How do you move forward after an emotional affair?
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- Опубликовано: 4 окт 2024
- In this special Ask Pastor Mark with his wife Grace, they answer the question of how a couple can move on following an emotional affair.
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Most physical affairs start with emotional ones
An emotional affair, which is actually a friendship with another person, is not adultery. Get over being jealous
@@vanessaverner8480weird definition. Emotional affair is not merely a “friendship”. An emotional affair is more when a person (other than the partner) is fulfilling the emotional needs that a partner would fulfill, and that is being hidden from the partner.
It is a partner surrogate emotionally, where romantic feelings often arise and it is not just a friendship. This is where things easily blur and then that connection can turn physical.
I’m curious why you seem to be defending it, as well as labeling someone jealous for their comment?
It indicates deeper issues, denial maybe?
@@Alphacentauri819 even a best friend of the same sex then could be considered an emotional affair
@@vanessaverner8480 nope, not even.
It’s not the same.
If you are hiding things, that should be revealed to your spouse, and having romantic feelings towards your same sex friend…than that would be the same…but it’s not.
A best friend, is a different bond. There isn’t a risk of it blurring boundaries.
This isn’t saying that opposite sex people can’t be friends, but it’s all individual.
If there is complete transparency, and intimacy isn’t shared (that should be saved for a spouse), and the spouse comes first, and you have clear, defined, boundaries, of what that friendship is (and isn’t), that’s not an emotional affair.
It seems that you are confusing any friendship with an emotional affair. That’s far from the case, and is indicative of simplistic thinking…like thinking influenced by cognitive distortions. Cognitive distortions make us think dualistically, black/white, all/nothing, always/never…it is a way that people, with unmitigated anxiety approach the world.
Life is far more complex, layered, and nuanced.
Each relationship and potential “friendship” has to be approached individually, with awareness of each partners attachment wounds, prior history, and more.
My husband says this is not a real thing. I asked 10 years after he quit talking, quit wanting to go anywhere with me, when he quit having any sexual desire, in fact he said 5 years after no sex or or desire, he came I one day from work and said I can’t get an erection , I don’t think I will ever be able to get one. I asked where and why did you learn this today? I have been thinking that for 4,5 years. Go to your Dr. sudden inability to get an erection can be a warning sign, heart or vascular disease, hypertension or I am about to go Lorenna Bibbitt on you😂. he had already to sold our home, and land, at a ridiculous price,after 24 years of mortgage, but no money to pay down on another, after 2# home forclosed, walked away 30 years with less than before we married $00. $0 in our daughters college fund, after I used my moms estate money to get that home out of forclosure . O in savings. I pull Ed in a dark rural road child locks on and asked are you having , did you want to or did you have an affair? Yes, to which one? I want, wanted to have an affair, I guess . Then who , oh chatterbox oh you know we saw her all the time at our kids school, events , ballgames , which was over 6 years, now 10 years past. Wow, he said yes I wanted to have an affair, I wanted to have sex with her, just wanted to be with her , be close to her. It was just a physical attraction because she was so good looking, so attractive, I thought about “it” all the time, BUT I DIDN’T. Didn’t have an affair with her. I asked why not? Because she was married. And you weren’t? Yeah, that too. I had no idea. I knew he had stared her down many times. But not this. I said you did have an affair with her. He denied it, because they didn’t have sex. But it changed our sex life our marriage. So he wanted to continue being friends, roommates because of finances. And that l’s how I wasted those 10 years and now 16 more years of my life. But he did not cheat, he only fantasized, wanted to.. ( personal fact if a man does not use his pen-s for 10-20 years, it disappears, peeing is difficult. Just warning
Going through something similar and you wouldn't even believe how crazy it is
CUT OFF that "friend" he/she IS NOT a "friend"
What if you have brought it to their attention and it continues? 😢
Matthew 18, make another person aware then…
@@julianoppong7539 what if you have bought it to their attention and to another person and pastors and it continues
You decide to stay or divorce
How do you even begin to build that trust again?
I am having this problem with a gay coworker of my wife. I dont know what to do
What if it’s been addressed and the partner is bent on keeping the relationship and saying the spouse is jealous and controlling.
Also partner is justifying this close relationship as a possible family member. Also making this persons relationship a partnership in a sel
It is simple decide to stay or go
How do I confront my husband about his "work spouse" and how much it hurts me. How do I get him to emotionally connect with me instead of her?
My husband can’t stay off social media and keeps finding people to have emotional and a sexual outlets and rejects me this happens every year since married back in 2010 I’m at my ends rope I stopped trusting him years ago he just had another recently and I’m contemplating divorce because he refuses repentance 😢
Either get out or stay. What is going to make you happy
Get a grip your partner didn’t cheat. An emotional affair is not adultery. If you can’t deal with a spouse having friends, you can get out of my house or I move back into my house.
You clearly do not understand marriage or intimate relationships
You don’t know what an emotional affair is…they aren’t just talking about sports, movies or the weather, they are feeling a connection that surpasses a regular friendship, they experience an emotional intimacy and most importantly they’ve started to fantasize with the other person. You might need to open your eyes.