Induction is definitely a money thing and it’s terrible. I’m so happy you’re going to do a homebirth next time! You can absolutely have a 9 lb baby for one, and absolutely have a 42 week baby safety. I used to be a doula and am now a homebirth midwife. I’m sorry your doula didn’t come to advocate for you and educate you more about the dangers of cytotec, and the cascade of intervention that usually comes with that. I can imagine being a doula in LA may be different than where I’m from, but there has to be room for change.
Glad you're doing better. I hope you got your money back. My induction is why I switched to homebirth. The only reason I was induced is that I was 2 days over.
Shout out to the husband for being an incredible partner to you. The silver lining is the strengthening of your bond with him to be able to raise a beautiful baby boy!
Hey Manon! I was a doula for 5 years and I must say that your doula should have been there for you. Especially if you were in pain. It upsets me that she did that. It’s normal for doulas to take breaks, and go home and sleep if the labor is getting too long and sometimes the baby comes when that happens 😂 but you would have felt more prepared and have the tools you needed to feel supported by her had to come and then gone home if the labor got too long! Also! The entire point of a doula is to be there, coach your client through those tough times from 0-10 dilation! When doulas are present at our births there have been studies to show that we have shorter labor times and they are able to help delay intervention! I would always ask “do we have to make the decision NOW or can we can we take 15 minutes so we can discuss?” Almost always there was time to to coach the client and reminded her of her goals and give us a chance to put her in a different position to help that baby come down and let your cervix ripen. Also you’re right on the money about feeling like you were pressured to not delay your labor by using epidural! The hospitals make more money if you give birth faster. That way they can rush you to recovery and then that room can be used for someone else!
@@carolesigrist1679I'm from the UK and remember watching a series where a women had one at her home birth. They're basically a birthing partner that helps you with breathing, meditation (if that's what you want), says encouraging and relaxing things. The one I watched seemed really good (especially as the lady practically breathed the baby out while the midwifes were turned around), but apparently not all are like that.
@@carolesigrist1679you guessed it certified labour partner, can help advocate for the mom in labour, they help with different positions to ease pain and progress dilation and labour
So true! I kept denying pitocin with my first, water broke before contractions. So glad I did because there was no way I could handle the pitocin with no cushion. It did take a while for my contractions to stabilize and progress. Looking into a doula with this pregnancy. 🙌🏻
Thank you for sharing your story. Premature induction is DEFINITELY a big problem.. The baby hasn’t dropped to naturally condition the cercix . Lots of love to you - you’ve been so brave ♥️
Traumatic birth sister here- too many things to mention. My baby was premature so I went to a room and i was traumatized with no baby to hold. I then developed severe post partum. It was dark for a moment, but I had a lot of support and made it through to the other side. Please lean on your friends and family for help when you need it. Its ok.
and they didn't bother telling you the risks of INDUCING...abusive!!!!!!!!...it makes labor WAY more painful and it forces the baby to come when it is not ready......which is also dangerous
Every person I have heard who has an induced labor has a horrible birth experience. I really believe those cause so many problem and trauma for both the baby and mama. To horrible. I have had three babies at home and the baby just come when it was ready and my body was also ready. I’m so so sorry you both went threw such horrible experience.
You two are legit the GOAT!! I would LOVE to just hang with you guys.. it is a very rare thing to hear girlfriends being so brutally honest and maintaining the humor and genuine care. Love it. ❤
My first birth was also traumatic. I was stuck at 6 cm and they gave me pitocin to speed things up. About 30 minutes later I felt pressure and the urge to push so I told the nurse and she dismissed me saying I wouldn’t get to 10 cm so quickly. I urged her to do a cervical check and sure enough he was crowning!! She then proceeded to tell me my OBGYN was not at the hospital and she would be here in 15 minutes and HELD MY LEGS CLOSED until the OB got there 10 minutes later. I wish I would have fought them on that and said I’ll push him out myself but I was not in the right state of mind. My son was born with a hematoma on his head and I am convinced it is because he was forced to hang out in my canal while my body was naturally trying to get him out. I found out later after talking to different people about my birth story that they held my legs closed so that the OB could deliver the baby herself and get paid. I don’t know if that is actually the reason but what other reason could there be? There were other OBGYNs on the floor. All that to say, traumatic birth story or not, my son is healthy and he doesn’t have a deformed head so I’m grateful for that.
@@Mademoiselle-BeeThis is the first time I’ve ever heard of Rose Kennedy’s birth story!!!! Wow. I’m feeling extra grateful knowing this could have turned out differently for me and my baby boy who is now 4 years old.
Absolutely horrific!! Lucky that your baby was ok. It could end in death, brain damage and other issues. That is beyond negligent. I agree, the only reason to do that is bc they didnt want to call another dr. A main reason they do so many inductions is bc they want to schedule the labor/delivery. Its easier for drs to plan them and have a schedule than up in the air. 2am Wed night call in deliveries, 2pm on Sat when they have plans. They schedule them for convenience on them. Pure selfishness
That’s crazy! When I told the nurse I had to push she looked scared but was like- “okay, I’ll deliver if I have to!” Doctor showed up and left because he said it would be a while …. It was…1hr 45 minutes of pushing. He had to move the cervical lip (stuck on the baby’s head- and yes it hurt!) , and cath me between contractions because hadn’t done to the bathroom in forever and my bladder was blocking the birth canal.
I had a normal pregnancy, under care of midwives at a birthing center. I went to L&D for bleeding and after seeing baby was fine, the nurse kept asking me if I just wanted to be induced. I’m like no I paid this birthing center already and I am in no way close to being in labor. They just want to get the baby out as fast as possible and they expect that women want the same.
Maaaan yeah... you asked about inductions.. the midwife told me when I was in having my first that the rates of inductions spike right before Christmas, Easter etc.. (UK) so they get all the births done so the staff can get their planned days off! Yup. And that was when I was being induced with my first. Luckily a very intuitive midwife realised I had no fluid left at 40 weeks (scans hadnt picked that up..?!?!). I was told we'd need to induce that day. So i went home to get my bags and consulted my Ina May Gaskin book ✨️, which listed 6 situations when induction is advised - and no fluid was one! They said my placenta had stopped working so baby was ingesting fluid. I had the canula in the arm drugs like Laura.. it was like my body was being dragged into a state it wasn't ready for... grinding jarring hard pain for 12 hrs and no epidural cos the idea of it freaked me out more than the idea of the baby splitting me in half 😅 In my second pregnancy, my doctor booked me an induction on my due date a month in advance "just in case"!! 😖 When due date came there was no reason to induce, so I refused. I then turned down 4 more inductions over the next few days, at one point, asking the doctor through angry tears to give me one solid medical reason for inducing me right now. He couldn't. He just said "because we like to be in control of the situation 🤦♀️ Finally I went into natural labour and she flew out in under an hour in what was possibly verging on being one of those orgasmic births. It was fierce but tolerable. In fact the midwife said it was one of the best she'd seen 🥹 Granted, second baby might be easier for the body, but it was a world apart from the feeling of induction and I urge women to educate yourself to be confident in holding your ground and understanding the genuine reasons when induction is appropriate, so you can see though it when the docs are trying to simply twist your arm to make their day go smoother. Your body, your choice ❤
Same here, induced for my first for medical reasons I. It was so incredibly painful. For my second I decided to have a home birth. Definitely not orgasmic by any stretch of the imagination but I feel so damn proud of myself, my baby and my partner. It was painful but so empowering!! I agree moms need to educate themselves to avoid unnecessary inductions
sweet Manon! you are so real right now, and that in itself is really courageous. let your doula have it, she really let you down, and that's a human to human thing, it's a betrayal. she knew - or should have known - what being induced meant and known that you'd need an advocate. that's what you hired her for! i'm so sorry that was your birth experience, and i wish it was better for you. you deserved better, and it's totally okay to be angry about it. thank you both for this really great, frank discussion - we need more of it!
i had a traumatic birth too! Went from not being in labour to being in full blown labour with back to back contractions naturally at home. Went to hospital after4 hours because I couldn’t cope anymore and they hooked me up to a machine to check my contractions and they confirmed they were strong and back to back&so could have this baby before breakfast (it was 3 in the morning so maybe 5 or 6 hours) I didn’t!.Lunch came and went still no baby, couldn’t cope with pain anymore and got epidural. Thought phew that’s better and then I felt very unwell and blacked out. Husband thought I was dead, emergency button was pressed, husband was kicked out of the room, and lots of doctors and nurses came into the room(I’ve no memory of this) next thing I’m back awake my husband is next to me crying telling me he thought I died and they tell me I need to start pushing. I was pushing for ages and nothing! The baby was stressed and not doing well at this stage so they had to do vacuum and forceps to get him out quickly. He came out sideways, I got a 3rd degree tear and had to get stitched up for nearly an hour afterwards. I didn’t realise how bad it was till I went in for my 6 week check up at 12 weeks (they pushed it out to allow me longer to heal) and got an apology from the doctor. He said they should have realised the baby was not in the correct position for a vaginal birth and I should have been brought in for a c section. Very traumatic experience which left me feeling numb and detached from my baby. Thankfully I bonded with my boy and we have the most wonderful relationship with him.. I love him sooo much and he has brought so much joy into our lives. Grateful for him everyday ❤
That's hard! Know that your feelings are real! That must be so difficult to go through! I had a very traumatic labour as well. I saw a birth trauma therapist that did EMDR and somatic techniques and it helped me heal mentally and emotionally
I love you two together. I love the playfulness and the more serious moments and I think yall need to continue doing these often or start one together 😊
Thanks for sharing! This isn't my story as I've never had any children - but the story of a very dear friend. She was having her first kid in a European country notorious for proposing paracetamol (like Tylenol) for anything and everything - and nothing stronger. My friend was 2 weeks past due date, and they were just kinda like "well baby seems good - s/he will let us know when s/he's ready". In the end they finally induced labor. They gave her a "light epidural" because "it's important you feel the labor", though this wasn't part of her plan (she wanted full on epidural). She was in proper labor for 10 hours, and by the time she was actively pushing, there was ZERO epidural effect. Sooo she felt everything, including when they *CUT* her hooha to help the baby pass, she lost tons of blood, etc. After baby finally came out, they put baby on her chest and just figured she'd be so enamoured and euphoric with the birth of her child that she WOULDN'T NOTICE THEM SEWING HER UP WITH NO NUMBING AGENT. It was very traumatic. When she had her second baby 2 years later, she was sure to impose her birth plan, and while it was still hard, it was far less traumatic.
I just have to say that this was so incredibly healing to listen to! I had my second baby girl in October and my doula/ birth photographer who is also a really good friend of mine, told me that she had a wedding to go photograph instead of being at my birth. She told me this when I was almost getting admitted at the hospital so I was contracting and about 4 CM. I was shocked because she hadn’t mentioned the whole time that she had other obligations and I couldn’t believe she chose a wedding over being there. She did send an alternate but it wasn’t the same because I put all of my trust into her and it was supposed to be something so sacred. I resonate with you so much, Manon!
Birth stories are always so interesting to me and I love how open we all are now. I'm also really happy that I got to listen to and watch this entire episode and it didn't get taken down when I was just getting started, like Mondays episode that has just vanished everywhere. I love Manon and thank you for introducing her to me. She's one of the funniest people I've ever followed.
@@Ihateyoutube643 That's crazy! I got the notification for RUclips and by the time I opened it, there was no video. Thankfully it was on Spotify but as I was listening...poof ! There hasn't been any explanation so that's weird too.
@@Ihateyoutube643 I was eventually able to find it and watch it but it's still so weird that it was up and then vanished everywhere with no explanation. I was on my lunch break when I found it on Spotify and it was getting interesting when it was taken down. Such a weird thing and even weirder to act like nothing even happened.
The two of you together brings me so much joy and happiness! Every bit of it, especially when you get down to the nit and gritty and I know it's the truth and so relatable. I love it!😅❤
My girls are now 36,31,25, and 24 years old and I can honestly say I have never “stopped worrying” about any of them. Once they get married (only one of them so far!) I remember feeling a sense of “stress reduction “ but other than that .. I’m on my third decade of “momming “
I absolutely love you too! It's the Funnest, funiest video I've seen lately 😅❤ I needed to see this! Thanks for being so amazing, Laura and Manon ❤ love when you guys do content together! My favorite duo 🥰
thats so relatable unfortunately ❤️ I had a full blown diagnosed PTSD after my first birth, ended up on strong meds. 3 years later im pregnant again and praying for an easier ride … Im so sorry to hear your story Manon❤️i feel your pain. Its freaky how simmilar our stories are. I was also pushing for 3h after epidural stoped working and that was one of the worst parts. It ended up in forceps delivery after the doctor announed my baby was going to die if i pushed a minute longer. Its sad how at that point i didnt even care. For a long time i thought my story was special. Unfortunately birth trauma is very common
My God.... The insurance conversation.... I work in the patient financial services department of a hospital.... I see patients get screwed by their shitty insurance company every damn day. They screw the patient and the hospital. High deductible plans are a joke. The US absolutely needs to push harder for a one-payer healthcare system. If only the vast majority of people knew how it really works. If your local hospital has closed down or filed bankruptcy, there's a good chance they couldn't get paid for one reason or another by insurance companies who post millions or billions in profits each year.
Ricki Lake documentary The business of being born. Really insightful about the intention of hospitals and the desire to "sped up the laboring process "
My son is now 52. Born in 1972 almost on Leap Year Day. I was in labor 19 hours all natural no epidural! They called him my miracle baby as I was not able to have any more due to extensive endometriosis. I always worked at the hospital I delivered him in! He was 9 lbs 8 oz & slept through the night at 4 days old. As a brand new mom I was so happy he slept so well!!
Traumatic birth club! Got induced, was in labor for days then pushed for 3 hours to end in an emergency c section. Here’s the kicker, I had 4 OBGYNs to make sure I would know my doctor when I went into labor. Well my doctor was on vacation and I got some 85 year old man I had never met for my c section. My now ex husband left me at the hospital multiple times over the 5 days we were there to do drugs also. I really needed someone to advocate for me. I at one point heard a deep noise that I then realized I was making, some primal shit for sure lol. Thanks for talking about this in a real way. It does feel better to not feel alone.
It's so weird. She had a countdown and that disappeared but whatever. Part One still went up and was gone before I could really watch. It was still on Spotify, thankfully, but someone took it off as I was listening.
I have four. The first was suuuch a long labor. He was OP (aka "sunny side up") which creates excruciating back labor. It was really hard. However, (don't hate me) after that, my next three were all around four hour labors including pushing. My last two were born at home into my hands, unassisted. It was still painful, intense, extreme, but I am so much more comfortable alone & those experiences were by far the best for me and I felt very safe. I felt strong and capable too. ..plus giving birth unassisted in my bedroom is my own little F you to our U.S. health system. Manon - I love your openness and all the love and gratitude you exude. Laura - you were giving the most big sister support vibes I've ever seen and just being such a great friend for Manon. This was the best.
Oh, wow. This birth story is so relatable! I had a “normal” but ultimately traumatic first birth, I HIGHLY recommend hypnobirthing for any future pregnancies. It was such a game changer for me! It takes all the fear and anxiety out of birth and was so empowering!
I had a C-section so I can't say anything about pushing, but it sounds like Laura being able to be upright and hanging on to something was helpful for her. 🤗💙
Manon, you are worth it!!! It's ok to not only ask for help, but also ask for what you need. Try it in baby steps. For example asking someone to open the door for you, when you take your son out in a stroller. You deserve acts of kindness, and will receive them, but only if you speak up, loudly and specifically. You got this girl!
Re the women getting induced more- I was offered it at 40 weeks and 2 days if I didn't go into natural labour. We asked alot of in details questions ans my obgyn was amazing and patient. She said that it's basically because a relatively recent study said that birth outcomes for induction at earlier than 41 weeks were better than after and best at 39. There's a curve and after that 40 weeks your risk goes up for still birth. The rest was scheduling. I went naturally into labour on my due date so it was avoided. I can't relate personally to that degree of contraction pain, I received epidural at 8cm - but I hear it consistently with women who were induced that the contractions are worse and more aggressive. They should have got on pain management stat. I'm so heartbroken to hear your experience and thank you for having the courage and vulnerability to share. ❤
I don’t know how I feel about inductions at all anymore. They seem to throw them out Willy-Nilly to everyone, they’re so painful and stressful for both mom and baby and %50 end in C-section anyway…I’m sorry you went through that Mannon. My first was really traumatizing too. I was given a membrane sweep without my consent (horribly painful) and then I had back labor for five days….
I'm just at 27 minutes, but just wanted to jump in and say that contractions aren't the same for every birth, and I had what you described for my second. Insane, take-me-out-of-my-body-now level pain. You're not alone, even if some moms can't relate!
That is literally 👏not 👏fucking 👏true. There’s a lot of reasons to induce and the science absolutely supports induction after the 41st week. The placenta gets old. The risk of fetal demise goes up. The risk of getting meconium in the lungs increases and infection increases. Outcomes are statistically worse for both the mother and the baby. Not to mention for people like me, induction is a life saving procedure.
I’m 59. I’ve had four children and heard thousands of birth stories. This by far is the most honest and realistic and accurate description of how birthing usually goes that I’ve ever heard. You did an amazing job girl.
My birth stories are easy : 1)planned c section under general anesthesia (1992) bc I had a spine injury and was told to not deliver vaginally. 2) attempted VBAC (new dr said I could deliver vaginally w my spine issues) . Labored for 36 hrs and only dilated ONE centimeter. Had c section with an epidural anesthesia. 3) planned c section 4) planned c section !
I had 4 med free deliveries. The 1st 3 were great..better than great.My 1st was a few hours but gradual pain. My second was 45 minutes of pain, my 3rd was born 30 minutes after I got to the hospital. I was afraid my 4th was going to fall out while I was vacuuming. Then they decided to induce me because she was a week late (and it was a Friday) They induced me at 7 am and I assumed I'd be done by 9. At 930 that night, I was ready for an epidural but it was too late. I honestly believe the induction was the reason. She just wasn't ready to come out and we forced it. I would recommend to anyone that unless the baby is in distress say no to being induced. Manon, I'm sorry you had to go through that. Also health insurance in America sucks.
You two are seriously so funny 😂 also love the vulnerability…thank you for that ❤ My traumatic birth story When my water broke on a Friday afternoon it was more like I sprung a leak. No big gush, just a constant trickle. First night in the hospital they tried the foley bulb…didn’t work The next day in the afternoon they started pitocen and shortly after that I got my epidural which never worked. I felt everything. Legs never were numb or anything. Contractions started Saturday night and progressively worsened until around 2 am when I was ready to push. I pushed for 4 HOURS. For the last two hours I was being told that the head was right there and I eventually got to the same point as Manon…I had nothing left in me. I was crying and passing out between contractions. My contractions were really irregular too. I’d have one, 30 seconds later another, then 2 minutes another, 30 seconds and another in this pattern. But finally I told them I was giving up and I couldn’t do it anymore. They made me sign a contract agreeing to 3 tries with the Dyson and then he’s have to be pushed back up with birth canal if I was unsuccessful for a c-section. I got him out on the 3rd try with like 7 people screaming at me to push. Turns out the little jerk had his hand tucked under his chin and it was getting stuck on my pelvic bone which is why I couldn’t get him out. It was awful and miserable and so incredibly painful, but just like Manon, id do it again in a heartbeat.
I have 3 children, and every one of them were born by C-section. My first 2 births were traumatic. First one I developed bells palsy 7 days over my due day. Went to the hospital to be checked over for that only to be told my baby was breach, so back in following day for C section. 2nd birth was the worst went into labour early, went through 16hours of labour only for it to stop and have to be rushed down to theatre for emergency C section took me almost a year to recover from that one. 3rd pregnancy was a walk in the park and the easiest birth as it was planned c section. Went in 4 days before my due date. Got the c section out 2 days later on my feet after 3wks driving again at 5 weeks. My sister has 4 children she was induced with her last 2 and she talks about how traumatic those births were.❤
I think you guys should make videos of these individual experiences (vlog style) + do a comedy tour across the USA. A sleep over in Denver, theme park in Cali, clerb (club) in Minnesota, etc. Then at each state you guys do a live episode like this video as your tour + 10 minutes of stand up each. (I would love some royalties for this idea LOL) @ManonMathews
Your story with your doula upsets me so much!!! My mother is a doula and girl, she’s there every minute. She’s stayed with mammas for 40+ hours from first contraction to baby coming out. That’s her job she says. She doesn’t want women to feel alone at any point of this experience. 😢
I had anterior placenta previa, spent 4 months on bedrest, had a scheduled c-section that was high risk. Went to recovery and then had a massive hemorrhage and died. Had multiple blood transfusions and a black and blue abdomen from them on top of me applying pressure to try and stop the bleeding. That was the most traumatic experience of my life. Also, induction happens often here because after 41 weeks the risk of fetal death increases a very good amount.
My mom had 3 induced births. She tells every woman to get it slowly and not all at once because i was the first and she said it was the worth pain shes ever felt. Im so sorry you went through that Manon😢
For the first year after birth I kept thinking ‘I sure could go for a recreational epidural right now.’ It’s so good. 😂😂 I pushed my epidural like on my like last 30 min of pushing. And again when she was crowing and I was like CAN I PUSH THE BUTTON and they were like… yeah you can do whatever want. This happens with so many doulas, I don’t think I would ever hire one.
I've had 3 kids, 2 were inductions (no epidurals) and one was a natural birth. The inductions were absolutely horrible, definitely traumatic. The contractions came on so quick and hard that I could barely breathe and the pain was completely overwhelming and exhausting. The natural birth was a cake walk by comparison. Since then I've heard so many similar stories from women and yet no one is ever truthfully told what to expect with an induction. It makes me furious.
I remember when I had my first it was a terrible experience, I had planned an out of hospital birth and after 24 hours of labor contractions ranging from 2 to 7 minutes apart and a very painful attempt to reposition baby I had enough, my midwife made me feel less then, at times, and supported at other times. The hospital staff for labor/birth was great. But postpartum staff were the people that made me realize mom is always supposed to come last, at least that's what our culture thinks.
I hope u can heal and somehow forgive that dula so u can heal from this ur beautiful it will get easier i was so depressed after childbirth it will get better u just need a good sleep i know i did.
I love your videos, you two are the absolute best. You remind me of when me and my bestie get together❤ thank you for sharing your story.. stories. Because birth has many it's not just one story. I love that your sons name is River. Our lil 5 yr son is named River. When you got to the paralyzed legs I had to comment. Because this hits so close to home after having an epidural with my first & spinal tap my other 2 because of C-section. Which is another story lol. Mind over matter is no joke. River was born at 36 wks (so jazzed we made it, damn high risk) because I had TOO much fluid. River had an over active kidney and was basically urinating constantly, I also had placenta Pervia (which I had no idea until i read it it in, what to expect when expecting, reading 5 out of 100,000 cases and I was like ;watch I'll get it😅 and SOB 😮 I did. 😔 which was scary to say the least thinking I would have to get a c-section long ways down my stomach instead of bikini line 😢 Thankfully he arrived, but his lung wasn't fully developed so he had to be taken to the NICU with his dad another hospital while I remained at another. I pushed myself to move my legs, drink all my fluids, walk and Poop so I could leave the hospital to go see my baby. River was born on my birthday. Which was the sweetest most exciting birthday I've ever celebrated. ❤ most difficult of 3 births. We saved the best for last. ❤ Congratulations momma! On your lil River
I was induced at 40 weeks, due to a chorioangioma on my placenta at the end, plus my baby was measuring 2 weeks ahead the whole time. Also a large head. Labored for about 30 hours. Epidural didn't do anything, except numb my left leg. Pushed for 3 hours and tore. I wouldn't say it was traumatic, but I'd do things differently next time.
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Feeling much better now thanks for all the love ❤
Induction is definitely a money thing and it’s terrible. I’m so happy you’re going to do a homebirth next time! You can absolutely have a 9 lb baby for one, and absolutely have a 42 week baby safety.
I used to be a doula and am now a homebirth midwife. I’m sorry your doula didn’t come to advocate for you and educate you more about the dangers of cytotec, and the cascade of intervention that usually comes with that. I can imagine being a doula in LA may be different than where I’m from, but there has to be room for change.
Thank you for commenting! I was trying to find your channel. It would have been a lot easier if Laura had linked it in the description.
I’ve had 4 kids it’s said it’s the fastest pain you forget, believe me by the time River is one you’ll have forgotten if that helps hi from the UK 😊
Congrats Momma! You f***ng did tha damn thing!!
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Glad you're doing better. I hope you got your money back. My induction is why I switched to homebirth. The only reason I was induced is that I was 2 days over.
Shout out to the husband for being an incredible partner to you. The silver lining is the strengthening of your bond with him to be able to raise a beautiful baby boy!
Hey Manon! I was a doula for 5 years and I must say that your doula should have been there for you. Especially if you were in pain. It upsets me that she did that.
It’s normal for doulas to take breaks, and go home and sleep if the labor is getting too long and sometimes the baby comes when that happens 😂 but you would have felt more prepared and have the tools you needed to feel supported by her had to come and then gone home if the labor got too long! Also! The entire point of a doula is to be there, coach your client through those tough times from 0-10 dilation! When doulas are present at our births there have been studies to show that we have shorter labor times and they are able to help delay intervention! I would always ask “do we have to make the decision NOW or can we can we take 15 minutes so we can discuss?” Almost always there was time to to coach the client and reminded her of her goals and give us a chance to put her in a different position to help that baby come down and let your cervix ripen.
Also you’re right on the money about feeling like you were pressured to not delay your labor by using epidural! The hospitals make more money if you give birth faster. That way they can rush you to recovery and then that room can be used for someone else!
I'm from the UK and have never heard of a doula 🤷🏻♀️ please someone explain. I guess it's a birthing partner with qualifications
@@carolesigrist1679I'm from the UK and remember watching a series where a women had one at her home birth. They're basically a birthing partner that helps you with breathing, meditation (if that's what you want), says encouraging and relaxing things. The one I watched seemed really good (especially as the lady practically breathed the baby out while the midwifes were turned around), but apparently not all are like that.
@@carolesigrist1679you guessed it certified labour partner, can help advocate for the mom in labour, they help with different positions to ease pain and progress dilation and labour
So true! I kept denying pitocin with my first, water broke before contractions. So glad I did because there was no way I could handle the pitocin with no cushion. It did take a while for my contractions to stabilize and progress.
Looking into a doula with this pregnancy. 🙌🏻
Thank you for sharing your story. Premature induction is DEFINITELY a big problem.. The baby hasn’t dropped to naturally condition the cercix . Lots of love to you - you’ve been so brave ♥️
Traumatic birth sister here- too many things to mention. My baby was premature so I went to a room and i was traumatized with no baby to hold. I then developed severe post partum. It was dark for a moment, but I had a lot of support and made it through to the other side. Please lean on your friends and family for help when you need it. Its ok.
My daughter was in the nicu for 5 months. It was tough but so are we and our babies! ❤
and they didn't bother telling you the risks of INDUCING...abusive!!!!!!!!...it makes labor WAY more painful and it forces the baby to come when it is not ready......which is also dangerous
Right?! And sooo many drs now want to induce just for their own convenience. They dont even think about whats best or natural for mother and baby
Also cytotek isn’t approved for use in labor. It’s known to cause uterine rupture
The intro convo about aging - chefs kiss 😚
Every person I have heard who has an induced labor has a horrible birth experience. I really believe those cause so many problem and trauma for both the baby and mama. To horrible. I have had three babies at home and the baby just come when it was ready and my body was also ready. I’m so so sorry you both went threw such horrible experience.
I was induced and i had a really positive birth. Its defenitely possible.
As a woman with ADHD and in recovery, I get so much benefit from you two and your conversations. Funny, smart, beautiful women! Love to see it!
My ADHD can't get enough of them, massive dopamine hit
You two are legit the GOAT!! I would LOVE to just hang with you guys.. it is a very rare thing to hear girlfriends being so brutally honest and maintaining the humor and genuine care. Love it. ❤
My first birth was also traumatic. I was stuck at 6 cm and they gave me pitocin to speed things up. About 30 minutes later I felt pressure and the urge to push so I told the nurse and she dismissed me saying I wouldn’t get to 10 cm so quickly. I urged her to do a cervical check and sure enough he was crowning!! She then proceeded to tell me my OBGYN was not at the hospital and she would be here in 15 minutes and HELD MY LEGS CLOSED until the OB got there 10 minutes later. I wish I would have fought them on that and said I’ll push him out myself but I was not in the right state of mind. My son was born with a hematoma on his head and I am convinced it is because he was forced to hang out in my canal while my body was naturally trying to get him out. I found out later after talking to different people about my birth story that they held my legs closed so that the OB could deliver the baby herself and get paid. I don’t know if that is actually the reason but what other reason could there be? There were other OBGYNs on the floor. All that to say, traumatic birth story or not, my son is healthy and he doesn’t have a deformed head so I’m grateful for that.
I hear these stories and am filled with such RAGE. This can cause fetal demise and brain damage for the baby! (What happened to Rose Kennedy)
@@Mademoiselle-BeeThis is the first time I’ve ever heard of Rose Kennedy’s birth story!!!! Wow. I’m feeling extra grateful knowing this could have turned out differently for me and my baby boy who is now 4 years old.
Omg that is SOO dangerous!! It could lead to death.
Absolutely horrific!! Lucky that your baby was ok. It could end in death, brain damage and other issues. That is beyond negligent. I agree, the only reason to do that is bc they didnt want to call another dr. A main reason they do so many inductions is bc they want to schedule the labor/delivery. Its easier for drs to plan them and have a schedule than up in the air. 2am Wed night call in deliveries, 2pm on Sat when they have plans. They schedule them for convenience on them. Pure selfishness
That’s crazy! When I told the nurse I had to push she looked scared but was like- “okay, I’ll deliver if I have to!”
Doctor showed up and left because he said it would be a while …. It was…1hr 45 minutes of pushing.
He had to move the cervical lip (stuck on the baby’s head- and yes it hurt!) , and cath me between contractions because hadn’t done to the bathroom in forever and my bladder was blocking the birth canal.
I had a normal pregnancy, under care of midwives at a birthing center. I went to L&D for bleeding and after seeing baby was fine, the nurse kept asking me if I just wanted to be induced. I’m like no I paid this birthing center already and I am in no way close to being in labor. They just want to get the baby out as fast as possible and they expect that women want the same.
Maaaan yeah... you asked about inductions.. the midwife told me when I was in having my first that the rates of inductions spike right before Christmas, Easter etc.. (UK) so they get all the births done so the staff can get their planned days off! Yup. And that was when I was being induced with my first. Luckily a very intuitive midwife realised I had no fluid left at 40 weeks (scans hadnt picked that up..?!?!).
I was told we'd need to induce that day. So i went home to get my bags and consulted my Ina May Gaskin book ✨️, which listed 6 situations when induction is advised - and no fluid was one! They said my placenta had stopped working so baby was ingesting fluid.
I had the canula in the arm drugs like Laura.. it was like my body was being dragged into a state it wasn't ready for... grinding jarring hard pain for 12 hrs and no epidural cos the idea of it freaked me out more than the idea of the baby splitting me in half 😅
In my second pregnancy, my doctor booked me an induction on my due date a month in advance "just in case"!! 😖 When due date came there was no reason to induce, so I refused. I then turned down 4 more inductions over the next few days, at one point, asking the doctor through angry tears to give me one solid medical reason for inducing me right now. He couldn't. He just said "because we like to be in control of the situation 🤦♀️
Finally I went into natural labour and she flew out in under an hour in what was possibly verging on being one of those orgasmic births. It was fierce but tolerable. In fact the midwife said it was one of the best she'd seen 🥹
Granted, second baby might be easier for the body, but it was a world apart from the feeling of induction and I urge women to educate yourself to be confident in holding your ground and understanding the genuine reasons when induction is appropriate, so you can see though it when the docs are trying to simply twist your arm to make their day go smoother. Your body, your choice ❤
Same here, induced for my first for medical reasons I. It was so incredibly painful. For my second I decided to have a home birth. Definitely not orgasmic by any stretch of the imagination but I feel so damn proud of myself, my baby and my partner. It was painful but so empowering!!
I agree moms need to educate themselves to avoid unnecessary inductions
EXACTLY what I said about reason why they plan inductions! Its simply for convenience on the drs and THAT is pretty damn low and pathetic on their end
I can totally relate to Manon. Anytime you guys talk it is so helpful. Thank you for being so vulnerable and sharing with us.
sweet Manon! you are so real right now, and that in itself is really courageous. let your doula have it, she really let you down, and that's a human to human thing, it's a betrayal. she knew - or should have known - what being induced meant and known that you'd need an advocate. that's what you hired her for! i'm so sorry that was your birth experience, and i wish it was better for you. you deserved better, and it's totally okay to be angry about it. thank you both for this really great, frank discussion - we need more of it!
This was a ride for you surely. You are a strong and incredible woman ! Glad you are well and recovering smoothly 🫶🏻
I’m so glad you two have each other ❤
i had a traumatic birth too! Went from not being in labour to being in full blown labour with back to back contractions naturally at home. Went to hospital after4 hours because I couldn’t cope anymore and they hooked me up to a machine to check my contractions and they confirmed they were strong and back to back&so could have this baby before breakfast (it was 3 in the morning so maybe 5 or 6 hours) I didn’t!.Lunch came and went still no baby, couldn’t cope with pain anymore and got epidural. Thought phew that’s better and then I felt very unwell and blacked out. Husband thought I was dead, emergency button was pressed, husband was kicked out of the room, and lots of doctors and nurses came into the room(I’ve no memory of this) next thing I’m back awake my husband is next to me crying telling me he thought I died and they tell me I need to start pushing. I was pushing for ages and nothing! The baby was stressed and not doing well at this stage so they had to do vacuum and forceps to get him out quickly. He came out sideways, I got a 3rd degree tear and had to get stitched up for nearly an hour afterwards. I didn’t realise how bad it was till I went in for my 6 week check up at 12 weeks (they pushed it out to allow me longer to heal) and got an apology from the doctor. He said they should have realised the baby was not in the correct position for a vaginal birth and I should have been brought in for a c section. Very traumatic experience which left me feeling numb and detached from my baby. Thankfully I bonded with my boy and we have the most wonderful relationship with him.. I love him sooo much and he has brought so much joy into our lives. Grateful for him everyday ❤
That's hard! Know that your feelings are real! That must be so difficult to go through! I had a very traumatic labour as well. I saw a birth trauma therapist that did EMDR and somatic techniques and it helped me heal mentally and emotionally
Dang I’m so sorry
I love this beautiful friendship you two have! So sweet 😍
Manon ended that beautifully! The love you feel for the children you birth is immeasurable.
I love you two together. I love the playfulness and the more serious moments and I think yall need to continue doing these often or start one together 😊
Thanks for sharing! This isn't my story as I've never had any children - but the story of a very dear friend. She was having her first kid in a European country notorious for proposing paracetamol (like Tylenol) for anything and everything - and nothing stronger. My friend was 2 weeks past due date, and they were just kinda like "well baby seems good - s/he will let us know when s/he's ready". In the end they finally induced labor. They gave her a "light epidural" because "it's important you feel the labor", though this wasn't part of her plan (she wanted full on epidural). She was in proper labor for 10 hours, and by the time she was actively pushing, there was ZERO epidural effect. Sooo she felt everything, including when they *CUT* her hooha to help the baby pass, she lost tons of blood, etc. After baby finally came out, they put baby on her chest and just figured she'd be so enamoured and euphoric with the birth of her child that she WOULDN'T NOTICE THEM SEWING HER UP WITH NO NUMBING AGENT. It was very traumatic. When she had her second baby 2 years later, she was sure to impose her birth plan, and while it was still hard, it was far less traumatic.
That sounds terrible!! 😟 Was it in Germany?
I just have to say that this was so incredibly healing to listen to! I had my second baby girl in October and my doula/ birth photographer who is also a really good friend of mine, told me that she had a wedding to go photograph instead of being at my birth. She told me this when I was almost getting admitted at the hospital so I was contracting and about 4 CM. I was shocked because she hadn’t mentioned the whole time that she had other obligations and I couldn’t believe she chose a wedding over being there. She did send an alternate but it wasn’t the same because I put all of my trust into her and it was supposed to be something so sacred. I resonate with you so much, Manon!
Birth stories are always so interesting to me and I love how open we all are now. I'm also really happy that I got to listen to and watch this entire episode and it didn't get taken down when I was just getting started, like Mondays episode that has just vanished everywhere. I love Manon and thank you for introducing her to me. She's one of the funniest people I've ever followed.
@@Ihateyoutube643 That's crazy! I got the notification for RUclips and by the time I opened it, there was no video. Thankfully it was on Spotify but as I was listening...poof ! There hasn't been any explanation so that's weird too.
@@Ihateyoutube643 I was eventually able to find it and watch it but it's still so weird that it was up and then vanished everywhere with no explanation. I was on my lunch break when I found it on Spotify and it was getting interesting when it was taken down. Such a weird thing and even weirder to act like nothing even happened.
The two of you together brings me so much joy and happiness! Every bit of it, especially when you get down to the nit and gritty and I know it's the truth and so relatable. I love it!😅❤
This brightened my day so much ❤ Thank you for your vulnerability, candor, humor, and powerful storytelling. Best podcast yet!!
You two together always bring the realness mixed with comedy gold! Always.
I love you guys together. As soon as one of you goes into a character the other one just goes right along with it. It’s great ❤
My girls are now 36,31,25, and 24 years old and I can honestly say I have never “stopped worrying” about any of them. Once they get married (only one of them so far!) I remember feeling a sense of “stress reduction “ but other than that .. I’m on my third decade of “momming “
Finally! I missed you too ❤ and the podcast 🎉
I absolutely love you too! It's the Funnest, funiest video I've seen lately 😅❤ I needed to see this! Thanks for being so amazing, Laura and Manon ❤ love when you guys do content together! My favorite duo 🥰
So happy she had a safe birth!! Sweet baby boy!!!♥️♥️
thats so relatable unfortunately ❤️ I had a full blown diagnosed PTSD after my first birth, ended up on strong meds. 3 years later im pregnant again and praying for an easier ride … Im so sorry to hear your story Manon❤️i feel your pain. Its freaky how simmilar our stories are. I was also pushing for 3h after epidural stoped working and that was one of the worst parts. It ended up in forceps delivery after the doctor announed my baby was going to die if i pushed a minute longer. Its sad how at that point i didnt even care. For a long time i thought my story was special. Unfortunately birth trauma is very common
My God.... The insurance conversation.... I work in the patient financial services department of a hospital.... I see patients get screwed by their shitty insurance company every damn day. They screw the patient and the hospital. High deductible plans are a joke. The US absolutely needs to push harder for a one-payer healthcare system. If only the vast majority of people knew how it really works. If your local hospital has closed down or filed bankruptcy, there's a good chance they couldn't get paid for one reason or another by insurance companies who post millions or billions in profits each year.
Ricki Lake documentary The business of being born. Really insightful about the intention of hospitals and the desire to "sped up the laboring process "
Thank you for sharing this with me today ❤I relate to much
Great discussion. And I was dying with the Tony Robins satan voice. 😂😂😂
My son is now 52. Born in 1972 almost on Leap Year Day. I was in labor 19 hours all natural no epidural! They called him my miracle baby as I was not able to have any more due to extensive endometriosis. I always worked at the hospital I delivered him in! He was 9 lbs 8 oz & slept through the night at 4 days old. As a brand new mom I was so happy he slept so well!!
😂😂 You two are hilarious at the beginning. I was laughing out loud. Now I want tacos!!
You two have beautiful sense of humour
I love it so much I can't
Traumatic birth club! Got induced, was in labor for days then pushed for 3 hours to end in an emergency c section. Here’s the kicker, I had 4 OBGYNs to make sure I would know my doctor when I went into labor. Well my doctor was on vacation and I got some 85 year old man I had never met for my c section. My now ex husband left me at the hospital multiple times over the 5 days we were there to do drugs also. I really needed someone to advocate for me. I at one point heard a deep noise that I then realized I was making, some primal shit for sure lol. Thanks for talking about this in a real way. It does feel better to not feel alone.
What happened to the Stephen episodes? :( I was looking forward to watching those.
It's so weird. She had a countdown and that disappeared but whatever. Part One still went up and was gone before I could really watch. It was still on Spotify, thankfully, but someone took it off as I was listening.
I love how you both can make me laugh to tears and also cause tears of joy and self-realizations! ❤
Gosh dang I wish I could hang out with you two for a day. Your lucky to have each other.
Holy cow your birth story and mine are so crazy similar ❤nuts! My lil pumpkin is 10yrs old now! Enjoy motherhood, it is amazing!
I have four. The first was suuuch a long labor. He was OP (aka "sunny side up") which creates excruciating back labor. It was really hard. However, (don't hate me) after that, my next three were all around four hour labors including pushing. My last two were born at home into my hands, unassisted. It was still painful, intense, extreme, but I am so much more comfortable alone & those experiences were by far the best for me and I felt very safe. I felt strong and capable too. ..plus giving birth unassisted in my bedroom is my own little F you to our U.S. health system. Manon - I love your openness and all the love and gratitude you exude. Laura - you were giving the most big sister support vibes I've ever seen and just being such a great friend for Manon. This was the best.
Love both of you ! Both of you are magic ❤
I thought I was the only one who went through insurance bull 💩 when I was pregnant!!! So sad that this happens to us all.
Oh, wow. This birth story is so relatable! I had a “normal” but ultimately traumatic first birth, I HIGHLY recommend hypnobirthing for any future pregnancies. It was such a game changer for me! It takes all the fear and anxiety out of birth and was so empowering!
I’m so sorry this happened to you. I’m a doula I wish I was there with you. You deserved support and care through your birth.
So excited, been missing my Thursday content from you!
Finallyyyyyyy omg I've been waiting for this for so loooooong I'm so happy
Id love to hang out with you two and interject some crazy english middle aged humour into the mix..go ladies ❤
Y’all are so ridiculous and I love you both 😂
This is amazing!
Hahaha "and then they put a hat on him, and I was like 🤷🏻♀️" hahaha that made me LOL
I had a C-section so I can't say anything about pushing, but it sounds like Laura being able to be upright and hanging on to something was helpful for her. 🤗💙
Manon, you are worth it!!! It's ok to not only ask for help, but also ask for what you need. Try it in baby steps. For example asking someone to open the door for you, when you take your son out in a stroller. You deserve acts of kindness, and will receive them, but only if you speak up, loudly and specifically. You got this girl!
Yayyyy!! We have been waiting for this ❤️
This was basically like listening to Laura talk to herself for an hour and a half 😂🤣
Re the women getting induced more- I was offered it at 40 weeks and 2 days if I didn't go into natural labour. We asked alot of in details questions ans my obgyn was amazing and patient. She said that it's basically because a relatively recent study said that birth outcomes for induction at earlier than 41 weeks were better than after and best at 39. There's a curve and after that 40 weeks your risk goes up for still birth.
The rest was scheduling.
I went naturally into labour on my due date so it was avoided. I can't relate personally to that degree of contraction pain, I received epidural at 8cm - but I hear it consistently with women who were induced that the contractions are worse and more aggressive. They should have got on pain management stat. I'm so heartbroken to hear your experience and thank you for having the courage and vulnerability to share. ❤
I’m never more excited than when i see laura drop a pod with manon
I don’t know how I feel about inductions at all anymore. They seem to throw them out Willy-Nilly to everyone, they’re so painful and stressful for both mom and baby and %50 end in C-section anyway…I’m sorry you went through that Mannon. My first was really traumatizing too. I was given a membrane sweep without my consent (horribly painful) and then I had back labor for five days….
I'm just at 27 minutes, but just wanted to jump in and say that contractions aren't the same for every birth, and I had what you described for my second. Insane, take-me-out-of-my-body-now level pain. You're not alone, even if some moms can't relate!
Your friendship is so beautiful. It might be pregnancy hormones but I’m a little teary eyed now. Thank you for sharing your story Manon.
In the USA I think you induce more because it'll be more expensive with drugs and then epidural because it often gets so intense.
That is literally 👏not 👏fucking 👏true.
There’s a lot of reasons to induce and the science absolutely supports induction after the 41st week. The placenta gets old. The risk of fetal demise goes up. The risk of getting meconium in the lungs increases and infection increases. Outcomes are statistically worse for both the mother and the baby.
Not to mention for people like me, induction is a life saving procedure.
I love hearing the camera guy giggle under his breath while you guys tell your stories. Congratulations Manon!
I’m 59. I’ve had four children and heard thousands of birth stories. This by far is the most honest and realistic and accurate description of how birthing usually goes that I’ve ever heard. You did an amazing job girl.
My birth stories are easy : 1)planned c section under general anesthesia (1992) bc I had a spine injury and was told to not deliver vaginally. 2) attempted VBAC (new dr said I could deliver vaginally w my spine issues) . Labored for 36 hrs and only dilated ONE centimeter. Had c section with an epidural anesthesia. 3) planned c section 4) planned c section !
Okay the planned parenthood discussion had me dying of laughter 😂
Love how your Dula is like "fuck you" and the anesthesiologist got out of bed to come in for you ❤
Can i just say the ‘comin in hot’ edit was everything
I had 4 med free deliveries. The 1st 3 were great..better than great.My 1st was a few hours but gradual pain. My second was 45 minutes of pain, my 3rd was born 30 minutes after I got to the hospital. I was afraid my 4th was going to fall out while I was vacuuming. Then they decided to induce me because she was a week late (and it was a Friday) They induced me at 7 am and I assumed I'd be done by 9. At 930 that night, I was ready for an epidural but it was too late. I honestly believe the induction was the reason. She just wasn't ready to come out and we forced it. I would recommend to anyone that unless the baby is in distress say no to being induced. Manon, I'm sorry you had to go through that. Also health insurance in America sucks.
You two are seriously so funny 😂 also love the vulnerability…thank you for that ❤
My traumatic birth story
When my water broke on a Friday afternoon it was more like I sprung a leak. No big gush, just a constant trickle. First night in the hospital they tried the foley bulb…didn’t work
The next day in the afternoon they started pitocen and shortly after that I got my epidural which never worked. I felt everything. Legs never were numb or anything. Contractions started Saturday night and progressively worsened until around 2 am when I was ready to push. I pushed for 4 HOURS. For the last two hours I was being told that the head was right there and I eventually got to the same point as Manon…I had nothing left in me. I was crying and passing out between contractions. My contractions were really irregular too. I’d have one, 30 seconds later another, then 2 minutes another, 30 seconds and another in this pattern.
But finally I told them I was giving up and I couldn’t do it anymore. They made me sign a contract agreeing to 3 tries with the Dyson and then he’s have to be pushed back up with birth canal if I was unsuccessful for a c-section. I got him out on the 3rd try with like 7 people screaming at me to push.
Turns out the little jerk had his hand tucked under his chin and it was getting stuck on my pelvic bone which is why I couldn’t get him out.
It was awful and miserable and so incredibly painful, but just like Manon, id do it again in a heartbeat.
I have 3 children, and every one of them were born by C-section. My first 2 births were traumatic. First one I developed bells palsy 7 days over my due day. Went to the hospital to be checked over for that only to be told my baby was breach, so back in following day for C section. 2nd birth was the worst went into labour early, went through 16hours of labour only for it to stop and have to be rushed down to theatre for emergency C section took me almost a year to recover from that one. 3rd pregnancy was a walk in the park and the easiest birth as it was planned c section. Went in 4 days before my due date. Got the c section out 2 days later on my feet after 3wks driving again at 5 weeks. My sister has 4 children she was induced with her last 2 and she talks about how traumatic those births were.❤
Yall make me feel so good
I love yall together
I think you guys should make videos of these individual experiences (vlog style) + do a comedy tour across the USA. A sleep over in Denver, theme park in Cali, clerb (club) in Minnesota, etc. Then at each state you guys do a live episode like this video as your tour + 10 minutes of stand up each. (I would love some royalties for this idea LOL) @ManonMathews
I was induced for seemingly no reason with my 2nd. Literally bc I missed an appointment that day.
Your story with your doula upsets me so much!!! My mother is a doula and girl, she’s there every minute. She’s stayed with mammas for 40+ hours from first contraction to baby coming out. That’s her job she says. She doesn’t want women to feel alone at any point of this experience. 😢
I had anterior placenta previa, spent 4 months on bedrest, had a scheduled c-section that was high risk. Went to recovery and then had a massive hemorrhage and died. Had multiple blood transfusions and a black and blue abdomen from them on top of me applying pressure to try and stop the bleeding. That was the most traumatic experience of my life.
Also, induction happens often here because after 41 weeks the risk of fetal death increases a very good amount.
What's more intense than trauma 😂😂😂DEATH....omg I'm dying
My mom had 3 induced births. She tells every woman to get it slowly and not all at once because i was the first and she said it was the worth pain shes ever felt. Im so sorry you went through that Manon😢
I love seeing this step 4 worked omg thank you guys
For the first year after birth I kept thinking ‘I sure could go for a recreational epidural right now.’ It’s so good. 😂😂
I pushed my epidural like on my like last 30 min of pushing. And again when she was crowing and I was like CAN I PUSH THE BUTTON and they were like… yeah you can do whatever want.
This happens with so many doulas, I don’t think I would ever hire one.
That doula sounds like a scam! Whoever this person is - should know better
I've had 3 kids, 2 were inductions (no epidurals) and one was a natural birth. The inductions were absolutely horrible, definitely traumatic. The contractions came on so quick and hard that I could barely breathe and the pain was completely overwhelming and exhausting. The natural birth was a cake walk by comparison. Since then I've heard so many similar stories from women and yet no one is ever truthfully told what to expect with an induction. It makes me furious.
I remember when I had my first it was a terrible experience, I had planned an out of hospital birth and after 24 hours of labor contractions ranging from 2 to 7 minutes apart and a very painful attempt to reposition baby I had enough, my midwife made me feel less then, at times, and supported at other times. The hospital staff for labor/birth was great. But postpartum staff were the people that made me realize mom is always supposed to come last, at least that's what our culture thinks.
I just love her.. she's so fun😂❤
I hope u can heal and somehow forgive that dula so u can heal from this ur beautiful it will get easier i was so depressed after childbirth it will get better u just need a good sleep i know i did.
My last contrations felt like walking through a football pitch on fire!
In our country induction before 41 weeks is rare.
42 weeks is normal here
I got emotional when you guys started talking about how you just worry your kid stays alive because I feel this whole heartedly ❤️🩹
You beautiful beings, thank you!❤
I love your videos, you two are the absolute best. You remind me of when me and my bestie get together❤ thank you for sharing your story.. stories. Because birth has many it's not just one story. I love that your sons name is River. Our lil 5 yr son is named River. When you got to the paralyzed legs I had to comment. Because this hits so close to home after having an epidural with my first & spinal tap my other 2 because of C-section. Which is another story lol. Mind over matter is no joke. River was born at 36 wks (so jazzed we made it, damn high risk) because I had TOO much fluid. River had an over active kidney and was basically urinating constantly, I also had placenta Pervia (which I had no idea until i read it it in, what to expect when expecting, reading 5 out of 100,000 cases and I was like ;watch I'll get it😅 and SOB 😮 I did. 😔 which was scary to say the least thinking I would have to get a c-section long ways down my stomach instead of bikini line 😢 Thankfully he arrived, but his lung wasn't fully developed so he had to be taken to the NICU with his dad another hospital while I remained at another. I pushed myself to move my legs, drink all my fluids, walk and Poop so I could leave the hospital to go see my baby. River was born on my birthday. Which was the sweetest most exciting birthday I've ever celebrated. ❤ most difficult of 3 births. We saved the best for last. ❤
Congratulations momma! On your lil River
Expecting mamas: please read “what to expect when you’re expecting” because it covers all this and was super useful!!!
Manon - your man seems like one of the best ❤
I've tried to do the retroactive insurance and they said no but cobra does retroactively cover. Its not just a "loss of employment insurance"
Chris laughing in the background ❤
You would think they would prorate it or finish covering since most insurance are annual… there should be some legal claims against them
I was induced at 40 weeks, due to a chorioangioma on my placenta at the end, plus my baby was measuring 2 weeks ahead the whole time. Also a large head. Labored for about 30 hours. Epidural didn't do anything, except numb my left leg. Pushed for 3 hours and tore. I wouldn't say it was traumatic, but I'd do things differently next time.