@@ophelianichols9249 you did a great job. Remember their privacy is necessary, the more we dig or search the more they hide and they go to way farther lengths of hiding stuff.
@@ophelianichols9249❤❤❤❤ women I have fellowed u since my husband was in hospital with Covid n the double pulmonary embolism and I still ware the justice for ur baby . I’m from Winston co al but I live 3 plus hours north now anyways never stop being u
I could listen to Ophelia talk for the rest of my life. What an incredibly inspiring & well spoken woman! I appreciate you using your platform to interview her Laura. 10/10
This! Her voice is so soothing. It feels like a safe space, like a mama. And hearing her story, how much shit she went through, and how gracious and loving and kind she still is? It’s beyond inspiring. She’s just wonderful.
My heart absolutely broke for her during that video and other videos! Lord, the pain of a momma losing a child, is the worst pain and sound you will ever hear! I was in the ER with my baby years ago and years a doctor tell a momma she lost her baby and it was the most blood curdling scream I have ever heard and I will never forget! So my heart breaks for any momma that loses a child no matter how they lose them! I have one child and I can’t imagine!!
Ophelia is an absolute blessing and a breath of fresh air. I strive to be the kind of person she is & I wish a knew an Ophelia in real life. I wish nothing but the world for this woman ❤
I love how Laura doesn’t interrupt when someone’s talking! She says hairy words to let them know she’s paying attention and always looking at them but never interrupts!!! I think it’s beautiful!!! Such a great interviewer!!!
"I fought with him to fight for him"... that sentence has power. A video i needed. Thankyou Laura, ive been watching you since the Steeeeeven videos. Never knew of Ophelia but now a fan!
I remember her life as a child being very abusive. She is open with that and her testimony really hit home and relieved me of guilt I had been carrying for walking away from my mom, a long time ago. I never saw her again. She died in 2002. Thank you for your honesty.
Her voice is so soothing. It feels like a safe space, like a mama wrapping you up in her arms. And hearing her story, how much shit she went through, and how gracious and loving and kind she still is? It’s beyond inspiring. She’s just wonderful. As someone who had a baby at 17, I wish I’d had her videos back when I was a new mom. Especially with my child’s father also having a drug addiction and me trying to love him into sobriety. I needed someone who’d had a baby young and loved a man unwilling to help himself and who still came out it an inspiration instead of a scary statistic. I needed someone who’d make me feel like I wasn’t a tragedy waiting to happen, and when you’re a young mom, everyone makes you feel like you’re gonna fuck your kid up no matter what you do. Even though I’m 27 now and a law student and I’ve beaten the scary statistics and I didn’t have these videos back when I *really* needed them, hearing Mama Tot tell her story still feels like it’s healing a part of me that was broken. And it inspires me to do even more, to be more than successful- but to be kind and loving without expectation, to turn myself into a safe place for people who need it.
You're wise beyond your years sweet girl!! I had my daughter at 16, she's now 27 and just became a mom herself. I didn't graduate college, but I wanted that for her and she's so much better and more than I ever could have expected! She graduated college, married her college boyfriend and they're both teachers and now they just had their first child. I just wanted to tell you how proud of you I am and that you're kicking butt at life!! 💪🏼❤️🫶🏼
I don't know this lady, but she is gold!! Stopping generational trauma by being the opposite of what you received (what broke you) as a child, is the best thing you can do with your life xx
She has cried many times. You learn how to tell Randon’s story to keep his memory alive. My mom died from ALS and I tell hers all the time. I cry occasionally. ❤️
@@saxyben81 my condolences 🙏🏾💜😔 my father passed 7 years ago. To avoid telling the story I made a video. I can talk about it now. Just the first couple years I had to play the video instead.
It depends on the day, to be honest...It's not easy..I lost my daughter ..and when people ask about her....somtimes I can talk about her with out crying and some days..i just can't even talk...its depends on the day....to be honest..
What a beautiful conversation, its really refreshing to listen to a podcast where the the interviewer allows the person to just talk and not interrupt alot.
The trauma response of being hyper vigilant in reading the mood in the room.... every person everywhere who identifies as an "empath" feels exactly the same way. I come from generations of trauma from bipolar disorder and mental illness. I try every single day to break that cycle with my own children. It's so hard when you are trying to heal yourself too.
Yes! When she said that it really never occurred to me that I feel the mood of every room, it’s more than just reading the room. You’re feeling out every single persons emotions before you ever speak a word, so you don’t say something/anything to upset anyone or show the wrong emotions. It’s exhausting sometimes.
Thank you Ophelia. I appreciate how vulnerable you were during this discussion. Well done Laura. I appreciate that you gave Opie the time and space to share her stories without interruption.
I lost my boyfriend and then a month later Ophelia lost her son. Watching her openness in her grief and healing helped me through mine. I love her so much ❤❤❤
I was just blown away by this. I could listen to Ophellia talk all day long. I just want to say thank you for giving her the opportunity to share her story and thank you for sharing your story. It was so unbelievably powerful it has just stuck with me all day long. And Laura I am loving seeing you move through this journey and the healing and grief and you just allowing that process to continue as it needs to in order for you to heal.
I've lost my mom, daddy, and my sister in just the last year. But I could never imagine the hurt of losing a child. Mama tot you are an inspiration. Your content helps me more than you'll ever know.
I'm so sorry 4 ur loss. I lost mom and sister a year apart it feels like ur barely hanging in there accepting and adjusting bammm more pain. Huggs ❤ I can't imagine losing a child. I'll die
@@freespirit_17 my mom's gna b 2years on the 7th and my sister a year on valentines. Plus got A terminal illness on chemotherapy right now its hitting hard. But only the strong survive
I can relate to everything she said about being raised by a bipolar mother. Especially the anxiety of coming home from school and not knowing who to expect on the other side of the door.
Laura you did such a good job interviewing Mama Tot. You asked great questions and listened so well. I love the direction this channel is going and I just love the both of you so much
This is the best crossover I've ever seen. Both incredibly powerful women. I could listen to Ophelia talk ALL DAY. She has such a calming presence, i can't expain. You can just sence how genuine she is without even trying. Love them both❤️
When my boyfriend of 8 yrs. Passed unexpectedly and Young 😔 mama tot and you Laura is what helped me through ❤️ litterly 😔 jellyroll and his wife bunnie helped me as well. All of your souls was placed here for a reason ❤️ thank you 💕
I'm so incredibly sorry for your loss!! I lost my fiance to an overdose in 2015. Jelly Rolls music has helped me tremendously, and his wife Bunnie and I share a birthday (1-22-1980). They're both truly beautiful souls! I'm so very sorry for your loss and I'm sending you love & light along your healing journey. ❤️🫶🏼🫂
A million thanks for having Mama Tot in your podcast. This is the kind of interview I love to see & hear. A genuine and authentic lady with a beautiful light and soul. One of the best. Thanks so much. ♥♥♥
I love to hear people talking about discernment. Also known as intuition. It's definitely a gift. It seems almost supernatural, but it can be learned and refined.
This was a wonderful podcast, Laura. You were respectful & let the conversation flow. Ophelia is such an inspiration. She has so much compassion for others & strength of character. Love her
Lots to think about, the choices we make or don't make, made or didn't make. I swear, sitting in on this video is in some ways triggering, remembering the crazy things that happened in my own life. And yet, hearing and seeing your words MamaTot, feeling your compassion and fortitude, bringing us along is like going through rapids on a river. Sometimes we have to paddle harder to get to calmer waters. The fact that we are still alive, is a testament in itself to perserverence and determination. Bless you Laura, Bless you MamaTot 💖❤️🔥💜🥲
It’s so freeing hearing Ophelia talk about her life and her story. I went through 2 years of physical and mental abuse with my daughters father and the entire first year of her life was lies and manipulation and abuse and I finally had enough and cut him off completely after her first birthday. That was a month ago and we are both so happy and healthy and thriving being away from him. My mental health is so much better and I’m happier and physically healthier now. I love hearing her talk about what she’s been through because it shows me that no matter what i went through, i will always be okay in the end and so will my baby girl.
I remember seeing the video of Mama Tot letting everyone know exactly WHAT and WHOM was stolen from her & her family... i bawled & i barely knew Mama Tot at the time. But thats when i started watching... little did i know not even 2 months would pass & my oldest son's daddy would die. Watching mama tot helped me be able to move along the emotions, the grief & continuing to be a mama to my boys, especially my oldest who was suffering, is still suffering. My life story is just so much like Ophelias & i relate to her immensely. Laura. Thank you so much for this... it was everything i needed at this time in my life...esp before the holidays. With all of my heart, I say thank you. ❤ For the record - the youtube beauty influencer Mama Tot was disappointed by, i believe is Laura Lee. I think bc she is from Alabama as well & her personality match up (as in what ophelia described- cockiness etc).
You interview people so well, you just gained a new follower in me. You don’t speak over them, you just keep it relaxed and let them tell their stories with peppered questions when the time is right. There are some days when I’m scrolling fb and see momma tot and she just asks ME how I’m doing, have I ate anything today? Like some days it’s like we need someone to just ask us, and they don’t. I try to be that mom, I ask if they’re okay, and what’s for dinner, if they need anything, and I hug them tight because I’m never promised tomorrow, and neither are they. This interview had me laughing and bawling. ❤
I would’ve never guessed a sweet soul like her had been through so much. She’s remained kind, sweet, genuine, and beautiful through it all. What a lesson I’ve witnessed.
Wow. Just wow. I have followed both Laura and Ophelia since the beginning. I loved them before, but now I respect both of them so much more. Laura for her ability to put Ophelia at ease and Ophelia for her showing us all how to forgive and treat people w love and kindness.
Hearing why you are sensitive to other people’s emotions.. and hearing why you had to be, reminded me of my own childhood, very similar. I never connected that is why I am so sensitive to others feelings or why I pick up on other people’s emotions so well. Thank you for helping me understand that momma tot..😢❤
I cried during the interview with Bunnie and I SOBBED during this. Mama Tot, you are so beautiful. Truly. Your grace, your soul, your appearance. You are once in a lifetime. I know you idolize Dolly, she would be in awe of you.
I’m sure you won’t see my comment although I WISH to God you do! Thank you. I lost my baby brother to suicide 8 months ago. I was there the day he was born. I’m 12 yrs older than him. To say our hearts are shattered is an understatement. There are no words. My mom. No words for watching her grieve. My dad wakes up every morning sobbing. I am deeply sorry for your loss. I love what you said that you live for your other children and your grand baby. I hve no doubt my parents will get there. Please pray for us as we head into our first Christmas without our Liam. God bless you 😘
My daughter absolutely adores Ophelia and was devastated for her when she lost her son, I'm thankful that my girl has Ophelia in her life, even if it is only on Tic Tok
I cried watching this. Especially the part about her ex-husband. I feel like that's how I am with my husband of 24 years. His addictions have led me to fight for him since we met. Even today, at 42 years old, I'm still fighting. I don't know if I should give up and walk away or keep fighting. Some days, it drains me. I don't think I'm as strong as Ophelia is to leave and start on my own. Anyway, thank you for this, Laura. 💓
To have experienced so much pain, throughout her entire life, so much loss, so much heartache, so much grief, so much trauma, so much suffering, including the worst possible pain and loss a human being can ever experience- the loss of a child- and to still be able to say “I have a good life” after all of that? That’s fucking strength. Absolutely unmatched strength, perseverance, and optimism. Nobody wants to be strong like that, and I wouldn’t wish that kind of strength on my worst enemy because of what has to happen in your life to force you into that strength, but if anybody has it, it’s Ophelia Nichols. So many people would break under the weight of a lifetime of traumas piling up, even with all the good in between. I’m not too prideful to admit there’s no doubt in my mind that I’m one of them. This woman is an inspiration the likes of which we haven’t seen in a very long time. She’s endlessly kind, compassionate, empathetic, and loving. She just exudes love and peace and comfort from her very soul. I’m not religious anymore and I’m not delusional enough to think anyone is perfect, but Ophelia Nichols is truly angelic. The closest I’ve seen to the WWJD mentality that a lot of Christians claim to follow but never actually seem to. She models what it is to be a good Christian in a way that I haven’t even seen from pastors. It’s enough to make me reconsider my distance from religion, and to restore a little faith in humanity. And isn’t that the entire point of being a Christian trying to witness to people? To be such a reflection of Christ in your everyday life that you lead people to him without ever needing to say a word about religion at all, instead of pushing them away with your judgment and contempt and hatred? She accomplishes that without ever even saying the word God, while so many Christians actually trying to witness to others can’t do it while quoting straight from scripture or actively trying to entice people into their religion.
I really feel like Ophelia needs either her own podcast where people call in or talk show like Dolly did in Straight Talk! She is a genuine woman who has been through some really tough times but she is still very strong and so many are drawn to her ❤
I’ve been following momma tot since that very first video and Laura helped me stay sane in an abusive relationship. It’s really awesome to see both of you sitting and chatting 🥰
Ophelia said that people always say that they needed to hear her words and I always felt that watching her TikTok’s, but damn I was not expecting to REALLY need to see this video😭 She’a such a good role model! Loved seeing these strong amazing women together❤️
This honesty and candidness of this conversation is tremendously powerful! Praise God for Ms. Ophelia! Laura Cleary knows just what to say to get the information we need to hear! Thank you both! 🥰🥰
I can’t tell you how much me and mama tot have in common when it comes to our relationship with our mothers. It makes me feel so good to know I am not alone and it helps me heal hearing how she has struggled and survived the relationship with her mom. Also, when I was a teenager I lost my best friend to a gun accident and it changed my life for ever. I think about my best friend all the time and credit her to why I have worked so hard to be a good person and live my life to the fullest. I always hug and luv on my children and loved one a little tighter bc I learned the hard way you never know what could happen. Sincerely enjoyed this and luv Laura and Ophelia
@@ophelianichols9249 My mom was bipolar as well. I know exactly what you meant by you could never tell which mom you were going to get until she started talking to you. I had to make the difficult decision to walk away for my kids and to protect my peace. Boundaries and people pleasing is something I struggle with because of my relationship with my mom.
Thank you for your honesty and both of your strong hearts in this world. Ophelia is an amazing human who has seen and experienced things that has made her such a kind and loving human!!
Mobile is proud of you Mama Tot! There’s been days where I started the day out in a rut and just watching one of your videos has completely turned my day around and inspired me to be a better mama and lean into the Lord. ❤
First I need to say Laura you did an absolute amazing job with this interview! One of the best I have seen you do! I knew I loved Mama Tot but this just confirms it! She is such a light to a dark world and I never realized I needed to heal from things of my childhood to better my adult life! I struggle with addiction and to see how much unconditional love she has for people makes me feel like I'm worthy of better! I love Laura so much and have been following her since forever! Love love.love her!
I came in on the Help Helen era too. I loved watching your family, then the whole breakup. As someone who has been suicidal off and on for life, I sympathized with Stephen at first, but then watching him spiral into madness...Well, I spend most of my life standing at the edge of the gangplank. I am not about to follow someone out to the tip of it and risk hopping off.
I love listening to you both ❤ my mom was like miss Jenny, we also grew up in poverty and it was just me and her but her doors were always open for my friends and neighbour kids. I had a tough time as a teenager with being bullied and home was my safe place, but I knew growing up that it was the opposite for many of my peers. Mama tot has overcome SO much adversity and she is so inspiring. Thank you for sharing so much ❤
Love this interview with Ophelia, she's one of my favorite people! After my husband passed so suddenly, some of her videos got me through some hard days with her laughter and her heart to heart talks of loss. As a mother, I caught myself recently telling my grown daughter I didn't care for her haircut that she was so proud of. I could tell it hurt! When that happened, I realized it probably wasn't the first time and had to tell her how sorry I was. I'd always thought I was the best mom I could be, but found out I might be a good mom, but I've not been the best mom since my husband passed, but I was always there too.
It’s amazing how much she’s gone through yet is still just a BEACON for other people. She has such a special light that the universe tries to put out but she’s too bright.
I remember watching Mama Tot when she released that video telling us her son Randonhad died. I bawled along with so many other Moms. In that moment, I said "I could never go on!" A few months later in October of 2022, I also lost my son, Jordan, who had just turned 21. In those first few months, Ophelia, you were one of my saving graces and anchors as I tried to navigate everything from my grief, to simply getting out of bed. I can't express how much your videos helped me, but thank you.
The first time I heard Mama Tot, it felt like home! ALABAMA GIRL here. My life has many similarities. Love my Daddy 💙 RIP. If my family or friend's need me, I give them my full support & love! 🙏💙✌️🔮 🤗
Man, I love Mrs. Ophelia’s transparency, love for life, respect for others, & genuine spirit. Your life pattern is so similar to mine in many ways but different. Also, I lost my son exact same way…❤️💜❤️💜🤷🏽♀️
It is amazing to me how similar our lives are. My mother was bipolar and did all the same things hers did. I got that same anxiety on the bus. My mom died at 12. Almost 13. I could also never figure out why my dad and my mom were together. My dad is also very much an enabler but the kindest person. That to me is absolutely amazing
Ophelia is such a wonderful lady. She has such an open and inspiring insight into life. She reminds me of my own mother. Always there and present when you need her. My mom isn’t perfect, I don’t think anyone out there is. She has made her mistakes and she allows her kids to make theirs. That’s how you learn and grow. If she can ever step in give you advice or share her experience. Even to shade you just a little from something unpleasant, she will. Love you Ophelia, God Bless you!
Your story is so much like mine momma tot, except I had 3 instead of 4 and was married to my 2nd and 3rd children’s daddy who passed away of an overdose when they were itty bitty, I am now married almost 26 yrs in May to my precious husband Cody Bill who accepted all of my babies from day 1, God has a plan and it always always works out, I feel so connected to you in so many ways and am so glad I found you, my momma was just like yours also, it’s crazy! There is so much more of my story that is identical to yours but I can’t go into that here, just know I know what and how you felt, feel and know I think you are the most amazing momma out there
This is so inspiring. I have been too nervous put content out consistently...but this cured me. I am so glad I wondered onto this video. I have never heard of either of these ladies...but now I am a huge supporter of both. I had a similar home life and it has been very freeing to hear Ophelia's story...wow.
“I’m not a perfect one, but I’m a present one” that’s what every parent needs to be ❤
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@@ophelianichols9249 you did a great job. Remember their privacy is necessary, the more we dig or search the more they hide and they go to way farther lengths of hiding stuff.
Best quote!
@@ophelianichols9249❤❤❤❤ women I have fellowed u since my husband was in hospital with Covid n the double pulmonary embolism and I still ware the justice for ur baby . I’m from Winston co al but I live 3 plus hours north now anyways never stop being u
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I could listen to Ophelia talk for the rest of my life. What an incredibly inspiring & well spoken woman! I appreciate you using your platform to interview her Laura. 10/10
This!
Her voice is so soothing. It feels like a safe space, like a mama. And hearing her story, how much shit she went through, and how gracious and loving and kind she still is? It’s beyond inspiring. She’s just wonderful.
The Facebook short of this is what brought me to your channel. I loved hearing her story. I feel like at one point we were all Ophelia. I loved this
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I remember that video Ophelia posted. I cried for an hour. Ophelia belongs in the house of compassionate Queens with Dolly Parton and Betty White
My heart absolutely broke for her during that video and other videos! Lord, the pain of a momma losing a child, is the worst pain and sound you will ever hear! I was in the ER with my baby years ago and years a doctor tell a momma she lost her baby and it was the most blood curdling scream I have ever heard and I will never forget! So my heart breaks for any momma that loses a child no matter how they lose them! I have one child and I can’t imagine!!
Ophelia is an absolute blessing and a breath of fresh air.
I strive to be the kind of person she is & I wish a knew an Ophelia in real life.
I wish nothing but the world for this woman ❤
I love how Laura doesn’t interrupt when someone’s talking! She says hairy words to let them know she’s paying attention and always looking at them but never interrupts!!! I think it’s beautiful!!! Such a great interviewer!!!
"I fought with him to fight for him"... that sentence has power. A video i needed. Thankyou Laura, ive been watching you since the Steeeeeven videos. Never knew of Ophelia but now a fan!
You must not be on TikTok if you don’t Kno who Ophelia is lol
Talking this openly about her mom while her mom is alive ...she's more brave than anyone I know
She talks regularly about how she doesn't have a relationship with her. She decided she couldn't have her in her life to protect her children.
I remember her life as a child being very abusive. She is open with that and her testimony really hit home and relieved me of guilt I had been carrying for walking away from my mom, a long time ago. I never saw her again. She died in 2002. Thank you for your honesty.
I hope her mom
Sees this and realizes how despite her best to see her fail, she came out on top (:
Her story about when she first made a TikTok to help that young girl “quick fast and in a hurry” gave me chills ❤
The world needs more people like mama tot! ❤
Amen to that!!
The collaboration I didn’t know I needed. Love you both! ♥️
Came to say this
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Same here ❤
7.5 minutes in and I’m crying i remember that video we ALL need a mama tot in our life ❤
Came here to say that as well!!
Her voice is so soothing. It feels like a safe space, like a mama wrapping you up in her arms. And hearing her story, how much shit she went through, and how gracious and loving and kind she still is? It’s beyond inspiring. She’s just wonderful.
As someone who had a baby at 17, I wish I’d had her videos back when I was a new mom. Especially with my child’s father also having a drug addiction and me trying to love him into sobriety. I needed someone who’d had a baby young and loved a man unwilling to help himself and who still came out it an inspiration instead of a scary statistic. I needed someone who’d make me feel like I wasn’t a tragedy waiting to happen, and when you’re a young mom, everyone makes you feel like you’re gonna fuck your kid up no matter what you do.
Even though I’m 27 now and a law student and I’ve beaten the scary statistics and I didn’t have these videos back when I *really* needed them, hearing Mama Tot tell her story still feels like it’s healing a part of me that was broken. And it inspires me to do even more, to be more than successful- but to be kind and loving without expectation, to turn myself into a safe place for people who need it.
You're wise beyond your years sweet girl!! I had my daughter at 16, she's now 27 and just became a mom herself. I didn't graduate college, but I wanted that for her and she's so much better and more than I ever could have expected! She graduated college, married her college boyfriend and they're both teachers and now they just had their first child. I just wanted to tell you how proud of you I am and that you're kicking butt at life!! 💪🏼❤️🫶🏼
I don't know this lady, but she is gold!! Stopping generational trauma by being the opposite of what you received (what broke you) as a child, is the best thing you can do with your life xx
HOW in the WORLD did this woman tell the story about her son without just breaking down 😢💔💔bless her 🙏🏾
She has cried many times. You learn how to tell Randon’s story to keep his memory alive. My mom died from ALS and I tell hers all the time. I cry occasionally. ❤️
@@saxyben81 my condolences 🙏🏾💜😔 my father passed 7 years ago. To avoid telling the story I made a video. I can talk about it now. Just the first couple years I had to play the video instead.
My condolences. I lost my 28 year old grandson in May.
I understand there's not enough tears ever.
It depends on the day, to be honest...It's not easy..I lost my daughter ..and when people ask about her....somtimes I can talk about her with out crying and some days..i just can't even talk...its depends on the day....to be honest..
I broke down for hear my heart literally hurts listening to her speak about that day my worst nightmare.....my boys are my world!
'i fought with him... To fight for him' I absolutely love that level of understanding and compassion and love momma tot all the more
What a beautiful conversation, its really refreshing to listen to a podcast where the the interviewer allows the person to just talk and not interrupt alot.
How many times did you cry?
Me: Yes.
Same!
You’re the Mom you never had. I love when life teaches us a lesson we don’t even know we’re learning.
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The trauma response of being hyper vigilant in reading the mood in the room.... every person everywhere who identifies as an "empath" feels exactly the same way. I come from generations of trauma from bipolar disorder and mental illness. I try every single day to break that cycle with my own children. It's so hard when you are trying to heal yourself too.
Yes! When she said that it really never occurred to me that I feel the mood of every room, it’s more than just reading the room. You’re feeling out every single persons emotions before you ever speak a word, so you don’t say something/anything to upset anyone or show the wrong emotions. It’s exhausting sometimes.
I am sorry that you're going through that. I am too. Your kids are lucky you are aware and willing to break the cycle. Your awesome ❤
Thank you Ophelia. I appreciate how vulnerable you were during this discussion. Well done Laura. I appreciate that you gave Opie the time and space to share her stories without interruption.
I lost my boyfriend and then a month later Ophelia lost her son. Watching her openness in her grief and healing helped me through mine. I love her so much ❤❤❤
I love how well she still takes care of Skylar. So much respect.
Ophelia should be a motivational speaker. I get so much from listening to her speak that helps me with my own life. ❤
I was just blown away by this. I could listen to Ophellia talk all day long. I just want to say thank you for giving her the opportunity to share her story and thank you for sharing your story. It was so unbelievably powerful it has just stuck with me all day long.
And Laura I am loving seeing you move through this journey and the healing and grief and you just allowing that process to continue as it needs to in order for you to heal.
I've lost my mom, daddy, and my sister in just the last year. But I could never imagine the hurt of losing a child. Mama tot you are an inspiration. Your content helps me more than you'll ever know.
I’m so sorry for your pain 🫂
I'm so sorry 4 ur loss. I lost mom and sister a year apart it feels like ur barely hanging in there accepting and adjusting bammm more pain. Huggs ❤ I can't imagine losing a child. I'll die
@@rosioreynoso I lost my mom in 2008 and the pain is still there… Worst when it’s her birthday and her day of passing. 😞
@@freespirit_17 it never gets easier
@@freespirit_17 my mom's gna b 2years on the 7th and my sister a year on valentines. Plus got A terminal illness on chemotherapy right now its hitting hard. But only the strong survive
She uses her pain for power to help people. An angel. I love her so so much!
I can relate to everything she said about being raised by a bipolar mother. Especially the anxiety of coming home from school and not knowing who to expect on the other side of the door.
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Laura you did such a good job interviewing Mama Tot. You asked great questions and listened so well. I love the direction this channel is going and I just love the both of you so much
Man, Ophelia is a classy, classy woman. I love that she shows that forgiveness and compassion still reign supreme as the ultimate world changers.
Mama Tot is such a Gem. I cried multiple times hearing her tell her story. Such a beautiful soul. Thanks for this Laura and Ophelia ❤
This is the best crossover I've ever seen. Both incredibly powerful women. I could listen to Ophelia talk ALL DAY. She has such a calming presence, i can't expain. You can just sence how genuine she is without even trying. Love them both❤️
When my boyfriend of 8 yrs. Passed unexpectedly and Young 😔 mama tot and you Laura is what helped me through ❤️ litterly 😔 jellyroll and his wife bunnie helped me as well. All of your souls was placed here for a reason ❤️ thank you 💕
I'm so incredibly sorry for your loss!! I lost my fiance to an overdose in 2015. Jelly Rolls music has helped me tremendously, and his wife Bunnie and I share a birthday (1-22-1980). They're both truly beautiful souls! I'm so very sorry for your loss and I'm sending you love & light along your healing journey. ❤️🫶🏼🫂
I love Mama Tot so much. I had a cruel mother as well and have dedicated my life to showing love and illuminating the world around me.
A million thanks for having Mama Tot in your podcast. This is the kind of interview I love to see & hear. A genuine and authentic lady with a beautiful light and soul. One of the best. Thanks so much. ♥♥♥
I love to hear people talking about discernment. Also known as intuition. It's definitely a gift. It seems almost supernatural, but it can be learned and refined.
Yes, mine scares me how accurate and also quickly becomes frustrating being disappointed by people
Her story is remarkable. Thank you for allowing her to share it on your show and great job with your hard work!
16:17 literally me. i’m going to bawl my eyes out right now.
i love you Laura. thank you for introducing me to her. and her story, it opened my eyes.
This was a wonderful podcast, Laura. You were respectful & let the conversation flow. Ophelia is such an inspiration. She has so much compassion for others & strength of character. Love her
Lots to think about, the choices we make or don't make, made or didn't make. I swear, sitting in on this video is in some ways triggering, remembering the crazy things that happened in my own life. And yet, hearing and seeing your words MamaTot, feeling your compassion and fortitude, bringing us along is like going through rapids on a river. Sometimes we have to paddle harder to get to calmer waters. The fact that we are still alive, is a testament in itself to perserverence and determination. Bless you Laura, Bless you MamaTot 💖❤️🔥💜🥲
My two favorite ladies ! Both have made me laugh...allowed me to cry and live along with you .
I’m not crying you’re crying!!! I love Ophelia and Laura
Laura- your new look (or just me now catching up) looks PHENOMENAL on you!!! You look amazing, very unique and beautiful!!
It’s so freeing hearing Ophelia talk about her life and her story. I went through 2 years of physical and mental abuse with my daughters father and the entire first year of her life was lies and manipulation and abuse and I finally had enough and cut him off completely after her first birthday. That was a month ago and we are both so happy and healthy and thriving being away from him. My mental health is so much better and I’m happier and physically healthier now. I love hearing her talk about what she’s been through because it shows me that no matter what i went through, i will always be okay in the end and so will my baby girl.
I remember seeing the video of Mama Tot letting everyone know exactly WHAT and WHOM was stolen from her & her family... i bawled & i barely knew Mama Tot at the time. But thats when i started watching... little did i know not even 2 months would pass & my oldest son's daddy would die. Watching mama tot helped me be able to move along the emotions, the grief & continuing to be a mama to my boys, especially my oldest who was suffering, is still suffering. My life story is just so much like Ophelias & i relate to her immensely.
Laura. Thank you so much for this... it was everything i needed at this time in my life...esp before the holidays. With all of my heart, I say thank you. ❤
For the record - the youtube beauty influencer Mama Tot was disappointed by, i believe is Laura Lee. I think bc she is from Alabama as well & her personality match up (as in what ophelia described- cockiness etc).
You interview people so well, you just gained a new follower in me. You don’t speak over them, you just keep it relaxed and let them tell their stories with peppered questions when the time is right. There are some days when I’m scrolling fb and see momma tot and she just asks ME how I’m doing, have I ate anything today? Like some days it’s like we need someone to just ask us, and they don’t. I try to be that mom, I ask if they’re okay, and what’s for dinner, if they need anything, and I hug them tight because I’m never promised tomorrow, and neither are they. This interview had me laughing and bawling. ❤
Agree 💯
I would’ve never guessed a sweet soul like her had been through so much. She’s remained kind, sweet, genuine, and beautiful through it all. What a lesson I’ve witnessed.
Thank you for this Laura. I love Mama Tot, I was devastated for her when her son was killed.
Much respect to both Laura Clery and Mama Tot. This was truly time well spent. You both make our World a better place simply by being you.
Absolutely! 💯
Wow.
Just wow.
I have followed both Laura and Ophelia since the beginning.
I loved them before, but now I respect both of them so much more. Laura for her ability to put Ophelia at ease and Ophelia for her showing us all how to forgive and treat people w love and kindness.
I'm crying...I follow mama Tot and didn't know ANY of this about her- I loved her BEFORE knowing these things & adore her now. ❤❤
Hearing why you are sensitive to other people’s emotions.. and hearing why you had to be, reminded me of my own childhood, very similar. I never connected that is why I am so sensitive to others feelings or why I pick up on other people’s emotions so well. Thank you for helping me understand that momma tot..😢❤
Thank you mama tot for sharing your story and still showing so much compassion and strength !
I have to say this is one of your best interviews. It's nice to see something different than your your other interviews & seriousness.
Thank you Mama Tot for bearing your soul to us and sharing so much of yourself. ❤
I cried during the interview with Bunnie and I SOBBED during this. Mama Tot, you are so beautiful. Truly. Your grace, your soul, your appearance. You are once in a lifetime. I know you idolize Dolly, she would be in awe of you.
I’m sure you won’t see my comment although I WISH to God you do! Thank you. I lost my baby brother to suicide 8 months ago. I was there the day he was born. I’m 12 yrs older than him. To say our hearts are shattered is an understatement. There are no words. My mom. No words for watching her grieve. My dad wakes up every morning sobbing. I am deeply sorry for your loss. I love what you said that you live for your other children and your grand baby. I hve no doubt my parents will get there. Please pray for us as we head into our first Christmas without our Liam. God bless you 😘
God bless you Mary
Love mama tots authenticity, transparency and warmth.
My daughter absolutely adores Ophelia and was devastated for her when she lost her son, I'm thankful that my girl has Ophelia in her life, even if it is only on Tic Tok
I cried watching this. Especially the part about her ex-husband. I feel like that's how I am with my husband of 24 years. His addictions have led me to fight for him since we met. Even today, at 42 years old, I'm still fighting. I don't know if I should give up and walk away or keep fighting. Some days, it drains me. I don't think I'm as strong as Ophelia is to leave and start on my own.
Anyway, thank you for this, Laura. 💓
To have experienced so much pain, throughout her entire life, so much loss, so much heartache, so much grief, so much trauma, so much suffering, including the worst possible pain and loss a human being can ever experience- the loss of a child- and to still be able to say “I have a good life” after all of that? That’s fucking strength. Absolutely unmatched strength, perseverance, and optimism.
Nobody wants to be strong like that, and I wouldn’t wish that kind of strength on my worst enemy because of what has to happen in your life to force you into that strength, but if anybody has it, it’s Ophelia Nichols. So many people would break under the weight of a lifetime of traumas piling up, even with all the good in between. I’m not too prideful to admit there’s no doubt in my mind that I’m one of them.
This woman is an inspiration the likes of which we haven’t seen in a very long time. She’s endlessly kind, compassionate, empathetic, and loving. She just exudes love and peace and comfort from her very soul. I’m not religious anymore and I’m not delusional enough to think anyone is perfect, but Ophelia Nichols is truly angelic. The closest I’ve seen to the WWJD mentality that a lot of Christians claim to follow but never actually seem to. She models what it is to be a good Christian in a way that I haven’t even seen from pastors. It’s enough to make me reconsider my distance from religion, and to restore a little faith in humanity. And isn’t that the entire point of being a Christian trying to witness to people? To be such a reflection of Christ in your everyday life that you lead people to him without ever needing to say a word about religion at all, instead of pushing them away with your judgment and contempt and hatred?
She accomplishes that without ever even saying the word God, while so many Christians actually trying to witness to others can’t do it while quoting straight from scripture or actively trying to entice people into their religion.
I really feel like Ophelia needs either her own podcast where people call in or talk show like Dolly did in Straight Talk! She is a genuine woman who has been through some really tough times but she is still very strong and so many are drawn to her ❤
I’ve been following momma tot since that very first video and Laura helped me stay sane in an abusive relationship. It’s really awesome to see both of you sitting and chatting 🥰
I love & respect these women so much. Allowing people to hear your story; Being so candid and raw is absolutely stunning. ❤
What a beautiful interview, she’s one strong lady and a beautiful soul. Follow you both think you are both beautiful and amazing people xx
Best interview of the year. Love you Mamma Tot!
She cares and it shows. Wish Mama Tot nothing but the best.
I love how compassionate Ophelia and Laura’s convo was about Ophelia’s parents and moms bipolar
Ophelia said that people always say that they needed to hear her words and I always felt that watching her TikTok’s, but damn I was not expecting to REALLY need to see this video😭 She’a such a good role model! Loved seeing these strong amazing women together❤️
This honesty and candidness of this conversation is tremendously powerful! Praise God for Ms. Ophelia! Laura Cleary knows just what to say to get the information we need to hear! Thank you both! 🥰🥰
I can’t tell you how much me and mama tot have in common when it comes to our relationship with our mothers. It makes me feel so good to know I am not alone and it helps me heal hearing how she has struggled and survived the relationship with her mom. Also, when I was a teenager I lost my best friend to a gun accident and it changed my life for ever. I think about my best friend all the time and credit her to why I have worked so hard to be a good person and live my life to the fullest. I always hug and luv on my children and loved one a little tighter bc I learned the hard way you never know what could happen. Sincerely enjoyed this and luv Laura and Ophelia
I’m currently uploading a video to TikTok right now. It will blow your mind. 🥹my mother is awful
@@ophelianichols9249 My mom was bipolar as well. I know exactly what you meant by you could never tell which mom you were going to get until she started talking to you. I had to make the difficult decision to walk away for my kids and to protect my peace. Boundaries and people pleasing is something I struggle with because of my relationship with my mom.
Ophelia is a gem. So honest and true❤. Good pick there Laura ❤😊
This is one of the BEST interviews I've ever watched. Love you Mama Tot❣️🩵🙏
8 minutes in and I'm sobbing. A genuine heart like Ophelias is so touching.
Mrs Ophelia is so kind, real , empathetic and sweet. But don’t mess with her or family! 😊
Thank you for your honesty and both of your strong hearts in this world. Ophelia is an amazing human who has seen and experienced things that has made her such a kind and loving human!!
You are the best example of " Be the change you want to see in the world". Thank you for being part of the solution and not the problem!❤️❤️❤️💕💕💕
Mobile is proud of you Mama Tot! There’s been days where I started the day out in a rut and just watching one of your videos has completely turned my day around and inspired me to be a better mama and lean into the Lord. ❤
First I need to say Laura you did an absolute amazing job with this interview! One of the best I have seen you do! I knew I loved Mama Tot but this just confirms it! She is such a light to a dark world and I never realized I needed to heal from things of my childhood to better my adult life! I struggle with addiction and to see how much unconditional love she has for people makes me feel like I'm worthy of better! I love Laura so much and have been following her since forever! Love love.love her!
I came in on the Help Helen era too. I loved watching your family, then the whole breakup. As someone who has been suicidal off and on for life, I sympathized with Stephen at first, but then watching him spiral into madness...Well, I spend most of my life standing at the edge of the gangplank. I am not about to follow someone out to the tip of it and risk hopping off.
Smart move. Gotta do what’s best for you
I’m so happy I came across this today. I love momma tot she is always so uplifting.
I love listening to you both ❤ my mom was like miss Jenny, we also grew up in poverty and it was just me and her but her doors were always open for my friends and neighbour kids. I had a tough time as a teenager with being bullied and home was my safe place, but I knew growing up that it was the opposite for many of my peers. Mama tot has overcome SO much adversity and she is so inspiring. Thank you for sharing so much ❤
Love this interview with Ophelia, she's one of my favorite people! After my husband passed so suddenly, some of her videos got me through some hard days with her laughter and her heart to heart talks of loss. As a mother, I caught myself recently telling my grown daughter I didn't care for her haircut that she was so proud of. I could tell it hurt! When that happened, I realized it probably wasn't the first time and had to tell her how sorry I was. I'd always thought I was the best mom I could be, but found out I might be a good mom, but I've not been the best mom since my husband passed, but I was always there too.
Ophelia is an Angel from above & such a bright light in this world! ❤✨️
“Run the Roads” must be a southern thing. I’ve heard that term my whole life!! lol especially as a teen. “don’t be out runnin the roads”
It’s amazing how much she’s gone through yet is still just a BEACON for other people. She has such a special light that the universe tries to put out but she’s too bright.
Ophelia is easily one of the most genuine humans I've ever seen. So beautiful inside and out, truly.
I remember watching Mama Tot when she released that video telling us her son Randonhad died. I bawled along with so many other Moms. In that moment, I said "I could never go on!" A few months later in October of 2022, I also lost my son, Jordan, who had just turned 21. In those first few months, Ophelia, you were one of my saving graces and anchors as I tried to navigate everything from my grief, to simply getting out of bed. I can't express how much your videos helped me, but thank you.
The first time I heard Mama Tot, it felt like home! ALABAMA GIRL here. My life has many similarities. Love my Daddy 💙 RIP. If my family or friend's need me, I give them my full support & love! 🙏💙✌️🔮 🤗
I already love mama tot but this just made me feel so proud of her, she is an inspiration ❤
I watched every minute of this! Momma tot what an inspiration. You always were but, I couldn't love you more! ❤
God, you are such a beautiful soul!!!!! Thank you for being the woman and momma that you are to so so many. 💗
Omg I love Momma Tot!!! 🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉she’s so genuine and kind and totally unapologetically herself!!! Just like you Laura!!!
Man, I love Mrs. Ophelia’s transparency, love for life, respect for others, & genuine spirit. Your life pattern is so similar to mine in many ways but different. Also, I lost my son exact same way…❤️💜❤️💜🤷🏽♀️
Great two woman. Mama Tot we love you!! Laura you are a great woman!
Man I was not ready to cry but I did. I love how open and honest mama tot is and she is such a blessing to this world
It is amazing to me how similar our lives are. My mother was bipolar and did all the same things hers did. I got that same anxiety on the bus. My mom died at 12. Almost 13. I could also never figure out why my dad and my mom were together. My dad is also very much an enabler but the kindest person. That to me is absolutely amazing
Ophelia is such a wonderful lady. She has such an open and inspiring insight into life. She reminds me of my own mother. Always there and present when you need her. My mom isn’t perfect, I don’t think anyone out there is. She has made her mistakes and she allows her kids to make theirs. That’s how you learn and grow. If she can ever step in give you advice or share her experience. Even to shade you just a little from something unpleasant, she will. Love you Ophelia, God Bless you!
Two of my favorite people on social media together ❤❤❤ I read both of Laura’s books and I love these two women so much ❤
Your story is so much like mine momma tot, except I had 3 instead of 4 and was married to my 2nd and 3rd children’s daddy who passed away of an overdose when they were itty bitty, I am now married almost 26 yrs in May to my precious husband Cody Bill who accepted all of my babies from day 1, God has a plan and it always always works out, I feel so connected to you in so many ways and am so glad I found you, my momma was just like yours also, it’s crazy! There is so much more of my story that is identical to yours but I can’t go into that here, just know I know what and how you felt, feel and know I think you are the most amazing momma out there
This is so inspiring. I have been too nervous put content out consistently...but this cured me. I am so glad I wondered onto this video. I have never heard of either of these ladies...but now I am a huge supporter of both. I had a similar home life and it has been very freeing to hear Ophelia's story...wow.