I think the best is to break it off because Allah said in the quran (And [yet], among the people are those who take other than Allah as equals [to Him]. They love them as they [should] love Allah. But those who believe are stronger in love for Allah. And if only they who have wronged would consider [that] when they see the punishment, [they will be certain] that all power belongs to Allah and that Allah is severe in punishment ).The thing why it is so hard to leave it off after having known it's haram because you love someone beside Allah .if your love for Allah as it should be then you won't be tormented by leaving off the other person .I think yasmin mogahed talked about what wrong love is perfectly .You guys need to check it out .From my own experience, it is haram and you need to cut it off .May Allah grant us ease in breaking haram relationship and you don't leave something for the sake of Allah out of taqwa except that Allah will give which is better .it is the promise of Allah
But they have done together, so repent and make it halal, get nikkah, not wasting the time and use the girls, they know from the first time that they are dreaming marry, so why should break it, if it is Haram then tawbah and repent and make it Halal
How long should that tawba be and during those moments of repentence can you talk to the girl without saying or doing any haram thing? Please help me i need answers.
I dated this girl for a week now. I actually loved her but just today i realized the relationship we had was very haram and zina. I dont want to go into detail but very explicit, besides that she was amazing… but i realized just today that it was haram and very bad to continue. I wanted to just block her but i realized the feelings she had to me. She said she wanted to marry me when were older, make a family, and be happy, maybe this is nothing to you guys but as 14 and my first and last relationship i was heart broken when i remembered those things. And when we both said we would never leave eachother.. i want to cry but im not, i just feel empty after blocking her. I should have said goodbye or something but i was too scared.. i want to improve my self but i feel empty after this, and i especially dont want to imagine how her morning is and if she will do something bad to herself. Please Allah (SWT) protect her. Im scared. I dont know what to do.
If she is Muslim and you know that she has made tawbah and changed her way as well, you should marry her. Do istkhara and tawakul 3la Allah. A man in my community was in the same predicament and he broke up with a woman who he loved and year later he proposed to her and they got married and have been happily married for 8 years now and have 4 beautiful good children whom they brought up in islam. It was especially hard for him since everyone in the community knew of their sin but with time, people forgot and were forgiving of their situation. His parents didn’t approve of it back then but now they get along just well.
I have seen worst in Halal arranged marriages... 100% negative outcome. So it can never be generalized. If sincere tawbah is done... let them make it halal. There is nothing better than a nikah between two loved ones.
I would be careful not to be so dismissive and judgemental of others, may Allah swt guide those in haram relationships.. the best case scenario after the act of such a situation is that they do take a step back from that haram relationship, and then pursue a halal relationship (and marriage) inshaallah.
I agree but if they change their way and turn back to Allah, it works out. I’ve personally seen this with men that drink and then quit for the sake of Allah or a woman who doesn’t practice or fulfill her rights and then does so for the sake of Allah.
@@Sam-su9rqtrue and halal would mean both partners consent also so they can get out of it. Arranged just means ur parents arranged it but they asked you both if you want to get married, it’s not forced. Good thing is they can divorce if needed and follow Islamic law in halal fashion. A haram relationship is based solely off of lusts.. do we really think being attracted in a lovey dovey way with someone haram wise is rational? You have a kid but who’s the mother and father?
I am in a haram relationship, but we are very much stressed about it as it is haram , so once we tried to get apart just because it's haram , but we couldn't continue the separation even for a week , what should I do at this stage, we are not in the state to marry only 20 yrs old ....one more question so out prayers reach to Allah in the period of this haram relationship????
You 2 are very young...its hard to hear this but u guys nee to stay away from each other period.. maybe in future when u can provide for her u can go back to her.
I can understand it's v difficult but take it slowly u gotta block each other on everything no contact for atleast 6 months , ik this 6 months might feel like forever to u , bcoz to stop chatting for just 2 days is also. V difftbut u gotta control ur nafs and busy urself in something else Like for me I am reading Quran with tafseer , it gives me peace , also whenever u get the thinking of the girl , donot keep on thinking about her , us thought ko usi time remove krdo apne mind se This is shaytan which makes u think , she also used to say like this, and she used to love this foood or street or whatever , and also try to make her understand this , it will be easier if u both block each other at the same time And fir after 6 months or an year, ur mindset is still the same , that is to marry her. , then as sheikh said u can proceed in a halal way I hope it helps
Salam can someone help out what if I end the haram relationship and then we take time away from each other but when we try and make it halal our parents don’t allow it what should I do
May Allah SWT make it easy for everyone and facilitate for it to happen, if there is goodness in it for the worldy life and will contribute to us attaining JANNATUL FIRDOUS, ameen🤲🏻🤲🏻 It's a process of developing yourself too. I've often felt as if marriage is out of reach for me. But when I look back and look at now. I've just got onto a road of physical, bodily healing and mental healing. Maybe I'm supposed to learn how to cope with my condition before the door of marriage opens for me. Most definitely one needs to master the skill of having Allah the center of our world before we can bring other people in. And it all starts with an intention to draw closer to Allah and He eases you towards ease.💗
Salam alaykom WA rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu sheikh Omar Suleiman, I am a divorced mother of a three years old boy I live to worship Allah and raise my son to be a good Muslim and why not one of the scholars of İslam, I am looking for a husband who fears Allah and I don't want to make haram relationships not even talking with men in the intention of getting married. The problem is that I don't find the qualities that I seek in my community people in my city and generally my home country are so different from me we grew up in a secular country and applying the rules of İslam 100% is tremendously hard , for exemple no polygamy, they submit only to the rules of the country ( the law) which is too far from Deen. I want to live following my Deen and the Sunnah of our beloved.
Àssalamoàlaykoum why u thinķ i a bad men àm in this chanelle today i roza i make àlls. Good to allah why 24 yrs iwork i alwaye with allah and rasool swa think about this. Ameen
Assalamualaikum everyone, can someone explain to me what counts as a Haram relationship? I have heard that doing couple is haram. However, i have also heard that it is not haram if it is a march to marriage. So, i am now confused and need someone to clear up...
Make sure you have the right mind frame maturity and importantly Islamic Knowledge for marriage. Marrying to make the relationship doesn’t mean things will work out for the long run. Sadly a close brother did the same, his whole family have to support him in his relationship Provide him both meals for Ramadan, his Eid celebrations are at the parents home. His mom reminds him of his prays fasting his charity jummah prays attendance While his now “halal” relationship does not want anything to do with Islam. She’s used a man weakness against him for him to marrying her Completely ignorant of the way his future children will be raised. if his hajj was accepted. All because he wanted to make his haram relationship halal to justify his sins
وَعَلَيـْكُم السَّلاَمُ وَرَحْمَةُ اللهِ وَبَرَكـَاتُه
I think the best is to break it off because Allah said in the quran (And [yet], among the people are those who take other than Allah as equals [to Him]. They love them as they [should] love Allah. But those who believe are stronger in love for Allah. And if only they who have wronged would consider [that] when they see the punishment, [they will be certain] that all power belongs to Allah and that Allah is severe in punishment ).The thing why it is so hard to leave it off after having known it's haram because you love someone beside Allah .if your love for Allah as it should be then you won't be tormented by leaving off the other person .I think yasmin mogahed talked about what wrong love is perfectly .You guys need to check it out .From my own experience, it is haram and you need to cut it off .May Allah grant us ease in breaking haram relationship and you don't leave something for the sake of Allah out of taqwa except that Allah will give which is better .it is the promise of Allah
jazakAllahKhair!
but what if this is the man i believe is my husband inshAllah?
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What if we do feel rermourse a out it
But they have done together, so repent and make it halal, get nikkah, not wasting the time and use the girls, they know from the first time that they are dreaming marry, so why should break it, if it is Haram then tawbah and repent and make it Halal
How long should that tawba be and during those moments of repentence can you talk to the girl without saying or doing any haram thing? Please help me i need answers.
I dated this girl for a week now. I actually loved her but just today i realized the relationship we had was very haram and zina. I dont want to go into detail but very explicit, besides that she was amazing… but i realized just today that it was haram and very bad to continue. I wanted to just block her but i realized the feelings she had to me. She said she wanted to marry me when were older, make a family, and be happy, maybe this is nothing to you guys but as 14 and my first and last relationship i was heart broken when i remembered those things. And when we both said we would never leave eachother.. i want to cry but im not, i just feel empty after blocking her. I should have said goodbye or something but i was too scared.. i want to improve my self but i feel empty after this, and i especially dont want to imagine how her morning is and if she will do something bad to herself. Please Allah (SWT) protect her. Im scared. I dont know what to do.
Asalamu alaikum, just remember that Allah is everybody else and we can only pray to Allah to give us better!!
If she is Muslim and you know that she has made tawbah and changed her way as well, you should marry her. Do istkhara and tawakul 3la Allah. A man in my community was in the same predicament and he broke up with a woman who he loved and year later he proposed to her and they got married and have been happily married for 8 years now and have 4 beautiful good children whom they brought up in islam. It was especially hard for him since everyone in the community knew of their sin but with time, people forgot and were forgiving of their situation. His parents didn’t approve of it back then but now they get along just well.
GREAT HEART THANK YOU GOOD YOUNGMAN
PRAY FOR YOU FOR HER GREAT HEART MASH ALLAH
GOOD BOY MASH ALLAH
Allahu Akbar ❤ sheigh Omar Suleiman always such a beautiful inspiration for Allah's sake Masha Allah ❤ free free Palestine Ameen Ameen Ameen ❤❤❤
Wallahi - every form of haram *never* works out well - the end result is negative 100% of the time.
I have seen worst in Halal arranged marriages... 100% negative outcome.
So it can never be generalized.
If sincere tawbah is done... let them make it halal. There is nothing better than a nikah between two loved ones.
Don't be in any haram relationship bcoz you will never find peace while disobeying Allah, No matter how much you claim that you love him /her
I would be careful not to be so dismissive and judgemental of others, may Allah swt guide those in haram relationships.. the best case scenario after the act of such a situation is that they do take a step back from that haram relationship, and then pursue a halal relationship (and marriage) inshaallah.
I agree but if they change their way and turn back to Allah, it works out. I’ve personally seen this with men that drink and then quit for the sake of Allah or a woman who doesn’t practice or fulfill her rights and then does so for the sake of Allah.
@@Sam-su9rqtrue and halal would mean both partners consent also so they can get out of it. Arranged just means ur parents arranged it but they asked you both if you want to get married, it’s not forced. Good thing is they can divorce if needed and follow Islamic law in halal fashion. A haram relationship is based solely off of lusts.. do we really think being attracted in a lovey dovey way with someone haram wise is rational? You have a kid but who’s the mother and father?
Jazak Allahu keyren.
Masha Allah bro
MASH ALLAH thank you Dr Omar Suleiman from france thank you so much
Masha Allah
I am in a haram relationship, but we are very much stressed about it as it is haram , so once we tried to get apart just because it's haram , but we couldn't continue the separation even for a week , what should I do at this stage, we are not in the state to marry only 20 yrs old ....one more question so out prayers reach to Allah in the period of this haram relationship????
You 2 are very young...its hard to hear this but u guys nee to stay away from each other period.. maybe in future when u can provide for her u can go back to her.
You can get married, like get the nikkah so you are Islamically married and then years later you can have the wedding.
@@samia6888 not in the state to do nikkah, we can't do it secretly
I can understand it's v difficult but take it slowly u gotta block each other on everything no contact for atleast 6 months , ik this 6 months might feel like forever to u , bcoz to stop chatting for just 2 days is also. V difftbut u gotta control ur nafs and busy urself in something else
Like for me I am reading Quran with tafseer , it gives me peace , also whenever u get the thinking of the girl , donot keep on thinking about her , us thought ko usi time remove krdo apne mind se
This is shaytan which makes u think , she also used to say like this, and she used to love this foood or street or whatever , and also try to make her understand this , it will be easier if u both block each other at the same time
And fir after 6 months or an year, ur mindset is still the same , that is to marry her. , then as sheikh said u can proceed in a halal way
I hope it helps
@@ShineStudent-b6s thanks bro
Aslam Alikum, Can you make video(s) on incident of Karbala? Jazakallah
Nice
Salam can someone help out what if I end the haram relationship and then we take time away from each other but when we try and make it halal our parents don’t allow it what should I do
Darood Nazar e Kram perhyn Ya Rehmatul Alamin Sallalahu Alaika wasalum Huzoor Nazre Kram farmayn mujh pr
Did it workout for you ??? May Allah make things easy
May Allah SWT make it easy for everyone and facilitate for it to happen, if there is goodness in it for the worldy life and will contribute to us attaining JANNATUL FIRDOUS, ameen🤲🏻🤲🏻
It's a process of developing yourself too. I've often felt as if marriage is out of reach for me. But when I look back and look at now. I've just got onto a road of physical, bodily healing and mental healing. Maybe I'm supposed to learn how to cope with my condition before the door of marriage opens for me.
Most definitely one needs to master the skill of having Allah the center of our world before we can bring other people in. And it all starts with an intention to draw closer to Allah and He eases you towards ease.💗
Salam alaykom WA rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu sheikh Omar Suleiman, I am a divorced mother of a three years old boy I live to worship Allah and raise my son to be a good Muslim and why not one of the scholars of İslam, I am looking for a husband who fears Allah and I don't want to make haram relationships not even talking with men in the intention of getting married. The problem is that I don't find the qualities that I seek in my community people in my city and generally my home country are so different from me we grew up in a secular country and applying the rules of İslam 100% is tremendously hard , for exemple no polygamy, they submit only to the rules of the country ( the law) which is too far from Deen. I want to live following my Deen and the Sunnah of our beloved.
I am Tunisian
Mashallah
Waalaikumsalam alhamdulillah aamiin ya ALLAH ❤
what if the girl is christian
Àssalamoàlaykoum why u thinķ i a bad men àm in this chanelle today i roza i make àlls. Good to allah why 24 yrs iwork i alwaye with allah and rasool swa think about this. Ameen
Wa Alaikum mus Salaam wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatu
SALAMALEYKOUM dr Omar Suleiman
Assalamualaikum please i have a question
Thank you ❤
Ameen 🤲🏾
What if im muslim and the person i like is a non-muslim
Dear sheikh can you do video on magic I feel like I am going mad... I'm doing self ruqyah
وعليكم السلام ورحمة الله وبركاته
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what is your toothpaste name
Masha Allah tabarakallah
Assalamualaikum everyone, can someone explain to me what counts as a Haram relationship? I have heard that doing couple is haram. However, i have also heard that it is not haram if it is a march to marriage. So, i am now confused and need someone to clear up...
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Subhanallah.
Full video ?
This is just a short ruclips.net/video/XfUZknCITnc/видео.html
A lecture from him talking about this topic, hope you find it useful 🙌
@@starshaped. may Allah reward you
Make sure you have the right mind frame maturity and importantly Islamic
Knowledge for marriage.
Marrying to make the relationship doesn’t mean things will work out for the long run.
Sadly a close brother did the same, his whole family have to support him in his relationship
Provide him both meals for Ramadan, his Eid celebrations are at the parents home.
His mom reminds him of his prays fasting his charity jummah prays attendance
While his now “halal” relationship does not want anything to do with Islam.
She’s used a man weakness against him for him to marrying her
Completely ignorant of the way his future children will be raised. if his hajj was accepted.
All because he wanted to make his haram relationship halal to justify his sins
🤲🤏🤌🤝👍
I lllooooovvvvveee yyooooouuuuuuuu🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉
واليكم السلام ورحمة الله وابركة
Mickey mouse, shame on you!
Yes....if correct action as in wrong of course you can.thrn be happy for the right way.
جزاك الله خيرا يا شيخ
First off pumpkin proove to me the earth is flat