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Thank you so much for your videos, I'm happy that I'm subscribed to your channel. One thing I notice first about a man is the look in his eyes. Even if he's not looking at me. You can tell if he's arrogant or a cheerful person or a listener. Also a nice smile confirms it. If he never smiles, that is very repelling to me.
What I notice about men first (I'm in my early 60s) 1 - Confidence without arrogance. 2 - Kind eyes and kindness to others (the waitress, etc.). 3 - Humor that isn't centered around criticism of others. 4 - Love of animals and nature. 5 - Affection and validation. 6 - The desire to communicate well with active listening. 7 - A genuine and frequent smile. Addendum - without honesty, none of these other things matter.
I'm in my 80's and I love any man who smiles and is polite to me. Small talk is so nice, too. It all means "I see you; you exist in my world" and that is so appreciated!
My attraction to a man is his eyes, his voice, his expressions, his smell, his sense of humor, his appearance, The way he treats people, his conversations.
Honesty is #1 in my opinion. Kindness, gentleness, compassion, love of life, eyes that draw me in, romantic, handsome in my opinion, loves children, family & dogs. My man is all of these things and more! I am VERY BLESSED!!!!!
When we met we were both in a time of life where we were both happy single and not looking for a date. Relaxed not on the hunt. We are together nearly 31 years, married 28 years to my soulmate
Just as men like a woman who is confident, healthy, kind, women also like those qualities. I like a man who looks and feels masculine in the way they move and look physically. To have physical skills including intelligence. To have physical strength A healthy man, well maintained, clean and groomed. Not overweight, yet without being obsessive about building muscles and too preoccupied with their physical appearance. A man who is not just in their head, but capable of feeling. Able to open up when needed. To feel empathy, insightful, sufficiently sensitive and capable of love. Have done the work of personal growth to have sufficient self understanding and capable of being responsible for their reactions. A man who is reliable and trustworthy is a treasure.
8 things a man notices first about a woman and finds very attractive. #1. Confidence. Freedom being who you are. #2. Genuine smile and laughter. Openess to life. #3. Feminine movements. Sway of hip, brushing hair back. #4. Presence and kindness towards others. Giving compliments. #5. Health. Taking care of yourself. #6. Smell. Your scent, perfume. #7. Makeup and nails. Do for you. Natural. Not too much. #8. Authenticity. What I find highly attractive is the man's smile. His eyes as well as they tell stories. His kindness and acting like and being a gentleman.
In order for a woman to apply number 1 through 8 might needs a few contenders. I’m disappointed with this post. Im in the industrie of self care for both women and men. Happy life, happy wife starts with the men’s ability and strength to understand the opposite gender. No matter what perfume you wear there will always be a better perfume, a newer perfume and a wider brighter smile. Authenticity and self-care will attract your proper partner. Men also fake it until they make it and it might not be with you.Staying true to yourselves is key. Nobody needs surprises after a few months of dating:)
Yeah, it’s similar: 1) well- groomed 2) confidence w/ humility ( big turn-on) 3)direct eye gaze- no shiftiness; expresses honesty4)gentleman manners 5)active in life- seeks out fun as well as responsibility 6) sensitive to/ concerned about disadvantaged
Men that are friendly and easy to talk to. That keep their appearance neat and clean. And come across as confident and happy. They look at me with attraction for me in their eyes. I love when a man makes me feel beautiful with his eyes. My confidence soars then :)
The ability of speaking his language WITHOUT MAKING GRAMMATICAL MISTAKES, great sense of humour, confidence, politeness, great smell and clearness, sense of style, very knowledgeable, GREAT KISSER AND LOVER!
I notice how a man carries himself, his smile and his eyes. I was walking across the street today and a nice looking guy was coming towards me. I looked up and he looked up and we both smiled at each other. I enjoyed that short encounter.
yes, I've always had relatively intelligent or knowledgeable partners. Knowing the man is intelligent and has a sense of humor is the bomb. I relate much better to those types of people and men.
Same. My husband is smart and funny. He's also one of the most capable people I've ever met, pretty much good at everything. He's masculine but is also kind, fairly sensitive, and enjoys helping people. He's honest and has integrity, very well thought of and respected by his colleagues---*I* respect the hell out of him. And ok, I'm not gonna lie---he's tall and handsome too. I have no idea how I got so lucky, just glad I of it---and I tell him often. Never take a good man for granted.
@@lisabadger603 , there's nothing like a good sense of humor (witty, funny people are intelligent). My husband makes me laugh every day and I can tell he *enjoys* making me laugh, which also makes me feel good.
and you have to have a similar sense of humor or at least get each other. I am over banter you need to be able to have a proper conversation with humor thrown in.
I always notice a Smile #1 - not just any old smile though, the type of smile where they smile with their eyes and you can see the light beaming from them and the cute creases in the corners then the smile radiates from their eyes and mouth and lights up their whole face 😊... it just shows a true genuineness, Kindness and happiness in my opinion.....Then if they can make you belly laugh your onto a winner! 🏅❤
What I notice the most is whether or not I feel more, or less like myself around him. Another thing I really noticed about a man once was I was entering an establishment, and he happened to be leaving. He literally tipped his hat, and nodded to me as we passed each other. That has only ever happened once to me, but is something I likely will never forget.
Yes!! That happened to me once, too, and it shocked me. He was a military man. The other thing that shocked me about it was that I was in my late 20s at the time, and he must've been in his 40s or 50s. I thought I should be the one showing him respect since he was older than me and in the military, but no, he was showing ME respect for being a woman, period.
That's class! 50ish years ago I was in a bar watching a band. I did notice a guy in a cream suit (it was around the time of Saturday Night Fever) making his way through the people on the other side of the dancefloor. Next thing he was next to me, told me I looked beautiful and ....... disappeared into the crowd. Thank you, whoever you are. Never forgotten. I live in a small rural Spanish town. Years ago, on a warm summer evening, the lovely young girls were out and about in the main street, the lads were madly revving their motorbikes to get their attention. Two young men on horses rode slowly down the street tipping their hats to the senoritas. Guess who got the attention!
And everything you said about women is the same for me, for what I find attractive in a man. I'd add someone who appears strong and to take care of his health - Im very much NOT into skinny dudes who aren't physically capable, or who do not prioritize their health. Someone who invests effort in himself and cares how he comes across in all ways - even with how he dresses - it communicates alot about his self-image and thus how he'll show up in relationship.
First impressions are extremely important. I find men attractive who are well groomed and clean, appear healthy and fit, intelligent, well rounded, listen well and are not dismissive. Men who attempt to ascertain my wealth level, or make sexual comments are a turn off. Since I am 5 ft 10 in I prefer men who are tall-- I enjoy looking up at a man, it helps me feel more like a woman.
A man that is confident in his masculinity, polite, no cursing or swearing, is fun and funny, kind and compassionate and sensitive, and he has to smell good
Their confidence, their smile & the way they treat people, their manners. Their health, their grooming, their style, whatever they wear, they own it with their masculinity. Their scent & their teeth. Their manners & being themselves. 😊❤
"Are you in fight or flight mode, or are you in freedom?" (Leading life with freedom shows confidence, according to the video.) Some women "fight" through fight or flight mode most of our lives---illnesses, traumas, work problems, family problems that keep coming once you've solved the first one. Not even in a victim way, just sort of a critical mass that becomes difficult or impossible to get through. This idea of a woman being in "freedom" being attractive because she's confident confirms what I already know-- that women with a solid foundation of love and friendship in childhood are light years ahead of us in confidence because they have less bad experiences with men. But for those of us in fight or flight mode, that's okay. We can still be confident in other ways--thinking before speaking, setting healthy boundaries, and surrounding ourselves with good people. We don't have to breeze into a room and say something charming to everyone there...we can cope with less attention if it means we get to be our authentic selves.
I definitely find a sense of humor and kindness attractive. Physically I like a man with “working hands” I’ve never found soft hands attractive on a man.
Nice, humble, good sense of humor, clean shoes, and clean face good hygiene en general and she talks to you fresh breath! Loyal I don’t believe in chances.
A man who is confident . Interested in his world and can plan events efficiently. Good vocabulary and grammar. Great witty sense of humour and smells clean. Nice to those who aren’t doing anything he can use. Good with money. Loves animals.
What I notice about men that attracts me, is making me feel valued as a person, is humble and not boastful, is compassionate, tender hearted towards others and determined to succeed at his goals in life. A man that is resourceful and thinks outside the box---good problem solving skills, and likes to be silly/goofy/happy/laughs---has a good sense of joy---confidence.
Right on once again, Mat. I’ve learned to walk in all these areas as a, “Lady of Beauty.” Plus, my life motto is,”You don’t get a second chance to make a first impression.” What I immediately notice about a man is how he ‘communicates’ his walk with God, his dress, and his scent. I observe how he does life, his relationship with family, (especially women), and is his Faith Walk legit or just, “talk.”👍
I am 56, what I notice about men is the kindness, good manners, confidence without arrogance, sens of humour, honesty, loyalty, he smells good, he doesn't smoke and he loves animals.
What make a good impression for me in someone: confident yet calm and humble; kind-hearted; open-minded and respectful of others (aka not full of himself to never admit he can be wrong); supportive of his partner; take responsibility for his life and relationship (aka not blaming others); strive to be better
First thing on a man? His face, is it kind? Smile, confident, stands up tall, does he look taken care of? Clean? Tidy face/beard, clean teeth, is he looking me in the eye or is he checking me out? Is he a gentleman? Courteous, easy to speak with, does he treat me with respect? I also look at his eyes, are they smiling, happy as well? I dont look 4 a man who is perfectly sculpted, muscular, perfect jaw, hair ect....but is he taking care of himself? Even if he has a bit of dad bod? No worry! And lastly, can he laugh? Enjoy life? ALL of these are what matter to women who are looking....😊
Height, build, eyes, and the way they carry themselves. Their posture when they move says a LOT about a person. These are things I notice from across the room.
I am in my early 60's and these are qualities that I notice first when I see a man: 1. A healthy and well maintained confident but not cocky/arrogant man. 2. A kind man, it will show through his eyes, actions, smile, conversation, and gestures. 3. Yes, a man's scent...omg!!! What woman doesn't appreciate walking down a busy city street, notice a man and their eyes connect and he gives you a smile and as he gets closer says hello. It really is just little things like that that make you notice.
I blew it with a guy who I really liked (and who seemed crazy about me) because I was feeling down and discouraged about the small town where I was living. It got harder and harder for me to smile and muster up enthusiasm and I think he assumed I wasn't interested in him (which was totally NOT true!).
I love it when a man takes the takes the time to get a haircut, shape is beard, matches his clothes somewhat, and to have an overall clean sexy appearance
This is all very nice and very positive. Like in movies. I'm 43 and this is what happens when I do these things naturally: 1. Smiling - younger men approach me, thinking I'm desperate 2. Healthy - I walk slow because I have back issues, so that's out the window 3. Confidence - is seen as "older woman being bossy. Oh she must be single and has no life"
Seems you have a very negative outlook on yourself because of your age. I’m 46, and I attract the attention of men everywhere I go. They are so friendly and outgoing with me. I don’t go with with any negative thoughts about myself or others. I consider myself to get more beautiful as I age. This is my mantra. I go gym and outdo men in terms of how much I can weightlift. Holding positive thoughts about yourself and people will allow you to live a happier life.
Height - Tall men are attractive! I like masculine men. Confidence, not arrogance is attractive, because women pretty much look for a protector, leader, provider. Those are probably the first things I notice…then smile and eyes 🥰♥️
@@MissHannah2036, I'm 5'2" and was always attracted to tall men. My husband is @ 6'2"+. His size is comforting in that "he can protect me" sort of way.
@@carolefletcher , *especially* the shortish ones. 😂 Tall is initially attractive, but height was never a deal breaker, I've dated short, average, just happened to marry tall. Also was with handsome men and not so handsome. For me, intelligence, kindness and humor were the keys to my heart. I'm short and (was---old and tired now 😂) cute, I guess, but I like to think it was my sparkling personality that attracted people! 😊
As I am tall for my age group, I definitely noticed height on a man, hair seems to be quite important to me, (my daddy had thick black hair, so perhaps that’s the reason) I look at their teeth and their ears, I look at how they’re groomed how they take care of themselves, I also watch where their eyes go when they’re speaking to me if they’re fully present and not scouring the room with their eyes that shows such a sign of respect and I alsolook for qualities like a man that would stand up when you enter the room, pull out your chair at a table, open your door. Those are extremely important and yes, I am old school and never, ever will I change.
I'm sorry but a woman does not have to be made up to be attractive. I've had some of the most staggering compliments when I wasn't wearing any make-up at all. What you are saying is that a woman has to wear some make-up in order for men to appreciate her - you are not only doing a disservice to woman, but also to men because not every man is only able to appreciate a woman or find her attractive is she is wearing make-up. Some can see a woman, and I mean really see a woman, just as she is.
Believe me, as a 70 year old woman, i dont set foot out of the house without a bit of makeup to add a touch of color. I am not a pretty sight otherwise. Young women can pull off the natural look much more successfully.
@@serahloeffelroberts9901 I love my makeup but know not everyone does or cares for it. I work fulltime so like to look and feel well-groomed among a bunch of 20 something year olds. Some pink cream blush on the cheeks and it takes 5/10 years off.
Honestly? I think that's easier for darker women with defined eyebrows, darker lips and dark lashes. I'm a natural blonde and can look quite ill without a touch of makeup - naturally pallid. That said, I hardly ever wear it!
I am cracking up that it seems like 98% of the comments to this video are 1-from women, and 2-giving their opinions on what attracts them the most to women.
I notice a man that stands out in a crowd with his true self of being confident in his own skin. His style of clothes showing his good taste in fashion that suit him. How he interacts with the people around him. His hair style.
If we're talking first first impressions, where I don't know a guy, what jumps out at me: - health (it shows up in things like skin quality, fitness, posture, energy) - grooming - class: treating people with respect regardless of their status I totally get all the other points, but I hate makeup. 😅 7/8 is still pretty good, I guess.
I like a man who’s mature, confident in his own sexuality without showing arrogance, acts of violence or sexual conquests. Intelligent broad minded men with a sense of humour are good company. Looks I prefer Mediterranean types with with dark eyes and hair
Someone once asked me if I understood the fight or flight mechanism, I thought I did, but I have since learned what it really is. Thank you for touching on this elusive trait.
A man's willingness to be his self. No pretensions. Kindness. Treats people well. Takes care of his physical self. Shares his thoughts and dreams. Is attentive and considerate.
Amazing💖I first notice about men how they are good at what they are doing... how they are confident about themselves and genuine... is f they have a genuine heart ❤️ and if they are sincere
I’m attracted to a guy who’s friendly, has a happy, positive energy, peaceful, can make me laugh and is caring, thoughtful and generous. Someone who is emotionally intelligent, ready for a relationship and has honest intentions. As far as physical attraction, I like a nice smile, nice teeth, pretty eyes, nice hair, I really love curly hair on guys but that’s hard to find. I prefer them to be taller than me because it’s better to be able to hug them and put my head on their chest. Be physically fit because I like to be active and I hope they do too. Lately, I’ve been thinking a nice maintained groomed beard is pretty hot. I used to never think facial hair was attractive but my last bf had a beard and it really was pretty nice!
What I find attractive is fidelity to his beloved, but also a kind person that can relate to other beautiful women without being dishonoring to the woman he already has a relationship with…
I fell in love at first sight big baby blue kind eyes that looked into my own. 40 years we still love deeply, laugh loudly and occasionally fight and make up even better😂😂😂 We are much older now and life has not been all roses but we have been a part of each others support.
A man who is intelligent, educated (but not arrogant), one who is active listener, caring, supportive, respectful, kind, genuine, protective, neat/clean (all over), has a healthy sense of humor, smiles... gentleman!
First my biggest turn off about men: 1) Addicted to their phones!! - 2) Always talking about their problems to me before they even say "hello" to me - 3) Playing games on me!! Now My Turn Ons: 1) COLOGNE!!!! 2) Looks into my eyes when we talk 3) Romantic 4) Tall :)
I notice a man’s hair, his lips, his clothes (wether they’re neat or not and what his style is). I notice his smell definitely and his smile and teeth! And his manly body language and when we’re together I notice how he shows his love languages.
I like a man who is personable . I like a friendly personality . I like a man who is secure in himself . He has a positive outlook and shows himself strong and protective . I really like a man who looks to God and wants to obey his word honest man that can love deeply ❤
The very first thing I noticed to a man was his neat well groom stand infront of me his height his eyes his smile ,his biceps ,and perfume plus his kind words will reflect what is inside his heart the mouth speak
Really helpful, as always. I especially am glad you talked about number one and the way you framed it. I recently went through a very stressful time and looking back, realized how the way I was handling it wasn't good for me or the people around me. I've course-corrected, and hearing about it in this context was very insightful.
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One thing I notice first about a man is the look in his eyes. Even if he's not looking at me. You can tell if he's arrogant or a cheerful person or a listener. Also a nice smile confirms it. If he never smiles, that is very repelling to me.
What I notice about men first (I'm in my early 60s) 1 - Confidence without arrogance. 2 - Kind eyes and kindness to others (the waitress, etc.). 3 - Humor that isn't centered around criticism of others. 4 - Love of animals and nature. 5 - Affection and validation. 6 - The desire to communicate well with active listening. 7 - A genuine and frequent smile. Addendum - without honesty, none of these other things matter.
Well said. I'm in my late 50's and I couldn't agree more.
I’d add respect.
I’m in my early 60 as well single and confident 😃
Thank you for this... wow, I agree 110%... you said it so well... ty ❤
I’d add in good hygiene and care of one’s health.
I'm in my 80's and I love any man who smiles and is polite to me. Small talk is so nice, too. It all means "I see you; you exist in my world" and that is so appreciated!
My attraction to a man is his eyes, his voice, his expressions, his smell, his sense of humor, his appearance, The way he treats people, his conversations.
Best thing I love about a man is him being kind ,respectful and my safety is his top priority.
That's the FIRST thing you notice really??😂
I totally agree
your safety should be YOUR top priority, not anyone elses
@@stormyyxx However, if your date doesn't give a shit how you're getting home, that's a red light.
Whayt I love about a man is when he's showing that he's really listening, and when he's got smiling eyes that show his true self and openness to me.
I respect a man who is loyal to his partner in his heart, soul, mind and actions, not because of who she is, but because that is who he is.
I married one of those men.
There is nothing sexier than a man in love
I was married to a man exactly like that for 33 years. Sadly, I'm a widow now. He is irreplaceable, and I still love him to my core.
CarmenSpatz kind of men I like.
I notice when the man is being fully present, smells nice, a good smile and sense of humor..
How he treats other people, kindness factor
A man who holds the door, and good manners, and appropriate arts and good sense of humour
Honesty is #1 in my opinion. Kindness, gentleness, compassion, love of life, eyes that draw me in, romantic, handsome in my opinion, loves children, family & dogs.
My man is all of these things and more! I am VERY BLESSED!!!!!
What draws me to a man, is his natural good looks, his smile, his scent (aftershave), his confidence, his politeness, his kindness.
I find attractive when a men is kind humble and attentive respectful to everyone
When we met we were both in a time of life where we were both happy single and not looking for a date. Relaxed not on the hunt. We are together nearly 31 years, married 28 years to my soulmate
I love this!
Smile, kindness, smell, easy to talk to
cleanliness, simplicity. authenticity.
Just as men like a woman who is confident, healthy, kind, women also like those qualities. I like a man who looks and feels masculine in the way they move and look physically. To have physical skills including intelligence. To have physical strength A healthy man, well maintained, clean and groomed. Not overweight, yet without being obsessive about building muscles and too preoccupied with their physical appearance. A man who is not just in their head, but capable of feeling. Able to open up when needed. To feel empathy, insightful, sufficiently sensitive and capable of love. Have done the work of personal growth to have sufficient self understanding and capable of being responsible for their reactions. A man who is reliable and trustworthy is a treasure.
8 things a man notices first about a woman and finds very attractive.
#1. Confidence. Freedom being who you are.
#2. Genuine smile and laughter. Openess to life.
#3. Feminine movements. Sway of hip, brushing hair back.
#4. Presence and kindness towards others. Giving compliments.
#5. Health. Taking care of yourself.
#6. Smell. Your scent, perfume.
#7. Makeup and nails. Do for you. Natural. Not too much.
#8. Authenticity.
What I find highly attractive is the man's smile. His eyes as well as they tell stories. His kindness and acting like and being a gentleman.
Omg thank you. I like to have something written as I listen
@@MM-em6ly you're welcome. Me too.
Thank you for adding this! I watched the whole video, but I, too, like it written down.
In order for a woman to apply number 1 through 8 might needs a few contenders. I’m disappointed with this post. Im in the industrie of self care for both women and men. Happy life, happy wife starts with the men’s ability and strength to understand the opposite gender. No matter what perfume you wear there will always be a better perfume, a newer perfume and a wider brighter smile. Authenticity and self-care will attract your proper partner. Men also fake it until they make it and it might not be with you.Staying true to yourselves is key. Nobody needs surprises after a few months of dating:)
A feeling of being safe. I adore a quick wit and warm laughter.
I have a serious weakness for highly intelligent men. That is the #1 thing that gets my attention.
Same here😊
You are a sapiosexual! And yes, intelligence is sexy
Yes!
Same here. That was the attraction to my now husband. So smart even though he was not physically my type.
Me too!!!❤
Yeah, it’s similar: 1) well- groomed 2) confidence w/ humility ( big turn-on)
3)direct eye gaze- no shiftiness; expresses honesty4)gentleman manners 5)active in life- seeks out fun as well as responsibility 6) sensitive to/ concerned about disadvantaged
Men that are friendly and easy to talk to. That keep their appearance neat and clean. And come across as confident and happy. They look at me with attraction for me in their eyes. I love when a man makes me feel beautiful with his eyes. My confidence soars then :)
Confidence in who they are and kindness
The ability of speaking his language WITHOUT MAKING GRAMMATICAL MISTAKES, great sense of humour, confidence, politeness, great smell and clearness, sense of style, very knowledgeable, GREAT KISSER AND LOVER!
I notice how a man carries himself, his smile and his eyes. I was walking across the street today and a nice looking guy was coming towards me. I looked up and he looked up and we both smiled at each other. I enjoyed that short encounter.
His honesty is 1000 percent attractive. Being truthful keeps integrity in every area of life. Happy allowing love to BE❣️
I've always found the combination of intellect and humor really attractive. Quick wit and smart jokes are a quick way to get my attention lol.
yes, I've always had relatively intelligent or knowledgeable partners. Knowing the man is intelligent and has a sense of humor is the bomb. I relate much better to those types of people and men.
Same. My husband is smart and funny. He's also one of the most capable people I've ever met, pretty much good at everything. He's masculine but is also kind, fairly sensitive, and enjoys helping people. He's honest and has integrity, very well thought of and respected by his colleagues---*I* respect the hell out of him. And ok, I'm not gonna lie---he's tall and handsome too. I have no idea how I got so lucky, just glad I of it---and I tell him often. Never take a good man for granted.
I heard it said that if a man can make you laugh, he can make you do anything....
@@lisabadger603 , there's nothing like a good sense of humor (witty, funny people are intelligent). My husband makes me laugh every day and I can tell he *enjoys* making me laugh, which also makes me feel good.
I agree! I love that in a man!
Confidence, intelligence,and sense of humor.
“ do you have a sense of humour?” Best intro ever. Not hi my name is or chat up lines. Gets straight to the point of your personality
So many men that think they have a sense of humor, or say they are funny: just aren’t.
and you have to have a similar sense of humor or at least get each other. I am over banter you need to be able to have a proper conversation with humor thrown in.
Yikes, if a strange man came up to me and said this, I would wonder if he was about to prank me! I'd probably say no in the hope he'd go away. 😁😁
Kindness and a witty sense of humor….a must!
I always notice a Smile #1 - not just any old smile though, the type of smile where they smile with their eyes and you can see the light beaming from them and the cute creases in the corners then the smile radiates from their eyes and mouth and lights up their whole face 😊... it just shows a true genuineness, Kindness and happiness in my opinion.....Then if they can make you belly laugh your onto a winner! 🏅❤
I love a man that does not take himself too serious and can laugh! That is very attractive!
Self Confidence & a Sense of Humor are the most attractive qualities in a man.
Spiritually awake!
What I notice the most is whether or not I feel more, or less like myself around him.
Another thing I really noticed about a man once was I was entering an establishment, and he happened to be leaving. He literally tipped his hat, and nodded to me as we passed each other. That has only ever happened once to me, but is something I likely will never forget.
Yes!! That happened to me once, too, and it shocked me. He was a military man. The other thing that shocked me about it was that I was in my late 20s at the time, and he must've been in his 40s or 50s. I thought I should be the one showing him respect since he was older than me and in the military, but no, he was showing ME respect for being a woman, period.
@@kristalynncreates YES
So sweet!
That's class! 50ish years ago I was in a bar watching a band. I did notice a guy in a cream suit (it was around the time of Saturday Night Fever) making his way through the people on the other side of the dancefloor. Next thing he was next to me, told me I looked beautiful and ....... disappeared into the crowd. Thank you, whoever you are. Never forgotten.
I live in a small rural Spanish town. Years ago, on a warm summer evening, the lovely young girls were out and about in the main street, the lads were madly revving their motorbikes to get their attention. Two young men on horses rode slowly down the street tipping their hats to the senoritas. Guess who got the attention!
And everything you said about women is the same for me, for what I find attractive in a man. I'd add someone who appears strong and to take care of his health - Im very much NOT into skinny dudes who aren't physically capable, or who do not prioritize their health. Someone who invests effort in himself and cares how he comes across in all ways - even with how he dresses - it communicates alot about his self-image and thus how he'll show up in relationship.
Kind eyes. Patience, compassion, and kindness to others no matter the circumstance
First impressions are extremely important. I find men attractive who are well groomed and clean, appear healthy and fit, intelligent, well rounded, listen well and are not dismissive. Men who attempt to ascertain my wealth level, or make sexual comments are a turn off. Since I am 5 ft 10 in I prefer men who are tall-- I enjoy looking up at a man, it helps me feel more like a woman.
A man that is confident in his masculinity, polite, no cursing or swearing, is fun and funny, kind and compassionate and sensitive, and he has to smell good
What I notice first is a his energy and the way he speaks.
Their confidence, their smile & the way they treat people, their manners. Their health, their grooming, their style, whatever they wear, they own it with their masculinity. Their scent & their teeth. Their manners & being themselves. 😊❤
I’m an introvert, so a man that can make me laugh and feel at ease is #1. Good looks and a full head of hair is#2!
You sound just like me. 😂 now where is this man? lol
@@Loveyloveeeee, I got him!😂
Yeah, hair is nice. And a flat stomach. Good luck with that.
"Are you in fight or flight mode, or are you in freedom?" (Leading life with freedom shows confidence, according to the video.) Some women "fight" through fight or flight mode most of our lives---illnesses, traumas, work problems, family problems that keep coming once you've solved the first one. Not even in a victim way, just sort of a critical mass that becomes difficult or impossible to get through.
This idea of a woman being in "freedom" being attractive because she's confident confirms what I already know--
that women with a solid foundation of love and friendship in childhood are light years ahead of us in confidence because they have less bad experiences with men.
But for those of us in fight or flight mode, that's okay. We can still be confident in other ways--thinking before speaking, setting healthy boundaries, and surrounding ourselves with good people. We don't have to breeze into a room and say something charming to everyone there...we can cope with less attention if it means we get to be our authentic selves.
I definitely find a sense of humor and kindness attractive. Physically I like a man with “working hands” I’ve never found soft hands attractive on a man.
Nice, humble, good sense of humor, clean shoes, and clean face good hygiene en general and she talks to you fresh breath! Loyal I don’t believe in chances.
A man who is confident . Interested in his world and can plan events efficiently. Good vocabulary and grammar. Great witty sense of humour and smells clean. Nice to those who aren’t doing anything he can use. Good with money. Loves animals.
What I notice about men that attracts me, is making me feel valued as a person, is humble and not boastful, is compassionate, tender hearted towards others and determined to succeed at his goals in life. A man that is resourceful and thinks outside the box---good problem solving skills, and likes to be silly/goofy/happy/laughs---has a good sense of joy---confidence.
Right on once again, Mat. I’ve learned to walk in all these areas as a, “Lady of Beauty.”
Plus, my life motto is,”You don’t get a second chance to make a first impression.”
What I immediately notice about a man is how he ‘communicates’ his walk with God, his dress, and his scent.
I observe how he does life, his relationship with family, (especially women), and is his Faith Walk legit or just, “talk.”👍
I am 56, what I notice about men is the kindness, good manners, confidence without arrogance, sens of humour, honesty, loyalty, he smells good, he doesn't smoke and he loves animals.
What make a good impression for me in someone: confident yet calm and humble; kind-hearted; open-minded and respectful of others (aka not full of himself to never admit he can be wrong); supportive of his partner; take responsibility for his life and relationship (aka not blaming others); strive to be better
I have never thought of a model when I think of confidence. Ever.
LOL.
They are some of the least confident people around.
I think.he meant how they strut.on the run way......
First thing on a man? His face, is it kind? Smile, confident, stands up tall, does he look taken care of? Clean? Tidy face/beard, clean teeth, is he looking me in the eye or is he checking me out? Is he a gentleman? Courteous, easy to speak with, does he treat me with respect? I also look at his eyes, are they smiling, happy as well? I dont look 4 a man who is perfectly sculpted, muscular, perfect jaw, hair ect....but is he taking care of himself? Even if he has a bit of dad bod? No worry! And lastly, can he laugh? Enjoy life? ALL of these are what matter to women who are looking....😊
Height, build, eyes, and the way they carry themselves. Their posture when they move says a LOT about a person. These are things I notice from across the room.
Politeness, being a gentleman, being curious, making me a priority, being safe next to him, and not being nervous.
I am in my early 60's and these are qualities that I notice first when I see a man:
1. A healthy and well maintained confident but not cocky/arrogant man.
2. A kind man, it will show through his eyes, actions, smile, conversation, and gestures.
3. Yes, a man's scent...omg!!!
What woman doesn't appreciate walking down a busy city street, notice a man and their eyes connect and he gives you a smile and as he gets closer says hello. It really is just little things like that that make you notice.
Smell, happiness, confidence... are attractive. And not looking shabby...
Great video!! I met my future husband at a grocery store.
Lol this gives me hope
@@lovepeacejoyhappiness
Me too 😂
I find open and honest coomunicaton and a sense of humor attractive, along with, trustworthiness, self assurance and reasonable vulnerability.
I blew it with a guy who I really liked (and who seemed crazy about me) because I was feeling down and discouraged about the small town where I was living. It got harder and harder for me to smile and muster up enthusiasm and I think he assumed I wasn't interested in him (which was totally NOT true!).
What I love about a man is his love towards his family, a good smelling man,loyal to his partner. Humor, adventures.
I love it when a man takes the takes the time to get a haircut, shape is beard, matches his clothes somewhat, and to have an overall clean sexy appearance
I notice a man with confidence, kindness, scent, sense of humor and eyes. Many of the same things a man notices about a woman.
This is all very nice and very positive. Like in movies. I'm 43 and this is what happens when I do these things naturally:
1. Smiling - younger men approach me, thinking I'm desperate
2. Healthy - I walk slow because I have back issues, so that's out the window
3. Confidence - is seen as "older woman being bossy. Oh she must be single and has no life"
This is sad
Hahaha, I like your honesty 👍
@@Loveyloveeeee
What's sad? She's just being honest about her experiences. Why pretend?
Seems you have a very negative outlook on yourself because of your age. I’m 46, and I attract the attention of men everywhere I go. They are so friendly and outgoing with me. I don’t go with with any negative thoughts about myself or others. I consider myself to get more beautiful as I age. This is my mantra. I go gym and outdo men in terms of how much I can weightlift. Holding positive thoughts about yourself and people will allow you to live a happier life.
Height - Tall men are attractive!
I like masculine men. Confidence, not arrogance is attractive, because women pretty much look for a protector, leader, provider.
Those are probably the first things I notice…then smile and eyes 🥰♥️
lol the tall guys certainly stand out.
@@MissHannah2036, I'm 5'2" and was always attracted to tall men. My husband is @ 6'2"+. His size is comforting in that "he can protect me" sort of way.
@@maggieb4736 I'm your height and every man I've known really liked me being small - made them feel more masculine, I guess. Even the shortish guys.
@@carolefletcher , *especially* the shortish ones. 😂
Tall is initially attractive, but height was never a deal breaker, I've dated short, average, just happened to marry tall. Also was with handsome men and not so handsome. For me, intelligence, kindness and humor were the keys to my heart. I'm short and (was---old and tired now 😂) cute, I guess, but I like to think it was my sparkling personality that attracted people! 😊
I have a diamond in the rough. He is sweet, attractive, masculine, honest, ambitious, funny without trying to be, kind, and loyal. Love him!
As I am tall for my age group, I definitely noticed height on a man, hair seems to be quite important to me, (my daddy had thick black hair, so perhaps that’s the reason) I look at their teeth and their ears, I look at how they’re groomed how they take care of themselves, I also watch where their eyes go when they’re speaking to me if they’re fully present and not scouring the room with their eyes that shows such a sign of respect and I alsolook for qualities like a man that would stand up when you enter the room, pull out your chair at a table, open your door. Those are extremely important and yes, I am old school and never, ever will I change.
I find man who is humble, and treats all the women in the room with kindness, very attractive
I'm sorry but a woman does not have to be made up to be attractive. I've had some of the most staggering compliments when I wasn't wearing any make-up at all. What you are saying is that a woman has to wear some make-up in order for men to appreciate her - you are not only doing a disservice to woman, but also to men because not every man is only able to appreciate a woman or find her attractive is she is wearing make-up. Some can see a woman, and I mean really see a woman, just as she is.
Believe me, as a 70 year old woman, i dont set foot out of the house without a bit of makeup to add a touch of color. I am not a pretty sight otherwise. Young women can pull off the natural look much more successfully.
@@serahloeffelroberts9901 I love my makeup but know not everyone does or cares for it. I work fulltime so like to look and feel well-groomed among a bunch of 20 something year olds. Some pink cream blush on the cheeks and it takes 5/10 years off.
No he's not saying that. Do what's good for you.
Honestly? I think that's easier for darker women with defined eyebrows, darker lips and dark lashes. I'm a natural blonde and can look quite ill without a touch of makeup - naturally pallid. That said, I hardly ever wear it!
*Men notice those subtle things that show confidence, warmth, and a good vibe.*
I am cracking up that it seems like 98% of the comments to this video are 1-from women, and 2-giving their opinions on what attracts them the most to women.
I notice a man that stands out in a crowd with his true self of being confident in his own skin. His style of clothes showing his good taste in fashion that suit him. How he interacts with the people around him. His hair style.
If we're talking first first impressions, where I don't know a guy, what jumps out at me:
- health (it shows up in things like skin quality, fitness, posture, energy)
- grooming
- class: treating people with respect regardless of their status
I totally get all the other points, but I hate makeup. 😅 7/8 is still pretty good, I guess.
I like a man who’s mature, confident in his own sexuality without showing arrogance, acts of violence or sexual conquests. Intelligent broad minded men with a sense of humour are good company. Looks I prefer Mediterranean types with with dark eyes and hair
Someone once asked me if I understood the fight or flight mechanism, I thought I did, but I have since learned what it really is. Thank you for touching on this elusive trait.
A man's willingness to be his self. No pretensions. Kindness. Treats people well. Takes care of his physical self. Shares his thoughts and dreams. Is attentive and considerate.
Amazing💖I first notice about men how they are good at what they are doing... how they are confident about themselves and genuine... is f they have a genuine heart ❤️ and if they are sincere
I notice a man who is neat and well-groomed. Fresh hair cuts, neat clean clothes and a wiff of cologne is very attractive to me on a man.
A man who is attractive, but humble, yet not afraid to be masculine.. A man that is respectful of all women, regardless of looks or her age.
I’m attracted to a guy who’s friendly, has a happy, positive energy, peaceful, can make me laugh and is caring, thoughtful and generous. Someone who is emotionally intelligent, ready for a relationship and has honest intentions. As far as physical attraction, I like a nice smile, nice teeth, pretty eyes, nice hair, I really love curly hair on guys but that’s hard to find. I prefer them to be taller than me because it’s better to be able to hug them and put my head on their chest. Be physically fit because I like to be active and I hope they do too. Lately, I’ve been thinking a nice maintained groomed beard is pretty hot. I used to never think facial hair was attractive but my last bf had a beard and it really was pretty nice!
What I find attractive is fidelity to his beloved, but also a kind person that can relate to other beautiful women without being dishonoring to the woman he already has a relationship with…
I fell in love at first sight big baby blue kind eyes that looked into my own. 40 years we still love deeply, laugh loudly and occasionally fight and make up even better😂😂😂 We are much older now and life has not been all roses but we have been a part of each others support.
Our main positive is having a sense of humor even though we are opposites some how it works..
Is loyal respectful loving trustworthy attentive to his relationship with his lady there in everyway needed ❤️
Great Sense of Humor, Confident, Persuasive, Attentive and Communicates Well, Quiet &:Humble. Everything else will fall in
❤🙏🙏🙏
A man who is intelligent, educated (but not arrogant), one who is active listener, caring, supportive, respectful, kind, genuine, protective, neat/clean (all over), has a healthy sense of humor, smiles... gentleman!
First my biggest turn off about men: 1) Addicted to their phones!! - 2) Always talking about their problems to me before they even say "hello" to me - 3) Playing games on me!! Now My Turn Ons: 1) COLOGNE!!!! 2) Looks into my eyes when we talk 3) Romantic 4) Tall :)
What I like in a man is the confidence even if not physically attractive confidence because of being an expert in a field❤❤❤
Good teeth & hygiene, body hair, chivalry, passion, sense of humour, assertiveness and confidence ❤
All what you are saying is true. Take care of yourself is very important. A man finds that so attractive. ❤
Charisma and the way he carries himself. A man who has just 'got it'. That could be a smart suit, a smile, ki dness or professionalism.
Kindness I notice it in the eyes before they even speak. Draws me to them.
I like a man who listens, is funny, intelligent, who always puts me first (sorry, I know), is financially secure, and is not hideous looking.
I notice 1st about a man is his smile and how hes treating others. Love a man who is happy & kind. Comfortable in his skin.
A man who is highly placed, influence or intelligent...
Yet calm, treat people with great sensitivity... and genuinely loves GOD .....❤❤❤❤❤
Honesty, integrity, morals, and authenticity.
That's a start.
The whole video simplified: be confident, genuine, pretty, present and open
I notice a man’s hair, his lips, his clothes (wether they’re neat or not and what his style is). I notice his smell definitely and his smile and teeth! And his manly body language and when we’re together I notice how he shows his love languages.
I like a man who is personable . I like a friendly personality . I like a man who is secure in himself . He has a positive outlook and shows himself strong and protective . I really like a man who looks to God and wants to obey his word honest man that can love deeply ❤
The very first thing I noticed to a man was his neat well groom stand infront of me his height his eyes his smile ,his biceps ,and perfume plus his kind words will reflect what is inside his heart the mouth speak
Really helpful, as always. I especially am glad you talked about number one and the way you framed it. I recently went through a very stressful time and looking back, realized how the way I was handling it wasn't good for me or the people around me. I've course-corrected, and hearing about it in this context was very insightful.