Taking care of myself, eating right, makes me feel in control and sexy :) Thanks for your videos!
Matt.. would love to see the end of the year bloopers!!
Hes so funny. He gets me laughing at things he says. Hes a natural comedien
Gosh, this is true for any relationship! Even friendships...we are attracted to the friends we vibe with the most.
Very good advise. I have the same issues as your client, will try this approach and see what happens.
Hi Mat I think it's all down to good grooming: daily shower, wash hair every day, manicured clean nails, white clean teeth, lipstick and foundation, clean well pressed clothes ...etc . Make sure you present yourself well and always a smile and laughing. x
I have this great perfume. Mostly I get commented on how good I smell - by men and women 😉 like: let me hug you so I get the opportunity to have a nosefull of this good stuff.
lyricalroses hi, sure. It is called Valentino Donna. Try it. Real sexy smell. 😉
The things I do to generate the mindset of “I am a sexy queen” is basically the things you mentioned here. I literally pose in the mirror every day, one of my favorite features is how well my jaw line goes with my hair. I don’t dress up often cuz I have school, but I still feel great about myself regardless. Ppl sometimes try to tell me I’m vain, but I just laugh it off. It’s contradictory to tell someone who is insecure that they should be more confident, then tell a confident woman that they’re vain. Ppl just don’t make sense, but ppl of both genders have been interested in me since I changed my mindset two years ago.
You are absolutely adorable. I enjoy your positive vibes. Thanks for this.
I do self-care and stay healthy by eating wholesome foods. I have regular meditations and also do a lot of mental care by setting a positive mind set everyday. Exercise helps for it boosts your endorphins. It is important to love yourself and think that you are beautiful in your own way. I stay confident and I don’t allow people’s opinion of me to destroy my self worth.
Such lovely words. Grand words to keep in mind when, sometimes you meet a "rainy day" ;-)
thank you.
I was feeling as if I were headed down the black rabbit hole, I'm divorcing, I've lost 122 lbs and the loose saggy skin that goes with the weight loss and I'm 59! Well my family and friends love me so of course they tell me that I am beautiful and loving. They also tell me that my size doesn't matter and that some man is out there waiting just for me.
A friend in Ireland told me to try this dating app and with reluctance, I signed up. Within minutes there were 16 hits and more coming in, I had watched this video from Matt and I simply stated what I was looking for and stated what up what up with and what I want I won't. I accepted a date from a gentleman and he was flirting with me, kept telling me that my eyes were beautiful and he simply said that "real beauty is in the heart and eye of the beholder." I've been happy and dating with confidence.
I came across your channel and really like it. It's good to see men who boost confidence in women! I'd love to hear your opinion and what men think about make up. I find that most women wear make up simply because they think they look better with make up on. But I find it funny, that most men don't even pay attention to stuff like that.
I have learn to love myself and speak nice to me. Every morning I look in the mirror and say hi beautiful you are attractive you are loved. And when ever I pass by a mirror through out the day I repeat it to myself again. Makes me feel good and I have notice I have gotten more beautiful just by telling myself this daily.
you are so wise and wonderful, thank you for making my day better :)
I’ve never felt pretty or scxy or particularly confident, I’ve noticed over the last 2 year and having to wear a mask 90% of the time I found that I was able to talk to ‘good looking’ guys (these people I wouldn’t dream of talking too before the pandemic cuz I was scared they would reject me or think I’m ugly)
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I'm really trying to fell the best I can, but I find it hard cause I have extra kilo's who I'm trying to fix for years .. I feel as I look - pretty in face but not handsome body. 50% good vibes, right? Or maybe less, cause face is much smaller than body. I simply can't feel completely good with fat on my body. Maybe that's my subconscious protection from men? And I have a goood reasons for that, beginning with my father.
Маша Вујановић I hear you...I want to tell you...what I see...your face ...your beautiful. I tell guys all the time I'm to fat they say stop that your not at all. I need to stop saying it and saying it to myself. I believe I too have this extra weight to protect myself starting with my father...I decided a while ago I'm going to stop thinking about all the bad that's happened and now I really enjoy life!!! and I enjoy the man friend I have!!!
diane neufeld that's great Diane, if you made it in spite of all :) how did you make it by the way? I had to go on individual psyhotherapy for years and I don't feel it changed a lot till now..
Маша Вујановић I can't see your body, but I don't need to...your face in your profile pic is absolutely stunning! You're gorgeous! I too have had serious issues stemming from my father, on to extremely toxic relationships(one after another). I was in therapy of every kind for over a decade & a half... It only continued to get progressively worse until I pulled back from men completely. I quit dating, have been celibate for over 2yrs (I'm 33, no kids, never married). What's really benefited me, is the time I've taken out for myself- to fall in love with God & myself. That is the only way I've been able to repair all my brokenness. I'm nowhere near finished, but I'm not where I started😌...just another work in progress
thank you Kelsey :) I'm 43, 3 kids, divorced. Thanks God I have kids! Something good from men finally ;) I agree, God is the only real support.
Маша Вујановић
The underwear suggestion is exactly right. And choose colors that you feel are complimentary, not what some "color expert" tells you. I have a light caffè au lait complexion, not a trace of pink, now that my hair is silver, I find that light grey actually emphasizes my face. Rather than ageing me, it emphasizes my coloring and with a bit of bronzer, I get a healthy glow. I keep my makeup as natural as possible. I use a bit of mascara on my brows to darken them and take off years, but no bright lipstick or eyeliner, especially none on the lower lids. I'm not a raccoon.
Do you have advice for 50 plus dating?
I'm 63 years old....and I finally got my thing going.....I am fit, healthy and happy....I keep up my appearance, wear sexy underwear all the time and I finally wear what I want...and I look sexy and feel more attractive than I ever have! I'm widowed now I was happily married for 38 years...I've had lots of offers from men of every age....but I've picked a boyfriend that I enjoy being with! Men and women stop me on the street, in the store and tell me I'm beautiful! For years although I dressed well, I was very shy because I didn't want the attention of men...I had a husband....so I'm enjoying my life...have fun....smile and never ever believe you can't be older and sexy, and when you have a critical decision to make, like having to choose between wearing underwear or perfume....always choose perfume! Lol
Great stuff! Sexiness always comes from within!